RAK magazine Fall 2022 Issue

RaisingARIZONAKids your partner on the parenting path FALL 2022: Sept/Oct/Nov Plus: Meet RoundupOktoberfestDateofBENNETTStheTUCSONNight:SPECIALNEEDS 6 Accessible Playgrounds, Tips for Visiting the Dentist, a Special Needs Swim Program, & more! &PREGNANCYBABIES Coping with a Pregnancy Loss, Safe Sleep Guidelines, & more! ARIZONASOUTHERN Day Trips, Weekend Getaways & Excursions

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CONTENTS Fall 2022 28 Features 28 MEET THE BENNETT FAMILY FROM TUCSON Our cover family talks about juggling work and parenting schedules and shares their favorite family-friendly places in Tucson. 30 SPECIAL NEEDS Tips, advice, and helpful resources for Special Needs families. • Maricopa County Head Start • What To Do if You Suspect Your Child has Autism • Pal Experiences Helps Special Needs Families Have Fun • Saguaro Aquatics Offers Special Needs Swim Program • Tips for Visiting the Dentist with a Special Needs Child 40 PREGNANCY & BABIES Everything you need to know about preparing for a hospital delivery, the new sleep safety guidelines, coping with a pregnancy loss and more. • Five Tips to Prepare for Your Hospital Delivery • September is National Baby Safety Month • 4 Baby-Proofing Tips • What You Need to Know About the New Safe Sleep Guidelines • National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day • Tips on How to Cope with a Loss Departments 2 Dialogue: Adding a Pumpkin to the Patch 4 Food: • National Cupcake Day • AZ Taco Festival 6 Books: Falling for Books 8 Community: • Childsplay Theatre’s 46th Season Celebrates Dreams Come True • Tucson Organization Helping to Keep Streets Safe for Children and Families 10 Pets: Ready to Be Pet Parents? 5 Steps to Find Out if Your Family is Ready 12 Travel: Southern Arizona- Day Trips, Weekend Getaways & Excursions 16 Date Night: Oktoberfest Round Up 18 Parenting: Parenthood and Transitional Seasons 20 Relationships: • Healthy Love Habits: Fallin’ in Love Again • Courageous Co-Parenting: 7 Tips for Talking About Divorce 24 Education: • Using Common Sense: Best Apps & Videos for Learning: Common Sense Recommendations for Families • How to Choose a Preschool or Childcare Program The Bennett family of Tucson: Ashley, Elsie (15 months), Ross, and Kali-Rae (3) at the Marana Pumpkin Patch. JUNE/JULY/AUGUST Summer 2022: 1

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WHEN I NEED a break from the kids, I often find myself browsing the shelves at our local HomeGoods or Target just enjoying the quiet. Recently, I grabbed some coffee and walked into a fall-themed paradise. Despite the still sweltering Phoenix heat, I had to contain my enthusiasm for the mass amounts of pumpkins and autumn décor embellishing the store shelves. September marks the beginning of my favorite time of year…cooler weather, apple picking, pumpkin patches, and lots of family traditions.

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To kick-off our fall issue, we feature the Bennett Family, from Tucson, at one of their favorite fall places—the Marana Pumpkin Patch. It was an unusually cool and humid morning at the farm and while there were no pumpkins, tractors, or autumn treats yet (we had to use an image from the pumpkin patch to create the cover), it was exciting to envision what it will look like in October! The Bennetts shared a little about how they balance their schedules, parenting routines, and some of their favorite places to visit in Tucson. In addition, you’ll also find a roundup of some other Southern Arizona destinations to check out. If you have a child with special needs then you’ll love the resources we’ve compiled like accessible playgrounds, information on respite care, special needs swim lessons, the Head Start program, and a local non-profit making fun experiences more inclusive. This fall, our family is also excited to announce that we’re expecting our 4th baby, another boy, in March 2023! I’m so excited to share another pregnancy journey, favorite mom and baby products, and the adjustment to four kids in just six short months. If you’re a new or expecting parent, you’ll find lots of important information on safe sleep, baby proofing, preparing for a hospital delivery, and coping with loss in this issue. Whether you’re looking forward to the transition to fall or clinging to the hot days of summer, I hope you find this magazine helpful as you plan your next few months. Make sure to also visit our website for info on all the pumpkin patches and fall festivals you can enjoy with your family this season! K (ISSN created connect local K

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ARIZONA TACO FESTIVAL is bringing its flare and fiesta for the 13 th year, this time to the East Valley at Bell Bank Park in Mesa.

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CELEBRATE EVERYONE’S FAVORITE hand-helds – tacos, tequila & margaritas. With an endless taco row, exclusive beers, dueling margarita and tequila bars, over 40 food trucks, a low-rider show, live music, performances, and more, this is surely to be a fiesta you won’t want to miss! Admission starts at $15 with add-ons and VIP options available. saltlimefiesta.com

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Celebrity Chef Aaron May, who is known for his regular appearances on the Food Network, is this year’s special guest and event host.

Festival BELL BANK PARK, MESA, NOVEMBER 11-12

The family-friendly event starts at 11 a.m. and will run until 6 p.m. For more information and to purchase tickets visit aztacofestival.com

FOODIES CAN UNITE at this chance to taste, savor and explore the rich and diverse Phoenix culinary scene. Enjoy the Grand Tasting: a gourmet showcase by local chefs, emerging talent, and nationally renowned culinary leaders who mix with patrons in a convivial setting. Indulge in the VIP experience for an hour early admittance into the experience. Must be 21 or older. The event starts at 1 p.m. and goes until 4 p.m. Tickets start at $65. saltriverfields.com/azcentralfoodwineexperience

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The Arizona Taco Festival will include a line-up of the Valley’s best tacoteers, competing for the title of Top Taco with prize money and bragging rights on the line. In addition to the delicious eats and drinks, festival goers will enjoy an updated version of the sought-after Tequila Expo, now becoming a Tequila Passport allowing all guests to sample over 100 top shelf agaves around the entireEventsevent!such as a Hot Chili Pepper and Taco eating contests are back as well as the new Taco Queen Drag Contest, Hot Sauce Expo, bands, DJs, Mariachis, a Day of the Dead Wedding and more.

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RISE UP BAKERY 861 N Higley Rd #109, Gilbert riseupbakeryaz.com

“Like everything we bake, our chocolate cupcake is made from scratch every day in our bakery,” said co-owner Danielle Lunt. “The color of sprinkles may change according to the season but the deep chocolate flavor of the cupcake and frosting remain the same. This is a cupcake you’ll enjoy right down to the crumbs!”

Stop in on National Chocolate Cupcake Day and Rise Up will give away one of their delicious chocolate cupcakes with every purchase.

THE BOYER BAKERY 13681 N Litchfield Rd, Surprise theboyerbakery.com

Tucked inside the Surprise community is this cozy “Mom & Pop and their Children Shop”, as they like to refer to themselves. The Boyer Bakery, which was named the Best Bakery in the Valley three years in a row by Phoenix Magazine, dishes up a wide array of housemade pastries and treats.

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While cupcakes are not regularly a part of the menu, The Boyer Family chocolate cake recipe has been a fan favorite for years and they will be whipping them up in honor of National Chocolate Cupcake Day.

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This local favorite spot got its start at the end of 2014. Since then, Rise Up has won the Best Bakery award in the East Valley Tribune’s Best of Gilbert contest every year since 2016. They are known for their assortment of homemade cookies, buttery sweet and savory croissants, cinnamon rolls, and of course, cupcakes.

“Our recipes and beverages are crafted with care and consistency, and we hope you’d agree that our hometown service is sweeter than our treats!”

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By Maricopa County Library District

- Caroline from Southeast Regional Library

Lena’s Shoes are Nervous

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The Rabbit Listened By Cori Doerrfeld Taylor has built the most amazing block castle until a murder of crows knocks it all down. Taylor’s animal friends all want to be helpful and offer solutions to Taylor’s dilemma, like talking, shouting, or maybe knocking down someone else’s amazing creation. But, Taylor isn’t ready to do any of those things. When Rabbit comes along though, they just want to spend time with Taylor until he is ready to talk, shout, and feel all the feelings. Why you’ll love it: “This book is such a sweet story about how important just being there can be. we want to offer advice or take action, when all our friends really need is someone to be there, ready when they are for listening ears, good advice, or maybe just a good shout.”

– Caroline from Southeast Regional Library

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– Dianna from Northwest Regional Library

This book describes the difficulties and challenges a young child faces when trying to make new friends at school. Readers are invited to celebrate with him as he goes on the journey of making a first new friend. Why you’ll love it: “This touching tale gently delves into this familiar subject through the lens of a boy on the autism spectrum. The emotions felt during the lows and highs of his search come alive through the book’s illustrations.”

AFTER A SUMMER of sunshine, fun, and play, kids are back in school and fall is here! This time of year can bring a feeling of renewed energy as we watch trees and plants begin their process of new growth. With that in mind, librarians from across Maricopa County Library District have put together some recommendations of their favorite reads that tackle subjects like empathy-building, being a good friend, and learning from your mistakes. Looking for more? Check out all your library has to offer at mcldaz.org

A Friend for Henry By Jenn Bailey

– Aubrey from Northwest Regional Library

By Keith Calabrese Today is Lena’s first day of kindergarten and she can’t wait! There’s only one problem . . . her shoes are too nervous to go to school! Lena and her favorite headband must convince her shoes to be brave so they won’t miss the first day of school. Why you’ll love it: “This picture book is funny and full of heart! I loved that Lena expressed her own nerves about going to school through her favorite pair of shoes. Lena’s headband convinces her shoes (and Lena herself) that sometimes things that make us a little nervous can turn out to be really great if we’re willing to be brave and give them a try!”

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Kick Push: Be Your Epic Self

By Frank Morrison

Epic and his family have moved to a new town and he is trying to find his place, his people, and where he can do the most epic kickflip ever! Why you’ll love it: “This beautifully illustrated book showcases the amazing artwork of illustrator and now author Frank Morrison. All of the illustrations are hand-painted masterpieces that make this story come alive. Morrison uses language and his illustrations to demonstrate the movement of his main character, Epic, learning to navigate a new world. Kids and adults alike will enjoy this one-of-a-kind story about finding yourself and your community.”

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With mermaids, sirens, gargoyles, and people mysteriously being turned into statues, this book will keep you guessing until the very end. Tavia and Effie are both trying to fit into a world that seemingly doesn’t want them to be a part of it. Tavia is a siren trying to find a place for her voice, but since her sister Effie has moved in with her, things have gotten complicated. Effie is being haunted by her past, trying to navigate a new town, and figure out who she is. Why you’ll love it: “This is a wonderful book about understanding, compassion, and learning to find your voice.”

By Hudson Talbott As a young boy begins reading complex stories, he finds he struggles with the longer sentences—making him a “slow reader” compared to his classmates. He watches as his peers seemingly leave him behind. However, his curiosity, love of stories, and persistence eventually help him sail through reading these complex books with confidence!

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A trans boy is trying to claim the title of Homecoming King—and his rival for the crown is the football star he broke up with over the summer while transitioning! ZR Ellor’s contemporary YA debut doesn’t hold back as it explores issues of gender identity and life on the spectrum, while not shying away from the ignorance these communities must face. Why you’ll love it: “The narrative alternates between the two characters so readers get to feel the experience of each one as they navigate their tumultuous relationship and make it to Homecoming.”

After falling off a roof over the summer, Chase Ambrose has amnesia. He gets the chance to learn who he is again through other people’s eyes when the new school year starts. But, he doesn’t like what he learns! He is surprised to find out that he was a bully. Why you’ll love it: “Chase gets the chance to confront who he was and change his ways, while finding forgiveness and new friendships. This book is about second chances and having the courage to take them.”

By Brian Lies Little bat is looking forward to his first night of school—but he has a lot of questions, too! At first when he arrives to his classroom he is afraid and doesn’t know what to do. Soon, he finds new friends and learns that night school is perfect fun! Why you’ll love it: “A darling story that soothes first-day-of-school jitters, this book displays the importance of friendship and trying new things.”

A Song Below Water By Bethany C. Morrow

Bug knows their house has always been haunted, but it isn’t until Uncle Roderick dies that the ghosts begin to get his attention. With summer break stretched out before him and the beginning of middle school looming, Bug knows that something feels out of place as he tries to navigate his feelings, identity, and his relationships with friends and family. Why you’ll love it: “A spooky and sweet story about grief, discovering yourself, and learning to trust others.”

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Why you’ll love it: “Influenced by Talbott’s own struggles, A Walk in the Words uses both text and illustration to help us understand the feelings of an emerging reader with dyslexia. This visual representation will help struggling readers feel seen and foster empathy in those who do not share in this struggle.”

– Aubrey from Northwest Regional Library

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– Jamie McCraw from Asante Library Too Bright to See By Kyle Lukoff

Little Bat in Night School

– Jen from the Southeast Regional Library

– Dianna from Northwest Regional Library May the Best Man Win

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– Jen from the Southeast Regional Library

Back by popular demand, Childsplay’s record-breaking holiday show, Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer returns to the stage. Based on the classic TV special, this production features everyone’s favorite characters including Santa and Mrs. Claus, Hermey the Elf, the Abominable Snow Monster, Clarice, Yukon Cornelius and, of course, Rudolph. Audiences can celebrate the season with an array of live holiday hits, like “Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer” and “Holly Jolly Christmas.” This musical is the perfect way to add a little extra holiday magic to a much-anticipated season. Performances begin November 19th and will run through Christmas Eve. Tomás and the Library Lady returns to the stage in February. Based on the true story of Tomás Rivera (Chicano author, poet, and educator) and the book by Pat Mora, this play is a celebration of reading, imagination, andIncreativity.April,Childsplay and Imagination Stage (Bethesda, MD) present a new play based on the book by Thelma Lynne Godin, The Hula-Hoopin’ Queen . This play follows Kameeka, a young girl confident that she will finally beat her rival, Jamara, and become the Hula-Hoopin’ Queen of 139th Street. Set in Harlem, The Hula-Hoopin’ Queen is a charming celebration of family and community ties. This intergenerational story shows the importance of staying young at heart.Families and classrooms alike can see these spectacular performances at Childsplay’s home venue, the Herberger Theater Center, 222 E. Monroe St. Phoenix. For more information and to purchase tickets, visit childsplayaz.org

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CHILDSPLAY THEATRE, a pioneer in theatre for youth since 1977, returns to the theater with new plays and crowd favorites in its 46th season. Its four productions celebrate the magic of live theatre, blending music, nostalgia, storybooks, and spectacle. Opening in October, Childsplay (in co-production with Magik Theatre in San Antonio, TX) will begin its season with Selena Maria Sings —a new work written by celebrated playwright Miriam Gonzales, featuring original music by Las Cafeteras’ Daniel French. Originally premiering during the throes of the pandemic, Selena Maria Sings is now getting a second chance to debut this season. This play tells the story of Selena Maria, a young songwriter living amid the legacy of Selena Quintanilla. Through the help of her cousin and a few others along the way, Selena Maria finds her voice. Selena Maria Sings tells a story of music, family, immense love, and the strength it takes to be yourself.

“IncreasedBuses. walking and biking have the benefits of building community connections and developing healthy habits in youth,” Siner said. “Around school zones, it also reduces traffic congestion and pollution and improves safety.”

LIVING STREETS ALLIANCE, a non-profit Tucson organization advocating for equitable transportation systems and vibrant placemaking, has been working for 11 years to prioritize people’s safety when visiting, resting, playing, walking and cycling on the streets of “StreetsTucson.areour largest allocation of public space in the city (in Tucson and any other large cities) and as a society we’ve allowed cars to ‘have’ them,” said Nancy Siner, Development Associate with Living Streets Alliance. “Our mission, then, is to advocate for a thriving Tucson by creating great streets for all of us.”

The event attracts about 50,000 people who participate by biking, walking, using wheelchairs, skating, riding scooters, or using any other means of people-powered transportation. It’s a day filled with plenty of entertainment with opportunities to watch performances, color with chalk, hula hoop, blow bubbles, run through a water tunnel, watch BMX bikers, eat ice cream and much more! Food trucks will be on site and Siner says participants can expect to see cute dogs, Halloween costumes, cooky bicycles, and lots and lots of Cycloviapeople.isjust one of the many ways that Living Streets Alliance is working to combat the mobility challenges that many families and children face. Their Safe Routes to School Program provides support to local K-8 schools so that walking and biking to school (and parks, friend’s houses, or around the neighborhood) can be an easy, safe, and enjoyable way to get around for children and their families.

“Cyclovia is like a really long block party; a four mile activation of street space to elevate and celebrate community,” said Siner.

“It’s important to us to think about the different experiences people of all ages have on the street and create safe, welcoming, and usable spaces for them all,” said Siner.

Tucson to Keep Streets

Through their various efforts, events, and programs, Living Streets Alliance is on a mission to provide safe and dignified ways for people to move through the city regardless of their mode of transportation.

The Safe Routes to Schools Program does this by providing resources such as a Riders and Walkers safety curriculum for 3rd grade students, afterschool bike clubs, mobile bike repair clinics that teach hands-on bicycle maintenance and provide repairs at local schools and community centers, and coordinated walking groups called Walking School

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The organization’s Cyclovia event, happening on Sunday October 30 from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m., aims to reimagine streets as places for people while maximizing them with engaging activities for all ages.

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Once you’ve completed the first three steps, it’s time to get real. Having a family pet is an effective way to teach kids about responsibility. It’s also a long-term commitment. Pets require daily attention – and a puppy needs much more care than a goldfish. Make a list of daily pet care tasks and talk through how the responsibilities will be shared. Children aged ten or older can take on tasks like feeding, exercise, and routine cleaning and grooming. Younger children should also be included in day-to-day tasks. Have small children assist you in walking a dog or feeding the hamster, and supervise them until they’re old enough to handle the pet on their own. It’s critical to set the right tone about sharing the responsibility of pet ownership. Rather than setting it up as a chore to be completed, talk about how the pet is dependent on all of you for food, care and playtime.

As you explore your options, don’t forget to factor in the costs of owning a pet. You’ll have adoption costs, licensing, vet check-ups, and vaccinations. Plus, you’ll need some initial supplies, such as a cage or toys. Then, there will be ongoing expenses like food, grooming, and regular veterinary care. And there will always be unexpected costs such as boarding while you’re on vacation or medicines if your pet gets sick. Finally, you should think about how your pet budget may need to increase as your pet ages and has additional medical or dietary needs.

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3. Add up the costs.

5. Practice. Before you make a long-term commitment to a pet, look for options to test out the experience. Spend time with friends or families who have pets and offer to pet-sit while they’re away. Or, if your family is up for it, explore opportunities to foster animals as they await adoption.

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Pet insurance can be a smart way to manage the costs of pet ownership. There are a range of plans available covering everything from preventive veterinary care to emergency treatment, surgeries, and prescriptions. Even better, your credit union or bank may offer a discount program that can help make pet insurance more affordable.

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Here’s a crafty way to get kids talking about the responsibilities of pet ownership. Start with a stack of basic paper plates and art supplies like scissors, glue, colored markers and construction paper. With the paper plate as the face, encourage your child to create the pet of their dreams by adding ears, whiskers or spots! And don’t forget to give each lovable pet a name!

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A NEW DOG OR CAT (or fish, hamster or bird) can add a lot of love and fun to your family dynamic. But pet ownership also comes with responsibilities for even the youngest members of the family. Before you visit the shelter, prepare yourself and your kids for responsible pet ownership by taking these five steps.

For young children, prompt conversations by reading books about taking care of a pet, such as I Wanna Iguana by Karen Kaufman Orloff or The Pigeon Wants a Puppy by Mo Willems.

2. Assess your environment. Pets thrive in the right environment, so take a close look at your home and lifestyle. Start with exploring your community’s official rules about pet ownership and any restrictions from your landlord or neighborhood. Then, think about your living space and schedules and the types of pets that would be the best fit. For example, do you have a fenced yard for an energetic dog? Is a quiet corner available for a cat who needs alone time? Is your family away from home for long stretches of time during the day? Does anyone in your household or extended family have allergies or health conditions that might be affected?

4. Get real about tasks.

1. Talk it through.

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Adopting a pet should never be a spur-of-the-moment decision, especially if it’s your kids who are initiating the discussion. Ask questions and talk about how different family members answer them.

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Kids will also have plenty to do when they take part in the Daily Kids Program with several age-based activities such as horseback riding, pool time, archery, tie-dying, guided tennis playing, and water balloon fun!

Colossal Cave: Fifteen minutes Southeast of Tucson, you’ll find the beautiful Colossal Cave. Enjoy family-friendly (ages five and up) cave tours where you’ll learn about the Cave’s history, its legends (like train robbers and ghosts), and its unique geology. As you descend approximately six stories deep, you’ll see some amazing cave formations that were sculpted by millions of years of geological activity. Keep an eye out for the wildlife too! Stop by the gift shop, Terrace Cafe, or stay the night under the stars camping at one of the many campsites tucked among the magnificent saguaro cacti and mesquite trees.

SOUTHERN ARIZONA provides plenty to do for a day trip or fun weekend getaway. With many historic sites, museums, and even small nearby excursions to explore, you’ll find there’s a lot of adventure and new things to discover that awaits.

Tucson Botanical Garden: A lush oasis in the heart of Tucson, the Tucson Botanical Gardens offers mature trees and expertly cultivated foliage, specialty gardens such as the Cactus and Succulent Garden, Barrio Garden, and Herb Garden. Come see the tropical butterflies from around the world featured in the Cox Butterfly and Orchid Pavilion,

ARIZONASOUTHERN Day trips, Weekend Getaways & Excursions

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Tombstone: With dozens of quaint shops, historic attractions, tasty restaurants, and western saloons, there is so much to see and do in “The Town Too Tough to Die”. Need more than one day to see all of what Tombstone has to offer? Spend the night in one of the more than 20 lodging options including cozy bed and breakfasts, modern hotels, and vacation rental options.

Mount Lemmon: Just an hour from Tucson, due to its elevation, Mount Lemmon is an average of 30 degrees cooler making it a haven in the summer and an outdoor playground in the winter. With several hiking and biking trails ranging from novice to expert, as well as more than 2,000 rock climbing routes, six campgrounds, trout fishing, and cabin rentals, there’s plenty of options for outdoor enthusiasts. Take a ride on the ski lift and experience 30 minutes of breathtaking views of the Santa Catalina mountains. Also, be sure to check out the massive cookies at the Mt. Lemmon Cookie Cabin and creative fudge flavors at Mt. Lemmon General Store and Gift Shop.

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Rooster Cogburn Ostrich Farm: Rooster Cogburn Ostrich Ranch is a three generation family-owned and operated working ostrich ranch. In addition to ostriches, the farm is also home to Miniature Sicilian Donkeys, Nigerian Dwarf Goats, Fallow Deer, Peking Ducks, “The Goat Penthouse” and the “Hole in the Wall Gang” featuring Boer Goats and Rainbow Lorikeets, and a Stingray Bay! Bring your lunch and have a picnic at one of the many picnic tables to make it a fun-filled afternoon.

Bisbee: Located 90 miles southeast of Tucson, this free-spirited town offers a thriving arts, music, and hospitality scene, amidst a well-preserved historical architectural setting. Its welcoming, creative spirit and cool climate makes it an ideal overnight home-base for visitors, hikers, wine tasters and those looking to escape the hustle and bustle. Stay at one of the many historic inns, dine at the vintage Dot’s Diner, or enjoy some live stand-up comedy at Chuckleheads Comedy Club and Bar.

Gaslight Theatre: Since 1977, The Gaslight Theatre has provided Tucson with fun, family entertainment. With musical comedy melodramas six nights a week, and five different shows per year including Westerns, sci-fi spoofs, Christmas shows, and everything in between—you can find it all at The Gaslight Theatre! Enjoy sipping on your favorite beer or soft drink, eating pizza, ice cream, and snacking on lots of free popcorn during the shows. The theatre also has concerts every Monday night!

Tanque Verde Ranch: Visit and stay at one of America’s old-time dude ranches. Located on 60,000 acres of Tucson’s most breathtaking desert landscapes, it provides guests with comfy accommodations, unparalleled amenities, delectable dining options, and a vast array of exciting activities including horseback riding, mountain biking, fishing, hiking, and more!

Trail Dust Town: Trail Dust Town has seen Tucson grow up around it since it was built in 1961. A trip down main street still feels like a journey through the streets of a pioneer town. Indulge in some unique shopping opportunities at the quaint stores–all of which are owned and operated by local Tucson residents. Enjoy a spin on the vintage carousel or test your skills in the shooting gallery! Come hungry to dine at Pinnacle Peak, the original Cowboy Steakhouse or get your brunch fill at Millie’s Pancake Haus.

Mission San Xavier del Bac: A National Historic Landmark, San Xavier Mission was founded as a Catholic mission in 1692. Construction of the current church began in 1783 and was completed in 1797. The oldest intact European structure in Arizona, the church’s interior is filled with marvelous original statuary and mural paintings. It is a place where visitors can truly step back in time and enter an authentic 18th Century space. The church still retains its original purpose and currently administers to the religious needs of its parishioners.

Pima Air and Space Museum: The Pima Air and Space Museum, which sits on 80 acres, first opened to the public in May 1976. For 40 years, the museum has grown immensely and today features about 400 historic aircrafts, from a Wright Flyer to a 787 Dreamliner, and encompasses six indoor exhibit hangars, three of which are dedicated to World War II. Dine at the Flight Grill, a quick-service eatery that features floor-to-ceiling windows overlooking the Navy and Air Force fighters. Sit out on the patio to enjoy the mountain views and catch a glimpse as aircrafts take off and land just across the street at Davis Monthan Air Force Base.

October through May. Experience year-round art exhibits, classes, and events, as well as the creative, seasonal menu of Edna’s Eatery.

International Wildlife Museum: The International Wildlife Museum highlights over 400 species of insects, mammals and birds from around the globe. All the animals found at the museum were donated by various government agencies, wildlife rehabilitation centers, captive breeding programs, zoos, and individuals. See the wild animals in their natural settings, through videos, and interactive computers, as well as hands-on exhibits. Gain a better understanding of the animal’s adaptive characteristics, habitats and conservation issues through your visit.

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Museum of Miniatures: Founders Patricia and Walter Arnell, who became active members in the miniature community after moving to Tucson in 1979, began dreaming of an interactive space where the entertaining and educational aspects of miniature collections could be enjoyed by everyone and thus started The Mini Time Machine Museum of Miniatures. This 15,560 square foot, state-of-the-art museum displays an entertaining and interactive array of antique and contemporary miniatures as well as enchanting artifacts. There are over 500 miniature houses and room boxes that are part of the collection serving as an educational and magical environment for visitors of all ages, interests, and talents.

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Tohono Chul: Embrace the authentic beauty of the Sonoran Desert year-round at Tohono Chul. Set on 49 acres of lush desert, nature will be at your fingertips. Stroll along winding paths with soaring Saguaros, themed botanical gardens, and marvel at a chance to encounter a resident hummingbird. Take in the quiet atmosphere in the artfully designed relaxation spots sprinkled throughout the property. Gain a new appreciation for the treasures of the desert as you admire the various art and garden exhibits. Enjoy regionally inspired fare and indulge in the fresh Southwestern flavors of the Garden Bistro.

Arizona Sonora Desert Museum: Founded in 1952, the Arizona Sonora Desert Museum is regularly listed as one of the top ten zoological parks in the world due to its unique approach in interpreting the complete natural history of a single region. The 98 acre Desert Museum is a fusion experience encompassing a zoo, botanical garden, art gallery, natural history museum, and aquarium all in one. With two miles of walking paths through various desert habitats, 242 animal species, plants from 56,000 individual specimens, and one of the world’s most comprehensive Stagecoach on the streets of the wild west town of Tombstone. Photo by Cracker Clips Photography. ➋ Rooster Cogburn Ostrich Farm. Courtesy of Rooster Cogburn Ostrich Farm. Broadway Stair Gallery in Bisbee photo by J Pop Photon. Kids.com

Gadsden-Pacific Toy Train Museum: Train enthusiasts will delight in this interactive museum of operating toy train layouts, displays, and exhibits run by a non-profit group of dedicated model railroaders. Visitors can enjoy a vast array of framed railroad art, including photographs, prints, graphic arts, and line art. There are also various antique toy trains and display castles. The toy train museum has limited hours, so be sure to call ahead or check the website before scheduling your visit.

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regional mineral collections, it’s a place you’ll surely want to visit!

Southern Arizona Transportation Museum: The Southern Arizona Transportation Museum is located in the Southern Pacific’s beautiful two-story station in Tucson. The museum focuses on the history of Arizona’s railroads, railroading equipment, and the Southern Pacific that is cosmetically restored to its original livery. In addition to the museum’s railroad equipment, they also feature a number of historic railroad artifacts and even have a model railroad layout. Guided tours of the facility are offered for a small fee and the museum also puts on community events, downtown historic walking tours (October–March), railroad safety education, and an oral history program.

Titan Missile Museum: Plan your visit to the one-of-a-kind Titan Missile Museum to see the last of the 54 Titan II missile sites that were on alert across the United States from 1963 to 1987. Go underground and back in time on the 45-minute guided tour where you’ll descend 35 feet into the missile complex, visit the launch control center, and experience a simulated launch of the missile. You’ll also get an up-close look at the Titan II missile itself. Be sure to check the website ahead of time and reserve your tour online as space is limited. Keep in mind that all visitors must also be able to safely descend and ascend 55 stairs.

Downtown Chandler Oktoberfest (October 1). Pedal Haus Brewery and San Tan Brewing Company are joining together to launch and host an epic Oktoberfest event in downtown Chandler. The festival will feature beer and food from both SanTan and Pedal Haus breweries plus canned craft cocktails. Classic German fare will be served including Bavarian style soft pretzels and brats. Guests will also have the chance to enjoy plenty of classic Oktoberfest games and contests including stein holding, wiener toss and sausage eating contests. A full lineup of live music is also scheduled including a Desert Polka party and performances by Hit Rewind and The Dirt. 3 p.m. to 11 p.m. Dr. A.J. Chandler Park, 3 S. Arizona Ave. oktoberfest2022. eventbrite.com Flagstaff Oktoberfest (October 1). Bask in the beautiful fall weather while kicking off the month of October at Flagstaff’s Okotberfest!

Red Rocks Oktoberfest is a fun-filled event that raises funds to support youth-oriented projects and programs. Festivities include craft beer vendors, food trucks and music. $25 pre-buy tickets or $30 at the event. Free for ages 20 and younger accompanied by a paid adult. 3 p.m. to 8 p.m. Posse Grounds Park (Upper Ball Field), 525 Posse Ground Rd. visitsedona.com

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GRAB YOUR SPOUSE and make plans for a fun date filled with beer, food, contests, live music and more at one of these Oktoberfest festivals happening in cities all across the state. Heber Oktoberfest (September 3 - 4). Plan a little road trip and head out to Heber for two days of fun. The city’s Oktoberfest will feature live bands, a beer garden, food vendors, arts and crafts, and Lumberjack games. 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Tall Timbers Park, 2774 AZ-Hwy 260. heberovergaard.org Sierra Vista Oktoberfest (September 16 - 17). Sierra Vista’s largest and best fall festival is coming! The family fun two-day event is the perfect time to enjoy a variety of cuisine from an assortment of food vendors, live entertainment, and excitement from the Sun Valley Rides Carnival. Make your plans to come out and fill your weekend with fun! 5 p.m. to 11 p.m., Friday September 16. 11 a.m. to 11 p.m., Saturday September 17. Veterans Memorial Park, 3105 E. Fry Blvd. sierravistaaz.gov Mt. Lemmon Ski Valley Oktoberfest (September 17- October 9). Each weekend enjoy German beer, authentic Oktoberfest food, live traditional German-style music and dancing on the large outdoor dance floor, children’s games, and beautiful views with fall colors at the Mt. Lemmon Ski Valley in Coronado National Forest. During the event, take a break and ride the sky ride or dine at The Iron Door restaurant, which will be open regular hours.

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This year’s event will be held at Wheeler Park on the corner of Aspen and Humphreys Street and will have fun activities for the whole family! There will be a wide variety of food, beer, and wine, live music, lawn games, and a kids’ area with bounce houses and free root beer floats! Attendees can also take part in contests such as the chicken dance contest, a brats eating contest, and men’s and women’s beer stein contests.

11 a.m. to 8 p.m. Wheeler Park, 212 W. Aspen Ave. flagstaffoktoberfest.com Tempe Oktoberfest (October 7-9). Sponsored by Four Peaks Brewing Company, featuring kid and adult carnivals with rides, slides, and games for all ages. Guests will also get to enjoy a full line of up activities each day including happy hours, live music, performances, and more. There will be a wide selection of beers from Four Peaks Brewing Company, traditional Oktoberfest food such as brats, pretzels, hot dogs, and potato salad, and an array of desserts including German strudel, ice cream, and fresh baked cookies. 5 p.m. to 12 a.m. Friday, 10 a.m. to 12 a.m. Saturday, and 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. Sunday. $20 Friday and Saturday, Free Sunday. Tempe Town Lake, 100 E. Rio Salado Pkwy. fourpeaksoktoberfest.com Gilbert Oktoberfest (October 15). Enjoy some craft beer from some of Gilbert’s own breweries including Four Silos, 12 West, OHSO, Flying Basset Brewery, Desert Monk’s and Uncle Bear’s. The event will feature crowd pleasing entertainment such as traditional polka music from the “Queen of Oktoberfest” and her band “The Oktoburlesques,” a brat eating contest, stein holding competition, and live music. Gilbert Regional Park, 3005 E. Queen Creek Rd. forty8live.com/gilbertoktoberfest Sedona Oktoberfest (October 15).

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There is always that day of the year in September or early October when you open the door and can just feel a change in the air. There’s a crispness to it. You can breathe in and smell and sense the changing seasons. It requires a silent pause, to acknowledge that it’s time to say goodbye to summer and welcome fall. There’s always a bittersweetness to it; a sadness for the memories being forever left behind and an excitement for everything the cooling weather brings - boots and Pumpkin Spice Lattes and the anticipation of another magical holiday season. The same feeling of transition happened to me on a lazy summer day smack dab in the middle of June while I was scrubbing a grilled cheese pan. But this time it wasn’t the weather. My oldest daughter who became “double digits” in the spring was having an epically emotional meltdown that was reminiscent of the toddler years. And then, a multitude of realizations flashed before my eyes. This had been going on for months. My “practically-perfect-in-every-way” ray of sunshine was different . . . the moodiness, the irritability, the sassiness. And then it hit me. We were entering a very new season. This year feels different for me as a mom just like that first day in

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We solicited some expert advice on the topic from busy working mom and co-founder of Trusting Connections and Timeless Play, Rosalind Prather. She joined us to share her thoughts on transitions happening right in her own home and her top 8 tips for moving through one of life’s most profound terrains, the transitions of parenthood, with grace.

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LIKE THE SEASONS CHANGE from summer to fall and then winter, it seems our children change just as frequently. From serving to leading and then mentoring and friendship, every developmental milestone requires new tools and we, as parents, are often just mastering the last plateau when a new summit is placed in front of us. What tools can parents use to survive and thrive in the never-ending experience of adapting as we raise our children?

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• Patience is key. Kids aren’t going to learn to make new transitions unless they have consistent practice – sometimes for many days (or weeks). It is critical to remember that transitioning well between what is known to what is new is hard for everyone, adults and children alike. Set yourself and your family up for success by accepting that change is inevitable and striving toward desired outcomes as a team. If you decide to look for in-home care, Trusting Connections can help. They offer a wide range of services- from part-time, or occasional sitters to short-term summer nanny placements. If, after your consult, hiring a nanny is not the right fit, parents in the Tucson area can also consider enrolling their children ages 1-12 at Timeless Play, a reimagined drop-off childcare center at the River and Campell intersection in Tucson, AZ. Rosalind Prather is a third-generation small business owner and momtrepreneur. She is a Trusting Connections Nanny Agency Co-Founder and Logistigal, LLC Co-Founder. She the proud mother of two girls. She is married to Bryan, her cowboy and true soulmate and considers family life and motherhood her greatest joy.

• Make changes slowly. Don’t wait until the day before kindergarten starts to begin weaning the nap schedule and moving bedtime earlier.

• Create a bedtime for both you and your child.

• Prepare for sick days. They are going to happen. Thinking they will not show up is simply living in denial. Have a plan so that the sick day does not disrupt the system as much as it could.

• Write down your limits in a contract format.

• Establish a written daily routine and place it where the entire family can see it. This structure will be the guardrails your child needs to feel secure.

• Regain your leadership role. Your child should not control the mood of your household.

• Set an example, practice self-care.

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Looking for a rewarding career where you can make a difference for our children and the community? Come work for Queen Creek Unified School District! Visit qcusd.org and click on CAREERS fall. I’m sensing and feeling everything start to shift and change away from what I have spent the last decade growing accustomed to. It’s like a new gentle wind is blowing in and slowly but surely transforming my little family. And, I’m not ready to say goodbye. Overnight my little girls became big girls. Nightly Berenstain Bears stories read together snuggled up became “girls, did you read at least a chapter of your book?” Little feet excitedly running into my room to wake me up too early turned into independent little ladies feeding themselves and quietly turning on the TV. “Play with me mommy,” isn’t uttered anymore. Cleaning out the playroom haunts me a little. It seems like Polly Pockets and Barbies and Calico Critters became totally irrelevant in the blink of an eye. I still have useless little plastic cups and spoons and divider plates and flash cards we were going to get to but never did. Somehow, they learned all those sight words anyway. But when? Where did the time go? And why does it have to move so fast? It reminds me that I can’t get too comfy (or too exasperated) with any one stage because parenting is simply a series of seasons that relentlessly come and go. And they come and go. So, I try to find joy in the season I’m in because it’s just one quick stop on the journey of motherhood. And chances are, I’m going to miss it.

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WE REMEMBER WHEN we fell in love. Life felt blissful, without a care in theInitially,world! love releases dopamine in the brain, giving us euphoric feelings of excitement and positivity. Research shows that with anything new—a car, outfit, home, or even a relationship—over time, we become accustomed to it. The scientific term for this is hedonic adaptation: the tendency for humans to get used to ‘newness’ and return to our baseline level of happiness.

Some people and their partners may sense this return to baseline as ‘falling out of love,’ but this isn’t always the case. Relationships require ongoing effort to maintain feelings of love and long-lasting happiness.

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• Get a list of questions for couples and take turns learning new things about each other.

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• Every evening, share something with your partner they did that you are thankful for. The more specific, the better!

Karen is married to Michael Aurit, and they live in Phoenix with their with their four and five-year-old daughters. To learn more, visit auritmediation.com

Healthy Love Habits is Raising Arizona Kids’s monthly relationship column for learning simple habits to create the healthy and loving connection you desire and deserve.

By Karen Aurit, LAMFT

The good news is that a few simple choices to create mini-habits can improve your relationship and make you “fall in love again.”

• Hold hands outside and inside your home.

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• Create a romantic date at home by turning on a movie for your kids in the other room!

First, ask yourself, “what did we do when we first met?” Then, create a simple list of your actions and shared moments. Finally, create a few habits from your list and commit to practicing them daily.

Greet your partner with open arms, wide eyes, and a colossal kiss when you see them after work.

• Light a candle in your bedroom each night to set the tone.

• Watch videos and photos of fun memories together.

Accepting that it’s normal for that initial euphoric feeling to subside, you can make small, daily choices to reignite that spark in your relationship. Involve your partner by asking them what daily love habits would make them feel special. Falling in love again is a journey that begins with finding simple ways to express your love each and every day. Begin by practicing minihabits from your list, and let the sparks fly!

• Begin a book together, reading two pages a day.

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Karen Aurit, LAMFT, is Director and Co-Founder of The Aurit Center for Divorce Mediation. Karen is a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in mindfulness.

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COURAGEOUS CO-PARENTING 7 Tips for TalkingAbout Divorce

7 Tips for Talking about Divorce

You both must decide how best to complete your divorce in mediation or litigation. Research your options to make an informed decision about how best to protect your kids from the potential harm of divorce. Let your spouse know that you prefer a healthier process in divorce mediation.

5. Focus. Staying on topic reduces conflict by avoiding conversations around past issues.

6. Tone. It is incredibly powerful to speak in a low, soft voice and at a slow pace. When necessary, take a moment and gather your thoughts and allow your spouse to do the same.

Courageous Co-Parenting is Raising Arizona Kids’s monthly column for separating or divorced parents to learn conflict resolution skills, strategies, and attitudes for healthy co-parenting. These concepts apply to all parents. Please feel free to share the column with your co-parent.

Courageouskids.co-parenting begins the moment you raise the issue of divorce, and your approach can positively or negatively affect your ability to co-parent in the future.

3. Phones. Turn off phones to convey respect as you begin to build a foundation for healthy, courageous co-parenting.

FIRST, TAKE A deep breath. Your concern about how best to have this conversation shows that you are thoughtful and want to do what is best for your

2. Time. Choose a time when you are both most likely to be rested, calm, and able to give your full attention.

4. Empathize. Consider what you will say, and think about how your spouse will likely feel hearing it. It is normal if your spouse initially displays some resistance. Be mindful not to go on the defensive—allow your spouse to feel and vent.

Michael Aurit, JD, MDR, is a Professional Mediator and Co-Founder of The Aurit Center for Divorce Mediation. Michael is married to Karen Aurit, and they live in Phoenix with their with their four and five-year-old daughters. To learn more, visit auritmediation.com

Decided or Considering The first question to ask yourself is whether to include your spouse in this decision.Determine whether you have made the decision (“I want a divorce”) or you are considering it and want your spouse’s input (“Let’s talk—I may want a divorce, but I’m open to hearing how you feel”). Courageously search within yourself to know what is right for you. Gaining clarity will allow you to approach your spouse honestly and authentically. A supportive therapist or counselor can help. Mediation or Litigation

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1. Place. Choose a private place, away from your children, for a productive conversation about divorce. How to tell your children is a mutual decision that will come later.

7. Safety. Determine whether you are safe having the conversation in person. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline to develop a plan if you have concerns. Careful and thoughtful preparation will allow you to establish a mindful and healthy foundation for courageous co-parenting.

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Best Apps and Videos for Learning:

• Apps for Kids Who Think Reading Is Boring: For some kids, picking up a book is like torture. Take the sting out of text and find a fun inroad with apps like uKloo, SwapTales: Leon, Marvel Hero Tales and Weirdwood Manor.

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• Apps to Help Kids Stay Focused: From little kid to teen, all youngsters get distracted, so consider using some tech to keep them on track like KazuTime, ChorePad, Focus Keeper Pro or Streaks.

• Dora the Explorer Movies, Games, and More: Play, sing, and learn with kids’ favorite bilingual explorer.

• Best News Sources for Kids: News websites designed for a young audience that we like are Newsela, News-O-Matic: Reading for Kids, NewsForKids.net and Time for Kids. For more tips and resources, go to commonsense.org. You can also sign up for our bilingual texting program, Tips by Text for families with children aged 3 to 11. Parents and caregivers can get entertainment picks and tips for healthy tech use, sent by text message. Just text the word “kids” to 21555 for English and “familia” for Spanish to sign up for this free service.

Our “Best of” lists offer handpicked, carefully reviewed titles grouped by category. Topics range from skills essential to life and work in the 21st century, to traditional academic subjects, to recommendations for particular settings or types of kids. And these titles are FUN! After all, excited, engaged kids are primed for learning.

• Apps and Sites for Gifted and Talented Kids: Though these tools are great for all kids, they have special appeal for kids who need an extra challenge. DIY.org: Creative Challenges, Dotopedia, Storybird and The Foolish King are a few to get them engaged.

While we have compiled lists of the best of the best for all ages, here are some great learning apps and games that Common Sense staffers have gathered and reviewed for kiddos to keep them engaged:

• Apps and Sites for Kids Who Hate Math: Things just don’t add up when your kid can’t stand math, but these tools can help. Some of the best include: Bedtime Math; Kahoot! Algebra by DragonBox; MathTango; or Mystery Math Town.

• Games That Support Kindness and Compassion: Step into others’ shoes with great games such as A Bird Story, Social Adventures and Chuchel.

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Ilana Lowery is the Arizona director for the nonprofit Common Sense Media. She can be reached at ilowery@commonsense.org

• Podcasts and Audio Apps for Kids: Podcasts aren’t just for grown-ups, so find one like Fruit Punch Music, Tales Untold or Sparkle Stories that your whole family can enjoy.

AS YOUR STUDENTS settle into the school year and their routines at home, it’s important to remember that learning opportunities shouldn’t be relegated to the classroom alone. With families in mind, Common Sense has developed a series of trusted reviews and ratings for learning apps, videos, books and more to help parents select quality media for your kids.

• Cool Online Museums for Curious Kids: Explore art, science, and history from around the world with apps such as Civilisations

• Fun Apps That Don’t Need Wi-Fi or Data: Sometimes you can’t stay connected, but these apps will let the fun continue! Check out codeSpark Academy, Thinkrolls: Kings & Queens and Jump Numbers.

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• Quirky Apps That Can Help Your Kid Learn: These apps are bizarre in the best ways — and they offer learning opportunities. Some great ones are Busy Water, WindoSill and The Robot Factory by Tinybop.

• Best Math Games for 2nd Grade: Keep your kid’s love of numbers alive with these super-fun tools with apps like Math Bakery 2, Math Wizard for Kids, Hexologic and Rookie Maths.

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• Engaging activities that promote a child’s brain development

Parents and caregivers can also explore the NAEYC’s website (azaeyc.org ) and the First Things First website (firstthingsfirst.org), both of which provide a wealth of resources about early learning programs, accreditation and what makes a program high-quality.

• Positive, nurturing interactions

If you are considering a preschool or childcare program for your child and have questions, you can call, email or text Arizona’s

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The process of finding, evaluating and choosing a program that is the best fit for your child can quickly become overwhelming. Additionally, the COVID-19 pandemic has had a significant impact on preschools and childcare providers: social distancing, school closures and economic challenges have all made a tough process even harder.

Birth to Five Helpline specialists are available Monday through Friday from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m.

Some resources that are available right here in Arizona are Arizona Child Care Resource and Referral (azccrr.com) and Quality First (qualityfirstaz.com). These resources provide ratings of childcare facilities and a checklist for parents and caregivers looking at individual programs. Quality First also has a provider search tool, which helps you find programs near you based on type of childcare, age of children and other criteria.

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Quality early learning programs should include:

• Environments that promote creativity, imagination and play-based learning, not just formal worksheet education

Birth to Five Helpline. Helpline specialists will talk with you about your questions and your child’s and family’s unique interests and needs, and connect you with resources to aid your search, explain different resources and possible available scholarships and even call local programs to find openings and available scholarships.Alsoconsider Southwest Human Development’s Head Start and Early Head Start programs, which give children from birth through five years old and their families the foundation they need to flourish.

Southwest Human Development’s Birth to Five Helpline frequently receives calls from parents and caregivers looking for advice or resources for finding a childcare or preschool program for their child. One of the first hurdles that parents and caregivers face is availability. Many programs don’t have openings or have even shut down due to the COVID-19 pandemic. And once parents and caregivers find an opening, they may find that a program is too expensive for their family budget. The most important factor to consider when looking for a preschool or childcare program is quality. The first five years of a child’s life are the most important time for their development, shaping their physical, mental, emotional and social abilities as well as creating the foundation for future success in learning and life. Parents and caregivers also have to consider their child’s and family’s unique needs. That’s a lot of pressure. But knowing the key elements of quality can help you make an informed decision.

• Teachers and childcare professionals who are skilled at working with young children

All content in this article, including any advice or commentary from Southwest Human Development staff and/or others, should be considered an opinion and is provided for informational purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for medical or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the direct advice of your own trusted professional with any questions or concerns you may have regarding the child/ren in your care. Southwest Human Development does not recommend or endorse any specific tests, products, procedures or other information that may be mentioned in this article. You may contact Southwest Human Development’s Birth to Five Helpline at 1-877-705-KIDS (5437) to speak with one of our early childhood professionals for personalized assistance.

• Small class sizes, maximizing the amount of individual attention that children need

• Teachers and childcare professionals who frequently communicate with parents and caregivers about their child’s developmental progress

CHOOSING A PRESCHOOL or childcare program for your child isn’t easy. It’s exciting to look for a program that will provide the foundation for your child’s education and development, but parents and caregivers often end up with more questions than answers.

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ABOUT THE COVER FAMILY: T h e B ennett s

At the start of this year, Ashley and Ross made the decision to take over the business when the previous owner was ready to retire.

“It has taken a lot to get used to him being gone overnight, but we just take it day by day,” she said. “I try to keep myself and my girls in a routine to make evenings easier.”

Funny Foot Petting ZooThis is a really unique petting zoo, and great for kids-- a perfect place to visit when the weather cools down. There are lots of animals you’d never think about petting. You can actually pet a porcupine!Marana Pumpkin PatchEvery fall, visiting this pumpkin patch is a ‘must-do’! Our girls love the tractor ride and picking their own pumpkins. Plus, the bakery makes the best fall treats! It’s a great tradition. The Bennett’sFavorite

M EET THE BENNETTS: Ashley, Ross and their two girls Kali-Rae (3) and Elsie (15 months).

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Ashley, who moved to Tucson when she was 18, and Ross–a Tucson native, met about 12 years ago through mutual friends. They’ve now been married for almost seven years and say they love living in Tucson for its nice weather.

When home together, Ashley said she and Ross have learned to work together to divide household responsibilities and ensure they are both supporting each other as much as possible.“My husband and I split everything–the chores around the house, cooking, and everything in between,” said Ashley. “We have always had great communication and compromise. I know at the end of the day he’s my biggest fan and cheerleader as I am to him; we’ve always pushed each other to chase our dreams.”

“He challenged himself physically and mentally and made it onto a department in Green Valley,” said Ashley. “During his time in the academy, I was pregnant with our second daughter, and he never skipped a beat on being an amazing husband and father.”

Ashley began working for Southwest Metrology and Quality Services, a highly technical calibration laboratory, about eight years ago. During that time, she said she tried to learn as much as possible– from how the equipment works to how to run the business.

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Although Ashley said it was an adjustment when Ross is gone for work, she and her daughters have been learning to adapt.

Ashley now runs the business on her own, and Ross, who worked for 12 years in the automotive industry, recently changed careers to become a firefighter.

“If we can just bear through the few months of 110 plus, the rest of the year is perfect,” said Ashley.

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There are several easy key strategies to adapt environments and materials to create inclusive settings.

Head Start recognizes the importance of offering learning environments that are inclusive of children with different abilities and ones that promote belonging. All children participate in learning environments filled with opportunities for free choice that nurture their natural curiosity with the guidance of a loving caregiver. Children with disabilities or other special needs benefit from participating in inclusive settings with the appropriate assistance, allowing children to achieve more than they would in a segregated environment.

It’s also important to remember that a child’s disability may affect one area of development but may be typically developing in others.

• Use pictures to establish routines or to signal the next activity/transition

• Modify material to promote confidence

Maricopa County Early Head Start and Head Start are offered by the Early Education Division of the Human Services Department of Maricopa County. The Early Education Division is dedicated to ensuring children have the knowledge and skills to be successful in school and life through service delivery to children and families in core areas of early learning, health, and family wellbeing while engaging parents as partners every step of the way. Head Start encompasses Head Start preschool programs, which primarily serve 3- and 4-year-old children, and Early Head Start programs for infants, toddlers, and pregnant women.

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• Providing other materials for easier use such as a big handle paint brush

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THE MOST BEAUTIFUL ASPECT of childhood is the opportunity to observe and support the unique qualities of children. All children develop at different rates, influenced by their temperament, physiology, and family culture.Exploring and creating individualized learning opportunities for children to thrive–including those with special needs– is a cornerstone of the Head Start program. Head Start programs promote children’s development through services that support early learning, health, and family well-being.

• Velcro to help with clothing Head Start works closely with families to effectively plan and implement practices that keep the child engaged in the classroom community. Head Start programs change classroom materials intentionally and periodically to support children’s interests, development, and learning. Ultimately the observation and regard for the child’s preferences will generate creative strategies that support inclusive learning of all children.

• Add knobs or handles to wooden puzzles

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• Alter the environment to promote participation and learning.

• Create safe boundaries for activities that require extra space with tape

Inclusive care for children with disabilities can be achieved with a relationship-based approach that is individualized and responsive to their needs. Individualized care and daily adaptations are regularly implemented by families and teachers for typically developing children, and it can be easily achieved for children with special needs. Recognizing that all children are competent and may need support when mastering a specific skill creates a safe and inclusive setting for children to explore. When adapting environments, activities, or materials, reviewing what supports the child’s unique interests helps create opportunities for active participation.

• Giving children materials for tasks one piece at a time

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One of only three such places exist in the entire country – in fact. It’s called Ryan House and its mission is to embrace all children and their families as they navigate life-limiting or end-of-life journeys through palliative and respite care. It’s a place for families to be supported and comfortable during their most difficult times.

The care team at Ryan House, for example, offers a loving system of support and comfort for children and families through their very difficult journeys by providing symptom management, assisting with difficult conversations, and offering spiritual care to name a Palliativefew. care and pediatric palliative care provide an extra layer of support. The pediatric palliative care offered at Ryan House is both a philosophy and method of care. It aims to holistically identify and alleviate the physical, psychosocial, spiritual, and emotional pain for both the child and the family. Its primary goals are to enhance quality of life, minimize suffering, optimize functions, and provide opportunities for personal growth.

If you or someone you know needs a break from the 24/7 care required for a child with a life-limiting condition, then Ryan House is for you.Families with a child 17 years or younger, diagnosed with a life-threatening condition and who could benefit from overnight short-term respite stays can contact Ryan House at info@ ryanhouse.org or (602) 200-0767 for more details. The Ryan House Care Team works with each family to determine the eligibility of each child.

With world-class care and programs, Ryan House embrace all children and their families as they navigate life-limiting or end-of-life journeys through palliative and respite care that addresses the emotional, spiritual, and social needs of the family, continuity of care from diagnosis to end-of-life, expert care provided by our prestigious care partners and highly trained staff and a loving community that offers ongoing support and compassion. Ryan House is the only facility of its kind in the state and only one of three in the country. For more information visit ryanhouse.org

Think of respite stays as a mix between grandma’s house and camp for the children with life-limiting conditions. Families can receive care at no cost to them thanks to the generous support of the community.

To learn more about Ryan House, including stays, volunteering opportunities and/or to donate, visit ryanhouse.org. While there, check out the online virtual tour under the “Our Palliative Care & Respite Care Home” dropdown menu.

Respite care essentially means a time out to rest and recharge. Ryan House provides short-term, specialized pediatric care and supervision for children in a safe environment to provide relief for their parents or caregivers.

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You may have heard some of these terms like end-of-life, palliative and respite care before but perhaps you’re not quite sure exactly what they mean. End-of-life care (hospice) is not a place but, rather, it is high-quality care that enables patients and families to focus on living as fully as possible despite a life-limiting illness.

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Pal Guide provides on-location support including a behavior chain and picture exchange communication so guests can communicate, through images, how they are feeling and things they need.

By Monique Seleen Pal Co-founders, Melanie and Adam Isaacs.

PAL EXPERIENCES, a Phoenix-based nonprofit organization, is helping make places more inclusive and accessible for guests with developmental disabilities.

“The sky’s the limit with where our tools can work,” said Isaacs. For more information or to access Pal Experience’s digital tools, visit: palexperiences.org

After work one day, she encountered a family that inspired her to want to help.

“Our tools were built using evidencebased best practices in behavioral therapy,” said Isaacs. “Just as a ramp helps guests who move differently, Pal’s digital tools were created to help guests who process differently.”

“Seventy percent of families impacted by autism are socially isolated; it is just easier to stay home when some of the challenges with autism are anxiety over not knowing what to expect, sensory sensitivities, and differences in communication,” Isaacs said. That’s where Pal Experiences comes in to help. With digital tools that are available online 24/7 and free to those in need thanks to fundraising, grants, and other partnering organizations, families have access to crucial information to help them plan and prepare for theirAouting.PalVideo foreshadows what to expect–showing everything from walking through security and smelling popcorn to waiting in line and leaving– decreasing anxiety and making new adventures more predictable.

Founder and Chief Inclusion Officer, Melanie Isaacs, got the idea for the organization while working at an aquarium.

Pal currently partners with local organizations such as OdySea Aquarium, the Children’s Museum of Phoenix, the Phoenix Suns, and Arizona Diamondbacks so families can have fun together while feeling confident and prepared for their experience.

Pal Place Web Pages provide sensory scales and insider tips so families can be prepared and bring what they need, like headphones, to make it a positive experience.

It was then that Isaacs recognized the difficulties that special needs families face when trying to go out places.

The organization also recognizes the value in not only creating resources for places that families want to go, but has resources for the places they need to visit too. Because of that, they have a partnership with Banner Children’s Urgent Care and have worked with Blue Star Recyclers to create an employment program that supports adults with developmental disabilities.

“One day on my way home from work, a father and a son approached me,” she recalled. “They noticed the logo on my shirt and wanted to know all about the aquarium. As we were chatting the son was getting more and more excited. When I asked if he’d liked to visit, the father quickly said, ‘Oh no, we can’t go to the aquarium. He has autism. It would be too hard.’”

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THIS TUCSON-BASED swim school is taking dives to stand out among other swim facilities. Apart from their small class sizes, well-trained, professional coaches, and indoor, salt-water pool facilities, Saguaro Aquatics also offers swimming lessons specifically designed for children with mental or physical disabilities in their Sonoran Dolphins Program. The Sonoran Dolphin Program offers private, individualized lessons for any student with disabilities. Using a unique water safety and swimming lesson curriculum, the program allows children with autism and other disabilities to learn and experience swimming safety skills and improve the overall quality of their life.

Staff is specifically trained in behavior and sensory therapy and each child is assessed during an introductory lesson, where the instructor will then customize the curriculum for each individual child allowing them to achieve their goals.

Since drowning is one of the top leading causes of death for people with Autism due to water’s calming effect, Walker says it’s important to teach water safety and set boundaries with students in hopes of reducing the number of drowning incidents amongst this population.

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“From visual schedules to sensory toys to help during lessons as positive reinforcers and focus tools, Saguaro Aquatics strives to enter each student’s world to help teach the water safety skills needed for each student,” she said.

Not only is the program teaching valuable life-saving swimming skills, but it is also helping in a variety of other ways including fostering a sense of community, alleviating joint pain and muscle stiffness, as well as improving communication in non-verbal students.“The SD program allows [students] to exercise, communicate, connect and be successful,” said Walker. “For clients who feel pressure on their joints constantly, the water alleviates that pain and helps cause comfort and the ability to focus on other tasks. It’s been shown that communication also grows in non-verbal students when learning in water!”

Molly Walker, Manager of the Sonoran Dolphin Program, says that the program is designed to better meet the needs of each student.

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• Repeats words or phrases over and over • Lines up toys and becomes frustrated when the order is changed; gets upset when others play with toys a different way

• Can’t tolerate minor changes to routines, clothing, home or school settings

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• 2 years: Your toddler doesn’t notice when others are hurt or sad, and doesn’t communicate or make requests by pointing or using words.

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• 12 months: Your child doesn’t play pata-cake or wave goodbye to friends, family or passersby.

Still, there are common behaviors — or a lack of behaviors — that often indicate autism. If you suspect your child may have autism, this list below of typical social and developmental signs may feel familiar. Though you may fear your child will not fit in at school or grow up to have the experiences, a proper diagnosis and appropriate interventions can help you mitigate the challenging aspects of autism and help your child live a full and happy life.

• 5 years: Your child doesn’t want to sing, dance or otherwise perform. In addition, collecting toys and objects is far preferable to playing with them.

You may also notice your child shows restricted and repetitive behaviors, which may be very challenging for parents. These behaviors can happen across a range of ages:

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You can start by scheduling a visit with your child’s pediatrician or contacting Axis for Autism, an Arizona healthcare company specializing in autism evaluation with offices in the Valley and in Tucson, for a free 15-minute screening. During that time, our team will determine if a full evaluation is appropriate and help you through next steps. During my 20-year career working with children and families, I have learned that parents who believe their children have autism are almost never wrong. Honor your intuition and act swiftly to ensure the best future for your child.

• Rocks body, spins or flaps hands If you believe your child has autism, I recommend scheduling an evaluation right away, as a diagnosis is helpful for accessing services through many insurance providers as well as the Arizona Department of Developmental Disabilities. And since early intervention is linked to better short-and long-term outcomes for children, it’s best to move quickly.

• 4 years: While peers may enjoy dressing up as superheroes or princesses, your 4-year-old doesn’t engage in pretend play.

• 9 months: Your baby doesn’t respond to his or her name or look at you with a range of facial expressions — like joy, sadness and frustration. They also may be frequently and intensely distressed.

• Has outsized or unusual reactions to sounds, smells and tastes

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• 7 years: Other 7-year-olds may be forming small friendship groups at school, but yours doesn’t have any preferred friends. Instead, your child has recurrent challenges getting along with classmates.

“IF YOU KNOW one child with autism, you know one child with autism.” It’s a common refrain among health professionals who care for children with autism spectrum disorder. Just as no two kids are the same, no two kids with autism are the same. In fact, signs can vary dramatically from one child to the next.

• 3 years: Your child doesn’t notice other children or join them in play. He or she may not care about toys, instead showing an intense and ongoing preference for household objects like flashlights, toothbrushes, remote controls — even while other 3-year-olds show a clear preference for toys.

Morgan Hall, PhD is a clinical neuropsychologist and clinical director of Axis for Autism. Suspect Your Child has Autism

• Develops obsessive interests and will not diverge, even for another fun activity

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and strength • Tunnels & zip line • Trampolines for building leg and core strength • Indoor play structure for climbing and increasing playground skills • Sensory-based toys • Fine motor play toys and equipment • Arts and crafts area with chalkboard Dobson Ranch Park 2359 S Dobson Rd, Mesa • 10,000 square feet • A multi-layer play experience with upper and lower play structures connected through ramps • Toddler expression swings that allow parents to swing with younger children • Sandbox table and musical instruments to encourage sensory play • A 50-foot double zip line with supported seat and disc for side-by-side play • Triumph Climber with transfer station for side-byside climbing • Cozy Cocoon and Saddle Spinner for children who need a quiet space • Mixed surfacing with rubber and wood fiber • Updated restrooms to meet ADA requirements • Inclusive play structures and shaded playground Jordan’s Corner 15681 N Hayden Rd Unit 116, Scottsdale • 2,800 square feet • Indoor play place for children under the age of 6 • Sensory play • Swings • Montessori climbers • Soft play • Interactive wall • Art and cars table • Daily staff led activities • Meet & greet with princesses • Story time • Parent rest spots with complimentary phone chargers, access to coffee and clean meals, and an open layout, so each child can be seen from every corner of the room Milagro Playground Jacobs Park 3300 N. Fairview Ave, Tucson • Wheelchair accessible picnic tables • 720-foot Challenge Circuit that surrounds the park • Triple-Shootout basketball court with baskets of varying heights • Seat walls • Sand & water play area • Swings for tots • Climbing structure with slide • Surfaces made of rubberized cement • Play area for 5-12 year old children with ramped play modules and discovery learning stations IGUALMORAJORDI 6 Accessible Playgrounds for Kids of All Abilities By Monique Seleen 38 Fall 2022: SEPT/OCT/NOV RaisingARIZONAKids.com

Telephone Pioneers of America Park 946 W. Morningside Drive, Phoenix Two beep baseball fields for those who are visually impaired heated pool Wheelchair-accessible playground 18-station exercise course accessible sports the Spectrum Kids E Grant Rd Suite 141, equipment with swings for balance and treatment and crash pillows for fun, motor planning,

Also known as Castle Park, the Stewart Vincent Wolfe Creative Playground is a unique ADA playground that has been recognized as one of the largest creative playgrounds, as well as one of the top 20 playgrounds in the country, for being “impressive, accessible and inclusive.” Local school students provided input on the playground’s design, and volunteers of all ages worked together on the actual construction. Sadly, in late 2015, most of the playground was destroyed by an arson fire. The community immediately pulled together again to rebuild, and while the insurance helped fund most of the new playground, it was the donations that helped make it “Bigger, Better, and Safer.”

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First, your child needs to feel the dental office is a safe place. Call the office and schedule a “happy visit.” This is an opportunity for kids to walk through the office, sit in a dental chair, look in the rooms, touch the instruments and get a prize. There’s no exam, just safe exploring so everyone leaves feeling a little more comfortable. We also encourage our patients to stop by anytime just to wave and say hello. All of this helps us build a positive relationship with your child and establish trust. Another way to help your child is to set expectations about the dental visit. Try playing dentist at home! Have them sit on the floor or in a recliner while you wear a mask and practice counting their teeth. Talk about what happens in a dental visit. Look at pictures of the office or watch videos about the dental practice online. An app like Social Story Creator and Library can be helpful for children with autism. It allows you to create a story about a dental visit with your child as the main character. It’s something they can watch over and over again. Finally, advocate for your child. Tell us what would help them best – is it a private room? Turning off the overhead television? Holding a special toy in their hands? We will always do what we can to accommodate your child’s needs. Clear communication from parents really helps us do that. Here in Arizona, you have lots of great options for pediatric dentists. Search around and try out offices until you find one that makes you and your child feel comfortable. It’s always best to start early. The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends a child visit the dentist by their first birthday. It is much easier on everyone if the child is not in pain.

Dr. Lafe Chaffee is a board certified pediatric dentist in Mesa. He specializes in creating a great dental experience for kids of all ages. You can learn more at chaffeekids.com

Chrysalis Academy has grown over the years and is now part of the LEARN Behavioral family of educational and clinical service companies, as a division within Desert Choice Schools. We are an Arizona Department of Education approved day school, providing K-12+ educational services to students throughout the valley. Chrysalis Academy accepts both district and privately placed students. Visiting

Chrysalis Academy began in 2003 after a successful summer program was implemented under Play ABA. Chrysalis Academy started with just 8 students and 7 staff members. Play ABA continues to support after-school services including habilitation, respite, and direct OT/Speech Language/ABA services.

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PROGRAM HIGHLIGHTS •ABA Based Education •Special Education Teachers •Board Certified Behavior Analysts •Registered Behavior Technicians •Speech and Language Therapy •Occupational Therapy •Small classroom settings •Dense staff to student ratios •Individualized instruction •Transition development •Play ABA extended day services •Developmental Half Day Program (Ages 4-6) Chrysalis Academy 1250 North 77th Street Scottsdale AZ, 85257 Phone Number Fax Number (480) 839-6000 (480) 839-6363 Email: office.chrysalis@gmail.com

Chrysalis Academy is a theraputic private day school for children with autism and related disorders.

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GOING TO THE DENTIST can be very intimidating! The tastes, the smells, the noises, opening your mouth for a ridiculous amount of time… It’s just not a very enjoyable experience. It’s even more difficult for kids –especially those with extra sensitivity or unique needs. So how do you help your child with special needs have a good experience at the dentist? While we can’t take away all the stress, we can help you have a better dental visit.

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Doctors and nurses who provide care to moms during labor and afterward are focused on the patient experience now more than ever. Almost ALL hospitals track the results of their patient experience through surveys and use that data to meet customers’ needs and provide outstanding experiences. This change means hospitals are competing for your business which puts you in the driver’s seat for your delivery experience. You can help create the delivery experience you want to have with your healthcare team. Here are five quick tips to prepare you for your personalized hospital delivery experience:

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5 Tips to Prepare for Your Hospital Delivery

3. Know where to arrive. The day you go into labor can be stressful, but you can minimize the chaos by knowing exactly how to access the Labor and Delivery department at your hospital. Some hospitals have specific entrances for Labor and Delivery patients and others may have signage to guide you. Either way, you are going to want to know how to get to the Labor and Delivery department prior to

IF YOU’RE PLANNING TO DELIVER at a hospital, here are several tips you can do to help prepare for a personalized delivery experience.

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2. Plan it. Birth plans are very popular and there are a ton of birth plan templates online. If you are planning on delivering in a hospital and have a birth plan, make sure you match your birth plan with a hospital that offers the experiences you desire. If you would like to bring a doula, have aromatherapy, music, an epidural for pain control, or even a natural birth, check with the hospital you plan on delivering at to ensure those services are supported. Labor and delivery healthcare providers are familiar with birth plans and want to partner with you on your delivery experience. A birth plan is the perfect way to communicate your wishes to your healthcare team. Keep in mind that each experience is different and there will be occasions when you or your baby’s healthcare needs can override your birth plan. Even if your delivery does not go 100% as planned, your healthcare team will try to honor your wishes as much as possible. Flexibility and clear communication between you and your healthcare team are the keys to success.

1. There’s an app for that! Most hospitals have a smartphone app and some have apps that are specific to pregnancy, labor and delivery, and postpartum care. Search in your smartphone app store and check out the app for the hospital you plan to deliver at. At Dignity Health facilities we use the my. Baby app. Apps often include tours of the hospital, preregistration, education, kick-counters, links to classes provided at the hospital, a list of delivery experiences offered and more. An app can give you some insight to what the hospital offers and help you get a feel of what to expect.

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being in labor. This includes knowing where to park. This information can often be found on the hospital’s website, app, or by taking a hospital tour if one is offered.

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Preparing for your hospital experience in these ways will help you partner with your healthcare team during and after your delivery. Creating the experience you desire for your delivery and hospital stay is achievable. Take advantage of the opportunities to empower and educate yourself and make your baby journey uniquely your own.

Andrea Hassler is the Nursing Director for Women and Infants Services at Dignity Health - St. Joseph’s Hospital and Medical Center. She is passionate about women’s health, childbirth, and maternity care. She leads a team of 330 labor and delivery, postpartum and neonatal intensive care nurses, and believes in the importance of childbirth education.

4. Bring the essentials, but only the essentials. Many moms plan on bringing a car seat, an outfit for the baby, plenty of blankets and a change of clothes for themselves. You will need all of these things but you will also need your identification card/driver’s license and your insurance card or information. The hospital staff supports you as you fill out a form to send to the state of Arizona for your child’s birth certificate. You will need to provide your child’s parent(s) names, addresses, birthdates, occupations, as well as other racial, ethnic, and demographic information. This is a legal document and can be tedious to complete. You will want to ensure the document is complete and accurate before it is sent off to the Arizona Office of Vital Statistics. Changing it after it has been submitted can be challenging. Do not bring any valuables like large amounts of cash or expensive jewelry. Valuables can get misplaced or lost forever in a hospital as most do not have a safe keeping place. Do not bring a bunch of extra stuff. You will likely be moving to different rooms in the hospital and you will not want to have to pack up a bunch of things each time you move and when you are discharged from the hospital.

Andrea has served as the Arizona State Chair for the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetrical and Neonatal Nursing (AWHONN), and has been an active member of the March of Dimes Maternal Child Health Board and the Board of Directors for the Arizona Perinatal Trust.

5. Take that hospital class. Hospital classes should be on your to-do list. They are designed to be very low cost or even free, but are chock full of rich information that can contribute to a healthy delivery for you and your baby. Some think hospital classes are designed to make money. On the contrary, hospital classes are designed to educate you, prepare you for your delivery and even help you set realistic expectations for delivery and postpartum journey. Is this your first baby? You should consider taking a childbirth class to help you understand what to expect from your body during labor and different ways to manage the birthing process. Do you plan on breastfeeding? Take a breastfeeding class. Many will tell you breastfeeding is “natural” and while it is natural; it can also be frustrating, painful, and exhausting. A class can help you understand breastfeeding, set realistic expectations, and help you successfully meet your new baby’s needs.

On March 18th, 2022 when Ashley was 31 weeks and 4 days pregnant with Sloane, their lives changed.

• Have photos taken to look back on. While I was still in the hospital one of my very close friends came and took photos of Sloane and me so we would have them for our memories. I am forever grateful to be able to look at Sloane at any point in the day and just see her.

• Find and go to therapy. Within a few days of getting home I had called my VA Maternity Care liaison and let her know that Sloane had died. She instantly set me up with one of the grief psychologists at the VA that works with female veterans who lost their babies and/or children. This has been an absolute life saver. I have been speaking to both a grief therapist and a trauma therapist since the beginning weeks of Sloane dying.

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• Attend a support group. Banner Thunderbird, where I had Sloane, also has a Pregnancy And Infant Loss (PAIL) Support Group that I joined right away so I could

“Grief after losing your baby is such a roller-coaster of emotions,” said Ashley. If you find yourself in a similar situation, here are five things she says have helped her cope:

Ashley was sent in for an Emergency C-Section where they delivered the baby and later informed her that she had suffered a catastrophic complete placenta abruption, never showing any symptoms of it until the moment she started bleeding. Within hours, the Sherouse family went from happily preparing to become a family of five, to grieving the sudden death of their third daughter. Since then, Ashley, Jonny, and their daughters have had to learn how to navigate the overwhelming emotions that have come after their loss and want to share their story and advice in hopes of helping others.

“It was just a normal Friday, the end of Spring Break for the older girls so we were just starting to prep to go back to school on the upcoming Monday. We were on the home stretch [of the pregnancy] and the day before I had started to get the room ready to have all three girls together, so we were getting super excited,” Ashley recalled. As Ashley went to go use the restroom that morning, she said she felt like her water broke, but instead quickly realized she was bleeding out. They dialed 911 and Ashley was rushed to the hospital. Once there, it was determined that baby Sloane no longer had a heartbeat.

Ashley Sherouse with her third daughter, Sloane, who passed in the womb due to a complete placenta abruption at 31 weeks.

OCTOBER 15TH OFFERS GRIEVING mothers, parents, and families a chance to honor the loss of a pregnancy or infant as it is deemed National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.It’s a heartbreak that the Sherouse family in Peoria knows all too well. Ashley found out she was pregnant with her third child in September 2021. Having had two healthy and successful pregnancies with her daughters Samantha (7) and Savannah (3), she was not expecting anything different the third time around. “My pregnancy was smooth sailing,” she said. “We found out that our baby would be another girl and we named her Sloane Isabella.”

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If you know someone experiencing a loss, here are three tips Ashley suggests for how you can help:

SLOANE WAS BURIED in a dress from Angel Gowns by Karen, part of the NICU Helping Hands’ Angel Gown® program that provides custom made gowns to families free of charge for a baby’s final photos and/or burial services.

• Don’t expect what you do or say to make them feel better. Just let them know that you are there for them to be heard. Allow those in the grief process to talk about their baby, no matter how far along they were in their pregnancy or how old the baby was.

• Stay busy. I have made it a point for us to stay busy which can be good and bad in terms of being over exhausted, but our kids are getting to enjoy themselves while we get to watch their joy. We will never get over losing Sloane, but we must get up for Samantha and Savannah.

• Reach out. On those important dates, just reach out to the family to let them know that you are thinking of them, ask if they need anything, or if they want to talk about their child. I would love for someone to just be like, “Hey, let’s go to the cemetery and visit with Sloane.”

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talk to other moms who experienced loss. My oldest daughter and I have also started attending Billy’s Place in Glendale, which is a support group for all types of loss. I can talk with other parents who lost their children, and my daughter gets to talk to other kids who have lost their siblings. She also really enjoys this because no one in our family here in Arizona has gone through this loss so she is able to speak her truth.

• Elicit a friend or family member to set up a meal train. The day after Sloane died, one of my best friends started a meal train for our family which allowed our friends and family from all over the country to either bring us food or send us gift cards for food. This was such a blessing because for those first few weeks we really did not have to worry or think about what the girls and us would eat since it was taken care of.

• Let them talk. I know personally I want to talk about Sloane and keep her memory alive but there have been times where people have asked me to not talk about her. It is so important to let the families of those who have lost a child to be able to talk as much as they want and to share any pictures that they want as well.

“Everyone grieves differently and grief has no end,” said Ashley. “There is no getting over the loss of a child, no matter how long you had with them.”

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Tené Marion is the Program Administrator for the Arizona Department of Child Safety’s Office of Prevention.

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By Tené Marion NEW AND EXPECTANT PARENTS face a dizzying array of to-do’s as they prepare for baby. Among the most important priorities is ensuring their home is safe for tiny hands and curious minds. September is National Baby Safety Month, an opportunity to review the most important precautions to take at home to keep babies and toddlers safe. While baby proofing may seem a daunting task, the tips below and valuable checklists from trusted partners can help you ensure your home is a secure place for your little one.

1. A baby should always be placed on their back to sleep; not on their side or their stomach.

The entire AAP policy statement (How to Keep Your Sleeping Baby Safe: AAP Policy Explained) with a plethora of great information can be found at healthychildren.org Of course, discuss any questions you might have regarding their policy statement with your trusted health care provider. They welcome any and all of your questions.

Dr. Kristin Struble is a pediatrician at Camelback Pediatrics and has been practicing since 2001. She earned her undergraduate nutrition science and medical school degrees from the University of Arizona. She is married to Steve Chakmakian, DO and has one child, Luke. In her free time, she enjoys, hiking, cooking and family time. 2022: SEPT/OCT/NOV RaisingARIZONAKids.com

CHANCES ARE IF you have a new little one in your home, you are receiving lots of advice from family and friends on just about everything and I would bet that even includes your baby’s sleep practices. As a mom myself, I was privy to various advice including my mom’s approaches, as she raised six kids. Now, as a pediatrician – I find myself as part of this group, offering my patients advice on important topics such as sleep.

PREGNANCY & BABIES What You Need to Know About the New Safe SLEEP GUIDELINES

• Set them up for safe sleep: At the top of every baby proofing list is safe sleep. Follow the ABC’s: Baby should be Alone in their own sleep space, placed to sleep on their Back and sleeping in a Crib – not in mom or dad’s bed. Learn more at azdcs.gov/safesleep.

• Keep danger out of reach: While a newborn baby may not be at risk of opening cupboards or getting into hazardous substances, the risk grows exponentially as children get older and begin crawling or walking. Add safety latches to low cabinets and drawers. Put cleaning supplies, kitchen knives and medications – including medical marijuana – in a locked box or out of reach. Keep firearms locked away and stored far from reach.

2. Babies should be placed on a firm, flat, new mattress that fits snuggly into the crib. There should not be anything placed in the crib with your little one such as a pillow, blankets or stuffed animals or toys.

3. Keep the room cool, well ventilated, and even consider a fan. Studies show keeping babies cool also decreases the incidence of SIDS.

4. Do not co-sleep with your infant due to the risk of smothering.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) just recently updated their recommendations regarding evidence-based safe sleep practices. This has been an accumulation of over five years of research and data. I would strongly consider reviewing them and putting them into practice. Sadly, there continues to be a number of sudden infant deaths (SIDS) that are unexplained or due to strangulation. The AAP is constantly looking at new data to help further decrease those numbers as was done with the “back to sleep” campaign or the “safe to sleep” campaign starting in 1994. This implementation dropped the incidence of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) by 60%. Here is my “top five” summary of the newest suggestions on safe sleep practices for your infant:

• Get serious about pool safety: If you don’t have one already, install a pool fence and keep it locked at all times. Designate a pool boss – someone whose only job is to watch the kids – every time you take your child swimming. Find more important water safety tips at Followingphoenixchildrens.org/watersafetytheseguidelineswilldramatically reduce injury risks and keep your baby or toddler safe at home. For additional guidance including a pointby-point checklist for baby proofing, visit FirstThingsFirst.org/home-safety

• Get down on their level: Consider your home from the point of view of a crawler or toddler to understand their risks. Put safety plugs in every electrical outlet. Tie up cords on shades and curtains to ensure they’re out of reach. And store small objects like batteries or magnets in a place your child can’t access.

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5. No smoking around or near your infant. Second and third hand smoke also places your infant at risk for SIDS.

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