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CONTENTS

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FEATURES

STORIES & COLUMNS

22 | In the News How to explain the Israel-Palestine conflict to kids

6 | Editor’s Letter 8 | Community and School News

52 | Calendar All the fun events and activities for November

24 | Travel Visiting charming Cooperstown, NY

12 | Mom Hacks What to do with your kids’ old toys

54 | Birthday Club Celebrating November birthdays

29 | Special Child Tips and resources for emotional wellness for the parents and caregivers of kids with disabilities

16 | Ask the Expert Your teen’s first gynecologist visit

30 | Cover How to navigate museums with a child with disabilities 46 | Parties Best Party Places 48 | Education Best Tutoring & Test Prep Resources 50 | Holiday Fun Our favorite things to do as the holiday season arrives

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18 | Mom Stories One family’s intergenerational Thanksgiving customs

FAMILY FUN

DIRECTORIES 42 | Special Needs Listings

20 | Local Spotlight Diva for a Day for women with cancer on Staten Island 26| Family Fun Cut-your-own Christmas tree farms near NYC

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EDITOR’S NOTE

Nestling into November It’s been a devastating few weeks in the world. Our hearts are broken by the tragedy that continues to unfold in the Middle East. When writing about war, How to Explain the IsraelPalestine Conflict to Kids (page 22), we aim to foster peaceful dialogue while respecting our community and holding onto hope for a better future for all families affected by this conflict. I can’t believe it’s already November! Now that you’ve packed away the ghouls and goblins, it’s time to prep for the upcoming holiday season. We’re sharing Where to Cut Your Christmas Tree (page 26) and Holiday Fun events (page 50). And as always, be sure to check our Calendar (page 52) for even more festive fun! If you’re looking to make some room for the kids’ holiday haul, What to Do With Your Kids Old Toys (page tk) offers eco-friendly and charitable options to feel good about. With Thanksgiving approaching, especially in a time of turmoil, we’re extremely grateful for those closest to us. In Family Traditions (pge 18), a mom of two shares the generational significance of hosting Thanksgiving dinner for her large family. Every November, we highlight ‘Special Child,’ where we share resources for families of children with disabilities. This year, the sweet mom-and-son duo on our cover is New York Family’s own Editorial Director, Donna, with her son Mateo, who was diagnosed

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What’s Happening

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BY BARBARA RUSSO

S.I. TECH RANKED BEST PUBLIC HIGH SCHOOL IN STATE Congratulations are in order for Staten Island Technical High School, which was recently ranked the #1 best public high school in New York State! The school was ranked by Niche, which reviews schools throughout the country. “The formula for success is like a three-legged stool. It’s the students, it’s the parents and it’s the professionals who walk the hallways every day at Staten Island Tech,” said Borough President Vito Fossella during a recent press conference, echoing the philosophy set forth by Principal Mark Erlenwein. “You don’t want to brag or spike the ball too much, but you work very hard, you commit yourself every day and you have found your way. We couldn’t be prouder. You give us great joy and we know your best days are ahead of you.” Principal Erlenwein called the ranking a team effort. “First and foremost, I want to say congratulations to the whole Staten Island Technical High School family. And that includes past, present and future,” he said.

“It’s a communal effort. Everything works better when we do it together.” Other area high schools ranking high on

the list include Bronx High School of Science at #2 and Townsend Harris High School at #3. Stuyvesant High School came in at #4.

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changing bubble wall. The environment was designed to provide a haven for children to retreat to when they need a moment to decompress. The project was initiated and managed by Director of Exhibits, Renee Wasser-Warncke. “Having seen how popular the sensory kits are that we offer to families for use in the museum, we wanted to create a dedicated space to support visitors that may be feeling overwhelmed,” she said. Dina Rosenthal, Executive Director of Staten Island Children’s Museum, expressed her enthusiasm about the new addition. “We are thrilled to introduce this sensory space, which reflects our commitment to inclusivity and ensuring that every child’s museum experience is enjoyable,” she said. “Our goal is to create an environment where children of all abilities can explore, learn and have fun.”

STATEN ISLAND CHILDREN’S MUSEUM OPENS NEW SENSORY SPACE The Staten Island Children’s Museum opened a new sensory space designed to provide a place of respite for kids who might need some time to recharge during their museum visit. Developed with the guidance of a dedicated volunteer advisory committee of members and local parents, this “under the sea”-themed oasis offers a range of sensory experiences to help children find comfort and calm. Located on the lower C Level by the Block Harbor exhibit, the sensory space features a curated assortment of sensory tools and elements, including a plush bean

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NEW YORK FOUNDLING OPENS NEW STATEN ISLAND LOCATION The New York Foundling, an organization that offers support services to families around NYC, opened a new location in Clifton recently. Many services will be available for families at the new site. It occupies two floors at 1 Edgewater Plaza and includes dedicated space for foster care and preventive services, as well as the organization’s Healthy Families and Developmental Disabilities divisions. In addition to providing family-focused foster care, preventive programs, pediatric medical care and other services, the new office includes a brandnew Day Habilitation facility

for people with developmental disabilities, allowing The Foundling to further increase its reach to benefit Staten Islanders. The DayHab provides participants an opportunity to connect with others in their community through social, volunteer and work-related activities. The new space also includes a center for pediatric health care and mental health services, as well as room for other programs supporting well-being. Child welfare programs for both parents and children are also offered.

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What To Do With Your Kids’ Old Toys By BarBara russo

he arrival of fall means the holiday season is around the corner! It’ll soon be time to check off the items on your kids’ wishlists. But in the meantime, you might be wondering, “How will we have room for all these new toys?” Well don’t fret, because we put together a list of what to do with your kids’ old toys that they outgrew or just don’t play with anymore. From recycling programs to charitable donations, these suggestions will help ensure that the toys that brought your little ones so much joy will continue to do so for others. RECYCLING Mattel PlayBack Program shop.mattel.com This company has so many popular toys, including the famous Barbie! Its PlayBack program allows you to ship your kids’ Mattel toys–specifically Barbie, Fisher-Price, Matchbox and MEGA toys–back to the company, where they are then recycled and reused as contents in new products. (We know, it sounds sad, but it actually helps keep toys out of landfills.) To participate, go to the website and fill out a short form to receive a free prepaid shipping label. Package your toys, and then send ‘em on out. Hasbro Toy Recycling hasbrotoyrecycling.hasbro.com/en-us/toyrecycling Mr. Potato Head. My Little Pony. Playskool. These are just a few popular Hasbro brands that you can send back as part of the company’s Toy Recycling program, which is a partnership with recycling company, TerraCycle. Once you send back your toys, the company recycles them into new materials and products, including play

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spaces, flower pots and park benches. Spin Master Free Recycling Program spinmaster.com Recycling is a popular suggestion on what to do with your kids’ old toys. Spin Master toys, which include PAW Patrol and Rubik’s Cube brands, can be recycled through the company’s free recycling program. The company, like Hasbro, does its toy recycling program in partnership with TerraCycle. Once you send back your Spin Master toys (you can see a full list of toys on its website), they’re cleaned and melted into hard plastic that can be remolded to make new recycled

products, such as park benches and picnic tables, instead of ending up in a landfill. Stuffed Animal Box terracycle.com/en-US/pages/zero-waste-boxfaq Your kids aren’t playing with their stuffed animals anymore, but it might seem horrifying to think of these beloved plush companions winding up in the trash. Well there’s good news: They don’t have to! You can purchase a TerraCycle Zero Waste Box (prices start at $110), fill it with your stuffed animals and send them out. The toys are then sorted and processed into raw materials that

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are used to make new products. LEGO Replay lego.com If your kids are ready to move on from their LEGOs, you can pass forward these muchloved toy bricks to kids in need. Just box up your bricks, print out a label and ship them out. Kids will get a box filled with a variety of bricks and elements to play with, as well as a cool activity booklet with some fun building activities to try out! GivinG Back Charities If you’re looking for more answers on what to do with your kids’ old toys, consider donating them to charities! Many charities such as Goodwill and The Salvation Army will resell your donated items and use the money to support their causes. If you have a new, unwrapped toy that you’d like to give, Toys for Tots is another option. It’s run by the U.S. Marine Corps Reserve, and their mission is to collect new, unwrapped toys and distribute them to less fortunate children at Christmas.

Ways to Recycle Other Items

Now that you have a few tips on what to do with your kids’ old toys, here are a few bonus ideas for recycling other household items, too: Umbrellas. Broken or unwanted umbrellas can be upcycled into tote bags. The metal spokes can be recycled at a scrap metal facility.

Homes and Shelters That adorable teddy bear and plush bunny, and those beautiful dolls in your child’s old toy chest will almost certainly bring joy to children going through a difficult time. Consider calling local children’s and women’s shelters to see if they’re accepting toys, and if so, how you can go about donating. Churches, Synagogues and Other Religious Organizations Consider contacting these organizations to see if they know of any families in need who

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Pet food bags. Dry pet food bags, once empty, can be used as trash bags or upcycled into tote bags. Paint. Through the PaintCare program, many stores accept unwanted paint for paint recycling. Check out paintcare.org for a store locator and instructions on how to make your donation.

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Your Teen’s First Gynecologist Visit By Serena norr

re you wondering when it’s the right time to have “the talk” with your daughter about their first visit the Gynecologist? Or what how to the “right” Gynecologist or maybe wha to share what will happen during a visit. During a recent interview, we spoke with Dr. Elizabeth Rodgers, a board-certified OB/GYN who specializes in adolescent gynecology. Dr. Rodgers shared more about the importance of gynecologic care and how to open up the conversation as early as age 9. Read on to learn more about getting your teen ready for their first visit to a Gynecologist. Is there a “right” time to start talking to your kids about their first visit to a gynecologist? As a NYC-based board-certified OB/ GYN and mom of three, empowering young women and helping provide them with a supportive environment to start their gynecologic care is very important to me. Recently, as a result of the overturning of Roe vs Wade and the subsequent increased media coverage of reproductive health, more parents and teens have come to me to have a frank discussion about “hard to talk about” topics. A good initiation point (if your teen has not inquired prior) is when it is time for your child to get the HPV vaccine. This is approved for both boys and girls starting at age 9. Naturally, your child may wonder, “Why do I need this?.” This presents an opportunity to start the discussion about reproductive health and safety. From there, one can continue to address puberty and the changes that are happening to your child’s body. Education is essential here. I find that explaining the physiologic purpose of our period gives teens a better understanding of why it’s important to be safe once she becomes sexually active, even if they are still unsure of their sexual identity. It is also important to start this dialogue even if they are not sexually active, or planning on being sexually active in the near future, so that they are empowered with accurate information when the time does present itself. Many parents are concerned that bringing up these topics may encourage their child to have sex earlier, but the medical literature does not support this. What age do you recommend girls go for their first visit?

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Ideally, they should see an OB/GYN prior to becoming sexually active or certainly by age 18. As a gynecologist, many adolescents come to me with irregular or painful periods. Prior to this, I educate them about the other areas of reproductive health including contraception and sexually transmitted infection prevention. What should parents look for when meeting a new Gynecologist for their daughter? It is important to find a provider that is comfortable with the adolescent patient population. Young patients often have different physical, social and emotional concerns that impact their reproductive health and decisions. What is a Gynecologist is looking for in young women? It is always important to take into account the whole patient when providing medical care. A medical provider should consider not only the physiologic findings, but also how the patient’s social and emotional life can impact their health. When I speak with a patient about birth control, I want to understand what is happening in their life – and it is not all about sex. I want to talk about the regularity of their period, if they suffer from acne, if they have bad cramping, and, ultimately, how their period impacts their quality of life.

Contraceptive advice Do you have anything else to add? All contraceptive options are not created equal, and there is not a one size fits all solution. A few years ago, with the help of a college-age intern, I created a tangible box. This includes samples of the various options so they can physically see the differences between each while we discuss the pros and cons. For many teens, the ease and accessibility of an over-the-counter birth control pill will be a great option. It has very few medical contraindications which makes it safe for many patients. This being said, I would like to note that the pill is 98% effective in PERFECT use. However, this requires the patient to be compliant with taking a pill each day. For many (especially teens), remembering to take a daily pill can be a burden. For this reason, I tend to recommend longacting reversible contraceptives (LARCs). These must be inserted by a medical provider, but do not require daily maintenance. They are available in hormonal and nonhormonal options and are effective for extended periods of time. For example, those who wish to avoid additional hormones, may want to consider Paragard. This IUD is effective for up to 10 years. As an OB/ GYN, I encourage patients to consider their options. Additionally, they should have a conversation about what is best for them with their health care provider.

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Family Traditions One family’s intergenerational Thanksgiving customs By Drew Kramer

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ifting a turkey is a big event,” my mother admits. She accepted the responsibility of hosting Thanksgiving this year, a holiday she owned every year since I was a child. Growing up, Thanksgiving was my favorite holiday. My older cousins made their pilgrimage from upstate New York to stay with us for the long weekend. Our family came together from all corners of Long Island to honor a day celebrating gluttony and our country’s complicated colonial history. Like good Americans, in the kitchen we trust. In the wee morning hours, during the “ugly phase” of the holiday preparation, the ritual dressing of the bird took center stage. “18 pounds of pure poultry,” my mother announced in her annual impersonation of Julia Child, your French chef. As the years went by, the size of the bird ebbed and flowed with the loss and gain of family. In recent years, with the expansion of our modern family to include step-brothers, in-laws, and 10 grandchildren, the invite list hovers around 30. After raising her hand to host in a family group text, I messaged my mother separately to assure her that I was up to the task if she decided she wasn’t, even the day before. Since moving to suburbia four years ago, I’ve stepped up to bring family together when she could not. My mother is a caretaker. In the 20 years since my stepfather’s Parkinsons diagnosis, my mother’s capacity to find joy in the manual labor of the holidays waned. “I feel like I have reached a point in my life where I recognize that, mentally and physically, I cannot do what I used to do. My husband is ill. I find myself anxious at the thought of a big event,” she acknowledged. In the irreverent, dark humor we share, she declares, “I pass the torch. The old gray mare ain’t what she used to be.” When I mention my 30 person holiday guest list, people are shocked by my appetite to take on extra work while raising two young

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boys. Yes, the torch comes with domestic responsibility, but with great responsibility comes great purpose. Like my mother, I feel the magic in bringing family together for joy. It is important to me to bring familiar faces and flavors to my table in the name of tradition and kinship. It is important to me to provide a forum for cousins to come together for mischief and forward momentum. If their relationships fade, so too do the ties that connect our people for generations to come. Someday, when I’ve passed the torch to my children and theirs, I hope they’ll draw from the menu of family recipes that filled our bellies and hearts in the warmest moments of a calendar year: Cousin Dineen’s kugel; my late Aunt Debbie’s carrot soufflé; my mother’s turkey. These are the flavors that bind. Everyone does their part to keep the party alive. As a spectator, my mother is happy to bring whatever she can to ease the pain of hosting the holidays. She delights in making her signature dishes the family craves without the stress of planning and cleaning. In corners of my basement, I squirrel away folding tables and chairs. I Pinterest compostable tablescapes because I cannot sacrifice style or sustainability, while prioritizing ease in executing a celebration for 30. My family comes with food in hand, rolling up their sleeves to clean a platter and unclog the drain. The holidays teach me that

I am not alone in this. In the wake of Covid isolation, I am a conduit for connection. After years of uncomfortable distance, we are all making up for lost time. In this season of my life, I find purpose in bringing people together. As my Millennial generation grows into middle adulthood, our Boomer parents move into their golden years. This holiday season, many of us are grappling with the weight of the torch we’ve inherited. As a family leader, sandwiched between young children and aging parents, I urge you to rise to the occasion. Fight through the host anxiety, culinary pressure and cleaning exhaustion for the important milestones of the year. Let people bring food and pull up their sleeves in the kitchen. Use paper plates. Ask for help and watch relationships grow through the shared creation of this beautiful moment. When the dishes are cleared, the leftovers stored, and the grandchildren are taking apart your couch to erect a fort, sit back with your wine and know that you too are building something. Feel gratitude and connection to the generations of family that roasted the turkeys that brought all of you to this day. Know that someday, when the pounds of pure poultry become too great for you to carry, you will lean on the foundation you and generations of others established to keep the family flame ablaze.

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Diva for a Day on Staten Island Helping women with cancer BY BARBARA RUSSO

iva for a Day on Staten Island, a nonprofit that supports women with cancer, is celebrating its 10th anniversary this year. Betty Stallone, of Prince’s Bay, knows first hand how the organization helps so many women in their time of crisis–she’s not only a breast cancer survivor and Diva participant, but a volunteer for the organization, too. Ten years ago, Stallone, a jewelry business owner, was getting her last chemo treatment at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center when she received a call from the Diva organization. The call was to let her know a friend nominated her for a Diva for a Day experience, which would entail a day of many relaxing beauty treatments ranging from hair or wig grooming to massages, facials, manicures and more. “The experience was amazing, it could not have been a nicer day,” Stallone said. “Between treatments and running my business, there was no time for myself. It was the only day during treatment that I did not feel like a cancer patient.” Stallone was one of the first clients when Diva for a Day on Staten Island was founded. And she continues to work with the organization as a volunteer and supporter. “I’ve always kept in touch with the ladies from Diva for a Day. They are definitely near and dear to my heart,” Stallone, who is now cancer free, said. “I really want to be part of making someone’s gloomy cancer days just a little better even if just one day.” Diva for a Day on Staten Island provides a relaxing respite for cancer patients at local salons throughout the borough, including A.F. Bennett Salon and Wellness Spa in New Dorp. A typical diva day includes a massage, facial, manicure, pedicure, hair or wig grooming, and a light makeup application. Participants are treated to lunch to round out the experience. At the end of the day, which can be up to six fun and relaxing hours, divas receive a

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Diva Christal Putkowski, Christina Swiderski, Diva Dawn Paolillo and Betty Stallone bouquet of flowers. Sometimes, friends and family schedule services, too, so they can enjoy the day with their loved ones. Christina Swiderski is another volunteer at Diva for a Day on Staten Island. She loves seeing the reactions of friends and family members when the divas complete their services. “My favorite involvement to see is when they gather for the ‘reveal’ at the end of the day, especially when it’s a surprise,” Swiderski joyfully said. Women and girls get a lot out of the program, as it provides an escape from the stresses they endure as they undergo lifesaving treatments. “I like to say it’s not about the lipstick but sometimes it is,” Swiderski said. “The spa treatments and delicate handling are in such contrast to the harsh but lifesaving treatments they receive that it’s really a reawakening and restorative time.” For some participants, the experience might be the first time they’ve taken some quiet time to forget or the first time they’ve looked in a mirror in months. “Some have that recognition ‘I’m still here’ or ‘I’m back!’ It’s really something they

carry forward in their recovery or stilldifficult journey,” Swiderski said. Diva for a Day is a nationwide organization founded in New Jersey in 2010 by Debbie Sestokas and Peggy Matzen. It’s had a Staten Island presence since 2013. Women and girls (there’s no established age requirement) are typically nominated by friends or family. To be eligible for the program, participants are usually within a year of diagnosis, treatment or six months after their last surgery. It’s 100% free for all divas. According to Swiderski, Diva for a Day on Staten Island has hosted more than 125 local women and girls. There was a slight decline during the pandemic, but the organization had a slow return in 2022. Most vendors provide services for the diva experience at no cost. Some offer a discount but others require full payment. Funds for those days come out of donations. Stallone, as a jeweler, has also donated a pair of earrings to a recent Diva for a Day raffle. If you know a woman or girl diagnosed with cancer, in treatment or within a year of post-op, visit Divaforaday.org to nominate her for the program.

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How to Explain the IsraelPalestine Conflict to Kids By Jeannine Cintron

n the innocent mind of a child, war is incomprehensible. Most young people, if they are fortunate enough to live in a safe place, are not able to grasp the horrors that war brings. The escalating brutality between Israel and Palestine is something even adults can hardly bear to hear, so it’s understandable that parents might need help explaining the situation to their impressionable children. We’ve broken it down for you below with tips from experts, extra resources for parents, and simple explanations for kids. Editors note: We at New York Family understand that this is a highly sensitive topic. Needless to say, we do not condone violence or terroristic acts of any kind. As a family publication, our goal is always to ensure that parents are equipped with the resources they need to raise children, which is why we are sharing this information for families to aid in coping and understanding a frightening situation for kids.

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Our thoughts are with all those affected by the tragedy unfolding in the Middle East. Why are Israel and Palestine Fighting? Your kids might be asking what’s going on. It isn’t easy to simplify a conflict that dates back decades (technically centuries), especially one with such strongly opposing sides. But you don’t need to dust off a history textbook to explain to your kids why Israel and Palestine are at war with one another. In the country of Israel, located in the Middle East between Africa and Asia, lies territory that is desired by both the Israelis and the Palestinians. The region is also known as the Holy Land and is considered sacred among Jews, Christians and Muslims. Since the 20th century, ownership and occupation of this land has been a major source of conflict between Jewish and Arab nationalists, leading to prolonged violence and political uproar. Unfortunately, thousands of innocent civilians have been killed or injured as a

result of this ongoing dispute. Obviously, there is a lot more to it than that, but children may not understand and are likely going to be sensitive to the details. The experts we spoke to recommend parents not share the depraved actions of terrorist organizations with children, which is why we have provided this simple explanation. If you or your child are interested in a more detailed (and unbiased) explanation of the Israel-Palestine conflict, we recommend reading these articles together: • kids.kiddle.co/Israeli-Palestinian_ conflict • reuters.com/world/middle-east/israelpalestinian-dispute-hinges-statehood-landjerusalem-refugees-2023-10-10/ • cfr.org/backgrounder/what-us-policyisraeli-palestinian-conflict What are the roots to the Israel/ Palestine conflict? While international affairs – even war – tend to be of little concern to most children, this particular situation, with its stomachchurning images of violence broadcasted live for the world to see, is likely to be more than just a passing topic at the dinner table. In the age of social media, the graphic footage is easily accessible to children. Whether your child has seen the

unsettling details or simply overheard adults talking about them, they might be confused and upset by it all. After polling our followers on New York Family’s Instagram, we learned that 75 percent of the parents who responded have children who are upset by what is going on in Israel. According to Lauren Tetenbaum, a Scarsdale-based social worker specializing in maternal mental health, the most important thing is to open the lines of communication with your kids, whatever age they are, and to make them feel comfortable coming to you for information – just not too much information. “I have elementary school aged kids and I keep it very direct with them, and honest, and I don’t give more information than the question requires,” she says. “For older kids, you should still be direct and honest, but you may be a little more proactive with them. You might want to reassure them that your job as their parent is to make sure that they feel safe and can come and talk to you about everything. And I think in general the message is always that we want peace and safety for everyone.” While we are very fortunate to not be near the violence, it’s still a very scary situation. So how do parents approach the conversation in a healthy way that is both truthful and comforting for kids? “It’s important to acknowledge their worry and also acknowledge yours. As parents, we feel like we have to be superheroes, but I think that it’s really important to show your kids that you are scared too, to a certain extent, but also emphasize that we’re safe here,” Tetenbaum explains. “I think it’s natural for kids to experience a level of anxiety,” she adds. “So I would encourage parents not to think that it’s abnormal unless it becomes excessive, in which case I would encourage them to reach out for professional support. But otherwise I would acknowledge the anxiety and say ‘Yes, this is an anxiety provoking situation. All war is terrible and sad and scary and we wish it weren’t happening. And I’m always here if you want to talk.’” “I would avoid details of the violence and be very matter of fact about it,” Tetenbaum continues. “It is a hard balance between teaching them about what’s going on and building empathy, but also not terrifying them. “Let them know there are ways to help. We can show support, we can donate medical supplies and things like that. Because a lot of kids and grownups, of course, feel very helpless

“It is an extremely raw and current moment. Everyone’s processing a lot of emotions. It’s scary. It’s real time. So give yourself a break.” and giving back in any way that you can, can feel good and also, of course, is very much needed.” Not every kid is going to be upset or even aware of what is going on, which is a good thing. But should parents keep them in the dark if they are old enough to understand? Sort of, according to Tetenbaum. “It is an extremely raw and current moment,” she says. “So I would say to all parents don’t feel that you have to behave a certain way. Everyone’s processing a lot of emotions. It’s scary. It’s real time. So give yourself a break, if your kid isn’t asking about it right now. I think it’s fine to leave it alone to a certain extent. But you could make the statement ‘You know, there’s war and violence escalating in the Middle East. It’s terrible. Violence is never the answer. And if you have any questions, I’m happy to talk to you.’ And I think that that sets up children for success as empathetic human beings as global citizens because they should know what’s going on. But I don’t think you need to sit them down and hammer it home, especially when feelings are probably heightened for you as well right now.” Tetenbaum also stresses the importance of caring for yourself first. “Give yourself a break,” she offers. “I know that we’re all glued to the phones and the news. It’s not great for our mental health. And I know that to be able to turn it off is very much a privilege and obviously the closer you are to the conflict, you can’t. But to the extent that you can I would encourage it because it’s like constant trauma in your face, literally. And I would say volunteering and giving back and educating yourself on these issues are great action items that can make people feel a little bit better. But there’s no one right way to process any of this, so give yourself that kindness.” Tips for Parents to Help Kids Cope Experts from the apolitical organization NATAL, Israel’s leading trauma and resilience center, shared the following helpful advice on how to listen to and speak with children about the Israel-Palestine conflict. Be together and be present. It is important to be with our loved ones. Be present while with your children and communicate with them often. Call people you love on the phone and ask how they are doing. Tell your children phrases like, “We are together and taking care of each other.”

Provide information. Provide essential, reliable and focused information. It is important to help children understand what is happening and it is not recommended to hide information, but on the other hand, there is no need to go into too much detail. It is important to reduce children’s (and adults’) exposure to media, especially images and content that are inappropriate for their age, despite them being rapidly disseminated on many platforms. Leave only one device on in another room so you can be updated as needed. The news and social media are full of images and videos that are unsettling and can linger in our thoughts for an extended period. Despite the natural temptation to watch, it is important to be responsible with such media and not disseminate it. Normalize and accept. Explain that this situation arouses feelings of tension, apprehension and anxiety in everyone. Give legitimacy to everything they share with you – explain that physical and emotional reactions (fear, crying, tremors, confusion) are a normal reaction to this situation. Relax and ground yourselves. Inhale deeply, let your mind wander to happy places, and embrace one another. Engaging in physical activities such as stretching, yoga, jumping, strength training, or dancing can be significantly beneficial. Offering a helping hand and sharing a smile – even a forced one – are two powerful gestures that provide strength during challenging times. And lastly, don’t stay alone with your thoughts. How to Help Those Affected in this war: If you would like to donate to aid in relief efforts, here are some reputable charities to look into: • The United Jewish Appeal Israel Emergency Fund (ujafedny.org) • Jewish National Fund-USA (jnf.org) • Mercy Chefs (give.mercychefs.com) • The United Nations Relief and Works Agency for Palestine Refugees (donate.unrwa. org) • The American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee (jdc.org) • International Committee of The Red Cross (ICRC.org) • World Central Kitchen (wck.org) November 2023 | Staten Island Parent

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Visiting Charming Cooperstown, NY By Serena norr

e love weekend getaways as a way to explore more of New York with the kids. We recently enjoyed such a trip that was around 3.5 hours away from Westchester with a visit to Cooperstown, NY. Renowned as a baseball town, we enjoyed learning more about the sport as well as discovering many more things to do in this scenic area. Read on to learn more about our 48-hour Cooperstown adventure. Cooperstown Where to Stay The Otesaga Resort Hotel After our 3.5 hour drive, we were stunned as we pulled into the beautiful Otesaga Resort Hotel. Signified by a grand entrance with 30-foot columns, the property is located on Lake Otsego and surrounded by a lush and walkable landscape. A 132-room resort, during our stay we saw many weddings and parties take place in the lobby/nearby party rooms as people enjoyed breathtaking views of the lake. In between our adventures, we loved coming back to the Otsego for time in their heated pool or walks along the property. Other amenities include a spa, the 18-hole Leatherstocking Golf Course, and lake access where families can rent a canoe, paddle, or rowboat.

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The rooms were comfy and quiet with gorgeous views, overlooking the lake. Room amenities included a smart TV, stunning art from Fenimore Art Museum, bathrobes, and elegant decor that was welcoming and homey. We also loved starting our day enjoying a luxurious buffet-style breakfast. This included literally every kind of breakfast item you could imagine as we dined inside and later on the porch, overlooking the water. Another huge bonus is that the resort is within walking distance to the town for shopping and meals. I loved being able to walk and stroll around town with the kids as we soaked in the views and didn’t have to deal with a car. 60 Lake St, Cooperstown, NY 13326. Cooperstown Things To Do Rail Explorers We were incredibly excited about the Rail Explorers experience that would involve an eight-mile scenic pedaling tour. After a simple check-in and safety talk, we were guided to our carts as we enjoyed the Charlotte Valley Express tour. This took my three kids and I past a 200-foot long Portlandville Trestle, open fields, and lakes as we pedaled alongside the Susquehanna River. The ride was smooth and steady as we worked together to pedal and soak in the gorgeous views, which included small farms, forests, and mountains in the distance. Each

cart also has a simple electric pedal system with a break (if needed) to slow down or have distance between the other carts. After around four miles, our group enjoyed a 20-minute break as the team from Rail Explorers worked to turn our carts around. On the way back, my kids and I enjoyed soaking in the beauty of nature that brought us back in around 1.5 hours. In addition to the Charlotte Valley Express tour, they offer a two-hour Milford Track tour. This 12-mile round trip takes families through farm lands and forests along the Susquehanna River. Additionally, guests of all ages (and even pets!) can enjoy this tour. For pets, the welcome animals up to 40 pounds at no additional fee. In fact, previous pets have included dogs, cats, lizards, parrots, and even ducks. The experience is open for the season until October 31st, which would make for incredible views during fall foliage and the changing of the leaves. For more information, visit www.railexplorers.net or call 877-833-8588. Reservations are highly recommended. Doubleday Field While visiting Cooperstown, take in a game at Doubleday Field. Games are held from April-October but you can also explore the grounds and/or take a tour. Check out the

September schedule here. 1 Doubleday Court, Cooperstown, NY 13326. National Baseball Hall of Fame and Museum Learn more about the history of baseball and its icons at the National Baseball Hall of Fame and Museum. Featuring access to more than 40,000 artifacts, families can learn more about this national pastime and its story. This includes access to historic bats, balls, gloves, manuscripts, recorded media, scrapbooks, magazines, uniforms, and more. The Baseball Hame of Fame is open from 9:00am-7:00pm. 25 Main St, Cooperstown, NY 13326. Fenimore Art Museum Enjoy access to a collection of landscape exhibits, American folk art, the Thaw Collection of American Indian Art, and a rotating collection of exhibits at the Fenimore Art Museum. During our visit, we enjoyed seeing the M.C. Escher: Infinite Variations exhibit with over 160 pieces from a private collection; the Day to Night: Photographs by Stephen Wilkes; and the Randy Johnson:

Storytelling with Photographs. This threefloor house-style museum also includes docent tours to learn more about its exhibits and collections and events. 5798 NY-80, Cooperstown, NY 13326. The Farmers’ Museum Learn more about rural life in the 19th century at the Farmers’ Museum. This walking museum includes access to exhibits, craft demonstrations and hands-on activities to learn more about what life was like on a farm. They also host specialized events throughout the year, such as the Harvest Festival, Blacksmithing Weekend, and Tractor Fest.5775 NY-80, Cooperstown, NY 13326 Cooperstown Food Bocca Osteria Enjoy delicious Italian food for lunch or dinner at Bocca Osteria. My kids and I loved this Italian eatery where you will find pizza, pastas, antipasti, soup, paninis, and more. They also have a bambini (kids menu) with classic options such as personal pizza, chicken

parm, steak, and chicken fingers. 5438 NY Route 28, Cooperstown, NY Mel’s at 22 For elevated American food, check out Mel’s at 22. This includes options for lunch and dinner where you will find burgers, salads, steaks, fish dishes, and more. 22 Chestnut St, Cooperstown, NY 13326. Schneider’s Bakery Before we hit the road to go home, we paid a visit to Schneider’s Bakery for some treats. A staple of Coooperstown since 1887, you’ll find baseball cookies, cupcakes, homemade donuts, freshly-baked bread, and so much more! 157 Main Street, Cooperstown, NY, 13326 Other dining options include Upstate Bar & Grill; Cooperstown Diner; Doubleday Café; or the The Hawkeye Bar and Grille. From incredible restaurants to tons of things to experience and do, Cooperstown offers families many options for a getaway with its historical ode to baseball–and beyond.

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Cut-Your-Own Christmas Tree Farms Near NYC

f cutting your own tree is a family tradition (new or old!), check out this guide to Christmas tree farms near Staten Island! Each farm has a selection of live Christmas trees and allows you to pick your own tree from its natural setting, cut it down, and cart it home. Species of Christmas trees you can buy include beautiful spruces and firs, and they’re all available at these local farms in a range of sizes sure to fit any home. Fraser firs, known for having that classic, full Christmas tree shape, tend to be one of the most popular trees to buy this time of year. Most Christmas tree farms are slated to open Thanksgiving weekend, but it’s a good idea to call to confirm dates and availability before visiting. Ann Ellen Tree Farm & Shop 114 Daum Road, Manalapan Hours: 9am-5pm Saturday & Sunday until Nov. 10. Nov. 11 to Jan. 1, 9am-8pm daily. Cutyour-own fields close at 4pm. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 50 minutes Located on 50 acres, this Christmas tree farm in NJ is home to thousands of trees of several different varieties. After picking your tree, visit with farm animals and shop for Christmas decorations including wreaths and ornaments. Bear Swamp Farm 81 Otterhole Road, Milford 973-697-2541 Hours: Tree season opens Nov. 24. Hours TBA Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour This quaint Christmas tree farm in NJ is organic, and lets visitors cut their own tree or purchase one pre-cut. Barclay’s Christmas Tree Farm 35 Orchardside Drive, Cranbury Hours: Tree season opens Nov. 24; Hours TBA Approximate drive from Staten Island: 50 minutes Choose from Douglas, white and fraser firs, as well as blue and Norway spruces. Saws,

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rope and netting are available for free. Bullock Farms 83 Emleys Hill Road, Cream Ridge Hours: Tree season opens Nov. 24. Hours TBA. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour A mainstay in the area since 1860, this 100-acre farm located in central New Jersey specializes in cut-your-own trees, bagged feed and straw. There’s also a craft and gift shop on site. Charlie Brown’s Christmas Tree Farm 231 Adamic Hill Road, Milford

Hours: Tree season opens Nov. 24. Hours TBA. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1.5 hours Cut-your-own Christmas tree in NJ at this veteran-owned 40-acre farm. Decorated wreaths, grave blankets, roping and holiday decorations are for sale. Cherryville Farms 352 Quakertown Road, Pittstown Hours: Tree season opens Nov. 24. Saturdays and Sundays, 9am-4:30pm. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour, 10 minutes

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Staff will cut your chosen tree, or you can cut your own. Hand saws are available, or you can bring your own to this local farm. The Evergreen Farm 4 Bass Lane, Lebanon Hours: To be announced. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour A 12-acre farm with Christmas trees, wreaths, roping, porch pots, accessories and stands for sale. Pre-tagging is permitted starting Nov.1st. Evergreen Valley Christmas Tree Farm 77 Jackson Valley Rd., Washington Hours: Nov. 24-Dec. 23, Tuesday-Sunday, 9am-4pm. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1.5 hours Browse thousands of Christmas trees of all kinds, and enjoy a free wagon ride. Choose and cut your own fresh Christmas tree from one of the largest selections of Christmas Trees in the Tri-State area. Giamarese Farm 155 Fresh Ponds Road, East Brunswick Hours: 10am-4:30pm, daily except closed on Mondays. Trees will be available from Thanksgiving week through Christmas Eve. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 45 minutes Browse 35 acres of farmland to choose from Colorado blue and Norway spruces, and Douglas and Concolor firs. Pre-cut Fraser firs are available for sale. There is also an on-site farmer’s market that carries seasonal produce. Habiak Farms 317 Deans Rhode Hall Road, South Brunswick Township Hours: Weekends, 9am-5pm. Trees available end of November-December. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Pick your own tree, or choose from a selection of pre-cut trees. The farm also sells wreaths, grave blankets and kissing balls. Hidden Pond Tree Farm 4 W. Field Road, Mendham Hours: Opens daily 8am-5pm. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Pre-cut trees are also available. Refreshments available. Free hayrides (weather permitting). Marshmallow roasting around the bonfire. Christmas shop with wreaths, greenery, centerpieces, and other

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Here are a few good tips to keep in mind when choosing a tree: • Walking around a tree farm is fun, so take in the trees and find a tree that works with your home or apartment aesthetic. • Since you are cutting a tree, it’s pretty fresh, but make sure it has vibrant green needles that aren’t falling off. • Tree size matters, especially if you live in a small space. Be sure to choose a tree that will fit comfortably in your abode.

decorations. Cash or checks only. Keris Tree Farm 848 Route 524, Allentown Hours: Tuesday-Sunday, 9am-5pm, Nov. 18Dec. 24 Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Have a favorite kind of Christmas tree? You’ll find it here at this 24-acre cut your own Christmas tree farm in NJ. Choose from trees by the foto, balled trees, fresh pre-cut Canadian balsam and Fraser Fir, and lots of seasonal greenery. There is also a Christmas Shop that features hand-made ornaments, artisan crafts, Fontanini Nativity sets, wreaths and more. Lazy Susan Tree Farm 184 Sharon Road, Robbinsville Hours: To be announced Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour This farm usually has a visit from Santa on select days (check the website for updates). Choose from fresh cut Douglas, balsam and concolor firs. The farm also sells its own home-made soy candles with wax made from American-grown soybeans, all available in a variety of holiday scents and colors. Patterson Greenhouses 636 Adelphia Road, Freehold Hours: To be announced Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Prices: Roughly $13 per foot. More than 10 acres of trees that you can cut or have professionally dug. Starting Nov. 27, you can tag your tree and come back to pick it up any time until Dec. 23. Also for sale oare wreaths, grave blankets, swags, sprays, and roping.

Picea Acres 50 S New Prospect Road, Jackson Township Hours: Monday-Friday, 11am-5pm; weekends, 9am-5pm. Tree season is open after Thanksgiving Day and ends when the farm sells out. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Along with a large selection of trees, the farm sells handmade and fresh-cut wreaths and grave blankets. Roping for the tree is available. Rolling Green Farm 61 Hacklebarney Road, Long Valley Hours: Friday, Nov. 26, 10am-5pm; Nov. 27Dec. 25, Saturday-Sunday, 10am-5pm. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Wreaths and other items available for sale in the shop. The farm asks customers not to cut trees that are shorter than 6 feet. Pre-cut trees can be trimmed down. Shale Hills Farm 98 Pond School Road, Sussex Hours: After Thanksgiving Day: SaturdaySunday, 10am-4pm. Approx. drive from Staten Island: 1.5 hours Santa will make appearances throughout the day. Christmas movies in the hayloft and a petting zoo full of animals in the barn. Simonson Farms 118-260 Dey Road, Cranbury Hours: To be announced Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1 hour Prices: Tree prices start at around $50 Head to this third-generation cut your own Christmas tree farm in NJ to choose from pre-cut, choose-and-cut, balled and burlap trees. Stonerow Tree Farm 242 Wykertown Road, Branchville Hours: Starting Nov. 25, open SaturdaysSundays, 9am-4pm. Approx. drive from Staten Island: 1.5 hours Spruces and firs available. Saws and twine available. Dogs are welcome on a leash. Wyckoff’s Christmas Tree Farm 246 County Road 519, Belvidere Hours: Tree season begins Nov. 24, 8am4:30pm. After that, Monday-Friday, 10am4:30pm. Approximate drive from Staten Island: 1.5 hours A favorite cut-your-own Christmas tree farm in NJ since 1958, Wyckoff has more than 5,000 trees available. Wreaths, grave blankets, green décor, and more also for sale.

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How to navigate museums with a child with disabilities BY DONNA DUARTE- LADD

here are layers to being a parent of a child with a disability. As a mother of a 7-year-old who is Autistic, there are many challenges. One thing I have learned is that every parent’s journey can have similarities yet also look different. The truth is, there are times I ace parenting Mateo, who is considered severely ASD and is non-verbal, and then there are times my whole being is tested. One of these challenges is going somewhere unfamiliar, and museums are on this list. We’ll save airport and new city experiences for another issue. Lesson learned: a few years back, I took my son to a fantastic museum while we were visiting family in California, and while the museum was unique for kids, it was so overstimulating that there was frustration and tears all around. Most unknown spaces are still challenging to visit, but I have learned that having a game plan before we go somewhere new is essential and helps the entire family enjoy the experience. Things like having a map of the museum and picking out the area that will be safe and welcome are essential for us. If there is a quiet room or pockets of quiet nooks, that museum has visitors for life. We use the family bathrooms like an office; they are our saviors- we can regroup fast and not worry about our guy sprinting off. My family loves it when a museum has a social narrative; we can talk about the upcoming visit and what we will see and show him how to visit it. I also bring snacks, and I have never had a security guard make me toss a snack when I explain that my child will not eat the food at a museum cafe. Again, every family has different needs, but this is how we navigate visiting a museum with Mateo. We compiled a list of museums that we

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feel go the extra mile regarding accessibility for families with disabilities. If you do not see one of your favorite museums on this list, please visit their website to check that it has what you need to support your child on your next visit. You can also find more general museum

articles on newyorkfamily.com, such as our favorite children’s museums, A Parents’ Guide to Navigating New York City Art Museums with Kids, 48 NYC Museums to Visit All Year Round with the Family. We love our museums, and so do kids with disabilities!

The American Museum of Natural History 200 Central Park West The Richard Gilder Center for Science, Education, and Innovation 415 Columbus Ave AMNH is a museum that families visit regularly as it is never-ending in all it offers. This museum’s adventure is endless, from the Hall of North American Mammals to the Mignone Halls of Gems and Minerals and more. For people with disabilities, the museum provides much support, and we recommend visiting the accessibility section of its site to map out your visit. The services that stand out: service animals are welcome, and there are excellent tour programs. For Autism families, The Discovery Squad, in collaboration with the Seaver Autism Center at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, can, on specific Saturdays, explore activities related to the Museum halls before the museum opens. Science Sense Tours for blind or partially sighted visitors can check out this monthly tour, where specially trained museum tour guides spotlight specific themes and exhibits through descriptions and touchable objects. In circling back to mapping out your visit, the museum offers an actual route app for free. The Explorer app will help you to find accessible (with directions) routesand the best part is to see where the elevators are. Choose the accessible route and receive turnby-turn directions. And there is more. Your admission also works for AMNH’s newest addition, The Richard Gilder Center for Science, Education, and Innovation. Fun things you can do are bug out at the Susan and Peter J. Solomon Family Insectarium, gawk at the gorgeous architecture, and, for a fee, visit the gorgeous exhibits the -Invisible Worlds and the Davis Family Butterfly Vivarium.

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MANHATTAN VENUES: DiMenna Children’s History Museum Located in the lower level of New York Historical Society 170 Central Park West at Richard Gilder Way (77th Street) Families can explore the nation’s historical narrative and the vibrant tapestry of New York City through captivating exhibits illuminating prominent historical figures’ life journeys from childhood to adulthood. The facilities, galleries, and auditorium are wheelchair accessible, with complimentary wheelchairs for visitors. For those who are blind or visually impaired, free verbaldescription docent-guided tours are available by appointment in conjunction with museum admission. For deaf or hard-of-hearing museum go-ers, most exhibitions are accessible for T-coil hearing aid users. T-coil compatible audio guides are available, also free of charge with admission. ASL interpreters are available but must be scheduled to accompany docent or educator-led group tours, such as school trips. Appointments for these services can be made by contacting access@nyhistory.org. The Guggenheim 1071 Fifth Avenue While the Guggenheim is an art space with its renowned modern and contemporary art collection, it is also one of the world’s most famous museums. Designed by architect Frank Lloyd Wright, its building is iconic. Although the building is stunning, it may feel out of reach if you are a parent of a child with disabilities. Thankfully, the museum has helpful resources to aid parents on their museum visit. There are ADA-compliant bathrooms located on Levels 1 and 7. There is plenty of room for wheelchairs; however, the High Gallery does not have wheelchair access. The space is quite open, so if your child is sensory sensitive, you may want to download the sensory map (guggenheim.org/accessibility) that maps out the areas (usually with seating) that tend to be quiet, less crowded, and low light. For your ASD child, there is also a social narrative map. For visitors with low vision or who are blind, Mind’s Eye Tours runs excellent tours that share through verbal descriptions, conversations, sensory experiences, and clever practices. These free tours should be emailed (access@guggenheim.

org or call 212 360 4355. a week before the program you would like to attend. Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum Pier 86, W 46th Street From checking out historic planes, a prototype Space Shuttle Enterprise, a diesel-electric powered submarine, and more, families can spend an entire day at this museum by discovering history through Interactive exhibits and artifacts through hands-on experiences while learning about American military and aerospace technology. The Intrepid Museum has a robust roster of programs for kids with disabilities -we recommend checking out their accessibility page for all their offerings. For blind and visually impaired visitors, there are verbal description and tactile guides that use raised images, Braille, and large print, as well as (ALDs) including stereo headphones, single-ear headphones, or T-coil compatible induction loops are available to borrow at no cost to something pretty cool like a talking pen. Autism kids aged 3 to 18 and their families can sign up for a free program called Early Morning Openings on Saturdays. There are also sensory-friendly evenings for teens (14+) and adults with Autism who can have a fun evening after hours. As we mentioned in the intro, it’s easy for sensory-sensitive kids to get overstimulated; before you start exploring the museum, pick up a sensory bag for noise-reduction headphones and fidgets. There are also visual vocabularies, checklists, scavenger hunts, and activity sheets for all public programs at the Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum. The Metropolitan Museum of Art 1000 Fifth Avenue, New York, NY 10028 People worldwide visit The Met, one of New York’s most extensive museums. This is something to remember when visiting, as it can be overwhelming, especially for kids. The museum features gorgeous paintings from renowned artists like Leonardo da Vinci and Vermeer. The Met houses sculptures where kids can look at Greek and Roman statues and contemporary pieces. There is also ancient, Asian, European Decorative, modern art, and more. The Met supports many people with different disabilities. On the museums’ visibility section, a parent can find helpful resources for visitors on the Autism Spectrum such as tips, social narrative, Tour Visual Checklist, Sensory Friendly Mapand more. There are also art workshops for kids, teens(and adults) who are Blind or Partially Sighted. Visitors can also find programs in November 2023 | Staten Island Parent

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American Sign Language, with Sign Language interpretation and real-time captioning. For caregivers of visitors with disabilities, head to the museum ticket counter, where you can pick up a free ticket. The Museum of the City of New York 1220 Fifth Ave at 103rd St. MCNY is an excellent spot to visit and learn about the city’s history, starting from its colonial days. Visitors can view paintings, maps, art, decorative costumes, and more. The museum also hosts fun exhibitions, films, and immersive installations. If your child needs noise-reduction headphones, head to the front desk; if available, you can pick up a setfree of charge during your visit. A caregiver can receive free admission at the Museum Ticket Desk. Service dogs are welcomed, but emotional support animals need to stay home. Wheelchairs are accommodated at the museum, and if available, there are manual wheelchairs available. For large print and high-contrast transcripts of exhibition texts, head to the accessibility page on the Museum of the City of New York site. There is also a QR code in the Museum Guide that you can access once you’re there. Assistive listening devices are available for events, and you can find a form online for ASL interpretation guided tours on the accessibility page. MoMA 11 West 53 Street For modern and contemporary art lovers, New York (again) has one of the best in the world. From paintings by Jackson Pollack, Pablo Picasso, and Roy Lichtenstein to worldfamous photographers (Irving Penn, anyone?), sculptures, film and media art, design and architecture, and more, MoMA is one outstanding institution to visit. For families with disabilities, you can find Sensory and Social guides. Guide dogs and trained service animals are welcome, and while the pet guinea pig may bring comfort, they must stay home. For wheelchair access, look for a security or a guest guide so you do not have to wait in line. MoMA works with Art inSight, and blind or low-vision visitors can download recorded verbal descriptions of several artworks on the free Bloomberg Connects app. Email AccessPrograms@moma.org at least two weeks in advance for a touch and description tour. Visitors with disabilities are eligible for a discounted admission of $18, and admission is free for an accompanied—care partner. A huge favorite the museum features are the QR codes placed throughout the Museum. These QR codes

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include maps, additional artwork information, verbal descriptions, and assistive listening for sound artworks created to enhance your visit. There is no sensory room if your child tends to be sensory sensitive, but on the MoMa site, you can find a sensory map of quiet spaces within the museum. Whitney 99 Gansevoort St · (212) 570-3600 There are many reasons to head to the West Village; one is to spend time at the iconic Whitney Museum. The Whitney focuses entirely on American art, with each floor presenting vibrant and unique art, such as Georgia O’Keefe Edward Hopper to Layla Ali. And for our kids with disabilities and challenges, this museum offers support. The Whitney gets very busy- for wheelchair visitors, there is a helpful map; for kids on the ASD spectrum, a social narrative can be downloaded (all of this can be found under the Accessibility tab on the museum’s site) to help with the visit before you arrive. Service animals are welcome at The Whitney, and if your child needs an ASL-English interpretation, Live captioning, or Verbal description for their public programs and events, these services can be requested in advance. Parents with Sensory Sensitive kids will appreciate that the museum offers sensory-friendly artmaking workshops on select Saturdays before the Museum opens. Visit their events pages for postings. 9/11 Museum 180 Greenwich Street, New York, NY 10007 The 9/11 museum opened on May 21, 2014, and is a place where visitors can learn about the 9/11 attacks on a September day in 1993. At this museum, there is understandably a lot to take in. This museum has many parts; the Exhibitions are where you can see core and special exhibits. The Collection shows a permanent collection such as material evidence and more. There are also programs and events, and tours are available. For kids with children with disabilities, services dogs are allowed. Keep in mind that there is limited seating at the 9/11 museum. If you need a quiet space or your child needs a sensory time out, there is a space called Reflecting on 9/11 Studio- look for a security guard or a staff member wearing a tan or blue vest to direct you to this room. Care partners are offered one free admission ticket- email access@911memorial.org for a ticket request. Entrances are wheelchair accessible, and all public restrooms have wheelchair-accessible stalls. Many services, such as sign language interpretation and verbal

description guided tours- learn more on the 9/11 accessibility page, are available. STATEN ISLAND VENUES: Historic Richmond Town 441 Clarke Ave., Staten Island Wheelchair access: Partially wheelchair accessible Social Guide available: No Sensory Map: No Historic Richmond Town is a place on Staten Island where history comes alive through architecture, period costumes, live-action trade demos, and more. The village is on a sprawling campus with many features to accommodate visitors with disabilities. The site has a quiet space (including a lactation room) offering privacy, comfort, and seating for nursing parents, babies, and anyone with multi-diverse needs. Visitors can request wheelchairs, large-print materials, and sign language interpretation in advance. While many of the site’s buildings have wheelchairaccessible entrances, it’s important to note that wheelchair access to many historic structures varies. Service animals recognized by the ADA are welcome. Staten Island Children’s Museum 1000 Richmond Terr., Staten Island Wheelchair access: Yes Social Guide available: Yes Sensory Map: No Kids of all ages–and their parents!–enjoy exploring this whimsical and educational museum. It offers cultural, imaginative, and creative experiences for kids ages 1 and older. In addition to being wheelchair accessible, the museum recently opened a new sensory space designed to provide a peaceful place of respite for young visitors who may need some time to recharge during their museum visit. It features a curated assortment of sensory tools and elements, including a plush bean bag chair, textured mats on the wall for tactile stimulation, soothing sounds, calming strategies, weighted lap toys, and an ever-changing bubble wall. Service animals are permitted on site. Staten Island Zoo 705 Clove Rd., Staten Island Wheelchair access: Yes Social Guide available: Yes Sensory Map: No The Staten Island Zoo is a great place to visit if your kids love animals, and it offers several features for children with sensory processing needs. The zoo partners with KultureCity to accommodate visitors of all ages with sensory

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needs. Sensory bags with KCVIP badges, fidget tools, noise-canceling headphones, and more are available at the zoo’s Clove Road entrance (NOTE: The Broadway entrance is currently closed). The bags are free to check out; you just have to leave an ID. Weighted lap pads are also available upon request. Although the zoo doesn’t currently have a sensory map, there is signage that indicates where there are quiet and loud areas. BRONX VENUES: Bronx Zoo 2300 Southern Blvd, Bronx, NY Visiting the zoo, especially in New York, is both a fun and educational experience. It also can be an all-day excursion as there is a lot of ground to cover. First, zoos can be pretty noisy, and the areas that tend to get congested are Bug Carousel, Wild Asia Monorail, Children’s Zoo, and Budgie Landing. Rhino Garden and Zebra Hill are quiet zones if you need quiet time. Working with KultureCity, you will find signage identifying quiet zones; pick up a complimentary (to be used during your visit) sensory bag that contains fidget tools, noise-reducing headphones, and more. Trained service dogs are welcome, but remember to check in with admissions when you arrive for a service dig admission pass. If you or your child needs a Personal Care Assistant (PCA) to experience the zoo, please go online to the site’s accessibility page to learn how to request a PCA in advance. All buildings are wheelchair accessible; however, certain areas require size, such as the Wild Asia Monorail. (open from May to Oct), it is accessible for manual wheelchairs up to 26 inches wide. Still, motorized scooters or wheelchairs more than 26 inches wide will need (with assistance, the staff is not allowed to transfer guests physically) to use an appropriate-sized wheelchair (available at Monorail platform) or onto a Monorail seat. We recommend downloading the access map on the Accessibility page of the Bronx Zoo’s website, as it provides helpful information from accessible routes, low-light exhibits, touch exhibits, and more. The New York Botanical Garden 2900 Southern Blvd, Bronx, NY 10458 The NYBG is a true gem for New Yorkers at 250 acres, and as one of the world’s most extensive and known botanical gardens, it is perfect for families to visit. It is also rich in history, where you can explore plant collections and learn about culture, conservation, and more. It is also home to the famous (usually March) Orchid and Train (Novem-

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ber) show. For people with disabilities, you will find that ticketing booths and trams are equipped with T-coil-compatible induction loops. For large-print and regular-print transcripts of the audio tours, head to the visitor center’s information booth to pick these up. Trained Service animals are welcomed; for a service dog, you must obtain a Service Dog Admission Pass. Power-driven Wheelchairs, scooters, and power-driven mobility devices are permitted, and manual wheelchairs are available on a first-come, first-serve basis. On the NYBG website, you can download the accessibility guide for wheelchair routes, a social guide to prepare your child before your visit. You can also pick the guides up in the Garden. Check out the accessibility page for free upcoming tours for people with disabilities, such as ASL and sensory experience tours. BROOKLYN VENUES: Brooklyn Botanic Garden 150 Eastern Parkway, Brooklyn Explore this urban botanic garden, designed to connect people to the world of plants. The grounds are accessible by paved pathways throughout the garden. But keep in mind that due to the historic nature of the garden, specific paths may be narrow, rough, uneven or steep. Accommodations for programs for visitors with disabilities can be arranged with two weeks advance notice. Contact visitorservices@bbg.org to request accommodations. Periodically, the garden offers special earlymorning programs of facilitated, multisensory activities in the Discovery Garden for families who have children with disabilities. It also periodically offers free special guided tours designed for individuals with memory loss and their caregivers and free group tours for caregivers only. Service animals consistent with ADA are allowed onto the premises. New York Transit Museum 99 Schermerhorn St., Brooklyn The New York Transit Museum is one of the most tactile museums in the city. Most objects, including vintage train cars, can be touched. Visitors can borrow a tactile guide with graphics and images in raised-line formats and braille and a smart pen with audio descriptions. These can be requested at the admission booth or visitors can email access@ nytransitmuseum.org to request a tactile guide in advance of their visit. Sensory-friendly toolkits, including noise-quieting headphones, a visual schedule, and list of quieter spaces, can be checked out free of charge. It’s good to note that the best time to visit the museum when it

is quiet is between 1-4 pm on Thursdays and Fridays. Service animals are welcome. Wildlife Conservation Society’s New York Aquarium 602 Surf Ave., Brooklyn You’ll have an aquatic adventure at the New York Aquarium because so many amazing animals live here, including penguins, sea lions, sharks, and many others. In addition to being wheelchair-accessible, the aquarium has a partnership with KultureCity to improve the park’s ability to assist and accommodate visitors with sensory processing needs. Sensory bags containing fidget tools, noise-canceling headphones, and other resources are available for checkout at the lobby (there’s no charge, but you have to leave an ID). Service animals in accordance with the ADA are allowed in. QUEENS VENUES: Museum of the Moving Image 36-01 35th Ave, Queens, NY 11106 For the film buffs in the family, you’ll want to head to the MoMI, where all things art, history, technique, and technology of film, television, and digital media come together. Guide dogs and therapy animals are welcome. This museum is fully accessible by wheelchair and is also available for free. On the first Saturday of each month until May 2024) there are free Access Mornings for families with children on the autism spectrum workshops where the kids can craft and explore the museum before it opens. A big plus is the reduced volume; videos not part of the workshop are not on. Call the museum for more info at 718 -777 6800. New York Hall of Science 47-01 111 St., Corona Founded at the 1964-65 World’s Fair, the New York Hall of Science has evolved into a center for interactive science, featuring an array of exhibits and programs. The exhibit spaces, theaters, party rooms, cafe, store, and restrooms are wheelchair accessible. Remember that the doors here are not automatic, though there is ramp and elevator access. If you need a wheelchair when you arrive, a limited number of them are available for loan, free of charge, at the main entrance. The museum provides sensory gear for children with sensory needs, including sunglasses, noise-canceling earmuffs, and fidget toys. Sensory Saturdays are every Saturday, from 10-11am, which is a time when people with sensory issues can enjoy the museum with the lights and sounds turned down. Service animals are permitted on site.

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Caring for the Caregiver Tips and resources for emotional wellness and healthier wellbeing of the parents and caregivers of kids with disabilities By INCLUDENyC

s caregivers, we all grapple with the impact of stress in our lives, and how we experience, respond to, and manage it can vary greatly. This is no different for children, teenagers, and young adults. Stress management influences our well-being and profoundly affects the children under our care. In the following, we present some fundamental guidelines to help you navigate the effects of stress in your life, along with valuable resources for local mental health support. Stay connected with the people who matter and support you. Be mindful of the time spent on social media or news sources that may overwhelm or drain your energy. Dedicate daily moments to enjoyable activities! Whether through exercise, playing sports, board games, or planning quality time

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with your children and family. Create a space for daily tranquility to allow your mind to relax. Be a role model for positive selfcare practices, including taking breaks, nourishing your body with healthy food, staying hydrated, engaging in regular physical activity, and ensuring adequate sleep. These practices should benefit not only yourself but also your children and loved ones. Remember, taking care of your emotional well-being is vital for your sake and those you care for. Mental Health Resources NYC Well provides free, confidential crisis counseling, mental health, and substance misuse support, information, and referrals. You can reach the toll-free helpline 24/7 by phone, text, and online chat. Mental health professionals there can connect you to the services you need. To contact NYC Well, call:

1-888-NYC-WELL (1-888-692-9355) 1-888-692-9355 (Español) 711 (TTY for hearing impaired) You can also reach NYC Well by texting “WELL” to 651-73 or visit their website for more information. NYC Well counselors are available 24/7. They can provide bilingual help in Spanish, Mandarin, and Cantonese. Additionally, NYC Well offers translation services in more than 200 languages. Health insurance is not required. Depending on your phone/text service, you may be charged a fee. NAMI-NYC (naminycmetro.org) supports families and adults affected by mental illness, including classes, 30+ support groups, family mentoring, and a Helpline. Their Helpline can be reached at (212) 684-3264. Vibrant Emotional Health (vibrant.org) provides people with emotional support and care. It runs innovative community programs for people at all stages of life and crisis lines, like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800) 273-8255. INCLUDEnyc (includenyc.org) provides information and support to families of children with disabilities or delays, helping caregivers understand available resources and navigate special education, health services, and other support systems. Parents can also find peer support through INCLUDEnyc support groups in English and Spanish.

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Terms that families with children with disabilities should know BY MIA SALAS

art of navigating a special needs or disability diagnosis (Developmental disability: Physical, learning, language, or behavioral impairments that will delay your child’s development. ADHD, Autism, learning disabilities, etc. are all examples of developmental disabilities) is knowing the words used to describe it. But it can be intimidating to ask what everything means, especially when doctors or websites seem to be speaking another language with acronyms like “ERSS” and “OT”. We’ve all been in that confusing place before and, as parents, it’s not a fun feeling. That’s why, we’ve created a glossary for keywords that you may want to know as a parent of kids with disabilities. This guide includes common disability words, phrases, and acronyms so that you can feel more confident in your parenting journey!

ADHD (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) : A developmental disability

that makes it difficult for your child to pay attention or stay focused. Look out for squirming and fidgeting, talking a lot, not being able to wait for their turn, or trouble concentrating.

Be on the lookout for aggressive behavior, withdrawal or nerves related to social environments, and vocal outbursts in public places. Learning Disability: Difficulty learning and grasping new concepts. Learning disabilities include dyslexia (reading), dysgraphia (writing), and dyscalculia (math). See Special Education for more. Stutter: A speech disorder that makes it challenging for your child to say what they want to say. You may hear them repeat a sound a lot, hold one sound for a long time, or stop speaking mid-sentence.

IEP Teams : Your IEP team will be made up of you (as a parent/guardian), a school psychologist, a special education teacher (and sometimes a general education teacher), and the district representative. It may also include a school physician or other service providers who have worked with your child. LRE (Least Restrictive Environment) : Your child will be in a classroom with kids who do not have a disability diagnosis.

York organization that can help connect your family to nonprofit services, based on what kind of treatment/therapy they need, and provide funding.

education teacher will design specific activities for children with special needs or the special education teacher will collaborate with the general education teacher to modify the entire classroom to accommodate.

Transition planning : Creating an action

plan for what your child with disabilities will do after high school. This is often a part of your IEP (see below).

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education as a special needs student. According to the NYC Department of Education (DOE), this means your child is guaranteed a free and appropriate public education in a Least Restrictive Environment (see below). Your child’s IEP will also include development and progress reports, evaluation results, specific needs, and anything else that is relevant to your child’s success.

SETSS (Special Education Teacher Support Services) : Either a special

Down Syndrome : A condition caused by

disorders such as anxiety, bipolar, OCD, etc. that have no direct, identifiable cause.

IEP (Individualized Education Program) : A written plan for your child’s

OPWDD (Office of People with Developmental Disabilities) : A New

developmental disability that may delay your child’s speech, motor, learning, and social skills. Early intervention (see below) can help improve skills.

Emotional Disturbance : Mental health

feels welcomed by the school, teacher, and classmates. For kids with disabilities, inclusion is definitely a keyword to look for when choosing a school!

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Service provider: An agency or organization that will help your family navigate some aspect of your journey. This could be everything from speech therapy to after school programs with a focus on special needs to horseback riding as a form of physical therapy.

ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) : A

Special Education Inclusion : Everyone in the classroom

SEDL (Special Education Distance Learning) : Modifying special needs

education for virtual/online students. This became especially important during the pandemic. SWD (Students With Disabilities) : Used to refer to special needs children in the classroom. SC– Special Class : If your child’s needs

cannot be met in a general education classroom, they will have all classes taught specifically by a special education teacher. These classes are typically very small in NYC schools, with up to 12 students for elementary/middle school and up to 15 for high school. PBIS (Positive Behavioral Interventions

& Support) : NYC school-wide approach

that encourages positive behavior instead of punishing or pointing out the negative. One example of this is changing a poster from “No Food. No Weapons. No Drugs.” to “School Rules: Be Safe, Responsible, Respectful”. This positive environment is especially important for special needs education. Treatment & Evaluation

can often help improve your child’s skills and progress. OT– Occupational Therapy: Focuses on ADL’s (see above) and other everyday skills that your child will work on. PT- Physical Therapy: Focuses on physical

developmental disabilities and helps your child with mobility and movement.

ADL (Activities of daily living) : Day-to-

day actions like brushing your teeth, going to the bathroom, walking up and down stairs, etc. that are used to determine your child’s diagnosis and progress.

Speech pathology: Focuses on language and speech disabilities to help your child communicate their thoughts. Regression : Your child loses skills that they

Early intervention: Services and support

for infants and young children with developmental disabilities. Early intervention

previously had. If regression happens, you may want to revisit and revise your child’s IEP (see above).

AT (Assistive technology) : Any device

that helps your child’s special needs by improving their capabilities. AT’s include wheelchairs, text to speech, voice recognition, and more. ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) : A positive-reinforcement program designed to understand your child’s behavior in real life situations. It is most commonly used for children with Autism, but it can also be effective for other developmental disabilities. Developmental milestones : Key movements, expressions, speech etc. that show your child’s progress. For little ones, this may include smiling at people, crawling, copying sounds, and reaching for toys. November 2023 | Staten Island Parent

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11 Books About Kids with Disabilities R

epresentation is so important in books, especially for kids looking for guidance and inspiration. Kids want to be able to see themselves in the characters they read about. That’s why we rounded up our top picks for books about children and families with disabilities. These books cover physical and developmental disabilities for all ages, ranging from PreK to young adult. Remember– books are a great way to open up the convo with your kiddos. Talk with them about what they read, what they learned and what they might still have questions about. Read (pun intended) on for the list of 11 children’s books about disabilities. PreK to 2nd grade

Different– A Great Thing to Be, by Heather Avis

A New York Times Bestseller, Different– A Great Thing to Be follows the story of Macy, a young girl who doesn’t quite fit in with her classmates. She jumps to her own beat, sometimes quiet and sometimes loud, and the other children don’t understand her. Written in a rhyming style, this book celebrates differences and encourages kids to accept everyone. When Things Get Too Loud, by Anne Alcott

A story about sensory overload, When Things Get Too Loud is a reminder that the world can be an overwhelming place for a lot of people. When Bo’s Feel-o-Meter goes from 1 to 10, he just wants to hide. Children and parents can walk through a visual guide of emotions and ideas for dealing with them during overwhelming situations for kids with sensory overload. The Girl Who Thought in Pictures, by Julia Finley Mosca

A picture book about a girl diagnosed with autism, The Girl Who Thought in Pictures

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diagnosis meaning lungs that fill with mucus and a shortened lifespan. Caleb tries not to let his disorder define him, but it can be hard with an overprotective mom and a perfect big brother. But when Caleb meets Kit, his world completely changes. This is a wonderful story about the meaning of friendship and coping with disability. A Kind of Spark, by Elle McNicoll

is an empowering story that debunks myths and stereotypes. No one expected Temple to talk, let alone become one of the best voices in modern science. But as a visual thinker, Temple did just that, inventing groundbreaking improvements for farms around the globe. 3rd grade to 6th grade Stuck, by Jennifer Swender

Learning disabilities are the subject of Swender’s book that follows Austin, the new kid in school who struggles to read. Slowly but surely, Austin finds people at his new school who support him along the way, making him feel comfortable and confident. Roll With It, by Jamie Sumner

Ellie is a young girl who recently changed schools and has to suddenly be the new kid— who’s also in a wheelchair. She’s overwhelmed, nervous and challenged at first. Will the other kids make fun of her? Will they accept her? But soon she makes really good friends. This is a great book for kids who also have physical disabilities and need a glimmer of hope that everything will be okay! 6th grade to 8th grade Hummingbird, by Natalie Lloyd

Twelve-year-old homeschooled Olive is tired of being seen as “fragile” just because she has osteogenesis imperfecta (otherwise known as brittle bone disease). When she starts at a new school, she hears about a magical, wish-granting hummingbird that supposedly lives near Macklemore and embarks on a hunt to find it. Along the way, she makes friends and meets new people who show her that being different is not so bad after all. Caleb and Kit, by Beth Vrabel

12-year-old Caleb has cystic fibrosis, a

Award-winning and neurodivergent author Elle McNicoll delivers an insightful and stirring debut about the European witch trials and a girl who refuses to relent in the fight for what she knows is right. This book unpacks what it means to have autism– to think differently than everyone else, to see things others do not. Young adults Sitting Pretty: The View From My Ordinary Resilient Disabled Body, by Rebekah Taussig

Disability advocate and creator Rebekah Taussig was paralyzed growing up, and now she shares her story in this memoir. The collection of essays talks about what it means to live in a body that doesn’t fit, and how that affects day-to-day life. It encourages us as society to bring more stories to light, sharing our experiences with others. Same But Different: Teen Life on Autism the Express, by Holly Robinson Peete, RJ Peete and Ryan Elizabeth Peete

Triplets join forces to write a book about what it means to be a teen with autism. This book covers not only the experience of having autism, but what it means for those around you, like siblings. Dating, sports, parties, body changes, school– it’s all tackled in Same But Different, making it the perfect book for young adults with developmental disabilities. The Ables: 4 Book Series, by Jeremy Scott

Phillip is excited to start his superhero classes, gifted with the power of telekinesis. That is until he learns he’s assigned to the special-ed classes. Bullied, threatened, and betrayed, Phillip struggles, even as he and his friends–calling themselves the Ables–find ways to maximize their powers to overcome their disabilities. This supernatural story is a 4-part series, making it great for avid young adult readers.

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What is Spelling to Communicate (S2C)? It is a method that teaches the purposeful motor to point to letters on a letterboard or keyboard to enable communication. Who can use it? Autistic, nonspeaking (formerly called nonverbal) people, and people who have scripted and/or unreliable speech.

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ESTATE PLANNING FOR SPECIAL NEEDS FAMILIES If something happens to you, do you know: Who will care for your children and how they will be cared for? If an inheritance from you or another loved one will disqualify your child for important special needs services? If your assets will be tied up in court and unavailable to care for your children? Call us today to learn how to make sure your children with special needs are cared for by who you want, the way that you want, no matter what. Guiga Law PLLC 1682 Victory Blvd Staten Island

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JCC of Staten Island, children with special needs can find the support they need in a fun and nurturing environment. The JCC offers an array of programs for children with special needs, including First Foot Forward for preschoolage children, Marvin’s Camp for children ages 6 to 21, after school activities for kids and teens, a Girl Scouts troop, inclusion opportunities in traditional programs, and more.

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James P. Murphy, Staten Island Preparatory School 23 Summit Street, 10307 718-285-9377 ahrcnyc.org AHRC NYC James P. Murphy Staten Island Prep is a preschool and school-age program for students with disabilities from 3-13 years of age. The school meets student’s individual learning needs using a multisensory

approach in congruence with ABA programming while implementing the Next Generation Learning Standards. Classroom ratios are 6:1:2/8:1:2 in the preschool classrooms, and 8:1:3/10:1:2 in the schoolage classrooms. In addition, they offer related services such as speech, OT, PT, and counseling within the building.

The Law Firm of Kevin P. McKernan 503 Mosely Avenue Staten Island, NY 10312 718-317-5007 kmckernanlaw.com Seeking compassionate legal counsel for your family’s future? Look no further. Kevin McKernan Law specializes in estate planning, wills, and trusts tailored to families, especially those that have special needs children and young adults. With a deep understanding of the unique challenges you face, we craft comprehensive and personalized solutions to ensure a secure and thriving future for your loved ones. Put your

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Sandra Mazzucco, SpeechLanguage Pathology 465 Belfield Avenue, 10312 917-825-9005 Providing speech and language therapy to the Staten Island community for over 40 years. Toddlers to seniors. Specializing in fluency and stuttering, language and feeding disorders. Prompt trained for Apraxia of speech and phonological and articulation disorders. ASHA certified.New York state license in Speech and Language Pathology. Department of Education RSA accepted.

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Staten Island Alliance for North Shore Children and Families statenislandalliance.com sialliance2022@gmail.com The SI Alliance for North Shore Children and Families is a coalition of organizations, schools and community members focused on improving the overall well-being of children 0-8 years old. The SI Alliance promotes equity and addresses disparities while connecting SI North Shore families to resources located on SI. Families can access the SI Alliance Resource Hub via the website.

Sunny Days Consulting Services 1110 South Ave., Suite 405, 10314 718-556-1616 sunnydays.com Sunny Days provides homebased evaluations and ongoing therapy for infants and toddlers (ages birth to three years) suspected of having any developmental delays. They offer Speech Therapy,

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Where Little Minds Grow 501 Richmond Hill Rd., 10314 718-689-2795 info@wherelittlemindsgrow. com wherelittlemindsgrow.com Where Little Minds Grow is an integrated learning program offering an interactive and multi-sensory language based approach for successful learning. Programs are led by special educators and include Speech and Occupational Therapy, special instruction, Little Essentials Toddler Program, integrated activity classes, and Summer Camp. Services offered in individual and group settings alongside the support needed for language acquisition, and to attain socialization skills. Their indoor sensory gym and outdoor play yard offer endless opportunities to learn and grow!

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earching for a birthday party should not be stressful; it is all about fun, right? But when it comes to our kids, we parents want them to experience the most memorable birthday that will provide memories for years. So, yes, there is a bit of pressure as birthdays are a big deal, especially for our kids. This is why we have found party spots for you that do all the work. This way, you can enjoy the day along with everyone else. From spots perfect for little ones to middle schoolage kids to those picky tweens and teens, we have some great party recommendations. All you need to do is choose the one that works for you, and it’s all a cakewalk from here. Happy festivities! A.F. Bennett 350 New Dorp Lane 718-979-9000 afbennett.com A.F. Bennett curates each party to the specific needs and wants of the birthday child. This can be present in creating a theme, utilizing specific items and services, decorations, etc. Little pink A.F. Bennett Spa robes are distributed during the party, bringing out their true inner spa diva. Complimentary Spa gift bags with beauty items are provided for them to take home. Popular add-ons include a “mini facial” which consists of cucumbers on the eyes, and a Gua Sha face “massage”. The most popular kids spa party package includes hair styling with braids, curls in any style they prefer, along with beautiful eyeshadow and lip-gloss for makeup, and a magical manicure. The package begins at $85. Fun Station 3555 Victory Blvd. 718-370-0077 funstationsi.com Fun Station is an established arcade and family

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entertainment center offering a full service entertainment extravaganza under one roof that is fun, colorful and exciting! From birthday packages, virtual reality simulators to arcade games and laser tag, Fun Station has everything it takes to keep children ages 2 to 12 years old thrilled. They are a top spot for fun for the entire family in the NYC Tri-Boro and surrounding areas! Rab’s Country Lanes 1600 Hylan Blvd. 718-979-1600 bowlatrabs.com Rab’s is the perfect venue to celebrate your child’s birthday with a combination of bowling, delicious food, and endless fun. Rab’s boasts bowling lanes equipped with kid-friendly features like bumpers, lightweight balls, and their popular dragon bowling ramps ensuring that every child can join in on the fun. What sets Rab’s apart is great eats, offering a range of mouthwatering options from pizza to gourmet burgers, catering to even the pickiest young eaters. Friendly staff members add to the welcoming atmosphere, ensuring every child feels special on their big day. From Cosmic Bowling with vibrant lights, Rab’s creates a celebration filled with laughter, joy, and cherished memories. They’re a top choice for a birthday celebration that your child will cherish forever. Satori Academy of Martial Arts 4885 Arthur Kill Rd. 718-414-4360 satoriacademynj.com/staten-island A birthday party at Satori Academy is an unforgettable, fun-filled event that your child and friends will never forget - and your child is the star of the show! Bring the cake, and they’ll do the rest. Preparation and cleanup is taken care of. The facilities are private, safe, and clean. Satori’s brand new facility in Tottenville offers martial arts classes for preschoolers ages

3/4, kids 5/6, 7-10, pre-teens 11-14, and teens. Mommy & Me Classes and Kickboxing and jiu jitsu classes for parents too! SeaQuest 101 Woodbridge Center Dr, Woodbridge Township, NJ

Staten Island Skating Pavilion 3080 Arthur Kill Rd. 718-948-4800 thepavilion.org The Staten Island Skating Pavilion specializes in birthday parties for all ages! All Parties include invitations, a party host, skate rental and rink time, pizza, soda & juice, balloons, cupcakes, paper goods, coffee for adults and adults skate free. Enjoy a stress free party with SI Skating Pavilion. Urban Air 4422 2nd Ave., Brooklyn 347-732-5438 UrbanAirBrooklyn.com parties@urbanairbrooklyn.com Urban Air Brooklyn is the perfect place if you’re looking for the best year-round indoor attractions. Take your kid’s birthday party to new heights or spend a day of fun with the family, and you’ll see why Urban Air Brooklyn is the best place for jumping, climbing, riding, playing, and fun for all ages! For kids, a birthday party at Urban Air is a fun way to celebrate with friends and family—it’s a party they’ll be talking about for a long time. To make things even easier, a party host, balloons, plates, napkins, and forks are included to make for a stellar party! Urban Air Brooklyn has it all, making it a top choice for kids’ birthday parties.

732-283-2945 visitseaquest.com/woodbridge SeaQuest offers a wide variety of birthday party options designed to make your child’s special day unforgettable! Kids will interact with animals from all over the planet and learn about behind-the-scenes operations at

SeaQuest! They provide the ultimate birthday experience, including a gift for the birthday child, goodie bags for every attendee, and a memorable encounter with an animal of the birthday child’s choosing. Get 25% OFF your birthday package by using code SIPARENT when you book online or by phone.

Victory Gymnastics Center 3575 Victory Blvd. 718-983-9090 victorygymnasticscenter.com victorygymnasticscenter@gmail.com Planning a birthday party for a little gymnast? VGC’s popular birthday parties consist of one hour of fun-filled, age appropriate gym activities followed by 45 minutes of celebration time in the refreshment area. Gym activities during the party may include relay races, obstacle course, rope swing, trampoline and other gymnastics, parachute games and more. All parties are led by staff members to ensure that the children and guests have a safe and exciting experience. Victory Gymnastics Center, Staten Island’s longest running gymnastics facility, has been providing safe, fun recreational classes, tumbling classes, private instruction, and, of course, birthday parties for over 40 years. In addition to parties, VGC offers classes for all age groups from Tiny Tots parent and child classes through Adult private sessions- there’s a little something for everyone. November 2023 | Staten Island Parent

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roviding our children with the best possible support is paramount in the ever-evolving education landscape. Whether mastering academic subjects, preparing for standardized tests, or cultivating critical learning skills, the right resources can make all the difference. Finding the perfect blend of guidance and resources is crucial, as every student’s needs and goals are unique. From one-on-one tutoring to cuttingedge digital platforms, we have trusted resources throughout New York that can shape a brighter future for your child. Check them out! Barbara Rauch Tutoring Service Inc. 465 Belfield Avenue, 10312 718-227-0121 barbararauchtutoringservice.com Looking for the best full-service tutorial center on Staten Island? Barbara Rauch Tutoring Service, Inc. has been serving Staten Island for over 25 years. Former students of hers are now sending their children to the center because they remember how Barbara treated each student as if they were her only student. The center offers a wide range of tutoring and test prep programs for grades K-12. Programs include classes for TACHS, SHSAT, SAT, Regents, and NYS exams. Oneon-one is also offered for all subjects. Barbara Rauch and her team will help your child reach their ultimate potential. Eye Level Staten Island 141 Evergreen Avenue, 10305 1409 Richmond Avenue, 10314 718-494-1432 eyelevelny.com Imagine having the power to transform your child’s life, to nurture healthy study habits,

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to lay a strong foundation based on understanding of fundamental skills, to instill self-confidence in his/her own capacity to excel at school and succeed in life. Eye Level Learning offers tutoring, and test prep services that a child may need in order to excel in a small group or individualized basis. There are 2 convenient centers on Staten Island. Eye Level’s amazing teaching staff will pinpoint exactly where your child needs help and will build up their academic skills one small step at a time!

Roots Learning Center therootslearningcenter.com info@therootslearningcenter.com Roots is a Private Learning Center for preschool and elementary students needing remediation or enrichment in foundational reading, writing, and math skills. Through differentiated small group and individualized instruction, Roots supports all learners seeking support outside of school. Students with learning differences and students needing specific support can benefit from the services offered at Roots. Founder, Megan Scanlon, uses her expertise, years of experience, and appreciation for understanding the roots of a student’s learning profile to create an authentic environment that supports all learners in solidifying the roots of academic skills, while gaining self-confidence as students. Online SBT Spanish Academy sbtspanish.com contact@sbtspanish.com SBT Spanish Academy empowers teenagers for success in the AP® Spanish Language

and Culture Exam with their specialized online lessons. Experienced instructors are dedicated to guiding young learners through the intricacies of the exam’s curriculum. SBT Spanish Academy offers premium 1-on-1 online tutoring designed to meet the unique needs of teenagers preparing for this challenging test. With flexible scheduling and personalized guidance from their nativespeaking educators, students can confidently master Spanish. Begin the journey to exam success today. Contact them at 516-360-9963 or visit sbtspanish.com for a complimentary demo lesson. Achieve your language goals with their unwavering support.

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FAMILY DAY OUT

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ue the hot chocolate, bring on the holiday lights, it’s family time! We are excited to share the events our amazing partners are holding this season! Christmas Spectacular Radio City Music Hall, New York, NY Make this holiday season truly unforgettable. See the Rockettes live in the Christmas Spectacular, debuting on November 17 at Radio City Music Hall. Secure your tickets now and begin creating cherished memories. Historic Richmondtown 441 Clarke Avenue historicrichmondtown.org This December, Historic Richmond Town will be transformed into a Dickens-style holiday wonderland where guests of all ages will find themselves immersed in holiday cheer. Guests can enjoy living history demonstrations, shopping for gifts, crafts, and commemorative items from the tinsmith, carpenter, and general store; an old-fashioned horse drawn carriage, a visit from Santa and his helpers, hot and tasty local eats, and much more that will bring on the jolly feel of the holiday spirit! Staten Island Skating Pavilion 3080 Arthur Kill Rd 718-948-4800 thepavilion.org Head to the SI Skating Pavilion for some winter fun! Skate with a special character on Friday November 24 from 12 to 2, or participate in the Great Snowball Fight On Ice on November 25 from 12-2. Visit thepavilion.org for their many holiday public skating sessions. The 20th Annual Christmas Show at St. George Theatre 35 Hyatt Street stgeorgetheatre.com/the-christmas-show-20thanniversary/ Fri., Dec. 8 to Sun., Dec. 10 (five performances) The Tradition Continues! Celebrating the 20th year, this two-hour production is a highenergy, rhinestone-studded series of songs and dances that the whole family will enjoy!

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The show revolves around a grandmother reading a Christmas story about what makes the holiday season so beautiful. Set in grandmother’s house, the story takes the audience on a magical journey through numerous scenes from the North Pole with Santa Claus and Mrs. Claus to Times Square, Clove Lake Park to The Rainbow Room, and culminates in a justifiably renowned Living Nativity. The show serves as a fundraiser for the St. George Theatre Restoration, Inc.

Storybook Land’s Christmas Fantasy with Lights 6415 Black Horse Pike, Egg Harbor Township, NJ StorybookLand.com South Jersey’s Christmas Tradition for over 30 years! Watch as Santa Claus waves his magic wand and lights the park with over 1 million lights for the holiday season. All rides and snack bars are open. As seen on ABC’s The Great Christmas Light Fight. Go online for ticketing and reservation information.

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et ready for some festive fall fun! Here are some of this month’s most exciting events in Staten Island and nearby. Be sure to call ahead or visit event websites to confirm details. Go to siparent.com/events for info on the events listed here and even more stuff to do with your family throughout the month and all year long! A Year With Frog and Toad Saturday & Sunday, Nov. 4 and 5 & Nov. 11 and 12, 2pm Staten Island Playhouse at Empire Outlets 55 Richmond Terrace IlluminArt Productions presents a timeless seasonal journey of friendship with “A Year With Frog And Toad.” November 11 is a sensory friendly performance. Wild Kratts: Ocean Adventure! Through May 5, 2024; check lsc. org for hours Liberty Science Center 222 Jersey City Blvd., Jersey City, NJ Dive into fun, and explore ocean habitats! Using Wild Kratts technology and the powers of science and teamwork, kids and their families join the Wild Kratts team to solve problems, help marine animals, and foil the villains’ nefarious plans. Make Bookmarks for the Fall Thursday, Nov. 2, 3:30-4:30pm Richmondtown Library 200 Clarke Ave., Staten Island Calling all teens: Head to the library for this fun opportunity

Historic Richmond Town hosts a Hearth & Harvest Festival on November 18. to create your own bookmark. All materials will be provided by NYPL. Children’s Painting Hour: A Time for Thanksgiving Saturday, Nov. 4, 2-3pm St. George Library Center 5 Central Ave., Staten Island Use the library’s paints for some fun themed painting time. Magical Matt Magic Show Saturday, Nov. 4, 4-4:45pm Staten Island Children’s Museum 1000 Richmond Terr., Staten

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Island Magical Matt will create smiles and laughter for the entire family with this fun magic show, appropriate for ages 4-10. Parent-to-Be Workshop Series Nov. 7, 14, 21, 7pm Joan & Alan Bernikow JCC 1466 Manor Rd., Staten Island First-time parent jitters? The JCC is here to help! Learn from the experts at a series of free informational workshops presented by the Joan & Alan

Bernikow JCC of Staten Island and RUMC. Crazy Science: Electricity Experiments Saturday, Nov. 11, 4-4:45pm Staten Island Children’s Museum 1000 Richmond Terr., Staten Island Get ready for an exploration of fun and safe experiments with electricity that will leave you in awe. ShopRite Kidz Cook Sunday, Nov. 12 and Saturday,

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Magical Matt visits the Staten Island Children’s Museum on November 4. Nov. 25 11:30am-3:30pm Staten Island Children’s Museum 1000 Richmond Terr., Staten Island Head to this caregiver-andme program that introduces children to a diversity of foods, explains cooking concepts and helps build dexterity with cooking utensils. Workshops at 11:30am, 12:30pm, 1:30pm, 2:30pm and 3:30pm. Hearth & Harvest Festival Saturday, Nov. 18, 10am-4pm Historic Richmond Town 441 Clarke Ave., Staten Island Visitors can explore native life and culture through presentations of indigenous dance, storytelling and crafts, as well as demonstrations of hearth cooking in North America by costumed interpreters who will use 18th & 19th century recipes, tools and techniques in historic kitchens throughout the village. Literature at Play Workshop Saturday, Nov. 18, 3-3:45pm Staten Island Children’s Museum 1000 Richmond Terr., Staten Island This immersive experience brings beloved children’s

literature to life through theater, music, and movement, sparking their imagination and critical thinking. Astronomy Observing Saturday, Nov. 18, 8-11pm Great Kills Park on Staten Island Enter the park at Hylan Boulevard and Buffalo Street The Amateur Astronomers Association hosts observing sessions, free and open to the public. Telescopes provided. American Girl LIVE! In Concert Sunday, Nov. 19, 4pm St. George Theatre 35 Hyatt St., Staten Island American Girl LIVE! in Concert is finally here! Your beloved characters make their debut in an original new concert featuring musical performances by Claudie, Melody, Julie, Courtney, and Nicki, and their new friend Madison. Bounce House Fun Friday, Nov. 24, 10am-5pm Staten Island Children’s Museum 1000 Richmond Terr. It’s a great day to visit the museum and get the wiggles out. A bounce house will be on site all day!

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NOVEMBER 10 Christopher Di Paola Joshua Zucconi Angelina Marie Singh Patrick Hurley Giuliana Mastropasqua Antonia Geandomenico Bradley Rrakulli

NOVEMBER 11 Carlos Zurita Chiara Selfridge Jahdiar Godwin Kaitlyn Pulzone Gabriel Aguilar Amayah Abuhamda Antoine Rose Jr. Maya Marszalski

NOVEMBER 12 Kiana Yard Lailah Villa Alexis Galitsin Jason Corona Juliet DeTeresa Nico Rosso

NOVEMBER 13 Daniel Waschitz Jevonne Jackson Ashley Lucchese Robert Belajonas Adrianna Cinquemani Joseph Koutros Lucas Fernandez

NOVEMBER 14 Kaiden Beasly

Anthony Grillo Anthony Colon Jr. Alyssa Latchman Sophie Roccanova Phoenix Garcia Kaitlyn Schiavo Nico Gilsenan Remy Fion

NOVEMBER 15 Samantha Tabb Andrew Tabb Elena Gonzalez Anthony Ameno Joseph Bruzon Evelyn Bustamante

NOVEMBER 16 Marc Gambaro Anthony Aliotta Regginae Jordan Giovanni Tarsio Gianna Samuel Valentina Fiorentino Matteo Picciallo Jake Guarderas Emma Fici Emma Rey

NOVEMBER 17 Nicholas Russo Julia Falvey Joey Falvey Edward Johnson Paul Townsley Giada Arciprete Elijah Merizalde

NOVEMBER 18 Luke Singler Christopger Risley Delilah Cintron

Vanessa Popa Isaiah Glover Lorenzo Citera Christian Forte

Christine Aidiniou

NOVEMBER 19

Paulina Eve Pearlman John Campagna Carolyn Ellis Allie Harrell Kaylee Sands Charles Savage

Dakota Hall Gianluca Pirro Sarah Abdelhamid Angelina Pipitone Chloe Joy Reynolds Giuseppe Bongiorno Chloe Reynolds

NOVEMBER 20 Michael Daniel Tarulli Michael Gigante Rihanna Barriffe Jessica Jorgensen Kaitlyn Jorgensen Vito Maniscalco Christopher Acker Emily Petrosino Arianna Priscilla Klapak

NOVEMBER 21 Nicholas Matthew Rinaldo Nicolena Plantamura Subhan Salman Michael Chirieleison Evan Michael Chernov Rory Cahill Melody Brown

NOVEMBER 22 James Mannino Za’Niyah Zayas Avery Canfield Dominic Mercurio Dylan McCarthy Aleksandra Dvorak

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NOVEMBER 24 Abdul Aziz Valentina Loverso Olivia Vrakas Maliyah Mitchell Olivia Vrakas Abigail Kurtz Luis Rodriguez

NOVEMBER 25 Amaya McDonough Noah Valenzuela Justin Taunton Haley Doctor Kaela Castro Ava Aponte

NOVEMBER 26 Christopher Bianchi Zachary Pritchard Emma Johnson Juliette Pennacchio Gianna Pizzimenti Emma Johnson Valentina Ducalo

NOVEMBER 27 Alyssa Ferrandino Nicholas Robbins Chaamy Yapa

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NOVEMBER 29 Jacqueline Mills Gabrielle Anselmo Elias Tavarez Eva Duran Aiden Kilcullen Leilani Collazo

NOVEMBER 30 Jason Nonnenmacher Jr. Jadah McCombs Amelie Spinella Michael Magi Carly Moore-Stuart Carmelo Mcmanus Solomiya Koylyak Liam Hidalgo

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2-5 pm - Thanksgiving Public Session

Saturday November 25 -

12-2 pm - Great Snowball Fight On-Ice 2-5 pm Holiday Public Session 8 - 10pm Holiday Public Session

Sunday November 26 -

12-5pm Holiday Public Session

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