May 2015

MAY 2015

Hometown Hero:

ROLAND WILLIAMS

shawn dunwoody

THE COMMUNITY IS HIS CANVAS

ROCHESTER’S BEST WORN SECRET

adrian jules

doug emblidge

frank argento EXPRESSING LIFE THROUGH ART:

MORE THAN JUST A “NEWS GUY” ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

FOR ALL THE THINGS THAT YOU ARE...ROCHESTER MAN?

1

Care Focused On You

Trillium Health professionals are dedicated to your well-being. Discover an open-minded, friendly, compassionate approach to health care and supportive services, all under one roof.

• Primary medical care • On-site pharmacy & lab services • LGBTQ affirming care • HIV/AIDS prevention & specialty care • Behavioral wellness • Downtown with ample free parking

Your neighborhood health center 259 Monroe Avenue at Monroe Square between Union and Alexander

www.trilliumhealth.org | (585) 545-7200

mer! m u he S ITE t f o r t y ur WH night... a P e h the h It’s T Wear yo g u thro y t r a p and

E N I GH N D I , JU PM-M

AY ster.com D R e roch y t r SAT.U a p white

{

wwwus! facebook like

/Roc .com

}

rty itePa rsWh e t s e h

5

1 0 2 , 13 T THE

ORIC HIS T N

7ON EAST AVYE CLUB MANS CEN

TUR

AT NUE

IO

MAY 8

OUT & ABOUT

7

PLATTER CHATTER 8 FASHION FORWARD 10 BEST MAN IN ROCHESTER CONTEST

12

RW SECURITY 14

12

SPECIAL FEATURE: Shawn Dunwoody

16

FOR A GOOD CAUSE: Fast & Furriest

22

LEADING MAN: Roland Williams

24

KING OF ARTS: Frank Argento

26

COVER STORY: Doug Emblidge

30

IN HIS OWN WORDS 36 LOCAL BUSINESS MATTERS: Adrian Jules

40

SNAP OUT OF IT: Ode to Men

42

50

45

RM INSPIRES 45 RWM EVENTS 50 EVENTS CALENDAR 51 TIPS FOR MEN 56

40

30

36

EVERYDAY EXPLORATIONS 52

16

24

LETTER FROM THE

OUR TEAM...

publishers in the lives of school children in the city of Rochester with his Champion Academy. Turn to page [24] and find out more about Roland and the great work he’s doing.

“Men get to be a mixture of the charming mannerisms of the women they have known.”

— F. Scott Fitzgerald Let’s face it ladies, we all need men in our lives. Whether it’s a father, husband, boyfriend, brother, uncle or just a good, guy friend — they are nice to have around. When we need something fixed, a strong shoulder to cry on or a comforting bear hug, men are some of the most important people in our lives. It is for that reason we decided to produce our first annual Man Issue.

This issue is dedicated to all the great guys who use their time, talents and compassion to benefit others.

Our first cover man is someone familiar to everyone. He comes into our homes to deliver the news first thing in the morning and then later in the evening, and he’s been doing it for as long as most of us can remember. Doug Emblidge has spent the last 30 years fulfilling his boyhood dream and doing what he loves. But he’s more than just a “news guy.” Turn to page [30] and find out more about one of Rochester’s most popular newsmen.

Many people classify sports figures as heroes and, in most cases, that isn’t always true. But when you’re talking about local NFL Superbowl Champion Roland Williams, the term “hero” truly fits. We had an opportunity to meet Roland at our April issue launch party and he was everything we expected: kind, charismatic and genuine. He is stepping up and making a difference

Art touches people in many ways. Local artist Shawn Dunwoody has dabbled in and mastered several traditional art forms, but the current medium that is getting him noticed in Rochester is the community. The creator of the viral video “Happy Rochester” views people as his paint and the community as his canvas. He is currently mixing the two to transform rundown neighborhoods one building at a time. Read about how he’s doing it on page [16].

Are you familiar with Rochester’s best worn secret? Local men’s clothier Adrian Jules has been providing the highest quality men’s apparel for more than 50 years. The Roberti family is full of proud Rochesterians who have been quietly carrying on the tradition their father started decades ago — and doing it with uncompromising style. Read their story on page [40].

Well it looks like spring is finally here!

We are putting the finishing touches on our Ultimate Health and Wellness Expo coming up June 13. This year’s event will be held at the Sibley Building in Downtown Rochester and promises to be our biggest one yet. The event is free to attend and will feature more than 250 local vendors, plus several on-stage presentations and, of course, a showstopping fashion show. There will also be a large food and beverage sampling area for attendees to sample incredible food from local area restaurants and caterers. Mark your calendars — you won’t want to miss this one.

Kelly & Barb ON OUR COVER

Doug Emblidge was photographed on location at the 13WHAM studios by Stephen Reardon Photography.

OUR TEAM...

PUBLISHERS Kelly Breuer Barbara McSpadden EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

Barbara McSpadden

ASSOCIATE EDITOR Margaret Madigan

CREATIVE DIRECTOR/DESIGNER Kelly Breuer

PHOTOGRAPHY

Tiffany Boula Ve Jay Broyld, Jr Todd Elliott Stephen Reardon Sandra Shaffer Brandon Vick

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Katie Berry Vanessa Cheeks Katie Detar Laura DiCaprio Rebecca Ferguson Alyssa Jackson Dave Jenkins Cynthia Kolko Joan E. Lincoln Margaret Madigan Tony Murray Lisa Rickman Sofia Tokar Beth Winslow-D’Amico

ADVERTISE WITH US...

Unlike any other publication in the Rochester area, our feature articles address major topics that interest local women.

Each issue includes articles on health, fashion, fitness, finance, home matters, dining, lifestyle and personal perspectives, as well as a spotlight on local Rochester women.

The print magazines are distributed locally in over 350 locations and will be in your inbox electronically by the first week of every month. The publication is available free of charge.

CONTACT OUR HOME OFFICE 585.727.9120 PO Box 90798 I Rochester, NY 14609 info@rochesterwomanmag.com DOWNLOAD OUR MEDIA KIT AT www.rochesterwomanmag.com The magazine is published 12 times a year by Rochester Woman Magazine, llc. PO Box 90798, Rochester NY 14609.

Copyright © 2014 Rochester Woman Magazine, llc.

No part of this magazine may be reproduced or republished without the consent of the publishers.

Rochester Woman Magazine is not responsible for unsolicited submissions, manuscripts, photos or artwork.

All such submissions become the property of Rochester Woman Magazine, llc. and will not be returned.

o&A

::OUT &

about

F OA

BLACK BUTTON DISTILLING ANNOUNCES RELEASE OF LIMITED EDITION LILAC GIN Hand Crafted, Locally Sourced Gin Commemorates Rochester’s Rich History as “The Flower City”

Black Button Distilling, Rochester NY’s first grain to glass craft distillery, is proud to announce the launch of their hand-crafted, limited edition Lilac Gin on May 1st, 2015.

MOVIES Hot Pursuit – 5/8 An uptight and by-the-book cop (Reese Witherspoon) tries to protect the sexy and outgoing widow (Sopia Vergara) of a drug boss as they race through Texas, pursued by crooked cops and murderous gunmen.

A tribute to the rich botanical heritage of “The Flower City” and home of the annual Rochester Lilac Festival, Black Button’s Lilac Gin is made with hand picked fresh lilac petals and complimentary botanicals.

“As a local company, we are always looking for ways to celebrate Rochester’s unique heritage,” said Jason Barrett, Rochester native and Black Button Distilling owner/head distiller. “The flowers of the Lilac Festival are a major part of our city’s identity. The ability to use local ingredients and showcase them in our own way is exactly what Black Button is all about,” he said.

Lilac Gin, made in limited quantities from locally sourced ingredients, commemorates Rochester’s rich festival and floral history. It’s also a nod to the flour mills of old, which gave rise to the local distilling industry.

Mad Max:Fury Road – 5/15 Mad Max becomes swept up with a group fleeing across the Wasteland in a War Rig driven by an elite Imperator, Furiosa. They are escaping a Citadel tyrannized by the Immortan Joe, from whom something irreplaceable has been taken. Enraged, the Warlord marshals all his gangs and pursues the rebels ruthlessly in the high-octane Road War that follows.

Spy – 5/22 Susan Cooper (Melissa McCarthy) is an unassuming, desk bound CIA analyst, and the unsung hero behind the Agency’s most dangerous missions.

But when her partner (Jude Law) falls off the grid and another top agent (Jason Statham) is compromised, she volunteers to go deep undercover to infiltrate the world of a deadly arms dealer, and prevent a global disaster.

Entourage – 6/5 Movie star Vincent Chase (Adrian Grenier), together with his boys, Eric (Kevin Connolly), Turtle (Jerry Ferrara) and Johnny (Kevin Dillon), are back…and back in business with super agent-turned-studio head Ari Gold (Jeremy Piven). Some of their ambitions have changed, but the bond between them remains strong as they navigate the capricious and often cutthroat world of Hollywood.

Beginning May 1 at 6 pm, there will be 600 bottles available for purchase in the Black Button Tasting Room. Lilac Gin will be available in select liquor stores around the county beginning on May 2.

About Black Button Lilac Gin: Subtle juniper notes mix with fresh floral overtones to create a clean crisp gin with a fruity essence on the finish. It’s a delicate gin meant for light refreshing cocktails in the spring, or any time of year.

ADULTS RELIVE PROM WITH A TWIST AT NEW RMSC AFTER DARK EVENT AT THE ROCHESTER MUSEUM & SCIENCE It’s prom season! Community members 21 and older are invited to dust off their old dress and tux and get ready to pose for those awkward prom pictures at the latest adult event at the Rochester Museum & Science Center (RMSC). RMSC After Dark: Geek Chic Prom takes place from 7pm through 11pm on Friday, May 22.

At RMSC After Dark: Geek Chic Prom, attendees enjoy one enchanted evening of music, fun and spectacular science. Guests have free rein to explore the interactive exhibits on all three floors of the Museum. During the evening, attendees will: • Dance to music by a live DJ. • Make their own bow tie, corsage or pocket protector to take home.

• See science experiments in action and then try their own.

• Watch Tesla coils zap musical lightning across the Electricity Theater.

• Pose for a prom-style photo.

• Experience Back Button Distilling.

• Interact with Flower City Vaudeville.

• Get love advice from Discover Your Match LLC. • Enjoy snacks and cash bars.

• Vote for prom king and queen.

Attendees are also invited to donate their prom dresses and accessories. Gently used, currentstyle prom dresses, jewelry and evening bags will be collected as guests enter the Museum for Fairy Godmother’s of Rochester. This organization helps underprivileged high school girls attend prom in style. They dress over 500 young ladies each year and rely on donations to ensure a “dream come true” prom. Prom attire encouraged.

Admission: Pre-sale tickets: RMSC Members: $12; General Public: $17 Day of event tickets: RMSC Members: $15; General Public: $20 Tickets can be purchased at www.rmsc.org, at the RMSC Welcome Center or by calling 585.697.1942.

Tickets are limited so advanced purchase is strongly suggested.Must be 21 or older to attend and have proof of ID at the door.

chatter ::PLATTER

Nox

COCKTAIL LOUNGE

Nerdy by nature, delicious by design

::PLATTER

chatter

PC

BY SOFIA TOKAR | PHOTOS BY BRANDON VICK From Sherlock Holmes to Game of Thrones, Charlotte Perkins Gilman to Buffy the Vampire Slyer, Nox Craft Cocktails and Comfort Food is unapologetically nerdy and bookish. Rochester’s literati and culture vultures will delight in recognizing the many references peppered throughout the menu and building.

But first you have to find the place. Like The Leaky Cauldron in London, it’s easy to overlook the entrance, since it’s tucked in the Village Gate and occasionally blocked by parked cars.

The search is worthwhile though: Enter through the impressive wooden doors, pull back the curtains, behold the wallpaper, and cozy up alongside the bar or at one of the tables.

Owners James and Corinne Black, Aaron and Kelly Metras, and Tom Snape opened Nox this past New Year’s Eve. Since then, the team has been finding their footing while attracting a regular following.

On any given night, you’re likely to see James working the bar. “I really enjoy a nicely made cocktail,” he explains, “but I don’t like the air of pretension and snobbery that comes with some bars. We decided Nox would be styled after a coffeehouse or salon, but with a more laid-back atmosphere.”

The seasonal drinks menu features original concoctions created by Black. He admits there was trial and error in the creation process, but credits his wife Corinne with giving him constructive criticism. “My wheelhouse is making weirder things. She has an exceptional palette, so I count on her for an invaluable second opinion.”

Thus came to be House Stark, a drink featuring Douglas Fir Brandy, Art in the Age’s Sage Liqueur, Hendrick’s Gin, Salers Gentiane Aperitif, and fresh rosemary. It sounds like it should taste overwhelmingly of pine trees, but the end result is delightfully refreshing—and a crowd favorite.

Fancy something a little sweeter? Try the Siren of Titan, made with Rhuby Rhubarb Liqueur, Domaine de Canton Ginger Liqueur, fresh muddled strawberries, and fresh lemon juice. For fans of spice, there’s Napalm in the Morning, a mixture of Los Amantes Mezcal Joven, sparkling lemon soda, fresh lime juice, and sriracha chili sauce.

Prefer the classics? Don’t worry—Nox has your Manhattans, Cosmopolitans, Margaritas, and more covered too. “We just want our guests to enjoy themselves and the atmosphere. Drink what you like. This is a judgment-free zone,” says Black.

Wetting your whistle inevitably whets your appetite. Nox offers comfort food with a twist, taking macaroni and cheese and transfiguring it into Noble House of Black Mac and Cheese. The dish comprises elbow noodles smothered in a blend of sharp Asiago and rich Oaxaca cheese, topped with crumbled Cheez-Its, breadcrumbs, and bacon bits, and served piping hot in a skillet.

Cheese-meets-carbs is a recurring theme on the menu. Dolly Haze’s Grilled Cheese combines salted strawberries and dark chocolate with melted Brie, all served between thick-cut Baker Street sourdough bread.

Black extended chef Brett Blotnik the same creative freedom that the former enjoys when it comes to cocktails. The culinary results include Vlad Dracul’s snack: lightly charred Hungarian wax peppers stuffed with feta, Parmesan, cream cheese, and Italian sausage. The stuffed peppers are served atop sourdough bread that has been spread with house-made garlic butter.

Blotnik plans to add a dessert menu with items as whimsical as Nox’s other offerings, including pretzel balls covered in local honey and gluten-free banana bread with peanut butter and bacon jam. With summer approaching, the team at Nox wants to open up the patio seating—and even bring live music and entertainment back to the Village Gate.

“We’re so fortunate here in Rochester to have a really vibrant and active arts community, with plenty of artists, musicians, photographers, and performers,” says Black. Nox recently featured artist Dave Pollot’s repurposed discarded thrift art on its walls. Next up will be the works of Chris Pallace and Kevin Serwacki of Blue Toucan Studios, along with Allison Nichols of Creativ Framing and Art. “Why not bring smart, creative people together more often?” reflects Black. “Nox can be a hub for them and anyone else interested in good drinks, comfort food, and the nerdy things in life.”

302 N. Goodman Street (at the Village Gate Square—entrance on east side of building), Rochester, NY 14607. 585-471-8803. www.noxcocktail.com

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

9

forward :FASHION

Clothes Make the MAN

(orWoman)

BY JOAN LINCOLN As we were going to press, our cover guy Doug Emblidge and his lovely wife Coleen have just celebrated 30 years of wedded bliss. Good friends Tony and Kim Infantino are not far behind at 25 years. My parents celebrated 60 years of amazing love. Mom and Dad were a very fashionable couple, my Mom made sure they were appropriately attired for every event they attended. I’m fairly certain that these marriages have lasted because they keep it fresh, fun and include “Date Night” on occasion.

For some of us, we have had many more opportunities for “Date Night”, bring on blind dates, match.com dates and “I’d like you to meet my Dad” dates!

Lucky you, you have a date, now what to wear or, more importantly, what NOT to wear...

Don’t let your first date attire ruin your chances for a second date. What you wear is the perfect opportunity to present who you are before you say a word. These recommendations are for both men and women: ~Stay away from all black ~Keep your comfy clothes at home ~Don’t try a new trend or outfit on a first date. Chances are you’ll feel uncomfortable in it and there’s a good bet your date will take notice.

Stick to the outfits that you know!

Also, if you’re wearing what makes you comfortable and what is typical of you, your date isn’t going to start expecting you to be dressed a certain way that doesn’t work for you.

LADIES THIS IS FOR YOU ::: DON’T reveal too much:

Don’t be too provocative. Men love skin, but you shouldn’t flash too much of it during a first or second date. If you dress in a very sexy fashion, your date might get the wrong message about who you are and what you want. Stay away from skirts that are too high and blouses that are too low, but don’t dress too conservatively. Strike a happy medium, and avoid an outfit that looks too prudish or too provocative.

MEN THIS IS FOR YOU ::: DON”T be too casual:

Leave your sport team and sneakers home until further notice. The first few dates, if the relationship goes that far and doesn’t include a sports themed date environment, should not include sports themed outfits.

Make sure you have at least a black or a blue suit jacket, a crisp white or classic blue collared shirt, a great pair of dark dress denim (no holes, stains, or too distressed features) and a great fitting pair of neutral trousers. A lot of women check out a guys footwear first, this one element of your date attire can be a deal breaker. Keep it clean and classic, it’s your personality she’s after.

Whether you’re setting out on a nerves-filled first date, celebrating a seriously romantic occasion or landing anywhere else on the wild ‘n’ wonderful dating time line, remember to be yourself. Clothes support the message, but remember they also send a message that can enhance or detract from who you actually are, and what you’re actually saying. Most of all, have fun, enjoy this new adventure, and remember that the way you dress announces the way you feel about yourself. Others will see that and treat you accordingly! ...and always remember to live life with Panache!

Joan Lincoln owns Panache Vintage and Finer Consignment in Brighton Commons. Her Fashion Forward segment can also be heard every Thursday morning during Wake Up With Tony on WARM 101.3 exploring all of the latest fashion trends and styles.

AMPLIFY the way you view your world at Eye 2 Eye Optical

East Ends Best Kept Secret..

30 N Union St # 101 Rochester, NY 14607 (585) 325-1799 www.rochestereyecenter.com

Now featuring Bolle’ and Serengeti Specialty Eyewear with Advanced lens and frame technology. Sports enthusuasts and professionals alike trust Bolle and Serengeti to prepare them for peak performance! and with $100 off any complete sports frame with RX You can too. Come see the complete line today, You deserve the best.

feature ::SPECIAL

who is the

Best Man ? in Rochester 3

1

4

9 2

5 7

8

best man

::SPECIAL FEATURE Ah the men in our lives. Love them or hate them, we certainly can’t live without them. In many cases the important men in our lives don’t get the recognition they deserve. They spend their days quietly being loving, supportive and giving. They are the shoulder we cry on, the arms we run to after a bad day or the delivery of bad news.

They are also the scapegoat when things go wrong or the punching bag (figuratively speaking) when we need to vent.

We felt it was time to give those men the recognition they deserve. We asked readers to enter their favorite man in our Best Man in Rochester

1. DYLAN ANDERSON

This man is my husband Dylan. When we began dating he welcomed my son from a previous relationship as his own immediately. We were married in August and found out shortly after we are expecting a baby in May. When I got very sick from my pregnancy he didn’t hesitate to tell me to quit my job and relax while he took care of all the bills. He has a very dangerous job and sometimes works days that last up to 17 hours. He sacrifices his sleep and social life on a daily basis to spend time with our family and somehow still manages to help around the house. He truly is the best man.

2. MATHEW ARSENAULT

This is my man Mathew Arsenault, not only is he an amazing father, he is also amazing to my son and I! He is very loving, caring, and helpful.

He also served our country as a Navy Seabee for 8yrs. In my heart he will always be my best man!

3. DANIEL D’ANGELANTONIO

My man is the best because he embodies all the qualities you’d want in a companion. Loyal and dependable, he’s always on time—often when I’m not. He works harder than anyone I know, carrying multiple jobs and still makes time for his family and friends. He’s a jokester and lives in the moment—something I’m working on. I could go on saying he’s driven, determined, protective, honest and fair, but above all, he brings out the best in me, letting me know I’m beautiful inside and out, even when I don’t feel that way about myself.

4. TOM KLEIN

6

My man (of 30 years) is THE best for so many reasons! He’s my rock and my soft place to land when I lose my footing. He’s the best parenting partner and has been by my side through challenges and joys.

He’s funny, charming, wise, loving, kind, and willing to show up to life and to his family, whatever is called for. He supports my dreams and ventures wholeheartedly – he’s happy to sit back and let me shine. He’s a compassionate, giving friend, who doesn’t need recognition. He loves and lives life fully, enriching the worlds of those he touches.

5. JOE MAGLIOZZI

Joe has a love for living life. I respect a man who treats me as an equal on every platform – we play hard together therefore our factbased discussions and valuable arguments don’t debilitate our bond.

He appreciates an open, honest approach to life and challenges the imbalances. Joe has a noble heart and good energy that speaks to me without words. He knows when I need him and reaches out. We eased into parenthood with our organically similar views on how to be effective at developing well-balanced children that will successfully navigate society. He carries the ‘partner for life’ gene.

6. TERRY OWEN

Look at him…look how cute he is…He’s the best because about a year ago, I was put on this medically prescribed diet where I could literally only eat plants and fruits. Terry has done everything to support me during this horrendous effort to be healthy by eating what I eat, BUT if

SF

Contest. After reviewing all of the entries, our staff narrowed it down to the finalists below. Visit our Facebook page or our website: www.rochesterwomanmag.com to vote for the man you think is The Best Man in Rochester.

Voting must be completed by June 1st. We will announce the winner in our June issue and on our Facebook page. The winner will receive a weekend getaway for two at the Ramada Inn in Geneva complete with dinner overlooking beautiful Seneca Lake. Good luck everyone!

he decides to sneak something substantial into his own diet, he will not eat till after I go to bed just so I don’t feel bad (or stare at him wishing I could eat what he is eating). He’s amazing.

7. HARRY POWELL

Harry has stood by my side while I went through medical hell. He has watched me almost die, and encourages me to keep going. He is quick with a smile, joke or gift when I need it. He runs our 2 businesses and household without a complaint. He dresses as the Easter bunny to cheer children up, he is just quick to help anyone who needs it and never asks for anything in return. While having his own severe medical problems, he puts my needs and others first. He motivates me to be a better person and I am with him.

8. TOM RIEDL

My husband Tom is respected by everyone. He is always helping someone with their home, yard or fixing things for them. He is a carpenter so he works full time plus many side jobs. He is an excellent father and a loving husband. On our kids birthdays he buys me flowers. He gave up drinking and cigarettes for his family. He is outside playing ball, swimming or teaching our three boys how to fix things.

He surprises me with I’’m thinking of you today’ gifts often. He is the best husband and friend I could ever ask for.

9. TRAVIS SPRINGER

I met the best man 14 years ago and he has been my husband for 10 (this July.) My husband Travis is a compassionate kind and hard-working man of faith. I knew I would marry him on our first date as his conversation focused on his family and his then 5 year old (19 now) son. Our family has now grown and as we have added two little girls. My wonderful husband worked the night shift for five years until our youngest started kindergarten… he did this because I am a teacher and I would have been heartbroken if I had to wake them early to drop them into someone else arms. Now that they have grown a bit he is back on days and volunteers to coach their soccer team as well (just like he did years before for the oldest; football, soccer & baseball). He is a Daddy Super Star, my best friend and a loving husband.

10. DAVID WALKER (NOT PICTURED)

My husband David. In 2012 we lost our son at 23 weeks gestation.

Three short months later, we found we were expecting again, and I had a very difficult pregnancy. In June, we are expecting our fourth and final baby. this pregnancy has been wonderful up until last week when I split my pelvis and am on modified rest during the day. My husband has had to be father, mother, housekeeper, chef, preschool volunteer, and everything in between. Not once, not twice, but three times now.

He has had to watch his wife struggle with intense PPD, and his own grief of losing his son. He has done so with a smile and loving arms.

My husband works full time as do I, but he always makes time to let his little girls paint his toe nails, send me to the spa for a massage, and rubs my feet every single night. I want him to understand how loved he is by his girls at home and he deserves to be recognized for the wonderful man he is.

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015 13

tips ::SHIFT+CONTROL ::RWM SECURITY

keep

Your Home Safe and Secure

BY DAVID JENKINS

From time to time, we at Rochester Personal Defense, LLC are asked to provide tips, strategies, and other information regarding security in and around your home as well as personal security ideas. There are many things you can and should do, but most people will automatically rule out a lot of these details due to inconvenience, budget, or other factors.

Obviously we all cannot afford the security fences, megawatt emergency generators, or full time security guards, but there are a lot of simple, low cost or minimal cost steps we can take to make our house more secure as well as ourselves.

Let’s start with the house and the general, everyday, easy security items: 1. Make sure your doors and windows have locks and that you use them- even while at home.

2. Make sure shrubbery and trees don’t hide doors and windows.

3.Instead of keeping a spare key in a mailbox, under the doormat, or on a nail behind the garage, wrap the key in foil -- or put it in a 35mm film can -- and bury it where you can easily find it if you need it.

4. Install motion sensor lighting at the entrances and access areas.

5. Inform neighbors and the police if you are going to be away.

6. Install a home alarm system. And use it!

7. Consider utilizing a house-sitter while you are away from home for an extended period of time.

8. Never answer the door for somebody that you do not know or who cannot identify themselves adequately.

9. NEVER leave a message on your answering machine telling people you are out of town 10. You can burglar-proof your glass patio doors by setting a pipe or metal bar in the middle bottom track of the door slide. The pipe should be the same length as the track.

11. It’s simple for a thief to break glass panels and then reach in and open a doorknob from the inside. A door with glass panels should be either fortified, replaced, or secured with deadbolts that can only be opened with a key.

What about when you are outside in the yard?

1. If you are working in the backyard, lock the front or side doors that you cannot see. You would be surprised of the number of daylight burglaries that happen when the homeowner is just outside.

2. Look up and around often when working in the yard or relaxing on the hammock. Just being aware of what’s going on around you will help dissuade an intruder.

3. Be on good terms with the neighbors and be aware of their basic routines so that you will know when something is wrong.

If you are still not sure from reading this short article, have a Home Security Evaluation performed. An evaluation will look at many factors and details around your home and will give you some qualified ideas on how to better secure it. Believe it or not, most tips are not that expensive and can be done in just a few short hours.

Dave is the founder of Rochester Personal Defense, LLC, based – you guessed it – right here in Rochester, NY. Dave and his staff of professional instructors provides training for everything from basic safety and security tips to self defense training to firearm safety and usage training. Dave can be reached at 585-406-6758 or mailto:rpdllctraining@ rochester.rr.comrpdllctraining@rochester.rr.com.

14

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

feature ::SPECIAL

shawn dunwoody The Community is His Canvas

“Don’t worry about the how, just do it.”

– Shawn Dunwoody

16

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

feature

:SPECIAL,

BY LAURA DICAPRIO | PHOTOS BY STEPHEN REARDON When most people think about artists, they think about traditional painters, sculptors, and photographers. Although Shawn Dunwoody has dabbled in and mastered many of these traditional art forms, it is his current medium that is getting him noticed in the city of Rochester – the community. Dunwoody views people as his paint and the community as his canvas and he is currently mixing the two to create masterpieces in multiple neighborhoods throughout downtown Rochester. Partnering with a variety of different organizations in the area, Dunwoody is transforming run-down neighborhoods one building at a time and restoring the beauty and spirits to forgotten communities.

Dunwoody has always been involved in art to some degree, making and building things since he was a young child. In his early professional career while he worked on commissioned pieces and managed art galleries, he met and worked with a number of different people who supported him and helped his career along the way. The generosity and mentorship that he received during these early years inspired him to start thinking of different ways to start giving back to the Rochester community. “I think the arts are a catalyst for change,” he states, “if we look at great movements throughout society and culture they all stem from some sort of artistic endeavor.”

HAPPY ROCHESTER

One of the ways Dunwoody touched Rochester was through his viral video “Happy Rochester.” After (another) snowstorm in March 2014, Dunwoody found himself feeling discouraged and depressed while cooped up inside his house waiting for spring to finally arrive. Knowing that others had to be feeling the same way, he set out to lift the spirits of local residents by composing a fun video that would bring the Rochester community together in an entertaining way. He spent 72 hours documenting Happy Rochester, a whimsical video filmed in local neighborhoods and businesses that featured local Rochesterians dancing to Pharrell Williams’ song “Happy” from Despicable Me 2.

Happy Rochester was an instant viral hit, receiving over 5,000 views within the first six hours of posting and over 75,000 views total. “The great thing about it was not even so much the song, but was just how happy Rochesterians were about Rochester.”

After working on Happy Rochester and seeing its success and how it touched the Rochester Community, Dunwoody started to focus more energy on community arts projects. “The community has become my canvas…,” he shares, “the canvas workings I like to do now are with people.”

MARC PROGRAM

Another recent project Dunwoody worked on was the MARC Program, an acronym that stands for Mural Arts of Rochester Crew. Working as the Public Arts Coordinator for the City of Rochester, Dunwoody hired local youth to help beautify and revitalize neighborhoods in Rochester. He viewed the program as doing more than beautifying local neighborhoods because he was also teaching children life skills such as teamwork and connecting with/working within the community.

The majority of the MARC murals are not images, but are what Dunwoody calls “words to live by.” He and his team painted inspirational words and phrases that touch and motivate people. “Images are fantastic, but they don’t last,” he explains, “Words are far more important. Words remain the same and will always be relevant.”

MARC murals can be found all over Rochester, and display such inspiration sayings such as “reach for the stars,” “what is your purpose,” and “remember…you’re beautiful.”

FROM THE GROUND FASHION SHOW

For the past six years Dunwoody has had a growing involvement with fashion in Rochester. As one of the founding creators of Fashion Week Rochester, Shawn stepped down as Chief Creative Director in 2012 and began to spearhead the Greentopia Festival’s From the Ground Fashion Show. Co-producing the show since 2011, Dunwoody works with event and fashion consultant Agathi Georgiou of Agathi & Co. to come up with and produce innovative and captivating themes to entertain

SFF SF

the audience. From a “green” theme with a grass runway to a modern Alice in Wonderland theme that invited the audience to come dressed as their favorite character, Dunwoody is constantly thinking up new and innovative ways to reach and entertain the audience. “We want the people to be part of the whole scenery and set up.”

This year will mark Dunwoody’s fifth year co-producing the show. The show usually takes place in September and the audience never knows what Dunwoody has in store since he is forever looking for ways to take the show in new directions.

OPERATION KARIBU

Extending the reach of the annual fashion show, this year Dunwoody and Georgiou are looking to make a difference globally and are working with Operation Karibu, a local organization that provides newborn supplies to new mothers in Kenya. The goal of the project is to help promote health care during pregnancy in order to help increase doctor’s visits during pregnancy and help support successful, healthy deliveries.

Pregnant Kenyan women are promised onesies and blankets for each of three prenatal visits, for delivery, and for one postnatal visit as incentives to visit health care providers during and after their pregnancies. Since the program began Kenya’s safe delivery rate has significantly increased.

Working with Operation Karibu’s founder Dr. Moka Lantum, Dunwoody has started to work with local designers to create onsies out of donated t-shirts for the newborn babies in Kenya. The t-shirts will be collected at this year’s From the Ground fashion show, giving everyone an opportunity to act locally to impact globally. Dunwoody is constantly looking for ways to help the Rochester community and beyond, “Anyone can do this” he states.

FRUIT BELT PROJECT

Dunwoody’s latest endeavor is with the Fruit Belt Project, a “collaboration between Greentopia and DUNWOODE Consulting (Dunwoody’s visual consulting firm) to create a series of large-scale vibrantly colored community driven public artworks, as a strategy to provide socially engaged art to transform a neighborhood that has been overtaken by blight and disinvestment.” Together with a team of volunteers, Dunwoody intends to transform neglected parts of Rochester into creative wonderlands. “These neighborhoods are considered ghost towns to some,” he states, “and we want people to feel proud about being from the fruit belt.”

The Fruit Belt Project, loving named after the fruit-named streets in the area, will paint two buildings in downtown Rochester; Stop One Meat Market at 352 Jay Street and College Club Beverages at 63 Grape Street.

Painting will start on May 13th, which coincides with Sherwin-Williams’s National Painting Day. Sherwin-Williams is sponsoring the event and will supply all the paint, supplies, and about 25 employees from their retail store. Local businesses and organizations that have expressed interest in volunteering include School #17, the Charles Settlement House, Joe Bean Coffee, and Yelp Rochester.

Goals for the project go beyond beautifying the area with original murals. Dunwoody hopes to give the neighborhoods a unified identity and inspire hope and optimism through the community. Other goals include creating jobs for local residents, bringing beauty to a historic neighborhood, generate positive attention to the neighborhood, improve local business viability, and inspire long term investment and additional resources for the community.

Dunwoody encourages anyone and everyone to help volunteer with this project. “We’re trying to get 100-150 volunteers” he says. Volunteers don’t have to be artists since all sorts of help will be needed. When asked which project has been his favorite to work on, Dunwoody laughs and says it’s impossible to choose just one. “I don’t have one favorite, they’re all my favorite. Every project I work on is like a child. They represent a different point in my life, and it would be impossible to single out a favorite.”

To find out more about Shawn Dunwoody, visit www.shawndunwoody. com. To find out more about the Fruit Belt Project, including volunteer opportunities, e-mail shawndunwoody@yahoo.com.

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015 17

s

Wom

bus

support

man Owned

sinesses

ANNUAL RECITAL

Friday, June 19th Webster Thomas Auditorium Show Begins @ 6:00 pm

Tickets Go On Sale 5/4 I www.dancetrainingcenter.com $8.00 General Admission I $10.00 At the Door

cause ::FOR A GOOD

BY BETH WINSLOW-D’AMICO For Rochester festival goers looking for something a bit different this summer, The Fast & The Furriest® 5K, 10K, Dog Walk and Pet Fest fits the bill. Verona Street Animal Society and Rochester Animal Services will kick off the summer with the 9th annual festival, their biggest fundraiser of the year.

“It’s a great way to give back to the community,” says Diedra Kirk, Director & Development Chair of Verona Street Animal Society. “The homeless animals that get taken into the shelter for various reasons have so much need, and the city budget just doesn’t have the money to do everything. This event allows us to raise that money, but also provides awareness.”

In addition to a 5K, 10K, and 1 mile dog walk, the event offers free rabies vaccinations (9:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.), a microchip clinic for $20 (for both dogs and cats), discounted pet adoptions at Rochester Animal Services ($10 cats and $20 dogs), and a newly-expanded Food Truck Rodeo.

“Registration for runners starts at 7:00 a.m., with the first run kicking off at 8:00 a.m. The event runs until 2:00 p.m., so it spans the breakfast/ brunch/lunch time frame. To do that, we need a pretty good mix of food trucks and food carts,” says Kirk.

There is no training or long-term commitment required to volunteer at the event. You can volunteer to be a walk marshal, or help with parking (which is free!), registration, set-up, or cleanup.

The event averages around 900 registered walkers and runners, and raised over $85,000 last year. This year, they hope to reach $90,000.

The event costs are covered by the sponsors, which means all the money 22

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

raised by participants and online donors goes directly to the animals. The shelter has about 6,000 animals come through its doors every year. It provides housing, cleaning, feeding, veterinary care, and ensures that the animals are stable enough for foster care or adoption.

Says Kirk, “Every animal that comes in the door has to be accepted. We can never say no.

So it’s really important to have that awareness of the need to move those animals through quickly – to get them into foster care or adoptions as quickly as we can.”

You don’t have to walk, run, or have a dog to attend the event. People go to cheer on friends and family, while others attend as a stop on the Rochester festival circuit. A variety of vendors will be there, in addition to live music, a bounce house for the kids, and pet contests. Though it’s similar to other Rochester festivals in many ways, its focus is on the animals and their cause.

While the festival provides essential support for the shelter, the need doesn’t stop there. As Chair of the Development Committee, Kirk knows those needs all too well.

“We need volunteers and we need a lot of them,” she says. “It’s not just a 9 to 5 thing; animals need care all of the time. We certainly need money, we always need volunteers, and a lot of community awareness.”

Part of that awareness means spreading the word. Says Kirk, “We completely understand that not everybody can adopt, but you can share.

You never know, one of your friends or family members could be in the market for a dog or cat that’s up for adoption.”

To learn more about the Verona Street Animal Society, Rochester Animal Services, or The Fast & The Furriest® 5K, 10K, Dog Walk and Pet Fest, visit

man ::LEADING

“It makes me feel great, helping people live their best life, help people maximize their potential, that’s what life is about.”

hero... man

::LEADING,

LM SFF

HOMETOWN

BY MARGARET MADIGAN | PHOTO BY TODD ELLIOTT

At 6’5 with a smile that lights up a room, Roland Williams is one impressive man. You may know Williams from his legendary football career at East High School in Rochester, Syracuse University, St. Louis Rams, and Oakland Raiders, however his life after football has been nothing short of remarkable.

Roland Williams makes you believe that anything is possible because he himself believes anything is possible. And that’s why he flies from Los Angeles to Rochester once a month to pour his heart and soul into helping Rochester’s youth and steer them toward a bright future. Truly a hometown hero.

As a child, Williams experienced a life that unfortunately a lot of Rochester city children live - poverty, abuse, violence and gang activity. As a freshman football player at East High School he was admittedly terrible but by senior year became one of the best players in the history of Rochester. “That story is the epitome of my life. Of believing in yourself. Having unbreakable belief that you can accomplish the amazing, despite your past”, says Williams.

That was just the beginning, he went on to Syracuse University, playing four years of football and earning a BA in Speech Communications. His commitment to excellence led to an eight year career in the NFL and a Super Bowl XXXIV win with the St. Louis Rams. Even though he had extraordinary football skills, it’s his work off the field that is most impressive and defines his greatness.

In November of 2013 Williams visited Rochester to receive an award and spoke in front of group that included the mayor and the RCSD Superintendent. “I got reacquainted with the need here. Rochester is in crises.

Rochester students are in crises. As a proud City School District graduate, as a proud Rochesterian, you know I feel it’s all our obligation to do our part to turn things around.” Williams is speaking about these facts…

1. Rochester has the lowest graduation rate of all the major city school districts in the State. New York State Education Department statistics show that for students who entered high school in 2009, only 43 percent of all Rochester students from this group graduated.

2. Rochester has the lowest high school graduation rates of Black and Latino males in the U.S. (2014 Schott Foundation for Public Education Report) 3. Rochester is #1 in the state per capita in murders. (City-Data.com) 4. Rochester is the second poorest mid-size city in the U.S. (Rochester Area Foundation Report 2014) “In my NFL experience, when a team is struggling you don’t point fingers at one position and say, if that one position was great then we’d be great. No, what happens is everyone tries to make themselves better, everyone does a little bit more to make the team better.” And that’s what he started doing, commuting from his home base in Los Angeles to Rochester to help his hometown in its time of need by creating Champion Academy.

Champion Academy is a dynamic and inspirational 12-month mentoring and empowerment program for Rochester City middle and high school students (boys and girls) that includes a two week “academy” in the summer. Champion Academy is an exciting evolution of the award-winning football and life skills camp Williams conducted during his NFL career.

The champion academy is a year-long program for all students whether they play sports or not. Champion Academy uses football themes to help illustrate life lessons. The program contains innovative components such as a 24/7 online mentoring platform, daily behavior and citizenship standards, celebrity integration, monthly mentoring meetings, strategic partnerships and collaborations, and community service projects, all designed to keep teens committed and motivated. These programs are designed to engage and

motivate our city children to be passionate about making the most of their potential and live their best life! At the end of the 12 months the program concludes with a graduation ceremony attended by mentors, sponsors, and local officials.

Williams has assembled a passionate team and is currently cultivating sponsor partnerships with local corporations and individuals to kick off the 2015 program that starts in July. Williams is receiving tremendous support from the private sector for the Champion Academy including MVP Healthcare, Summit Federal Credit Union, LiDestri Food and Beverage, Ravi Engineering, Kodak, Buckingham Properties and The Bonadio Group. “Roland, my partners and I are inspired by your personal commitment, and as a result of our event, The Bonadio Group and some of our select clients made obligations that will help the Champion Academy effort this year and in the years to come”, says Tom Bonadio in a letter of support to Williams regarding a meeting he held to discuss the Champion Academy with potential sponsors.

Using his many years of experience as a motivational speaker and corporate consultant for high performance team building, Williams aims to show the kids that they can be whatever they want to be and maximize their potential. “It makes me feel great, helping people live their best life, help people maximize their potential, that’s what life is about. Who wants to live a mediocre living, who wants to go 8-8, with no playoff appearances?” he states using his usual football analogies like 8-8, meaning a teams win-loss record.

That’s what makes Williams so entertaining to listen to, and the analogies make perfect sense.

Over the past 8 years, Williams’ sports knowledge and larger than life personality and charisma have earned him sports analyst gigs on NBC, CBS, and ESPN. He has a broad spectrum of intellectual pursuits and has accomplished many other endeavors besides the motivational speaking, team building, and sportscaster roles. He has written three books, one being a collection of poetry, has ghostwritten books for others, hosts events and radio programs, and loves Bikram Yoga and bike riding. A true Renaissance man.

But his greatest passion besides helping our Rochester youth, is being a proud single father to three sons ages 11, 9, and 4.

Last summer Williams ran a soft-pilot of the academy, funding the program on his own after public funds were delayed. “After spending months and months with all the students and hearing their pain, and hearing their tears, hearing their honest stories, I couldn’t not do anything last year”, Williams states. He believes the summer is the most volatile 2-3 months during the year for middle and high school students in our community. School is out, many children have nothing to do and no supervision. Even if they are in summer school, that concludes by noon. He believes that summer is the most critical time to reach these children, that is why he is launching this year-long program in July. The students must fill out an application and if accepted, must adhere strictly to the program based on three principles.

Williams says the Champion Academy Mentoring and Empowerment initiative is based on three key principles - love, accountability, and consistency.

He states, “In order for a seed to grow, it’s critical that we develop and fertilize the soil. Many of our youth have never experienced positive mentorship for love in an authentic way from a caring adult. Love, consistency, and accountability come first. And change will follow. “ To find out more information on Roland Williams visit www.Rolandwilliams. com. For more information on the Champion Academy in Rochester and how you can sponsor, donate, volunteer, or become a mentor, visit www.

ChampionAcademyRochester.org .

arts ::KING OF

26

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

arts

::KING OF,

life

expressing through

BY LISA MARIA RICKMAN | PHOTO BY VE JAY BROYLD

“Creating is a form of play.” Cats made of letters spelling out words that describe what they’re doing...that’s pretty playful, and one of the many neat things you can find with Frank Argento’s name attached, a longtime Rochester artist who works in pen, pencil, pastel and brush, though according to him his “favorite too is the pencil.”

Argento was born and raised in Rochester and attended the Rochester Institute of Technology in the 60s where he earned his Bachelor and Master degrees in fine art. He wound up getting a teaching position with the school upon graduation and is celebrating his 50th year with RIT with his retirement in June.

“I’ve travelled a bit over the years during the summers and school breaks,” Argento said. “But you know, Rochester is my hometown.

My family is here and I intend to stay here as my home base, though I may be setting up an office in Florida as well.” says he creates art for investing, decorating, and gifting. His themes include people, pop culture, animals and fantasy. And his mastery of pen, pencil, pastel and brush are executed with the qualities that make his art visually distinctive. “I like to express my feelings about life imaginatively, while combining realism with fantasy.” Argento’s clients include art collectors, interior decorators and families who give art inspired gifts.” Where did neat things like Catype come from? Actually, It was an assignment he gave his students.

“Well I teach typography and one of the assignments was for students to come up with ways to apply typography to calendars,” Argento said. “So I did the assignment myself. We recently acquired

art

a Himalayan Persian cat whose name is Buster. In observing buster I came up with a list of behaviors and for each behavior I illustrated the cat’s mimicking it and used the letters in that word to illustrate the behavior.” From that initial idea, Argento made his Catype calendar and later made a book which is now in the Wallace Memorial Library card catalog. “I also develop postcards and notecards as merchandise generated from the 12 Catype images.”

In the past Argento headed one of Rochester’s better known ad agencies, Archer Communications, for ten years as President and Creative Director. During his time with Archer he won more than half a dozen American Graphic Design and Advertising awards in recognition for his work with the company. Argento left friend Jeff Lennox to run the company in 2007 when he decided to shift focus to his personal art business.

Argento is keeping future plans close to the vest in preparation for retirement, but is definitely keeping busy. “Currently I’m working on some floral themes right now, and exploring a lot of figurative work,” Argento said.

“I’m also working on another book in addition to Catype and Alphabet Zoo, another book that I’ve published. I’m working on this new one with my daughter Kristine.” Argento’s daughter, Kristine Bruneau, also inherited his creative drive and is a local writer and mom blogger.

Her monthly feature “Woman to Watch” can be found at the Democrat and Chronicle.

Argento’s next exhibition will be a “major event in June but I don’t want to pre-empt it,” he said. “I donated artwork to RIT and they’re working on a celebration in June and a display that they will announce.”

Visit his website frankargentoart.com for updates on this special event, and to learn more about him and acquiring his work and more.

KA SFF

story ::COVER

doug emblidge

BY MARGARET MADIGAN | PHOTOS BY STEPHEN REARDON

Doug Emblidge knew what he wanted to do for a living by the age of 12 and for over thirty years he has been living his boyhood dream of working in the Channel 13 news department, now known as 13WHAM.

Emblidge grew up in Honeoye Falls, NY and attended RushHenrietta School District Schools, graduating from RushHenrietta High School. His father (as well as his grandfather before him) owned a pharmacy for decades in Honeoye Falls.

His father’s dedication to his business is what inspired Emblidge’s work ethic. “My father worked seven days a week, back then he was the only pharmacist and well you couldn’t have a pharmacy open without the pharmacist”, he says.

However, being a pharmacist would not be his destiny as some might think. He enjoyed listening to the radio and watching TV as a child and one day his brother garnered a coveted spot to compete on Bowling for Dollars. Emblidge’s father went to

30

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

Charlotte High School with Dick Burt, a legendary broadcaster at Channel 13, then WOKR. So he tagged along to watch his brother compete and went looking for Dick Burt, knowing his father was a friend and asked him for a tour of the station.

Emblidge doesn’t recall if the tour happened that night or at a later date but he does remember it being a big thrill. “I kind of decided then and there that not only did I want to do that (be on TV) I wanted to do it here (WHAM). Which is setting your sites a little narrow, but I had a fascination at an early age”, he says of his decision to pursue broadcasting.

He then wrote letters to every news anchor and DJ in town, even several across America, asking questions and requesting a tour of their station. At home he still has responses he received from Dick Burt and Don Alhart. Eventually he would become Don Alhart’s co-worker for more than 30 years. “Talk about a work ethic, that guy has never missed a day of work in almost 50 years!

I’m nothing… that’s a work ethic”, he says of Alhart.

Emblidge’s tenacity to get in the broadcasting business led him to his first job. He was at the Monroe County Fair and spotted

e

::COVER

story

MORE THAN JUST A “NEWS GUY” Jack Murphy, the Program Director of FM 99 and WHAM radio manning a booth. “I told him I was working for my high school radio station and I wanted to work for him”, recalling his exchange with Murphy. He was just a couple months shy of 16 years old, Murphy told him to call him when he was 16 (legal hiring age). The week before Emblidge turned 16, he called Murphy who said he may have an opening and to come on down. He was hired. His professional career began at FM 99.

It was 1977.

Nobody’s perfect. We have all made mistakes, even Doug Emblidge. “He could have fired me on two occasions for oversleeping to sign the station on. I was a teenager”, he recalls of Murphy. Back then, once a month WHAM would sign off at midnight on Saturday night for transmitter maintenance and the board operator who was working the next morning had to sign the station back on. Which was a big responsibility. The person also had to flip the switch to play the paid religious programming.

Emblidge overslept two months in a row. Murphy lightheartedly joked for years after that that he could have ended his career right then. “Thank God for second chances”, Emblidge said.

Not satisfied with just one radio gig, he got an additional job at a station in Dansville. A co-worker in Dansville said he knew of an opening in Syracuse station at station WHEN. Emblidge went after and got that job which led him to his decision to attend the Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse University, where he would eventually earn a BS in Telecommunications Management. While in college at Syracuse, as well as working at WHEN he would take a Greyhound Bus to Rochester every weekend to work at FM 99 and then by his senior year, work as a part-time reporter at WROC, Channel 8.

“I learned as much doing that as I did in school”, he says of his hands-on experience working in broadcasting part-time.

After graduating from Syracuse, Emblidge continued to work as a producer of the 6:00 pm and 11:00 pm newscasts at WROC for a few more months. Then in September of 1983 he achieved his dream of being hired at Channel 13. He was hired to anchor News Scope, a 7:00pm local evening magazine type show. That program lasted less than a year but he was also a night-side reporter in the news room and continued that when the show ended. Then he became the weekend anchor from 1984-87.

CS

story ::COVER 32

When we tried to crown him the “Hardest Working Man in Show Biz” and the “James Brown of Local News” he balked and said, “No that belongs to Alhart”.

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

::COVER

From 1987-89 he was a sports reporter and anchor. Then in 1989 Channel 13 created their 5:00 pm newscast, Emblidge was named anchor and has remained there ever since. Ginny Ryan joined the 5:00 pm newscast in 1990 and they remain on-air partners to this day.

In 2000 Emblidge was asked to “Just give us two or three years doing the morning show”, and has remained a fixture since then doing a split shift and anchoring the morning news from 6:00am-8:00am and then the 5:00pm news. He also records a brief news segment at 5:45am which airs on the Brother Wease show on Radio 95.1 in the 6:00 am hour. He also does a highly entertaining live segment with Wease at 8:10 am with a recorded replay in the 11:00 am hour. Mind you, Emblidge lives in Bristol. So he gets up every morning at 3:45 am and drives into Rochester to the station, does all his morning gigs, then at 8:30am drives to Canandaigua to participate in a fitness boot camp class, then goes home to Bristol, then back to Rochester by 2:30 pm, done by 6:00 pm and home to Bristol if he doesn’t have any events or meetings in town. When we tried to crown him the “Hardest Working Man in Show Biz” and the “James Brown of Local News” he balked and said, “No that belongs to Alhart”.

When asked if there was ever a story that almost knocked his professionalism off balance, he of course named 9/11. He recalled a feeling of uncertainty, of what was actually happening. What does this mean? All three of his children were in elementary school at the time, so he was concerned about their safety and their fears. Always thinking of others, he expressed his concern for the professions that really make an effort to not take their work home like first responders, doctors, nurses, etc. However, it wasn’t the actual reporting of the event that affected him, he said there was an event on Ridge Road and he was doing a live broadcast.

The event was to collect mattresses and other items for displaced survivors and rescue workers, etc., which in the grand scale didn’t seem all that helpful but he was struck by the helpless feeling he and everyone else had. “I remember that striking me and perhaps having an impact on my performance on the air that day”, he said.

In addition to being a news anchor, Emblidge donates his time as Master of Ceremonies for many charity events in the area. He sometimes does up to 20-25 events a year. Some of the events he has most consistently hosted have been the Emerald Ball for Pluta Cancer Center, as he is a member of the Board at Pluta, and the Daystar Derby for the Daystar Program for medically fragile children.

Emblidge is a huge hockey fan and is a season ticket holder for the Buffalo Sabres. He loves to play golf, especially his weekly game with his father who recently turned 88. Another favorite hobby is to play the guitar. His wife of 30 years, Coleen bought him a guitar eleven years ago. He has since replaced the guitar with a better one given to him by musician Bat McGrath. “That is not to say I am a guitar player. That is to say, I have a guitar and I play it”, he says of his playing ability. Emblidge is a huge music fan and enjoys a vast array of genres.

“It sounds hackneyed, cliché’ and Pollyanna but there is a family atmosphere here at the station. Always has been. It’s not a perfect

story

CS

family but there is a team spirit. I enjoy being part of it”, he says of his favorite part of working at 13 WHAM. He credits the whole team with the station’s success, stating “We have great producers and a great team, it takes everyone.”

He notes that he believes what attracted him to the business is that he has a short attention span. There’s always another newscast, even if one goes bad. There is always a lot of continuous learning.

One has to be open to a lot of new things and know a little bit about a lot of things. He likens it to going to adult continuing education. He credits still reading the newspaper every day for a lot of his continual learning. “I call it storytelling, that’s always been my favorite part of the craft. Turning something that might even be mundane or complex into a story that can have some value to the viewer and be interesting and even mildly entertaining, if that’s possible”, says Emblidge.

With no plans to retire in the next decade, or possibly ever, he does have an idea of what he’d like to do if he ever did. “My retirement career would be working in the Finger Lakes wine industry. I don’t want to own a winery, that’s too much work. I want to pour wine for people to taste. That’s one thing I think I would enjoy doing. He doesn’t think he will ever retire completely because he has heard too many stories of people who did it and didn’t enjoy giving it all up. He believes he would enjoy keeping hand in broadcasting and possibly writing... something. Not sure what, but he does enjoy writing. But again stresses that it won’t be soon, as Don Alhart started in 1966 and is still going strong.

“He’s my hero”, he says.

Rest assured whatever he does do if he ever retires it will be with his beloved wife Coleen. He and Coleen first met at a Thanksgiving gathering of mutual friends. Weeks later he saw her while crossing the street downtown and said, “Don’t I know you?” to which she answered “I don’t think so” and kept walking. He called their mutual friend to ask them to tell Coleen that he met her at the Thanksgiving gathering and that he wasn’t some nut.

Within three months of that day they were engaged and within a year were married. They have three children ages 28, 26, and 24. Their daughter Erin is married and lives in Livonia, daughter Molly is a labor delivery nurse at FF Thompson Hospital, and son Jeffrey is in media sales at Entercom. Doug and Coleen hope to become grandparents in the near future as their daughter Erin and her husband are looking to adopt.

Emblidge is very sensitive that he works with a great group of people, always giving credit to the whole team when asked about his accomplishments, “It is a daily team effort and it doesn’t work if that’s not the case. This business attracts an interesting, diverse group of people and that keeps the workplace very interesting.”

He says, “You better love what you do and not get to the end and say God I wish I hadn’t spent 40 years doing that!” Adding, “As Dick Burt once said to me, ‘There’s not much call for what we do anymore but if it’s what you want to do, there’s really no talking you out of it.’” Luckily no one dare tried to talk Doug Emblidge out of broadcasting and now he’s spent a career doing what he loves for over 30 years.

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

33

words ::IN HIS OWN

surviving prostate cancer

“Then the male ego kicked in… At age 49, I certainly didn’t and don’t feel old, or even middle aged (most days).”

36

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

words

::IN HIS OWN

BY TONY MURRAY | PHOTO BY TIFFANY BOULA It’s something no one wants to ever hear from their doctor, for themselves or someone that they care about: “I think we should do more tests to make sure this isn’t serious….”. Me, I’m one of the lucky ones, I caught it relatively early thanks to my primary care physician, Brian Steele D.O. who requested a PSA test in addition to regular lab work for my regularly scheduled physical at age 48, even though I had no symptoms. (Medical guidelines generally suggest starting testing at age 50). He put me on a three week course of Cipro for what we initially thought was prostatitis, a fairly common issue for men as they mature (I prefer not to say “getting older”.) I got another blood test for my PSA and it was even a little higher than before. At that point, he thought it would be advisable to see a urologist.

Dr. Steele then referred me to a urologist affiliated with the University of Rochester. A few weeks later I saw Dr. Hani Rashid, after a thorough exam, he recommended another three week course of antibiotics, still thinking I had a case of prostatitis. About two months later and after another PSA test, he said “I think we should do a biopsy to make sure there isn’t anything more serious going on.” We scheduled the biopsy out a few weeks later. I blocked my schedule for the day because he said I might be a little uncomfortable afterword. He was reassuring and professional, telling me “I don’t think we will find anything, but we should make sure.”

Early the next week after the biopsy, Dr. Rashid called me and shared the news. I’m not sure what the exact words were. The gist of it was 6 of the 12 cores they took from my prostate were positive for cancer, it was caught early, I had a Gleason Level of six, and we needed to meet to discuss treatment options. To say it was a bit surreal is an understatement. My mother had passed from cancer almost exactly five years before and one of my sisters had successfully battled cancer prior to that. No one wants to hear those words. I had worked in pharmaceutical sales for 13 years, before leaving that industry to change professions and build a successful practice as a financial adviser locally. I knew enough about medicine and prostate cancer to be dangerous. Prostate cancer = common in men, treatable, if men live long enough, almost everyone would have some degree of prostate cancer on autopsy. I scheduled an appointment to meet with Dr. Rashid to review the findings and my treatment options, and then I went into research mode.

I reviewed the data, the prevalence of prostate cancer, mortality, treatment options and side effects……..Then the male ego kicked in… At age 49, I certainly didn’t and don’t feel old, or even middle aged (most days). That’s when it started getting scary and confusing.

Cure or remission rates are generally pretty high, especially when caught early. The residual stuff was/is scary….potential impotence, incontinence and others. Now I don’t have children, my former girlfriend’s three kids were as close as I came, but I hadn’t completely given up on the idea. All of the sudden that option or door was being closed on me and that was frightening and sad. No man likes the idea of his virility or ability to function properly in the bedroom or have his ability to have children jeopardized.

I went to the appointment with Dr. Rashid with lots of questions, but was leaning toward a treatment. (I thought I would have radioactive seeding: A treatment where small radioactive seeds are strategically implanted into the prostate to kill the cancerous cells. My ego liked the thought, less invasive, good data etc.) I brought my close friend to the appointment. I strongly suggest anyone going through something like this bring an advocate to listen, help ask questions and remember

IW

the discussion, because it is easy to focus on things or forget things, or just be numb.

Dr. Rashid was wonderful and reviewed the options and data and repeated things when I was confused or had questions. It made me rethink my consideration of treatment. Because I am young and have potential for a long life, he said “I would have the surgery if I were in your place.” He told me it was my decision, but he made the recommendation: Robotic Laparoscopic Radical Prostatectomy. So what did I do then? More research and started looking at surgery and alternative, emerging treatments. Why? I didn’t want them cutting down by my man parts.

I called a friend who is a local Oncologist, Dr. Alex Solky MD and saw him for a formal review of my data. He reconfirmed that based on my staging and data that surgery was really the right call. He recommended that if I was still in need of more information that I would find value in a second opinion seeing another urologist, so I was referred to Dr. Louis Eichel from Rochester General Hospital. In the meantime I met with a friend 10 or 15 years older than me who had gone through the surgery five or so years ago. He both reassured and frightened me. When I saw Dr. Eichel, he reviewed my data and proceeded to put me at ease. He reassured me that Dr. Rashid was an excellent surgeon and put things in a slightly different context.

Overall he agreed with Dr. Rashid and recommended surgery as the best choice for my personal situation.

I scheduled my prostate surgery for August 18th two Mondays before Labor Day at Highland Hospital with Dr. Rashid. I made up my mind, decided to live with it for better or worse and move on. My surgery went well; the staff at Highland Hospital was great. I’d especially like to thank the staff on West 6 and my PA, Jessica Mahoney who helped me laugh during a challenging time. I was supposed to be out of the hospital in one or two days. I was released on Wednesday afternoon, but was readmitted the next day with a fever and what turned out to be C. Difficile, a common bacterial infection that is unpleasant and highly contagious. After a few more days, I was released and got home to rehab.

Eight months later and I look back. I’m fortunate, two PSA blood tests show good data at this time that the surgery was successful.

Fortunately, everything else is doing well also. The next test is in about six months.

In retrospect, I wouldn’t choose to spend my summer vacation having a prostatectomy, but if it’s the worst thing that happens to me in life, I’m pretty lucky. This is a very common cancer for men that is very treatable if caught early and taken seriously. Mine was caught early because I believe in the importance of regular physicals, no matter your age. And you should too. I chose my surgical treatment because when it came down to it, I wanted to know they had taken it out and that someone in a lab was going to analyze it and help have greater clarity in what I had and how the treatment had worked. Men, don’t be afraid to see your doctor and ask questions whether it be about symptoms, family history or other concerns. I hear friends that are hesitant to see a doctor or gain clarity on many things and to them I say: It’s your health, you own it! Make sure you are doing the things to stay healthy or get healthier.

If you have questions for Tony feel free to contact him at tmurray@ centrafinancialgroup.com. Also feel free to connect to him on LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/tonymurray1.

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

37

No Other Impressions, Inc. | Build | Provide | Produce

Marketing Solutions for the 21st Century | a Certified Woman-Owned Business | nootherimpressions.com

Need a Quote? We are ready to guide you through every printing challenge.

Call No Other Impressions today at 585.436.8500 • • • • • • • • • • •

Print on Demand Wide Format Digital Printing up to 63” WIde Variable Data Marketing Programs Direct Mail Programs Yearbooks Saddle-stitched Booklets and Catalogs Multi-color Literature and Bound Manuals and Documents Complex Die Cut Folders Newsletters Tipping Fulfillment and Distribution/kitting

NOi has the ability to print on the following substrates including a variety of paper, plastics, static cling, magnets and more.

Locally owned and operated, NOI utilizes state-of-the-art printing technology to enhance every project.

WANT TO LOSE A DRESS SIZE THE EASY WAY? Try Non-surgical LIPO-LIGHTTM treatment TODAY

ZERO surgery. ZERO pain. ZERO downtime lSlim. Shape. Tone. “Stubborn areas” lFat loss in as little as 20 minute sessions. lFDA Cleared l100% Non-invasive alternative to Liposuction.

Try it for FREE. We offer a FREE CONSULTATION. Our consultations are offered at NO FEE and NO OBLIGATION. If it is determined you are a candidate who may benefit from the LIPO-LIGHTTM Treatment, then you will receive a fully comprehensive examination at the special rate of $29 (a $99 value). Additionaly you will receive ONE FREE LIPO-LIGHTTM TREATMENT at the time of your initial examination to see if you respond well to this revolutionary non-surgical fat reduction technology.

Lose 3 to 9 Inches in 3 Weeks!

3 miles south of Eastview Mall

Victor, NY 14450 I (585) 398-1201 I www.nyweightloss.com

T R A N S F O R M WAT E R I N T O W E L L N E S S .

TRANSFORM YOURSELF. ( with the push of a button )

Premixed vitamins deteriorate in water, causing most vitamin drinks to lose strength over time. Karma’s vitamins and nutrients (up to six times more than other brands) are stored in the cap until you release them—assuring maximum potency and freshness with the push of a button.

F I V E N AT U R A L VA R I E T I E S

•

1 1 0 % O F 7 E S S E N T I A L V I TA M I N S

•

2 0 C A LO R I E S

23352_TrnsWtr_85x11_Ad_F.indd 1

•

D R I N K KA R M A .CO M

12/3/13 9:06 AM

KARM23352_TrnsWtr_Ad_F, 8.5”w x 11”h, 4C

adrien jules

::SHIFT+CONTROL ::LOCAL BUSINESS

matters

adrien jules

::LOCAL BUSINESS MATTERS

LB

best worn

The

BY KATIE BARRY | PHOTO BY BRANDON VICK Ever heard of “the best worn secret in America”?

Adrian Jules Ltd. has been designing and manufacturing custom men’s clothing, including suits, sport coats, trousers, dress shirts, topcoats and tuxedos, since 1964. And after 51 years in business, they are “stubbornly clinging” to their tradition of providing the finest in style, quality, value and service.

The long-standing Rochester company was started

by Adriano Roberti and his partner, Guilo Volantare. Not long after they started in business, , six months in fact, Guilo stepped away, but the combination of the partners’ names stuck— Adrian Jules.

Adriano’s skills as a master tailor and designer from Brescia, Italy, are carried on in his tradition of expertise, custom design and tailoring through the capable hands of his two sons, Arnold and Peter Roberti. Arnold, who began working with his father in the mid 1970s, heads up the wholesale portion of the business, with his daughter, Alexa, and nephew, Matthew, working at his side. Peter runs the retail portion of the business and his son, Peter A. works with him as well.

It’s a family affair, but that family spans beyond the Roberti name.

“When you buy a suit from Adrian Jules, you’re helping to feed nearly 100 people and their families right here in Rochester,” Peter boasts.

Those nearly 100 people he speaks of are Adrian Jules employees, and the company is committed to staying local and supporting local people.

“We are focused on our community and dedicated to giving back.”

The Robertis are proud Rochesterians and especially proud of the

Secret

products they put out. Every Adrian Jules garment is made in America, produced right here in Rochester with the same high quality fabrics you will find anywhere in the world.

“We’re [proud] to still be in business, and quality has been the key,” said Peter. “What’s unique about us is when someone comes in or we go see a client, we ask a bunch of questions in an effort to find out what they want the clothing to do for them. Its not always the most expensive suit that’s the best fit for everybody—we want to give our clients something they need and that will work for them.”

Of course custom apparel isn’t exactly what most consider affordable, but you get what you pay for. “We believe if you’re going to get [a one-of-a-kind, quality] piece, you’ll need to make sure the workmanship is top of the line.”

An Adrian Jules fully canvassed garment starts at about $2,000 and their products run the gamut from a simple, single piece to extremely rare, extravagant apparel. But Peter Roberti insists that, regardless of your personal taste, style, or budget, men’s clothing has taken a backseat for far too long.

“Women are usually dressed to the nines, but most men dress too casually too much of the time,” says Peter. “Put a pocket square in your garment, create a little interest in what you’re wearing, add a little flare.”

At Adrian Jules, their goal is to make recommendations and help their clients look and feel their best…in a well-fitted, custom garment, of course.

Adrian Jules Ltd. retail showroom is located at 2930 Monroe Avenue and the Corporate Office/Wholesale Factory is located at 1392 Ridge Road East.

Interested in a custom-made garment for your favorite guy? Check them out!

Visit http://www.adrianjules.com/ for more information. You can even visit the factory and see your garment in production.

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

41

it! ::SNAP OUT OF

We have the mindset of being equal. Well, that we are supposed to be, even though some areas of life haven’t caught up to that.

Madge’s

BY MARGARET MADIGAN

This being our men’s issue, I’ve decided to write about… men. Hey, can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em… am I right, ladies? Let’s face it, men are important. Without them the human race would cease to propagate.

I also wanted to write about men because I was once called a “man hater” by a male blogger. I’ve blocked him on several social media sites after years of him popping up everywhere I was on the internet and calling me a “man hater”. All because about eight years ago, he wrote a blog about how much all the women of Rochester suck and I defended us (the women of Rochester) in a comment. I simply said we are awesome women, and suggested that perhaps he was the problem. This prompted his years long grudge and stalking.

I definitely do not hate men. I do not blame all men every time I have a disappointing experience with one. That would just be stupid.

I have a son, whom I love more than life itself. I’m even friendly/ civil with my ex-husband whom I have plenty of reasons not to be.

Unfortunately my Dad passed away two years ago, but I did (and still do) love him like crazy.

It’s very common to see odes to women, like we don’t get enough props so somebody has to write a Hallmark card about us to remember the good that we do instead of just judging us by our weight or age or appearance. Men have been running the world for centuries, so they really don’t need any more fuel for their fire. But so no one thinks I’m a man hater, I am going to give them their just adulation.

Often times women will speak of men in feminist terms. Yes, those of us in the Baby Boom and younger age group (ages 65 to newborn) have been raised in a world where women can and are expected to “do it all”. We have the mindset of being equal. Well, that we are supposed to be, even though some areas of life haven’t caught up to that. We are no longer taught that our life goal is to find a good man to take care of us. We no longer feel the only point in going to college is to get an MRS degree, but we can actually get an education and make something of ourselves. Some of us have been taught that men are a nice complement to our lives, others who have been raised by an angrier pack of feminists think you don’t need one at all.

At the moment for me, a man is not a necessity in traditional terms.

I own my own house, I have a job, I have insurance, I am handling raising my children with aplomb. However… men are nice. I am heterosexual after all and enjoy the company of men because I am attracted to them. Certain needs are just in your DNA and hard to avoid. Here are reasons why I like men…

Hugs from friends are nice but there’s nothing like having a nice smelling man’s arms wrapped around you. (Yea, bad smelling kind of ruins it, although sometimes the slight musky smell of sweat equity

it!

:SNAP OUT OF,

ODE TO MEN is a little intoxicating) As strong as I proclaim I am, I confess I enjoy the arms of a man that make me feel safe and secure, if even for a moment. Just like I enjoyed the security of the arms of my Mom and Dad when they were alive.

As hard as we try, men can still bring a certain swagger that we can’t.

Sorry, no hoodlum will quiver if I try to stop him from mistreating someone else, but if a confident male stands up to him, they have better chances. Unless of course hoodlum has a shiv and confident guy doesn’t. And I’m not gonna’ lie, sometimes I wish I had a guy with a bat to send outside to investigate a strange noise instead of me just randomly yelling out the window, “You better get out of here before I call the police!”

Try as I might, I can’t lift that 100lb bag of whatever. (I can still lift a 50lb bag, see that’s the feminist in me) Oh I’m sure I could find a female weightlifter to do it but I could find a healthy male to do it a lot faster. I could totally swing a dead cat and find a dude that could lift it. It might take me a string of dead cats tied together to make a 50 mile radius to find a woman that could do it.

And the obvious… we need men to procreate. Even if you don’t physically insert Part A into Part B, you still need their necessary ingredients to make a new human being. Having three children of my own, I understand this. Even if for recreational purposes, unless you’re a lesbian, most women enjoy the process even without the new human outcome. Ahem. Am I being vague enough? Heterosexual women have a need for men either to procreate or to satisfy desires.

Lesbian women don’t need men to fulfill desires but they still need them if they would like a child, even if to just make an anonymous donation at a reputable facility. However having a nice male role model somehow, somewhere in a child’s life (could be friend, teacher, uncle) is always beneficial. If only to have the viewpoint of both genders.

Men are funny, strong, smart, beautiful, caring, loving, and on average make more money than women. I say this to get a laugh but unfortunately it’s true. And as I said “on average”. Don’t get your panties in a bunch wealthy working ladies. However chances are, if your company (unless you own it) hired a man to do your same job, he’d make more money. Can’t explain why that still happens in this day and age but it does. But back to the nice men… We love you and we still need you. You are not obsolete, we still want you around. As many jokes as we make, we still adore you. Some of my best friends are men! (You know that old cliché’) But it’s true, I enjoy the company of men, I love them and the world would be a sad (and much less populated) place without them. Show some love, hug a man today.

Margaret “Madge” Madigan in the Associate Editor of Rochester Woman Magazine, and author of the best selling book, “When Life Gives You Lemons…At Least You Won’t Get Scurvy!”

SI SF SIF

Inspire

ROCHESTER WOMEN

DEAN “DINO” KAY Radio Personality, Fickle 93.3

BY REBECCA L. FERGUSON | PHOTO BY TIFFANY BOULA

A smooth voice, dimples you could get lost in and a heart full of kindness. It was just so much fun to sit down and talk with popular local radio personality, Dean Kay “Dino” of Rochester’s Fickle 93.3.

Kay, who grew up right down the road in Canandaigua, has been active on the radio scene for nearly 30 years and all of it has been in Rochester, he says, “I have made great friends here and have worked with some of the most amazing people; Pete Kennedy and Scott Spezzano were in my freshman class at college and we have been friends ever since.”

Wielding an impressive resume within radio, Kay has worked at a number of stations over the years including WCMF, WPXY, Rock It 95, The Nerve and The Zone. Some of these stations are still going strong today, others have been replaced by new formats and call letters.

“There have been a lot of changes to keep up with and over the years radio has weathered some uncertain storms. Sales and marketing changed, contracts change but you just keep going with it and have fun,” Kay goes on to explain, “Fickle has been a blast. I have a lot of independence and have formed incredible contacts with clients, I get to be involved with amazing charities all while doing what I love. Who wouldn’t want that?”

Working with local charity groups, Kay has had the honor to host and MC events for Autism Awareness, Stepping Stones, ROC City Values and Mercy Flight Central. He has also been highly involved with Lollypop Farm and Barktober Fest, ALS walks/fundraisers, as well as a committee member with National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.

Participating in countless golf tournaments, bike rides and even repelling down the side of a building (more than once), Kay counts his blessings and is more than happy to be involved in bettering our community.

As a strong advocate for animals, Kay went on to share how his family has fostered many dogs over the years and even has a long standing joke with Brother Wease about a dog sitting gig, that well, is kind of permanent.

It became evident rather quickly that Kay has a strong commitment to the Rochester community and uses his talents to give a voice to the growing needs for so many organizations. On a very personal note, Kay spoke about his increasing involvement with the ALS organizations after losing his mother-in-law to the disease, “I got to see what happens first hand. It was really hard to watch a disease take more and more away from someone you love and while there continues to be progress, to date there is still no cure.”

Between working on-air and his involvement with charities, this popular radio personality is pumped about summer in the ROC. In just a few weeks, Kay looks forward to being Master of (continued on page 48)

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

45

inspire

“For me it was never a job, I was fortunate enough to do something I love and get paid for it.”

:RW

GATES ORLANDO

Professional Scout for The New Jersey Devils

BY ALYSSA JACKSON | PHOTO BY SANDRA SHAFFER PHOTOGRAPHY

Twenty-one people die every day while waiting for an organ transplant, according to Donate Life America. As of Jan. 2015, approximately 124,000 people in the U.S. were waiting on a transplant list. Former professional hockey center Gates Orlando was not one of these people thanks to a generous organ donor.

Gates Orlando started his hockey career when he was about nine years old, an age he said is a little old for a Canadian boy. He went to Providence College and was drafted by the Buffalo Sabres in his first season there. He described playing for the beloved Buffalo team as the pinnacle of his career.

From there he went on to play in Italy for HC Merano, where he achieved three league titles and won MVP and All-Star status several times. Overall he represented HC Merano in nine World Championships and two Olympic tournaments.

“I had overcome a lot of odds because I was the smallest player, I had to prove a lot of people wrong to get to that level,” Orlando said. “For me it was never a job, I was fortunate enough to do something I love and get paid for it.”

It was during his time in Italy, in around 1994, when he first learned that something may be wrong with his heart. While getting a physical to play in the Olympics, specialists noticed that his heart was large.

Unsure whether or not it was an athletic heart, which tend to be larger, or another issue, the specialists advised him to keep an eye on it but did not treat it. He didn’t know it at the time, but Orlando was displaying early signs of heart disease.

A few years later at 36 years old, Orlando decided to end his professional hockey career. He wasn’t enjoying himself as much any longer and he could see his skills diminishing.

“I wanted to be perceived as a player that always worked his tail off, and I was going out on top with my name intact and integrity intact,” said Orlando. “I didn’t want to take the money if I didn’t produce what I wanted to.”

He went on to coach hockey for a time but currently works as a scout for the New Jersey Devils. “I miss the competitiveness and actually being on the ice,” said Orlando of retirement. “I sleep a lot easier because I don’t take the game home with me.”

He would not think about his heart again until 2010 when he began displaying signs of heart failure and contracted sarcoidosis. This caused masses of inflamed tissues to form in all of his organs, especially affecting his heart.

The sarcoidosis caused his defibrillator to become infected and while the doctors were removing it, Orlando coded on the table for seven minutes. What came next was a leap of faith; the University of Rochester Medical Center had an artificial heart to keep the hockey player alive, but they had never done the operation before.

46

(continued on page 48) MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

inspire

::RW

“I’ve always loved working with people, the people in the area have been so great to us, so supportive.”

DAVID MAMMANO

Owner, Next Step Education Group

BY CYNTHIA KOLKO | PHOTO BY VE JAY BROYLD, JR

For high school students and their families, figuring out what to do and where to go after graduating is nothing to be done in a flippant manner. Rochester native David Mammano built the Next Step Education Group to assist students with the planning and skills needed to achieve what they want to achieve after high school. The company also helps those at any stage in their lives to reach their future career goals.

FROM COMEDIAN TO COMPEER Mammano, a 1987 Pittsford-Sutherland graduate, attended the University of Buffalo, where he studied communications and sold ads for the college newspaper. After graduating in 1991 and working in radio sales, Mammano, the class clown, relocated to Chicago to explore a career as a stand-up comedian.

Though the comedy gig was fun, Mammano returned to Rochester to pursue work that offered better odds for long-term success. At the time, this meant a return to radio sales. But before long, Mammano had an itch to start his own business. Mammano wasn’t sure what such a venture would encompass, but he had some criteria.

“I wanted to create something from scratch, and I wanted to be in control,” says Mammano.

Another requirement for Mammano was that the business accomplish something meaningful to him. Mammano took a hard look at how he spent his free time: as a Camp Good Days and Special Times counselor, a big brother at Compeer, and volunteering with kids at Junior Achievement. A pattern began to emerge, and the answer was obvious.

“All my hobbies were related to helping youth with their future,” said Mammano.

Through his experience at the college newspaper, Mammano was familiar with print media. So, in 1995, he started Next Step Magazine, a printed periodical distributed free to high schools and funded with advertising revenue from local colleges and universities.

The whole mission of the magazine was to help students with college planning, career exploration, and life skills,” says Mammano.

The magazine grew rapidly. At first, 10,000 copies of Next Step were sent to Rochester-area high schools. At the magazine’s peak, it had audiences in every state.

MAMMANO’S NEXT STEPS

After almost two decades, Mammano felt that Next Step’s mission should be accomplished in other ways. In 2013, the magazine was retired, and three new brands were formed under the umbrella company Next Step Education Group: NextStepU.com, NextStepU College Planning Center, and Next Step Academy.

NextStepU.com is a public online resource that helps teens with college, career and life planning. NextStepU College Planning Center is an educational facility at High Point Plaza in Victor, (continued on page 48)

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

47

DEAN “DINO” KAY

::RW

inspire

(CONT)

Ceremonies for the 17th Annual Lilac Festival, which is hosting a musical lineup that promises not to disappoint. “We have Rusted Root and Blues Traveler, The Psychedelic Furs and our very own Deborah Magone. There is going to be a lot of talent on stage throughout the entire festival,” he exclaimed.

Even though his job keeps him extremely busy, Kay speaks of his time with family and friends in the most endearing of ways. “My wife is great, we have been married almost twenty-five years and the birth of my two sons has been the most incredible experience of my life.” He went on to tell me, “My wife and I look forward to any opportunity to hit a dance floor and enjoy the many local restaurants around town.”

And of course in his free time, you can probably catch him being pulled around Irondequoit by one of his adorable rescued pups.

You can listen to Dino on Fickle 93.3, weekdays from 2pm-7pm or on fickle933.com.

GATES ORLANDO

DAVID MAMMANO

The surgery worked and Orlando was kept alive with an artificial heart in the hospital for 10 months before receiving his current human heart from a donor. For two years he has recovered with his human heart, a process he described as long, but he was well prepared for due to his physical and mental training as a hockey player.

across Route 96 from Eastview Mall. Next Step Academy (www.NextStepAcademy.com) is an online life skills school where anyone at any stage of life can find help with life skills, career skills, and “soft skills” such as interviewing, communication techniques, and dressing for success.

(CONT)

Now, in addition to scouting for the New Jersey Devils, Orlando is an advocate for organ donation. He works closely with the Finger Lakes Donor Recovery Network and the Finger Lakes chapter of Donate Life. He said that he also promotes organ donation on social media and makes himself available to those on the transplant list to answer any questions that they may have. Orlando’s main goal is to educate individuals on how helpful signing up to be an organ donor can be.

“I know exactly what I would tell someone who’s not an organ donor,” Orlando said. “If you’re willing to receive an organ from someone to survive, why wouldn’t you give that organ to someone else to survive? If you’re willing to get one why won’t you give one?”

For more information on organ donation visit http://www.donorrecovery.org/.

(CONT)

“We’re like a guidance counselor on steroids,” explains Mammano, who points out that Next Step’s services are intended to supplement school guidance counselors, not replace them. To further this collaborative spirit, Next Step offers guidance counselors across the country, a free magazine, Link, with articles that keep them current in their profession.

BEYOND THE BURBS The majority of Next Step College Planning Center’s clientele hails from the suburbs.

Although Mammano is gratified by helping anyone, he wanted to expand the demographic.

“It bothered me that we weren’t helping kids in the inner city,” says Mammano.

He thought back to his Compeer little brother, a bright boy to whom Mammano suggested college.

The boy had never considered it an option, but years later telephoned Mammano— from college.

Fueled in part by that memory, Mammano and NextStepU created a career and college planning curriculum for under-served neighborhoods.

Thanks to sponsorship by local colleges, the program, to which Mammano refers as a “movement,” is free and currently in place at nine area schools and agencies.

GET YOUR INNER

EDDIE ON AND

COME ROCK

WITH HADLOCK DRUMS, GUITARS, BASS, ACCORDIANS VOCALS, SONGWRITING, BANDS & MORE! WWW.HADLOCKROCK.COM

WWW.READY4STAGE.COM

ladies night

It’s

Join us on

THURSDAY, MAY 21ST FROM 5:30-8:00PM AT 1440-1464 MONROE AVE.

Enjoy shopping 6 local businesses and vendors in each location, wine and food sampling, live music and a DJ at the Bop Shop, networking, fun and more...Bring all your friends for free services, and amazing door prizes in each location!

Special orders available New music recommendations Friendly, knowledgeable customer service

Rochester’s RECEIVE 20% OFF ONE ITEM WITH THIS IN-STORE COUPON EXPIRES 7/31/15

FAVORITE SUMMER

Boutique CLASSIC. PREPPY. FUN!

n ONLY LOCAL VINEYARD VINES SHOP n NEW MERCHANDISE ARRIVING WEEKLY n GREAT DRESSES FOR ALL YOUR SUMMER EVENTS

1464 Monroe Avenue • 585.244.4761 • www.rufflesboutique.com

OFFERING A COMPLIMENTARY DRY STYLE Let everybody else talk about themselves. We’re more interested in you. Making you feel comfortable.

Making you feel beautiful. Come see for yourself.

Actually, it’s the U salon.

1462 Monroe Avenue • Rochester, New York 14618 • 585.271.3610

CONTACT KELLY FOR MORE INFORMATION AT 585.727.9120 OR KELLY@NETWORKROC.COM

Rochester Woman Magazine

events

may 2015 EVENTS CALENDAR

ROCHESTER LILAC FESTIVAL

8-17 PINK RIBBON RUN & FAMILY FITNESS WALK

10 RWM MAY ISSUE LAUNCH PARTY

13 RIDE FOR THE MISSING

15 ROC CITY RIB FEST

22-25

Time: 9:00am Where: Highland Park Website: www.lilacfestival.com

Organization: BCCR Time: 9:00am Where: Genesee Valley Park Website: www.bccr.org Organization: RWM Time: 5:30am-8:30PM Where: Fireside Grill, Henrietta Website: www.rochesterwomanmag.com Organization: NCMEC Time: 8:00am Where: Unity Health Systems Total Sports Experience, 435 W. Commercial St, East Rochester Website: www.therideformissingchildren.com Time: Varies each day check website Location: Ontario Beach Park Website: www.roccityrifest.com

explorations ::EVERYDAY

A

sunday driv

BY KATIE DETAR Just as the sun always rises, spring comes after a long winter. And with each lengthening day and every increase in degree, so comes forth another bountiful growing season for Western New York’s farmers.

Given the harshness of this past winter, we’re all ready to again taste the fruits of the land.

Our region is ripe with colorful markets and agritourism destinations; places to explore for fresh picked vegetables, homemade treats and outdoor fun. It’s May - finally - and it’s time to again get outside and experience the agricultural pride of the Rochester area.

WESTERN ROUTE:

Head west out of Rochester on Route 104, past the many antique markets and cobblestone buildings that line the stretch between Greece and Holley. This Ridge Road – appropriately named for the geological ridge that marks the prehistoric Lake Ontario boundary – has been a main thoroughfare for travelers for hundreds of years.

In Holley, just west of County Line Road you’ll find Hurd Orchards.

This multi-generation family farm offers beautifully handcrafted jams and preserves as well as exceptionally presented fruits, dried flowers

52

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

and baked goods. The market – a charming collection of historic barns and structures – is also home to private event space and regular specialty themed luncheons and tea experiences. Early in the season, enjoy picking your own asparagus and rhubarb at the farm.

From Hurd Orchards, continue on 104 West to Route 98 North, heading towards the lake to Point Breeze. This waterfront spot, at the head of the Oak Orchard River, repeatedly ranks as one of the best fishing locations in the United States. You’ll see all kinds of vessels moored here, from charters to sailboats.

In 2010, a newly constructed replica lighthouse opened at the mouth of the river, known as the Oak Orchard Lighthouse. Thanks to volunteer efforts this light, in operation from April 1 to November 1, is again recognized as an aid to navigation and is a historic reminder of the lighthouse that stood at a nearby spot from 1871 to 1916.

Plans are also in the works for a maritime museum.

From Point Breeze, turn back east and follow Route 18 towards Rochester. This beautiful drive follows farmers’ fields and apple orchards. About 13 miles east of the lighthouse, a sharp curve in the road leads to Partyka Farms. The fruits of the farm’s 900 acres are sold here at the farm store. Asparagus, onions, beans and more than 20

::SHIFT+CONTROL

ve

to Farm Market Goodness varieties of apples are just a portion of what you’ll find in season. The gift shop also carries Americana crafts, bulk foods and baked goods.

As your last stop of the day, grab an ice cream cone and relax outside.

EASTERN ROUTE:

From Webster, follow Lake Road east towards Ontario. This scenic drive hugs the waterfront and offers glimpses of some unique real estate along the shores.

At Pultneyville, head south to Lagoner Farms. This fifth-generation family farm grows a variety of crops for sale at their market and as part of a CSA food share program. The family embraces the local food movement, and enjoys meeting customers at the store and at other regional farmers markets where you’ll find Lagoner produce.

In addition to a wide variety of fruits and vegetables, the market also sells fudge and baked goods. Don’t miss the apple dumplings! You can also shop for floral arrangements and plants – a welcome sight following winter!

its 47th year in operation, Burnap’s is a destination agritourism spot.

Shop for local veggies and fruits, including some of the plumpest strawberries in the region. The kids can play on the wooden tractor and swings, while you relax in Adirondack chairs on the deck overlooking the flowerbeds. At lunchtime, the Garden Café serves up sandwiches, salads and soups using local ingredients. And what’s a summer kickoff without an ice cream? There are myriad flavors to choose from at Burnap’s.

Complete your day of eastern exploring by continuing on Lake Road west to the Sodus Bay Lighthouse Museum. The well-preserved limestone structure, completed in 1871, houses a museum and gift shop. Tours are available Tuesday-Sunday from May 1- October 31.

The museum celebrates the local maritime and geologic history, as well as the influence of the War of 1812 on the region. The views of the lake from the lighthouse grounds are peaceful and panoramic, and beckon you to relax in the gardens and soak up the early summer sun.

From Lagoner Farms, continue east towards Burnap’s Farm Market at Lake Road and Maple Street in Sodus. Opening on May 22 for

ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM :: MAY 2015

53

We’re here for you and your family.

We promise.

You and your family can depend on Lifespan for the information, guidance and services you need to take on the challenges and the opportunities of longer life. It’s a promise we made over 40 years ago, and we intend to keep it.

Call Lifespan 585-244-8400 www.lifespan-roch.org

Take it on! Together we can make Rochester the best place to age well.

Bringing Tastes to Taste

::TIPS FOR

men

together one tiny little cup at a time!

BY J. CLAUD STEWART II The other day, someone was angry at me, yeah can you believe it?

Well in an attempt to marginalize and denigrate me they said “What I do isn’t even a real job. All I do is pour wine in tiny little cups.” And you know what, they’re right. I couldn’t describe what I do any better.

I represent small production wine houses by developing new markets for them. And as part of that representation, I provide wine tastings at retail stores and events where we pour wines into tiny little cups.

People tend to ask me about wines, then try to prove to me that they know more about wines than I do. Which is true. Everybody is drinking wines now, and everybody knows everything there is to know about wine. I am the first to admit that there are people who know a lot more about wines than I do. And that’s ok, because I know a lot more about the wines I like than anybody else. And you know what? So do you.

Did you know there are over 5000 wineries in the US, with over 25,000 grape growing farms, which produce over $12 billion in winery revenue, over $170 billion in economic impact, and over 32 billion wine-related tourist visits? How about this? New York State’s grape, grape juice and wine industry generates more than $4.8 billion in economic benefits annually for New York State. There are about 1,631 family vineyards, 373 wineries producing over 175,000,000 bottles of wine each year, which brings in $408 million in state and local taxes – and these are just a few of the statistics available from the New York Wine and Grape Foundation. The “What’s in a Bottle of Wine?” poster summarizes it all, but other resources including a map showing the number of wineries in various New York counties, economic impact studies, descriptions of New York’s most common grape varieties, a photo gallery and much more can be found at their website: http://www.newyorkwines.org/Pages/FactsAndFigures.

56

MAY 2015 :: ROCHESTERWOMANMAG.COM

Now, I for one, love wines from South Africa and various countries in South America. Give me a Pinotage or a good Malbec any day and I am fine with it. But I will always stand firm behind the absolutely fantastic wines being produced right here in New York State. Did you know that on April 2nd, New York State was given the prestigious “Wine Region of the Year” award at the Wine Enthusiast’s Wine Star Awards black tie dinner at the New York Public Library? Yes! This is Your New York we’re talking about. The one you live in. New York was chosen over Champagne, France; Chianti, Italy; Sonoma Coast, California; and Red Mountain, Washington.

I encounter so many people who say things like; “Well, New York wines aren’t there yet. I know we have Rieslings, but the Reds aren’t as good as California.” Well, tell that to California. After you get done bragging about living in the “Wine Region of the Year!”

Wine is truly about exploration. Whether you’re traveling along the Niagara Wine region, sailing along the Seneca Wine trail, or spending time on the North Fork of Long Island, and there are many other wine regions in New York to explore, experiencing wines from any vineyard is about the excitement of discovering something new, different, wonderful, and enjoyable. Which is why we at JC Wine always encourage folks to share this experience with each other.

Drinking alone can sometimes be fun…ok, often it can be fun. But it is ultimately much more fun if you can share this experience. That’s why we at JC Wine strive to educate folks about the great New York Wines that are out there. That’s why we pour wines in tiny little cups.

That’s what it’s about…bringing tastes to taste together! Cheers!

Relax in a luxurious robe and comfortable sandals, enjoy a beverage while indulging in your choice of over 70 rejuvenating spa treatments. Our team of dedicated professionals will make your experience the ultimate retreat, giving you the maximum benefits from head to toe in our Tranquil, Transformational Environment. The Woodhouse Day Spa, America’s Favorite Luxury Spa awaits you.

Massage Therapy, Facial Treatments, Microdermabrasion, Body Wraps and Nail Services

235 High Street Extension, Victor, NY 14564 • rochester.woodhousespas.com • 585.412.4994

welcome.

It feels good to be home.

See how affordable and comfortable independence can be. Maintain your familiar lifestyle with added choices, convenience and peace of mind—at a surprisingly modest rate.

LINDEN KNOLL IS YOUR PLACE TO CALL HOME: • Monthly rent of $820, including utilities • Convenient on-site laundry and small grocery store • Lovely landscaped grounds with rose gardens and gazebo • Close to family and many Rochester attractions • Emergency call system in every apartment Contact Jessica Kelley today at 585-385-0223 to tour our new model apartment and learn more.

81 Linden Avenue • Rochester, NY 14610 lindenknoll.org

FRIENDLY SENIOR LIVING COMMUNITIES Cloverwood | Glenmere | Linden Knoll | Lovejoy | Friendly Home Because friends care.

24290_RocWmn_Gen_Ad_85x11_F.indd 1

2/9/15 9:51 AM

56% of us have no idea how much we’ll need to retire but 100% of us still plan to have a good retirement.

Let’s sit down and set a reachable goal.

I’m here to make planning for retirement easier. And it’s never too early to start. I can also show you how life insurance could make your money work harder.

A good plan, and a good life, starts with someone you know.

Call me to learn more.

VINCENZO SCOLLO 585-381-3530 835 Fairport Road East Rochester vscollo@allstate.com

Source: 2014 Retirement Confidence Survey, EBRI.org. Allstate Life Insurance Co. of New York, Hauppauge, NY. Securities offered by Personal Financial Representatives through Allstate Financial Services, LLC. Registered Broker-Dealer. Member FINRA, SIPC. Main Office: 2920 South 84th St., Lincoln, NE 68506. (877) 525-5727. © 2014 Allstate Insurance Co.

133401

Life Insurance • Retirement Savings • Mutual Funds • IRAs • Annuities • College Savings Plans

Check out our 2015 Honda models packed with available convenience & safety features!

Bluetooth Push Button Start Smart Entry

Back-Up Camera Forward Collision Warning Side View Camera Lane Departure Warning

www.RalphHonda.com | 585.225.3200 3939 West Ridge Road | Rochester, NY 14626