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ATTITUDE for LIFE
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Happiness is a function of positive winning attitude
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PLAY your ATTITUDE
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ATTITUDE – Quotes
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Charles Swindoll wrote: The longer I live, the more I realise the impact of attitude on life. It is more important than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than whatever anyone might say or do. It is more important than appearances, giftedness or skill. The remarkable thing is that we have the choice to create the attitude we have for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the way people act. We cannot change the inevitable. The one thing we can change is the only thing we have control over, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what actually happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Time to introspect. ATTITUDE MATTERS. whY not! Cheers, Rajiv Khurana Editor rajiv@rajivkhurana.com 9810211256
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ATTITUDE for LIFE ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE POWERFUL
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We are more important than any label. We are not our professions. What we are is far greater, far superior, far more important, and far more mysterious than our conceptual mind tries to define. This is why we are far more powerful than we think we are.
TOLERATE TRIVIALITIES
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Stop fussing over trivial matters and start focusing on what’s really important to you. Don’t go through life expecting things to change. Life becomes hard and unfair when we decide to complain about things rather than trying to change them ourselves.
TAKE CHARGE
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We all have problems, and we’re often tested by circumstances outside of our control. Even though you may not be in control of what’s going on outside of you, you most definitely can control your reaction to those situations.
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INVEST IN SELF
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Nobody knows you better than you do. Stop identifying with other people’s opinions and become aware of how you see yourself. Always believe that you can achieve anything you put your mind to. God has not made another copy after making you. Thrive! Strive!
TRUST, YOU HAVE ENOUGH
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If you focus on what you have, and not on what you lack, you will always have enough, because you will always be enough. Endless comparisons can drive you crazy. You are much better off than most of the people. Be grateful. Wear your attitude of gratitude.
UNDERSTAND AND ENHANCE THE LOVE FOR YOURSELF You have arrived. Everything you need is right here. Cut out the distractions, open your eyes, and see that you already have everything in your possession to be happy, loved, and fulfilled. Be yourself. Love yourself completely and accept everything that you are. You are beautiful. Believe it, and most importantly, remind yourself often.
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DISPLAY CONTROL OVER YOUR EMOTIONS We get uptight with other peoples’ actions, and in the end we punish ourselves for their bad behaviour, e.g., when someone breaks traffic rules in front of us. We end up losing control over our own actions because of the way other people act. But we are responsible for our own action, regardless of how rude other people may act. If it’s hard to stay cool, remember: you are the one who loses in the end, if you lose the lesson.
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Be content with where you are today and don’t make the mistake of putting off being happy because you are waiting for the right moment to shine. Sometimes it takes a conscious effort to enjoy the journey.
Not everyone woke up this morning and not everyone will go to bed tonight. Life has no guarantees. Every minute you are living is a blessing that has to be experienced in the moment. It’s not always easy, but it’s always an option—a choice. Your choice.
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ENJOY THE JOURNEY
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Happiness is a function of positive Attitude is about your state of winning mind. Attitude is governed by the objects that we encounter in our attitude daily life. Winning is an attitude. How winners learn and manage their attitude? Winners recognise the difference between a dream and reality; they exhibit a healthy balance between creating a plan and acting on it; they base decisions on priorities. Winners take planned actions; they break major undertakings into small, digestible bites; they view obstacles as challenges that can be successfully navigated; they view every small win as a stepping-stone to something bigger and better, and they are humbled by every win, knowing that one win doesn’t constitute a winning streak.
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Rakesh Seth is Chief HR Mentor of REEOCSYYS and Ex-Sr. Group Vice President - HR of Lloyds.
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In the current turbulent environment, they know that everything is subject to change except their core values and principles. Winners take pride in what they do and are passionate about life, they know that a reputation is earned and must be carefully nurtured; winners take pride in learning something new every day; they surround themselves with the best and brightest people and foster win-win relationships with them; winners know the importance of celebrating small wins during the marathon of life, and they befriend special people who provide encouragement and with whom they can share success along the way. Winners aren’t always the smartest. They don’t always have the greatest experience. They aren’t always the best at what they do. But you can be sure that they’re acquainted with failure, but not deterred by it. Overall, they are absolutely unwilling to accept failure as an option. They’re passionate. They are hardworking. They are trustworthy. They are focused. And, they are committed. Winners are on a mission! Nothing is going to stand in their way. You can see success in their eyes. They can feel it in their bones. They exert a rare sense of optimism that’s contagious.
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To conclude for achieving happiness, better health, stronger relationships, and continued success, you may not have to look any further than the mirror. The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. In fact, true happiness may depend on how you view the world and who you look to for inspiration. It pays to be positive.
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Nothing Serious
PLAY Your ATTITUDE
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I don’t know who said it but he said it right, “It’s your attitude, not your aptitude that defines your altitude.” You do not have to be a page 3 or page 6 person to show your attitude. It’s always there and eager to come out at the slightest opportunity. Check the dictionary and it would suggest that “attitude is way of regarding things; disposition or reaction (to person or thing) or posture of body.” The meaning does not recommend right attitude or wrong attitude. Attitude is attitude. Even if you do not like wearing a designer dress made out of a handkerchief size fabric, even if you do not like posing for pictures in wine or cigar tasting parties, you still can show a lot of attitude at the various altitudes of corporate hierarchy. What is needed is just a bit of aptitude that can be honed up with some efforts of practice. People with attitude get noticed easily. They attract attention. Who does not like attention? The old frail bodies in our parliament jump towards the well faster than the 100 meters sprinter. The attitude they show gets the right attention all the time. You have to be careful in playing the game properly. Your PLAY gives you instant gratification. People Look At You [PLAY] when you show your attitude. Here are some practical suggestions. All these are non-related. Follow them in any sequence. Or create your own. The secret lies in practice.
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Ignore people. Walk into the committee room and take your seat with out wishing others or even smiling at them. Let people know that you are too engrossed in other priorities – mainly yourself. This is your silent e’lan of I-Me-Myself. After all, there are better things to do than engage yourself in the common rituals of common people.
PLAY practice 2: Talk loud. People will always listen to you if you talk loud. It’s a social pastime. Talk in heavy jargons. Talk in high fundaabbreviations. Drop heavy names. Declare the big time concepts you are working on. Make your itinerary open to public. Talk…Talk…and Talk about the constraints of successfully packaging 36 hours of work in 12 hours daily schedule. Using same accent will add great flavour and ornamentation. PLAY practice 3: Make people wait. Waiting is not new for Indians. Right from admission into the temple of knowledge to getting entry into the temple for prayers, we know we have to wait. The more you make people wait, the more their belief gets firmer that you are an extremely busy and important person. People have plenty of time anyway. You can’t waste something which otherwise is wasted. PLAY practice 4:
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Never return phone calls. Telephones are major business irritants. Cellphones have complicated the matter further. Life was so good before Graham Bell had his spiritual awakening of saying ‘Hello’. Keep yourself occupied in perpetual meetings – agenda or no agenda. Meetings are the best shields available to modern managers. You need not call back when urgent calls come. (Urgent matter would always find ways to land on your desk – telephone or no telephone.)
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Make people feel uncomfortable. Your body can do wonders. Look through the upper part of your lenses. Keep a still face and remain silent for some time. People will get foxed. They will keep wondering about the things you are wondering. Or try another way. Don’t look at them when they are talking. You can keep yourself busy by doodling with your pen and paper. Even if there are more people around you, you will remain the center of focus – both for the speaker and for others. Your attitude, of course, will declare – I don’t care.
PLAY practice 6: Intrude into the space of others. Everyone has a right to his space. Even you have. Keep expanding it. The offices of today are so small. Where else would you keep your briefcase or folder if not on the worktable of the person you are visiting? Feel free to use the telephone of the person to make personal calls during your talks. Short of discussing the recipes, you can even talk about anything at any length when you borrow the cellphone of the other person. No one minds if you use their official resources. Don’t hold back your inquisitive self when interesting literature is carelessly kept around by the person you are visiting.
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Jump the queue. A man in hurry waits for none. Opportunities do not wait for the complacent. You can trigger a quick inspiration the moment you jump the queue. Others will follow you in split second-reaction. Everyone secretly waits for the leader. Try this out on a red light or while waiting for the lift. Jump-start is always because of someone jumping at the start.
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PLAY practice 8: Dress to kill. Even if it means a bit heavy bill. Look different. The days of three piece bottle green colour suits, yellow shirts and a red tie are over. Get a bit more shocking. Whatever looks good on the ramp can’t look odd in the office. No one knows how to have fun when they talk of fun at the work place. Take lead. Bring out the child in you. Buy all the ties in the market that display the cartoon network characters. PLAY practice 9: Keep the spirits high. Learn from the Germans. Their pitchers are bigger than our ‘patialas’. So what if their contents are milder. The more you can absorb the free stuff in the company parties, the more you can convince the management about the ‘optimum utilization of scarce resources’. When you get real high seize the opportunity of doing a 360 appraisal of people who work around you. No one will notice the way you get relieved of your suppressed self through your ‘HOLD-NO-BAR” drunken outlashing. The message will be easily delivered and you would not have to apologize the next day for your (mis) behaviour the night before! PLAY practice 10:
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Forget good manners. Whatever was taught in the school can’t hold good now. Times have changed. Today, good manners mean coping up with somebody’s bad manners. Why are you concerned? That’s what others will do. Ignorance is bliss. You can pretend to remain blissfully ignorant.
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Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. -Brian Tracy
People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude. - John C. Maxwell Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. -Thomas Jefferson Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character. -Albert Einstein Some people say I have attitude maybe I do... but I think you have to. You have to believe in yourself when no one else does - that makes you a winner right there. -Venus Williams Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. -Viktor E. Frankl
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Family ventures in India serve as the backbone of the economy. Name any field of business or social initiative, and families in India would have played a pivotal role. Family businesses have their own unique style and culture which keep evolving over the time. Market opportunities have been expanding globally; technology has been helping in the need and speed of delivery and the social and family milieu has created new dimensions in control and decisionmaking power-centres, besides the newer generation aspiring for new avenues or seeking a higher and faster stake in the enterprise. Complexities have been rising and so has the commitment to succeed. Globally, businesses are seeking professional MENTORS for advice, strength and support. In India, highly aware families have followed suit. Some are gearing up, while a large number still live in the comfortable bliss of ignorance. You too can easily reach out to a MENTOR if you identify your family business with any of these illustrative needs: International Management Consultant & Trainer, Venture Mentor, Executive Coach, Social Entrepreneur, Well published writer‌
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You need help in the right induction of family youngsters You need support for the grooming and mentoring of family youngsters to refine their experience and skills as they get ready for responsible leadership roles You wish to create a smoother business succession plan for the next generation to take over You need help in conciliation, reduction or resolution of cross-generation friction You want to improve the leadership and managerial abilities of the family and the team You desire a good blending with your partners and all other stakeholders You need more time for yourself and desire to decentralize and move into an advisory role You dream to be known as an institution builder instead of remaining a business sustainer
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Young Entrepreneurs for Success For Young Entrepreneurs: New in business Starting a new business Settling into their family business Wanting to do better in business International Management Consultant & Trainer, Venture Mentor, Executive Coach, Social Entrepreneur, Well published writer…
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Acquisition: From employability to advancement Knowledge, Skills, Attitude, Habits, Behaviour, Certifications, Courses…
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Engagement: Role clarity, Balancing and aligning with organisational needs, Strengthening Team and Leadership roles, Pacing the performance relays…
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We choose our career. Our career makes us. Our journey through different checkpoints is full of Compulsions Ambiguity and Re-prioritizing, yet Enthusiasm Enlightenment and Rejuvenation. How are you sailing through? How often do you feel the need for a coach, a mentor, a guide, a facilitator, a reflector, a listener, a professional friend or an advisor? Considering the appointment of your MENTOR to be the job of your boss or the company alone is letting them take charge of your career. You have the highest stake in your career. You decide. Help for short-term clarity to long-term course correction is just a meeting away. Send an email answering, ”Why do I need a MENTOR?”, and we may invite you for a 30 minute, no-commitment dialogue at our office. 9810211256, 9013698960 rajiv@rajivkhurana.com http://in.linkedin.com/in/rajivkhurana