It’s hard to believe the holiday season is upon us already. While December will be one filled with endless to-do lists and last-minute shopping, this month is more like the calm before the end-of-year storm.
As we gear up for everyone’s favorite daylong food marathon known as Thanksgiving, we are reminded of the things we should be grateful for in our lives. One of the best ways to express gratitude is by helping others in need, and there is no better time than the holiday season for doing just that. We’re sharing Holiday Toy Drives and Donation Opportunities (page 38) so you can help brighten the holiday for families who are less fortunate. And after a brutal hurricane season down south, many residents in Florida are displaced and in desperate need of supplies and donations, so we have Ways to Help Hurricane Victims (page 32).
I used to think November was early to start your holiday shopping, but these days I meet people who are done before the summer is over! While I will never be one of those people, I can start crossing people off my list early while supporting local businesses at a Holiday Fair or Market (page 36).
Planning holidays and birthdays at the same time is the definition of stressful. If your child has a birthday coming up, we’re sharing some of the best venues for hosting birthday parties in our area (page 30).
Our latest Special Needs Resource Guide is here (page 19), featuring tips for both at home and in the classroom, along with helpful directory listings.
Lastly, we’re showcasing Dance Workshop on this month’s cover; founders MaryAnn and Nanci Grasso gave us the scoop on their dreamy new Upper East Side studio (page 14).
Thankful for all of you!
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Meta’s Teen Accounts
Will the new rollout revolutionize online safety for kids?
BY THALIA FERNANDEZ
Last month, Meta launched Instagram Teen accounts, and we had the opportunity to speak with a member of the Meta team and get some insight into what these new accounts will bring to families. This latest rollout of teen accounts is the first of its kind and a new approach to the mounting concerns about the influence of social media on today’s teens. As teens are tackling loneliness and social media pressures, parents are left questioning how they can help, and Meta aims to provide that support. The question remains: will these accounts truly impact teen safety online?
Growing concerns about the impact of social media on children’s mental health have
prompted actions at both the state and federal levels. Last year, Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy stressed the need for parents to monitor their children’s social media habits. In June, New York Governor Kathy Hochul passed two bills to make social media safer for kids. The federal government is also working on the Kids Online Safety Act to address issues such as bullying and harmful content. Parents nationwide are worried about the lack of online safety measures for children on social media platforms and are calling for these platforms to do something about it.
Meta, among several social media platforms, has faced criticism for not having adequate systems in place for teens. However, they are now the first to roll out protections.
This approach could shift the social media landscape and begin to ensure children’s safety, but it’s honestly too soon to tell. However, what we do know is what these new accounts offer parents, how this all started, and everything you need to know about Teen Accounts.
We had the opportunity to speak with Liza Crenshaw, a member of the Meta team, to understand what these accounts provide to parents and Meta’s goals with Teen Accounts.
What are some standout features that parents should know about?
Teen Accounts were designed specifically with parents’ concerns in mind. We talked to so many parents around the world about what their worries were when it came to their teens using social media. We heard that they have three big concerns: one is contact, who their teens are talking to; two is content, are teens looking at content that is too mature or sensitive, and three is time, is [a] teens’ time being well spent on the app; are they scrolling for too long, using it overnight, or
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during school.
With those three big concerns in mind, we designed Teen Accounts’ protections to adjust those things. We will be turning teens’ [accounts] into private accounts automatically. We’ll also be sending reminders when teens have been on the app for 60 minutes. We’re turning on a feature called sleep mode, which mutes notifications overnight and sends auto-replies in DMS. [For example], if someone messages them [the reply will] say, “[this person] is in sleep mode right now; they’ll get back to you in the morning.”
We’re taking steps to limit who can message teens. Teens will only be able to be messaged by people that they follow or who they’re already connected to. That really cuts down on strangers who might be messaging teens and adults who aren’t really appropriate for teens to talk to. We’re also turning on our hidden words feature, which limits bullying or offensive comments in DMS. It’s really a full suite of protections that are built in and automatically on with Teen Accounts.
Will these new features be easy to navigate for parents?
Yes, so again, we did design this with parents in mind. We wanted to make sure that parents didn’t feel like they had another burden being added to their plate but that they could really have the confidence to know that their teens are able to use Instagram safely from the get-go. The idea with teen accounts is that teens are automatically placed into age-appropriate protections, and parents don’t even have to do anything.
However, if teens under 16 want to change any of the protections, they do have to get a parent’s permission to do so. Parents can be reassured that their teens can’t escape these protections unless they give their permission. But we also know that some parents want to be more involved in their day-to-day teens’ online lives, so we added additional features that parents could choose to use, including messaging insights; parents can see who their teens have been chatting with in the past week. They can’t actually read their teen’s DMS, but they can see who they’ve been talking to and whether the teen has any shared connections with those people.
Which is actually one of my favorite features because I heard from a lot of parents who think this is great because they can see if [for example] someone they know has been
“Particularly for younger teens, they see this as an opportunity to build trust with their parent and figure out a way to navigate social media together versus just having the parent have complete oversight and control.”
bullying their child in school sends [their teen] a message, then that’s an opportunity for the parent to say “hey I saw that you were chatting to [this person], I know you guys have had conflicts, what’s going on there?”
But it still lets teens have their own freedom and autonomy to send messages without feeling like their parents are peeking over their shoulders.
Today, kids have Finstas or Fake Instagram accounts where they lie about their age. How will these accounts work around that?
So, from the get-go, we knew that Teen Accounts wouldn’t work unless we were preventing teens from lying or getting around this. So we built a ton of different ways to prevent from lying. For instance, if a teen tries to change their age from under eighteen to over eighteen, for example, if they say, “I don’t want to be in a teen account, I’m just going to say I’m 25”, we will require them to verify their age either with an ID or with a video selfie that estimates their age on the back end.
We’re also building out what we call an age prediction model that uses thousands and thousands of signals, including the type of language that teens use, who they’re talking to, and how old their friends are, to actually really accurately estimate how old a teenager is. If we see that there’s a mismatch between the age the teens told us they are and the age our model predicts them to be, then we’ll place that person into protections automatically out of an abundance of caution.
We think about it as a multilayered approach because it’s really challenging to get
age right, so we’re going at it from a bunch of different angles.
These accounts are currently only available in specific locations but are expected to be introduced globally in 2025. Should we expect to see additional features added to these supervised accounts?
We might. Right now, we’re just really focused on getting this out and right to the tens of millions of teens that will get these changes. It’s a really fundamental change to teens’ experience on Instagram, and we want to get this right first and foremost.
We expect there might be some bumps along the way, but we want to iterate and make sure that we get people into these protections, and then we’ll figure out what’s next.
We’re interested to know what the feedback from teens has been like. How do they feel about the integration of Teen Accounts?
It’s actually really interesting because we had a hypothesis internally that teens would hate this and not really want to be placed into these protections.
But actually, what we heard and what we’ve been hearing since the rollout is that teens themselves also don’t really want to get unwanted contact in their DMS; they really don’t want to see [certain] content. So they’ve actually welcomed the changes to an extent, and I think particularly for younger teens, they see this as an opportunity to build trust with their parent and figure out a way to navigate social media together versus just having the parent have complete oversight and control.
It’s really a way to start conversations. Younger teens, in particular, [feel] they can establish some trust with their parents, they can have some boundaries in place, and gradually maybe the parent might relax some things, and give them a bit more freedom.
We feel like this is an opportunity for parents and teens to start to establish a twoway conversation in a way that still feels safe and age-appropriate, and again lets teens use Instagram for all of the good things like discovering new artists they want to follow, connecting with classmates, talking to friends and family. I think sometimes, people forget all of the good things that come from social media, so our goal with this is to preserve the good and minimize the bad.
For more information on Instagram Teen Accounts, head to about.instagram.com.
Major Upgrades Planned for CMOM
Children’s Museum of Manhattan announces move to an expansive new UWS location
By Thalia Fernandez
The Children’s Museum of Manhattan (CMOM), a New York City familyfriendly staple, announced this week that it has launched the final phase of its $300 million campaign for its new home on the Upper West Side. Along with this week’s announcement, CMOM revealed what this stunning new location would look like and when we can expect doors to open.
Giving New Life to a NYC Landmark CMOM aims to expand and reach more families throughout the city and plans to do so in a century-old church at 361 Central Park West. Originally known as The First Church of
Christ, Scientist, CMOM acquired this historic and neglected space in 2018. The New York City church, considered a historic landmark, will be transformed into a brand new space. After renovation, the 80,000-square-foot building will offer a spacious, picturesque sanctuary that will significantly increase CMOM’s visitor capacity.
The original plan for this historic landmark was to turn it into condos. After the city rejected the plan, CMOM acquired the forgotten space and is looking to preserve special elements of the church while transforming it into an artistic hub for all families.
Dava Schub, CMOM Chief Executive Officer and Museum Director, shared, “This historic structure will be transformed into
a dynamic seven-story magical castle on the park for all our City’s children, as CMOM invests in setting every child up to thrive. Over the years, CMOM has brought research-based learning experiences to millions of children at our museum and to children where they live and learn, in partnership with City shelters, Head Start programs, settlement houses, hospitals, the Department of Correction and beyond. With our new home, we will be able to do even more to nourish the whole child through play, artmaking and exploration.”
Funding the Historic Move
The campaign for the newly renovated location has received substantial contributions from various supportive donors. Founding
Board Chair Laurie M. Tisch’s donation reached a total of $50 million, along with the City of New York’s allocation of $46.1 million from the Mayor’s Office, City Council, and the Office of the Manhattan Borough President. Additionally, the Bezos Family Foundation has shown support for the campaign by providing generous gifts to CMOM totaling $30 million.
Laurie M. Tisch shared, “I am thrilled to announce that our 96 & WOW campaign has exceeded all expectations, with $200 million now raised toward our $300 million goal as enthusiasm spreads for the new CMOM. My personal contributions, donated as a capstone to decades of philanthropy dedicated to education, total $50 million, which I have given in the belief that this is the single most important project for the future of New York.”
Tisch continues, “We know, from study after study, that the groundwork for a lifelong love of learning and the social, emotional and cognitive development of a child is laid in the earliest years. In fact, 90% of a child’s brain development happens before they turn five. Too many children in our city enter school without the foundational skills and experiences they need to
thrive in the classroom. The new CMOM will be committed to giving parents and caregivers tools to help set up children for success in school, in life and in their communities.”
A Peek Inside the New CMOM
The project will involve architects FXCollaborative and exhibit designers THG, who will be working together to bring to life a vision developed by CMOM in collaboration with its council of national early learning advisors.
The ground-floor lobby will feature amenities such as a stroller check, a café with healthy options, and a museum store with unique toys, books, and art activities for children of all ages. The museum’s second will floor offer hands-on experiences and immersive technologies for children to explore the “Wide Wild World”, learn about science, and develop inquiry-based skills.
The third floor of the museum’s great hall will focus on the theme of “What Will I Create Today?” and will provide children with opportunities to engage in various creative activities such as painting, writing, cooking, and designing. The centerpiece of the exhibit
will be a multi-level creativity lab, offering STEAM experiences, including painting, clay making, science experimentation, and coding. The space will also feature a hands-on cooking area, the Cocina Kitchen, a readingand-writing lab, and more.
The fourth floor will have floor-to-ceiling circular windows for children to sit, read, and wonder. It will also feature an interactive water and sound experience for children to create and perform music using instruments from around the world. Adjacent galleries will provide flexible spaces for educator-led programs on music and science.
CMOM’s new facility will also feature a permanent performance space and a theater where the museum will continue collaborating with over 50 arts institutions in NY to bring some of the city’s best art experiences to our families. The museum will also offer daily enrichment classes in arts, science, music, and movement. At the top of the building, a terrace will allow families to take in a stunning view of New York City and Central Park.
The new CMOM is expected to open in 2028.
Dance Workshop A brand-new studio with a classic mission
Dance Workshop founder MaryAnn Grasso opened the doors of her Long Island studio back in 1979 with the mission to support, guide, and care for children, and dance has been the vehicle to do just that. Several decades of excellence later, MaryAnn and her daughter Nanci joined forces and established Dance Workshop New York City on the Upper East Side of Manhattan in 2016.
On the decision to open their second location together, MaryAnn says,“My daughter Nanci personifies what Dance Workshop is all about. Who Nanci is as a person is what contributes to the success of DanceWorkshop. Her passion, creativity, knowledge and ability to dream led us to open the New York City studio. She knew Dance Workshop had a place in the most beloved skyline and she was right!. Nanci was raised in my studio and working alongside her has been a blessing to myself, our staff, students and families.”
The mother/daughter team has devoted their lives to dance education, community and the development of children, raising dancers and sound human beings alike. Witnessing thousands of dancers pass through Dance Workshop’s doors over the years, they believe dance has the power to elevate and change lives. Their hope is that each dancer will build lasting confidence to walk through life with great strength, belief and appreciation for themselves. They have cultivated a staff in New York City and at their legacy studio on Long Island who are equally as passionate about the mission and vision of Dance Workshop. The staff feel more like family, yet have experience and a wide breadth of knowledge to share with their dance community.
Nestled in the heart of the Upper East Side for the last nine years, Dance Workshop is a community-focused studio committed to dance education in a loving, safe and nurturing environment. The studio offers classes in ballet, tap, jazz, lyrical, hip-hop, musical theatre and gymnastics for ages 2 and up. They also offer a pre-professional company track for dancers interested in taking their technique to the next level.
Dance Workshop New York City is set to
open the doors to its new location at 30 East 60th Street. The new location is surrounded by legendary NYC eateries and upscale restaurants like Le Bilboquet Café, All’Antico Vinaio, Il Mulino and Philippe. Located at the cross section of designer fashion, world renowned landmarks and fine dining, their luxe new studio will offer boutique charm in a big city. The studio will offer everything from mommy and me classes to their pre professional company.
Dance Workshop dancers are exposed to community events, top competitions and conventions, and even jumbotron moments at NYC professional sports arenas. Dancers walk away with confidence, memories, and training
Nanci and MaryAnn g rasso
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that will translate on and off the dance floor.
In the nearly five decades since Dance Workshop began, its dance floors have given many young dreamers a place to imagine a life of dancing. One such ballerina is Fallon Kunz, a former Dance Workshop student who discovered her love of dance at just three years old at Dance Workshop Long Island. As a member of the Dance Workshop Company, Fallon trained in all dance genres but fell endlessly in love with ballet. Dance Workshop recently celebrated her bittersweet exit from the studio to dance with the esteemed American Ballet Theatre’s pre-professional program, a feat not many young dancers will accomplish.
“Watching Fallon perform at Lincoln Center is as good as it gets,” says Nanci. “She did exactly what she set out to do as a young dancer at our studio.”
Three years ago Dance Workshop Long Island moved into a gorgeous 6,000-squarefoot loft space with sprawling floors and modern finishes, truly a place to inspire children and create artistry. The walls of the stairs leading up the lobby are adorned with some of the dance greats, just like how images of Barishnkov graced the walls of MaryAnn’s first 500-square-foot studio in 1979.
The art of dance has mostly remained the same throughout the years, but seems more important than ever. The dance floor is one of the few, rare places children and adults of all ages can truly disconnect from technology, school, work and social stresses. It allows – requires – students to be present with everyone in the room and to deeply connect with oneself through movement. The dance floor and the stage are some of the greatest places to lose and find yourself. Regardless of the style or even level of experience, dancing and moving in unison with a group of people is a profound experience only a dancer understands. That connection and experience lives within them forever.
“So many studio alumni have looked back and said dancing at Dance Workshop were some of the best moments of my life. It doesn’t get better than that,” Nanci remarks.
Dance Workshop’s new Upper East Side home at 30 East 60th Street between Park & Madison Avenues will be the next chapter for the mother/daughter duo. With 7,000 expansive square feet of space, the studio will now be able to offer new and interesting programming for children and adults of all ages. The Grassos are eager to embark on a new journey with their same 46-year-old mission, and they feel the opportunities are limitless.
Winter escape in the Lake GeorGe area
If you’re looking for a winter escape, check out the Lake George Area in the Adirondacks. Featuring three premier ski resorts – Gore, West, and Hickory - ‘Ski the 3’ should be on your winter list of must-dos! Gore Mountain, the largest ski resort in New York State, has seven mountains with a total of 14 lifts, 108 trails, and a 2537’ vertical. West Mountain is family-owned and operated with 25 trails for skiing and boarding, as well as a tubing park. Hickory Ski Center offers a vintage ski experience with a vertical drop of 1,200 feet and challenging and expert-level trails.
The Lake George Area is a host to many winter events, festivals, and carnivals. Every weekend during February, the Lake George Carnival features a chili cook-off, outhouse races, an ATV poker run, and the famous Lake George Polar Plunge. Another annual carnival is held at Brant Lake, where broomball tournaments, human foosball competitions, and hockey shoot-offs take place.
Enjoy the annual Ice Bars in and around Lake George as sculpture-like ice creations accompany local events, like the Adirondack Pub & Brewery’s Funky Ice Fest. Attendees can
frequent hosted ice bar parties at venues like The Gem, the Lagoon, and the Sagamore. If watching sports is more your speed, enjoy puck-passing, net-catching hockey at the Cool Insuring Arena. The Eastern Conference Hockey League and affiliate of the NHL’s New Jersey Devils, Adirondack Thunder, takes the ice to deliver hard-hitting thrills every game.
Dedicated to promoting “The Original
Vacation,” the goal of the Lake George Area is to promote travel and tourism to the over dozen towns and hamlets that make up Warren County, known as the “Southern Gateway to the Adirondacks.”
Learn more about Lake George at visitlakegeorge.com, on Facebook @ TheLakeGeorgeArea, or Instagram and TikTok @lakegeorgearea.
RochesteR , NY: A WiNteR WoNdeRl ANd foR fAmilies
For NYC families seeking a memorable winter getaway, Rochester, NY offers a perfect blend of snowy adventures, cozy experiences, and indoor fun—just a few hours away. When the city is draped in a blanket of snow, Rochester transforms into an idyllic winter wonderland, providing the ideal escape from the hustle and bustle.
Embrace the Outdoors
Families can immerse themselves in winter magic at Mendon Ponds Park, offering ice skating, sledding, and guided snowshoeing tours through serene, snowcovered landscapes. For a thrilling day out, head to Bristol Mountain for skiing and snowboarding with runs suitable for every skill level, or experience the exhilarating snow tubing park.
Step Back in Time
At the Genesee Country Village & Museum, families can explore the largest living history museum in New York State, where the winter months bring historical holiday celebrations, horse-drawn wagon rides, and 19th-century
winter traditions. It’s an interactive way for kids to learn about history while enjoying a charming winter atmosphere.
Indoor Escapes from the Cold Rochester’s renowned Strong National Museum of Play and Rochester Museum & Science Center keep kids entertained for hours. The George Eastman Museum offers a cozy respite to explore photography’s rich history in the restored mansion of Kodak founder, George Eastman.
Seasonal Fun
With 140+ annual festivals and events in Rochester, NY there is always something fun and exciting taking place and winter is no different. Don’t miss Roc Holiday Village with complimentary ice skating, arts and crafts for kids, local boutiques and vendors, and more!
With its mix of outdoor adventure, rich history, and family-friendly festivities, Rochester, NY offers the perfect winter escape, ensuring unforgettable memories for families of all ages. Learn more at visitrochester.com.
Come soar. Come smile. Come see what all the excitement is about. Rochester, NY is the perfect family getaway for unique and extraordinary adventures.
Did we mention the world’s largest collection of toys, dolls, and games? Pack your bags and hit the road for an unforgettable trip in a destination full of surprises. With fun for every family, every season of the year, playtime tends to last a little longer in our backyard. Learn more at visitrochester.com.
New York’s sullivaN Catskills
At just 90 miles from NYC, New York’s Sullivan Catskills is holiday-ready.
Start your visit by fueling up with Catskill-icious goodness. Restaurant Week is on through November 11. It’s an opportunity to sample farm-fresh 3-course lunches and dinners from $29.95-$44.95 at Blue Fox Motel, Cellaio, Kenoza Hall, Lotus, Roscoe Mountain Club, Seminary Hill Orchard & Cidery, Tavern on Main, The Arnold House, The DeBruce, The Heron Restaurant, The Homestead Restaurant+Lounge, and Yagsur’s Café at the Museum at Bethel Woods.
As you wander the charming small towns, watch for the hand-painted sculptures on the Sullivan Catskills Dove Trail, a tribute to the Woodstock Music and Arts Festival held here in 1969. To help guide you to each dove location, download the trail map at SullivanCatskills.com.
If you’d rather someone else prepare your family’s Thanksgiving meal, consider spending Thanksgiving at Kenoza Hall, Villa Roma, Callicoon Hills, The Bradstan at The Eldred Preserve, Chatwal Lodge, North Branch Inn, The Arnold House, or Roscoe
Mountain Club. Then, see Peace, Love & Lights at Bethel Woods starting November 29. It’s a 1.7-mile drive-thru holiday light show running through December 29.
Better yet, come the weekend before and bring your family to The Farmhouse Project’s Holiday Maker’s Market on
November 23 and 24 in Callicoon. It’s a modern interpretation of the traditional craft fair with artisans throughout the region. To book your trip, visit SullivanCatskills.com. You’ll also want to download the Sullivan Catskills Go App, a valuable tool to guide you to the fun.
Get in the holiday spirit in New York’s Sullivan Catskills.
Start your adventure at Peace, Love & Lights — a Bethel Woods
drive-thru holiday light show through December 29. Kids love to walk with alpacas and pet our goats. And everyone loves a Catskill-icious hot cocoa or apple cider. Restaurant Week is October 28-November 10
Helping Your DifferentlyAbled Child Succeed
BY JACQUELINE NEBER
Good parent-teacher communication is crucial for any successful school year, but being on the same page becomes even more important when your child has a learning disability. There are a few steps–from understanding your rights to communicating on a regular basis with your child’s teacher–that can help ensure your child has the best year possible, arming you and your child with the knowledge to succeed in and out of the classroom.
Know your rights and speak up. Parents are entitled to receive information about special education from their schools and teachers—reading up and staying informed is the best way to advocate for your kid.
When attending Committee for Special
Education meetings, annual review meetings, or parent-teacher conferences, if you don’t understand something, ask questions.
Communicate with teachers frequently.
Kathy Devine and Emily Cole co-teach at an elementary school in Long Island. They say parents of students with special needs must be extra communicative with teachers.
“We would like to know sooner when things might be happening at home, whether it’s medication changes or maybe something in the home life has changed,” Cole says.
When it comes to homework, “reach out to us as soon as possible so that we’re not waiting until the end of a trimester to know [kids are] struggling,” Devine says.
Another tip? Write a letter describing your child and his needs at the beginning of the year.
Understand Individualized Education Plan goals.
Equally important is understanding your child’s IEP goals—which can differ from her classroom goals.
This difference often confuses parents who see their student accomplishing goals on one end of the spectrum and not the other.
Involve your child.
Cassie Reilly, Transition Coordinator at a Long Island high school, suggests involving your kid in IEP and parent-teacher conferences. Being open with kids from the time of diagnosis helps them stand up for themselves and understand their learning disability does not make them inferior to others.
Be sensitive to difference.
Parents should understand their kids might be different at home than at school, Reilly adds. And, even more importantly, their kids might have an atypical path toward success. Communicating with teachers is key to understanding how your kid can progress in the best way.
How To Choose a Babysitter for a child with special needs
By Dana GreenBerG
My son has autism, so when I need to leave him with a babysitter, I am extremely picky about who that person is going to be. There are so many things that go through my head as a parent of a child with special needs. Who can I trust with him, especially since he has limited verbal skills? Will his babysitter understand his wants and needs? Will he be happy and engaged while I am gone? Over the years, I have come up with a system for choosing a babysitter that has worked well for us. This is how I do it.
Where to Find Babysitters
There are some very good places that you may not have thought of for finding sitters for kids with special needs.
I contact local special education schools and therapy centers, both of which are wonderful resources for this. Try calling them, and you will usually be put in touch with the right person to help you out, such as a social worker or psychologist. When you speak with that person, let them know exactly they type of person you are seeking as a babysitter. Let her know how old your child is and anything else you think may be important to share. You will find that many teachers, teaching assistants, and therapists are looking to earn extra money. The social worker or psychologist can circulate your contact information among the staff. One of the best reasons to get sitters from these places is that they are already fingerprinted and have had background checks done. Referrals from other parents with special needs children can also work as a great resource for finding people. I find that we parents are each other’s best sources of information. You can fully describe your child to other parent without feeling like you need to hold anything back. With that information, they will know if they have someone who would be a good fit.
Meet as Many Candidates as Possible
I like to meet as many potential sitters as I can. You may find that different people or personalities work better in different situations. I have some sitters that I prefer to use if they will be staying at home with my son and others that I prefer to use if they will be doing an outing with him. It is great to have choices, and not everyone may feel comfortable taking him out.
Another reason I like to meet a variety of people is more basic: We all need back-up. You just never know who will be free when you need someone. There have been times when I have gotten to my fourth call before getting a yes. I certainly was glad I had my list of trusted babysitters to call upon when that situation came up. The bigger the list you can compile, the better it will be in the long term. It is important to know that you have multiple great, trusted people to call upon.
Conducting an Initial Interview
After compiling my list of who I would like to meet, it is time to have initial interviews with them. The first time I meet a new person I prefer to do it alone, just me and them, without my son present. That’s because my son has very good receptive language and I do not like to talk about him in front of him. At these meetings, I like to tell the candidate all about
my son--his likes, his dislikes, his routines, what makes him happy, what bowl he likes for his snacks, that he likes ice cubes in his water, everything and anything that might be important to know while watching him.
I truly feel that I cannot give a sitter too much detailed information. I need to be his voice. We can also discuss how much I will pay. This is also the candidates’ opportunity to ask me anything that they want. Based on how this meeting goes, I will decide if I want to continue the process with each person I meet.
Check References
Now that I have done initial interviews, it is time to check references for those I am highly interested in hiring. It is a good idea to do this regardless of where someone’s full time job is. You may want to speak with someone else for whom they babysit (or babysat in the past) or maybe a supervisor or co-worker at their current job. Have your list of questions prepared before you make the calls.
You should feel free and comfortable to ask anything; after all, this is your child’s welfare we are talking about. Ask specific questions about the candidate’s interactions with children, how they’ve handled certain situations, and the like. I always like to ask about punctuality, too. This is the opportunity to get a feel for whether this person may be the right fit and if you want to
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Meeting My Child
Assuming the references check out, I next schedule a meeting between the potential new sitter and my child. The meeting takes place in my home. I will prepare my son the best I can, by telling him the person’s name and that they are coming over to see where he lives and what he likes to play with. Once they arrive I will make the introduction. I will show them around, pointing out where my son likes to hang out and where his favorite snacks are, for instance. I will go over how we do certain things, and our routines. I want all his babysitters to be comfortable handling anything that may arise while I am out.
This is another instance in which I have a list ready so I do not forget anything that may be important. Discussing all of these details in depth at this time will make it a lot easier the first time I go out and leave him with this person. I will not have to take the time then to go over everything from scratch, and instead we can just do a review.
This is also the chance to see how they
interact with him. I pay close attention and try to feel the vibe. Usually I can tell at this point if a particular candidate would be a good match for my son.
Joining Us for an Outing
For those sitters who might take my son out, I will invite them to go on an outing with us. This is where I will train them on how to be outside with him, which is a very different situation than just staying indoors. There is a lot to know: He likes to scare birds, he may not want to hold your hand, he will constantly ask you how many more blocks you’re going. How will the babysitter react to all of this--or whatever else may come up while outside? His safety must be the priority. This person will need to be on high alert the entire time. I need to feel 100% confident that this sitter is up to this task, and they need to be prepared for the unexpected with him. I will guide them through this outing and see how they feel, and again ask if they have any questions or concerns.
The Babysitter’s Commute
Where a sitter lives is important to me. Just
because you are identifying candidates via a school or center it does not necessarily mean that they live nearby. I need to know that all candidates can independently get to and from my apartment. I need to make sure they understand that they will need to leave enough time for the trip. If you have a younger child, you will not want to have to pack them up to pick up or take the sitter home, especially at night. I find that most sitters can come and go on their own, but this is something I like to confirm before hiring someone. It is always good to make sure you are on the same page about anything that you think is important.
This is my process, the steps I like to go through when choosing a sitter for my child who has special needs. Every question is important and no detail is too small to mention. Make your lists, and do whatever it takes to put your mind at ease. Who we leave our children with is one of the most important decisions we make as a parent. We need to feel comfortable and confident with our decisions so we can go out and have peace of mind.
As an independent day school for children with dyslexia and language-based learning disabilities, we believe difference is power. Through highly trained educators and evidence-based programs, we empower students in grades 1 through 9 with the skills and confidence to return to mainstream schools.
Committed to making a Windward education accessible for all, we award more than $9 million per year in tuition assistance.
MANHATTAN’S THERAPEUTIC COLLEGE PREP INDEPENDENT SCHOOL
Our program is designed so that children with anxiety, depression, and other emotional complexities can thrive, succeed, and prepare for college.
Stevenson provides integrated therapeutic support that informs every aspect of our work with students in grades 8-12.
We have rolling admissions. To find out more about our school, contact us at admissions@stevenson-school.org or 212.787.6400.
24 West 74th Street, New York, NY 10023 www.stevenson-school.org
The Westchester School
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NYS approved and funded non-public school providing therapeutic and educational services to students diagnosed with AU, MD, ID, OHI, OI, ED, & PWD, ages 3 - 21, with locations in Yonkers & North Salem
Ungraded, self-contained classrooms with a student to staff ratio of 12:1:4 & 8:1:2 in SchoolAged classrooms and a ratio of 10:1:2 in Preschool classrooms.
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Camp Lee Mar
450 Route 590, Lackawaxen, PA
Winter: 215-658-1708
Summer: 570-685-7188
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A private, seven-week residential summer program offering a unique curriculum incorporating a strong Academic and Speech program with traditional camp activities. Campers flourish at Lee Mar due to the structured environment provided allowing campers to feel comfortable and secure. Careful study is made of parent input, school (IEPs), camper interview, etc., so that the interests and needs of each child can be determined for suitable grouping prior arrival.
Camp Lee Mar focuses on improving the daily living, social, and life skills of their campers, while giving them the happiest summer of their lives!
Comprehend the Mind P.C.
114-20 Queens Blvd., Suite CS 2, Forest Hills 718-441-0166 comprehendthemind.com
Comprehend the Mind is a group of neuropsychologists that diagnose and assess a variety of conditions. Neuropsychological, educational, speech and language, and psychiatric evaluations are performed to help you understand your child’s strengths and weaknesses, and plan for their educational success and emotional well-being.
Downtown Kids Therapy
179 Franklin St. #4R, Manhattan 32 Union Square E #400, Manhattan 212-226-3222
Downtown Kids Therapy provides occupational, physical, and speechlanguage services to children from to 13 years old. Owned and operated by a group of dedicated therapists, they strive to meet the community’s need
for therapy that is both fun and functional. Staff’s playbased methods encourage development while supporting individualized needs. There are sensory gym locations in Tribeca and Union Square, and home or school sessions are offered upon request.
The Gillen Brewer School
410 East 92nd St. 212-831-3667
gillenbrewer.com admissions@gillenbrewer.com
The Gillen Brewer School offers students pre-K to 8th grade an academictherapeutic approach to special education. Their mission is to educate and support students to become confident, independent, and engaged learners. Their program features a hands-on, language-based curriculum that integrates speech and language therapy, occupational therapy, counseling, and social groups into each child’s schedule. Children from across NYC are immersed in learning that is developmentally appropriate and socially engaging.
The IDEAL School of Manhattan 5 Hanover Square 212-769-1699 theidealschool.org admissions@theidealschool. org
The IDEAL School of Manhattan is a different kind of private school. We expand the definition of diversity to include ability and economic status. Generous financial assistance packages have built a student body that is more diverse than any other private school. The robust academic program is designed to meet students where they are to reach their goals. Schedule a visit or join an open house to learn more.
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provide a supportive, inclusive environment for students with special needs. Their specialized programs are designed to meet the unique needs of every child, including individualized education plans (IEPs), small class sizes, and dedicated special education teachers. Staff fosters academic growth, socialemotional development, and independence, preparing students for lifelong success. Their commitment to inclusivity ensures every student receives the support they need to thrive in a dynamic learning community. Now accepting applications K-7.
The Parkside School
48 West 74th St. 212-721-8888 alevinger@parksideschool.org parksideschool.org
The Parkside School provides a nurturing and dynamic learning environment for students with languagebased learning differences and disabilities. Through a robust curriculum integrating academic, social, and emotional development, Parkside helps children thrive and achieve their full potential. With a specialized team of teachers and therapists, and a strong sense of community, Parkside fosters growth in a supportive setting, encouraging independence and a love of learning.
Robert Louis Stevenson School
24 West 74th St. steveson-school.org admissions@stevensonschool.org
Stevenson is Manhattan’s premier therapeutic college preparatory independent school. Their proven track record of academic and therapeutic progress begins with their unique program. Stevenson students receive small classroom instruction, intensive advisor support, and on-demand access to a fully staffed Counseling Center throughout each day. Furthermore, their
Postsecondary Coaching Program helps to promote postsecondary success. Anxiety and depression aren’t locked into a calendar. Neither is Stevenson’s Admissions.
Westchester School
45 Park Avenue, Yonkers, NY
520 Route 22, North Salem NY 33 Seymour St., Yonkers NY (Pre-K) 914-376-4300
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The Westchester School is a New York State approved, non-public school that provides educational and therapeutic services to students from Long Island, New York City, the Hudson Valley, and Connecticut. With campuses in Yonkers and North Salem, NY the program provides services to over 300 students with the classifications of Autism, Intellectual Disability, Multiple Disabilities, Orthopedic Impairment, Other Health Impairment, Emotional Disability, and Preschool Student with a Disability.
The Windward School
1275 Mamaroneck Ave, White Plains - Lower School
40 West Red Oak Lane, White Plains - Middle School 914-949-6968
212 E. 93rd St, NYC – Lower and Middle Schools 212-222-8628 thewindwardschool.org
A coeducational, independent day school located in NYC and White Plains for children in grades 1 through 9 with language-based learning disabilities. Committed to helping students achieve their full potential to successfully return to a mainstream educational environment, Windward remediates students’ skill deficits through a proven instructional program— combined with opportunities for social and emotional growth—to enable students to understand their learning differences, build confidence, and develop self-advocacy skills.
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7 BEST Birthday Party Places
Planning a birthday party for your child can be equal parts exciting and overwhelming. With so many options available, choosing the perfect venue can make all the difference in creating a memorable celebration. From whimsical indoor play rooms to scenic outdoor spaces, the right location sets the stage for fun-filled activities and priceless moments with friends and family. We’re sharing some of the best kids’ birthday party venues in your area, highlighting unique features, capacity, and themes that cater to a variety of interests and age groups. Below you will find options that offer everything from interactive experiences to all-inclusive packages, ensuring you find the ideal spot that fits your budget and party size while giving your child an unforgettable birthday party they will treasure for years to come.
16 Handles
1569 2nd Ave., 325 Amsterdam Ave.
428 3rd Ave., 155 Chambers St.
646-863-2522
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16 Handles is the sweetest place to celebrate a birthday this year. With locations all throughout Manhattan, 16 Handles can help customize the perfect party, and allows outside entertainment like a magician or dance instructor. Parties include unlimited frozen yogurt for the kids, who can choose from any of the 16 flavors, including dairy free, vegan, gluten free, and kosher options, plus access to the famous topping bar. 16 Handles can accommodate private events. They also do outside catering requests if you’d rather your froyo dropped off! Frozen yogurt contains guthealthy probiotics and less sugar and fat than comparable ice cream, which makes it a great family-friendly choice.
Blue Man Group
Astor Place Theatre
434 Lafayette Street
800-BLUE-MAN blueman.com
Want to party like a Blue Man? Whether you’re celebrating a 5th or 50th, the birthday packages promise an unforgettable experience. For groups of 10 or more, get the ultimate ultra-cool gift for your birthday buddy and guests and create a memorable adventure. The birthday packages include party bags, photo with Blue Man, one canvas spin art (birthday child) and personal birthday greeting on LED board. Don’t miss your opportunity to rock, laugh & party with Blue Man Group!
With kid-friendly menus, stellar Power Card deals to play tons of arcade games, and a one-of-a-kind experience, what’s not to love?
Dave & Buster’s has everything you need for an unforgettable party. Birthday packages are available for groups of all sizes. Book online at your convenience, or work with one of D&B’s professional party planners to tailor your experience. Mention “Best Birthdays” to get an extra $20 in game play for the guest of honor when booking a kid’s birthday package at any one of their 10 area locations.
NY Kids Club
Multiple locations throughout Manhattan nykidsclub.com/
Celebrate your child’s special day with an unforgettable birthday party at NY Kids Club!
The parties are 90 minutes of non-stop fun, creativity, and excitement filled with music, movement, and laughter, all led by enthusiastic and highly trained instructors. Choose from thrilling themes like Space Kids, Unicorn Extravaganza, or Cool Construction Crew—each crafted to spark joy and keep kids entertained! Whether it’s bouncing on trampolines or dancing up a storm, every child is sure to have the time of their life. The state-of-the-art facility is all yours for the duration of the party, giving little ones the perfect space to explore and play. NY Kids Club takes care of everything from setup to cleanup, and their team tailors every party to the birthday child’s preferences, making each celebration one-of-a-kind.
Soccer Stars
606 Columbus Ave. 212-877-7171
soccerstars.com info@soccerstars.com
Soccer Stars offers the most popular children’s soccer program for kids ages 1 and up. Aside from the youth sports programming, staff also offers super birthday experiences! Soccer
Star’s birthday parties are perfect for ages 1-12, they personalize your party experience with age-appropriate games & activities for all abilities. They tailor your party package from party favors to a soccer-themed cake to meet your needs and budget. Their highly trained coaches not only offer an exciting soccer session, they handle everything from setup to clean up. You can host your party at one of our indoor locations, at an outdoor field, or staff can bring the soccer experience to your backyard!
The best kid’s birthday parties are at Urban Air Trampoline & Adventure Park in Brooklyn! Urban Air is the perfect place to celebrate your child’s special day! With wall-to-wall trampolines, exciting obstacle courses, and thrilling attractions, your child and their friends will bounce, climb, and have non-stop fun. At Urban Air, party planning is simple and stressfree! All party packages include a party host, digital invitations, balloons, utensils, bottled
water and so much more! Urban Air is the go-to destination for birthday excitement and endless adventures every day of the week.
Wildlife Conservation Society Education
Bronx Zoo, Queens Zoo, Prospect Park Zoo, New York Aquarium and Central Park Zoo 2300 Southern Blvd
Celebrate your little party animal! Planning your child’s best day ever is easy with family-approved party packages in a fun and educational setting. The Wildlife Conservation Society’s aquarium and zoos each offer different educational birthday programming. Parties include park admission for your group, space to celebrate, exhibit experiences, up-close animal visits and more. WCS Educators bring learning to life with fun hands-on activities that keep kids engaged. Party package themes, prices, availability, and offerings vary at each park.
How to Help in Hurricane Aftermath
By Alex A lutter
Last month, Florida was pummelled by two catastrophic hurricanes, leaving mass destruction in their wake. Many Florida residents are displaced and, tragically, some hurt and even killed by the devastating storm. Many have absolutely nothing left, losing all their pocessions to the angry storms.
Many of us recall being in a similar seemingly-hopeless situation after Superstorm Sandy in 2012. The way many communities came together to heal in the days, weeks, and months following Sandy’s destruction was a testament to how generous and caring New Yorkers can be. Although we are hundreds of miles away, we can still help our friends in Florida who have been impacted by these unprecendented events. Any donation of any size will help in rebuilding communities that have lost so much.
Here are some ways you can aid in hurricane relief efforts.
American Red Cross redcross.org
The Red Cross has deployed hundreds of disaster workers to the grounds of affected areas from Hurricane Helene. Through their donation portal, you can donate any amount to the victims of Hurricane Helene. $10 is the minimum online donation. All donations are tax-deductible. Another way to donate through the American Cross is to text the word HELENE to 90999.
Salvation Army give.helpsalvationarmy.org
The Salvation Army is aiding in hurricane relief by providing emergency aid, food, drinks, emotional and spiritual care, and critical supplies to both survivors and rescue workers in all affected areas. 100% of your donation goes to disaster relief. On their donation portal, you can donate to both Hurricane Helene and Milton victims.
Americares my.americares.org
Americares helps get medical needs and
supplies to the victims of Hurricane Helene. You can make a one-time donation or monthly payment to help fund medical supplies and deliveries in affected areas.
Baby2Baby
baby2baby.org
Baby2Baby is a nonprofit organization that is helping families affected by hurricanes get essential supplies such as formula, diapers, blankets, and more.
Save the Children savethechildren.org
Save the Children is dedicated to helping and saving families in all emergency situations. They currently have an emergency fund open to help the families from Hurricane Milton who have been left with no power and destroyed homes.
Florida Disaster Relief
volunteerflorida.org/donatefdf
The Florida Disaster Relief has been created to directly support communities during and after emergencies. Donations will fund various organizations that specialize in the communities’ disaster relief.
Feeding Tampa Bay Disaster Relief donate.feedingtampabay.org
Tampa Florida was hit by Hurricane Helene and is now projected to get hit even harder by Hurricane Milton. By donating to Feeding Tampa Bay’s disaster relief efforts, you will be helping communities that have been devastatingly affected. Feeding Tampa Bay
Disaster Relief allows you to donate a onetime gift or a monthly amount.
The North Carolina Disaster Relief Fund pay.payitgov.com/ncdonations
The North Carolina Disaster Relief Fund is accepting monetary donations for grants. These grants are currently being utilized to support nonprofit organizations that are directly serving affected communities.
Send Relief sendrelief.org
Send Relief is deploying teams to aid communities in the South affected by the hurricanes. Your donations will aid in the gathering of supplies such as meals, water, temporary roofing, flood recovery supplies, and more.
Samaritan’s Purse samaritanspurse.org
Samaritan’s Purse International has started a five-site response to Hurricane Helene. Donations will help thousands of volunteers be able to assist and help communities hit hard by Hurricane Helene.
The Humane Society of the United States secured.humanesociety.org
The Humane Society of the United States is dedicated to helping animals in emergency situations. Their team is operating mobile veterinary clinics to assist animals in need during this time as well as supplying essential supplies.
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westfield, NJ is the perfect haven for families seeking a welcoming community and endless activities. Kids will adore the vibrant parks, such as Tamaques Park, a local gem sprawling across 106 acres. If craving a close-knit community is huge on your new home bucket list, you’ll appreciate that Westfield’s allure extends beyond its parks, offering something special for every family member. Explore charming mom-and-pop shops, incredible restaurants and absorb the culture this town offers, such as live jazz music and the world of books at local libraries and bookstores.
Here in Westfield there are toprated schools known for their exceptional academics and diverse extracurricular offerings. Broker Sales Associate of Coldwell Banker and Westfield expert Frank D. Isoldi shares that families looking to move in this area will find a range of charming Cape Cod homes to stately traditional Colonials, whimsical storybook Tudors to majestic
Victorians, and even modern new constructions making this an exceptional choice for families.
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three floors of living space. The first floor enjoys a formal living room with wood burning fireplace, a handsome office with custom built-in cabinetry and formal dining room opens to the floor-to-ceiling sunroom. The kitchen is a chef’s dream offering an expansive center island with leather granite top, and the family room has a vaulted ceiling and gas fireplace flanked. The second level is home to the primary suite with a gas fireplace and private bath. Five additional bedrooms and two hall baths finish the second level. The lower level includes a rec room/media room and full bath. Set on over a half-acre of manicured grounds including an expansive blue stone patio with stone fireplace and outdoor kitchen. This home is conveniently located near downtown Westfield for dining, shopping, and NYC transportation.
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Yikes! I Dated a Narcissist
And made the mistake of introducing him to my kids
By Jeannine Cintron
Confession time: I broke the cardinal sin of single parenting. I introduced my children to a man I had been dating for a very short time, and everything went as horribly wrong as you might expect.
I was divorced for over four years upon meeting this man and my kids never met anyone I dated up to that point. I was strict about not letting men meet my children. They knew I dated, I talked about it in front of them, but I knew they were not interested in adding anyone new to their lives and I respected that. For context, their father started a relationship perhaps a little too soon after our divorce, when our children were still healing (or should I say reeling), and it didn’t do anyone any favors.
But then I met The Narcissist.
This man practically forced his way into my life at a speed of 100 miles per hour, and after meeting one emotionally unavailable person after another, I thought I finally found someone who I could see myself with. He would show up with flowers and gifts, take me to nice restaurants, send long texts with flowery language describing his feelings for me. Not to mention he fixed so many things around my house!
It was the single mom’s version of giving candy to a baby. And I fell for it, hook, line and sinker.
In the beginning my daughter, 12, was as smitten as I was, highly receptive to the love bombing. He’d bring the kids boba tea and candy, showering them with any food or gifts they requested. It got to a point where I had to ask him to stop bringing so much candy because my daughter was literally getting sick from it.
My son, 16, wanted no part of this man from the get-go. He saw right through the love bombing and phony acts of generosity. I only wish I could be half as intuitive as he is. He would barely talk to him or really even look at him, staying in his room deliberately
for long stretches of time when he was over to avoid potential hallway run-ins. And while he accepted the gifts (he’s a teenager, after all), they certainly didn’t sway his negative feelings for his mom’s overzealous new boyfriend.
I would talk him up all day long, hoping it would make my son start to like him at least a tiny bit, and that it would give my daughter a deeper reason to like him than “because he buys me stuff.” It didn’t work, and my son probably fractured his eyeballs from all the eye rolling.
I knew what gaslighting was, I never felt it so intensely until he started doing it on the regular.
Looking back, I never even asked them if it was okay to let him stay over while they were home, something I feel quite badly about.
I knew they didn’t like it but I was planning a whole future with this man, so in my mind I thought I was just trying to get everyone used to being around each other. I know it seems completely insane to think I was going to marry a man I just met (where is Elsa when you need her?), but if you have ever dealt with a true narcissist, then you know how convincing they can be. Before him, I never even heard of things like future-faking and hoovering. And while
Thankfully, my “romance” with The Narcissist crashed and burned almost as quickly as it took off. Once he realized that I was not as easily manipulated as he initially anticipated, he tucked his sad little tail between his legs and went back to the woman I later learned he dumped the day after he asked me to be his girlfriend, the one he spent the majority of our relationship speaking horribly about. I know, I know, I was dodging red flags left and right. I am not proud of this.
At this point I am just hoping she is no longer with him because she has a daughter of her own, and I would hate for that little girl to grow up thinking it is acceptable to let yourself be treated that way. I also fear for the safety of anyone who gets that close to a potentially dangerous narcissist. I hope she has found the strength to leave him before he hurts her again.
Once, toward the very end of my relationship, I overheard The Narcissist’s 9-year-old son say to my daughter, “My daddy kisses lots of girls.” My heart snapped in half at that moment, not out of jealousy but
sadness for this poor child who had obviously been exposed to so many things that his young eyes should not have had to witness and that his young brain should not have had to comprehend. His son was so sweet but clearly confused and in pain from being raised by someone who I believe is truly evil to his core. It was devastating to see. The snap of my heart must have also snapped me back into reality when that sweet little boy said that, because I realized not long after that this was not at all the man I wanted my children around. This was not the healthy relationship I wanted to model for them.
It dawned on me then, FINALLY, just how sick the whole relationship had been from the very beginning, and how much damage I had already done and would only continue to do to my children and myself if I kept seeing him. It wasn’t easy to break away - the feelings were intense, which is right on par for a narcissist of this magnitude - but eventually I was able to extricate myself from this man’s demented grip completely.
I then immediately apologized to my children. They were just as much a victim
I was planning a whole future with this man, so in my mind I thought I was just trying to get everyone used to being around each other. I know it seems completely insane to think I was going to marry a man I just met, but if you have ever dealt with a true narcissist, then you know how convincing they can be.
of his as I was, and that is fully my fault. I felt terrible when I realized just how badly I had failed them as a parent by letting this monster into their lives without barely a second thought. I had:
– violated their safe space and caused them discomfort in their own home. They had to literally worry about bumping into a stranger on the way to the bathroom in the middle of the night. Teenage me couldn’t even fathom it.
– showed them that my feelings were more important than theirs. I knew my son wasn’t happy when he was over, but I just kept telling myself “he’ll come around.”
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S– trusted a complete stranger with my children. Shame on me. Seriously.
I am not sharing this story in judgment of parents who linger in toxic situations, nor is it to judge those in happy, healthy relationships they chose to share with their own children and families earlier than most would. It’s merely a cautionary tale for my fellow single parents, a warning to fully vet anyone you decide to allow near your child. Sometimes your heart and your head are saying two very different things, but in the end the ONLY option is to do what is right for your children.
Smugglers’ Notch
mugglers’ Notch Resort has been a premier winter destination for over 50 years, offering a family-friendly atmosphere that keeps guests returning year after year. Nestled in Vermont’s stunning Green Mountains, Smugglers’ Notch Resort promises an unmatched winter wonderland experience. Spanning over 1,000 acres of snow-covered mountain terrain, with trails designed for all ability levels, and 78 trails across three majestic mountains with convenient mountainside lodging, adventure is always just steps away.
Smuggs’ award-winning Snow Sport University (SSU) is recognized as one of the best in the country. Expert instructors teach children as young as 3, ensuring a fun and effective learning experience. This winter, Smuggs is the ideal place for little ones to make their first tracks and develop a lifelong
love for the sport. Smuggs guarantees fun— if guests aren’t satisfied, the resort offers a no-questions-asked refund.
With gentle beginner slopes, Wonder Carpet surface lifts, and easy-to-navigate terrain parks, Smugglers’ Notch has everything to help children feel comfortable on skis. The resort’s dedicated beginner areas allow fami-
lies to explore together without the pressure of advanced skiers.
Beyond skiing, Smugglers’ Notch offers a full array of winter activities, from snow tubing and ice skating to snowcat rides and hot cocoa by the fire. It’s a winter wonderland where skiing and riding are just part of an unforgettable family experience.
When it’s time to warm up, guests can enjoy indoor pools, hot tubs, and FunZone 2.0, complete with an arcade, climbing wall, and inflatables for kids.
For those seeking the perfect family vacation with big mountain adventures and savings, Smugglers’ Notch offers winter packages, including ski-and-stay deals. Whether for a family reunion, couples’ retreat, or solo getaway, Smugglers’ Notch has the perfect package.
For guests that want to be at the mountain on opening take advantage of their Thanksgiving Package. Visit smuggs.com/ vacation-packages for more information.
NYC Holiday Shopping
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It’s the holiday season in NYC, and no one does holidays better than we do! There are countless holiday markets around the city for people to not only get their shopping done but also to experience a unique winter wonderland like nowhere else in the world. Check out these festive holiday markets, and be sure to check newyorkfamily.com for updates as we add more fairs, markets and holiday fun all season long!
Manhattan Crafts at the Cathedral 1047 Amsterdam Avenue at 112th Street
Dec. 6 - 8
Crafts at the Cathedral offers a distinctive holiday shopping experience within the aweinspiring walls of the Cathedral of St. John the Divine. With over 85 artisans offering handcrafted items in ceramic, glass, wood, fabric, and jewelry, this market allows visitors to explore unique items while surrounded by the grandeur of one of the world’s largest Gothic cathedrals.
The Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park
Between 40th and 42nd Streets and Fifth and Sixth Avenues
Oct. 25- Jan. 5
Weekdays, 11 am- 8 pm
Sat.- Sun., 10 am- 8 pm
Known as Manhattan’s Winter Wonderland, the Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park is the pinnacle of holiday markets in NYC. The Winter Village includes free admission to the ice skating rink, and food and drinks. The Holiday Shops by Urbanspace are open-air markets inspired by those found in Europe and include almost 200 artisanal vendors. Other activities include a Curling Cafe & Bar, Cozy Igloos, and, of course, the tree lighting. While the holiday shops will only be around until Jan. 5, the winter village will be open through March 2.
Grand Central Holiday Fair
Vanderbilt Hall- Grand Central Terminal
89 E 42nd Street
Nov. 11 - Dec. 24
Mon.- Sat., 10 am- 7 pm, Sun. 11 am- 6 pm
Only a short walk away from Bryant Park (and always only a train ride away) is the Grand Central Holiday Fair. This event is a six-week-long celebration of small businesses that guarantees the best of NYC’s holiday cheer and talent. This year’s fair features a 6,000-square-foot indoor artisan market packed with unique handmade jewelry, pottery, amazing artwork, and more.
Columbus Circle Holiday Market
59th Street and Central Park West Dec. 3- 31
Mon. - Sat., 11 am-8 pm, Sun. 11 am- 7 pm Internationally known as one of the most beautiful and elegant places for holiday shopping, the Columbus Circle Holiday Market is back! This holiday market contains countless aisles of art, jewelry, home decor, and food all from local vendors, and is the perfect place to do all of your holiday shopping.
With over 160 vendors including local craftsmen, artists, and entrepreneurs, organizers say that this year will be better than ever! Each year, millions of people browse the aisles of this unique, eclectic holiday experience. There is something for everyone at Union Square.
Uptown Holiday Market
Jackie Robinson Bandshell
116 Bradhurst Avenue
Dec. 5-26, Thursdays, 4-10 pm
Embrace the holiday spirit at this holiday market which showcases local makers, crafters, and food vendors showcasing their one-of-akind offerings. Browse handmade items, savor delicious treats, and enjoy a lively community atmosphere while supporting local businesses.
Grand Holiday Bazaar
100 West 77th St at Columbus Avenue
Sundays, Dec. 1-22, 10 am- 5 pm
With over 300 amazing local artisans and dealers, the Grand Holiday Bazaar is the perfect place to find unique gifts you cannot find anywhere else! You’ll find one-of-a-kind handmade holiday decorations and gifts, candles, skincare, fashion, vintage accessories, handmade jewelry, rare antique silver and glassware, and tasty artisanal chocolates.
Renegade Craft Fair
Metropolitan Pavilion
125 W. 18th St.
Dec. 14 and 15
Sat. 11 am - 5 pm, Sun. 11 am - 5 pm
With over 180 talented artists showcasing their work, this event is the perfect place to explore a variety of handmade gifts that are perfect for the holiday season. Whether you’re looking for one-of-a-kind decorations, stylish accessories, or thoughtful presents, you’re sure to discover something special.
Brooklyn 7th Annual Wallabout Holiday Market
Brooklyn Navy Yard
141 Flushing Avenue
Dec. 7 and 8
The 7th Annual Wallabout Wonderland Holi-
day Market in Brooklyn Navy Yard features a winter wonderland-themed marketplace that brings the community together and supports small businesses. Shop for holiday gifts and enjoy a weekend of holiday cheer.
The Makers Show at City Point
445 Albee Square W
Nov 30 - Dec. 22
The Makers Show combines the idea of the retail market platform with values in social justice by promising a commitment to promoting equity and community investment through local markets. Founders Julie and Tiz believe in keeping resources within local economies, as well as amplifying businesses owned by BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, women, and other underrepresented groups.
DUMBO Holiday Market at the Brooklyn Flea
DUMBO Archway
80 Pearl Street
Saturdays and Sundays through Christmas 10 am-5 pm
Located at the Brooklyn Flea Market, during
the holiday season, Dumbo transforms into a winter wonderland shopping district that includes over 40+ vintage and handmade vendors. These vendors sell a variety of items that include, but are not limited to, antiques, clothing, art, jewelry, and more!
Holiday Market at Industry City
220 36th Street, Sunset Park
Nov. 25- Dec. 30
Mondays from 4 pm-10 pm
This festive holiday market comes to Brooklyn’s own Industry City. Local artisans, craftspeople, and food vendors will be on hand with a large selection of handmade goods, delicious seasonal treats, and unique offerings perfect for gift-giving.
FAD Market
Boerum Hill, Cobble Hill, DUMBO Weekends, Dec 7-Dec. 22, 11 am- 6 pm
With three locations at The Invisible Dog Art Center, St. Paul Catholic Church, and Empire Stores, the FAD Market is bringing the holiday spirit back to the BoCoCa neighborhood. These markets contain the
region’s most talented makers, designers, and entrepreneurs selling jewelry, apparel, bath and body care, home décor, handmade food items, and more.
Queens
BrickHouse Ceramics Holiday Market
10-34 44th Drive
Dec. 13 to 15, 5 pm
This unique holiday market in Long Island City offers a variety of handmade pottery for sale at affordable prices. Ceramic artists from all over New York participate and showcase their oneof-a-kind ceramic pieces. They can be a special gift for any art enthusiast in the family.
Bronx
Bronx Holiday Market at Fordham Plaza
1 Fordham Plaza
Saturdays, Nov. 30- Dec. 28, 4-10 pm
This fun, festive event features local artisans, craftspeople, and food vendors with all kinds of unique goodies. It’s a great chance to shop for one-of-a-kind gifts, enjoy tasty treats, and soak up the holiday spirit with family and friends.
Holiday Toy Drives
And other local donation opportunities
for the season
BY NEW YORK FAMILY
The holiday season is a wonderful time to show how thankful you are for life’s blessings by giving to those who are less fortunate. There are many ways to help those in need this year around the NYC metro area. Take a look at our guide to find out how you can help make a difference this holiday season.
NYC Mammas Give Back
601 West 26th Street, Suite M287
646-535-3055
This nonprofit helps pregnant women, families, and kids (ages 0–5) in the NYC area who are facing homelessness and poverty by providing essentials and support for pregnancy, postpartum care, and early childhood. You can donate right from their Amazon Wishlist, on their website via PayPal, or by mailing a check.
New York State of Mind (NYSoM)
888C 8th Avenue
NYSoM collects toys, children’s books, and supplies to benefit children and families during the holidays. These items will be distributed at NYSoM HolidayMania on Saturday, December 21. Suggested donations include new or used toys, children’s books, sports equipment, and school supplies, and can be picked up or dropped off.
Toys
for
Tots
– New York City
Various locations
Run by the U.S. Marine Corps, Toys for Tots collects and distributes toys to children in need during the holidays so they can experience the joys of the season. Visit the website to find local campaigns throughout the city or make a monetary donation.
Second Chance Toys
Various locations
Second Chance Toys offers multiple dropoff locations around the city for gently used plastic toys that are in good working condition.
Race to Deliver
Central Park
212-294-8100
Sunday, Nov. 24; 8 am
Join this 4-mile run/walk in Central Park to support God’s Love We Deliver, an organization that works to improve the health and well-being of individuals living with HIV/AIDS, cancer, and other serious illnesses by preparing and delivering nutritious, highquality meals.
Coalition for the Homeless
129 Fulton St.
212-776-2000
Help make the holidays brighter for homeless children by supporting the Coalition for the Homeless Toy Drive, a charity that distributes more than 5,000 gifts to boys and girls living in New York City shelters.
New York Cares
39 Broadway, 27th Fl.
212-228-5000
For the last 30 years, New York Cares has organized the city’s largest winter coat drive, gathering more than 1.8 million coats for those in need. For a map of drop-off locations where you can donate a warm coat
to someone in need, visit the website. The organization also offers many volunteer opportunities.
Ronald McDonald House
405 East 73rd Street
212-639-0100
The Ronald McDonald House provides accommodations for families whose children are receiving medical care at nearby hospitals. Monetary donations are accepted online.
New York Police and Fire Widows’ and Children’s Benefit Fund
4 World Trade Center, Floor 29, 150 Greenwich Street
646-731-9630
The New York Police and Fire Widows’ and Children’s Benefit Fund helps support the families of NYC Police Officers, Firefighters, Port Authority Police, and EMS personnel who have lost their lives on the job. Check out their website to find out how you can lend a hand or make a donation.
Citymeals on Wheels
355 Lexington Ave.
212-687-1234
Citymeals on Wheels serves to ensure elderly people in the community receive nutritious meals and the human connection they need to help them live independently. You can help support the program in a variety of ways, including delivering meals, creating handmade cards, or being a kitchen or officer helper.
DOROT
171 W 85 St. 212-769-2850
This organization helps seniors by providing an array of programs and services throughout New York City and Westchester. Youth and families can help by visiting elders at their homes to brighten their holidays, deliver holiday packages, and create birthday and holiday cards.
USPS Operation Santa
Various locations
Help grant the wishes of children in need who write letters to Santa through the U.S. Postal Service each year. Generous volunteers can “adopt” a letter, buy the item requested, and
bring it to the post office to pay to mail the gift to the child. Learn more about how to get involved on the website. Letter adoption begins Nov. 18.
Holiday Shoebox Appeal
New York Irish Center
1040 Jackson Avenue, Long Island City, Queens
December 7, 1-6 pm
In this annual day of action, volunteers meet to wrap gifts for underprivileged children. The goal is 1,000 gifts for 1,000 children.
Hance Family Foundation
130 Tulip Ave., Floral Park
November 1st through Dec. 18
After Warren and Jackie Hance lost their daughters, they created a lasting legacy in honor of their girls. The Hance Family Foundation offers programs to help communities, including a toy drive for children in need in Long Island, Queens, and Brooklyn. Drop-off sites are listed on the website where you can also make a monetary donation that will be used to buy gifts for children in need.
Little Essentials
74 Grand Avenue, #1C, Brooklyn 646-850-3611
This organization supports at-risk families living in poverty by providing essential children’s supplies and parenting education, promoting the health, well-being, and safety of children aged five years and younger. You can donate your time, money, or highneed items in via their lists on Amazon or Walmart.
CAMBA Holiday Toy Drive
Drop-off Locations to be announced
718-282-0108
718-287-2600
Drop-off Locations to be announced
This NYC-based nonprofit serves more than 65,000 people each year throughout the city. It works to improve the lives of New Yorkers through a variety of programs including homelessness prevention, supportive housing, and employment training. The organization also holds holiday toy drives for children living in Queens, Brooklyn, and Bronx shelters.
& Seek
Yourself FALL FOR AUTUMN
calendar
BY SHARA LEVINE
MANHATTAN
The Rink at Rockefeller Center
WHEN: See website for complete schedule
WHERE: Rockefeller Center, 45 Rockefeller Plaza, Midtown
AGES: All
WHAT: Lace up your skates and take a spin around the rink for a quintessential New York winter experience.
WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $21. rockefellercenter.com
Día de Muertos Celebration
WHEN: Friday, Nov. 1, 3 – 7 pm
WHERE: Flatiron North Plaza, 23rd St. at Fifth Ave., Flatiron District
AGES: All
WHAT: Celebrate Día de Muertos with a curated mix of Mexican folklore performances, an interactive community altar, face painting, and sugar skull decorating.
WANT TO GO?: Free. flatironnomad.nyc
Broadway Magic Hour
WHEN: Saturdays, Nov. 2 and 23, 2 – 3 pm.
WHERE: Broadway Comedy Club, 318 West 53rd St., Midtown
AGES: 6 and older
WHAT: Master magicians Jim Vines and Carl Mercurio bring you mind-boggling mysteries and hilarious comedy that combines magic and grand illusions.
WANT TO GO?: $25. broadwaymagichour.com
Big Apple Circus: Hometown Playground
WHEN: Nov. 8-Jan. 5, see website for complete schedule
WHERE: Damrosch Park at Lincoln Center, Amsterdam Ave. & W 62nd St., Upper West Side
AGES: 5 and up
WHAT: This all-new show celebrates the magic and excitement of the city that never sleeps with soaring acrobats, jaw-dropping stunts, comedic mischief, and the cutest performing dogs ever.
WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $44. bigapplecircus.com
Salon Du Chocolate NYC
WHEN: Nov. 8 – 10, FridaySunday, 11 am – 7 pm.
WHERE: Javits Center, 429 11th Ave., Chelsea
AGES: All
WHAT: Celebrate the world of chocolate with chocolatiers, artisans, pastry chefs, sample tastings, chocolate fashion, photo ops, and more.
WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $24. (212) 216–2000, salonduchocolatnyc.com
Laurie Berkner
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 9, 11 am
– 12:30 pm
WHERE: Adler Hall at New York Society for Ethical Culture, 2 W. 64th St. Upper West Side
AGES: All
WHAT: Award-winning recording artist Laurie Berkner, widely recognized as the uncrowned queen of children’s music, will have your family dancing in the aisles at this kiddie concert.
WANT TO GO?: $49-$100. laurieberkner.com
2024 New York City Veterans Day Parade
WHEN: Monday, Nov. 11, 12:30 – 3:30 pm
WHERE: The New York City Veterans Day Parade, 26th St. and Fifth Ave. to 48th St. & Fifth Ave. New York
AGES: All
WHAT: Marching bands, military units, veterans’ organizations, and more, come
together to pay homage to those who have sacrificed for our freedom.
WANT TO GO?: Free. uwvc.org
Wow in the World
Presents: Make It WOW!
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 16, 12 –1:30 pm
WHERE: Symphony Space, 2537 Broadway, Upper West Side
AGES: 5 – 12
WHAT: Packed with trivia, challenges, music, laughs, and lots of creativity, this show will keep the whole family tinkering together long after the performance!
WANT TO GO?: $45-$125. (212) 864–5400, symphonyspace. org
KIDZ BOP LIVE 2024
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 17, 4 pm
WHERE: Beacon Theatre, 2124 Broadway, Upper West Side
Big Apple Circus is back at Damrosch Park at Lincoln Center starting November 8.
AGES: All
WHAT: Sing and dance along to new songs, new choreography, and special effects!
WANT TO GO?: Tickets start at $55.35. msg.com
98th Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade
WHEN: Thursday, Nov. 28, 8:30 am – 12 pm
WHERE: Parade will pass Macy’s Herald Square, 151 W 34th St., Herald Square
AGES: All
WHAT: Giant balloons, fabulous floats, exciting entertainers & more are joining this all-star celebration of Thanksgiving!
WANT TO GO?: Free. macys. com
BRONX
Kids on the Move! Foliage Frolic
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 10, 1 – 2 pm
WHERE: Wave Hill, 4900 Independence Ave., Riverdale
AGES: 4 - 8
WHAT: Learn about the complex process of photosynthesis and how trees use, and lose, their leaves in the fall then take part in a leaf inspired family yoga class.
WANT TO GO?: $4-$10. (718) 549–3200, wavehill.org
Holiday Train Show
WHEN: Tuesdays – Sundays, 10 am – 6 pm through Jan. 20
WHERE: New York Botanical Garden, 2900 Southern Blvd., Fordham
AGES: All
WHAT: Enter a winter wonderland featuring model locomotives and trolleys traveling through a mini city of familiar local architecture.
of your favorite Brooklyn authors and illustrators, listen to readings, watch artists sketch, get books signed, and participate in book-related art projects.
WANT TO GO?: Free. (718) 638–5000, brooklynmuseum. org
Lightscape
WHEN: Nov. 22-Jan. 5, see website for schedule
WHERE: Brooklyn Botanic Garden, 1000 Washington Ave., Crown Heights
AGES: All
WHAT: This one-of-a-kind winter light show takes
advantage of the natural beauty of Brooklyn Botanic Garden to create a magical, otherworldly experience in the winter Garden.
WANT TO GO?: $24-$45 for adults; $12-$23 for children. bbg.org
Jalopy Theatre Presents: Family Music for Food Bank
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 23, 11 am – 1 pm
WHERE: Jalopy Theatre, 315 Columbia St., Carroll Gardens
AGES: All
WHAT: Join Suzi Shelton, Esther Crow, and other children’s musicians for this FUNdraiser for hungry NYC families!
WANT TO GO?: $10; $5 kids. (718) 395–3214, jalopytheatre. org
QUEENS
Cirque Kalabanté: Afrique en Cirque
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 3, 3 –4:30 pm
AGES: All
WHAT: This high-energy production transports families into a realm that combines traditional African arts with North American modern circus performance.
WHAT: This immersive spectacular will have you exploring a glowing Amazon rainforest, solving puzzles, playing interactive games, and winning prizes.
WANT TO GO?: $22-$35. tianyuculture.us
Laurie Berkner visits Adler Hall at New York Society for Ethical Culture on November 9. The Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade returns on November 28.
Meet New NYC Schools Chancellor
Melissa Aviles-Ramos
By Danielle Ramos
Parents of children in New York City public schools learned there would be a change in leadership during a press conference on September 25. 2024 when Melissa Aviles-Ramos was introduced as the new NYC Schools Chancellor. In an unusual move, the announcement came months before she was set to start the job, and shortly after news broke that Schools Chancellor David Banks would be retiring at the end of 2024. However, Banks announced on October 2. 2024 that he would leave his position on October 16, 2024 instead and Melissa AvilesRamos will take over then.
Who is Melissa Aviles-Ramos?
In the months to come, New York City parents will surely learn a lot more about the
new school chancellor, but for now, here is a sneak peek.
Aviles-Ramos is a dedicated educator with a homegrown yet diverse background that spans multiple roles and responsibilities within the New York City Public Schools system. Though she’s held various roles within New York City Department of Education, her roots began in the classroom.
Her career in education began in 2007 when she started as an English teacher at Harry S. Truman High School in the Co-op City section of the Bronx. There she quickly demonstrated her passion for teaching and her commitment to student success. Over the years, she worked her way up through various leadership positions, ultimately becoming an assistant principal and then a principal.
During her tenure as principal, she achieved notable results. She boosted
graduation rates by an impressive 60 percent in just two years.
In addition, Aviles-Ramos holds the position of the highest-ranking Latina and Spanish-speaking official in New York City Public Schools. She currently works as the deputy chancellor for family and community engagement and external affairs.
A native New Yorker, Aviles-Ramos knows what it’s like to be a school kid in New York City navigating the challenges that come with it. Growing up in the Soundview area of the Bronx, she had a modest upbringing and was raised by a Puerto Rican single mother.
As the first person in her family to finish high school and go to college, she faced plenty of challenges along the way. Those experiences in a resource-limited environment inspired her to fight for access and opportunities for students and families in the city. Consequently, she’s committed to making sure that every child, no matter their background, has a chance to not only succeed in school but to excel.
In an interview with CBS News, AvilesRamos outlined her main focus. “Our priority is for kids to read, do math, be safe, and have access to amazing programs and opportunities that are going to lead to success after graduation,” she explained. “I can’t imagine anyone not prioritizing those things.”
She has plans for addressing school safety and as a mom of a public school student, she relates to the concerns. As a principal, she was in charge of school safety and worked to provide a safe environment for her students and teachers. “It currently is and will remain a top priority in this administration,” says Aviles-Ramos. “As chancellor, it’s my responsibility to make sure that we are working closely with our community leaders, with our families, to really define what safety looks like.”
In addition to safety, Aviles-Ramos emphasizes the importance of supporting teachers. “When we center teacher support, kids win,” she says. “That’s what is important to me.”
The incoming schools chancellor believes that by empowering educators with the resources and training they need, schools can create a more positive and effective learning environment, ultimately benefiting all students. By focusing on teamwork, safety, and creativity, she wants to create a school culture where both students and teachers can thrive.
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