Church of Saint Mary Parish Bulletin: September 10, 2023

CHURCH of SAINT MARY

The Twenty-Third Sunday in Ordinary Time

September 10, 2023

Reverend Father Robert A. Romeo | Pastor

Reverend Father Dominik Wegiel | Parochial Vicar

Reverend Father Rafal Borowiejski | Parochial Vicar

Reverend Father Edward Obi, MSP | Parochial Vicar

Parish Mission Statement

We, the community of Saint Mary’s, Manhasset, building on our rich heritage of Catholic faith and tradition, center ourselves in the Eucharist and honor God in proclaiming the Good News of Jesus Christ.

Guided by the Holy Spirit, we seek to be the presence of Christ through our liturgical, educational and social ministries. We dedicate our time, talent and treasure to the service of all as we build the kingdom of God in our world. We commit to this mission in the name of Jesus Christ.

Church of Saint Mary

1300 Northern Boulevard

Manhasset, New York 11030

(516) 627-0385

Fax (516) 627-6070

www.saintmarysmanhasset.org

Schedule of Masses

Thursday 7:00 AM (when school is in session)

Monday–Friday 9:00 AM

Saturday 9:00 AM, 5:00 PM

Sunday 7:30 AM, 9:00 AM, 10:30 AM, 12:00 Noon

Sacrament of Penance

Saturdays from 4:00-4:45 PM and by appointment. Please call 627-0385.

Anointing of the Sick

The Sacrament of the Anointing of the Sick is celebrated in the Chapel on the second Sunday of the month following the 10:30 AM Mass. If you are unable to come to Church, please call the Parish Office to make arrangements for Anointing or to receive the Eucharist.

Parish Office

627-0385 | Fax 627-6070

Monday 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM

Tuesday - Friday 9:30 AM - 4:00 PM

Saturday - (phone only) 10:00 AM–1:30 PM

Sunday 9:30 AM - 2:00 PM

E-mail: information@stmary.ws

Parish Social Ministry

365-2705

Monday-Wednesday-Thursday 11:00 AM-3:00 PM

E-mail: socialmin@stmary.ws

St. Vincent de Paul Society: svdp@stmary.ws

Religious Education

627-4028

Monday 12:00 Noon-8:00 PM

Wednesday 9:00 AM–5:00 PM

Tuesday and Thursday 9:00 AM–6:00 PM

Closed on Friday

PARISH DIRECTORY

Pastoral Staff

Rev. Fr. Robert A. Romeo Pastor

627-0385 | ext. 1004 pastor@stmary.ws

Rev. Fr. Dominik Wegiel

Parochial Vicar

627-0385 | ext. 1006 frdominik@stmary.ws

Rev. Fr. Rafal Borowiejski Parochial Vicar

Rev. Fr. Edward Obi, MSP Parochial Vicar

Parish Staff Jane Clifford Bulletin Editor bulletin@stmary.ws

Marie T. Granieri

Director of Religious Education 627-4028 | ext. 1127 releddirector@stmary.ws

Vincent Hartley

Facilities Manager

627-0385 | ext. 1002

Kathleen Kosciusko Director of Parish Social Ministry

627-0385 | ext. 1126 kkosciusko@stmary.ws

Jennifer LaChance Office Manager 627-0385 information@stmary.ws

Robert Levulis Music Director 313-7606

Vanessa Quiros Parish Office 627-0385 vquiros@stmary.ws

Sr. Teresa Raftery, IHM

Adult Faith Formation 627-0385 | ext. 1010 traftery@stmary.ws

The Schools of Saint Mary Nursery through 12th Grade

Very Rev. Dom Elias Carr, Can. Reg., Ph.D. President 627-2711

president@stmary.ws

Norma Ragalli Stafford Director of Admissions 627-2711 | ext 1084 nstafford@stmary.ws

Edward Short Vice President of Development 627-2711 | ext 1120 eshort@stmary.ws

Eileen M. Symmons ’82, ’86 Director of Communications 627-2711 esymmons@stmary.ws

Kiera Gmelich Walsh Director of Alumni and Parent Relations 627-2711 | ext. 1162 kwalsh@stmary.ws

Sarah de Venoge Griffin ’02, ’06 Liaison for School Relations sgriffin@saintmarysmanhasset.org

St. Mary’s Elementary School 627-0184 www.stmary11030.org

Theresa A. Kemp Principal tkemp@stmary11030.org

St. Mary’s High School 627-2711 www.saintmaryshs.org

Gerard J. Buckley Principal gbuckley@saintmaryshs.org

Masses and Special Intentions

Vincent Nicky O’Donnell

Laarni Melliza

Donna Chesney

Gladys Jean

Douglas Martocci, Sr.

Katharine Whelan

Carol Furciato

Masses for the Week

Monday, September 11th

Col 1:24-2:3, Lk 6:6-11

9:00 AM | Ven. Fr. Anthony Vincent Gallo

Tuesday, September 12th

The Most Holy Name of Mary

Col 2:6-15, Lk 6:12-19

Theresa Fallon

Christine Marchese

Thomas Hyland

Stephen Sheehan

Sandy Pittman

Moira Feely

Marguerite Barone

Erica Klock

Jacob Rivera

Jaxson Rivera

Ronald Grubert

Josephine Arkwright

Anna Forte

Dr. Michael O’Grady

Mason

Tom Francess

Gabriel Romeo

Helen Kennedy

Ann Shields

Jane Hone

Names will remain on the list for three months. Please email bulletin@stmary.ws if you would like to continue with the listing

9:00 AM | Anthony Lee

Wednesday, September 13th

St. John Chrysostom, Bishop & Doctor of the Church

Col 3:1-11, Lk 6:20-26

9:00 AM | Juliet Lord

Thursday, September 14th

The Exaltation of the Cross

Nm 21:4b-9, Phil 2:6-11, Jn 3:13-17

7:00 AM | Lucia Perota

9:00 AM | Stephen Scrobe

Friday, September 15th

Our Lady of Sorrows

1 Tm 1:1-2, 12-14, Jn 19:25-27

125th Brigade Support Battalion

23rd Marine Regiment

25th Marine Regiment

2-4 GSAB Task Force Mustang

2-211th GSAB Task Force

War Horse

51st Security Force Squadron

75th Ranger Regiment

82nd Expeditionary Rescue Squadron

Alacqua, Alexander, 1LT, USA

Amerson, Jason, CPT, USA

Anderson, Michael, 1LT, USA

Arnold, James, LCpl, USMC

Avasthi, David, Capt, USAF

Baber, Joseph, Maj, USAF

Broderick, Evan, SGT, USA

Broderick, Steven, SN, USN

Brodie, Virgina H., 2ndLt, USMC

Brown, Jason, SGT, USA

Fontanetta, Joseph, Maj, USMC

Hayes, Andrew, Capt, USMC

Hernandez, Steven, SSgt, USAF

Higgins, James, GySgt, USMC

Hilton, Justin, SGT, USA

Hilton, Nathaniel, SGT, USA

Horner, Brian G., 1stLt, USMC

Howard, Edward, PV2, USA

Hussey, James M., GySgt, USMC Jones, Scott B., LT, USN

Jones, Katherine L., LTJG, USN Kennedy, Michael, Col, USAF

LaManna, Vincent S., Jr., PVT, USA

Landolphi, Michael, ENS, USN

Lanza, Anthony E., LtCol, USMC

Madden, Michael E., Major, USAF

Major, A. Edward, III, MAJ, USA

Marine Medium Tilt Rotor Squadron 161

Marine Transport Squadron 352 McGorry, Patrick F., HM2, USN

McKievear, Gary, LT, USA

Millau, Jeffrey, PFC, USMC

Morris, Jr., Brian J., MAC, USN

O’Leary, Jason, SSgt, USAF

Petracca, Evan L., LTJG, USN

Quinn, Anthony, Jr., SGT, USA

Richardson, Timothy, PV2, USA

Radman, Paul Cpl, USMC

Rodi, Caroline G., CAPT, USN

Sharkey, John J., LtCol, USMC

Spivak III, Edmund, Capt, USAF

Sweeney, Timothy, CPT, USA

Swersky, Roberto, Capt, USMC

Tafone, Samantha, SGT, USA

Ullrich, Kenneth C., HN, USN

Unger, Matthew J., SPC, USA

Vachris, Madison LTJG, USN

Wood, Kelly, BMSR, USN

If you have a service member that you would like to add to this list please e-mail bulletin@stmary.ws. Please include name, rank and branch of service.

9:00 AM | Virginia Stover

Saturday, September 16th

Ss. Cornelius, Pope, & Cyprian, Bishop, Martyrs

1 Tm 1:15-17, Lk 6:43-49

9:00 AM | Charles Vachris

5:00 PM | Timothy Dowd & Mary Thompson

Thomas J. Flynn, Sr.

Emma & Rudolf Wassmer

Lena & Caesar Taddeo

Emily & Joseph Colgan

Rose Marie Diaso

Sunday, September 17th

The Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time

Catechetical Sunday

Sir 27:30-28:7, Rom 14:7-9, Mt 18:21-35

7:30 AM | People of the Parish

9:00 AM | Antoinette Samyn

10:30 AM | Robert Symmons

12:00 Noon | William Buffone

Lawrence Lentz

Jamie Jacobson

Gregory Pizzuro

John Ohrnberger

James Keane

Ellen W. Coughlin

Cover: The Exhortation to the Apostles.

Artist: James Tissot (1836-1902).

Anthony Arenare Aurelio ‘Lee’ Dominguez

A Letter from Fr. Eddy

Dear Parishioners,

In the last four weeks we have come to know about Kate Bowler, and the fact that she is, even now, suffering from colon cancer diagnosed at stage four. Perhaps, the most remarkable thing about the story from her book: Everything Happens for a Reason (New York: Random House, 2018), is the ordinariness of her life, and the transparent way in which she is undergoing her ordeal. We have walked with her as companions along the way of suffering, knowing that we are no better or different. It is Kate today, but it could be anyone else tomorrow. Brothers and Sisters, we are contingent (dependent) beings in the hands of God, so to speak, and whatever happens in our lives is already accounted for in God, who is All-Good, All-Powerful, and All-Knowing. This is my short answer to the question that Kate raises, whether everything really happens for a reason.

Permit me, in concluding this discourse, to share a personal story. Perhaps I should first say that for the first fiftyfour years of my life, I was never so sick as to stay overnight in a hospital. But everything changed thereafter; and my health took a downward turn. Just over five years ago, I found myself increasingly straining to pass urine, and each time I had the urge I could not manage to void my bladder completely. The urge was so frequent that in one nighttime period I was forced to wake up as many as six times to do this painful ritual! I consulted urologists at one of the fancier specialist diagnostic hospitals where I live, they did a biopsy, and diagnosed what they called Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH). In layman’s language, this is an Enlarged Prostate gland. Thank God, their laboratory results showed it was not cancerous! But the prescribed medications that I took daily afforded me only temporary relief, and saved me the embarrassment of frequently needing and requesting to pass urine in peoples’ homes when I was not at home. Like Kate, the first thing out the window of my life was my pride, because this humbled me. It truly did!

Things came to a head one Christmas week in 2017 when I travelled to my village to be with my family members as I usually did. The Christmas cheer and the joy of being home among my people; the eating and drinking and entertainment was cut short later that night when I could not pass urine. My bladder was full, my abdomen distended, and I could neither lie nor sit down. Early in the morning I scrambled a driver to take me to the nearest government hospital, about two hours’ journey away. The doctor on call tried to insert a catheter through my urethra, but failed due to the enlargement of the prostate gland. He resorted in the end to inserting a syringe directly through my abdomen and into the bladder to extract urine. As he repeated this a few times, I felt immediate relief, and for the first time that morning I could sit down. In the ensuing discussion, he suggested I find a surgeon who could undertake a surgical procedure to emplace a Supra-pubic catheter, somewhere south of my belly-button, to enable me to pass urine in the meantime, before a more permanent solution is found.

To cut a long story short, I approached a physician in a roadside ‘Medical Center’ near my village and he assured me he could undertake this procedure. Later that night, I came back to the place and the doctor led me into his ramshackle ‘theater’ where I got ready for surgery. He had no electricity, so he proceeded to do this procedure with one of his nurses lighting up with her mobile phone! This should have been a warning sign for me, but it didn’t record immediately because of my desperate straits. Obviously, the local anesthesia he administered did not work, because I was feeling excruciating pain with his every touch and cut. At some point, he administered general anesthesia, and put me to sleep without prior information. I could have choked in my sleep, because I had been eating and drinking just before I came in for the procedure! I cannot say how long I was sedated, but when eventually I came back to consciousness, I was lying alone in the dark room disoriented, and couldn’t quite recognize or remember where I was.

When eventually the doctor walked in, he gave me some really horrific news. He said the scalpel (surgical blade) he was using had detached from its handle and disappeared into my bladder during the procedure! Please, do not ask me how this is possible, but it happened to me! There I was with a perforated bladder, and a knife lodged in it! Now what! Thank God, he was honest enough to admit that he lacked the capacity to do anything further. I had to be rushed as a matter of emergency, to a tertiary hospital in the nearest city, three hours’ journey away, in the middle of the night for yet another surgery. This second surgery in 24 hours was to retrieve the surgical knife, and then to emplace a Suprapubic catheter to enable me to void my bladder as, and when, needed. Remember that this was what brought me to this roadside clinic in the first place. Yes, I had this scalpel lodged in my bladder for nearly twenty hours before it was

A Letter from Fr. Eddy

extracted, and the surgery was completed. My original problem; however, remained unresolved since the prostrate was still enlarged. The ordeal ended when my Superior arranged for me to travel to the USA, specifically to Houston, Texas, in March 2018, for the appropriate surgery to address the problem. I am glad to say I have been well since! For reasons such as this, the USA has many friends in Nigeria, in particular, and Africa in general. So, I am one of those who often yell in excitement: USA! USA!! USA!!!

Now, to conclude our discourse on the story of Kate Bowler, let us pose the question one more time: Does everything happen for a reason? At this point we must rehash the perennial Problem of Evil: Why does evil (including suffering, pain, disease, and death) exist in the world when there is a God who is All-Good, All-Powerful, and All-Knowing? Of course, one paragraph in a parish bulletin cannot even begin to address this age-old problem of mankind. Suffice it to say; however, that for God to be God, He must possess the following attributes in the least. Firstly, He must be All-Good (Omnibenevolent), because it was out of pure and selfless love that He created the universe. Thus, He cannot will evil for His creation, since He is All-good to His creatures. If evil occurs, as it often does, it is not because He has positively willed it, but He allows it as part of the immensity of His will, and the Freedom that is at the core of this Divine Will. His infinite goodness perfectly supplies and sustains all there is, to an infinite degree. Secondly, God must be All-Powerful (Omnipotent), because if we accept that nothing preceded God, and that He created everything ex nihilo (from nothing) in the beginning, then there can be nothing from which God gets power. The implication of this is that all power belongs to God, and He ‘rations’ it to whom He chooses, as He chooses. It would be illogical and impossible for Him to ration more power to an aspect of His creation than He has in Himself. Being All-Powerful; therefore, He can call forth everything, and also suppress everything, including evil, if He wants to. But He does not actively do so since He is not in competition or power contest, as it were, with any other power whatsoever, not even with the power of evil. Thirdly, God must be All-Knowing (Omniscient), because He holds all creation in contingency, and no part of this immensity is implicated, impacted, or affected in any way that He does not actively know about. In fact, not to know or to have any admixture of ignorance disqualifies Him as God. Why? Because that would mean that He can neither be All-Powerful or All-Good. It is actually His infinite knowledge that enables Him to exercise His infinite power and infinite goodness.

So, to answer the question whether everything happens for a reason, we consider that everything happens in a universe created and maintained by God, and nothing escapes Him. St. Paul was overwhelmed with the realization of God’s internal cohesion when he wrote of God’s mercy and wisdom as follows,

“How rich are the depths of God – how deep his wisdom and knowledge – and how impossible to penetrate his motives or understand his methods! All that exists comes from him; all is by him and for him. To him be glory forever! Amen” (Romans 11:33-36).

So, what happened to me, what is happening to Kate Bowler, and everything that has ever happened to anyone that we know, is accounted for in the immensity of God. Everything is; therefore, subsumed in God and accounted for Through Him, With Him, and In Him (Great Doxology at the end of the Eucharistic Prayer)! May the infinite God bless and preserve each and all. Amen!

Fr. Edward Obi, MSP (fredward@saintmarysmanhasset.org).

P.S. Many thanks to all who sent me feedback during these Letters. I hope we can keep this conversation alive on my official email, above. Thanks, again!

J Stewards of God’s Gifts

“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”

Living Stewardship ~ Pillar of Prayer: When was the last time you prayed together as a family? Or when was the last time you prayed with a friend? This week make time to pray with others—perhaps a family Rosary or a Bible study with friends.

The collection for Sunday, September 3, 2023 amounted to $21,230.00. The collection for Sunday, September 4, 2022 amounted to $19,704.00.

Have you enrolled yet? Visit www.faithdirect.net. Our parish code is NY281.

We Care for Our Parish Community

Baptism

We celebrate Baptism at 1:30 PM on the second Sunday of the month and at 12:30 PM on the fourth Saturday of the month as scheduled. Please call the Parish Office at least one month in advance to see if a date is available and to arrange to fill out pre-baptismal paperwork. New parents are required to attend a Baptism preparation session held once every month. Those chosen as sponsors for Baptism should lead lives in harmony with the Catholic faith and the role of Godparent.”

Marriage

At least six months before you plan to be married and before you make arrangements for the reception, please make an appointment with one of the priests to begin the necessary preparations.

Children’s Education

Saint Mary’s Elementary School offers excellent education in the spirit of the Gospel from grades N, Pre-K to Eighth grade. For information call 627-0184.

Empowering Character, Innovation and Leadership in our students, Saint Mary’s High School is a dynamic, contemporary, Catholic value-centered school, combining a commitment to academic excellence and educational innovation, with a passion for learning, and an emphasis on moral character development through the pursuit of truth and discovered in faith and reason. For information call 627-2711.

The Religious Education Program provides excellent formation in the Catholic Faith for children in public or private schools. Preparation for First Holy Communion and Confirmation requires two years. Classes are held at St. Mary’s for Grades 1 through 5 on Tuesdays and Thursdays

4:30-5:30 PM. Classes also meet on Sundays from 9:3010:20 AM for Grades 1 through 8 and on Mondays from 7:00-8:00 PM for Grades 6, 7 and 8. We also offer the option of an online home program for Grades 1 through 7. For information about Grades 1-8 call 627-4028 or email Mrs. Marie Granieri at releddirector@stmary.ws.

Parish Social Ministry

We care for our sisters and brothers through our Parish Social Ministry and Food Pantry. For information call 365-2705.

Youth Ministry

We reach out to our teens though our Youth Ministry Program. For information email youth@stmary.ws or visit stmarysyouth.weebly.com.

New Parishioners

We welcome new members to the Catholic Church and to Saint Mary’s Parish. If you are new in the area or interested in learning more about the Catholic faith, please call the Parish Office.

Opportunities For Prayer

The Church is open Monday to Friday until 8:45 PM, on Saturday until the end of the 5:00 PM Mass, and on Sunday until 6:00 PM so that we may have the opportunity for quiet prayer before the Blessed Sacrament. The Miraculous Medal Novena is said each Monday following the 9:00 AM Mass. Monday to Saturday the Rosary is said following the 9:00 AM Mass. Eucharistic Adoration is held every Monday from 3:00 to 5:00 PM in the Chapel. On First Saturdays, the Scriptural Rosary is recited following the 9:00 AM Mass.

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Fall Mass Schedule Changes

The 7:00 AM Mass on Thursdays will resume this Thursday, September 14th.

The Gift Shop will reopen on SUNDAY SEPTEMBER 17

The hours are after the 9:00 AM, 10:30 AM, & 12:00 Noon Masses. It is located in the Parish Ministry Center below the church.

Any inquiries, please call 526-627-0385 ext. 1033

First Time

Nicholas Rettino and Catherine Lynch Ss. Faith, Hope, St. Mary, & Charity, Manhasset, NY Winnetka, IL

Second Time

Matthew Wickenhauser and Alison Brosky Assumption St. Mary, of the Blessed Virgin Mary, Manhasset, NY Centerreach, NY

Third Time

Daniel Bellissimo and Sarah Richardson St. Mary, St. Mary, Manhasset, NY Manhasset, NY

Patrick Moroney and Britten Reilly St. Mary, St. Mary, Manhasset, NY Manhasset, NY

Readings and Questions for Faith Sharing on the Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time

Reading I: Sirach 27:30-28:7

Think of the commandments, hate not your neighbor; remember the Most High’s covenant, and overlook faults.

Reading II: Romans 14:7-9

None of us lives for oneself, and no one dies for oneself.

Gospel: Matthew 18:21-35

“So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives your brother from the heart.”

Question for Adults:

For what do I need forgiveness and whom do I need to forgive?

Question for Children:

How am I learning to forgive the way that Jesus tells us to in the Gospel story?

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In Session with Dr. Patricia Pitta

Building a Solid Foundation for the Upcoming School Year: Employing the Grace of God

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).

This summer was so short, but, for many, each day could be long especially for those who have children who did not go to an organized camp. Parents had to drive their children to places to see friends or do activities. So many extra jobs were added to parents’ already busy schedules. So, as you see, summertime when the living is easy was turned into an ever-moving schedule of activities and responsibilities. Now you are preparing for the school year. I hear parents say, “They are happy that the children, no matter what the age, are going back to school.” I got it!

Well, I hope you enjoyed the warm air and the relaxing times that were to be had at different intervals. In many ways, life is just moments to contemplate, enjoy, work through, and reflect upon.

How do you organize yourself and your children to have an orderly school year? Order and setting a routine are the basis of success. Through establishing order, each person in a family system knows what their specific responsibilities are to themselves and to the working of the family. Remember: misbehaving children and teens are looking for attention and significance. Everyone wants to feel they count and that their thoughts and feelings are heard.

I suggest that parents talk with each other about the coming school year. What do you expect from

each other in terms of managing the many responsibilities for each of the children? Once you have come to terms with responsibilities the parents will have, the next step is to state the expectations that the school and home will place on your children no matter what the age. This also applies to college students who are living at home.

Parents need to identify their expectations for their children. Also, ask the children what they expect from themselves in terms of negotiating and working through the many responsibilities of the school year. I would suggest these be written down by parents and children. It is important to have a record or contract of what was decided upon. This way, your children can’t say they didn’t realize what they had to do.

Once you have discussed expectations of the new school year, it is a worthwhile exercise for your children to review the past year. You have hopes and aspirations that whatever was problematic for them in the past year will be a thing of the past. How can you set up the coming year to address the challenges that lie ahead as they forge further into their academic education and grow in the grace of God giving them the ability to manage their emotional reactions to the things they struggle with?

Was it a certain subject that gave you difficulty last year? Did you have trouble organizing your time so you could finish your schoolwork and partake in other activities? Did you not have the energy to accomplish all that you set out to do? Do you need help with certain subjects? Have you been able to identify extracurricular activities that you want to participate in? Are you having trouble making or keeping friends? Are your expectations realistic?

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Sorry for all the questions, but I know many students and their parents have some of these concerns. So where do you start? First, try to identify what went wrong in the past in the areas that you are having trouble with. If it was a particular subject: Did you understand the classwork? Were you distracted in class? Did you do your assignments fully? Did you study for tests? If you studied and did not understand the subject matter, did you reach out for help? Ask yourself, or parents, ask your child, and see if you can identify the patterns that did not work for you. If you can do that, you will know what needs to be changed.

Friendships and relating is an essential part of the school experience. Did you feel accepted and liked by your peers? If not, do you know why? What was your part in creating the problems with friends? That doesn’t mean that you started or created them. Many times, it means that you put up with being bullied, made fun of, or not included. These are tough feelings and facts to realize. If you can address these issues, you can set yourself on another path and be free of patterns that keep you stuck.

Do you become overwhelmed with anxiety or anger when feeling frustrated about your schoolwork, sports, and other extracurricular activities (performing: dance, singing, theatre, writing for publications, etc.)?

In considering all these questions and areas of concern, this is where your relationship with God can become very useful for you. Pray to God for peace and guidance in the ability to face your behaviors and feelings. God bestows upon us HIS grace just for the asking through prayer. Prayer also enables you to calm your mind and face your feelings and change your actions.

Rosary Society

Summer Rosary Project Update:

Over 200 sets of Rosary Beads were given out over the course of the summer months. If anyone has Rosary Beads they no longer need, please consider dropping them off at the Parish office.

Our Mission Statement:

The Rosary Society fosters devotion to Mary through prayer and good works for causes that would be dear to her heart

Invest 20 minutes of your day to pray the Rosary, and see the difference it will make in your life.

If you would like the Rosarians to pray for a special intention, please e-mail us at rosarysociety@stmary.ws.

Thursday, September 21st - Opening Mass and Luncheon

Weekend of September 30th-October 1st Flu Shot Clinic open to all parishioners After the 5:00 PM Mass on Saturday, before and after all Masses on Sunday EXCEPT the 7:30 AM Mass. Clinic will be supervised by Dr. Joseph Hansen of the Port Washington Rite AId

Sunday, October 29th - Musical Rosary in the Church

More information will be announced in the coming weeks. Watch for the Dues letter with the Calendar card of events scheduled to arrive in the mail.

PLEASE DON’T FORGET TO SEND IN YOUR COMPLETED DUES CARD, EVEN IF YOU ARE EXEMPT FROM PAYING DUES.

September 15th - Memorial of Our Lady of Sorrows. On this day, our Church calls attention to Our Blessed Mother’s sufferings to remind us of the pain and sadness Mary suffered in her earthly life. Much the same as the Church commemorates Jesus’ passion and death on Good Friday, a reflection on Our Lady’s sufferings will draw us nearer to our own salvation. We have an opportunity to ask Mary to help us through our own trials.

In Session with Dr. Patricia Pitta (con’t.)

Parents: Now what I want you to do is make a list of all the questions I put forth in this article and each night spend time with your children individually to explore the answers to the questions. Also, before you start the discussion, say a prayer for guidance for you and your children. Below is a prayer you can say or choose whatever prayer you want. What is most important is that you pray and talk together. Doing this, matters can be resolved with calm and understanding. Also, emotional, and academic growth can be achieved. The

best of luck for all your efforts this year.

If you find that you are stuck in one or many areas, consult with a psychologist to help explore the many options that are available to you and your children to find solutions and feel more empowered and able to attain success.

Lord, give me the strength to follow your word in all that I do in the coming school year. May I be blessed by your grace to be persistent in all my efforts to do the best I can do. Also, if I need help, please give me the strength to ask for it.

Dr. Pitta is a Clinical and Family Psychologist practicing in Manhasset and is the chair of the Mental Health Ministry of St. Mary’s. She is the former Director of the Integrative Couple and Family Therapy Post-Graduate Program of psychology at St. John’s University. Dr. Pitta is a graduate of the Pastoral Formation Institute of Rockville Centre. She is the author of Solving Modern Family Dilemmas: An Assimilative Therapy Model published by Routledge Publishers, and Integrative Couple and Family Therapy published by the American Psychological Association.

AGES 2+

Knights of Columbus

Father William A. Daly S.J. Council #2122

Serving St. Mary’s Parish in Manhasset and St. Aloysius Parish In Great Neck www.kofc2122.org

What is a Knights of Columbus Family?

We are Catholic families building a bridge to our faith.

Our lives, time, efforts, and resources are dedicated to these values: Charity. Unity. Fraternity. Patriotism.

We come from different places, backgrounds, and all stages of life. But the common thread is our Catholic faith. We are Catholic families seeking to improve ourselves and the world.

It’s one thing to say who you are. It’s another thing is to live it. Put your values into practice. Become a Knights of Columbus family.

Interested? Please call:

Tony Racioppo 917 539 0859

Dan Garcia 516 358 1817

Ladies interested in joining the Columbiettes

Please contact Maura Clifford at Macliff56@gmail.com

Business Owners:

Please consider advertising in our bulletin. It’s a great way to support our parish. Call our printer, LPi at 1-800-477-4574 or visit their website www.4lpi.com for more information.

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Venerable

Anthony Vincent Gallo

Diocesan Priest, Oblate of the Congregation of the Priests of the Sacred Heart

Montforte Irpino: 11 January 1899 - Rome: 2 May 1934

O Most Holy Trinity, Who deigned to raise Venerable Anthony Vincent Gallo to the priesthood, and endowed him with precious gifts, especially that of a burning love for suffering and immolation, we humbly beseech You, if it be Your will, that he may be glorified on earth, and that we may obtain through his intercession the particular grace which we ask for with living faith. Amen.

Twenty-Third Sunday in Ordinary Time ”Love one another.”

Romans 13:8: “Brothers and Sisters: Owe nothing to anyone, except to LOVE one another, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” God can transform your marriage. Want to make your good marriage even better? Sign up for a Worldwide Marriage Encounter Experience. The dates to sign up are:

September 22-24, 2023, in Huntington, NY (Immaculate Conception Seminary)

October 16-November 6, 2023, Virtual (Monday/ Wednesday evenings)

October 20-22,2023 in Barre, Vermont (St. Monica/St. Michael)

Worldwide Marriage Encounter sponsors a variety of in-person and virtual marriage experiences, some on weekends and some on seven weekdays. Couples explore their relationship with each other, God, and the Church. Registration is limited; there is a $100 application fee. For more information or to apply, call Kevin & Regina Hickson at 631-486-8607 or https:// wwmenyli.org/.

We welcome submissions to the weekly Bulletin. All copy and material is due by noon on Mondays preferably in electronic format - original documents, no PDFs. Photos or supporting graphics should be hi-resolution and sent via E-mail as attachments. Phone photos should be “actual size.” No copyrighted material, text or photos. The Bulletin Editor may edit submissions for content, clarity and/or size. Please E-mail your submission to bulletin@stmary.ws

Parish Social Ministry

Thanks and gratitude to our generous parishioners for filling a good portion of our pantry. We have collected many of the supplies we need to feed the families coming to our office for food support. The items we need this week are:

Pancake Mix

Syrup

Canned Fruit

Grape Jelly

Mustard

Cake Mix / Frosting

Jell-O

Toothpaste

Toothbrushes (small packages)

Shampoo

Diapers - size 5 and 6

Everyone is invited and we hope you will join the fun!

ST. MARY’S FOCUS GROUP GAME DAY

When: Friday, September 29th

Where: Marian Room

Time: 1:00 PM to 3:30 PM

Kindly RSVP by September 25th to: Ronnie LoCascio 516- 365-8355 or rlocascio1@gmail.com or Sue Neville 516-424-2822 or suephd@aol.com

Bring your own game sets if you have them

You may form your own foursome, or we will place you at a table if you are on your own Coffee, tea, water, and cookies will be served

A small donation to cover costs would be appreciated

Society of St. Vincent de Paul

In today’s Gospel, Jesus says: “…where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” Is there a family you know who needs assistance? Please call the Society of St. Vincent de Paul so that together we help them to know that indeed “God is in the midst of them.”

Our St. Vincent de Paul Conference is able to help our neighbors in need through the generosity of our St. Mary’s parishioners. Each time you donate, either through the collection slots at the doors of the church, or in an envelope marked for St. Vincent de Paul, you are helping our neighbors within St. Mary’s Parish. If you or someone you know is in need of assistance, contact the St. Vincent de Paul Society at 516-627-0385, ext. 1125, or email SVDP@stmary.ws. To donate furniture, clothing or household items, please call the store in Garden City Park at 516-746-8250. Thank you for your continued support.

Saturday, September 30, 2023, 8:30 AM - 1:00 PM

Society of St. Vincent de Paul Long Island Friends of the Poor Walk Cedar Creek Park in Seaford, NY

For more information, please visit: https://svdpli.org

Exposition and Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament

Prayers at Adoration

Heavenly Father, we come before you today, in Your house, to worship, honor and to thank you for your Son and everything we that you have given us and the lives that we enjoy. We are especially thankful for our families, friends and community, Father God.

I adore you, O Infinite Goodness, who has wrought so many miracles, in order to reveal your love to us. I adore you, with all the angels and saints, and with those chosen souls that are now already the blessed of your Father and are all aglow with burning love for you. I adore you with all your friends, O Jesus!

Come, let us tell of the Lord’s greatness; let us exalt his name together.” (Psalm 34:3)

Dear Lord,

I adore you because you are great, and greatly to be praised! (Psalm 145:3) All I have to do is look around to see your greatness displayed. Creation shows me your wonderful work, your power and beauty in all things. Romans 11:36 reminds me of this, “For everything comes from him and exists by his power and is intended for his glory. All glory to him forever!”

When I slow down from the busyness of life, I notice you more. I hear you in the birds singing and sense your presence in the gentle wind. I get a glimpse of your goodness in the miracle of new life. The morning sunrise reminds me of your mercies that begin fresh every morning (Lamentations 3:22). As I go about my day, I will admire how great you are by pausing to enjoy what you created. In the holy name of your son Jesus I pray, Amen.

RCIA and Adult Faith Formation

Do You Know Someone Who Would Like to Become Catholic?

Do You Need to Complete Your Sacraments of Initiation?

New Program Begins Next Week on Tuesday, September 12th

If the answer is “yes” or perhaps even “maybe,” please call Sister or come into the parish office to make an appointment. Sister will be happy to explain the process by which we bring adults into the Church or help them to complete their Sacraments of Initiation. She hopes to begin our new program for this year on September 12th, if she has some interested people who do respond.

Sister Teresa can be contacted about our RCIA and other Adult Faith Formation programs at 516-627-0385, ext. 1010. Her office hours are Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday between 10:00AM and 4:00PM and other times by appointment.

ST. MARY’S CHURCH

SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 24, 2023

8:00AM - 2:00PM

1300 Northern Blvd., Manhasset Marian Room

Appointments Preferred walk-ins welcome if capacity permits

To make an appointment please click here, or scan QR code below and type 06384

For more information, please contact 516-627-3183 or e-mail vamar185@aol.com

Appointments are preferred however walk-ins will be welcomed if space permits. Please remember to eat, drink and bring your donor ID card or ID with name and photo. Masks are optional for all donors and staff. For full list of COVID-19 safety protocols, please visit nybc.org/coronavirus

ST. MARY’S HIGH SCHOOL C L A S S CLASS

R E U N I O N S REUNIONS

CLASS OF 1983 – 40TH REUNION

Saturday, September 16, 2023

7:00 PM | Strathmore Vanderbilt CC

CLASS OF 1998 – 25TH REUNION

Saturday, September 23, 2023

7:00 PM | Willistons’

YOUNG ALUMNI REUNION –

5, 10, 15 & 20 YEARS

Saturday, September 23, 2023

5:00 PM Mass - Church of St. Mary

6:00 PM Reception - St. Mary’s High School

CLASS OF 1973 – 50TH REUNION

Saturday, October 14, 2023

6:30 PM | Strathmore Vanderbilt CC

CLASS OF 1993 – 30TH REUNION

Saturday, October 21, 2023

7:00 PM | Port Washington Yacht Club

CLASS OF 1968 – 55TH REUNION

Saturday, October 28, 2023

7: 00 PM | Manhasset Bay Yacht Club

What is the Silver Circle Membership Program?

• A fundraiser that raises money for the IHM sisters Retirement Fund.

How much does a membership cost?

• Memberships are $25.00 each. You may purchase as many as you like.

Why should I join?

• In addition to supporting the IHM Sisters, you have 324 chances to win prizes ranging from $50.00 to $1,000.00.

When are the prize drawings?

• Drawings are held from October 2023 through June 2024 on the third Wednesday of each month.

What are the other member benefits?

• You are remembered in a monthly Mass for our benefactors and are able to share in the daily works and prayers of the IHM Sisters. Please know how grateful we are for all that you do for us!

To join: please send $25.00 per membership along with the following information to:

Sr. Sandra McMahon, IHM, St. Mary’s Convent, 1320 Northern Blvd., Manhasset, NY 11030

Name: Last ______________________________ First ______________________

Address: ___________________________________________________________

City ___________________________ State _________ Zip + 4 _______________

Phone __________________________ Date _____________ Amount $_________

GIFT MEMBERSHIP

Name: Last ______________________________ First _______________________

Address: ____________________________________________________________

City ______________________ State ______ Zip + 4 __________ Amount $_______

Phone __________________________ Date _____________

Please make checks payable to: Sisters of IHM

If purchasing additional memberships, please attach a sheet to this form.

Children’s Liturgy of the Word Resumes at the 9:00 AM

Mass

Next Sunday, September 17th

What do we do? After the Opening Prayer, children are dismissed from the church with a blessing by the priest, proceed to the chapel hear the Sunday Readings and participate in an interactive reflection on the Gospel, all on a level that young children can understand. They return to the church at the beginning of the Creed. There is no age range and no pre-registration is required.

Adults (especially catechists): Would you like to help our children understand the Good News of the Gospel? Materials and training are provided; scheduling is flexible. If interested, please contact Jane Clifford at bulletin@stmary.ws or sit in with us starting next Sunday.

Let the little children come to me... (Matt 19:14)