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Support for Gay Marriage is Growing Fast

Rally to Celebrate DADT Repeal but Struggle for Equality is Not Over

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Attendee in costume is part of the performance at the Folsom Street Festival.

By Master Sister Dana Van Iquity

There were men with horns and horny men. I spied many cocks and cocks in socks. Also free range boobs.

A group of people wearing gas masks held a sign alerting: “Spreading Santorum,” and warning of the disease that this Repugnican candidate would bring upon the citizenry with his abject homophobia. But the best outfit of all was created by Bruce Beaudette as a kind of metal robot with silver mesh body and a metal cage over silver painted face.

Tee shirt sayings that stuck in my head were: “Gay is the new punk;” “When can I vote on YOUR marriage?” and “I’m not pretty drunk. I’m pretty fuckin’ awesome drunk.” For the bears: “You had me at WOOF!” In the age of iPods and iPhones, a shirt said simply “iPhuck.” Human Rights Campaign offered “Legalize Gay” tees to promote same-sex marriage. I liked the button with a big green marijuana leaf and the words: “The nuns made me smoke it.” Another pro-pot button questioned, “Can’t we all just get a bong?”

Soooo many booths! Several booths offered free HIV and hepatitis B testing, which is always a good thing to be offered at these public fairs. The Freedom in Christ booth had a sign: “Christian + Gay = Okay.” They were selling sodas and water. I wondered if it was HOLY water, in which case if I got any on me, I would surely burn. Bare Chest Calendar Men were out in their special vests selling their hot calendars to benefit AIDS Emergency Fund and Positive Resource Center. (continued on page 6)

Recent surveys suggest that half of all Americans support gay marriage and that the numbers are increasing rapidly each year.

By Dayna Verstegen A new study released by the University of Chicago documents rapidly increasing support for gay marriage in the U.S. The General Social Survey (GSS), which is supported by the National Science Foundation, monitors societal change and the growing complexity of American society. The survey has been conducted every two years for 40 years.

The 2010 study, completed in September, revealed that 45.9 percent

of Americans “agreed” or “strongly agreed” that same-sex couples should have the right to marry, up from 30.1 percent in 2004 and 10.7 percent in 1988, the first year this question was asked. This data is consistent with voter attitudes in Maryland, who are currently considering a bill to legalize marriage. According to a poll conducted by the Annapolis-based Gonzales Research and Marketing Strategies, Inc., September 19 – 27, of 805 registered Maryland voters, 49 percent opposed the law, while 48 percent support it.

An ABC News/Washington Post poll of registered voters back in March found slightly better numbers, reporting that 53 percent of Americans support gay marriage, up from 32 percent in 2004. Only 44 percent opposed, down from 62 percent in 2004.

According to Tom W. Smith, director of the GSS, the reason for the change is that younger people have a different attitude toward the gay community and gay marriage. “There is a large generation gap on the issue [of samesex marriage]. While 64 percent of (continued on page 4)

Ruth Brinker Memorial Celebrated a Life of Compassion

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The grand finale of Leather Week in San Francisco is always the annual Folsom Street Fair, a very adult affair for fans of leather, feathers, latex, and every kink but the kitchen sink – and all for charities. There is S&M in the form of Sadism & Masochism, as well as Stand & Model. Sartorially speaking, I saw many a fabulous costume at the 28th fair besides leatherwear. There was a man in a wolf outfit; there were angels, both dark and angelic; devils; bats; colorful caps and hats; Snow White; and Alice in Wonderland characters. The giant Happy Penis was there in leather gear, spreading joy and safer sex information from the San Francisco City Clinic, celebrating a century of sexual health.

Ruth Brinker founded Project Open Hand in 1985 after cooking The Ruth Brinker Celebration of a Life of Compassion at City Hall, meals in her kitchen for a dozen friends. with Open Hand ED Tom Nolan and Mayor Ed Lee.

By Dennis McMillan A memorial service was held for Project Open Hand Founder Ruth Brinker who passed away on August 8. The service took place in the North Light Court of City Hall to celebrate her good works and giving spirit.

Three dozen photos of Brinker had been set up on easels along one wall, and there were large blown-up photos of her on an altar-like setting with a white floral spray. An overhead projector gave a continuous slide show of Brinker’s life with Open Hand. There were blank pages throughout the room where people could write their personal memories of Brinker, to be bound into a book and eventually given to her family members. Brinker’s original typed request to start Open Hand was framed with her famous slogan: “A nutritious meal, prepared

with care and visually appealing, is an act of love. The love symbolized in a superb meal is in itself healing and should be reflected in every meal that leaves Open Hand’s kitchen.”

city’s most needy,” said Nolan. “She served nutrition with compassion.”

Nolan then introduced Mayor Edwin Lee who spoke of Brinker’s self less service to a grateful community.

Guests took their seats as members of the Bay Area Rainbow Symphony played “Emperor Quartet in C Major, 2nd Movement.” Executive director of Open Hand, Tom Nolan, acted as master of ceremonies, welcoming everyone who came to hear about a retired grandmother who had been a volunteer with a Meals on Wheels program and realized malnutrition was making people with AIDS even sicker, eventually starting her own meal program with just a dozen friends as clients in her kitchen, growing it to the organization it is today with over 34,000 volunteers over the years. “She opened her heart to our

Members of the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus sang a traditional number, “Hark, I Hear the Harps Eternal.” Later they would sing “Irish Blessing” by Robert Seeley.

Wendy Johnson, friend and supporter of Brinker from the early days of Open Hand, gave her personal experiences, including the fact that Brinker always wore fancy dresses when she cooked and served her clients to make them feel special, and also revealed that this meek and mild grandmother when she needed food or volunteers could be much less than meek and mild about her requests. Johnson (continued on page 5)

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Folsom Street Fair was Fetishy Fun in the Sun!

A protester at an intense DADT Day Rally at Harvey Milk Plaza that stressed the need to include transgender citizens.

By Dennis McMillan GetEQUAL, a national organization that works to secure LGBTQ equality through direct action, held a lively rally in Harvey Milk Plaza in the Castro. Dennis Veite, an activist with GetEQUAL, acted as emcee for the rally of approximately 60 attending. The official GetEQUAL banner and a rainbow flag served as a backdrop. Demonstrators held printed signs stating, “We are here to recruit you;” “Still not equal;” and “DADT is gone. Now fight on!”

The rally both celebrated the repeal of DADT and called attention to the fact that transgender soldiers are not allowed to serve openly, and that there are no protections against discrimination afforded to LGBTQ soldiers. “The main purpose of this event is to not let this singular victory inspire complacency and apathy within our community; and to get the message out that our work is still not done; and that there is much more we need to do to continue to win the rights we deserve as human beings,” Veite told Bay Times.

Veite called the repeal’s f inalization “a huge milestone in our fight for equality in this country, and we thank the individuals and organizations who worked so tirelessly to make this happen, not the least of which was my own GetEQUAL who organized action after action to bring the repeal to fruition.” He added, “But this fight is far from over,” and he had volunteers circulate the crowd to sign up activists to continue fighting for civil rights.

“The repeal abandoned an entire segment of our community - transgender individuals were once again sacrificed in Gay, Inc.’s struggle for progress - and did not include nondiscrimination policies or recourse for LGBT people who experience such things,” said Veite. “Our message is clear: celebrate for a moment, but realize that we have more work to do; so join the movement, and help us fight for our equality!” He said, “We call on Congress to move forward with legislation that would allow transgender persons to serve openly in our military,” and he asked the crowd to observe a moment of silence “out of respect for our transgen(continued on page 6)

LUSCIOUS

SF Beautiful Hosts Kick Off to Masquerade Soiree

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Join us for the Luscious Live!

Dance featuring live music by the best of the Bay Area's performers.

Featuring Stephanie Teel & the Stephanie Teel Band on Sunday October 30th, 2011 at 6pm -9pm at the Bench and Bar, 510 17th Street, Oakland, CA Wear your wildest costume! Sexy, Large, Luxurious modern nightclub, drink specials.

Safe street parking - Restaurants nearby Pre-Event: $11.00 / Door: $15.00 - Online Pre-Event Tickets Available Now at bettyslist.com “Luscious Live!” is a new East Bay music dance event featuring leading performers of the Bay Area's LGBT Community and friends. All are welcome.

Susan Anthony, Bob Fiese and Sharon Seto at San Francisco Beautiful kick off event.

By Sister Dana Van Iquity San Francisco Beautiful hosted a kick off event - with 300 people responding - at Nordstrom’s to promote their “Inaugural Masquerade Soiree” to be held at the Palace Hotel on Oct. 14 at 6 pm for dinner, dancing, awards, auction, and a costume contest.

Inaugural Masquerade Chair Sharon Seto introduced Board Chair Robert Friese, who elaborated on the masquerade fundraiser. “We are delighted to see so many new faces here, which we hope will be part of the new generation of people who support the values of San Francisco Beautiful,” said Friese. “It’s not just about beauty, but beauty is part of it – the quality of life here, the livability of the City.” He said their organization was the objecting party of what he called “the billboard scam on Market Street,” where “you would have seen the worst version of Times Square you ever saw in your life.” He said SF Beautiful wants to make sure neighborhoods retain their character while having appropriately healthy growth with trees, parks, and a limit on overcommercialization. He joked, “You don’t have to be wearing Birkenstocks to show concern about neighborhoods and the quality of life.” He added,

“Suits of the world, unite!” as the crowd laughed.

He explained the nonprofit SF Beautiful has been raising neighborhood grants for over 60 years, along with annual awards dinner fundraisers.

“We are going to be around forever,

“I am so privileged to be part of San Francisco Beautiful, which is the only entity in the Bay Area that protects and enhances the City,” said Seto.

“The reason I got involved is because I am fourth generation here – my family has been here since the 1800s.”

She pointed to her father, age 79, who was present at the kick off event. “I think of the organization as the gatekeeper of the City,” she said. “Together, for San Francisco, we can make community investments to retain the charm and beauty of San Francisco and keep our City on the Bay as one of the top global city destinations.”

The masquerade is an inaugural event that will continue after this year every October from then on. “Don a mask or a hat with your outfit, dress as a San Francisco icon (a building, monument, or person) or decorate yourself as a native floral, or come as you are,” Seto said. “We invite you to step into our magical city for an evening of fun, fantasy, and mystery!”

San Francisco Beautiful was founded

by Friedel Klussmann in 1947 with her successful campaign to save the City’s cable cars. Today, the cable cars are an instantly recognizable San Francisco symbol and SF Beautiful continues to work on projects (such as stopping billboard blight on the Golden Gate Bridge) to ensure that the City’s history and natural environment is maintained.

Alex Fung and Carolyn Fung at San Francisco Beautiful event at the Palace Hotel.

with your help,” he said. “And we hope you will come on the 14th for our masquerade party and an amazing band.” Friese has been personally involved for over 20 years.

Pre-sale tickets and tables are now available starting at $250, and those under 30 years are $175. Please call Jonathan Goldberg at (415) 421-2608 ext. 13 or visit their website: sfbeautiful.org. San Francisco’s hat lady and movie maven Jan Wahl says it will be a fun-filled evening with special guests for the event and surprises revealed throughout the night.

The Grand Ducal Coronation at the Green Room

Newly crowned Grand Duchess Kylie Minono and Grand Duke Alan Toomey at the Ducal Coronation at the Green Room.

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Hundreds of gowned and jewelryadorned guests packed into the San Francisco Veterans Building Green Room on Sept. 24. They were joined by others in splendidly costumed outer space costumes and uniforms, some to the extreme edges of kitsch.

They were there to celebrate the Grand Ducal Court’s royal coronation and presentations of awards to worthy charity fundraising helpers.

The theme was “Cosmonauts in Outer Space” which was the inspiration of outgoing Grand Duchess Cookie Dough and Grand Duke Jason Husted, and they played it up to the hilt.

A gigantic shimmering silver space ship was on stage, and it was a grand backdrop for the pageantry that resembled, in some moments, the recent funeral of Emperor Otto von Habsburg of Austria Hungary.

The emcees of the event included Trannyshack’s Heklina and the SFPD’s Lenny Broberg, who expertly wound their way through the complicated names and titles. The Grand Ducal Court was founded in 1973 by HL Perry to complement the Imperial Court that was founded in 1965 to raise money, dress up, and have fun (in that order). The Imperial Court is one of the top fundraising organiza-

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tions in the U.S., and it is located in cities and towns across the country.

The first Empress of San Francisco Jose Sarria, is also the first openly gay person to run for a political officethe board of supervisors in 1961. Sarria’s successor to ruler of the Imperial Court, Empress Nicole the Great of San Diego was honored at the coronation by stage time and front row table.

Supervisor Scott Wiener and gay mayoral candidate Bevan Dufty made appearances, and they were applauded. A newly blonde Nicole the Great was joined by a San Diego grand entourage of Emperor Wayne, Crown Princess Lady Ajex, and Allan Spyere, and they watched as Nicole bestowed medallions on her favorites.

It was an mostly over 40 crowd, but the younger set made sure that they were visible with stage and ballroom antics. The event was loaded with sexual tension when sleek Kenny Kinman and Erick Lopez got close to each other, and sultry acrobats Brit Burns and Christopher Wrede thrilled the audience with their professional performance. Grand Duke Husted’s lover Christopher Humphries is a popular Chest Calendar Man and his lavish smile induced smiles around the room. Former Emperor John Weber joined Paloma Volare to exhibit full visual impact since both were spectacularly costumed. Michael Housh and his spouse, former Empress Angelina, (continued on page 22)

The Week in Review

By Ann Rostow No Prop 8 Repeal in 2012 for Equality California So, it seems as if Equality California has decided not to go back to the ballot in an effort to repeal Prop 8 next year. The lobby group sent out an email on Wednesday unveiling an “exciting new public education project” called “The Breakthrough Conversation.” A few paragraphs into this thrilling announcement, the group mentioned that they will not be leading a repeal campaign next year.

Elsewhere, Equality California cited public opinion and the economic situation as two of several reasons they nixed repeal.

Virginia Phillips’ powerful gay rights opinion disappear in a puff of smoke as if it never existed.

I know you’re wondering why the hell this makes a whit of difference, given that Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is officially off the books. But listen. There’s nothing to stop another Congress or another president from restoring some kind of military ban. A big thumbs down in the law books would serve as a deterrent, and now the prospects for that helpful precedent are gone.

What’s a “whit?” I’ll look it up in a minute. You know what else I don’t know? I don’t know what the “G” means in “3G” or “4G.” And I also

“It’s as if Obama told me his administration would defend to the death my right to ride an Arabian stallion naked down the streets of Austin, but then sided with the prosecution when I was arrested for riding a motorcycle in a bikini. What gives?”

A couple of years ago, as you recall, the California GLBTs were debating whether to put a Prop 8 repeal on the ballot in 2010 or 2012. As the months went by, a divided community decided not to mount a campaign in 2010.

Then, as the Prop 8 lawsuit promised to solve all our Prop 8 problems without any effort on our part, everyone kind of fell back.

With the lawsuit sidetracked over the question of standing, Equality California resumed deliberations on whether a 2012 Prop 8 repeal campaign was feasible, winnable and popular. After several town hall meetings throughout the year, the answers appear to be no.

I think they’re right. A loss at the 2012 ballot box would set us back tremendously, particularly if the margin was wider than Prop 8’s three-point win in 2008 (or whatever it was). And given that conventional wisdom tells us Republicans have more energy than Democrats heading into next year’s election, why take the chance? The Prop 8 case may be moving at a sluggish pace, but it is moving and could in theory be settled a year from now.

Plus, as Equality California points out, we might be gaining at the polls, but it’s not at all clear that a solid majority of state voters would agree to send Prop 8 into the dustbin of history. As for “The Breakthrough Conversation,” I confess I didn’t read the details. I’m sure it’s a fine idea.

Don’t Ask Case Dismissed as Moot The U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit issued an irritating decision last week, dismissing the challenge to Don’t Ask Don’t Tell as moot, and vacating the lower court ruling that struck the statute as unconstitutional last year. “Vacating” is a legal term for taking a magic wand and making U.S. District Court Judge

don’t know how the word “props” became a synonym for “praise.” It’s short for something, but what?

I’m back. I spent far too long looking up “whit,” which is not a thing but just a word meaning teeny tiny bit. That’s disappointing. I was hoping it was a little bird or a fig seed or something.

As for the “G,” it stands for “generation.” Another disappointment. And “props” is short for “propers,” which is a slang term for “proper respect” popularized in the Aretha Franklin song. Now that’s good to know, don’t you think? Did you know that? Oh, don’t be smug about it.

Returning to Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, here’s the really annoying aspect of the Ninth Circuit’s decision. Adding insult to injury, Judge Diarmuid O’Scannlain penned a ten-page concurring opinion of his own, ripping the Supreme Court’s decision in Lawrence v Texas.

Lawrence, which struck sodomy laws and reversed the hideously antigay precedent of Bowers v Hardwick, was surely a high point in gay legal history. But while the decision strongly suggested that gay men and women enjoy a fundamental right to personal autonomy, Justice Kennedy never came right out and said so. As such, conservative courts have been able to dismiss Lawrence as a little more than a narrow ruling on criminal law with no consequences for gay rights cases in general.

Judge Phillips, who relied on Lawrence for much of her due process analysis, was thus subjected to withering scorn from O’Scannlain, a 70-something Reagan appointee who wrote that he would have reversed Phillips on the merits had the case continued. So who knows? Maybe instead of losing a good precedent, we dodged a bullet. Maybe we would have lost had this panel allowed the appeal to go forward.

Tough Break for Bi-National Couple Speaking of precedents and Justice Kennedy, we have none other than Tony himself to thank for a 1982 Ninth Circuit opinion that says binational married gay couples may not sponsor their spouses for immigration.

The old case was brought by a couple who somehow managed to marry in Colorado, thanks, one imagines, to ambiguous law and a friendly clerk.

Regardless of whether the marriage was formally recognized, the federal appellate court ruled that a same-sex spouse did not qualify as a legal relative.

True, that was nearly 30 years ago.

But no matter. All federal courts within the vast jurisdiction of the Ninth Circuit are still obliged to follow along like lemmings. Nor does the passage of Defense of Marriage Act change the analysis or undermine the precedent. As such, a married California couple recently lost their attempt to avoid deportation of the foreign spouse.

Although the U.S. government refused to argue on behalf of the Defense of Marriage Act (and indeed, argued that DOMA was unconstitutional), lawyers for the House of Representatives jumped into action to make sure the happy couple could still be forced to choose whether to live separately or move to some other country.

But the Obama administration wasn’t completely absent from the case. The men had also claimed that the deportation constituted sex discrimination, so the Justice Department filed their own briefs to contest that notion. Was that really necessary?

Why on earth would the Justice Department bother to bolster the case against this bi-national couple, given the Obama administration’s new legal policy on sexual orientation discrimination?

To refresh your memory, that policy essentially says that sexual orientation discrimination is presumptively unconstitutional. So, although it may be true that “sex discrimination” is not really at the heart of the discrimination faced by this bi-national couple, it’s certainly true that the unfair treatment of married gay immigrants amounts to the type of discrimination that Obama and company have formally denounced.

It’s as if Obama told me his administration would defend to the death my right to ride an Arabian stallion naked down the streets of Austin, but then sided with the prosecution when I was arrested for riding a motorcycle in a bikini. What gives?

I know that’s not a perfect analogy, but I wasted 15 minutes trying to come up with something, and time is not waiting for me. Plus, it’s a pretty good analogy. Sometimes life forces you to abandon the perfect for the pretty good, lest life itself pass you by.

Not to mention that I already typed it in, and as loyal readers know, I follow the Omar Khayyam rule. The moving finger writes, and having writ, moves on. Nor all thy piety nor wit shall lure it back to cancel half a line.

Speaking of Obama, you probably heard that the POTUS spoke for twenty minutes at the Human Rights Campaign national dinner last Saturday. I read his remarks. It seemed like a good speech, and it was nice of him to drop in on our community. Other (continued on page 5)

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The Death Penalty is No Friend to LGBT People a natural partner to these issues. Racial bigotry was wrong, sexism was wrong, and homophobia was wrong. It all made sense; we were all in the struggle to win freedom together.

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I grew up in Utah with a Dad who in 1968 voted for virulently racist Alabama Governor George Wallace for President. My dad owned guns, supported the death penalty, embraced white supremacy, and told racist jokes for fun.

When I came to political consciousness in my early teens, my Dad and I routinely clashed. I had the benefit of one or two amazing public school teachers during this time who exposed me to the lives and writings of Fredrick Douglass, Martin Luther King Jr., Chief Joseph, Sojourner Truth, Abigail Adams, and others who wrote about oppression and injustice and strove for a better nation. I came to believe that my dad’s world view was corrosive, cramped, and demeaning - not just to the objects of his bile, but to him and our family. All this was years before my coming to consciousness as a lesbian.

In some ways my “coming out,” when I was a young teen, as a person committed to NOT following my father’s example, made it easier to come out as a lesbian some six years later. Because my sense of justice and fairness and decency had been honed in the context of race and gender, the whole issue of sexual orientation seemed like

“Since reinstatement of the death penalty in the US in 1976, 138 innocent men and women have been freed from death row.” off duty police officer some 20 years ago despite the lack of any physical evidence linking Davis to the shooting. In the years since his conviction, a number of witnesses at his trial recanted their testimony. While the ultimate innocence of Mr. Davis is shrouded, there was surely enough doubt surrounding his guilt to render his execution a travesty of “ justice.”

In Texas in 1992, Cameron Todd Willingham was found guilty of intentionally setting a fire that killed his three children. This is a harrowing case, made all the more tragic because experts now agree that the fire was accidental and that Willingham, executed in 2004, was innocent. Since reinstatement of the death penalty in the US in 1976, 138 innocent men and women have been freed from death row. We do not know for certain how many innocent men and women have been

those under 30 back same-sex marriage, only 27 percent of those 70 and older support it.” More, 50.2 percent of people between the ages of 18 – 29 approve of “homosexual behavior” compared to only 18 percent of those over 70 years old. The ABC News/ Washington Post polled found slightly more optimistic results from seniors, reporting that 33 percent support gay marriage, up from 18 percent f ive years ago.

Smith notes that while support for gay marriage is growing fast, Americans remains “sharply divided.” Only 11 percent of GSS respondents fell into an “undecided” category on the issue. The GSS finding supports the ABC News/Washington Post poll. The Huffington Post wrote, “as many adults ‘strongly’ oppose gay marriage as

strongly support it… opposition rises to more than 2-1 among Republicans and conservatives and 3-1 among evangelical white Protestants, a core conservative group.” No surprises there.

According to the announcement from the University of Chicago, which detailed comparative data back as far as 1972, “The change toward acceptance of homosexuality began in the late 1980s after years of remaining relatively constant. In 1973, 70 percent of people felt same-sex relations are ‘always wrong,’ and in 1987, 75 percent held that view. By 2000, however, that number dropped to 54 percent and by 2010 was down to 43.5 percent.”

As Sandy and I raise our kids, in our interracial, lesbian-headed household, we place a great premium on our kids valuing justice, kindness, inclusion, and difference. I want them coming to adulthood in a nation that values their parents, celebrates their racial identities, and honors their unique contributions. Such a nation will not be possible until we end state-sanctioned executions.

Please join us in supporting the SAFE California Campaign, to bring to the California voters an initiative to replace the death penalty with life in prison without parole. Visit www.taxpayersforjustice.org to learn how you can help.

On the issue of sex, however, attitudes haven’t changed as quickly. In 1973, when asked about “sexual relations between two adults of the same sex,” 76.2 percent of respondents said it is “almost always” or “always wrong.”

In 2010, that number improved dramatically, but was still 46.9 percent.

Those who said it was “not wrong at all” increased from 10.7 percent in 1973 to 40.6 percent in 2010. In all likelihood, this number can be attributed to the age of the respondents, but regardless, is a clear reflection of our society’s complicated attitude toward sex.

The GSS also reported changing attitudes on topics other than marriage.

According to the University of Chicago, “Support for a gay person’s right to speak before a public audience in-

ties about voting, taxing the wealthy and healthcare.

Moore has been a champion for the oppressed and screwed-over for his entire career. He has poked and prodded at powerful politicians, corporate executives, media moguls and anyone else who’s trying to get away with things they shouldn’t.

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Given that the death penalty is no deterrent and costs more than other options, we are left with retribution and vengeance as the prime justifications for supporting state-sanctioned killing. When we think of the kind of nation we all want to live in, a nation which elevates vengeance and retribution as worthy justifications for executing its citizens will not be high on anyone’s list. And such a nation will be no friend to LGBT people.

creased from 62 percent in 1972 to 86 percent in 2010; support for allowing gays and lesbians to teach at colleges or universities rose from 48 percent in 1973 to 84 percent in 2010; and approval for having a library keep a book that favors homosexuality rose from 54 percent in 1973 to 78 percent in 2010.” What a relief that most people will now approve of us speaking in public!

Currently six states - Vermont, New Hampshire, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Iowa and New York, as well as the District of Columbia - allow gay marriage. 39 states specifically ban it.

The U.S. Census Bureau recently estimated that there are 131,279 samesex “married” couple households in the U.S.

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And regardless of guilt how are we uplifted as a society when we take life as punishment? NCLR has been of record for years as an opponent of the death penalty. My own opposition was cemented when I worked for the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) as a staff attorney for the ACLU of Utah when I saw up close the imperfections in our justice system. It is now beyond serious dispute that the death penalty is no deterrent to those contemplating crimes and exacts a staggering toll, costing taxpayers hundreds of millions of dollars more than the option of a life sentence with no possibility of parole.

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killed, but surely the number is greater than our national conscience should bear. We are a community seeking to have our dignity and humanity acknowledged and protected. We demand full equality, freedom, and fairness. That full equality cannot come in a nation that executes the innocent or even possibly innocent.

During a lecture at Georgetown this week, while promoting his new book Here Comes Trouble: Stories from My Life, Michael Moore joked that Jesus was gay. Specifically, he said “You know those twelve men Jesus was always hanging out with? Hmmmm.”

The comment drew big laughs in the room. Well, Moore could be right.

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Of course the Christian Right has jumped all over it. We think it’s another example of Moore, himself a Catholic, provoking his audience and challenging assumptions, and for this we love and respect him. In addition to upsetting conservatives (AGAIN), Moore has been using his book tour to talk with young people at universi-

Moore’s list of accomplishments is long. His first prominent job was the editor of Motor Jones, a liberal political magazine. He released his first film, Roger & Me about his hometown of Flint, Michigan and the closure of the General Motors factories there in 1989. His 2002 film Bowling for Columbine, prompted by the Columbine High School killings, examines the culture of guns and violence in the U.S. His 2004 film, Fahrenheit 9/11 won the top honor at Cannes and remains the highest grossing documentary of all time. In September 2008,

his free Internet movie called Slacker Uprising documents his efforts to get more Americans to vote. To date, he has made nine films and written three books. He published Stupid White Men in 2001 and Dude, Where’s My Country in 2003 and of course Here Comes Trouble this year.

Along the way, Moore has criticized everyone from President Bill Clinton to capitalism itself. It is no surprise to find him this week among the protesters on Wall Street in New York City.

For getting the Christian right all ruff led up. For making everyone think about these issues whether they agree with you or not. For never compromising your values despite tremendous criticism. We name you, Michael Moore, our Person of the Week.

Disco Sister Fundraiser Held to Help Stop Violence “I survived, am here, and ten years later will never forget or be the same person. I now know what hell looks like.” She added, “Thank you for joining me as I step out for the first time in ten years on the anniversary of the attacks on the WTC and start to celebrate my life and the second chance I have been given. I will no longer stay home and cry and wonder why I survived.”

Sister Eve Volution, Ethel Merman and Sister Pat N Leather at The Edge bar for their “Stop the Violence” fundraiser.

By Sister Dana Van Iquity Having watched countless documentaries and news programs, and thereby gotten very angry and depressed about the senseless tragedies of the 9/11 attacks, this nun needed an escape. So The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Inc. gathered at the Edge bar to break out our favorite disco tunes and rock the house ‘70s style.

It was a fundraiser for The Sisters’ “Stop the Violence” campaign – distributing safety whistles and helpful information packets about avoiding violence against victims and especially warding off gay bashings. A safety whistle once saved this nun’s life from

a knife attack and put the perpetrator behind bars. The Sisters are asking everyone to carry a whistle and blow, blow, blow if you or someone else is being attacked.

The Edge went back in time. Back to the days of the hustle, purple lights, and ‘fros.

Headlining the entertainment was our very own legendary performer, Ethel Merman (aka Mark Sargent).

“Every year for September 11th I stay home and cry my heart out,” said coorganizer of the fundraiser Sister Pat N Leather to the assembled crowd.

(RUTH BRINKER continued from page 1) then read a very moving poem that He said in the last days of her life, she perfectly described Brinker’s acts, was not at all content being confined to a wheel chair.

“Kindness” by Naomi Nye. The Rev. Robert Warren Cromey, retired rector of Trinity Episcopal Church, said when he worked with Brinker, at first she wanted to call her delivery program “Snacks on Sneakers,” but came up with the better name of Open Hand. He noted that like Jesus said to his disciples; “Feed the hungry and heal the sick,” that is exactly what this kind woman did every day.

Fernando Castillo, Open Hand’s first chef and dear companion of Brinker, spoke of his early days as an ill client who needed her help, then got better and began volunteering, later becoming her main chef. “There were good times and bad times, but we always got through it all,” said Castillo.

Pat Monk, Brinker’s son-in-law was the spokesperson for Brinker’s family, telling many tales, some amusing, some downright hysterical, and some bringing tears to the audience’s eyes.

Sister maeJoy B. withU of The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence spoke of the joyous time had by Sisters when they rode on her Open Hand f loat in a Gay Pride Parade, dressed in big chef ’s hats over their wimples and veils, with aprons over their habits, carrying gigantic knives and forks, pretending to cut up and serve a slice of a studly guy looking like a baked turkey on a platter. A safer sex reminder sign on the truck punned, “Don’t forget the condom-ments!”

The Sisters unanimously decided to beatify Brinker as “Saint Open Hand Open Heart, LOL/SOS, Ladelist of Love, Soupçon of San Francisco.”

Everyone repeated aloud three times, “Sainthood at last!”

Jana Drakka, director of Jana Drakka Community Services and teacher of Zenkei and Q-Sanghas, spoke of being homeless at one time in her life and relying on Brinker’s kindness, finally getting her life back together,

“The time has come to pull out the poly and break in the platforms,” added co-organizer Sister Eve Volution. “I want to celebrate life with you!”

When the deejay wasn’t playing disco tunes, Ethel Merman belted out some old favorite Cole Porter numbers such as “I Got Rhythm” and “Blow Gabriel Blow,” but with a definitely different disco beat. She also offered that old disco hit, Dead or Alive’s “You Spin Me Right Round.”

A good time was had by all, and as a result, a lot more safety packages will get distributed throughout a community that remains under attack from muggers and bashers.

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and joyously volunteering with Brinker, later to enter the Zen priesthood, where Drakka also works with Maitri hospice patients. She joined Johnson in reciting a Zen poem and then Maya Angelou’s poem, “Touched by an Angel,” which was a favorite of Brinker.

Brinker truly lived the words of the Dalai Lama whom she so much admired: “It is not enough to be compassionate. You must act.”

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(ROSTOW continued from page 3) than that, there’s not much to say. I don’t have particular propers for the prez, nor do any criticisms come to mind.

Breaking News! Republicans Don’t Like Us What else is new? I gather that we are communally incensed at Herman Cain, who recently said being gay is a “choice.” I’m sorry, but I don’t really care what Mr. Cain has to say on this or any other subject. Plus, why is this worse than when a pompous egotistical gasbag named Newt Gingrich, who told an audience in Iowa that same-sex marriage is a “temporary aberration that will dissipate,” and which “fundamentally goes against everything we know.”

It’s not as if I care what Newt says any more than I listen to Herman.

It’s just that Newt bothers me to a far greater extent. His lazy campaign style. His self-importance. The fact that he dismisses marriage equality for gay couples after cheating on two of his three wives and divorcing one of them during her cancer treatment.

His hypocritical, holier-than-thou attacks on Bill Clinton while he himself was having an affair with an aide.

His half million dollar Tiffany line of credit that he shrugs off like Marie Antoinette. His grandiose narcissism. I must say, I feel a little frisson of happiness every time I see his poll numbers.

Hey. It’s not as if any of these Republican candidates have expansive views of gay rights. I suppose Jon Huntsman ranks at the top, due to his support for some partner rights when he was governor of Utah. As for everyone else, they’d be happy to put us in shrink wrap like old sweaters and send us to the back of the closet.

Will SCOTUS Take Gay Case?

My buddies at Lambda tell me that the Supreme Court may consider their petition to review a Louisiana birth certificate case at their Oct. 11 meeting. This is a strange and fascinating case that pits two out-of-state men who jointly adopted a baby boy against state bureaucrats who spitefully refuse to issue a revised birth certificate.

whatever else you can think of that requires official papers. But because Louisiana doesn’t like gay adoptions, they won’t put both fathers on the certificate. They’ll put one man on, but not two.

The men sued, and the state lost twice in federal court. Then, in a bizarre opinion that touched on unrelated issues and misread the Full Faith and Credit Clause, the full Fifth Circuit overturned the rulings and came down in favor of Louisiana. Lambda then asked the High Court to take review.

Although the Supremes reject most petitions that come their way, they might just take this one. Why? Because another federal appellate court ruled in favor of gay parents in a similar case, creating a division in the circuit courts, which often forces the High Court to take a stand.

We’ll see. I hope they accept review, because that Fifth Circuit opinion was twisted. I can’t imagine any of the justices agreeing with its reasoning save the incomprehensible Sam Alito, the man who makes Thomas and Scalia look good.

Pigging Out I don’t have the space to go into another story, so I’ll complain, if I may, about the New York Times Sunday Magazine, which featured a pretentious section on food.

Among the snippets was a man telling us how to make a good cup of coffee, a ludicrous exercise that involved spending hundreds on a high tech grinder, using special fresh beans and throwing away any old ground coffee that might have been ground yesterday rather than two minutes ago.

Then there was the fellow who waxed dreamily about the morning he went with his farmer friend to kill a pig and drink the warm arterial blood. Something about being close to nature and sensing vitality and participating in the slaughter of ones food. Spare me.

Poor pig. As for me, I can only eat bacon and ribs if I do not contemplate the pain and butchery that brought them to my plate. Fortunately, I can do that!

States routinely issue new birth certificates to adoptive parents, a key document that allows the parents to enroll the kid in school, get him or her a passport, travel together, and

--Ann’s column appears every week at sfbaytimes.com. She can be reached at arostow@ aol.com.

As Heard on the Street . . .

AL L PH OTO S B Y RI NK

Would you prefer that we have a gay mayor?

Sean

Melenie

Keri

Joe

Savannah

“Yes, San Francisco definitely should have a gay mayor.”

“Yes. It would be great for the community to be represented.“

“Yes, we need a gay mayor. It is about time for that to happen!”

“Absolutely. A gay mayor would understand LGBT issues better.“

“Yes, as long as he stands up also for other issues than the LGBT community.“

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Three Strikes, You’re Turandot!

(FOLSOM STREET continued from page 1) Venus’ Playground was a safe place “for those who identify as women or gender-queer in the past, present, or future” at the fair. The playground was a place where women-friendly folks (including men) could hang out.

The Erotic Artists’ Area displayed a wide range of sexual expressions through both artworks and performance art. Riley’s Furry Friends Heavy Petting Zoo had a critter corral where “animal” lovers could pet human livestock. Moo, grrr, and oink!

Brass Tacks

The 7th Street Stage was hosted by VivvyAnne ForeverMore, Suppositori Spelling, Cookie Dough, and Ambrosia Salad. The 12th Street Stage was hosted by Anna Conda and MuthaChucka. The standout act for me was Hard Ton, a bald and bearish version in bondage of the grand diva Sylvester with fascinating falsetto.

I’m what you’d call a seasonal opera fan. It’s a short season. L ike hu nt i ng for ca r ibou i n A nchorage, it lasts one day – the day that t he San Francisco Opera simulcasts a live product ion from t he opera house to the JumboTron at AT&T Park. Apparently, I like my opera viewed from the bleachers w it h a hot dog in one hand and seagulls f lying overhead.

A few years back, my par t ner – the true opera fan in our family – knew she could talk me into seeing Lucia di L ammer moor by dangling ballpark snacks and gift shops be-

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Act I of Turandot performed by the San Francisco Opera at AT&T Park. fore my nose. It worked. We went and we bot h loved it. She loved the nuanced vocal interpretations and dramat ic choices of Nata lie Dessay as she performed the full ra nge of emot ions a nd music in the t it le role of Donizett i’s masterpiece about love, madness and murder on the Scottish moors. I loved that you could boo the vil-

lain like he was an umpire making a bad call and that the skinny sopr a no cou ld st i l l belt out a n aria hanging upside down of f the st age l i ke a lunat ic. Ma ke some noise for culture, San Francisco!

This year’s simulcast featured SF O pera’s 2011-12 sea son opener, Turandot. With my partner out of

tow n, my fr iend Nanc y Johnsen agreed to pinch hit. It’s not hard to g uess which side of t he a isle, opera or ballpark, Nancy sits on.

There’s a group of zaftig-thighed, middle aged women in town who refer to her as “El Commandante” for her cheerful-yet-unrelenting style in coaching us through the 2006 Bay Breakers. (continued on page 21)

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(DADT RALLY continued from page 1) der brothers and sisters who are still forced to serve in their own silence.”

He addressed the Defense of Marriage Act, saying, “DOMA still prevents LGBT couples from marrying, denying people who’ve been in relationships that have spanned decades the thousands of rights that their heterosexual counterparts - who’ve been married for fifteen minutes - enjoy.” He added, “Even with the fall of DADT, LGBT soldiers in committed relationships will be denied housing rights simply because they cannot marry because of this law.”

John Forrett is a retired decorated veteran who served under DADT and a member of Alexander Hamilton Post 448 in San Francisco. “In military parlance, we haven’t won the war yet.

It’s not time to declare ‘Mission Accomplished,’” he said. “Lesbian, gay, and bisexual service members with same-sex spouses or domestic partners will not have their relationships recognized by the Department of Defense due to DOMA.” Jose Antonio Rodriguez is a U.S. Navy veteran who was discharged under DADT after his sexual orientation was discovered following being drugged, kidnapped, and brutally raped. He has since become a fierce advocate to repeal the antiquated law. “After my discharge in 2010, my dream was taken from me,” he said.

“The only way this wouldn’t haunt me for the rest of my life was to fight for LGBT service members, and that my tragedy would impact the country to fight against hate crimes.” He hit the road four months after his discharge, traveling with Corporal Evelyn Thomas, to advocate for repeal.

“It is an overwhelming feeling to know that a door of opportunity has opened,” said Corporal Thomas.

“We must rip it off the hinges and storm in!” She said, “I will not rest, my transgender brothers and sisters, until the door is open for you!” She concluded, “Post DADT f inds me with the mission to enroll one million LGBT veterans into the Veterans Administration health care system.

LGBT veterans cannot claim their earned and entitled benef its until they enroll. They have served, and they deserve their earned and entitled benefits.”

National News Briefs Washington DC - Medicare Steps Up Enforcement of Equal Visitation and Representation Rights for Same Sex Partners in Hospitals September 7 Yesterday, the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) announced new guidance to support enforcement of rules that protect hospital patients’ right to choose their own visitors during a hospital stay, including a visitor who is a same-sex domestic partner.

These rules, finalized by the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services in November, apply to all hospitals that participate in Medicare and Medicaid. The guidance also supports enforcement of the right of patients to designate the person of their choice, including a same-sex partner, to make medical decisions on their behalf should they become incapacitated.

Nashville, TN - Vanderbilt Issues Statement on Non-Discrimination Policy September 27 Vanderbilt University has issued a statement regarding its registered student organizations after complaints that the school’s non-discrimination policy discriminated against religious groups on campus. Vanderbilt had asked nearly a dozen organizations to comply with a policy banning discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Five of the eight organizations that have failed to comply are religious-based groups.

The university began its assessment after a gay student was dismissed from a Christian fraternity last year.

Baltimore, MD - L Word Star Kicked Off Southwest Airline Plane September 27 Leisha Hailey, the actress who starred in the hit Showtime series The LWord, said she was kicked off a Southwest Airlines flight from Baltimore to St. Louis after she kissed her partner. Leisha is well known for her role on the groundbreaking show, which chronicles the lives of lesbians living in Los Angeles. The airline stated that their behavior was “excessive”. Leisha Hailey asked fans to boycott the airline due to the discrimination she suffered.

Source: The Hollywood Reporter

Source: Out & About Newspaper

Source: The Black AIDS Institute

Bentonville, AK - Walmart Adds Transgender Protections September 28 Big box retail giant Walmart has added transgender protections to its employee non-discrimination policy. The protections include gender identity and gender expression.

Walmart did not confirm when the new policy went into effect, only that the change was made “several weeks ago”.

News of the new policy has not been widely publicized.

Sexual orientation protections are already a part of the company’s “Discrimination and Harassment Prevention Policy”.

Walmart scored relatively poorly on the Human Rights Campaign’s annual Corporate Equality Index, which ranks major companies on their LGBT policies and practices.

Source: Windy City Times

Local News

Washington DC - Democrats Introduce Bill Aimed at Ending LGBT Discrimination in Housing & Lending September 29 On Sept. 22, members of both chambers of Congress introduced legislation that would extend housing and lending nondiscrimination laws to include protections based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Sen. John Kerry (D-Mass.) was joined by seven other Democratic senators in introducing the bill.

The bill would amend the Fair Housing Act to prohibit housing discrimination and intimidation on the basis of sexual orientation, gender identity, marital status or source of income, as well as amending the Equal Credit Opportunity Act to prohibit discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity in access to credit. We are getting there.

Washington DC - Military Chaplains Allowed To Perform Gay Weddings September 30 Ten days after the military dumped its “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy on gays and lesbians in the military, the Pentagon has issued new rules allowing military chaplains to perform same-sex marriages, but only if allowed by law and the chaplain’s beliefs. The new military rules on marriages must be in line with the Federal Defense of Marriage Act and local laws. The new policy allowing gays and lesbians to serve openly in the military went into force Sept. 20.

Source: CNN

Source: Metro Weekly

Bevan Dufty Releases Television Ad Featuring Daughter Sidney - 10.4

Effort to Repeal Gay History Law Prompts Complaint - 10.3

The Golden State Warriors Gets an Out-Gay President and Chief Executive - 9.29

In what’s believed to be the first time a campaign ad has ever shown an openly gay candidate’s child, Bevan Dufty released a television campaign ad Monday featuring his daughter. Dufty, one of 16 candidates running for mayor of San Francisco, is seen in the ad with his five-year-old daughter, Sidney, who he conceived with a lesbian friend.

On Monday, California’s largest gay rights group, Equality California, accused the backers of a ballot measure seeking to repeal a law requiring gay history to be taught in public schools of deliberately hiding the size and source of campaign contributions.

Rick Welts, the president and chief executive of the Phoenix Suns, has been hired as Golden State’s president and chief operating officer and will report to owners Joe Lacob and Peter Guber while handling the franchise’s business operations. He replaces Robert Rowell, who resigned in June as the club’s top executive for business operations.

The ad shows Dufty and his daughter taking a ride on the San Francisco Municipal Railway while the candidate says, “I ride MUNI everyday. I enjoy it most when I’m with Sidney. She doesn’t notice that it’s too crowded or that it can run a half-hour late… Sidney thinks Muni is magic… I want all of us to see it that way.”

Although gay parenting, just as gay marriage, has seen a rise in public support, response to the campaign ad has been mixed. One response on Twitter called it ‘exploitative.’ Dufty took to the social networking site to write, “We are very proud of the ad and it was a great present for Sidney who turned 5 yesterday.”

Two conservative groups behind the Stop SB 48 campaign “may have engaged in an unlawful scheme” to violate campaign reporting rules, Equality California Executive Director Roland Palencia said in a complaint filed with the state Fair Political Practices Commission.

Palencia’s group accuses Capitol Resource Institute and Pacific Justice Institute of raising and spending money to qualify the repeal referendum for the June 2012 ballot without registering as campaign committees. Under California’s strict campaign finance laws, political entities that receive more than $1,000 in contributions are required to register with the secretary of state.

Source: Associated Press

Welts left the Phoenix Suns earlier this month for personal reasons, four months after he became the first senior sports executive to openly acknowledge he was gay.

Welts said at the time he would relocate to Northern California to be with his partner. “It’s an opportunity probably for the first time for me to align my personal and professional lives,” he said.

The 58-year-old former NBA front office executive - he was third in command when he left in 1999 - said he hoped to return to work for a professional sports franchise in the Bay Area. He didn’t have to wait long for that opportunity.

Source: EDGE Boston

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The Space-Time Continuum Parenting Kelly Fondow Family life is a funny thing. As I was cleaning up after dinner last night I was thinking about all of our patterns. Through the years RoiAnn and I have fallen into dozens of them. Our daily life runs amazingly smoothly – thanks in large part to these routines that we have established. I cook and grocery shop, Roi does the laundry and keeps an eye on Eva’s homework and classes and schedules. We each have our responsibilities, mostly unspoken, but always understood.

If I stretch this thought line a bit, it quite easily extends beyond roles and responsibilities to the space we occupy and how we actually move within our house. We, like most families, have a morning routine. RoiAnn wakes up first and gets into the shower. Eventually Eva rouses and pads into the bathroom to join her. Eva has a to-do list taped onto the inside of the bathroom linen closet: Brush Teeth, Wash Face, Potty, Get Dressed. She wrote the list herself, complete with little sketches of each activity. She sets in on her list slowly and steadily. Her pace matching Roi’s. I lie in bed and listen to their early morning chatter.

Eventually, when I hear the shower turn off, I squeeze past Roi and Eva and climb into the shower for my turn. Typically, I’m out of the shower, dried, dressed and heading downstairs while the two of them are still wrapped in their towels. How exactly it can take them as long as it does to wake, wash and dress each day will forever be a mystery to me. Strangely though, it’s a charming mystery – one of the many ways our little family fits together snugly.

We actually have two full bathrooms in our house – the one on the first

Kelly Fondow and RoiAnn Phillips are raising two daughters in Oak Park, Illinois.

floor is only used when Grace is home from college. It is a beautiful bathroom. Much more lovely and spacious than the one that we all use upstairs.

Yet somehow our routine evolved into its present state and we find ourselves squeezing three people into a 3-footby-4 foot room on a daily basis.

I make my living helping people buy and sell houses. What I’ve learned is that each family, whether it is made up of two people or ten, has its own unique way of using space. I have worked with very large families who really, upon ref lection, only require very small spaces and I’ve worked with couples who have fit best in big sprawling beasts of homes.

The truth is, Roi and Eva and I, inevitably, are always in the same room.

We have this big old house, but we’re always on top of each other. Eva sleeps in her own room, but other than that, we really might as well have a one room house.

My parents, and quite possibly many others, would be puzzled by all of this togetherness. I cannot, however hard I might try, conjure an image of my mom walking into the bathroom to begin brushing her teeth while my dad is showering. Is it because we are all girls? Is it generational? Is it a gay thing? Or is it just a Roi – Eva - Kelly

phenomenon? Whatever the underlying causes, we spend as much time together all in the same space as our lives allow.

Having lived through the teenage years with one daughter thus far, experience suggests that our morning routine will evolve. Our days of squeezing three people into a bathroom are numbered. In a few short years Eva will enter into what I fondly refer to as the “vampire” stage – staying up late, sleeping late and walking through those middle hours of the day in a glassy-eyed state. She will, no doubt, spend as much time away from us as she can manage.

There are moments when all of this togetherness feels more like a burden than a gift. On these occasions I resist the urge to run from whatever small space the three of us are packed into. I imagine instead a time in the not-so-distant future when our teenage Eva is out more often than she is in. Sometimes that picture makes me smile with my imagined freedom.

Other times it makes me pull Eva even closer to Roi and I – creating an even smaller space for the three of us to exist within. In those moments I realize that I will happily go on living a one-room life with my lovely family for as long as I am allowed to do so.

Give What You Get we so often lean on for an excuse about why we let people treat us poorly, we can cut all of that loose today by letting those nine simple word s be ou r l ight house i n t he treacherous relationship waters.

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I a m a big fa n of M ay a A ng e lou. W hen our g irls started high school and began the dating proc e s s you c ou ld he a r u s r e p e at Maya’s ad mon it ion on a week ly basis, “You have to teach people how to treat you.” W hat a novel concept. In less than 10 words she summed up one of t he most impor t a nt aspect s, i f not t he most important aspect in any relationship. It begs the question why do we allow people to continue doing the things they do to us?

I believe the answer is truly in the directive by Maya Angelou. If we believe that we teach people how to treat us, then we are more in control of what we are willing and unwilling to accept from friends, family members, and lovers. The beaut y of this is… you can start teaching people how to treat you today. Regard less of the bad relationships, the poison family issues, all of the other baggage that

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Knowing that our girls would be navigating these waters, and recog n i z i ng how much emot iona l , verba l , a nd phy s ic a l abu se o ccurs, it was rea l ly an impor tant les son for u s to i n st i l l i n t hem from an early age. What we were able to do with this quote was to show t hem how to ra ise t he bar of ex pectat ions of t he people in their lives. We tried to teach them that they deserve no less than the best, and anyone who is unw i l ling to g ive them the best and to treat them like the special women t hey a re need not apply for ent rance into t heir l ives. My g irls have lea r ned to g ive what t hey get. T hey k now t hat by keeping that bar higher means that more q u a l it y p e o p le w i l l c ome i nt o their lives.

Recent ly, I had to ta ke my ow n advice. I have a new tennis friend a nd I c a l le d her up b e c au s e I needed some suppor t rega rd i ng my new tennis par tner. Because she d id not k now me ver y wel l, she did not quite understand that I was reaching out to her and instead of supporting me and making me feel better, when I hung up the phone I actually felt worse. I had a decision to make. Was I going to just shrug this of f and pretend like it didn’t happen, or was

I going to address my disappointme nt i n t h a t phone c on v e r s a tion? Needless to say, I started of f t he conversat ion w it h A ngelou’s quote, explaining that if we were goi ng to be fr iend s I needed to show her the kind of response that would have been more meaningful to me. A fter she apolog ized, she realized that she had not really been there for me and that in the future she would listen when I needed an ear and not talk over me. I bel ieve t hat conver sat ion opened up avenues for a fr iendship that would have died on the vine. In that moment, I taught her how I wanted to be treated.

So this week, look around you and ask yourself if people are treating you like you want to be treated.

If they are not, it really isn’t their fault. If you accept the slivers that people toss to you, it is not their fault that they tossed crumbs... it is yours for allow ing them to do so. Raise the bar. Have expectat ions of people t hat match your wor t h iness in t he world... va lue you r sel f enough to reject t hose who do not f i l l your hea r t w it h joy. The beauty of this component of the Law of Attraction is that all of the power in how people treat you i s w it h i n t he pa l m of you r hand.

D on’t a c c e pt a nyone’s c r u mb s a n y m o r e . Yo u a r e f a r m o r e deserving and you need to let everyone around you know it.

Arts&Entertainment Marga Gomez’ Not Getting Any Younger at The Marsh is Hilarious Comedy

Linda Ayres-Frederick Marga Gomez takes off like a firecracker in her 9th solo show Not Getting Any Younger playing at The Marsh in San Francisco. Lauded for her honesty as an out gay comedian before it was safe to be one, Gomez has actually been a master of deception - especially when it comes to revealing her actual age. Even Wikipedia doesn’t have it right and she’s the one who set it up, she confesses. Growing up in an era where children were seen and not heard, and no woman in her right mind would tell anyone her actual age (Marga’s mother claimed to be 21 forever), lying about her age came easily.

Especially when Marga wasn’t sure what the real numbers were. For every year she got older meant another number tacked onto her performer parents’ age. With a father who used shoe polish to cover his own grey hair and a mother who plucked the first grey one out of Marga’s head, it was “those people who couldn’t handle the truth” - according to Mom - who caused all the lying.

This 85-minute “coming of middle age” story begins with a clear analysis of the frightening lyrics of “Rocka-Bye, Baby” and journeys through an idyllic childhood visit to a dairy cow’s boudoir (remember Elsie?) in the Bronx at Freedomland. Freedom-

land, a now defunct amusement park, sounded about as unreal in its recreation of American history as Disneyland does fantasizing the lives of mice, dogs, ducks and elephants. The trip includes a hilarious twist contest to the music of Chubby Checker.

Enduring her childhood where parents assumed children were at fault if you got into trouble - if the nuns found you misbehaving, you suffered double punishment when you got home - Marga perseveres through soul crushing early years with the false hope that when she’s older she’ll be able to order children about. But in 2011, children call the shots, adults shoot botox and Gomez has to put up with monosyllabic young salesclerks calling her ma‘am, nearly driving her toward committing murder at a Forever 21 clothing store.

Before she unburdens herself to an audience member with her riskiest revelation, the audience is treated with spot-on comic timing as Marga morphs before our eyes from one character to the next including an ex-marine father hosting a birthday party that makes “Pin the Tail on the Donkey” into a hilarious, albeit frightening, childhood memory. This is a not-to-be missed solo show and Marga’s observations go well beyond the subject matter. Whatever age she is, it doesn’t show on Marga’s face.

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Marga Gomez is appearing at The Marsh in San Francisco through October 23. .

August: Osage County Dysfunctional Family Drama at City Lights in San Jose Theater Review

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The play opens with patriarch Beverly Weston (Michael West) regaling

a young woman with his musings on poetry, life, and his family. Turns out he’s interviewing Johnna (Alika Ululani Spencer), a local Cheyenne girl, for a position as housekeeper/caretaker, explicitly to care for his wife, Violet (Lillian Bogovich), as she deals with mouth cancer and a dependence on pills. Violet shows up towards the end of the scene, revealing the depths of her addiction and a somewhat whimsical approach to her circum-

stances. The house has windows covered with newspaper, taped shut to keep out the light.

In the next scene we begin to meet the rest of the family as they assemble to address the crisis of Beverly’s disappearance - he hasn’t been seen for five days. Violet’s sister, Mattie Fae ( Jackie O’Keefe), and her husband Charlie (Dan Roach) are there to prop Violet up and speculate on Beverly’s fate, along with Violet’s daughters Ivy (Lisa Mallette) and Barbara (Diahanna Davidson). Ivy teaches college in the same small Oklahoma town, whereas Barbara and her husband Bill (Rich Miller) and daughter Jean (Adrienne Walters) have come all the way from Colorado, where they are both professors. We also learn that Barbara and Bill are separated, owing to an affair that Bill is having with one of his graduate students. Family members vacillate between expressing care and concern for each other and spouting antagonisms; we especially witness Violet’s controlling behavior towards her daughters, even when she’s heavily under the inf luence. The sheriff (Damian Vega) arrives with bad news, and Violet descends deeper into avoidance.

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Tracy Letts’ 2007 play has been hailed as the most monumental American play of the last few decades.

It has garnered every possible theatre award, including a Pulitzer Prize in 2008, and ran to rave reviews for sev-

eral years on Broadway and extensive touring. Focused on one extended family in crisis during a hot August in small-town Pawhuska, Oklahoma, the play percolates with the best and worst of family dynamics, presenting ties that bind, ties that strangle, and ties that disintegrate when exposed to the light of day.

The dysfunctional family of August: Osage County sit down to dinner at City Lights Theatre in San Jose.

There are two more acts that introduce more characters and more plot points, with lots of secrets diverted and then divulged. These revelations often occur at a high price to one or more characters, until ultimately there is little left to cling to in terms of

Family. How they all got to this state of things is secondary to their current situation and how they deal with each other. There’s a lot of biting humor, sitcom style, in order to make the difficult conversations and revelations bearable.

It’s hard to discern a real message here - is Letts simply saying Families Suck? Or that one is stuck with one’s family, and has to come to terms with both past and present in order to have a future? That families have to be left behind in order to breathe?

Certainly this particular family is wildly dysfunctional, and perhaps deserves to disintegrate. What we take away from the play may depend on our own experiences with family, and who amongst the characters we identify with. Watching their interactions is both painful and somehow familiar even if we grew up with emotionally supportive relationships. The humor arises from our recognition of the way family members can talk to each other - with care, with love, with disdain, with contempt, with anger, with despair - speaking truths as they see them, not as they might be, and clinging to each other as if drowning, all the while making wisecracks.

City Lights Theatre Company in San Jose has tackled this demanding and daunting material with their usual take-no-prisoners force, assembling a fine, talented cast who impressively confront the challenge and mostly do (continued on page 20)

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A Delicate Balance: Still Precarious After a Half-Century

Claire (Jamie Jones) and Tobias (Ken Grantham) have a tête-à-tête about alcoholism, infidelity, and her sister in A Delicate Balance.

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t ion, wh ich i s d i rected by Tom Ross, is to realize how little we’ve heeded A lbee’s warning cry in the years since.

For t y- f i v e y e a r s a f t e r it s pr e miere, Edward A lbee’s A Delicate Balance, which is now running at t he Aurora, rema i ns one of t he most incisive and terrifying skewering of suburban America in our d ramat ic canon. T he usua l sus pect s - k nee-jerk propr iet y, iso lated half-acre castles - get their comeuppance, but so do the family and friendship ties that should t r a n s c end t hem ; i n h i s v i s ion , ever ything too easily proves hollow, a l most too ea si ly. It wa s a harrowing notion at its premiere, garnering A lbee his f irst Pulitzer, but perhaps the most interesting thing about the Aurora’s produc-

T he play’s prem ise is posit ively delicious: Agnes (Kimberly King) and Tobias (Ken Grantham) have ever y reason to ex pect societ y’s promise of a per fect domest icit y in t heir golden years. Banter ing about t h ing s l i ke t he d i f ference between an aphorism and an epig ra m, t he t wo ma i nt a i n a rap por t t hat is at once comfor table and f lirtatious (an ef fort made all the more sparkly by the fact that the actors are husband and wife), w it h A g ne s doi n g t he t a l k i n g , for dependent clause-laden paragraphs at a time, and Tobias the obliging. But various intruders intrude upon their rightful lifestyle: Claire ( Jamie Jones), Agnes’s al-

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cohol ic sister, long g iven up on leading her own life and attending A A, whose compulsive joking prov ides welcome lev it y i n one moment and then rips open deep scars the next; Julia (Carrie Paf f ), their thirty-six-year-old daughter returning home presumably to begin her fourth divorce; then, with an absurdist jolt, Harr y (Charles Dean) and Edna (Anne Darragh), Ag nes and Tobias’s best fr iends, who drop in with a startling proposit ion: They’re going to stay at Ag nes and Tobias’s home. W hy?

B e c au s e t he y “g ot f r i g ht ene d” in theirs - an explanation Agnes and Tobias must pretend is totally normal.

Under Ross’s direction, and well housed in R ichard Olmsted’s set desig n, wh ich bot h suggests t he coldness lurking in the suburban (continued on page 15)

Dear Miss Cline and Night Over Erzinga Hit Solid Notes Theater Review Linda Ayres-Frederick Smuin Ballet kicked off its 2011-2012 Season at the Palace of Fine Arts with a world premiere Dear Miss Cline by Choreographer in Residence Amy Seiwert set to the music of Patsy Cline. This acrobatic upbeat piece completed an evening that presented previously performed repertoire including the late Michael Smuin’s seductive fantasy of possession and passion Tango Palace played out in the steamy underworld of tango.

Along with its sultry qualities, this particular dance has elements of the passionate French Apache style.

Tango Palace definitely captivated the playfulness that Smuin expressed in his notes: “I wanted to make a piece that was more than heavy breathing, bared teeth and swooning back bends – tangos with a twinkle in the eye.” It was refreshing to see two of the men dancing so gracefully together after being refused by one of the women.

With subtle lighting (Sara Linnie Slocum & Michael Oesch) and beautifully suggestive costumes in combinations of jewel toned turquoise green/ blues and f iery orange/reds (Ann Beck), Tango Palace started the evening off with ferocious pizzazz.

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Following Tango Palace was Stabat Mater, Smuin’s response to 9/11. Set to Dvorak’s choral work of the same name, this breathtaking piece eloquently expresses the hope of moving forward after grief and loss and ten years later still has the emotional strength it did when first introduced.

Brian Trybom serves a birthday cake to grandpa in Night Over Erzinga at Fort Mason.

Least interesting of the evening was the pas de deux The Eternal Idol named for the August Rodin sculpture of a nude couple locked in an embrace.

More reminiscent of the little mermaid statue of Hans Christian Anderson at Copenhagen’s harbor, than sensuous.

It’s hard to ruin the music of Patsy Cline. While Seiwert’s quirky choreography brought out the humor of the ten Cline tunes, one sometimes wished for more daring interpretation in which the movement would be less tied to the exact rhythms.

Smuin Ballet’s Bay Area tour of their Christmas Ballet will run November 24 through December 24. For more information about upcoming performances go to www.smuinballet.org or 415.556.5000.

Moving Forward after Grief and Loss in Golden Thread’s Night Over Erzinga

Enjoying its West Coast Premiere at the South Side Theatre at Fort Mason Center is Night over Erzinga by Adriana Sevahn Nichols. Produced by Golden Thread Productions and directed by Hafiz Karmali, Erzinga is the first play of the Middle East America New Plays Initiative, a project that is managed by GTP, New York’s Lark Play Development Center and Chicago’s Silk Road Theatre Project.

A story about the immigrant experience of Armenian Americans, the central characters Alice and Ardavazt (in younger and older incarnations) try to build a new life in the U.S. in the aftermath of the Armenian genocide.

Inspired by Ms. Nichols’ personal heritage as a Dominican-Armenian American, the two and a half hour epic spans two continents and three generations from Western Armenia of 1913 to 1930’s Massachusetts to 1960’s New York. The lynchpin of the production is Juliet Tanner in a stellar performance as the Young Alice, (continued on page 15

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Pa m A n n - I nt e r n at ion a l Air Hostess With Her New Wo r l d To u r S h o w ‘ Yo u F ’c of fee’ - Pa m A n n g u ides you through the conundr ums of air travel, skewers the quirks of some of t he biggest i nternational airlines and mixes in a st i f f cockt a i l of ca mp, humor and m ines t he dark side of fabulous. The f irst stop in her global tour is The Castro Theater. Bring your overnight ba g, some c lea n u nder wea r,

Pam Ann will appear for one night only at the Castro Theatre on Saturday, October 8.

and a passport. Words of adv ice for those w ith mi le-high aspirations, “Buckle Up Love, It’s going to be a bumpy ride!”

T he C a s t r o T he a t er i n SF, Saturday October 8, 2011 for one night on ly! 7:30 p ( Doors open 6.30p). Advance Tickets on sale $35/$50 at Body - 450 Castro St. and online: biggaycomedy.com/tickets/ Da nce for Desser t? R AWd a n c e a t O r s o n - D i n ne r date? How about d inner a nd da nci ng? You do t he eat i ng, we’ll take care of the dancing.

D r i n k s w it h f r iend s? R AWdance is ready to prov ide the twist. On October 12, 18, and 19, R AWd a nc e pr em ier e s A Public Affair, a new duet for Artistic Directors Ryan T. Smith a nd Wendy Rei n. Per for med to a t r a c k by Ta n g led D uo, an ensemble compr ised of husband and w ife team Sar n Oliver and Mar iko Smiley of t he S a n Fr a nc i s c o Sy mpho ny Orchest ra, A P ublic Af fa ir pairs creative California cuisine with a side of violins and a d a sh of d a nce. T he piece, r i f f i ng on t rad it iona l d i n ner t he at er a nd t he u ne x p e c t e d su r pr i s e of f l a s h mob s , w a s inspired by R AWdance directors love of good food and SF’s foodie culture. The 10 -minute dance will be performed twice n ight ly at approx i m ately 7p and 8:30 p. T he per for mance can be viewed by both diners a nd pat r on s of t he ba r a nd lounge. Free to patrons of Or-

son at 508 4th St. SF, CA. Uh Huh Her at Slim’s! - The cr it ica l ly accla imed, elect ro pop duo U h Huh Her is L eis h a H a i le y ( ke yb oa r d , ba s s)

A Public Affair runs in October at RAWdance at Orson.

and Ca m i la Grey ( keyboard, g u it a r). T he ba nd i s get t i ng ready to relea se t hei r for t hcoming full-length album Noctur nes and w i l l be head l ining t he f i r st- ever Keep A Breast music tour suppor t ing breast cancer prevention and awareness. The trek - produced by House of Blues Entertainment - will be stopping in San Francisco on Wednesday, November 2 at Sl im’s. A por t ion of t ic ket s a les w i l l be don ated to Keep A Breast. Tix: 21$ at 8p Wednesday November 2 at Slim’s - 333 11th St. SF. Slimstickes.com.

Previously Secret Information - Presents true, modern American tales of the comedic variety. No, this is not an evening of one-liners in a story format.

That's not what this is. In fact, you will not hear any one-liners during the course of a PSI show. What's much more likely is that you'll hear surprisingly serious stories. A nd they'll be funny. T he producers, Br uce Pachtman, Joe K locek and Ty McKenzi, believe that some of t he f u n n iest moment s i n l i fe occur i n t he m id st of fr ighten i n g, d i s a st r ou s , a nd e ven tragic events. So, they recruited excellent comic performers a nd told t hem to tel l a stor y and not to leave anything out.

High prof ile comics like Greg P roops a nd Scot t Capur ro are on board. Ti x are 15$ at brow npaper t ickets.com. Sunday, October 16 at 7p. Stage

trand tells his own life stor y.

A s t he t it le i mpl ies t he f i l m chron icles Ga insbourg's love relationships as a lens into his 30+ year career as the French si nger- song w r iter, actor a nd d i r e c t or a nd s up er st a r. H i s c o m p l e t e d i s r e g a r d fo r t a boos and t he delight he took in scandalous behav ior made h i m fa mous, but h is musica l genius made him a legend. His relat ionsh ips ser ved a s bot h inspiration and muse. Directe d by Pa s c a l For ner i . W it h Bambou, Br ig itte Bardot, Ja ne Bi rk i n , C at her i ne D e neuve, Charlotte Gainsbourg, S e r g e G a i n s b ou r g , Ju l i e t t e Gréco, Françoise Hardy, Vanessa Paradis, Bernard Pivot & M ichel Sa rdou. Na r rated by P ier re L escu re. French w it h Engl ish Subt it les. Night ly at Rox ie, 7p & 9 p, plus Sat . & Sun. 3p & 5p.

Hot Flash has Blazed into a n I N F E R NO! - Joi n hu n dreds of women at one of San Francisco's hottest early even i ng s pot s: I n fer no Da nces!

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Seeking new members!

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immediate need for: trombones & double bass players

Bertrand Gainsbourg is the subject of a new film directed by Pascal Forneri and playing at the Roxie this month.

a nd keep it goi ng u nt i l 10 p.

DJ Rock away m i xes t he best f rom t he late 70 s to cu r rent h it s. O u r go - go’s ig n ite a nd our music excites. INFER NO: Can you st and t he heat? $10 6p -10p Saturday October 15 at Harlot, 46 Minna St., SF.

Whitney Port will appear at The Eve of Hope at Domaine Chandon on October 13.

Scott Capurro will appear at Stage Werx Theatre on October 16 for Previously Secret Information.

Wer x T heat re (4 4 6 Va lencia at 16th St.).

Gainsbourg: T he Man W ho L oved Women - In honor of the 20th anniversary of his untimely death, the Roxie presents Gainsbourg: T he Man W ho L oved Wome n. T he t it le references director François Truffaut's 1977 f ilm in which Ber-

The Eve of Hope - Domaine Chandon is host ing a specia l event in support of the National Breast Cancer Foundation.

T he e v e n i n g w i l l fe a t u r e a fashion presentation by Whitne y Por t , hor s d’o euv r es by M ichel i n- st a r red chef Per r y Hof fman of Chandon’s étoi le rest aura nt a nd, of cour se, plenty of bubbly. Whitney Port is known for her appearances on M T V ’s T he Hill s a nd T he C ity. The October 13 benef it marks Port’s f irst major publ ic appea r a nce on beh a l f of t he organ izat ion. T he event, wh ic h i nc ludes a r ec e pt ion , s i lent auc t ion a nd W h it ne y Eve fashion presentation, will be held at Domaine Chandon w iner y on Oct 13 from 5:30 8:30 pm. 1 Ca l i for n ia Dr ive, Yountville, CA. chandon.com.

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Funkin’ Around With The George Lacson Project

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Frankmusik No I.D. (Single/Remixes) The George Lascon Project will play Yoshi's on Tuesday, October 11.

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man Malcolm Marshall garnered all eyes when he up got behind that mic.

Soulful Singer, Dynamic Dancer, and Energized Entertainer (with a capital “E”). He put on a great show!

Recently discovered playing music on the edge at the Rockit Room.

Funky describes the beat, tastefully contrapuntal, blending the hot/innovative rhythms of St. Louis Bassplayer George Lacson and Drummer Michael Williams with David Ervin on Keys. Matteo Croda, one daring guitar player who does not play it safe, journeyed from dissonance to resolution but never lost the arc of what makes music. Daniel Casares, sax, was ever present and in a groove with a paint box of colors and tastefully orchestrated accents.

Unfortunately, the sound was not so great; the balance was off and the vocals and sax should have been louder.

But Malcolm Marshall was on! And the audience with him. Though a few dynamics would have enhanced the musical performance, the tunes were well constructed, a sign of musicianship not always found in a funk band.

The show was over too soon. A good sign. Check out this up and coming band: The George Lacson Project.

Playing Tuesday, October 11, at Yoshi’s on Fillmore in San Francisco. http://georgelacson.com.

David Ervin on keys was sweet and soulful and totally immersed in the magic. The crowd, a true eclectic San Francisco mix, collectively moved to the ever changing rhythms, but front

- Do you have an idea for an emerging Bay Area music artist? Write to Suzanne Birrell at Suzanne@thisoldhippy.com.

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Art for AIDS Celebrates 15th Anniversary Supporting UCSF AIDS Health Project

By Sister Dana Van Iquity UCSF Health Project presented the 15th annual “Art for AIDS” auction at the Galleria in the San Francisco Design Center. UCSF’s AIDS Health Project has served the community for more than 27-years with free HIV testing, education, counseling, and mental health services. More than 175 gallery quality works of art were on display on two floors.

Opening the show was Phantom of the Opera star and contributing artist, Franc D’Ambrosio, accompanied

by Stephanie Lynne Smith on piano, singing riveting selections from the well known musical. In attendance was skating champion Brian Boitano, who told Bay Times, “I’m having a great time looking at some fabulous art; in fact, I just saw a painting I want to pick up.” He said he had no particular favorite artist or medium.

“I am fascinated by all art and am impressed by the variety here,” he said. “I’m here to support Franc as well.”

Proudly displayed on stage was D’Ambrosio’s impressive black, white,

Vincent Frank aka Frankmusik made his name remixing Lady Gaga and Pet Shop Boys and producing synthpop legends Erasure, now takes his turn with this fresh single with vocals

by Colette Carr. I’m bopping my head and you will be too.

Location: Castro Street Fair Main Stage Best Cut: "No I.D."

Jessie And The Toy Boys Push It – Remixes So here’s the deal. This gal was signed to Epic with an all girl band Shut Up Stella. When that band went belly up, she went solo right up Britney Spears’ alley. Now Jessie has created the ultimate door mat band – made up of store mannequins.

Location: Background at the Brainwash Best Cut: "Skeet Skeet Remix"

Brunswick Lost Soul Vol. 1 (Compilation)

The UCSF Art for AIDS auction at the Galleria, where the Fifi and Fanny's show star Stephanie Smith entertained singer Franc D'Ambrosio.

and grey oil and acrylic, “Standing Ovation,” a single shadowy f igure with wings extended upwards. As I viewed the many other pieces in the exhibit, I made notes on those that especially attracted me – along with their websites so readers can check them out. Kristine Mays’ “His Side of the Story” is a wire sculpture of a sport coat that could almost be worn, it is that authentic (kristinemays. com). For those in the mood for trailer trash art, Greta and Manu Schnetzler's “Target Practice” is archival print on metal using a very long exposure of an abandoned, very beat up old trailer that has been shot at many times (schnetzler.com).

One of my favorite artists who submits to this show every year, Pamela Merory Dernham, works with powder coated steel wire sculpture.

Her “Wheel of Fortune” reflects her whimsical examination of erotic relationships through nude figures woven in wire (pmdernham.com). Sue Averell’s “Someday Reality” is an acrylic impressionist picture of San Francisco featuring a golden Palace of Fine Arts and Golden Gate Bridge with the skyline – all stylized to be very (continued on page 17)

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POP ROX

Oh my gawd! Okay, so it’s like finding out there are a whole lotta great soul tunes from the 60’s and 70’s hidden under a rock and you find them, and it is a retro dang good thing. This release is like all those lost “B Sides” you never heard. Sure to be favorite for those looking for a little Soul Train infusion.

Location: In line at Dottie’s True Blue Café, Tenderloin Best Cut: "Baby Don’t Tear My Clothes"

Sophie Milman In The Moonlight Yes, it is the year of the twenty-somethings. Sophie Milman brings it with this classy, jazz release. You’ll f ind Duke Ellington, Gershwin and Billie Holiday, of course, but also some sambas and French for your romantic self.

Location: Sunday morning with your honey Best Cut: "Speak Low"

Sister Dana Says . . .

Criolla Kitchen Makes it Like Nana Did

Sister Dana Van Iquity Prescribes the “Don’t Miss” Events in the Bay Area shots, beer bust – a l l benef it ing Sister Myster ia’s favor ite cha r ities, A IDS Emergency Fund and Breast Cancer Emergency Fund.

Sister Mysteria of the Holy Order of the Broken Hymen will be beatif ied “Patron Saint of Fag Hags, Fau x Q ueen s , Fa l s e Eye l a s hes , and Fingerless Gloves.”

L e t ’s h e a r it for t h o s e w a r m hearted rabid r ight-w ingers who cheer for inord inate numbers of executions, say hallelujah to lett ing a coma pat ient d ie w it hout insurance, and jeer an openly gay soldier serving in Iraq. Christian love? NOT!!! Anyway, here’s some good stuf f.

BE AT I F IC AT ION C E L E BR A TION: The LGBTQ & kink commu n it ie s h av e lo s t a b e aut i f u l sou l, a nd I have lost a pa r t ner, lover, mother, best friend, conf idante, soul-mate, and sister, my Mystie – she was an inspiration, a n or ig i na l fau x queen a nd fag ha g a nd com mu n it y f u nd r a i ser all rolled into one. Saint Mysteria (nee Sister Mystie, 1952-2011) was the f irst ever female Sister of Perpetual Indulgence; creator of f irst ever A I DS fundraiser at Folsom Street Fair; f irst openly SM dom Sister in the world; and one of the f irst visible faux queen activists.

Therefore we pay homage to her humor and camp aesthetics w ith two events: “Stations of the Myster ia Cross: t he Mag ica l Myster ia Tour of t he Castro” on Oct. 12, 8 p.m., beginning across from Edge bar near Colling wood Park.

I n add it ion, on Oct. 15, 4 p.m.

– 2 a . m . i s “ C u i r Noi r ( B l a c k Leather): a Fabulous Faux Féte at the Edge,” which is a pageant of fau x queens per for m i ng, Jel l- O

POL IT ICS IS A DR AG: A benef it for Bevan Duft y for Mayor, Saturday Oct. 9 is an event like no other to benef it Bevan Dufty, former District 8 Supervisor, and candidate for Mayor held at Beatbox, 314 11th Street, 7 – 10 p.m.

There is an all-star line-up w ith per for mances by Hek lina, A nna C ond a , Si ster Roma , Pol lo Del Mar, Cook ie Dough, Donna Sachet, M at t hew M a r t i n, L i ndsay Slowhands, Ethel Merman, Ruby Hol id ay, S eren it y Hea r t , Kyl ie Minono, and many more. Plus the fabulous DJ, Juanita More! They are suggesting donations between $5 a nd $10, a nd up to $50 0 to help Beva n get elected. No one w i l l be t u r ned away for lack of funds, but please consider donating what you can to a candidate t hat has a l l t he tools to get our city back on the right track.

S F P O L I C E D E PA RT M E N T LGBT FORUM: A free public information event on the subject of hate crimes, to explore how they are classi f ied, invest igated, and prosecuted, a nd what resources a nd suppor t is ava i lable to surv ivors of such incidents. T hursday, Oct. 13, 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. at the SF LGBT Community Center, Rainbow Room on the 2nd Floor.

M a ny of us k now someone who has been the victim of crime, and some of us know people who have been the v ictim of a hate cr ime.

T he event w i l l i nc lude presen -

t at ions from t he Depa r t ment of Justice, Federal Bureau of Investigations, San Francisco District At tor ney 's O f f ice, a nd t he Sa n Fr a n c i s c o Po l i c e D e p a r t me nt .

This will be followed by about an hour of moderated Q& A with the expert panelists from these same organizat ions and from community organizers who form the Forum itself.

J UA N I TA MOR E ! NO T F OR SA L E: Book launch and ex hibition, Tuesday, Oct. 11, 6 – 9 p.m. at Ha r r i s, 1131 M i ssion St reet , S F. I n f o a t j u a n i t a m o r e . c o m .

This October marks 20 years of Jua n it a! “ I k now it’s absolutely hard to believe – especially since I have barely aged a day thanks to Photoshop,” says the drag queen.

“In celebrat ion, I am so excited to announce the launch of a selft it led book i n conju nct ion w it h t he opening of ‘Not For Sa le,’ a sur vey of creative collaborations between contemporary artists and myself.” The ex hibit ion is being curated by a n a ma zi ng tea m of friends and is literally tak ing up an entire city block. Some pieces in the show have not seen the light of day. Ever. Book info: Soft cover is $35, hard cover is $65.

PA M A NN - INTER NATIONA L A IR HOSTESS: (aka Australian comed ien ne Ca rol i ne Reid ) re turns to the Castro Theater Saturday, Oct. 8 with her new world tour show, You f ’Cof fee. 7:30 p.m.

Doors at 6:30. No-host bar in the mezzanine for 21+. Advance tickets $35/$50 at Body, 450 Castro St. Partial proceeds benef it Lavender Yout h Recreat ion and Infor mat ion C enter ( LY R IC ) a nd It G et s B et ter P rojec t . F ly her friendly skies!

for some fun people watching, alt hough when t he w ind pick s up, you’ll be glad to grab a table indoors.

Food Review David Grabstald Being from the South, there is a special place in my heart for good ‘ol dow n home cook i ng l i ke my Na n a u sed to m a ke. L ow c a lo r ie a nd sug a r-free cook i n’ were def initely not on the menu when it c a me t o fe e d i n g her f a m i l y.

Cholesterol worries aside, there’s somet h i n g s at i s f y i n g ab out s itting down w ith friends and fami ly for some good conver s at ion and heaping platefuls of delicious grits, fried chicken, hush puppies, and red beans and rice.

Now, if you were think ing Cr iol la K itchen is ser v i ng food l i ke Nana used to make, or even some amazing Creole cuisine that you’ve wa nted to t r y from New Orleans, you’d be m ist a ken. I’l l a l w ay s m a k e a s p e c i a l t r i p t o New Orlea n s just to have some of the gumbo and fried oysters at t he ACM E O yster House in t he French Quarter. But, chef Randy Lewis does a nice job of bringing dow n -home S out her n f avor it e s to the Bay Area in the space formerly occupied by Bagdad Ca fé at the corner of Market and Sanchez Streets. This corner hot spot t ha n k f u l ly ha s been bus y ever y time that I have visited both alone and w ith fr iends for br unch and d i n ner. O utdoor seat i ng ma kes

A few fresh coats of paint, some ex posed br ic k w a l l s , i ndu st r i a l l ight i ng, st a i n les s steel touches here and there, and new art gives t he pl ace a much more upsc a le fee l , a lt hou gh h av i n g a n e x t r a bat h room wou ld be n ice. I a lso didn’t like having to walk past all the ser vers and hectic k itchen to get to t he lone bat h room. Wit h servers rushing back and forth, I thought I might be knocked over a couple of t i mes wh i le wa it i ng in line.

Service at Criolla Kitchen is fast a nd cour teous, fra n k ly, some of the best I’ve had in quite a long t ime. It’s nice to be ser ved w it h a sm i le from someone who on ly cares t hat you are t here and knows the intricacies of the menu.

Chef L ew is’s menu, it should be noted, cha nges frequent ly, w it h a creative mix of Southern favorites. Accord ing to a message on the menu “you w ill taste A fr ica, and Puer to R ico, and L ouisiana where I’m from; and Portugal and Cuba, and San Francisco where we share a bounty of ingredients l i ke no ot her pl a ce on ea r t h.’”

So, I was really look ing for ward to t r y i ng some of Chef L ew i s’s bounty.

Yo u c a n ’ t r e a l l y s c r e w u p a sh r i mp po’ boy ver y ea s i ly, a nd t he one I t r ie d w a s s er v e d on del icious French bread w it h to matoes, lettuce, and a side green sa lad ($10.90). The shr imp were cooked to per fect ion and ser ved w it h a side of New Orlea n s remou lade. I shou ld have ordered an extra sandwich to go, perhaps (continued on page 17)

(MARGA GOMEZ continued from page 9) ity.” And she just keeps getting better.

So, be prepared to laugh!

Originally directed by Ellen Sebastian Chang, Not Getting Any Younger was work-shopped at The Marsh earlier this year and was presented OffOff Broadway at Dixon Place and at

the Bronx Academy of Art and Dance before returning to The Marsh, 1062 Valencia Street (at 22nd St.) where it plays through October 23, Thursdays and Fridays at 8pm, Saturdays at 8:30pm, Sundays at 3pm.

For Tickets $15-$35, $50 reserved. www.themarsh.org or 415.282.3055.

(A DELICATE BALANCE continued from page 10) a b o d e a nd s et s u p a ver it a ble box ing r ing for t he a ltercat ions to t ra nspi re i n, t he ca st most ly nails A lbee’s venom. K ing, w ith her lopsided smile, imperious delivery and the occasional animallike motion, g ives her ever y line t he snap of a m ight y w it or t he pat hos of a wounded w i fe. Pa f f provides the perfect counterpoint to K i ng’s relent less poise, f idget ing w ith a lmost schizophrenic energ y, or, when her ter r itor y’s t hreatened, bark ing l i ke a fero c i ou s t e r r i e r. I t ’s G r a nt h a m’s To b i a s w h o f e e l s i n c o m p l e t e .

P itch- per fec t when h i s k it a nd kin ask no more of him than to be a n unquest ion ing bar tender, he fails to imbue the intense moral qu a l m s a nd m a r t y r t endenc ies he’s supposed to have w it h rea l conv ict ion. It’s not t hat Tobia s is a dogged believer in the righteousness of h is l ifest yle, but in Grantham’s rendering, it’s almost as though Agnes merely suggested a character t ra it to h im and he

thought he’d try it on for size.

It feels right to stage this product ion r ight now, at a t i me when crowded houses are t hreatening the A merican dream in a dif ferent way. Despite their relative secur it y, A g nes and Tobias aren’t far of f from many A mer icans of the same age, who are discovering how much others, so entitled i n t he i r de p endenc y, s udden l y need them. What will it take, this production proposes, for us to f inally heed A lbee’s words?

A D el i cat e B al a n ce h a s been extended (Tuesday to Sunday, various t i mes) t h rough October 23 at the Aurora Theatre, 2081 Addison St., Berkeley. Tickets ($10 - $48), call (510) 843 - 4822 or at www.auroratheatre.org - Check out Lily’s blog at http://lilyjaniak.blogspot.com.

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Spending a “Weekend” With Out Actor Chris New Why do you think Glen and Russell are attracted to each other?

I think as w ith a lot of relationships, it’s the accidental challenges that make it work. They say the right thing, in the right frame of m i nd to each ot her. T hei r persona l it ies… t he t i m i ng is r ight.

You are ready to have that experience. That happens with a lot of relationships, short or long, that “right period” where you respond to each other.

Many couples in RDPs since January 1, 2008 are eligible for thousands of dollars in refunds (seriously, thousands).

Glen talks about his coming out in the f ilm. Can you discuss your coming out?

Tom Cullen and Chris New star in Weekend, a gay romance directed by Andrew Haigh.

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A nd rew Ha igh’s excel lent , i nt imate gay romance Weekend invites viewers to eavesdrop on the budd i ng relat ionsh ip bet ween Rus sell (Tom Cullen) and Glen (Chris New). Meeting at a club one night, t he y s p end t he n i ght t og et her.

A nd t hen t he next day, a nd t he next night, and the next day.

Glen is an artist and has a queer p ol it ic a l b ent . Ru s s e l l i s mor e subdued, an ever y man who just wants to be happy. Their conversations are often poignant - Chris e x pl a i n s how he w a s out e d i n school - a nd somet i mes heated, as when Russell argues a position about gay marriage. Haigh f ilms these men in a documentar y-like fashion in Russell’s apartment, or chatting idly on public transit.

We e k e n d m ay s e e m l i ke a t wo hander better suited to the stage, but the f ilm’s intense f ly-on-theway style draws viewers in; audiences become invested in the relationship to the same degree that Russell falls for Glen (and maybe Glen for Russell). This approach gives the f ilm its passion and emotion that is felt in the very moving f inale.

T he Bay Times spoke to the openly gay New about making Weekend.

BT: How did you approach the character?

C N: We t r ied to ma ke Glen a s r ou nd e d a s p o s s ible - not one note, or agg ressive. A nd rew let me bring my own kind of sense of humor to him. I enjoy the absurd, the strange little things in life. I wouldn’t say I’m a jokemeister.

How much of the f ilm was improvised?

It’s hard to say what was in t he scr ipt a nd what we i mprov ised.

It’s would be interest ing to look at t he or i g i n a l s c r ipt now. We were very in the moment, and did lots of versions. Because we were shooting in sequence, we [didn’t] wor r y ab out s ay i n g s omet h i n g that we’d already shot. That was rea l ly g reat, ver y [freeing], and allowed us to relax.

How did you develop your rapport with your co-star, Tom? We d id n’t do a ny speci f ic techniques. The main t hings we d id is try to relax around each other.

The relationship on the set wasn’t one t o one/one on one , but a three-way between Andrew, Tom and I. Because we were relaxed, there were no tensions when [the camera] rolled. That’s what made some of the more interesting moments in the f ilm, when we create a nice chemistry.

Is Tom your type?

No. He’s completely t he oppo site, sad ly! W h ich made it k i nd of easier act ua l ly. [ L aughs] But he’s got quite a fan club now the f ilms been released. Apparent ly, he’s lots of people’s type.

My coming out was exactly timed when I came out of the womb. I was “if anyone has a problem - it’s their problem!” I was lucky. I am stubborn. I came out of the womb knowing I was going to be an act or a nd a homo s e x u a l . I don’t know why I knew it, but I did.

Why do you think it’s important to be an openly gay actor?

T here’s no rea son not to be. I f I miss out on a job, then I won’t know about it. My f irst agent told me not to tell the press I was gay, but I was in Bent so I f ired him.

Gl e n record s hi s sexual expe r i e nces, (and reads Russell’s). Have you ever done this?

I’ve never kept a record of those things. I don’t know why really I never keep a record of anything. I have the worst memory on earth.

It’s strange to think why he would.

It’s not just for the art. It’s a way of exploring the emotions and reality to explore it from a distance.

L a st quest ion : W hat ’s your favor it e way to spend a weekend? [ L aughs]. Not su re…Usua l ly i n bed . I f you’ve got a good bed , life’s good. I’m a very hermit-like person. I just stay in. I’m a homebody. Not a very sexy answer is it?

Well , I’m going to say you are naked in your bed! [ Laughs.]

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Documentary Premieres at The Castro Theatre Film Jack Pedersen On September 14th, t wo fr iends and I went to a Frameline inviteonly world premier of T he Strange Histor y of Don’t Ask , Don’t Tell at T he Cast ro T heat re. A n ight at the Castro Theatre is always special, and this night was that and so much more. From the moment I stepped i n l i ne I k new it wa s a not her memor able Fr a mel i ne sponsored event. Vets from severa l wars were ver y v isible. You cou ld see how proud t hese decorated men a nd women were to have served our country.

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T he ent r y t ic ket w a s a pa i r of wonder f u l ly eng r aved souven i r dog tags. Once seated the mighty Wurlitzer arose with lively patriotic music and ended with its signature song “San Francisco.” In attendance were t he f i lmma kers Fenton Ba i ley, R a ndy Ba rbato,

The Strange History of Don't Ask, Don't Tell is played on HBO this month.

State Senator Mark Leno ( D-SF ), and Aaron Belkin of SFSU. H BO doc u ment a r y f i l m m a ker s Fenton Ba i ley a nd R a nd y Ba rbato (W i shf ul D r i n k i n g,T h e E ye s Of Tammy Faye, a nd He idi Fle i ss: T he Would-Be Madam of Crystal to name just a few of a long impressive acclaimed list), have another winning documentary, T he Strange History Of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

T he f i l m fol low s a c omp e l l i n g complex t i mel i ne of gays i n t he military dating back to the Spartan Warriors, through both world wars to the present day. Impress ive gover n ment foot a ge of t he hea r i ng s pro a nd con i nclud i ng Joh n McCa i n’s ad a ma nt objections then and now of the compromise legislation President Clinton (continued on page 17)

Bill T. Jones, Tony Award-Winning Choreographer (1952 -

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came to his funeral. Jones described Fela! as a “lyrical meditation on what it means to be an original…what is the price we pay for our originality?”

The colorful, irreverent, Afro-style choreography of Fela! will be coming to San Francisco’s Curran Theater, Nov. 15th – Dec. 11th 2011.

Jones says dancers “can’t be afraid of pain – physical or emotional” and must reckon, sooner than most with the transition from “superhuman and forever young” to something more realistic after the age of 30, when most dancers’ professional careers are spent.

der identity and homophobia. When Zane died at age 39 of AIDS-related lymphoma, Jones mourned him by creating a memorial piece, Absence (1989), a dance of longing and emptiness, and Forsythia (1989), a duet celebrating Zane’s favorite f lower.

Jones said, “Forsythia was trying to recreate for myself a sense of the true camaraderie of my partnership with Arnie,” a partnership that spanned 17 years.

Inspiring LGBT Prof iles Kathleen Archambeau “You’ve got to, every day, face your aching body and your damaged ego and you’ve got to get up there and do it again and again…”

He was the most unlikely winner for Best Choreography in Tony Award history – African-American, tenth child of twelve children born of poor migrant potato farmers in Upstate New York, HIV-positive and openly gay. No private dance lessons. No personal dance coach. No dance studios. In fact, Bill T. Jones was a track star in high school and won a scholarship to SUNY-Binghamton where he studied dance and theater. That is where he met his first love, Arnie Zane. He and Zane, from a JewishItalian family in the Bronx, toured for two years as a modern dance duo with American Dance Asylum. In 1982, they formed the Bill T. Jones/ Arnie Zane Dance Company and the company directors quickly became renowned as original creators of the post-modern dance idiom, a language that confronted the issues of racism, religion, AIDS, sexism, gen-

The Guardian called Bill T. Jones a “Body Artist” in a 2004 O’Mahony critique of his more than 100 works for his own company. Controversial, many early New York critics dismissed Jones as a didactic spokesperson for “victimhood” and not as a serious artist. It is no wonder that, despite a body of work that included choreography for the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater, Boston Ballet and Berlin Opera Ballet, Bill T. Jones was not widely recognized until he was 55 and received his first Tony Award for Best Choreography for Spring Awakening (2007), a rock musical starring Glee’s Lea Michele, that explores the crossing of boundaries of sexual propriety, power and authority, set in late 19th century Germany.

His stomping dance in the number, “The Bitch of Living,” builds to a crescendo that has the audience wanting to stamp their feet. The recipient of many prizes, including a MacArthur “Genius Award,” it took until mid-life before Bill T. Jones became a household name. In 2010, Jones was again awarded a Tony for Best Choreography for the hit Broadway musical, Fela!, a story of Nigerian political dissident and composer of Afrobeat music, Fela Kuti. When Kuti died of Kaposi’s sarcoma, a million people

What lessons does 2010 Kennedy Center Honoree Bill T. Jones teach us? That we are not forever young and that it is okay to age in the gay community and still have value and still create anew. When asked about his next work, he basically brushed off a reporter by saying you would not ever know what was coming next from Bill T. Jones. As an artist, Jones is generative and forever awakening.

An out gay African American man living with a white partner in the early ‘70s, Jones has faced fearlessly the meat cleaver of his first lover’s parents when they chased him out of their home and throughout his life has responded, “The art comes out of a place of wanting to be embraced… but it also comes out of the feeling you have to push against something in a world that does not understand and maybe can never understand and those two polarities make a heat that turns into work…” Today, Jones lives with longtime partner, set designer and sculptor, Bjorn Amelan in Valley Cottage, New York. The best advice Bill T. Jones ever got came from his sharecropping mother, “Life ain’t nothin’ child, than putting one foot in front of another.” No matter what your challenges, no matter what your alienation, no matter what your disappointments or losses, no matter what your economic downturns or career reversals, follow Bill T. Jones and simply “put one foot in front of another.”

- Excerpted from Kathleen Archambeau’s next book, Pride and Joy: Inspiration From The Great LGBT Artists And Thinkers. Expected publication date is in 2012.

(DADT FILM continued from page 16) was forced to sign in 1993, Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

S er v icemember s L eg a l Defen se Network (SLDN ).

We a r e i nt r o d u c e d t o t he s a d stories of the faceless gays in the m i l it a r y. W it h a t horough look at the r isk these brave (and hiding) men and women took, as well a s t hei r rel at ion sh ips a nd even t hei r deat hs. T he t i mel i ne continues with stories of soldiers like Leonard Matlovich, the f irst gay ser v ice member to f ight the ban on gays in the military. His photog r aph appea red on t he cover of the September 8, 1975 issue of Time Magazine.

T he mu s ic by Dav id B enja m i n St e i nb er g i s a s t u n n i n g s ubt le background score.

In 2010 things started to change with the civil rights activists push to repeal DA DT. At the front line was Cong ressma n Pat r ick Murphy ( D-Pen), who was himself an Iraq war vet and most likely lost h i s reelec t ion due to h i s st a nd against DA DT, and Aubrey Sarvis the Executive Director of the

The timeline f inally explodes with the Senate hearings of 2010 with arch iva l foot age a nd inter v iews w ith featured politicians such as Representative Barney Frank ( DMass) and Senator Joe Lieberman ( D-CT ). And f inally, the signing of the repeal by President Obama on December 22, 2010.

Filmed during the last two years of DA DT, T he Strange Histor y Of Don’t Ask , Don’t Tell is a powerful documentar y of news footage , personal accounts, and the real history of gays in the military. But more than just gays in the mi litary it’s a story of gay rights. T he Strange History Of Don’t Ask , Don’t Tell is currently airing on HBO.

(ART FOR AIDS continued from page 14) three dimensional (sueaverell.com).

Kenney Mencher’s “Ritual” is oil on canvas in four panels with a film noir feel in black and white, showing a roguish gentleman with a blonde bombshell, who in the last panel of their “date” is hugging him while lifting his wallet (kenney-mencher.com).

one horny! Nancyottoglass.com).

Boitano purchased Martine Jardel’s “Site #64,” because, “I really love the colors – the turquoise and dusty red – anything with fire colors like orange and red I like, and the combination was really enticing to me” (martinejardel.com).

Alejandro Rubio’s oil on linen, “Island in the Sun,” would be a pleasant place to visit when stressed out - with a very green island, foliage aplenty, palm trees, little huts, and small boats in calm water (alejandrorubio.com).

For a bit of whimsy, Katie Gilmartin’s viscosity linocut, “Whisper His Sin,” is an imitation of a pulp fiction paperback jacket of a book, His Sin

by Benjamin Dover (or Ben-dover for short?!), where a seedy, sinister, sly male character is eying a pretty young dude near the Castro Theatre (katiegilmartin.com). Kinky! Matt Pipes’ “Agwé is mixed media, oil, and resin in green and blue of a young Neptune or Poseidon figure underwater with trident and crown with bubbles surrounding him (mattpipes.com).

Nancy Otto’s “Treats” is a blown and sandblasted glass sculpture of a giant M&M - except just one “M,” and it’s the green one that supposedly makes

“ It i s a n honor t o b e her e,” D’Ambrosio told me later on. “I love San Francisco and consider it my second home. I believe in the artists.” He added, “This is a wonderful organization for an important cause; but I wish we could be raising money for cupcakes instead of AIDS. But there is a need, and as a community, we will always come together.” He said his “Standing Ovation” was inspired by Lisa Vroman, who played Christine to his phantom, adding, “She is a big bundle of energy and love and talent that is compacted in that little fivefoot-two body.” He said that piece was one in a series of divas. His pieces are currently displayed at Art Haus (arthaus-sf.com).

My only complaint about that incredible show was the noticeable lack of any male frontal nudity. Oh well, can’t have it all.

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(CRIOLLA continued from page 15) of the catf ish or fried oyster variet y ($10.90 each). Fr ied chicken a nd wa f f les ($11.9 0) a re on t he menu for bot h br unch a nd d inner, with the pieces of moist and tender chicken fried with a golden cr ust of sl ight ly spicy goodness.

For w h a t e v e r r e a s on , t he t wo pieces of chicken were smaller for brunch, and a lot bigger at dinner. The ser ver was nice enough to accommodate my request for a breast and a leg when I ordered.

The accompany ing butter y waff les were ser ved w it h Ver mont maple syrup and some of the best maple butter I’ve ever tasted. In add it ion to t he or ig i na l wa f f le, the Johnny-cake variety was also an int r ig uing choice, w it h a bit more texture with each bite. Acc ompa ny i n g c a ne - su g a r but t er and maple syrup were simply outstanding and an iced chicory coffee helped wash everything down.

At dinner, an accompanying side salad was a waste of plate space, not that it was bad mind you, but didn’t really add anything to the

me a l . T he r e d b e a n s a nd r ic e were a disappointment, in desperate need of more seasoning. Furt her d isappoint ment came from the shr imp-stuf fed hush puppies w ith bread and butter pick le remoulade ($5.9 0) No matter how much butter or remoulade slathered on, they remained too dry to enjoy despite hav ing a delicious crunchy outer shell.

To stuf fed for dessert, I sk ipped the bread pudding with Bourbon sauce and key lime pie. Tempting my tummy was the pecan pie listed on the menu, but alas it was a menu misprint and was no longer being ser ved. Hopefu l ly, t hey’l l act ua l ly have some for my next visit.

C r iol l a K it c he n h a s a s p e c i a l Southern hospitalit y that makes it a m a r velou s a dd it ion to t he n e i g h b or ho o d . W it h e x c e l le nt service, decent cuisine, and “hot spot” attitude, it’s worth a visit.

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Uh Huh Her plays Slim’s on their Keep a Breast Tour. Nov. 2nd. See Hot Tickets.

6 Thursday

Dyke Central Premiere - A stellar night of glitz and glamour, entertainment, performance and, of course, the premiere of the pilot episode of Dyke Central! The evening will be hosted by D’Lo, and will include a fashion show (featuring the new MoC clothing line) 7pm at the Grand Lake Theater 3200 Grand St Oakland CA. Go Deep! Let’s Wrestle - The moment you’ve all been waiting for, Red Hots Burlesque SF’s Best Bump and Grind have been conspiring with your friends at El Rio to bring you a all girl monthly lube wrestling contest. No one can resist hot babes covered in glistening sex slick writhing and wriggling in attempts of pinning each other. You can come and watch or be a part of the action. Make a reservation and get ring side seats! Email redhotsburlesque@ gmail.com. Sign-ups done through the above email and night of event. $10$15 8pm at El Rio 3158 Mission St SF. 21+.

The East Bay Butch Group - Meets the 1st Thursday of every month in Berkeley, 7-9pm, to discuss and explore butch identity, to honor and preserve butch culture, and to share our common experiences. There’s a topic for each meeting that acts as a starting point or catalyst for our conversation. Meet at the Berkeley Fellowship of Unitarian Universalists (1924 Cedar Street (at Bonita), Berkeley, CA) at 7 pm. The entrance to meeting space is on Bonita - come in through the gate and go to the second floor.

Unfortunately, there is no elevator.

7 Friday

Country Nights - Women’s Partner Dancing - Come on out and enjoy a night of Two-step, Waltz, Nightclub Two Step, Swing, Latin, & Line dancing. Instruction by Michael Metzger.

Music by Joanna Gritz 7:30pm to 8:15pm - Wonderland Waltz (line dance) 8:15- 8:45pm - Lover, Lover (line dance) Lake Merritt Dance Center *A fully disabled accessible venue* 200 Grand Avenue , Oakland , CA Hall 1 with 1800sq ft of dance floor!

Instruction 7:30pm-8:45pm; open dancing 8:45-11pm. Cost is $10.

Includes lesson, dancing until 11pm and light refreshments ~ Walk in, dance out! No Experience Or Partner Necessary! All ages Welcome! Smoke, scent and Alcohol Free! Lake Merritt Dance Center 200 Grand Ave, Oakland Lounge & Ballroom - 4 to 11pm.

Duniya Dance Hall - A saucy evening 1 8 BAY TIMES OCTOB E R 6 , 2 0 1 1

of dance performances by Duniya Dance and Drum Company, live music

by Wontanara Revolution, and DJs to get you dancing! Every month, we showcase Bhangra, Bollywood, and West African dance pieces. Wontanara Revolution brings you dance-inspiring Roots Reggae Afro Mandingue music to get you moving. DJ Juan Data on the wheels of steel will keep the party going late. Special guests every month. $5 $10 at Bollyhoood Café 3372 19th St SF. Info: Duniyadance.com.

Red Hots Burlesque - Continues to ensure quality entertainment at El Rio every week as promised! Come with your sense of humor and get ready to ogle, hoot and holler. Every show features hot bods, pasties, outrageous costumes, a lot of humor and, of course, bumpin’ and grindin’!, with a rotating cast of over 500 people from all over the world. This show includes local and visiting talent! It’s a show without boundaries; including bizarre beauties and a senseless sideshow. Not for the faint of heart or weak of humor. 7-9pm, $5-10 at El Rio, 3158 Mission St, SF.

and other people who’ve had gender bias, homophobia, or transphobia keep them away from the wrenches! The Bike Kitchen is a do-it-yourself bicycle resource run by volunteers where you can get help to fix your bike, use tools, find used parts, or build up a bike from scratch! 6-9pm at the Bike Kitchen’s new home at 650H Florida St, SF. Now on the 1st and 3rd Fridays of the month. www.bikekitchen.org.

8 Saturday

San Carlos Art & Wine Faire Celebrating its 21st year the San Carlos Art & Wine Faire is set to take place Saturday and Sunday October 8-9 The San Carlos Art & Wine Faire provides activities for the entire family with live entertainment on two stages, arts and crafts booths, a Family Fun Zone for kids and international food booths. This year’s event features contemporary folk and rock singer Lisa Loeb playing children’s songs, as well as a car show featuring hot rods and

classic cars by Golden Gate Street Machines Unlimited, along with gourmet packaged foods, and wine and beer. Downtown San Carlos on both sides of San Carlos Avenue between El Camino and Walnut, and on Laurel Street from San Carlos Avenue to Arroyo. Saturday and Sunday October 8-9 from 10am to 5:30pm each day.

SF Walking Dykes - Lesbians of all ages and walking ability are invited, though most members of the group are over 40. Children who can walk with adults or are in strollers are welcome.

Dogs are welcome too! Time: Saturdays at 11:00am. Meeting Place: The Conservatory of Flowers In Golden Gate Park (main entrance at the top of the stairs). Ability: The women who show up define the walk (pace, endurance, etc.). We meet “rain or shine” to ensure consistency. Please feel free to email mhughes56@comcast.net. Info: meetup.com/The-San-FranciscoWalking-Dykes.

Bottlenotes 80 Sips - the leading company for new to intermediate wine enthusiasts in the wine space where users can learn about, discuss and rate new wines, and Napa Valley Vintners are teaming up to host the first-ever Around Napa Valley in 80 Sips wine tasting event in San Francisco. Here, attendees will be able to taste more than 120 of the region’s best wines from more than 60 Napa Valley wineries, the entire list of which is available at bottlenotes.com/napavalley. 6-7pm.

VIP/Press Hour, General Admisson, 7-9pm at Golden Gate Club 35 Fisher Loop SF $75 General Admission $125 VIP. RSVP: spies@sunshinesachs. com or 212-691-2800.

Cowgirl Round-Up - A lesbian country western event. The fun starts at 7:30pm beginning country western two-step lesson, 8:15pm line dance lesson, 8:45-11:30pm country western dance party! Every 1st Saturday of the month at the Metronome Ballroom, 1830 17th St, SF. Info: 252-9000 x151.

T-Dance for the Ladies! - Join them to celebrate the Castro’s longest running T-dance for the Ladies!! The producers of Delicious have launched another Saturday ladies T-Dance. Club Mami hits The Café’s roster every 1ST Saturday of the month giving the ladies who love ladies an all Latin T-Dance.

Lady DJ’S Val G & Chili D rock the house!! 7 super hot lady go-go’s work the boxes with free shot giveaways. $5 b/4 5pm, $8 after. The Cafe, 2369 Market St. Info: Christopher Berini, 415-359-6061 or Christopher @djchristopherb.com.

9 Sunday

Meet Me @ Max’s! LGBTQ community and friends - Announcing another venue for LGBTQ people to meet and mingle in Marin. The staff at Max’s of Corte Madera is warmly reaching out to LGBTQ people and their community of friends with a weekly “happy hour”.

They have a lovely cocktail lounge which is separate from their main dining room. It will be a great venue to listen to the David’s ensemble, The Rainbows and Rockets Band, schmooze with locals and enjoy Max’s delicious deli foods and drinks. Every Sunday, 7-9pm with live music by The Rainbows & Rockets Band. Max’s will contribute 5% of sales to Marin AIDS Project & Spectrum LGBT Center. Max’s is located off Highway 101 at 60 Madera Blvd in Corte Madera.

The Audre and Langston Salon: Our Night, Our Place - On the 1st Friday of every month, Black LGBTQ people and their friends are invited to an evening of performance, visual arts, films, and lectures to promote health, community and cultural pride. Free, 7pm at the Health and Wellness Network of the Black Coalition on AIDS, 2800 3rd St, SF. Info: bcoa.org, 615-9945.

Silk @ AsiaSF - A 1st Friday monthly dance event at one of SOMA’s swankier spots. DJ Shawn P spins hip hop and dance music all night long. 10:30pm3am, free before 11pm and $5 after at 201 9th St, SF. Info: asiasf.com WTF? - WTF is open to all women & transfolks, Genderqueer folk, femmes,

Family Builders - Is a non-profit, licensed foster care and adoption agency, serving children and youth in the foster care system. Family Builders

by Adoption is predicated on the belief that every child has the right to grow up in a permanent, nurturing family.

Orientation session 1st Saturday of the month 10am-noon at 401 Grand Ave., 4th floor, Oakland. Info: 510-272-0204 or familybuilders.org. Please call to RSVP your attendance and complete a brief inquiry before attending.

Melissa Ferrick performs at Slim’s Monday October 17th.

The Great Night in Buena Vista Park - This picnic, party and readings celebrates Chris Adrian’s novel The Great Night, a retelling of A Midsummer Night’s Dream set in Buena Vista Park that captures the magic of that play, while also becoming a modern “Tale” of the City; Faeries, Faerie drag, maypoles, twinkle lights and more. Pack a

basket, bring a blanket, and join Litquake and Booksmith for magic and revelry at the summit overlooking the city below. FREE. Remember The Party - Mighty Real Disco Dance! - Prepare to be cookin’ on your feet in the Disco Heat as Dj Jerry BONHAM serves you a heaping helping of Disco deliciousness from all over the world, featuring a Grande Salute to the sweetest and hottest music that San Francisco ever served up!On top of the menu for this musical feast of Disco classics from the 70s & 80s, DJ Jerry Bonham will be spotlighting the music of The Fabulous Sylvester! There’s more in the mix to this Disco Dish. Think - Patrick Cowley, Sarah Dash, BearEssense, Paul Parker, Boystown Gang, Johnny Mathis, Loverde, Pointer Sisters, Patti Austin, Technique & Two Tons O’ Fun just to name a few! So there is something we wanna’ ask you …There is something we wanna’ know, Do Ya Wanna’ Funk? Let us show you HOW at the newly remodeled, fabulously appointed Trocadero Transfer! 6:00pm - 3:00am at The Trocadero Transfer (Glas Kat), 520 Fourth St, SF Tix: Advance $25 online from remembertheparty.com or $30 at the door on the night. A portion of the proceeds of all Remember The Party events benefit ‘Under One Roof’ in San Francisco.

10 Monday

Comedy Returns to El Rio! Comedian/comedy producer, Lisa Geduldig, began her stand up comedy career 22 years ago at El Rio in San Francisco’s Mission District. In commemoration of her 20th year in comedy, two years ago she launched a monthly comedy night, Comedy Returns to El Rio! the second Monday of the month at the club that first put her onstage.

Geduldig strives to produce multicultural, multi-everything comedy shows with the variety of shows she produces each year). The October show features: Joel Klocek, Dhaya Lakshminarayanan, Kazumi Kusano, Brendan Lynch and Lisa Geduldig @ 8pm El Rio 3158 Mission St (@ Precita) SF.Tix $7-$20 800-838-3006 or brownpapertickets. com/event/193398 21+.

TradeOFF: For male-identified sex workers - Coming together to build community, support one another and share the tricks of the trade. Porn stars, strippers, models, phone ho’s: come out to talk about the real shit that affects you - drugs, sex, cops, asshole tricks and bosses. This is a non-judgmental, harm-reduction based space. Come as you are. All ages and experience levels welcome. Trans-guys welcome. Every 2nd and 4th Monday. Free, 5-6:30 pm at St. James Infirmary, 1372 Mission St, SF. Info: 415-341-6438 or stjamesinfirmary.org

11 Tuesday

Burlesque on a Budget - How to look like a million bucks without breaking the

bank! In this two-hour workshop, students get all the secrets for smart shopping. Look like a glittery goddess and do it yourself! There are ways to creatively costume and become an inventor! This class includes a hands-on demonstration on how to make your own garments from drab to fab. All supplies provided. 7pm-9pm at Viracocha 990 Valencia St SF. Email redhotsburlesque@gmail.com for questions or reservations.

12 Wednesday

Dream EZ - Every 2nd Wednesday of the month the Easy Lounge hosts a positive space with a great vibe for women to listen to great music. The night features resident DJs Emancipation (Sistah Sunday) and Black (Sweet Boy) as well as rotating guest DJs. 8pm-closing at 3255 Lakeshore, Oakland. Info: easy510. com Transbay Monthly Social – For all who identify as transgendered, meets every 2nd Wed, 7pm. Kick back, talk & have a good time. Quetzal, 1234 Polk St, SF transbay.org.

13 Thursday

The Color of an Unequal Recession - Radical Women looks at the disproportionate impact of the economic crisis on people of color and women--whether the issue is jobs, homes or healthcare.

Thursday, October 13, 7:00pm. A Fall supper is served at 6:15pm for a $7.50 donation. New Valencia Hall, 747 Polk St., SF (new location!). Info or directions call 415-864-1278 or email baradicalwomen@earthlink.net or visit radicalwomen.org

14 Friday

2 Blocks of Art – Art lovers will be able to see 50 local artists exhibiting in 25 locations (all within 2 blocks) during the second annual 2 Blocks of Art walk on San Francisco’s 6th street. 2 Blocks of Art showcases the cutting edge downtown arts scene and 6th streets numerous small business. 4-8pm 6th Street between Market and Howard SF. Info: urbansolutionssf.org or 415-553-4433.

The Hella Gay Comedy Show Hometown comedian Charlie Ballard, who’s been seen on LOGO, Comedy Central and NBC’s America’s Got Talent, brings his no-holds-barred, avant-garde variety show to Oakland.

Gay, straight, bi, lesbian and transgendered comics and performers will gather to entertain with a wide variety of talents, including stand-up, improv and sketch comedy; monologues; music and much more. La Estrellita Cafe 446 E.12th St. Oakland, CA (510) 891-0972 Door opens @ 8:00pm. Show starts @ 9:00pm 21 & Over 10$ Cover. Full Bar and Dining Available.

15 Saturday

Sia Amma - Stand-up comic, dancer, actress, activist, and vocalist. She has unleashed her powerful voice at San

Francisco Yerba Buena Gardens, Yoshi’s Jazz Club, and La Peña Cultural Center where she was a powerhouse.

She’s an African oral traditional singer with an unsurpassed gift for theatrical truth-telling. Performs one-night musical celebration to raise funds for Global Women Intact a charitable organization that nurtures arts of the African Diaspora, and uses performance and presentations—including dance, music, theater, comedy and education - to raise awareness of the beauty and complexity of African cultures, and their impact on health and well-being. in particular, GWI is devoted to raising awareness about female genital cutting (fgc) and provides alternative, artsbased and culturally appropriate rites of initiation that honor the intact and healthy bodies of girls and women. 8pm Del Valle Theatre 1963 Tice Valley Blvd Walnut Creek, CA. Tickets are $28/ students & Seniors $38/ General. Call (925) -943-7469 or LesherARTScenter. org The Bad Seed w/star Patty McCormack Live In Person! - Bring in the Halloween season with little Rhoda Penmark- one of the most evil girls ever to grace the silver screen. This gala evening of “bad” taste produced by Castro impressario Marc Huestis.

Matinee screening of THE BAD SEED at noon. Patty McCormack will make a guest appearance after the screening & brief Q& A. Ticket prices: Gala Tickets (Tribute + Film) $25 General (Orch Side & Balc); $35 VIP (Orch Center, Reserved Rows). Available @ ticketfly. com/event/60475 & 415 863-0611. Film Only Tickets - $10 @ Castro Box Office Night of the Show (based on availability) Matinee Tickets $12.50 adult, Children under 16 Free! Available by calling 415 863-0611 or ticketfly.com/ event/60477. Info: castrotheatre.com LitCrawl 2011 - Josh Bettinger’s work has appeared in, or is forthcoming from Oxford Poetry, Thin Air, Bateau, Western Humanities Review, The Los Angeles Review, Fourteen Hills, and Vallum. NEA Grant awardee Nona Caspers authored Little Book of Days and Heavier Than Air, awarded the Grace Paley Prize and an NYTBR Editor’s Choice. Sarah Anne Cox is the author of Arrival and Parcel. Rae Gouirand’s first collection of poems, Open Winter, was recently selected by Elaine Equi for the 2011 Bellday Poetry Prize and will be published in fall 2011.

Keely Hyslop’s first book Things I Say to Pirates on Nights When I Miss You will be published by Fourteen Hills Press in the fall of 2011. Maceo Montoya’s artwork has been exhibited throughout the country as well as internationally. Emily Meg Weinstein writes the web site superlefty.com, where she has published over 250 essays on such topics as death, sex, time, yoga, taxis, taxes, vomit, and the Super Bowl.

8:30pm-9:30pm at Press: Works on Paper 3492 22nd St SF. LGBTQ Shamanism Classes - Ask questions about any subject and get

connected to the Spirits that are here to help YOU! Check the website at sfcenter.org/calendar; or email Liz Dale at lizsanpablo@aol.com. Bring a mat/pad, extra sweater/jacket, a drum and/or rattle, item for the medicine wheel. Cost is a reasonable $25 per session.

Classes will be the 2nd Saturday of each month from 10am to 12pm in Room 308 at The Center. 1800 Market St., SF. Lavender Seniors Potluck - Come out, hoot it up, and share your food at the monthly event for LGBTQ seniors over the age of 55. This event generally happens on the 2nd Saturday of the month, 12pm at the San Leandro Community Church, 1395 Bancroft Ave, San Leandro.

Sissy Strut!!! - The Handsome Young Men present a Queer dance party with DJs Lil MC, Katie Duck, Ponyboy and Durt plus guests spinning Motown, oldies, doo wop, R&B, and soul jams you love to dance to! Second Fridays @ UndergroundSF 424 Haight St., between Filmore and Webster 10pm2am $3-$5. 21+.

Writing Group for Senior Women - All women are invited to join an ongoing writers group presented by New Leaf Outreach to Elders for self-expression, creativity, supportive feedback and great company. Drop-ins welcome. The group meets every 2nd and 4th Saturday, 11am-1pm at the LGBT Center, 1800 Market St, Room 305, SF. Info: newleafservices.org or ligaletto@ earthlink.net.

Writers with Drinks - Writers with Drinks combines erotica with literature, stand-up comedy with science fiction and poetry with essays. Plus mystery, romance, memoir, rants and other. All proceeds benefit Center for Sex and Culture. Every 2nd Saturday of the month. 7:30-9:30pm at the Make Out Room, 3225 22nd St., SF. $3-$5 sliding scale. Info: writerswithdrinks.com.

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East Bay Mini Maker Faire - The 2nd Annual East Bay Mini Maker Faire will feature a spectacular line up of new and returning makers, performers, food vendors, and speakers. Attracting over 3,000 attendees in its first year, the event is a celebration of do-it-yourself spirit and hands-on making. It’s appropriate for anyone intrigued by the creativity and ingenuity of the East Bay community, and a don’t-miss day for families, makers, foodies, music-lovers, art-goers and more. 10am – 5pm Park Day School Campus 360-42nd Street, Oakland, CA Tix $7.50-$20 510.653.0317 or ebmakerfaire.com.

Goddess Clothing Exchange - Our theme is holiday treasures. Please sort through your wonderful ‘stuff’ and bring us your treasures. We are expecting a big turn-out so all the help we can get is

much appreciated. If you can commit even an hour or two to volunteer it will help us sooooo much. It will be a fun atmosphere of women trying on all kinds of new things and taking home new treasures. Holiday costume items are welcome! We are inviting clothing of all sizes, plus sizes especially welcome. 1pm - 5pm. Please email for the address or any questions about the event to: pegasusjj@sbcglobal.net.

17 Monday

Melissa Ferrick with Vandaveer at Freight and Salvage - Since the early 1990s, indie folk-rocker Melissa Ferrick has gathered a dedicated following with her emotionally honest first-person lyrics, dynamic sound, and impassioned live performances. $24.50 at 8pm at Freight and Salvage 2020 Addison Street Berkeley, CA Box Office, Show line & General Inquiries: (510) 6442020 folk@freightandsalvage.org

18 Tuesday

Shazia Mirza, British Muslim Comedian - Award-winning British stand-up comedian who lives in London and hails from Birmingham, England.

The New York Times calls her The Lenny Bruce of female stand up.

Shazia will be doing an hour of stand up, where she will talk about her views on the world, based on her experiences of traveling all over the world to perform. Her topics include sex, religion, racism, America, how the world is obsessed with wanting her opinion on EVERYTHING. $15 + 2 drink minimum.

8p @ The Punchline 444 Battery St SF.

19 Wednesday

Oak/ Good Times Weekly Beats & Soulful Treats - Never a cover, always a good freakin time! Join us this Wednesday and experience what hundreds of folks have enjoyed for over a year, every single hump day evening.

Great music, beautiful positive party people, and an all inclusive vibe. Rain or shine, we’re gonna have Good Times! The Den - 1912 Telegraph at 19TH Street (Near Bart) 7pm - Midnight 21 + W/ I.D. No Cover goodtimesinthebay.com.

On Stage

It’s All The Rage - Marilyn Pittman’s solo show, It’s All The Rage, which wowed audiences in 2010 with its power, humor, and relevancy to our world, has been chosen to be part of United Solo, the world’s largest solo show festival in New York City, November 14 and 15, 8:00pm.

Stagewerx, 446 Valencia between 15th/16th Streets, 2 blocks from 16th St. BART. Goldstar.com.

Honey Brown Eyes - Bosnia, 1992.

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COMMUNITY RESOURCES

Parents & Kids

Mamas & Papas - San Francisco Families: Expand your circle of LGBTQ parents, swap parenting tips, and explore concerns shared by all parents as well as those of special interest to our families.

Help your kids build lasting friendships with other children growing up with LGBTQ families. RSVP to Julia at julia@ ourfamily.org or 415-981-1960, and please indicate if you need free childcare.

At The LGBT Center, 1800 Market at Octavia, SF. Families with Child(ren) ages 0-5 meets 2nd & 4th Saturdays.

Childcare and kids activities begin at 9:30a, adult discussion begins at 10a.

Families with Child(ren) ages 5-12 meets 3rd week of the month. Formal parent discussion and COLAGE programming for children ages 8-12: 3:45-5:15, dinner 5:15-5:45. Info: www.ourfamily.org/ events/calendar for dates.

COLAGE - Children of Lesbians & Gays Everywhere, Community and Activism by and for kids, youth, and adults with LGBTQ parents. 1550 Bryant Street, Suite 830, SF. Info: 861-KIDS. Info: colage.org Transracial Adoption Support Group Relevant and living resources tailored to LGBTQ parents at a highly-participatory monthly discussion group providing candid perspectives and opinions. At the SF LGBT Center, 1800 Market St., SF. Info: ourfamily.org

Adoption SF/Family Builders By Adoption - Informational gatherings every 2nd Wednesday of every other month about adopting a waiting child from the SF Foster Care system. Free pre/post adoption support. 6:30p at the LGBT

Center, 1800 Market St., SF. Info: 9709601 Transgender Parent Support Group An opportunity to connect with your peers and get mutual support. This group meets every third Saturday of the month and is comprised of a time for socializing and a group discussion. Drop-ins welcome but ongoing attendance is important to establish group rapport. 10a-12p at the LGBT Center, 1800 Market St., SF. Info: RSVP for childcare: 415-865-5553 TeenZone Gay Straight Alliance in Oakland - This group of folks age 13-17 is a space for LGBTQQ youth and their straight allies to hang out, watch films, talk about books and plan fun activities. Every second Wednesday of the month, 5p-6p at the Oakland Main Library, Rm 219, 125 14th St., Oakland. Info: oaklandlibrary.org Adopt or Foster a California Kid AASK invites you to an informational session addressing topics related to the foster care system and adoption processes and legalities. Every first Tuesday of the month except for July 11, 7p-9p at 7700 Edgewater Dr, Ste 320 Bldg B, Oakland. Info/reg: Andrea at 510 5531748 x12.

Support Group for Pregnant Lesbians - An on-going group for pregnant queers, lesbians, dykes, bisexuals, genderqueer people and their partners led by Laura Goldberger, MFT. This group costs $45 per session (sliding scale may be available), and is held every Thursday night, 6:45p-8:15p in Berkeley. Info: 510-5245565 or lauragoldberger@sbcglobal.net.

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2011

Women Healing Women Conference Saturday, October 22, 2011

8:30 AM To 6:00 PM Joseph A. Nelson Community Center Suisun City, CA www.womenhealingwomenconference.com

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humanity and stunning relevance. By Stefanie Zadravec. Directed by Susi Damilano. Tues/Wed/Thurs 7p Fr-Sat 8pm. Tickets $20-$50 At SF PlayHouse 533 Sutter St SF. Tickets on vendini. com.

Gallery

The House At 100: Arts Festival and Gala - is a two month long interdisciplinary arts festival celebrating the 100th anniversary of Meridian Center for the Arts’ home through film, scholarly discourse, avant-garde dance, theatre and sound. Our line up of speakers include the poet and publisher at City Lights Books, Lawrence Ferlinghetti in conversation with fellow poet laureate Jack Hirschman, the novelist and elder statesman of the Beat Generation, Herbert Gold, a hands-on textile work-

(AUGUST: OSANGE COUNTY continued from page 9) shop lead by costume historian Erin Algeo, and the noted historical geographer and New Deal authority Dr. Gray Brechin. A dance performance by Choreographer in Residence, Alexis Lammarino entitled, Choreography as Community Engagement, will be developed directly with current Meridian Interns and Tread the Tendernob, a performed walking tour with performance artist Amy Lewis through the neighborhood north and south of Meridian Gallery. The Festival will culminate in LOVE and BULLETS: A San Francisco Love Story, a one night fundraising gala on November 12, 2011 starting at 7 pm. Tickets only $50.

Additional information, questions, or ticket information at: MeridianGallery. org or info@MeridianGallery.org or 415.398.7229.

EVERY WEEK Thursdays

Café Poz Lunch - Ready for a new routine? Make a date with other HIV positive men at Café Positive, a social support event open to everyone. Gab with the guys and have a feast compliments of Café Poz and STOPAIDS Project, usually on Thursdays.

12-1:30p at the Castro Country Club, 4058 18th St., SF. Info: stopaids.org.

Transgender / Gender-Variant Social and Discussion Group Every Thursday from 5p-6:30p at Spectrum LGBT Center. A safe and friendly space to meet new people, share ideas, and have fun! 1000 Sir Francis Drake Blvd. #10, San Anselmo, CA 94960. No cost; call 457-1115 x 203 for more details www.spectrumLGBTcenter.org.

Clair’s Drop-in - Free, one-on-one counseling to help transgender community members on their personal evolution, including an overview of TEEI services. It is recommended that you call ahead to verify your walk-in time beforehand. Contact Clair Farley at clairf@sfcenter.org or call 415-8655632. Visit the Transgender Economic Empowerment Initiative (TEEI) website teeisf.org - Matching dynamic people with sustainable jobs in safe workplaces - for more info. 1p-4p at the SF LGBT Center, 1800 Market at Octavia St., SF. Out In The Bay and This Way Out Weekly program of LGBTQ issues, includes a weekly AIDS update. Every Thursday, 7:30p on KALW, 91.7.

Followed by This Way Out, the international lesbian and gay newsmagazine.

Info: www.kalw.org.

Blur - Transgender & Gender-Variant Support Group Every Thursday 6:30p-7:30p Free food! Come and chat with other trans & gv people, facilitated by trans counselors. For 18-25 y.o. youth. At Dimensions Clinic, 3850 17th St. SF. www.dimensionsclinic.org.

SNAP Talk! - A free group every Thursday where young gay and bi men who are new to San Francisco can talk about sex, jobs, boyfriends, roommates, STDs, and anything else about getting settled in S.F. SNAP Talk! is a drop-in group specifically for gay and bi men in their 20s and 30s who are new to San Francisco. Come to get support, some to talk, come to just meet people. The group is facilitated

by David Gonzalez of SNAP!, and Ryan Horvath, a counselor from the REACH Program of the UCSF AIDS Health Project. Show up at The LGBT Center (1800 Market at Octavia, SF) and look for the sign for the SNAP Talk! group, or, call 415-865-5614 to learn more.

L.O.C. (lesbians of color) - A peersupport group for women 21 years of age and older. L.O.C meets every Thursday at Pacific Center 7p-8:30p.

Join them to carry on the tradition of providing a positive space for women of color to engage in pertinent lively discussions, exchange support and information, and to have fun and celebrate each other! Info: contact Randy Page, L.O.C. primary facilitator, at rap1on1@sbcglobal.net, or leave a message for her at (510) 595-8294.

Out of respect for people with environmental illnesses, please do not wear fragrance or scented products of any kind at L.O.C. See you there!

Men’s Coming Out Support Group Every Thursday 7p - 8:30p, for men who are questioning or coming to terms with their sexuality. This is a welcoming and supportive atmosphere to talk about what can be an uncomfortable subject matter. This is also a multi-cultural support group, where all ethnicities are welcomed.

Drop in group, no intake necessary.

Suggested donation $10, no one turned away. At New Leaf Services For Our Community, 103 Hayes Street (near Market St.), SF. Info: 415-6267000, ext. 452.

One Struggle, One Fight General Meeting - One Struggle, One Fight is an anti-oppression direct action group with two missions: Organize peaceful escalation of the LGBTQ movement by participating in and supporting direct action and civil disobedience. And to raise awareness of where our struggles intersect within the LGBTQ community and other oppressed groups. http://onestruggleonefight.com. Every week at the Unitarian Church at 1187 Franklin at Geary, SF. 7-9 pm.

Sundance Saloon Thursdays - The fun is on THURSDAYS! Line-dancing and two-steppin twice a week, every Sunday and Thursday for the queer communities! Every Thursday 6:3010:30 pm $5 at 550 Barneveld Ave, SF.

Fridays

LGBTQ Self Protection classes for the LGBTQ community - Gain survival skills, security, confidence and peace of mind in a supportive learning environment for people of all sexual orientations, genders, ethnicities, and nationalities. Ju Trap Boxing is an effective blend of Small Circle Jujitsu, boxing, Contemporary Jeet Kune Do, and Filipino martial arts. Rapid Assault Tactics is a no nonsense approach to street survival. Every 4th Friday from 6:30pm - 7:30pm UMAA Defensive Tactics Training Academy 4348 Third St., SF, (415) 671-2055, umaacademy. info/content/lgbt-self-protection.

Trans Yoga & Meditation at TRANS THRIVE Every Friday alternate between Yoga and Meditation. Wear comfortable clothes, THRIVE provides mats and cushions. All trans-identified and gender nonconforming folks of all abilities and experience are welcome.

Wheelchair accessible. 10:30am 12pm, 815 Hyde St., 2nd floor, btw Sutter/ Bush. Info: www.transthrive.org, or 415-409-4101.

Transgender Support Group - For anyone who is transgendered, transsexual, or has gender issues. Beginners welcome. Fridays from 8-9:30pm Pacific Center, Berkeley. Info: 510-5488283.

Shake: America’s LGBTQ Talk Show - a live weekly call in show about the LGBTQ community. 9-11pm on Green 960 AM (The Quake) This used to be known as Queer Channel Radio. Info and podcasts at www.queerchannelradio.com.

Free Your Mind - Queer Youth Arts and Crafts Fridays from 4pm - 7pm The Center’s Youth Program fosters a weekly arts and crafts night for LGBTQ youth ages 24 and under. Come and get involved in planning our “Free Your Mind” art exhibit that aims to deconstruct stigmas around homeless and transient LGBTQ youth. Oil painting, wood burning, origami, stenciling and spray painting, jewelry making, stitch ‘n’ bitch, screen printing and fashion fun! Free pizza and snacks provided.

Earn $150 stipend for your time (space is limited). If you are interested please feel free to drop in and should you have any questions, contact Beck at 415.865.5560 or beck@sfcenter.org.

The Center, 1800 Market at Octavia, SF.

Saturdays

Faerie Coffee East Bay - Check in with the faerie fam every Saturday! Cum whistle with these witches. 12p- 2p(ish) at Celtic Coffee Company, 142 McAllister between Leavenworth & Hyde.

Faerie Coffee - Radical Faeries get together for a nice brunch and delightful conversation. Around noon every Saturday and Sunday at the Celtic Coffee Company, 142 McAllister btw Leavenworth and Hyde. Info: www. radfae.org.

Cockfight at Underground SF – First and third Sat. DJs Earworm, MyKill, and DCNSTRCT. $7,9p-2a.

daunting material with their usual take-no-prisoners force, assembling a fine, talented cast who impressively confront the challenge and mostly do it justice. Davidson delivers a tour de force performance as the oldest daughter, insisting on running the situation at hand even though she clearly can’t run her own life with much success. Miller, as her hapless philandering husband, also strikes utterly believable notes, showing heartbreaking nuances of anger, frustration, and vulnerability.

Ron Gasparinetti’s set magnificently captures a house that is no longer a home, an abode worn down by benign neglect and blurred vision. He also amazingly puts three stories into the City Lights stage space, creating an epic, soaring height.

Underground SF, 424 Haight Street, SF, (415) 864-7386.

Sunday, 12p and 2:30p. $30 for brunch and show at Sir Francis Drake Hotel, 450 Powell St., SF. Info/res: 395-8595.

Shootin’ with Care - Slide show hosted by Terry and the Peer Educators of the Speed Project. Get the skinny on circulation basics, what happens when a vein collapses, avoiding abscesses, tracks, bacterial infections; the pro’s and con’s of different spots; tips to avoid sharing hepatitis and HIV when partying in groups; alternatives to injecting for folks who want to take a break. Come share what you know; the only real expert in the room is you! All welcome to this free slideshow. Come high, come low, come as you are! Drop by any time between 7p-10p at 117 6th St. (the 6th street exchange btw Mission/Howard), SF. www.tspsf.com Events Line: 415 788-5433.

Same-Sex Ballroom Dance - 4:305:30pm mixed level Salsa. 5:30p-6:30p beginning American Rumba. At Cheryl Burke Dance, 1830 17th St. @ De Haro, SF. $15 per person drop-in, cheaper when you buy in bulk!

Instructor: Emily Coles, www.emilycolesdance.com. These classes are geared toward the LGBTQ community.

No partner or experience needed! A variety of ongoing classes. 415-3058242 balboabattle.com.

3rd Saturday Swing and Salsa Dance - Meet new people and learn dance for FREE with no partner or experience!

7-11 pm Magnet at 4122 18th at Castro. www.queerjitterbugs.com.

Hayes Valley Follies - Marlena’s hosts a weekly revue of the most titillating Bay Area talent featuring drag, singers, syncers, dancers, impersonators and more. 10p at 488 Hayes St., SF. Info: marlenasbarsf.com or 864- 6672.

Wilde Chats – A loosely structured community-driven group get together every Saturday morning to discuss specific issues affecting us as gay men and our gay community. The group is lead following a “Socratic” model; rather than talk about solutions and answers to problems, the idea is to expand on the days topic by analyzing it and breaking it up into other questions. The discussions typically focus on the hidden/unspoken assumptions, generalities and concepts that we as gay men make, and the differences that our various points of reference imply.

1st, 3rd, 5th Sat, 11:30a-1p. Thai House Restaurant at 2200 Market Street @ Sanchez. Info www.isparksf. com.

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Bad Movie Night - Every Sunday, come on out to The Dark Room in the Mission to see a crummy movie, scarf down popcorn, and listen to the hilarious ravings of special rotating hosts chosen from the brilliant comedic flock of freaks circling our fair city. $5, 8p at The Dark Room Theatre, 2263 Mission St., SF. Info: darkroomsf.com.

Jock Sundays @ Lookout - A weekly Sunday afternoon/ early evening, highenergy jump fueled by a rotating cast of superstar DJs, including: Stefanie Phillips, Luke Fry, Pornstar, Joseph Lee and Pam Hubbuck. Packed every Sunday with hot, sweaty, jocular boys - and girls - JOCK is ALL-STAR! Every week proceeds benefit an LGBTQ sports group. 3p, $2 door. At Lookout, 3600 16th St. at Market, SF. Info: 415431-0306 or lookoutsf.com.

DECO’s Amateur Strip Night - The audience at the Deco Lounge every Sunday will vote to award one lucky amateur stripper a CASH PRIZE. Join emcee Nick Parker, DJ Lambchop, hot strippers and good tippers(hopefully) At The Deco Lounge, 510 Larkin St., SF. Every Sunday, sign ups at 9p, showtime at 10p. No cover. Info: decosf. com.

Sunday’s A Drag - Harry Denton’s Starlight Room hosts a weekly brunch featuring San Francisco’s finest drag performers and hosts Donna Sachet and Harry Denton. Two shows every

The preview performance I saw suffered from a lagging pace in Acts One and Three, and too much shouting and not enough comedy. The play desperately needs the comedy to come through for the audience not to feel too beaten down by the relent-

Mondays

Bay Area Young Positives drop-in group - Drop-in support group for young HIV positive people. 701 Oak St., SF, 7p – 9p. Info baypositives.org, (415) 487-1616.

Duplicate Bridge - QuickTricks Bridge Club, 7p, ACBL duplicate open and 299’er events. Meets in Ellard Hall of Most Holy Redeemer Church, thru gate on Diamond St. at 18th Street. Lesson series too. Info: www.quicktricks.org.

Monday Night Knit - Knit-Knit-PurlPurl! Knit-Knit-Purl- Purl! If you haven’t gotten your fixin’ of stitchin’, knittin’ and purlin’, come on down to the LGBT Center where knitters and crocheters will be bonding over coffee. Every Monday, 6:30p at 1800 Market St., SF. Info: 235-4821.

Gay Mondays at the Etiquette Lounge - A weekly social to benefit the SF LGBT Center with DJs Jeff Stallings and Luke Fry. 7p-12a at 1108 Market St., SF. Info: etiquettelounge. com.

Shooting with Care Slide Show - If you or a friend injects, you are cordially invited to join a conversation about safer injection, vein care and harm reduction hosted by the Speed Project.

The Ivy street needle exchange is open 7p-9p and is a great exchange for those concerned with privacy. Drop by anytime between 7p-9p at Tom Waddell Garage, 50 Lech Walesa/Ivy Street near Polk and Grove, SF. Free! Come high, Come low! www.tspsf.com.

Ten Percent - LGBT-TV for Northern California Mondays - Thursdays, 11:30a & 8p on Comcast Hometown Network Channel 104 in Northern California.

Tuesdays

New FTM/transmasculine group @ TRANS THRIVE - Groups are open to female-to-male (FTM) people, transguys, butches, studs, genderqueers, two-spirited, third-gendered, questioning folks, trannyfags, trannyboys, boydykes, transmen, papis, transmasculine folks and whatever else you call yourself. About once a month we have a special event. Every Tuesday from 6p-7:30p Check online calendar for details. TRANS: THRIVE, 815 Hyde St., 2nd Floor/ Info http://www.transthrive.org.

Youth Meal Night - Tuesdays from 5 p-8:30p at The Center (1800 Market at Octavia, SF) - this weekly program provides homeless, marginally housed and foster care youth up to 24 years with a nourishing meal, welcoming environment, film screenings, art projects, discussions and a wide array of different community building activities.

For more info please contact Beck at 415-865- 5560 or beck@sfcenter.org Buddhist Meditation - Renowned Buddhist Teacher, Tessa Logan, teaches drop-in meditation classes on Tuesday evenings, 7-8:45p at the Kadampa Buddhist Temple, 3324 17th St., SF. Everyone is welcome. $10 donation. NOTAFLOF. www.meditationinnortherncalifornia.org or 415-5031187.

Gay Men’s Sketch - Weekly male figure drawing group. Professional, yet intimate and relaxed. Classical nude modeling by a gay male model. Five 2 minute gestures, one 15 min pose & four 20 min. poses. 6:30p - 9:30p.

Intimate South of Market home studio, open drawing session, no instruction. A nice group of gay guys - friendly, supportive and non-competitive - who loves drawing the male nude in gay male company. The group is open to men and women of all persuasions . To reserve space, call day of the group that you want to attend: Mark - 415621-6294.

less meanness of some characters and ultimate darkness of the plot. It’s a kind of All In The Family on pills, and should have us laughing in spite of ourselves. Hopefully this fine cast will sharpen its timing as the run continues; they have the talent and the mettle for it.

City Lights, 529 S. Second Street, San Jose, 95112. Thursdays - Saturdays at 7:30 PM, Sunday matinees at 2:00 PM; through Oct. 23. $15 - $35, 408-295-4200 or at www.cltc.org.

Weight Watchers LGBTQ Meeting registration and weigh-in starts at 6p, discussion at 6:30p. At the Finnish Brotherhood Hall, 1970 Chestnut St., Berkeley. Questions? jeanne.obrien@ weightwatchers.com .

HIV Support Group - Newly diagnosed? Just coming to terms with your diagnosis? This group is for you to help you with your HIV diagnosis. Positive Force hosts a weekly drop-in group for you. It’s a great place to get emotional support and information. For info contact Ramon Martinez at 415-575-0150 ext 219 or rmartinez@stopaids.org.

Drop in every Tuesday 7p- 7:30p at STOP AIDS Main Office , 2128 15th St., btw Sanchez and Noe, SF. St. James Infirmary for Sex Workers - Free, confidential, non-judgmental medical care, massage, acupuncture, peer and substance use counseling, legal and social service referrals and a food/clothing bank. You can check your email, get a chair massage, or face acupuncture while you wait and talk to other sex workers. If you get a treatment, its not just a clinic, you can hang out with all your friends who you never knew were hookers, too! Tuesday 12p3p, Wednesday night from 6p-9p, Thursday 6p-9p. Transgender Health Clinic. Current and former sex workers as well as their partners and families are welcome to drop in. Donations of food, money and clothing welcome.

Info: 554-8494.

Harvey’s Funny Tuesdays - Ronn Vigh and Nick Leonard present the best in Gay and Gay friendly comedy in the heart of the Castro. 9p sharp at Harvey’s, 500 Castro Street (at 18th), SF. FREE Admission, one drink minimum. Every week new funny acts!

Wednesdays

Fruity Wednesdays - Queer Youth space at Larkin Street. Drop-in Larkin Street Youth Services offers a safe space to Queer Youth every Wednesday. Each week, youth are served a meal, offered showers, peer counseling and a structured program meant to keep the focus on community building. The First Wednesday of the month kicks off with an Open Mic event for youth to perform and get tested for HIV. The second and third Wednesdays are for cultivating the creative process, with the help of Larkin’s Art Department.

The last Wednesday youth are offered workshops on relevant and important issues peers in their community currently face. Drop-In. Larkin Street Youth Services, 1142 Sutter St., SF, 6p-8p.

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Job Seekers Internet Workgroup 10a -12p. Participants must be at The LGBT Center’s main door lobby at 9:45a to gain access into the building (1800 Market @Octavia, SF). Get ongoing help with your job search at the Center! The Center’s workforce Development Program is pleased to announce a free, job seekers Internet workgroup. Participants will have access to the Internet, interact with peers to share and receive ongoing advice from a career coach to help manage a productive job search. A one-on-one drop-in session with David Bach, of the Workforce Development team, is recommended prior to joining the workgroup. For more information, contact David Bach at 415.865.5534 or davidb@sfcenter.org.

Farmers’ Market in the Castro Northern California’s freshest fruits and vegetables at reasonable prices as an outlet for local farmers - juicy peaches, flowering orchids, flavorful onions and zucchini, sweet strawberries, Asian greens, fresh seafood, crisp green beans, vitamin-packed tomatoes or any other summer produce items. The Castro Farmers’ Market will be here every Wednesday, from 4p to 8p, on Noe St.. between Market and Beaver Street.

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On September ##, Aria Dibiase and Susan Schor were married by a Justice of the Peace in Boston.

Ms. Dibiase is a cardiologist with Palo Alto Medical Foundation. Ms. Schor is a nurse practitioner for Planned Parenthood. The couple’s combined family includes six children, Gyre, 32 (wife Ann Marie, 32), Rachel 18, Hadley 17, Jackson 15, Cameron 13 and Nina 13. They also have three grandchildren, Jack 4, Koen 2, and Liam four months. Ms. Dibiase earned her B.S. in Biology from the U of Chicago and her medical degree from Stanford. Ms. Schor earned her B.S. from Humboldt State and her M.S (both in nursing) from San Jose State.

Mr. McEwen and Mr. Alford are celebrating their five-year wedding anniversary. The couple met in 2000 and married in Sonoma on October 6, 2006. They married in a dual ceremony with Mr. Alford’s sister that was witnessed by both mothers as well as attendants Kyle and Brian.

Mr. Alford is an air transportation analyst for Hotwire. Mr. McEwen is a clinical program leader for Genentech.

Mr. Alford is a product of San Francisco. He was born and raised in the city and earned his B.A. in History and Political Science from the University of San Francisco. Mr. McEwen was born in McComb, Mississippi and earned his B.S. in Psychology and his M.S. in Public Health from the University of Southern Mississippi.

The couple has two children, Jacob 9 and Ellen 8. The family lives in Glen Park with their three dogs, Davy, Target and Hugo.

The couple lives in Menlo Park.

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Mission/Noe LGBTQ Issues Forum - Every 2nd Thursday of the month, 10 am at 30th Street Senior Center located at 225- 30th Street (at Dolores), 3rd Floor conference room. Bernal Heights LGBTQ Discussion Group, Every 4th Thursday of the month, 1 pm at Bernal Heights Neighborhood Center located at 515 Cortland Avenue (across from the library). *NEW* South of Market LGBTQ Discussion Group, Every 2nd Friday of the month, 10a at Canon Kip Senior Center located at 705 Natoma Street (@ 8th St. across from Harvest Market). Hope to see you there!

nization of older gay and bi men and younger men who admire them. Usually there is a featured speaker and refreshments following the meeting. Meets 2-4p on the first and third Sundays of each month at First Unitarian Church, 1187 Franklin @ Geary, SF. Info:552-6641

Volunteers Needed - OpenHouse, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping LGBTQ older adults connect with housing, services and community, needs your help!

They are seeking dedicated volunteers available for 10 hours per month project, call 415-296-8995, ask for Michelle Alcedo at ext. 5

Project Open Hand Senior Lunch - Come out to lunch at the Castro Senior Center Mon-Fri at 11:45 a! 100 Diamond St. @ 18th St., SF. $1.50 suggested donation.

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Old Lesbians Organizing for Change - A network of lesbians over age 60 organizing against ageism and for social change. For more information call 415-3885001.

San Francisco Prime Timers Local chapter of Prime Timers Worldwide, an international orga(BRASS TACKS continued from page 6) Nancy met her partner of 40 years when one batted a ball into the other’s head at a Gay Softball League game.

So when I asked if she was an opera fan, her answer wasn’t a big surprise.

“No, but I’ll try anything once!”

Some perspective on your reviewers.

We got to our seats a little right of home plate with a clear view of the screen and a supply of hot dogs. Opera aficionados and families filled the stadium and spread out blankets on the emerald grass. We saw one guy outfitted with a portable radio and an earplug and decided his wife hadn’t told him the real reason they were there.

The JumboTron broadcast Warner Bros.’ opera cartoons, “What’s Opera, Doc?” and “Rabbit of Seville” starring Bugs Bunny (nasal tenor) and Elmer Fudd (tenor/rif le). Then the cameras zoomed in on home plate and the crowd rose to its feet. Todd Leitz, winner of the “KDFC StarSpangled Sing Off” and official onfield baritone, belted out the National Anthem.

Cut to the opera house, where Music Director Nicola Luisotti stood smiling in giant, tuxedoed close-up. When he started the orchestra on the catastrophic opening notes of Puccini’s score, the curtain didn’t rise. So he

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dropped his arms and the orchestra skidded to a halt behind him. That’s when Luisotti made the series of plays that earned him the performance’s MVP award. Luisotti looked up at the immobile curtain, and recognizing all eyes were on him, shrugged hugely, performed some facial clowning, danced a little shuff le-ball-change, and with concert maestro bravado, revved up the orchestra and the opera house audience in a pre-show encore of the “Star Spangled Banner.” The crowd went wild. Then Luisotti was given the signal to play, and the opera began in earnest.

Even among other operas, Turandotmust set records for how fast the story line leaps into tragedy. As the curtain rises, before we’ve even picked the main characters’ names out of the program, the people of Ancient Peking are gathering for an execution. Turandot (performed by Irene Theorin), daughter of the Chinese Emperor, doesn’t want to marry and so offers all prospective suitors three riddles. Anyone who blows the test loses his head. A patter song later in the opera runs through a list of all the crown princes who’ve been wacked, but this time it’s the Prince of Persia.

Enter into the execution crowd our hero, Calaf (Marco Berti), Prince of Tartary – the Nessun Dorma guy.

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Born in Australia, Ms. McGuire earned her B.A. in composition from the University of Melbourne. She attended the University of Surrey in the U.K. for her M.A. and the University of Colorado-Boulder for a PhD, both in conducting.

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Ms. McGuire recently accepted the role as Minister of Music & Arts at the Congregation Church of San Mateo.

Since 2005, she has been the Conductor of the Community Women’s Orchestra. She is also the Artistic Director and Conductor of the Singers of the Street, a choir of homeless singers. From 2000 – 2010, she was the Artistic Director and Conductor of the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus.

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Enter almost simultaneously his longlost, blind, deposed father, Timur (Raymond Aceto), led by a servant girl named Liu (Leah Crocetto), who’s stuck by the deposed king because she secretly loves his son. Sounds like opera, doesn’t it? Calaf rejoices at being reunited with Timur and Liu for about 30 seconds before he struts off to find the harpy who’s responsible for wacking the Prince of Persia. Instead he falls instantly in love with her.

Much of the rest of the opera features various cast members – Timur, Liu, the ministers of Peking, the Chinese Emperor – all begging Calaf to put the girl down and walk away. He ignores the entire Empire of China and after a lot of teeth gnashing and gloating of sopranos, he answers her riddles correctly! His true love then acts out by torturing the townsfolk, sacrificing the servant girl, and driving his father mad with grief, before Calaf bestows a magic, transforming kiss on his chosen shrew. And they all live happily ever after (except, of course, the servant girl).

Love, sacrifice, torture, retribution, fantastic Seussian sets in bold colors

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Upcoming Events Wednesday, October 6th - Smart Women / East Bay - Bellevue Club, 525 Bellevue Avenue @ Lake Merritt, Oakland, 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM.

Saturday, October 22nd - San Francisco Bay LGBT Sail on the Classic Schooner Freda B - Final one for 2011 with “Betty’s List” group - 6:30 PM - 9:00 PM.

Thursday, October 7th - Ladies Night - New Location! - Thermidor, 8 Mint Plaza @ The Old Mint, San Francisco, 6:00 PM - Until.

Tuesday, October 25th - NAPA Cellars / Project Open Hand Wine Dinner Benefit - Pican Restaurant, 2295 Broadway, Oakland, 6:00 PM. Thursday, October 27th - “Wine Time!” Women in Wine Series - East Bay - 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM. Lake Merritt Location TBA.

PHOTO BY PHYLLIS COSTA

Sunday, October 30th - Halloween Party Luscious Live! East Bay Live Band Dance - Bench & Bar, Oakland - Time TBA - Featuring Stephanie Teal Band. More details to come.

Chef Gloria Swanson’s Singles Brunch delicacies

Karen and Julie sharing a toast at Singles Brunch

Wednesday, October 12th “Wine Time!” San Francisco Women In Wine Series @ 2223 Restaurant, 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM - Damas Vineyeards.

Thursday, October 20th - Smart Women - North Bay Pelican Art Gallery, 143 Petaluma Blvd. North, Petaluma, 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM. Saturday, October 22nd - Saturday Singles Brunch Noe Valley, San Francisco Location, 11:00 AM - 1:00 PM.

Ladies Go Biking group on a monthly outing

Information: www.bettyslist.com or 415-503-1375

33RD ANNUAL

THREE DAYS! NEW LOCATION! Friday, Saturday and Sunday Fort Mason Center November 11, 12 and 13 Festival Pavilion, SF 10 am to 5 pm

Winemaker Dinner benefiting Project oPen HanD Featuring Napa Cellars Winemaker Joe Shirley and the incredible food of Executive Chef Dean Dupuis

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

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6:00 pm

Pican Restaurant

2295 Broadway, Oakland, CA

Admission: $9.00 Seniors, Students, Disabled: $7.00 Children under 12 free For information and tickets: www.celebrationofcraftswomen.org 650-615-6838

COST: $75 per person A minimum of 20% of the ticket sales will be donated to Project Open Hand Valet parking available for $7 at the event RSVP: Call Betty Sullivan at (415) 503-1375 or email BettyS@bettyslist.com

The Largest Women’s Fine Crafts Show in the US

There’s waaaay more...

Lesbian Vegetarians, San Francisco Boys of Leather, Gay Men’s Basketball, Queer Armenians, Women Poets, Sex Addicts, Dykes on Hikes East Bay, Questioning Youth, Au Cercle des Amis Franco phones, Creative Philosopher’s Club, Let It All Hang Out, MAX (Men’s Associated Exchange), Barbary Coast Boating Club, LGBTQ Alcoholics Anonymous, Bodybuilding Group, Freewheelers Car Club, Nudes In Art, QuickTricks EasyBridge! Gay Architects & Designers, Lesbian Entrepreneur Club, Rainbow Toastmasters, All Girls Roller Derby Training, Heart of San Francisco Aikido, Crystal Meth Anonymous, Caring Kinksters Munch, and much, much more!

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