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FOR A GOOD CAUSE: Teaching Social Skills

COVER STORY: Taking a Stand on Common Core 26

LEADING WOMAN: Educating the Community 32 HEALTHY WOMAN: Knowledge is Power

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LETTER FROM THE PUBLISHERS As kids we all played with blocks and our kids did the same, but do you know what your kids are learning when they are building towers and forts with those blocks? In her article Get a Bigger Carpet, I’m Making a Track, early childhood author and speaker Lisa Murphy, owner of Ooey Gooey, explores the world of blocks and what kids are learning when playing with this simple toy. Read her article on page [20].

Imagination is the highest kite one can fly. --Lauren Bacall We publish an education issue every year because it is an important topic in our community. Education isn’t just about learning while we are in school, we are constantly learning throughout our lives, whether it’s a life lesson learned because we made a mistake or pursuing a more formal education later in life. Constant learning allows us all to grow as individuals and empowers us to better handle the cards that life deals us along the way. There are many changes occurring in the public education system, the most important of them is Common Core. You’ve probably heard the term mentioned a lot lately in the news or if you have a child in the public school system. By definition Common Core is a rigorous set of standards for the English language arts and mathematics curriculum that has been developed based on the best practices of schools and organizations around the country and the world. On the surface it sounds good, but if you go beyond that definition and explore what is really going it gets a little scary. One local radio personality that has taken a stand on Common Core is Shannon Joy. She hosts a daily radio talk show on WYSL called Talking Back with Shannon Joy. On her show, Joy delves into a number of topics important to women, but what she is passionate about is Common Core. Read our cover story on page [26] and find out why.

One of the most important lessons we learn growing up is adequate social skills. These skills are key to functioning in society as adults. It’s for this reason that two local teachers, Mary LaShomb and Patti Kehoe started ASSET– Agency for Social Skills Education Training. They believe that acquiring social skills will help children and adults foster lifelong success, happiness and health. Read this month’s For a Good Cause column on page [24] to find out more. We are pleased to announce that we have set a date and location for this year’s Ultimate Women’s Expo. The expo will be held on Saturday, November 22 at the Memorial Art Gallery from 10am to 5pm. The event will feature over 125 vendors and include live music and demonstrations throughout the day, food and beverage sampling and more. Save the date and make plans to be there to enjoy this incredible event. Fall is on the way! Get out and enjoy the colorful spendor of our incredible Upstate New York fall season. And make sure you take RWM with you! Sincerely

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Dolphin Tale 2 – 9/12 It has been several years since Sawyer Nelson and the team at the Clearwater Marine Hospital, headed by Dr. Clay Haskett , rescued Winter. Winter’s surrogate mother, the very elderly dolphin Panama, has passed away, leaving Winter without the only pool mate she has ever known. Now, time is running out to find a companion for her before the team at Clearwater loses their beloved Winter to another aquarium.

This Is Where I Leave You – 9/19 When their father passes away, four grown siblings are forced to return to their childhood home and live under the same roof together for a week, along with their over-sharing mother and an assortment of spouses, exes and mighthave-beens. Confronting their history, they ultimately reconnect in hysterical and emotionally affecting ways amid the chaos, humor, heartache and redemption that only families can provide.

The Equalizer – 9/26 Denzel Washington plays Robert McCall, a retired intelligence officer who helps the powerless. In the movie version, he is living a quiet life while working at a Home Depot, when one act of kindness toward a prostitute (Chloe Moretz) gets him embroiled with the Russian mob. Marton Csokas will play a vicious fixer for the Russians.

A Walk Among The Tombstones Liam Neeson plays Matt Scudder, an ex-NYPD cop who now works as an unlicensed private investigator operating just outside the law. When Scudder reluctantly agrees to help a heroin trafficker (Dan Stevens) hunt down the men who kidnapped and then brutally murdered his wife, the PI learns that this is not the first time these men have committed this sort of twisted crime…nor will it be the last.

OUT & ABOUT Music 4 Everyone Honors Arts and Music by Rochester Youth Roll out the red carpet! Music 4 Everyone is hosting the inaugural Cadenza Awards to honor the musical and artistic contributions of Rochester’s youth on June 12, 2015 at Frontier Field. Music 4 Everyone (M4E) is a local nonprofit dedicated to maintaining and building music and arts programs in Rochester schools. With heavy emphasis on sports accolades, art and music appreciation has taken a backseat. With tight school budgets limiting music and arts education locally, M4E continues to work to provide camps and resources to keep the music and arts in the spotlight for Rochester’s youth. The first annual Cadenza Awards is another step in bringing awareness to the need for music and arts in Rochester schools, as well as to congratulate the hard work and accomplishments of the children whom dedicate themselves to creating wonderful pieces of art. Kicking off this September, Elementary, Middle and High School Students in Monroe County will have the opportunity to submit pieces in several categories from jazz ensemble to women’s choir, print making to mixed medium and everything in between. Talented Rochester artists will judge the submissions. The yearlong creation and submission process will culminate in an evening of grandeur for Rochester youth and their families. “We are really excited to have this opportunity to celebrate the kids,” said M4E President Bert Gallmon. “We work throughout the year to support and maintain music and arts in schools, but also know how hard the kids work on their respective crafts. We want them to know how proud we are of their dedication and give them an evening with family and friends to be recognized for their cultural contributions.”

THE 2014 EAST HOUSE CELEBRATION OF HOPE & RECOVERY LUNCHEON FEATURING JUDY COLLINS As the premier fundraiser for East House, the Hope & Recovery Luncheon raises funds to support our various programs and services. This initiative highlights to the greater community the efforts of those with mental illness and/or substance use disorder to live satisfying and productive lives. The 2014 Luncheon will feature Grammy award-winning singer, songwriter and advocate Judy Collins. Featured events: • Silent auction and raffle including a flat-screen television, restaurant gift cards, sports memorabilia, spa packages, gift baskets, golf outings and more. • The Moving Lives Forward Award presentation to the Honorable Patricia Marks and the Honorable John Schwartz. • Keynote address, Judy Collins, Grammy award-winning singer, songwriter and advocate. WHEN: Wednesday, September 24, 2014 11:30 a.m. – 1:30 p.m. (To reserve a seat, visit the East House website at www.easthouse.org or call585.238.4800.) WHERE: Rochester Riverside Convention Center 123 East Main St., Rochester WHO:

Judy Collins The Honorable Patricia Marks, The Honorable John Schwartz Gregory Soehner, East House President & Chief Executive Officer Supporters and Sponsors including Alesco Advisors, LLC; Buckingham Properties; and Capstone Real Estate Development, LLC. The entire community is welcome.

VIDEO / PHOTO: 12:15 p.m. – Presentation of Moving Lives Forward Awards to the Honorable Patricia Marks and the Honorable John Schwartz 12:20 p.m. – East House Speaker, Walter DeRouen, LMSW 12:40 p.m. – Keynote Address, Judy Collins, Grammy Award-winning singer, songwriter and advocate About East House: East House is a private, non-profit rehabilitation agency. Founded in 1966, East House now serves over 1,000 clients and families each year as they recover from mental illness and/or substance use disorder through residential, rehabilitation and career service programs. East House offers person-centered programs to enable clients to receive a more tailored approach to ensure their own recovery. East House is dedicated to moving lives forward every day. East House is funded by New York State, Monroe County, client fees and donations.

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By Nicole Shein | Photos by Brandon Vick There are a lot of buzzwords and marketing jargon surrounding the food and hospitality industries these days; every menu is peppered with terms like “house-made,” “locally sourced,” “artisanal,” “sustainable,” “wood-fired.” So-called fusion cuisine burst onto the scene several years ago and hasn’t shown any signs of abating in popularity, and if you’re not drinking “craft cocktails,” you might as well be swilling Boone’s Farm strawberry wine in your dorm room, you cretin -- or so it may seem to the average person, who simply wants to sip a decently made Old Fashioned and enjoy a meal that they didn’t have to make themselves. Pittsford’s Erie Grill bills itself, officially, as serving “Contemporary American” cuisine, but when I sat down last month with Executive Chef John Freezee, it quickly became clear that the Grill’s approach to food is much more casual. Yes, they like to use local produce, meats, pasta, and dairy products whenever possible, but not because it’s simply trendy.

Of the three tasting items that I was offered, the dessert -- a “deconstructed” peach melba -- best exemplified the seasonal approach. A smattering of perfectly ripe peach slices was artfully arranged along with fresh raspberries on top of a butterscotch streusel. The granola-like streusel was crunchy, in a counterpoint to both the silky fruit and a remarkable cloud of peach-infused foam that topped the dish. Stunning to look at, and an adventure to eat, this is a dish that no self-respecting restaurant would even attempt any other time than the height of summer. Another dish with lofty aspirations is the grilled octopus salad, and it’s not only the octopus that makes it unusual. Roman artichokes (also grilled) cipollini onions, olives and roasted cherry tomatoes, along with frisee, are a departure from the ordinary fruit-nut-and-blue-cheese-on-field-greens offerings. It’s the dressing that really wowed me with this dish, however; lemon-pressed olive oil and fresh lemon juice echo the acidity of the tomatoes, offset the salty olive taste, and brighten both the octopus and artichokes. New York State duck was the star of my next small plate -- duck

Erie Grill offers half a dozen small plates and approximately twice that number of entrees, along with salads and a la carte side dishes. There are steaks, a roasted chicken dish, several seafood options, and a popular Kobe beef meatloaf. They also serve lunch, breakfast and a Sunday brunch, in addition to special tasting dinners. Themed wine and beer pairings, a French wine and cuisine night, and even a spirits pairing are well-attended, and a great way to try something new in a comfortable but upscale environment. Every Tuesday, glasses of wine are $5, while bottles are half-off. After I had tried the three menu items, I was offered one of the Grill’s signature cocktails, the Over the Border -- a modern, inventive twist on the margarita made with Thai chile-infused tequila, Stirring’s triple sec, lime juice and an acai berry liquor. Cleverly presented with a black Hawaiian sea-salt rim, the cocktail’s vibrant pink hue belied its potent punch.

“Having respect for your ingredients is so important for a chef,” said Freezee, explaining why he likes to use organic chicken and vegetables grown in the Finger Lakes. Showcasing seasonal ingredients, additionally, allows the Erie Grill to reinvent its menu as spring blossoms into full summer, and summer slips into autumn.

meatballs with wild-rice and goat-cheese pancakes -- but these also featured Peruvian chiles and an Asianinspired sweet and sour cider vinegar sauce. Chef Freezee said that the staff at Erie worked on the recipe for over a year to perfect it. The combination of delicate yet substantial meatballs, the crispy rice pancakes and the tangy glaze made this dish an ideal choice for a shared nosh. Tiny white pickled mushrooms added a note of visual interest.

“I like to win people over,” said Freezee, speaking in particular about the menu’s more unique items, like the octopus salad -but he could have been expressing his approach to cuisine in general when he added, “It’s rewarding to please people.” Erie Grill 41 North Main Street Pittsford, NY 14534 585-419-3032 www.eriegrill.com

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Fashionable Social Skills, communication with style & flair

By Joan E. Lincoln Etiquette is a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group. Manners Ways of behaving with referense to polite standards; social comportment. For nearly a century, one name has been trusted above all others when it comes to proper decorum: Emily Post. Daughter of a wealthy architect, Emily Price Post wrote her book Etiquette to try to bring common sense and flexibility to good manners. She published ten editions of her book and for many years also wrote a syndicated newspaper column and for a time also hosted a radio program. We, yes society in general, should re-read her Manual. Now available is a completely updated 18th Edition of the classic Emily Post’s Etiquette, the mantle is picked up by the great-great-grandchildren of the First Lady of Etiquette, who tackle the latest issues and demands of the twenty-first century—from texting and tweeting to iPhones, Facebook, and all forms of social media. “Etiquette” vs. “Manners” Is there a difference? You bet. Etiquette is a code of polite conduct based on social acceptance and efficiency. Just as there are traffic laws to create smooth transportation flow and prevent collisions, so there are societal rules designed to facilitate positive human exchanges and reduce conflict. When you know the rules of etiquette for any given situation, it increases your comfort, confidence and competence, and by extension, the ease and comfort of people around you. Understanding the “why” behind the rules, helps people buy-in and practice the protocols. Consider why a name tag is worn on the right instead of the left, for instance. That’s because it’s easier for others to see when you shake hands. Manners are polite behaviors that reflect an attitude of consideration, kindness and respect for others. You may not have been taught how to make proper introductions, but a kind person knows better than to belittle or embarrass another person in public or private. A well-mannered person also remembers to say “Please” and “Thank you” and refrains from interrupting others in the middle of a conversation. Random acts of kindness are not just for the Girl Scout and Boy Scout folks. The world is getting warmer & people are getting colder, literally. I think of the difference between the terms this way: etiquette provides the form or structure within which good manners operate. Both are integral to effective human interactions. It is important to know what to do when. Fashion Etiquette Fashion trends change every season, so you’ll see pieces going out of style just as quickly as they arrived on the fashion scene. However, good manners, will always be in vogue, so when you choose whatever current fashion to wear, don’t push etiquette aside. People pass judgment on you based on how you look, how you act, and how respectful you are to others. Give yourself every advantage by following proper fashion etiquette guidelines. It’s always a good idea to have something in your closet that is versatile enough to be worn for a variety of occasions. You can break up a suit and wear the jacket with a dress and the slacks with a tank top and cardigan. The educated, well-dressed woman knows what looks good on her and has a closet filled with the basics that can be changed with accessories, jackets, sweaters, and shoes. Purchase the highest quality of basic pieces you can afford and pay less for trendy items that will go out of style by next season. Emily post we need you! Unless you have a career in television, you probably don’t stop in to a “hair and make-up” studio before walking out the door each day, nor have the luxury of a personal fashion consultant. It is perfectly acceptable to care about and respect how you look, though. Your outward appearance is not only an important aspect of how you present yourself; it reflects the importance you attach to the situations and people around you. I have to ask, what is so difficult about putting your best face on~ A smile is the easiest thing to apply to your face every day! Joan Lincoln owns Panache Vintage and Finer Consignment in Brighton Commons. Her Fashion Forward segment can also be heard everyThursday morning duringWake UpWithTony onWARM 101.3 .

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“I’ve been actually really very pleased to see how much awareness was raised around bullying, and how deeply it affects everyone. You know, you don’t have to be the loser kid in high school to be bullied. Bullying and being picked on comes in so many different forms.” --Lady Gaga

Over 3.2 million students are victims of bullying each year.

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IMPORTANT FACTS about 71% of students report incidents of bullying as a problem at their school.

8. 90% of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of bullying.

One in 10 students drop out of school because of repeated bullying.

1.0 Physical bullying increases in elementary school, peaks in middle school and declines in high school.

Verbal abuse, on the other hand, remains constant.

Facts taken from the website: www.dosomething.org

2. Approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day because of bullying

3. 17% of American students report being bullied 2 to 3 times a month or more within a school semester.

One in four teachers see nothing wrong with bullying and will only intervene 4% of the time.

5. Bywillagetalk14tolesstheirthanpeers30%aboutof boys and 40% of girls bullying.

Over 67% of students believe that schools respond poorly to bullying, with a high percentage of students believing that adult help is infrequent and ineffective.

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“I’ve realized that you become a bully if you are just watching someone get bullied and you don’t say anything. Speak up!” --Emma Roberts rochesterWomanMag.com :: september 2014

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Changing Minds Can Change Lives

By Cynthia Kolko

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Story and Photo By Lisa Maria Rickman In a small-town-feel city like Rochester, nothing is more important than community. For local storyteller and Renaissance woman, Annette Ramos, it’s her mission within the local Latino community. Ramos has spent the summer at the School of the Arts where she’s been teaching 177 kids the wonders of working in the theater, on and off stage, for the Rochester City School District Summer Scholars program. “I’m lucky to be the mother of many but only have to pay for one college education,” Ramos said. Ramos’s daughter, 17, inherited her mother’s love of theater and is herself involved in much of the backstage work at her school, managing props, designing sets and more.

and regional theater was that there was no Latino theater company and very little theater that was being produced by, for and about Latinos.” The Rochester Latino Theatre Company emerged out of what Ramos saw as a “need and a passion.” What began with a small workshop grew into a weekly session; the weekly session became an evolving ensemble, the ensemble became a writers’ workshop, the writers’ workshop became structured monologues, the monologues became an ensemble piece written by the players and the rest is history. “We performed our very first production at the Sankofa Festival and then we were asked to do TEDx on the Geva stage,” said Ramos. “That was, as far as [I know], the first time an all Latino cast had ever been on that stage.”

Ramos, originally from New York City, lived in LA for 17 years after moving west to pursue a career in acting. What she ended up doing was much more encompassing. She became involved with Nosotros, one of the first and oldest Latino theater companies in LA. This is where she acquired her love for hands-on theater.

What’s next for the burgeoning troupe?

“That was the great part of it,” Ramos said. “You rotated all the jobs there. You weren’t just an actor, you were an ensemble member. I really love the whole emphasis of ensemble theater because everyone has and owns the theater and takes pride in running it and being a member.”

West Side Story will showcase for two weekends in November, pre-Thanksgiving weekend and Thanksgiving weekend at Kodak Theater on The Ridge, a 1200 seat theater. It will have a cast of 30 performers.

Which is how she came to form the Rochester Latino Theatre Company, the first of its kind in the area. “The thing I love about Rochester is the small town feel,” said Ramos. “I know all my neighbors but it has big city art. It is the best both worlds.” Rochester is home to many festivals and organizations that support the arts. The Eastman School of Music, the International Jazz Festival, the Fringe Film Festival, the Memorial Art Gallery and of course the Neighborhood of the Arts, just to name a few. “I have all the elements of art and culture that are part of the attraction of a big city,” said Ramos. “What I found missing after doing about eight years of local

We’ll now be taking on West Side Story this year,” said Ramos. “[It will be] produced by the Latino company in partnership with the Rochester Association of Performing Arts.”

“So we’ve now moved onto the next level and that’s the exciting part,” said Ramos. “[It was] truly created by my passion and determination to create opportunities for Latino artists to cultivate their art form but also to cultivate Latino audiences because believe it or not, Rochester is the second largest population of Latinos in New York State.” In addition to founding the Rochester Latino Theatre Company, Ramos is Wolftrap Director of Educational Services for Young Audiences of Rochester and a guest blogger on race and the arts for The Huffington Post. Her work has received special Recognition Awards from the Rochester City School District, the Writers & Book’s 2004 Teacher of Youth Award, the Latinas Unidas Leadership Award for 2014 and the Hispanicize Positive Impact 2014 Award Editors note: .Background set for the photo was designed by Rochester City School District Summer Scholars.

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BIGGER Cognitive Development: Math Block play encourages measuring, classification, counting, ordering, and the use of fractions, thus facilitating the development of skills that will later be required for mathematical thinking. Block play encourages both abstract and logical thinking and an understanding of size, shape, width, number, order, patterns, and weight. While engaged in block play children are learning about more/less, size, counting, sets, adding and subtracting, length, shapes, seriation (ordering of size from smallest to largest), categorizing and sorting, measuring, short/tall, and measuring.

By Lisa Murphy, M.Ed. Any time you see children messing around with blocks, or, to be academic, any time a child “manipulates proportional wooden blocks” we say they are engaging in block play. Girls? Boys? Doesn’t matter. When given ample time, space, materials and encouragement, children will enthusiastically accept an invitation to build. Often for hours at a time. So what’s going on in the block corner? Random construction? Or perhaps something deeper? Before we get to that, let’s explore a small chapter of the history of blocks. Historically, educators like Froebel and Montessori have incorporated blocks and block related activities in their educational programs. However, these activities often had specific instructions and rigid rules. Progressive educators such as John Dewey rebelled by permitting students to use these same materials in any manner of construction they desired! Patty Smith Hill also questioned the lack of free play that occurred with these materials, so she designed and created “Hill Blocks” which were large, hardwood blocks designed with interlocking grooves and steel rods. Hill intended for them to be dragged around and used to make large constructions for children to play in, and even, on! Inspired by Hill, Caroline Pratt, also wanted to design a system of blocks. She started by designing big blocks intended for large construction but her focus on creating flexible, adaptable materials children could use without adult control led to the creation of what was then, and still called, “unit blocks.” The blocks you still see being used in today’s classrooms and childcare centers are the legacy of Ms. Caroline Pratt. As early as the 1930’s researchers were identifying the positive developmental benefits of block play! Children progress from carrying blocks around, to lining them up (It’s a track!), to stacking them up (It’s a tower!), to making what we call enclosures (It’s a house!). As children get older and have more experiences the designs become more elaborate and detailed (It’s an airport! It’s a bridge!). These structures are often called “representational” as the child appears to be intentionally constructing a “thing.” Around this same time, children begin to name and label their constructions. High-quality early childhood programs make sure that children have opportunities that lead to cognitive development (specifically science and math), language/literacy development, social/emotional development and physical development. When children are provided ample time to work by themselves and others with blocks and building materials there are many skills being fostered and developed. Let’s take a look:

Playing with blocks deepens a child’s perception of spatial relationships with the use of words such as over, under, through, in, and on. The following math-specific vocabulary can be linked to block play: direction, shapes, solids, estimating, measurement, patterns, relationships, proximity, reversibility, seriation, size, shape, weight, length, area, volume, angles, enclosure, continuum, dimensionality, directional and descriptive language, comparisons, correspondence, classification, matching, parts/whole, grouping, measuring, pattern, number, quantity, grouping, and sets.

Cognitive Development: Science In the block center children are learning about balance, gravity, stability, and force. They are practicing their ability to make predictions by asking questions such as, “What if….?” and “How high can this get before it falls over?” and “How come the tower with the base stays up longer?” and my favorite, “What happens if I push it?” When manipulating the blocks, touching them, exploring them, children learn about the various properties of matter and materials. They learn that blocks are hard and smooth, that blocks are predictable in what they can be used for and that their sizes and shapes cannot be altered meaning children learn that blocks are “unyielding”. Block play deepens a child’s basic understanding of action/reaction, cause/effect, and has the potential to expose children to simple machines and other forms of science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM) concepts. The following science-related vocabulary can be linked to a well-equipped block center: equilibrium, balance, stability, spatial relations, size, shape, area, volume, geography, space, distance, direction, grids, patterns, mapping, weight, fulcrum, lever, matching, sorting, physical properties, gravity, reversibility, predicting, proximity, inquiry, observing, comparing, classifying, interpreting, intuition, disequilibrium, counter balance, cause/effect, structural stress, discovery, and verbalizing how they solved a problem.

Language and Literacy Development A block center typically has traditional unit blocks as well as supplementary items such as cars, people and animals; this can lead to language-rich, dramatic play episodes. As such, the block center becomes a logical place to promote oral language and literacy skills. In my experience as a teacher and observer, children who don’t speak at other times in the day will often use language while engaged with other children and materials while engaged in the block center. The block center encourages children to articulate their ideas, explain them, name their structures, collaborate with others, share information, and practice negotiation skills. In the block center children are exposed to rich language and new vocabulary such as wobble, balance, stack,

over, under, behind, tension, massive, firm, affix, steady, secure, slanting secure, slanting, stable, zone, heavy, length, vertical, and horizontal.

Social and Emotional Development Blocks are conducive to group play; and group play provides possibilities for cooperation, contribution, adjustment, negotiating, sharing, problem solving, compromising, cooperation, and engaging in self-expression. A certain level of self-regulation is required when playing with others in the block center as it requires a child to consider the viewpoints of others and put their own needs on “pause” in order to keep the play going. While playing with peers in the block center children are learning how to be a part of a group, competence, executive functioning skills, give/take, acceptance, power, coming to terms with another’s differences, economics, cooperation, flexibility, initiative, self-direction, and dealing with individual rules and the rules of others.

Physical Development: Large and Small Motor Skills Block play encourages muscular growth, visual perception, balance, and small and large muscle activity. Both fine motor muscles and hand-eye coordination are strengthened when children place small blocks so they don’t tumble, and large motor skills are strengthened when they lift, move, push, carry, and stack larger blocks. Unlike scissors, blocks require the use of the whole hand, and serves as an effective pre-writing activity. Materials Within the Block Center Ample access to a well-stocked, sizable block center is an invitation to learning that will last a lifetime. In addition to blocks does anything else need to be there? Well, need is a tricky word, but if you are going to add anything to that big bucket of wooden unit blocks, early childhood experts say that loose parts are the way to go! Fantastic! But what are they? Let’s be honest, to most adults, loose parts look like…. junk. Those bits and bobs of business your kids like to hoard in their pockets! Loose parts are simple, unstructured materials that have no predetermined way of being used. Things like buttons, sliced up tree branches and stumps (often called “tree cookies”), string, the lids to all those dried out markers, pebbles, shells, washers, bottle caps, corks, key chains, and spools are all great examples of loose parts. Nicholson’s Theory of Loose Parts states that the amount of creativity in an environment is directly correlated to the amount of loose parts available for investigation – so save those corks ladies! Other things you might see in a block area are cars, trucks, trains, animals and people figures. These items increase language, social skills and are an asset to any block play area, yet also will impact, dare I say, influence? the actions that are played out. An elephant is an elephant no matter how you slice it. Blocks + corks + bottle caps + straws + masking tape = innovative thinking, problem solving and creativity. And those are the skills children need as they take the next steps in their overall development.

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By Margaret Madigan | Photos by Stephen Reardon After years of yelling at the TV, Shannon Joy decided she wanted a way to talk to other women about political and social issues in a safe, comfortable environment. From that idea, a radio show was born. Shannon Joy is an entrepreneur and host of the female focused, political talk radio program “Talking Back with Shannon Joy”, that airs on WYSL-1040 AM, Monday through Friday 12:00pm to 1:00pm. Joy feels that men have cornered the market on discussing politics for far too long. She feels that there are a whole host of issues including women’s reproductive rights and education that men seem to have been doing all the decision making on since the birth of this nation. She feels the decision-making starts with discussions involving those who are most affected, so when it comes to issues involving women and children, women need to be heard. Shannon had worked in media sales for over twelve years and was looking for a change. One day she ran into an old colleague Bob Savage, who happens to be the President and Founder of WYSL. She

started discussing with him her frustration with no forum for women to discuss political issues, that’s when Bob came up with the idea for her to have her own show. So Joy approached a few of her longtime loyal clients from media advertising and asked them to underwrite her show for a year to get it up and running. “At first being a host was very uncomfortable but then I got used to it and people started calling in and chatting up the show on social media, then it just kind of blew up from there”, says Joy. Blew up in a good way. Ratings for the show are great, during the show the phones are always lit up, and more advertisers have signed on to support the program. There appears to be a place for women’s discussions on the air after all. And one of the most popular issues that women and men frequently want to discuss is the Common Core Standards. Anyone that has children should want to discuss this hot topic. Common Core is an “internationally benchmarked” set of common standards for K-12 students that are intended to be more rigorous

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and will allegedly prepare each student to be more college and career ready. Common Core is part of a decade long educational reform movement as we realized our nation was falling woefully behind in student performance world rankings . Unlike other education movement trends that are adopted voluntarily by a few school districts, Common Core was rolled out seemingly overnight by 45 states and thousands of public school districts across the country. “Race to the Top” legislation signed by President Obama held out $4.35 Billion in education dollars to cash strapped school districts just months after the August 2008 housing collapse. To get the money, each state had to sign a contract promising to implement the Common Core in their state. Governors signed off and their legislatures passed bills making Common Core education law. On May 28, 2010 in New York state, Democrat and Republican lawmakers took their posts at the statehouse at 3:00am and passed 3 bills; Assembly-11309, Senate-7990 and Assembly-11171. There was no prior announcement, no promotion and no signing ceremony. It was almost as if the house was trying to “slip one passed the goalie”. (The people of NY being the goalie) But this single legislative act changed every single school district in New York forever.

These bills did essentially four things: 1. Mandated that every public district test students annually on Common Core aligned standards in English Language Arts and Mathematics. 2. Mandated that teachers and principals be subject to new annual performance reviews directly linked to student scores on the Common Core standardized tests. Forty percent of their evaluation would be based on the standardized tests. These reviews could directly affect their pay, tenure, promotion or termination. 3. Funneled $20 Million dollars of taxpayer money to create a Statewide Longitudinal Data System which is a nice way of saying student data collection. New York state students are now being tracked on 400 separate data points including name, social security number, grades, disciplinary records, medical and dental records, parent incomes and occupations, bus times, family religious and political affiliation. 4. Expanded Charter Schools and made it legal for the state to bring the hammer down on poorly performing school districts. This means that the state can close a school and contract with a private entity to re-open it.

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At first glance, one would think money was the motivating factor for the quick and stealth, Ninja-like passing of the bill by the New York State government. As evidenced by this quote by Kathy Nolan, the Democratic sponsor of these bills about their 2010 passage ... “This bill will allow New York State to submit a competitive application for federal Race To The Top funding and increase our chances at receiving up to $700 million for our schools. I would like to thank New York State Board of Regents Chancellor Merryl Tisch, New York State Education Commissioner David Steiner and Senior Deputy Commissioner John King for their leadership, cooperation and hard work.”

Joy has always been interested in politics and has volunteered on campaigns in the past. However, Joy’s number one priority has always been her children. She is very thankful to have a flexible schedule and to purposely only work 20 hours a week in order to spend optimal time raising her children. It is important for her to be home with her children because she believes the single most important influence on a child’s education and growth are the parents.

Joy is vehemently opposed to Common Core. Being a mother herself to Jack 8, Mimi 6 and Teddy 2, she is worried about her children receiving education that is based on standards from children in districts all over the nation and have no regard for individual needs. She feels that the Federal government should have the least amount of say in education, among other issues. “Federal government should have the least amount of reach. State and local government should have more. We lose power, lose control”, says Joy. She feels local and state governments should actually hold the most authority to shape policy. Being a lifelong Rochester area resident, Joy cares about the area and takes pride in its educational track record. She was born in Pittsford then moved to Gananda where she eventually graduated from Gananda High School. She then attended SUNY Geneseo where she met her husband Geoff. They have been married for twelve years now and live in Fairport. Coincidentally Geoff is employed by Fairport Central School District as a School Psychologist. Needless to say, education issues hit home with her family. Taking a strong stance that Common Core was created with a hidden agenda Joy states, “In a nutshell ... Common Core was created by global corporations like Pearson, a worldwide education company and Microsoft in collusion with massive state and federal government entities like the National Governors Association (NGA) and the Chief Council of State School Officers (CCSSO). The purpose of the creation was to consolidate power over education at the federal level and line the pockets of huge corporations and politicians. It always does seem to circle back to power and money!” She is referring to the fact that the national standards by which Common Core was created were authored by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation-funded consultants for the National Governors Association (NGA). These standards were designed, in part, to seize the loophole in federal restrictions on the adoption of a national curriculum. Although the guidelines were created mostly by academics and assessment experts—many with ties to testing companies—the Common Core standards have never been fully implemented and tested in real schools anywhere. Joy finds that obviously problematic. “Of the 135 members on the official Common Core review panels convened by Achieve Inc., the consulting firm that has directed the Common Core project for the NGA, few were classroom teachers or current administrators. Parents were entirely missing. K–12 educators were mostly brought in after the fact to tweak and endorse the standards—and lend legitimacy to the results”, Joy notes a statement according to Valerie Strauss of the Washington Post. Joy considers herself a “Conservalibertarian”. In hearing those words you might think she leans pretty far to the right politically but she says she finds herself actually being more critical of Republicans then she thought she’d be. “Just the whole political landscape is disturbing.

Shannon Joy is a true entrepreneur; she has many ideas to expand her reach to get women talking. She’s working on a website and a blog and would like to possibly add more time to her show in the future. Joy also has a media company on the side, where she assists in outdoor advertising. The drive seems to be limitless for her. It is also infectious. She wants to make a difference and when speaking with the passion she has about certain subjects, you are convinced she will make that difference. More importantly Joy makes you feel like you… no, like WE can all make a difference too. You can listen to “Talking Back With Shannon Joy” every weekday on WYSL-1040AM or 92.1 FM Monday through Friday from noon till 1:00PM. For more information visit www.wysl1040.com.

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Both parties do the same things over and over, time and again”, Joy states. Adding that the Republicans tend to pledge more allegiance to corporations than the people, however she feels Democrats have their own puppet masters as well.

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“Sound has a profound effect on the senses. It can be both heard and felt. It can even be seen with the mind’s eye. It can almost be tasted and smelled. Sound can evoke responses of the five senses. Sound can paint a picture, produce a mood, trigger the senses to remember another time and place. From infancy we hear sound with our entire bodies. When I hear my own name, I have as much a sense of it entering my body through my back or my hand or my chest as through my ears.”--Louis Colaianni As the Community Outreach Coordinator for Hart Hearing Center, Dr. Sarah Klimasewski holds the unique responsibility of extending her knowledge in audiology related topics to the community at large. Equipped with a strong desire to contribute to the betterment of others, the West Irondequoit native explains that she finds the greatest reward in “talking to groups and individuals about hearing issues and the services we offer.” She adds, “So many people have questions about themselves or family members or friends-- just about everyone knows someone affected by a hearing impairment or issue. I am happy to serve as a liaison to the audiology community and specifically, at Hart Hearing Center.” As a child, Klimasewski faced chronic ear infections as well as other “middle ear” health issues that affected her ability to hear. Doubtlessly, these early experiences, albeit trying, allow for Klimasewski to empathize with her patients of today who struggle with auditory challenges. Her own initial interest in the field, coupled with a passion for learning prompted Klimasewski to pursue a career in audiology. “I knew I wanted to go into something in the allied health profession, but didn’t think about audiology until my sophomore year of college,” recalls Klimasewski. “I had a pretty typical upbringing, the youngest of four children. [I was] encouraged to try my best in school, but also to have a balanced life. I was very social and played sports. Both my parents and all of my siblings attended college, so that was the path laid out for me.” Talented and ambitious, Klimasewski opted to attend Indiana University at Bloomington where she studied Speech and Hearing Science. Subsequently, Klimasewski continued her education at Syracuse University where she attained a Master of Science degree and thereafter Salus University to achieve a Doctorate in Audiology.

Though Klimasewski began practicing in 1992, she chose to take a hiatus from 1998-2006 in order to raise her children full-time and to resume vocational training. In 2007, she joined Hart Hearing Center at the Fairport Center.

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“I had an awesome professor at SU, Dr. Beth Prieve, who was one of the smartest, most caring people I have ever met,” shares Klimasewski. “She encouraged me to conduct my own research and write a master’s thesis. She is still there doing research on identifying hearing loss in infants!”

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“Just about everyone knows someone affected by a hearing impairment or issue. I am happy to serve as a liaison to the audiology community and specifically, at Hart Hearing Center.”

While Klimasewski enjoyed the academic process of becoming an audiologist, the pursuit of learning did not come bereft of challenges. She was full-time mother of three upon deciding to earn a doctorate in the field. She credits a solid support system as having a profound impact on her career, including those who influenced her while she was still a student.

“When I interviewed with Dr. Hart, we created this position as it is somewhat unique to have in an audiology practice,” explains Klimasewski. “Initially, I saw patients 50% of the time and was out in the community the other 50% of time. This has changed to working in outreach all the time, and I should point out this is a part time position. I find this so rewarding… Dr. Hart is very understanding and allows me the flexibility to arrange my professional time around my role as a parent when needed.” “Happy employees are much more productive,” she continues with a smile. It is evident upon hearing Klimasewski’s story that she is most gratified by her commendable role as a community outreach coordinator. It is important to her to raise the public’s awareness on various topics of interest pertaining to hearing. Moreover, Klimasewski shares that audiologists actually wear more hats than the community may perceive. “We do a lot!” she says. “Many people are aware of our role in evaluating and diagnosing hearing loss and fitting hearing aids, but we also spend a lot of time counseling patients and families about hearing loss, technology and listening strategies and hearing conservation. [We additionally] assess and counsel patients with tinnitus [or] ringing in the ears. We may work in private practices, schools, hospitals, universities or in government.” When asked if she experiences any challenges in her helping profession, Klimasewski explains that it is crucial to be sensitive to patients experiencing hearing loss. “Many people are in denial as their hearing changes,” she shares. “As professionals, we discuss hearing loss every day, but it is important to remember each individual is unique and will handle this diagnosis uniquely as well. I am sure this is true for other health related professions. It is so important to really listen to the patient and allow them to express how they feel about what they are going through. Everyone moves at their own pace and it is our job to make sure they move forward at this pace.” When not out and about in the community, educating the local masses on how to attend to their auditory health, Klimasewski is maintaining as active a lifestyle as possible. As a runner, she frequents the Crescent Trail and as a cyclist, she may be spotted pedaling along the Erie Canal. She is also content to sit on her front porch, tackling a crossword puzzle. “I like to keep things as simple as possible,” she admits. For more information, visit www.harthearing.com.

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By Sraddha Prativadi, MD, FACOG The connection between education and women’s health is a two way street with complexities that influence health and a woman’s ability to achieve her full potential in life. In many situations, however, the shroud of ignorance, fear and judgment leads many women to not address their health needs fully, particularly in the areas of contraception and pregnancy care. This lack of accessing care can lead down a path to poor health and self development and sometimes even into the dangerous territories of poverty and disease. Many strides have been made in women’s health and women’s access to education but we still have a long way to go. Reproductive health is inextricably tied to education and a woman’s ability to go to school. In the United States, and even right here in Rochester, a young girl’s education can be thwarted by heavy, irregular or painful periods. Pelvic pain itself is a reason to seek care with a medical professional. Period problems cause girls to miss out on progress and opportunities in school and personal development in sports, dancing etc. I have also had several young ladies whose activities have been thwarted by other gynecologic concerns – from enlarged labia to difficulty with urination. The American Academy of Pediatrics indeed recommends a reproductive health visit between the ages of 13-15 for girls to establish a relationship with a gynecologist who she can trust, talk to and go to with problems. This relationship is medically therapeutic but can be socially protective as well – the doctor often can be direct with questioning about sexual activity and give direct advice – the conversation that oftentimes parents are uncomfortable with. I am seeing more mother-daughter or patient-relative relationships that are open about sexual health concerns and I find this to be protective to the young lady rather than permissive. In short, this open communication only serves to protect the girl from poor personal choices and discussed reproductive health concerns openly is not an open pass to engage in sexual activity. It helps her navigate the complicated waters of adolescence and her emerging sexuality while avoiding disastrous events such as a serious STD or a teen pregnancy. According to the Centers for Disease Control, half of all unintended pregnancies in the US are are associated with poorer health and lower rates of educational and economic achievement. The outcomes are even worse if these pregnancies occur in the teen population. It is clear that education about and access to contraception actually empowers young women to make responsible choices. Abstinence-only education clearly does not make the grade when it comes to empowering women to help themselves. It simply shrouds them in the cloak of judgment and ignorance. We are in the 21st century. We just simply can’t afford to live in the dark ages any longer. Education about sexual health is not a license for promiscuity – it is a gateway to shedding light on a subject that young women must develop a working knowledge of along with skills for a healthy relationship, setting boundaries, avoiding situations that compromise ones safety and how to keep herself healthy so when she finds that man or partner who is truly deserving of her, she is emotionally healthy to engage in that relationship, start a family and positively parent her children when she is ready and able to do so. Internationally, girls’ education is thwarted by even simpler things – access to bathrooms and to menstrual pads. My colleague and friend Dr. Marcy Mulconry visited Africa last year and brought back many stories of girls dropping out of school due to lack of access to menstrual pads. Menstrual

pads!! Pads would even be used as commodity by their family to manipulate them. Unbelievable! This lack of access, keeps them from attending school regularly, keeping up with their lessons and making a better life for themselves. In India, in the village near my father’s farm, I saw girls dropping out of school due to lack of a bathroom. He was helping the village school with the nutritional sustenance he provided from his farm but the girls needed a simple, clean bathroom and access to hygiene products. When this was put in place, the girls stayed in school and many have gone on to gain higher educational degrees as a result. Even more tragically, millions of women every year lose their lives in childbirth, ectopic pregnancy or are sentenced to a tortured life with an obstetric fistula due to obstructed labor and lack of access to skilled surgeons/ obstetricians to perform a c-section. This is all due to lack of simple supplies, skilled attendants and lack of access to safe c-sections – so many of the things we take for granted here in Rochester and the US at large. Women in those settings aren’t being judged for whether they had “natural childbirth” or not, whether they got an epidural or c-section, they just want to remain alive at the end of the pregnancy. This is the reality of obstetrics, a reality that is all too forgotten here in our comfortable, privileged world of an established medical system in which maternal and infant deaths are rare due to the medical expertise that is readily available to us. Tragic obstetrical outcomes forever trap a woman in a hopeless life without prospects for selfimprovement, education or financial gain. It’s very humbling and saddening to hear their stories. Women’s empowerment is sexual health empowerment. Sexual health education and empowerment is women’s empowerment. If women get stuck in their first and second chakras by a negligence in responding and addressing these complexities, the ability for her energies to rise so that she may become fully actualized and manifesting all her gifts and sharing them with the world becomes sadly and gravely more bleak. If her reproductive needs are not met, she will not find her personal power, she will not find her voice, she will not manifest her creative ideas into physical reality. We cannot allow this to happen. Women are the keepers of the culture, we keep families together, we keep nations together. We are indeed most likely to maintain continuity generation to generation, socially, genetically and even financially. From building bathrooms and creating access to menstrual pads in developing nations to ensuring our girls here at home are having the pertinent conversations with adults they trust, the advancement of girls’ and women’s education and self-development and economic status is inextricably tied to their sexual/reproductive health. Thus, education and health are both interconnected keys to empowering women to live their highest lives of knowledge, self-improvement, financial advancement and progressing on the path of self-actualization. Judgement, fear, shame and ignorance have no place in the empowerment of women and girls when addressing educational and healthcare needs. Stop judging and start helping if you really want to do something of substance on the planet. Dr. Sraddha S. Prativadi is a board-certified obstetrician-gynecologist practicing at Madonna OBGYN, Invision Health in Brighton and is a clinical instructor at the University of Rochester Medical Center. Her life’s vision is to empower women and girls through health, healing, holism, self-exploration and life coaching, thereby empowering all of society.

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Nurturing the to Live a Healthy Lifestyle By Colleen Flaherty You are an extraordinary woman, blazing your own path. Or maybe you want to be. Looking at society as a whole, you are an outlier, special, shining bright. You’ve put your gifts into the world, you’re vulnerable and assertive. Especially as women, it’s in our ‘lizard brain’ to constantly serve others. It’s part of our DNA. When I, or anyone else, talks about masculine and feminine energy, we aren’t talking about gender. We’re talking about yin and yang, fire and water, birth and death, waxing and waning, doing and resting. These dual energies exist everywhere in humans (our bodies hold us upright because of opposing muscle groups) and planet Earth. It today’s world, more women are CEOs, senators, judges, police officers, business owners. They have tapped into their masculine energy to compete and thrive in ‘a man’s world’. They’ve made it with “anything you can do, I can do better” attitude. These warriors exhibit wounded feminine characteristics: powerful, self-reliant. She’s the only one who can get things done fast and perfect enough. She may consciously or unconsciously seek revenge against males in this patriarchal society. Fellow women warriors earn her respect while ‘weaker’ females are not tolerated. Warriors may be good wives and mothers, protecting and providing. Yet she expresses these roles from the stance of a warrior. What does this warrior-tude do to relationships, the natural cycle of events, women’s bodies? • Fifty percent or more marriages end in divorce. • Extremely high cases of uterine and breast cancers. • Wounded masculine and wounded feminine in both sexes that need healing. • Disassociation of body/mind connectivity. • A society that condemns breast feeding in public but loves lingerie models on billboards. • More women dying from cardiovascular disease. • A focus on material (external) possessions vs. expanding/enlightening self (internal).

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You’re probably wondering how all of this relates to fitness. Fitness is a relatively new concept created because women and men went from active lifestyles of farming to sedentary desk

jobs and hectic lifestyles. Through the years, and misguided food intake recommendations, today’s society consists of overweight humans who literally kill themselves with the choices they make. We all have choices on how we show up in life for ourselves first, others second. Yet self has been pushed down for the sake of others, especially in women with families and/or careers that demand their attention. Business women and moms alike feel these pressures to ‘be all they can be’ or be ‘Superwoman’. But who says that’s right? Or healthy? What if someone told you to be successful you need to: “Listen to your body (heart, gut)” “Be creative” “Nurture yourself” “Feel beautiful” Those feel better right? Reading them should ignite emotions within you! What are you feeling? “Some of us as women struggle to relax, be vulnerable and let a partner lead in an intimate relationship. We resist letting go of our masculine (doing) energy to simply be feminine and receive and trust. We struggle to be lovingly interdependent rather than fiercely independent.” - The Roar of the Wounded Feminine, Melanie Murphy Myer If you’re exhibiting warrior traits, and relate to Melanie’s quote above, what relationships of yours are being affected? How do you show up in important relationships? How do you WANT to feel? Before women can say yes to joining a gym or hiring a personal trainer, collectively we must heal. No more, ‘me against the world’ or ‘do it myself’. We all need teachers, coaches or guides. One must see the value in what coaches offer while understanding that they’re worth the coach’s time, energy and knowledge. Think about hiring an attorney. We hire them for their expertise because we see the value of their knowledge to help us achieve results. To shine our brightest, we need guidance. That help will never come if we haven’t been taught self-worth, body love, intuitive listening, or body trust. And as a culture that has placed so much emphasis on what we have on the outside (material possessions) and masculine energies, the feminine has been suppressed. Warrior women do not know how to give themselves permission to nurture, meditate, let go and love themselves. So how are they supposed to choose a healthy body, heart, mind, spirit? They can’t.

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By David Jenkins I refer to myself as a lifelong student. Why do I say that? It’s because I believe one should never stop learning. Education is important. I know, you’re saying that you spent all that time in school so now it’s time to work and enjoy life, right? Let me share some ideas with you as to why you should continue to learn because the benefits definitely outweigh the negatives!

on others, and you stand a greater chance of prevailing against an attacker. In an attack, you are expending an amazing amount of energy. Various self defense skills such as kicks, punches, twists and turns can help increase your flexibility, strength and stamina. You might be a bit sore after your first couple of classes, but the more you attend, the stronger and more fit you become.

In my field, everything evolves. I am a self defense/personal protection/firearms safety instructor and I am continually looking for more training to educate myself and to help my students learn. If I can find a better technique or a more effective teaching method, then I’ve gained a lot. When I can bring what I’ve learned to my classes and students, they benefit as well. I read articles and blogs, watch videos, attend training whenever possible, as well as work with people closely to understand the nature of self defense.

Social interaction. Attending a class will offer you the chance to meet other like-minded people to share and learn from. You will meet people from different ages, backgrounds, career types, and more. This also gives you the chance to make new friends and connections!

There are many reasons that you should learn how to protect yourself. Let’s start with some of the obvious ones first. Safety, confidence, self reliance, fitness, and social interaction.

Safety. It sounds so simple, right? It could be. Just by attending a self defense class or lecture, you are increasing your awareness level. You will also learn that you’re capable of protecting yourself, how to recognize a potential threat, how to minimize risk or avoid a threat, you’ll learn how attackers profile their victims, and how to stop an attacker so that you can get away safely.

Confidence. Training helps you become more confident

in yourself and it makes you more aware of your surroundings, which can help you to be prepared for the unexpected at any time. Many women have finished a self defense or firearms class and stated they now feel more alive and empowered!

Self reliance. Realizing that you are the only person responsible for your safety and the safety of your loved ones opens the door to a new sense of purpose. I’ve interviewed a number of victims of a crime of some sort and one of the common questions was: “Why didn’t the police stop them?” Unfortunately, law enforcement is reactionary by nature. The police cannot be there, everywhere, all the time, to protect you from becoming a victim. It is really up to you to ensure your safety because you are the one who will be there in that situation. Taking a self defense course will show you how to be an advocate for yourself and avoid depending on someone else to keep you safe. Fitness. Interestingly enough, fitness can be one of the more important key components to self defense. I’m not referring to just having the strength to fight someone. If you are fit, your chances of everyday injury are lessened, you feel better, you are less dependent

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Education Now that I’ve hopefully talked you into coming to a self defense class, you’re probably wondering: “What will I learn?” That’s easy, as I’m going to give you a few tips – just because you made it this far in the article! In the course, you will learn easy-to-use techniques that are intuitive in nature. That means you already know what to do but you don’t realize it yet. Think of a time when you got startled, what did you do? Why, you brought your hands up in front of your face without really thinking of it, didn’t you? That’s just one of the many reflexive skills we use to show you how to be safe. Here are some other tips for you to try. Tip one: look around you and observe. You don’t need to study everything, just pick your head up a bit and look around. Look at people. Look at the area you’re in. You will be surprised when you start to notice more and more around you! Tip two: Don’t be afraid to be assertive. We are all conditioned to be nice, but sometimes it’s OK not to be nice. You don’t have to make everyone like you. If someone is making you uncomfortable or is doing something that you feel is wrong or potentially harmful, especially to you, then say or do something about it. What can you do to get going? Come to a class at Rochester Personal Defense, LLC and learn what you are capable of and what you can do to be safe and secure in your life. Start or continue your self-defense education now and you’ll become confident with the knowledge and skills for your own self protection. Dave Jenkins is the Founder and Primary Instructor for Rochester Personal Defense, LLC, based here in Rochester. Contact him through www.safeinrochester.com or at 585-406-6578 to see what programs he offers and how you can get involved.

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Whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Menopause Got to Do With It? By James Woods, MD

By James Woods, MD

You may be unaware that your bones are engaging in a balanced, continuous process of remodeling; laying down new bone while eliminating old bone. So why is this process jeopardized in menopause? Bone is produced by osteoblasts. These cells lay down a material called osteoid, composed of a collagen in a lattice frame, and fill it in with inorganic material called hydroxyapatite, a complex molecule of calcium and phosphate written as Ca10(PO4)6(OH)2. Hydroxyapatite gives bone its strength and resiliency, and since it contains 99% of the bodyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s calcium, it serves as the main reservoir when calcium is needed for other bodily processes. Bone is broken down by osteoclasts, which are derived from stem cells in the blood. Osteoclasts are activated by a group of inflammatory cytokines that stimulate osteoclast activity. When osteoclasts attach to bone matrix, their edges release acid and other substances to dissolve hydroxyapatite, thus releasing calcium, other minerals, and protein materials into the blood and then urine. Bone turnover is regulated by several factors. Hydroxyapatite requires the availability of calcium which is regulated by vitamin D. Vitamin D3 (called calciferol) is synthesized in the skin by ultraviolet B light. Vitamin D2 is produced by dietary plants. Both are converted in the liver to 1,25 dihydroxy vitamin D, which controls calcium absorption in the small intestine. Parathyroid hormone (PTH) has little effect on intestinal calcium absorption but stimulates osteoblast activity and promotes calcium reabsorption in the kidney. Bone strength changes over the lifetime. Peak bone strength occurs between the ages of 20 to 30. During menopause, bone loss accelerates in the three years before and the three years after the final menstrual period at a rate of 2% per year, then slows to 1% a year afterward. Bone health is measured by Bone Mineral Density (BMD), determined by Dual Energy X-Ray Absorptiometry (DXA Scan). By this technique, two X-ray beams of different energy are aimed at bone. The results, presented as a T Score, are compared to that of the average race-matched young normal female. Measurements of -1 to -2.5 Standard Deviations (SD) below peak normal values of the lumbar spine, or femur neck (hip) reflect low bone density (osteopenia) and -2.5 SD or greater reflect significant bone loss (osteoporosis). For white women over 50 years, 13% to 18% have osteoporosis of the hip, and 30% to 50% have osteopenia. By age 80, over 50% are likely to exhibit osteoporosis, making hip fractures, with a 25% mortality rate in the first year, a serious risk. Age, a family history of osteoporosis, smoking, malnutrition, low estrogen levels, and chronic disease are all risk factors for bone loss. Because natural estradiol inhibits cytokine-induced osteoclast activity, the expected decline of estradiol in menopause contributes to the risk of osteoporosis. Current daily recommendations for menopausal women who are not on estrogen therapy are 1200 to 1500 mg calcium and 800 IU of vitamin D. Other preventive measures include weight-bearing exercises, fall prevention strategies like Tai Chi, and hormone therapy that includes estrogen. All can decrease a womanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s risk of bone loss.

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James Woods MD is a practicing gynecologist and a regular contributor to Rochester Woman Magazine. For questions regarding this menopause minute or other menopausal issues you would like to see addressed in future editions, please call him at (585) 271-7800 or email him at james_woods@urmc.rochester.edu.

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The Brickyard is not a specialized fitness program, but a combination of complimentary classes that are meant to optimize cardiovascular and respiratory endurance, stamina, strength, flexibility, power, agility and balance. We use the dynamic, explosive movements of the Kettlebell and the muscle lengthening movement of TRX separately and together. We utilize the boot camp mentality in Arsenal to keep your heart rate up and help take you

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to another level of fitness. Classes like Core University allow for every one to work together doing the same workout, but gear it to their own level of fitness. Unlike other studio style workouts, the Brickyard offers a multitude of classes to make it usable to all members from all walks of like. It is able to challenge the most fit athlete as well as take a less conditioned older adult and bring them back to fitness

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I have never been a part of something so big. I watch daily as new members meekly come in to try a class. Stand in the back. Grab the small weights, just hoping to make it through with out hyperventilating. I have watched as these members grow stronger physically and mentally as they show up smiling, excited for the daily challenge. As they grab a heavier Kettlebell to press into the air or as they take on the challenge of unbroken reps for that minute. On a daily basis I am amazed by the progress these women make because they have found a safe, fun place to be consistent. A place where everyone is welcomed to do their best-no matter what their best looks like. A place where safety comes first and heavy lifting is a way of life. Where muscles are made and friendships blossom.

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It is apparent when first talking to Julie Albert that she has a way about her. It’s in her voice. A calming and welcoming tone that puts you at ease and inspires conversation. Her demeanor is a natural talent, refined by years of experience working with others that are at times in need of an understanding voice. In what she describes as working with women who are often in their most vulnerable state, Albert has modeled her career after caring for, teaching and advocating for women’s health and her accomplishments have not gone unnoticed. Albert was one of 50 women honored with Purdue University’s Golden Graduate Award for Nursing. The award, a nod to the program’s 50 most outstanding alumni throughout its 50 years highlights the exemplary and varied works of each of its recipients and while it isn’t the first recognition of Albert’s career, also receiving the young alumni award from Purdue in 2010, it is one she says has touched her greatly. “It’s been one of the biggest honors” said Albert. “To be a part of the 50 women chosen meant a lot”. Albert, who first found her love for nursing though a high school volunteer program that allowed her to work in the maternity ward of her hometown hospital, has used her direction and dedication as a starting line for her career, something she says is far from finished. “I was awestruck by the difference the nurses made. I would go back beyond the required hours” she explained “Because of that I had already had my vision of what I wanted to do.” Over the years Albert began working with what are classified as high risk patients, earning certification in advanced fetal monitoring and inpatient obstetrical nursing. She also utilizes her caring demeanor as a sexual assault nurse examiner something that in itself is demanding and rewarding. As the youngest member of the Nurse Practitioner Association of Greater Rochester, Albert cannot stress enough the importance of education when it comes to passing on knowledge and skills to new nursing students. “I feel that it is so important to give back to the younger generations…there is a responsibility to further our knowledge base on how to care for women,” explained Albert. Albert who is a clinical faculty preceptor not only for the University of Rochester but St. John Fisher college nurse practitioner program also walks the path she preaches as she hopes to one day obtain her doctoral degree in nursing. With nursing’s job outlook expected to grow by 19 percent in the United States according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the need for veteran nursing practitioners passing on their advice to those pursuing the career is a viable resource. “It never stops for me…my husband always asks jokingly, will it ever be enough?” said Albert. “I’d like to find a way to do it all.” (continued on page 48) rochesterWomanMag.com :: september 2014

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“If I am making a difference then I am happy.” Vicki Bellis-Brouk

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The seed of education was planted at an early age for Vicki BellisBrouk. As a young girl, growing up in Bloomfield, NY, she recalls that many adults in her life were educators. While she does not remember the specific moment she knew she wanted to be a teacher, BellisBrouk specifically remembers one aunt, who inspired her to read. Bellis-Brouk became such a passionate reader that in first grade she tied with another student in a book reading challenge. This strong passion for learning, together with the ever-present influence of teachers in her life, inspired her to go on to college, the first in her family, and become an educator. During her freshman year at Hobart and William Smith Colleges, Bellis-Brouk came up with an idea to volunteer in first grade classrooms within the Rochester City School district. Through this experience, she recognized her ability to make an impact in children’s lives. Even though one school administrator tried to talk Bellis-Brouk out of becoming a teacher, she landed a teaching position right after graduation and never looked back. While Bellis-Brouk spent the majority of her teaching career within the Rochester City School district, it was a teaching assignment in Long Island City, Queens that opened her eyes to the positive impact she could have on inner-city students. After 18 years in the classroom, Bellis-Brouk spent the next 8 years in various administrator positions. There was something missing; she loved and missed teaching kids. “When you enjoy teaching, you motivate kids” she shares. When her last administrator position ended, Bellis-Brouk made the decision to go back into teaching. As a special educator, certified in Spanish, she decided to change direction and accepted a position teaching Spanish at Hillside Family of Agencies. In this role, she was able to create the curriculum. The experience helped her realize that as a tutor she could design programs herself, without some of the constraints of teaching in a traditional classroom. “I’m much more relaxed and enjoy teaching when I’m working with these type of groups than when I’m leading in the classroom” Bellis-Brouk reflects. Through the organization Alternatives Unlimited Bellis-Brouk met Erica Bellios-Pacer. Realizing that they both shared a deep love of teaching, they formed an immediate connection. A short time later, Bellis-Brouk joined Bellios-Pacer at Falls View Academy. For the past 5 years, they have worked together positively impacting the community through tutoring and engagement with local organizations, including GED (now called TASC) programs at both Maplewood and Lyell Avenue Libraries. Over the years, Bellis-Brouk has taught in urban, suburban and rural school districts “This is all part of my own plan. I am a teacher; I can do so many different things. I have been at intermediate school, I’ve been at elementary school, I’ve been at Hillside, and in Charter Schools. (continued on page 48)

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“Even though I wouldn’t finish fast, I’d finish, and that’s the goal.” LaShunda Leslie-Smith

LMSW, CEO and President of Young Women’s College Prep By Ashley Cooper | Photo by Stephen Reardon

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” –Maya Angelou To say that I was elated upon being granted the remarkable opportunity to interview LaShunda Leslie-Smith would be an indubitable understatement. I had been closely following the development of the Young Women’s College Preparatory Academy (YWCP) after its Rochester debut in Fall of 2012. As of November 2013, Leslie-Smith, author and commended public speaker, is currently serving as President and CEO of YWCP, the Flower City’s first all-girls public school, a board decision that could not have proven to be more beneficial for the betterment of the Institution and its ambitious young students. When YWCP co-founder Laura Rebell-Gross attended a lecture given by Leslie-Smith last fall on the future of women and girls in Rochester, she was moved to the point of suggesting LeslieSmith as her immediate replacement. Rebell-Gross had been in the midst of transferring into the role of Director of Girls’ Education for the Young Women’s Leadership Schools in New York City and approached Leslie-Smith directly. Leslie-Smith embarked on this rigorous application process and stood out among one-hundred potential candidates as the future leader of YWCP. “She didn’t know me from Adam,” shares Leslie-Smith, whose sequence of life events have doubtlessly prepared her for a time such as this. “This has been amazing! It is my dream job—a dream that I didn’t even know that I had. I find it so thrilling that even though I had gone through a number of hard times in my life, every single stepping stone, every pathway has led me to where I am today. It reminds me that we each have a purpose in life and if we diligently seek out that purpose, it will present itself to us in its own timing. I truly believe that Laura being there at that moment in time and me being willing to speak to that particular group was just one of those steps that I took in search of my purpose.” Leslie-Smith, a Rochester native, attended multiple grammar and high schools in the area—a unique experience that she claims had a profound impact on her formative years. By the time Leslie-Smith was a freshman in high school, she had given birth to her first child. Higher education was not even a notion entertained as the young mother struggled to support herself and her infant son. “At some point during my high school career, I decided that I could not tell my child that he needs to finish high school if I didn’t experience that first,” she recalls. While working a tedious summer job, LeslieSmith envied her co-workers who had the opportunity to leave when college courses resumed in the fall. A friend and workmate close in age to Leslie-Smith attempted to console her by assuring, “Don’t worry, LaShunda. In two years, we’ll be leaving for college.” “I think that was the first time anyone had even offered that as a possibility,” shares Leslie-Smith. “It stuck with me forever. I think that’s why I am so passionate about what I do for a career because I know the importance of planting one small seed in the life of a young person.” (continued on page 48)

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Julie Albert

Vicki Bellis-Brouk

LaShunda Leslie-Smith

Nursing is seen as one of those careers that lead you away from patients the higher up the ladder you move, but Albert is sure that that path is not for her and stresses involvement as a key factor in nursing. It is obvious from her passion and dedication that working one-onone with the women she represents is her path.

I’ve been everywhere and have learned so much. One of the things that I’ve learned about kids is that they are the same, no matter where I go. Kids are the same.” Her enthusiasm is undeniable.

When the concept of college became less of a pipe dream and more of a way to provide a better life for her and her son, Leslie-Smith was determined to overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles. In spite of her disadvantages and in spite of the status quo, Leslie-Smith not only attended college at St. John Fisher, but fell in love with the realm of academia. She attained a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology and subsequently, a Master of Science in Social Work through a collaborative program at SUNY Brockport and Nazareth College. Additionally, she acquired a certificate in nonprofit leadership from Roberts Wesleyan College and has earned approximately twenty-eight credits toward a doctorate degree from Capella University.

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“I know what I do makes a difference…that gives me no anxiety and there is no ticking clock, “she explains. “I’m very blessed to be so in love with what I do.” It is obvious that Albert is a leader in her field and continues to show what it means to be passionate about not only your career but the people you represent. Purdue University also sees this passion in one of its star alumni. “I will never be satisfied. But in a good way” explains Albert. Clearly, this champion for women’s health is going to continue to make great strides in the field of nursing.

Bellis-Brouk gets to know her students; she likes the chance to have one-on-one time with them. She uses these opportunities to coach, more than just teaching the topic, she strives to teach the whole person. She is passionate about teaching and it shows “I have to do what makes me happy. It’s more than just going to a job; you can go to a job and you have everything hunky-dory and perfect, but I need to know that I am making a difference. If I am making a difference then I am happy.” In the summer, Bellis-Brouk spends July coordinating a program, through Global Friendships, that places Spanish students. She also tutors and works with a day camp for refugees in the Maplewood area of Rochester. What’s next? Bellis-Brouk would like to spend more time supporting the growing Mexican refugee population and down the road she sees herself working at a Community College. Through all of her experiences, one thing is evident; Bellis-Brouk is living the dream. She knows the heartbeat of teaching and synchs it with her own heartbeat in order to improve the community one student at a time.

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With an altruistic desire to help others, LeslieSmith enjoyed a host of successful careers in the way of human services. Her vocational experiences took place in the likes of DePaul, Hillside Family of Agencies and CASA of Rochester/Monroe County. She even launched a non-profit called, “Successful Pathways” which has since merged with a national organization to provide opportunities for teenaged mothers. For Leslie-Smith, leading YWCP means creating access and opportunities.“I have heard that you should do something every single day that scares you in order to really fulfill the vision and purpose for your life,” says Leslie-Smith.

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