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BY JUDITH ISH-KISHOR
Chanukah I think most dear
Of all the feasts of all the year. I could sit and watch all night Every twinkling baby light.
Celebrating Hanukkah With Comfort, Joy and Lights!
Hanukkah is my favorite time of year. It is winter, brisk and dark early when all the radiance reveals itself —the brilliant stars, the twinkling fairy lights in shops and restaurants, the colorful Christmas lights everywhere, and the eight evenings of glowing menorah candles. There is such a comfort in these spectacles, a beauty and serenity that bring a peaceful joy.
Our Hanukkah issue is all about lights, comfort and joy. The City Lights installation in the East Village’s Quartyard is an immersive walk-through celebration. This brilliant, innovative creation brings the wintry nights alive with a plethora of breathtaking luminescence that will warm your spirit with its beauty.
And if you’d like to really see all the stars there are to see, there is no place better than the desert. A winter trek to the Anza-Borrego Desert State Park with its myriad of daytime adventures ends with a night sky so wondrous and blazing you won’t look at it ever again in quite the same way. You’ve created a dazzling memory.
If you’re dreaming of a warm, cozy, idyllic cruise, there is a Venetian wonderland to experience in Coronado with The Gondola Company, a luminous evening gondola cruise through the languid canals of the Coronado Cays. Whether it be a romantic date or a friends and family get-together, the resplendence will fill your heart.
And for those of us truly in need of some comfort, there is the welcoming atmosphere of the Safe Parking Program’s overnight lots. During the winter nights, the glowing lights of the safe lots beckon those looking for comfort and companionship and open their arms. While there, with the basic needs of safety and security met, perhaps some lovely, enveloping stargazing can happen, something that connects us all.
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Our Town
by Linda Bennett and Emily Bartell
Always a remarkable event, we were so delighted to attend the 15th Annual American Friends of the Hebrew University (AFHU) Bel Aire Affaire. Celebrating “We Are One,” the evening’s program at the stunning Papillon Estate in Beverly Hills created an atmosphere of closeness that truly invoked the evening’s theme. Over 250 were in attendance and raised over $2.5 million! Event Chairs, Joyce Brandman, Renae JacobsAnson & Dr. David Anson, and Helen Jacobs-Lepor & Dr. Norman Lepor created a truly remarkable affair, featuring special surprise guests, the multi-award recipient and legendary producer, David Foster and accomplished actress and noted singer Katharine McPhee. With pride and admiration, AFHU honored Melina & Eric Esrailian with the Humanitarian Torch of Learning Award. Others enjoying this memorable event were May & Richard Ziman, Ruth Flinkman-Marandy & Ben Marandy, Patricia Glaser and Sam Mudie, Marcy & Daniel Schlessinger, William Isacoff, and Roberta & Stanley Bogen
Seacrest Foundation Guardians of San Diego presented their 32nd Annual Golf, Tennis, Pickleball & Spa Day, “Take A Swing For Seniors,” on Oct. 28 at the Park Hyatt Aviara Resort & Golf Club. It was a sensational program benefitting the Seacrest Village Retirement Communities. Presenting Sponsor William Gumpert Foundation, Gala Committee Chair Robert Haimsohn, along with the Gala Committee, truly out did
themselves in creating a superb event, which was only enhanced by its gorgeous surroundings. We had such a fabulous time and loved seeing so many others on the scene, like Marty Erlich, Larry Weitzen, Cindy Bloch, Jerri-Ann Jacobs, Bonnie Foster, Bob Haimsohn, Mary Epsten, and Charles Wax
Mazel Tov to Carli & Jeff Deitel on the birth of their son, Ethan Sean, born on Sept. 30 in San Diego. Proud Grandparents are Perri Wittgrove, Irene & Stuart Deitel of New Jersey, and Alan Wittgrove
Mazel Tov to Lorraine Zukerman, on the birth of her 18th great-grandchild, Eleanor Berlin. Parents are Ashley & Matt Berlin. Eleanor also has two older siblings, Evelyn (13yrs), and Ezra (22 mos).
Mazel Tov to Lexington on becoming a Bat Mitzvah on Sept. 28. Officiated by Rabbi Ian Adler, Lexi’s parents, Samantha & Daniel Greene, Grandparents Roberta & Norman Greene, Shelley Mann, and Cozette & Stan Mann, along with younger sibling, Jaxson, all looked on with pride.
Mazel Tov to Ron & Cathi Marx on the engagement of their daughter Tovah to Bryce Hoffman
Mazel Tov to Rabbi Marty & Anita Lawson on the engagement of their daughter, Bethami, to Joshua Chaiton, son of Dr. Abraham and the late Sue Chaiton (z’l).
Mazel Tov to Pam & Walter Ferris on the marriage of their son, Drew Ferris to Juliana Munoz, on June 24. Juliana’s parents are Dr. Mirza & Luciana Raheem of Rancho Santa Fe.
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After a tough year, Jewish cookbook author Jessica Seinfeld finds sweetness — without sugar
by Rachel Ringler, JTA News
Seinfeld, who has worn her Jewish identity publicly since Oct. 7, shares 100 healthy-ish desserts in her new cookbook, “Not Too Sweet.”
She’s been married to her husband, Jewish comedy icon Jerry Seinfeld, since 1999, and, in addition to raising their three children — Sascha, 24,
Julian, 21, and Shepherd, 19 — she’s written six cookbooks, including “Not Too Sweet: 100 Dessert Recipes for Those Who Want More with Just a Little Less,” which is out Tuesday. She also recently produced a documentary, “Daughters,” released in August, that shines a light on how incarceration impacts prisoners and their children.
Thousands of Non-Jews Order Mezuzahs after a Pro-Israel Christian Puts One on Her Door in Solidarity by
Jackie Hajdenberg, JTA News
A Jewish nonprofit that distributes mezuzahs has been deluged with thousands of requests after a Catholic sitcom actress launched a campaign encouraging people to put up the ritual object in support of the Jewish community.
Patricia Heaton, known for her starring roles in “Everybody Loves Raymond” and “The Middle,” announced the campaign as part of her nonprofit, The October 7 Coalition, a Christian group founded after the Hamas attack in Israel last year.
A Black artist and a Jewish artist mock the KKK in a new Jewish Museum show
by Andrew Silow-Carroll, JTA News
Mel Brooks, who mocked Adolf Hitler in his 1967 black comedy “The Producers,” has always made the case for satire as a weapon against tyranny.
“You have to bring him down with ridicule,” he told “60 Minutes” in 2001. “It’s been one of my lifelong
jobs — to make the world laugh at Adolf Hitler.”
Of course, Hitler was long dead and there were 6 million fewer Jews on the planet when “The Producers” came out. Before and during World War II, satire proved a futile weapon
against the Fuhrer: Charlie Chaplin made “The Great Dictator” in 1940, similarly reducing Hitler to a buffoon. But by the time the movie premiered, nearly 3 million German troops had smashed into France, Belgium, Luxembourg and the Netherlands.
LIVING ON THE FRONT PAGE
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Mundane and Miracles
From the outside looking in, one might imagine that we are hunkering in safe rooms for most of the workday. When forced outside into the elements, we sidle alongside stone buildings, rapidly darting in and out of whatever obligatory appointments we may have because that is how the Western media has portrayed our current vibe. News addict that I am, I can’t help but skim five or six headlines from online papers and check out a few television news shows each day. Israel appears wartorn, bleak and joyless, with real life ‘on hold’ until a cessation of hostilities. Abandoned by international air carriers and tour companies, why would the average non-resident think otherwise?
Sitting in the very upscale shopping mall at Hadassah Ein Kerem, I forgot for an hour or so that there is a war being waged mere minutes from my Jerusalem home in every direction. Having just completed my regular clinic procedure, I contemplated indulging in some very overdue retail therapy. Right next to the mani/pedi spa, my favorite shoe store was having a 50% off sale and I really needed some new black dress flats. My husband meets me with a beautifully packaged tray of dried fruits that he can never resist and proceeds to check out the restaurants. “Do you want sushi or shawarma?” he asks, pretending that it doesn’t matter to him while knowing that I will say ‘shawarma’ because he hates sushi. He puts in our order and waits for his
number to be called while I run into the pharmacy for a new gel eyeliner and some hair glaze.
It is still early in the evening when we drive home. Although the weather is growing increasingly cold at night — most days are still warm and sunny — a magnificent catering hall near my home that overlooks the walls of the Old City has erected a beautiful floral chuppah (wedding canopy) for what is certain to be a lavish event tonight. I catch a glimpse of the lovely bride posing for photos amidst the trees and breathtaking skyline. It feels so familiar. So happy and hopeful. So Israel.
secular, yearns for a respite from myriad heartaches that sit one or two buildings away from every one of us. We all have soldiers. It all weighs so much, the futility of defending ourselves from the pointed fingers of those who both vilify us and rewrite our role in a war that was ferociously imposed upon us.
I’m tired, but there are still two or three items on my to-do list. As always, Ronney shuts the bedroom door, and I hear sounds of the Netvision shows he relies upon to fall asleep. Car crashes, muddled explosions, and unmistakable Korean dialogue. I sip a cup of tea and make a menu and corresponding shopping list for our annual Hanukkah brunch. The dog needs a walk, so I pull on a sweatshirt that my husband had casually thrown over a dining room chair.
The street seems unusually quiet tonight despite it being a Thursday. It is then that I remember. We are at war. People are home. Shabbos is coming, and everyone, Torah observant and
I cannot imagine how we will be on the other side of this chapter. All of us have changed, but the parts of us that remain the same are what makes life here so magical. Israelis are passionate and vulnerable, short-tempered and lighthearted. We understand that time isn’t guaranteed, and there is a fragility in even the most mundane moments. This delicate ballet of the Israeli experience forms a tapestry of determination and inexplicable hope.
The dog has finished her business, and we return home. A border patrol jeep passes by, blue and red lights flashing, and in the distance, I faintly hear joyous music coming from the wedding. A
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A Matter of Time
As long as there has been technology, there have also been people dreaming about what the future might be. As far back as Jules Verne’s description of a moon launch, including the location in southern Florida and season of the year, authors have been making surprisingly accurate predictions, often decades in advance. A more recent writer giving possible visions of the future is the multi-talented author, musician and media theorist Paul Levinson.
Born in the Bronx in 1947, Levinson came of age during the science fiction craze of the 1950s. When Levinson was a boy, black and white matinees on massive screens promoted with shameless gimmicks were the order of the day, and something that helped to guide the way Levinson would do things.
While many visionaries managed to make up their predictions by projecting their observations or pure imagination, some, such as the hard scientist Issac Asimov and futurist Arthur C. Clarke, had more of a basis for their futuristic forecasts. Levinson belonged more in this latter group, being a trained journalist and doctor of media theory, earning an M.A. in journalism from NYU in 1976, where he also got his Ph.D in media theory in 1979. His doctoral thesis, titled “Evolution of Media,” was so good it made the rounds and was mentioned by already-established theorists, including Neil Postman, the hysterical alarmist who warned of the allegedly devastating impacts of television on
More optimistic... Levinson has always been willing to take innovation as it is, and meet it on his own terms.
society in his 1985 book “Amusing Ourselves to Death.”
In addition to his lengthy writing career, starting in force in 1988, Levinson is also a professor of media studies at Fordham University, beginning in 1998.
Sticking with his academic background at first, Levinson’s first published credit in 1982 was as an editor and contributor to a tribute to the Austrian-British Philosopher Karl Popper titled “In Pursuit of Truth: Essays on the Philosophy of Karl Popper on the Occasion of his 80th Birthday.”
His first solo work came six years later with 1988’s “Mind At Large: Knowledge in the Technological Age.” Published six years before the launch of the public internet, Levinson makes one of the first documented attempts to cope with
the rapid development of information technology in the late 1980s, essentially beginning with the first consumer-grade home computers in 1984.
It was followed five years later by a collection of his columns about the rapid change in both media and society at the height of the dot-com boom, titled “Electronic Chronicles: Columns On the Changes in Our Time,” released in 1992.
More optimistic than Postman and his doomsaying ilk, Levinson has always been willing to take innovation as it is and meet it on its own terms, an attitude reflected in his 1995 book “Learning Cyberspace: Essays on the Evolution of Media and the New Education.”
More theoretical and observational work followed at a rate of one every few years for the rest of the 1990s until, in 1999, Levinson made a sudden switch into fiction with his novel, “The Silk Code.” The title a play on the Silk Road trade route between Europe and Asia, “The Silk Code” is a cryptic mystery with a touch of the metaphysical. The plot follows a New York-based forensic investigator who has to solve the ‘Silk Code,’ an enigmatic puzzle dating back to the beginning of time to save many lives, including his own.
Keeping up a fairly consistent publishing schedule, it was only two years until his next novel, “Borrowed Tides,” was published in 2001. Levinson’s first true piece of futurist fiction, the plot takes place in 2029 and follows a mostly mad group of intellectuals who
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bamboozle the government into sending them on a potentially suicidal one-way trip to the earth-like planet near Alpha Centauri that was actually discovered in 2016.
Wasting no time, Levinson went on to publish “The Consciousness Plague” the next year. The second book featuring Phil D’Amato, who was first introduced in “The Silk Code,” the plot is an intriguing hybrid of science fiction and mystery that sees D’Amato tracing the source of a shocking rash of memory loss that seems to be rooted in the origins of human consciousness itself.
The very picture of prolificness, Levinson made another offering in 2003, releasing “The Pixel Eye.” The third Phil D’Amato novel, the plot mixes “1984” with the “Global War on Terror,”
adding a dash of characteristically Jewish humor when, against the backdrop of a newly minted securitystate in New York City, he is called in to investigate the disappearance of squirrels from Central Park.
Levison’s next effort, “The Plot to Save Socrates,” took a bit longer than before, not appearing until 2006. His first foray into both time-travel fiction and alternative history, the main character, Sierra Waters, is a graduate student in 2042 who, as the title proclaims, gets the chance to save the philosopher Socrates from his infamous execution by hemlock.
Taking a bit of a breather, it was 2013 before Levinson released “Unburning Alexandria,” giving Sierra Waters the chance to prevent another historical tragedy. It was followed immediately
by “Chronica” in 2014, in which Sierra discovers the consequences of her actions in the past.
His most recent work, “It’s Real Life: An Alternative History of the Beatles” released in 2024, shows how things could have been very different indeed, based on a series of unusual events surrounding the Fab Four. A
Growing up in the far north, Trevor James McNeil had little to do other than read when the temperature went below 40 Celsius, and he developed an affinity for stories of all sorts. Graduating from the University of Victoria in 2009, he has been reading and writing in a professional capacity since. He lives in a cabin in the woods with his dog, and firmly believes The Smiths would have been better as a trio.
The New Year Sees Brilliant, Blinding Lights
by Makayla Hoppe
For over 20 years, artist Ben Guerrette has been lighting up the Southern California art scene with spectacular visual and audio installations. This winter, his newest installation is “City Lights,” a “reimagined reality where light, sound, and urban culture converge.”
Described as a walkable journey, “City Lights” is a 50-minute experience that moves through six different zones. Using lasers, projection, LED sculpture and reactive video, the experience is a blend of sights and sounds representing city life.
“We have this story that we’re working around that’s kind of an homage to the underground rave scene of the 90s,” Ben said. “You’re trying to find your friends and go out at night, and you’re
looking for the party. When you enter, you walk into what we’re calling the park. You walk through all the different experiences, and you’ll eventually end up at the final area, which is a big stage experience, and you’ve found the party and your friends.”
Held at Quartyard in the East Village, the installation is a joint development between Ben and Quartyard Managing Partner Justin Navalle. The space serves as an eatery, beer garden, music venue and coffee shop, and this winter, it will be transformed with Ben’s art.
“Justin and Nico and the rest of the team at Quartyard are very focused on supporting artists and creating a platform for artists to create something unique and interesting, which speaks to me as an artist,” Ben said. “And as
someone who’s also trying to support other artists in whatever way I can, their vision—our vision—is very much aligned. I think it’s one of the coolest venues.”
Ben and Justin met after one of Ben’s showcases, and the two hit it off. Over several weeks, the two worked together to develop a new and innovative piece.
“After an hour’s conversation, we literally just came up with an immersive event in Quartyard, one that’s never been done before,” Ben said. “It doesn’t feel like something that has been done or explored, at least in the realm that we’re going for in San Diego. So, we just wanted to do something crazy and create something unique.”
“City Lights” is also being used as an opportunity to elevate other artists around the region.
“A big part of this is supporting local artists that maybe haven’t had this kind of opportunity and giving them a canvas to showcase some of their work,” Ben said. “Kyle Stewart is a friend of mine; he’s going to be doing a motion-reactive or interactive projection piece. My friend Tim Gmeiner is a musician working on a couple of different audio pieces. Robert Blume, who actually has a shop in OB called Connect, has some cool sculptures that have sort of a city vibe to them. And then an artist, Brian Goodwin, who is a content and projecting artist, will be doing visuals for the stage piece.”
Ben got his start in this art form after working at live music events near where he grew up in Connecticut.
“This specific journey, as it relates to immersive art, stems from doing
We wanted to do something crazy and create something unique.
projection work for festivals and electronic music events going back to the late 90s and early 2000s,” he said. “I spent a lot of time playing a role in live music events, from helping to organize them, to doing projections, to performing, to DJing, and kind of just a very broad spectrum there. I took some of the projection experience to some smaller events in New York and eventually moved to Los Angeles in 2004.”
Since 2012, Ben has called San Diego home and has loved discovering and helping develop the art scene here.
“It was hard not to trip over [everyone] in LA, and I think it took me a little more time to find different artist communities in San Diego,” he said.
“It feels like over the last three years
or so, there’s an explosion happening in San Diego; a lot of creative people from the music space, the fine art space and the performance space who are just creating, and it seems to be this renaissance, perhaps just a lot of people with a lot of energy wanting to produce and get together. And there are just so many cool events now; it’s hard not to want to go out all the time.”
“City Lights” runs from Dec. 6, 2024 through Jan. 19, 2025. If you’re looking for something engaging and aweinspiring, check out Quartyard and see what these skilled artists have to offer. A
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The number one issue is lack of affordable housing.
The JFS Safe Parking Program is a Winner
by Susan Edelstein
Jewish Family Service of San Diego was founded in 1918 and is one of the most impactful organizations in the county, providing care and assistance to more than 70,000 people each year. JFS is a people-centered nonprofit committed to a single, shared goal — helping people in need to move forward and making families and our whole community stronger.
Among the many programs and support services offered is the Safe Parking Program, which operates seven nights a week, 365 days a year, in six
locations throughout San Diego County where individuals and families living out of their vehicles can park in safety and sleep feeling secure.
Lack of Affordable Housing
The causes of homelessness are many: loss of a job or a partner, illness or injury, domestic violence, and the fact that everything costs way more today than people can afford, especially housing.
Nichole McCune, co-director of Safe Parking Program and manager of four of the county’s six lots, says housing is the
biggest challenge facing the SPP’s nightly guests. “The number one issue is the lack of affordable housing for our guests.
Unfortunately, there is a much bigger need than available units. Housing is very expensive, and there are many barriers to (re)entry, including the first and last months’ rent deposits, income requirements, credit requirements and more.”
For many people experiencing the loss of a home for the first time, the only thing they have that can help to maintain some comfort is their car. If they can keep their vehicle, there is a way to get to work and get kids to school, but how to keep safe at night is an overwhelming worry.
The Safe Parking Program ends that worry and helps with so much more. The lots are clean, safe, gated and guarded, and there is staff on hand to greet and
assist the guests. Basic needs are met first. At the Balboa Avenue location, there is a clean, bright, modern market reminiscent of Trader Joe’s, where fresh food and many other everyday necessities (like diapers and toothpaste) are in abundance. Outside the market is a welcoming spot with tables and chairs where people can sit, relax and nourish. Next to this is a place for children to play; there are outside toys and sidewalk chalk. Pets are also welcome here.
Full bellies and a moment’s rest at the end of the day, just watching kids play or petting the dog, are simple pleasures that most of us take for granted. The restrooms are new and spacious, with baby stations where your baby is safe and visible while you shower. There is comfort and dignity in being able to get ready for work, get the kids ready for
school and feel like you’re part of a group of worthy people all striving to get back on their feet and into stable housing.
Length of Stay in Program
The length of time guests spend in the program before securing housing can vary. “Every person in the Safe Parking Program has a unique situation, and we make a plan with them based on their circumstances,” says Nichole. “The average length of stay varies greatly as some guests are disabled or seniors on a fixed income waiting for an affordable housing unit, while some guests just need a temporary place to stay for three to four months to save money to enter back into more stable housing. Challenges guests often face include a low-volume of available, affordable rental units or
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a low credit score that prohibits someone from meeting income requirements for a rental agreement, especially when they require two or three times the monthly rent.”
Trailers for Families
The Rose Canyon location has trailers where families can stay. Norma, a mother I spoke with, and her husband have seven children, and they stayed in a Rose Canyon trailer for three months while waiting for a house. When their living conditions in LA became unbearable, Norma found the Safe Parking Program online, and because her mother and brother live in San Diego, they decided to move south. In the trailer, they could cook and bathe, and the children stayed in school online. Norma’s husband found work quickly but continues to seek more permanent, full-time work.
The family has moved into a sevenbedroom house and all are thriving. The kids all have their own bedrooms, except the two boys who share. Household needs like beds and bedding, kitchen supplies, including a refrigerator and other furniture, have been donated through many sources, such as Walmart. The kids are now in schools they love: Lincoln High School, Millennial Tech Middle, and an elementary school right across the street. Living close to her mother and brother means a lot to Norma, and the family gets together almost every weekend for BBQs. Norma’s mother is able to help out with the children. Clothing and school supplies are still pressing needs, but Norma is so grateful for their new stability and says, “It feels like a long way from homelessness. It feels like success, a blessing.”
Safety, Support...Success
At the Balboa Avenue location, daytime staff leave at 5:30 p.m. and guests begin arriving at 6:00 p.m. Program team members talk with the guests and case managers figure out the next steps for individuals and families. The goal of the team members and volunteers
is to meet people where they are and solve problems one at a time until stable housing is secured. The program provides for medical needs and family wellness, helps with employment and school success, and offers financial education from opening a bank account to benefits applications to credit repair. The program will even help with car payments and repairs. The ultimate goal is always a return to stability.
“The Safe Parking Program team works with each participant to determine their housing needs and what they are eligible for. Some just need help reconnecting with a relative who can help support them. For others, JFS collaborates with guests to find stable employment, increase savings and credit scores by providing financial literacy education, assist with housing navigation for section 8, rapid rehousing, room rentals and non-subsidy units,” says Nichole. “In general, JFS provides supportive services to participants to create a pathway out of homelessness.”
The program has its rules: Participants must be 18+ or minors accompanied by adult caregivers. JFS case managers meet with clients individually over the phone and screen
for eligibility in advance of any entry to the lot. Those interested must have a working vehicle and must follow the program guidelines for basic health and safety. The overnight lots’ hours are 6:00 p.m. to 7:00 a.m. Participants come in during entry hours, and can leave at any time. The lots in Mission Valley and Rose Canyon are open 24/7. Drug and/ or alcohol use is not permitted in the Safe Parking Program. All adults are run through the Megan’s Law database and the National Sex Offender Registry.
Nichole shared what she finds most rewarding about her job. “I love to work with our guests and increase their quality of life — from helping guests to feel like they have a safe place to stay free from stigma and harm to providing meals and vital resources. Our team celebrates each family and individual that we are able to assist with stable re-housing. As of June 2024, the program has assisted more than 5,200 individuals and 3,800 households since its start in January 2018. I’m really proud that, to date, more than one-third of participants have moved into more secure housing.”
I agree with Norma, the JFS Safe Parking Program feels like success and a blessing. A
A trailer at the Rose Canyon location.
One People With One G-d, One Torah & One Land
by Rabbi Yeruchem Eilfort
By the time this is published, the final results of the recent election will have become official. Baruch Hashem! What a tremendous relief! And no, I am not referring to any particular race or ballot measure passing or failing. Rather, I have come to face each subsequent election cycle more apprehensively than the last. Is it just me, or does each successive election seem to be more contentious than the last? The level of hysteria, rhetoric and hyperbole goes north, while the level of mutual respect and (dare I say it?) love declines.
Yes! I am speaking to YOU. Each of us is mutually responsible for each other, and if a negative is detected, it is up to us to address it and work on improving it. How? By modeling behavior that is appropriate, instructive and inspirational.
Our Mothers and Fathers left us a legacy of feeling responsible not only for each other, but for the world at large.
We recently began our yearly cycle of “living with the times, the Weekly Torah portion.” As such, we are currently “living with” our beloved Patriarchs and Matriarchs.
Personally, I absolutely adore this part of the yearly narrative. I continue to be profoundly inspired by the loving kindness of Abraham and Sarah, the intense spirituality and self-refinement of Isaac and Rebecca, and of the nationbuilding under the most challenging of circumstances of Jacob and Rachel, Leah, Bilhah and Zilpah.
Our Mothers and Fathers left us a legacy of feeling responsible not only for each other, but for the world at large. They demonstrated, through their actions, how to make a positive impact on the world. Was their mission an easy one to accomplish? Not at all! In fact, it was fraught with difficulties and tests. But somehow, they managed to transform those tests into opportunities for growth and catalysts to accomplish real, positive change in their surroundings.
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One People
That ability and drive is found in each of us; it is in our DNA. It is why the Jewish people are born activists. It is why we continually feel the need to challenge the status quo, to not rest until we are satisfied that even the poorest stranger among us is properly cared for. But having the drive is not nearly enough. It behooves us to channel that drive, directing it in positive paths. Like a river that has overflowed its banks, an unchanneled drive is dangerous and destructive.
No, we must combine our drive with discretion, differentiating between worthy endeavors as opposed to destructive pursuits. In this case, good intentions are not enough. We must learn to judge the tree by the wholesomeness of the actual fruit it produces. If our driving energy leads us to burn down buildings or to dehumanize those who think differently, we can rest assured that
We must ascribe to all good intentions, not only when we agree, but especially when we disagree.
we are on the wrong path. We must walk the narrow line of respecting everyone and tolerating dissenting opinions while at the same time remaining true to the ideals, ethics and morals of the Torah. We must always take the high road.
We see this approach modeled by our Patriarchs and Matriarchs. The world of
politics, which is by definition divisive, should not be our driving motivation on a daily basis. The purpose of an election is to create one out of many. The many voices weigh in, and then, when the votes are counted and the majority found, we rejoin with each other as one people to work towards a better world. We must ascribe to all good intentions, not only when we agree but especially when we disagree.
Interestingly, the Torah does not tell us Abraham’s feelings toward the ascension of Avimelech to the throne. Abraham concerned himself with other things — bringing Heaven down to earth knowing that immersion in politics would hinder his true calling.
Now, let us reinvigorate our devotion to G-d, to His Torah, to His Land, and to His People, and create One from the many! A
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The Gondola Company — A Little Venice in Coronado
by Susan Edelstein
inter sunsets in San Diego are spectacular, and we found the perfect place to savor the moments. Evoking the grandeur, romance and adventure of Venice is the 25-year-old company offering gondola cruises through the canals of the Coronado Cays, The Gondola Company. Sean Jamieson founded the company in 1999 with the goal of bringing the enchanting atmosphere of traditional Venetian gondola cruises to San Diego. The beauty and serenity of the Coronado Cays canals create a relaxing, magical experience, especially at this time of year. The bounty of lights sparkle, and there is a feeling of wonder and of memories being made. There is an array of cruises to choose from, which are personalized for the guests. Sounds like a lovely way to spend a winter evening during the holiday of lights.
SDJJ was enchanted by The Gondola Company and had a few questions for owner/founder Sean Jamieson, which he graciously answered.
SDJJ: When were you first bewitched by the gondolas of Venice?
Sean Jamieson: My first trip to Venice was in May of 1994. I went with friends from my hometown of Long Beach to participate in a Venetian regatta called the Vogalonga. No cars! It was awesome. In addition, the food, the wine and the people were really great.
SDJJ: What made you believe you could replicate such a special thing in San Diego?
SJ: I’ve been around water all my life. I know getting people in or on the water automatically makes most people more calm and happy. I thought putting one of the most recognizable and photographed boats in the world in a place where people love to be outside and get on the water would probably get a positive response. There are plenty of other boats to get on in San Diego that are great, but getting on a gondola in a canal makes you feel like you’re thousands of miles from home.
SDJJ: How did you decide on the canals of the Coronado Cays as the perfect spot for this adventure?
SJ: Every time I see a canal, I think about gondolas. It doesn’t matter where; a little canal-shaped pond in a mall or a narrow aqueduct along the side of the road, I think gondola. It’s not just the gondola that is awesome; it’s the canal that makes the gondola the right boat for the area. The gondola and location are what make it feel like you’re on a little vacation.
SDJJ: Which of your five offered cruises is your favorite?
SJ: I like what we offer for different reasons. My favorite time for a couple’s gondola cruise is what we call the “Pasaporto Notte Gondola Cruise.”
With the sun gone, I think it’s always more romantic and frequently there are fewer people out, and it’s usually calmer
waters. I also really like our Caorlina Cruises. It’s the party boat, so it’s not as romantic, but there is a lot of guest interaction.
SDJJ: Are you a gondolier?
SJ: Yes, I’ve been rowing gondolas since 1993. These days however, I spend more time with other aspects of the gondola service: operations, coordination, bookkeeping, maintenance, etc.
SDJJ: How many wedding proposals would you say The Gondola Co. has witnessed?
SJ: Over the 25 years, we’ve probably seen 600 plus proposals.
SDJJ: Besides Valentine’s Day, which is your busiest time of year?
SJ: July through mid-November. When it’s hot inland and nice on the coast, people love to get on the water. That’s
also the wedding season, which means lots of married couples are celebrating anniversaries in those months. Late September through mid-November, we have the most colorful sunsets.
SDJJ: Which is the most memorable cruise of your career and why?
SJ: Anytime we know someone is intending to propose, those are the most significant. Not because anything is different, but as a gondolier, you experience some of the anxiety. You are really wanting the proposal to be successful, and hoping everything goes well. Once it does, the little bit of stress is lifted, and everyone is happy. We really get to be a small part of people’s very significant experiences. Nico once said, “We’re changing people’s lives, two at a time.” A
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Things to Do in Anza-Borrego Desert State Park this Winter
by Jaime Purinton
Nestled in the southeastern corner of California, AnzaBorrego Desert State Park is a sprawling, awe-inspiring desert landscape that encompasses 650,000 acres, making it the largest state park in California. Located about two hours east of San Diego and three hours southeast of Los Angeles, this vast desert landscape features a stunning array of rugged mountains, sweeping badlands, colorful wildflower blooms and lush palm oases.
As temperatures begin to cool, Anza-Borrego Desert State Park transforms into a haven for outdoor adventures. From breathtaking stargazing to scenic hikes through rugged canyons, winter is the perfect time to explore this awe-inspiring park. Here are ten unforgettable activities to try in Anza-Borrego Desert State Park during the winter season:
1. Stargazing Under the Night Sky
With some of the darkest skies in Southern California, Anza-Borrego
Desert State Park is an internationally recognized Dark Sky Park, and the community of Borrego Springs, nestled in the heart of the park, is a dark sky community. Winter evenings are crisp and clear, making this the ideal time to see the constellations. Bundle up and head to Borrego Palm Canyon Campground or the remote Blair Valley area for some of the best stargazing spots. Remember to bring a telescope to enhance your view.
2. Guided Nature Hikes
Join a guided hike led by knowledgeable staff from AnzaBorrego Foundation, the official nonprofit partner to Anza-Borrego Desert State Park. These hikes often focus on geology, native flora, and the unique adaptations of desert wildlife. Learn how to identify desert plants and how they survive the harsh climate and gain a deeper appreciation for the park’s diverse ecology. Sign up at theabf.org/events.
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3. Borrego Palm Canyon Adventure
Winter is the perfect time to hike the popular Borrego Palm Canyon Trail, where you can witness seasonal changes in desert vegetation. The three-mile round-trip trail leads you through a rocky canyon to a lush palm oasis, home to California’s only native species of palm, the California fan palm. Keep an eye out for the endangered Peninsular desert bighorn sheep, which are often seen climbing the canyon walls.
4. Explore the Anza-Borrego Desert State Park Visitor Center
Visit the Anza-Borrego Desert State Park Visitor Center to learn about the park’s rich paleontological history, Native American culture and the unique desert ecosystem. Interactive exhibits showcase ancient fossils, desert geology, and the stories of the Kumeyaay and Cahuilla people who have called this land home for thousands of years. Before leaving, stop by the Anza-Borrego Foundation store to pick up maps, guidebooks and desert-inspired souvenirs that support conservation efforts.
5. Picnic at a Scenic Overlook
Enjoy a leisurely picnic at the park’s most iconic overlook, Fonts Point, where sweeping views of the desert landscape provide a stunning backdrop. Fonts Point is particularly amazing in the winter when the golden light enhances the beauty of the badlands and surrounding mountains. Pack your meal in reusable containers to reduce waste. You must have a high-clearance, four- wheel drive vehicle to drive to Font’s Point.
6. Meditate and Reflect in a Quiet Space
Anza-Borrego Desert State Park is filled with serene spots perfect for meditation and quiet contemplation. Recently designated as a Quiet Conservation Area by Quiet Parks International, the park offers an unparalleled experience of natural silence, ideal for connecting deeply with the desert
environment. Head out to Little Blair Valley, where you can sit quietly in a beautiful valley, soaking in the vastness of the landscape. You can also attend a quiet educational program, such as the Anza-Borrego Foundation’s Quiet Research Retreat, a retreat dedicated to the preservation of quiet in the park.
7. Educational Programs and Workshops
Want to learn how to photograph the night sky? Or be guided on an all-wheel/4x4 drive? Check out the Anza-Borrego Foundation’s calendar for educational programs and workshops offered throughout the winter. Topics may include desert photography, birdwatching, or a course on the park’s history. These programs are a great way to engage with the park’s natural and cultural history while meeting fellow nature enthusiasts. Sign up attheabf.org/events.
8. Explore 500 Miles of Dirt Roads
For the more adventurous, Anza-Borrego’s backcountry has 500 miles of dirt roads that lead to remote canyons and spectacular viewpoints. Coyote Canyon and Fish Creek Wash are popular routes that offer a rugged experience. Ensure your vehicle is suitable for off-road terrain and always carry extra water and a reliable navigation system. Check road conditions at parks.ca.gov.
9. Visit Historical Points in the Park
Anza-Borrego Desert State Park is rich in history, with numerous sites that tell stories of the people and events that have shaped the region. Begin at the historic Butterfield Stage Station, a key stop on the Butterfield Overland Mail route that connected St. Louis to San Francisco in the mid-19th century. Explore the remnants of this once-bustling station and learn about the hardships of early stagecoach travel. Then, head to Mine Wash Village Site, where you can see the remains of ancient Kumeyaay villages and imagine what life was like for these Indigenous people who thrived in the desert environment.
10. Visit the Wind Caves
For a truly unique experience, hike to the Wind Caves in the Fish Creek Badlands. The moderate, two-mile round-trip trail takes you to sandstone formations sculpted by wind over thousands of years. Once at the caves, you can explore the natural rock formations and take in panoramic views of the surrounding desert and badlands. The hike is best enjoyed in the morning or late afternoon when the temperatures are cooler. A
Visit the website, theabf.org, to learn the park regulations and safety tips.
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Through Their Eyes
by Galia Miller Sprung
Passing that one-year mark has released me from the countdown for the dreaded one-year mark. But it hasn’t released me from the horrors and the fear of turning on the TV to hear the anchor’s somber announcement that more soldiers were killed in battle or of knowing that our hostages have suffered another day in the tunnels or suffered another day of torment I can’t even write about here.
You wouldn’t either after listening to testimonies of released hostages.
I think about all the people I know whose children and/or grandchildren are in uniform and people who live on the northern and southern borders, and about my grandchildren and sonsin-law who are serving — either in the regular army or in the reserves. Death and suffering are all around us. My community lost another soldier recently. A few days ago, we gathered at the new observation point and picnic area in memory of a young woman, a neighbor of ours, who was burned to death at the Nova Music Festival, where hundreds and hundreds of festival goers were brutally murdered or kidnapped to Gaza. I write this as a fact I’ve gotten used to.
I discovered a few weeks ago that Dorit, the niece of close friends, and her husband Aviv, were murdered on Oct. 7. Her family had shortened their name, so
The desperate battle against the terrorists is happening in front of me. It’s fast. Too fast. My heart barely keeps pace with the movement of lights and names that race across the map.
even if I heard it among the 1,200 victims from that day alone, I didn’t connect them. Our friends, like so many, didn’t reach out with the news. “I didn’t want to add to everyone’s already heavy burden of loss,” my friend said.
Two days before we found out that Dorit and Aviv had been slaughtered in Kibbutz Kfar Aza, my husband and I made a last-minute decision to jump into the car to go see the exhibit “Through Their Eyes — The Story of Kfar Aza” before it closed. It was the evening before Simchat Torah, not so ironically, a year after the massacre.
The exhibit was set up in Kibbutz Shafayim, a 40-minute drive from our home. “Hurry,” a family member from Kfar Aza told us, “They are closing at 8:30 p.m. instead of 10:00 p.m.” It was
then 7:30 p.m. These were the last hours of the exhibit, so whatever we managed to see would have to suffice.
The surviving members of Kfar Aza have been living in Kibbutz Shafayim since they were evacuated after Oct. 7, so this is where the exhibit was created and displayed. I had heard about it, but I wasn’t even sure I wanted to go.
Would you want to spend a few hours walking around looking at huge pictures of every one of the 64 residents of Kfar Aza who were murdered on Oct. 7? Or the 19 who were taken to Gaza with an emphasis on the five who are still there? Or the 28 soldiers who died defending the kibbutz?
Had I known about Dorit and Aviv then, I would have stood by their pictures and carefully read about their lives — and horrific deaths. How Aviv, armed only with a kitchen knife, attacked and killed one of the terrorists before another one opened fire on him and then Dorit.
When we arrived, we realized they wouldn’t be closing the doors 30 minutes later. Scores of visitors we silently moving from section to section, still mesmerized by the stories, the photographs, the art creations fashioned by survivors, and especially the “table.”
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map of the kibbutz projected onto it from the ceiling. The desperate battle against the terrorists is happening in front of me. It’s fast. Too fast. My heart barely keeps pace with the movement of lights and names that race across the map.
From the armory to the dining room, to the clinic, to homes. Hamas terrorists fire from all directions, including the sky, as they come in on powered paragliders. We hear recordings in the real voices of the kibbutz first response team as they engage the terrorists. We hear their fear, the fear they won’t be able to save their families and friends. Their desperation. I don’t try to stop the tears. I am frozen with rage and horror. I have to remember to breathe.
To stand there and hear these brave defenders as they scream out where terrorists are, who has fallen, where they are headed, is deafening. I am right there with them.
I follow their movements along the map. This name is green, then orange. Then...red. It is clear what that means. Another and another. We stand staring at the battle as it progresses,
minute by minute. A clock shows the timeline. I stand there, transfixed, during three or four cycles of the presentation. It’s impossible to take in the movement, the lights, the frantic voices in one cycle. I had to internalize the anguish.
Photos of the 64 kibbutz members who were slaughtered during the Oct. 7 attack are displayed along the inside perimeter of the tent in individual niches. I stare at the beautiful people, couples embracing, and whole families on outings, tranquil scenes behind them. Next to each picture is a screen with looped photographs of their lives, as well as a book with eulogies.
In another area of the tent, I read about the first response team, which lost half of its 14 members in battles against the Hamas terrorists. Another section focuses on the 28 soldiers who were killed defending the kibbutz.
I could read only a few of the WhatsApp messages written in real-time from various kibbutz groups that are displayed on huge pictures hung on the walls. How many messages can you read with pleas from those you know are about to be murdered? “Please help! They’re shooting at my window.”
No usher moved among the scores of visitors, reminding them of closing time. How could they tell visitors to stop listening to videoed testimony on five huge viewing screens in the cultural hall? Each screen had headphones for six people. Stories of survival and of death. I listened. I moved to the next screen and listened to another story. I admit that we left shortly before the official closing time. I had reached the end of my ability to cope with unspeakable tragedies.
As with every heartbreak, there are degrees of connection. With 1,200 lives destroyed on Oct. 7 and since then, hundreds of soldiers killed, the tentacles of death and mourning have reached out to touch just about everyone in Israel to some degree. We have better days and days of tears, funerals and shiva calls. We have days of relief when soldiers we know have a few hours at home. We have moments of satisfaction and yes, joy, when arch-terrorists are eliminated.
We live in central Israel, so we have only periodic red alerts, not like the towns and communities in the north and south of the country whose names show up constantly on the righthand side of television screens or on phone screens when the sirens scream their warnings. So, we do what we can for others.
Volunteers are packing food on an army base for combat soldiers. My husband and I are going to the Gaza border area with our regional council to show our solidarity with the residents of the south. We’ll visit the area of the Nova massacre, kibbutzim, a border town and a moshav. We’ll buy their products and eat at one of their restaurants. We will probably gasp and shudder when we hear artillery and tank fire from nearby Gaza and maybe experience the deafening booms of missile interceptions. We will get a taste of what these border residents live through every day.
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Local Arts
BY EILEEN SONDAK
LA JOLLA PLAYHOUSE
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La Jolla Playhouse is featuring “A Christmas Carol, By Charles Dickens, Again.” This unique version of the holiday classic is not aimed at the small-fry set. The amusing and emotion-packed new play, penned by Anna Ouyang Moench, is a love letter to artists and dreamers who make sacrifices for their work. It will captivate audiences through Dec. 15 at the Potiker Theatre.
NEW VILLAGE ARTS: Tyler C. Jiles and Olivia Pence in “Miracle on 34th Street: A Live Musical Play.”
NEW VILLAGE ARTS THEATRE
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New Village Arts Theatre unwrapped its production of “Miracle on 34th Street: A Live Musical Play.” This adaptation of the holiday movie will be playing through Dec. 24
LAMB’S PLAYERS THEATRE: “Respectfully Christmas.”
CYGNET THEATRE
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Cygnet Theatre is showing off one of its favorite annual traditions, Sean Murray’s adaptation of “A Christmas Carol.” This Yuletide classic which features a score by Billy Thompson and all the familiar characters, is happily performed at the Old Town Theatre through Dec. 24.
LAMB’S PLAYERS THEATRE
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The Lamb’s Players is celebrating the return of “Respectfully Christmas.” This holiday bonbon — with its large cast of familiar actors, singers and musicians — will spread holiday cheer through Dec. 29
LA JOLLA MUSIC SOCIETY
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La Jolla Music Society continues its season on Dec. 5 with soprano Barbara Hannigan, accompanied by pianist Bertrand Chamayou.
Joyce Didonato and Kings Return present Kings ReJOYCE with Craig Terry on Dec. 7, followed on Dec. 12 by a festive Holiday Open House that is free to the public. It features a holiday market and story time for the kids, along with live salsa music.
The Spanish Harlem Orchestra: Salsa Navidad will celebrate the season on Dec. 14, and the Connie Han Trio winds things down for the month on Dec. 15.
THE OLD GLOBE THEATRE
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The Old Globe’s Shiley Stage is celebrating the return of Dr. Seuss’ “How the Grinch Stole Christmas!” a kid-friendly show that has been a blockbuster for the Globe for 27 years. The iconic musical delight will be on stage through Dec. 31, and audiences of all ages will find it irresistible.
SAN DIEGO OPERA
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The San Diego Opera is presenting “Making Merry” on Dec. 7 at the Balboa Theatre. This festive evening of holiday music will feature the San Diego Opera Chorus and special guest artists singing a heady mix of songs of the season.
BROADWAY SAN DIEGO: “The Illusioinists — Magic of the Holidays.”
NORTH COAST REPERTORY THEATRE
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December 12-29: Back by popular demand is “2 Pianos 4 Hands,” a musical comedy about two performers and what their lives would have looked like as concert pianists.
BROADWAY SAN DIEGO
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Broadway San Diego is featuring “The Illusionists — Magic of the Holidays” at the Civic Theatre Dec. 26-27 This new iteration of the worldfamous touring spectacle (from the producer of Cirque du Soleil) arrives in San Diego after a record-breaking Broadway run.
MUSEUM OF CONTEMPORARY ART
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The San Diego Museum of Contemporary Art is showcasing “For Dear Life: Art, Medicine & Disability,” an exhibition that explores sickness, health and medicine will be on display through Feb. 2, 2025
The Spanish Harlem Orchestra: “Salsa Navidad” at LA JOLLA MUSIC SOCIETY.
A Decadent Cholent With Brisket and Chestnuts
by Sylvie Berger, JTA The Nosher
This slow-cooked Jewish stew has a secret ingredient. Perfect for winter.
INGREDIENTS:
• 18 oz. dried Tarbais beans or other large white beans
• 4 lb. first-cut beef brisket, trimmed and cut in 2-inch cubes
• 4 chicken legs, thighs and drumsticks separated
• 3 tbsp. coarse sea salt
• Freshly ground black pepper
• 2 tbsp. chicken or duck fat
• 2 large onions, peeled and chopped
• 3 garlic cloves, peeled and crushed
• ¼ cup curly parsley, finely chopped
• ¼ cup fresh thyme leaves
• 2 tbsp. sweet Hungarian paprika
• ¼ tsp. allspice
• 2 tbsp. honey
• ¾ cup pearl barley
• 2 marrow bones (about 2-inch thick)
• 6 medium potatoes, peeled and quartered
• 4 carrots, peeled and diced
• 1 small butternut squash, peeled and diced
• Chestnuts, cooked and peeled (optional; if in season)
• 8 large eggs
PREPARATION:
1. Rinse the beans thoroughly and soak for at least 2 hours in cold water, then drain.
2. Bring a large pot of water to a boil. Blanch the beans in boiling water for 15 minutes, then drain and set aside.
3. Preheat oven to 200°F.
4. Season both meats with 1 tbsp. of salt and a good grind of pepper.
5. In a large ovenproof pot with a tight lid, melt the chicken or duck fat. Sear the brisket cubes on all sides, then remove and reserve. Sear the chicken on all sides. Remove and reserve.
6. Using the same pot, sauté the onions and the garlic over a low heat.
7. Stir in the parsley, thyme, paprika, 1½ tbsp. salt, allspice and honey. Stir for 1-2 minutes.
8. Add the beans and the pearl barley. Stir until well coated.
9. Add the meats and the marrow bones on top.
10. Add the potatoes, carrots and squash, and chestnuts if using, as a layer over the meats and marrow bones.
11. Wedge the eggs in their shells between the potatoes and squash.
12. Add enough water to cover. Add ½ tbsp. of coarse sea salt, then bring to a boil.
13. Cover and bake in the oven for 10 hours.
14. Remove and serve from the pot.
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‘Nobody Wants This’ Renewed for a Second Season on Netflix — With More Jews on Board
by Andrew Lapin, JTA
A second season of “Nobody Wants This” is coming, whether Jews want it or not.
The Netflix series, about an interfaith relationship between a rabbi (Adam Brody) and a non-Jewish, agnostic podcaster (Kristen Bell), has proven a massive hit for the streaming platform, even as its depiction of American Jewish life — which includes an overbearing Jewish mother figure (Tova Feldshuh) who derisively refers to Bell’s character as a “shiksa,” and a shrill Jewish sisterin-law (Jackie Tohn) — is stuffed with enough stereotypes to fill Canter’s Deli.
“It wasn’t really something I was thinking about too much,” series creator Erin Foster, who converted to Judaism and based the series on her own life, told
JTA’s partner publication, Hey Alma, about her show’s depiction of Jewish women, Foster, who married Jewish record-label owner Simon Tikhman, has also insisted the show was a “positive Jewish story.” She said she made sure to staff the writers’ room with people who were born Jewish, and she defended some of the characterizations in the series.
A real-life rabbi — the one who converted Foster — consulted on the show’s portrayal of Judaism, and more Jews are also joining the show’s tent for its second season. In its announcement of the renewal, Netflix revealed that Jenni Konner and Bruce Eric Kaplan, two Jewish alums of the HBO series
“Girls,” will executive-produce the new season of the rom-com and serve as showrunners, taking over duties from Foster. A third Jewish executive producer, Konner’s colleague Nora Silver, is also joining.
“It’s a dream to be working on ‘Nobody Wants This,’” Konner said in a statement. Kaplan, likewise, called it “such a unique and beautiful show.” Foster, who is returning as an executive producer and will continue to write on the show, said, “Justice for healthy relationships being the most romantic!”
A date for the second season’s release has not yet been made public. A
Kristen Bell as Joanne and Adam Brody as Noah in “Nobody Wants This.” (Stefania Rosini/Netflix)
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A Long-Tortured Chrismukkah Metaphor to Create a Multiplicity of Meaningful Strategic Statements That Have Nothing To Do With Religion
Shalom, my dear San Diegans:
This anecdote is my first memory of learning to be me, even when “stiffed” a little. Make that a lot. Personally, I wish to thank Lionel Cowan for his contribution. No doubt mama and papa yelled, “My son, the genius!” when in 1884, their seven-year-old, Joshua Lionel Cohen, attached a small steam engine to a wooden locomotive and blew up the wallpaper. As a teen, he invented an electric doorbell, but his teacher called it stupid. Worse, he lost a fortune selling the rights to his electric flowerpot. (That’s maybe stupid.) The buyer detached the tubes and marketed the Eveready Flashlight. Now wiser, Joshua, with a friend, launched the Lionel Manufacturing Co. in 1900. After attempting to sell portable electric fans, he attached the fan’s motor to a miniature wooden railroad car. This time, it didn’t explode. It moved. And the quintessential Christmas gift — Lionel trains — was born.
Ah, but through the years, another “fauxliday” blew up replacing George Costanza’a Festivus: Christmukkah! Don’t send me a Christmukkah text. Thank you.
Before you think I’m a crotchety, politically incorrect old bat who can’t get the “Peace on Earth” thing past my antiquated Boomer brain, you would be wrong. It’s not the concept, the philosophy of joy to the world, unity in peace, appreciation of difference that
gets up my sinuses. It’s the reason. And a little, the method.
Back in Boomer days, we Jewish kids didn’t have the option of “Christmukkah.” If we did, chances are we couldn’t get the whole “world in harmony” thing past the parents. Most weren’t buying, and many, like mine, dutifully explained the lack of relationship between a giant tree in one’s living room and “peace” (even if we called it a “bush”). Red and green lights were reserved for traffic, not strung around houses. As for the rest, was Jesus born on December 25? No. Not even close. Although Pagans celebrated something then. What about the jolly old guy in a fur-trimmed red suit and Toys “R” Us rations for all good children who supposedly lives at the North Pole, not to mention his elves, reindeer and flying sleigh? What does this miraculous man have to do with anything except major multi-tasking? Then there’s mistletoe, holly and ham, and the fun songs, often written by Jews. Is this confusing?
As Jews, we were in a strange position. While writing the daytime drama, “As the World Turns,” my boss at the time, the late, ever-fascinating, Douglas Marland, was picking me up for an evening of theater. I lived in Riverdale, New York, known for its Jewish residents, primarily Orthodox. As I tumbled into the car, he looked at me oddly.
Here we were, a few days before Christmas, and houses across every
hamlet in America were strung with lights — and then there was here. A tiny turf in the Bronx with nothing but the faint orange glow of Menorahs peeking out of windows demurely into the winter night. “Where the heck are we?” he asked, awe-struck, “Tel Aviv?” (This was said without a hint of antisemitism.)
Undaunted, I explained. This kicked off a discussion of what it was like to grow up in the fifties as a Jew in a non-Jewish neighborhood. Brilliant, verbal and glib, it is one of the very few times this master storyteller was rendered speechless. Finally, he said, “You know, it never once occurred to me what it must feel like to be an outsider on Christmas.” And he, a farm boy who preferred dreaming in the movies to milking, remained pensive for the rest of the evening.
“The Jews are like other people, only more so.” — Proverb
As a young child, mom and dad explained and then, of course, discussed Hanukkah, our holiday (which in terms of getting stuff, is like comparing Harry and David pears to a raisin, even if you’re doing it right). Of course, I could enjoy for my Christmas pals, but no “bushes” with balls — or dreidels.
So, on the 25th, what’s a Jew to do besides the Chinese food drill? My parents said, “Enjoy with.”
So, I did.
Every Christmas morning at promptly 7 a.m., I ran down the street to my friend Carol Anne’s house in huge anticipation
of the spectacle. What a spectacle! Among the trees, lights, gifts, paper, poinsettias, cookies, popcorn, little Santas, bells, it was a devout Disneyland. She was great and shared her toys while I was there so I could play, too. (Today, she’s a nun.)
At age seven, I raised the subject again at home: “What about a little, bitty stocking with chocolate coins?”
Time for a bigger sit-down. Yes, we celebrated differently. Yes, we believed in Israel and the United States. Yes, we desperately wanted peace in the world and on the block. But, we did things according to Jewish law and custom after which they reminded me of Pesach, Rosh Hashana and Purim, which led into an even more sophisticated discussion of what it means, religiously and historically, to be a Jew.
“Hmmm. I am different,” I thought, There was no thought of jealousy, only
pride and general enjoyment of the Christian festivities.
For example, as a lifelong singer (Kiri Te Kanawa doesn’t have to worry), I was always in chorus, including the AllCity Chorus, then run by the legendary Peter J. Wilhousky, an ardent Catholic, who made sure we sang every song that had a “holy” someone in it. My favorites in chorus were always “The Hallelujah Chorus” and “Hosanna,” Christian songs. I neither cared nor was converted. It was the music that was heavenly to me. I adored the people on the street not scowling. The shop windows were glorious, and with age, I thought, thank G-d, I don’t have to go in there.
Somewhere between my adolescence and adulthood, someone, somewhere (no doubt a toy manufacturer), decided, “Jewish children must be jealous! Give
(a not very important holiday) like a Jewish Mardi Gras.”
STRATEGIC TAKE-AWAY: And now, the strategic, not religious, metaphor I promised you. I was different. And that was okay. There would be things I could not do, would not do, would do, might do, that are quirky, odd, wise, dumb. But never jealous. Why? Because I’m different. Not just in my beliefs but in every custom fiber of my Marniehood. With such a strategy, there is no sense in jealousy. How can an Oompa Loompa be jealous of a Munchkin?
Personally, I don’t care if you DO celebrate Festivus (Seinfeld), as long as hurting Jews (or anyone else) isn’t involved. But the true joy is absolute acceptance of who we are, different as
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