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September 2015

Troubleshoot your teen How to solve 9 typical teenage problems ( and keep the peace )

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CONTENTS

Mumtrepreneurs

What’s on Dates for your diary.

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News What’s happening on the parent scene.

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Teen swag Understated is overrated.

Family matters 18

Illustrated by Kelvin Lau

Show me the mummy!

Mumtrepreneurs who are bringing home the bacon.

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Really useful

Troubleshoot your teen Reprogramme any troublesome teen with some of our helpful tips.

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Talking boats and bling with Emma Sherrard Matthew, Asia-Pacific CEO of Quintessentially.

School’s In 28

Discovery Bay International School We take a tour of D’Bay’s international school and chat to Head of School Paul Tough.

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Business studies

Money & Me

Editor’s letter

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The Mummy

Stuff to do

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Marketplace

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The Daddy

Ruggerats

Teen swag

Regulars 2

We look to the future with ESF CEO Belinda Greer.

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Try these rugby clubs for girls and boys.

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Cello, world!

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Travel

We strike a chord with a talented young cellist.

China’s new Club Med in Dong’ao.

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Peak performance Rory Mackay hikes Hong Kong’s second highest peak.

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Club Med in China

Children’s paper lantern-making workshops

Let’s eat 54

Cuisine with character Themed restaurants for kids.

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Discovery Bay International School

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Editorial

editorial@fastmedia.com.hk Senior Consultant Editor Jane Steer Editor Callum Wiggins Editor Shreena Patel

Ok, so our intern picked out these cute earrings for teens, but I still love them too. p,14.

Digital Editor Annie Wong Consulting Editor Adele Brunner

Design

kelvin@fastmedia.com.hk Art Director Kelvin Lau Senior Graphic Designer Jack Yip

Sales & Marketing

ads@fastmedia.com.hk Head of Sales & Marketing Karman So

Sales Manager Oliver Simons

Sales & Marketing Executive Alastair Grigg

Sales & Marketing Executive John Lee

Accounts Manager Connie Lam connie@fastmedia.com.hk

Office Security Cat the dog

Peace Keepers Fish & Chips

Publisher Tom Hilditch tom@fastmedia.com.hk

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mells like teen spirit...

I’m dreading the day - roughly 12 years from now - when my lovely little baby will transform into an eyerolling, door-slamming, boundary-testing teenager. They say your teenage years are the best of your life, but I for one remember them pretty differently. The angst .The drama. The EMBARRASSMENT. With so many children starting “big school” this September, there’s no better time to dedicate our cover story to teenagers.

Specifically, how to deal with any hiccup they throw your way.

From loser boyfriends to questionable hygiene habits, we’ve put together a few handy tips, courtesy of local experts well-versed in dealing with teens. (p.22).

It’s been a few years since I’ve had any idea what all the cool kids are wearing these days, but our interns assure us that the swag - am I using that right? - we’ve compiled on p.14 is guaranteed to impress any teenager. Looks like no one is getting their fashion tips from Eminem anymore. Thank goodness.

Sadly, the summer holidays are fading into memory, meaning that it’s high time to start dreaming about your next travel plans.

You may be surprised at the number of stress-free getaways not far from your doorstep; we’ve checked out one just an islandhop away. Flip to p.46 to see our review of Club Med’s newest all-inclusive resort at Dong’ao, China.

With the worst of the summer heat behind us, Hong Kong gradually becomes open to exploration again. We hope you find plenty of suggestions to keep the whole family occupied and we wish you the best of luck with those terrible teen years. Or, you know, like, whateva…

Sarah Fung

Don’t miss the adorable Charlie & Lola when they come to town! p,8.

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PEEK-ABOO! Essential dates, news and stuff you need this month.

Ding Ding If your teen just loves taking public transport - or simply likes to be noticed - they will snap up ZIZTAR’s range of Hong Kong transport inspired clothes. Founded by two sisters, Mabel and Zuice, ZIZTAR features fashion-forward designs for young women who love to make a statement. Influenced by time spent living in both Hong Kong and the UK, the sisters hope to combine their unique and very different talents to create aesthetically eye-catching pieces. We love this bright and colourful nod to Hong Kong’s heritage featuring our beloved trams. www.ziztar.com

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SEP 3-26 The 9th Annual Hong Kong International Comedy Festival Rib-tickling entertainment from some of the funniest comedians out there. Tickets available at www.takeoutcomedy.com. Tickets for Finals on September 26 can be purchased from www.hkticketing.com. Event information from www.hkcomedyfestival.com, 6220 4436.

SEP 3 Public Holiday

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SEP 4 - 6 Pinocchio

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The fibbing puppet is brought to life by the Hong Kong Ballet.

September 4 (evening show only); September 5 - 6 (afternoon and evening shows). Grand Theatre, Hong Kong Cultural Centre. Tickets $140-$1,000 from URBTIX, www.hkballet.com, 3761 6661.

Public holiday to celebrate the 70th anniversary of Japan’s surrender in Hong Kong.

SEP 4 - 6 Shakespear’s Globe Hamlet Performing Hamlet in every country on Earth, this is Hong Kong’s turn. Lyric Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $395 - $795 from www.hkticketing.com.

Don’t miss...

SEP 13 Discovery Bay Sunday Market Artists, makers, designers and bakers sell their wares. Free, 11am6pm. Discovery Bay Plaza, www. handmadehongkong.com.

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SEP 16 - 20 La Soirée A cocktail of cabaret, new burlesque and circus sideshow hits Hong Kong. Lyric Theatre, Academy for Performing Arts, 1 Gloucester Rd., Wan Chai. Tickets $395-$1,095 from www.hkticketing.com, 3759 7617.

SEP 16 - 20 Louis Pearl The Amazing Bubble Man Art, magic, science and bubbles. Drama Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $395 - $550 from www.hkticketing. com, 3128 8288.

Kid columnists

SEP 6 Butchers Club Southside Market Long Lunch

What would you buy if you had $100?

Join the Butcher’s Club as the Southside Market Long Lunch restarts. Unlimited food, drink, music and entertainment from noon to 5pm. Tickets $550 (free for under-eights) from www.butchersclub.com.hk. The Butchers Club Deli Rooftop, 16/F, 18 Wong Chuk Hang Road, Aberdeen, 2884 0768.

Hedia, age 7

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If I had $100 I would use 30% for my favourite charity donation, another 30% to save up for my university fund and the rest to buy “My Little Pony” series toys. My favourite charities are Kids4Kids and Orbis because mommy said I have a pair of beautiful big round eyes, and I should help those who may not be as lucky as me.

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SEP 19 Family yoga

SEP 15 - 20 The Naked Magicians

Miles ELP International Academy will collaborate with Pure South to hold a free family yoga session. Each child under six must be accompanied by at least one adult. 5-6pm, Rooftop, The Pulse, 28 Beach Road, Repulse Bay. To sign up, email info@miacademy.com.hk.

Full-frontal illusions - not quite as saucy as it sounds. Drama Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $395 - $595 at www. hkticketing.com, 3128 8288.

Avril, age 10 If I had $100 I would buy the newest My Little Pony toy and buy new books.

Somen, age 11 I would save some of the money and then go see the new Fantastic Four movie.

And buy new Nike sneakers.

Sarthak, age 14 SEP 13 MTR Race Walk Watch top race walkers from across the world compete for the Men’s and Women’s titles and cheer on any family and friends who have also signed up to participate. Funds raised will go to the Hospital Authority’s Health InfoWorld to support its work on enhancing disease management skills. 7:20am - 2:45pm, Chater Road, Central.

SEP 19 Celebrate Mid-Autumn festival at EtonHouse Head to EtonHouse for a morning of mooncake making, lantern painting, tea appreciation and music. Free entry. 10am1pm, 102, 1F Red Hill Plaza, 3 Red Hill Road, Tai Tam, 2353 5223, www.etonhouse.com.hk.

SEP 27 Moon Festival Feast on moon cakes and look out for the colourful lanterns. Head to Tai Hang to watch the traditional Fire Dragon Dance, which has been performed there for around 100 years. September 26 & 27 (8:15-10:30pm); September 28 (8:1510pm), Tai Hang, Causeway Bay. For enquiries, call 2577 2649, www.taihangfiredragon.hk

I would probably give it to a charity or buy a few good books to read.

Kaito, age 10 I would buy a lot of popcorn to eat. I would buy both sweet and salty kinds.

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OCT 12 Beyond the Barricade A medley of songs from Les Mis, Phantom, Jersey Boys and more. Lyric Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $445-$895 from www.hkticketing.com, 3128 8288.

OCT 16 - 18 What the Ladybird Heard Based on the award-winning picture book by Julia Donaldson and Lydia Monks, watch the colourful farmyard adventure come to life. Drama Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $195 - $435 from www.hkticketing.com, 3128 8288.

OCT 30 - NOV 1 Hairy Maclary’s Cat Tales

OCT 9 - 11 Charlie & Lola’s Best Bestest Play

One fo r the k ids

Join Charlie and Lola and all their friends in the hit show featuring puppetry, visual effects and lots of audience interaction. Drama Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $225 - $435 from www.hkticketing.com, 3128 8288.

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Catch up with Hairy Maclary and pals along with their feline friends with fun storytelling and catchy songs.

Drama Theatre, HKAPA, Wan Chai. Tickets $195 - $435 from www.hkticketing.com, 3128 8288.

NOV 24 Elton John: All the Hits Join the Rocket Man for a romp down memory lane.

HKCEC, Wan Chai. Tickets $488-$2,388 from www.hkticketing.com, 3128 8288.

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NEWS

miniBOUNCE BOUNCE, Hong Kong’s latest indoor trampoline playground, has launched a new programme that will have little ones quite literally bouncing off the walls. miniBOUNCE, designed for children aged between three and five, uses games and exercises to improve coordination, strength, balance and agility as well as to have fun and make friends. BOUNCE Experience Manager Dom Browne says, “From a health and well being point of view, the G-Force exerted on the body is known to have a detoxification effect on the body’s organs while regular light physical exercise can enhance bonedensity among children.” Weekly sessions are run by trained coaches and focus on the development of different core skills; choose from four available time slots per week. Single sessions cost $200 per child or $1,600 for a block of 10 (12 month validity and interchangeable between children). 10am 11am every Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday and Sunday. EMAX Centre, Kowloon Bay, 2556 9555, www.bounceinc.com.hk.

Mid-Autumn Celebrations Hear the story of how the Mid-Autumn Festival began through the ancient Chinese folktale of the archer Hou Yi and his beloved wife Chang’E. The story will be narrated in both English and Chinese and the music will feature Chinese traditional instruments including the erhu, dizi and guzheng. Children’s paper lantern-making workshops will take place an hour before each performance. Maxim’s will provide the mooncakes. September 20 4:00 pm and 5:30 pm. The Hong Kong Jockey Club Hall, Asia Society, Hong Kong Center, 9 Justice Drive, Admiralty, www.pphk.org.

Sport4Kids Exercising vicariously through your children?

Time to get moving with Sport4Kids, who are offering parents a chance to work out with one of their certified personal trainers while your little one enjoys a Mini-Sports class run by the Sport4Kids team. A great way to get fit and meet other parents while your toddler has fun trying out a range of sports - from tennis to basketball - that will enhance their motor, coordination and social skills. Available for parents with children aged 18 monthsto four years at the following locations: Parkview (indoor and covered facilities), Sun Yat Sen Park, Hong Kong Park and Sai Kung, Wai Man Road Playground. Children under two must be accompanied by an adult. To book email info@sport4kids.hk, 2773 1650, www.sport4kids.hk.

Sesame Kitchen moves to Kennedy Town

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Eating well doesn’t have to be boring.

Chef Shima at Sesame Kitchen runs a variety of cooking classes teaching how to make healthy meals at home. The new location in Kennedy Town will offer classes including fermented and raw foods, baby food, toddler meals and gluten free cooking. Parents and children can also participate together to make their own Miso or chocolate. If you don’t have time to try the recipes at home, check out Sesame Kitchen’s online shop, FoodCraft, which sells an array of organic foods made daily in their kitchen, from coconut yoghurt to low-carb walnut and pesto ‘zoodles’ (zucchini noodles). Delivery is free for orders over $500. For customers picking up their orders, enter “pickup” at the online checkout to get 10 percent off. Flat A, 21F Yiuga Factory Building, No.62 Victoria Road, Kennedy Town, 6771 3343, www.sesamekitchen.com.

Theatre try-outs at Faust

NEWS

Faust’s 17th season will commence on September 17. Before then, the international youth theatre group will be hosting free trial drama workshops for children aged three and above on September 5 and 6. Faust’s theatre workshops will provide any young thespian with a thorough grounding in the theatre world and workshops take place in locations across Hong Kong at throughout the week including new locations in Pok Fu Lam and Discovery Bay. To secure a place at the trial workshop in Sheung Wan parents can call 2547 9114 or email info@faustworld.com

Heifer ‘Race to Feed 2015’ opens for enrollment The annual fund raising event returns on Sunday October 25 at the Hong Kong Science & Technology Park, Pak Shek Kok Promenade. This year’s event includes an individual 10k run and a 3k family fun run, as well as a new relay race for corporates and a Sunday market. Funds raised will be donated to Heifer Hong Kong to support its poverty alleviation project in Yunnan, China. The project helps impoverished farmers become self-reliant, typically by gifting livestock and providing practical training to help families become self-sustainable. Since launching in 2006, Heifer ‘Race to Feed’ has raised over $42 million. Even if you’re not aiming for a top-three place, the ‘Top Fundraiser Award’ or the ‘Heifer Creative Style Award’ will still be up for grabs. Sign up at www.racetofeed.org.hk or by post before September 12 to enjoy the special early-bird offer.

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Venetian Macao Open One of the highlights of the Asian Tour, the Venetian Macao Open returns to the Macau Golf & Country Club in October. One lucky reader will win one night’s accommodation at Holiday Inn Cotai, a pair of return ferry tickets from Hong Kong, a pair of VIP hospitality passes and signed merchandise to be picked up at the tournament.

Macau Golf & Country Club October 15 - 18. www.thevenetianmacaoopen.com Deadline: Sep 30

Hotshot One of Repulse Bay’s newest restaurants, Hotshot, pays tribute to the Californian lifestyle of the 1960s. Opened

by Le Comptoir, the group behind Bibo, TRi and The Ocean, the design welcomes a revival of the fun and casual “come as you are” philosophy. We’ve got a $1,000 dining voucher to send some cool Californian vibes your way.

G/F, Shop 114-115, The Pulse, 28 Beach Road, Repulse Bay, www.hotshot.hk, 2515 1661 Deadline: Sep 30

Sport4Kids Sport4Kids are experts in getting young children into sport. This month Sport4Kids are giving away an adult & toddler (18months- two years) “Fitness 4 the Family” package valued at $2,000. This is a fantastic way for parents to get fit and meet other like minded parents, whilst their toddler receives a funfilled introduction to a range of sports and games. www.sport4kids.hk Deadline: Sep 23

Asia Contemporary Art Show The Asia Contemporary Art Show, featuring thousands of artworks from Asia and around the world, is back in Hong Kong between October 8 and 11. We have six pairs of tickets to giveaway so you can browse and buy original paintings and limited editions from some of the world’s most interesting and promising artists.

October 8 - 11 Conrad Hong Kong www.asiacontemporaryart.com Deadline: Sep 25

To enter, click the Giveaways tab on our website, www.expat-parent.com

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STUFF

Pineapple statement necklace $825 from FABcessories, www.fabcessories.com.

Grape earrings $450 from FABcessories, Unit H312, 3/F Block B, PMQ, 35 Aberdeen Street, Central, 2155 4008, www.fabcessories.com.

#Swag

Understated is overrated.

ASH ‘Jordy’ holographic leather slip-ons $1,700 from Lane Crawford, Podium 3, IFC Mall, 8 Finance street, Central, 2118 2288, www.lanecrawford.com.

Baby pencil skirt $355 from ZIZTAR, www.ziztar.com

Splattered backpack

by Mi-Pac $429 from Zalora, www.zalora.com.hk

Mini satchel bag $309 from River Island, www.riverisland.com

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Skullmate funk logo cap $299 from Zalora, www.zalora.com.hk

STUFF

Rocky metal ring $302 from ZIZTAR, www.ziztar.com

SPRZ NY graphic t-shirt A. Warhol $129 from UNIQLO, G/F Lee Theatre, Causeway Bay, 2577 5811, www.uniqlo.com.hk

Waffelraffel watch $1,440 from Swatch, GF, 2 Kai Chiu Road, Causeway Bay, www.swatch.com

Graphite foliage graphic print t-shirt $159 from Zalora, www.zalora.com.hk

NO.LIFE HONG KONG CITY snapback cap $230 from Zalora, www.zalora.com.hk

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COLUMN

As her daughter turns one, Sarah Fung shares some hard-earned wisdom from the past 12 months.

I

’ve been a mum for a year now, and it goes without saying that it has been the steepest learning curve I have ever experienced. In the interests of helping other mums avoid some of the mistakes I’ve made, here are some of the things I’ve learned.

Babies can sense when you’re desperate for them to sleep.

Forget transcendental meditation, mindfulness of whatever - if you want to hone your ability to empty your mind of negative thoughts and just “be” - all you have to do is put a baby to bed every night for a year. The second the thought pops into your head that you have somewhere else to be and wouldn’t it be nice if they fell asleep quickly tonight, mark my words, their little eyes will snap wide awake and you can add another 30 minutes to the bedtime routine. Same goes for trying to check your phone. I don’t know why sitting in the dark holding a baby requires your full attention, but it does.

Embrace the ready-made purees.

Weaning is a huge pain in the bum, and honestly, for the first few months 90 percent of whatever you try to feed them is going to end up on the floor.

Puree jars or pouches are - can you believe it - designed to taste good for babies, and will save you a lot of heartache. You can take my word for it now, or wait until you’ve scraped the third batch of homemade puree off your wall.

I don’t know why sitting in the dark holding a baby requires your full attention, but it does.

Leave the baby room decoration ideas on Pinterest.

My baby is one and she’s still in our bedroom, which we now refer to as “her bedroom”. The carefully chosen wall stickers and candy-striped curtains I had run up are serving as decoration to our all-in-one store room, laundry room and crap repository. Oh well.

Don’t spend ages choosing a stroller.

We must have spent hours looking at stroller review websites and deciding which one was best suited to our needs. And you know what? We barely use it. In fact, in Hong Kong I’d go so far as to say that you’re better off carrying your baby in an Ergo or similar for the first year, and then buying a light, inexpensive model once they’re one. Do not get a Stokke - they are utterly ludicrous.

Genki Sushi is a great family-friendly restaurant.

If you need a quick bite with baby in tow, good old Genki is a surprisingly awesome option. It has high chairs, all the crockery is plastic, the food is served cold so it’s not going to burn little mouths, and there’s a regular conveyor belt of grub so you can eat and run. Your baby can eat soy beans and cucumber rolls, and you don’t have to bolt down yet another overpriced sandwich from one of the big restaurant groups. The only drawback is that Genki doesn’t serve wine.

Always, ALWAYS bring a spare set of clothes.

Because you know the day you decide to leave the spare outfit at home, they’ll do the mother of all explosive poos in a nice restaurant and you’ll have to wrap them up in a table napkin.

Writer and editor Sarah Fung is the first-time mum to a baby girl. She blogs about parenthood at babypakchoi.tumblr.com, twitter @sarahefung.

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MEET THE PARENTS

Balancing Act Kate Springer speaks with two mumtrepreneurs who are doing it all, and then some.

Priscilla Soligo Originally from Australia, Priscilla Soligo has been living in Hong Kong with her husband Darryl for nearly a decade. After successfully launching Rawthentic Food, she recently started up homegrown raw chocolate brand Raiz the Bar. She has two children, six-year-old Luca and two-year-old Mya.

When did you decide to start your own business?

I started Rawthentic Food first, when our son Luca was a newborn, out of my love and passion for preparing plant-based real and raw whole foods. Like a lot of new mothers, I was concerned about making sure my children would receive optimal nutrition. I started Raiz The Bar when I was pregnant with my second child, our daughter Mya. I honed the craft of chocolate making for years and we tested out our bars at farmers’ markets across Hong Kong for two years before acquiring the chocolate factory, scaling up and producing this past April.

What’s so special about your chocolate?

We manufacture chocolate locally from the bean to the bar, and we are the first ones doing this in Hong Kong, so it’s very exciting. Our chocolate contains zero junk; so no refined sugar, dairy, soy, gluten, GMO or peanuts and they’re completely allergen friendly. We own the business with my sister and brother-in-law, and we make the chocolate ourselves by hand.

How did the idea come about?

I distinctly remember the four of us (my husband, sister and brother-in-law) all having a ‘conference’ about whether or not to go ahead and acquire our food factory. After years of dedicating a room in our home to making our chocolate, having a 1,400-square-foot factory would mean a whole new level of commitment. Everyone was

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MEET THE PARENTS How do you think your entrepreneurial spirit affects your kids?

I love that my children are getting to see both their parents being passionate about what they do. We always tell our kids that they can do whatever they want to do when it is in line with their life purpose. That said, I do believe parents who choose not to work can also cultivate the same love and passion in their children too.

ready to do it, except for me. I was concerned how it would affect my family. The factory rent was far beyond what we were ready for. Despite my hesitation, I knew that we had a product that would benefit a lot of people. We dove in and we haven’t looked back.

How do you balance your work schedule with family time?

Initially, we weren’t sure what our flow was going to look like. Chocolate making at the factory, attending meetings, being mothers and having your own business means there isn’t a ‘clock out’ card, so setting boundaries was essential. There is no perfect balance formula for us. We have also found that eating well, doing intermittent fasting, meditating, running and exercising helps us to relieve any stress, stay calm, connected, focused and balanced throughout each day.

Have any advice for other working mums?

My advice for working mums would be to listen to yourself and not to what everyone else says you ‘should’ do. Be your own guide and learn through your own experiences. I remember I used to feel guilty about being away from my kids when they were not at school, but then

What’s the best part of being a working mum?

The best part about being a working mum is that I get to live out both of my dreams. Firstly, to be a mother to my two beautiful children; and secondly, to be an entrepreneur who is crazy passionate about creating a product that will benefit other people and the planet. decided to make the time that I do spend with them really count.

And how do you do that?

I turn off my cell phone, Facebook and Instagram and give them 100 per cent of my time. I have learned it’s not so much the quantity, but the quality of time we spend with our children that matters the most to them, so make the most of it.

Are there any misconceptions about being a mumtrepreneur?

If there are, I don’t know about them! I choose not to focus on what other people think. These days consciously working mums are re-writing the book. When you have love and compassion in your business and you have love and compassion at home there simply isn’t any room for misconceptions.

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MEET THE PARENTS

Reika Shetty The founder of stylish maternity clothes and accessories store Mayarya, Reika Shetty named her brand after her two children: two-year-old Maya and four-year-old Arya.

Where are you from?

I am from Japan, and my husband Sid is from India. Although we come from conservative countries, we both spent more than half of our lives in the US and Europe so we are not traditional Japanese or Indian. After we got married, Sid got a job in Hong Kong and that’s the reason we moved here. There were other options like Switzerland or the Middle East but we felt Hong Kong would be perfect for us since we had spent years working in New York. Hong Kong is the centre of Asia.

How old were your kids when you started Mayarya?

Arya was almost one and a half years old and I was actually pregnant with Maya at the time. I gave birth to Maya one month before our Sheung Wan store opened so I was pumping milk in the middle of receiving the new merchandise and setting up our first store. I was lucky it all happened during our second baby because the only thing I had to prepare was buying newborn size nappies. I already knew how to breastfeed and all the rest, so it was very different from giving birth to my first child when I didn’t know anything.

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What’s the inspiration behind the company?

The inspiration comes from our customers’ and my own struggles during pregnancy.

Pregnancy is a happy but difficult time for women—physically and mentally. Our bodies change dramatically and we do feel less sexy and confident. We need to save money especially before the baby arrives but maternity clothes are short-term investments and I felt like it was a waste of money. Plus the clothes were not stylish at all back then. I hated myself in either plus-size clothes or in boring maternity clothes. That’s why I wanted to design stylish outfits and accessories—so that our customers can feel like themselves and wear the dresses long after giving birth.

How do you balance your work and motherhood?

I can’t say that I am balancing it all perfectly, but I always put 100 per cent into whatever I am doing at that moment so I can be more productive and save time. I also appreciate my situation, because I know that there are many people in the world who want to spend more time with children but cannot due to work responsibilities and vice versa. I wish I could attend more parent activities at their schools.

MEET THE PARENTS How do you think running your own business will influence your children’s upbringing?

I hope they can become entrepreneurial and find their own paths in the future. Creating something of your own by not conforming to the status quo is something ingrained in our family.

What’s the best part about owning your own company?

The best part is that my kids are inspired by the fact that I work hard, and they see it as normal if I have to go in on the weekends as needed. In fact, as my son gets a bit older, he even has an interest in what we are doing and loves visiting the stores.

But as our team gets more experienced I am able to do that more and more.

My kids are inspired by the fact that I work hard

Any advice for working mums?

Appreciate what you have and the fact that you can bring in income to your family. It is normal as a human being to want more and always want to have a better life, but whenever I get confused about whether I am doing it right or wrong, I come back to basics: Appreciate what we have, and don’t try to achieve a perfect balance between work and family as it rarely exists.

Are there any common misconceptions about being a mumtrepreneur?

A lot of people think we are doing this as a hobby and spending half of the day with our kids and working whenever we feel like it. But that’s not true. Running a startup is very difficult and it requires 24/7 dedication. It can become very stressful because you need to sacrifice time with your kids and sometimes prioritise work. I have always tried to appreciate what I have in order to stay positive. This philosophy keeps me going.

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FEATURE

Troubleshoot your teen Reprogram your hardwired teens into functional human beings.

By Expat Parent staff.

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FEATURE Problem

Since the dawn of mankind, many a peaceful morning has been shattered by the frustrated cries of a well-meaning parent trying to get their teen to rise and shine.

According to the US National Sleep Foundation teens need eight to ten hours of shut-eye per night, but biological sleep patterns during adolescence mean they struggle to get to sleep before 11pm, making it difficult to wake up on time. Here are some tips (plus a few tricks) to help wake up your sleeping beauty:

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• Rule out other issues. Perhaps your teen is avoiding school because of trouble making friends or difficulty with work. Make sure there is no other reason for their sluggishness.

• Let them see the light. Light tells your body it’s time to wake up. The Philips

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Getting teens to open up about anything can be something that drives parents to despair.

Leading educational psychologist Dr. Toni Noble believes that pressure on young people comes from a number of different sources. “Life is complex and all children

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Puberty brings about intense changes in teens’ bodies; hair where there wasn’t any hair before, outbreaks of spots and whiffy underarms. Appearances matter whether you’re 14 or 40 and dealing with unwelcome spots or more severe outbreaks of acne can easily dent confidence.

Dr Sonal Hattangdi-Haridas of Maya Health Institute recommends a trip to the doctor as well as a few natural remedies, “Tea-tree oil is a natural skin cleanser without the side-effects of harsh chemical anti-acne products.”

The Body Shop’s Tea Tree Oil has antibacterial benefits and a dab or two of tea

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Wake-Up Light HF3520 mimics a sunrise over 30 minutes, allowing a smooth transition from sleeping to waking. $1,230 from www.prubuy.hk.

• Block blue. Research suggests that wearing glasses that block blue light for a few hours before bed helps teens who stay up late on their laptops or watching television to wake up feeling more rested.

Getting yours to wear the glasses may not be easy, but there are alternatives. iPhone shields start at US$19.95 at www.sleepshield.com.

• Change the clocks. The Clocky Alarm Clock will roll off the bedside table and around the room, making a lot of noise, until your teen gets up and turns it off. Useful and entertaining to watch. Available in a range of colours from $498 at www.homeless.hk.

• If all else fails…turn to that tried and tested technique: a cup of of ice cold water.

face everyday challenges such as falling out with a friend, failing a test or receiving some negative feedback from a teacher,” she says.

“Adolescence is a time of great change for children physically, emotionally, socially and cognitively.” For unresponsive teens Dr. Noble recommends taking an optimistic approach.

“Encourage your child to be self-reflective at the end of each day. This might mean, for

tree oil on the area will clear redness and soothe blemished skin. $89 for 10ml from The Body Shop, Shop G01, Island Shopping Centre, Causeway Bay, www.thebodyshop.com.hk, 2915 0962.

Western medicine not working? Chinese medicine has some weird and wonderful cures which may sound unappealing at first but many claim work wonders. Chinese medicine practitioner, Mr Lau of Hang Kee Chinese Medicine in Sheung Wan, says the skin is controlled by the lungs, and spots are a common sign of an imbalances in the body. There is no one ingredient to treat acne but the aim is to regulate heat with “cool” drinks and foods that help cleanse the lungs and detoxify over a period of time.

Mr Lau suggests trying a few plant based herbs for two to three weeks such as dandelion, honeysuckle and great burnet.

Clocky Alarm Clock

Philips Wake-Up Light HF3520

example, asking themselves questions such as: what is one thing I did well today, or one thing I learned?” she says. And finally, don’t be afraid to face the harsher side of life. “Don’t over-protect your child from experiencing some everyday frustrations or difficulties. Don’t fight all your child’s battles. Young people need to experience some difficult times so they learn how to bounce back.”

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FEATURE Problem

Can’t get through to your teen? Hong Kong Children and Youth Services offers support to teens and their families, including school social work services and integrated family services. These are designed to assist children from the age of six in achieving personal growth and establishing healthy interpersonal relationships or

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In a society obsessed with photo-sharing (Kim Kardashian recently released an entire book of selfies entitled “Selfish”) it’s not hard to understand why there is a growing preoccupation with physical appearance. International fashion designer and Managing Director of Colour Me

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identifying schooling problems. www.cys.org.hk.

If you think a firmer approach is needed then let your kids sweat it out with Elite PT Studio’s fitness boot camps for kids aged 13 and under. Each bootcamp session ($1444 for three sessions or $600 per session) is two and a half hours and includes functional circuits, nutritional seminars and improves cardio and agility. All sessions are held at Aberdeen Stadium, 2552 9925, www.eliteptstudio.com/fitkids.

Beautiful HK, Eve Roth Lindsay, has made it her job to help people of all shapes and sizes develop a good body image. “With all the magazines, models and stars out there being retouched and looking perfect in every photo it makes teens very self-conscious. Everyone wants what they don’t have but we show them how they can look their best.”

Teen Image Makeovers with Colour Me Beautiful start at $650. Your teen will discuss

every part of their image with a trained consultant, including clothing, accessories, skin care, grooming for boys and makeup for girls.

“We will show them which shades best suit their own colouring, how to get the most out of their existing wardrobes, how to find the latest fashions that suit their body shape and how to make their wardrobe work within their budget.” www.colourmebeautiful.hk.

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It had to happen sooner or later your teen falls in love. Whether you feel as ready for this moment is another matter. While your teen’s new crush may not be what you had envisaged it is important not to display any negative feelings towards

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You can’t deny that teens - and adults are becoming more and more attached to their phones and computers. If you are struggling to get them off such gadgets, here are some simple tips and tricks for a digital detox.

• Place the computer in the living area: that way the amount of time they spend on the

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the blossoming relationship. Our advice? Do nothing. That’s right; save the arguments for another time. It’s unlikely that anything you have to say will change their opinion or persuade them to consider otherwise. Let love take its natural course and be ready for any sudden break up with some words of comfort (and the knowledge that you were right all along).

computer can be easily monitored.

• Change the WiFi password: We’ve found this is quick, simple and incredibly successful.

• Cut mobile phone plan to basic calls and texts: saving their souls and your money.

• Set a strict schedule: limit the amount of time spent on electronic devices; unplug the internet connection from 8pm - 10pm once or twice a week. They will be less upset when it’s not such a surprise their connectivity has suddenly been cut off.

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If you have neither the time nor the skills to explain to your teen why the earth revolves around the sun and not them, we have a simpler solution. Volunteering will provide them with a dose of reality whilst helping a good cause. Here are a few options. See www.handsonhongkong.org for more.

• Animals Asia Foundation campaigns for the well-being of endangered and domesticated animals across Asia. While the organisation can’t take volunteers under 18, students can still help to raise funds and awareness on their own initiative. The Foundation will help them to tailor their

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ADVICE AND SUPPORT projects and provide information, banners, leaflets and other items as required. www.animalsasia.org.

• Adoptive Families of Hong Kong is a charitable organisation made up of people connected by the common experience of adoption. This month, they need teenagers to lend a helping hand and help run some games. September 12, 11:30am-4pm, Victoria Peak Garden, The Peak, contact@afhk.org.hk.

• St. James’ Settlement People’s Food Bank provides hot meals for underprivileged people in the community.

Volunteers aged 12 and above are needed to help out in the Community Kitchen. Sign up details at www.handsonhongkong.org.

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Years of having a domestic helper attend to a child’s every whim may have left your teen struggling with even the basics.

Washing the dishes, tidying their room or dare we say it - making their own dinner. As your teens grow into barely functional adults they will hopefully fly the nest and make their first stop college or university. If your teens could do with a bit of early preparation on selfsufficiency then sign them up for a few classes with the experts.

Towngas Cooking Centre An institution in Hong Kong since 1977, scores of beginner cooks have passed through their doors to learn a thing or two about kitchen basics. An abundance of classes showcasing both Asian and Western cuisine should help even the most clueless of teens. 9A Lee Theatre, 99 Percival Street, Causeway Bay, 2576 1535, www.towngascooking.com.

Martha Sherpa’s Cooking Classes in Hong Kong Professional chef Martha Sherpa will whip any novices into shape with her comprehensive courses. A full-day Chinese wok cookery class starts from $1680. Find class schedules and booking information at www.marthasherpa.com.

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French Cooking Class Chef Rene-Etienne has over 30 years’ cooking experience and is now head instructor at French Cooking Class. Not the easiest cuisine to master but certainly one of the tastiest. Chef Rene will help teach how to cook one starter, main and dessert per class which start from $650. Find class schedules and booking information at www.hkfrenchcookingclass.com.

KELY support group KELY Support Group is a non-government funded bilingual organisation which provides confidential and inclusive support to young people in Hong Kong. Services focus primarily on drug and alcohol prevention and intervention. Often seen providing support services at large-scale events like the Hong Kong Rugby Sevens and Clockenflap, KELY also runs many outreach services in schools across Hong Kong.

Parent - Susan Hargreaves I became involved with KELY after I started following them on Twitter. I followed them because one of my children came home from school and told me about a talk they had by KELY. She told me about their “chill-out tent” at the Sevens and I was so relieved to hear that someone had finally come to their senses and started to tackle teen drug and alcohol issues with sensible solutions. Children want to learn independence as they embark on adulthood and take on adult behaviours.

At times they are going to make mistakes.

As parents we are lucky enough to be close by to help, but maybe children want to feel they have worked through problems on their own without their parents’ help.

Every parent just wants their children to be safe when they are out making their way in the world.

Teen - Maryam Gul, 15 KELY Support Group is one of the few groups that I know caters to the needs of people wholeheartedly. Friends spoke highly of them but I didn’t get involved until they came to my school. Being part of the programme “FUTURE”, I got to know the people working at KELY. They are so friendly and down to earth. Over the years, I’ve grown to know them even more and can open up to them really easily. The programmes at KELY have benefited a lot of my friends and myself, simply because they really care about what they are doing and are genuinely a lot of fun.

Parents and young people looking for further advice or support can contact the KELY team at www.kely.org or by calling 2521 6890.

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Discovery Bay International School Paul Tough, new Head of School at Discovery Bay International School, talks to Karmel Schreyer about his successful first year and the school’s current revisioning.

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DBIS students at Sports Day

Last year, West Island School Secondary Principal Paul Tough was set to return to England after 17 years in Hong Kong, to pursue his passion for history by way of a PhD. But then Discovery Bay International School (DBIS) began looking for a new Head of School and those plans were set aside. Now a respected member of Discovery Bay, Lantau Island’s ‘expat’ enclave, Tough is an educationalist who dreams big — so alongside the communitymindedness, he plans to put DBIS firmly ‘on the map’ of international schools. “DBIS is clearly a community school, that is its strength. Ninetynine percent of DBIS students come from the neighbourhood, which is an exception among Hong Kong schools,” he says. He practises what he preaches; moving from Tuen Mun to Discovery Bay upon getting the job, and is not averse to chatting with parents at the supermarket check-out. In fact, he seems keen on the idea.

So what is it like to be the Head of a school that is owned by a property developer?

“They [Hong Kong Resorts International] trust and invest in the educationalists. They let us get on with it. In that sense it is a perfect relationship. You get a sense of the vested interest of the school to be a part of the community,” Tough explains. “This is the link that we aim to develop, by making connections

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I can’t work in a school that doesn’t engage every stakeholder

to the wider world, to demonstrate that DBIS is more than students in classes; it represents a set of community values, working together in the Hong Kong and international contexts.” The Discovery Bay community is noticing. When former DBIS music teacher Jane Engelmann wanted to start her long-held dream of a community choir for domestic helpers, it was Paul Tough who offered essential rehearsal space. DBIS hosts the annual Moon Bear Concert, and the DBIS Food Fair is the community’s biggest school event.

Recent enhancements are part of developing that link to the wider world. School publications and its website have been upgraded. The school received accreditation to the Council for International Schools over the summer. ‘DBIS Night School’ has been launched to provide the wider community with classes ranging from visual art to life-coaching.

An excellent scholarship programme for both external and internal candidates has been established and a concerted effort to connect with alumni is underway. “Alumni are important.

It is genuinely about serving the community and telling the story of DBIS; going from classes in the Discovery Bay Residents’ Club 30 years ago to 900 students today. We really want to develop that sense of extended family.”

So what about those ‘family members’ at the supermarket check-out? “I have to pinch myself how engaged the parents are,” says Tough, without a hint of guile. “They want to

Paul Tough, Head of School at Discovery Bay International School

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be a part of the school. Part of the learning.”

Tough will be re-instituting the PTA; with highlyeducated people eager to be involved. Tough knows it is crucial to formalise the structure and organisation of parent participation. “I can’t work in a school that doesn’t engage every stakeholder,” says Tough emphatically. Early in his tenure, he conducted a stakeholder survey and a series of parent meetings focusing specifically on the school’s vision, “looking at values, at mission, and clarifying aims.”

Administrators are now working on a four-year plan for curriculum development with input from parents and students.

As for staff, Tough embarked on an ambitious engagement strategy from day one.

In the first three months, Tough invited his 154 staffers for twenty-minute face-to-face meetings. “Ninety took up my invitation,” he says proudly. “I asked them to tell me what the school does well and to suggest an area for development.” Such approaches are not commonplace, but there must be multiple benefits to this earnest reaching-out. “I spoke to my daughter’s teacher about the new Head of School, and she said that staff are inspired by him,” says one pleased DBIS parent.

Tough feels the same way about his crew.

OPEN DAY “The staff are willing to put children first. DBIS is a non-selective, inclusive, mixed-ability, community school. So we need to ensure we provide the right level of care and instruction, including English as an additional language, special-needs, and enrichment” he says.

The school provides dedicated support for students with special requirements during the school-day, but they are also ‘mainstreamed’ into the wider student community.

“Mainstreaming is a huge development in terms of challenging the students,” says Tough, and staff are supported by specialist training. DBIS aims to become a resource for schools considering this area of educational expertise.

There’s more. “We give our students as many leadership opportunities as possible,” says Tough. The brief of some student councils is relegated to food quality or uniform design, but at DBIS the students have a voice in substantive issues; student council members were invited to interview candidates and weigh-in on the appointment of the new Principal of Secondary. There is also a student council for primary students, which shows the DBIS ethos; one is never too young to learn that democracy can be messy. It is important

that these young politicians have guidance, and I ask which ‘responsible adult’ has been tasked as mentor. Mr. Tough grins and points to his chest. “Next year they will be part of the PTA,” he adds. There are other clues showing the esteem given to the student voice; the website links to a ‘Students’ Welcome’ from the Head Girl and Boy, and you can’t miss their photos in the school lobby. A photo of the school’s leadership team is also on the wall, but it’s a group shot, and smaller. John Wong, the outgoing Head Boy, says, “Having my portrait on display offers a sense of importance and recognition, assuring me and the Head Girl of our responsibility in voicing the concerns of the student body, as well as reminding us of the role we are entrusted with as leaders at DBIS.” Role models are important in education, and I ask Mr Tough who his role models are.

He gives a nod to psychologist Carol Dwek and cognitive scientist Guy Claxton, renowned for their research on learning, intelligence and motivation. But his biggest role models are his parents. “Both are secondary school teachers and truly have been an inspiration to me in terms of their passion for and commitment to the teaching profession.”

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Business studies ESF CEO Belinda Greer discusses the future of ESF with Evie Burrows-Taylor As a foundation we’ve spent the last year working on establishing our vision and mission while also setting the strategy for the next five years. At ESF our vision is to make our students the best that they can be, and our mission is to inspire their creativity and nurture them as global citizens for the future. The board, advisory committees, parents, students and schools have all been involved in the discussion about where we are heading over the next five years.

Our main business is obviously education and we have reviewed our strategic objectives in this area. We’ve also looked, as an organisation, at how we present ourselves and how we communicate our position in Hong Kong, as well as our financial strategy and for opportunities to grow and develop ESF in Hong Kong.

There has been a lot of anxiety from parents about fees and fee increases Finance I think there has been a lot of anxiety from parents about fees and fee increases. This happens every year, but with the subsidy from the government ending for year one, the shortfall has to be made up. We’ve been quite clear as an organisation that this will entail a fee increase, though we are also looking at ways of being efficient and we have a best value model to ensure that we make very good use of our resources. This year that will mean an average increase of 5.2% for most students, except year one where parents will see a steeper rise as the government subsidy is faded out.

When you compare us to other schools, even if we were to increase our fees by the shortfall, we would still have amongst the lowest fees in Hong Kong. Interestingly, if you compare our fees with those of schools in the UK then ESF is not that high.

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INTERVIEW able to work collaboratively and develop great leadership skills. ESF is non-selective in terms of academic ability and we work with all of our students so they can be the best that they can be, regardless of academic ability. ESF is very inclusive and that’s something that we want to strive for even further.

ESF students in a design and technology class

Education ESF is known for delivering excellent education and what has impressed me in my time here is that we’ve developed professional thinking.

Having such a large network of schools, we get teachers to work within and across schools so that we can share the best practice. We’ve got strong development programmes that we run from the centre. We’re looking ahead with real confidence in meeting the challenge of finding innovative, creative ways of working

with students to ensure we get the very best out of them. Obviously, real education is about a lot more than just achieving high academic standards but these are important. This year we’re pleased to say we’ve got our strongest set of results ever; 17 students achieved the maximum 45 marks in their IB. Fewer than 200 students achieved this worldwide. We’re extremely proud of the academic results that our students achieve. We are also very proud of the fact that our students are confident, resilient,

The atmosphere of an ESF school I think it’s a place where learning thrives. There is a sense that every student is an individual and that they belong. Our students are truly engaged, which I believe is essential for real learning to take place. Using Glenealy School as an example, we completely changed what a classroom could look like. In terms of seating, we have little booths, staged areas, high stools and low seated areas so that when students come into the classroom, they’re not all seated at the same-sized tables or chairs. This creates a different atmosphere within the classroom depending on the activities being worked on.

Students are responsible for their learning and they are engaged. I think that is much more effective than when teachers do all the talking and lead the lesson.

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INTERVIEW Homework If you look at how we learn best, it’s when we see the purpose of what we are doing. I think with homework, if it’s something that’s just based on quantity and copying things out or learning by rote, that limits the quality of learning. A great example – from Peak School – is when they put on a production of Macbeth.

I visited the rehearsals and happened to be sitting next to Macbeth’s very proud mum.

She told me that when he knew the auditions were approaching he took the script and read it every day because he wanted to land that role in the production. Now for me, that is what learning is about. Children should be inspired to want to learn and be part of what’s happening in the classroom.

An ESF primary school class

Choosing the right school I would say to parents, as a mother of five boys myself, you know your child and you want them to be in an environment where they feel safe, confident and happy. I personally would choose a school that has high professional standards and excellent staff. That’s what

makes the difference and at EFS, I believe we have exceptional teachers. This year we hired 103 new teachers from over 5000 applications.

I like to believe that teachers are applying to us because of the professional learning and practice environment which will help them develop their own knowledge.

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I think the physical learning environment is important but I think teachers are more important. A school should have a real sense of community with plenty of extra-curricular activities. As a parent, your voice is vital, so you should also feel there is a strong community for you.

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How to ace a school interview Part two of ITS Education Asia’s scoop on primary-school interviews for five-year-olds.

Parents who are new and old to Hong Kong are often surprised by the lack of school places but more surprised by the fact that children as young as three years old face school interviews. What really happens in an interview? The following outlines what children aged four- to five years are tested on during the interview.

During group activities students are asked to complete puzzles, write their names, colour a picture, draw shapes and actively engage.

Teachers ask students questions on the following; family members, favourite book or toy, preschool friends and teachers, where they live and what they like to do at home.

Children are evaluated on their ability to work alone and complete an activity with little guidance from the teacher as well as interaction with other children in the group and their pencil grip. Children are tested on their English communication skills, level of vocabulary and ability to hold a conversation with the teacher by using extended sentences.

During a group story time the teacher will

ask questions to examine who is concentrating on the story and who can completely understand the story. Some kids will be quiet, while others will be jumping up and down trying to get the first word in.

Another interview activity includes a child being handed a simple picture or illustration and asked to describe what he or she sees. This is to test a child’s fluency in speech and creativity.

A parent can practice the general skill with their child, but any specific coaching or prepping is difficult as each picture is different.

How can parents and children best prepare for interviews? Some parents and educators argue the best preparation for school interviews is no preparation at all. That way, the child’s personality, talents and temperament will shine naturally.

However, this is not the time to hope for the best. We are not advocating sending your child to interview boot camp but some low-key preparation helps. Extra playdates for instance, and maybe drama classes or storytelling classes

would be helpful if a child is quite shy.

There is also the etiquette of school interviews. Children are expected to formally greet the teachers, thank the teacher at the end of the interview, and say goodbye while looking the interviewer in the eye. Some schools take this social aspect of the interview quite seriously.

It is important to prepare your child for a school interview without creating unnecessary anxiety in either of you. It’s also important to remember that you should not anticipate your child’s behavior during a school interview as they may not respond in the same way you have observed in the past.

ITS Education Asia offers numerous services to families who are looking for entrance to international schools. These range from school advice, school assessment preparation, intensive English courses for entry into mainstream schools and consultancy support for entrance to universities. For details, email anne.m@itseducation.asia.

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AFTER SCHOOL

Kicking off the new term Helen Butcher tackles finding the best clubs for future rugby stars.

The Flying Kukris try out a Haka

As the kids start a new term, thoughts inevitably turn to after school activities to keep them busy (and out of your hair for another hour). With the Rugby World Cup creating a buzz around the sport this Autumn, Sunday mornings will once again be filled with the noise of over 8,000 boys and girls competing in matches and tournaments across Hong Kong. We’ve found the best rugby clubs out there for boys and girls.

Flying Kukris With roots tracing back to the former British military mini-rugby club at Shek Kong, the Flying Kukris training club is now based at the HKIEd Sports Ground in Tai Po. The minis programme welcomes boys and girls aged

The Flying Kukris in full flow

four years or older. Colts and girls rugby teams for children aged 12 and up play against teams across Hong Kong. Membership for one child starts from $750 including jersey, shorts and socks. www.flyingkukris.com.

HKU Sandy Bay Rugby Football Club This busy, friendly club is one of the largest

The girls team at HKU Sandy Bay

after-school rugby providers in Hong Kong.

Training is held at the ocean-side Stanley Ho playing fields in Pok Fu Lam and Aberdeen Sports Ground. Girls and boys train twice weekly on either Tuesday or Thursday evenings and one session on Sundays. Under 10s train only at weekends. $1,100 for Mini and Youth membership. www.hkusandybayrfc.org

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It’s a try at Rugbees

SCAA Causeway Bay get ready for practice drills

RugBees RugBees is a fun introduction to sport for little ones, using stories and their imaginations to learn key rugby skills through play-based activity. The group adopts a ‘play and learn’ ethos, to encourage key motor skills such as kicking, balance, catching and co-ordination.

Aimed at children from walking age to five years and available at various locations, the

term runs for 16 weeks and costs $3,740 (plus a $250 registration fee for new members); individual classes cost $260. www.rugbees.hk

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SCAA Causeway Bay Mini Rugby Club Any rugby enthusiast would be excited by the opportunity to play in the Hong Kong stadium during the Rugby Sevens. And dreams can

become reality for youngsters in the U7’s-U12’s at the Causeway Bay Mini Rugby Club, who will get the chance. With a team of top quality, dedicated coaches, this club aims to provide all players with friendship, exercise and life skills. Girls and boys aged three-12 can join at a cost of $900 for the season, running from September to April. Training usually takes place on Sundays from 12.30pm-1.30pm at So

AFTER SCHOOL Learn the lingo ahead of the Rugby World Cup.

Try Worth five points in rugby union. Scored when a player touches the ball down inside the in-goal area of the opposition’s half.

Sports4Kids learn the basics of rugby

Kon Po Recreation Ground in Caroline Hill. www.scaacwbrugby.com.

Sport4Kids This is a non-contact program focusing on skill development, coordination and learning to work as a team. Children are taught the skills of tackling and safety techniques for when they go on to start playing games at

Forward-pass Against the rules. The ball may only be passed laterally or backwards.

Conversion When a team scores a try, they have an opportunity to win a further two points by kicking the ball between the posts and above the crossbar. The kick may be either a drop kick or a place kick in the 15-man game.

Knock-on Where a player fails to catch or pick up the ball cleanly and it travels forward off a hand or arm and hits the ground or another player. When a knock-on occurs, the referee will stop play and award a scrum to the team which has not knocked on.

Ruck Formed where the ball is on the ground and two or more opposing players who are on their feet cluster around it. Players must only use their feet to move the ball so that it emerges at their team’s hindmost foot, at which point it can be picked up.

Scrum A means of restarting play after a minor infringement. Each side binds together in three rows, with the ‘hooker’ of each team in the centre of the first row. The team with the advantage gets to feed the ball into the space between the opposing sides of the scrum.

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The teams of Valley Fort demonstrate their teamwork

school and rugby clubs. The team’s belief is that positive early sporting experiences help to create a healthy and fulfilling habit for life, improving concentration and enhancing leadership qualities. Most classes start from $150 per child and they offer a free trial class for first-timers. www.sport4kids.hk.

Hong Kong Football Club Designed to be fun and engaging, the club aims to give every child 100 touches of the ball in every session. Kids are involved with festivals, leagues and tournaments throughout the season and the club even organises tours to destinations such as Kuala Lumpur and New Zealand. The club welcomes children from ages four-19. Prices range from $1800 - $2200 and the first training session starts on Sunday September 6. Groups either train at the HKFC main pitch or Happy Valley. www.hkfcyouthrugby.com.

Sai Kung Stingrays The Stingrays were founded by a small group of parents who recognised the lack of support for the increasingly popular sport of rugby.

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Kong, they want to develop youngsters to play at a senior level and have their eyes set on having some of the Stingrays play for Hong Kong at the 2016 Olympics. If you fancy your kids as future sporting stars, the team take members from age four to late teens.

Membership fees range between $960$1480 depending on age and the season runs between August and May. www.saikungstingrays.org.

USRC Tigers Based at King’s Park in the heart of Kowloon, the USRC Tigers have a green haven amongst the concrete and run a bustling club from September to April. Due to a series of mergers and partnerships club members can now develop from minis to youth and then continue their

sporting career within the same team at a senior level. Training for minis and youth teams take place on Sunday mornings. Membership fees range between $1,000-$1,500 depending on age. www.usrctigers.com.

Valley Fort Rugby Club As one of the larger clubs in Hong Kong, with over 750 members in the mini and youth sections, the Valley Fort Rugby club made it into the Guinness Book of records in 2010 for hosting the biggest mini tournament ever with 2,610 players. The club is open to all players from U5-U18 of all abilities. This season it is offering reduced membership rates for girls, starting from $1,000, to encourage participation. www.valleyfort.com.

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ME & MY HOBBY

Musical chairs Talented teen cellist Antonia Wu, 14, strikes a chord. By Annie Wong.

The way a cello is held gives it grace and elegance. It is as if you are dancing with someone, in this case, the instrument.

I also play the piano. I believe it is essential for any musician to learn the piano as it teaches basic notes and sounds that you can apply to any other instrument.

Cello practice usually includes practicing basic skills, scaling and pieces of songs. It depends from day to day though. When I enjoy the music time passes really fast. However, there are days where time goes by very slowly.

I practice for an hour everyday apart from weekends.

Once I heard the sound of the cello I was instantly mesmerised.

Recently I was a part of the String Orchestra Group at the Haw Par SummerFest 2015 Culminating Concert. I am now a member of my school orchestra and I will soon become a member of the Hong Kong Youth Strings.

Practising cello has become a part of my school life. I balance my cello practice and school studies and I think I have a pretty good balance between the two.

I started playing the cello when I was about six years old. My mother brought me to a concert where they were playing string instruments. I was particularly attracted to the music from one side of the concert hall and it turned out to be a cello.

I like the sound of instruments with a lower pitch than other string instruments like the violin or the viola. It’s more gentle and pragmatic. Once I heard the sound of a cello I was instantly mesmerised – as if it were love at first ‘sound’.

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The hardest part of being a cellist is that it is a challenge to express the exact mood and emotion that the composer wishes. Freestyle playing is when it comes easiest. I play whatever springs to mind and let the music guide me.

My parents are extremely supportive of my passion for the cello. Whenever they come across any concerts they let me know so that I can learn and develop my cello skills.

I believe I have the potential and hope to become a professional cellist one day. My dream is to travel around the world with my soul mate - my cello.

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TRAVEL

Dong’ao delight As the latest Club Med destination opens in China, Callum Wiggins hops on a ferry to check out the family resort.

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TRAVEL

The impressive view from the 4 Trident resort overlooking the outdoor pool and beach.

Living in Hong Kong we are blessed to have an array of exciting travel destinations just a few hours flight away. Routes to Thailand, Vietnam and other well-known Asia destinations are paths well travelled.

A less likely journey for many families is to our closest neighbour - China. But with China increasingly looking to develop its international tourism industry, the options for family holidays are on the up.

Dong’ao, a small island located about an hour’s ferry journey from Zhuhai, was once a sleepy island with a small fishing community.

It has now transformed into the third location for Club Med’s ambitious expansion plans into China. Following successful resort openings in snowy Heilongjiang and picturesque Guilin, Club Med has opted for beautiful beaches and thrilling water sports to draw in families from all over the region.

The resort Whisked away on shuttle buses straight from the ferry, the Club Med experience begins with friendly staff accompanying guests to either the 4 or 5 Trident resort. Club Med makes full use of its generous surroundings

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The youthful and international team are rarely seen without a smile

and both resorts feel noticeably spacious, something guests from Hong Kong will certainly appreciate. The 5 Trident resort is a designated secluded and intimate area of the Club Med resort. 72 rooms offer a luxurious stay in peaceful surroundings with an infinity pool overlooking the sea. A shuttle bus taking guests to the main 4 Trident resort operates throughout the day and takes just a few minutes. The majority of the dining and leisure activities as well as the kids zone are located at the larger 4 Trident resort and this is where I would recommend families to stay.

Don’t wait too long before escaping for some quiet time by checking out the Club Med Spa by L’OCCITANE which offers a range of blissful treatments including

a thoroughly recommended full body therapeutic oil massage.

A number of restaurants are located around the resorts and guests can tuck into an abundance of fresh seafood and international dishes. During our stay the choice of food was well rotated and there were always new dishes to try, although the all-you-can-eat style of dining did start to feel slightly gluttonous after a few days.

The Club Med experience The Club Med holiday experience is largely down to its staff. ‘G.O.s’, or ‘Gentils Organisateurs’ are integral to establishing the Club Med vibe from the start until the very end of your stay. A typical day may see a G.O. join families for breakfast, lead the morning bike ride and then traverse the waves during afternoon sailing classes, before finally joining the cast of the evening show. The youthful and international team are rarely seen without a smile and their enthusiasm soon rubs off on guests.

Key to the Club Med experience is the all-inclusive concept, which may take a day or two to get used to. Everything is paid for

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(clockwise from left): children enjoying the kids’ zone; the G.O.s dressing up; trapeze practice at the sports centre.

before arrival so wallets and purses can be left safely in rooms. This should make budgeting the family holiday much simpler and avoid any unwelcome surprises upon checking out.

Kids’ zone A family holiday should mean that everyone gets to enjoy themselves, including parents. A specially trained team of G.O.s will take care of and entertain your little ones throughout the day. The Petit (2 - 3 years), Mini (4 - 10 years) and Juniors’ (11 - 17 years) club can all be pre-booked before arrival or joined on the day. The indoor and outdoor activity centres feature a wide range of games and activities to keep everyone occupied. Best of all, the kids’ zone has a paddling pool specially designed for very young children.

Quality kids-free time can also be extended by signing them up for the Pyjamas Club. The club allows parents to leave their children guilt-free with G.O.s in a special sleepover zone equipped with comfy beds, couches and movies.

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Parents will appreciate the easy and simplicity of it all

Sports and activities Secluded and surrounded by ocean views and rolling hills, guests are well advised to tear themselves away from the buffet for at least a few hours. In just a couple of days we managed to squeeze in cycling, hiking, sailing, kayaking, and stand up paddle boarding. Jet skis and banana boats are optional extras. A fully-equipped fitness centre, archery range, pole dancing studio, indoor and outdoor swimming pools and beach volleyball area mean the resort is crammed full of leisure and sports activities for all ages. For kids with a head for heights, the flying trapeze class is an afternoon well spent - which incidentally leaves even more alone-time for parents at the pool.

Last thoughts A Club Med Dong’ao vacation will not leave the family any wiser about Chinese culture but then that’s not its intention.

Children will remember the time they did a double somersault from the trapeze while parents will appreciate the ease and simplicity of it all.

Having such a beautiful resort in close proximity to Hong Kong while skipping the airport is a pleasant surprise and makes for an easier travel option with kids in tow.

Applying for a visa before arrival is an inconvenience and does add to the cost of your holiday but the process is relatively easy (we chose China Travel Service, www. ctshk.com).

Club Med Dong’ao is an impressive new resort and will undoubtedly prove to be a popular destination for families in search of sun, sand and good times.

Details of Club Med Dong’ao packages and online booking can be found at www.clubmed.com.hk or call 3111 9388.

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BIG DAY OUT

Shek Pik reservoir

Livin’ la vida Lantau Performing a feat that has reduced even seasoned hikers to tears, Rory Mackay hikes up Hong Kong’s second highest peak.

Whenever my flight touches down in Hong Kong, the imperious sight of Lantau Peak leaves me looking back up towards the sky in awe. No matter whether you’re arriving in Hong Kong for the first time or returning home, the majesty of the territory’s second highest point is lost on few people. The allure of Lantau Peak draws in many hikers throughout the year; as a consequence there are many ways to ascend it these days. I recommend attacking this beast of a mountain via the South Ridge, as despite it being one of the most spectacular routes around, it is

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surprisingly one of the less frequented.

Make your way to Tung Chung on the MTR and catch the number 11 bus towards Tai O. Along the way, take in the charm of rural Lantau and catch regular glimpses of the hills above. Keep an eye out for Shek Pik Reservoir and hop off just before the road traverses the dam wall. Walk a short distance back the way you came along the road and turn left onto Shek Pik Country trail.

As you begin to walk along the trail, dramatic views across Shek Pik Reservoir and the southern expanses of Lantau begin to unveil

themselves. Continuing upwards, the incline increases and the flora slowly thins out as you reach the South Ridge proper.

With Hong Kong Island on one side and Macau on the other, the views by this point of the trek are simply breathtaking on a clear day. Reaching the summit is a tough workout for even seasoned hikers. The hot summer months make this hike particularly gruelling. Regardless of the exhaustion, reaching the pinnacle of Lantau Island is a tremendously relaxing experience. At almost 1000m up, conditions here can often serve

This is arguably Hong Kong’s most prestigous summit to have bagged as a temperate retreat from the tropical temperatures at sea level. Gaze down upon the splendor of Lantau, the outlying islands and all of Hong Kong’s skyscrapers in miniature.

To return to civilization, a few different routes present themselves. For Lantau first timers, hike down to the Tian Tan Buddha and soak up the vibes of the Po Lin Monastery before either walking the concrete path, bussing it or catching the cable car back to Tung Chung. For those who are after a more authentic route off the mountain, follow the

trail down the equally impressive North Ridge.

You’ll eventually meet the North Lantau Road at Pak Kung Au, where there are a number of buses towards Tung Chung.

All in all, this is arguably Hong Kong’s most prestigious summit to have bagged. It may not be quite as high as Tai Mo Shan, or as technical as other hills, but Lantau Peak is the true heavyweight of the Hong Kong mountain climbing scene. For anyone who enjoys a physical challenge which packs in lots of sights, this route from Shek Pik Reservoir makes for an incredible day out.

Rory Mackay runs adventure company Wild Hong Kong.

For details, visit www.wildhongkong.com.

(clockwise from top): the view from the ascent; signs along the route; walking up to the peak on contrasting days; Lantau island’s iconic Big Buddha

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FOOD

Themed restaurants for kids Eat out with your favourite TV and cartoon characters. By Annie Wong.

Shrekfast in Sands Cotai Macau

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Munch on some Gronkle omelettes and Night Fury breakfast sausages and slurp up green smoothies with Shrek and the rest of the gang. The majestic dining hall features large scale medieval Shrek sets where all your favourite DreamWorks characters are introduced over the course of breakfast. Families can enjoy a buffetstyle breakfast with meet and greets, live stage performances and photo taking opportunities with the DreamWorks characters. Shrekfast starts from $238 for adults and $138 for children. Don’t miss the Kung Fu Panda steamed buns. Family packages available. Shrekfast available daily until September 30. For more details, visit www.sandscotaicentral.com or call +853 8113 7915

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Enchanted Garden

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Enjoy breakfast, lunch and dinner with Mickey Mouse and friends at Hong Kong Disneyland Resort’s Enchanted Garden.

The restaurant is decorated in a whimsical garden-like setting complete with an ornate wrought-iron archway and swirling vines and flowers. Breakfast ($350 for adults, $240 for children), lunch ($338 for adults, $238 for children) and dinner ($498 for adults, $348 for children) are served buffet style.

Breakfast starts with artisan breads, pastries and a selection of western and asian breakfast dishes including oatmeal and dim sum. Children will love the Mickey-shaped waffles and pancakes served at the buffet station. A rotating selection of Japanese favourites, salads, pastas and Indian curries are available for lunch and it’s seafood galore at the dinner buffet. Lunch buffet is only available Saturday, Sunday and public holidays. 1/F, Hong Kong Disneyland Hotel, Lantau. www.hongkongdisneyland.com, 3510 6000.

Charlie Brown Cafe

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With a retro American-style interior, fans of the Peanuts comic can now sip on Peanut character coffee art lattes and admire the comicstrip wallpapers at Charlie Brown cafe.

Numerous miniature-sized and large displays of Snoopy and Charlie Brown figurines are placed throughout while there is also a big screen TV to enjoy the famous cartoon.

Fans can browse through the Charlie Brown

merchandise in the cafe. Serving pastas, sandwiches and all day breakfasts, the cafe uses organic condiments, and features no MSG or artificial additives in their dishes.

Try their cookies and cream Charlie Brown signature frappuccino with mini cakes in the shape of Woodstock, Snoopy or Charlie Brown. G/F-1/F, Koh Pah Mansion, 58-60 Cameron Road, Tsim Sha Tsui, 2366 6315.

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FOOD kitsch

Hello Kitty Restaurant Is Hello Kitty a cat or a girl? Either way, the iconic Hello Kitty brand’s new restaurant venture arrived in Hong Kong in earlier this year. Tucked away in Jordan, Hello Kitty fanatics can enjoy 37 different types of Cantonese dim sum in a feast that includes steamed custard buns ($62 for three), shrimp dumplings ($68 for four) and various rice dishes. All the dishes are either kitty decorated or cat shaped while the restaurant’s interior has an antique tea room atmosphere with gold Hello Kitty stamps and faux wood screens. Prices certainly reflect the one-off kitsch interior rather than quality of the food but the cute vibe is worth a visit at least once. For parties and special occasions, the VIP room (Apple Court) can seat up to 12 people.

Shop A to C, Lee Loy Mansion, 332-338 Canton Road, Jordan, 8202 8203.

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Photo by Heather Ip

FOOD

Satay King Pokemon x Restaurant

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Pikachu, I choose you! Satay King has crossed over with anime favourite Pikachu to create a Pokemon-inspired restaurant. The chain restaurant keeps its malaysian cuisine and flavours while incorporating Pokemon themes and characters into its dishes. New to the menu are pizzas, fizzy drinks and waffles, crepes and other dessert items alongside its malaysian staples. Until October 25 the pop up themed restaurant will be crammed full of Pokemon character stickers, stuffed toys and other trinkets. 9/F, Causeway Bay Plaza I, 489 Hennessy Road, Causeway Bay. www.satayking.hk, 2893 6667.

Bubba Gump Shrimp

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Run, Forrest, run! We’re betting Forrest Gump would have sprinted up the Peak to enjoy his favourite food, shrimps, at the international chain based on the movie. As well as prawns in almost as many forms as Gump’s shrimp-lovin’ army buddy, Bubba Blue, outlined on screen, it serves hearty American dishes such as ribs, burgers and steaks. Standouts include Cajun shrimp ($75) sauteed in cajun spices and butter with garlic bread. The kids’ menu ($58)

features Mama Gump’s chicken strips, Hubba Bubba popcorn shrimp and the Bus Bench burger. Save room for a trip to the build-your-own sundae station, with lashings of sweets, sprinkles and chocolate sauce to top your ice cream. The views of Hong Kong are stunning from the window tables. A colouring pack will keep children occupied and the walls covered in movie paraphernalia are fun. 128 Peak Road, The Peak. www.bubbagump.com, 2849 2867.

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MONEY & ME

Emma Sherrard Matthew Quintessentially’s Asia Pacific CEO discusses the finer things in life.

By Callum Wiggins in style with an RV motorhome that would have made P Diddy jealous. Oh, and also my love for diamond rings.

Do you own property?

Yes, in London, Australia and Hong Kong.

How much pocket money do you give your children?

At this stage my daughter Willa is too young to earn any pocket money. However I am sure in time she will be washing the car, the dishes and helping host parties just as I did to earn those precious dollars to buy sweets and comics.

Tell us about your company.

I am extremely proud to be the CEO for Asia Pacific at Quintessentially, and I am even prouder to be celebrating our 10th anniversary this year in Hong Kong. What a milestone.

Best known for our award-winning concierge services, we are the world’s leading global private members’ club and lifestyle management company. We provide our members with specialist advice and knowledge as well as insider access and exclusive privileges both on an individual and corporate basis. Whether it’s finding a favourite restaurant at the last minute, accessing tickets for sold-out shows, helping to create the ultimate proposal or once-in-a-lifetime honeymoon, you name it we can help.

Are you a spender or a saver?

I would like to think I am a saver but I seem to have no trouble spending money on experiences that allow me to see the amazing world that we live in.

How much is in your wallet? $440 - I need to go the bank!

When were you poorest?

Re-wind the clock 15 years; I had just arrived in Hong Kong with £500 of an overdraft facility as my ‘living expenses’. My flight from London had cost me £362 and was routed via Milan and Paris. No visa, no job and no money certainly makes you hungry to work. Luckily, I secured

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It’s imperative to learn how to manage money and be financially independent

a great role promoting British business in the region which quickly got me back on my feet. A key thing I learned was to never ever give up.

What was your best investment?

I would like to think it’s our beautiful 64 foot Junk - ‘El Presidente’. My husband says there are two happy days with this ‘investment’ – the day we bought it and the day we sell it. I call it an investment in the quality of our lifestyle.

Aside from El Pres, I would say another great investment has been the apartment we bought in Pok Fu Lam in 2008.

What was your worst investment?

My husband Steve will probably say El Presidente but I am going with an off-plan apparent ‘quick win’ property development in Phuket back in 2002. It still isn’t built…

What is the most extravagant thing you have ever bought?

Probably experiencing the week long ‘Burning Man’ event in the middle of the Nevada desert

Do you have any advice on teaching children about money?

Aside from the classic ‘save the pennies and pounds will save themselves’, I believe it’s important for children to be financially literate and understand the value of money. While it can be considered vulgar to talk about money, it’s important for children to realise it doesn’t grow on trees and that with hard work and discipline you can afford to live comfortably.

A quotation from Jim Rogers sums up my attitude towards money: “If I have been successful as a father, each will …look back over her life with no regrets and her story will read like a tale out of an Arthurian romance…to scare up dragons beyond every new mountain, driven by the conviction, the unshakeable understanding, that money is the lance, not the grail.”

What steps are you taking to ensure a financially comfortable retirement?

Diversifying our investments - property, funds, stocks and high risk start-ups.

Is there anything we have forgotten to ask that you would like to add?

I live by the mantra that tomorrow may never come but when it does you want to be able to enjoy it as much as today, so you need to be honest about your financial situation. For young women it’s imperative to learn how to manage money and be financially independent – this for me is key. Finally, we are all incredibly spoilt in Hong Kong and it’s important to recognise how lucky we are and to give back to those who are not as fortunate as us.

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COLUMN

Simon Parry asks himself: “What is the point of me anymore?”

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he late afternoon Adriatic sunshine flits playfully across the acne-ridden features of my eldest son James as he lumbers across the garden with the self-satisfied expression of a baboon who has just found a way of flinging his own faeces. He stands still for a minute, thinking hard, and then says: “Dad. What exactly is the point of you?”

Normally, of course, I would respond with a razor-sharp put down that would send him skulking off to his room with the derisory laughter of his siblings ringing in his ears. But, as we meander through our lazy annual summer holiday in Greece, I find my reservoir of ripostes has run as dry as the arid hillsides of the southern Mediterranean. So instead I just reply: “Sod off, Spotty.”

In the same way that a primate left to bang at the keys of a typewriter for eternity will eventually knock out a coherent sentence at random, James has accidentally struck on a question that’s been preying on my mind too: What is the point of me anymore?

When you read this, James and his siblings will have flown to the UK with their mother to begin a new life in Lancashire while I return alone to Hong Kong. It’s a practical arrangement to enable the children to enter good state schools and prepare for college life in the UK while I keep the business going and fly to see them all every couple of months. But it does inevitably leave me pondering my purpose.

Until this summer, James’s question was easy to answer. The point of me and his mum was to work as hard as possible to earn enough to pay the increasingly flamboyant sums needed to cover their Hong Kong school fees. This noble purpose has kept us occupied full-time since our eldest daughter Georgie started ESF primary school in 2002 followed by her sister and two brothers.

Thirteen years and some $2 million later, Georgie has begun her “gap yah” with an intensive scientific study into how long it’s humanly possible to sleep in every day (with some highly impressive and groundbreaking results so far, it must be said). Her siblings meanwhile are preparing for their respective UK state schools by learning how

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to wear baggy trousers, do those tiny short ties with ridiculously wide knots, and knock the wind out of fellow students with the swing of a fully loaded Preston North End sports bag.

It’ll be a big culture shock for them of course. But for all the undeniable benefits of a Hong Kong education, I’m not entirely convinced by people who say their schooling will be compromised and that you can’t put a price on a good education (which is odd because ESF schools excel at doing just this). My scepticism is based in part on what happened when the younger of our two boys sat an entrance exam for Lancaster Grammar School earlier this year.

To his understandable horror, William had to sit a French paper as well as English and Maths even though no language other than Mandarin was taught at his school in Hong Kong. (There’s no demand for modern European languages these days, we were told.) So his mother spent two months teaching him French in the evenings before the test.

As it turned out, he got a commendable 75 per cent in French, but only 53 per cent in English and 47 per cent in Maths, even though we’d never been given any cause for concern over his performance in either subject by his school. In fact, his reports indicated he was doing just fine (as far as you could discern anything from the cut-and-paste gibberish they contained, that is).

Now I’m not making any rash judgements here – well, maybe a little – but that experience did make us wonder just a teensy bit whether the $35,000 a month we were shelling out on fees was worth it or whether we should have packed them off sooner to good UK state schools with their apparently loftier academic expectations.

So maybe you’re right, Zit Face. Perhaps I do have no real purpose left in life. But I do at least have an exciting new goal: To put that $35,000 a month to better use. I’ve got some interesting and exotic ideas already and guess what? Almost all of them involve high living, reckless spending and wanton, indulgent extravagance by Mr and Mrs Pointless.

That experience did make us wonder whether the $35,000 a month we were shelling out on fees was worth it

Simon Parry is a jaded, middle-aged journalist and father of four. He lives in Hong Kong.