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You Can Set Your Fellowship Thermostat Right
By Revs. Robert & Enomfon Ntefon Fellowship thermostat is about how 'cool' or intense your times of disagreement between husband and wife could be. That may sound funny, but not when it happens, though. When next you catch yourself in it, just allow this tag to tickle you to mellow down the intensity. As you can tell, when we treat our spouses’ opinion as though it was an attack and we need to duck and take cover. Boom! That is why we bring out our 'weapons' to protect ourselves from what we feel is an attack. If what your spouse is saying is an attack, then, you can attack back or put up a defence, right?. That is when our tones change. The intensity mounts and we strain. That is when we employ unkind words.and forget the pet names we call each other when there is no ''war', isn't it? When each of you wants to win the fight with each other for yourself, that is when your ego is at its worst. For instance, just consider if you both are arguing on certain colours. “Yes, that dress is wine colour”. “No, it is burgundy” or it could be over violet and purple. We do that too. “It is dark blue trousers, baby”. “No, honey, that is black" Or “That window blind is gold, darling” “No is brownish-yellow, sweetheart”. Come to think of it, does it really matter who wins in that argument? If care is not taken, some strange phrases like “you have no sense of colour" might fly out from someone's lips. Then, in anger the other person might ask, “Are you blind?” You see, both of you have left the colour identification and are now busy with giving each other the 'pieces of your mind'! See how a simple matter like that can lead to a complex verbal battle and abuses? We have to mature and allow our emotions to be spirit-controlled. Each of us has a right to choose to let our spirits take charge of what we do even when our emotions are yelling for retaliation. If you say “I don’t know how all of this started”, then you have given your right to choose away or you are not yet matured emotionally. Having control over our spirit is one of the ways we must decide to actualise the victory we already have in Christ Jesus daily. The good news is, in Christ Jesus, you have the right and the right to set your marriage 'fellowship thermostat'. You need to start yielding to the leading of the Holy spirit if you must win God's way in your marriage. That' is a decision you have to make by yourself.
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