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Victim to Victor: Overcoming the Stigma Of Being Abused
VICTIM TO VICTOR:
Overcoming The Stigma Of Being Abused By: Samantha J.
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Coming forward as a victim of domestic violence is not an easy task. Men especially, pause when talking about being the victim of domestic violence. A typical dialogue on the topic shows that men prefer to point out what abuse is ‘other than physical’. They do so to quickly shun the idea that they may have been overcome by a physical attack from their partners. If you take away the masculine catwalk and showboating of virility, we can get to the core truth that men get abused too. Being a male victim of abuse does not demean the fact that a man is a man, it does uphold the fact that there are women that are abusers too.
Samantha Jackson is a Life Coach, Author, and successful entrepreneur with experience that matches her enthusiasm as a go-getter professional. Samantha gives advice to women and men that need advice, information, and support to know how to shift gears and pivot towards a better life.
A victim of marital emotional trauma and physical abuse in some of her previous relationships, Samantha shares real and raw information to help others free themselves from toxic situations. Her latest publication,
‘RAW & REAL: How to Live Your
Best Life’ released in late 2019 is a good read for men, as well as women. In this book, Samantha encourages, entertains, and even kicks a little butt to convince and give you the confidence to become the authentic man or woman that you are designed to be. Samantha shares that,, “There are so many people living with trauma and negative side effects from divorce, domestic violence, and other life issues. So many of our young adults are dealing with forgiveness, and unfortunately suicide continues to be a major issue in our world.”
Speaking out about your experiences can help you transition from victim to victor. If you continue to hide the pain, or refrain from speaking the words that can help you lighten your mental burden, then you are doing yourself an injustice towards healing. If a part of your story still hurts you too much to talk about, then you need to work on discovering how to heal from that part of your story. It could
be that you are feeling ashamed of being the victim when everyone else looks at you as the leader or strong person.
It is okay to seek therapy and share how you feel so that others may be able to help you see the strengths in your situation, even when you don’t. Coaches are not judgmental. They help you see your situation from a different view, one that is intended to help you heal. A few ways to heal from the victim mindset is to look at what you have abandoned. You left negativity behind and took a new leash on your existence. You still have life, you still have the desire to live happy again, and you still desire to be loved and to give love. The victor mindset teaches you to celebrate milestones such as moving away from the abusive situation, removing obstacles that impede your emotional growth, and eliminate toxic relationship patterns by taking the warning signs seriously.
Success comes in many forms. Be your own success story and leave behind the misconceptions that ‘once a victim, always a victim.’ You can overcome and become victorious in every avenue of your life. Claim your growth and deny the stigma.
Samantha would love to connect with the readers that need to talk through their shame, stigma related depression and feelings of doubt about a positive future. Let go of the hurt and let Coach Samantha gets you on track to live your absolute best life, regardless of where your past had taken you.
Contact information Email: authorsamanthaj@gmail. com Twitter: www.twitter.com/jynrsam Instagram: www.instagram.com/ jynrsam Facebook: Author Samantha J
Sathya Callender
Sathya Callender is the mother of five beautiful children, Domestic Violence Advocate, Overcomer of Domestic Abuse, motivational speaker, and multi stream entrepreneur. She is the owner of Kutie Patooties Gift Boutique “Making Gift Giving Creative, Fun, & Diverse”which opened October 2014. Director/Founder of Scars of Survival, founded October 2016. Sathya’s motto is “We Can Do All Things through Christ Because He Gives Us Strength”.
