QSaltLake Magazine - February 18, 2010

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normal people. They often don’t fit well into the role of corporate executive — their brashness (arrogance) puts them at odds with others and they chaff under controls, bureaucracy and politics that get in their way. Conversely, most corporate executives are ill suited to be entrepreneurs — they lack the drive, risk tolerance and personal attributes needed to guide a new venture through almost constant adversity.” I can relate to what Carl Robinson, PhD wrote for an entrepreneur newsletter. It takes a certain mania to drop out of the safety zone of corporate America and start your own business. No more (nearly) guaranteed salary. No more retirement match. No more health insurance. No more going home at 5

p.m. and leaving the office at the office. In our annual Entrepreneurs Issue, we have focused on several businesses owners who are gay or gay-friendly and have businesses popular with our community. We try to get underneath how their passions have translated into going into business for themselves. Six years ago I decided to make my next career move one which I was contibuting more to my community and making a difference in people’s lives. I had done fairly well for myself in the printing, and then the advertising business and was lucky enough to have a bit of a cushion to keep myself afloat for a few years. While it will take many years to pay off the subsequent second mortgage and retirement account, looking back I cannot imagine doing anything differently.

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A common theme among many of the stories in this issue is “being your own boss,” or “hating your old boss.” But, once you read deeper, it really has to do with a passion for something, be it food artistry, a certain type of cuisine or treating people working with you as family. Being your own boss means giving yourself the freedom to explore that passion unbridled. Where would we be without entrepreneurs? Where would the new ideas come from? Where would the small-niche services come from? I encourage you to read these stories and support the passion of the business owners. Perhaps it will be infectious and you may, yourself, decide that it’s time to shuck security for a lifelong dream. At the very least, you meet an interesting breed.  Q

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Lambda, ACLU to Sue Over Hawaii Civil-union Bill

❝ ❝It was excruciating to watch State Rep. Christine

Johnson’s pathetic YouTube excuse video for illogically taking the easy road. Shame on her, shame on Equality Utah for advocating such a tragic strategy.” —Actor Charles Lynn Frost in a QSaltLake guest editorial about a legislative compromise that would save Salt Lake City and County’s gay and transgender-inclusive nondiscrimination ordinances at the expense of a moratorium on all gayrelated bills this legislative session

Lambda Legal and the American Civil Liberties Union of Hawaii said Feb. 1 they will sue the state of Hawaii over the Legislature’s failure to pass a civil-union bill. The Hawaii Senate approved the measure Jan. 22 by a veto-proof 18-7 majority, sending the bill back to the House of Representatives for a conforming vote. Although the House had passed the bill 33-17 last year, House members used an anonymous voice vote Jan. 29 to kill the measure this time around. “Enough is enough,” said Lambda’s Jennifer Pizer. “Infinite patience in the face of discrimination is irresponsible. Our clients suffer every day from unfair taxes and denial of basic legal protections that every family in Hawaii needs.” Same-sex couples cannot sue for marriage in Hawaii because the state constitution restricts marriage to opposite-sex couples. But Lambda and the ACLU said the constitution still guarantees everyone equal rights. The civil-union bill would have granted united couples all state-level rights and obligations of marriage, withholding only the word.

❝ ❝OK. Those who are upset with our gay leaders and

Equality Utah. Instead of sitting back and criticizing, what’s your plan? We’re all ears. Lead us to the promised land. I just hope it’s more than equality through drag ‘theater.’” —Former State Sen. Scott McCoy in a Facebook posting

❝ ❝The Legislature can take away Salt Lake City

and County ordinances this legislative session. If they want to, they have the power. We don’t … So I suggest get out and vote! Become a delegate in the Republican and Democrat parties and start doing something at the grassroots of politics.” —Activist Mark Swonson in comments to McCoy’s post

Obama Denounces Ugandan ‘Kill the Gays’ Bill

President Barack Obama denounced the Ugandan “kill the gays” bill in an address to the U.S. National Prayer Breakfast on Feb. 4. “We may disagree about gay marriage, but surely we can agree that it is unconscionable to target gays and lesbians for who they are — whether it’s here in the United States or, as Hillary (Clinton) mentioned, more extremely in odious laws that are being proposed, most recently in Uganda,” Obama said. The pending legislation, the “Anti-Homosexuality Bill 2009,” would imprison for life anyone convicted of “the offense of homosexuality,” punish “aggravated homosexuality” — including repeat offenders and anyone who is HIV-positive and has gay sex — with the death penalty, forbid “promotion of homosexuality” and incarcerate gayrights defenders, and jail individuals for up to three years if they fail to report within 24 hours the existence of all LGBT people and LGBT sympathizers they know of. The Prayer Breakfast is hosted by members of Congress and organized by the Fellowship Foundation, a behind-the-scenes conservative Christian group also known as The Family. The group counts several congressmen as members and has “close ties” with the Ugandan bill’s sponsor, according to The New York Times. MSNBC’s Rachel Maddow has explored the linkages in an ongoing series of reports over the past several months.

Quips & Quotes

❝ ❝Certainly, our opponents can about-face and move

SF Gay Chorus Visits Prop 8 Territory The San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus went on tour into Prop 8 territory in late January, to the California cities of Redding and Chico. Additional forays will take the group to Bakersfield, Fresno and Tracy. The counties the five cities are in voted to re-ban same-sex marriage at levels of 57 percent to 75 percent, although voters in the city of Chico itself opposed Prop 8. The Jan. 30 performance at Redding’s 1,000-seat Cascade Theatre and the Jan. 31 performance at Chico’s 450-seat Harlen Adams Theatre both sold out. The group received a standing ovation in Chico. “Before Prop 8 passed, we were planning to go to Europe in 2010,” said chorus Executive Director Teddy Witherington. “The shock of losing our marriage rights caused us to rethink our priorities as an organiza-

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tion. Upon reflection, we have decided to eat our vegetables before having dessert. ... We believe to accept us, you have to know us.” The tour is being presented in association with Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbian and Gays and is teamed with a local charity in each city. All proceeds are split by the local charity and PFLAG. “The song I wrote, ‘We Are Coming Out,’ was the leadoff song in both concerts, and the crowd responded with excited applause and whistles,” said chorus member Sean Chapin. “I was deeply touched. Moreover, it was just the beginning of a magnificent array of songs that elevated the spirits of the audience members and gave a valiant challenge to those hearts blanketed with carefully taught ignorance and fear.”

forward with their exclusive resolutions and unfair legislation at any time. The session is only 45 days long and this issue is so fluid that it changes on a daily basis. We should remain steadfast and prepared for anything.” —Salt Lake City Human Rights Commissioner Jon Jepson.

❝ ❝Our citizens shouldn’t be doing things that are

discriminatory. If they are — and if that’s the information we gather during the next year — that will push legislation to deal with that in that direction. If the LGBT community are doing offensive activities in a public setting, that will push legislation in the other direction.” —Utah Senate President Michael Waddoups, R-Taylorsville, in The Salt Lake Tribune about Republicans’ abandonment of a study into gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender housing and job discrimination.

PAULA POUNDSTONE FRIDAY JULY 16 JEANNE WAGNER THEATRE @ THE ROSE WAGNER CENTER Alan Bounville, Jake Goodman, Justin Elzie and Gabriel Yuri Bollag were arrested Feb. 12 after they chained themselves to the New York Marriage Bureau when they and over 20 other same-sex couples from newly-formed direct-action group Queer Rising were denied marriage licenses. Photo: Jamie McGonnigal

National ACT UP-like Network Forming Around 45 LGBT activists of varying national stature met at the Highlander Research and Education Center in rural Tennessee in late January to create a new national LGBT direct-action movement. “We had one thing on our agenda: Discuss ways to build a national network of activists to demand full equality now,” said Kip Williams and Robin McGehee, who are best known as key organizers of last year’s National Equality March on Washington, D.C. “We believe that it is time to escalate our demands through coordinated nationwide, nonviolent direct action, and we hope to build a broad base of organizers to work with all who struggle for justice and dignity in their lives,” they said. The gathering reportedly was invitationonly and all-expenses-paid. No press releases have been issued and details of who was there and what happened have been difficult to come by, though Williams and McGehee answered questions from this reporter by e-mail. Veteran New York City activist Ann Northrop was among the attendees. Writer Dan Savage and activist legend Cleve Jones were invited but didn’t go. According to veteran activist Larry Kramer, the gathering was “bankrolled” by Jonathan Lewis, the son of one of the founders of Progressive Auto Insurance. Richard Socarides, who was President Bill Clinton’s adviser on gay issues, was “involved with helping him set it up,” Kramer said. “They had one open meeting at the [LGBT] center here [in New York City] to see if there was activist energy and they seemed to be pleased there was,” Kramer said. “The people invited to Tennessee were people that were known activists, mostly younger ones who had helped Cleve on the march.” Williams and McGehee said the people who attended the gathering are “sick of delays, compromises and excuses.”

“Some who joined us have been activists for many years; some are new to the movement — all brought a vast depth of knowledge and a readiness to fight for a more just and equal world for all,” they said. Without mentioning names, Williams and McGehee said of the attendees: “Some have worked on national LGBTQ issues, such as ACT UP, Equality Across America and Join the Impact; some were connected to organizations outside of LGBTQ rights, such as PETA, Presente.org, Unite Here, Colorofchange.org, Greenpeace, etc. In our outreach we purposefully looked for those who were supporting and advocating for LGBTQ working people, communities of color, and trans rights.” Williams and McGehee said there was nothing “secret” or exclusive about the gathering, but there were limited resources and space. “We know that many people across the country feel the same way, and that many C have been actively working within their own communities for a long time,” they M said. “The Highlander Center can comfortably accommodate about 35 people, andYwe broke those limits because we wanted more CM people to participate in the conversation. MY “We had no secrets, only limited space and resources, and a very short time to orCY ganize this retreat. We wish we could have invited thousands. We want to work with CMY everyone to help inspire our community K to bold action. ... We want to make the White House and Congress take notice. And we want everyone who stands in the way of full equality to be held accountable and wonder what just hit them.” Among the famous people who have trained at the Highlander Center over the years were Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr. For more information or to join the network, email kip@neworganizing.com.

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Town Hall Allows Community to Vent over Compromise by JoSelle Vanderhooft

In the wake of a controversial legislative compromise that put all gay-related bills to bed for the 2010 Legislative Session, the Utah Pride Center held a two-hour public forum at the University of Utah, to allow members of the community to voice their concerns about the compromise and to suggest ways in which Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community can become politically stronger and more cohesive. The much-discussed compromise was the brainchild of openly lesbian Rep. Christine Johnson, D-Salt Lake City, and Sen. Howard Stephenson, R-Draper. Announced just days after the Legislative Session opened Jan. 25, Johnson and other lawmakers agreed to pull all gay and transgenderrelated bills for the session if Republican lawmakers dropped all bills seeking to shoot down ordinances passed last year in Salt Lake City and County that added gay and transgender people to housing and employment nondiscrimination laws. Instead, lawmakers would allow both ordinances to take effect and would study them and the question of whether gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns faced discrimination throughout 2010.

However, the compromise upset many in the community who felt that Johnson had made the decision without input from the public or from other gay and transgender leaders. And the upset only worsened after Senate and House Republicans called off the formal study and Johnson, as well as other gay-friendly lawmakers, did not contest the move. Heated discussions about the compromise took place across Facebook, most notably in comments to a post made by openly gay former State Sen. Scott McCoy. As they followed these discussions and others, a number of community leaders called for a discussion to address concerns on all sides of the debate, and specifically the notion that Johnson and others were asking gay and transgender people to accept the compromise without complaint. Center executive director Valerie Larabee facilitated the discussion. To keep comments orderly and to give all who wanted to speak a chance, she asked those interested in speaking to write any comments, questions or ideas on a card and to pass it forward. After reading their card aloud, Larabee then gave them a microphone to speak. She also read comments from individuals who were unable to attend. Naturally, several questions and com-

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ments were addressed to Johnson, who sat in the front row of the conference room with her 18-year-old daughter. Johnson explained that the compromise had come about after Stephenson alerted her to the fact that “bad things were coming down the pipe” this session that would have potentially killed the ordinances and asked her how they could stop them. “We thought that if we just put the [progay] bills down and suggested a study [about the ordinances], a study would be neutral,” she said. In the past three years, Johnson has attempted to get a bill like Salt Lake City’s ordinance passed on a statewide level. In all of her attempts, she said, lawmakers could not ask her deeper questions about such a law than which bathrooms transgender people would use at the workplaces if it was instated. “So I thought a study not coming from me but other entities [like the Utah Labor Commission and conservative think tank the Sutherland Institute] would be more palatable,” she explained. But the study fell apart, Johnson continued, when the Legislature discovered that the Labor Commission was flooded with cases and in no position to engage in such a study. “Things snowballed from there about how the study could happen,” she said. When asked by Pat Jarvis if she thought the community could trust Republicans not to break the truce by running anti-ordinance bills, Johnson said “absolutely.” “They don’t want to go toe-to-toe with the LDS Church this session,” she said, referring to the church’s support for the city’s ordinances. “They don’t want to make a decision on something that hasn’t been enacted yet.” (The ordinances are not set to take effect until April 2). Johnson also noted that legislators on all sides of the aisle have their hands full with ethics reform and the state’s budget crisis. “They wouldn’t come to us if they didn’t have something to lose,” she said, adding that the pro-gay bills were still enrolled as a measure of “holding the truce in place.” While stating his appreciation for Johnson’s work, attorney Will Carlson, formerly Equality Utah’s manager of public policy, said that he nonetheless felt “betrayed” by the agreement and ignored by Johnson, whose advice she had solicited two days before announcing the compromise to the press. Further, Carlson said he did not think that the Legislature had any real chance of passing a bill that would preempt the ordinances because of the LDS Church’s support for such laws. “By agreeing to drop these [pro-gay] bills we sabotaged a technique to get our message out for the year,” he said. Even if a preemption bill had passed, Carlson said that Utah would have had an opportunity to make a strong case for a federal nondiscrimination law that would have included sexual orientation and gender identity. Along with the compromise, a number of attendees expressed anger over comments made by Senate President Michael Waddoups, R-Taylorsville, who stated that the Legislature would take action against gays and lesbians if they engaged in any “offensive” behavior. Although Waddoups

later said he meant only that people on both sides of the gay rights debate should avoid antagonizing each other, many in the community took his remarks as a threat to “shut up.” “I don’t believe it’s OK to allow some legislator to speak in a threatening manner to the LGBT community,” wrote Gail Turpin, who was not in attendance, on a comment card. “That doesn’t work for me. I’m not going to step down and be quiet,” said activist Eric Ethington, who asked all present to attend a sit-in at the Capitol on the following day to demonstrate that “you don’t get to step over our rights, ever.” He also invited everyone to take valentines to Waddoups and other Republican legislators on Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to discuss the situation with him. But the night’s discussion did not only dwell on the compromise and Waddoups’ statements. Audience members brought up a number of other topics including how to promote gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender visibility in Utah; how to lobby for change beyond showing up for rallies and protests; tips for winning potential allies over to the cause of gay rights; and whether the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation should be called upon to address comments such as Waddoups’. One Utah Pride Center board member called on those present to keep future discussions on Facebook about issues like the compromise civil, particularly when speaking about and to transgender people, many of whom are not out as transgender. Similarly, University of Utah student Andre Molette asked the mostly white audience to remember that the needs of queer people of color are often different from their own, and that Utah’s predominantly white movement is not addressing issues such as poverty and homelessness that face many gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns of color. “What about our other communities, what about our Latino community?” he asked. “Me personally and my fellow peers have been told to keep our business and to be quiet,” he said. “I’m here to tell you no more. We’re not doing this anymore.” When asked if Waddoups’ call for municipal governments to stop passing gay and transgender-inclusive ordinances carried any legislative weight, Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken reassured all present that Equality Utah would continue to work with municipal governments who expressed interest in such ordinances. “He can hope that and encourage that, but he has not mandated that, and we will continue to go forward,” she said. Balken also encouraged those present to reach out to their friends and family in coming months to discuss the importance of ordinances like Salt Lake City’s. Overall, Johnson assured the audience of 150 that neither she nor any of Utah’s gay rights leaders wanted those who disagreed with them to stay silent. “No one should feel they’re less empowered because they have a different idea,” she said, noting that multiple perspectives and strategies were necessary to keep Utah’s community vibrant.  Q

Equinox March on Utah services Scheduled for March 20 A planned spring march on Salt Lake City in support of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender rights is arriving in Utah a year after its announcement — with a few changes. In 2009, California activists headed by Shawn Cunningham — a straight man with a lesbian mother — announced efforts to hold a large scale march on Salt Lake City in opposition to the passage of Proposition 8, which rebanned same-sex marriage in The Golden State. Due, however, to difficulties getting a permit, the march was cancelled. This year, local activists lead by Jeff Key, DominJeff Key ique Storni and Joe Munsey have revived the idea. Scheduled for March 20, E21 will be a forum for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and allied Utahns to “express how discrimination has hurt them in their lives and the lives of the families they care about,� said Key, a former U.S. Marine and playwright. Marchers will meet at 9:30 a.m., March 20, at the City County Building, 451 S. State St. From there they will march to the Utah Capitol Building. Here, said Key, a single microphone will be set up for anyone to discuss how anti-gay and anti-transgender social, legal and political discrimination have impacted their lives. Speeches should last three minutes, said Key, in order to allow all who wish to speak a turn. “[We hope] to keep it going as long as we can,� he said. The purpose of the E21 March — which stands for Equality in the 21st century rather than the date of the Vernal Equinox — is twofold, said Key: To help “change hearts and minds of people who misunderstand and even unwittingly hurt� gay and transgender people, and to give voice to Utahns who feel let down or silenced by decisions community leaders have made during this Legislative Session. For example, several members of the community have criticized a compromise between Rep. Christine Johnson, D-Salt Lake City, and Sen. Howard Stephenson, R-Draper and Republican leaders to put a moratorium on all gay- and transgender-related bills in order to conduct a study about discrimination against gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns. The compromise also mandated that no bills would be presented that attempted to strike down gay and transgender-inclusive housing and employment nondiscrimination ordinances passed last year in Salt Lake City and Salt Lake County. Since the compromise’s announcement, however, Senate and House Republicans have stated that they see no need for a study to be conducted. Johnson’s decision to up-

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hold her part of the agreement by dropping a bill that sought to extend Salt Lake City’s ordinance statewide has caused a public outcry from such community activists as actor Charles Lynn Frost (who plays local theatre icon Sister Dottie S. Dixon), who wrote an editorial in The Salt Lake Tribune criticizing Johnson and has ignited a debate about the compromise across the Facebook pages of several others. “Some people have felt like they were being told sit down and shut up,� Key explained. “Whether [the compromise is] right or wrong they’ll argue in perpetuity. But the people feel like they’ve been told to shut up, and whereas there is a place for the rage people need to know we [community leaders and activists] will not roll over ever, that we have the same fighting American spirit that we’re famous for.� Key also said that the march would not be “a venue to attack at all.� “God knows I fought for the First Amendment, and I’m not trying to control what people say, but if you want an opportunity to make real change by showing the injury that people’s misunderstanding has caused, here’s your chance,’ he said. Real change, he added, “happens when you can appeal to [the] humanity [of those who oppose you] and let them see you as a person.�

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local news Ogden City Council Urged to Pass Gay, Transgender Protections Waving signs that read “Stand on the Side of Love,” about 100 people met at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Ogden on Sunday, Feb. 14 to begin a petition urging the Ogden City Council to pass anti-discrimination ordinances similar to Salt Lake City and County to protect gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender citizens in housing and employment. The event was held in conjunction with the national Unitarian Universalist Association’s Standing on the Side of Love Day and was organized in response to the failure of the Utah state legislature to provide protections statewide. Rev. Theresa Novak began the event with a sermon stressing love and acceptance and treating people with respect and dignity. “Love has the power to transform not only lives, but also society,” she said. “Love is the message of all religions, and one that we all need to remember if we want to call ourselves people of faith. How we treat each other matters.” A town hall meeting followed the service and Brandi Balken, executive director of Equality Utah, appealed to those in the crowd to ally with the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community. “Any time change has happened in a civil rights struggle, it was when other voices joined in,” she said. “Our numbers are just not enough to create change in this state. We need your help.” Balken explained that, while the group was hesitant to agree to the compromise at the legislature that put an end to all pro- and anti-gay bills, it was necessary. “There were five bills drafted to do away with the protections enacted by Salt lake City and Salt Lake County,” she said. “And they had the votes to pass.” Equality Utah is encouraging municipalities to pass their own nondiscrimination ordinances. Judi Amsel, president of Congregation Brith Sholem in Ogden, said, “It’s up to us to speak up for all of our neighbors and stand on the side of love.” She recited an oft-used poem about German intellectuals during the time of the Holocaust. First they came for the communists, and I did not speak out—because I was not a communist; Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out—because I was not a trade unionist; Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—because I was not a Jew; Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak out for me. Gary Horenkamp, who runs the Ogden OUTreach Resource Center as a safe space for gay and transgender youth, said, “It’s not enough to provide a safe space in one room in one building when we know that same safe space does not exist in this community.” “We have seen an outflow of talent from our city to those that are more welcoming,” he continued. Ogden Parents Family and Friends of Les-

bians and Gays president Alison Black tearfully related that her son left the state of Utah because of Utah’s intolerance toward gays. She also said that in a mock interview during a class she attended, the interviewer — an Ogden business owner — outwardly said he would not hire one of the mock applicants because he was gay. “I cannot even perceive how a person’s sexuality can be more relevant than their education and experience,” she said. “I told him that had my son applied for a job from you, you would have missed out on an incredibly talented and intelligent employee just because he is gay.” Jacob Whipple, self-professed rabble-rouser, called on those in attendance to “stand with us and be our missionaries.” Utah Log Cabin Republicans Vice President James Humphreys, who lives in Ogden, urged people to challenge anti-gay jokes and the use of the word “gay” in a negative way. “We need to tell people that bigotry is not right in any form,” he said. Ogden City Councilwoman Susan Van Hooser was the final speaker of the event and encouraged audience members to demand that city council pass an ordinance and to not “take no for an answer.” “Something as important as this should be brought forward by someone who has a passion for it,” she said. “You will be heard, so please bring it forward.”

Qmmunity Queer Prom The Utah Pride Center’s Tolerant Intelligent Network of Teens will hold Queer Prom April 10, 8 p.m.– midnight at the Salt Lake City Library, 210 E. 400 South. The Prom is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning and allied youth age 14–20. Sponsorships are available.

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Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken addresses a crowd at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Ogden as Ogden City Councilwoman Susan Van Hooser (left) watches. Standing on the Side of Love is a campaign sponsored by the Unitarian Universalist Association and promotes respect for the inherent worth and dignity of every person. We believe that no person of any immigrant status, race, religion, gender and sexual orientation, ability level, or political view should be dehumanized through acts of exclusion, oppression, or violence.

Park City Mayor: Ordinances Still a Go The Park City Council is still planning on passing two gay and transgender-inclusive ordinances despite the State Legislature’s request that municipalities hold off on such laws, according to Mayor Dana Williams. In January, openly lesbian Rep. Christine Johnson, D-Salt Lake City and Sen. Howard Stephenson, R-Draper, orchestrated a controversial compromise with Republicans in the Legislature: Johnson and other lawmakers would withdraw gay and transgender rights bills in exchange for Republicans pulling bills seeking to nullify ordinances passed last year in Salt Lake City and Salt Lake County. The ordinances in question added sexual orientation and gender identity to laws prohibiting employment and housing discrimination and received backing from the LDS Church, in a move that shocked many. As part of this “truce,” the ordinances would be allowed to remain in place the Legislature formally studied whether or not gay and transgender Utahns face employment and housing discrimination. However, Republicans later called off the study in favor of more informal research gathering. Since the compromise’s announcement, Senate President Michael Waddoups, R-Taylorsville, requested that other municipalities refrain from passing similar ordinances. The request, said Williams, does not sit well with him or the city’s five-member council. When they heard of Waddoups’ request, Williams said the council agreed that they would enact the ordinances before a bill from the

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State Legislature could prevent them. “We really don’t feel like they should be tying our hands,” he said. If nothing forces the city to stop, Williams said that the matter will come before the council in March, after the city holds a public meeting on the subject. While Williams does not anticipate that anyone will show up to object to the ordinances, he said he likes to have such meetings on the record, in case a resident later complains that an ordinance was passed without any public input. Although Williams announced in November that Park City would go forward with ordinances similar to Salt Lake City and County’s, he said the council has not yet moved because it has been studying similar ordinances passed in other states. It has also been reviewing exemptions in Salt Lake City’s ordinances that provided for businesses with under 15 employees and landlords owning fewer than four properties. “[Some of those] don’t make any sense and it must’ve been some kind of lobby effort that got [them] in there,” he said. A number of other cities and counties are looking into passing similar ordinances, including Summit County and, ironically, Waddoups’ home city of Taylorsville. On Valentine’s Day, the Unitarian Universalist Church of Ogden and statewide gay and transgender rights group Equality Utah held a town hall meeting about nondiscrimination ordinances and invited Ogden’s mayor and city council.

The Utah Pride Festival is seeking volunteers to fill several leadership roles, including positions in food handling, logistics, stage management and entertainment. Applicants must have previous volunteer experience and experience in management or logistics. Volunteers who fill leadership positions will also need to attend bi-monthly meetings beginning in March and will be required to work full time during the festival. For more information visit utahpridecenter.org.

Vocal Feminization for Trans Women A 10-week class for MtF transgender women titled Vocal Feminization for MtF Voice will be offered at South Valley Unitarian Universalist Society. Licensed speech therapist and voice coach Stacey Cole will teach it. When: Wednesdays, March 10–May 12, 6:30–8:30 p.m. Where: SVUUS, 6876 Highland Dr. Cost: $70 Info: voicecoachSLC@gmail.com

HRC Utah Needs Helpers The Utah chapter of the Human Rights Campaign is in need of volunteers for several events in February and May. The group is looking for three or four volunteers to assist with set up, serving and clean up for its Federal Club/Table Captain Event on Feb. 21 from 2–5 p.m. It is also looking for eight people to assist with the Gala Dinner silent auction on May 8 and 35–45 volunteers for the dinner itself, from 3–10 p.m. To volunteer contact Amy LaVange at 801-921-1935 or hrcutahvolunteers@gmail.com. Specify which event(s) you desire to volunteer for.

PCSL Open Registration Even though the field is frozen, it’s time to start thinking about softball. The Pride Community Softball League has opened registration for the 2010 season. Games will once again be held on Sundays at Jordan Park. When: Saturdays through Mar. 27 Where: The Trapp, 102 S. 600 West, 2-5 p.m., and Club Jam, 751 N. 300 West, 6-9 p.m. Cost: $250 team sponsor fee and Photos: Ed Kosmicki $25 per player Info: pcsl@prideleague.com

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A group of LGBT activists from PRIDE In Your Community spread love on Valentine’s Day in Utah Senate President Michael Waddoups’ neighborhood. The group made dozens of homemade cards that read, “Hi, we’re volunteering for the LGBT Community and we wanted to wish you a happy Valentines Day!� and went door-to-door, including Waddoups’, to spread the simple message. The goal was to humanize gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. “Whether you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer or straight, we are all human beings and we all deserve to find and feel as much love as we can,� said organizer Eric Ethington. PHOTO: KRISTA NICOLE

NCLR to Hold Benefit Party in SLC A national legal organization dedicated to advancing the civil and human rights of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people will hold a benefit party, Feb. 26, in Salt Lake City. The National Center for Lesbian Rights is a 33-year-old public interest law firm that regularly provides legal assistance to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and takes on cases of public policies affecting them. It has represented or assisted in a number of Utah cases including 2007’s Jones v. Barlow, in which Keri Jones sued for rights to visit a child she had conceived with former partner Cheryl Barlow, the child’s biological mother. The case was a loss for NCLR and resulted in the Utah Supreme Court ruling NCLR Executive Director Kate Kendell that non-biological, non-adoptive parents were, in effect, legal strangers to their children. Jones is now manager of programs and administration for statewide gay and transgender rights group Equality Utah. NCLR’s Executive Director, Kate Kendall, said that she and legal director Shannon Minter decided to hold the benefit when Minter was scheduled for a speaking engagement at the Barbara L. and Norman C. Tanner Center for Nonviolent Human Rights Advocacy’s 2010 conference, “Controlling Sexuality through Violence, Shame and Cultural Oppression: Implications for Human Rights.� A former Utahn herself,

Kendall said she wanted to take the opportunity to introduce the state’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community and their allies to NCLR’s work. “We’ve always had a good relationship with Equality Utah, and the main role we want to play with any state organization is to add whatever value we can,� she said. Although NCLR is not currently pursuing any active cases in the Beehive State, Kendall noted that the firm is currently working with family law attorneys in the state “mostly with technical assistance in helping LGBT folks protect their relationships and their relationships with their children, given that law in Utah is so bad on this.� Further, Kendall said that NCLR is hoping to work with Equality Utah’s ongoing Common Ground Initiative, a push to get Utah municipal governments to pass nondiscrimination ordinances like the ones the Salt Lake City Council approved in 2009 protecting gay and transgender people. “What we provide for every state we work with is assistance in drafting legislation and any assistance with any litigation they want to be involved with,� she said. The NCLR benefit party will be held at the home of John Poole from 7–9 p.m., and the address will be provided in RSVPs for the event which will be sent out shortly, according to Kendall. The suggested donation is $50, but donations of all sizes will be accepted. Drinks and hors d’oeuvres will be provided. “It’s a great time to hear about the work of NCLR and meet some really great people,� said Kendall. Visit NCLR online at nclrights.org.

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Utah AIDS Drug Program Needs $500,000 Last October, the Utah AIDS Drug Assistance Program closed its doors to new applicants, lowered its income eligibility requirements and kicked 87 people from its rolls because of a state funding shortage. And as the General Legislative Session continues, the People with AIDS Coalition of Utah is calling on all members of the community to advocate for the program’s reopening. As Toni Johnson, PWACU’s executive director, explains it, ADAP is funded by state and federal money. However, the state contributed just $100,000 last year — not nearly enough to provide for the nearly 500 people in the program’s rolls before the freeze and the income requirements change. Before the freeze, participants had to have incomes at 400 percent of the U.S. poverty level. Now, eligible recipients must be at 200 percent at poverty, or take in no more than $21,600 per year — a regimen of HIV therapy costs roughly half of that. In recent years, she added, ADAP had been scaling back other services, including mental health care for its clients. To reopen the program and allow the 55 HIV positive Utahns into its rolls who currently meet income requirements, Johnson estimates that the program will need a state contribution of approximately $500,000 — a number that accounts for the fact that some clients may only need a few of the program’s services, such as prescription co-pays or enrollment in the COBRA program. “We also anticipate some current clients coming off of ADAP as they become Medicaid eligible, they move out of Utah, or their incomes exceed the maximum

federal poverty level,� she added. Johnson estimated that the cost for a client requiring ADAP’s full range of services would be $13,200 per year. In order to get the money to help people pay for their HIV medication, Johnson said she needs help from Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community and their allies. “They can help by calling and calling and e-mailing and e-mailing� legislators on the House and Senate Health and Human Services Committee, the Health and Human Services Appropriations Subcommittee and the Executive Appropriations Committee, she said. “They’re not looking at enhancing the program but cutting the budget, but we still need to tell them it’s important to the community.� The ADAP program is necessary, Johnson explained, because the antiretroviral drugs it pays for are the difference between people with HIV/AIDS living a full and productive life and dying of the disease as they did in the decades before such drugs’ creation. Already, she said, some clients who are no longer in Utah’s ADAP have had to switch their drug regimens to qualify for drug assistance programs — an action physicians and pharmacists do not recommend when a treatment plan is working because switching drugs when they work can make the patient immune to them. Given that finding a combination of drugs that works can be difficult, an immunity to a working regimen can further complicate treatment options. For more information about ADAP and PWACU’s work, visit pwacu.org.

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U Conference Asks: Is Sexual Expression a Human Right? This year’s Tanner Human Rights Center Conference at the University of Utah will tackle a topic with which, sadly, many gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people are familiar: the use of violence to control sexual behavior and expression. The three-day conference will be held at various locations across campus and will feature several discussions and speeches by scholars, authors and lawyers who will attempt to address the ways in which individuals, governments and other social institutions employ shaming, harassment and legal discrimination to enforce rigid rules about sexuality and gender identity. “The forms of violence and harassment used to regulate sexuality have become increasingly diverse in recent years, as cultural and technological developments have made it easier to identify, scrutinize, expose and modify private sexual expression,” the conference description reads. “As a result, society faces new and important practical and ethical questions, such as: Is sexual self-expression a fundamental human right? Should we treat harassment and victimization against sexual minorities the same as that committed against racial and ethnic minorities? What are the most effective strategies to prevent the violence that is used to regulate sexuality?” These questions will be tackled in two keynote speeches and four panels, Feb. 24– 26, which will pay special attention to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and the ways that policing this population effects straight cisgender (non-transgender) people whose sexual behavior society

also deems to be deviant. The conference, which bears the impressive title “Controlling Sexuality through Violence, Shame and Cultural Oppression: Implications for Human Rights,” will open Feb. 24 with a keynote speech by Shannon Minter, the National Center for Lesbian Rights’ legal director, titled “Marriage Equality for Same-Sex Couples.” The speech will be given at the Utah Museum of Fine Arts’ Dumke Auditorium at 7 p.m. Three panels will be held Feb. 25. The first, at the Officers Club in Fort Douglas at 9 a.m., is titled “Mechanisms of Violence: Harassment, Assault and Fear.” This 135-minute panel will focus on the many socially approved forms of violence used against those who are or who are perceived to be gay, lesbian or bisexual; how they are enacted in ways from social norms and workplace harassment to internalized homophobia; and the consequences such violence poses to individuals’ mental and physical health. The panel will be moderated by Kathryn Stockton, a UofU professor specializing in queer theory, and will feature UofU psychologist and author Lisa Diamond, Leann Jones of SLC Body Mind Fitness and Ron Stall from the University of Pittsburgh. At 11:30 a.m., Lisa Duggan, a professor of social and cultural analysis at New York University and a noted author and queer issues scholar, will offer the second of the conference’s keynote lectures titled “Freak Flags and Freedom Fighters: Love, Hate, and the Limits of Law Reform.” Her speech will be followed promptly at 2:30

How Gays Should Complete the 2010 Census to Be Counted With the 2010 U.S. Census fast approaching in April and forms going out to U.S. households next month, one Web site is offering some tips to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender couples to ensure that their families are also counted The U.S. Census is conducted every decade and its results determine how many Congressional Representatives each state is assigned and how much federal money is given to each state to maintain any number of programs. Since 1990 the Census form has allowed individuals to list unmarried partners who reside with them, thus allowing the government to provide statistics about gay and lesbian-headed households across the country. In 2000, for example, the Census showed that gay and lesbian couples lived in nearly every county of every state. The Web site, ourfamiliescount.org, was founded in 2009 with the goal of encouraging gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender couples and individuals to participate in this year’s census. It includes links to the Census’ Web site and discusses parts of the form in detail, including whether or not respondents can include their sexual orienta-

tion or gender identity. “No Americans will be asked their sexual orientation, so LGBT people cannot make their sexual orientation or gender identity visible on the census form,” it reads. “However, those of us who are living with a spouse or partner can indicate that relationship by checking either the ‘husband/ wife’ or ‘unmarried partner’ box.” It is more important than ever that samesex couples respond to this year’s Census, said site organizers, because the U.S. Census Bureau has said it will release counts of heterosexual spouses and unmarried same-sex partners this year. When filling out the form, site organizers advise that one member of a same-sex couple should put down his or her name as “Person 1” — that is, the person who owns or rents the dwelling. Regardless of whether or not gay marriage is legal in the couple’s state, they should identify the other person as a husband or a wife. “Other same-sex couples may be more comfortable using the term ‘unmarried partner,’” the posting on the Web site continued. “In general, this term is designed to capture couples who are in a ‘close person-

p.m. by another discussion at the Officer’s Club: “Breaking the Cycle: Prevention and the Next Generation.” Moderated by UofU professor Don Strassberg and featuring Utah Pride Center Youth Programs Director Rose Ellen Epstein, UofU professor David Huebner and City University of New York professor Margaret Rosario, this panel will focus on the threats anti-gay and anti-trans violence poses to gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth. These include an increased risk of self-injury, suicide attempts and drug use. The four panelists will discuss how to best protect the upcoming generation of queer youth from the violence that puts them at risk, including “zero-tolerance” anti-bullying policies. At 8:30 a.m., Feb. 26, Minter will join UofU professors Erika George and Elizabeth Clement and UofU law professor Clif Rosky for the panel “State Tolerance of Violence and Discrimination,” which will examine the policies of various world governments on sexuality and sexual minorities, including anti-gay marriage laws. The conference’s last panel will be held at 11 a.m. Titled “Public Shaming” and featuring the University of Utah’s Terry Kogan, Carlos Decena of Rutgers University, June Tangeney of George Mason University and Salt lake City Prosecutor Sim Gill, this session will examine how society uses the threat of shame and scandal to regulate sexuality, particularly in spaces such as public parks, restrooms and the Internet. Both sessions will be held at the Officers Club. The conference is free and open to the public, said Kogan, who served as one of its principal organizers. “The most important thing is to encourage as many people in the community to attend as possible,” he said.

al relationship’ and are not legally married or do not think of themselves as spouses. Census forms do not provide an option yet to explicitly designate a couple as united by civil union or a public domestic partner registry.” The site also advises transgender people to check the sex they identify with and encourages people of color in bi-racial relationships to identify themselves as the head of household, because the Census typically identifies a household’s racial or ethnic make up by the racial identity of its head. It also makes clear that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender respondents will not be targeted or harassed for their answers. Our Families Count is supported and administered by members of a number of gay and transgender and allied organizations including Faith Cheltenham of BiNet USA, Earl Fowlkes of International Federation of Black Prides, Inc., Mara Keisling of National Center for Transgender Equality and Javier Angulo of HONOR PAC. Data posted on the Web site from the 2000 Census stated that 3,370 couples were counted in Utah, with roughly 100 more identifying as lesbian. Of these, 1,102 were raising children and 15 percent included at least one person of color.

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Letters What Up Waddoups? Editor, While extremely upset about the “compromise” reached on expanding our rights during this session of the legislation, I was willing to deal with it for the simple fact it would help keep intact the new rights we have recently been granted by the local municipalities. At least that was my view until I read what Sen. Waddoups said a few days ago: “Our citizens shouldn’t be doing things that are discriminatory. If they are ... that will push legislation to deal with that ... If the LGBT community are doing offensive activities in a public setting, that will push legislation in the other direction.” Stories of discrimination against the LGBT community have been published in this paper, City Weekly and the dailies, so what more “proof” does he need? Does he actually have to witness a gay bashing to be convinced? And what determines “offensive activities?” Does that include: talking to our representatives about our rights, campaigning for pro-LGBT candidates, the Pride Parade and festival, holding hands with our partner while walking down the street ... what? It seems to me that Waddoups and his ilk simply want to blackmail us into giving up and going back in the closet so we won’t be a problem for them anymore. Well I simply refuse to do that. Now is the time for us to 16  |  QSa lt L a k e  |  issue 1 48  |  Februa r y

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“Boston had a tea party, De Christopher bid on oil leases. What protests can Utah’s LGBT community hold that are more creative than rallies and vigils?” Jeremiah Maybee Start showing affection openly in public places. Not porn stuff, but simple stuff like holding hands in public or a kiss on the cheek. There may be harrasment because of it but eventually shouldn’t it become not a big deal like with straight couples?

David Winmill How about a “love in.” Picture thousands of gay couples sitting on the steps of the state capital, each locked in a permanent lick-lock for as long as they can until they need to come up for air.

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stand up and proclaim that we have a voice, and a loud one, and that we are not afraid to use it. Call your legislator, write letters to your paper, hold your head up high and be proud of who you are. Only by being visible will we be able to help make the changes that will ensure us equal rights. Let’s make this year the one when we truly stand up and say we’re not second class citizens, but Americans, worthy of having the same rights of our heterosexual counterparts.

Adam McDonald

Civil Discourse Editor, I don’t have a Facebook page and I’m glad I don’t. Online communication tools like blogs, instant messages and (especially) email are the tools of the passive aggressive personality. You type things in places like this that you would never say to a person’s face. And that’s just wrong. A bigger problem with sites like Facebook, however, is that your poisonous rampage becomes a jumping off point for someone even more tarnished than yourself. Soon, it grows into “an ugly dark thing” that begins to take on its own life. While I think it is great to discuss and even argue about right and wrong, directions taken and paths avoided, we must remember that we are dealing with people. People trying as hard as you (and likely harder) to make change in their own way. People who feel. Some may say that elected officials and 18, 2010

self-declared activists should have the skin of a rhino, but why must it be so? Why can’t we disagree in a civil way? When we fall to these tactics, we become as bad as our enemies ... and in some ways worse. This community has for decades eaten our own, and then wonder aloud why the best and brightest leaders among us flee to greener pastures. Perhaps it is time we learn to treat others as we would have them treat us. After all, isn’t that the oldest rule in the book?

Robbie Koster Salt Lake City

Something you read make you gleeful? Something piss you off? QSaltLake welcomes letters from our readers. Send your letter of under 300 words to: letters@QSaltLake.com QSaltLake reserves the right to edit for length or libel or reject any letter.

Its all about money ... just buy, and eat, and support gay friendly and gay own places. I for one will not give money to any religion, country, or charity group that does not support gay rights.

Christine Johnson Something like the Belgian train station performance, or T-mobile performance. Something over as quickly as it begins, but creates a buzz.

Bryan Glick Since our legislators believe we only exist in Salt Lake, we should start moving in mass exodus to conservative suburban districts and get crazies out of office. Let’s open up a gay bar in Buttar’s District, we can call it Butt-outs.

Billy LewisCroft A multi-city rally that starts in the weeks before Pride, hits town halls, county seats and all the major Utah cities and culminates in Salt Lake City the weekend of pride at the state capitol building. An ‘Olympic Torch’ type event. Not only a political rally, but a celebration, and there can be a spontaneous dance at each one.

the straight line The Truce by Bob Henline

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Christine Johnson and Sen. Howard Stephenson recently announced a truce that would effectively table any legislation about gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender in the Utah Legislature’s 2010 general session. Theoretically these issues, including the Salt Lake City antidiscrimination housing and employment ordinances, would be studied by an interim committee that would then report to the 2011 general session. My question is this: What exactly are we studying? Do we really need a committee to tell us that all people deserve equal treatment and equal protection under the law? On one level, I can understand why Rep. Johnson made the “truce.” If our elected bigots in Utah’s GOP can be held to it, the truce will prevent the State Legislature from overturning Salt Lake City’s ordinances, and leave the door open for other cities and counties that are currently considering similar action. On its own, that is a laudable goal. However, as with anything else in this world, one single act cannot be looked at in a vacuum. Effectively tabling consideration of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender issues at the 2010 general session creates other problems. The first thing to consider is that real change will only happen in Utah when our elected employees are forced to see the necessity of it. Putting these issues on the table (or under the rug, as the case may be) will only serve to push them out of the minds of the people and set back any gains that have been made in public recognition and public awareness of the problems gay,

lesbian, bisexual and transgender people face. Those setbacks could result in a much greater delay in any real action on our issues. There is also undoubtedly a risk that, should this truce fall apart, the Legislature will attempt to overturn Salt Lake City’s ordinances and prohibit other municipal governments from providing similar protections. On the other hand, the one year delay could very well result in a new governor being elected, one who has already demonstrated his support for equality. This new governor could then veto any such ridiculous legislation. But I still must say that the single most important thing in the struggle for equality in this state and this nation is constant pressure on our elected officials. These issues need to be at the forefront of every legislative session. Every single elected official in this state needs to cast a vote up or down, and be held accountable to his or her electorate for that vote. There will be steps forward, and there will be steps backward. That is the nature of politics and the nature of humanity. But only continued focus and continued pressure will create the understanding that will lead to change. Tabling the issue for now is certainly a politically expedient move. It takes pressure off the bigots and provides temporary protection for the gains that have been made in other areas. The cost of that protection, though, is way too high. In order for change to happen, the pressure must be maintained, and the struggle must be continued.  Q

Do we really need a committee to tell us that all people deserve equal treatment and equal protection under the law?

Bob Henline blogs at nonpart.org.

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Creep of the Week Oliver North by D’Anne Witkowski

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f we let gays into the military , the

terrorists have won. Or so thinks Oliver “Iran–Contra Affair” North, who wrote last week that by repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, President Obama was putting the “nation’s security at risk (in order) to carry out a radical social experiment.” Regarding the Pentagon’s pledge to “selectively enforce” DADT, North wrote, “So much for our national security.” Indeed. If we’re not kicking gay service members out left and right, then we might as well start waving a giant flag made of hot pants from the annual Palm Springs White Party. North’s concept of gays in the military seems, well, a little paranoid: “If Congress changes the law and allows overtly practicing homosexuals in the ranks, should NAMBLA members be allowed to serve? Will those who advocate abolishing ‘age of consent’ laws be allowed to don uniforms? Will the military have to acknowledge same-sex marriages? If so, will military chaplains be required to perform such rituals? Will same-sex couples be entitled

to military housing? Will these couples be allowed to serve in the same unit or aboard the same ship?” Whoa there, North. Take your heart meds and your Viagra. Everything’ll be OK once DADT is repealed and all of America’s troops are rightfully gay-married to NAMBLA members by military chaplains at sea. Totally rational, normal train of thought. Thanks so much for sharing. North also appeared last week on Hannity’s America on Fox News, where he called the repeal of DADT a “stunning assault on the all-volunteer military” and again predicted the wild influx of NAMBLA members as a result. As Igor Volsky wrote for Think Progress, “The irony of a convicted felon who lied about diverting proceeds from arms sales to a rebel group in Nicaragua supporting a policy that forces gay and lesbian servicemen to lie about their sexual orientation was lost on both Hannity and North.” It’s really no surprise when you consider North’s thoughts about this very issue. Responding to the Joint Chiefs chairman’s statement during the congressional hear-

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ing that, “We have in place a policy which forces young men and women to lie about who they are in order to defend their fellow citizens,” North wrote, “How that can be the case in a ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ era seems to have eluded the good senators.” North is either stunningly ignorant about how DADT works or he’s playing to an audience that is itself stunningly ignorant. Either way, the fact remains that DADT has resulted in an alarming number of discharges during which North calls “an unprecedented ninth year of war and nonstop high-stress deployments.” You know, like the Arabic translators kicked out a few years ago just because they were gay? Also lost on North is the fact that gays are human beings, not walking, talking, sex acts. North dismissed Obama’s State of the Union pledge “to finally repeal the law that denies gay Americans the right to serve the country they love because of who they are” as “disingenuous rhetoric.” “It’s not about ‘who they are,’ it’s really about ‘what they do,’” North wrote. So when North wrote that “those presently wearing America’s uniforms are the brightest, best-educated, best-trained and most combat-experienced military the world ever has seen,” he meant, you know, except the gay ones. Q D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister and teaches writing at the University of Michigan.

snaps & slaps SLAP: Senate Pres. Michael Waddoups Two things are impossible in Utah: fair booze laws and a quiet legislative session. That said, we weren’t exactly surprised when Sen. Michael Waddoups, R-Taylorsville, essentially told gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns to sit down and shut up (or as he put it, stop our “offensive” and “polarizing” behavior) or risk the possibility of legislative wrath. Seriously, senator? Did you really think any reasonable queer person would read your statements without taking them as a threat or at the very least an incredibly degrading insult? Actually, don’t answer that, and don’t make any half-assed apologies on the Senate blog, either — especially if said apologies include cutesy little emoticons. Instead, apologize for causing an oppressed minority community yet more pain, and clarify your statement without simply finding a new way of repeating the original insult. That’s the way to look like a politician — and more importantly, a person — of integrity and goodwill.

SNAP: Our Community The current rocky legislative compromise about which Waddoups made his remarks — that is, a hold-off on all gay and transgenderrelated bills in exchange for letting Salt Lake City’s nondiscrimination ordinances stand — have caused our community a lot of grief, anger and frustration. In spite of that, the willingness of activists on all sides of the compromise debate to come together for a respectful and peaceful conversation on Feb. 11 at the University of Utah is an enormous credit to us all. Once again, this discussion proved that Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community is one of the strongest and most powerful in the country. As we go forward this year, let’s remember both the tenor of that discussion and the importance of directing our activism against those bigots in the legislature who insist we entertain such compromises in the first place.

SNAP: Our Entrepreneurs Unlike some of the Legislature’s more obnoxious members, Utah’s business community has largely been supportive of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Utahns. We’ve profiled a few of these gayowned and gay-friendly businesses in this issue and encourage you to support those businesspeople of all sexual orientations and gender identities who support you.

bullshattuck Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: Don’t Ignore It by Ryan Shattuck

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Unfriendly Fire: How the Gay Ban Undermines the Military and Weakens America by Nathaniel Frank. I took the book with me when I went to visit my family during Christmas this past December, and my parents, upon seeing the title, asked, “Why are you reading that? You’re too old to serve in the military.� After returning all my parents’ Christmas gifts for store credit, I started to ask myself a number of questions: “Does the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell even matter to me?� and “Should I be worried that restaurant servers no longer ask for my ID when I order alcohol?� I never had much interest in the military when I was younger because joining the military was something done by straight men with limited financial resources wishing to pay for college, and by closeted gay men who felt the need to prove how masculine they were. I was neither of those people, and so whether gay men and women were allowed to serve in the military was really none of my concern. I couldn’t have been more wrong if I had taken the LSAT while drunk after an allnight study session with my study-partner, Sarah Palin. The battles for gay marriage acceptance and gay military service acceptance, while both very important, are fundamentally different. Although the battle for gay marriage isn’t selfish, it is, however, a battle for a very personal and private right. The battle for allowing gays in the military, on the other hand, is a battle to allow gay men and women the right to sacrifice for others. Serving in the military is already one of the most noble sacrifices a U.S. citizen can offer to his or her fellow American; having to hide one’s own sexuality makes such a sacrifice incalculably more difficult. Whereas the emotional toll Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell takes on closeted gay men and women in the military cannot be calculated, the price tag that this discriminatory policy has cost the U.S. military can be. A panel consisting of Lawrence Korb, a former assistant defense secretary from the Reagan administration; William Perry, a former defense secretary from the Clinton administration; and professors from the United States Military Academy at West Point, estimated in 2006 that Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell has cost the military over $363 million. Or, to put the cost into perspective — half the amount that Joan Rivers has spent recently read the book

on her face. Giving gay men and women the right to serve in the military impacts the entire gay community regardless of community members’ connection to the military. In the 16 years since Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell was implemented, it’s been estimated that over 13,000 gay men and women have been discharged from the military. These are 13,000 men and women who, despite their willingness to sacrifice for their country, will never receive the prestige that comes with a long military career. These are 13,000 men and women who will never be able to pass on the many benefits that come after serving in the military to their families. These are 13,000 men and women who, despite being more patriotic than most of us and, arguably, even more patriotic than most of the military, are now forced to enter the workforce with the red stamp of “discharged from the military� on their resume. Why does this matter to you? Perhaps you’re a hair stylist or a bank teller or a lawyer or a teacher or a doctor or a bartender or an engineer or a hack columnist, and don’t feel as though discharged gay men and women have anything to do with you. But what happens if you live in a state that doesn’t protect gay men and women from workplace discrimination, and your employer happens to be homophobic? Not only could it happen, but it does happen. Now what happens if the United States military — one of the largest employers in the country — decides that it will no longer tolerate homophobia? Allowing gay men and women to serve openly and honestly in the military workplace will send repercussions throughout the country that will affect all other workplaces. I’ve mentioned my frustrations with President Obama in the past. Nevertheless, I naively wish to believe that he will follow through on the promise he made in his State of the Union address, when he stated he would “finally repeal the law that denies gay Americans the right to serve the country they love because of who they are.� Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is past its prime, and, like a party crasher who’s stayed way after the other guests have left and the alcohol has run out, it needs to go. I may be too old to join some branches of the military, or to even audition for American Idol, but I genuinely do hope that Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell will end sooner than later. After all, I’m not getting any younger. Q

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my column “L ambda L ore .” Probably few know why. There’s a whole generation of Stonewall2 queers who do not appreciate the historical significance of this lower case Greek letter and its relation to the modern gay civil rights movement. So, gather round and you shall hear the early days of being queer. The lambda symbol was originally chosen by the Gay Activists Alliance of New York City in 1970 to represent its mission. The GAA had broken with the larger Gay call

Liberation Front at the end of 1969 over differences about the best way to promote Gay Rights. The GLF, whose symbol was a bloody hand print, wanted to work with the Black Power and Women’s Liberation movements to change America. The GAA wanted to focus efforts only on gay and lesbian issues. In the early 1970s the GAA sponsored public events called “zaps,” held mostly in New York City. These zaps were peaceful confrontations with public officials meant

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to draw media attention to injustices perpetrated against gay people. Some of the GAA’s more visible actions included protests against an anti-gay episode on the then-popular Marcus Welby, M.D. television series, a zap of then-New York City Mayor John Lindsay and New York Gov. Nelson Rockefeller, and a zap at the New York Marriage License Bureau demanding marriage rights for gays. The lambda symbol was drawn on signs and clothing and banners and soon became a quick way for the members of the emerging gay community to identify a gay “happening.” The effectiveness of the GAA came to an end in 1974 when an arsonist torched their headquarters. All of the organization’s records were destroyed and the movement never recovered from the loss. Among the documents burned were records and minutes on why the lambda was chosen as a symbol. One of the more popular sugges-

tions is that the lambda was the Greek letter “L” which would stand for “liberation” and could easily be mistaken for a college fraternity symbol, and thus ignored by the majority of the population. Another accepted view is that it was adopted as a symbol for gay energy from its scientific use to designate kinetic potential. However, I doubt that many of these early radical activists were that geeky. The most popular view — and the most romantic — is that the lambda is believed by some to have appeared on the shields of ancient homosexual Greek warriors. The Thebes version of the story has it that the Theban Band of warriors was formed from groups of idealized lovers, which made them extremely fierce and dedicated on the field. The Spartan version claims that the lambda was a symbol of Sparta. There is no actual evidence that the Spartans were associated with the lambda — however, a 1960s movie called The 300 Spartans showed Spartan warriors with lambdas on their shields. When the historic version and the Hollywood version conflict, I say always go with Hollywood. By 1974 the lambda had gained such an acceptance within the gay rights movement that the International Gay Rights Congress in Edinburgh, Scotland officially declared it the international symbol for gay and lesbian rights. Today the symbol lives on most noticeably in the names of Lambda Legal and Lambda Rising. Lambda Legal (Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund) was founded in 1971 but was not allowed to practice law until 1973. It is an American civil rights organization that serves gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender communities as well as people living with HIV/AIDS through litigation, education and public policy work. Lambda Rising is a Washington, D.C. bookstore known for 35 years as the “capital’s bookstore that celebrates the gay and lesbian experience.” It is closing its doors this year. In 1987 the Lambda Book Report, a bimonthly review of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender literature, was first published to encourage writers and publishers to produce quality books of interest to the community. That publication spawned the Lambda Literary Awards. The first “Lammys” were given out in a black-tie awards ceremony held in Washington, D.C. in 1989. The Lambda Literary Foundation continues to run the annual awards program today. In 2003 Lambda Rising also stepped in to buy New York City’s Oscar Wilde Bookshop, saving it from imminent closure. Oscar Wilde Bookshop was the first gay bookstore in the world when it opened in 1967. It was the inspiration for Lambda Rising and other queer bookstores. The lambda may not be as well known today as the rainbow flag or the pink triangle or the Human Rights Campaign’s yellow equal sign, but it is the grand dame symbol, if you will, of our heritage. So, since lore is all the facts and traditions about a particular subject that have been accumulated over time through education or experience, now you know why I call my column “Lambda Lore.”  Q

gay geeks Alliances Through Geekdom by JoSelle Vanderhooft

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o, geeky ones, I spent part of Valentine’s

Weekend at BYU. I will now pause to let you get the cackling and shrieking out of your systems. While BYU is home to a number of undesirable things including anti-gay policies and the Cougars — who, as a UofU alumna, I’m contractually obligated to disparage — it is also the host of one of the most fun and all-around most professional conventions out there: Life, the Universe, and Everything. I’ve been an LTUEr for four years now, and an LTUE panelist for just as many. The con is heavily focused on books and features a ton of writing and topics relevant to writers’ interests, like space exploration, abnormal psychology and how to create believable climates. It’s also a pretty tightknit, friendly and accepting group. For example: The con organizers know I’m a big, raging queer and I’m pretty sure most of the regulars do, too — mostly because I sell my books there (all but one of which have queer content) and because I don’t exactly hide the fact when I talk about my girlfriend as casually as other con-goers talk about their heterosexual spouses. While we haven’t entered into any serious discussions about Proposition 8, or Common Ground, or any other such important issues of our time, I think this is mainly because we’ve been distracted by discussing new anime series, book deals and military history (yes, I’m a huge geek about Italian troop movements in World War II; the More You Know ... ). You know, geeky things like that. But geeks or not, and whether we like it or not, politics define our lives — especially if we’re gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. And lately political discussions among our community have touched upon the importance of coalition building — that is, networking with organizations from other oppressed communities and populations including groups promoting greater rights for women, immigrants, people of color and people with disabilities. This is a great idea, and something that I think we should all be doing to the best of our ability, not only because it’s politically advantageous, but because it’s also the just thing to do. I also think that we’ve missed another less obvious group in these discussions — not one that is socially and politically discriminated against, but one that could be great allies nonetheless. I’m talking, of course, about LDS geeks. Yes, I’m usually pretty facetious in this column, but for once I’m being completely serious. Here’s how I see it: A lot of LDS folks are big old geeks. A lot of queer folks are big old geeks. This means, right off the bat,

that we have a lot of things in common: We can argue about which Star Trek captain is the best; we can recommend books and anime to devour and books and anime to avoid; we acknowledge Joss Whedon as our master, unless we think he’s overrated and way past his prime (it’s apparently impossible to be lukewarm about his body of work — I know, for I have done experiments). And geeks tend to form very tightknit friendships with those who share our interests — friendships that often withstand strong differences of opinion and inspire great loyalty in both parties. In my experience, the majority of geeks are also, if not always, up to date on social justice politics, exceptionally generous and kind people. To keep a long but no less touching story short, I will just say that I have witnessed hundreds of geeks raise thousands of dollars to save the houses and health of perfect strangers multiple times in the last year alone — including Haitians displaced by January’s earthquake. In other words, geekdom is often a good environment not only to be out, but to talk about the issues that affect you as a queer person. This is true of geeks of all races, sexes, orientations and religions — and I believe it is true of many LDS geeks, too. I don’t know what effect, if any, my being out at LTUE has had on attendees who might otherwise not know any out gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender people. I like to think, however, that it has at least given them something to think about when they read or see a news story on our struggles for full political equality, and that maybe is the first step in making them allies if they aren’t already. And if you, queer geeky ones, aren’t out already in your gaming groups, your book clubs, your online SF forums or your 501st Legion garrison, maybe just coming out would be helpful in our struggle for rights. At the very least, it might be a load off your mind. If science fiction and fantasy have taught me anything at all, it’s the importance of allies, and more importantly friends. Frodo Baggins couldn’t have destroyed the One Ring without Sam Gamgee; Harry Potter couldn’t have defeated Voldemort without Hermione and Ron; and the Rebel Alliance couldn’t have toppled the Galactic Empire without the Ewoks — even if they were irritating as all hell and a blatant excuse to market stuffed toys. So, geeky ones, when writing down your list of friends, family and colleagues to talk about the things that matter to you this Legislative Session, don’t forget your geeky friends — even, and especially, if they’re LDS. And be sure to check out LTUE next year, whatever you do. Otherwise, who else is going to laugh at BYU's stupid mascot with me?  Q

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representative to the bear community, prowl as the Utah Bear Alliance like ‘What does the term Pride mean to hosts its Mr. Utah Bear & Mr. you?’ or ‘How do you think you could Utah Cub Contest 2010, Feb. make an influence in the gay community,’” he continued. 24–28 at JAM. The judges for this year’s Mr. Utah The contest honors gay men of larger builds who sport — or favor — body Bear & Mr. Utah Cub Contest will come and facial hair and a more traditionally from a variety of local community ormasculine image. And it also increases ganizations and include Equality Utah bear visibility in Utah, said Billy Day, Executive Director Brandie Balken, the alliance’s new president, who noted QSaltLake publisher and editor Michael that the contest was returning after a Aaron, and representatives from the Utah AIDS Foundation and Utah Pride few years of hiatus. Center. “It’s a contest for “We want to bears to be able to show that this is put their best foot a leadership type forward and find Mr. Utah Bear role and we want good representa& Mr. Utah Cub Contest it to be representtion for our comSchedule ed like that,” said munity here in Day. Utah,” he said. Wednesday, Feb. 24 The winners of The five-day Bear-A-Oke the contest (one event includes 7pm, JAM bear and one cub) plenty of opportuThursday, Feb. 25 will be appointed nities for bears, Bear Bust Dollar Drafts as honorary memcubs (typically deJAM bers to the Utah fined as younger Friday, Feb. 26 Bear Alliance’s bears) and their Contest, Meet & Greet board and will be friends and adJAM expected to appear mirers to socialSaturday, Feb. 27 at social events ize. The contest Awards Ceremony throughout the will kick off Feb. 10pm, JAM year, including 24 with Bear-ASunday, Feb. 28 fundraisers, camOke — a karaoke Bear Brunch paign kick-offs, and night at JAM — 10am, Golden Corral events organized and a dollar draft by groups like the special on the folUtah Pride Cenlowing evening. ter and the Royal The competition will be held Feb. 26–27 and will involve Court of the Golden Spike Empire. “Anything of that nature we want to four outfit changes for contestants, said Day: casual wear (“anything you’d wear put a bear face on,” Day explained. The winners will also be eligible to to a bar”); fantasy wear “like construction workers, or lumberjacks;” beach participate in the Mr. International wear; and formal wear. All outfits, Day Bear and Cub Contest to be held at San Francisco’s International Bear Rendezstressed, should be “in good taste.” “Each time they’re on stage they’ll be vous in 2011. Admission to the competition will be asked a couple of questions,” Day continued. “They have to introduce them- $10 at the door or $15 for both nights. selves and say why they should win, sell Club Jam is located at 751 N. 300 West. themselves to the audience, and at the All contestants must be current memend they have to sum it up and give clos- bers of the alliance. On Feb. 28 a ‘thank you’ brunch will ing arguments about why they should be held at the Golden Corral on 7200 win.” “A lot of the questions will have to do South. It is open to the public.  Q with why they think they’d be a good ears and cubs will again be on the

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for unusual, provoking and environmentally conscious businesses, but rarely do all three come together as beautifully and perfectly as in Omar’s Rawtopia, Salt Lake City’s only raw food bar which is located just a block away from QSaltLake’s offices. Instead of such regular lunch fare soups, pizza, sandwiches and soda, diners can enjoy such inspired dishes as crème de broccoli “soup,” hummus pizza, sweet basil seaweed rolls and thick, hearty hemp milk chai — which, although served cold like all of the food at the restaurant, is the perfect spicy drink for the winter holidays. The restaurant is owned and managed by Omar Abou-ismail, who also is its head chef. Although he has no formal training in the culinary arts, his mother worked as a chef in Lebanon (both she and her son are members of the Druze tribe), and growing up in this country and in Nigeria, his knowledge of Lebanese food and of Indian spices (which he first encountered among West Africa’s Indian population) rivals that of any master. Other than that, he says most of the restaurant’s menu items have come to him in dreams or during meditation. “To be honest, I meditate a lot,” he said. “I do kinesiology, so I energy test everything [we make]. I follow spirit when it comes to making food. I’m like an alchemist.” Before Abou-ismail and his staff of 10 became Sugar House’s resident food alchemists, Abou-ismail himself was leading a very different life. As a geophysicist working for a company contracted with the U.S. Navy, he specialized in UXO, or unexploded and exploded ordinance control — meaning that it was his job to recover bombs the Navy had planted to test on. While on this contract he lived in Hawaii where he says he first began living the raw lifestyle — that is, eating uncooked, completely vegan and organically-grown foods for their health benefits and environmental-friendliness. When the contract ended, Abou-ismail returned to Salt Lake City to help his mother care for his father, who had just developed cancer. After his death, Abou-ismail said he didn’t want to go back to his former job. Rather, he wanted to bring the benefits of the raw lifestyle to the city. “I felt there was a definite need for a restaurant that has absolutely 100 percent healthy food, from the salt to the olive oil to the quality of ingredients in the food,” he said. “[I wanted to make] something very pure so that people who are sick, or people who understand food well and only eat amazing, healthy food can be allowed the opportunity to have a good meal at my place.” Like many startup businesses, Abou-ismail didn’t have a lot of money, so he says he was fortunate to share a store space with Herbs for Health, a herbal supplement store located on Highland Drive. When the shop and other businesses were torn down

as part of the neighborhood’s still-incomplete renovation, Omar’s Rawtopia moved into the building located just a few paces to the south, where it has remained since. While many businesses might have folded among such turmoil, Abou-ismail credits customer support for being able to make it in his own place. “People just love the food so much,” he said. And in return, Abou-ismail says he not only loves his customers, but the environment, both of which he is dedicated to serving. Unlike many restaurants, his business generates very little trash each day; most materials are recycled or, as with leftover food, composted. It also supports the community by shopping locally; Abou-ismail grows many of the herbs used in the food in his own garden and buys the vegetables, nuts and seeds used in his creations from local farmers. “I think right now it’s so important,” he said of shopping local. “A lot of people don’t support so many of these people [local farmers], and they’re like our fathers. They’re taking care of us. They’re taking care of the plants. It’s so amazing to have an organic grower being able to be supported.”

“We need more gardens,” he insisted. The business’ emphasis on shopping locally, and on eating well, also ties into the raw food lifestyle, he explained. “I feel like it’s important that we understand that package foods are basically contaminating our planet,” he said, noting that these packages, as well as the chemicals used to preserve food, are polluting landfills, waterways and ultimately people’s bodies. “In a sense I feel like it’s important for us to wake up and make a difference in our world and in our lives. We are the elements of this earth, so if we’re dumping crap into this earth, that means we’re dumping crap into our bodies, and when the earth is in pain, our bodies are in pain.” “I feel like this restaurant symbolizes peace through food, by telling people there’s a way to create peace in our world, and it’s through watching what you eat,” he said. But overall, he said that his food is just his way of serving humanity. Along with running the restaurant, Abou-ismail also teaches classes in preparing and cooking with raw foods and has taught nutrition classes for the Utah AIDS Foundation. He is especially excited to help gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people, he said, because he feels like “the gay community needs to get closer together.” “I’m definitely putting myself out there for my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters, so we can all reach out and love each oth-

Thai Garden & Noodle House: A Spicy Treat

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last thing V ipada “B en ” Chitratont liked to do when growing up in Thailand was cook, to the point that she would trade chores with her sister to get out of spending time in the kitchen. “I like to eat, but didn’t like to eat that much,” she joked. But a lot can change in a few decades. Today, Chitratont is the owner of Thai Garden & Noodle House, which has two locations at 4410 S. 900 East and 868 E. 900 South, in the heart of Salt Lake City’s fashionable and gay-friendly 9th and 9th neighborhood. Both the 900 East location and its sister, which opened its doors just five months ago, are well-known among Utah foodies for serving some of the finest Thai food the valley offers, including spicy curries, stir-fry, fried rice and noodle dishes like its popular Pad Thai. In total, Chitratont offers 34 main dishes and a number of appetizers, salads and soups like Tom Yum and Tom Kha, tomato-based and coconutbased soups, respectively. Most options, Chitratont noted, can be made vegetarian, a fact which makes the restaurant one of 9th and 9th’s most popular eateries. “I noticed that people on 9th and 9th like tofu a lot,” said Chitratont. Of course, she noted, non-vegetarians can add beef, shrimp or chicken to most dishes as well. Additionally, stir-fry can be made vegan he

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(the curries all include fish sauce). Chitratont said that her journey back into the kitchen began in 1992, when she came to Utah to study to be a pharmaceutical technician. To support herself while at Salt Lake Community College, she took a job in Salt Lake City’s restaurant business. Here, she quickly noticed that Utah had few restaurants that served authentic Thai food like that she had grown up eating. “[I thought] if I had a chance, someday I would open a restaurant to do it the way I liked,” she said. And what Chitratont likes is spice. While many Thai restaurants in Salt Lake City tend to serve sweeter curries, Chitratont favors fresh and dry chilis. Customers, of course, may choose exactly how spicy their dishes should be. “Most Americans think medium is

er,” he said. “I love people and the universe loves people, and this is like Mother Earth loving people, and saying you get to eat this, the most amazing food ever from me.”

Omar’s Rawtopia is located at 2148 Highland Drive in Sugar House. It is open 12–8 p.m. Monday through Thursday and 12–9 Friday and Saturday. Learn more about the restaurant’s menu and raw foods in general at omarsrawopia.com.

spicy,” she said. “When people order hot in my restaurant, I say it’s really hot.” Each table at the restaurant also comes well-stocked with condiments such as sugar, chili flakes and vinegar, allowing diners to change their food’s flavor as they please. The condiments, said Chitratont, are common fixtures in Thailand. “[The condiments] are kind of fun, I think, for people to learn and do,” she said. While Chitratont said that many people thought she was “crazy” to open a second location during a recession, she noted, “I just have an instinct that I can do it.” A huge fan of the 9th and 9th area, she said she had been looking to establish a restaurant in the neighborhood for roughly three years before purchasing the house that she remodeled into a café. The new restaurant, she said, is frequented by several regulars, some of whom come in for lunch or dinner at least three times a week. “They love it and they are amazing people,” she said. Chitratont not only likes her customers, but the city that likes her restaurants and the mountains that surround it. “When I came here, I didn’t like it at all because I came from a big city [near Bangkok] and it seemed really quiet,” she explained. “But I got used to it. In 10 minutes I can drive to Little Cottonwood, Big Cottonwood or Millcreek, or I can go downtown. It’s really convenient and not too crowded.” She hopes that QSaltLake readers will come to either of her locations and “give me a chance to serve them and try my food.”  Q

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A Gallery: Salt Lake City’s A+ Gallery

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A Gallery that even its most enthusiastic patrons probably don’t know: It exists because co-owner Greg Rotler enjoys skiing. As Rotler tells it, he moved to from Portland to the Beehive State in 1983 to hit the slopes, and to run a framing and art shop in Holladay. “The economy was much better here than in Portland [at the time],” he noted. When Rotler met his business and romantic partner, abstract artist Brent Godfrey in 1988, the two decided to develop the frame shop into a contemporary fine arts gallery that still provided high quality framing for its customers. “We actually work very well together in running the gallery,” Rotler said. Under Rotler and Godfrey’s leadership, the gallery and frame shop flourished, expanding its walls three times and gradually attracting more and more established artists. In 2003 the pair moved the shop from its 5,000 square foot space in a Holladay shopping center to its current location at 1321 S. 2100 East. There, it doubled again in size to 10,000 feet and added a sculpture garden, which houses some of its larger and more durable figures. It also expanded to include not just paintings, photographs and sculpture, but textile, ceramic, glass and beaded art, photographs of which Rotler and Godfrey have archived on the Gallery’s Web site, agalleryonline.com. “It’s definitely been a long-term evolution of space and the type and quality of art represented,” said Rotler. Over the years, A Gallery has shown works by several established and upcoming artists, including Gary Collins, Jake Gilson, Brandon Cook, Emily Plewe and Trevor Southey, an openly gay Utah artist whose work frequently combines landscape and the human form in startling ways. Although the gallery has shown work by artists from all over the world, Rotler estimates that 70 to 80 percent of the art at the gallery are the creations of locals. At any given time, he added, as many as 40 artists are represented throughout the gallery, which also does six or seven individual or group shows each year. “I think we have a good reputation for high quality art and a diverse style of art,” he said. Indeed, the diversity of the gallery’s art could well be described as a good cross section not only of Utah’s contemporary art scene but the world’s. The work upon its walls and amid the garden’s greenery include Italian Renaissance-style still lifes, desert landscapes similar to the work of Georgia O’Keefe, industrial portraits and even doll-like figures fashioned from clay. The selection is certainly informed by Rotler’s life-long love of art and his understanding of, and appreciation for, various eras and styles. While Rotler got into the art business as

a graphic arts student who branched out into framing as a part-time college job, he said he eventually gave up art to pursue his current career, which he ultimately enjoys more than design. Regardless, a life-long love of all visual arts informs his work as A Gallery’s co-owner, as does a dedication to promoting a form of art that often doesn’t get much attention or praise. “The best thing about it to me is being able to expose people to fine art, to contemporary art and make it accessible for them to live with,” he said. “I think [art is] an important part of a quality lifestyle and it’s nice to provide that and to provide an outlet for artists to make a living as professional artists [while] supporting the visual arts in the community.” A Gallery is open 10 a.m.–6 p.m., Monday through Saturday, and has a number of exciting exhibitions scheduled for 2010, including a solo show by Utah contemporary realist painter Laurie Lisonbee opening April 15. The gallery also participates regularly in Salt Lake City’s monthly Gallery Stroll.  Q For more information about the gallery or about submitting artwork for consideration, visit agalleryonline.com.

Red Iguana’s Food is Killer

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those U tahns who crave authentic, original and excellent Mexican food, Red Iguana is something of an icon. Perhaps its eclectic, quirky décor and atmosphere also have something to do with its ongoing popularity. Co-owner Bill Coker certainly thinks so. “It always feels like a wedding reception in the dining room,” he said. “People from all walks of life and all persuasions brought together by a wedding invitation or in our case, wonderful food: Your Aunt Martha weaving through the tables talking to herself; Cousin Walter, the wild accountant from Minnesota sitting with the dingy Goth twins from the bride’s high school days, and next to the deacon of the church, who’s chatting with a trucker about his rig parked by the Wonder Bread building next door.” “I think everyone feels they have permission to just be who they are, it’s kind of a culture-category-free zone,” he continued. This “culture-category-free zone” began as a single restaurant in 1985 operated by Ramon and Maria Cardenas, two members of Salt Lake Valley’s Cardenas family, which has operated a number of high quality Mexican restaurants in Utah since 1965. The couple opened their restaurant 25 years ago out of, as Red Iguana’s Web site puts it, a shared passion for Mexican cuisine, and created recipes and dishes proudly served as delicious expressions of their cultural background. Although Maria Cardenas died in 2002, the passion she had for food and for her or

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restaurant is continued today through the work of her daughter, Lucy Cardenas, who owns the restaurant along with her husband, Coker. “The Red Iguana is such a jewel, who could let it go?” asked the younger Cardenas. Although Cardenas and Coker are both heterosexual, one of Coker’s sisters is lesbian and the couple’s daughter married her female partner in California in 2008. Naturally, the two are very supportive of Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community, many of whom can be found in the lines that stretch daily around Red Iguana’s first location on 736 W. North Temple and its second at 866 W. South Temple (a third restaurant is scheduled to be opened later this year in the City Creek Center’s food court). “I think the LGBT community likes the independent spirit of Red Iguana, its eclectic, non-conformist and admittedly defiant resistance to what some would consider “normal” or “nice”,” said Coker, who worked in the entertainment industry for 40 years alongside “whole crews of delightfully talented and very out LGBTs.” “But bottom line, we don’t treat anyone any different that walks through our door at The Red Iguana,” he continued. “You are all guests in our home, sort of like at our daughters wedding reception . . . sit down, eat, enjoy. Thank you for including us in your life.” Cardenas agreed. “Being a good human

being is all that matters to me. We take care of our customers because they take care of us.” Red Iguana’s customers take care of the restaurant not only because of its friendly atmosphere and accepting staff, but also because of what Coker and Cardenas describe as its “killer Mexican food.” The “killer” menu includes the Cardenas family’s authentic spin on such staples as nachos, chile con queso (chili with cheese), quesadillas and enchiladas — and, of course, the restaurant’s famous mole, which is a thick sauce made of ingredients as varied as chilies, nuts, raisins and other fruits and vegetables. The high demand for their food couldn’t even be bested by the frosty economy; Cardenas and Coker both report that their second location, Red Iguana 2, is doing well. “We see friends, associates, neighbors, local workers, government officials, large families,” said Coker. “Opening not only one but two new restaurants in this economy has kept us up more than a few nights. Even with the success that Red Iguana has had over the years, it’s still a sobering feeling to realize your instincts could be wrong; our great idea, not so great. But in several respects, this is the perfect time to open a new business if you can get the financing, because there are people and services out there that you can get at a bargain because everyone is hungry (no pun intended) to get some work, and you will be positioned with a great product as the upswing begins.”

To view Red Iguana’s menu or to learn more about the restaurant visit rediguana.com.

SLUG Magazine: Underground — and Gay — Since 1989

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tah may currently have only

one gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender publication, but SLUG Magazine is gay nonetheless. At least, according to the shirts and banners its staff has sported for the last five years during the Utah Pride Festival. “We just loved the idea,” said editor Angela Brown who, despite whatever she wears during the annual festival, identifies as straight. “Number one, it’s a play on words and number two, I guess it’s just a symbol of standing in solidarity, and saying anybody can be gay, we can be gay, and [as] some of her staff members believe, everyone is gay, or has a gay side or the ability to be gay.” But SLUG Magazine (an acronym for Salt Lake Under Ground) isn’t just all talk when it comes to gay issues. Although it primarily covers independent music and the bars that host independent artists, the publication has reported on a number of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgenderrelated stories over the years and regularly features two columnists from the local community: Princess Kennedy and a lesbian sexologist who goes by the pseudonym Dr. Evil. SLUG has also sponsored

the Utah Pride Center’s Queer Prom for the past three years by serving as the event’s chaperones and giving lucky young couples makeovers and free dinners donated by a number of its advertisers. Before Brown became SLUG’s publisher and editor, she was a photojournalism student and a music aficionado who juggled classes, freelancing for papers like The Private Eye (Salt Lake City Weekly’s previous incarnation) and a job at the now-defunct music store Salt City CDs with ease. This last job put her in touch with then-editor Gianni Ellefsen, who hired her to create one of the issue’s covers. Their working relationship continued until 2001, when Ellefsen, who had grown tired of editing the magazine, offered to sell it to Brown. Although Brown then had opportunities to become a full-time Salt City CD employee or an artist development representative at San Francisco-based Universal Music and Video Distribution, Brown took him up on the offer; in part, to remain close to her father who had just been diagnosed with cancer. “It was really funny because at the time that was not the intention,” she said. “It was just an opportunity that fell into my lap.”

Under Brown’s near 10-year leadership, SLUG has doubled its circulation to 30,000 issues per month and turned the monthly publication into a full color magazine. She also opened it up to coverage of two other then-underground “scenes:” snowboarding and skateboarding. “I grew up with a lot of skateboarders,” said Brown. “Back then it was a rebel sport and people were persecuted for it and beaten up and harassed.” Likewise, she added, snowboarders had to have special passes to go on ski lifts and had to take safety courses before they could hit the slopes. “You had to fight for your lifestyle,” she explained. And even though the publication received some letters from readers upset at its editorial staff for “letting in the jocks,” the magazine reports on these sports today. Brown and SLUG’s staff got involved in the Utah Pride Festival five years ago through the suggestion of one of her drag queen friends, who asked her why the magazine had never entered a float in the parade. As a late entry, said Brown, the group also didn’t have a float for its first year. Instead, its marchers thought of something clever and easy to pull off at the last minute: the now-infamous ‘SLUG Mag is Gay’ T-shirts. Of course, the publication entered a float in the following year’s parade and all succeeding parades. In 2009, their entry even took home an award, a fact which made Brown very proud. “I hope that people do put more glitz and glam and energy into the floats, I really

do,” she said, noting that last year was the first time she and the staff gave the float their all. Brown also hopes that the magazine can give its all in helping Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community, should they so require it. “Any queer organization that is interested and needs our help we’d love to provide it if we can, whether it’s [hooking them up] with financial support, or coverage or getting the word out,” she said.  Q Visit SLUG Magazine online at slugmag.com.

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With their bridal shower on Feb. 21 and their wedding less than a month away, Jessica Engel and Amanda Brown have a lot to do to get ready for their big day. Especially when it comes to making invitations for their family and friends. “They’re ecstatic,” said Brown, whose parents live in Oregon. “I thought we were going to get a little resistance when we told our parents we were getting married in a month and we wanted everybody to be there, but we got no resistance at all.” “Everybody’s really excited and keeps calling us to ask what are we going to wear and what are we going to do and how are we going to do it,” she laughed. “They’re stressing us out more than we are.” Engel’s parents will drive in from St. George and her best friend has planned to fly in from Washington, D.C. The women also plan on sending out invitations to their large circle of friends and family for the reception and the wedding itself — invitations, which C3 Design is creating (in the Feb. 8 issue, QSaltLake incorrectly called the company 3D Design. We apologize for the error). But Engel is also doing some design work of her own. She has posted three possible designs for the couple’s shower invitations on their blog, lesbianmomma.wordpress.com, which use photographs taken by David Newkirk. The shower will be held at Mimi’s Retro Café on Feb. 21; in lieu of gifts, the pair is asking attendees to make donations to the Utah AIDS Foundation. (Brown is HIV positive.) At press time a location for the pair’s reception had not been chosen. In the meantime, the two are toying with how — or whether — to announce their ceremony in local mainstream newspapers. “I don’t know if I want to do that,” said Brown. “A little bit of me is on the activist side saying it’s OK and I shouldn’t have to think twice, and another part of me [asks], ‘If I were getting married to a male would I take that avenue?’” Noting that some newspapers could very well reject the announcement — as St. George’s The Spectrum did

with the wedding announcement of a gay couple last August — she added: “I don’t want to stir the waters. You want this to be a positive experience.” Noting that she associated the term “marriage” with a religious ceremony, Brown wondered if “civil union” would

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arts & entertainment

Gay Agenda All About Hairy Shoulders, Limo Sex and PDA by Tony Hobday

I want to wish my hot tamale of a friend Mo (I’d like peel that skin back and really taste the meat) a very belated Happy Birthday. He’s the star player on our softball team ... yes Jake, after that embarrassing display during the Super Bowl party at The Trapp, you’ve been replaced! Mo’s also an unbelievable hairstylist ... kind of like Edward Scissorhands. Luv you Mo, mwah! By the way, Matty says he’d like to lick all your tats ... hmmm!

breaks down. They soon descend into a seductive, surreal adventure, driven by Dr. Frank N Furter and his obsession with a Frankenstein-esque experiment. Sound familiar? It’s a production of the original stage musical The Rocky Horror Show. Part science fiction, part spoof, part exploration of sexual mores, and all rock ’n roll. 7:30pm, Babcock Theatre, 300 S. 1400 East, UofU. Tickets $7–13, 801-581-7100 or kingtix. com.

Kissing Booth Installation at the Kayo Galllery tonight at 6 p.m. Exhibits shown at various venues and times through Mar. 14. Free, for more information call 360-349-6973 or visit www.thepdashow. blogspot.com.

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saturday — Join sWerve for an evening of food, drinks and limo sex ... oh sorry, my mind went adrift again. Their Girl’s Night OUT: Limo Pub Crawl starts at Squatters for appetizers and a round of drinks. At 8 p.m., limos (stocked with complimentary drinks) will be waiting at the Utah Pride Center, where they’ll take you in style to The Speakeasy, and then it’s off to Club Jam (now serving liquor) to end the night. 6:30pm, Squatters, 147 W. Broadway. Cost $20. Pre-registration required, visit swerveutah.com.

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wednesday — It’s time again for Utah Bear Alliance’s annual Mr. Utah Bear & Cub Contest. The five-day event opens with Bear-A-Oke (Oh Lord!) tonight, Bear Bust ($1 drafts) Thursday, the contest Friday, awards ceremony Saturday, and Bear Brunch Sunday — where you’ll go up into the woods to feed on return mormon missionaries fondling each other in their parents’ recalled Toyota Camry. Hours vary, Club Jam (now serving liquor), 751 N. 300 West. Tickets $10–15, utahbears.com.

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friday — Sugar Space presents Suite: Women Defining Space ... no, it won’t be a bunch of women bitching at us gay boys: “Don’t touch my breast!,” Don’t touch my ass!” and “I bet I could change Artist Carl Smith “Newly discovered LDS Instructional Aid” See Feb. 19

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thursday — The UofU’s Performing Dance Company’s Spring Concert enters a world of fiction and friction as reality TV comes to life in a project directed by members of Movement Forum. Also, Eric Handman’s Organism is inspired by science fiction’s cyborgs and aliens. Juan Carlos Claudio’s Night Moths in an Open Field crosses between reality and fiction. Stephen Koester confronts the drama of motion surrounded by a turbulent musical score by Michael Gordon. Donna White’s Polvere e Rovine surveys ancient ruins amidst contemporary Italy. 7:30pm, through Feb. 27, Marriott Center for Dance, 330 S. 1500 East, UofU. Tickets $7–10, 801-581-7100 or kingtix.com.

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friday — A homely couple seek help from a secluded house in the woods after their car

QQ They’re finally coming Face 2 Face ... hopefully. After rescheduling last November, a hoard of homos were weeping in their beers and Long Island iced teas. But now Billy Joel and Sir Elton John are doing it ... well, not literally. I have a feeling that their performance together will not be as unusual as Elton’s and Lady Gaga’s during the Grammys, but noteworthy nonetheless. 7:30pm, Energy Solutions Arena, 301 W. South Temple. Tickets $55–181, 801-355-SEAT or smithstix.com. QQ In response to the “Kiss Heard ’Round the World,” and as part of the Gallery Stroll, 50 visual artists from around the country will be showing their response to “public displays of affection” between homosexuals on canvas and through other mediums during the PDA Show. Look for such pieces as lennyBruce Lee’s “Two Fruits Kissing” and Paul Evans’ “Hope Springs Eternal (Gay Is Good);” plus, Sister Dottie Dixon will be selling kisses at the

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monday — Finally, here it is ... the first Queer Spirit Book Club. And there’s no better book to start with than The Four Agreements. This is a short but profound book which examines our self-limiting beliefs and how to transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. 7:30pm, Mondays through Mar. 29, venue to be announced. Free, for more information and to sign up visit queerspirit.org.

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tuesday — She’s cute, she’s a lesbian and she’s no newcomer to the rock world. Sarah Bettens first earned notoriety as the lead singer of K’s Choice, which has earned Gold and Platinum records in continental Europe and whose international radio hits include “Not An Addict,” “Believe” and “Almost Happy.” The international alt-rock star is breaking new ground with her latest CD, Never Say Goodbye. And she’s in Salt Lake, so don’t miss her! 8pm, The State Room, 638 S. State St. Tickets $15/ adv–18/day of show, 800-501-2885 or thestateroomslc.com.

you!”. Instead choreographers Ashley Anderson, Erin Kaser-Romero and Hillary Van Moorleghem will deliver some beautiful dance movement. 8pm, through Saturday, Sugar Space, 616 Wilmington Ave. Tickets $10, 888-300-7898 or thesugarspace.com.

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saturday — This event is a collaboration featuring internationally renowned Parsons Dance and the lead vocalists of the Grammy nominated rock opera group, East Village Opera Company. Remember Me combines contemporary dance, live and recorded rock music in a multimedia design including enriched digital lighting, special effects and projections. 7:30pm, Eccles Center, 1750 Kearns Blvd., Park City. Tickets $18–65, 435-655-3114 or ecclescenter.org.

QQ Spy Hop Records is holding a signing show to celebrate three young, local artists. The event will be highlighted with 30-minute performances from some of Salt Lake’s finest upcoming new musical artists: passionate singer/songwriter Eliza Shearon, the soulful, emotionally raw Joel Brown, and the bold sound of The Direction. 6–8pm, Nobrow Coffee & Tea, 315 E. 300 South. Free, call 801-532-7500 for more information.

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save the date March 7 UAF’s Oscar Night America ­ utahaids.org March 13 Salt Lake Men’s Choir and Sister Dottie S. Dixon ­ saltlakemenschoir.org March 20 sWerve’s St. Patty’s Day Party ­ swerveutah.com March 31–April 4 Dinah Shore Week in Palm Springs ­ dinahshoreweekend.com April 9-12 Palm Springs White Party ­ jeffreysanker.com April 10 Queer Prom ­ utahpridecenter.org April 16 Day of Silence ­ dayofsilence.org May 8 HRC Utah Gala ­ utah.hrc.org June 4–6 Utah Pride ­ utahpride.org August 7–8 Park City Arts Festival ­ kimballartcenter.org August 22 Utah Pride Center Golf Classic ­ utahpridecenter.org September 18 sWerve’s Oktoberfest ­ swerveutah.com September 28 Equality Utah Allies Dinner ­ equalityutah.org October 9 National Coming Out Day ­ utahpridecenter.org

Book Review Perfect: The Journey of a Gay Mormon By Joseph Dallin Review by Tony Hobday

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Dallin pens approximately 15 years of his emotional tug of war between his self preservation and the strong-arm, dogmatic teachings of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the autobiography Perfect, The Journey of a Gay Mormon. Dallin writes with both his mind and his heart, the soldiers of his 15-year turmoil, so the book itself is like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, a metaphor I believe Dallin wants to illustrate. For those people who are not part of an organized religion or do not regularly practice much spiritualJoseph Dallin ity (or are plainly strong-willed), Perfect, at times, may be a little hard to swallow. Dallin’s struggles will seem whiny and self-indulgent — from the first page — constantly turning to “God” to bring death upon him. oseph

Dear God, I know you want me dead ... please let me die! Let me die tonight! Right now! But not to undermine — it’s all too common for most teenagers and young adults, whether religious or not, to wish for death over life at some point in their growth, it’s painful, but natural. Dallin doesn’t set out to demonize the Mormon Church, he simply relays what he witnessed, experienced and deeply felt from the time he realized he was gay at 13, to his prophetic mission, to coming out at 23 and how he lives his life today. Throughout, there are a number of thought-provoking moments of Dallin’s journey that bear questions into the sanctity of religion, particularly Mormonism. What motivated Dallin to ‘come out’ to the church before his parents? Is it really possible that Dallin and his mother heard such profoundly similar messages from “God” (or, for the questioning, experienced such similar epiphanies)? As with an alarming number of gay Mormons, Dallin eventually turned to believe that the only ‘cure’ for his homo-

to Dallin on more than one ocassion, yet he felt compelled (or, perhaps fearful) to stay in servitude for over 15 years. This only strengthens my disenchantment with religion, particularly Mormonism. But that’s not to say that Dallin’s struggle shouldn’t be shared; his “journey” has been necessary to his preservation, Their silence shattered the space in and with any hope, also to countless oththe room. It would echo for days, ers of all types of faith. months, even years in a hollow place Perfect is, first and foremost, a step for in my heart. Dallin in self-healing, a reconciliation I could not help but be reminded of, to his being an “apostate” to the church and disgusted by, the same mindset of — it’s a wonderful read; a modest, yet Stuart Matis’ parents (as shown in the moving prose. Dallin’s message to the film 8: The Mormon Proposition) when world, I believe, is that perfection is not they said (not verbatim) that “finally the an absolute determined by any and all family has found a little peace” by their outside influences; perfection is an abson’s suicide. solute only when reached through our The Mormon Church believes it is own personal sense of peace. I, for one, the “true church,” “God’s mouthpiece,” think that that’s a hell of a lot more oband the irony found in that belief came tainable. Q sexuality was suicide. And with infuriating indignation, that belief too exists in his parents, as well as so many other Mormon parents with gay children. Dallin’s parents fell silent when their son asked, “Would you rather I had just committed suicide?”

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queens on Drag Race are dropping their polite demeanors and getting ruthless. Talk about a fun set of competitions! My season of queens would have loved the chance to work Hollywood Boulevard. I asked this week’s eliminated girl, Nicole Paige Brooks, what she thought of sashaying down one of L.A.’s main drags to sell cherry pie. “Luckily it was Hollywood, and not Arkansas,” Nicole told me. It turns out Nicole’s maternal instinct kicked in, because she spent time approaching families and warning them of the more outrageous girls farther down the street. That instinct is real, because Nicole has a 3-year-old son who she loves with all her life. “He doesn’t know what daddy does for work yet,” Nicole admitted. But I pointed out kids have a sense for things around them. Nicole told me her son did see her perform once, and later said he liked daddy’s feathers! One of the things I really liked about Nicole’s story on Drag Race was her connection to her Atlanta drag family, and in particular her drag mother, Shawnna. For many girls, coming under the wing of established drag performers who have formed a family — or home — is an important step in the development of their artistry. I wanted to know what Nicole thinks are the advantages and disadvantages of being part of a house. “I don’t like so many people with the same last name,” she confided. “At the same time it creates a legacy.” Overall, she’s very honored to be a member of the House of Brooks. “Shawnna has instilled in me this is a business,” Nicole said, “A lot of people don’t have people around to tell them that.” This is why Nicole was stunned when her picture of Shawnna went missing. “It never turned up,” Nicole told me. “I don’t know if it was taken to push my buttons.” I was glad to hear Nicole was fine being one of the last picks for the burlesque exercise. “I’m just not a dancer to start with, girl,” she said. “I kept saying that ... and then I had to swing around this pole.” I commended Nicole for sticking by who she is, and also for her take on the final lip-sync with Raven. “I’m not going to pull my titty out to win,” Nicole said, referring to Raven’s attention-grabbing move. “I didn’t fall apart on stage in order to stay.” Now that she can see what the other girls were saying about her, Nicole noted Raven wasn’t that critical of her in person. “To each their own,” Nicole told me. Instead of being upset, Nicole said she was relieved when she was eliminated, because it meant she would be seeing her son very soon. “It was kind of ridiculous how excited I got to go home,” she said. I love that kind of personal perspective! Catch RuPaul’s Drag Race, 9 p.m. (ET/PT) every Monday night on Logo (DISH Network channel 373) and visit LOGOonline.com to find out about viewing parties in your area.

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hear me out By Chris Azzopardi

Sade, Soldier of Love Sade doesn’t come around very often, so to think she’d completely finagle her first album in a decade around the edgy martial beat of its namesake single was wishful thinking. The song’s _that_ good – twisting the band’s trademark sound into a pulsating survivor tune that’s ominously ablaze with aggressive drums and electric guitar thrashing. It seemed eager to reestablish the calming British-Nigerian songstress as more than a bath-time brand. But nope – she’s still the Smooth Operator, whipping up winddown rhythms suited for meditation, like on the lulling “Long Hard Road” and the album’s quiet closer. That sophisticated voice of hers still sounds a lot like honeyed tea tastes, taking

its sweet ol’ time as it drifts over the sensual “Be That Easy” – and its quasi-country lining (for real!) – and the reggae-feel of “Babyfather,” which could ostensibly be a celebration of fatherhood, or an ode to the other kind of “daddy.” She’s mostly impermeable to new-millennium trends that ruled in her absence (though couldn’t you see M.I.A. doing a bang-up job on the lead single?), quenching antsy ears who’ve waited so long just to have their heartache calmed, their strength restored – or a few new reasons for some sexy time. If music this stellar requires a wait-period of 10 years, then Sade, see ya in another decade. Grade: B+

Valentine’s Day To complement its bloated-withbig-names flick, the accompanying soundtrack squeezes in as many genres as the movie does Hollywood elite – indie darlings, neo-soul stars, worldly beats and Taylor Swift. If all of it feels gimmicky, it is. Even Swift, who gets two songs here

(because she’s better than everyone else), helps capitalize on her own über-success with “Today was a Fairy Tale,” a whimsical pop-country song that sounds like she tossed her latest behemoth of an album in a blender, drank it and then threw it up all over our ears. Among the other universal-pandering inclusions: sex crooner Robin Thicke on Leighton Meester’s dance-y “Somebody to Love,” a crap Amy Winehouse-doing-Sam Cooke cover and a Bollywood-seasoned “Signed, Sealed, Delivered I’m Yours.” Maroon 5 parts their sig-pop sound to gracefully record the Fred Astaire standard “The Way You Look Tonight.” The Bird and the Bee contribute an adorable, whistle-happy “I’m into Something Good” in their token folk-pop tone. Even a new Jewel song, as vanilla and sweetly saccharine as it is, strikes a melodic richness in its catchy chorus that the folkie hasn’t in quite some time. Still, the soundtrack is too scattershot, too reliant on quantity over quality. There’s a lot of love, but not much to love. Grade: C Reach Chris Azzopardi at chris@pridesource.com.

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was able to dine at Forage, which is located in the Liberty Park area on 900 South. This restaurant is the brainchild of two chefs who are truly artists following their dream: Bowman Brown and Viet Pham were fellow chefs at a restaurant in Arizona where they both hated their boss and decided to do their own thing. The concept behind Forage literally comes from the ancient human endeavor of foraging for any type of edible substance. It is in our genetic makeup to eat a huge variety of foods and to eat foods available each season. If I’m not mistaken, this is the mantra of the boys who run this restaurant. Bowman and Viet are charming, kind and, of course, extremely intelligent and quite intellectual about food. I love talking to them because all our eyes light up when we discuss chefly topics — and because they have unique ideas. They have taken an old bungalow at 370 E. 900 South in Salt Lake City and have completely turned it into a contemporary temple to cuisine. The walls are stark white with a few open beams in the remodeled ceiling and tasteful modern art hangs on the walls. Here and there, however, there is just a hint of fluff in the pleated lampshades which be-sconce the walls. The dining room is also inviting with very traditional white linens and settings. The owners had offered me their “Chef’s

Table� for the night. Let me tell you about it: To begin with, the server brought me a tiny cube of mushroom croquette. I knew instantly how it was made because I do the same when I make Belgian shrimp croquettes. This is a sort of mushroom sauce, set in gelatin and rolled in crumbs or batter and then fried. The gelatin turns back into a sauce and this is how the shape is formed. As a chef I was impressed, but I’m not sure the general public would understand the work involved in such a tiny offering. Recently, Karen at the Metropolitan also served me a miniscule “amusebouche� of similar size at the beginning of the meal. This must be a trend somewhere, where I have not yet been! (It was nevertheless delicious.) I brought along a wine new to the state of Utah: Pierre Grisley’s sparkling Vinho Verde from Portugal. It was bubbly and full of lime zest, peach and Limonade. I just loved it as an appetizer wine, and it paired so well with the first several plates brought to me. Next came the Forage Egg. This dish is the boys’ version of oeuf-a-la-cocque. Beautifully presented in a French egg cup, the perfectly opened shell contained layers of soft, scrambled egg, sherry vinaigrette and maple syrup. I loved the concept, but I have to say I could have done without the maple syrup; to me it did not particularly enhance the other flavors. Almost as an accompaniment to the egg, on a separate plate, I was served a New Orleans-style beignet with squash in it. This was tasty and very unique, and I would have liked to eat about 10 of them. The chefs also create beautiful homemade breads with sourdough starters they’ve produced themselves — and get this, they churn their own butter from Central Utah cream. It is as delicious as their breads. Course number five was a beautiful

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ocean trout — what I would call tartar. The dessert courses began with a small But Bowman explained to me that he actu- scoop of Elderflower sorbet with shreds of ally cures the fish briefly in a sort of brine fennel, which I found to be a lot like coseveral hours before the service. The wait- conut, and the top was dusted with fennel ress also poured a drizzle of green apple flower dust. Next came a poppy seed and juice laced with cedar water over it. This Meyer lemon/white chocolate mousse. ceviche-style tartar came with one lonely This plate was garnished with dried citcracker — a beautifully made cracker, rus fruits, mango and blood orange — just yes, but I’d have liked more with the fish. gorgeous flavors! I really loved the final I guess I could have asked for more. dessert which was green apple made three The next seafood, course number six, ways: a scoop of sorbet, a baked piece of was a small portion of thinly sliced aba- apple and a poached piece of apple. The lone. It was chewy and clam-like and was server came with a small cruet and poured served on a spoonful of sunchoke mousse a warmed hazelnut soup/sauce over the which was rich and, to me, a bit like different small bites. The flavors here were mayo. remarkably comforting and reminiscent By now, I had opened a very interesting of old fashioned apple pie. Oregon Pinot Noir — whole-cluster crush I really loved going to Forage and interby Biggio Hamina. For a pinot, it was tan- viewing Bowman and Viet. They are true nic and acidic due to the stems which are artists and so meticulously focused on left in the fermentation process. To me, their art, I’m afraid, for their sakes that this wine was quite unusual — not unlike a they might be not listening to the dictates eucalyptus and camphoric d’Abruzzo from of common sense. I love Nouvelle Cuisine Italy or a Pinotage from South Africa. To too, and I know that food will never be the borrow a phrase from Robert Parker, this same because of that movement. However, wine was one, more to be admired in Utah, and from the point than enjoyed! of view of a hungry man, I The plates just kept coming. I have to suggest that Forage was served duck egg noodles with should, at least, offer three Forage slices of black truffle, kale and a heartily-portioned entrees 370 East 900 South really smoky house-made farmeach night. The chefs don’t Salt Lake City er’s cheese; a beautiful salad-like have to compromise their 801-708-7834 plate with tiny slices of Chioggia art here. They just need, foragerestaurant.com beets with regular red and goldfor the sake of most diners, DREW’S RATING: en beets, blanched onion, turnip to add a few items to their 90 and mitoki mushrooms which menu that are not “museare similar to enoki. Then, red um� food. I love what they snapper with creamy quinoa and do and I hope, with all due a slice of duck with a cinnamon/fig sauce respect, they take advice from another artsurrounded by brussel sprout leaves. Each ist, who in the past, has had to make many of these dishes was amazingly plated and compromises in order to survive. carefully executed with great detail. I was For art and dedication and for many, mesmerized by the amount of preparation many preparations so finely made, I’d like needed to put this all together. to give Forage a 95 rating. But until they The last wine I had opened was the very add some traditional, fully-loaded entrees nice but inexpensive “Flare,� which is a to their menu I’m giving them a 90.  Q sparkling, orange Muscat from Valencia, Chef Drew H. Ellsworth, M.A., C.E.C. is the wine Spain. It has a surprising rose petal nose manager at the Utah Wine Store and teaches and is, I think, one of the best value dessert cooking classes at Ecole Dijon Cooking School, wines there is. ecoledijoncookingschool.com. Altogether I was served 14 plates and the last three were desserts — here’s 12, 13, and 14:

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dining guide ACME Burger Salt Lake’s most imaginary burger joint, Sun. brunch. 275 S 200 West Salt Lake City 801-257-5700 Elevation Caffe Taking coffee and weenies to new heights 1337 S Main St Franck’s American food with a French twist 6263 S Holladay Blvd 801-274-6264

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Gay Games VIII Set for This Summer in Cologne, Germany by Brad Di Iorio

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Winter Olympics begin and conclude in Vancouver in the next couple of weeks, amateur and semi-professional gay and lesbian athletes are preparing to spend a week in Cologne, Germany, to compete and participate, July 31 through August 7, 2010, in Gay Games VIII. Registration for the Games and cultural events are available until May 31, 2010. Cultural events include the International Rainbow Memorial Run, a visual arts event and display, and choral and band festivals. At press time, 5,300 artists and athletes had registered for the Games and organizers are expecting 12,000 from more than 70 countries. “Every registered participant is an obligation for us to serve as fantastic hosts and create a lifetime of memories for our guests from all around the globe,” said Annette Wachter, co-president of organizing team, Games Cologne. The Opening Ceremonies will take place at the RheinEnergie Stadium, home of the Cologne Soccer Club. “Be part of it!” is the official slogan of Gay Games VIII Cologne, 2010, complementing the official founding principles of ‘Participation, Inclusion and Personal Best.’ Unique to the Gay Games is the inclusion of anyone that might want to compete at any skill level, as everyone is welcome with registration, to compete in one of the 35 sports that will be organized at this year’s events. Most Americans will be training for their specific events, in hopes of winning a gold, silver or bronze medal, but participation medals will also be in abundance. Regardless of ability, age, sexual orientation, race, gender, nationality, political or religious beliefs, ethnic origin, or HIV status, all are welcome, representing their cities or states, rather than countries. Matthew Mitcham, Australia’s Olympic gold medalist, has announced that he will be attending the Games, but will not be participating. Mitcham won the 2008 Men’s Platform Diving Olympic gold medal in Beijing, China, and openly hugged his boyfriend on camera during the telecast after he realized he had won the medal. “I’m excited to be part of something so important for our communities around the globe,” said Mitcham. “I will take time off from training and travel to Cologne, since I strongly feel we have to celebrate our own values and help others to accept that it is OK to be different.” A myriad of sporting events are included — synchronized swimming, beach volleyball, billiards, ice hockey, bowling, table tennis, chess, triathlon, softball and soccer — to name a few. It is not too late to start practicing for participation in a s the

sport. Organizers plan on 40 percent of the sporting events to be held at Cologne’s 135acre Mungersdorfer Sportspark, the site of German Sports University, with all other sports, except sailing, being held within 20 minutes of the center of Cologne. Nestled close to three other major German cities, Munich, Frankfort, or Düsseldorf, flights to Cologne are filling up for summer vacation travel, so airfare may be less expensive to other German cities, as well as Paris, Amsterdam and Berlin. Even with a worldwide recession, athletes and visitors to the Games, may find planning for accommodations and itineraries easier than expected if they consider train travel to supplement their air travel, as the European train system is used extensively. Cologne has a reputation for being the gay capital of Germany, celebrating the city’s annual ‘Karneval,’ rivaling New Orleans or Rio de Janeiro’s celebrations. Located on the Rhine River, Cologne has a rich historical background, settled by Germanic tribes and acknowledged as a Roman colony in 50 A.D. Though the city was widely destroyed during World War II, it has been rebuilt as a main European commercial, sports and cultural center, known for its tolerance and diversity. Today’s Cologne has an inexpensive, integral, public transport system to transport city folk as well as visitors. Held every four years since its inception in San Francisco in 1982, the Gay Games was conceived and created by Dr. Tom Waddell, an Olympic decathlete in the 1968 Olympics, who had made his home in San Francisco. Participation in the Gay Games has continually grown, spiking with 13,000 participants in 1998’s Amsterdam Gay Games. The first Gay Games, held at an aging track and field arena, Kezar Stadium, near Haight-Ashbury’s entrance to San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park, garnered 1,350 participants from 12 countries, participating in 17 different sports, all on one Saturday. The next Gay Games in 1986, held in the same stadium, garnered 3,482 participants, and after Waddell’s death to AIDS the following year, the current organization — the Federation of Gay Games — was formed to organize and grow the event for expansive, worldwide participation. The last Gay Games held in 2006 in Chicago, had 11,700 participants. Other cities that have hosted the Gay Games include Vancouver, 1990, New York, 1994, Amsterdam, 1998 and Sydney, 2002. The International Federation of Gay Games has awarded 34 gay and lesbian athletes from countries as diverse as South Africa, China, Chile, and The Philippines, scholarships to attend the Games in Cologne. The scholarships include travel,

Olympic gold medalist Matthew Mitcham has announced he will attend Gay Games VIII in Cologne, Germany.

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room and board, waived registration fees and special leadership and organizational development programs designed to help participants build local capacity for gay and lesbian sports and cultural programs. The FGG’s Scholarship Fund works in cooperation with the host city scholarship program. Games Cologne is separately funding 200 participants from Eastern Europe. Contributions can be made online at gaygames.com/en/donate/. Team Utah Locally, Team Utah is now forming to organize local and statewide athletes, and to fundraise to help Utah athletes get to Cologne, Germany, as well as to outfit the team with a unique, Utah flair. Anyone who will be participating in Gay Games VIII and would like to participate with Team Utah can contact Lisa le Duc, at ­lisaleduclmt@comcast.net, or QSaltLake.

Meetings will be held every two weeks, planning for needed equipment, athlete help, team marketing, fundraising events and sponsorship inquiries. Currently, QUAC swim and water polo team members, and Team Harwood, Utah’s gay basketball team, are planning to attend Gay Games VIII. Registration for the Gay Games can be completed at games-cologne.com or gaygames.net. Registration is in euros and each sport has a different cost. Registration includes confirmation of the athlete’s participation in the sport they signed up for, a ticket to the opening and closing ceremonies, a public transit pass, a participation medal and a welcome to Gay Games. Registration can be done online or by mail and hard copy registration forms are available at ­QSaltLake, 801-649-6663, ext. 111.  Q

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We’re all familiar with the more annoying practices of evangelism such as people who bike to our front doors or folks who hand out tracts after a ball game. But telling others about our beliefs is something that we don’t do enough of in the gay community. We might assume that people don’t want to hear about gay rights or that they will attack us if we try to bring up who we are and what we’re fighting for. Despite these fears, it’s absolutely essential that we reach out to others. We’re at a critical point in our fight for equality and we need all the soldiers we can get for the war on gay rights. Gay advocates should take a cue from evangelicals because they’ve gotten the art of presenting their case down to a science, especially when it comes to converting others. The National Organization for Marriage website provides “Marriage Talking Points” that outline the best ways to talk about the dangers of same-sex marriage. These talking points are researched, they’re thorough and they are absolutely frightening ... because they work. At the Creating Change Conference in Dallas this past weekend, I was fortunate to sit in on a session hosted by the Williams Institute that taught activists how to neutralize gay-rights opponents with factual evidence and current statistics. The know-how to confidently and thoughtfully debate gay issues might allow us to win a few over to our side, but there are some things to keep in mind before trying to convert gay non-believers.

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Have you ever been writhing in rage when you hear the typical anti-gay propaganda? It’s easy to get angry when others espouse backwards or downright hurtful views on gay issues. But reacting in anger will always give away your power and make what you’re saying less effective. We’re fighting for our right to love one another without facing discrimination. Make your cause about our love and not their hate.

5. Give it time and follow up

If you’ve told a family member, co-worker or friend about gay rights issues, they may seem unreceptive in the beginning. But many of us have known onceopponents who, given some time to mull things over, might reconsider their stance. Even if you’re faced with someone who outright rejects you and your beliefs, be persistent and follow up with them regarding questions and arguments. Winning people over isn’t a race. The more you talk to someone the more comfortable they will feel with what you’re saying. Above all, we must be fearless and confident when it comes to telling others about our cause. As the saying goes, “There’s no zealot like a convert,” and if we’re able to change even one mind we might find a remarkable ally in the cause.

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62 With 65-Across, AfterElton. com’s Gay Man of the Decade 65 See 62-Across 67 ___ Menace (Radicalesbian phrase) 68 Nocturnal reptile of Tennessee 69 Try ___ for size 70 Bowie collaborator 71 One of the balls in your head 72 Tickle pink 73 Stimpy’s pal Down   1 My Own Private ___   2 What Ted Allen likes to do to food and wine   3 “___ having fun yet?”   4 Red-coated cheese   5 In the nude for love, perhaps   6 War Requiem composer Benjamin   7 Kind of power   8 Former American Idol judge Paula   9 Tied up at the marina 10 War zone, in brief 11 Gets behind 12 Still competitive 13 Ogled a hottie in a bar, e.g. 18 Salsa rating 21 Guy that goes either way?

25 Barrymore of Boys on the Side 27 Summer along the Seine 28 Grant in the cinematic field 30 Poet Gidlow 31 They were under Hoover 32 Put into piles 33 Prefix with potent 34 Elton’s johns 35 Kett of the comics 37 Author/illustrator Silverstein 40 All that’s seen of the Wizard of Oz, at first 42 Verse on a vase 45 Broadway opening? 46 The Mary Tyler Moore Show spinoff 47 Examine by touching 50 Like a real bitch 52 Change color 54 The Gay Caballero star Romero 56 Dykes on Bikes member, e.g. 57 Public spectacle 58 “Rubber Capital of the World” 59 Bit of chocolate 60 Web site unit 61 Answer with a 50-50 chance 63 Bard’s river 64 Keep an eye on 66 Genre for Eminem answers on p. 47

Cryptogram

A cryptogram is a puzzle where one letter in the puzzle is substituted with another. For example: ECOLVGNCYXW YCR EQYIIRZNBZN YZU PSZ! Has the solution: CRYPTOGRAMS ARE CHALLENGING AND FUN! In the above example Es are all replaced by Cs. The puzzle is solved by recognizing letter patterns in words and successively substituting letters until the solution is reached.

This week’s hint: K = U  Theme: Writer David Zirin said of New Orleans Saints linebacker Scott Fujita’s support of gay rights.

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As the Sun aligns with Jupiter in Pisces, spiritual/psychological insights abound, and intuitive flashes can bring excellent luck. In Aquarius, Mercury is aligning with Neptune and Chiron, bringing some of those lucky hunches into stronger clarity.

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GEMINI (May 21- June 20) Grasp any chance you have to move up in the world or to settle any problem with any authority figure. New ideas may seem totally illogical, but could help you spot your chances. At least give them fair consideration.

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CANCER (June 21- July 22) Greet every new idea as an adventure. Welcome any argument as an opportunity to learn, and approach everything with a wide-open mind. You could have a dazzling epiphany. Will it change or support your deepest-held beliefs? Perhaps it’ll do both!

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VIRGO (August 23 – September 22) You can get what you want in your partnership. Open up and tell your darling exactly what you want, and offer to give as much as you get. It may take considerable work, but that’s never stopped you!

AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18) You can expect some financial good luck. Go ahead and buy a few lottery tickets. Money is likely to show up where you least expect it. Debt may also, but this is a good chance to clear up any problems there.

PISCES (February 19 – March 19) That lucky break you’ve been waiting for is on its way! Wealth? Advancement? It may come as a meditative insight, but that will be a lot better than it sounds and could lead to more material opportunity.

Jack Fertig, a professional astrologer since 1977, is available for personal and business consultations in person in San Francisco, or online everywhere. He can be reached at 415-864-8302, through his Web site at starjack.com, and by e-mail at QScopes@ qsyndicate.com.

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SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21) Host a spontaneous party with some of your more creative friends, but keep the booze and drugs minimal or you’ll have one hell of a mess to clean up. A community art project (a mural? a show?) could be a great focus.

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world of most serious exercisers is inexorably intertwined with fitness and an intense commitment to maximizing their physicality, the simple fact remains that many individuals appear to have only a minimal appreciation or understanding of what constitutes sound aerobic fitness. For many people, aerobic fitness is often perceived to be something associated with that strange group of isolationists who spend countless hours pounding the highways and roadways in search of the elusive “runner’s high.” Regrettably, such individuals tend to discount the possibility that aerobic exercise is something on which they should spend a substantial amount of time and energy. Unfortunately, they are mistaken. Aerobic fitness is an important (most physicians would state categorically that it is the most important) component of physical fitness. When your muscles need oxygen, your aerobic (cardiovascular) system must be able to efficiently deliver it to them. When your body has waste products that need to be expelled (e.g. carbon dioxide and metabolic waste products), your heart-lung complex must be up to the task. These two tasks form the functional basis of aerobic fitness. Aerobic exercise has another possible

function, which is of substantial interest to almost every individual who spends time working out. That is, it burns body fat. Engaging in aerobic exercise can burn up to one thousand calories an hour depending on the specific type and intensity of activity. As a result, individuals who want to reduce their level of body fat sensibly, instead of starving the weight off, have a positive, user-friendly option at their disposal. The potential health implications of adhering to sound nutritional principles and practices, instead of primitive starvation techniques, are extensive and the results are proven to be long term. The value and impact of aerobic fitness to the exercise enthusiast extends beyond the boundaries of the workout room. At the very least, engaging in aerobic exercise can increase your life span. Research indicates that for every hour you spend exercising aerobically, you extend your life two hours. In anyone’s value system, that’s an extremely good return on your investment. Aerobic exercise also can improve the quality of your life, as well as the quantity of your life. Aerobic exercise increases your level of available energy. The old adage “Add life to your years, as well as years to life, by exercise” has considerable merit. A properly designed aerobic exercise program will

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give you more energy to do the activities you enjoy. Aerobic exercise aids in relieving depression. In her book Mental Skills for Physical People, Dr. Dorothy V. Harris concluded that “exercise is nature’s best tranquilizer.” Researchers have found, for example, that individuals suffering from moderate to light depression who engage in aerobic exercise 15 to 30 minutes at least every other day typically experience a dramatic improvement in their condition. Aerobic exercise aids in preventing certain types of cancer. Studies have found that men and women who exercise are less likely to get colon cancer. Research has also suggested that women who do not exercise have more than two and one-half times the risk of developing cancer of the reproductive system and almost twice the chance of getting breast cancer. Aerobic exercise enhances self-image. Research has documented the assertion that individuals who exercise regularly feel better about themselves than sedentary individuals. Aerobic exercise relieves stress and anxiety. Exercise dissipates those hormones and other chemicals that build up during periods of high stress. Exercise also generates a period of substantial emotional and physical relaxation that sets in approximately an hour and a half after an intense workout. Aerobic exercise reduces the risk of heart disease. Experts have found that non-exercisers have twice the risk of developing heart disease than individuals who exercise aerobically on a regular basis. Aerobic exercise can “slow” the aging process. By counterbalancing the age-related decrease in work capacity and physical performance, aerobic exercise can help you maintain and sustain your ability to

perform work and to be independent. Aerobic exercise increases the good (HDL) cholesterol. Exercise is one of the few voluntary activities that is effective in raising your level of HDL, the type of cholesterol that lowers your risk of heart disease. Aerobic exercise improves the quality of sleep. Researchers have found that exercisers go to sleep more quickly, sleep more soundly and are more refreshed than individuals who do not exercise. Aerobic exercise improves mental sharpness. Numerous studies have shown that individuals who exercise regularly have better memories, better reaction times and a better level of concentration than non-exercisers. As an exercise enthusiast myself, as well as the personal trainer for another, there are certain rules to which I strictly adhere in your quest to “be the best you can be.” If you want to be aerobically fit, and you should, you need to learn the “rules” for developing aerobic fitness and implement them as an integral part of your regular conditioning routine. Similar to any of the critical tasks in your life, you need to undertake the same systematic, ordered approach to ensuring that your heart-lung complex is in optimal shape. Quite simply, your health demands it, and your body deserves it. Be smart, heart smart! And remember: “Without good health, nothing else matters.”  Q

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HIV and TB, Two Serious Threats by Lynn Beltran

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HIV rates ever, a person with latent TB may progress are on the rise in Salt Lake to active TB at any time. Latent TB cases County and in many areas of are identified through a skin test often rethe United States. Some of the ferred to as a “ppd.” When people show a good news, of course, is that antiretrovirals positive skin test, the health department have been incredibly effective in treating offers them a prophylactic treatment with HIV-positive patients, with the result that the goal of preventing them from developpublic health officials now consider HIV ing active TB. Scarily, anywhere from 1,000 to be a chronic disease that requires ongo- to 1,500 new cases of latent TB are identiing medical management. However, when fied each year in Salt Lake County. patients are co-infected with HIV and tuThe Centers for Disease Control and berculosis, managing HIV becomes much Prevention estimate that 10 percent of unmore difficult and may result in a negative treated latent TB cases will become active outcome. It is critical that all HIV-positive TB — however, this rate is much higher in individuals understand the severity of hav- HIV-positive patients. Debbie Dean, Infecing co-infection with TB and take steps to tious Disease Bureau Director at the Salt protect themselves. Tuberculosis is known to infect up to three million people worldwide, and most infected people found in developing countries. Although TB is less common in the United States, it does exist, even here in Salt Lake. The Salt Lake Valley Health Department estimates that approximately 20 new cases of active TB are identified each year, some Lake Valley Health Department recently of which require hospitalization. Of equal put it this way: “It is just a matter of time importance are the people walking around before a person with HIV and untreated with latent TB, particularly those individ- latent TB progresses to active TB disease. uals who are also HIV positive. These cases are much more difficult to When speaking of tuberculosis, it is treat.” Active TB is considered to be an important to recognize the difference be- AIDS-defining illness for an HIV-positive tween active and latent disease. Active TB patient, and unfortunately may shorten means the person infected by the bacteria the life span of the patient. Thankfully, there are some steps that that causes TB is feeling sick and showing symptoms. In this stage, a person can HIV-positive patients can take to protect transmit TB to others. Although the bacte- themselves. Your HIV care provider should ria may affect any area of the body, most routinely perform a tuberculin skin test on active TB patients develop a pulmonary you. If he or she does not, please ask! If you infection — meaning the bacteria attacks are identified to have a positive skin test, their lung tissue. The majority of active TB this likely means that you have latent TB. cases are treatable with a very long course If you have the latent form, it is strongly of antibiotic therapy and significant medi- recommended that you participate in procal intervention, and some cases require phylactic treatment. This drug regimen is hospitalization. Many active TB patients offered by the health department and conwill respond positively to antibiotic thera- sists of a daily drug therapy that may last py, although some infections have resisted between three and six months. In most casour current line of antibiotics. Active TB es, this treatment is offered free of charge. may result in premature death, particu- Although the thought of taking another pill larly in the cases of TB strains that don’t every day for six months may not be the respond to antibiotic therapy. Because of news you hoped for, it may be the pill that these risks and how strenuous treatment prevents you from hospitalization and secan be, it’s also important for active TB rious illness, and may well be the pill that patients take precautions to prevent trans- saves your life. Best of all, this one is temporary! It is worth it. mitting the disease to others. Latent TB means that you have been exIf you have any questions about TB infection, posed to and carry the bacteria that cause please call the Salt Lake Valley Health Departthe disease, but you are not currently showment, Bureau of Infectious Diseases at 801-534ing symptoms. If you have the latent form, 4600. you won’t transmit TB to others — howFebrua r y 18 , 2010  |  issue 1 48  |  QSa lt L a k e  |  45 e already know that

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The Climacteric Diagnosis: Single at 40 By A.E. Storm

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’ve had only one long-term relationship since my coming out, voyeuristic escapade in Memory Grove — and no it was not with “my first,” Daniel, with whom I’m still in love, though I haven’t seen him since that surreal night, or even know if he’s still living. The two of us did experience a couple more sexually-charged outings in dense wooded areas, as well as one in my Audi, parked late-night in a vacant parking structure. However, we both happened to fall asleep naked in the back seat, wrapped in each other’s arms. Early the next morning a security guard found us; he was so taken aback by our appearance that he quickly ordered us to leave the premises and scurried back to the safety of his ticket booth. Our occasional rendezvous quickly turned sour as I usually fretted over having gay sex, after the fact. Daniel finally said to me, “Tommy, I’ve had it with your constant whining, you need to come to terms with your sexuality on your own, I can’t help you do it.” Daniel was always a bit blunt and harsh, but lord he was good in the sack ... and under the bare night sky. A few years later, after many, many oat-sowing nights, I met Geoff, my threeyear long-term relationship. I was 26 and he was 24. We had met at the Sun Tavern — just another oat-sowing night I thought at the time. But, like the speed of lesbianism, we were living together two months later. We were the quintessential gay couple: living in a quaint, two-bedroom home on a quiet suburban street, with a wellmanicured lawn and virulent garden;

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our baby was a terrier mix named Joey; and we hosted weekly dinner parties with other couples. At the time it seemed what we both wanted in our relationship and in our life; we were the best of friends, as well as lovers. So much so that I finally found the courage to ask Geoff to marry me ... well, to “commit” to me (to be legally and deprecatingly correct). He said yes, but soon after went all hetereo on me and slept with his friend Jill ... in our bed! He begged forgiveness, but instead I retaliated by sleeping with another man. Our relationship, our perfect gay life together, was over, though we continued it on eggshells and bitterness for a few more months. We parted on fairly good terms; he stayed in the house with Joey — she was his to begin with — and I took most of the furniture. We’ve remained close friends over the last 10 years, getting together once or twice a week. His boyfriend of eight years, Gregory, and I have also become close. At first I was obviously jealous of someone ... anyone taking my place in Geoff’s heart. But now the jealously surges over them being a couple and me being a single man. During the last 10 years, since our break up, I’ve had fleeting relationships: David, an old high school classmate, who, during that time, used to call me a fag as he knocked schoolbooks out from under my arm; Darryl, a very acrobatic one-night stand — I gave him my number, but as it goes ...; Alfonso, a hot Latin guy who liked to “party” every night, and eventually stopped being hot; Carlton, a fairly

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nice guy, but who had low self esteem — I ended up liking more hanging out with his fag hag. Now, having turned 40 years old, I’ve been reflecting on my personal life quite more often than in the past. I wonder how, especially in these more accepting times, I’m still single. I realize that I haven’t really pursued finding a relationship, I rarely find myself even trying to get a date — I don’t use Internet dating services nor do I have any desire to, and I remember simply brushing off any signs of attraction or flirtation bestowed upon me. I don’t even want one-night stands anymore! I haven’t given up on the notion of another long-term relationship with another man — maybe even with one I don’t necessarily love with all my being (I mean, who wants to be alone to the end?). But the desire to search out a mate has

disappeared, or is maybe in limbo. Am I single at 40 because my parents still haven’t truly accepted me — once ordering me never to invite any of my “friends” to their house on the holidays and such. Was that enough of a slap in the face to figure I need to stay single? Am I single at 40 because my one true relationship ended because of heterosexual infidelity? Was that enough of a slap in the face for me to slip back into the impotent sexuality that Daniel once accused me of feeling? Having just turned 40 years old, I’ve looked back on my 30s, the time I believed my personal life was all but over, so why bother doing more than sleep around. And now in my 40s, I feel I have one foot so far into the grave that no one notices me. Do other single gay men over 40 share similar thoughts? Or am I just pissing in the pot because it’s easier? Q

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