Victorian Outdoor Education Association (VOEA) 2012 Conference Presentation
Encouraging Appropriate Behaviour: A Six-Step Approach by
Murray Irwin Savi Consulting
Think of an example when someones behaviour was not okay and you had to deal with that behaviour.
BECOME Is a framework to use like DRABC is used in first aid. As we go through the framework think about your own example.
identify specific behaviour agreement why description
passive
assertive
aggressive
lacks respect for own rights
defends own rights while respecting the rights of others
lacks respect for others rights
agreements: positively framed broad address likely issues consequences
things to include: respect safety & behaviour guidelines give and receive feedback work toward goals consequences
injury - physically, emotionally, psychologically, relationally consistency
when why triggers need
Adapted Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs self actualisation esteem love & belonging safety & security physiological addictions & disorders
correctly perceived; perception justified inappropriate behaviour
identify the trigger incorrectly perceived; perception unjustified
work on appropriate assertive response review thoughts to correct perception work on appropriate assertive response
ways of responding
Rescue - You say pick up all the rubbish being dropped. Bribe - You offer them marshmallows if they do not drop rubbish. Support - Okay, I will help you clean up the rubbish. Reinforce - Thanks for getting the camp tidied up today, heres a marshmallow.
Encourage - Well done for remembering to put it in the rubbish bag. Coach - Why do you think it is difficult to put rubbish in the bin? Challenge - Do you think leaving rubbish everywhere for others to pick up is respectful?
Reprimand - Dropping rubbish is not okay. Consequence - Throwing rubbish on the ground is not respecting the environment. I want you to pick it up as well as that other bit over there and put it in the bin. Revenge - I have had enough of rubbish everywhere. No one is going to get marshmallows tonight.
self reflection: reacting consistent contributed handling emotions risks
communication - I-messages conflict resolution steps
strategies Living as your word Building & eroding
Changing behaviour to something that is appropriate is a journey. There is a number of possible destinations you might aim for depending on the circumstances. And there is a number of ways of getting to the destination Sometimes on journeys it is good to have a map. The BECOME six steps is one way to help you navigate the challenges you can sometime face
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