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Giving Thanks by Giving Back
It’s hard to believe the holiday season is upon us already. While December will be one filled with endless to-do lists and last-minute shopping, this month is more like the calm before the end-of-year storm.
As we gear up for everyone’s favorite daylong food marathon known as Thanksgiving, we are reminded of the things we should be grateful for in our lives. One of the best ways to express gratitude is by helping others in need, and there is no better time than the holiday season for doing just that. We’re sharing Holiday Toy Drives and Donation Opportunities (page 34) so you can help brighten the holiday for families who are less fortunate. And after a brutal hurricane season down south, many residents in Florida are displaced and in desperate need of supplies and donations, so we have Ways to Help Hurricane Victims (page 30).
I used to think November was early to start your holiday shopping, but these days I meet people who are done before the summer is over! While I will never be one of those people, I can start crossing people off my list early while supporting local businesses at a Holiday Fair or Market (page 16).
Planning holidays and birthdays at the same time is the definition of stressful. If your child has a birthday coming up, we’re sharing some of the best venues for hosting birthday parties in our area (page 28).
Our latest Special Needs Resource Guide is here (page 21), featuring tips for both at home and in the classroom, along with helpful directory listings.
Lastly, we’re showcasing Dance Workshop on this month’s cover; founders MaryAnn and Nanci Grasso give us the scoop on their dreamy new Upper East Side studio (page 12).
Thankful for all of you!
Jeannine
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Meta’s Teen Accounts
Will the new rollout revolutionize online safety for kids?
BY THALIA FERNANDEZ
Last month, Meta launched Instagram Teen accounts, and we had the opportunity to speak with a member of the Meta team and get some insight into what these new accounts will bring to families. This latest rollout of teen accounts is the first of its kind and a new approach to the mounting concerns about the influence of social media on today’s teens. As teens are tackling loneliness and social media pressures, parents are left questioning how they can help, and Meta aims to provide that support. The question remains: will these accounts truly impact teen safety online?
Growing concerns about the impact of social media on children’s mental health have
prompted actions at both the state and federal levels. Last year, Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy stressed the need for parents to monitor their children’s social media habits. In June, New York Governor Kathy Hochul passed two bills to make social media safer for kids. The federal government is also working on the Kids Online Safety Act to address issues such as bullying and harmful content. Parents nationwide are worried about the lack of online safety measures for children on social media platforms and are calling for these platforms to do something about it.
Meta, among several social media platforms, has faced criticism for not having adequate systems in place for teens. However, they are now the first to roll out protections.
This approach could shift the social media landscape and begin to ensure children’s safety, but it’s honestly too soon to tell. However, what we do know is what these new accounts offer parents, how this all started, and everything you need to know about Teen Accounts.
We had the opportunity to speak with Liza Crenshaw, a member of the Meta team, to understand what these accounts provide to parents and Meta’s goals with Teen Accounts.
What are some standout features that parents should know about?
Teen Accounts were designed specifically with parents’ concerns in mind. We talked to so many parents around the world about what their worries were when it came to their teens using social media. We heard that they have three big concerns: one is contact, who their teens are talking to; two is content, are teens looking at content that is too mature or sensitive, and three is time, is [a] teens’ time being well spent on the app; are they scrolling for too long, using it overnight, or
during school.
With those three big concerns in mind, we designed Teen Accounts’ protections to adjust those things. We will be turning teens’ [accounts] into private accounts automatically. We’ll also be sending reminders when teens have been on the app for 60 minutes. We’re turning on a feature called sleep mode, which mutes notifications overnight and sends auto-replies in DMS. [For example], if someone messages them [the reply will] say, “[this person] is in sleep mode right now; they’ll get back to you in the morning.”
We’re taking steps to limit who can message teens. Teens will only be able to be messaged by people that they follow or who they’re already connected to. That really cuts down on strangers who might be messaging teens and adults who aren’t really appropriate for teens to talk to. We’re also turning on our hidden words feature, which limits bullying or offensive comments in DMS. It’s really a full suite of protections that are built in and automatically on with Teen Accounts.
Will these new features be easy to navigate for parents?
Yes, so again, we did design this with parents in mind. We wanted to make sure that parents didn’t feel like they had another burden being added to their plate but that they could really have the confidence to know that their teens are able to use Instagram safely from the get-go. The idea with teen accounts is that teens are automatically placed into age-appropriate protections, and parents don’t even have to do anything.
However, if teens under 16 want to change any of the protections, they do have to get a parent’s permission to do so. Parents can be reassured that their teens can’t escape these protections unless they give their permission. But we also know that some parents want to be more involved in their day-to-day teens’ online lives, so we added additional features that parents could choose to use, including messaging insights; parents can see who their teens have been chatting with in the past week. They can’t actually read their teen’s DMS, but they can see who they’ve been talking to and whether the teen has any shared connections with those people.
Which is actually one of my favorite features because I heard from a lot of parents who think this is great because they can see if [for example] someone they know has been
“Particularly for younger teens, they see this as an opportunity to build trust with their parent and figure out a way to navigate social media together versus just having the parent have complete oversight and control.”
bullying their child in school sends [their teen] a message, then that’s an opportunity for the parent to say “hey I saw that you were chatting to [this person], I know you guys have had conflicts, what’s going on there?”
But it still lets teens have their own freedom and autonomy to send messages without feeling like their parents are peeking over their shoulders.
Today, kids have Finstas or Fake Instagram accounts where they lie about their age. How will these accounts work around that?
So, from the get-go, we knew that Teen Accounts wouldn’t work unless we were preventing teens from lying or getting around this. So we built a ton of different ways to prevent from lying. For instance, if a teen tries to change their age from under eighteen to over eighteen, for example, if they say, “I don’t want to be in a teen account, I’m just going to say I’m 25”, we will require them to verify their age either with an ID or with a video selfie that estimates their age on the back end.
We’re also building out what we call an age prediction model that uses thousands and thousands of signals, including the type of language that teens use, who they’re talking to, and how old their friends are, to actually really accurately estimate how old a teenager is. If we see that there’s a mismatch between the age the teens told us they are and the age our model predicts them to be, then we’ll place that person into protections automatically out of an abundance of caution.
We think about it as a multilayered approach because it’s really challenging to get
age right, so we’re going at it from a bunch of different angles.
These accounts are currently only available in specific locations but are expected to be introduced globally in 2025. Should we expect to see additional features added to these supervised accounts?
We might. Right now, we’re just really focused on getting this out and right to the tens of millions of teens that will get these changes. It’s a really fundamental change to teens’ experience on Instagram, and we want to get this right first and foremost.
We expect there might be some bumps along the way, but we want to iterate and make sure that we get people into these protections, and then we’ll figure out what’s next.
We’re interested to know what the feedback from teens has been like. How do they feel about the integration of Teen Accounts?
It’s actually really interesting because we had a hypothesis internally that teens would hate this and not really want to be placed into these protections.
But actually, what we heard and what we’ve been hearing since the rollout is that teens themselves also don’t really want to get unwanted contact in their DMS; they really don’t want to see [certain] content. So they’ve actually welcomed the changes to an extent, and I think particularly for younger teens, they see this as an opportunity to build trust with their parent and figure out a way to navigate social media together versus just having the parent have complete oversight and control.
It’s really a way to start conversations. Younger teens, in particular, [feel] they can establish some trust with their parents, they can have some boundaries in place, and gradually maybe the parent might relax some things, and give them a bit more freedom.
We feel like this is an opportunity for parents and teens to start to establish a twoway conversation in a way that still feels safe and age-appropriate, and again lets teens use Instagram for all of the good things like discovering new artists they want to follow, connecting with classmates, talking to friends and family. I think sometimes, people forget all of the good things that come from social media, so our goal with this is to preserve the good and minimize the bad.
For more information on Instagram Teen Accounts, head to about.instagram.com.
Smugglers’ Notch
Smugglers’ Notch Resort has been a premier winter destination for over 50 years, offering a family-friendly atmosphere that keeps guests returning year after year. Nestled in Vermont’s stunning Green Mountains, Smugglers’ Notch Resort promises an unmatched winter wonderland experience. Spanning over 1,000 acres of snow-covered mountain terrain, with trails designed for all ability levels, and 78 trails across three majestic mountains with convenient mountainside lodging, adventure is always just steps away.
Smuggs’ award-winning Snow Sport University (SSU) is recognized as one of the best in the country. Expert instructors teach children as young as 3, ensuring a fun and effective learning experience. This winter, Smuggs is the ideal place for little ones to make their first tracks and develop a lifelong
love for the sport. Smuggs guarantees fun— if guests aren’t satisfied, the resort offers a no-questions-asked refund.
With gentle beginner slopes, Wonder Carpet surface lifts, and easy-to-navigate terrain parks, Smugglers’ Notch has everything to help children feel comfortable on skis. The resort’s dedicated beginner areas allow fami-
lies to explore together without the pressure of advanced skiers.
Beyond skiing, Smugglers’ Notch offers a full array of winter activities, from snow tubing and ice skating to snowcat rides and hot cocoa by the fire. It’s a winter wonderland where skiing and riding are just part of an unforgettable family experience.
When it’s time to warm up, guests can enjoy indoor pools, hot tubs, and FunZone 2.0, complete with an arcade, climbing wall, and inflatables for kids.
For those seeking the perfect family vacation with big mountain adventures and savings, Smugglers’ Notch offers winter packages, including ski-and-stay deals. Whether for a family reunion, couples’ retreat, or solo getaway, Smugglers’ Notch has the perfect package.
For guests that want to be at the mountain on opening take advantage of their Thanksgiving Package. Visit smuggs.com/ vacation-packages for more information.
Dance Workshop
A brand-new studio with a classic mission
Dance Workshop founder MaryAnn Grasso opened the doors of her Long Island studio back in 1979 with the mission to support, guide, and care for children, and dance has been the vehicle to do just that. Several decades of excellence later, MaryAnn and her daughter Nanci joined forces and established Dance Workshop New York City on the Upper East Side of Manhattan in 2016.
On the decision to open their second location together, MaryAnn says,“My daughter Nanci personifies what Dance Workshop is all about. Who Nanci is as a person is what contributes to the success of DanceWorkshop. Her passion, creativity, knowledge and ability to dream led us to open the New York City studio. She knew Dance Workshop had a place in the most beloved skyline and she was right!. Nanci was raised in my studio and working alongside her has been a blessing to myself, our staff, students and families.”
The mother/daughter team has devoted their lives to dance education, community and the development of children, raising dancers and sound human beings alike. Witnessing thousands of dancers pass through Dance Workshop’s doors over the years, they believe dance has the power to elevate and change lives. Their hope is that each dancer will build lasting confidence to walk through life with great strength, belief and appreciation for themselves. They have cultivated a staff in New York City and at their legacy studio on Long Island who are equally as passionate about the mission and vision of Dance Workshop. The staff feel more like family, yet have experience and a wide breadth of knowledge to share with their dance community.
Nestled in the heart of the Upper East Side for the last nine years, Dance Workshop is a community-focused studio committed to dance education in a loving, safe and nurturing environment. The studio offers classes in ballet, tap, jazz, lyrical, hip-hop, musical theatre and gymnastics for ages 2 and up. They also offer a pre-professional company track for dancers interested in taking their technique to the next level.
Dance Workshop New York City is set to
open the doors to its new location at 30 East 60th Street. The new location is surrounded by legendary NYC eateries and upscale restaurants like Le Bilboquet Café, All’Antico Vinaio, Il Mulino and Philippe. Located at the cross section of designer fashion, world renowned landmarks and fine dining, their luxe new studio will offer boutique charm in a big city. The studio will offer everything from mommy and me classes to their pre professional company.
Dance Workshop dancers are exposed to community events, top competitions and conventions, and even jumbotron moments at NYC professional sports arenas. Dancers walk away with confidence, memories, and training
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that will translate on and off the dance floor.
In the nearly five decades since Dance Workshop began, its dance floors have given many young dreamers a place to imagine a life of dancing. One such ballerina is Fallon Kunz, a former Dance Workshop student who discovered her love of dance at just three years old at Dance Workshop Long Island. As a member of the Dance Workshop Company, Fallon trained in all dance genres but fell endlessly in love with ballet. Dance Workshop recently celebrated her bittersweet exit from the studio to dance with the esteemed American Ballet Theatre’s pre-professional program, a feat not many young dancers will accomplish.
“Watching Fallon perform at Lincoln Center is as good as it gets,” says Nanci. “She did exactly what she set out to do as a young dancer at our studio.”
Three years ago Dance Workshop Long Island moved into a gorgeous 6,000-squarefoot loft space with sprawling floors and modern finishes, truly a place to inspire children and create artistry. The walls of the stairs leading up the lobby are adorned with some of the dance greats, just like how images of Barishnkov graced the walls of MaryAnn’s first 500-square-foot studio in 1979.
The art of dance has mostly remained the same throughout the years, but seems more important than ever. The dance floor is one of the few, rare places children and adults of all ages can truly disconnect from technology, school, work and social stresses. It allows – requires – students to be present with everyone in the room and to deeply connect with oneself through movement. The dance floor and the stage are some of the greatest places to lose and find yourself. Regardless of the style or even level of experience, dancing and moving in unison with a group of people is a profound experience only a dancer understands. That connection and experience lives within them forever.
“So many studio alumni have looked back and said dancing at Dance Workshop were some of the best moments of my life. It doesn’t get better than that,” Nanci remarks.
Dance Workshop’s new Upper East Side home at 30 East 60th Street between Park & Madison Avenues will be the next chapter for the mother/daughter duo. With 7,000 expansive square feet of space, the studio will now be able to offer new and interesting programming for children and adults of all ages. The Grassos are eager to embark on a new journey with their same 46-year-old mission, and they feel the opportunities are limitless.
Long IsL and Family Style
Fashion brought to you by mixoloGy & Gold coaST kidS
Welcome to the latest edition of Long Island Family’s monthly fashion column, where style meets family life right here on Long Island! In a world where trends come and go, we believe that fashion should be both fun and functional, reflecting the unique personalities of every family member. Whether you’re dressing the kids for a family gathering or looking for stylish yet comfortable outfits for school days and play dates, we believe family fashion should be fun! So join us each month as we embark on a fashion journey, showcasing seasonal trends and inspiring looks that celebrate the vibrant spirit of mothers and daughters on Long Island… in style!
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Gold Coast Kids is a unique boutique clothing store carrying specialty clothing brands at a variety of prices to fit every budget.
13-year-old Selena Wang (this page) has checked off both comfort and style in an adorable cozy grey waffleknit jogging set and cropped concert tee.
7-year-old Krosby Karpel’s (opposite page) fun personality shines through in a playful leopard-print skirt and fuzzy boots, paired with a ribbed, long sleeve, solid black top for a balanced but fun look.
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At Mixology, designer pieces are expertly combined with affordable items for a high-end look parents love.
Mom Zhenxia Hu’s (this page) classic fall look, with wide-leg denim pants and a snug, button-down knit sweater, is sure to match the yummy pumpkin pie at this year’s Thanksgiving table!
Dana Karpel’s (opposite page) outfit is a versatile one, in flared, dark blue denim pants and a short sleeve, button-down cashmere sweater in a light caramel.
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Holiday Shopping
The
season’s best markets and craft fairs across Long Island
by LoNg ISL aND FamILy
We love this time of year! In between all of the fun holiday activities and events, you’re probably looking for gifts for the special people in your life.
In Long Island, there are many holiday markets and craft fairs where you can find local and handmade items. From vintage finds to handmade crafts to artisanal food, this list has you covered where to shop locally this holiday season.
Babylon Beautification society
Christmas Market
244 W Main St., Babylon
Saturday, December 14th, 10:30 am to 3 pm
An outdoor Christmas market featuring over 85 vendors selling fine and unique gifts just in time for the holidays! Some other highlights include a visit from Santa Claus himself, free face painting, a bounce house, and a DJ.
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annual Holiday Fine art & Craft Fair
Art League of Long Island, 107 E Deer Park Rd, Dix Hills
Saturday, December 7 & Sunday, December 8, from 10 am to 5 pm
Visitors to the fair can expect to find the perfect gift for friends and loved ones on their Holiday list. Meet the artists behind the paintings, sculptures, woodcraft, ceramics, mosaics, fiber art, photography, jewelry, wearable art, glass art, and other unique handcrafted items on display. Plan to spend time at the fair, enjoy the art on display, and grab a bite to eat from the gourmet food truck,
Christmas Craft Fair
1 Old Dock Road, Yaphank
Saturday, November 2, 10 am to 5 pm
Craft Fair featuring local crafters, food
Holiday Market & Tree Lighting
The Barley Beach House, 95 Dearborn Avenue Rye
Saturday, December 7, 11 am to 7:30 pm
Get into the holiday spirit where you can find unique gifts and crafts from over 40 local vendors, roast marshmallows in the park, sip on hot cocoa, and enjoy the cheerful atmosphere As the sun sets, gather around for the highlight of the evening, the Tree Lighting ceremony. Watch as the magnificent tree comes to life with its twinkling lights. It’s a magical moment that will leave you feeling warm and full of holiday joy.
Holiday Market at old Westbury gardens
Old Westbury Gardens, 71 Old Westbury Road
The following Saturdays and Sundays from 10 am to 5 pm: Nov 30, Dec 1, Dec 7, Dec 8, Dec 14 & December 15
Celebrate the start of the holiday shopping season with amazing holiday crafts, gift vendors, holiday carolers, great food & delicious desserts.
Town of Islip Holiday Market
Islip Town Hall, 655 Main Street
Saturday, Dec 7, 12 pm to 6 pm
Shop all things holiday merchandise at this holiday fair in Islip.
The spectacular Holiday Markets
Wall Street, Huntington Fridays from 5 pm to 9 pm and Sundays from 12 pm to 5 pm, Starting December 1st
All Ages
The Huntington Holiday Spectacular is bringing festive cheer back to Huntington Village. These markets will take over Wall Street next to the largest Christmas Tree on Long Island, showcasing talented artists, artisans, makers, and small businesses from the community. Discover unique gifts, handmade crafts, delicious treats, and more.
trucks, Santa and his elves, and the Magical Talking Christmas Tree!
RochesteR , NY: A WiNteR WoNdeRl ANd foR fAmilies
For NYC families seeking a memorable winter getaway, Rochester, NY offers a perfect blend of snowy adventures, cozy experiences, and indoor fun—just a few hours away. When the city is draped in a blanket of snow, Rochester transforms into an idyllic winter wonderland, providing the ideal escape from the hustle and bustle.
Embrace the Outdoors
Families can immerse themselves in winter magic at Mendon Ponds Park, offering ice skating, sledding, and guided snowshoeing tours through serene, snowcovered landscapes. For a thrilling day out, head to Bristol Mountain for skiing and snowboarding with runs suitable for every skill level, or experience the exhilarating snow tubing park.
Step Back in Time
At the Genesee Country Village & Museum, families can explore the largest living history museum in New York State, where the winter months bring historical holiday celebrations, horse-drawn wagon rides, and 19th-century
winter traditions. It’s an interactive way for kids to learn about history while enjoying a charming winter atmosphere.
Indoor Escapes from the Cold Rochester’s renowned Strong National Museum of Play and Rochester Museum & Science Center keep kids entertained for hours. The George Eastman Museum offers a cozy respite to explore photography’s rich history in the restored mansion of Kodak founder, George Eastman.
Seasonal Fun
With 140+ annual festivals and events in Rochester, NY there is always something fun and exciting taking place and winter is no different. Don’t miss Roc Holiday Village with complimentary ice skating, arts and crafts for kids, local boutiques and vendors, and more!
With its mix of outdoor adventure, rich history, and family-friendly festivities, Rochester, NY offers the perfect winter escape, ensuring unforgettable memories for families of all ages. Learn more at visitrochester.com.
Come soar. Come smile. Come see what all the excitement is about. Rochester, NY is the perfect family getaway for unique and extraordinary adventures.
Did we mention the world’s largest collection of toys, dolls, and games? Pack your bags and hit the road for an unforgettable trip in a destination full of surprises. With fun for every family, every season of the year, playtime tends to last a little longer in our backyard. Learn more at visitrochester.com.
New York’s sullivaN Catskills
At just 90 miles from NYC, New York’s Sullivan Catskills is holiday-ready.
Start your visit by fueling up with Catskill-icious goodness. Restaurant Week is on through November 11. It’s an opportunity to sample farm-fresh 3-course lunches and dinners from $29.95-$44.95 at Blue Fox Motel, Cellaio, Kenoza Hall, Lotus, Roscoe Mountain Club, Seminary Hill Orchard & Cidery, Tavern on Main, The Arnold House, The DeBruce, The Heron Restaurant, The Homestead Restaurant+Lounge, and Yagsur’s Café at the Museum at Bethel Woods.
As you wander the charming small towns, watch for the hand-painted sculptures on the Sullivan Catskills Dove Trail, a tribute to the Woodstock Music and Arts Festival held here in 1969. To help guide you to each dove location, download the trail map at SullivanCatskills.com.
If you’d rather someone else prepare your family’s Thanksgiving meal, consider spending Thanksgiving at Kenoza Hall, Villa Roma, Callicoon Hills, The Bradstan at The Eldred Preserve, Chatwal Lodge, North Branch Inn, The Arnold House, or Roscoe
Mountain Club. Then, see Peace, Love & Lights at Bethel Woods starting November 29. It’s a 1.7-mile drive-thru holiday light show running through December 29.
Better yet, come the weekend before and bring your family to The Farmhouse Project’s Holiday Maker’s Market on
November 23 and 24 in Callicoon. It’s a modern interpretation of the traditional craft fair with artisans throughout the region. To book your trip, visit SullivanCatskills.com. You’ll also want to download the Sullivan Catskills Go App, a valuable tool to guide you to the fun.
Get in the holiday spirit in New York’s Sullivan Catskills.
Start your adventure at Peace, Love & Lights — a Bethel Woods drive-thru holiday light show through December 29. Kids love to walk with alpacas and pet our goats. And everyone loves a Catskill-icious hot cocoa or apple cider. Restaurant Week is October 28-November 10
Winter escape in the Lake GeorGe area
If you’re looking for a winter escape, check out the Lake George Area in the Adirondacks. Featuring three premier ski resorts – Gore, West, and Hickory - ‘Ski the 3’ should be on your winter list of must-dos! Gore Mountain, the largest ski resort in New York State, has seven mountains with a total of 14 lifts, 108 trails, and a 2537’ vertical. West Mountain is family-owned and operated with 25 trails for skiing and boarding, as well as a tubing park. Hickory Ski Center offers a vintage ski experience with a vertical drop of 1,200 feet and challenging and expert-level trails.
The Lake George Area is a host to many winter events, festivals, and carnivals. Every weekend during February, the Lake George Carnival features a chili cook-off, outhouse races, an ATV poker run, and the famous Lake George Polar Plunge. Another annual carnival is held at Brant Lake, where broomball tournaments, human foosball competitions, and hockey shoot-offs take place.
Enjoy the annual Ice Bars in and around Lake George as sculpture-like ice creations accompany local events, like the Adirondack Pub & Brewery’s Funky Ice Fest. Attendees can
frequent hosted ice bar parties at venues like The Gem, the Lagoon, and the Sagamore. If watching sports is more your speed, enjoy puck-passing, net-catching hockey at the Cool Insuring Arena. The Eastern Conference Hockey League and affiliate of the NHL’s New Jersey Devils, Adirondack Thunder, takes the ice to deliver hard-hitting thrills every game.
Dedicated to promoting “The Original
Vacation,” the goal of the Lake George Area is to promote travel and tourism to the over dozen towns and hamlets that make up Warren County, known as the “Southern Gateway to the Adirondacks.”
Learn more about Lake George at visitlakegeorge.com, on Facebook @ TheLakeGeorgeArea, or Instagram and TikTok @lakegeorgearea.
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Helping Your DifferentlyAbled Child Succeed
BY JACQUELINE NEBER
Good parent-teacher communication is crucial for any successful school year, but being on the same page becomes even more important when your child has a learning disability. There are a few steps–from understanding your rights to communicating on a regular basis with your child’s teacher–that can help ensure your child has the best year possible, arming you and your child with the knowledge to succeed in and out of the classroom.
Know your rights and speak up. Parents are entitled to receive information about special education from their schools and teachers—reading up and staying informed is the best way to advocate for your kid.
When attending Committee for Special
Education meetings, annual review meetings, or parent-teacher conferences, if you don’t understand something, ask questions.
Communicate with teachers frequently.
Kathy Devine and Emily Cole co-teach at an elementary school in Long Island. They say parents of students with special needs must be extra communicative with teachers. “We would like to know sooner when things might be happening at home, whether it’s medication changes or maybe something in the home life has changed,” Cole says.
When it comes to homework, “reach out to us as soon as possible so that we’re not waiting until the end of a trimester to know [kids are] struggling,” Devine says.
Another tip? Write a letter describing your child and his needs at the beginning of the year.
Understand Individualized Education Plan goals.
Equally important is understanding your child’s IEP goals—which can differ from her classroom goals.
This difference often confuses parents who see their student accomplishing goals on one end of the spectrum and not the other.
Involve your child.
Cassie Reilly, Transition Coordinator at a Long Island high school, suggests involving your kid in IEP and parent-teacher conferences. Being open with kids from the time of diagnosis helps them stand up for themselves and understand their learning disability does not make them inferior to others.
Be sensitive to difference.
Parents should understand their kids might be different at home than at school, Reilly adds. And, even more importantly, their kids might have an atypical path toward success. Communicating with teachers is key to understanding how your kid can progress in the best way.
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How To Choose a Babysitter for a child with special needs
By Dana GreenBerG
My son has autism, so when I need to leave him with a babysitter, I am extremely picky about who that person is going to be. There are so many things that go through my head as a parent of a child with special needs. Who can I trust with him, especially since he has limited verbal skills? Will his babysitter understand his wants and needs? Will he be happy and engaged while I am gone? Over the years, I have come up with a system for choosing a babysitter that has worked well for us. This is how I do it.
Where to Find Babysitters
There are some very good places that you may not have thought of for finding sitters for kids with special needs.
I contact local special education schools and therapy centers, both of which are wonderful resources for this. Try calling them, and you will usually be put in touch with the right person to help you out, such as a social worker or psychologist. When you speak with that person, let them know exactly they type of person you are seeking as a babysitter. Let her know how old your child is and anything else you think may be important to share. You will find that many teachers, teaching assistants, and therapists are looking to earn extra money. The social worker or psychologist can circulate your contact information among the staff. One of the best reasons to get sitters from these places is that they are already fingerprinted and have had background checks done. Referrals from other parents with special needs children can also work as a great resource for finding people. I find that we parents are each other’s best sources of information. You can fully describe your child to other parent without feeling like you need to hold anything back. With that information, they will know if they have someone who would be a good fit.
Meet as Many Candidates as Possible
I like to meet as many potential sitters as I can. You may find that different people or personalities work better in different situations. I have some sitters that I prefer to use if they will be staying at home with my son and others that I prefer to use if they will be doing an outing with him. It is great to have choices, and not everyone may feel comfortable taking him out.
Another reason I like to meet a variety of people is more basic: We all need back-up. You just never know who will be free when you need someone. There have been times when I have gotten to my fourth call before getting a yes. I certainly was glad I had my list of trusted babysitters to call upon when that situation came up. The bigger the list you can compile, the better it will be in the long term. It is important to know that you have multiple great, trusted people to call upon.
Conducting an Initial Interview
After compiling my list of who I would like to meet, it is time to have initial interviews with them. The first time I meet a new person I prefer to do it alone, just me and them, without my son present. That’s because my son has very good receptive language and I do not like to talk about him in front of him. At these meetings, I like to tell the candidate all about
my son--his likes, his dislikes, his routines, what makes him happy, what bowl he likes for his snacks, that he likes ice cubes in his water, everything and anything that might be important to know while watching him.
I truly feel that I cannot give a sitter too much detailed information. I need to be his voice. We can also discuss how much I will pay. This is also the candidates’ opportunity to ask me anything that they want. Based on how this meeting goes, I will decide if I want to continue the process with each person I meet.
Check References
Now that I have done initial interviews, it is time to check references for those I am highly interested in hiring. It is a good idea to do this regardless of where someone’s full time job is. You may want to speak with someone else for whom they babysit (or babysat in the past) or maybe a supervisor or co-worker at their current job. Have your list of questions prepared before you make the calls.
You should feel free and comfortable to ask anything; after all, this is your child’s welfare we are talking about. Ask specific questions about the candidate’s interactions with children, how they’ve handled certain situations, and the like. I always like to ask about punctuality, too. This is the opportunity to get a feel for whether this person may be the right fit and if you want to
continue moving along with them.
Meeting My Child
Assuming the references check out, I next schedule a meeting between the potential new sitter and my child. The meeting takes place in my home. I will prepare my son the best I can, by telling him the person’s name and that they are coming over to see where he lives and what he likes to play with. Once they arrive I will make the introduction. I will show them around, pointing out where my son likes to hang out and where his favorite snacks are, for instance. I will go over how we do certain things, and our routines. I want all his babysitters to be comfortable handling anything that may arise while I am out.
This is another instance in which I have a list ready so I do not forget anything that may be important. Discussing all of these details in depth at this time will make it a lot easier the first time I go out and leave him with this person. I will not have to take the time then to go over everything from scratch, and instead we can just do a review.
This is also the chance to see how they
interact with him. I pay close attention and try to feel the vibe. Usually I can tell at this point if a particular candidate would be a good match for my son.
Joining Us for an Outing
For those sitters who might take my son out, I will invite them to go on an outing with us. This is where I will train them on how to be outside with him, which is a very different situation than just staying indoors. There is a lot to know: He likes to scare birds, he may not want to hold your hand, he will constantly ask you how many more blocks you’re going. How will the babysitter react to all of this--or whatever else may come up while outside? His safety must be the priority. This person will need to be on high alert the entire time. I need to feel 100% confident that this sitter is up to this task, and they need to be prepared for the unexpected with him. I will guide them through this outing and see how they feel, and again ask if they have any questions or concerns.
The Babysitter’s Commute
Where a sitter lives is important to me. Just
because you are identifying candidates via a school or center it does not necessarily mean that they live nearby. I need to know that all candidates can independently get to and from my apartment. I need to make sure they understand that they will need to leave enough time for the trip. If you have a younger child, you will not want to have to pack them up to pick up or take the sitter home, especially at night. I find that most sitters can come and go on their own, but this is something I like to confirm before hiring someone. It is always good to make sure you are on the same page about anything that you think is important.
This is my process, the steps I like to go through when choosing a sitter for my child who has special needs. Every question is important and no detail is too small to mention. Make your lists, and do whatever it takes to put your mind at ease. Who we leave our children with is one of the most important decisions we make as a parent. We need to feel comfortable and confident with our decisions so we can go out and have peace of mind.
autism Behavioral consulting Services
Karen Bottalico, SAS, SDA 516-851-8330
kbottalico2002@yahoo.com
An Educational Consultant serving Queens and Long Island and the NY Metro area. Working directly with families, services include: Evaluating placement and service options; Accompanying parents throughout the entire CPSE or CSE process which includes meetings, screenings, observations and extensive education history reviews. Other services include Staff Training, School-Based Consultation, FBA Assessment and BIP Implementation, ABA and Verbal Behavior Training Techniques, Behavior Management Strategies, Home/School Intensive Behavior Intervention Services, Crisis Intervention and Prevention, HomeBased Services and Parent Education Training.
comprehend the m ind P.c . 114-20 Queens Blvd., Suite CS 2, Forest Hills 718-441-0166
comprehendthemind.com
Comprehend the Mind is a group of school and neuropsychologists that diagnose and assess a variety of conditions. Neuropsychological, educational, speech and language, and psychiatric evaluations are performed to help you understand your child’s strengths and weaknesses, and plan for their educational success and emotional well-being.
d ragonfly a pplied Behavior analysis P c
550 North Country Road, Saint James 516-531-3673
Dragonflyaba.com hello@dragonflyaba.com
Dragonfly ABA aims to offer exceptional ABA services throughout Long Island. They provide school, home,
BIS, and center-based opportunities for early learners and young adults with disabilities all year round. Each individual’s plan is customized to their specific needs, and Dragonfly ABA encourages parent involvement and education. Their team undergoes ongoing professional development training and consistent supervision to ensure clinical excellence with each clients.
The Hagedorn little village School
Jack Joel Center for Special Children
750 Hicksville Road, Seaford 516-520-6000 littlevillage.org jon.feingold@littlevillage.org
The Hagedorn Little Village School is a not-for-profit school highly regarded for providing outstanding educational and therapeutic services for children with a wide range of developmental
disabilities. HLVS provides year-round programs and services that include diagnostic evaluations and treatment, early intervention, a preschool, an elementary school, SEIT and related services.
long i sland Speech Nine locations
844-5-SPEECH lispeech.com
Long Island Speech is the leading speech therapy provider on Long Island with 9 locations in Nassau and Suffolk County. They specialize in Myofunctional Therapy, PROMPT, Voice Disorders, Fluency, Augmentative Communications, Articulation, Feeding Therapy, Auditory Processing, Expressive/ Receptive Language Disorders and so much more. Long Island Speech participates with most major health insurance companies and offers evening and weekend hours.
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8 BeSt Birthday Party Places
Planning a birthday party for your child can be equal parts exciting and overwhelming. With so many options available, choosing the perfect venue can make all the difference in creating a memorable celebration. From whimsical indoor play rooms to scenic outdoor spaces, the right location sets the stage for fun-filled activities and priceless moments with friends and family.
We’re sharing some of the best kids’ birthday party venues in your area, highlighting unique features, capacity, and themes that cater to a variety of interests and age groups. Below you will find options that offer everything from interactive experiences to all-inclusive packages, ensuring you find the ideal spot that fits your budget and party size while giving your child an unforgettable birthday party they will treasure for years to come.
Bounce! Family Entertainment Center
330 Michael Drive, Syosset 516-762-1300
bouncesyosset.com
bouncepartiesli@gmail.com
Bounce! in Syosset is an indoor family entertainment center offering fantastic birthday party packages and open play sessions on Long Island. Kids can celebrate their birthday with friends jumping on trampolines, in the adventure zone, soft play arena, toddler town, ninja/net course, playing laser tag, bumper cars, arcade games and more.
Clowns.com
200 Meacham Ave., Elmont 516-577-0000
inquiries@clowns.com Clowns.com
Clowns.com has been the premier choice
for kids entertainment in the Greater New York area for over 15 years. Their fantastic children’s entertainers sing and dance, spin kosher cotton candy, play bubble games, make balloon animals, provide face painting, and end with a fun magic show! Add concessions like snow cones or kosher popcorn to make your guests’ taste buds dance; it’s a blast for everyone! Hundreds of bounce house options bring every party to the next level, and you can complete your party’s theme with a special appearance from your child’s favorite tv show or movie character. No matter what the theme of your kid’s birthday party is, Clowns.com will make it a memorable one.
dave and Busters
Multiple Locations
888-300-1515
daveandbusters.com/us/en/bookings jessica.foley@daveandbusters.com
With kid-friendly menus, stellar Power Card deals to play tons of arcade games, and a one-of-a-kind experience, what’s not to love?
Dave & Buster’s has everything you need for an unforgettable party. Birthday packages are available for groups of all sizes. Book online at your convenience, or work with one of D&B’s professional party planners to tailor your experience. Mention “Best Birthdays” to get an extra $20 in game play for the guest of honor when booking a kid’s birthday package at any one of their 10 area locations.
gaming Kingdom
2709 Hempstead Turnpike, Levittown 516-557-3226
gamingkingdomny.com/ info@gamingkingdomny.com
Gaming Kingdom is the ultimate destination for unforgettable birthday parties, offering
a state-of-the-art video game lounge in a fun and exciting atmosphere for kids of all ages. With a wide selection of popular games like Minecraft, Fortnite, Mario Kart, Roblox, and more, Gaming Kingdom caters to every gamer’s passion. Each party package includes exclusive access to gaming stations, dedicated party hosts, and pizza/ drinks. Parents can relax knowing their kids are playing in a safe, clean, and social environment. Whether it’s a casual gathering or a full-scale gaming extravaganza, Gaming Kingdom ensures an action-packed, stress-
free celebration that kids will rave about long after the party ends.
L.I. adventureland
2245 Broadhollow Rd.
631-694-6868 adventureland.us
BirthdayParties@adventureland.us
Prepare for an unforgettable celebration at Adventureland Long Island, where party experts are on hand to help you plan the best party ever, from birthday parties, graduations and communions to year-end celebrations!
Adventureland features heart-pounding rides, endless games, delicious food, and fun. Guests can choose from Adventureland’s fantastic party packages, carefully tailored to their needs. Little adventurers will be all smiles as they zip around on roller coasters, splash on the water rides, and test their skills at thrilling games. When it’s time to refuel, Adventureland’s mouthwatering food options will keep everyone satisfied.
Little doll studio
137 North Park Avenue, Rockville Centre
516-238-6159 littledollstudio.com/parties Fran@littledollstudio.com
Birthdays are Little Doll’s Studio’s absolute favorite thing to do and the party staff goes all out to make the experience extra special and memorable for all. A two-hour party at this unique boutique wonderland in Rockville Centre delivers non-stop creative and imaginative play including doll dress design, a doll fashion show, a dance party, and dress-up. From invitations, decorations, food, entertainment, set-up, clean-up, favors, and playlists, they take care of everything so you can enjoy your child and your guests in the moment. Surprise and delight your child with unique custom add-ons and create an experience they’ll be talking about until their next birthday.
Monster Mini golf
645 Stewart Ave, Garden City
516-279-4433
monsterminigolf.com/locations/us/ny/gardencity-long-island
gardencity@monsterminigolf.com
As you step into the world of monsters, prepare to be greeted by friendly human staff, who will help you customize every aspect of the party according to your child’s preferences. Monster birthday parties are designed to create an unforgettable experience for your little one and their friends. They are filled with laughter, excitement, and plenty of monstrous fun, with private party rooms complete with spooky decorations. There are 2 great locations in Garden City and Deer Park, NY.
Urban air Lake grove
3147 Middle Country Rd, Lake Grove urbanairlakegrove.com
Make your kid’s birthday party epic at Urban Air Lake Grove, where they take care of everything so you can enjoy the party. All party packages come with a dedicated host, arcade cards, a t-shirt for the birthday kid, party favor scratch-offs, Urban Air socks, tableware, balloons and water for each jumper. All packages include two hours table or room rental (plus setup and cleanup), after which you can stay another hour in the park to continue the fun! Experience all your favorite attractions, including Long Island’s tallest Sky Rider, bumper cars, virtual reality, climbing walls, ropes course, warrior course and dozens of trampolines. Try their two brand new attractions: Flash Pads and Mini Go-karts. Their birthday party packages start at $369.
How to Help in Hurricane Aftermath
By Alex A lutter
Last month, Florida was pummelled by two catastrophic hurricanes, leaving mass destruction in their wake. Many Florida residents are displaced and, tragically, some hurt and even killed by the devastating storm. Many have absolutely nothing left, losing all their pocessions to the angry storms.
Many of us recall being in a similar seemingly-hopeless situation after Superstorm Sandy in 2012. The way many communities came together to heal in the days, weeks, and months following Sandy’s destruction was a testament to how generous and caring New Yorkers can be. Although we are hundreds of miles away, we can still help our friends in Florida who have been impacted by these unprecendented events. Any donation of any size will help in rebuilding communities that have lost so much.
Here are some ways you can aid in hurricane relief efforts.
American Red Cross redcross.org
The Red Cross has deployed hundreds of disaster workers to the grounds of affected areas from Hurricane Helene. Through their donation portal, you can donate any amount to the victims of Hurricane Helene. $10 is the minimum online donation. All donations are tax-deductible. Another way to donate through the American Cross is to text the word HELENE to 90999.
Salvation Army give.helpsalvationarmy.org
The Salvation Army is aiding in hurricane relief by providing emergency aid, food, drinks, emotional and spiritual care, and critical supplies to both survivors and rescue workers in all affected areas. 100% of your donation goes to disaster relief. On their donation portal, you can donate to both Hurricane Helene and Milton victims.
Americares my.americares.org
Americares helps get medical needs and
supplies to the victims of Hurricane Helene. You can make a one-time donation or monthly payment to help fund medical supplies and deliveries in affected areas.
Baby2Baby
baby2baby.org
Baby2Baby is a nonprofit organization that is helping families affected by hurricanes get essential supplies such as formula, diapers, blankets, and more.
Save the Children savethechildren.org
Save the Children is dedicated to helping and saving families in all emergency situations. They currently have an emergency fund open to help the families from Hurricane Milton who have been left with no power and destroyed homes.
Florida Disaster Relief
volunteerflorida.org/donatefdf
The Florida Disaster Relief has been created to directly support communities during and after emergencies. Donations will fund various organizations that specialize in the communities’ disaster relief.
Feeding Tampa Bay Disaster Relief
donate.feedingtampabay.org
Tampa Florida was hit by Hurricane Helene and is now projected to get hit even harder by Hurricane Milton. By donating to Feeding Tampa Bay’s disaster relief efforts, you will be helping communities that have been devastatingly affected. Feeding Tampa Bay
Disaster Relief allows you to donate a onetime gift or a monthly amount.
The North Carolina Disaster Relief Fund pay.payitgov.com/ncdonations
The North Carolina Disaster Relief Fund is accepting monetary donations for grants. These grants are currently being utilized to support nonprofit organizations that are directly serving affected communities.
Send Relief sendrelief.org
Send Relief is deploying teams to aid communities in the South affected by the hurricanes. Your donations will aid in the gathering of supplies such as meals, water, temporary roofing, flood recovery supplies, and more.
Samaritan’s Purse samaritanspurse.org
Samaritan’s Purse International has started a five-site response to Hurricane Helene. Donations will help thousands of volunteers be able to assist and help communities hit hard by Hurricane Helene.
The Humane Society of the United States secured.humanesociety.org
The Humane Society of the United States is dedicated to helping animals in emergency situations. Their team is operating mobile veterinary clinics to assist animals in need during this time as well as supplying essential supplies.
Yikes! I Dated a Narcissist
And made the mistake of introducing him to my kids
By Jeannine Cintron
Confession time: I broke the cardinal sin of single parenting. I introduced my children to a man I had been dating for a very short time, and everything went as horribly wrong as you might expect.
I was divorced for over four years upon meeting this man and my kids never met anyone I dated up to that point. I was strict about not letting men meet my children. They knew I dated, I talked about it in front of them, but I knew they were not interested in adding anyone new to their lives and I respected that. For context, their father started a relationship perhaps a little too soon after our divorce, when our children were still healing (or should I say reeling), and it didn’t do anyone any favors.
But then I met The Narcissist.
This man practically forced his way into my life at a speed of 100 miles per hour, and after meeting one emotionally unavailable person after another, I thought I finally found someone who I could see myself with. He would show up with flowers and gifts, take me to nice restaurants, send long texts with flowery language describing his feelings for me. Not to mention he fixed so many things around my house!
It was the single mom’s version of giving candy to a baby. And I fell for it, hook, line and sinker.
In the beginning my daughter, 12, was as smitten as I was, highly receptive to the love bombing. He’d bring the kids boba tea and candy, showering them with any food or gifts they requested. It got to a point where I had to ask him to stop bringing so much candy because my daughter was literally getting sick from it.
My son, 16, wanted no part of this man from the get-go. He saw right through the love bombing and phony acts of generosity. I only wish I could be half as intuitive as he is. He would barely talk to him or really even look at him, staying in his room deliberately
for long stretches of time when he was over to avoid potential hallway run-ins. And while he accepted the gifts (he’s a teenager, after all), they certainly didn’t sway his negative feelings for his mom’s overzealous new boyfriend.
I would talk him up all day long, hoping it would make my son start to like him at least a tiny bit, and that it would give my daughter a deeper reason to like him than “because he buys me stuff.” It didn’t work, and my son probably fractured his eyeballs from all the eye rolling.
I knew what gaslighting was, I never felt it so intensely until he started doing it on the regular.
Looking back, I never even asked them if it was okay to let him stay over while they were home, something I feel quite badly about.
I knew they didn’t like it but I was planning a whole future with this man, so in my mind I thought I was just trying to get everyone used to being around each other. I know it seems completely insane to think I was going to marry a man I just met (where is Elsa when you need her?), but if you have ever dealt with a true narcissist, then you know how convincing they can be. Before him, I never even heard of things like future-faking and hoovering. And while
Thankfully, my “romance” with The Narcissist crashed and burned almost as quickly as it took off. Once he realized that I was not as easily manipulated as he initially anticipated, he tucked his sad little tail between his legs and went back to the woman I later learned he dumped the day after he asked me to be his girlfriend, the one he spent the majority of our relationship speaking horribly about. I know, I know, I was dodging red flags left and right. I am not proud of this.
At this point I am just hoping she is no longer with him because she has a daughter of her own, and I would hate for that little girl to grow up thinking it is acceptable to let yourself be treated that way. I also fear for the safety of anyone who gets that close to a potentially dangerous narcissist. I hope she has found the strength to leave him before he hurts her again.
Once, toward the very end of my relationship, I overheard The Narcissist’s 9-year-old son say to my daughter, “My daddy kisses lots of girls.” My heart snapped in half at that moment, not out of jealousy but
sadness for this poor child who had obviously been exposed to so many things that his young eyes should not have had to witness and that his young brain should not have had to comprehend. His son was so sweet but clearly confused and in pain from being raised by someone who I believe is truly evil to his core. It was devastating to see. The snap of my heart must have also snapped me back into reality when that sweet little boy said that, because I realized not long after that this was not at all the man I wanted my children around. This was not the healthy relationship I wanted to model for them.
It dawned on me then, FINALLY, just how sick the whole relationship had been from the very beginning, and how much damage I had already done and would only continue to do to my children and myself if I kept seeing him. It wasn’t easy to break away - the feelings were intense, which is right on par for a narcissist of this magnitude - but eventually I was able to extricate myself from this man’s demented grip completely.
I then immediately apologized to my children. They were just as much a victim
of his as I was, and that is fully my fault. I felt terrible when I realized just how badly I had failed them as a parent by letting this monster into their lives without barely a second thought. I had:
– violated their safe space and caused them discomfort in their own home. They had to literally worry about bumping into a stranger on the way to the bathroom in the middle of the night. Teenage me couldn’t even fathom it.
– showed them that my feelings were more important than theirs. I knew my son wasn’t happy when he was over, but I just kept telling myself “he’ll come around.”
– trusted a complete stranger with my children. Shame on me. Seriously.
I am not sharing this story in judgment of parents who linger in toxic situations, nor is it to judge those in happy, healthy relationships they chose to share with their own children and families earlier than most would. It’s merely a cautionary tale for my fellow single parents, a warning to fully vet anyone you decide to allow near your child. Sometimes your heart and your head are saying two very different things, but in the end the ONLY option is to do what is right for your children.
Holiday Toy Drives
And other local donation opportunities
for the
season
by LoNg ISL aND FamILy
‘Tis the season of giving! It’s a magical time of year when we can make a difference for those in need. If you’re in the Long Island area, there are countless opportunities to make a difference this holiday season. Check out our list and discover how you can spread joy and kindness to those who need it most.
Toys For Tots
516-228-5566 garden.city.ny@toysfortots.org
Run by the U.S. Marine Corps, Toys for Tots collects and distributes toys to children in need during the holidays so they can experience the joys of the season. Toys For Tots Long Island’s mission is to collect and distribute new and unwrapped toys as holiday gifts to those children less fortunate in Nassau.
John Theissan Children’s Foundation Toy drive 1492 Wantagh Ave. Wantagh, New York
516-679-5098
JTCF.org
Donation Dates: Saturday & Sundays 9 am t0 4 pm Nov. 16th through Dec. 22nd
Accepting new and unwrapped toys to brighten up the holidays for sick and underprivileged kids for their 33rd Annual Toy & Fund Holiday Drive.
Town of Islip Youth Bureau Holiday Toy drive
Islip Youth Bureau, 401 Main Street, Islip 631-224-5320 youthbureau@islipny.gov
Gifts can be dropped off at: The Town of Islip Youth Bureau, located at Town Hall West, 401 Main Street, Islip The Office of Supervisor Angie Carpenter, located at 655 Main Street, Islip
The Islip Town Youth Bureau Annual Holiday Toy Drive is currently underway and your help is needed to ensure each child has a special and joy-filled holiday.
Helping Hand Rescue Mission: Huntington
225 Broadway, Huntington Station 631-351-6996
kimberlygambino@hhrm.org
Helping Hand Rescue Mission’s goal is to help those in need. Specific donation times and drop off locations are located on their website. Helping Hand Rescue accepts donations of coats, toys, and more.
Brookhaven Coat drive
Brookhaven Town Hall, 1 Independence Hill, Farmingville
631-451-8011
Brookhavenny.gov
January 8 through February 9
Various drop-off times on their website
Brookhaven Coat Drive is helping neighbors in need. They are accepting donations of new or gently used clean coats, scarves, hats, and gloves in infant to adult sizes.
United Way of Long Island Holiday donations
819 Grand Blvd, Deer Park
631-940-3700
unitedwayli.org
Various drop-off times on their website
United Way of Long Island’s community partner agencies are seeking donations of goods and volunteer services to help families in need in the community.
There’s no other state quite like Rhode Island, and when you’re here, you can feel it. This fall, go from outdoor adventures to immersive history to delicious dining all in one unforgettable family trip! We invite you to stop by the Ocean State and get on our wavelength. VisitRhodeIsland.com
calendar
by Shara LevINe
Na SS au
Spooky Science and family movie Night –disney’s coco
wHeN: Friday, Nov. 1, 5–9pm
wHere : Cradle of Aviation Museum, Charles Lindbergh Boulevard, Garden City
aGeS: 5 – 12
wHaT: Take part in a variety of spooky STEM activities and watch a special screening of Disney’s Coco!
waNT To Go?: $22; $20 children 2-12 and seniors 62 and older. (516) 572–4066, cradleofaviation.org
Pumpkin Palooza
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 2, 1–3pm
wHere : Hempstead Lake State Park, 1000 Lake Drive West, West Hempstead
aGeS: All
wHaT: Bring your porch pumpkins to be smashed by educators while asking them about farming, gardening, and composting.
waNT To Go?: $4. parks. ny.gov
luminocity 2024 Holiday lights festivals
wHeN: Nov. 8-Jan 5, see website for schedule
wHere : Eisenhower Park, 1899 Park Blvd., East Meadow
aGeS: All
wHaT: Go on an adventure through dazzling light displays where each installation tells a story or embodies an artistic concept, designed to spark your creativity and broaden your horizons.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $29 and $22 ages 4-12. luminocityfestival.com
Sunday Science: reptiles
wHeN: Sunday, Nov. 10, 10–11:30am
wHere : Center for Science Teaching and Learning-
Tanglewood Preserve, 1450 Tanglewood Road, Rockville Center
aGeS: 5 – 8
wHaT: Children will come faceto-face with snakes, turtles and lizards as they learn what
makes each one scientifically special.
waNT To Go?: $15. (516) 764–0045, cstl.org
disney on ice
wHeN: Nov. 13-17, Wednesday
and Thursday, 7p; Friday, 11am and 7pm; Saturday and 11am, 3pm & 7pm.
wHere : UBS Arena, 2400 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont
aGeS: All
wHaT: This production invites guests to belt out Disney’s chart-topping tunes, as their favorite stories are brought to life on and above the ice.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $41. ubsarena.com
Nitro circus
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 7:30pm
wHere : Nassau Coliseum, 1255 Hempstead Turnpike, Uniondale
aGeS: All
wHaT: This jaw-dropping show will thrill fans with unbelievable stunts, dynamic performances, boundless energy, and nonstop excitement.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $47. (516) 654–8203, nassaucoliseum.com
Great american family christmas festival
wHeN: Nov. 22-Dec. 29, See website for schedule
wHere : UBS Arena, 2400 Hempstead Turnpike, Elmont
aGeS: All
wHaT: This immersive experience features screenings, meet and greets, autograph signings, ice skating, crafting, holiday shopping, and of course, Santa!
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $15. greatamericanfamilychristmasfestival.com
magic of lights
wHeN: Nov. 22-Jan. 4, Fridays and Saturdays, 5–11pm, Sundays – Thursdays, 5–10pm.
wHere : Jones Beach State Park, 1 Ocean Pkwy., Wantagh
aGeS: All
wHaT: Magic of Lights is a dazzling, drive-through holiday
cirque kalabanté: afrique en cirque visits the staller center for the a rts on november 9.
lights experience featuring favorite holiday scenes and characters of the season using the latest LED technology and digital animations. Experience Magic of Lights from the comfort and safety of your own car as you wind through the sparkling path of Jones Beach’s new holiday tradition.
waNT To Go?: Price per vehicle TBA. magicoflights.com
Port Holiday magic
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 30, 12–5pm
wHere : Main St., Port Washington
aGeS: All
wHaT: Shop special offers and see Santa ride a fire truck along with singing toy soldiers, carolers, and costumed characters.
waNT To Go?: Free. pwcoc. org
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North meets South fair
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 2, 10am–5pm
wHere : Suffolk County Farm & Education Center, 350 Yaphank Ave., Yaphank
aGeS: All
wHaT: Celebrate Long Island’s farm-to-table movement with live music, farm animals, hayrides, face painting, henna, fairy hair, and more!
waNT To Go?: $10; free admission for children 12 and younger. NMSFair.com
día de los muertos family celebration
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 2, 12–5pm
wHere : The Heckscher Museum of Art, 2 Prime Ave., Huntington
aGeS: 3 – 12
wHaT: Learn about this special holiday and create colorful works of art inspired by the celebration.
waNT To Go?: Free. (631) 380–3230, heckscher.org
disney’s Beauty and the Beast
wHeN: Nov. 2-17, See website for complete schedule
wHere : CM Performing Arts Center, 931 Montauk Hwy, Oakdale
aGeS: All
wHaT: This tale as old as time comes to life on stage in this magical retelling.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $27. (631) 218–2810, cmpac. com
lantern walk
wHeN: Sunday, Nov. 3, 4–5:30pm
wHere : Orient Beach State Park, 40000 Main Road, Orient
aGeS: All
wHaT: Celebrate winter coming and embrace the darkness with a Lantern Walk on the first day that Daylight Savings ends.
waNT To Go?: $4. eventbrite. com
Pies & Parades
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 12–1pm & 2–3pm.
wHere : The Whaling Museum & Education Center, 301 Main St., Cold Spring Harbor
aGeS: 3 and up
wHaT: Celebrate the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade and other holiday traditions then craft a delicious smelling “potpourri pie” for your own table.
waNT To Go?: $6-$8 admission + $10 participant; $5 for members. cshwhalingmuseum.org
cirque kalabanté: afrique en cirque
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 7pm
wHere : Staller Center For the Arts, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony
Brook
aGeS: All
wHaT: This high-energy production transports families into a realm that combines traditional African arts with North American modern circus performance.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $48. (631) 632–2787, stallercenter.com
Turkey Time with Suffolk farms
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 23, 10–10:45am
wHere : Children’s Museum of the East End, 376 Sag Harbor Tpke., Bridgehampton
aGeS: 2-8
wHaT: Join the Museum and Suffolk Farms for a meet and greet, story time, and crafts with a live Turkey.
waNT To Go?: $19; free for members. (631) 537–8250, cmee.org
colonial Games
wHeN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 1–3pm
wHere : Connetquot River State Park Preserve, 4090 Sunrise Highway, Oakdale
aGeS: All
wHaT: Travel back in time to Colonial America when you play games just like the children did then.
waNT To Go?: $4. parks. ny.gov
stony brook v illage host a black Friday festival on november 29.
celebrate Pies & Parades at the Whaling Museum & education center in cold s pring harbor on november 9.
don’t let The Pigeon drive The Bus
wHeN: Sunday, Nov. 24, 3pm
wHere : Staller Center For the Arts, 100 Nicolls Road, Stony Brook
aGeS: All
wHaT: Flock to the theater to see this hilarious musical adaption of Mo Willems’ beloved Pigeon books.
waNT To Go?: $16-$31. (631) 632–2787, stallercenter.com
Black friday festival
wHeN: Friday, Nov. 29, 2–4pm
wHere : Stony Brook Village Center, 111 Main St., Stony Brook
aGeS: All
wHaT: Enjoy all-day deals from your favorite shops along with a petting zoo and holiday singers.
waNT To Go?: Free. stonybrookvillage.com
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The rink at rockefeller center
wHeN: See website for complete schedule
wHere : Rockefeller Center, 45 Rockefeller Plaza, Midtown
aGeS: All
wHaT: Lace up your skates and take a spin around the rink for a quintessential New York winter experience.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $21. rockefellercenter.com
10th annual diwali festival
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 2, noon – 4 pm
wHere : Flushing Town Hall, 137-35 Northern Blvd., Flushing
aGeS: All
wHaT: Celebrate Diwali at this dance party, music, dance performances, rangoli making, Indian cooking, henna, and more.
waNT To Go?: $20; $15 member; free for children. (718) 463–7700, flushingtownhall.org
day of the dead 2024
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 2, 4 – 6 pm
wHere : Museum of the Moving Image, 36-01 35th Ave., Astoria
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The Madison Theatre Christmas Celebration At The Madison Theatre at Molloy University 100 Hempstead Avenue, Rockville Centre, NY
516-323-4444
madisontheatreny.org
Dec. 20, 7pm; Dec. 21, 2pm and 7pm; and Dec. 22, 3pm Becoming an annual family tradition, this Christmas spectacular, eaturing Broadway’s own exceptional performers and designers, will have you singing along to your favorite Christmas tunes. Featuring Broadway’s own exceptional performers and designers!
aGeS: All
wHaT: Celebrate Day of the Dead with live performances, digital media activities, facepainting inspired by historical characters from Día de Muertos, and more.
waNT To Go?: $10-$20. (718) 777–6800, movingimage.org
Harvest dance celebration
wHeN: Sunday, Nov. 3, 11 am – 4 pm
wHere : Queens County Farm Museum, 75-50 Little Neck Parkway, Glen Oaks
aGeS: All
wHaT: Celebrate American Indian Culture through music and dance! This event also features a Native American Craft & Food Market with authentic art, jewelry, ceramics, textiles, and more.
waNT To Go?: $17; $12 ages 4-11; free for children 3 and younger. (718) 347–3276, queensfarm.org
Big apple circus: Hometown Playground
wHeN: Nov. 8-Jan. 5, see website for complete schedule
wHere : Damrosch Park at Lincoln Center, Amsterdam Ave. & W 62nd St., Upper West Side
aGeS: 5 and up
wHaT: This all-new show celebrates the magic and excitement of the city that never sleeps with soaring acrobats, jaw-dropping stunts, comedic mischief, and the cutest performing dogs ever.
WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $44. bigapplecircus.com
omnium circus Presents i’mPossible
wHeN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 2 –3:30 pm & 7:30 – 9 pm; Sunday, Nov. 10, 3 – 4:30 pm.
wHere : Queens Theatre, 14 United Nations Ave. South, Corona
aGeS: All
wHaT: This spirited limit-defy-
t he Macy’s t hanksgiving day Parade returns on november 28.
ing & life-affirming spectacular includes award winning artistry, memorable music, a heartwarming story and a beautiful mosaic of performers.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $27. (718) 760–0064, omniumcircus.org
Bronx Zoo Holiday lights
wHeN: Nov. 22-Jan. 5, Fridays – Sundays, 3 – 9 pm.
wHere : Bronx Zoo, 2300 Southern Boulevard, Bronx
aGeS: All
wHaT: This immersive, walkthrough experience brings majestic animals and wild places to life via millions of lights spread across seven different trails.
waNT To Go?: Tickets start at $26.95. bronxzoo.com
Tianyu lights festival
wHeN: Nov. 29-Jan. 19, Tuesdays – Sundays, 5 – 10 pm.
wHere : Citi Field, 41 Seaver Wy. Flushing
aGeS: All
wHaT: This immersive spectacular will have you exploring a glowing rainforest, solving puzzles, playing interactive games, and winning prizes.
waNT To Go?: $22-$35. tianyuculture.us
98th macy’s Thanksgiving day Parade
wHeN: Thursday, Nov. 28, 8:30 am – 12 pm
wHere : Parade will pass
Macy’s Herald Square, 151 W 34th St., Herald Square
aGeS: All
wHaT: Giant balloons, fabulous floats, exciting entertainers & more are joining this all-star celebration of Thanksgiving!
waNT To Go?: Free. macys. com
Holiday Train Show
wHeN: Tuesdays – Sundays, 10 am – 6 pm through Jan. 20
wHere : New York Botanical Garden, 2900 Southern Blvd., Fordham
aGeS: All
wHaT: Enter a winter wonderland featuring model locomotives and trolleys traveling through a mini city of familiar local architecture. waNT To Go?: $15-$35. (718) 817–8700, nybg.org
