QSaltLake Magazine | Issue 369 | March 2025

HistoryClaiming space for LGBTQ+ stories in Salt Lake City

BY MICHAEL AARON

is written in the places we pass every day—the streets where change was sparked, the buildings where communities gathered, and the spaces where resilience was born. Yet, for too long, LGBTQ+ history has been pushed to the margins, unrecognized and unseen. Now, Salt Lake City is offering a powerful opportunity to change that.

The Salt Lake City Historical Markers Pilot Program, launched by the Mayor’s Office of Access & Belonging in partnership with the City Council and the Salt Lake City Human Rights Commission, is calling on local organizations to submit proposals for new historical markers. This initiative seeks to preserve local history, engage the community, and incorporate diverse perspectives. It’s an unprecedented chance for LGBTQ+ individuals and groups to ensure our stories are acknowledged and celebrated in the city’s historical landscape. For the LGBTQ+ community, the significance of this program cannot be overstated. We have long fought for visibility, recognition, and belonging. Now, we have the chance to mark the spaces that have shaped our journey—the gathering places, advocacy hubs, and moments of courage that have defined our past and continue to inspire our future.

WHY LGBTQ+ HISTORICAL MARKERS MATTER

From the earliest gay rights organizations to the vibrant and defiant voices of the AIDS activism era, Salt Lake City has a rich but often untold LGBTQ+ history. Think about the bars and coffeehouses where LGBTQ+ people found refuge and family when society shut them out. Think about the homes and offices where grassroots activists worked tirelessly to fight discrimination. Think about the pivotal moments in our city—pride marches, legal victories, and acts of protest—that deserve to be honored. LGBTQ+ historical markers do more than commemorate the past. They tell our youth that they are part of something bigger, that their struggles and triumphs are woven into the fabric of this city. They educate the

broader community, fostering empathy and understanding. They ensure that the sacrifices and contributions of our elders are not forgotten. They affirm that we belong here.

HOW YOU CAN HELP MAKE IT HAPPEN

The Salt Lake City Historical Markers Pilot Program is accepting submissions from businesses, nonprofits, and special interest groups. This means LGBTQ+ organizations, advocacy groups, and community spaces have a unique opportunity to champion our history.

Do you know of a place with historical significance to the LGBTQ+ community in Salt Lake City? Maybe it’s the location of a pivotal LGBTQ+ rights case, a beloved queer-owned establishment that shaped local culture, or the site of an early Pride event. If so, now is the time to act.

The deadline to submit a request for a historical marker is Friday, February 28. Submissions will be assessed based on historical significance, authenticity, documentation, accessibility, and community support. Two finalists will be awarded plaques to ensure these important stories are permanently embedded in Salt Lake City’s landscape.

LET’S MAKE HISTORY TOGETHER

Imagine walking through Salt Lake City and seeing LGBTQ+ history recognized in the public space — not just in archives, not just in personal recollections, but as an integral part of the city’s story. Imagine visitors and future generations learning about the pioneers of our movement, the safe havens that provided community, and the battles fought for equality.

This is our chance to make that vision a reality. Let’s honor the past, celebrate the present, and create a legacy for the future. If you or your organization are interested in submitting a proposal, visit.the link below to access the request form and learn more.

Salt Lake City’s history includes us. Now, it’s time to make sure the city reflects that truth. Let’s claim our space, one historical marker at a time. Information on the program can be found at SLC.GOV

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WorldPride 2025 in Washington, D.C., to feature massive march & rally amid political challenges

Organizers of WorldPride 2025 are forging ahead with plans for a large-scale celebration in Washington, D.C., despite mounting political challenges under President Donald Trump’s administration. With LGBTQ+ rights under renewed attack, this year’s global Pride event is set to be both a celebration of resilience and a forceful call to action.

Capital Pride Alliance, which is hosting WorldPride from May 17 to June 8, has emphasized that this year’s gathering will be a moment of visibility and defiance. A highlight of the event will be a major march and rally on Sunday, June 8, meant to amplify LGBTQ+ voices worldwide and mirror historic protests like the 2017 Women’s March. Unlike the more celebratory Pride parade on June 7, the Sunday march will focus on activism and global LGBTQ+ struggles.

“This is the time for us to show up,” said Ryan A. Bos, executive director of Capital Pride Alliance. “Our adversaries want us to be frustrated, to give up, but we won’t.”

POLITICAL & CORPORATE CHALLENGES

WorldPride organizers have faced obstacles, including the loss of a corporate legacy sponsor after Trump’s executive orders targeting Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion programs. Earlier this month, defense contractor Booz Allen Hamilton withdrew support, citing new federal restrictions on DEI initiatives. Additionally, the Kennedy Center canceled a planned LGBTQ+ Pride concert by the National Symphony Orchestra, following Trump’s takeover as board chair and his appointment of Richard Grenell as interim executive director. The Center, however, states the decision to cancel the concert was made before Trump’s inauguration due to budgetary and logistical considerations.

Despite these setbacks, Bos remains undeterred. “When we need people in our corner the most, some corporations are stepping back out of fear. That’s disheartening,” he said, adding that the festival is securing new venues as a precaution.

A GLOBAL LGBTQ+ MOVEMENT

WorldPride 2025 is expected to draw tens of thousands of attendees to Washing-

ton, D.C., but organizers recognize that political tensions may deter some international visitors. Bos stressed that the movement extends beyond U.S. borders.

“For those who can’t come to D.C., how can we engage them?” he said. “This conservative wave is happening everywhere, and we need to galvanize together to stop it.”

Beyond the march and rally, WorldPride 2025 will feature a robust lineup of events, including concerts, cultural showcases, and neighborhood-based programming that highlights D.C.’s diverse LGBTQ+ community.

“D.C. has long been known as the gayest city per capita in the U.S.,” Bos said. “That won’t change by June. This is our moment to reaffirm our presence and remind the world that we will not be erased.”

As the festival approaches, organizers will release more details about the event’s programming. In the coming weeks, announcements will include the Global Dance Party lineup, official nightlife partners, and a special guest performance for the post-parade concert.

Despite political headwinds, Bos made one thing clear: WorldPride 2025 is happening, and it will meet the moment. Q For more information, visit WORLDPRIDEDC.ORG

The top national and world news since last issue you should know

BY CRAIG OGAN

Gallup data a downer

Since 2001, the Gallup polling organization has traced USA citizens’ satisfaction with life in the USA. The satisfaction rating has been traditionally low, with a low of 11 percent of citizens in 2021 expressing satisfaction. This January, 20 percent say they are satisfied. “The Military” and “Overall Quality of Life” score the highest individual marks. Satisfaction of “the Nation’s acceptance” of gay and lesbian people has steadily risen since 2013, getting as high as a 62 percent positive rating. That started to change in 2022, and has dropped 11 points to 51 percent in 2025. As in all things anymore, there is a partisan divide, with 55 percent of self-identified Republicans and 43 percent of Democrats expressing satisfaction. When asked about transgender acceptance, 38 percent expressed satisfaction, which is slightly up from the year before. Thirty-one percent of Dems are satisfied, and 42% of Repubs are satisfied. The survey does not ask what factors cause satisfaction. Here’s the complete survey: BIT.LY/STATEOFTHENATION25

Ins and Outs of Michigan Senate Race

One of two “Outs many make it In,” as former Secretary of Transportation Pete Buttigieg and Michigan Attorney General Dana Nessel lead in early polls to replace retiring senator Gary Peters. Mayor Pete of South Bend, Indiana, moved to Michigan to be nearer his husband’s family. Before AG, Nessel was a civil rights attorney who got marriage equality approved by the Michigan Supreme Court, which was combined with an Ohio case in Obergefell v. Hodges. Seventy-seven percent overlook Mayor Pete’s carpetbagging and

report positive feelings for his candidacy. The attorney general gets 72 percent favorable approvals. The Het with the most mention, Lt. Gov. Garlin Gilchrist, gets a 45 percent favorable rating. Forty percent of Dem Voters say they will vote for Mayor Pete, and 39 percent favor Nessel if Buttigieg decides not to run.

Google Calendar drops ‘special interest’ months

The Google Calendar app has stopped posting icons for various cultural observances, like LGBTQ+ Pride Month, Black History Month, Women’s History Month, Hispanic Heritage Month, and Indigenous Peoples Month. This does not affect the home page banners and wallpaper on Google Chrome. Google says it is responding to the needs of its worldwide calendar usage and made the changes to show only national observances from “timeanddate.com” in 2024. Critics on a Google support forum accused the tech giant of “kissing butt,” of the recently elected foe of DEI. Other hysterical twaddle called the removals an “embarrassing … example of the fast descent into fascism,” and another commented, “They are trying to erase anyone who isn’t a cis white male.”

Kennedy Center topped by gay man

The board of the Kennedy Center for Performing Arts in Washington D.C was replaced by supporters of the current president, who appointed himself board chair of KCPA. The president’s all-around go-to, utility-Gay man, Ric Grennell, was named the center’s president. A social media post announced Grennell’s appointment, promising there would be “NO MORE DRAG SHOWS, OR OTHER ANTI-AMERICAN PROPAGANDA.” KCPA has mounted shows that have some theatrical legitimacy, like “Drag Salute to Divas” and a critically acclaimed one-ac-

tor play by drag performer Kris Andersson, “Dixie’s Tupperware Party.” The big sin was, “Dragtastic Dress-up,” which invited LGBTQ+ youth under 18 to “learn the history of drag” and watch “incredible performers strut their stuff.” The KCPA “fired” board issued a statement, “There is nothing in the center’s statute (ed: 1958 Congressional legislation) that would prevent a new administration from replacing board members; however, this would be the first time such action has been taken with the Kennedy Center’s Board.” The move sparked a demonstration at KCPA, which was complete with always-effective drag performances and glitter bombs.

Lesbian Out at WWE?

Is she “IN or OUT?” Right now, Sonya Deville, the first openly (and we emphasize “openly”) lesbian in World Wrestling Entertainment history, is Out. She leaves the stable of performers after 10 years of chewing the scenery in the ring. Insiders report WWE will not renew Deville’s contract, making her a free agent without the standard 90-day non-compete clause. Deville first rose to prominence in 2015 as a contestant on “WWE Tough Enough.” She won the WWE Women’s Tag Team Championship in 2023. She has regularly represented WWE at GLAAD events. Some see the move as a marketing feint by the notoriously feinting WWE. The organization hasn’t made any announcement. The wrestler’s Instagram account has been scrubbed to just the statement, “To Be Continued.” The change comes as WWE starts streaming its passion plays on Netflix. WWE officials may be waiting for the right moment to build clicks by delighting its straight male audience with the return of the most famous lesbian wrestler this side of “Only Fans.”

Layoffs in LGBTQ industrial complex

Another news report from “Debbie Downer”: GLSEN and the Human Rights Campaign both recently announced major layoffs. HRC will lose 50 employees, or 20 percent of its workforce, and GLSEN will lay off 18 people, 60 percent of its staff. Both vow to soldier on by focusing on core missions. GLSEN announced redoubling local efforts with public schools and higher education, “We’re not doing the work of 42 people with 17 people, but will be more focused and directed to areas that will have more impact.” HRC made similar noises about the layoffs, with HRC president Kelley Robinson saying the mission to raise as much money as possible remains the same: “We need to stay laser-focused on how we can create change. We’re sharpening our focus on where we can make the most impact.”

Fed website scrubs “T and Q” from “L G B”

A variety of executive orders issued on January 20 related to transgender rights and “gender ideology.” The most impactful executive order declared, “The United States will recognize only two sexes, male and female, and that they are determined at birth and unchangeable.” The order directs federal agencies to remove “all statements, policies, regulations, forms, communications, or other internal and external messages that promote or oth-

erwise inculcate gender ideology.” The order has had an immediate impact on the Departments of Defense, Education, and Health and Human Services with the prohibitions on trans-people in sports and enlisting in the military and gender change-related therapies. The Order also has had an immediate effect on U. S. Federal Government communications.

STONEWALL NATIONAL MONUMENT: The National Park Service has removed the “TQ+” and any references to transgender people from the official Stonewall National Monument website supporting the 7.7-acre national landmark in and around the Stonewall Bar in Greenwich Village in NYC. The revisions sparked swift condemnations from across the political spectrum. The National Parks Conservation Association, a bipartisan nonprofit, published a response slamming the erasure.

STATE DEPARTMENT:

A page on the department’s website offering travel advisories to “LGBTQI Travelers” now addresses only “LGB Travelers.” Similarly, a State Department web page providing “Resources for LGBTQI+ Prospective Adoptive Parents,” now just says “LGB Prospective Adoptive Parents.”

DEPT. OF JUSTICE : Removed all information about an LGBTQ+ working group at the Justice Department.

COMMERCE AND LABOR : Removed the Department’s page dedicated to LGBTQ programs and resources about avoiding sexual orientation discrimination from the website.

SOCIAL SECURITY: The page about “Social Security for LGBTQI+ People” has now been updated to “LGBQ People.” Odd straight wannabes are still recognized by SSS. CDC: Content about tobacco use among LGBTQ people on the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention website has been removed. The “Youth Risk Behavior Survey,” which included some of the only federal data on LGBTQ youth, has been removed. The top of the web page for the survey results reads, “CDC’s website is being modified to comply with President Trump’s Executive Orders.” CENSUS BUREAU: Questions about sexual orientation, gender identity, and changes to queries about race and ethnicity are on track to be asked in the American Community Survey in 2027. It’s still early. Q

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Gallup finds over 9 percent in U.S. now identify as LGBTQ+

According to survey data from 2024 released Thursday by Gallup, the percentage of U.S. adults identifying as LGBTQ+ has reached a historic high, with 9.3 percent now saying they are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or another non-heterosexual identity. This marks a steady increase from 8.2 percent in 2023 and a dramatic rise from 3.5 percent when Gallup first began tracking LGBTQ+ identification in 2012. LGBTQ+ identification remains significantly higher among younger generations, with more than one in five Gen Z adults (22.7%) — those born between 1997 and 2006 — identifying as LGBTQ+. Millennials follow with 12%, while older generations show decreasing rates, with only 1.8% of Americans born before 1946 identifying as LGBTQ+.

The data also shows that bisexuality is the most common identity among LGBTQ+ individuals, making up 56 percent of those surveyed. This trend is particularly pronounced among younger generations, with 59 percent of Gen Z and 52 percent of millennial LGBTQ+ adults identifying as bisexual. In contrast, older LGBTQ+ adults are more likely to identify as gay or lesbian.

Beyond generational differences, the survey highlights notable trends in gender, political affiliation, and geography. Women are more likely than men to identify as LGBTQ+ (10% vs. 6%), a trend largely driven by bisexuality. The gender gap is especially pronounced among

younger generations, with 31 percent of Gen Z women compared to 12 percent of Gen Z men identifying as LGBTQ+.

Political affiliation also plays a role, with 14 percent of Democrats and 11 perent of independents identifying as LGBTQ+, compared to just 3 percent of Republicans. Additionally, 21 percent of self-identified liberals say they are LGBTQ+, compared to 8 percent of moderates and 3 percent of conservatives. Urban areas continue to be a stronghold for LGBTQ+ identification, with 11 percent of city dwellers identifying as

life, and the politicians who think they can turn back the clock on LGBTQ+ acceptance will fail. It is a beautiful thing that growing acceptance over the course of recent decades has allowed more and more people to show up as their authentic selves, and we should all be working toward a future where everyone can be exactly who they are.”

Stanford University researcher of LGBTQ+ health Dr. Mitchell R. Lunn, told The New York Times that he believes the Gallup numbers are likely an undercount and that the increase is

LGBTQ+, compared to 10 percent in suburban areas and 7 percent in rural regions.

Since Gallup began tracking LGBTQ+ identification 12 years ago, the percentage has nearly tripled, driven by generational shifts and changing social norms. As more Gen Z and millennial adults openly identify as LGBTQ+, experts anticipate these numbers will continue to rise in the coming years.

“This polling reflects what we’ve been saying all along: the future that anti-equality politicians are fear-mongering about is already here,” said Human Rights Campaign President Kelley Robinson. “LGBTQ+ Americans have always been here, and we are not going anywhere. There are way too many of us to be ignored, there are way too many of us to drive us out of everyday

“largely driven by the many decades of gradual increasing societal acceptance.”

A report from Bowling Green State University highlights the rapid growth of the LGBTQ+ voting bloc, projecting a significant increase in its influence over the next two decades. Currently representing one-in-ten voters, LGBTQ+ Americans are expected to grow to nearly one-in-seven by 2030 and one-in-five by 2040. This expansion could fundamentally reshape the U.S. electoral landscape, particularly in key battleground states like Georgia, Texas, and Arizona, where the proportion of LGBTQ+ voters is set to nearly double. The report attributes this growth to younger generations identifying as LGBTQ+ at higher rates and increased societal acceptance of diverse sexual and gender identities.

Bill would jail parents who take children to drag shows

A new bill moving through the Iowa legislature could make it a felony for parents to take their own children to a drag performance — potentially landing them in jail for up to five years. The measure, House Study Bill 158, passed out of a House subcommittee this week, drawing fierce criticism from LGBTQ+ advocates who argue its sweeping language could criminalize far more than drag shows.

The bill’s wording is so broad that it could apply to any performance featuring a transgender person, even if the event itself is not a drag show. Under its provisions, any show involving a performer wearing clothing or makeup “different than the performer’s gender assigned at birth” could be restricted. This includes performances that involve singing, dancing, reading, or any other public entertainment.

Opponents warn that this could extend to classic theatrical productions, movies, and even public speaking engagements by transgender individuals. Maxwell Mowitz, an advocate with the LGBTQ+ organization One Iowa, testified before the subcommittee, stating that the bill could effectively ban children from attending events where he speaks because he is a transgender man.

“I’m a transgender person,” Mowitz said, according to the Iowa Capital Dispatch. “I was assigned female at birth, but I dress and live as a masculine person. So this bill targets me.”

Mowitz also pointed out that the legislation’s vague language could impact whether children are allowed to see works of art that depict gender nonconformity. Films such as Mulan and Mrs. Doubtfire, or Shakespearean plays like Twelfth Night, could be caught up in the law’s restrictions.

The bill would also imposes steep fines on venues. Any venue that allows minors to attend a drag performance could face a $10,000 penalty, and the venue owner could face felony charges.

Industry representatives warn the bill could devastate small theaters and community arts programs. Jim Obradovich of the Independent Venue Association of Iowa said that in small-scale productions, actors frequently play roles of different genders due to casting limitations, putting

them at risk under the bill’s provisions.

Despite the widespread concerns, Republican lawmakers are pressing forward with the measure. GOP Representatives Helena Hayes and Heather

Hora voted to advance the bill, while the lone Democrat on the subcommittee, Elinor Levin of Iowa City, opposed it.

Conservative supporters argue that exposing children to drag performances is harmful, though there is no evidence to support this claim. Danny Carroll of the Christian conservative organization Family Leader expressed dismay that the bill is even being debated. “It breaks my heart,” he said. “This is not the Iowa that I knew when I came here in 1971.”

Critics say that rather than protecting children, the bill is part of a broader effort to erase LGBTQ+ identities from public life. Republican-led legislatures in several states have pursued similar measures, with Tennessee passing a ban on drag performances in public spaces in 2023— though a federal judge promptly blocked it on First Amendment grounds. Q

Utah Sen. Mike Lee calls for porn ban on X

Sen. Mike Lee, R-Utah, has called for a ban on pornography on X, the social media platform owned by Elon Musk. Lee posted his appeal on Feb. 10, urging the company to remove adult content entirely. However, it remains unclear whether Musk, a longtime ally of Lee, will support the proposal.

Lee and Musk have previously aligned on key political issues, including cutting government spending and reducing federal agency power. Lee has been a vocal supporter of Musk’s policies, frequently praising him on X via his personal account, @BasedMikeLee. Musk, in turn, has amplified Lee’s messages, engaging with and reposting his content. Their collaboration has been notable enough that E&E News referred to their dynamic as a “bromance” in 2023.

Despite their shared views on free speech and deregulation, Musk’s stance on pornography on X may present a point of contention. In May 2024, Musk’s team introduced an updated Adult Content Policy that permits pornography on the platform under specific guidelines. The policy mandates that explicit content must be consensual, include warnings, and not be prominently displayed. Additionally, users under 18 are restricted from accessing such content.

Criticism of adult content on X has been growing. A Business Insider report

found that in 2022, 13% of the platform’s content was classified as “notsafe-for-work,” with the presence of porn increasing as content moderation was scaled back. NPR has also reported a rise in “porn bots” and automated accounts distributing explicit material.

Lee is not alone in his push for a porn-free X. Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene, R-Ga., recently criticized the platform’s adult content policies. In January, she posted a lengthy critique of X, arguing that sites like OnlyFans were “destroying the value of women” and encouraging harmful behaviors. She called on Musk to eliminate pornographic content from the platform entirely.

Musk’s commitment to making X a bastion of free speech may complicate any decision to remove adult content. Since purchasing Twitter and rebranding it to X in 2022, Musk has maintained that the platform would uphold maximum free expression. While Utah’s strict pornography laws regulate distribution and require age verification for adult sites, critics argue such laws infringe on digital privacy and free speech rights.

As Lee’s proposal gains attention, it remains to be seen whether Musk will address the call for a porn ban—or if X will continue to allow explicit content under its current policies. Q

Nonbinary Salt Lake City resident speaks out after attack

David Torrey says he was brutally assaulted late Sunday night near their apartment in Salt Lake City. They said the attack, which took place at the intersection of North Temple and Redwood, left them hospitalized with multiple injuries, including an internal chest injury. Now, they are speaking out, calling for community solidarity and justice.

Torrey, who identifies as nonbinary, says they had just left 7-Eleven and was walking to a nearby bus stop when they decided to take a familiar

shortcut behind a boarded-up KFC/A&W restaurant. That’s when they heard the first homophobic slurs.

“Next thing I know, one guy is grabbing one arm, one guy is grabbing another, and I was getting punched in the chest and the stomach,” Torrey recalled.

The assault, they said, escalated quickly. According to Torrey, at least five individuals were involved — two men restrained them while three others delivered blows to their body. One assailant was reportedly wearing

brass knuckles, and another brandished a knife, issuing threats. The attack lasted less than a minute but left Torrey shaken and severely injured.

“I was literally across the street from my house at the 7-Eleven,” they said. “And these guys decided to say some transphobic and homophobic slurs against me.”

A woman — whose identity remains unknown — intervened by yelling at the attackers, scaring them off.

“I don’t know who you are, we probably won’t meet, but I really want to thank you,” Torrey said. “I would be dead if it wasn’t for you.”

Torrey believes they were attacked specifically because of their gender identity, citing the hostile political climate as a catalyst for emboldening hate crimes.

“I just want it to be known that people think LGBTQ+ people are not attacked,” they said. “That we are a protected class. That our government is protecting us. It’s not true. Here I [was], in the E.R. Bruises all over. Probably broken ribs. Probably liver damage.

All because these people wanted to be bigoted, homophobic, transphobic assholes.”

“I feel like I was targeted, and I have been targeted for a long time,” Torrey said. “This was kind of like an opportunity to do it. People are emboldened by what our current politicians are saying.”

“I am a victim of a hate crime,” Torrey said.

While Torrey immediately called 911 and filed a police report (case number 25-32142), Salt Lake City

police have yet to classify the incident as a hate crime, only stating that it is being investigated as an assault.

“I’ve never felt scared to walk around in that area, but unfortunately, now I do feel scared, and I probably won’t do that any-

more,” Torrey admitted. Despite the trauma, they are determined to use their experience as a call to action. Torrey is urging the LGBTQ+ community to stand together against hate and to remain unapologetically themselves.

“I want people to know they are not alone and that we need to stand as a community with ZERO division,” they emphasized. “I really hope when my story comes out, LGBTQ+ folks will realize that it is okay to be yourself and to not let people stop you for being yourself.”

Anyone with information regarding the attack is urged to contact the Salt Lake City Police Department. Q

St. George apologizes after losing drag show lawsuit

A lawsuit between drag performers and St. George, Utah, concluded with the city issuing a formal apology after losing in court. The case, filed by Mitski Avalox and Southern Utah Drag Stars with the ACLU, argued that city officials violated their First and Fourteenth Amendment rights by denying a special event permit for a family-friendly drag show in 2023. The city’s actions were seen as part of a broader effort to restrict LGBTQ+ events.

BACKGROUND AND LEGAL CHALLENGE

The dispute began when Southern Utah Drag Stars applied for and initially received approval to hold a public drag performance. However, city officials later revoked the permit, citing a violation of an advertising rule that prohibited promoting an event before final approval. Avalox appealed the decision, but the St. George City Council upheld the denial.

Shortly after, the city imposed a six-month moratorium on all new event permits, further blocking the drag performance. The lawsuit alleged that this policy was selectively enforced to suppress LGBTQ+ gatherings. Attorneys for Avalox argued that other events violating the same advertising rule had been allowed to proceed, demonstrating a pattern of discrimination.

COURT RULING AND PUBLIC APOLOGY

In a significant legal victory, U.S. District Judge David Nuffer ruled in favor of the Southern Utah Drag Stars, ordering the city to allow the event to proceed. The drag show took place at Dixie Sunbowl on June 30, 2023, de-

spite 100-degree heat, a strong police presence, and protesters who opposed the event.

As part of the settlement, St. George officials admitted to violating the First Amendment and publicly apologized:

“St. George City admits the permit denial violated SUDS’ First Amendment rights and publicly apologizes... St. George City welcomes all citizens to hold special events and respects the First Amendment rights of all community members.”

LGBTQ+ VISIBILITY AND POLICY CHANGES

The ACLU of Utah hailed the ruling as a landmark case for free speech protections and LGBTQ+ visibility. Mitski Avalox called the win a victory for all LGBTQ+ individuals, emphasizing the broader significance of the case:

“This isn’t just my win—it’s for every queer person told to stay invisible. The city council tried to censor us, but the Constitution was on our side.”

Following the lawsuit, St. George lifted its event moratorium and revised its permitting process, removing the controversial advertising restriction. The case also set a precedent for future LGBTQ+ events in Utah, ensuring that city officials cannot impose arbitrary barriers on drag performances and other inclusive gatherings.

Despite this victory, LGBTQ+ advocates stress that the fight for equal rights and visibility in Utah is far from over. Southern Utah Drag Stars and other organizations continue to push for inclusive public spaces, undeterred by past attempts at censorship. With this legal triumph, they move forward, planning future events without fear of unconstitutional interference. Q

Utah Legislature enters final two weeks of the 2025 session

The Utah Legislature is in session and is considering a number of bills affacting Utah’s LGBTQ+ community.

Unlike the previous few years, legislative leaders did not slam controversial bills through and throw them to the governor for his signature.

Still several bills are already passed through their respective committees and are facing votes by the Utah House. Here is a list of the current bills and responses from relevant organizations:

HB 77 — Flag Display Amendments

Chief sponsor — Rep. Trevor Lee, R-Layton

The Utah House has passed H.B. 77, a bill restricting flag displays in public schools and government buildings. The measure, approved in a 49-20-6 vote, allows only select flags — including U.S., state, military, and Olympic flags — while banning others, such as LGBTQ+ Pride flags.

Bill sponsor Rep. Trevor Lee (R-Davis) argues it ensures political neutrality. However, critics, including the ACLU of Utah and House Democrats, say it unfairly targets LGBTQ+ visibility. The bill now moves to the Senate for further debate in the final two weeks of the Legislative Session.

UTAH

DEMOCRATS:

“The Utah House Democrats condemn the passage of H.B. 77 Flag Display Amendments. This harmful bill, which received bipartisan opposition, seeks to censor Pride and Transgender flag displays in

public schools and government buildings. H.B. 77 is yet another example of unnecessary legislation aimed at silencing expressions of support and pride for our LGBTQ+ communities. Despite persistent rhetoric from legislators about the sanctity of small government, this bill unwisely restricts teachers’ ability to make their classrooms safe and welcoming for their students. Legislating classroom decor makes a mockery of the concept of local control. We refuse to let this distract us from the truth: Utah is home to diverse, loving, and supportive communities. We remain committed to fighting against efforts that marginalize underrepresented groups and will continue standing in solidarity with LGBTQ+ Utahns across the state.”

HB 250 — Pronouns in schools

Chief Sponsor Rep. Nicholeen Peck, R-Tooele

The Utah House passed H.B. 250, a bill preventing schools from disciplining teachers who refuse to use a student’s preferred pronouns or name due to moral or religious beliefs. The legislation follows a recent Ohio court ruling in favor of a teacher punished for similar reasons. Supporters argue the bill protects teachers’ rights, while critics say it could harm transgender students and weaken inclusive school policies. The bill now heads to the Senate for consideration in the final two weeks of the legislative session.

EQUALITY UTAH:

Frankly, [the bill is] a solution in search of a problem. The sponsor couldn’t cite a single example of teachers being disciplined for misgendering transgender students. Even if such cases existed, Utah law already provides robust protections for employee speech through the Utah Compromise framework we helped create a decade ago. That sophisticated legislation allows for free speech protections for employees, so long as it doesn’t become harassment.

HB 252 — Gender-affirming surgery for inmates

Chief Sponsor: Rep. Karianne Lisonbee, R-Clearfield

The Utah Legislature has passed H.B. 252, prohibiting gender-affirming surgeries and hormone treatments for transgender individuals in state correctional facilities. The bill allows exceptions for individuals with intersex traits but mandates that inmates be housed according to their sex assigned at birth, not their gender identity. While supporters argue the measure ensures consistency in prison policies, critics say it denies essential medical care to transgender inmates. The bill allows psychotherapy for gender dysphoria but restricts other affirming treatments. It now heads to the governor’s desk for final approval.

EQUALITY UTAH:

Equality Utah is troubled to see yet another bill focused on trans individuals in the 2025 session. We are particularly concerned about the housing provisions of HB 252, which require individuals to be housed according to their birth sex. We want to make sure that the language of the bill affords Juvenile Justice Youth Services personnel the ability to meet constitutional requirements that flow from the 8th Amendment to keep trans inmates safe and secure while in the State’s care. We appreciate that adult trans inmates who enter the correctional system receiving gender-affirming care will not be deprived of ongoing access to healthcare.

ACLU:

“HB 252 puts trans youth at risk of harm by denying them appropriate housing in correctional and secure care facilities. Oftentimes, trans youth are caught in the criminal legal system due to facing hardships like being unhoused. These children especially need safety and security in their living space. Last year, the Legislature passed a law restricting housing assignments for trans adults in correctional facilities, with an exception allowing access to appropriate housing after a review by the Department of Corrections or county jail. HB 252 lacks even this minor accommodation. This bill strips power from those best positioned to make housing assignment decisions and instead enacts a rigid, bright-line rule that will put our trans youth at risk of harm and sexual violence. This bill runs afoul of the state’s duty to protect Utahns from harm while incarcerated,” said Ellie Menlove, Legislative and Policy Counsel for the ACLU of Utah

HB 269 — University sexdesignated housing

Chief sponsor: Rep. Stephanie Gricius, R-Utah County

Utah Governor Spencer Cox has signed H.B. 269 into law, restricting transgender students from living in university housing that does not match their sex assigned at birth. The law, framed as a measure to preserve privacy in sex-segregated housing, follows controversy over a transgender woman serving as a resident assistant at Utah State University.

Despite the university clarifying that the housing in question was co-ed, lawmakers pushed forward with restrictions. The law makes exceptions for intersex individuals, those who have legally amended their birth certificates, or individuals who have undergone gender-affirming surgery. Critics argue it discriminates against transgender students, limiting their ability to find safe and affirming housing.

EQUALITY UTAH:

While this [law] creates new restrictions, it’s important to note that transgender students will still have access to gender-neutral or mixed-gender housing options where such accommodations are available. This legislation is unnecessary because universities already have policies in place to address any concerns regarding housing arrangements.

ACLU:

The Utah State Legislature has one of the shortest general legislative sessions in the country. Instead of using this valuable time to tackle the real issues Utahns face—the lack of affordable housing, saving the Great Salt Lake, and bringing down the cost of living, to name a few— the state Legislature has continued its attacks on our transgender community.

UTAH HOUSE DEMOCRATIC CAUCUS:

“Utah’s public universities already have robust systems in place that allow students to request changes to their living arrangements. Conflicts between students should be resolved at the campus level, not overruled by exclusionary legislation that alienates and marginalizes our transgender community.

We are heartbroken that yet another bill targeting our trans community has passed out of the House floor, despite unanimous opposition from our caucus. The bill debated today prohibits trans students from living in sex-designated dormitories that align with their gender identity at Utah’s public colleges and universities. We stand firmly against legislation rooted in fear and harmful rhetoric.

To Utah’s trans community: this is your home. You belong here. You have a community that loves and supports you, and we will continue fighting for your rights, dignity, and inclusion.”

HB 283 — Children in state custody

Chief sponsor: Rep. Stephanie Gricius, R-Utah County

The Utah House and a Senate committee have approved H.B. 283, a bill prioritizing parental rights over a child’s gender identity and safety in state custody. The legislation bars courts from denying parental reunification solely due to a parent’s rejection of their child’s sexual orientation or gender identity, even if that rejection led to the child entering state care.

The bill also requires authorities to disclose a child’s LGBTQ+ identity to parents and mandates parental consent before using a child’s preferred pronouns. Critics warn it could force vulnerable youth back into unsafe homes and limit access to affirming support.

H.B. 283 now heads to the full Utah Senate for a final vote.

EQUALITY UTAH:

This bill addresses various aspects of foster care placement. Importantly, the bill considers rooming requirements for foster children, taking into account biological gender and relationship between children; prevents a child from being placed with a family who is not supportive of a child’s gender identity or sexual orientation; does not allow support or lack of support of a child’s LGBTQ status from being determinative in custody or reunification decisions, unless potential for harm to a child exists.

HB 424 — School Activity Eligibility Commission Amendments

Chief sponsor: Rep. Nelson Abbott, R-Orem H.B. 424, a bill aimed at making technical adjustments to Utah’s School Activity Eligibility Commission, has passed the House Judiciary Committee and is now under consideration in the Utah House. The commission, created to determine eligibility for transgender students in school sports and activities, would see changes in meeting schedules, vacancy filling, and other procedural matters. While the bill moves through the House, it faces challenges in the Senate with limited time left in the Legislative session. Without a suspension of the rules, it may not pass before the session ends in two weeks. Q

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Mosaics Resource Center to open in Utah County

Making customers happy since 1984!

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A new community resource center dedicated to supporting LGBTQIA+ individuals and families is set to open its doors in Utah County. The Mosaics Resource Center will celebrate its grand opening on March 1, 2025, at 42 N 200 E in American Fork, with a day of festivities aimed at fostering connection, support, and inclusion. Mosaics Community Bookstore and Venue, once

ing space where individuals can access essential services, support groups, and educational programming.

Attendees are encouraged to participate in a community donation drive by bringing non-perishable food items, new or gently used LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC books, and lightly used clothing that reflects diverse gender expressions. These donations will support community members in need.

The grand opening event will feature a ribbon-cutting ceremony at noon in partnership with the Utah LGBTQ+ Chamber of Commerce. Then, a Family Resource Carnival will take place from 12:00 to 5:00 p.m., offering games, food, and access to local resources for attendees of all ages. Mosaics Resource Center aims to fill a critical gap in Utah County by providing LGBTQIA+ individuals and their families with vital resources, support networks, and community engagement opportunities. The center will serve as a safe and welcom-

As part of the celebration, visitors will also have the opportunity to contribute to a collaborative Mosaic mural in the center’s community room. Those interested in reserving a space on the mural can bring paint supplies and email info@mosaicsutah. com for more details.

The event is free and open to all, welcoming LGBTQIA+ individuals, families, allies, and supporters. With its opening, the Mosaics Resource Center aims to create a lasting impact in Utah County, fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment for all. Q

Stonewall Self Defense classes for the LGBTQ+ community and allies

Sebastian Livingston, a self-described queer feminist badass, has begun Stonewall Self Defense, offering self-defense classes for the LGBTQ+ and ally community beginning March

1. For $60, students can attend any of the 12 weekly classes for a full month. Livingston is a gay black belt martial artist, bodybuilder, published socialist writer, and tattoo artist from Salt Lake City who advocates for human rights. With 15 years of experience in martial arts and self-defense, he is working to support marginalized people.

Matrons of Mayhem drag bingo donated nearly $32,000 to charities in 2024

The drag troupe Matrons of Mayhem donated nearly $32,000 to charities hosting bingo events through 2024. The group holds monthly drag bingo events at First Baptist Church and Club Try-Angles in Salt Lake City. They also are invited to host charity events for other groups through the year.

received donations from the group in 2024. Since the group started, they have raised roughly a half million dollars for charities.

“Pre- and early-Trump era, I spent time as the chair of the Ecosocialist Commission for the Socialist Party USA working with various groups to organize national environmental demonstrations and self-defense initiatives,” he said in a statement. “I am dedicated to supporting LGBTQ+ people and all other people who are systematically oppressed. Building and supporting spaces of solidarity and support of people, not profit, has always been my biggest goal in life.”

Hour-long classes will be held on Mondays and Fridays at 7:30 a.m., Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays at 7:15 p.m., and Saturdays and Sundays at 9 a.m. The location is 3361 S. 200 East, Unit 3 in South Salt Lake. Q

More information on Instagram at @stonewall.selfdefense

The group raised an average of $2,615 at Third Friday Bingos, including the largest donation of $3,834 going to the Rocky Mountain Great Dane Rescue. Other charities included LGBTQ+ senior organization Seniors Out and Proud at $2,500, homeless healthcare provider The INN Between at $3,295, and Christmas Box International at $2,698.

Special event bingos raised $1,000 for the Trevor Project, and $1,675 for UAF Legacy Health.

Overall, 22 charities

Bingos held at the First Baptist Church on the third Fridays are $5 per card, good for seven games. Doors open at 6 p.m. and seats fill up quickly, especially on certain charity nights. Bingo goes from 7 to about 9 p.m. Kitchen Concessions are available for purchase. The alcohol-free church events are all-ages, family friendly, and kids are welcome and encouraged. The group chooses charities in December from requests received for the following year. Charities must be certified by the IRS as charitable organizations. Q

More information can be found at MatronsOfMayhem.com and thematronsofmayhem@gmail.com.

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Utah Transgender Day of Visibility to

be marked

with rally, march, community celebration

Each March 31 is the globally observed International Transgender Day of Visibility, dedicated to honoring the resilience, contributions, and visibility of transgender individuals. Across Utah and beyond, community leaders, advocates, and allies are coming together to celebrate trans lives and raise awareness about the challenges trans people face.

“TDOV is a global event to celebrate nonbinary people — our lives, our stories, and our resilience,” said Dallas Rivas, Glitter Foundation cofounder and trans activist. “It’s about being seen, valued, and heard, especially in a time when our voices are being silenced.”

“But visibility alone is not enough.” Rivas continued. “We need action. Across the country, trans rights are under attack. There are currently 372 active anti-trans bills across 43 states, with 6 in Utah. Too many of these are passing into law. We are facing harmful legislation, misinformation, and real threats to our safety.”

While the official date falls on a Monday this year, events recognizing the occasion are happening throughout the weekend and into the following days. The goal is to highlight the voices and experiences of transgender people, counteract discrimination, and foster an environment of inclusivity and understanding.

Rally and March, March 29

The Glitter Foundation is partnering with the Utah Pride Center to hold a rally and march on March 29. The event starts with a rally at the Utah State Capitol, followed by a march down State Street to Washington Square.

“Whether you are trans, nonbinary, an ally, a friend, or just someone who believes in human rights, your

voice matters. We need you there to be seen, to be heard, and to fight for a future where we can still live openly and safely,” Rivas said. “When we show up, and when we stand together, we send a clear message — we are here, we belong, and we will not be erased.”

“Let’s make this the biggest TDoV rally in history.”

Community Celebration, March 31

A Utah Transgender Day of Visibility Community Celebration will take place on Monday evening, March 31, at the Utah Cultural Celebration Center (1335 W. 3100 S., West Valley). The evening will feature entertainment, community connection, and a “celebration of trans joy.” The Mildred Berryman Institute will also exhibit Utah’s early transgender history, dating back to the 1940s.

How Did TDOV Begin?

The observance was founded in 2009 by Rachel Crandall-Crocker, the executive director and co-founder of Transgender Michigan. Unlike Transgender Day of Remembrance, which honors lives lost to anti-trans violence, TDOV is about celebrating life and visibility.

“I think that once a person understands us, it’s hard to discriminate against us,” Crandall-Crocker said in an interview. “I created it because I wanted a time when we don’t have to be so lonely. I wanted a day when we were all together all over the world as one community. And that’s exactly what we are.”

Crandall-Crocker selected the day at the end of March to give it space from the day of remembrance and Pride Month in June, which celebrates all types of LGBTQ+ people.

Why is it Important?

Transgender people have become more visible in public life in the U.S. and elsewhere. However, there has also been a backlash from conservative officials. At least 11 states have adopted policies barring people from using the bathrooms aligning with their gender in schools or other public buildings, 25 have bans on transgender women and/ or girls competing in sports for women or girls, and more than 20 have adopted bans on gender-affirming health care for minors. Some of the policies have been put on hold by courts.

Nico Lang, author of American Teenager: How Trans Kids are Surviving Hate and Finding Joy in a Turbulent Era, which is scheduled to be published later this year, said it’s important to find happiness even amid the political tumult.

“I feel like we as people — all of us queer people, trans people — are trying to assert our humanity right now,” said Lang, who uses they/them pronouns.

They said the day of visibility is powerful because it’s not just on social media but also in real life with rallies and potluck meals.

“It’s just us living our lives,” they said. Q

Genderbands celebrates 10 years of empowering Trans communities

A decade of growth, support, and impact

BY IAN GILES

In

March 2015, what began as a small personal fundraiser to alleviate one person’s financial burden blossomed into a global force for good. Genderbands, a Provo, Utah-based nonprofit dedicated to supporting transgender people with transition-related costs, is celebrating its 10th anniversary this year. Over the past decade, the organization has not only expanded its services but has also built a vibrant community that offers life-saving support to transgender individuals around the world. Today, Genderbands has distribut-

ed over $165,000 in transition grants to 50 individuals, provided free chest binders to thousands of people, and created an inclusive, supportive environment with its free Trans Closet. It’s also become a beloved center of joy and visibility for the trans community through its annual Trans PrideN-Joy Festival, held every August.

From a Personal Fundraiser to an International Nonprofit

The story of Genderbands started simply, with a personal need and a desire to

help others. Its founder, Ian Giles, was navigating their own transition and found themselves struggling with the financial burden of necessary transition-related costs. Giles launched a modest fundraiser selling blue wristbands to try to cover their own expenses.

Giles quickly realized that they weren’t alone in facing these financial challenges. Many transgender people experience significant barriers when seeking gender-affirming care and transitioning, often due to high costs and limited access to insurance or support. Inspired to turn their challenge into an opportunity to help others, Giles expanded the fundraiser to provide transition grants to others in need, and from there, the concept of a nonprofit organization was born.

Genderbands officially became an IRS 501(c)(3) nonprofit in 2018, with a mission to help transgender individuals pay for transition-related costs. But rather than focusing solely on financial assistance, Genderbands grew into a multifaceted resource for trans people, offering grants, workshops, free chest binders, and a free Trans Closet filled with gender-affirming clothing and accessories.

A Decade of Impact: Grants, Resources, and More

Since 2015, Genderbands went from one individual selling blue wristbands to friends to a nonprofit organization that serves transgender people throughout North America. Today, Genderbands offers a diverse range of items that help fund its programs. Each item sold contributes directly to the nonprofit’s services, allowing supporters to make a tangible impact simply by purchasing something they love.

Over the past 10 years, Genderbands has made a tremendous impact on the lives of transgender people. One of the organization’s flagship programs is its Transition Grant initiative, which provides direct financial support to transgender individuals seeking to cover the costs of gender-affirming care. Since its inception, Genderbands has distributed over $165,000 in grants, assisting 50 individuals with transition-related expenses. These grants cover a wide range

of needs, including hormone replacement therapy, gender-affirming surgeries, voice therapy, and other essential services that are often not covered by insurance.

While grants are a cornerstone of the organization, Genderbands also recognizes the critical importance of accessibility to everyday items that help transgender people feel comfortable in their bodies. One of the most popular programs is the free chest binder initiative. Genderbands provides free chest binders to trans men, nonbinary individuals, and others who need them but cannot afford the high cost. Chest binders are not just a material need; they are a tool of empowerment and a source of safety and comfort for many trans people. By providing them at no cost, Genderbands ensures that these essential items are within reach of those who need them most and prevents people from using unsafe binding methods.

In addition to binders, the nonprofit runs a free Trans Closet, where individuals can access free gender-affirming clothing to help them express themselves authentically, regardless of their financial means.

One of the most anticipated events organized by Genderbands each year is the Trans Pride-N-Joy Festival. The festival has grown into a beloved event, centering the experiences and voices of the trans community. It’s a celebration of gender diversity that features live performances, workshops, trans vendors, and, of course, opportunities to connect with trans people from all walks of life. The festival provides both a sense of belonging and a chance to amplify trans culture and creativity in a welcoming and supportive environment.

Facing New Challenges: The Need for Support

Despite the incredible success Genderbands has experienced over the past 10 years, the challenges facing the trans community are far from over. The political landscape has become increasingly hostile, with legislative efforts in many parts of the world seeking to restrict access to healthcare, education, and public accommodations for trans individuals.

The rising cost of living, the economic fallout from the global pandemic, and the increasing prevalence of anti-trans legislation make it harder than ever for many people to afford the care and resources they need to live as their authentic selves.

In the face of these challenges, Genderbands remains steadfast in its commitment to providing financial support and community resources for trans individuals. However, to continue this vital work, the nonprofit needs the support of donors, volunteers, and allies. The 10th Anniversary Fundraiser is Genderbands’ most important fundraising campaign to date, with the goal of raising the funds needed to sustain and expand its operations.

How You Can Help: Join the 10th Anniversary Fundraiser

This year, Genderbands is launching its 10th Anniversary Fundraiser to ensure that it can continue to provide crucial support to the trans community throughout North America. Genderbands does not receive government money. They operate by using donations, sponsorships, and sales of their merchandise. Nothing has been the same since the Covid-19 pandemic started in 2020. As a small non-profit run by two people, your support is essential to keep the work moving forward.

The goal is to raise $100,000, which will go directly toward expanding grants, providing more chest binders, supporting the free trans closet, and hiring much-needed staff. Your donation will also allow Genderbands to continue hosting the Trans Pride-n-Joy Festival and ensure that the event remains a space where trans people can celebrate themselves in a world that so often marginalizes them. Every donation, whether large or small, will make a direct impact on the lives of trans people who rely on Genderbands’ resources to navigate their transitions. There are many ways to support Genderbands during its 10th Anniversary Fundraiser. You can donate directly to the campaign, become a monthly donor, or host your own fundraiser to raise awareness and funds. Volunteers

are also needed to help with everything from administrative support to event planning and community outreach. By supporting Genderbands, you are contributing to a future where every trans person has the resources, support, and freedom they need to live authentically.

In addition to financial contributions, we encourage those who can to spread the word about Genderbands and its mission. Many people don’t know that there are organizations out there providing real support for the transgender community. By sharing our work with your networks, together, we can reach even more people in need.

Looking Ahead: The Future of Genderbands

As Genderbands celebrates its 10th anniversary, the nonprofit reflects on its incredible achievements and looks forward to the work still ahead. In the years to come, Genderbands is committed to continuing its mission of empowering and supporting transgender individuals. With expanded grant programs, more accessible resources, more staff, and an ever-growing community of support, Genderbands will continue to be a lifeline for those navigating the financial challenges of gender transition. While much has been accomplished, the fight for equality, recognition, and access to gender-affirming care is far from over. Genderbands will stand as a beacon of support and love for the trans community for years to come.

Please join us as we embark on the next phase of this journey. Support our 10th Anniversary Fundraiser, and help us continue to provide the life-changing resources that so many trans people rely on. Together, we can ensure that Genderbands will be here for the next decade— and beyond—fighting for a world where gender diversity is truly celebrated.

To donate or learn more about how you can get involved, visit our website at www.genderbands.org. Q

Visit genderbands.org/10bday to learn more about the anniversary fundraiser.

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“I have a trans brother. It’s not for you to believe in or not believe in but it’s for you to respect. Because that’s what evolved human beings do — respect one another and not always point each other out when people just be trying to get thru the damn day.”

—Azealia Banks

“I don’t give a f**k that they put an ‘M’ on my passport. It doesn’t change really anything about me or my transness, however, it does make life a little harder. I’m pretty sure it’s gonna come along with having to out myself to border patrol agents […] much more often than I would like to or is really necessary. And thinking about other trans women or other trans people who this might be happening to.”.”

—Hunter Schafer

“I don’t have any more F’s to give. The night of the election, I went, ‘That’s it, I am not even going to pay attention to him anymore. I’m not going to give him any of my fear, any of my disappointment. I’m not going to give any of that anymore.’”

—Melissa Etheridge

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Foster Fabulously

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

My maternal

grandmother was an awesome woman. She was tiny but punched well above her weight class. She was a nurse; she spoke three languages; and she was a foster mom to over 90 children, many of whom were medically fragile. Whenever we visited her in Long Beach, there was always some kid staying there who was waiting for their forever home – either back with their biological family or a new one.

“Foster care is designed for children who cannot safely stay with their biological families, often due to abuse or neglect,” Gina Phillips, director of communications at Utah Foster Care tells me. “The primary goal of foster care is reunification, meaning the child is eventually returned to their home when it’s safe to do so. In Utah, children typically spend just over a year in foster care.”

According to the Human Rights Campaign, there are almost 400,000 children in foster care, an estimated 30% of whom identify as LGBTQ+. Here in Utah, there are nearly 2,000 foster children, but Phillips says they don’t collect specific data about whether or not a kid is LGBTQ+, but she does say that “based on broader trends and the climate in Utah, it’s likely that the state’s figures align with national patterns.”

No matter their sexual orientation, most of these kids have experienced trauma. It’s important that they are placed in a home that supports them for who they are. That’s an opinion shared by the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. This group focuses on finding the right permanent families for those in foster care.

Rita Soronen, president & CEO, says, “It’s important to place youth with a family that can meet their needs; that may be with a queer foster parent or parents, or adults who are not queer, but understand and support the youth and their identity.”

Whereas Utah Foster Care doesn’t have a specific program to place queer kids with queer parents, it does work to recruit LGBTQ+ parents through Pride events across the state and by partnering with community groups. Additionally, they train staff on being allies and using affirming language.

And the importance of LGBTQ+ people fostering queer kids cannot be underestimated. Phillips says, “Foster families can have a lasting impact on these young people’s lives. Queer adults, in particular, are often uniquely well-suited to care for children in foster care, as they may have faced similar challenges and stereotypes. They tend to be more open to supporting a child’s exploration of their non-traditional identity and often have valuable coping skills and a supportive community to offer.”

Being in “the system” is rough for any kid, but perhaps especially for queer kids. Seeing themselves in their foster parents may help make their lives a little easier. The Dave Thomas Foundation’s Soronen says, “Having foster and adoptive parents from the LGBTQIA community means that the LGBTQIA youth in foster care have an opportunity to be placed in a family where they feel safe and with a sense of inclusion and belonging. This can also help to begin addressing the trauma, grief, rejection, and loss that children in foster care experience.”

I have no idea if any of the nearly 100 kids my grandmother fostered were queer or not. As a matter of fact, I only met a few of them, and except for my cousin David, whom my late aunt adopted, I remember just a handful. What I do know is whether a kid lived with her for a few days or a few years, they had an awesome foster mom. Q

To learn more about becoming a foster parent or adoption, visit UTAHFOSTERCARE.ORG/LGBTQ or DAVETHOMASFOUNDATION.ORG

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Is it time to retire ‘LGBTQ+’ for a new identity?

BY JEFF MCMULLEN

a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I, like many of my fellows, am devastated by the results of the 2024 election. During the campaign, Donald Trump and the Republican Party promoted anti-LGBTQ+ policies. The Republican National Convention 2024 Platform made twenty promises to the American people, among them: (1) cutting federal funding for any school, pushing what it calls “radical gender ideology and other inappropriate sexual content” on American children, and (2) keeping men out of women’s sports.

Despite the welfare and safety of the LGBTQ+ community being severely at risk, the American people overwhelmingly voted for Republican leadership. The GOP won the Presidency and took control of the Senate and House of Representatives. With certainty, the next four years will be very challenging for the LGBTQ+ community.

Let this be our wake-up call. What the 2024 election results tell us is that the methods and means we in the LGBTQ+ community have used to assert our rights and achieve equality have resulted in a backlash against our civil liberties, and our hard-earned progress is at risk. Thus, it is time to be introspective and reevaluate our approach. In that effort, however, we mustn’t retreat from the defense of our fellow community members. Instead, we must remain united as a community and ensure no one is sacrificed on the altar of appeasement. It is important to remember that we fight for the equality of all LGBTQ+ people, and this must never be compromised. IS IT

TIME TO RECONSIDER THE LGBTQ+ LABEL?

As a starting point for this reassessment, let us reconsider how we brand ourselves and our movement, i.e., the “LGBTQ+” label. The rationale behind the label’s origins has led to seemingly endless iterations, which become less credible and meaningful with each new varia-

tion. The time has come to retire this damaging identifier in favor of one that better suits and serves our community. I identify as a “Queer American,” and I strongly encourage my fellow community members to use this identifier as well. Queer American provides recognition, is inclusive and unifying, concentrates our collective power, and helps non-members identify and empathize with us. Some readers may strongly object to identifying as Queer. Perhaps you’re triggered by the term’s pejorative use or apprehensive about its historical association with radicalism. As someone who is part of Generation X, was raised in rural Louisiana, and served in the United States Navy under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” I, too, have suffered homophobia, including being called queer in a derogatory fashion. Therefore, I empathize with those of you who associate queer with trauma. But there is power in reclaiming a word once used to degrade. As for radicalism, I say, perhaps now more than ever, calls for radicalism to defend against the relentless attacks lodged against the Queer community by far-right conservatives.

WHAT PERCENTAGE OF PEOPLE IDENTIFY AS LGBTQ+?

Additionally, consider that queer does not have the same negative connotation among the Millennial and Z Generations, who have readily identified as Queer. These demographics should not be dismissed. According to a Gallup poll conducted on sexual orientation and gender identity in 2023, one in ten Millennials and one in five Gen Zers identify as members of the Queer community. As these generations reach adult age, the Queer community is projected to exceed 10 percent of America’s adult population. So, to you, the reader who has an aversion to Queer, I ask you to withhold your skepticism and objectively consider the arguments provided below in favor of identifying as a Queer American. To those readers who strongly iden-

tify as gay, lesbian, etc., and not Queer, identifying as Queer may feel disingenuous. Let me provide you with an alternative paradigm that might alleviate your concern. Merriam-Webster defines “queer” as “relating to, or being a person whose sexual orientation is not heterosexual and/ or whose gender identity is not cisgender.” Thus, as a community, we are all Queer. Just as we are all a part of the LGBTQ+ community. How your queerness is expressed on an individual level is not mutually exclusive with being Queer, just as it is not mutually exclusive with identifying as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. Our collective identity does not negate the authenticity of our individual identities. While recognition and inclusivity are worthy aims, application to the community’s label in this way leads to a label whose intentions are entirely subverted. The longer initialisms over the years have been justifiably criticized as confusing and unwieldy, sometimes referred to as “alphabet soup.” Even many community members have mocked the label, calling it LGBTQWERTY, LGBTQXYZ, and the Alphabet Mafia. Consequently, venerable institutions choose instead to label the community with the nondescript “sexual and gender minorities” or “SMG.” Still, other groups and organizations have shifted to using terms like “same gender loving” or “SGL” and “gender, sexual, and romantic minorities” or “GSRM.” Others have forwarded their identification as Pride Community and/or Proud Americans. Unfortunately, these groups fail to appreciate the threat of erasure such generic terms pose.

IS THE QUEER LABEL MORE INCLUSIVE THAN THE LGBTQ+ ACRONYM?

Despite its shortcomings, LGBTQ+ continues to be the generally accepted label for the Queer community. This label, however, omits people with sexual or gender identities that are not represented in the acronym but who otherwise share

a common experience of being othered due to their sexuality and/or gender identities. Additionally, the acronym allows for the intentional exclusion of some letters and, with them, entire subgroups of the Queer community. Most importantly, the label focuses on the differences between its members rather than identifying the community as a whole.

In addition to the division and diminution created by the LGBTQ+ label, it also alienates us from non-members. Academic, medical, and scientific authors have long been criticized for using acronyms in their writings. Such uses make a subject less accessible to its readers, cause confusion and misunderstanding, and make otherwise interested parties feel othered and turned off. Those same criticisms are valid, too, in the context of labeling the Queer community with the acronym LGBTQ+. Many non-members of the community see the label as a confusing code whose understanding is intended only for its members and whose purpose is to exclude outsiders like themselves. The label acts as a barrier that isolates us from our larger community.

The label does not reference our status as Americans who share the same origins, values, and cultural context as our non-member, fellow Americans. The importance of this connection cannot be overstated. The United States of America proclaims in the Declaration of Independence, “All men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” From this fundamental document, America’s understanding of equality is derived and has expanded over time. America’s promise of equality is what emboldens the Queer community to demand and fight for equality. America’s promise of equality is what calls non-members to stand with the Queer community in demanding equality on our behalf. Equality is not a

finite resource. The Queer community does not achieve equality at the expense of non-members; rather, it strengthens their civil rights. Queer rights are human rights. Queer rights are American rights.

WHY DO I FIND STRENGTH IN IDENTIFYING AS QUEER AMERICAN?

“Queer American” resolves the issues caused by the LGBTQ+ label. It is inclusionary, unifies us by our shared experience, marshals our collective strength, and breaks down barriers between us and non-members. All subgroups of the Queer community—lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, intersex, asexual, aromantic, agender, pangender, etc.—can unite behind a universal identity that is other than the majority. All of us who are not heterosexual and/or not cisgender are all Queer.

Aside from Queer, identifying as American reminds non-members that although our sexuality and/or gender may be different, we are fellow citizens, nonetheless. In this context, the Queer American experience is more closely analogous to other minority groups, such as African Americans, Asian Americans, Native Americans, etc., whose civil rights movements have been more successful. Let us take note of their progress and join them as Americans in defining our community.

For all of these reasons, I identify as a Queer American. I implore my fellow community members to likewise unite and identify as Queer Americans so we can, together with the support of our allies, demand and ensure lasting equality for all members of the Queer community. Q

Jeff McMullen is a 17-year veteran of the multifamily housing industry and founder and CEO of McMullen Multifamily, a multifamily housing property and asset management consulting and private equity investment firm. Jeff holds a Juris Doctor from Tulane University Law School, completed graduate-level coursework in Public Policy and Administration, and has a Bachelor of Arts in History. Jeff served honorably in the United States Navy as an aviation electronics technician. Jeff proudly identifies as a Queer American and champions diversity, equity, and inclusion. Jeff is a grateful resident of West Hollywood, CA.

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I’d‘The New York Times’

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

like to give a very special fuck you to The New York Times and all of the other major newspapers that went out of their way to get Donald Trump elected. Article after article, the Times positioned Trump like a sane and reasonable choice for president.

Well now the Times is SUDDENLY CONCERNED. A Feb. 10 article titled “Trump’s Actions Have Created a Constitutional Crisis” quoted Erwin Chemerinsky, University of California law school dean, as saying, “We are in the midst of a constitutional crisis right now. There have been so many unconstitutional and illegal actions in the first 18 days of the Trump presidency. We never have seen anything like this.”

In other words, Trump is doing crimes at lightning speed, basically giving the middle finger to Congress and the courts that dare rule against him. Remember when we learned that there were three branches of government and that these three branches would check the power of the others? We don’t have that now. Trump is literally doing whatever he wants, including defying court orders.

Not to be that reply guy, but is anyone surprised? Besides the Times?

And then there’s how the Times framed the issue of transgender people and their very humanity.

On Feb. 9, the Times editorial board published an OPINION PIECE titled, “Trump’s Shameful Campaign Against Transgender Americans.”

“Some of the most deplorable episodes in U.S. history involve the government wielding the power of the state against minority groups: Black people, Indigenous people and gay people, to name just a few,” they write. “Though these campaigns might have received popular support at the time, history has consistently judged them as immoral, illegal and un-American. Rather than understanding this history, President Trump is borrowing from the worst of it.”

Well, fire up the No Shit machine.

creep of the month

The Times accused Trump of waging “as direct a campaign against a single, vulnerable minority as we’ve seen in generations.”

And they’re right. But what they don’t ever say in this opinion piece is, “And The New York Times helped Trump demonize transgender people, thus making it easier for Trump to usher in this cruel vendetta.”

In fact, they continue to do it in this very opinion piece. “It should be recognized that society is still grappling with the cultural and policy implications of the rapidly shifting understanding of gender. There are some issues — such as participation in sports and appropriate medical care for minors — that remain fiercely debated, even by those who broadly support trans rights. There should be room for those conversations.”

in which cruelty and humiliation seem to be the fundamental point.”

YES. THAT IS THE POINT. Again, the Times is absolutely complicit in this.

As GLAAD explained on Feb. 14, the Times has a habit of “publishing inaccurate, biased pieces about transgender people that are regularly used by extremist lawmakers and extremist organizations in court as justification

for banning trans people from accessing best practice medical care.”

On the surface this seems reasonable, but the “just asking questions” crowd is rarely operating in good faith. What is actually being argued — as Trump made clear in his Inauguration speech and his executive order to kick transgender people out of the military — is whether or not transgender people exist. Or, more pointedly, deserve to exist. “Are these people even human?” is the thinly veiled question at the root of these “debates.”

The Times published article after article fanning the flames of these “debates,” basically encouraging their readers to be suspicious of transgender Americans. And it has led to where we are now.

The Times continues, “What shouldn’t be debated is whether the government should target a group of Americans to be stripped of their freedom and dignity to move through the world as they choose. This is a campaign

In a Jan. 21 article for THE FLAW, Simone Unwalla wrote, “In 2018, there were 19 bills targeting transgender people in state legislatures across the United States. In 2020, there were 60. Today, there are 541.”

Unwalla connects this “avalanche of legislative efforts to restrict and punish trans people” to the Times. “Liberal-leaning outlets like the New York Times helped anti-trans panic catch fire under a veil of objectivity and through misleading ‘both-sides’ reporting. Outlets like the Times didn’t just capitalize on transphobic rhetoric, they actively legitimized it and spread it to new audiences.”

Now Trump is using his unchecked executive power to actively harm transgender people. But thank god the Times avoided seeming biased in favor of the humanity of transgender people just trying to live their lives. Journalistic excellence, indeed. Q

D’Anne Witkowski is a writer living with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBTQ+ politics for nearly two decades. Follow her on X @MamaDWitkowski.

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the Example’: Melissa Etheridge’s Guide to Joy, Resilience and Unity

The gay icon on turning environmental and political turmoil into art and connection

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

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Melissa Etheridge, ain’t it heavy? For some perspective on recent assaults on LGBTQ+ rights brought by the Trump administration, turning to a gay icon with decades of experience in resilience and unity is always worthwhile. Enter Etheridge, who tells me she’s not quite the grandmother she once imagined herself becoming — though, in many ways, she is a grandmother to many of us in the LGBTQ+ community. Our community draws inspiration from her strength, activism and the unwavering fortitude she’s embodied since her highly public coming out in 1993. Through the unapologetic truth expressed in her music and embodied in her public persona, Etheridge’s voice has consistently carried

a message of hope and authenticity.

For Etheridge, the stage is more than a place for entertainment — it’s a platform for healing and connection. Currently on tour, she’ll soon embark on what is bound to be one of the queerest tours of 2025, a co-headlining run with the Indigo Girls that kicks off in Colorado in July. Her message remains clear: through joy, music and inclusion, we can weather life’s storms together.

I caught up with Etheridge, 63, during a particularly trying week, as the L.A. fires left her and many others reeling. Power outages at her home almost forced her to reschedule our interview, but she and her wife, Linda Wallem, eventually found refuge at a hotel in Santa Barbara.

In this candid conversation, Etheridge opens up about the transformative power of rebuilding, her long history with the Indigo Girls and shares lessons learned from decades of being a trailblazer. She also teases new music inspired by both personal and global experiences. We’ve connected throughout the years through some challenging times. I

can’t imagine what you’re feeling right now. Well, we are right on the edge. We’re in Calabasas, so that’s on the edge of the Palisades fire, and so my house is going to be fine. Our power’s up. We did evacuate, but my house is going to be fine. To know that the Palisades are gone, it is just like, ah. It doesn’t hit my head, and this is my city. This is where I eat. Restaurants I eat at once a month, they’re gone. And it’s overwhelming. I know it will come back so beautifully, and so I know it’s going to be a good thing in the long, beautiful run as change is, but man, this is devastating. This is crazy.

Where do you go in your head in a time like this? Do you turn to music? My wife and I were talking last night because we’re up in Santa Barbara — we got away far enough and we’re safe and OK — and then you turn on the news and you see it, and you can’t go backwards now. There is no backwards anymore. It’s not there. And when we think, wow, moving ahead, this is a city that was built on dreamers and their dreams. It was built to entertain the world. It grew

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because it was a place of dreams and hopes, and change and newness, and it’s quite a large industry now there, and a beautiful city that’s grown around it filled with many different industries. And I think this event and this change is going to influence what you see in the arts, in theater, television, sports. I think in 10 years, we’ll look back and see how the change that came out of this happened because it takes little petty conversations about liberal and conservative and just throws that out the window. This little tug of war we’ve been involved in the last 10 years or whatever, it really blows that out, and it’s like, “Wow, as we move forward now, let’s make sure the institutions we create and the housing and the infrastructure is what we’ve been spouting all these years.” That it’s a forward-thinking, diversified, embracing kind of city we want to build. There’s no other way to rebuild but to unify. Exactly.

Well, it feels almost awkward to talk to you about work. I know for me, it’s good to go into my writing head in difficult times, so maybe that’s also good for you. That’s exactly what I did. I’m about to record my next album and I’m going into the studio in March, and so I’ve been really writing and just soaking everything in. And last night, all of a sudden, I was like, “Oh god, I want to write a song about this experience.” But then it’s like, “Where do you start?” And I think I need to absorb this experience a little bit. I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a song about Los Angeles or Hollywood. How did you and the Indigo Girls, Amy Ray and Emily Saliers, decide on “Yes We Are” as the name of this tour? Well, we did about 11 shows last year. It was part of my tour and their tour, and we worked it out, and we had such a blast together. We caught up. We loved the audience. The audience that came to see us was on fire. They were enthusiastic. It was very cathartic, like, god, everything we’ve been going through, let’s just remember the songs we love. Remember the songs that made us feel

good, and we just soaked it in. And it was multi-generational, that’s what I loved. There were daughters with their mothers, with their grandmothers. The whole family would come, the husbands’ wives. Of course, it was very queer, but it wasn’t exclusively queer at all. There were a lot of straight folks out there listening to that music they liked in the ’90s. What conversations went into the name of the tour between you and the girls? It was just a few texts sent back and forth. And I was like, “I don’t know, ‘Power of Three,’ maybe?” And actually my manager said, “What do you think about ‘Yes We Are’?” I thought, “Oh, that’s just a reference to me.” But Emily said, “Oh my god, I love Yes We Are.” And we both were enthusiastic about it, and we love the way it feels and what it brings back. What do you remember from first meeting the Indigo Girls? My first album [in 1988] was out when I met them, and their big album wasn’t out yet. And I remember they were such fans. They were just really, really sweet. Someone brought them over to my house once they knew them. I didn’t know who they were, and it wasn’t until I listened to them and went, “Oh, this is great.” I wore that “Closer to Fine” album out. It was a staple of that time, and I just loved seeing everything they did. It was just a really special time back then.

There were so few out queer people in the ’80s when you initially met. Did you bond over all being gay public figures? Yes, and we both came from that deep women’s culture, lesbian culture and women’s music festivals. They came from the Southern coalition. I came from Southern California, the San Francisco kind of lesbian, gay, bi [world]. AIDS had really brought us all together. They were a big part of pretty much just the indie music movement that was coming out of Athens, Georgia at the time with R.E.M. So it was a very musically driven time and they just happened to be gay.

I always tell people that the late ’80s and early ’90s was, “Don’t ask, don’t tell.” We were all out, but we just didn’t cross

that line publicly where we were saying, “I’m gay” until I finally did in 1993. We were more political, not so much about gay, but about women’s rights. And we did a lot of reproductive rights stuff back then with [women’s liberation activist] Gloria Steinem. So then the gay thing just developed, and we just followed the path.

It’s hard to believe that you came out over three decades ago. I have memories of seeing you just shortly after I came out and thinking, “Who is this cool lesbian? I want to be this cool lesbian.” So, if someone brings back Lilith Fair, I am there. [Laughs.] Oh, well, sit tight. Oh, really? Who knows?

All right, we’ll leave it at that. Thinking back to your activism in the ’90s, did you think this is where we would be as an LGBTQ+ community in 2025? And how do you think you can bridge music and activism at this point in your career? I remember speaking in 1994 about gay marriage, and it was a very foreign idea. It was just a weird thing to even say. And even in the gay community, we never even thought about marriage because we weren’t going to marry. It just wasn’t possible. Then the whole LGBTQ+ community went, “Wait a minute, I deserve that too. That’s right, I’m part of this ‘we the people.’ Hey, wait a minute.” The community came together behind that. As we grew up, we were all partying, having a really good time in the ’80s, but all of a sudden we’re like, “Oh, we want to settle down and have families.” I always used to say, in the future, I think I’ll be telling my grandchildren — which I don’t have yet, so not yet — “Wow, back when I was your age, they didn’t even let us get married.” That sort of thing. And how strange they would think it was.

There is now a queer uprising happening in reaction to the current administration. What do you say to young queer activists having seen so much yourself, especially the ones who may think they’re fighting for something that is a new fight? Well, is it a new fight? Is it or not? Because I think what’s always considered is, “Hey,

I just want to be considered one of the many,” and this idea of “all of us — except for them,” is being tried in our society. That’s what we’re really saying, because people can’t even understand the many different layers and differences in our own community. So it’s just not even, “Give us these things, stop taking away these things, stop taking away the protections that you would give any other human being.”

We are just human beings, and it’s showing what being human means. And so I would encourage the activists now, people in the LGBTQ+ community, to work for something and not against something. It’s when we work against it that we give more energy to it than it deserves, so let’s work for inclusion. Let’s work for unity. And let’s be an example of being a unified community ourselves, who may say, “Look, I don’t understand

some things, but being a human being is a right. And you can make whatever choice you want, whether it’s to change your gender identity or to be a Republican and hate. I give you that. You have the right to do that.” And it’s very hard, but let’s be the example of that. Accepting and loving ourselves is the example. Let’s show how that looks, and that’s the best thing we can do to work for and fight for inclusion.

How do you feel about Trump leading the country for the next four years? I don’t have any more F’s to give. The night of the election, I went, “That’s it, I am not even going to pay attention to him anymore. I’m not going to give him any of my fear, any of my disappointment. I’m not going to give any of that anymore.”

How do you plan on accomplishing that? Well, I limit my social media time, and I stopped giving my attention to him and

the weird ideology. I give my attention to things that bring me joy, to things that give me hope. Like I was saying, I want to be the example. And when I’m afraid of things that I have no control of, that’s a horrible way to feel. So start by taking care of myself. Start by giving the understanding and attention and love that I wish they would give. I’m going to give it to myself and everyone I see. I’m going to, again, be an example of what I wish to see in the world.

I was listening to your song “What Happens Tomorrow ” shortly after Kamala Harris lost to Trump. It feels as relevant now as it did when you released it in 2007. Unfortunately, and that’s all these years later, right? I wrote that song and I didn’t know when it might ever not be relevant.

Regarding your upcoming tour with the Indigo Girls, you both have extensive catalogs. How are you approaching the setlist? I think I might be dipping into some of the more hopeful songs on my repertoire — not being afraid to be political, but to do it in a way that inspires. I think a lot of people are looking forward to experiencing some community in a space where they feel loved and accepted. Absolutely. Please, please, because it’s a safe space. It’s a loving space. And again, we’re not there pushing against a lot of stuff. We are showing love and inclusion, and really how we still feel joy and hope, and it’s still alive, and come sing the songs with us. Q

Chris Azzopardi is the editorial director of Pride Source Media Group and Q Syndicate. He has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via X @chrisazzopardi.

Cozy up with these queer books

BY SARAH BRICKER HUNT AND CHRIS AZZOPARDI

It’s all too easy right now to get stuck in the grip of endless headlines and doomscrolling. If you’re feeling the weight of the world closing in, it’s time to unplug and escape into a different kind of world, perhaps one that includes fantastical forest homes — or Cher. Step away from the screen and lose yourself in one of these captivating reads that promise respite, inspiration, and, at times, divine gay icon wisdom — recommendations from columnists Chris Azzopardi and Sarah Bricker Hunt.

Chris’ list:

‘Private Rites,’ Julia Armfield

Winter reads to help you ride out the chill

reunion — born out of necessity rather than warmth — seems like a chance to heal old wounds. But when a shocking secret in their father’s will drives them even further apart, they’re forced to confront not only their fractured family bonds but also a sinister mystery.

As their lives unravel and the world teeters on the brink of catastrophe, the sisters realize that they’ve been chosen for something much darker. This revelation forces them to reckon with the legacy of their father and a fate that could have devastating consequences for both their family and the world at large. “Private Rites” has received glowing reviews, deemed “stunning” by Harper’s Bazaar and praised by Vulture as “a queer end to the world you don’t want to miss.”

‘Sinead O’Connor: The Last Interview and Other Conversations’

Need a reminder that family dynamics can be complex in various forms? Blending the personal and apocalyptic, Julia Armfield’s “Private Rites” offers a poignant and unsettling exploration of just that. The story follows three estranged sisters — all queer — who are brought together after their cruel father’s death to sort through his estate in a world where it never stops raining. The sisters’

In 2014, I had the privilege of interviewing Irish music icon and outspoken critic of the Catholic Church, Sinéad O’Connor, who died in 2023. Her unfiltered honesty was a breath of fresh air, standing in stark contrast to the polished, often guarded personas of many celebrities. That conversation is among eight others featured in “Sinéad O’Connor: The Last Interview and Other Conversations,” part of Melville House

Publishing’s esteemed series, which highlights the voices of significant cultural figures. My interview, the sole piece in the collection conducted for LGBTQ+ press, captures a uniquely personal moment with O’Connor, who at the time spoke candidly about her life and identity. Alongside it are other illuminating pieces, including NME’s 1988 interview “I Open My Mouth and Scream” and a 1991 Rolling Stone feature, together painting a vivid, multifaceted portrait of Sinéad O’Connor. Musician and friend Kristin Hersh of the band Throwing Muses contributes a poignant introduction, reflecting on O’Connor’s enduring legacy: “I wished she could have shouted all that she believed and made only friends, no enemies. I wished that she had never accepted that invitation to the entertainment industry party and, instead, had kept the richness of her own life untainted. I wished that she could have loved herself and everyone else. I wished that she had absorbed the spiritual peace she fought for. But that wouldn’t have been Sinéad, I guess.” Through these candid and deeply personal conversations, the book captures the essence of an artist who defied conventions and left an indelible mark.

TJ Klune’s 3-Book Paperback Collection

Out gay fantasy writer and Lambda Literary Award winner TJ Klune won’t just help you survive winter — his work might just sustain you through the entire year. Maybe even the next three, if you

pace yourself by reading one book from his new boxed set annually. Each novel invites readers to escape into fantastical worlds brimming with the promise of a better existence and a kinder world. In the found-family tale “In the Lives of Puppets,” Klune introduces a peculiar home nestled within the branches of a grove of trees, where a family of robots shares their lives with a human named Vic. Meanwhile, “The House in the Cerulean Sea” transports readers to a mysterious island housing an orphanage for magical children deemed “dangerous.” Here, Linus Baker, a by-the-book caseworker, discovers that these children — and their enigmatic caretaker — challenge everything he thought he knew about rules, love and acceptance. “Under the Whispering Door,” about a ghost who refuses to cross over and the ferryman he falls in love with, rounds out the set. Come on, whimsy, take us away.

‘Cher: The Memoir, Part One,’ Cher

In 2023, when I asked Cher when we could finally expect her memoir, she responded with her signature wit: “I don’t know, babe. Don’t ask. Well, you just did, but don’t ask me again.” Thankfully, I didn’t have to. Her memoir — part one, at least — turned back time on her iconic life and career when it arrived just in time to help us believe in life after a politically turbulent winter.

This first volume covers Cher’s journey from her childhood to her breakthrough as an acclaimed actress. It opens with an author’s note explaining her thoughtful decision to use her son Chaz’s deadname, with his

permission, to accurately reflect the eras she discusses. Though Cher admitted to The New York Times in November that she hasn’t read her memoir yet, the book serves up a deeply personal feast of family history, the highs and lows of her tumultuous relationship with Sonny Bono, and vivid recollections from the early years of her rise to pop goddess.

Cher’s unflinching honesty and resilience fill every page, making this memoir not just a reflection of her life but a much-needed dose of diva inspiration in 2025. And I don’t even have to ask about when we can expect Part 2 — it’s out Nov. 18 of this year.

‘The Unbecoming of Margaret Wolf,’ Isa Arsen

They say not to judge a book by its cover, but what if that cover exudes an irresistible aura of mystery? On the jacket of Isa Arsen’s “The Unbecoming of Margaret Alsen,” half-hidden faces suggest untold secrets. A man’s hand lights a woman’s cigarette as another man watches from the sidelines, while a wine glass hints at an evening of indulgence — leaving much to the imagination.

And then there’s the tagline: “Two Shakespearean actors in an unconventional marriage get caught up in a renowned director’s scheme. Which will either draw them closer than ever or tear them apart for good.” If Bravo had existed in the 1950s, Margaret, the rising stage actress at the heart of this story, could have easily been the star of her own series. Margaret is in a lavender marriage with Wesley, and as you settle in, you’ll find yourself swept into a whirlwind of drama: the ways she “plays wife” to Wesley, her dependence on uppers (“just a little help to get through the days”), and a love triangle that unfolds between the couple and director Vaughn Kline after Wesley joins the cast of Kline’s Shakespearean production. I t’s a cocktail of secrets, ambition and betrayal, all served with the allure of mid-century theatrical glamour. Feeling the heat? This novel brings it in spades.

Sarah’s list:

‘Coming Home,’ Brittney Griner

At first glance, Brittney Griner’s, “Coming Home” is primarily a harrowing account of her nine-month detention in Russia, where her identity as a gay Black athlete added layers of vulnerability to an already precarious situation — one that thrust Griner into harsh international scrutiny. The book goes well beyond the details of her 2022 arrest for carrying vape cartridges containing medical cannabis oil, however. Griner’s journey is one of redemption and hope, with a true love story at the center.

The book, co-written with Michelle Burford, weaves Griner’s detention narrative with personal history, including her coming out story and her father’s initial rejection (“I ain’t raising no gay bitch!”) before their eventual reconciliation. Her relationship with her wife, Cherelle, emerges as a source of strength throughout her ordeal, evidenced by tender details like finding comfort in touching Cherelle’s signature in a sudoku book.

Now free and back playing basketball, Griner welcomed her first child with Cherelle in 2024. The book serves as both a suspenseful memoir and a warning about the risks LGBTQ+ athletes face in countries with anti-gay policies, even as lucrative overseas contracts continue to draw American players to these regions.

‘There Is a Rio Grande in Heaven,’ Rubin Reyes, Jr.

“There Is a Rio Grande in Heaven” by Ruben Reyes, Jr. marks a groundbreaking debut in speculative fiction, weaving LGBTQ+ and Latinx narratives into 12 short pieces that blur the lines between fantasy and reality. The collection includes both short and flash-fiction entries that explore

queer experiences, immigration, and cultural identity through a sci-fi lens (though, arguably, “sci-fi” isn’t a perfect description for the genre here). In one story, a gay son grapples with losing his homophobic father while imagining a more accepting alternate version. Another story reimagines the traditional immigration narrative, depicting Americans attempting to reach Mars while facing violent consequences if caught.

Reyes, the son of two Salvadoran immigrants, tackles complex themes within the Latinx community, including internal discrimination and exploitation through stories ranging from a Latinx-owned company underpaying workers to a magical mango tree being exploited, perhaps a critical commentary on overlapping community intersectionalities.

The book culminates in an interactive chapter where readers create their own immigration story. Throughout the collection, Reyes maintains a delicate balance between fantastical elements and harsh realities, making the work accessible to a broad range of readers beyond the sci-fi genre. His careful handling of queer and immigrant perspectives creates a unique contribution to both speculative and LGBTQ+ literature.

‘Kissing Girls on Shabbat,’ Sara Glass

In her debut memoir, New York Times “Modern Love” contributor Sara Glass offers a raw and intimate memoir of growing up lesbian in Brooklyn’s strict Gur Hasidic community, where same-sex relationships are condemned and arranged heterosexual marriages are the norm.

Glass details her journey from a sheltered 19-year-old bride in an arranged marriage to her eventual emergence as an out lesbian at age 32. The memoir chronicles her secret relationship with a woman named Dassa, her complicated first marriage to Yossi, and a subsequent marriage to another man — both driven by religious expectations and custody concerns for her children.

The book explores the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals

in ultra-religious communities, where rejection of traditional marriage can mean complete ostracization. Glass describes harrowing experiences, including a traumatic childbirth delayed by religious constraints and the constant pressure to suppress her identity.

While acknowledging the positive aspects of her Hasidic upbringing, Glass ultimately advocates for those trapped between religious obligations and authentic sexuality. The memoir ends on a hopeful note, with Glass finally securing custody of her children and finding the freedom to live openly. You’ll never read her “Modern Love” contributions the same way again.

‘A Boy Named Rose,’ Gaelle Geniller

A gorgeously illustrated graphic novel nominated for a 2024 Eisner Award, “A Boy Named Rose” focuses its tender narrative on 19-year-old Rose, a rising stage performer at famed Parisian theater Le Jardin.

Rose begins exploring feminine presentation while pursuing dance under the guidance of three mentors known as The Flowers. Set against the backdrop of Paris’s nightlife, the narrative blends themes of artistic expression, gender exploration, and found family.

Geniller’s artwork captures both the glittering allure of cabaret life and intimate moments of personal transformation. The acclaimed work, translated from French by Fabrice Sapolsky, stands out for its celebratory approach to gender nonconformity and its portrayal of a supportive queer community within Le Jardin’s walls.

While addressing serious themes of identity and social acceptance, the story maintains an uplifting tone, offering a refreshing perspective on LGBTQ+ narratives through its distinctly Europe-

an sensibility — plus, it’s just so pretty.

‘Gay Girl Prayers,’ Emily Austin

Emily Austin, already established through her debut novel “Everyone In This Room Will Someday Be Dead,” makes a striking poetic entrance with “Gay Girl Prayers,” a collection that reimagines Catholic doctrine through a queer lens. Literally, Austin rewrites Bible passages in a way that reflects her lived experience growing up gay in a traditionally religious culture.

The work carefully reconstructs religious teachings to embrace LGBTQ+ experiences rather than reject faith entirely. Austin amplifies the voices of female figures who have been historically silenced by patriarchal interpretations while simultaneously celebrating queer identity as sacred rather than sinful. The collection serves as a bridge between religious upbringing and queer identity, offering a path to reconciliation for those who have felt excluded from traditional religious spaces.

Through her verses, Austin creates an inclusive vision of spirituality that maintains reverence while challenging conventional interpretations of scripture. Rather than dismantling religious tradition, she rebuilds it into a more welcoming structure that honors both faith and queer experience, demonstrating how ancient texts can be reinterpreted to embrace rather than exclude.

REVIEW BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

‘The

Loves of My Life: A Sex Memoir’ by

Edmund White C.2025, BLOOMSBURY, $27.99,

256 PAGES

These days, you’re awfully distracted. You can’t think right, can’t stay focused, you daydream and fantasize and imagine. You’re completely twitterpated and feeling the best kind of despair and happiness together. Face it: you’re hopelessly in love – again – and as in the new memoir, “The Loves of My Life” by Edmund White, it’s glorious. When an accomplished novelist reaches the middle of his eighth decade, he should state what’s been most important in his life. For Edmund White, it’s the “thousands of sex partners” he’s had since he was a mere child.

He was ten years old or thereabouts when he fell in love with a boy he

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MARCH

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19

New opportunities are coming your way, but they may come with some uncertainty. Don’t be afraid to leap, but trust your intuition as you make decisions. Focus on your personal growth and let go of any baggage that’s holding you back. It’s time to create your future!

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20

It’s a month to embrace new beginnings in your career or personal life. However, balance is key. Don’t neglect your well-being in the pursuit of success. Stay grounded and be cautious of burnout. Take time to recharge and watch your efforts pay off in due time.

GEMINI May 21–June 20

You’re in the mood for change, and it’s a good time to act on those desires. Whether you are moving to a new place or starting a new project, follow your

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alternately calls Nick and Cam. They spent a lot of after-school time together, wrestling and roughhousing, as boys do, and it eventually became sexual.

Six years later, White was working for his father and making enough money to hire men for sex, mostly straight men who hailed from Kentucky, just across the border from White’s Ohio home. Sometimes, doing so put him in danger because being gay then was something shameful and undiscussed.

At around this time, he met an older, “camp” man who taught him the slang of gay life.

He met some of his lovers on Craigslist and some while traveling with a man he calls his “first husband.” He sought therapy, hoping to be “cured” of homosexuality, and he briefly fell in love with a woman, thinking he’d get married and raise a family. He loved younger men and older men, from Madrid, Boston, Scotland, at bathhouses, at parties, and he’s had several love-of-his-life romances. Sex, says White, was always linked with love.

He’s watched too many men die of AIDS. He had “AYOR” sex (“at your own risk”). He’s slept with men around the world and once, he got poison ivy for it.

curiosity. Relationships with close friends will thrive, so don’t hesitate to reach out for deeper connections.

CANCER June 21–July 22

This is a time for quiet reflection. There may be a few bumps in the road, but don’t let them distract you. Focus on what truly matters: your inner peace and happiness. Take time to nurture yourself and seek out moments of solitude to center your thoughts. Have fun!

LEO July 23–August 22

You’re feeling more creative than ever. If you have a hobby or passion project, now is the time to dive in headfirst. Romance also looks promising, so if you’re in a relationship, expect things to heat up. If you’re single, the sparks of attraction could be flying unexpectedly!

VIRGO August 23–Sep 2

The energy this month is all about stepping up your game. Whether in your career, a personal project, or relationships, the time will challenge you to push yourself beyond your comfort zone. Don’t let

All this was fun then, he says, but “Now in the cold polar heart of old age,” he looks back at it all “as comical and pointless, repetitious and dishonorable.”

Considering that “The Loves of My Life” is subtitled as it is, it’s not as explicit as you might think it would be. Yes, this memoir will steam up a window right quick, but the heat is tempered by author Edmund White’s sense of humor and wry outlook.

Those two aspects tend to give a reader a break in what would otherwise be a long string of fast-and-furious romps and a litany of randiness. Break intact, stories connect but you can enjoy each for its own merits of exploration and joie de vivre, accompanied by straightforwardness and what feels like honest soul-searching without much gratuitousness. White also freely admits to a few mistakes in his lifetime, further endearing himself to readers.

It shouldn’t need to be said that there’s profanity inside this book – you should expect it from its subtitle – but beware, if you’re looking for pearls to clutch. For readers who don’t care about that and want a decent memoir, “The Loves of My Life” is a very pleasant distraction. Q

fear hold you back as growth comes with a little discomfort. You’re ready!

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22

This season brings a focus on relationships - personal and professional. You’ll be drawn to building deeper connections with those around you. There might be a few surprises, but overall, you’ll find strength in your social circle. Trust your instincts with experiences.

SCORPIO Oct 23–Nov 21

Don’t shy away from expressing your desires. If you’ve been hesitant about taking a step forward in your career or personal life, now is the time. Confidence is your ally, so take charge and make things happen. The universe is supporting your efforts in thrilling ways!

SAGITTARIUS

Nov 22–December 20

You feel like you’re juggling multiple responsibilities this month, but worry not. You can handle it all. Focus on prioritizing goals and stay organized. There will be moments where you need to slow down and assess the next move, but rewards will be worth the effort.

CAPRICORN

Dec 21–Jan 19

March will present opportunities for change, especially in your personal life. Don’t hesitate to take a leap into new experiences, but be careful to balance risk with practicality. Growth is to be had if you’re willing to put in the effort. Stay true to yourself Capricorn!

AQUARIUS Jan 20–Feb 18

There may be tension, but it’s nothing you can’t manage. Take time to recharge and reconnect with your inner self. You need to set boundaries with others to maintain your peace, but it will pay off. Remember that your mental and emotional well-being come first.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19

It’s a great time for setting intentions and manifesting your goals for the year ahead. Take time to focus on what you want and what will bring the most fulfillment. Your creativity will be heightened, so channel energy into your passions. Expect positive shifts in life! Q

Kyle’s Bed & Breakfast by Greg Fox

Nasty Compassion

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Rise to the occasion

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Weight loss product

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Theater opening for Greeks?

10 Cole Porter’s “Katie Went to ___”

11 Rainbow shape

12 Casino gratuity

13 T or F, on exams

21 Puts in a postbox

22 Carroll, who kissed a transvestite on “All in the Family”

26 Stallion’s sound

27 Em, e.g.

28 One of Martina’s serves

29 Not hard to get in bed

30 Pam Parsons and David Kopay

31 Witch’s area in “The Wizard of Oz”

32 Where to find Kerry Weaver on “ER”

34 Start of Renee Vivien’s voyage?

37 Rudy Galindo’s milieu

40 Photographer Catherine

41 Sexual desire, e.g.

Words said from one’s knees, perhaps

7 Pres. Buchanan to the military

8 Nairobi native 9 “Idol” entrant, maybe

43 Instruments destroyed by young Elton John

44 Disturbance at Stonewall

47 Old Russian despots

49 Rupert Everett’s “An Husband”

50 Drag queen Mann

51 Standards from which to deviate

52 Birdcage sound

53 The New York Liberty’s org.

54 One foot, to a stallion

55 Eugene O’Neill’s daughter

56 Satiate

57 “Six Feet Under” creator Ball

58 Sally who rode into space

Each Sudoku puzzle has a unique solution which can be reached logically without guessing. Enter digits 1 through 9 into the blank spaces. Every row must contain one of each digit, as must each column and each 3x3 square. Qdoku Level: Hard

BY JOEY AMATO

Richmond, Virginia, often referred to as the “River City,” is a captivating destination blending rich historical roots with a dynamic modern culture. Known for its welcoming vibe, the Richmond Region is also a beacon for the LGBTQ community, offering an array of inclusive venues, events, and activities that highlight its vibrant spirit. Whether you’re enjoying a drag brunch at Godfrey’s, savoring a whimsical dinner at L’Opossum, or basking in the glow of the GardenFest of Lights, Richmond guarantees memorable experiences for all.

VIRGINIA PRIDE has become synonymous with Richmond’s LGBTQ community, reflecting the region’s dedication to inclusivity and equality. This annual event, held each September, transforms the city into a rainbow-drenched festival of love and unity. Attendees revel in live music, performances, food trucks, and

Richmond – a vibrant blend of history, culture, and LGBTQ pride

booths representing local organizations and businesses. Beyond the festival, Virginia Pride engages the community year-round with advocacy efforts, educational programs, and support for LGBTQ individuals. It’s a cornerstone of Richmond’s welcoming ethos, embodying the region’s commitment to diversity. The festival is held in September, so it doesn’t compete with other pride events in the area, providing a perfect opportunity to plan your visit to Richmond.

For those seeking a fabulous and fun experience, GODFREY’S is a must-visit. Nestled in the heart of Richmond, this iconic restaurant and nightclub is renowned for its weekend drag brunches, where lively queens entertain with dazzling performances and witty humor. Pair the glittering show with a hearty menu of Southern favorites, and you’ve got an unforgettable outing. Whether you’re celebrating a special occasion or just looking for a unique way to spend

your Sunday, Godfrey’s promises entertainment and hospitality that are second to none. To be quite honest, I was a bit skeptical when it came to the culinary component of the brunch. LGBTQ bars aren’t typically known for their elevated cuisine; however, the food at Godfrey’s was very good and well worth the price.

Speaking of food, dinner at L’OPOSSUM is an adventure in indulgence. This award-winning LGBTQowned restaurant, tucked away in Richmond’s Oregon Hill neighborhood, delights patrons with its creative menu and whimsical decor. Owner and chef David Shannon combines French-inspired techniques with a playful twist, serving dishes like Filet Mignon of Beef “Swellington.” Cooked to perfection, the filet is crowned with a fascinator of Truffled Duxelles aux Champignons et Cognac in a pink peppercorn and port reduction. Another highlight of the menu is the Faberge egg bedazzled with caviar, cured salmon, and Maine lobster. The atmosphere is just as distinctive as the cuisine, with eclectic art and a cozy yet refined ambiance that invites you to savor every bite. L’Opossum is the perfect spot for an intimate dinner or a celebratory night out.

Richmond boasts a thriving LGBTQ nightlife scene, offering a variety of bars and clubs where everyone can feel at home. Among the favorites is BARCODE , a relaxed spot featuring karaoke nights, drag shows, and a friendly crowd, or head to BABES OF CARYTOWN , one of the last lesbian-owned bars in the country known for its outdoor patio and welcoming vibes. PAPI’S and THIRSTY’S RVA are two other LGBTQ establishments worth a visit. These venues are more than just places to grab a drink; they are community hubs where connections are forged and memories are made.

Every winter, Richmond’s LEWIS GINTER BOTANICAL GARDEN transforms into a magical wonderland during the GardenFest of Lights. This annual event features more than a million twinkling lights adorning the garden’s lush landscapes. Visitors can stroll through themed displays, admire the holiday model train, and warm up with hot cocoa.

The festive atmosphere is perfect for families, couples, or friends looking to immerse themselves in the holiday spirit. With its breathtaking displays and enchanting ambiance, the GardenFest of Lights is a must-see attraction during the winter months. For a more boozy adventure, hop on Richmond’s MIMOSA TRAIL . Over 40 establishments are included on this self-guided tour of local spots serving creative and refreshing takes on the classic mimosa. We began our tour at the historic Jefferson Hotel, a stunning landmark of Southern elegance and luxury renowned for its historic charm and impeccable service. Opened in 1895, this grand hotel boasts Beaux-Arts architecture, opulent interiors, and a dramatic grand staircase that inspired the one in Gone with the Wind. Next, head to SB’S LAKESIDE LOVE SHACK , an LGBTQ-affirming restaurant owned by Sarabeth “SB” Hagen. The rainbow-adorned restaurant offers a wonderful selection of dishes ranging from a Breakfast All-day menu to a delicious sweet potato hash that is the perfect side dish to just about anything.

Although not part of the mimosa trail, GOLD LION COMMUNITY CAFÉ is a must-visit destination in Richmond. LGBTQ owners Matt and Nafis created a welcoming space blending vegetarian cuisine with an Indian flair. The café serves not only as a restaurant but also as a space for LGBTQ individuals and organizations to gather. The couple wanted to create a destination where members of the community could feel at home but also a business that was able to give back. Gold Lion offers a special menu of items available free of charge for anyone in the community in need of a warm meal – no questions asked. Gold Lion is truly a Richmond treasure. If the stars align, catch a performance by the RICHMOND TRIANGLE PLAYERS , one of the nation’s longest-running LGBTQ theater companies. RTP produces bold, thought-provoking, and entertaining works that explore the LGBTQ experience, fostering understanding and dialogue within the community. Their venue offers an intimate setting to enjoy performances ranging from powerful dramas to hilarious comedies and dazzling musicals. We saw a performance of “A Campy Christmas,” which consisted of two separate productions. The first, titled “With Bells On,” starred local drag performer Wette Midler and actor Doug Schneider. Two neighbors meet for the first time when they get stuck in an elevator together. Although the encounter begins with a lot of tension, it ends with Ted

(Doug Schneider) performing along with Natasha (Wette Midler) in a drag competition.

The second performance, “Who’s Holiday,” was a hilarious one-woman performance by Emily Dandridge as Cindy Lou Who from Dr. Seuss’s How the Grinch Stole Christmas! Set after her childhood encounter with the Grinch, Cindy Lou is now a boozy, wisecracking woman reflecting on her less-thanideal life in a trailer park during the holiday season.

Wake up the next morning and start to explore Richmond’s diverse neighborhoods. CARYTOWN , known as the “Mile of Style,” is perfect for boutique shopping and eclec-

tic eats. The FAN DISTRICT, with its historic row houses, offers charming streets and lively restaurants. Meanwhile, SCOTT’S ADDITION has become a hotspot for breweries, cideries, and distilleries.

The Richmond Region’s appeal lies in its ability to blend its historic charm with a progressive, inclusive atmosphere. From drag brunches and theatrical productions to seasonal festivals and culinary adventures, the city offers something for everyone. Its embrace of diversity, especially within the LGBTQ community, ensures that visitors and residents alike feel a sense of belonging. Enjoy the Journey! Q

Gold Lion owners Matt and Nafis

Q mmunity groups

BUSINESS

LGBTQ+ Affirmative

Therapists Guild

 lgbtqtherapists.com

* robin@lgbtqtherapists.com

Utah LGBTQ+ Chamber of Commerce

 utahlgbtqchamber.com

* info@utahgaychamber.com

Utah Independent Business Coalition

 utahindependentbusiness.org

801-879-4928

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233

YWCA of Salt Lake

 ywcautah.org

322 E 300 S 801-537-8600

HEALTH & HIV

Planned Parenthood

 bit.ly/ppauslchiv

654 S 900 E 801-322-5571

Salt Lake County Health Dept STD Clinic

 slco.org/health/stdclinic/

610 S 200 E, 2nd Floor

Walk-ins M-F 8a-5p Appts 385-468-4242

UAF Legacy Health

 uafhealth.org

150 S 1000 E 801-487-2323

Weber-Morgan Health

Mon., Weds 1-4:30p 477 23rd St, Ogden Appt 801-399-7250

HOMELESS SVCS

VOA Homeless Youth

Resource Ctr, ages 15—21

880 S 400 W 801-364-0744

LEGAL

Rainbow Law Free Clinic

2nd Weds 6-7:30pm

Olpin Student Union, Panorama East probono@law.utah.edu

POLITICAL

Equality Utah

 equalityutah.org

* info@equalityutah.org

376 E 400 S 801-355-3479

Utah Libertarian Party

129 E 13800 S #B2-364 libertarianutah.org

866-511-UTLP

Utah Stonewall Democrats

 utahstonewalldemocrats.org

 fb.me/ utahstonewalldems

SPIRITUAL

Center for Spiritual Living

 spirituallyfree.org

10:30 meditation, 11am celebration svc Sun

LGBTQIA+ support group 4th Sat, 11am

4516 S 700 E Ste 102

The Divine Assembly

 thedivineassembly.org

10am Sunday worship

389 W 1830 S, SLC

11:15am meditation, 12:30pm mtg 532 E 800 N, Orem

First Baptist Church

 firstbaptist-slc.org

11a Sundays

777 S 1300 E 801-582-4921

Mt. Tabor Lutheran Church 10:30a Sunday worship

175 S 700 E 801-328-0521

 mttaborslc.org

Sacred Light of Christ

 slcchurch.org

823 S 600 E 801-595-0052

11a Sundays

SOCIAL

Alternative Garden Club

 utahagc.org/clubs/ altgardenclub/

* altgardenclub@gmail.com

1 to 5 Club (bisexual)

E @1to5clubutah

blackBOOTS Kink/BDSM

Men’s leather/kink/ fetish/BDSM 4th Sats; blackBOARD class, 2nd Tues; Leather Church 3rd Sundays at Try-Angles

 blackbootsslc.org

CUB Adventures

 thecubadventures.com fb.com/groups/312955669422305/

Gay Men’s Sack Lunch

Noon Weds.

 utahpridecenter.org

68 S Main St

801-539-8800

Gay Men’s Support Group

Noon Wednesdays

 utahpridecenter.org

68 S Main St

801-539-8800

Mindfully Gay

 mindfullygay.com

OWLS of Utah (Older, Wiser, Lesbian Sisters)

 bit.ly/owlsutah

qVinum Wine Tasting

 qvinum.com

Seniors Out and Proud

 soaputah.org

E soaputah

* info@soaputah.org

801-856-4255

Temple Squares Square Dance Club

 templesquares.org

801-449-1293

Utah Bears

 utahbears.com

E utahbears

* info@utahbears.com

6pm Weds Salt Lake

Roasting Co 860 E 400 S

Utah Male Naturists

 umen.org

 fb.me/utahmalenaturists

* info@umen.org

Utah Pride Center

 utahpridecenter.org

* info@utahpridecenter.org

1380 S Main St

801-539-8800

Venture OUT Utah

 bit.ly/GetOutsideUtah

SPORTS

Cheer Salt Lake

 cheersaltlake.org

EQ @cheersaltlake

QUAC — Queer Utah

Aquatic Club

 quacquac.org

* questions@ quacquac.org

7pm Tues, Thurs; 10:15am Sun, Fairmont Aquatic Ctr, 1044

Sugarmont Dr.

Salt Lake Goodtime

Bowling League

 bit.ly/slgoodtime

Stonewall Sports SLC

E SLCStonewall

 stonewallsaltlakecity. leagueapps.com 385-243-1828

Utah Gay Football League

E UtahGayFootballLeague

Venture Out Utah

E Venture.OUT.Utah

SUPPORT

Alcoholics Anonymous

801-484-7871

 utahaa.org

LGBTQ+ meetings: Sun. 3p Acceptance Group, All Saints, 1710 Foothill Dr

Tues. 7p Live & Let Live, Mt Tabor

Tues. 7p Pride in Recovery, Narcotics

Anon. UPC, 68 S Main

Wed. 7p Sober Today, 1159 30th St , Ogden

Wed. 7p Bountiful

Men’s Group, Am. Baptist, 1915 Orchard Dr, Btfl

Fri. 7p Stonewall Group, Mt Tabor Lutheran, 175 S 700 E

Crystal Meth Anon

 crystalmeth.org

USARA, 180 E 2100 S Clean, Sober & Proud Sun. 1:30pm

Leather Fetish & Kink Fri. 8pm

Genderbands

 genderbands.org

EQ @genderbands

LifeRing Secular Recovery

801-608-8146

 liferingutah.org

Weds. 7pm, Sat. 11am

How was your week?

First Baptist, 777 S 1300 E

LGBTQ+ Affirmative Therapists Guild

 lgbtqtherapists.com

* robin@lgbtqtherapists.com

YOUTH/COLLEGE

Encircle LGBTQ Family and Youth Resource Ctr

 encircletogether.org

EQ @encircletogether

91 W 200 S, Provo, 190 S 100 E, St. George 331 S 600 E, SLC 81 E Center, Heber City Gay-Straight Alliance Network

 gsanetwork.org

OUT Foundation BYU

 theout.foundation

 fb.me/theOUTfoundation Salt Lake Community College LGBTQ+

 slcc.edu/lgbtq/ UofU Student Pride Ctr Q uofupride

USGA at BYU

 usgabyu.com

 fb.me/UsgaAtByu Utah Valley Univ Spectrum

 linktr.ee/spectrumqsa

 uvu.edu/lgbtq/ * lgbt@uvu.edu

801-863-8885

Liberal Arts, Rm 126

Youth Discord Virtual Hangout 6p Wednesdays

Open to all youth 14-20. Email jay@ utahpridecenter.org to get access

Our Vision is to reduce social isolation and loneliness, improve the health and well-being of older adults and to empower them to lead meaningful and connected lives in which they are engaged and participating in the community. Our Mission is to reimagine aging by empowering older adults to live life to the fullest potential guided by these five pillars:

• Cherish the Journey

• Encourage the Body

• Inspire the Mind

• Nurture the Spirit

• Empower the Future

BY ROMEO SAN VICENTE

Laverne Cox’s key role in ‘Outcome’

That recent clip of Laverne Cox on “The View” where she reminds viewers that it’s the “other 1%” of the population that people should be upset about instead of trans people has gone very viral, making its truth-telling way around the internet. She was on the show to promote her now-streaming sitcom “Clean Slate” but her next project is already readying itself for public consumption. It’s called “Outcome,” the latest film from director Jonah Hill (who also co-wrote with Ezra Woods), and it’s about an actor on a career slide, battling blackmail and his past actions. Starring Keanu Reeves as the actor in question, Cox has a specific and pivotal role in the film that also features a long list of big names: Hill, Cameron Diaz, Matt Bomer, Susan Lucci, David Spade, Kaia Gerber, comedians Roy Wood Jr. and Atsuko Okatsuka, and Martin Scorsese. Apple TV+ is readying its release this year, and there’s sure to be an unmissable marketing push. Set your reminders.

‘Romy and Michelle’s High School Reunion’ reunion

Good news, gays of the ’90s, pop culture is going to cater to your needs in a big way very soon because there’s a sequel to 1997’s “Romy and Michelle’s High School Reunion” in the works. Details are sketchy right now, but the next chapter in the story of two best friends re-inventing themselves 10 years after high school is getting a 30-year fast forward. It’s being produced by Lisa Kudrow and Mira Sorvino, who will also star, of course (we’d ignore it if they didn’t, obviously) and Robin Schiff (“Emily in Paris”), who wrote the first film, will write this one. Who goes to their 40th high school reunion? We have no idea, but we’re rooting for the return of sardonic Gen X queen Janeane Garofalo, who stole scenes in the first movie. We need her now more than ever.

‘Twinless’ stars Dylan O’Brien x2

If you’re a fan of “Maze Runner” and “Teen Wolf” star Dylan O’Brien, you probably remember his appearance on the sci-fi/ comedy anthology series “Weird City,”

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where he found himself simultaneously heterosexual and also involved in a passionate romance with “Modern Family” patriarch Ed O’Neill. Now he’s the star of the equally unusual queer romance “Twinless.” The film played Sundance where it won the Audience Award and became the subject of a piracy attempt (Mr. O’Brien has at least one sex scene in the film and it was leaked online) but it also won its star the U.S. Dramatic Special Jury Award for Acting. It’s about two young men who form an intense relationship after meeting at a support group for people whose twin siblings have died, and it was written and directed by O’Brien’s co-star, gay filmmaker James Sweeney, featuring “Gilmore Girls” icon Lauren Graham as O’Brien’s mother. When do non-film-festival goers get a legit look? Stay tuned.

‘Rains

Over Babel’ forecast to set the queer arthouse aflame

An oddball standout at Sundance, the debut feature from Colombian filmmaker Gala del Sol, “Rains Over Babel,” has been picked up for North American distribution by Latido Films. Welcome news it is, too, because inventive queer filmmaking feels more and more like an act of defiance in the U.S., and this one has invention to spare. Set in an afterlife dive bar called Babel, queer misfits gather for a surreal trip through Dante’s “Inferno.” Full of angels and demons, fight sequences, dance numbers and, we are told, talking lizards, they all await their fate. Sounds like “The Good Place” reboot we’ve been waiting for. It’ll probably float into your local arthouse theater later this year.

‘Wicked’ star Cynthia Erivo joins ‘Blood and Bone’

Queer Academy Award nominee Cynthia Erivo has joined a large ensemble cast for “The Woman King” filmmaker Gina Prince-Bythewood’s latest, “Children of Blood and Bone.” She’ll be part of a group that includes Academy Award winner Viola Davis, Idris Elba, Chiwetel Ejiofor (“12 Years a Slave”), Amandla Stenberg (“The Hate U Give”) and “The Woman King” star Thuso Mbedu. Further negotiations are underway to cast Academy Award winner Regina King (“Shirley”) in the adaptation of Tomi Adeyemi’s

bestselling novel of the same name, which is set in a fantasy kingdom in Africa and tells the story of a young woman on a quest to reclaim magic that was stolen from her people. It’s still early, a lot could change, and no word yet on shooting or release schedule just yet, so stay tuned.

‘Honey Don’t’ delivers more ‘Dolls’

If you were a fan of the cult-hit comedy “Drive Away Dolls,” the Ethan Coen-directed lesbian road movie starring Margaret Qualley and Geraldine Viswanathan, here comes another one. It’s called “Honey Don’t,” and it’s the second film in a planned trilogy of what Coen and his queer spouse/co-writer Tricia Cooke refer to as “lesbian B-movies.” Qualley returns as the cheekily-named Honey O’Donahue, a private investigator (whom we assume is a lesbian) on the trail of a cult leader played by Chris Evans. She’s also searching for a “Mystery Woman” played by Aubrey Plaza. Charlie Day and Billy Eichner co-star, as well, and their roles are just as mysterious, at least for now. You don’t have long to wait for answers, though, because “Honey” pours itself into theaters in May.

‘Monk

in Pieces’ brings the queer avant-garde to Berlin

February’s Berlin International Film Festival gets a world premiere of a brand-new documentary celebrating the life and work a queer avant-garde legend: the composer Meredith Monk. “Monk in Pieces,” from co-directors Billy Shebar and David Roberts (both of the TV series “Trump Bites”), will examine the life and influence of the now-82-year-old artist, musician and composer. She’s been highly prolific if less well-known than contemporaries such as Philip Glass – though her opera “Atlas” was produced in the early ’90s, and her work has appeared in such disparate places as pieces by DJ Shadow, films by Jean-Luc Godard and on the soundtracks of movies like “The Big Lebowski.” The documentary film promises a crash course in her work, as well as interviews with people like Bjork and David Byrne. After Berlin, expect this one to appear at more festivals until a proper North American arthouse release. Q Romeo San Vicente is angelically devilish.

Thethe perils of petunia pap smear

The tale of Cruising 101, part A

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

road to sipping mai tai’s on the beach is fraught with danger and excitement.

For most of my adult life, I’ve had many, many friends go on lots and lots of cruises and return to regale me with fanciful tales of beautiful beaches staffed with a phalanx of super-hot cabana boys, serving exotic cocktails, and moving the beach umbrellas to keep them from overheating. Not to mention getting a full body massage when the mood strikes. Well, this old Idaho potato queen can only endure so many of these rapturous tales before she decides that it’s her turn to participate in such bodacious adventures.

Thusly, I was very excited when a group of friends organized a cruise and invited myself and Mr. Pap Smear to accompany the entourage. Now, I should warn you, my dear readers, that I am not a well-traveled queen. I’m great at a road trip in my beloved land yacht, Queertanic, but if it involves airlines, shuttle transfers, and boats, I’m at a total loss. Luckily for me, a good deal of the research into all the travel arrangements had been done for us by others, names redacted to preserve some plausible deniability.

So, our flight was scheduled to depart SLC at a very civilized 11:00 a.m. I thought that was a very pleasant time. In my aged decrepitude, I use a mobility scooter to move about. I have named the scooter Queerteeny because when I pry it out of Queertanic’s trunk, it looks like my beloved land yacht is giving birth. I was going to be flying with Queerteeny for the very first time, thus I thought that I needed some extra time to get it checked out and approved to fly. Therefore, I planned to arrive at the airport three hours early so as to allow plenty of time for emergencies and whatnot. We were traveling along Interstate 80 and just took the airport exit. I glanced at my watch, and we were perfectly scheduled

to arrive at the departure gates at 8:00 a.m. as planned. I thought to myself that I had planned this all pretty good, down to the minute. Just then, Mr. Pap Smear realized he had forgotten his blood glucose monitor, an absolute necessity! So, we gracefully drove Queertanic through the airport, bypassing the departure gates, at exactly 8:00 a.m. and returned home to retrieve the essential medical device. By the time we re-arrived at the airport, it was 8:30. God bless the curbside check-in for luggage, as it made the whole experience much less stressful. Now, unencumbered by luggage, I was able to ride Queerteeny freely to the TSA inspection. I was required to dismount Queerteeny, take off my shoes, and step into the magnetometer. That was all well and good, but my blood glucose sensor kept setting the alarm off, so they had me step to the side and gave me the wand procedure, which also set off the alarms. Finally, a very strapping young TSA agent found it necessary to give me a full pat down, including putting his hands inside my shirt and along my waistband area and he actually patted my junk and cupped my buttockus maximus. HOW EXCITING! Who knew that the vacation massages would actually begin at the SLC airport?

I actually fell over while trying to put my shoes back on. Good thing that Queerteeny broke my fall. Just as we reached our departure gate with a comfortable ninety minutes to spare, I received a text from the airline stating that the flight would be delayed by two hours. Oh, fine! But at least there would be plenty of time for the ticket agent to give Queerteeny her pre-flight inspection and approval. That done, and with hours left to spare, I decided that I needed to explore the new airport. So, I put on my driving gloves, secured my purse in the basket, and set off at a brisk pace, taking the grand tour. I don’t really understand

why people complain so much about having to walk long distances in the new airport. I found it quite pleasant to zip along driving Queerteeny with reckless abandon at a high enough speed to sustain a nice comfortable breeze through my beehive wig. I found it ever-so-pleasurable to drive alongside the moving sidewalks and give a nice queenly wave and a honk to all the riders as I passed them by. Perhaps I may have been driving Queerteeny a little bit too quickly because I nearly rear-ended a couple of grandmothers tottering along with their canes, narrowly avoiding giving them a Queerteeny enema, earning me a stern look from an airport security guard. Finally, it was time to board the plane. One advantage to being old and infirm and driving a Queerteeny to the gate is that I get to board first. As I was driving Queerteeny down the jet bridge, once again, I let my speed get a little out of control, and I had to skid into the wall to slow down before I rammed the pilot in his ass. I’m pretending he didn’t notice this affront to proper boarding procedure. Having been first to board, of course, there was plenty of room in the overhead bin for my carry-on. Just another benefit of being old. Stay tuned for Cruising 101, part B next month.

This story leaves us with several important questions:

1. Do airport TSA massages ever come with “happy endings?”

2.. How much would be the proper tip for that?

3. Should I mount lube dispensers to the front of Queerteeny to lessen any discomfort in the event of a rear-end collision?

4. Would it be inappropriate for me to give the TSA agent suggestions on how to best fondle my junk?

These and other eternal questions will be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear