Bona february 2017

ENGLISH EDITION BONA.CO.ZA

FEBRUARY 2017 R15,00 (VAT incl)

HOW TO

ALL THINGS ROMANCE Revive the spark Sweet treats for Valentine’s Day

REVAMP

YOUR WEAVE ROCK SHADES OF RED & PINK PLAN FOR A RAINY DAY

GETTING HITCHED? Why a marriage contract is a must

HELPING YOUR CHILD WITH HOMEWORK

Other countries R13,16 (tax excl)

THANDO Thabethe Prospering

&in love

Picture Aubrey Jonsson Make-up Prudence Segami Stylist Lesego Kgosimolao

EDITOR’S LETTER

F “Whether you are in love or wishing for it, love is beautiful.”

ebruary, aka the month of love, is the shortest month of the year; but it has so much impact in shaping many love expectations.

Couples expect well thought-out gifts – not just chocolate or a card – while those in “undefined” situations seek clarification of their relationship status. Visit our Personal Shopper Fashion (page 26) and Tastes Good (page 74) for some inspiration.

I had the honour of attending my cousin’s wedding recently, where I witnessed a couple take the bold step into their forever after. Wonderful speakers, including the bride’s mother and groom’s mentor, shared love stories that have stood the test of time, as well as love in the time of apartheid. The speakers compared love to a fire that needs to be fuelled daily, with communication as one of the most important tools to keep the fire burning.

They also shared tips on keeping each other interested as well as the importance of family values. The Relationship Advice feature (page 40) and the lovely couples on You Tell Us (page 54) share the same sentiments.

Whatever heart-warming encounters or expectations of love you have this month, start by celebrating the love around you – from your family to your friends. Also, look within, be kind to yourself, and nurture your body, soul and mind. By doing the things that bring you joy, making time for yourself and thinking and speaking positively, you will surely attract the love you deserve.

Whether you are in love or wishing for it, love is beautiful. Love is all around us and we should marvel in its wonder.

Love you all

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BEAUTIFUL PERSONAL SHOPPER: BEAUTY Dazzle with these metallic must-haves MASTERCLASS Dark lip colours to bring out your bold side YOUR HAIR: TUTORIAL How to revamp your weave YOUR HAIR: HOT TOPIC Do you know your hair type?

STYLISH PERSONAL SHOPPER: FASHION Spoil your partner with these gifts, this Valentine’s Day SEEN ON A STAR Rihanna shows us how to style a blue shirt MADE MAN How to look stylish in a tailored blazer BUILD YOUR WARDROBE Four looks to pair with your white sneakers FASHIONISTA How to rock shades of red and pink

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YOUR LOVE ADVICE Dr Luck answers your questions on life and love 40 RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Ways to bring back the spark in your relationship 42 GOOD PARENTING How to help your child with homework 44 CELEB PARENT Actress Liteboho Molise chats to us about being a first-time mom 45 HOME SWEET HOME Musician Anatii shows us what makes his house a home

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WORKLIFE The know-how of bidding for and winning a tender YOU TELL US Three couples on overcoming challenges and making their marriages work BONA INVESTIGATES Why marriage contracts are important MOTIVATION Pastor George encourages you to celebrate love SPIRITUAL HEALING Pastor George uses scriptures to answer your questions POSITIVE LIVING Your HIV status and investments

HEALTHY HIV ADVICE Dr Sindi answers your questions on HIV/Aids FEEL GOOD The quest for inner peace HEALTH We unpack the anatomy behind the thyroid HEALTH HELP Dr Dulcy gives advice on all medical issues

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A FOODIE MEALS IN MINUTES Tasty, light breakfast ideas COOKING WITH A STAR Musician Vusi Nova shows us how to prepare his favourite lamb dish TASTES GOOD Delectable chocolate treats for Valentine’s Day PERSONAL SHOPPER: FOOD New products on the shelves KITCHEN PRO Must-have herbs for your kitchen

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MY LIFE IN WORDS Musician Dr Malinga shares his success story 86 OVERSEAS CELEBS Young black girls slowly changing the world 90 BLACK EXCELLENCE Ramona Kasavan on her company Mimi

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COVER STORY We catch up with talented actress and Radio host Thando Thabethe 81 SMALL SCREEN STAR Actress Petronella Tshuma on her journey in the film industry 82 MY TOWNSHIP We explore Alexandra through the eyes of actor Meshack Mavuso 84 MY LIFE IN THINGS Rapper Big Star Johnson shares his favourite items

REGULARS HAVE YOUR SAY Tell us what’s on your mind 10 BONA ONLINE Stay up to date with new music, films and other entertainment 63 BLOCK PUZZLE Fill in correctly and win 87 YOUR STARS What to expect in February

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

WE HEAR YOU! WINNING LETTER WELL DONE, LUNGILE! I am a married mother of two. Raising our children was hard; because my husband and I are working, we had no time to focus on our relationship. We were more focused on our children because they did not behave well.

Your Good Parenting article in the April issue has taught me about healthy co-parenting and making sacrifices for the children. I want to be a good mother and encourage others because being a parent is not that stressful. I salute Lungile Khumalo for that article.

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hard to simultaneously control my weight while taking the medication.

My self-confidence declined, and I started wearing bigger clothes to hide my curves. But, I chose to appreciate my curves and search for healthier ways to lose weight. I even auditioned for Miss Plus-Size Universe Botswana 2016 to face my fears. I didn’t make it to the top 15 as I had hoped. But, I read your article Beauty in Curves in your November issue and those women inspired me. I am back on my feet and exploring vintage styling. I also tried the detoxing salad dishes in your Tastes Good feature to aid my digestive system. Thank you, BONA! Lebogang Solomon, Botswana

SELF-LOVE BONA has helped me to improve my health, and gain confidence in myself. I used to break down when people insulted me about my weight.

I even tried to lose it by using certain products, but that didn’t work. BONA made me realise that God made me this way for a reason. It helped me believe that as a woman, I need to work on and accept myself because if I don’t, nothing will work. My body image cannot be based on what other people think or say. Thank you, BONA! Keneilwe Moepi, Koster

I was diagnosed with anxiety and stress management disorders in 2012, and the side effect from the medication was weight gain. It was

It only took R1.50 for me to be the winner of the Slumberland bed competition in BONA. I would like to thank the magazine for my prize, and for the inspiring and informative stories that you bring to us. BONA forms part of my basic need. Thank you for the opportunity to win, and for the prize. God is great!

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The vibrant Thando Thabethe chats to us about parties, dating and friendships. Watch the fun BTS footage of our February issue online now.

We take a look at how celeb couples who stay together, slay together.

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MINIMUM WAGE INCREASE 2016/17 Department of Labour | Working for you

AS FROM 1 DECEMBER 2016 TO 30 NOVEMBER 2017 THE WAGES WILL INCREASE AS FOLLOW:

HOURS OF WORK Normal hours (excluding overtime and lunch time)

The minimum wages for domestic workers who work more than 27 hours per week

A domestic worker may not be made to: •

Work more than 45 hours a week

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Work more than eight hours a day for a six day work week.

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R392.59 (for a 27 hour week)

R1 701.06 (for a 27 hour week)

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R360.54 (for a 27 hour week)

R1 562.21 (for a 27 hour week)

For further information, contact Department of Labour at www.labour.gov.za or the nearest Department of Labour office

A domestic worker may not work more than 15 hours overtime per week and not work more than 12 hours on any day, including overtime.

Overtime must be paid at one-and-half times the employee’s normal wage or an employee may agree to receive paid time-off.

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UPFRONT & PERSONAL

Two years ago, she was on our January cover as a rising star. Now, Thando Thabethe (26) is well on her way to being a household name.

By Zukiswa Dlamini Photography by Andile Mthembu

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ome people are born for the spotlight. It’s in the way they light up when the camera clicks, how eyes are glued to them automatically and how they carry themselves.

Thando is one of those people. She carries a star quality about her – even if you didn’t know that she was a celebrity, you would want to stop and stare.

The radio DJ and actress spent her formative years in Soweto before moving to the Southern suburbs. Her childhood nurtured her gifts; she knew early on what her talents were. “I was involved in school plays and could tell at some point that I was good at it. So, I started actively walking the path to a career in entertainment,” she recalls.

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“Everyone wants to show off their love, and I’m no different just because I’m a public figure.”

UPFRONT & PERSONAL

loans from my friends. I never lost hope, even when my friends thought I was crazy. I knew I was not gambling, but had what it takes to succeed – quitting was never an option for me.”

Thando started off at UJFM as a news presenter. Since then, her career has grown exponentially with a radio show on 5FM, a role in Generations: The Legacy and co-hosting of the 2016 South African Music Awards, among others.

A LIFE OF LOVE Thando’s eyes sparkle when we start talking about love. “Look, I’m a girly girl and such a lover. I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years now, and he is a great guy. I’m one of those people who believe in love; and because I have the type of personality that doesn’t give up, I don’t give up on love either. I don’t believe in backing down, but in you getting up, healing your heart and allowing yourself to fall in love, even if you’ve been hurt before.“ Thando met her boyfriend, Frans, at a media event on a yacht. He caught her attention when he made fun of her toes.

“We were all laughing at each other’s toes, and he made fun of mine. I thought it was funny, but didn’t pay much attention. I gave him my number, and later, we met up in Johannesburg and have been together since.”

On how she manages her relationship in the public, Thando answers truthfully, “I don’t put myself under too much pressure. I’m not going to hide my man just because I am in the public eye. When I feel like posting his pictures on social media, I do. Everyone wants to show off their love, and I’m no different just because I’m a public figure.”

Despite this, the radio DJ is aware of the challenges that come with being open about her life. “It’s risky in the sense that some people want to see you unhappy, so sharing something private can make you vulnerable.

But, we are all humans; we all love.”

Her relationship with Frans has fostered a lot of personal growth. “I have grown in many ways because of this relationship. Both of us are ambitious, and he has helped me to value myself more – not just in monetary terms, but in other areas as well.”

Last year, there were rumours that Thando and Frans got engaged, which was not true.

However, that doesn’t mean marriage is not on the cards in her future. “I would love to get married and have kids; I want that whole shebang. I believe marriage brings structure to a relationship, especially if you want to start a family. I’m also a strong believer in honesty, because trust keeps people together.

I don’t compromise on loyalty and honesty.”

Speaking about romance brings out the girly side that Thando mentioned earlier.

“I’m the cook-and-dress-up-for-you type.

I find beauty in a woman being able to take care of her man. I like making Frans feel special because he is. I’m also the type that expects nice things, so it works out that we both are the way we are.”

THE FUTURE LOOKS BRIGHT With a new year holding many hopes and prospects, the actress says she is still dreaming about her future plans and actively working towards making them a reality. “I have plans to work on more film productions and groundbreaking dramas, and be able to learn and grow in the projects I do.

“I also have plans and dreams to work internationally, especially in the UK and US, in both presenting and acting.”

A trip to Los Angeles last year allowed her to network and make some connections for the next phase of her career. “In the next 10 years, I would like to be an international film star. I don’t have all the answers, but I know I still want to be involved in radio in some form because that comes naturally to me. I’m excited to see what is in store.”

FRIENDSHIPS With her career firmly in place, Thando is grateful for solid family and friendships.

“I’m lucky in that I’ve maintained most of my old friends that I had before I got into the entertainment industry. Because of that, my friendships – even new ones – happen organically; none of it is pretence. I want to keep that energy in all areas of my life, this year.” B

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METALLIC FEVER Dazzle with these must-have metallics this Valentine’s Day. By Nicole Kenny

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Bring out the bold side of your personality with our choice of dark lip colours. By Eve Ntshudisane

A FEW TIPS �� Always base your lips with petroleum jelly to prevent them from being stained by the dark lip colour. �� For your lipstick to last longer, apply a lip liner first. �� Don’t wear too much make-up with your dark lipstick – it may be a bit too much. �� Always check your teeth to make sure that they don’t get stained. Dark lipsticks are more visible if stained.

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earing dark lipstick is no longer reserved for the winter season. You can rock dark colours throughout the year, to add a bold finish to your look.

HOW TO WEAR IT If your lips are dry, exfoliate them with a warm, damp cloth or a sugar and honey scrub.

1. Apply a light layer of lip balm or petroleum jelly.

2. Line your lips with a liner that matches your lipstick to prevent it from bleeding.

Bleeding is when lipstick seeps into the thin cracks of the skin around your lips, and appears smudged.

3. Use either a lip brush or lipstick to fill in the middle part of your lined lips.

4. Don’t rub your lips together – this may smudge or affect the consistency of the lipstick.

GLOSSY OR MATTE? Matte lipstick usually lasts longer than a glossy one. But, some glossy formulations are made to last longer.

If your lipstick is written long-wearing or 12/16 hours on the packaging, it will last longer. The disadvantage of long-wearing lipsticks or glosses is that they tend to leave the lips feeling dry. If you wear shimmery make-up or have oily skin, opt for a matte textured lipstick. And, if you have dry skin or are wearing matte make-up, go for a glossy textured lipstick. B

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WEAVE

REVAMP Eve Ntshudisane shows you how to give your old weave a new lease of life with these tips and tricks.

EXPERT TIP Place the hooks at least four finger spaces apart when sewing them onto the tracks. This allows you the flexibility when putting them on.

YOUR HAIR TUTORIAL

clip and go This is one way to get length without the hassle. Get a pack of hooks to sew onto the tracks of your extensions, and you have your own clip-ins!

HOW TO: 1. Using a tail comb, part your hair where you want to attach the clip-in extension. Measure the piece of extension you want to put in before you attach it so that the measurements are right.

2. Making sure that the clips are open, hook and press to lock. Do this one clip at a time, until done.

3. Blend in your hair with the extensions by brushing and straightening them together in sections until you complete the whole head.

Pictures Andile Mthembu Hair & make-up Nomsa Madida Model Zee, Alushi Models

EXPERT TIP Avoid tying your hair too tight. This puts strain on your hair and scalp, and causes tension headaches.

top knot The bun is a chic style suitable for any occasion. It keeps the hair away from your face, and protects the ends.

HOW TO: 1. Brush your hair up and tie it into a ponytail in the middle of your head. Use a hair tie.

2. Take a track of weave, twist around the bottom of your ponytail from one end. Secure it with another tie or bobby pin when you are done.

3. Coil the length of your extension and twist it around the bottom to form a bun. Tuck or pin the end in, so that the hair doesn’t unravel.

4. Brush away any yaways.

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YOUR HAIR TUTORIAL

chop chop You are more likely to succeed if you cut the weave while it is on your head, because it will be tailored to your face.

HOW TO: 1. Brush your hair to make it even. With a pair of scissors, start snipping your desired style. Cutting horizontally makes your hairstyle blunt.

2. Once done, blow-dry your weave to see if any uneven lengths need to be fixed.

3. Straighten your hair for a sleek finish.

EXPERT TIP If you’re worried about a crooked style, cut your hair in small sections instead of big chunks.

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YOUR HAIR HOT TOPIC

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It is kinky, and dries easily because of its zig-zag curl pattern. It has no movement, and needs a lot of moisture. The curls shrink under humidity and water.

This is similar to 4C in terms of the shape of the curls. But, it is more dense, and shrinks less.

This type is fragile, and dries and tangles easily.

This is suitable for most hairstyles. But, it is prone to being dry and tangling. It has volume, but limited movement.

The curls are spiral.

It has thick spiral curls that resemble a corkscrew pattern. The curl type is less likely to shrink compared with the 4C and 4B types. It frizzes easily.

Moisturise in the morning and evening, with weekly treatments and minimal combing.

Wash every other day.

Frequently condition and moisturise this hair type. One advantage is that it is easy to comb, unlike the 4C type.

Detangle with your fingers.

But, do this while your hair is wet, and saturated with conditioner and light oils that won’t weigh it down.

Use curl defining creams and sprays as it has visible curls. Because it frizzes, tangles and dries out, best use wide-tooth combs.

Black Like Me Deep Cleanse Hydrate Shampoo, R29.95

Dark and Lovely AU Naturale Afro-Moisturizing Butter, R63.95

Design Essentials Natural Almond & Avocado Detangling Leave-in Conditioner, R196

DR. MIRACLE’S Cleanse & Condition Deep Conditioner, R116.95

Do Bantu knots for a defined curl pattern, and twists to stretch it out. Structured cuts can also work.

Use styling rods and bendy rollers for defined curls. This type has no movement.

Style in an up-do, or use defining products to make these curls more noticeable.

It has movement, and a lot of volume. The curls can be defined. Style it in buns, twists and cornrows.

PRODUCTS STYLING

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HANDLING

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your hair type?

Eve Ntshudisane gives a quick guide on four common hair types, and how to manage them.

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Love IS IN THE AIR Spoil your significant other with these gifts, this Valentine’s Day. By Ayanda Ngcobo

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How to style a blue shirt: Pull off an androgynous look by tucking your shirt into slim-fit pants rolled up to your ankles, and pairing with brogues.

A wide-sleeved shirt worn with a pleated midi skirt and heels is feminine and fitting for an office environment.

If you want to try out the off-shoulder trend, tie the sleeves of your shirt into a bow across your chest.

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R649, Cotton On

Rihanna proves that reinventing a classic is never a bad thing. She shows us how stylish a blue shirt can be.

By Ayanda Ngcobo

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MADE MAN

A tailored blazer forms an important part of a modern man’s wardrobe.

Whether worn for work or play, it provides a stylish and smart option that can be dressed up or down. By Ayanda Ngcobo

R899, Zara

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Sunglasses, R89, Exact

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Top, R119.99, Rage

Fedora, R79.99, Mr Price

White sneakers are fast becoming the It shoe for everyday on-trend style. We put together four looks that you can pair your sneakers with. By Ayanda Ngcobo

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LADY IN RED Leave a lasting impression in shades of red and pink. By Ayanda Ngcobo Photography by Andile Mthembu

FEMININE FLUTTER A midi skirt is known to flatter every silhouette, and give an outfit a touch of class. Whether you’re going corporate or just feel like dressing up, this item is a must for your wardrobe.

Top, R229, H&M Skirt, R750, Dainty Frocks Gold cuff, R120, Woolworths Bracelet, R175, Lovisa Heels, R759, Zara

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LACE LOVE A lace corset is a great way to experiment with the pyjama trend.

It stands out when worn with anything – from jeans to a tulle skirt – and can pull off a variety of looks depending on how you style it. This item is an investment piece.

Corset top, R109.99, Mr Price Skirt, R550, Parooz Fashions Necklace, R270, Lovisa

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RED ALERT Nothing says ďŹ erce like a head-to-toe red ensemble. Striking shades of tomato red and maroon with a hint of gold accessories guarantee a head-turning look that’s both polished and poised.

Top, R339, Zara Pants, R1 029, Zara Necklace, R270, Lovisa Heels, R299.95, Edgars

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Hair and make-up Nomsa Madida Model ReďŹ loe from ICE Model Management Johannesburg

Lace and chiffon complement pleats beautifully. When worn together, the outcome is bound to make a statement.

Top, R529, H&M Skirt, R529, H&M Necklace, R270, Lovisa Bag, R299, Zara

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FASHIONISTA

MAKE THEM BLUSH Blush pink gets a shimmery lift in metallic hues. The ruffles add a playful and elegant finish to this dress. Perfect for a date night or special occasion.

Dress, R829, Zara Heels, R759, Zara

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YOUR LOVE ADVICE

LET’S TALK Dr Luck offers practical advice on life, love and sexual challenges.

REVEREND DR TONI LUCK, TRANSFORMATIONAL SPECIALIST

CRAZY IN LOVE I recently met someone, and we’ve been dating for three months.

He is charismatic, amazing, loving, and has an alpha male personality.

The first few weeks were heaven on earth – he went all out. But, he recently just went cold on me, and claims that work keeps him busy. He stopped calling. The last time I called, he seemed unmoved and had a flat tone.

Then, I discovered that he is married, but he never told me. I love him.

What should I do to win him back?

Side Chick, email

Picture Hema Patel

Dear Bewildered: Do you want to be the “side chick”? Love is more than a few feel-good moments.

Firstly, the lasting kind is built on trust and truth, neither of which was present in this situation.

So, there is nothing to get back because you never had him. What you can do is to get yourself back along with self respect, and move on to find a man who is free, open, kind and honest. I hope you begin to love and respect yourself.

RECONSIDERING GETTING MARRIED I am a 27-year-old woman, and have been with my 32-year-old boyfriend for seven years. We are preparing for our wedding in March. I recently did something silly; I went through his phone and discovered pictures

of naked women. I don’t know what to do. Should I ask him about it or just end our relationship?

Confused, email Dear Confused: Yes, it was silly and dishonest, but now you know something more about the man that you’ve been intimate with for seven years and plan to marry. I believe that the seven years deserve a conversation and discussion before you rashly terminate the relationship. After the discussion, you may come to the same decision.

But, you owe it to both of you to talk.

SHE DOESN’T WANT LOBOLA I am a 35-year-old man and my girlfriend is 30. We have been together for eight years, and have two daughters. I want to marry her. But, every time I talk about paying lobola, she changes the subject. She still stays with her parents. What should I do?

Anonymous, email Dear Anonymous: It is time for you and the mother of your children to talk with her parents and your pastor, if you have one. Eight years is too long; two daughters out of wedlock is too much, and begging is not good in this situation. You need to know her restraint so that you either go forward in marriage to give your daughters a righteous and stable example of a family, or move on.

TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE I have been dating someone for a year. He is 25 years old and I am 23. He is too good to be true. I made every effort to find any fault with him, but found nothing. I went through his phone, visited him unexpectedly and phoned him in the middle of the night. But, I found nothing wrong.

I am not sure if I should be worried.

Do people of this calibre still exist?

Surprised, Johannesburg Dear Surprised: Obviously they still do! Thank God that there are still good people in the world. The issue is not him, but you. What you have done in your state of fear and mistrust is to invade his world with your negative issues. You need to apologise. Then, forgive yourself for such behaviour and be grateful that the universe has brought you your heart’s desire. Work to deserve it – cherish him, enjoy his character and don’t blow it. Gifts like this usually come once in a lifetime.

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A little

Love is in the air, but you have to put in some effort in order for that to translate into a burning passion.

By Zukiswa Dlamini

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t’s that time of the year when red and white surround us, and pictures of Cupid are everywhere. Valentine’s Day reminds people that romance is special, important and worth celebrating. Whether or not you believe in the actual day, the question is do you believe in celebrating your love?

“Busy schedules, children and adult responsibilities often dull the spark in relationships, but Valentine’s Day gives us a great reason to revive it,” says Lucy Bell, a Cape Town-based sex and relationship counsellor.

Here are some tips on how you can go from mild to sizzling with your partner:

TAKE SOME TIME Passing time with your partner is not the same as spending quality time with them. Set aside a few hours or a weekend (if you can) to focus on each other. Switch off your phones and the TV, leave the kids and talk of bills behind, and give yourselves a chance to delight in each other’s company.

“When you spend quality time with your partner, it allows you to remember why you fell in love in the first place.

Speaking to and understanding each other outside your daily responsibilities goes a long way to create feelings of romance between you,” says Lucy.

TOUCH ME, BABY Just how much do you touch your partner? “Touch is a great sense that can help couples feel closer,” explains Lucy. Not all touch has to be sexual, but creating a culture of touching each other can lead to a more active sex life. “So, treat your partner to a massage or hold their hand when they least expect it. Small acts of intimacy, such as stroking your lover’s hair, create feelings of being loved; and romance blooms in that kind of space.”

SEX IT UP For a society that is surrounded by sexual messaging, most of us don’t often bring our sexy side to the bedroom. Sexing things up means making an effort to do something different for your partner – buy some lingerie if you’re usually not

the type to do so, or add sex toys to your sexual play. Using sex toys can add some va-va-voom in the bedroom because it involves experimenting with your partner.

TRY SOMETHING NEW Being adventurous doesn’t begin and end in the bedroom. A great way for couples to spice up their relationship is to invest in new experiences together.

Most people spend their lives doing the same things over and over again.

But, instead of yet another braai with your friends, go tenpin bowling or roller skating with your partner.

Discovering new things together leads to closeness, which results in more passion in the bedroom.

Finding new things to do together also reveals fresh qualities you didn’t know about each other. Growing and having fun together is a great recipe for a reignited spark.

LAUGH TOGETHER Laughter is often an underestimated tool for creating and recreating connections between partners.

Make time to laugh with your partner and by yourself – the difference it makes will surprise you. “Sadly, a high number of adults don’t laugh much, and that makes them dull versions of themselves,” says Lucy.

“Not taking things too seriously allows you to enjoy yourself, your partner and relationship more.

Think about how you felt in the early stages of your relationship – chances are you were not overly serious. So, tap into that, laugh and let loose – love and romantic relationships are about having a good time.”

FLIRT Don’t think that just because you are already with someone, flirting should stop. Flirting is all about making your partner feel desirable and letting them know you are still interested. It creates a secret language or code between you, making you feel more connected. Small acts, such as writing sexy notes and sending love messages, can make your boo feel wanted and leave them excited.

IT STARTS WITH YOU When you think about getting the spark back into your relationship, it’s easy to focus on activities that include you and your partner. But, it all starts with you. “If you are not in a good space personally, it is difficult to have a passionate and exciting love life. This is why taking care of your wellbeing is the first step to having a healthy relationship,” says Lucy.

Making sure that you take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally isn’t something that needs to be at the bottom of your to-do list; it should be right at the top. “Make sure that you are happy, and feel beautiful and strong, then you can be the best version of yourself for others. When you are run down and unhappy, it affects every aspect of your life,” warns Lucy.

So, before you shop for sexy lingerie, organise outings or make all kinds of plans for Valentine’s Day, ensure that you are doing it for someone who is actually worth your time. “I’ve seen many women make an effort for men who would never do the same for them and vice versa.”

It’s also important to remember to spoil yourself this Valentine’s Day. “All the nice things you would do for a partner can be done for yourself because you also deserve it. It’s not a bad idea to pamper yourself because the most important kind of love is self-love,” concludes Lucy. B

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GOOD PARENTING

THE HOMEWORK DILEMMA W

hen the topic of homework comes up, children would much rather play with their friends. For many parents, this is even more stressful because they are not always able to help. “Helping children with homework is something that is often not discussed, but is an important topic,” says Thelma Ngodu, an occupational therapist in Johannesburg.

“Most parents want to help, but the reality is that they can’t.”

There are many reasons why some parents are unable, not unwilling, to help. These include being uneducated and illiterate, and not understanding the new curriculum that their children are learning. “There is a high rate of illiteracy in South Africa, especially in rural areas and townships. Parents who were not able to access education do not have the necessary knowledge,” Thelma explains.

DITCH THE SHAME Because some parents feel ashamed and helpless at not being able to help, they get defensive. “I come across many parents who in an attempt to hide their embarrassment at not being able to help with homework, become angry or completely detached when it comes to

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all topics relating to their kids’ education,” she says. But, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Once you realise that homework is just one of many ways to support your kids academically, you will be able to handle the barrier better.

“I also urge parents to not let their kids control them just because they aren’t educated. You may not understand the work, but you are still the parent and the one that sets the tone of what happens in your home,” she adds.

ASK FOR HELP If you don’t understand your child’s schoolwork, get someone to help. This doesn’t always involve paying a tutor. Ensure that homework hours are followed. “A lot of children take advantage of their parents’ ignorance, but it’s on you to keep an eye on it. Set aside an amount of time that is dedicated to homework every day. During that time, make sure that there are no TV, phones or distractions. Then ask to see what that time was used on,” Thelma advises.

Another way to ensure that homework is done is to ask an older child in the neighbourhood to help. “Creating a community that helps each other with homework is good for everyone involved. I have seen instances where many children

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When it comes to homework, it can be daunting for parents who cannot help their children. Here is how you can deal with this issue.

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on the same street pass well because the older kids helped the younger ones,” she adds. Parents also need to forge relationships with teachers to ensure that their kids are always on top of their education. “You don’t need to be educated or understand the curriculum in order to be involved. Create relationships with the teachers and stay in touch. This way, they can tell you if your child is not doing their homework.”

MAKE TIME Former school teacher Nombuyiselo Malingo says more than anything else, children need support. “The technicalities of the curriculum are generally covered at school, and homework helps the kids implement what they have learnt,” she explains.

It can be difficult to make time to help your kids with schoolwork. With work, travelling and dinners to be cooked, you may not always have the time. “But, nothing good comes from being a disinterested parent,” she warns. “It is important to make a plan, even if that means taking 30 minutes a day to check school books. If you don’t check on your kids, they are more likely to bunk school and fail because no one at home will know any better until the end of the year,” she says.

When the end of the year comes and children are held back, a lot of parents are surprised and don’t know what to do. “This attitude of ‘what can I do’ from parents is not acceptable. You can do a lot – be strict, and make sure that someone is in charge and watching over your children’s education. You don’t need a degree to be able to do that; it is active parenting. If you are involved all-year round, you will not be surprised by the results,” she explains.

TAKE CHARGE As kids grow older and homework becomes more complicated, an unnerving number of parents lose the reigns of control. “The only way to maintain control is to check on things. Don’t be afraid to call teachers if you don’t understand something, or to question your children,” Thelma warns.

Consequences also need to be part of the conversation.

“If your kids aren’t doing their school or homework to your liking, it’s up to you to make sure that there is some kind of punishment. These are not easy to do, but are the cornerstones of being an invested and responsible parent. When they grow into responsible and thriving adults, your kids will thank you,” she adds.

WHERE TO GO FOR HELP Teach me 2 tutoring Tutor support: 087 550 4799 Email hello@teachme2.co.za IQ Academy National call centre: 086 111 5054 Email info@iqacademy.ac.za Adult Basic Education and Training (ABET) Visit abet.co.za B

CELEB PARENT

A mother’s love Muvhango actress Liteboho Molise chats to Fundiswa Nkwanyana about being a first-time mom.

WHAT DOES MOTHERHOOD MEAN TO YOU? Selflessness, joy and unconditional love. My one-year-old daughter, Nobukhosi, fills my heart with the kind of love that I have never felt before. I love being a mother, and I am blessed to experience so much love from my daughter.

Every time I talk about her, I smile from within and thank God for this precious gift. Motherhood has become my life.

DO YOU HAVE A PARENTING STYLE? Not yet; she is my first child and parenting is still new to me.

I am grateful that I have a full-time nanny who is older and wiser, because she guides me as I discover parenting.

WHAT ACTIVITIES DO YOU LIKE TO DO WITH NOBUKHOSI? I have a busy schedule and work odd hours. So, when I get time to spend with her, I switch my phone off. I sing and watch her as she tries to sing along and dance. I love letting her be as she loves exploring. We play hide and seek because she loves climbing into cupboards and I have to pretend that I don’t know where she is. We always have fun together.

DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN HER? Sometimes she looks like me, and sometimes like her father. However, she has my eyes, lips and nose. She already likes mimicking the way I talk and behave; it’s beautiful and funny to watch. She is such a character because whenever she wears a new outfit, she stands in front of a mirror and dances – I sometimes do that!

WHAT ARE YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS FOR YOUR DAUGHTER? I pray that she becomes a God-fearing person who trusts in His power. Her love for God will guide her to be a humble and kind person. I hope that she learns to listen, and follow her heart. I hope she knows that I love her unconditionally, and that she means everything to me. B 44 ENGLISH FEBRUARY 2017 | BONA.CO.ZA

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WHAT LESSONS HAS SHE TAUGHT YOU? To be patient; Nobukhosi has increased my tolerance levels.

I now understand that things don’t always have to happen in my time. I used to be impatient, but now my concept of time has changed. I am more relaxed and let things unfold naturally.

HOME SWEET HOME

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Vanilla wax-filled candle, R29.99, Mr Price Home

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I am grateful for my Apple TV because I watch the latest movies on it – one of my favourite ways to unwind.

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Apple TV 3rd Generation, R1 299, iStore

My vanilla scented candles have a calming effect on me, especially during my hectic schedules.

I also love how they smell.

At home with

ANATII

Keeping a clean image is part of the game, and my steamer helps to keep my clothes looking fresh and clean.

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Steam Extreme, R249, Game

We take a sneak peek into musician Anatii’s house to get a glimpse of what makes it a home. By Fundiswa Nkwanyana

I use fruits to make juice and smoothies with my nutribullet. It is quick and easy, and helps me to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

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Nutribullet blender, R1 990, DionWired

Pictures Supplied Prices correct at the time of going to print.

A toasted cheese sandwich is one of my favourite meals, and my snackwich toaster makes a perfect one. Two-slice sandwich maker, R299, Game

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CAREERS

FARMING SUCCESSFULLY Tshilidze Matshidzula, 29, chats to us about running a successful commercial dairy farm.

By Fundiswa Nkwanyana

My career kicked off when I was an ambitious 19-year-old agriculture student. I arrived at the Little Barnet Farm near Alexandria in the Eastern Cape as a young student with an eagerness to learn and gain experience. As a young man from Pretoria, it took me a while to familiarise myself with the lifestyle and long working hours. However, with the help of a mentor and knowledgeable workers on the farm, I slowly started to fit in and gained knowledge.

The best way to gain knowledge on farming is to start from the bottom and work your way up. In order to run a successful farm, you need hands-on experience – there are no shortcuts. Time and dedication cannot be compromised. Rearing animals that produce milk is a tricky business as nature is not always on your side. Having strong business acumen also goes a long way because managing funds during droughts is important.

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water and import maize. That is costly, especially because the amount of milk we produce decreases. Financial institutions are not always willing to finance farming, which results in sourcing funding being a challenge.

I run a farm with over 500 cows and produce an estimated 11 000ℓ of milk per day. Innovation and working with an experienced team is key. I always look at ways to work smarter to gain a profit. When I arrived, the farm only had 50 cows. I have raised the numbers and output.

My hard work and determination has paid off, and I still want to continue growing the business at a steady pace.

The agriculture sector is filled with many opportunities. Young black men, and especially women, need to join this sector as it is white and male-dominated. I am available to mentor and help open doors that were previously closed. We need to be highly informed about farming as the land redistribution talks are gaining momentum. It saddens me when inexperienced people are given fertile and expensive land, but do not know how to turn it into a profitable business venture that generates wealth for the future generation.

I want my success to be a source of inspiration for upcoming black farmers. I started farming at an early age, and can relate to the challenges that many young farmers are facing – I want to help them. I want young people to learn from my mistakes so that the path to farming can be easier for them. Mentorship, respect and experience are important in running a successful farm. B

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I am a farmer at an award-winning commercial dairy farm. It is an honour to run a sustainable and profitable farm that creates jobs and empowers the community. I raise calves to cows, and ensure that they are healthy in order to produce a high grade of milk. My work is mentally and emotionally rewarding as I enjoy running a business, and being surrounded by nature. I love what I do.

Drive an SUV Sport utility vehicles (SUVs) are now popular, with manufacturers releasing new models regularly. We take a look at the new Trailblazer. By Moeketsi Letsohla

2017 CHEVROLET TRAILBLAZER This was first introduced on the market in 2000, but was discontinued eight years later. However, the decision to revive it was made in 2011 at the Dubai Motor Show, resulting in the release of a new model in 2012.

The engine The new Trailblazer comes in the 2.5ℓ and 2.8ℓ diesel engine sizes. The 2.5ℓ engine is available in both automatic and manual while the 2.8 comes in 4x2 and 4x4 automatic variations.

Both models are equipped with a 6-speed transmission gearbox. The 2.5ℓ manual produces maximum power of 120kW@3600rpm at the maximum torque of 380Nm@2000rpm, and the auto produces 132kW@3600rpm at the maximum torque of 440Nm@2000rpm.

The 2.8ℓ engines produce more power at 144kW@3600rpm at the maximum torque of 500Nm@2000rpm. Both models have a fuel tank capacity of 76ℓ and can travel 100km with just 9.5ℓ of fuel. The car reaches a speed of 100km/h in just 10.4 seconds.

Exterior The mirrors and bumper are colourcoded, with the side mirrors electrically folded. They also have integrated turn signal. The ground clearance (the space between the lowest part of a vehicle’s frame and the ground) for the 2.5 models is 219mm and

221mm for the 2.8 models, which makes it an easy drive on gravel and off road. It also has an integrated climb-on step on both sides that makes it easy for the driver and passengers when getting into the car.

Jump inside The Trailblazer is spacious, with three rows of seats that accommodate seven passengers, including the driver. The seats on the second and third rows can be folded to increase the loading space to 1 830ℓ. It comes with standard leather seats.

It has overhead assist handles for all passengers, cup holders, sunglass holders and a leather steering wheel.

Entertainment The Trailblazer has an on-board computer with a MyLink screen infotainment system with seven speakers, MP3 compatibility, USB port, auxiliary input, and steering wheel controls. The 2.8ℓ models are safeguarded by a valet mode.

Safety, security and comfort The car has Electronic Stability Control (ESC) and Traction Control System (TCS), which both ensure stability on the road. It has a ABS braking system, as well as hill-descent control that prevents the car from rolling on steep slopes. It also has driver and passenger airbags as well as front and rear-view

cameras. The 2.8ℓ models have Trailer Swift Assist, park assist as well as rain and light sensors. The 2.5ℓ models only have rear-park assist. The 2.8 models further have forward collision alert, vehicle ahead indicator, lane departure warning and tyre pressure deflation detector. The Trailblazer has remote central locking, alarm and immobiliser as well as a remote engine start that allows you to turn on the car from the outside. However, the car immediately locks all the doors until you unlock them. It also possesses an auto drive away door locking system.

On the comfort side, this car has power steering, air con, cruise control and electric windows with express up/down. To top it all, the driver’s seat can be adjusted electrically.

Warranty and service All the models come with a standard five-year/120 000km warranty and road assistance, five-year/90 000km service plan at 12-month/15 000km intervals and a five-year/unlimited kilometre anti-corrosion warranty.

Price tag A brand new Trailblazer starts from R464 000, including VAT.

MOTORING

Be motor-wise and keep your car in good shape with these tips:

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FIT FINANCE

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orming a bond with your significant other requires openness, but many people like to keep a little bit of themselves – or their money – separate, in case of a potential breakdown in the relationship.

And, because financial freedom is important to everyone, just how ‘independent’ should you be with your money when in a relationship?

PLANNING TO PART “Based on my 26 years of marital counselling, married or long-term partners must not have parallel plans in the event the relationship collapses,” says Mochabo Moerane, a social worker and industrial & organisational psychologist.

“When two people get into a relationship, they start on a long journey of becoming one.

And, they need to have common goals and aspirations for this to happen,” Mochabo says.

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Psychotherapist and author of Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker, Dr Bonnie Eaker Weil, says it is important to be honest and up front about your financial independence.

“From the onset of your relationship, let it be known that you’re going to have your own financial life.

Keep separate accounts, and have your own retirement savings and investments in addition to a joint portfolio.

“Women should have their own money as they usually fare worse financially in a divorce or break-up. You just need to be honest about the fact that you’re putting money away,” she advises.

RAINY DAYS SHOULDN’T GET YOU DOWN A rainy day fund must not be exclusively designated for escaping a relationship, but having savings to help you get back on your feet if you suffer any kind of knock from life.

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Financial pressure is one of the most frustrating and stressful things to endure, so having a bit of freedom allows you to make decisions with a clearer mind – it basically gives you options. It can help you move out, secure your own place, set up your life all over again or just give you a sense of security.

American divorce financial strategist Jeff Landers told Forbes magazine that he has heard too many horror stories about how husbands cleaned out joint accounts when divorce loomed, leaving the wife little or no money.

“This is especially dangerous when dealing with a narcissist or abuser,” he said. “Maintaining your own financial reserves can ruin this tactic early on. The advantages of maintaining a secret fund often outweigh the potential pitfalls.

“So, it is important for women to retain at least some degree of financial independence within their relationships. It’s a perfect example of how important it is to think financially, not emotionally – well before your marriage runs into trouble,” Jeff said.

NOT A WAY OUT Having a rainy day fund in a relationship may compromise trust, but that money can come in handy when problems arise.

Many people may find it easier to simply give up on their relationship and walk away because they know they have something to fall back on. But, this is not advisable.

Mochabo says that a rainy day fund is good for a relationship, as long as the other partner knows about it.

“It should not be used to create a false sense of bravery or threaten the emotional security of the relationship.

In fact, the relationship should be refreshed and reinvigorated,” he says.

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Transparency with your partner is important, but so is planning for a rainy day.

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unlocking business potential

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s your business right for the project?

Do you have capacity? Can you manage the contract? These are some of the questions to ask yourself before you bid for any tender.

This means that if you have a service to offer – one that is competitively priced, and that you’re prepared to work hard at – then you stand as much chance of winning tenders as everyone else. The South African government’s spending on public goods and services is perceived to be around R500 billion annually.

This is according to Madoda Khuzwayo, the founder and CEO of OpenTenders – a Johannesburg-

based company that connects small and medium-sized enterprises with procurement opportunities – both in government and the private sector.

“Government institutions issue tenders to ensure that they procure the best products from the top supplier.

The winning bidder is expected to deliver the agreed services in a professional manner within the stipulated deadline,” says Madoda.

But, a lot of people feel intimidated by the thought of bidding for a tender because they think it’s a complicated process with a lot of red tape.

A 2030 vision to grow South Africa’s economy, the National

Development Plan (NDP), aims to boost employment opportunities, especially in the small, medium and microsized enterprises (SMMEs) sector.

Thus, 30% of the programme’s procurement has been set aside for this growing sector to ensure that it also gets a piece of the pie.

The basic tender process is broken down as follows: An organ of the state sets out bid specifications for the goods and services required.

The tender is advertised to the public.

Most tenders require the bidders to attend a compulsory briefing session.

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Make 2017 the year to grow your business by winning your first tender. By Lungile Khumalo

WORKLIFE

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YOU TELL US

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Nare Kekana chats to three married couples about overcoming their challenges and making their relationships work.

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ebruary comes with Valentine’s Day, and is popularly known as the month of love. In celebrating love as well as the challenges that come with it, we chat to couples who have been through a lot but still keep going strong. They share with us what they overcame, what those challenges taught them and how they are raising their children.

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LOVE takes over

KOKETSO (28) AND AUDREY MAKUMULA (32) OLDER WOMAN, YOUNGER MAN

THE BEGINNING We met online in a chat room, 10 years ago. Koketso had just turned 18 and I was a month shy from 22. We shared our ages during our first conversation and agreed that it was not an issue.

We agreed that it would not affect our relationship – our families and friends never had a chance to influence how we felt about each other. But, if there were any doubts presented, they were based more on the long-distance issue because I was based in Cape Town and Koketso in Pretoria.

We communicated online as bloggers on a network called TVSA for two years before we met. In late 2008, TVSA members hosted a party

in Pretoria that we both attended.

I flew in from Cape Town and was excited to meet him; he was also looking forward to the event. That first day felt like we were putting pieces of a puzzle together – it felt right.

We did not leave the party together, but spent the whole time looking into each other’s eyes, declaring our love and catching up. After this meeting, we didn’t see each other again for a year, but kept in contact.

MAKING IT WORK The first five years of our relationship had a few break-ups. We tried to visit each other and stay in touch, but it was a challenge because we were young.

However, we still believed that one day we would be married. Koketso travels a lot on assignments, so we always have

to factor in his work schedule into our home calendar. This has also taught us to strengthen our communication and ensure that we stay connected when he’s travelling. We don’t look at each other through the green bar-coded ID that states our ages. We look at each other as husband and wife, partners and companions. Our long distance relationship gave us time to really know each other, and taught us to appreciate our time together.

Raising two children, Goitseone (4) and Botshelobontle (2) has put a different kind of pressure on our relationship. They are demanding, but have taught us how much we value each other’s company. We have also challenged ourselves to teach them boundaries. As they grow older, we would like for them to know that no one chooses who you should spend your life with but you; not even society or the traditional belief of ‘how things are done’. It is also important for them to know the difference between ‘family time’ and ‘mommy-daddy time’. Whenever we manage to get time alone, it is truly valuable.

YOU TELL US

PARDON (36) AND NOREEN KHUMALO (33) MADE IT TO THE ALTER AFTER FIGHTING MANY BATTLES

THE BEGINNING I met Pardon in Braamfontein, Johannesburg, in 2005. I was a 22-year-old student at Damelin while he was a 25-year-old business owner, and also living in Braamfontein. Although our friends knew about our relationship and were supportive, our families didn’t know. Customarily, it wasn’t easy to tell a Christian family about your boyfriend, especially if they still considered you to be young. But, we happily continued with our relationship.

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MAKING IT WORK We have faced a lot of obstacles in our marriage. My husband is a pastor’s son, so it wasn’t easy getting accepted in his family. I wasn’t from the same church, so I didn’t ‘qualify’ to be his bride. But, eventually God chose us because his family came to terms with our relationship after getting to know me better. This helped them to let go of the perceptions they had initially.

Prayer and elderly advice have always been the strongholds to our marriage.

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Our love for each other is the foundation that has kept us going regardless of the problems we face. Our love isn’t shaken, and family support has played a big role in keeping us strong. We always ensure that we don’t fight in front of our children – son Duke (4) and daughter Chelsea (2). They have to grow up within a healthy marriage, and constantly witnessing their parents fighting will not add to a healthy upbringing. We teach them that love starts by respecting yourself, and then respecting each other.

DONALD (34) AND HELEN MOKOANE (33) HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEARTS

THE BEGINNING Helen and I met in 2000 while in high school in Limpopo; we were both in Grade 11. I was 18 years old and she was 17. We were also members of the same church, and that made our interactions easier. Our friendship started after realising that we both had the same passion and commitment of serving God. I made the first move by chatting her up after church and at school until she warmed up to me. Luckily, we had support from both our families and friends.

They trusted us and believed that whatever decisions we made, would always be good.

MAKING IT WORK We keep our marriage strong by maintaining the principle of communication. When we were living apart, we made sure that we didn’t go too long without seeing each other. Helen was studying and living in Klerksdorp, North West, and I was working in Randburg, Johannesburg. She moved to Johannesburg this year and we’re in a much better place. We also have learnt to maintain transparency and honesty in our marriage – we’re open with one another, and admitting to our mistakes has helped us to always be at peace with each other. We are always willing to learn from each other as we are not perfect. As a couple, we have learnt that you don’t always meet a person who shares similar traits as yours. So, we’ve always been free to discuss our personalities to ensure that we learn from them and maintain a healthy relationship. Respecting and loving each other are the strongholds of an everlasting marriage.

We translate that to our daughter, Tshegofatso (5), and that a relationship is an exchange of hearts.

So, it’s important to get into a relationship with someone that you know well so that you may not entrust your heart to a stranger. We also teach her that you don’t love a person because of what they have or how they look, but for who they are.

Tie the knot not a financial noose

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marriage contract can be a prickly subject that many people see as ‘divorce preparation’. But, that is far from the truth. The terms of your contract can make or break your financial future – regardless of whether you stay married, or divorce. So, if you’re really interested in happily ever after, get to grips with the legal implications of what you’re signing up to. South African law offers three matrimonial property regimes to

choose from. Each has pros and cons that differently impact your individual and joint financial futures during married life, on divorce and if a spouse dies. This is according to Susan Abro, chairperson of the Family Law Committee of the Law Society of South Africa, and Durban family law specialist attorney.

Before you tie the knot, you must decide which regime suits you because without an antenuptial agreement in place, you automatically

find yourself married in community of property. If that is not your preference, it is an expensive action to revoke. The three regimes are: IN COMMUNITY OF PROPERTY Being married in community of property is essentially a legally binding 50-50 sharing arrangement. All possessions (also called assets), such as a paidoff car, investment or house, that each spouse owns when going into or acquires during the marriage

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become jointly owned. Practically, this is how a what’s-mine-is-yours type of legal contract looks like, George Pelser and Ruché Grobler, legal researchers at LegalWise, explain. �� If Nomphumelelo* owns a car prior to getting married to Siya*, once married, Siya legally owns half. �� If Siya buys a car during his marriage to Nomphumelelo, she will own half of that vehicle.

During the marriage, and should it end in a divorce, both spouses are entitled to half of the joint estate, explains Susan.

This regime has its advantages. As the default legal arrangement for all those tying the knot, it’s easy to enter into – there are no forms or legal fees.

Also, should the marriage dissolve when the couple is in good financial health, the partner who has contributed less financially – for instance a woman opting to take time out of her career to raise children – can financially benefit.

But, spouses don’t only share in the spoils; they also share in the liabilities – or debt, explain George and Ruché.

So, if Siya borrows money while they’re married or before getting married, Nomphumelelo is also held responsible if he does not pay it back. Or worse, if one of them goes bankrupt, the other spouse will also be considered insolvent and everything they have built up prior to or during the marriage is lost. This makes marrying in community of property a financially risky contract to enter into. And, being jointly liable for both gains and losses means that certain transactions (such as selling a car or house) need the consent of both spouses, which limits your financial independence. If your beloved tends to be uncooperative in money matters, this system of equal power could lead to marital conflict, Susan cautions.

OUT OF COMMUNITY OF PROPERTY – WITHOUT ACCRUAL A marriage out of community of property, without accrual, is essentially a what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is yours type of contract. Each spouse

has separate and independently managed estates that contain their respective assets (such as a house, investment or car) and debts. It looks like this, explains George and Ruché: �� If Siya buys a car during his marriage to Nomphumelelo, he is the sole owner. �� Each spouse is responsible for their own debts. So, if Siya takes out a loan, only he is responsible for it. �� If one spouse becomes insolvent, the other will not become insolvent.

Should the marriage end in a divorce, the spouses have no claim at all on the assets of the other, says Susan. And, if over the course of the marriage one of them does contribute to the other’s estate, it can be tricky to claim this back. So, with total financial independence, this contract is particularly relevant for: �� Widowed people marrying for companionship. �� Spouses who have been married before, and want to protect the interests of their children.

To enter into this agreement, you can have an attorney draft an antenuptial contract that is tailored to your individual needs. But, independent legal advice for each spouse is advisable, says Susan.

OUT OF COMMUNITY OF PROPERTY – WITH ACCRUAL Spouses who wish to share in each other’s financial benefits, but limit their shared risk can look to marry out of community of property, with the accrual system.

The philosophy behind this regime is that on dissolution, each spouse has the right to take out the asset value/the property that they brought into the marriage. What’s shared is what’s built up together.

“All the individual assets that spouses gathered before getting married are specified in the antenuptial agreement and retained by each spouse. Then, during the marriage, each has a separate estate that may grow in value. The amount by which

“The terms of your contract can make or break your financial future – regardless of whether you stay married, or divorce.” each estate grows is called the accrual.

At the dissolution of the marriage, the accrual of each spouse’s separate estate is calculated on the date that the marriage dissolves (through death or divorce). If one spouse’s accrual is more than the other, the difference between the two estates’ accrual is divided between the spouses. But, the debts of the separate estates are not shared,” George and Ruché explain.

So, if one partner makes career sacrifices in order to raise a family, this system offers them a higher level of protection. It also offers financial independence for both parties.

Get legal advice If you know that your entire financial future will be affected by your choice of marriage contract, you can budget for independent legal advice right from the outset.

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MOTIVATION

Revelin love Pastor George encourages you to celebrate love every chance you get.

To those who are blessed to have a significant other in their lives, put some thought and effort into making Valentine’s Day memorable. Even if you don’t do much, the memories will carry them until next year. Do something that will bring a smile to their face every time they remember it.

Go out of your way to do something extraordinary; an element of surprise always adds a fun component to the process. A day might come when you will give anything in the world to get this chance again, so don’t waste it.

MAKE IT MEMORABLE One of the greatest joys of life is the ability to love and be loved.

Beyond our basic physical needs of food, water, air and shelter, the need to be touched, accompanied and befriended are so important that life loses its appeal when these are missing. That’s why I’m grateful for this yearly reminder to celebrate the love in our lives through Valentine’s Day.

PAMPER YOURSELF AND OTHERS To those who are single, realise that you don’t need anyone to make your life rich and fulfilling.

So, love and pamper yourself.

However, also reach out to someone else who might be single, and show them that they are not alone.

Finally, find someone whose situation may not be the same as yours.

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There are people who have great relationships but struggle financially.

If you are more fortunate, make a difference in their lives.

If you’ve lost the love of your life, then celebrate the memories of years spent together.

KEEP IT POSITIVE To those who love but are not loved back, don’t give up.

Though unreturned love is one of the most challenging things to deal with in life, keep a positive attitude, and love yourself and your neighbour.

As you send out positive thoughts and energy, you are bound to receive love back in more ways than you can imagine. Don’t let unreciprocated love make you hard and turn you into someone you are not.

Finally, no matter your reality – with or without anything or anyone – this is another chance to celebrate people and memories you have.

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ove is something that must be nurtured, cherished and celebrated every day. However, the daily realities as well as the hustle and bustle of life sometimes make it harder than we would have desired. On the other hand, once we get something or someone where we want them, we have the tendency to take things for granted. We also have the habit of forgetting the things that are really important. More often than not, we put importance on minor things while ignoring significant ones.

SPIRITUAL HEALING

HEAVENLY HELP Pastor George answers your questions and provides spiritual guidance.

PASTOR GEORGE, SPIRITUAL HEALER

Dear Concerned: In as much as God is the ultimate judge, the scriptures make it clear that not all who say “Lord, Lord” are doing the will of God. Many who prophesy, “cast out devils” or build churches in God’s name do not know God at all (Matthew 7:21–23). There are false prophets, fake apostles and lying preachers everywhere and in every generation (1 John 4:1; 2 Corinthians 11:13–15).

Those who don’t truly know their God will be deceived by these charlatans in the last day (Daniel 11:32).

SHOULD I FORGIVE HER? I am a 30-year-old Christian and my wife doesn’t go to church. I have been appealing to her to join me, but she refuses. I recently caught her in bed with another man after attending a night vigil; she asked me to forgive her.

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Dear Anonymous: Staying in a marriage with a serial adulterer is not forgiveness. You can forgive and still move on. Marriage is a covenant ratified by the sexual union. Once a third person is brought in, the covenant is broken (Hebrews 13:4). The Lord permits divorce on the basis of adultery (Matthew 19:9). Forgiveness is commanded, though not because your offender deserves it, but because it sets you free (Matthew 18:32-35).

WHERE TO PAY FOR SPIRITUAL TAX? I am 49 years old, and stopped going to church in my late 20s.

But, I am a God-fearing man – I try not to do things that are against the will of God. I do everything that Christians do except to go to church. How do I pay my tithe since I don’t belong to any church?

Sibusiso, Zululand Dear Sibusiso: God wants you to live out your faith in a covenant community of/with other believers (Hebrews 10:23). No one can truly and fully live out their faith by being an island unto themselves. Get healed from whatever put you off church, find a local one and tithe there. God will guide you further as you seek Him.

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IS MASTURBATION WRONG? I am a 27-year-old, born-again man, and in love with a 23-year-old lady from the same church. According to our Christian morals and the doctrine of our church, sex before marriage is not allowed. We avoid spending time together, but when sexual feelings emerge, I masturbate. But, this makes me feel guilty. Is it acceptable for a Christian to masturbate?

Christian, email Dear Christian: I cannot wholeheartedly endorse masturbation; neither can I in good conscience forbid it. Masturbation in many instances opens you up to lustful thoughts, pornography and objectifying women (or men). However, the scriptures reckon with the fact that you have a sex drive and not having an outlet for sexual release can be torturous (1 Corinthians 7:9). The best solution according to the Bible is to get married.

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I am not judgemental when it comes to other churches, but concerned about pastors who do ridiculous things to congregates. Is it true that they have been instructed by God to give people grass, snakes, petrol, rats, spray them with doom and let them strip naked?

Concerned, email

she promised not to do it again. But, she did. Should I forgive her again?

Anonymous, email

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Because of medical advances, HIV/Aids is now viewed as a chronic condition alongside heart problems, diabetes and hypertension. This means that people living with HIV now have access to life and disability cover, enabling them to buy a home, thus offering long-term security for their families.

By Lungile Khumalo

SECURING

YOUR FUTURE understanding of what’s involved; let’s look at what is important when applying for a bond if you have HIV. WHEN APPLYING FOR A BOND, WHAT DOES THE BANK REQUIRE? The prime concern of the bank is twofold. It wants to ensure that you can afford the bond, and to know that the home is worth the amount of the loan. In other words, that you’re not being ripped off and paying too much. The bank is not concerned with your health status.

To approve a bond, the institution looks at the following factors: �� Your income (or joint income).

�� How long you have been employed with your current employer.

You also need the following documents: �� Proof of income – payslips for the last three months. �� Three months’ bank statements. �� Proof of identity – South African ID or passport. �� Proof of current residential address. �� Details of the property you want to buy – a copy of the signed Offer to Purchase.

To qualify, you need: �� To be 21 years or older. �� To be a South African citizen.

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t is common knowledge that buying a home is one of the most stressful things you can do in life. It is a big step – saving money for a deposit and finding the right home.

Additionally, there’s the legal side that comes with tons of paperwork. Then comes the questions: what about the fact that I am HIV positive? Will my status prevent me from getting a bond approved? The answer is no! The days of being discriminated against because of your status are long gone.

There is a procedure in place on applying for and approving a bond, but in no way is this determined by your health. To help you get a better

POSITIVE LIVING �� To have been employed permanently for at least six months. �� To have a clean credit record – no defaults or judgements against you. �� To earn above the minimum salary requirement to be able to afford to repay your bond.

WHY DO YOU NEED AN INSURANCE POLICY WHEN TAKING OUT A BOND? Even though your financial affordability is the main criteria for getting a home loan, and not your health, in many instances there may be a requirement for life insurance. This is according to Abel Mngadi, head of product growth at FNB Home Loans.

“This policy ensures that your debts are paid off, and prevents your loved ones from facing financial difficulty when you die. For example, in the event of death, your home loan debt will be paid off and surplus funds paid to your estate. Some policies insure the event of death, permanent disability, incapacity or critical illness, thereby settling your bond amount and crediting any surplus monies to your estate,” Abel explains.

WILL YOU NEED A BLOOD TEST TO QUALIFY FOR LIFE INSURANCE? Different companies have different prerequisites. Abel points out that FNB Home Loans has a Mortgage Protection Plan to meet the life insurance requirement, which does not require blood tests or medical examinations.

“However, if you have a pre-existing condition that was diagnosed within 12 months prior to the inception of the policy, and die within the first year from the inception, the policy will not pay out,” he says.

In other instances, if you have an existing policy that meets the requirements of the bank, it can also be used to satisfy the life cover condition of the loan.

IS HIV A CRITICAL ILLNESS? Discovery Life medical officer Dr Maritha van der Walt says HIV/Aids is covered as a critical illness in many policies. Before taking out a policy with life cover and critical illness

"HIV is now regarded as a treated and insurable disease." benefits, you will be tested for HIV and, if negative, the standard policy is issued. You are then covered for future changes in health – including HIV – according to the definition of the policy.

In other words, if you are diagnosed with HIV at a later stage, you are still fully covered. “There are also policies available for people who are already HIV positive. As with all chronic diseases – HIV/Aids, uncontrolled diabetes or certain cancers – risk assessment will be done to offer terms, and in some cases you will not qualify for cover. On the upside, HIV is now regarded as a treatable and insurable disease,” she says.

IS THERE A POSSIBILITY OF NOT BEING APPROVED FOR LIFE INSURANCE IF HIV POSITIVE? “Yes. For instance, if you are in a very advanced stage of the disease – full blown Aids – or where complications have already occurred, or treatment has failed, you will not qualify for cover,” she says.

IF HIV POSITIVE AND BEING TREATED WITH ARVs, ARE THERE CERTAIN CRITERIA YOU HAVE TO MEET FOR THE INSURANCE PROVIDER? “The request for information depends on the policy. HIV-specific policies that offer cover based on ongoing management or adherence will ask

for specific information every six months or as specified in the contract.

For standard policies, information is requested when you apply for the policy, and not after it has been accepted,” Dr Maritha says.

All companies work differently.

But, on Discovery’s HIV and diabetes managed care programmes, medical information is requested once a year.

If you are well controlled, you are rewarded by having your premium reduced for the same level of cover.

If you are not adherent to the treatment or no longer controlled, the premium stays the same, and the level and type of cover stays the same.

“The point of regular health checks is to make sure that the treatment remains effective and that any complication is managed timeously.

It also monitors adherence to the treatment. As with all chronic illnesses, regular check-ups and monitoring is in your best interest,” she explains.

IF YOU STOP WORKING BECAUSE YOU’RE TOO SICK, WILL THE INSURANCE POLICY PAY OUT? “If you had taken out the disability cover before becoming infected, or have an HIV-specific policy with disability cover, you will be paid out according to the definition of the policy. There are no longer HIVspecific exclusions on life cover or disability products,” Dr Maritha says.

WHAT REASONS CAN A BANK TURN DOWN AN APPLICATION FOR A BOND? In a nutshell, all the bank is interested in is if you are able to afford the property, and do not have a bad credit history. However, if it requests you to take out an insurance policy and you don’t qualify, then your application could be turned down.

A FINAL WORD When taking out an insurance policy, be sure to understand exactly what you are covered for or what benefits you will receive. Additionally, ensure that you are sufficiently covered for all your outstanding debts. B

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HIV ADVICE

DEAR DR SINDI Do you have HIV or Aids-related questions? Feeling lonely or confused? Don’t despair! Dr Sindi answers your questions.

ABOUT DR SINDI Dr Sindisiwe van Zyl is an HIV clinician and a patients’ rights activist. She regularly offers advice on her Twitter page. Follow her @DocSindi

Dear Anonymous: Antiretroviral treatment is taken to lower the viral load – the amount of HIV copies in your blood. The lower the load, the healthier you will be. The goal is to have an undetectable viral load and for you to maintain that for the rest of your life. The treatment has side effects like most medication. Fortunately, they do not last for long. Your doctor will explain which side effects you may experience, and advise you to return to the clinic if they do not subside.

Most people have them for about two weeks while many others do not have them at all. I hope that your partner eventually agrees to test. It is important for everyone to know their status and to start treatment if they test positive.

In the meantime, insist on protected sex. We do not encourage you to fall pregnant until you are stable on ARVs and your viral load is undetectable.

Dear Anonymous: HIV is a chronic manageable condition thanks to the availability of lifelong antiretroviral treatment. Your partner has trusted you with her status – I am proud of her for disclosing to you. If she takes her treatment properly and ensures that her viral load is undetectable, she will live a long, healthy life. You will be able to conceive without getting infected, and your children will be born HIV-free. She will also be able to breastfeed if she chooses to do so. Learn as much as you can about HIV – support your partner and do not give up on a good relationship.

before trying for a baby, but he is sceptical. I love him, but I want to do things right for us and our planned child. Am I too selfish in refusing his request pending knowing our status?

Confused, email Dear Confused: You are not being selfish at all. You are being responsible and I applaud you for that. It is always best to know your status. If the test comes back positive, then you will do all the necessary blood tests and start taking ARVs. If you take the treatment well, your viral load will be undetectable. This will ensure that your baby is born HIV-free. If you test negative, you will repeat the test again after 6–12 weeks to cover the window period. This is the time when a person has been newly infected with HIV and the test comes back negative.

All the best for the future and make sure that your fiance does the test!

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STATUS UNKNOWN My fiancé and I have been together for five years, and we are planning our wedding. He also wants us to have a child. We have been using a condom since we started having sex, and have never tested for HIV in our relationship. I suggested that we test

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SIDE EFFECTS I am an HIV-positive woman from KwaZulu-Natal. My CD4 count is 482. This came as a shock since my boyfriend and I have been trying for a baby. He has a two-year-old child from a previous relationship. Both the child and mother are negative, but he does not want to get tested. I want to start using ARVs to avoid losing weight.

Will the treatment make me sick?

Anonymous, email

IN LOVE WITH AN HIV-POSITIVE WOMAN I am a 27-year-old man and have been praying for the woman of my dreams. I am now going out with her and she is everything I need. She disclosed her status the day I started talking about love; I am negative. I love her, but doubt to continue with her because of her status. Please advise!

Anonymous, email

FEEL GOOD

The quest for

INNER PEACE Daily activities can take their toll on your mind, body and soul.

Meditation is one of the ways in which you can achieve the peace and tranquility that your body needs to recharge. By Helen Herimbi

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WHAT IS MEDITATION? Dating back to ancient times, meditation has been helping human beings to connect with their inner self through the mind. Usually through spoken prompts that include mantras, people are guided on how to tap into a deeper understanding. This alone time heightens one’s awareness and general well-being. According to health and wellness advocate Deepak Chopra, meditation takes you beyond the mind’s noisy chatter into pure awareness, which is the source of all your happiness, inspiration and love.

WHY MEDITATE? Studies have indicated that people who meditate for long periods have more grey matter volume in the brain than those who don’t. This means that while the ageing process affects everyone’s brain, it does so at a slower pace for those who meditate.

A Yale University study revealed that

the brain’s default mode network – where you have stray thoughts that can be associated with unhappiness or worry – experiences less activity when one meditates. The still nature of meditation strengthens the ability to concentrate. A 2014 Johns Hopkins study found that the effects of meditation were equal to those of antidepressants. This means that, meditation can offer a centredness that leads to a happier, less stressed life.

HOW TO MEDITATE? Practised in various religions and cultures, particularly in Eastern philosophy, meditation can be done by anyone regardless of culture or creed – alone or in a group. This can be done one-on-one with an instructor at a meditation school or at home.

While some prefer to meditate during physical activities, such as yoga or using external objects like prayer and meditation beads, the act can be done

with nothing but a mind willing to be still. There are no prerequisites to start meditation – you don’t need to be thin or have your life “together”. You can even make use of smartphone apps that allow you to choose meditation durations from five minutes.

Useful links to help you meditate indoors: �� The Art of Living Happiness Centre, Cape Town: artofliving.org; 082 413 4500. �� Transcendental Meditation, Johannesburg: tminjoburg.co.za; 011 483 0684 �� Waterfall Retreat Centre, Durban: waterfallretreatcenter.com; 079 516 0071 �� Simply Being app: App Store or Google Play B

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HEALTH

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he thyroid is a butterfly-shaped gland situated at the base of your neck. In a Q&A conducted by the Mediclinic group, Dr Malcolm Sandler – an endocrinologist and specialist physician at Mediclinic Panorama in Cape Town – said the thyroid “houses the only cells capable of absorbing iodine. It then converts this into hormones known as triiodothyronine (T3) and thyroxine (T4). Once released by the thyroid, these hormones travel through the bloodstream and help your cells convert oxygen and kilojoules into energy.” It also helps to regulate your heartbeat, body temperature as well as the metabolism.

There are three types of thyroid diseases, namely hyperthyroidism (caused by too much of the thyroid hormones, which make the thyroid overactive); hypothyroidism (which occurs when you are not producing enough of the thyroid hormones) and euthyroid (reflected when normal thyroid hormones show hypothyroid symptoms).

Dr Nthabiseng Makgana, a medical practitioner from the East Rand, says women are more affected by thyroid disease, especially after

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giving birth and before menopause.

She says hypothyroidism is associated with infertility and miscarriages.

So, how do you know that you might have thyroid disease? Here are some signs to look out for: HYPOTHYROIDISM SIGNS Fatigue: Getting tired is common.

But, when it becomes excessive and uncontrollable, it may be a sign of thyroid disease.

Weight gain: A lot of things can cause weight gain, and an underactive thyroid is one of them.

If you’re unable to pinpoint the source of your weight gain, you need to get checked for thyroid disorders.

Cold intolerance: Feeling extra cold could be a root or sign of thyroid disease.

Muscle cramps: Do your muscles often cramp, leaving you uncomfortable? This is another symptom of hypothyroidism.

Decreased libido: If your sex drive has unexpectedly become weaker, and you can’t understand why, perhaps you need to go for a thyroid check-up.

Abnormal menstrual cycle: If your cycle becomes unpredictable, it could be because of an underactive thyroid.

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HYPERTHYROIDISM SIGNS Hand tremors: These signal an overactive thyroid. They are often attributed to low glucose levels or nerves, but if consistent, get checked out.

Anxiety and heart palpitations: If you’re constantly anxious, and can’t really explain why, it might be worth visiting your doctor.

Insomnia: If you find it difficult to sleep, this might be because of the hyperactivity of your thyroid gland.

Weight loss: Just like you would gain weight with an underactive thyroid, an overactive one may result in weight loss. Monitor your weight regularly so that you can pick up any fluctuation that might result from a thyroid disease.

According to Dr Nthabiseng, there is no treatment for both hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism. However, the cause of the diseases should be established first as they can be signs of thyroid cancer, especially if the thyroid gland is swollen or enlarged.

Because many people go through life without realising that they have a thyroid disease, it can be a silent killer.

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THE THYROID GLAND

We unpack the anatomy behind the thyroid, which controls some of the most crucial parts of the human body.

By Zamahlasela Gabela

HEALTH HELP

DEAR DOCTOR Dr Dulcy offers practical advice for your everyday health issues and questions.

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TUBES ARE TIED I had my tubes tied to avoid falling pregnant. I’ve had three caesarean sections, and was told that it’s risky to have another child. Now I’m married and my husband wants a child. Is it possible to untie them and conceive again?

Dimpho, email Dear Dimpho: Yes, it is possible.

Consult a gynaecologist who may suggest an operation called “tubal ligation reversal”. The doctor will reopen, untie or reconnect your fallopian tubes so you can have a baby again. There are several things to consider before the procedure, such as age, the type of surgery you had to get your tubes tied, your overall health as well as that of your ovaries, uterus, and remaining fallopian tubes, especially their length. Good luck.

DRY EYES I am a 41-year-old man and have been using spectacles for three years. During the past six months, I’ve developed a new problem of dry eyes. In most cases, they become dry and itchy during sunny days or when I drive for a long time.

To stop this, I wash my eyes with cold water. What can I do to get rid of this?

Simon, Johannesburg Dear Simon: Dry eyes are caused by a lack of adequate tears. For some people, the cause of dry eyes is decreased tear production while for others, it is increased tear evaporation and an imbalance in the make-up of your tears. Common causes are ageing, certain medical conditions such as diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, scleroderma, Sjogren’s syndrome, thyroid disorders and vitamin A deficiency.

Certain medications can also be the cause, including antihistamines, decongestants, hormone replacement therapy, antidepressants as well as drugs for high blood pressure, acne, birth control and Parkinson’s disease. Laser eye surgery can also be the cause, although symptoms of dry eyes related to this procedure are usually temporary.

Consult an ophthalmologist.

and I hardly have sex and when we do, I don’t enjoy it like I used to. She now complains about this. Is there anything wrong with me? Please help me to save my marriage.

Anonymous, email Dear Anonymous: The causes of loss of interest in sex are wider than you can imagine. You did not tell me whether you have a problem with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation. Are you generally happy with your wife? Do you have any issues apart from the marriage that may be causing you anxiety or depression? Do you have any chronic illnesses, such as diabetes mellitus and hypertension? Consult your general practitioner for a thorough history and to exclude any of the above.

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NO SEX DRIVE I am a 35-year-old married father of two. I don’t drink nor smoke, but have lost interest in sex. My wife

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Kick-start your day with these tasty, light breakfast meals. By Ntwenhle Gcabashe

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LIGHT BREAKFAST HOMEMADE GRANOLA Prep time: 20 minutes Serves: 4 easy �� �� �� �� �� �� �� �� �� �� ��

½ cup oats 1 cup seedless sultans 1 cup dates, chopped 1 cup walnuts, roughly crushed 1 green apple, chopped 1 cup All-Bran Flakes 1 cup dried apricots, chopped Pinch of salt Natural yoghurt, for serving Grapefruit segments, for serving Fresh mint leaves, for serving

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1. In a bowl, mix all ingredients, excluding those for serving.

2. Layer mixture, yoghurt and grapefruit segments. Top with leaves, and serve.

MEALS IN MINUTES

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STUFFED CROISSANTS Prep time: 10 minutes Serves: 4 easy

4 croissants, cut in half 1 tablespoon soft butter 2 handfuls fresh watercress 1 red onion, thinly sliced 2 green canned jalapeño, thinly sliced 4 eggs, poached 1 avocado, sliced Pinch of cayenne pepper

1. Spread croissants with butter.

2. Layer watercress, onion, jalapeño, eggs and avocado. Season with pepper.

3. Top with remaining half croissants.

4. Serve immediately.

APPLE AND HAM BAGEL Prep time: 10 minutes Serves: 4 easy

2 red apples, sliced 4 ham slices 4 fresh bagels, split in half 4 cheese slices 4 tablespoons cream cheese Salt and pepper

1. Spread bagels with cream cheese.

2. Layer with apple, ham and cheese slices.

Season with salt and pepper.

3. Place top slices, and serve.

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MEALS IN MINUTES FRUIT PLATTER Prep time: 10 minutes Serves: 2–3 easy �� 1 cup fresh strawberries, halved �� 2 grapefruits, sliced �� ½ watermelon, sliced �� 1 cup green grapes �� Handful fresh blueberries �� 1 peach, sliced �� 1 cup natural yoghurt, for serving �� Honey, for serving 1. Arrange fruits on a platter.

2. Serve with yoghurt and honey.

COOKING WITH A STAR

CLASSIC RECIPE Musician Vusi Nova shows us how to prepare his favourite lamb dish.

By Ntwenhle Gcabashe

SLOW-COOKED LAMB SHANK Prep time: 10 minutes Cooking time: 3½ hours easy Serves: 2

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2 lamb shanks 2 tablespoons (30ml) oil 6 shallots Handful fresh thyme 1 cup (250ml) red wine 4 cups (1ℓ) beef stock Green beans, for serving Savoury rice, for serving

1. Preheat oven to 160°C. 2. Heat oil in a pan. Brown meat for 8–10 minutes each side on high heat. Remove from pan, and place into a roasting dish.

3. Add remaining ingredients. Cover with lid and roast for 3 hours or until tender.

4. Serve with green beans and savoury rice.

Which kitchen tool and ingredient are a must in your kitchen?

A good set of knives and garlic.

What is your favourite newly discovered ingredient?

Harissa paste; I add it to every meal I make!

If you were to die tomorrow, what would your last meal be?

Any lamb dish.

What’s the hardest dish you’ve tried that just didn’t come out right?

Eggs Benedict. Mine always separate, so I eventually gave up.

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Satisfy your sweet tooth with our selection of delectable treats this Valentine's Day.

By Ntwenhle Gcabashe Photography by Andrea Caldwell

�� 4 egg whites �� 1½ cups castor sugar �� 1 teaspoon (5ml) vanilla essence �� 1 tablespoon (15ml) vinegar �� 1 tablespoon corn starch

after each addition. Continue until Filling thick and glossy. �� 2 cups cream, whipped 3. Gently fold in vanilla, vinegar and �� 2 cups white chocolate sauce corn starch. Spoon and spread �� 2 cups cherries mixture onto baking tray to form �� Handful mint leaves, for serving small circles. Bake for 1 hour, and �� 1 cup (250ml) strawberry coulis, leave to cool. for serving 4. Meanwhile, whisk cream for 8–10 minutes until firm. Fold in chocolate 1. Preheat oven to 150˚C. Line tray with sauce. Spoon and spread over baking paper.

Pavlova.

2. Beat egg whites for 10–12 minutes or 5. Top with cherries and mint leaves. until stiff peak stage. Gradually add Drizzle with coulis, and serve. sugar in small amounts, beating well

CHERRY AND CHOCOLATE PAVLOVA Prep time: 25 minutes Cooking time: 60 minutes easy Serves: 6–8

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MINT AND CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM Prep time: 15 minutes Serves: 8

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1 cup mint chocolate, chopped 1 cup chocolate chips 4 cups (1ℓ) double cream 1½ cups (375ml) condensed milk Ice cream cones, for serving 1. In a large bowl, whip cream for about 8–10 minutes or until fluffy.

2. Add mint chocolate, chocolate chips and milk, and mix. Transfer mixture into any container and freeze.

3. Scoop into cones and serve.

ELEGANT STRAWBERRIES Prep time: 15 minutes Serves: 4

easy

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4 cups fresh strawberries 1 cup dark chocolate, melted 1 cup white chocolate, melted ½ cup almond nuts, roughly chopped 1. Line tray with baking paper. Put strawberries onto skewers.

2. Pour chocolate sauces in separate bowls.

3. Alternately dip strawberries into chocolate sauces. Coat well.

4. Sprinkle with nuts, and place onto baking tray to dry.

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1 tablespoon orange zest 1 cup (250ml) lukewarm milk 4 tablespoons (60ml) melted butter 1 large egg, beaten 1 cup (250ml) warm water Oil, for frying Filling 1 cup chocolate sauce

OOZING CHOCOLATE DOUGHNUT Prep time: 15 minutes Cooking time: 8–10 minutes easy Serves: 5–6

2 cups flour 4 tablespoons sugar 2 teaspoons baking powder Pinch of salt 1 teaspoon nutmeg

1 cup white sugar ½ cup (125ml) water ½ cup (125ml) full cream milk 2 tablespoons butter 1¾ cups cake flour, sifted ½ teaspoon baking powder 4 tablespoons cocoa powder 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon Pinch of salt 3 eggs, beaten Oil, for frying Icing sugar, for dusting Chocolate sauce, for serving 1. In a large saucepan, heat sugar, water, milk and butter over

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4.

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medium-heat for 4–5 minutes. Set aside.

Add flour, baking powder, cocoa, cinnamon and salt. Mix until smooth.

Add eggs and mix.

Meanwhile, heat oil in a frying pan. Pour batter into piping bag and squeeze small amounts into hot oil. Fry for 4–5 minutes.

Dust with icing sugar, and serve with chocolate sauce.

CRUNCHIE CHURROS Prep time: 10 minutes Cooking time: 8–10 minutes easy Serves: 4

1. In a large bowl, sift flour, sugar, baking powder, salt, nutmeg and orange zest.

2. In a separate bowl, mix milk, butter, egg and water. Pour into sifted ingredients. Mix to form smooth batter.

3. Heat oil in a pan. With a teaspoon, scoop and drop batter into hot oil. Fry for 4–5 minutes on each side or until golden.

Transfer onto kitchen paper and drain excess oil. Leave to cool.

4. Make small holes on top of doughnuts with a sharp knife.

5. Fill piping bag with chocolate sauce. Squeeze into doughnuts.

Serve immediately.

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TRIPLE LAYER CAKE Prep time: 15 minutes Cooking time: 60 minutes easy Serves: 12

Frosting 2 cups cream cheese 1 cup icing sugar, sifted 1 cup chocolate sauce Red roses, for serving Chocolate shavings, for serving 1. Preheat oven to 180˚C. 2. In a bowl, mix flour, salt, sugar, baking powder and bicarbonate of soda.

3. In a jug, whisk water, oil, vinegar and eggs. Pour over dry ingredients.

Mix well to form a soft batter.

4. Equally divide batter into three different bowls. Add cocoa powder to first bowl, red colouring to the second and white chocolate sauce to the last one.

5. Pour each mixture into a lightly greased baking pan. Bake for 50–60 minutes or until cooked through. Let it cool.

6. Meanwhile, mix frosting ingredients until smooth. Spread onto dark chocolate layer.

Top with white chocolate layer and spread icing. Top with red layer and spread frosting.

7. Top cake with rose petals and chocolate shavings, and serve.

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1½ cups cake flour Pinch of salt 1 cup sugar 2 teaspoons baking powder 1 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda 1 cup (250ml) water 1 cup (250ml) oil 2 tablespoons (30ml) vinegar 3 eggs, beaten 4 tablespoons cocoa powder

6 tablespoons (90ml) red colouring ½ cup white chocolate sauce

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CHOCOLATE SWISS ROLL Prep time: 20 minutes Cooking time: 10 minutes easy Serves: 8

�� 1 cup dark chocolate, melted �� 4 large eggs, separated �� ½ cup castor sugar �� 4 tablespoons (60ml) butter, melted �� 1 teaspoon (5ml) lemon juice �� 1/3 cup cake flour �� 1 cup mixed fruit jam �� 1 cup cream, whipped �� 4 tablespoons cocoa, for dusting

�� 1 cup fresh raspberries �� 1 cup mashed banana �� 1 cup white chocolate, roughly chopped �� 1 cup castor sugar �� 1 cup (250ml) oil �� 4 eggs, beaten �� 1 teaspoon (5ml) orange juice �� 1½ cup self-raising flour �� 1 teaspoon bicarbonate of soda �� 1 teaspoon ground nutmeg Frosting �� 1 cup butter, softened �� ½ cups icing sugar �� 4 tablespoons cream �� Fresh mixed berries, for serving �� Raspberry coulis, for serving 1. Preheat oven to 200˚C. 2. In a large bowl, beat sugar and oil for about 8–10 minutes.

3. Add eggs and orange juice. Sift in flour, bicarbonate of soda and nutmeg.

4. Fold in raspberries, banana and chocolate.

5. Spoon mixture into a lightly greased baking pan. Bake for 20–25 minutes or until cooked through. Set aside to cool.

6. For frosting, mix all ingredients in a bowl.

Spread on cake, and top with mixed berries and coulis. Cut into squares, and serve.

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CUT OUT AND KEEP

1. Preheat oven to 200˚C. Line tray with baking paper.

2. In a large bowl, whisk egg whites for about 8–10 minutes until soft peak stage.

Gradually add sugar and beat or another 4–5 minutes until batter is firm and shiny.

3. Add chocolate, butter, egg yolk and lemon juice. Mix until smooth.

4. Fold in flour – do not stir. Pour and spread evenly onto baking tray. Bake for 8–10 minutes.

5. Turn cake onto kitchen towel. Pull out baking paper and carefully roll up into sausage shape. Unroll and spread with jam and cream. Roll up again.

6. Dust with cocoa, and serve.

RASPBERRY, BANANA AND WHITE CHOCOLATE SQUARES Prep time: 20 minutes Cooking time: 25 minutes easy Makes: 12

PERSONAL SHOPPER FOOD Lancewood has added two new flavours – Sweetmilk and Cheddar – to its cream cheese.

The cheese makes a great spread for crackers, and can be used to enhance flavour in soups. Get the new flavours at major retailers nationwide for R24.99.

Danone has launched a refreshing and filling drink called Dan Up. This is a multigrain drink comprised of four grains and yoghurt. It comes in two flavours – Banana and Cream. Priced from R9.99 (450g) to R19.99 (950g) at leading retailers.

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SHELVES

South African Breweries has introduced a new beer – Carver’s Weiss. The beer has a fruity and zesty taste, which makes it easy to drink. It can be enjoyed with fried nibbles or curry. Available at major liquor outlets for the recommended retail price of R89.99 for a sixpack of 440ml bottles or cans.

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PRODUCT OF THE MONTH BAKERS Eet-Sum-Mor new chocolate chip flavour is delightful. The biscuits are perfect as a party treat or a snack for afternoon tea with friends and family. Find them in a purple box at any retail outlet for R15.99.

McCain Sweet Potato Fries are delicious, nutritious and good for your health. Use as an accompaniment to grilled chicken, steak or fish.

Available at selected retail stores across the country for R38 per packet.

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KITCHEN PRO Rosemary has a slightly mint and pine-like flavour. Rich in vitamin A, you can use it in many ways – to add flavour to your tea, infuse in oil and to burn as incense. It goes well with roast chicken, pork, baked potatoes and as stuffing. You can also use its branches as skewers when grilling or braaing.

Parsley is the most popular herb around. Its spicy and peppery flavour enhances the taste of food, even without adding salt.

It also provides additional nutrients such as vitamin C. Best used in chicken and potato dishes, salads and eggs. Parsley can be found throughout the year, and at any supermarket.

Sage is a member of the mint family, and is closely related to rosemary.

It has a soft and sweet to savoury flavour. It is best used in eggs, cheese and fish dishes. It can also be an excellent remedy for preventing a throat infection. To store sage, wrap it in a damp paper towel, place in a plastic bag and refrigerate.

Pick these herbs

Basil is a bushy herb with a strong smell and flavour. Add it last to your food because when cooked for long, it loses its flavour and texture. When buying fresh leaves, ensure that they don’t have dark spots or bruises.

Basil is an excellent source of iron – that helps red blood cells to transport oxygen to all parts of the body. Best used when cooking vegetables, tomato dishes, stews and soups.

Ntwenhle Gcabashe shares the seven must-have herbs for your kitchen.

Mint is tender, and has a strong flavour.

When cooking, add it last to maintain its flavour and texture. Best used in lamb dishes and soups, as well as in raw food such as salads and desserts. Mint leaves contain a natural fragrant called menthol, which helps to relieve a sore throat.

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7 Thyme has a mild and sharp flavour. Use it to add more flavour to your tea, cheese and alcoholic drinks. It is best used in eggs, beans, vegetable dishes and fish. Fresh thyme is available throughout the year, and at any supermarket. When buying it, make sure that the leaves are bright green with no dark spots.

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Oregano is a bushy herb commonly used in Italian dishes. It has a bittersweet taste. Best used in pizza, eggs, fish, chicken dishes and sauces.

Oregano is also known to improve your digestion and increase energy levels.

SMALL SCREEN STAR

MY HEART and soul

Fundiswa Nkwanyana chats to actress Petronella Nontsikelelo Tshuma about making a name for herself on the small screen and her quest to dominate the film industry.

WHO IS PETRONELLA? I am a spiritual being, affectionate mother and passionate storyteller. I am a happy person who pours her heart and soul in acting. I want to tell women’s stories in an honest and sincere way, portraying their lives in an authentic way. As women, we have many untold stories; my role is to tell them to the best of my ability.

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WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO BE AN ACTRESS? When I was seven years old, I took part in a Christmas church play, and I remember the joy I felt when I was on stage. From that moment, I knew I wanted to be an actress for the rest of my life.

A huge part of me believes that acting is my calling and gift to the world.

WHAT STEPS DID YOU TAKE TO ENSURE YOU MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE? In 2011, I saw an advert on TV calling on budding actors to be part of Class Act. This was a reality television competition series where contestants from around the country competed to win a contract with a top acting agent.

I took the chance and auditioned.

Even though I was the first lady to be eliminated from the show, I was happy to have been part of the competition because I learnt a lot and grew as an actress.

After my elimination, I wrote emails to acting agents, asking them to give me a chance.

Luckily, one agent responded and doors started opening once I started working with her.

HOW DO YOU CHOOSE YOUR ROLES? It has been a humbling and gratifying experience as I can see how I have grown over the years.

I choose the roles I play carefully, and sometimes it takes a while to find something that speaks to me.

From the moment I first went on stage to being part of Class Act and where I am now, I am really satisfied with the progress I have made.

HOW DO YOU PREPARE FOR THE DIFFERENT ROLES YOU PLAY? I believe that we all have the potential to release different characters because they are deep within us. The art of acting is being able to put yourself in the shoes of a character you’re playing and embodying them. Once I know and understand my character, I do loads of research and acting exercises in preparation for the role.

WHAT ARE YOUR LONGTERM GOALS? Exploring the art of writing and directing because I want to be a multifaceted actress with more to offer. As a young black South African woman, I have a responsibility to tell stories in our voice.

I can’t wait for the day when I am an actress, writer and director. I am excited about what the future holds.

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Alex made me

This township raised me, and has been with me through thick and thin. I find peace and comfort in these surroundings because this is who I am.

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We explore Alexandra through the eyes and experiences of actor Meshack Mavuso. By Fundiswa Nkwanyana

MY TOWNSHIP

Meshack with Beauty More, who runs the Thusong Youth Centre where his love for acting began.

Meshack Mavuso gives us a glimpse of his upbringing in the township of Alexandra.

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lexandra is a densely populated and vibrant Johannesburg township, with back rooms turned into family homes and busy small businesses on the streets. This township holds its head up high despite the many social ills that plague it.

Growing up “I grew up playing on streets filled with people who were passionate about life and providing for their families.

I would take walks around dinner time and be surrounded by the smell of mouth-watering food as families gathered to eat,” says Meshack.

Thusong Youth Centre Meshack is proud of his township. He says he is grateful for the opportunities

that it gave him, and the local residents who always cheered him on – from a naughty boy to a family man with a fulfilling acting career. He was introduced to the Thusong Youth Centre by a neighbour who saw potential in his creative energy. “I used to get into a lot of mischief. This stopped when I found a home at the centre. I started proactively taking part in free dance and drama classes,” he recalls.

The days he spent at the centre opened his eyes to his love for the performing arts. His television career kicked off when he played the role of Javas in a popular drama called Yizo Yizo. He went on to play Vusi Moletsane in the SABC 3 soapie Isidingo, and is now Chairperson on eTV drama series Heist.

Favourite spots Growing up, going out with friends was a norm. As a teenager, Meshack hung out with his peers on the streets.

He now loves spending time in various entertainment spots around Alex. “I love having a cigar with friends over a drink, some shisa nyama and music,” he says.

His compassion for Alexandra is visible in his interaction with the local residents. “This township raised me, and has been with me through thick and thin. I find peace and comfort in these surroundings because this is who I am,” he says fondly. Additionally, he shares, it’s the simple things in life that bring him happiness.

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MY LIFE IN THINGS

My hustling kit Hip-hop rapper Tumelo Rakumako, popularly known as Big Star Johnson, lets us in on his favourite items. By Fundiswa Nkwanyana

I create music using my keyboard. I love it because with the touch of one key, I can create a beat.

I call my original Ray-Ban sunglasses hater blockers. I love that when I am wearing them, people can’t see my eyes, but I can see theirs.

Sneakers are comfortable and reflect the hip-hop lifestyle that I love to represent. Wearing them helps me to create music as I can’t do this in formal shoes.

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I do most of my work on my Mac Book Pro. It is portable, and serves as a productive workstation that also stores my favourite music, pictures and series.

MY LIFE IN WORDS

Kicking

Hitmaker Doctor Goodwill Malinga, popularly known as Dr Malinga, chats to Fundiswa Nkwanyana about his success story.

HIS WAY UP I am a simple man from Hammanskraal who loves life and music. My love for music and people continues to be the driving force in my life. I love making music that makes people happy and want to dance.

As a child, I always came first in talent competitions. I was always the centre of attention because I was hyperactive, and enjoyed entertaining my family and friends. I knew then that I would use my talent to improve my life and that of my loved ones. I don’t come from a privileged background – I had to find a way to get myself out of poverty by using my God-given talent.

It hurts when people illegally sell or download my music. People don’t realise that our music gets stolen at an alarming rate. I work day and night to make it for them so that they can enjoy it. But, some steal it, thus taking food out of my mouth.

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Staying true to myself has helped me to build my brand. I have always embraced the fact that I am unique. Many people have been doing the kick dance for years. But because of who I am, mine became an instant hit. I was not trying to be someone else. I find black and white suits boring. This encouraged me to start a fashion label that speaks to who I am, and it’s doing well. This is proof that we don’t always have to be followers; we can be leaders, too.

I am excited about the opportunities that keep coming my way. I started off as a singer and songwriter. Now I am an actor, presenter and motivator. I am excited about what the future holds for me. I believe that If I continue staying true to myself, more doors will open. B

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OVERSEAS CELEBS

SIMONE

AMANDLA

YARA

WILLOW

Magic Amandla Stenberg is an 18-year-old actress-turned-youth activist.

She is leading new age conversations around feminism, cultural appropriation and sexual identity. Amandla was named the 2015 Feminist of the Year by the Ms. Foundation for Women – a non-profit organisation for women in the US. When this young lady speaks, the world listens.

Simone Biles is a gold medallist Olympic gymnast leading the way for young black athletes. The 19-year-old 86

athlete continues to take a firm stand against racism and body shaming online trolls that are constantly harassing her. She is also a positive role model for people living with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, as she has been vocal about living a healthy and happy life with it.

Willow Smith is a 16-year-old actress, singer and activist. She is outspoken about feminism and human trafficking. From a young age, the child star joined forces with her mother,

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We take a look at young black girls who are slowly changing the world. By Fundiswa Nkwanyana Jada Pinkett Smith, to advocate for the end of human trafficking.

Last year, she was seen protesting at the Dakota Access Pipeline.

Yara Shahidi has been vocal about urging Hollywood to move away from perpetuating negative stereotypes of black people. Many young people look to the 16-year-old actress, humanitarian and art activist because she is self-empowered.

She also aims to combat negative stereotypes in the film industry. B

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BLACK GIRL

20 Jan – 18 Feb

AQUARIUS

You are different, unique and cannot be measured by ordinary standards. You have the knack for being completely unselfish, yet distant or impersonal. But, your greatest joy comes from helping those you deem deserving. You are adept at most things and always manage to free yourself from awkward situations. You understand all aspects of humanity, so you are aware and not easily fooled. You love more with your mind than your heart, and only show rare flashes of passion.

Self: Keep your plans to yourself, and your personal affairs will succeed.

Work: Your prospects are good, and good fortune now underlines your actions.

Cash: An unexpected turn of events could put extra money in your pocket.

Love: Enjoy the company of the opposite sex as romantic possibilities increase.

Lucky No: 11, 12, 15, 26, 40, 48

PISCES: 19 Feb – 20 Mar

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Self: Pay attention to health and diet – only eat and drink healthy products.

Work: Go ahead if you aim to get a promotion or better job.

Cash: Make saving money a habit in order to have a secure future.

Love: Prospects are improving, making love more fulfilling.

Lucky No: 10, 20, 34, 39, 43, 49

ARIES: 21 Mar – 19 Apr Self: You can earn greater respect and favour by proving your true abilities.

Work: Make yourself known for efficiency, and you will be successful.

Cash: A friend may give you a chance to profit from a new business enterprise.

Love: Turn on your charm and keep your partner happy.

This will be appreciated.

Lucky No: 1, 5, 6, 13, 29, 40 TAURUS: 20 Apr – 20 May Self: Have faith in your ability to make a good impression, and get on in life.

Work: A businesslike manner towards people and work proves rewarding.

Cash: Make some new business contacts in order to earn more money.

Love: This is a good time to think about the future and make new plans with your mate.

Lucky No: 2, 16, 17, 28, 33, 42

GEMINI: 21 May – 20 Jun Self: Get noticed by improving your appearance and habits.

Success will follow.

Work: Centre your thoughts on making progress in your job.

Cash: Try something new – a bright and workable idea should prove profitable.

Love: Your partnership looks good, so your plans and needs will turn out well.

Lucky No: 4, 14, 19, 22, 29, 43

VIRGO: 23 Aug – 22 Sep Self: Remember that a good image is important, so keep fit and dress smartly.

Work: You are getting into top form.

This makes you succeed in your job.

Cash: Tighten up your spending in order to increase your savings.

Love: Enjoy the pleasant romantic atmosphere. Give your lover a special treat.

Lucky No: 13, 24, 25, 27, 42, 48

LIBRA: 23 Sep – 22 Oct Self: You are relating well with everyone, increasing your popularity.

Work: Gain invaluable experience by listening to the right people.

Cash: A lucky change in your financial status affords you spending power.

Love: Make your relationship work by showing deeper appreciation.

Lucky No: 1, 22, 28, 37, 44, 47 SCORPIO: 23 Oct – 21 Nov Self: Tackle your new tasks with confidence in order to be effective.

Work: This is the right time to develop your aims along more extensive lines.

Cash: You will succeed if you are determined to earn extra money.

Love: Pleasant romantic developments should make you happy and content.

Lucky No: 6, 14, 23, 33, 34, 49

CANCER: 21 Jun – 22 Jul Self: Now confident and optimistic, you can achieve your personal objectives.

Work: You can learn a lot from others, so take note of their ideas and advice.

Cash: Your financial prospects are improving; take advantage of the circumstances.

Love: Make time for fun and enjoyment with your sweetheart.

Lucky No: 11, 18, 33, 37, 40, 49

SAGITTARIUS: 22 Nov – 21 Dec Self: Be versatile and try some fresh ideas to get ahead.

Work: Look forward to improving circumstances and you can realise your ambitions.

Cash: Joining a trusted friend in business could work out well for you.

Love: This is the time to show your partner how much you care.

Lucky No: 4, 9, 13, 21, 36, 41

LEO: 23 Jul – 22 Aug Self: Enjoy personal popularity.

This should make you successful.

Work: Your personal aspirations benefit from fresh chances.

Cash: You are more clear-sighted about money and can make some profit.

Love: Positive influences make togetherness pleasant.

Lucky No: 2, 5, 35, 41, 44, 45

CAPRICORN: 22 Dec – 19 Jan Self: Examine your life and habits to see where you can improve.

Work: Focus on becoming a leader in your field to reap the benefits.

Cash: Push ahead with financial plans.

Take on more work to get extra income.

Love: Enjoy fulfilling and peaceful moments with your better half.

Lucky No: 6, 8, 23, 31, 39, 46

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BLACK EXCELLENCE

Empowering young girls & women Ramona Kasavan, founder of Mimi (formerly known as Happy Days), chats to us about why she started a company that locally produces and distributes sanitary towels. By Fundiswa Nkwanyana

I am the founder and CEO of Mimi, an organisation that locally produces sanitary towels.

We are South Africa’s first and only black-owned sanitary pads business.

The main objective is to keep girls in school by donating pads so that they don’t use unhygienic forms of sanitary wear, or miss school. We also empower women to be entrepreneurs of our sanitary pads – Mimi.

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The lack of financial security is a big challenge. When I resigned from a comfortable corporate job, I had no financial security for 18 months. At the same time, I had to build a successful business from scratch. I was going through personal issues, but had to stay focused.

We celebrated our third anniversary by changing our name from Happy Days to Mimi.

The new name is Swahili for “I Am”.

Mimi is about self-acceptance, and that is a core theme of my business.

We are growing, and hope to one day own the entire value chain of the sanitary business across Africa.

I believe that the future of Africa depends on the empowerment of young girls and women.

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At Mimi, we want to be known as a brand that empowers girls by promoting equal access to education.

Through our direct selling model as well as our pads and scents enterprise development programme, we empower unemployed women with financial literacy and business skills to guarantee a reliable source of income.

Many people laughed at my dreams. I grew up in a society where women are expected to get married and stay at home. My journey is proof that if you can see it clearly in your mind, then you can achieve it with hard work, passion and determination. As a farm girl, I work hard so that other people can be brave, and believe in their dreams. B

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My passion for women empowerment started when I was young. I grew up on a farm in Inanda, KwaZulu-Natal. From an early age, I witnessed the challenges faced by girls and women in under privileged areas when they were on their periods.

From then on, I wanted to help them.

My childhood experiences moved me to become a social entrepreneur that empowers girls and women.

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