“Marriage has the potential to hurt you deeply as much as it is By Robert Ntefon
If you are hurting, Marriage may not be the best prescription. The season is that marriage has no healing power of its own self. Marriage might worsen your hurt if you don't know what to do next. Marriage isn't the cure to your hurts! It could create an environment for your healing process, but that only could be if you and your partner are aware of what should be done to allow the healing for the one hurting. Even then, where you both are in your individual maturity and as a team will have a lot to contribute to how fast the hurting will cross over unto healthy living. Incidentally, most of us married for very selfish reasons. That is why we hardly take out time to write a list of what we want to be to the one we want to get married to. One of the reasons is that we seek for who has and will be ready to supply what we need or want to have in our lives. A few people ever bother to think about bringing what our partners need that we can supply into their lives. It is also most likely that who walked into our lives had similar approach towards marriage. What you therefore have, isn't exactly what you expected. It is not a marriage to someone who will give you all you want without you offering all he/she wants. An average marriage that is merely built on human natural desires, approach and reactions often is a set up for trouble. To get it right, we need to attach the "super” to our natural approach. The other side to this is that, in most cases, what makes a woman happy may not be what will, make her husband feel the same
able to make you happy” Women are basically different from men no matter the twisted ideas that human beings are trying to brew up everyday. Here is the thing, we humans have some funny ideas and thoughts that we wish they could actually become real possibilities in our lives. E.g. Some people buy into the idea that smoking will make them become more important than they truly are. Others operate with the expensive idea that having sex at random could make them feel truly loved, or the idea we are dealing with here; the idea some have, that getting married will solve all your relational problems and heal you of most of your emotional hurts if not all of them. Nothing could be more wrong! I often say to my audience that marriage is a "full-time job". You’re into another form of hurts if you jump into marriage without learning from the right sources How To Enjoy A Happy And Lasting Love. As you must be aware, nothing works well without a proper application of the rules. Not one great marriage just happens. It is always successful by the rules. I did a teaching for Singles that is titled "Good Reasons Why You Don't Need To Marry". In case you thought it’s something you couldn't do without, you should listen to that teaching. I would personally advice that the married couples also get themselves that message because it will reveal some
It is a sad thing to know that people want to have lasting love and want to experience marriage that works and lasts but they jump into it without any clue about the "must-dos". The end results is that most of those with the idea that if one likes you and is telling you all the "sweet none sense" and how much he or she loves you, that it will be enough to make love last. Most people in marriage have proven that not to be true. As a matter of fact, marriage has the potential to hurt you deeply as much as it is able to make you happy, if you cannot make it work for long term! Marriage will never immune you from hurts, instead, it can hurt so bad if you have not learnt what you need to do in and with it to serve you as intended. One MASSIVE suggestion I can make here is for you to love the word LEARN. You need to learn to learn what will work in your marriage. There are basics that will work everywhere and every time the environment is set. I personally invite you to be at our FREE
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