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This month, those back-to-school messages will start rolling in. While we all want to cling to the joys of summer for as long as possible, that doesn’t mean you can’t multi-task. The Best Afterschool Programs and Activities (page 18) and our Education Listings (page 14) will help ease you back into the school mindset.
Check out our Ultimate Guide on pick-your-own farms and what you can find by season. Fun fact: it’s Peach Season right now!
Regardless of our children’s ages, we’re all concerned about social media. We have all the details on what a Warning Label for Social Media (page 8) would entail.
Lastly, our cover mom, Lisa Marie Riley, began posting funny videos to social media as a way of coping with her late husband’s illness and the stress that accompanies a loved one’s sickness. To her surprise, she became a comedian! Learn about her healing journey, humor, food, and family.
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A Warning Label for Social Media?
By Sharon FeiereiSen
It doesn’t matter how old our children are, we are all worried about how social media is impacting their lives now and in the future. Heck, even those without children are worried about how social media is impacting their mental state.
This topic is all the more top-of-mind as of late with the much buzzed about book The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt and related initiatives like #phonefreefriday. Recently, United States Surgeon General Vivek Murthy announced he is looking to add a warning label on social media in the same way it does with cigarettes and alcohol. “This initiative highlights the need for parents to be vigilant and proactive in managing their children’s social media habits,” says Yaron Litwin,
Digital Safety Expert and Chief Marketing Officer at Canopy.
In fact, in his op-ed Murthy referenced a number of studies including a 2019 American Medical Association study published in JAMA that showed teens who spend three hours a day on social media double their risk of depression
– surveys have shown that teens spend nearly five hours a day on social media apps.
“He’s looking to add a warning onto social media because though it seems like social media has been around for a long time it’s rather new and we’re raising children in an unprecedented time of having full access
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to social media platforms since birth,” says Olivia Dreizen Howell, a social media expert, certified life and success coach and CEO and founder of Fresh Starts Expert Community. “What has been reported is that having access to social media at an early age is detrimental to mental health and we need to take a hard look at the goal of social media and the long term impact it will have on the future generations.”
Howell goes on to note that while there is positivity that can result from being active on social media, children are not born knowing how to maneuver and manage themselves on these platforms, so we need to carefully assess how to handle raising children in the world of social media as a constant.
It’s Not One-Dimensional
A lot of parents feel that protecting their children from social media is black or white, but that really isn’t the case. There can be a nuanced and thoughtful approach.
“I really think the most important thing Murthy wants parents to know is that we can approach social media and our children
with a researched, well-balanced and gentle approach,” says Howell. “Social media can play a very important role for many children – especially children who find it hard to communicate person-to-person or children who are lacking support in their everyday lives.”
However, she goes on to note that we can’t stand idly and watch our children navigate the murky waters of social media alone. “I very much appreciate that his call to action was a community call to action – we have to look at this as a mental health crisis for all children – and work together, so that parents don’t feel the guilt that they are ‘ruining’ their children by not letting them participate in social media.”
A Warning Label To Social Media Proposal is Long Overdue
While the proposal might appear overdue given the widespread use of social media, it’s still a crucial step in the right direction according to Litwin. “Addressing the issue now can help mitigate further harm and foster a healthier digital environment for future generations. Implementing warning labels and other
regulatory measures can still significantly impact awareness and behavior.” Nonetheless he underlines that the effectiveness of warning labels will depend on their implementation and integration into a broader strategy.
“Warning labels alone may not suffice, but as part of a comprehensive approach— including education, parental controls and mental health support—they can contribute to healthier social media habits and reduce the risks associated with excessive use.”
What are some things parents can do today?
Parents can take immediate steps to protect their children. Litwin suggests the following:
• Set and enforce limits on daily social media usage.
• Discuss the potential mental health risks associated with excessive social media use.
• Encourage and facilitate offline activities that promote well-being.
• Utilizing parental control tools to monitor and manage social media use.
• Model healthy digital habits for your children.
Pick-Your-Own Farms
By Alex A lutter
When you think of farms, you probably used to think of the song Old McDonald; with red barns, milking cows, and chickens laying eggs. But they are a lot more than that! In the past decade or so, farm visits have become a very popular outdoor family excursion for a lot of reasons. Not only do farm trips teach us about agriculture and where our food comes from, but they get our families off their devices and out of the house and take us into a different scenery. Additionally, farms allow fun and interactive experiences, like picking your own produce. As an added bonus, they provide the perfect backdrop for a family photo.
We’ve listed some great reasons to choose this popular seasonal activity with your family below, along with tips and helpful information you will need to prepare for your next trip to the farm!
Note: Sometimes Mother Nature has different plans than we do. Make sure to confirm the farm’s hours, prices, and availability before heading out.
Why Pick Your Own Farms?
Sensational Scenery : The scenery at these farms and fields is absolutely breathtaking, serving as amazing photo ops for the whole family that are Instagram and holiday-cardworthy all year round. So make sure your phone is fully charged and in the right mode for all the beautiful photos you are going to take. Snap away and capture those memories!
Health Benefits : There is nothing like smelling fresh lavender, biting into a crisp strawberry, or plucking the perfect apple off a tree. Picking your own produce has both mental and physical health benefits. Getting outdoors has been proven to boost your vitamin D levels and reduce feelings of stress. Visiting these fields and farms gives you and your family the ability to stimulate all five senses. Plus, having fresh produce in the house promotes healthy eating. It could make even your picky eater try something new!
Whether you are buying produce or not, the environment lends itself to a new kind of outdoor experience, so breathe in the fresh
air and enjoy your surroundings! Most farms provide rich knowledge about agriculture, as it is both interesting and beneficial to know where your food is coming from.
Environmental Benefits of Pick Your Own Farms : Visiting farms is a great way to support small businesses and local farmers, which in turn helps stimulate the local economy. This support promotes sustainability and ecological preservation. Further support the environment by carpooling to farms with friends to reduce fossil fuels!
Taste the Difference : Let’s be real, at the end of the day one of the best benefits of picking your own produce is stocking your fridge and pantry with all the yummy fresh fruits and veggies! Once you bring all the produce home, the possibilities are endless. You can create your own jams, jellies, pies, and more. Check out recipes to make after pumpkin picking and apple picking.
Not the recipe cooking type? No worries! Most of these farms feature a market where you can purchase seasonal farm fresh fruits and vegetables grown onsite. They carry high-quality homemade ciders, coffees, teas, maple syrups, honey, jams, yogurts, cheeses,
etc. The options are endless! Find a farm with a bakery and you hit the jackpot! If you never had a hot, fresh apple cider donut you have no idea what you are missing! Stock up on your favorite pies to share with your families, a very popular option when it comes to holiday time. No one can resist a fresh farm pie!
Ultimate Guide to Pick-Your-Own Fruits, Flowers and More!
Strawberries
There is nothing like a fresh, sweet and slightly tangy strawberry. Children love strawberries in their natural form, but the possibilities for family-friendly recipes are endless. Some favorites include strawberry jams, yogurt, and pancakes. Parents looking for a real treat? Homemade strawberry daiquiris make the perfect summer cocktail. Cheers! When to go? Strawberry season is typically late in May and early June.
How much? Prices range from $5.50 to $8.00 per pound.
Picking tips : When picking the perfect strawberries, look for vibrant red and fully shaped strawberries. Strawberries do not ripen after being picked so you want to grab the ripest
ones right away. When picking your strawberries, grip the stem above the strawberry, twist, and pull. Be careful when storing strawberries in containers to not overcrowd the container, for that may cause strawberries to bruise or become mushy. When you go home, refrain from washing the strawberries until you are ready to use them; washing immediately increases the chances of spoiling faster.
Peaches
A little peachy attitude goes a long way for this sweet summer fruit. Peaches hold a bright and sweet flavor with notes of tartness. They have been called a superfood and contain excellent sources of vitamins A and C. They are versatile; keep it simple with sliced peaches and creams or whip up a decadent peach cobbler.
When to go? Peach-picking season is typically late July through September.
How much? Peaches are approximately $3.00 per pound.
Picking tips : When it comes to picking the perfect peach there are many things to keep an eye out for. First, you want to examine the peaches’ skin. If there is any green on the skin, the peach is not ready to be picked. Use your sense of smell! Ripe and ready peaches will give off a sweet aroma, when there is no aroma the peach needs more time to ripen. Finally, make sure the fruit is not too firm and easy to retrieve from the tree. When bringing peaches home, store them in the refrigerator to slow down the process of ripening. For long-term storage, you can freeze them in an airtight plastic bag.
Sunflowers
Did you know you can pick your own sunflowers? Sunflowers are commonly associated with summer. They add a pop of color to any space, whether it is your backyard, kitchen, or living room. Sunflowers can be put on display, used for crafts, composting, and more. Sunflower fields open the door for some seriously Instagram-worthy pictures. There are usually a plethora of fun activities for families, such as mazes and bouquet making. When to go? : Sunflower picking season is typically mid-summer.
How much? Sunflowers cost approximately $2.00 a flower.
Picking Tips : Some sunflower farms or fields let you pick your own sunflowers while others sell them. You are usually allowed to enter the fields for photos either way, but check the farm’s policy first.
Apples
Nothing says fall like a nice crisp apple
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DuBois Farms Pick-Your-Own
209 Perkinsville Rd, Highland, NY
Lawrence Farms Orchards
306 Frozen Ridge Rd, Newburgh, NY
Fishkill Farms
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Lewin Farms
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244 Werimus Rd, Hillsdale, NJ
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Battleview Orchards
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plucked straight from a tree. Apples are one of the most diverse fruits and are used in so many different delicious ways. Cider, pie, tarts, juice, and more are all amazing options – not to mention biting into one the old-fashioned way. There are tons of apple varieties, so choose a farm that is growing your favorite kind. Or try them all!
When to go? : Apple season normally begins in late August and lasts until around mid to late October.
How much? : Prices for apples vary by variety and typically are sold by the pound.
Picking tips : There are many things to look out for when choosing your choice of apples. You want to ensure the apples you pick are free from any blemishes or bruises. Apples should be firm to the touch and not mushy. Another helpful tip is to look for apples with stems intact, as the stem keeps the apple good for longer. Be mindful when you pick the apple to keep the stem intact.
Pumpkins
Pumpkin picking is a fall staple and perhaps the most popular fall outdoor activity for families. Carving pumpkins is a treasured tradition for many families after everyone chooses their perfect pumpkin. Kids love the joy of picking their own pumpkin to turn into a unique jackolantern and displaying it proudly outside during Halloween. Grab a few
extra pumpkins to create some delicious recipes such as pumpkin pie, bread, muffins and more. Pumpkins are a very healthy food that provides calcium, potassium, and magnesium. Don’t forget to roast the seeds!
When to go? Pumpkin-picking picking season typically begins in September and ends on Halloween.
How much? Pumpkin prices vary greatly depending on size, but they average around $5.50 each.
Picking tips: Color is everything when it comes to the perfect pumpkin. You want to pick a pumpkin that is a gorgeous orange color with no blemishes or bruising. If you are looking for a pumpkin to carve, you want to look for one that will have enough room for your design and a smooth outer shell. When bringing home your pumpkin you definitely want to clean it. Pumpkins can be prone to bacteria, which could result in decaying.
Christmas Trees
Did you know you can pick your very own Christmas tree? Christmas tree farms allow you to observe these gorgeous trees in their natural habitat and take them to your home to decorate. Picking your own tree creates a special memory within the family for the holidays. Not to mention, having a real Christmas tree will hit you with joy the second you open your front door, thanks to their unmistakable aroma. Most Christmas tree farms also sell wreaths, garlands and more. And as an added treat for the kids…lots of tree farms offer a visit and photo opportunity with Santa! So grab a hot chocolate or cider and enjoy this holiday tradition, sure to get your family right into the Christmas spirit!
When to go? Christmas Tree farms usually open around late November through December
How much? The average price of a Christmas tree is about $85.
Picking Tips : Bundle up! It will most likely be very chilly and you want your family to be as comfy as possible. Always feel free to ask questions to farm workers in order to find your perfect tree. Your tree should be a healthy green color and the size of your liking. Christmas trees can be quite large so measure ahead of time and make sure you have the space in your vehicle to transport it home. Additionally, look for branches with space to hold all of your decorations and ornaments; flimsy branches will result in falling “needles.” When home, you will need fresh water to keep your tree well hydrated. The amount of water you will need depends on the size of your tree and trunk.
Exploring NY School Options
Advice for finding the perfect educational fit for your child
By BarBara russo
It may be Back to School time, but choosing a school to send your child to can happen any time throughout the school year. Whether your child is moving on from daycare, elementary, middle school, or simply a better educational fit is needed, searching for one can be a complicated decision. We all worry about whether we’re making the best choices in raising our kids, and one thing most of us fret over is whether our children are getting the best education that suits their needs. In many areas in the country, traditional district public schools may be the best option for kids. But living in the New York metro area, we have an abundance of choices in addition to great public schools, including charter, independent and magnet schools.
While one school option doesn’t necessarily provide a better education than another, each type has pros and cons for every individual family. It’s up to you to determine which school setting best suits your child’s needs. What are the differences between independent, charter, and magnet schools, and which one is best for your child? Read on to learn more about charter, independent and magnet schools.
Catholic Schools
NYC Catholic Schools prioritize both academic excellence and Catholic values. Students are immersed in an environment that promotes respect, courtesy, and service to others, which are integral to their curriculum. These schools offer a comprehensive range of subjects, including Math, Religion, English Language Arts, History, and Science. Moreover, they have embraced modern technology in the classrooms and introduced STEM programs to foster a well-rounded education.
Recent New York State Education
Department Examination results confirm that Catholic Schools in the Archdiocese of New York have once again outperformed both New York State and New York City schools regarding performance growth.
Charter Schools
The most important thing to understand about a charter school is that it’s a public school – but with fewer regulations. Charter schools are tuition free and receive money from local, state and federal funds.
“Charter schools do not have the same oversight as public schools, but they do need to be funded at least partially by a public government. They can also seek funding elsewhere,” Mary Miele, CEO, Evolved
Education Company, explained. “Charter schools can set their own curriculum, but they will be evaluated based on testing, which the public school also gives (the NYS exams in grades 3-8) and so the curriculum does involve a good amount of prep for those exams.”
According to the New York State Education Department, a significant difference between charter schools and traditional public schools is that charter schools often focus on innovative curricula, new approaches to school organization or instruction, or another feature that traditional public schools wouldn’t be able to accomplish without the flexibility given by a charter.
But charter schools need to produce
strong NYS test results in order to continue their funding, so many are more traditional in their teaching approach and teach toward those tests, Miele said.
Parents can learn more about charter schools, what a charter is and other information at nysed.gov.
Independent Schools
Also known as private schools, independent schools are primarily funded by tuition and charitable donations as opposed to taxpayer dollars.
“Typically, independent schools do quite a bit of fundraising, and parents may be tasked with organizing some of it,” Christine Hernandez, early childhood and parenting expert, and founder of Allo Saratoga in New York State, said.
And, their curriculum is not reviewed by a public entity, Miele explained.
The admission process for private schools can vary, but it generally includes:
• Filling out an application
• Visiting the school and doing both student and parent interviews
• Taking an entrance exam, if applicable
• Sending in teacher recommendations and transcripts
• Writing parent and student essays, and submitting videos of the student (for the K process)
Magnet Schools
Magnet schools are NYC Department of Education (DOE) schools. They are tuitionfree schools, in part federally funded by competitive Magnet Schools Assistance Program grant awards from the U.S. Department of Education. Magnet schools offer whole-school specialized thematic programs (theme examples include art, architecture, engineering, civics, leadership, exploration, global conservation, STEM/ STEAM) which incorporate innovative curriculum and enrichment experiences designed to engage and inspire learning.
Magnet schools utilize diversified approaches to teaching which include inquiry and project-based learning with real world connections and authentic application of skills. Partnerships with colleges, universi-
ties, professional and community organizations, cultural institutions and Artists in Residency programs, provide professional development opportunities and supplement student and family experiences. The rigorous instructional foundation is supported and enhanced by instructional technology, dedicated spaces for arts and science such as maker-spaces, horticultural labs, broadcast studios, STEM/STEAM activities, and special programs.
There is an application process for magnet schools, but there is no screening or testing involved in applying. For more information, families should contact info@ magnetschools.nyc or visit magnetschools. nyc.
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Back to School is in the air, but remember that this is also prime time to plan for your child’s next step in their education. Most schools are starting their tours and open houses now since enrollment periods often open up just after Labor Day, so check out your options and start marking your calendar!
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Not Just a Picky Eater
Could your child have the eating disorder ARFID?
By Kaitlyn RiggiO
Let’s face it: almost every kid goes through a phase of being a picky eater, where getting them to eat something other than their favorite crackers and chicken nuggets can be a real struggle.
But what if you’re suspecting it’s more than just a phase? Or if it’s starting to impact them outside of meal time? Maybe it’s stopping them from going to birthday parties or playdates, or it’s causing massive arguments in your house at dinnertime.
Having a child who is a picky eater is developmentally expected, but when your kid’s eating habits are highly restrictive and start to impact other parts of their life, they might have Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder, or ARFID.
We sat down with some experts to talk about what parents need to know about ARFID and how it might be treated.
What distinguishes ARFID from a picky eater?
Dr. Sarah Parker, director and co-founder of the Reeds Center, describes ARFID as a condition where “a person has an extremely limited range of foods that they can tolerate or eat” to the point that they’re “experiencing a good deal of suffering or some level of impairment, like it’s getting in the way of important activities.”
This impact on important activities is what distinguishes ARFID from picky eating. A child with ARFID might fall off their growth curve or suffer from nutritional deficits, for example.
The impacts of ARFID expand beyond physical health.
“We’re seeing a lot of psychosocial functioning impairments,” says Amanda Smith, director of ARFID programming at Monte Nido Walden. “Like, they’re not going to sleepovers, they can’t do class parties, they can’t do doughnuts with parents at school.”
What causes ARFID?
There are three different ways that ARFID typically presents itself that causes restric-
tions on food intake.
Sensory Difficulties : When ARFID presents through sensory difficulties, the taste, texture or smell of some foods can elicit strong feelings of disgust.
“There’s a heightened sensitivity, which leads to a very selective approach to which are acceptable,” says Melissa Gerson, founder and director of Columbus Park.
Fear of Adverse Consequences : As opposed to a sensory difficulty, ARFID stemming from a fear of adverse consequences is more of an anxiety or fear process.
“So many people with ARFID have anxiety about how food is going to affect them,” Parker says. “Or there’s going to be some kind of negative outcome if they eat a particular food.”
These fears related to food can be varied.
“They can be afraid that if they eat, they might choke on the food, or that it might make them sick or vomit,” Gerson says. “That can come on suddenly, or it can kind of build up over time.”
Lack of Interest : People with this type of presentation demonstrate a lack of interest in food and eating.
“It’s a chore,” Smith says. “Too much thought has to go into it, and they would just rather not.”
What’s also worth noting is that regardless of how ARFID presents, it’s not triggered by or related to body image or weight. While ARFID is classified as an eating disorder, this is what distinguishes it from eating disorders like anorexia or bulimia.
When Should Parents Look Into Seeking an ARFID Diagnosis For
Their Kid? What Does Treatment for ARFID Look Like?
Parents know their kids best, and the experts we spoke to said to reach out to their pediatrician if they notice their children’s restrictive eating habits are impacting things like their weight or ability to get important nutrients.
Another reason to seek out a diagnosis is noticeable interference with social functioning.
“If your kid has a hard time going to camp, or going to school, or eating with friends,” Gerson says. “That’s impacting their social life and their social connections, so that would be a really good reason to begin to explore.”
Conflicts within the family surrounding food are another thing to look out for.
“If a kid is refusing to eat food and it’s turning into an emotional issue in the family, it seems like that’s a useful time to kind of make an appointment with a pediatrician to find out more about what’s happening,” Parker says.
When it comes to treatment for ARFID, Smith says it typically involves a “multidisciplinary approach to try and really tailor to an adolescent or child’s needs.” From there, treatment might include weight restoration, if it’s needed, and then working to break through blocks eating certain foods before trying to expose the child to new foods and work on building their variety.
Treatment will also vary based on how the child is presenting ARFID. For example, exposure work might be prioritized if a child’s food avoidance is being driven by fear, while a child with sensory issues might be introduced to smaller changes to increase their tolerance and variety of foods they can eat.
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It’s no secret that education is a vital part of any child’s development; that’s why school is a requirement. But what about the experiences and lessons they learn when school is out? Academics are important, but enrichment comes in many forms. A child is often likely to discover hidden talents or new interests through afterschool activities, so it’s highly recommended that parents enroll their kids in a multitude of extracurricular programs like dance, music, theater, sports, etc. to see where they will shine! With back to school right around the corner, now is the time to decide which programs best suit your child. Here in New York, the options seem endless, so we narrowed it down with these top afterschool programs in and near Queens. Each is expertly crafted by top-tier professionals, ensuring that every child reaches their full potential while having fun at the same time.
The Ailey School
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The Ailey School’s Junior Division offers a highly structured curriculum for conservatory training. Students in the Pre-Professional program (ages 7 to 17) participate in after school and weekend classes during the school year. All levels include training in ballet and at least one other technique. As students progress, more techniques are added to their training such as jazz, Horton, modern, pointe, tap, and West African. In First Steps and Bounding Boys (ages 3 to 6), children develop an understanding between dance, rhythm, and music through a weekly series of fun exercises.
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All Star Studios
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All Star Studios programs are designed to encourage and educate students on increasing flexibility, improve coordination, focus on muscle strengthening, build poise, and have fun. All instructors have experience in teaching and performing to give students the skills they need, and help push them toward their goals, build self-confidence, and encourage a healthy, active lifestyle. Their competition team does annual fundraising shows to support families with children on the spectrum. The dancers learn technique and choreography during the year and perform in the Annual Spring Show. The first class is free, and tuition is on a monthly basis so you are not tied into a semester contract. The studio spans three floors with viewing windows for the parents in the heart of Forest Hills.
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Aviator Sports is a child’s gateway to fun, fitness and growth. Their diverse youth sports programs, Gymnastics, Parkour/Ninja Warrior, Ice Skating, Ice Hockey, Basketball, and FC Copa Soccer, cater to every child’s interests and talents. Each seasonal semester is a new adventure, designed to foster skill development, teamwork, and physical fitness in a way that’s both enjoyable and educational. Aviator’s professional coaches deliver personalized attention, fueling the passion for sports and promoting an active lifestyle. At Aviator Sports, they are not just about athletic skills; they help children build confidence and nurture positive traits. From perfecting a gymnastics routine, mastering ice skating, to honing soccer skills, Aviator Sports provides a dynamic, supportive environment that pushes young athletes to reach their potential.
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The Open Studio After School Program provides children in Kindergarten through 6th Grade with opportunities to explore and deepen their experiences and relationships using creative tools, techniques, ideas, and mentorship from skilled teachers and staff. Each day, children participate in homework help and two studios of their choice. Every day of the week offers three unique studios to choose from. Sample studios include Cooking, Baking, Theater, Film & Foley, Painting, Park Time, Crafting, Makers and Science Lab, Q Cafe, and more! The Q also offers private music lessons. The Q StudioLab has created a space that allows children the freedom to discover, boost their self-esteem, and find their unique voice, helping them shine in their own special way!
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NY Kids Club enrichment classes provide children with access to a diverse array of experiences designed to ignite lifelong passions. From Cooking to Musical Theatre, these classes offer a rich, handson curriculum that encourages creativity, critical thinking, and a love for learning. Young chefs can explore the culinary arts in a fun and engaging environment, learning to create delicious global dishes while understanding the importance of nutrition. Budding performers can step into the spotlight in Musical Theatre class, where they develop confidence, teamwork, and artistic expression through acting, singing, and dancing. These enrichment programs, amongst the broad fall lineup of classes, are crafted to inspire curiosity and build foundational skills that children will carry with them throughout their lives. At NY Kids Club, every child has the opportunity to discover new interests, develop their talents, sparking lifelong passions!
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Rose Academy of Ballet introduces children to the excitement of learning to dance!
The pre-ballet and tippy toes classes are designed for children 2- 5 eager to learn about dance in a positive environment. There are many opportunities for students 6 to 18 to increase proficiency and artistry. Students enjoy energetic and creative camps, workshops and classes year-round. Dedicated, professional staff allows students of all ages and abilities to learn about dance and perform! The studio offers a variety of classes to train versatile dancers; try ballet, jazz, contemporary, tap, hip hop, musical theatre, or classical modern dance! The studio also has many opportunities to celebrate dance on stage! Dancers, 6 -18 can perform in the studio’s student production of the holiday favorite, “The Nutcracker,” this December.
The Big Takeaways from Inside Out 2
The hit animated film offers lessons for kids and parents
By Thalia Fernandez
Almost a decade ago, on June 15th, 2015, Inside Out made its mark in cinema and has since become one of Pixar’s universally beloved childhood gems. The film’s themes of navigating change and understanding emotions resonated universally with viewers and families, making it a relatable experience for moms, dads, and kids. It had just about anyone who watched shedding a couple of tears in theaters. So, the expectations for Inside Out 2 were high.
While sequels rarely do better than the original, Inside Out 2 did not disappoint. In this sequel, we see Pixar take something as universal and complex as puberty and break it down in such an excellent way that allows parents and children to walk away feeling seen, have space to create open dialogues about complex emotions, and, overall, leave families feeling comforted and with a sense of relief when navigating this period of life that comes in hard and fast for all families.
This movie has many gems and key takeaways for parents and children, making it a must-watch. Educational professional Tyreca Elliott, Manager of KinderCare’s Inclusion Services team, agreed and kindly shared her insights on the film. She also gives us some excellent strategies for navigating complex emotions at home and in the classroom. But before diving into everything, I have to leave a spoiler warning; it’s just good movie etiquette, so if you haven’t watched and are planning to, save this and return to it later. Alright, you’ve been warned.
Inside Out 2 and The Complexity of Puberty
It’s now 2024, and we’re meeting up with Riley and her emotions again. While things have finally settled in San Francisco, Riley is now thirteen and is thrown into puberty overnight. While joy, sadness, fear, anger, and disgust clock out for the night and peacefully slumber, an alarm goes off on the control panel, and it’s officially demo day; puberty comes in like a wrecking ball and changes everything.
Riley wakes up from her sleep, and as the emotions try to start working on the
panel, the slightest touch creates a heightened sense of emotion, which we see when she’s speaking to her mom. Anger touches the panel, and Riley responds with heightened anger. We also get a glimpse of mom’s inner dialogue when her emotions think, “We just got a glimpse of the next ten years,” while commenting on Riley’s smell. It perfectly depicts our feelings and how we grow through puberty.
Parents and children can watch and relate to this moment because puberty comes without warning and settles in pretty intensely, and this is all perfectly normal, according to Lisa Damour, an American clinical psychologist and author who worked alongside Pixar to help develop this sequel by sharing her expertise on the reality of puberty in adolescents.
Damour helped develop the new emotions in this film because puberty brings a much more complex set of emotions. This time around, we’re meeting envy, embarrassment, ennui, and anxiety. There’s nostalgia, too, but we won’t see that feeling for a few more years.
As the new emotions settle in and Riley begins to navigate puberty, she gets hit with the news that any thirteen-year-old would find devastating: Her friends will not be attending the same high school as she is. The news sends just about every emotion into shock, and we begin to see anxiety slowly come in and take over, wanting to protect Riley from the potential loneliness of trying to figure out life at a new school without her friends.
When Anxiety Takes Over
The movie dives into what life is like when anxiety takes over and what that can look like for teens and, honestly, anyone who watches. Riley’s anxiety is a perfect depiction of what happens when we experience anxiety. It hits every key point of how anxiety works in our minds. Anxiety thinks of every possible scenario of how things can go wrong to try and prevent them from happening, pushes Riley to try and be the best so that she won’t have to feel alone, and eventually leaves her with this overwhelming feeling that not even anxiety, the emotion in the movie,
saw coming: Riley feels like she’s not good enough.
The sense of not feeling good enough, coupled with Riley’s isolation from her friends, lack of sleep, and overall loss of her sense of self, leads her to have a panic attack. This moment, in particular, stands out as a critical moment that is significant for families to watch. It illustrates what a panic attack can feel like and why it may come on, and it is a great way to open up a dialogue with kids on how to handle these moments that are more common than people think.
In the film, Riley settles down by doing some key things: slowing down, focusing on her breathing, and touching her seat. All forms of grounding techniques that can help during a panic attack. While the film does a great job of introducing us to complex emotions, we aren’t given much information on strategies for managing these emotions in the real world. Here’s where our expert from KinderCare Inclusion Services comes in.
KinderCare is dedicated to providing the best early education for children, offering expert care and proven programs in safe, reliable centers. We had the pleasure of asking Tyreca Elliott, Manager of KinderCare’s Inclusion Services team, parent, and former KinderCare Learning Center classroom teacher, some questions about anxiety and how Inside Out 2 approaches this universal feeling and experience.
Expert Advice on How to Approach Anxiety
What key takeaways should parents and children consider after watching Inside Out 2? Inside Out 2 allows families to talk about the variety of emotions we all feel every day. Parents can use the movie as the jumping off point for conversations with their children about how they’re feeling by asking questions like “Have you ever felt like that before?” or “Remember when Riley felt like (emotion)? I feel that way too sometimes, what about you?” It’s a great opportunity to help kids identify and name their emotions, normalize sharing how they are feeling, and learn tools to manage feelings as they come up.
How can Inside Out 2 be used to teach emotional intelligence and mental health?
Parents can use Riley’s experiences to show their kids that it’s OK to feel different
emotions and that they can express those emotions in healthy ways. They can also learn to recognize other people’s emotions and learn to empathize when others are feeling similar emotions. Providing that kind of support and using encouraging dialogue will help teach kids emotional intelligence and give them a solid foundation for managing their mental health.
What are some common signs of anxiety in children and adolescents that you’ve seen first-hand?
Experiencing some anxiety is a normal part of child development. Anxiety can show up in different behaviors among young children, depending on their age, like being restless and having trouble sleeping, consistent worry or fear, or sudden big emotions like anger or crying. When kids are experiencing anxiety, it’s important to be present with them, help them express their feelings, name the emotions they’re experiencing, and show them ways to cope,
like taking deep breaths.
How does anxiety affect a child’s performance in school and social interactions?
Anxiety can often impact sleep schedules and lead to children feeling tired and unable to concentrate at school. Kids may shy away from their friends or social interactions to avoid anxious feelings. While anxiety can impact kids in different ways, ultimately, it can make it harder for them to engage in classroom experiences with their peers or engage in new experiences.
Can you share any strategies for managing anxiety and any other complex emotions at home and in the classroom?
It’s important to teach and practice coping strategies when the child is calm. Once families or teachers begin to notice a change in the child’s mood or if there are things that typically cause anxiety or big emotions, adults can then reference the tools the child has already learned. By helping the
child identify when they begin to feel those particular emotions, the child will learn to ask for help from an adult and then begin to regulate their emotions on their own.
For example, when kids are feeling overwhelmed, parents can take the time to acknowledge and validate their children’s feelings, hear their point of view, and offer them the support they need. Every child is different – some kids need hugs, while others need to talk about it or just have a caring adult be present with them as they work through it. Some children may need to express their emotions through big-body play or have a fidget or comfort object to squeeze or cuddle while they regulate.
Inside Out 2 has become a box office hit and might be an essential watch for families with teens learning to navigate a new world of emotions. It’s a great watch for all ages, and we definitely recommend heading out to the movies and watching this summer’s must-see animated film.
Just the Two of Us
A couple's vacation 16 years in the making on Royal Caribbean's Symphony of the Seas
By Shara Levine
Since becoming a parent almost 17 years ago, my husband and I have gone away together a total of zero times. Not a weekend, not an overnight, nada . We had so many excuses, more like four of them- our children. And while I know how important it is for couples to spend time together, let’s face it, this is easier said than done. But sometimes, an opportunity presents itself, and you just have to go for it. Royal Caribbean, known for their world-class cruises featuring 29 different ships and more than 300 destinations, reached out to invite me on a seven-night cruise to the Bahamas, with a stop in Florida, on their Symphony of the Seas ship sailing for the first time ever from the New York area. And, of course, I accepted. Actually, it was more like as soon as I checked my schedule, my husband’s schedule, and my children’s schedules, then I accepted.
Schedules were cleared; now, on to child care. I am fortunate enough to have my parents nearby, and I presented them with an opportunity to spend quality time with their precious grandsons for seven nights. Who would pass up the opportunity to ferry four adorable children to and from school, extracurricular activities, friends’ houses, and, of course, feed them for a whole week? Apparently, not my parents. Bless them. With childcare sorted out, I was able to start planning for our vacation for two.
What to Wear
I started to think about what to pack, which was going to be a breeze, considering I usually pack for five. Of course, I packed the swimwear, casual clothes for daytime, sunscreen, and hats, but I also needed to consult the Royal Caribbean app to find out what kind of theme nights there would be so that I could pack accordingly. We had white night, 70’s night, Caribbean night, and formal night. I was a little nervous for formal night, but I was assured that there is a range of what is considered “formal,” so I didn’t need to
bring a ball gown- but I totally could have if I wanted to. I stuck with a classic black dress, but there were families in everything from shirts, ties, and sundresses to full formal with tuxedos and gowns. Everyone looked beautiful, and it was fun when the whole ship participated. I also packed a book, which sounds like a basic item to bring with you on a trip, but normally, when I vacation with my family (and I use the word “vacation” loosely), I’m so busy planning activities, packing snacks, and breaking up fights, that I never have time to crack open a book. But not this time, because I was going on a real vacation, and I could read anything that I wanted, but it certainly wasn’t going to involve an underpants-wearing caped crusader (no offense, Dav Pilkey.)
Kids in Safe Hands
As the countdown continued to our first vacation ever since the kids were born, I
created a document for my parents with daily itineraries for each child: what time they needed to be in school, what time they needed to be picked up, and which days they need to be at after school programs. I also went shopping to stock my parents’ home with snacks for school, chicken nuggets, fish sticks, and hot dogs to make sure that there were plenty of backup options for when the kids refuse my mom’s dinners, just like when they refuse mine (spoiler alert: they ate everything she served.) I was really nervous for them, but I told them to be brave and reminded them that I was only a phone call away. Then I said goodbye to my kids.
Things to Do Before You Cruise Off
Download the Royal Caribbean App, and do this way before your trip. The app provides a wealth of information and includes your daily itinerary with activities, shows, games, theme nights, a map of the ship, dining options, schedules, and more. The amount of activities on the ship can be overwhelming, so it’s a good idea to go over what you may want to do before you board. You can also use the app to make reservations for shows, book excursions, purchase internet, and drink packages, order photos taken onboard, check-in for your trip, fill out necessary documents, and more. If you prefer to see the daily itinerary on paper, you can visit guest services, which give out the “Cruise Compass” newsletter with a list of the day’s events, games, activities, weather, and “drink of the day.”
Our Ultimate Cruise
The big day arrived, and we loaded the car and made our way to Bayonne. Over the years, people have told us how wonderful cruising is, but I never gave it much thought because I could never justify paying to fly and stay at a hotel to get to a port that is far away. With the Symphony of the Seas ship departing from New Jersey, it’s only a quick drive away from my home on Long Island, cutting out the need for extra travel expenses. We arrived at Cape Liberty and checked in
during the time frame that we were assigned through our Royal Caribbean app. A friend gave me a heads up that we wouldn’t receive our luggage right away and to take a carryon with us with the things we would need immediately- sunscreen, change of clothes, toiletries, etc. We also made sure to have our passports with us. Don’t leave that at home! I must have checked my bag ten times to make sure that we had them with us. We entered the terminal, which was very similar to an airport terminal, went through security, where I presented my passport, which I knew for a fact that I had not left at home, and made our way onto the ship.
On our way to our room, we were greeted by Ida, who introduced himself as our Stateroom Attendant for our Ocean View Balcony room and let us know that he was available if we needed anything. And he was. Just like the other members of the staff that we would soon be meeting, Ida was warm, friendly, and knowledgeable and made sure to call us by name whenever we saw him. I knew right then and there that I could never work on a cruise ship because my ability to remember anyone’s names, not even my children, would immediately disqualify me from working for Royal Caribbean. When we entered the room, we were instantly grabbed
by the stunning view from our balcony. Even though we were still docked in Jersey, we had the Manhattan skyline to admire. The room was spacious, with a comfortable king-size bed, a couch that pulled out for more guests, a closet with plenty of space to hang clothes, and a wall-mounted television. I never needed to use the magnetic hooks for this sized room, but if I was traveling with my children, then I might have.
It was almost time to depart, so we went to the 16th floor to wave goodbye to those on shore. You could feel the excitement of everyone on board, ready to start their vacations. Our fellow passengers included families (small and large), retirees, honeymooners, couples, and even a wedding party- yes, you can get married on a Royal Caribbean cruise ship! The 16th floor and 15th floors of Symphony of the Seas are home to the pools, jacuzzis, waterslides, ziplining, FlowRider surfing simulator, basketball courts, ping pong tables, miniature golf course, pickle ball court, The Perfect Storm water slides, The Ultimate Abyss which is a high-speed dry slide that takes you from the 16th floor to the 6th floor in a dark tunnel with flashing lights- it’s so much fun!
Speaking of the 6th floor, aka The Boardwalk, is not only the landing pad for
The Ultimate Abyss, but home to a carnivallike atmosphere featuring a beautiful carousel, carnival games, netted climbing wall, the Auqatheater, and the entrance to the rock climbing wall. If you’re feeling hungry and nostalgic for fair food, stop by the Dog House for a classic hot dog with all of the fixings or choose from a variety of sausages. Need a sugar rush? Check out the specialty shop Sugar Beach for an endless array of sweet treats, ice cream, and kids’ workshops. Sugar Beach and select restaurants, like Johnny Rockets and Playmakers Sports Bar & Arcade, are not included with your cruise but offer passengers the opportunity to dine on a variety of specialty fares.
On the other side of the 6th floor is the Vitality Spa & Fitness and the Vitality Cafe. Here, you can pamper yourself with facials, body wraps, massages- alone or with your someone special, and so much more. The state-of-the-art gym features machines, weights, classes, and health seminars. Some of the classes are included with your trip, while others require an additional fee. The Vitality Cafe is located at the entrance of the area and features an array of smoothies, protein shakes, and juices. Don’t see what you want on the menu? You can create your own and enjoy a personalized beverage (I liked ordering my
juice with beets, oranges, and apples!) There is a fee for the items on the Cafe’s menu, but they are included in the Deluxe and Refreshment Beverage Packages.
While we are on the topic of drink packages, let’s break it down. There are three drink packages to choose from: the Classic Soda Package, the Refreshment Package, and the Deluxe Beverage Package. The Classic Soda Package is exactly what it sounds like and includes fountain sodas and refills, access to the Coca-Cola Freestyle beverage machine, giving passengers the option to mix and create soda blends, and includes a souvenir Coca-Cola Cup. The Refreshment Package includes everything in the Classic Soda Package, plus premium coffee and teas, freshly squeezed juices, bottled water, non-alcoholic cocktails, and milkshakes at Johnny Rockets. The Deluxe Beverage Package includes everything that the Refreshment Package includes, plus cocktails, spirits, liqueurs, beers, and wine by the glass, all up to $14. None of the packages include beverages purchased inside licensed Starbucks, but the Starbucks drinks served at the Cafe Promenade (open 24 hours a day) are included. Beverage packages are optional, but when one person in your room buys it, you all have to buy it for the entire duration of the trip. You can purchase your drink package on the ship, but there is often a discount if you purchase it prior to your trip on the Royal Caribbean app.
Another purchase you’ll want to consider is an internet package. Depending on the length of your cruise, you may not feel it’s necessary to have the internet and might welcome being disconnected for a while. But
as a parent leaving kids on land, I think it’s a necessity. Unlike the drink packages, you can share the internet because it’s based on how many devices are used. We had an internet package that allowed for two devices, so if I needed to use my laptop, I would disconnect the internet from my phone and then connect it to my laptop. Since my husband still had his internet connection to his phone, we were still reachable. You can purchase this on the ship or purchase in advance at a discounted rate. There are combination drinks and internet packages as well. You do not need to purchase an internet package to use the Royal Caribbean app.
And while you’re pre-purchasing your drinks and internet, browse through the Royal Caribbean app to explore the many excursions offered on your cruise. Excursions are optional and are an additional fee. If you decide to stay onboard, you can continue to enjoy all of the amenities that the ship has to offer, or you can leave to do your own
Tips for a Successful Trip
ID Lanyard: You will get a Sea Pass that works as a room key, credit card, and drink package pass, and having an ID lanyard makes it easy to carry around- especially when you don’t have pockets.
Magnetic Hooks: The rooms’ walls and doors are magnetic, so put up some hooks to create more storage space where you can hang things for easy access.
Towel Clips: It can get windy by the pool area, so use clips to secure your towel to your lounge chair and let others know that this seat is taken.
Soft Luggage: A friend who recently went on a cruise with her family suggested I take luggage that could collapse
thing- just make sure that you are back before departure time. We had the option to go on excursions when we made stops in Orlando, Florida, and Nassau, Bahamas. In Orlando, we visited the Daytona International Speedway, where we got an exclusive, behind-the-scenes tour of this historic sports complex, took pictures in the winners’ circle, and traveled through racing history at the Motorsports Hall of Fame of America. In the Bahamas, we toured Nassau, learned about historic buildings, and made stops at a rum cake shop for delicious souvenirs and the John Watling’s Distillery, where we were greeted with refreshing pina colada samples. Some of us had more than one, but I’m not going to name names.
During our second day in the Bahamas, everyone was invited to disembark for a Perfect Day at CocoaCay. CocoaCay, an island exclusive to Royal Caribbean, is included with your cruise to the Bahamas, and offers passengers a full day of fun in
and be stored under the bed when not in use. I thought this was a great idea, but I’m pretty sure that we were the only ones with rolling duffle bags while everyone else was using regular structured rolling suitcases. But do make sure that however you transport your luggage, it does have wheels. I’ll talk more about why later.
Cruising Ducks : We met this lovely couple at dinner one night on the cruise, and they told us all about Cruising Ducks . This is really a thing. You pack little rubber duckies to hide around the ship for other passengers to find. You can also purchase tags to attach to them to make it more personal. If you find a duck, take a photo and post it to social media with #cruisingducks. You can then keep the duck or hide it again for someone else to find.
paradise, no matter what that means to you. From lounging by the pool or the beach to sports to water play areas, it’s all there. While most activities are free, there is a fee for extras like snorkeling, zip lining, the Thrill Water Park, and the Up, Up, and Away helium balloon ride. CocoaCay covers about 125 acres and has a tram service to take you around the island, with stops along the way for you to hop on and hop off. We made our way to the all-new Hideaway Beach, where, for an additional fee, visitors have access to an adults-only retreat with a party vibe, swim-up bar, and stunning views. If you really want to amp up your island experience, book one of the Caribbean’s first-ever Overwater Cabanas, complete with overwater hammocks and private slides right into the water. If you’re looking for more kid-friendly fun, head over to Splashaway Bay, where, for no additional cost, children can climb, slide, and get soaked in this splash play area. Getting hungry? There are five restaurants on the island for you to indulge in that are included with your visit. Getting thirsty? There are a number of bars ready to mix a tropical cocktail for you and if you purchased the deluxe drink package, it’s good for beverages on CocoaCay as well. The same goes for your internet package.
Back on the ship, it was time to get ready for dinner. After a shower and a quick change, we headed to the dining room. The dining options are endless on Symphony of the Seas. You can stick with the restaurants and cafes that are included with your cruise, or you can see what else there is to try at eateries like Jamie’s Italian, from the mind of celebrity chef Jamie Oliver and Izumi, offering an exotic Asian-inspired experience. For breakfast, we liked the expansive buffett at the Windjammer, an included restaurant, offering everything from yogurt and fresh
fruit to pancakes and eggs along with stunning ocean views. Pro tip: get to the Windjammer early to avoid the breakfast rush, or take what you like back to your room and dine there. For dinners, we ate in the Main Dining Room, where we were warmly greeted at every meal, especially by Jackie the Maître d’ and by our Head Waiter, Karietha, who made us feel like family. If you do plan to dine outside of the included venues, check out the dining packages where you can enjoy multiple or unlimited restaurant options at a discounted rate with special pricing for children.
After dinner the party continues with an array of live entertainment. Catch Broadway-worthy productions of Hairspray and Flight...Dare to Dream at the Royal Theater, high-flying acrobatics that combines water and theatrics in HiRo at AquaTheater, and see skaters glide along the ice in the time-traveling 1977. Other entertainment includes the Adult Comedy Show and various game shows. The theatrical productions, comedy shows and game shows all require reservations and fill up fast, so book tickets as soon as they become available on your Royal Caribbean app. If you missed out on tickets, you can show up 15 minutes before start time in case seats become available. Not all shows are performed nightly, so keep that in mind when planning your evening. Other nighttime entertainment that doesn’t require reservations includes Casino Royal, which features your favorite Vegas games, karaoke, trivia games, the night club, and so much more.
When traveling as a family, it’s to be expected that at some point you won’t all agree on what you want to do together, and with so much to choose from, it makes the decision even harder. That’s where Symphony of the Seas’ complimentary Adventure
Ocean youth program comes in. Parents can drop off their kids, ages 3-12, for a full day of supervised activities just for them, in a dedicated area of the ship. The children are separated into groups by age, and programming is specifically tailored to their interests, including science experiments, art workshops, black light puppet shows, games, and so much more. The tweens and teens program gives older kids ages 12-17 a space of their own to play games, sports, and their own parties. There is also a drop-off program for the littlest cruisers ages 6-36 months, but that does come with an additional fee. With the kids dropped off at Adventure Ocean, the grownups can enjoy some time on their own, knowing that their kids are safe and having fun.
Our time on Symphony of the Seas was coming to an end, and it was time to start packing up. We needed to be off the ship in the morning so that the crew could have it ready for the next set of guests that would be departing later that day. We were given the option to have our luggage taken off the ship for us, which also meant we had to have our bags packed the night before, or we could opt to take our luggage with us when we departed. We chose to take our own luggage, which is why I made sure to have wheels on my duffle, making it easier to get to the parking lot where we left our car 8 days earlier.
We did it! We vacationed! I never thought it would happen, but it did! I even read that book! I could have used at least another week to get to all of the activities on Symphony of the Seas (I never did get a chance to try the zip line), but I definitely enjoyed my time and now see why everyone loves cruising. And now that I know my parents can survive a week with my kids, we won’t wait another 16 years to take a vacation.
Lisa Marie riLey of @OneFunnyLisaMarie on Healing, Humor, Food and Family
By Jeannine Cintron
Iwas sitting in my living room with my parents when I started writing this article. Like a lot of native New York “Boomers,” they now live in a condo in Florida for 11 months of the year. They were both in a funky mood, probably because visiting me reminds them of all the amazing food they gave up to move down south, so I decided to just get some work done. I started my “research” – listening intently to Lisa Marie Riley’s reels on Instagram – when I realized my parents were listening too, and howling with laughter. With every new video I put on, they laughed harder. Like a lot of the people who come to see her stand-up comedy shows on tour, her thick New York accent and sarcastic wit had them feeling right at home.
Lisa Marie Riley, a.k.a. @onefunnylisamarie on TikTok and Instagram, lives in Staten Island with her 7-year-old son. She was born and raised in Bensonhurst, Brooklyn, which becomes immediately apparent once you hear that signature Italian-American inflection. For fellow New York natives like myself, her content is relatable and hilarious. But those who aren’t from around here find her just as amusing!
If you ask Lisa Marie whether she’s a comedian, she will say no. She doesn’t write jokes; she doesn’t perfect her set, she usually doesn’t even know what’s about to come out of her mouth before she picks up the phone to film her often-viral videos. After almost 20 years as a court stenographer, a job which she very much enjoyed, she never expected her career –or her life – to take the turn that it did.
After learning that her husband was extremely ill in 2019, Lisa Marie began posting
funny videos to social media as a way of coping with the stress, a creative outlet meant mostly for the eyes of close family and friends. But her uproarious musings ended up catching the eye of many, many more. She now has almost 250k followers on instagram and nearly half a million followers on TikTok.
Sadly, Lisa Marie’s husband passed two years ago, leaving her to raise their young son alone.
Initially, I thought we would discuss how humor has helped heal her grief. I imagined her story might inspire others facing such a devastating loss (and I’m sure it has). But there’s a good reason funny people don’t like to be too serious, and Lisa Marie is no exception.
As we talked and as I continued watching (okay, binging) her videos, I realized that for Lisa Marie, healing doesn’t actually require a sense of humor at all. For someone who is hilarious when they aren’t even trying to be, the funny just comes naturally. It’s as much a part of life as breathing. For Lisa Marie, healing comes from family, friends and even food (she’s Italian after all!).
Her family - notably her mother and sister - is featured heavily in her videos. They are often cooking; she says that in her family, they “live to eat, not eat to live.” I suspect that whoever makes the honey chicken on Sundays at Bruzzese’s Salumeria in Staten Island and New Jersey has helped her more than any therapist ever could (#iykyk). She's even toying with the idea of writing a cookbook next.
I sat down for a chat with Lisa Marie as she was getting her gorgeous glossy locks done to discuss parenthood, family, her new career and growing up in Brooklyn.
Tell me about starting @OneFunnyLisaMarie and how it has affected your life.
I started in 2019, right before covid and I wasn’t thinking about anything coming from it. I just did it to laugh and joke around with family. I wanted to forget about what was going on in real life for like five or ten minutes a day. I needed a healthy vice. I needed a place where I could go to forget about my reality. Back then, my page was about my husband, being a wife and parenting, but then when he passed I had to switch it. So now I talk about my sister, hanging out, getting my hair done or just whatever I think of at the moment.
Social media gave me a new lease on life. It gave me a different career. It led my life in a different direction that I never knew I was going in. And this is life. Life is life. Things happen, but you keep going. I don’t want to be all depressing. I want to give people hope that there’s new life. Life goes on. You got to just go with it.
You seem so close with your family. Have they been a major source of strength for you? Yes, they are great. We are a very, very close family. But my source of strength and reason I keep going is my son. My son is everything; he is my whole life.
Does your son think you’re funny?
No, there’s nothing about me he finds funny at all!
Do you joke around a lot together though? I play with him a lot but I’m very strict with a lot of things. I don’t let it be where we are like friends. So we joke around and we laugh, but serious is serious, and things have to be done.
I parent him different. One Funny Lisa Marie is somebody that I am, and it became who I am, but we’re not a constant house of goofing around all day long. Behavior, respect, things like that are very important to me.
Sometimes in my posts I’ll talk about camp or school or stuff like that, but I don’t
want to make a mockery out of that stuff. I don’t want to be one of those people that makes everything a joke.
Is he ever in your videos?
No, there’s no reason for it because people are cruel and people are nosy. Social media is
the devil’s playground. When you’re putting kids on there, you’re opening them up to “here he is!” Why do they need to see him? I don’t feel there’s a need for anybody to see him. I’m very overprotective.
Do you feel like the persona that you portray online is different from your real life persona?
Well, that’s how I really am. But I know when to be serious and when to conduct being One Funny Lisa Marie. It became a job for me. But the reality of it is, I’m not like that all the time.
How do you come up with ideas for your videos?
I just pick up the phone and talk about whatever. I don’t think about anything that I do. Nothing’s prepared. My phone isn’t set up, I don’t have any of the gadgets. I just pick up the phone and I talk. It’s like, just what’s happening.
Wow! That’s impressive. What about when you do your stand up comedy shows?
I wing it. I have no set. I don’t have anything. I just go off and I talk. I kind of just talk about whatever comes to me at that moment.
I’m not a professional comedian. I’ve become one because of social media. They said they were going to pay me, so I became one. Literally, somebody called me ten times to do a show. I said, What are you talking about? I’m not a comedian. On the tenth phone call they said ‘you know we’re gonna pay you, right?’ So I said, Well then I guess I’m a comedian.
What do you love most about living in New York?
Growing up in Brooklyn. I absolutely loved everything about my Brooklyn childhood, and I miss it a lot.
What are some of the things that you enjoy doing with your son?
We don’t need to do much. We hang out. He’s a play-outside kind of kid. We play outside all day long. Just regular, normal stuff. We’re not jet setting and spending thousands of dollars a week. That’s not what I am. That’s not what we do. I don’t keep up with the Joneses. I do what I can do, and that’s it. We spend a lot of time with friends and my sister lives down the block. My mother lives downstairs, which means a lot of just sitting in the driveway all day long. Just like how I grew up.
Lisa Marie Riley may not consider herself a comedian, but we know otherwise. Get tickets for her ongoing standup comedy tour “I’m Done With It” at CoastalEntertainment.com/events and follow her on Instagram and TikTok @ OneFunnyLisaMarie.
Photo by Michelle Rose Photo
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whiz kidz
wHen : Saturdays, 10 – 11 am through Aug. 31
wHere : Idlewild Park, Springfield Lane and 149th Avenue, Springfield Gardens ages: 6 – 12
wHat: This exciting program is designed to spark curiosity and ignite a passion for learning through hands-on activities, engaging experiments, and interactive lessons.
want to go?: Free. nycgovparks.org
‘ world’s fanfare’ at the unisphere, celebrating the 1964 world’s fair anniversary
wHen : Sunday, Aug. 4, 6 –7:30 pm
wHere : Flushing Meadows Corona Park, Grand Central Parkway and Van Wyck Expy, Flushing ages: All
wHat: Celebrate the anniversary of the 1964 World’s Fair with a variety of dance performances at the Unisphere. want to go?: Free. queensborodancefestival.org
animal care trainee
wHen : Sunday, Aug. 11, 10:30 am – 12:30 pm
wH ere : Alley Pond Environmental Center, 229-10 Northern Boulevard, Douglaston ages: 8 – 10
wHat: Help care for APEC’s animals, learn about their needs, and gain hands-on experience in feeding, brushing, and cleaning them.
want to go?: $34. (718) 229–4000, alleypond.org
groove nyc – dance for kids
wHen : Wednesdays, 11 am –12, through Aug. 14.
wHere : Socrates Sculpture
Park, 35-01 Vernon Boulevard, Long Island City ages: 5 – 10
wHat: Kids can move without judgment and express themselves through dance and music while supporting socialemotional learning.
want to go?: Free. socratessculpturepark.org
the shops at atlas Park’s summer movie series
wHen : Wednesday Aug. 7 and Wednesday, Aug. 21, 7 – 10 pm.
wHere : The Shops at Atlas Park, 8000 Cooper Avenue, Glendale ages: All
wHat: Bring the family, a blanket, and enjoy some of your favorites like Elemental and The Little Mermaid. want to go?: Free. shopatlaspark.com
Performances at culturelab lic
wHen : Sunday, Aug. 11, 5 – 9 pm
wHere : Culture Lab LIC, 5-25 46th Avenue, Long Island City ages: All
wHat: This dance party features live performances and workshops so that you can come away with some new moves of your own. want to go?: Free. eventbrite.com
show up, kids! family comedy
wHen : Aug. 17-Sept. 28, Saturdays, 11 – 11:45 am; except Aug. 24.
wHere : Q.E.D., 27-16 23rd Ave., Astoria ages: 3 – 10
wHat: This interactive show has the audience controlling everything from plot to props, characters to costumes, and settings to sound in this oneof-a-kind, 45-minute laughfest. want to go?: $20.
qedastoria.com
annual Honey Harvest festival
wHen : Tuesday, Aug. 20, 1 –3:30 pm
wHere : Voelker Orth Museum, 14919 38th Ave, Flushing ages: All
wHat: See how the beekeeper harvests honey, make beeinspired art, sample different types of honey, and learn what it takes to make a bee friendly garden.
want to go?: $4; $10 a family; free for children younger than 3. (718) 359–6227, vomuseum.org
Hip to Hip theatre company presents: a midsummer night’s dream
wHen : Thursday, Aug. 22, 7 – 8:30 pm; 6:30 pm pre-show workshop
wHere : Crocheron Park, 21441 34th Ave., Bayside
“World’s Fanfare” dance performances celebrate the anniversary of 1964 World’s Fair at Flushing Meadows corona Park.
ages: 4 – 12
wHat: This Shakespeare classic comes to life on stage, but just before it does, kids can take part in an interactive workshop giving them a chance to understand the play before it begins. want to go?: Free. nycgovparks.org
kids night at new york football club
wHen : Aug. 24, 7:30 pm
wHere : Citi Field, 41 Seaver Wy, Queens ages: All
wHat: See the New York Football Club take on Chicago at this special kids centered night.
want to go?: Tickets start at $24. newyorkcityfc.com
Manhattan
42nd annual dominican day Parade
wHen : Sunday, Aug. 11, 12 – 4 pm
wHere: 6th Ave. between West 37 St and West 38 St., Midtown ages: All
wHat: Celebrate Dominican pride and culture at this annual parade featuring floats, music, singers, dancers, community leaders, and more.
want to go?: Free. natddp. org
wHere : 1 Fordham Plaza, Fordham ages: All
wHat: This iconic market features a remarkable lineup of 50 local vendors offering a diverse array of cuisines. want to go?: Free admission. maschospitalitygroup.com
brilliance of seeds and weeds
wHen : Aug. 17-18, Saturday and Sunday, 10 am – 1 pm.
wHere : Wave Hill, 4900 Independence Ave., Riverdale ages: All
wHat: Use plant parts as materials to make paper and learn more about germination and the seed dispersal process want to go?: Included with admission: $4-$10. (718) 549–3200, wavehill.org
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fanatics fest nyc
wHen : Aug. 16-18, Friday and Saturday, 10 am – 7 pm; Sunday, 10 am – 4 pm
wHere : Javits Center, 429 11th Ave., Hell’s Kitchen ages: All
wHat: Fans from across the sports world will celebrate their passions under one roof with interactive features, exclusive merchandise, major announcements, live podcasts and more. want to go?: Tickets start at $20. (212) 216–2000, fanaticsevents.com
ultimate summer gaming tournaments at the Paley museum
wHen : Sunday, Aug. 18, 2:30 pm.
wHere : The Paley Center for Media, 25 West 52 St., Midtown ages: All
wHat: Take part in a Minecraft Build Challenge at the ultimate destination for gamers, enthusiasts, and spectators alike. want to go?: Included with admission: $20; free for children younger than 12. paleycenter.org
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bronx night market
wHen : Saturday, Aug. 3, 4 – 10 pm.
wHen : Daily, 10 am – 5 pm, through Sept. 2.
wHere : New York Aquarium, 602 Surf Avenue, Coney Island ages: All
wHat: This transformative art experience features 35 sculptures in 14 different scenes made entirely from marine debris, highlighting the scale and impact of plastic pollution.
want to go?: Included with admission: $25.95-$32.95. nyaquarium.com
green meadows farm: summer sundays
wHen : Aug. 4-25, Sundays, 11 am – 5 pm
wHere : Aviator Sports and Events Center, 3159 Flatbush Ave., Maine Park ages: All
new york aquarium ‘ washed ashore’ experience
wHat: Come out for a funfilled day at the farm and visit with the animals, have a blast in the playgrounds, and relax in the picnic areas.
want to go?: $14. aviatorsports.com
celebrate the Annual Honey Harvest Festival at the Voekler orth Musuem on August 20.
Inside the High Life of Breastfeeding
By Drew IsserlIs-Kramer
Motherhood is hard. Marijuana can help. Long lauded for its medicinal properties, the mind-altering chemical Tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) contained in the flowering bud of the Cannabis Sativa plant produces mental health benefits. Whether smoked in a bong or digested from a friendly gummy bear, marijuana can temporarily reduce symptoms of anxiety and make even the most aggressive tantrum seem kind of funny. As more states legalize marijuana and THC becomes more available in friendly, edible forms, more parents are using it to numb the anxiety that comes with raising children. For the one in seven women who develop Postpartum Depression, THC can be a tempting solution. However, unlike alcohol, which is undetectable in breast milk 2-3 hours per drink after it is consumed, recent research on THC in human milk following cannabis use revealed that traces of THC remain in breast milk even 12 hours from consumption with no clear peak point.
In May, Washington State University led research published in the Journal of Breastfeeding Medicine, where they observed 20 breastfeeding participants who frequently used cannabis, defined as more than 1 time per week. The women were less than 6 months postpartum, feeding their infants breast milk five or more times per day, and were not using any other illicit drugs. Participants shared a baseline milk sample after 12 or more hours from abstaining from cannabis and five milk samples at set intervals over 8-12 hours after initial cannabis use.
The goal of the study was to understand the life cycle of THC concentrations in human milk, as well as to identify possible associations between the THC concentrations and body mass index (BMI), rate of postpartum weight loss, time postpartum, and the frequency, amount and type of cannabis used. After processing the data, the overarching headline reads: It Depends.
Due to the study’s small sample size and the observational nature of its methodology, researchers cannot point definitively to individual factors that contribute to variation in the peak of THC concentration in milk after cannabis use. However, some insights surfaced.
Peak Concentration is Variable
Among participants who used cannabis more
times during the 8-12-hour study period, THC concentration was unsurprisingly greater. For those who only used cannabis once during the study period, THC concentration in milk peaked at variable times. Some peaked after 30 minutes, but most peaked 2 hours after use. More frequent users had greater THC concentrations in milk after abstaining for 12 hours. The results indicate that infants of breastfeeding mothers who use cannabis will consume some measurable amount of THC from breast milk, even after abstaining for 12 hours.
Is Fat a Cannabinoid Repository?
TBD
As it relates to BMI and postpartum weight loss, interest in this variable surfaced because THC, the dominant psychoactive component of cannabis, is lipophilic, able to dissolve or absorb lipids AKA fats. The study hypothesized that lipid-rich human milk and mammary tissue may be cannabinoid repositories. Although findings on this theory were not statistically significant, the report did acknowledge that rapid weight loss in the postpartum period trended with lower baselines of THC concentration in milk. More research must be conducted to understand the role of mammary tissue in milk concentrations.
Infant Impact and THC: Still Unknown
While concentrations of THC exist in breast milk after 12 hours, the amount of THC detected in milk was low overall. Researchers estimated that infants received an average of 0.07 mg of THC per day. For comparison, a common low-dose edible contains 2 mg of THC. Is .07mg of THC going to harm a developing newborn? We don’t know yet. Current guidance for medical practitioners is to discourage cannabis use during lactation, given the absence of sufficient research.
Final
Thoughts
If you are a postpartum woman struggling with depression and anxiety, marijuana can certainly help take the edge off. However, we still don’t know enough about the impact of THC on newborns to give the green light to breastfeeding mothers struggling to cope with the life-altering experience of pregnancy, birth, and parenthood. Before you puff and pass, talk with your doctor about more researched solutions. Antidepressant medications are available to mothers struggling with PPD, which studies show can be used while breastfeeding with little risk to the baby. Give yourself permission to prioritize your mental health. A healthy, mentally balanced mother is best.
