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A Publication of the South Florida Jewish Community / Distributed in Dade, Broward and Palm Beach Counties

The Life of Roy Neuberger

By Josh Bains

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FROM THE EDITORS

INSIDE THIS ISSUE

Since we last were in your home, we have experienced the joy of

>> Community COMMUNITY HAPPENINGS

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>> Cover Story A LEGACY OF PASSION

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>> World News SFJH WORLD REPORT

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>> Israel FORGOTTEN HEROES

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>> Parenting MRS. HEBEL’S TOP TEN TIPS FOR KEEPING ON TOP OF YOUR CHILD’S PROGRESS IN SCHOOL

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CO-DEPENDENCY

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EFFECTIVE PARENTING LINO

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WHAT DOES A FAMILY MEDIATOR DO?

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>> Finance EFILE - LET MY PAPER GO

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>> Torah Portion FROM THE RABBI’S DESK RABBI PERRY TIRSCHWELL

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Purim and the devastation of Japan’s earthquake and Tsunami.

With pride, we see Israel’s immediate delivery of medical assistance to the people of Japan. Most devastating of all were the barbaric murder of five members of the Fogel family on what should have been a peaceful Shabbas evening in Itamar. And, as usual, the world is relatively silent about the loss of Jewish blood, but awakens with a vengeance when Netanyahu responds to the butchery with a green light to an apartment in the West Bank. We are witness to massive demonstrations as revolutions spread among Israel’s Arab neighbors.

We pray for Israel’s peace and security, but watch with caution at the political upheaval in the Mideast. Our cover story , The Life of Roy Neuberger, is an inspirational story by Josh Bains about a 90 year old Wall Street Banker’s return to the religion of his forefathers.

Now that Purim is over we are all beginning preparations for the Passover holiday. We watch Egyptians fighting for their freedoms as our people did centuries ago. Once again, we thank you for welcoming us into your home. We appreciate your support and encouragement.

Please support our advertisers, they are integral to the success of The South Florida Jewish Home.

>> Homemaking PREPARING FOR YOUR BIG DAY

The Editor March 23, 2011

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>> Health & Fitness HEALTH BENEFITS OF WINE

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NEW PITCHING TECHNIQUE MAY PREVENT BURNOUT

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OBESITY IN CHILDHOOD

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>> Politics POLITICAL CROSSFIRE THREE JEWISH CHILDREN

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>> Humor SAY WHAT - NOTABLE QUOTES

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PALM BEACH – in 1948, Jews were unfortunately For more than a year, Vanessa and forced to flee Iraq, and a 2,500 year Tony Beyer, with the assistance of old Jewish community vanished.

Rabbi Moshe Scheiner of Palm Beach According to Scheiner, the Torah Synagogue, searched for a unique Towas condemned to be burned by forrah to honor their grandfather, Joseph mer Iraqi dictator, Sadaam Husein.

C. Mandel. The low-profile 97-yearInstead, the rescued Torah was slated old humanitarian, philanthropist, to be placed in a museum in Israel to and industrialist has devoted his life recall the ancient Jewish life in Iraq. to Jewish continuity and support of “Vanessa and Tony Beyer were dethose in need. Through his generostermined to see this beautiful Torah ity and actions, the Cleveland and brought back to life in a synagogue Palm Beach resident has impacted setting where it can be utilized, studthousands of lives. The co-founder ied and celebrated,” stated Scheiner. of both the Mandel Foundation and More than 200 family members, Premier Industrial Corporation with friends and congregants welcomed his brothers Jack and Morton Mandel the Torah to its new home on the joyplaces family above everything else in ous holiday of Purim with song and his life, according to Tony Beyer. dance.

“Embrace your heritage and your “Just as the holiday marks the children will follow is a value my triumph of good over evil and the (L-R) Family members: Tony Beyer, Mickey Beyer holding Alexander Beyer, Vanessa Beyer holding Nikolaus grandfather has instilled in me,” exsalvation of the Jewish people from Beyer, Larry Beyer, Penni Weinberg and Steve Weinberg plained Beyer at the dedication certhe hands of its enemies, this Torah, emony at Palm Beach Synagogue on too, survived enemy possession and March 20. remains a source of inspiration for brought to Israel in 2010 by a Jewish-American sol“He is my role model and best friend,” an emofuture generations,” Scheiner said. dier who was given the rescued Torah in Iraq. tional Beyer stressed.

Highlights of the ceremony included Rabbi Steve This 400-year-old Torah, written on deer skin in Beyer noted that he did not want to commission a Karro, the scribe who restored the Torah, assisting the pure ancient Sephardic script, brings to life the memTorah. Instead, he wanted to find one with an extraorBeyers and family members in the mitzvah of writing ory of one of the oldest Jewish communities dating dinary history like that of his grandfather. His inquithe final letters of the Torah. back to the Babylonian exile in the year 586 B.C.E. ries led him and Rabbi Scheiner to a treasured artifact After the establishment of the modern State of Israel

PRIVATE PARLOR EVENT ON BEHALF OF HADASSAH Professor Charles L. Sprung, Director of the Intensive Care Unit at Hadassah Hospital in Jerusalem was guest speaker at an invitationonly event hosted by Steven Z. and Dr. Judi Levinson in their fabulous Miami Beach penthouse. The fundraiser was on behalf of the Greater Miami Region of Hadassah to support the organization’s worthwhile

Hosts Steve & Dr. Judi Levinson, Dr. Judy Mann, Professor Charles Sprung & Hadassah Greater Miami Region President Dianne Gottlieb

projects throughout the world. Formerly at the University of Miami, Professor Sprung is world-renowned for his research in sepsis, septic shock and medical ethical issues. He has published extensively in all of these areas for over 30 years. Funds were raised for the new Hadassah Tower scheduled to open in Jerusalem in the Fall of 2012.

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It’s with those thoughts that I would like to tell you about my two good friends Hindy and Seth Galena, and their beautiful daughter, Ayelet. For the past few years, the Jewish Week annually recognizes 36 innovators under the age of 36 who are “reimagining Jewish life here and in Israel.” Now, it’s a feat to have one member of a family be recognized in this list but one year after the other, Seth and then Hindy, were each recognized for their individual contributions to the Jewish community. Seth and Hindy are non-stop givers, constantly dedicating themselves to their community, and constantly finding new and creative ways to do every-day miraculously brave acts for the Jewish people.

The birth of Hindy & Seth’s daughter, Ayelet, was itself a miracle; she was born premature and had a tough beginning, battling it out for weeks in the NICU. Over the past year, Ayelet has blossomed into a beautiful, ever smiling, little girl. She is what the Jewish grandmothers call, “delicious.” However, Ayelet was recently diagnosed with a rare bone marrow failure disorder and is in desperate need of a bone marrow transplant. Her family and friends are in the search for a perfect match and need your help.

You can help continue the miracles of Purim and Pesach with one simple act.

On Sunday, Hillel Day School of Boca Raton April 3rd, in conCapital Campaign Naming Opportunities junction with (as of January 2011) Young Israel of Hollywood’s First annual 6K Fun Run, there will be a Bone Marrow Drive at T.Y. (Topeekeegee Yugnee) Park. Participation entails a simple cheek swab and while we are Building Upon a Strong Foundation motivated to find Gymnasium Building Middle School Building Outdoor Haar a match for Ayelet, $1,000,000 Gymnasium $500,000 Beit Midrash Athletic Fields $250,000 New Lower School $250,000 Atrium the match info will $100,000 Basketball Court Playground $100,000 Upper School Principal’s go into the national $100,000 Softball Field $100,000 Main Lobby Office $100,000 Soccer Field $36,000 Main Entrance Mezuzah registry and could $100,000 Science Lab $25,000 Scoreboards $50,000 Bleachers $50,000 Elevator benefit others, es(3 available) $36,000 Offices (2 available) $50,000 Faculty Lounge/ $25,000 Bleachers pecially in the Jew$25,000 Scoreboards (2 available) Dedicated (6 available) $25,000 Boys Locker Room ish community, in $50,000 *Classrooms $25,000 Girls Locker Room/ $36,000 Offices (3 available) the future.

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According to Jewish law one should begin studying the laws of an upcoming holiday 30 days before that holiday begins. The fact that Purim precedes Pesach by 30 days hints at the idea that these two holidays are seemingly connected. Various themes have been suggested connecting the two holidays, but in the midst of this year’s “holiday season” the role of both miracles and of children seems especially relevant to me.

When telling the stories of Purim and Pesach we cannot escape recounting miracles, both hidden and overt. These miracles are fundamental to each holiday-Hashem’s great miracles and the miraculously brave acts of our predecessors. The holidays are also filled with wonderful childhood moments. Carnivals, costumes, Hamentashen-making, and giving gifts to friends is the stuff that childhood Purims are made of. Cleaning house Mary Poppins style, singing the 4 questions, seeing Elijah “drink” from his cup, and raucously singing Had Gadya will forever be burned into my Pesachs from long ago. As an adult and now seeing my nieces and nephews, my little cousins, and my friends’ children enjoy Purim and Pesach in that same way, I am reminded this month of how important children are in a community and at celebrations year after year.

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Ayelet’s full name: Ayelet Yakira bat Chaya Hinda Matel Nechama

filters out the stem cells, which can then be infused in the recipient. Bone Marrow donation involves withdrawing 2-3 percent of the donor’s total marrow from the iliac crest of the hip. There is no cutting or stitching. Typically, the donor enters a medical center’s outpatient facility in the morning and goes home in the afternoon!

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We have also learned there are many, many cheek swabs that have already been collected and are awaiting the funds necessary to enable processing. Amongst these might already be a match for Ayelet or others. Donations both small and large can make a real difference. Your time, swab, and support are deeply appreciated.

For more information about Ayelet & the Gift of Life: http://www.giftoflife.org/dc/Ayelet-Galena/blog.aspx For more information about the 6K Fun Run visit http://www.yih.org/events/6krun.php Or contact Rivki Averbuch 205.896.6995 Rivkirez@hotmail.com

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Peer Mentoring at Brauser Maimonides Academy At Brauser Maimonides Academy they recognize that the transition to Middle School can be a challenging adjustment for many students – having a locker, traveling from class to class, having a different teacher for every subject and taking on more personal responsibility, both social and academic.

The BMA Big Brother/Big Sister program provides every new Middle School student, as well as every 6th grader, with an “easy” someone to turn to for guidance or with questions. Having someone to sit with at lunch, or help out when school seems to be overwhelming, has proven to alleviate some

of the anxiety that new Middle Schoolers sometimes feel. The Big Brother and Big Sisters also check in with their siblings periodically throughout the year to see how they are doing.

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The program was kicked off in September with a fun, hands-on activity where the students were challenged to build a 3-D structure out of food!

Last week, the Middle School participated in “Project Runway,” BMA style. The students were divided into groups of six with their big brothers and sisters. Each group was given only newspaper, colored duct tape and 20 minutes to create a costume representing a character from the megillah. The final fashion show was a true show of the students’ creativity, ingenuity and teammanship.

The BMA Big Brother/Big Sister Program serves to re-enforce the most basic middot taught at BMA – look outside of yourself and be aware of, sensitive to, and helpful to others.

Brauser Maimonides Academy is a Modern Orthodox Jewish Day School, educating children 18 months through 8th grade, located in Hollywood. For more information, contact Risa Kahane at 954-989-6886 or rkahane@brauser.us.

Infusing children with a love of learning and providing the tools for personal growth.

At Brauser Maimonides Academy we are committed to giving each child a personalized education; one that best meets their individual needs and allows them to grow academically, socially and emotionally.

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Special Needs Family Day South Florida Yachad had its second Special Needs Family Day on Sunday, February 13, 2011, as part of their NAIM, North American Inclusion Month, celebrations.

We had well over 100 people turn out to hear Dr. Rona Novick talk about “Sticks and Stones, What Parents should know and Do about Bullying”. There was a lot of give and take as well and everyone left with something.

Everyone then went to break-out sessions including; Services and programs available in the Palm Beach County School System and the Medicaid Waiver Program. During the same time when the parents were busy learning new things, their

kids were busy having a great time playing sports, making arts and crafts projects and watching movies.

Our high school and college volunteers were amazing and enjoyed hanging out with our special needs kids and adults. We had some new families join us, who have been added to our Yachad list and they look forward to their kids’ participation in future events, as do we. Yachad of South Florida has recently begun a junior chapter and has a Miami chapter as well. We have begun a dinner and learning program down in Miami, as

well as a baking class, which the Manson families of N. Miami Beach and Hollywood have begun in their homes. The Yachad members are enjoying all of the new activities, in addition to all of our other events.

We look forward in the coming months to beginning a West Palm Beach Chapter and bringing more exciting activities to the Yachad members of South Florida.

For more information please call Tzippi Rosen at 347239-5703 or floridayachad@ou.org.

Yachad’s Pre-Purim Event as Part of Donna Klein Jewish Academy’s Mitzvah Day Yachad of South Florida participated in Donna Klein Jewish Academy of Boca Raton’s Annual Mitzvah Day. Yachad made the event at Regents Park Nursing Home in Boca. Together with the residents

of Regents Park, families from Donna Klein, and our high school volunteers, the Yachad members made Purim decorations to adorn the dining room/social hall. Everyone joined together to make paper hamentashen and lovely masks to hang around the room.

Also, beautiful posters and link chains were made as well and hung up around the room. Music was playing and it was a very festive, freliche mood in the room. When the work was done, hamentashen were eaten and everyone was happy and ready

and waiting for Purim. Yachad South Florida wishes everyone a Happy, Healthy and Freliche Purim! For more information about Yachad, please contact Tzippi Rosen – 561-364-1416 or Esther Anton – 305761-0608.

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JEWISH WOMEN’S FOUNDATION PRESENTS

Financial Fitness for Today’s Woman: A Bootcamp for a Healthy Financial Future More than 200 women attended the Jewish Womable and professional women present to our audien’s Foundation of Broward County’s Second Annual ence,” said Gina Shull, Trustee of the Jewish Women’s Symposium. This year, the subject was finances, and Foundation and chair of the event. “A recent report the seminar featured four professionals, providing adfrom the offices of Representative Debbie Wasserman vice that every woman should know. “Financial FitSchultz based on current research shows that financial ness for Today’s Woman: A Bootcamp for a Healthy literacy was the number one concern of women today.

Financial Future” focused This is why we developed on handling and investing the symposium, which money, and planning for was both timely and very the future. informative.”

Peggy Hollander, From the basics of esfounder and managing tate planning to ways of partner of The Succession minimizing tax impact, to Group, presided over the finding the right investpanel which included: ment strategy, the panel • Elaine Bucher, Sr. offered advice, common Counsel, Personal sense ideas and many imPlanning & Fiduciary portant concepts to the Litigation at Proskauer Members of the Jewish Women’s Foundation Planning Committee women. An interactive • Lydia Long, CPA, Partsession with members of ner, Morrison, Brown, Argiz & Farra, LLC. the audience providing real life examples highlighted • Kerry Lynn Rapport, Managing Director and Sethe 90-minute seminar. nior Client Account Manager, The Jewish Women’s Foundation seeks to make Bessemer Trust a positive impact in all aspects of Jewish women and “We were delighted to have these knowledgegirls’ lives through strategic and effective grant mak-

ing. Its first symposium covered critical issues in dealing with breast cancer. “Financial Fitness” was presented through a coalition of partners including the Jewish Federation of Broward County, the David Posnack Jewish Community Center, Jewish Family Service of Broward County, JAFCO, Chai Lifeline, Jewish Women International, JFS Kolot, Hadassah, Jewish Women’s Foundation and the National Council of Jewish Women. For more information, contact Pepi Dunay, pdunay@jewishbroward.org.

Elaine Bucher, Peggy M Hollander, Gina Shull, Lidia Longa, Kerry Lynn Rapport

“Ask Broward” Jewish Federation of Broward County’s Initiative to Reach New Donors Draws a Big Crowd

Teens Turn Out to Win $1000 for Their School The Jewish Federation of Broward County hosted “Ask Broward,” a county-wide initiative designed to reach out to first time donors to lend a helping hand.

What made the day different from its predecessor – Super Sunday – was the widespread use of 21st Cen-

tury technology. Rather than setting up a phone bank to call people, the Federation encouraged the use of

cell phones, BlackBerrys, iPads and laptops to reach new donors and tell them about the array of wonderful programs supported through the generosity of the community.

“It was the first time we tried this format,” said Laura Goldblum, campaign chair for the Jewish Federation of Broward County. “There was a lot of energy in the room and many volunteers were making calls, sending e-mails and setting up their personal fundraising pages. From the efforts begun that day, the donations will continue to roll in for weeks and months to come.”

Teens were urged to help out, with the incentive that the school bringing the greatest number of volunteers would earn $1,000. Students from Plantation High, University School, Orloff Central Agen-

cy for Jewish Education’s Judaica High School and the Akiva Leadership Program all came and played a big role in getting the word out about helping seniors, children, and families in dire need. The David Posnack Hebrew Day School, with 44 students in attendance, generated the largest number of volunteers.

“We were delighted to have so many volunteers spending their Sunday with us, contacting people in the community and asking for their support,” said Eric B. Stillman, President and CEO of the Jewish Federation of Broward County. “We are looking for new people to become donors and utilizing new ways of reaching out to them, so Ask Broward was an important step in reaching this goal.”

Funds raised for the Jewish Federation of Broward County’s Annual Campaign enable the Federation to provide essential programs through its beneficiary agencies that help those in dire need in the community.

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This is my Federation.

“My Federation makes a difference in the lives of so many people in our community and around the world. I volunteer because I know that I can make an impact on a wide variety of causes.

From feeding the hungry to helping the elderly, from children with special needs to families with dire needs, from Broward County to Israel and across the globe, we’re working together to lend a helping hand. Every day, the Jewish Federation of Broward County and all its resources band together to save and improve Jewish lives. That is their sole mission and I invite you to join me.

I am a supporter and this is my Federation.”

Visit w w w.jew ish broward.org to learn how you can joi n others i n perpet uat i ng Jew ish t rad it ion and heritage, ensu ri ng the su rv ival of Israel, Jew ish com mu n it ies arou nd the world and those right here i n Broward Cou nt y.

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Getting into the Purim Spirit SUNRISE, Fla. – “Mishenicnas Adar Marbim B’Simcha” - It’s with this Jewish adage we are taught that from the onset of the Jewish month of Adar, the month consisting of Purim, one must continuously increase in joy and happiness.

This mandate was observed in full-force on Sunday evening, March 6 - the first day of Adar - in Sunrise, Florida. With the NHL’s Florida Panthers hosting All Star Alex Ovechkin and his Washington Capitals, Chabad of South Florida took the celebrations to the BankAtlantic Center.

With nearly 16,000 fans making their way into the arena, some in Purim costume, they were greeted by a welcome tent set up by Chabad and an array of pre game festivities.

Men, women and children lined up for a free custom-made Florida Panthers t-shirt with “Happy Purim” and team mascot, Stanley C Panther emblazoned on the

front. Guests also received a tasty Hamantash - three cornered Purim pastry filled with the fruit filling of choice - and a team logo grogger – holiday noisemaker.

Colorfully illustrated Purim guide pamphlets with a brief description of the Purim story and the holiday’s observances were distributed to those wishing to learn more. Naturally, Chabad’s signature offering to don Teffilin (the black leather boxes worn weekdays by males over the age of thirteen) was available to men who desired.

Jewish music filled the air as jugglers and clowns entertained. The pre-game festivities included two hours of free video games, pony rides, face painting, a giant inflatable slide, bounce house and obstacle course. Fans were also given the chance to shoot their own slap shot.

“The Panthers offered us the opportunity to introduce Purim to the thousands attending the game and we could not refuse,” explained Rabbi Pinny Andrusier who organized the event for Chabad.

With scores of fans sporting their Purim jerseys and clearly having a wonderful time, the rabbi commented on the day’s success. “I met several people who never even heard of the holiday or unaware that Purim was fast approaching.”

He added that many had promised to observe the holiday Mitzvot. Some even claimed they were deeply inspired to attend their local synagogue on Purim to hear the reading of the Megillah.

Before the opening faceoff, Rabbi Pinny was presented an official team jersey bearing his name and the number 18 which represents Chai - life. He was invited onto the ice and honored with taking the ceremonial slap shot. The rabbi’s blast sailed into the top right corner of the net. As the crowd yelled out a chorus of cheers and applause, arena emcee Bill Murphy screamed on the loudspeaker, “Rabbi, Great shot!”.

The hockey action was intense with the exuberant crowd rising to their feet when the Panthers scored first on a gorgeous goal from Bill Thomas after being fed a beautiful crisp pass from Michal Repik.

During a first period break, 12 finalists appeared on the giant screen hoping to be crowned the champion of the costume contest. Fans cheered as each finalist was introduced. It is tradition to masquerade as good and cheerful characters such as Queen Esther and her righteous uncle Mordechai, heroes of the Purim story. Every boy and girl who arrived in costume received a Florida Panthers prize for their participation.

The match was pretty evenly played as Washington knotted the score at 1-1 moments before the first period came to an end. However, the pros were not the only ones in fierce competition on the ice that night. During the intermission “The Chabad Rabbis” team took to the ice to challenge “The Purim Clowns” in a game of broom hockey that could be described as comical relief.

Neither side scored but a hip check by Chabad of Davie’s Rabbi Adi Goodman sent “Shmully the Clown” sliding across the ice and crashing hard into the boards.

Jewish pride was highlighted when Yisroel Amar, 12, of Golden Beach brought down the house singing “G-d Bless America”.

“What a beautiful voice!” said Oscar Seiger of Hollywood. “To see him up there on the big screen wearing his giant yarmulke and everyone applauding was very meaningful and really made me proud of being a Jew.” Amar had recently been chosen winner of the popular Junior Jewish Star singing competition.

With many fans scattered throughout the arena wearing their Purim shirts and additional shirts beings catapulted into the crowd by the team mascot, the message of Purim was clearly visible throughout BankAtlantic Center.

Mackie Feierestein, Director of Group Sales for the Panthers was very pleased with the turnout and pledged to continue offering similar family fun events for the Jewish community.

Feierestein said he reached out to Rabbi Andrusier after seeing the success of the Rabbi’s Chanukah event with the Miami Heat.

Supporting Chabad’s efforts were sponsors Mr. Zalmi Duchman of Kosher Fresh Diet and Mr. Dovie Blachman of Prime Time Stubs.

“The true success of today’s event will be determined by how many people leave here inspired to take on an additional Mitzvah or choose to observe Purim because of our efforts”, remarked Rabbi Levi Chanowitz of Chabad of Sunrise.

This year, Purim corresponds to Saturday evening, March 19 and Sunday, March 20. The Holiday celebrates the Jewish people’s miraculous salvation from the evil plot of Haman in 4th century BCE Persia. Haman - who’s plan was endorsed by then King Achashverosh, sought to annihilate all members of the Jewish faith.

To learn more about Purim, visit VirtualPurim.com and to find a local center and information about future events log onto ChabadSouthFlorida.com

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The strong ties between Israel and the United States make the Israeli healthcare system a great place to see transnational networks in medicine in action. Israel is a fairly recently state built on Zionism, the Jewish National Movement from the 1800s. While the original leaders of overall Zionist movement were in Eastern Europe, it also has deep roots among both Jewish and Christian Americans, represented by how the seal of the United States almost became Moses taking the Jews to the promised land. The strong American roots of Zionism in the United States are laid out in Michael Oren’s book Power, Faith, and Fantasy.

The Israeli healthcare system is a rather strong system. In 2000, the World Health Organization ranked Israel’s health system ahead of both Canada and the United States. Spending around half as much of their GDP on healthcare as the US, the overall health of the population measures as healthy or healthier than Americans. The Israeli healthcare system guarantees universal healthcare to all of her citizens. Israel is an immigrant society with Jews from all over the world representing different cultures as well as a substantial Arab minority. The world’s largest generic drug manufacturer, Teva, is based in Israel and numerous innovative medical technologies like the PillCam have been developed in Israel.

The links between American and Israeli physicians are very strong for many reasons. During many of Isra-

el’s wars, American physicians would fly to Israel to assist the healthcare system creating lasting bonds. There are many cases of Israeli physicians who would come to practice in the United States or advance their training and many American physicians either have part of

their education or their training in Israel. There are extensive exchanges between American physicians and Israeli physicians. The very strong military cooperation between the United States and Israel extends into the healthcare arena.

A number of strong charitable organizations help strengthen the medical ties between the two countries.

The North American Jewish Federation System serves as an overall umbrella for American involvement in Is-

Annual Golf Tournament Tee’s Up to Raise Money for Jewish Education Boca Raton - Hillel Day School of Boca Raton is gearing up for their Annual Golf Tournament to be held at Stonebridge Golf & Country Club in Boca Raton, on Monday, March 28. All proceeds benefit Jewish education through scholarship aid funding. “Hillel Day School currently provides over $1.5 million in scholarship aid to over 35% of its 456 students,” says Rabbi Samuel J. Levine, Head of School. “The tournament is a great way to bring the community together for a day of fun and camaraderie while raising needed funds for those unable to afford a Jewish education,” Rabbi Levine explained.

The day includes lunch, golf on Stonebridge’s Karl Litten championship course, giveaways, cocktails and dinner, as well as a raffle. The cost to attend Contact Suzanne Rice, Director of is $360, or $1000 for a Development, at 561-470-5000 or foursome. Sponsorships e-mail suzanner@hilleldayschool.org. are also available.

rael. However, Hadassah and Shaare Zedek Hospitals both have very strong American charity affiliates. Israel’s Magen David Adom also has a very strong organization in the United States that serves an important need. The MDA has a unique role in being Israel’s first responders to all medical emergencies and yet being an entirely volunteer charity based organization. Many Americans, both medical professionals and laypeople volunteer to help the MDA. The strong ties between Israel and America in healthcare are particularly visible here in South Florida. Many of the physicians at the University of Miami Medical School have spent considerable amount of time in Israel and benefit from their networking with Israeli physicians.

Currently, the Miller School of Medicine at the University of Miami is collaborating with Bar Ilan University in Israel with the creation of its new medical school. The high level of connectivity demonstrated between Israel and the United States in medicine serves as an example of the benefits that can be gained through international cooperation in Healthcare.

Michael J. Szanto is a PhD student at the University of Miami who has a BA and MA in Economics from Northwestern University.

He works in investments and analyzes Middle Eastern Affairs.

Powerful Film Chronicles the Only Military Rescue Mission for Jews During the Holocaust “Blessed is the Match” is the first documentary feature about Hannah Senesh, the World War II-era poet and diarist who became a paratrooper, resistance fighter and modern-day Joan of Arc. With unprecedented access to the Senesh family archive, the powerful film chronicles the only military rescue mission for Jews during the Holocaust through the writings and photographs of Hannah and her mother Catherine.

When much of the world turned a blind eye toward the Holocaust, Hannah Senesh could not stand idly by. ‘There are times when one is commanded to do something.’ Hannah wrote on the eve of her return mission to Hungary.

Now, for the first time, Hannah’s remarkable life story is presented by The Jewish Music Heritage Society in a 90 minute film on Sunday, April 17 at 2 PM in Temple Emeth, 5780 W Atlantic Ave, Delray Beach, on Sunday, April 24 at 2 PM in the JCC in Boynton Beach, 8500 Jog Rd and on Sunday, May 2 at 2:30 PM in Ruth Rales Delray Community Center, 7091 W Atlantic Ave. Tickets are $3 at the door.

If you would like to show this historical movie in your community please call The Jewish Music Heritage Society at 561-865-5292.

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Mechina of South Florida Hosts First Annual Scholarship Melave Malka On Motzei Shabbos Pashas Vayikrah, almost two hundred fifty people gathered at 41 On The Bay in Miami Beach to show support of the Mechina of South Florida. The gala Melave Malka was co-chaired by Mr. Abbey Berkowitz and Mr. Yair Lapciuc. Mr. Berkowitz greeted the attendees by telling of his recent visit to the Mechina and his meeting with its Rosh Mechina, Rabbi Nisson Friedman. He stated, “I was amazed to see the dedication of the Rebbeim and sincerity of the Talmidim. It was inspiring to witness a true learning atmosphere. It is most telling when the boys have smiles on their faces.

Although I am not a parent or grandparent of a Mechina student, the reason I am here tonight is to show and gather support of our local mesivta.”

In his divrei brocha, the Rosh Mechina confirmed that the hatzlacha of the Mechina is solely due to the Rebbes’ love for the talmidim. Quoting HaRav Mordechai Gifter, ztz”l, “The greatest Rebbe of all times is Hashem, Who is called “Hamilamaid Torah L’amo Yisroel. And the greatest talmid of all times was Moshe Rabbeinu.

Hashem first called Moshe with a loshon chiba, an expression of love. The transition

of Torah can only be through love.”

Rabbi Chaim Friedman, Rav of Congregation Ohr Chaim was Guest of Honor of the event. He was presented with a silver kos as hakaras hatov for his tremendous dedication to the Mechina. Rabbi Friedman, too, expressed praise for the caring relationship he has seen between the Mechina rebbeim and their talmidim.

He concluded with much praise about the Mechina and asked all the assembled to show their support of this important mosad.

The Mechina of South Florida is home away from home to 64 bochurim not only from South Florida, but also from cities across the United States, including St. Louis, Cincinnati, Minneapolis, Flatbush, Monsey and also Israel. The Mechina of South Florida has never turned away a student for financial reasons and currently has several students on full scholarship.

If you would like to assist the Mechina in its goal of providing outstanding Jewish education, please contact the office at 305 534-7050. Donations to our Scholarship Fund can be mailed to: Mechina of South Florida, 4000 Alton Road, Miami Beach, Florida 33140

Hillel Day School Gives Back to the Local Community and Israel Hillel Day School students have spent the last trimester reaching out to the community and supporting worthy causes. The school choir performed at Federation’s Lion of Judah Luncheon and also brought great cheer to senior citizens at Brighton House, Menorah House and Regents Park. A large contingent of students and parents participated in the Muscular Dystrophy and Multiple Sclerosis Walk-A-Thons. Students also raised funds for the Heart Association and, in celebration of Purim, raised $4,000 for Jerusalem’s poor . Through these activities Hillel students learned the value of caring for others as well as the importance of being part of, Klal Yisrael, the greater Jewish community.

Hillel Day School students perform Hatikvah and The Star Spangled Banner at the Jewish Federation of South Palm Beach County’s Lion of Judah Luncheon

This Wasn’t Your Grandfather’s Fundraising Speech Joshua Stadlan (’11) Weinbaum Yeshiva High School students gathered in the beit midrash on Tuesday, February 22nd to learn about the recipient of the next tzedakah campaign, the Israel Service Organization (ISO), which provides IDF soldiers with moral support through care packages, writing-letter campaigns, and on-base entertainment.

Juniors Rashel Maikhor and Michael Krasna rose to the podium and reminded their peers that they, the Jewish teenagers of today, will be the leaders of the Jewish People of tomorrow. Through their potent words, Rashel and Michael charged the students with the responsibility of securing Israel’s future.

And what better way to ensure the protection of our homeland than to support the soldiers who risk their lives to defend it, articulated the representative from ISO. However, the representative had less to say and more to sing. With his guitar hanging from his neck and his fedora tilted forward, famed performer Oneg Shemesh strummed out everything from Matisyahu’s “One Day” to Reb Shlomo Carlebach’s “Ei Nei Nei.” The eclectic mix of folk, rock, reggae, and klezmer couldn’t stop the students from leaping up from their seats to dance with Oneg, who was once a student of Carlebach z”l and member of the popular Moshav Band.

After the tunes ceased to reverberate, Amy Glaun (‘12) and Andrew Wald (‘12) delivered a final message.

They pointed out that as much as the students loved the mini-concert, war-weary Israeli soldiers would appreciate the entertainment even more. Therefore, this year’s Purim-O-Gram tzedakah drive, Purim notes sent between students and faculty, is going to fund programs in the ISO that both demonstrate gratitude to the soldiers and boost their morale. The successful drive raised over $900 for this worthy cause.

While fundraising methods clearly have changed over the last 62 years, the importance of Israel in our lives clearly has not.

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by Reuven Arazi For the thirty first consecutive year, Chabad of South Broward distributed thousands of Shalach Monos - Purim food gift baskets, to every Jewish resident in hospitals, nursing homes, retirement homes and schools throughout South Broward. This year, a major part of the most meaningful and heartwarming campaign was carried out by the students of the Chaya Aydel Seminary, and Rabbi Yossy Lebovics, the principal of Florida’s only Jewish Teacher’s College in Florida.

Although the young ladies of the Seminary are generally studying, whether the intricate details and logic of the Talmud, or courses on Educational Psychology, the Col-

vice president, thanks everyone who helped sponsor, pack and distribute the Purim gift packages. Chabad of South Broward Headquarters, located in Hallandale Beach, is home to over forty institutions and programs, and oversees 12 Chabad Centers in South Broward.”The smiles we put on peoples faces were priceless! There were thousands who attended Megillah readings and Purim Carnivals and Feasts at Chabad Centers throughout Broward County, but the biggest Nachas (pride) we get from Purim, is the joy we bring to those who are less fortunate. This is how the Rebbe (the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem M Schneerson, zt’’l), educated and trained us,“ Rabbi Tennenhaus remarked.

Founded as the first Chabad House in Broward and Palm Beach Counties in 1980, Chabad of South Broward, leaders in Jewish education, outreach and social services, will celebrate their 30th Annual Dinner this Sunday, March 27th, with Cocktails at 5 PM and Dinner at 6 PM. Dinner will honor Ethan Bortnick, as Child of the Decade, Andre Dawson as Humanitarian of the Year, Endi Tennenhaus as Eishes Chayil - Woman of Valor, and Suzzane Friedman, as Parent of the Year.

The Dinner will feature Ethan Bortnick, live in Concert!

Dinner will celebrate the opening of yet another

“The smiles we put on peoples faces were priceless!”

lege, in its ninth year of existence, is also involved with various community projects, including bringing the joy of Purim to the least fortunate and to as many children as possible.

This year, the Seminary students and Chabad staff and volunteers went in Purim costumes to joy-

“Say WHAT?” A collection of notable quotes

“President Obama is facing criticism for going on ESPN to pick his NCAA brackets when there are more important issues on his agenda. When he heard this, Obama said, ‘Wait . . . Was today my fantasy baseball draft?”

–Jimmy Fallon

fully give out Shalach Monos to children from Temple Solel, Temple Beth El , and Temple Sinai, to residents of the Orange Blossom Retirement Home, to a number of Memorial Hospitals, to Golf Crest Nursing Home, Hollywood Hills Nursing Home, Seaside Retirement, Midtown Manor, Emerald Park Retirement, Lincoln Manor Retirement, Peninsula and many others. All told, Chabad visited 23 facilities in South Broward alone!!!

Rabbi Raphael Tennenhaus, Chabad’s executive

“They said on the news today 10,000 to 15,000 people each day are coming across the border from Libya into Egypt. Or as we call it in California, a ‘trickle.”

–Jay Leno “President Obama said he was always getting in trouble when he was in middle school. In fact, Obama said he talked so much during class, the teacher had to take away his teleprompter.”

–Jimmy Fallon “Sarah Palin finally heard what happened in Japan, and she’s demanding that we invade tsuanmi. She said these tsunamians will not get -Bill Maher away with this.’’

social service project by Chabad, the South Broward Friendship Circle, which pairs local teenagers with local children and teenagers with special needs, and offers a wide range of programs and social interaction with these special children.

For all Dinner information, please log on to Chabadsouthbroward.com. To reserve for for the Dinner, or to place a last minute Journal ad, please call 954-4581877, or email rtennenhaus@gmail.com. For information on the South Broward Friendship Circle, please log on to sbfriendshipcircle.com.

“The President and First Lady attended a parentteacher conference, and when they left, President Obama didn’t look very happy. Apparently Joe Biden’s being held back a grade.” - Craig Ferguson.

“Arnold Schwarzenegger has been offered a role in a sequel to ‘The Terminator.’ In this one he travels back in time and kills the person who suggested he run for Governor.” –Conan O’Brien “They said the radioactive plume came here today. Just be happy that something traveled 5,000 miles across the Pacific and for once it wasn’t your job.”

–Bill Maher “Al-Qaida is now publishing a magazine for women. They already have one for men, called “Car Bomb and Driver.”

-David Letterman.

“Obama said we will send economic aid to Libya to help the Libyan people reach their dreams.

And if that works, they’ll try it here” – Jay Leno “In lieu of flowers, at Jim’s request, please make a donation to ANYONE running against Barack Hussein Obama or the American Cancer Society.”

-Obituary of Jim Harrison, prepared by Jim Harrison before he died on 2/27/11 at the age of 68.

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22 COMMUNITYHAPPENINGS South Florida Jewish Academy is a very unique school which understands that all children with special needs and typical children alike deserve special care and attention to help them gain confidence and realize their full potential. We work closely with parents to address their children’s different abilities and unique way of learning in a positive and nurturing environment. Although Jewish studies are a part of our curriculum, it is not mandatory for our non- Jewish students. Children are taught to be creative, imaginative thinkers, leaders, actively involved in academic and social activities that build self confidence, self-esteem, self motivation, and pride in their heritage.

An individualized curriculum is developed and administered for all students at SFJA. We recognize the fact that every student learns at a different pace and through different learning styles. This also applies to the typical children who attend SFJA. To enhance meaningful learning, our curriculum includes art, music, computers, and physical education. Our groundbreaking approach in dealing with each child as a unique case has changed the lives of so many children.

SFJA recently completed its installation of the

PARENTING TODAY

Spacecraft Sensory Suite in North America. A sensory suite is designed to encourage interaction via switches or the touch of a hand. The equipment can be used for calming sessions, sensory diet, or interaction depending on the individual needs of the child. We are extremely happy with the progress our children have made since the implementation of the sensory suite into their daily school schedule.

Our school has filled a serious void in the tricounty area. Students in grades K-12 with mild to moderate learning disabilities, including ADD, Aspergers, Autism, auditory processing disorders, Downs Syndrome, Cerebral Palsy and other special needs are taught by teachers who are certified in special education, in classrooms with low teacher to stu-

dent ratios. In addition, there is a full support system of speech and occupational therapists, special education coaches, social groups, sensory integration therapies and involved parents. Nowhere else in South Florida does such a school exist and parents come from as far south as Miami, and as far north as Palm Beach to bring their children here daily.

SFJA has worked tirelessly to become accredited by three major accrediting agencies; SACS CASI, NCPSA, COJE, and received the GOLD SEAL QUALITY OF CARE from the department of children and family services, which is unprecedented for a school still in its infancy. Entering its fourth year, the student population of the school has increased by over 100% and with so many children in need, continued growth is certain.

Thank you so much for taking the time to learn about our school’s mission in ensuring all children have the same educational opportunities regardless of their limitations. For more information on our school - please check out our website at www.floridajewishacademy.org.

Many people have asked us if there is anything they can do to help. That is why we are inviting you to the school’s First Gala Dinner, Sunday April 10th.

All ads or contributions would be greatly appreciated.

Please contact us if you would like to attend or make a donation @ 954-427-7788.

Effective Parenting Lingo

We spend the first twelve months of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk, and the next twentyfour years telling them to sit down and be quiet!

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ost of us actually do not enjoy being ordered around. So, when we are told to slow down when driving, we tend to desire to drive faster. And, when children are told to hurry up, they tend to slooooow down. This oddity of human nature was researched by Dr. Raymond Wlodkowski.

He found that when we are ordered to do something, we subconsciously sense a loss of personal control.

This is increased if a threat is stated with the order such as, “If you don’t eat your vegetables, you are not going to get dessert.” We’ve all seen the results of this kind of threat. The situation usually goes down hill rapidly. What was once a happy mealtime becomes the scene of a power struggle as both the adult and children try to regain control.

Dr. Wlodkowski’s Threat Cycle research led Dr. Jim Fay to develop the technique called Enforceable Statements. Dr. Fay found that when kids tell themselves the possible threat, there is far less resistance.

Though there are times it is important to train our children to follow our directions and use direct commands, enforceable statements are an important tool that is helpful to avoid constant unneeded battle struggles.

When a child hears the parent say, “I’ll be serving dessert to everyone who eats peas.” The child

Ineffective Technique

BY BENJIE STERN

Enforceable Statements:

You can’t go play until you have finished your homework.

Feel free to go play as soon as you have finished your homework.

Please be quiet. I can’t listen to your brother when you are both talking at the same time.

I’ll be glad to listen to you as soon as your brother has finished talking to me.

Hurry up! You need to get ready now.

Keep your hands to yourself.

My car is leaving at 8 a.m.

Feel free to stay with us when you can keep your hands to yourself.

Clean your room so we can go shopping.

I’ll be happy to take you shopping as soon as your room is clean.

Get this room cleaned up right now and I mean it

You are welcome to join us for _______as soon as your room is clean.

Stop arguing with me.

Please sit down. We’re going to eat now.

I’ll be glad to discuss this with you as soon as the arguing stops.

We will eat as soon as you are seated

Pay attention.

I’ll start again as soon as I know you are with me.

Don’t talk to me in that tone of voice!

I’ll listen as soon as your voice is as calm as mine.

can say to himself, “Uh oh, I might not get dessert,” but doesn’t readily identify the threat as coming from the adult. The result? Odds for cooperation increase.

Odds for arguing go down.

Enforceable statements tell kids what WE will do

or allow… rather than trying to tell THEM what to do.

The results: • We avoid looking like a fool when we can’t get our kids to do what we say.

• We share some control with our children. As a result, they are much less likely to resist in order to regain control.

• We avoid getting sucked into trying to control something we really can’t.

Benjie Stern, PhD (Candidate) in Counseling Psychology, MS in School Psychology, is a School Psychologist in Magen David Yeshiva.

For comments or questions please email at kidfriendlypsych@gmail.com or call (516) 232-7466.

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Ability make living, connecA il Ab iliiitty to m aak ke a ke li ivviiing n , cco ng on nn necction family, tion ti on tto o ou oour ur ffa amily mily mi ly, ly, ffamiliarity fa am miilliiarit ariitty with ar i h our surroundings, or just plain inertia. However, su urrrrou ound und din i Aliyah has been more and more in the air in recent years (the economy certainly helped). Are we ideologically and emotionally prepared for our children to make their home in a different country?

It’s understandable why our children may want to make Aliyah. It’s the logical conclusion of the way we’ve raised them. If you are reading this newspaper, it means that Judaism and community are important to you. We have taught our children to rejoice at Israel’s strides forward and cry at its setbacks.

The take away from your children’s Israel Experiences is often that the only place that

you can live a fully Jewish experience is in Israel.

Though we have fantastic Jewish infrastructure in South Florida is, we do not live in a society where every aspect (from garbage pickup to pro sports) is a Jewish issue.

No country has been as welcoming to Jews as the US in our history. I love this country and feel truly privileged to be an American citizen.

There’s no contradiction between that heartfelt f feeling and the understanding that the future of J Jewish history lies in Israel, not America. Our numb are shrinking here, and growing quickly in our bers homeland.

I believe that the younger generation is answering the call of one of my teachers, Rabbi Aharon Lichtenstein. Though this Harvard and Yeshiva University-educated Talmudic scholar himself made Aliyah in the wake of the Six Day War, Rabbi Lichtenstein said that the problem with American Jewry isn’t that they live in America, but that they don’t grapple with Aliyah.

The arguments against Aliyah are clear. It’s hard to make a living in Israel (especially if you want to live an American lifestyle and don’t want to commute to the US), it is struggling with overcom-

ing a Levantine work ethic (and a severe case of bad manners), it’s in a really bad neighborhood, the divisive political and religious situation, distance from family and friends, etc. That’s why many of us are here.

Can we be Zionists and oppose our children considering Aliyah? It’s one thing to be a Zionist and choose to live in the Diaspora, but being opposed to Aliyah when it hits too close to home is another thing entirely. When I mentioned to a principal at a New York Jewish Day School that Nefesh B’Nefesh was making a presentation to our seniors, he told me that it would never fly in his neighborhood. I believe that this is hypocritical.

May our children grapple with Aliyah and choose to live in the country in which they feel that they will lead the most fulfilling life and be able to contribute the most to our people and humanity.

Rabbi Perry Tirschwell is the Head of School of the Weinbaum Yeshiva High School in Boca Raton. He welcomes comments at rpt@wyhs.net.

What’s Even Better Than Being Lucky?

A revelation on luck from four different encounters: Number One: Last week I ran into Andy Bernstein, an old friend of mine from college. Andy and I only had a few minutes together in the elevator but we quickly reminisced about the fun we had in school and the few years after graduation. Andy recalled a Halloween party at my little apartment in South Miami.

“Boy, were we lucky!” he said before the elevator doors opened on my floor and I stepped out.

Number Two: After speaking at a conference in Islamorada I skipped the cocktail party and went running along the shore. At a particularly rocky part of the beach I hopped a low fence and passed a sign announcing an upscale community project that must have been stalled by the recession. I ran along the water through the beautiful property thinking how rich you’d have to be to afford the homes there when I stumbled across a ragtag homeless encampment and a small party of squatters drinking beer and watching the sunset. They saluted me with their half-drained cans of Colt 45. “Rich or poor,” I thought, “they’re still pretty lucky to be here.”

Number Three: This weekend my sister and her

spouse were in town to celebrate their two-year old’s birthday. We had a big party at my parent’s place and the patio was jammed with well-wishers. There were friends who have been together so long we’ve become family and family that’s been together so long we’ve become friends.

There were nachos and nachas (Yiddish for pleasurable pride, especially in another’s achievements) and plenty of heartache, too. Our group includes a lot of successes and a lot of survivors: cancer, kidney failure, death, divorce, and financial ruin — a full overview on the human condition. But there we were, all happy to be together and celebrate Dylan’s second year. Someone remarked how lucky we were and everyone agreed.

Number Four: Monday morning’s running route is my favorite. Our group meets at Pinecrest Gardens at 6:00 a.m. and runs the five miles through Matheson Hammock to Biscayne Bay and back. Thanks to spring break, this Monday it was

just Tim and I and because of daylight savings time we took off in the dark. But by the time we reached the harbor in Matheson Hammock the sun was rising out of the bay and shooting slivers of silver light up and down the masts of the bobbing sailboats. By the time we got to the open bay the orange sun was peaking through the clouds on the horizon, the palm trees were swaying rhythmically with the breeze and the pelicans were gliding lazily over the beach. It was the perfect Miami Convention & Visitors Bureau morning.

As we rounded the reservoir, Tim said, “Can you imagine? It’s the middle of March and we’re running along the bay in short sleeves and shorts watching the sunrise. I bet the people who pay all that money to live in those mansions on the water don’t even get up early enough to enjoy this view. Boy, are we lucky!

The Revelation: We’re lucky for what we have.

We’re lucky for where we are. We’re lucky for who we’re with. We’re lucky for who we are.

But what’s even better than being lucky? Perhaps the real trick is not to be lucky but instead to realize just how lucky we are.

(By the way, I realize how lucky I am to have you reading this and I appreciate it. Thank you.)

Read more on Bruce Turkel’s blog: www.turkeltalks.com

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NEW YORK - Helen Thomas Wants Apology from Obama, Reasserts Zionists Own White House Almost a year after anti-Semitic remarks forced her to resign her job as a White House correspondent, Helen Thomas remains unrepentant. In recent statements she has demanded an apology from President Barack Obama and defended her assertion that Zionists own the White House and Congress.

The president later called Thomas’ comments “offensive,” saying, “She made the right decision [to resign].”

“I’ve had it up to here with the violations against the Palestinians,” Thomas

said. “Why shouldn’t I say it? I knew exactly what I was doing—I was going for broke. I had reached the point of no return. You finally get fed up.”

The deposed reporter also revealed that former President Jimmy Carter called her to express sympathy following her resignation and added, “We are owned by the propagandists against the Arabs. There’s no question about that.

Congress, the White House and Hollywood, Wall Street, are owned by the Zionists.”

SYRIA - Thousands Protest after Five are Killed in Clashes Thousands of Syrians protested Sunday in Daraa where security forces killed at least five protesters.

Protesters were angry about the shooting and mass arrests in the wake of the demonstrations calling for political freedoms, and called for officials involved in the violence to be fired.

The protesters were also demanding the release of 20 young men who were detained

after writing pro-democracy graffiti on walls in Daraa.

According to activists the police fired tear gas and bullets in the air to disperse the protesters. Syrian police also sealed off Daraa after security forces killed five people participating in demonstrations that marked Syria’s entry into the pro-democracy protest movement sweeping the Middle East.

NEW YORK - Donald Trump Says He’s Ready to Spend $600 Million on Presidential Campaign Billionaire business magnate, Donald Trump, says he’s ready to shell out $600 million of his own cash to become President. He added that his already well-known name would probably save him “hundreds of millions of dollars” compared with other candidates.

When asked if he had $600 million to spare, Trump said:

“Much more than that.

That’s one of the nice things. I mean, part of the beauty of me is that I’m very rich. So if I need $600 million, I could put up $600 million myself.

That’s a huge advantage.”

To put this number in perspective - President Obama raised nearly $750 million in 2008, according to the nonpartisan Center for Responsive Politics.

WORLD REPORT JAPAN - Police: Japan Disaster Death Toll to Top 18,000

SANAA, YEMEN - Dozens Killed As Yemeni Snipers Fire on Protesters Yemeni military snipers fired from rooftops at tens of thousands of antigovernment demonstrators, killing over 30 people and injuring hundreds who were demanding the ouster of the oppressive president.

The protest was the largest yet in the month long uprising — and the violent response by President Ali Abdullah Saleh marked a new level of brutality.

Dozens of enraged protesters stormed several buildings that were the source

of the gunfire, detaining 10 people including hired mercenaries who they said would be handed over to authorities.

Demonstrators have camped out in squares across Yemen for over a month to demand that Saleh leave office. Security forces and pro-government thugs have used live fire, rubber bullets, tear gas, sticks, knives and rocks to suppress them. The protesters say they won’t go until Saleh does.

Police officials estimate that the toll from Japan’s massive March 11 earthquake and tsunami will exceed 18,000 deaths.

The National Police Agency said the overall number of bodies collected so far stood at 8,649, while 12,877 people have been listed as missing. It is possible those two lists have overlap, and that some unidentified bodies in the tally of deaths may match names

on the missing list once their identities are confirmed.

An eventual death toll also is complicated by the fact that the tsunami likely swept many bodies out to sea, as it did in the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami, when many of the dead were never found. Also, some missing people may have been out of the region at the time of the disasters but have not yet contacted relatives or authorities.

LIBYA - Action in Libya Could Last for a While

In response to a barrage of 56 mortar shells and rockets fired by Gaza militants over the past week, the Israeli military conducted airstrikes in the Gaza Strip. The airstrikes targeted smuggling tunnels and suspected weapons sites.

A military statement vowed to “respond with determination” to any attempt to attack Israelis.

Israeli police spokesman Tamir Avtabi said Gaza militants fired over 50 mortar shells at Israeli border

communities within 15 minutes. He said two Israeli civilians were lightly wounded by shrapnel, and residents were advised to stay at home or in bomb shelters.

Israel’s volatile border with Gaza has been largely quiet since an overwhelming Israeli military offensive two years ago.

But Israeli officials say Gaza’s ruling Hamas militant group has recovered from the fighting, and the area has begun to heat up in recent weeks.

successful offensive against the rebelheld cities.

One of the rebel fighters, Mohammed Abdul-Mullah, a 38-year-old civil engineer from Benghazi, said government troops stopped all resistance after the international campaign began.

“They were running, by foot and in small cars,” he said.

“The balance has changed a lot. But pro-Gadhafi forces are still strong. They are a professional military and they have good equipment.

Ninety percent of us rebels are civilians, while Gaddafi ’s people are professional fighters.”

JAPAN - Israel first to set up field hospital in Japan Israel has established the first field hospital in Japan since the ravaging earthquake hit. Japanese officials were extremely appreciative of the help being provided by Israel and other nations.

The hospital has been set up at Minamisanriko, a fishing city some 500 km north of Tokyo that was utterly overwhelmed by the quake and tsunami, and where some 10,000 people are dead or missing.

Israel’s ambassador to Japan, Nissim Ben Shitrit said, “A five-strong Israeli team

is setting up for surgery right now,” and “They are evaluating the needs so that a larger team can be dispatched.”

Ben Shitrit confirmed that Israel was also providing tons of aid assistance – including mattresses, blankets, coats, gloves and chemical toilets – for some of the half-million people who are homeless, many of them now living in public facilities.

“I don’t know how or why it is that our field hospital is the first,” the ambassador said.

“Maybe we moved faster. Maybe it’s because of our experience.”

RUSSIA - Putin Likens U.N. Libya Resolution to Crusade Calls Russian Prime Minister Vladimir Putin compared the U.N. Security Council resolution calling for military action in Libya to medieval calls for crusades.

Putin said that Muammar G a d d a f i ’s government fell short of democracy but added - that did not justify military intervention. “The resolution is defective and flawed,” Putin told workers at a

Russian ballistic missile factory. “It allows everything. It resembles medieval calls for crusades.”

Putin said that interference in other countries’ internal affairs has become a trend in U.S. foreign policy and that the events in Libya signalled to Russia that it should strengthen its own defense capabilities.

JAPAN - Power Lines Connected at All Troubled Japan Reactors According to the operator of Japan’s leaking nuclear plant, power lines have been hooked up to all six reactors. He added that more work is still needed before electricity can run through them.

The plant’s operator, Tokyo Electric Power Company, announced the hookup Tuesday but cautioned that workers must check pumps, motors and

other equipment before the electricity is turned on.

Reconnecting the reactors to the electrical grid is a significant step in getting control of the overheated reactors and storage pools for spent fuels. But days of work lie ahead to repair equipment and vent volatile gasses to avoid an explosion.

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GAZA - Hamas Fires Dozens of Mortars at Israel – Israel Responds with Airstrikes

According to a senior French official, international military action in Libya, following the U.N. resolution, is likely to last for some time. This statement echoes Moammar Gaddafi ’s warning of a long war ahead.

Airstrikes and Tomahawk missiles, fired from ships, left burned-out tanks and personnel carriers littering roads around the Libyan capital. A power station as well as other strategic targets, including one of Gaddafi ’s residential compounds were hit by coalition forces.

The military action marks a dramatic turnaround in Libya’s month-old unrest. The attacks have halted Gadhafi ’s

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CHILDREN’S SPECIAL

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30 LIFESTYLE My ten year old, David, says he goes because he is supposed to go. He said that he has been going since he was six and it is just now what he has to do. He does not mind. He does not feel forced—you should know that I make my kids go to shul with Dear Rabbi Gershon: me, but I never have to twist any I live in a modern Orthodox community and arms. I simply announce: “Let’s go.”

I attend services daily. I notice that there are And they accompany me. David did some fathers that bring their boys to shul and say that the only time it does bother most that do not. As the father of two young him, other than the occasional day boys I am wondering how those fathers get their that he would just love to sleep in, sons to join them at shul. My father made me atis Shabbas Mincha when he has to tend and I felt like he was forcing religion down leave his friends to meet me at shul. my throat. I rebelled during college and only That is because no other kids go and made my way back recently because I want to he feels he is missing something. provide my children with the three most imporThat is the unfortunate reality that I tant things a father can give, example, example, live with. Most parents are afraid to example. I also attend Torah classes and am force religion upon their children. I never found without a Chumash or Gemorah in believe, and it is backed up by evmy hand. I would appreciate your advice: do I ery single study ever conducted on force religion upon my children? children, that they are dead wrong.

Steve G. Parents routinely enforce curfews, Phila., PA no-drug, no-smoking and other policies. Children know not to Steve: swim within an hour of eating (even You ask a very good question. I hope you don’t though that is just a bubbamiser) bemind that I sought the advice of some experts before cause they know the law and the law responding. This is what my 10 and 12 year old sons is the law. If you (and other parents, had to say. I asked them why they attend shul with as well) set out the law—that kids go to shul—then, me, whether I make them attend, whether they mind they will go, willingly. and how they would respond to your question.

As stated, there are certain things that are not negotiable, and the children know it. Make shul attendance non-negotiable and make sure they know it. We always recommend that you encourage good activity with rewards and incentives and not punishment and criticism. It is important to condition children while they are still young and before they CARPET CLEANING have competing distracMONTHLY SPECIAL tions, including friends per $ room whose parents are not as enlightened as yourself.

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shelter their children from the bad way they suffered through mandatory attendance at services completely miss the forest for the trees. Like yourself, those that have been accustomed to daily prayer often end up at daily prayer and frequent shul attendance.

They may take a detour, but because they are very well-grounded, they come back. Those without the background, that are uncomfortable in a synagogue or are unfamiliar with the siddur or the service, will be more reluctant to venture back into a shul that exaggerates their own anxieties about religion. Those children that are forced to attend may rebel and may vere, but when they do decide to return, and they usually do, are very comfortable returning to a place they have been before. This message is brought to us from the malach (angel) that teaches a baby the entire Torah in the womb, but makes us forget everything upon birth. When we have the opportunity to learn Torah as a child, it is easily picked up because it is more like a refresher course. It all naturally comes back to us.

Interestingly, many young adults find religion for the first time (or return, if they are fortunate to have been raised with the foundation) upon life cycle events, often the birth of their first child or the death of a parent. With the pregnancy or birth of their child, young couples start to think about what kind of life they want for their child. Those with a strong connection to Judaism often consider raising their children with some religion, even enrolling their kids in Jewish Day Schools. The intended consequences of such decisions result in a tenfold greater likelihood that the young parents will have Jewish grandchildren—an astonishing and an alarming statistic.

Fortunately, Steve, you seem to be on the right path. You should pray each day for your children, that they should be healthy and successful and that they should grow in their appreciation and attraction to Judaism and God. Your job would be made easier if you are successful in recruiting more parents with a commitment to Judaism like yours. All the best!

Rabbi Gershon is the father of six. He lectures frequently on parenting issues for religious and secular Jewish audiences. Rabbi Gershon teaches Human Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania’s Medical School. He received his B.S. from Yeshiva University, his Masters in clinical psychology from Yale University and his medical degree from Harvard University. He also holds PhDs from Duke and Stanford and has a private practice in Philadelphia and Boston. He is the author of more than 20 books, including Times Bestseller, The Imperfect Parent. Rabbi Gershon can be reached at editor@sfjewishhome.com

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ecently, a friend called from out of town and asked me about mediation. He and his wife are getting divorced, and he was having a problem negotiating with her. While they are really not that far apart in their positions, nothing was happening because he and his wife were having difficulty communicating. Since my friend couldn’t be objective, I thought he may not be the right person to start the negotiations. It is almost impossible to negotiate if one party is involved and can’t see the “forest for the trees.” Since they were using a family mediator, I suggested that he speak to the mediator and have him negotiate.

My friend’s response was a little perplexing; this mediator wanted the parties to negotiate between themselves, which I found difficult to understand.

That brought me to the topic of this article of “what does a family mediator do?”

A mediator is like an ombudsman who negotiates between parties. In order to negotiate fairly and neutrally for both parties, a mediator must understand the parties’ needs. To make that determination, a mediator must have good listening skills, patience, tolerance, flexibility, creativity, and persistence, as well as the ability to handle conflict and be empathetic to the affected parties. While listening to the parties, the mediator must also be very careful not to project his or her opinions or values onto the parties and risk introducing issues that are not the concern of the parties themselves.

Once the mediator has helped the parties narrow the scope of the issues important to them, he or she will often meet privately with one party or the other in order to present the other party’s point of view, This meeting, known as a caucus, is private so that a mediator can challenge one party’s position, without diminishing it in front of the other party. The mediator might challenge the party by pointing out the weaknesses of their position, for example. Though this evaluative method is very useful to bring parties closer to an agreement, it also risks alienating the party. Often, if the mediator voices the other party’s point of view too strongly, the mediator may appear to take sides. This can usually be alleviated in advance; if the mediator

By Dr. Howard Chusid, Ed.D., LMHC, NCC includes some explanation of this evaluative role at the beginning of the process, the parties will know that what the mediator does to one, he or she will do to the other equally.

The mediator, as an objective third party, is often able to identify options that the parties might not think of themselves. This creative component of a mediator’s role is the one most mediators en-

…a mediator must have good listening skills, patience, tolerance, flexibility, creativity, and persistence, as well as the ability to handle conflict… joy. Warring parties often become so entrenched in their positions that they see agreement only as weakness. The mediator, however, can often craft solutions that can incorporate elements of compromise and gain for each party. Being able to “think out of the box” is, therefore, a critical skill for an effective mediator. The mediator may go back and forth between the parties in an attempt to move them closer to a consensus until a resolution is reached.

If an agreement is reached, the mediator must ensure that it is reduced to writing. That does not mean that the mediator must be the scrivener, however. When parties are represented by attorneys, the attorneys will usually write the agreement with the mediator merely ensuring that it is done. If the parties are unrepresented, then the mediator will usually draft the agreement as well. Once drafted, each party must sign the agreement, which then becomes binding on the parties and enforceable. In family mediation, the agreement is called a Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA) and will include a Parenting Plan if there are children in involved.

Once signed, the MSA

is presented to the judge in a final hearing (like a trial), in which the judge will incorporate the agreement into an order that can be enforced by the court.

While we are on the topic of what a mediator does, it begs the question: what does a mediator not do? Firstly, a mediator can’t practice law or whatever secondary profession they have while mediating. A mediator must at all times be an unbiased and objective third party whose sole role is to facilitate the mediation process. The mediator is there to assist the parties in reaching an agreement that they craft together. When the parties are represented, it is easy to let the attorneys answer any legal questions that arise. The harder scenario is when parties are not represented. The mediator can provide information required for the parties to make informed decisions. Even if the mediator is an attorney, however, he or she may not apply that legal information to the specific facts of the parties’ case and provide legal opinions. The only legal advice the lawyer/mediator may give is that the parties have a right to hire a lawyer to assist them with the mediation and the case. Similarly, if the mediator is a psychologist or therapist, and discovers that the clients or their children require counseling during the process, the mediator may suggest that the parties get counseling. Even if the mediator is a counselor, however, the mediator should not do the counseling.

Whether the mediation is a divorce, contract, foreclosure, or any other matter, the mediator’s role is the same. He or she must serve as an unbiased objective third party to assist the parties in resolving their disputes. In order to do so, the mediator must identify and clarify the issues for the parties, evaluate and test the parties’ positions, try to find creative solutions that allow each party to gain and compromise, and ensure that any agreement reached is reduced to writing. Despite whatever additional training a mediator has, the mediator may not serve in any other capacity to the clients.

Though still fairly new, mediation has becomes an important tool within our legal system for resolving disputes that saves people time, money, and helps preserve relationships.

Howard Chusid, Ed.D, LMHC, NCC is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a National Certified Counselor, and a Board Certified Professional Counselor. He is also a Supreme Court Certified Family Mediator, Circuit Civil Mediator and a Qualified Arbitrator. Howard works with a group of caring professionals who offer a cooperative approach to divorce and other family disputes. Each professional provides the support services necessary to navigate the many complex issues people face during the confrontational times that break up creates. We can be reached at The Helping Place, LLC at 954-455-0388.

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A Legacy of Passion

by Josh Bains

Roy Neuberger’s traveling companion thought Roy had lost his mind when he decided to cross the English Channel via biplane in 1924. While the ferry service had a reliable history, the air route between Paris and London had just begun five years prior with planes like the Farman Goliath – a veritable trolley on wings that was designed for bombing runs. In an effort to increase passenger satisfaction on the grueling cross channel routes, the newfangled airline companies installed wicker seats and handed out clothes for cold weather. Despite these accoutrements, Roy found the three hour trek so gut-wrenching that he needed three days to recover. He wrote of this youthful stunt at the age of 99, long after becoming a prince of Wall Street and one of the greatest art collectors of the 20th century. In his autobiography, The Passionate Collector, he said of his biplane escapade: “I knew not what I was doing.” It was likely one of only two times in his masterful life this held true. The other was at the age of 105, when Roy Neuberger wore tefillin for the first time.

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enius. Larger than life. The man who won these appellations from his intimates was born the youngest son of a businessman and a pianist. Their respective talents for money and art fused in Roy. At age 12 he became an orphan in his sister’s care with a $30,000 inheritance. At age 17 Roy dropped out of his second semester at NYU and worked for the home decorating department of B. Altman & Company. A colleague told him that he had natural “aesthetic talent,” and encouraged him to use it. He tried. Within six months he assessed his skill at painting and felt it would never make him an artist, but he never forgot the friendly comment and it helped him to retain his connection with the arts: “…I decided that I would never be a really good painter.

Instead, I became a passionate art lover.”

At age 20, Roy read a novel about English gentry who sent their children abroad for education on the continent. Lacking parents, Roy sent himself. He purchased a first class ticket on a French ocean liner to Paris, became a cosmopolitan, and ate “obscene quantities of caviar.” He took a hotel room on the Rue de Rivoli and immediately walked to the Lourve. He was enchanted with two sculptures: Winged Victory of Samothrace and The Scribe. He wrote of himself: “I was an extremely idealistic young man with a bit of an inferiority complex. I felt I had to learn all the time because I knew so little. To me, The Scribe rep-

Roy Neuberger in The Neuberger Museum of Art

resented great knowledge. Revering it somehow gave me confidence in my own judgment, which helped me in my personal life and in the art world.” Sculpture moved him more than painting, but his thrice weekly jaunts to the museum eventually gave him a new appreciation: “Certain paintings were increasingly interesting. This was an early lesson in self-education. Each time you return to a work of art, you observe different things about the composition, the draftsmanship, the placement of figures and objects, the relationship between colors. It is the confluence of all these elements, and many others that evokes an emotional response.”

He was drawn to Matisse over Picasso. He fell in love with “the big three,” Seurat, van Gogh, and Cezanne. He watched street artists, became a good antique dealer for the A. Dumas art deco design firm,

and read. The book that may have affected him most was a biography of Vincent van Gogh. Roy felt aghast that such a master took his own life in poverty. “The French flunked with Van Gogh,” he later wrote. “I didn’t want twentieth-century America to flunk the way the French had in the nineteenth century.” He made his life mission the discovery of new, great American art.

For that he needed money. He returned to New York and went to Wall Street, becoming a brokerage trainee. His prescience told him the RCA stock was inflated, and he sold short on his personal shares. When the market crashed he weathered it, and in doing so found his vocation. He also found his wife – in the stock research department.

Her name was Marie Salant, and the happy young couple went unscathed through the Great Depression and married on the day the Dow Jones hit a low of 42 points.

Over the Thanksgiving weekend that followed the October Panic of 1929, Roy went to the Phillips Gallery in Washington and became a protégé of its owner, Duncan Phillips. In 1937 he bought his first artwork: a simple ink on paper by William Gropper.

Just over a decade later Roy would purchase Number 8, 1949, by Jackson Pollock. The sale was nudged through when the artist’s agent called him after an exhibition: “Roy, you know that painting you liked in the Jackson Pollock show? Would you entertain buying it? He needs money desperately.”

“Yes,” answered Roy on the spot, remaining true

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The Neuberger extended family in the 1950’s

endlessly across the walls. But Roy was a black sheep.

On the surface of his mind lay a question that nothing his father built could assuage. He would sometimes open himself to caring strangers who listened but couldn’t help. His void was so evanescent it defied expression, and so persistent it hummed like a gnat inside his brain.

This hidden state of anxiety continued until Roy married the most sought after girl in school. Then it exploded. Linda Villency’s family wanted a Rabbi at the ceremony, and the Neubergers agreed to it on condition he wouldn’t speak in Hebrew. Linda grew up with a paper-thin Passover and she knew not what it meant; Roy had never seen a seder but he understood Judaism to be archaic and outmoded from his indoctrination of Ethical Culture. She was level

Roy, Marie and their three children - Roy S. back row in middle

headed and pure; he had devastating bouts of doubt and incessant wanderlust. Roy just never was happy. He ran from a darkness within himself, a feeling so terrible and irrational he couldn’t admit to having it – that he was somehow evil.

He turned to nature, to travel, and eventually when no option was left, to G-d. He tried religions of the east and west. He wrote a book he couldn’t get published about why the Jews are wrong. His father had to observe paintings many times in Paris to appreciate them; Roy had to undergo the trial of living through many incarnations to appreciate himself.

Roy and Linda entered the newspaper business. During the Yom Kippur War, a Jewish colleague openly wept over televised images of Israel’s victory. All his life, Roy felt Israel was the villain of the Middle East crisis and now as he watched the screen his face betrayed no emotion. The newsman barked at him: “Don’t you have any feelings? How could you not care about what’s going on? What kind of Jew are you anyway?”

Roy S. Neuberger was shocked – he had never claimed to be Jewish. But the spat moved his aching mind to question the truth of Judaism. Since he had already written a book condemning it, he found this rather embarrassing. He realized he was ashamed of being Jewish even though he knew nothing about it.

Six months later he asked another colleague to take him to a synagogue. What followed was an invitation to hear Rebbitzen Esther Jungreis.

He went with Linda. They were open and unprepared – expecting perhaps a crotchety old woman or a professor of Jewish theology.

Rebbitzen Jungreis entered, and broke one of Roy’s stereotypes on the spot.

“Hey, she’s good looking,” whispered Roy. “I don’t get it. I thought she’s supposed to be Orthodox.” She trounced him with quiet words: “You are a Jew,” she said. “You have created civilizations. You have given birth to every ideal that has shaped mankind: Justice, peace, love, the dignity of man, have all had their genesis in your Torah. But above all, you have been given the unique mission of proclaiming the Oneness of G-d…”

Roy shook and sobbed. He’d said those words to himself his entire life, but they were too perfect. No one he knew believed them, not his teachers, friends, or family, and certainly not his pricey psychiatrist. Roy said of his father: “He dreamed beautiful dreams, and all of them came true.” But Roy dreamed an unending nightmare that his unique greatness was unacceptable, and he lived in terror that this black vision would come true.

The ancient message of Rebbetzin Jun-

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to his Parisian promise to support living artists.

“I sent off the check in advance of getting the painting so Pollock would have the money right away.” Pollock, it turned out, didn’t need the money quite that much, (he was renovating his house at the time) but Roy had a good heart, and was happy for him to have it.

The first boy the Neubergers had was named for both his father and his mother: Roy Salant Neuberger. Perhaps it was the Salant in Roy S. Neuberger that made him not exactly a chip off the old block. His mother’s father, Aaron Salant, told him they were descendants from the famed Rabbi Yisroel Salanter. For young Roy this name-drop meant nothing; there was no Jewish context to place one rabbi over another. Regardless, religion wasn’t for the Neubergers.

Unfortunately, while Roy senior was off creating Neuberger & Berman, a firm that became known for its great integrity, Roy junior was becoming curiously anxious. He was bothered by darkness and an unshakable sense he could not cope with the everyday, which was ridiculous, because he had every advantage in the world. Their Upper East Side wealth remained unpretentious. The family’s limousine was short, not stretched. They sent young Roy to the far-left leaning Ethical Culture Schools. When he complained of a desire for some religious instruction around age eight, his parents enrolled him in the Ethical Culture Sunday School. Roy S. Neuberger says: “I learned about Greek and Roman mythology, Catholicism, Protestantism, Buddhism, Hinduism, and every other ‘ism’ they could think of.” He learned that every faith is noble and enlightening when you don’t take any of them to heart.

Roy’s worry remained. His mother sent him to a shrink. That didn’t help either but he acted like it did because the alternative was too painful. “I went through life in twilight state, pretending everything was great and petrified that there were no answers at all.”

For 33 years the family apartment was on Park Avenue – directly across from Roy senior’s ‘home away from the Louvre’ – the Metropolitan Museum of Art. Roy Neuberger loved the Met, and thought it the greatest museum in the world. “The Metropolitan is divided into seventeen curatorial departments with a staff of about 2,000,” he wrote. “It boasts, quite rightly, that it contains every category of art, in every known medium, from every part of the world, during every epoch of recorded time…a vast encyclopedia of civilization and culture.”

Despite this wealth at his doorstep, young Roy couldn’t find the answers he needed to be happy.

Museum directors, curators, artists, and financiers were fixtures of his home, as were the great paintings of depth and color that so electrified his father – O’Keeffes, Rothkos, de Koonings –moving

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COVER STORY greis validated him as no one ever had, replacing the fear with hope, purpose, and the light to eradicate his personal darkness. Linda, too was affected. Both decided to attend the Rebbetzin’s weekly lectures even though the venue was two hours from their home. Not long after, they followed her on a two week trip to Israel, and returned different people.

Now they were Jews. They placed their house on the market, sold their newspaper at a loss against the advice of Roy’s father, and plucked their daughter from entering first grade in a parochial school. They moved to the Rebbetzin’s neighborhood, who successfully petitioned the Torah Academy for Girls to accept the Neuberger’s daughter despite the fact that not she nor her family could read the Hebrew aleph-beis or keep Shabbos. In that rocky beginning, no one suspected this daughter would eventually marry Asher Jungreis, the Rebbetzin’s son.

Roy S. Neuberger found his own calling as an orthodox Jewish writer and speaker. In his first book, From Central Park to Sinai, he wrote that he, his wife and children had the unique experience of discovering Torah together: “We came upon it like a desert oasis. We drank the elixir with the knowledge that it was indeed the difference between life and death.”

His father thought this was all quite strange, but admittedly raised his son to be as independent a thinker as he was himself. Roy S. Neuberger’s home is now filled with art – large photographs from his work meetings with gedolei Yisrael – Rav Pam, Rav Kamenetsky, and Rav Yaakov Hillel. His most recent book is a novel called 2020 Vision, chronicling the frightful start of the “end of days,” which Jewish sources say will pave the way for the messiah, and awareness of G-d throughout the world. The novel’s style is autobiographical; Roy and his wife flee Long Island on bicycles after multiple nuclear blasts hit New York and cripple the city. Roy says his desire to write about the edgy topic of Armageddon was to wake people up to the facts of Judaism and how they should affect our lives. “If we believe it can happen,” says Roy “then we can prepare ourselves.” Roy wants to disseminate what he believes would make the world a better place, as did his father.

In 1965, Roy Neuberger received an anonymous bid offering six million dollars for his entire collection of art.

Roy was not in the art business. He had never sold the paintings he bought – he loaned or donated them. This peculiar value stemmed from his respect for artists, and from the impact he wished to make. “Dealers are tremendously impor-

The Neuberger Museum of Art at SUNY Purchase

tant in bringing artists to public attention,” he wrote.

“They not only influence what the general public buys, they also help determine which artists are seen in museums.” Once an owner sells a painting, he sells with it his power to make it known. He later found the bid came from New York Governor Nelson Rockefeller, himself an art collector and advocate.

“Ultimately, Governor Rockefeller approached me directly,” Roy recalled. “With respect to my collection, he said: ‘Give it to me.’ By ‘me’ he meant the State of New York. In May 1967, Rockefeller offered to create a Neuberger Museum to house my collection. It would be built on the Purchase College campus of the State University in Westchester County near New York City…On the strength of a martini or two, I became enamored of his inspiring description…I agreed to give the museum a substantial portion of the collection I had at the time, over 300 items.” It was a five million dollar donation – then the largest in SUNY

At Roy Neuberger’s burial in middle of the 2010 blizzard

history. In the end, he gave the museum over 950 paintings and sculptures.

When Roy Neuberger was 104 years old, he received the National Medal of Arts from President George W. Bush at the White House. With him was his son, Roy S. Neuberger, who took the opportunity to offer President Bush a blessing, (which he gladly accepted) and an inscribed copy of his book on returning to Judaism.

At that time Roy S. and Linda had been trying to think of a way to get their father to do one thing he had never done and likely wouldn’t – to put on tefillin. The couple was pushed by Rabbi Shmuel Birmbaum, Rosh HaYeshiva of the Mir in Brooklyn, who told Roy that he should look for an opportunity for his aging father to wear tefillin at least once in his life.

In 2008, Roy’s book, 2020 Vision, was released. Roy brought it to his ailing father whom he visited six days a week in his Manhattan apartment at the Pierre Hotel. The next day both Roy and Linda went and found Roy’s father reading the book.

Roy Neuberger saw his son. He said: “You make religion sound so enjoyable, not like a chore…Do you forgive me for not being religious?”

“When we heard that,” said Roy. “My wife and I realized this was the opportunity.” Roy spoke with Rabbi Birnbaum, and they carried out his instructions. Roy brought two sets of tefillin. Roy’s father watched as his son put on the first set. When he said the blessings, Linda told Roy’s father to say Amen. He did, and Roy was able to place the second set of tefillin on his father, who was 105 years old.

Two years later, on the Friday before parshas Shemos, Roy Neuberger died quite peacefully at age 107. He had always been peaceful: “I think I’m the only man in the world who is in his 90’s and not on one prescription drug,” he said. “Except Valium when necessary.”

There was a blizzard across New York, and still 350 people attended the funeral. Among them were leaders of finance, art, and Torah; among the latter were members of the Jungreis family, and the Rosh HaYeshvia of Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv, Rabbi Naftali Jaeger.

Roy Neuberger left behind three children, eight grandchildren, and 30 greatgrandchildren. Rabbi Jaeger said: “In a society suffering from a lack of integrity and dwindling vision, hearing about a man of this caliber, and having such wonderful children and grandchildren, leaves one hopeful and uplifted. There is a reason why Mr. Neuberger merited to have so many Torahdik descendants.”

Before he died, Roy Neuberger had read his son’s book, 2020 Vision, four times.

FORGOTTEN HEROES Highlights of Jewish Heroes who made a difference in defending their countries

ight after the Declaration of the State of Israel in 1948, its Arab neighbors attacked and thus officially started the War of Independence.

The nation mobilized, and got ready to fight with whatever they had. However, they were badly deficient of arms and experienced soldiers. Unofficially the

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two sank the ship, and Bin-Nun decided to try for the when they came back. minesweeper, which was protecting the bigger ship.

The commander of the navy was Paul Shulman, He barely managed to free himself from the ropes a graduate of the U.S. naval Academy in Annapolis, on his small boat right before it exploded against the Maryland. He grew up in Stamford, Connecticut to minesweeper, causing severe damage.

Zionist parents, his mother being a close friend of fuThe main duty of the Israeli navy was not to sink ture Prime Minister Golda Meir. He arrived in Italy in ships, its 1947 to help send duty was to off some Aliya Bes protect the ships, and a year sea boarder later David Benfrom being Gurion asked him attacked, into lead the Israeli vaded or supnavy. When the plied for the U.S. found out enemy. Most that he joined the of the war ranks of the Israewas spent on lis, they asked him patrol duty in to resign his comthe Meditermission. ranean Sea, The Machalfrom the Syrniks were on the ian border job trainers to the Four American volunteers, Lenny Cohen and Hal Fineberg - rear, new Israeli navy re- and Paul Kaye and Al Ellis - front, were assigned to Shaetet 13, in the north all the Navy frogman unit. Ellis was from Lod Angeles. The other the way down cruits. They held every three were from New York City. to Crete in the type of job on the boat south. This is from the skipper to where the pregunnery officer to radio vious combat experience of the Machalniks really operator. They were also the core of the helped. There were times that they engaged the enemy, original navy frogmen. At least four, Lenand their experiences in WWII factored into the outny Cohen, Hal Fineberg, and Paul Kaye come of the engagements. The ones who had fought all from New York and Al Ellis from Los the naval battles of the Pacific against a better JapaAngeles, fought in the elite Shayetet 13. nese navy, had a huge advantage and passed on the The first ships of the navy were former Paul Shulman, an Annapolis graduate and the first commander of fighting spirit to the new recruits. This helped when Aliya Bes ships, boats that carried people hte Israeli Navy, is shown here with David Ben-Gurion, first prime four days becoming to Isminister of Israel fore the sinkrael from Europe. ing of the Emir Most of the forty or British were supplying the Arabs with war materials, Farouk; the so ships were captured but Israel was not supplied in such a manner by navy encounby the British prior to the any country. They were not on such terms with the tered an EgypDeclaration of the State.

United States as they are today. Most of the arms and tian corvette The USCGC Northland other essential war supplies were either left over from and three spitwas renamed the Eilat World War II or bought; most of the transactions fire airplanes.

A-16, and became Israel’s were done illegally (or in the case of the Lino, which One plane was first warship. She was we discussed in a previous article, were pirated). The downed and soon joined by two former deficiency of trained soldiers was partially solved by the corvette Canadian navy corvettes the creation of Machal. backed off, (a warship similar but Machal, or Misnadvei Chutz L’Aretz- volunteers severely damsmaller than a destroyer), from outside Israel, were recruited from nations aged. the Wedgewood K-18 and around the world. Most of these volunteers served After the the Hagana K-20, and the during World War II, Israel would not have to worry war, many of German built Moaz K-24.

Aliyah Bet ship Norsyd was refitted to serve as one of the Israeli Navy’s five fighting ships, the Haganah K-20 rael about training these men. In fact, with their experithe Machalniks They were joined in October ence they were invaluable to the young recruits in the went back to 1945, by the K-26 Noga formally units with whom they were placed. This article will their original the USS Yucatan. be about the service that the Machalniks did with the country, but about 200 made Aliya and continued beOn October 22, 1948, the Israeli navy scored newly formed Israeli Navy. ing the backbone for the IDF. big. They sank the flagship of the Egyptian navy, the Of the thousand or so Machalniks that served Emir Farouk. Operating from the Moaz, which was If you have any questions or comments, you can email Avi at during the war only a handful, at most fifty, served manned by several Machalniks, four naval commanaviheiligman@gmail.com in the fledgling Israeli navy. They were all volunteers, dos, led by Yochai Bin-Nun, would attempt to ram and ones from the U.S. faced losing their citizenship the Emir Farouk with small torpedo boats. The first

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eople are no longer ashamed to parade negative feelings toward Jews.

Ruth Fogel was in the bathroom when the Palestinian terrorists pounced on her husband Udi and their three-month-old daughter Hadas, slitting their throats as they lay in bed on Friday night in their home in Itamar.

The terrorists stabbed Ruth to death as she came out of the bathroom. With both parents and the newborn dead, they moved on to the other children, going into a bedroom where Ruth and Udi’s sons Yoav (11) and Elad (four) were sleeping.

They stabbed them through their hearts and slit their throats.

The murderers apparently missed another bedroom where the Fogels’ other sons, eight-year-old Ro’i and two-year-old Yishai were asleep because they left them alive. The boys were found by their big sister, 12-year-old Tamar, when she returned home from a friend’s house two hours after her family was massacred.

Tamar found Yishai standing over his parents’ bodies screaming for them to wake up.

In his eulogy at the family’s funeral on Sunday, former chief rabbi Yisrael Meir Lau told Tamar that her job from now on is to be her surviving brothers’ mommy.

In a rare move, the Prime Minister’s Office released photos of the Fogel family’s blood-drenched corpses.

They are shown as they were found by security forces.

There was Hadas, dead on her parents’ bed, next to her dead father Udi. There was Elad, lying on a small throw rug wearing socks. His little hands were clenched into fists. What was a four-year-old to do against two grown men with knives?

He clenched his fists. So did his big brother.

Maybe the Prime Minister’s Office thought the pictures would shock the world.

Maybe Binyamin Netanyahu thought the massacre of three little children would move someone to rethink their hatred of Israel.

That was the theme of his address to the nation Saturday night.

Netanyahu directed most of his words to the hostile world. He spoke to the leaders who rush to condemn Israel at the UN Security Council every time we assert our right to this land by permitting Jews to build homes. He demanded that they condemn the murder of Jewish children with the same enthusiasm and speed.

He shouldn’t have bothered.

The government released the photos on Saturday night. Within hours, the social activism website My

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Israel posted a short video of the photographs on YouTube along with the names and ages of the victims.

Within two hours YouTube removed the video.

What was Netanyahu thinking? Didn’t he get the memo that photos of murdered Jewish children are unacceptable? If they’re published, someone might start thinking about the nature of Palestinian society.

Someone might consider the fact that in the Palestinian Authority, anti-Jewish propaganda is so

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ubiquitous and so murderous that killing the Fogel babies was an act of heroism. The baby killers knew that by murdering Udi, Ruth, Hadas, Yoav and Elad they would enter the pantheon of Palestinian heroes.

They can expect to have a sports stadium or school in Ramallah or Hebron built for them by the Palestinian Authority and underwritten by American or European taxpayers.

And indeed, the murder of the Fogel children and their parents was greeted with jubilation in Gaza.

Carnivals were held in the streets as Hamas members handed out sweets.

Obviously YouTube managers are not interested in being held responsible for someone noticing that genocidal Jew hatred defines Palestinian society – and the Arab world as a whole. But they really have no reason to be concerned. Even if they had allowed the video to be posted for more than an hour, it wouldn’t have made a difference.

The enlightened peoples of Europe, and growing numbers of Americans, have no interest in hearing or seeing anything that depicts Jews as good people, or even just as regular people. It is not that the cultured, intellectual A-listers in Europe and America share the Palestinians’ genocidal hatred of the Jewish people.

The powerful newspaper editors, television commentators, playwrights, fashion designers, filmmakers and professors don’t spend time thinking about how to prepare the next slaughter.

They don’t teach their children from the time they are Hadas and Elad Fogel’s ages that they should strive to become mass murderers. They would never dream of doing these things. They know there is a division of labor in contemporary anti-Semitism.

The job of the intellectual luminaries in Western high society today is to hate Jews the oldfashioned way, the way their great grandparents hated Jews back in the days of the early 20th century before that villain Adolf Hitler gave Jew hating a bad name.

Much has been made of the confluence of anti-Semitic bile pouring out of the chattering classes. From Mel Gibson to Julian Assange to Charlie Sheen to John Galliano, it seems like a day doesn’t go by without some new celebrity exposing himself as a Jew hater.

It isn’t that the beautiful people and their followers suddenly decided that Jews are not their cup of tea (or rail of cocaine). It’s just that we have reached the point where people no longer feel embarrassed to parade negative feelings towards Jews.

A Decade Ago, The revelation that French ambassador to Britain Daniel Bernard referred to Israel as “that #@$%$# little country,” was shocking. Now it is standard fare. Everyone who is anyone will compare Israel to Nazi Germany without even realizing this is nothing but Holocaust denial.

The post-Holocaust dam reining in anti-Semitism burst in 2002. As Jewish children and parents like the Fogels were being murdered in their beds, on the streets, in discotheques, cafés and supermarkets throughout Israel, fashionable anti-Semites rejoiced at the opportunity to hate Jews in public again.

The collective Jew, Israel was accused of every-

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thing from genocide to infanticide to just plain nastiness.

Israel’s leaders were caricatured as Fagin, Shylock, Pontius Pilate and Hitler on the front pages of

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newspapers throughout Europe. IDF soldiers were portrayed as Nazis, and Israeli families were dehumanized.

No longer civilians with an inherent right to live, in universities throughout the US and Europe, Israeli innocents were castigated as “extremist-Zionists” or “settlers” who basically deserved to be killed.

Professors whose “academic” achievements involved publishing sanitized postmodern versions of anti-Jewish Palestinian propaganda were granted tenure and rewarded with lucrative book contracts.

Today, when properly modulated, Jew hatred is a career maker. Take playwright Caryl Churchill’s 1,300- word anti-Semitic monologue Seven Jewish Children.

The script accuses the entire population of Israel of mass murders which were never committed.

For her efforts, Churchill became an international celebrity. The Royal Court Theater produced her anti- Jewish agitprop. The Guardian featured it on its home page. When Jewish groups demanded that The Guardian remove the blood libel from its website, the paper refused. Instead, it left the anti-Semitic propaganda on its homepage, but in a gesture of open-mindedness, hosted a debate about whether or not Seven Jewish Children is anti-Semitic.

From London, Seven Jewish Children went on tour in Europe and the US. In a bid to show how tolerant of dissent they are, Jewish communities in America hosted showings of the play, which portrays Jewish parents as monsters who train their children to become mass murderers.

Seven Jewish Children’s success was repeated by the Turkish anti-Semitic action film Valley of the Wolves- Palestine, which premiered on January 28 – International Holocaust Memorial Day. The hero of that film is a Turkish James Bond character who comes to Israel to avenge his brothers, who were killed by IDF forces on the Turkish-Hamas terror ship Mavi Marmara last May.

No doubt owing to the success of Seven Jewish Children and Valley of the Wolves-Palestine and other such initiatives, anti-Semitic art and entertainment is a growth sector in Europe.

nation mean? France and Britain condemned the massacre, along with the US. Does that exculpate the French and British for their embrace of antiSemitism? Does it make them friends of the Jewish

Distributing sweets in the West Bank upon hearing of the murder of a family in Itamar

Last month Britain struck again. Channel 4 produced a new piece of anti-Semitic bile – a four-part primetime miniseries called The Promise. It presents itself as an historical drama about Israel and the Palestinians, but its relationship with actual history begins

American media bias - Famed member of the White House Press Corps - Helen Thomas - who still insists that Zionists control the White House

and ends with the wardrobes. In what has become the meme of all European and international left-liberal salons, the only good Jews in the mini-series are the ones who died in the Holocaust. From the show’s perspective, every Jew who took up arms to liberate Israel from the British and defend it from the Arabs is a Nazi.

What all this shows is that Netanyahu was wasting his time calling on world leaders to condemn the murder of the Fogel family. What does a condem-

state? And say a British playwright sees the YouTube censored photographs. No self-respecting British playwright will write a play called Three Jewish Children telling the story of how Palestinian parents do in fact teach their children to become mass murderers of Jews. And if a playwright were to write such a play, The Royal Court Theater wouldn’t produce it.

The Guardian wouldn’t post it on its website. Liberal Jewish community centers in America wouldn’t show it, nor would university student organizations in Europe or America.

No, if someone wanted to use the photographs of Yoav’s and Elad’s mangled corpses and clenched fists as inspiration to write a play or feature film about the fact that the Palestinians have no national identity outside their quest to annihilate the Jewish state, he would find no mass market.

The headlines describing the attack make all this clear.

From the BBC to CNN the Fogels were not described as Israelis. They were a “settler family.” Their murderers were “alleged terrorists.”

As far as the opinion makers of Europe and much of America are concerned, the Yoavs and Hadases and Elads of Israel have no right to live if they live in “a settlement.”

So too, they believe that Palestinians have a right to murder Israelis who serve in the IDF and who believe that Jews should be able to live freely wherever we want because this land belongs to us.

Until these genteel Jew haters learn to think otherwise, Israel should neither seek nor care if they condemn this or any other act of Palestinian genocide. We shouldn’t care about them at all.

Reprinted with permission from Caroline Glick. Caroline can be contacted at caroline@carolineglick.com

itching is considered important to make up anywhere from 60 to 90 percent of the sport of Baseball (according to the “experts” of “America’s Favorite Pastime”). And if Joe Sokoloff could fully utilize his unique teaching concept, many young pitchers would have the capacity to throw as many curves, sliders and changeups as they wanted (without developing sore, aching arms along the way), and also acquiring, durability and longevity.

Young, tender pitching arms can easily be ruined, during the process of throwing too many breaking balls. A youth, with bones and muscles that are still growing, is very susceptible to injury from these pitches, which require violent twisting or snapping of the wrist.

Sokoloff, a 68 year old Philadelphia native and longtime Miami Beach resident who currently lives in Broward County (Hollywood), is considered one of Florida’s pioneers in the baseball card/sports collectible field. He has become one of the most popular and successful sports collectible dealers and baseball card show promoters in the Southeast United States.

A veteran sportsman/athlete/businessman in South Florida for more that 50 years, Sokoloff believes that he now has the answer for preventing young pitchers from burning out their arms at an early age. He has developed an unconventional pitching technique, which he unofficially labels the “Spinning Whip-Flex.” His method is to have the torso spin into the pitch, as opposed to lining up the shoulders and throwing over the top. And the arm motion can range from sidearm to three-quarter arm.

Joe has used his son, Daniel, as a graphic test-case for this innovative technique (for nearly eight years).

And it really helps, by putting less stress and strain on

the back, elbow and upper arm.

A pitch thrown by using Sokoloff’s technique travels with less speed, but a lot more spin. But that’s fine with Daniel, a five-foot, eight inch, 110-pound lefthander. He realizes he can’t physically overpower an opposing hitter, so he must outwit the batter with a repertoire of junk (slow pitches with a lot of movement). And his dad’s method is perfect for him. He can hurl twisting pitches without making his arm ache.

And that makes Daniel good at what many kids his age aren’t, which is throwing a variety of pitches. “They’re used to fastballs and occasional curves,” explained Daniel, who has command of a fastball, sinker, curve, slider and two different changeups.

“They’re always trying to guess what pitch I’m going to throw next,” he added with a big grin.

Sokoloff’s son is always available to take the mound, because his arm is rarely tired.

Daniel says that he will try out for the Cooper City High varsity team next Spring.

Joe Sokoloff got the idea for the unusual pitching motion when he looked at a friend’s collection of old wire-service photos taken of Boston hurler Johnny Sain, who threw the conventional way.

“I thought, boy, you could break your arm like

that,” explained Sokoloff. “When you saw the arm motion just before the release, there was tremendous pressure. And sure enough, pitchers are still doing it the same way as they were 40 years ago. I thought to myself, there’s got to be a better way.”

Sokoloff ought to know from where he speaks. His sports accomplishments are diverse and impressive. He worked as a teaching tennis professional, was ranked tennis (FTA) and table tennis player (USTTA), a national-caliber Othello board game player, a first-rate duplicate bridge player (in tournaments), and has also written a best-selling paperback book (“Handicapping the Hounds”) on handicapping greyhound races.

The “Spinning Whip-Flex” is definitely on its way to helping countless young pitchers save their arms and improve their overall ability.

Joe’s own son can testify to the success of this revolutionary pitching technique.

Joe is currently the pitching coach for Joe Carter Park in Fort Lauderdale for all of the 8-14 year olds and along with his regular pupils, has 10 All-Star pitchers ready to show what this amazing technique can produce.

For more info call Joe at 954-805-0669.

“Health Benefits of Wine”

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e all love a good glass of wine!

And here is a reason to raise your glass. Drinking wine not only tastes delicious, but it also provides health benefits. Enjoying a glass of wine daily may offer protection against heart disease. You can indulge in the pleasures that wine offers while reaping all the wonderful health benefits a daily glass of wine offers.

New research just published in the February 22, 2011 issue of the British Medical Journal confirmed what we have heard before: people who drink moderate amounts of alcohol— wine included-- may be up to 25 percent less likely to develop heart disease compared with people who don’t drink alcohol at all. Researchers reviewed dozens of studies conducted over

three decades adding to the evidence that drinking can offer health benefits. While a separate review found that alcohol may offer protection against heart disease by increasing levels of good cholesterol.

Wine may offer added protection as it contains phytochemicals, such as flavonoids and resveratrol, which act as antioxidants and prevent free radicals from causing cellular damage in the body. Resveratrol, found in a greater quantity in red wine, has been shown to prevent blood clotting and plaque formation in the arteries, which can potentially improve cardiovascular health.

“This is good news, as drinking wine is such is an integral part

of our traditions and customs. We drink wine on Shabbos, Jewish holidays, and other festive occasions. Typically it’s said that if it’s too good it can’t be healthy, wine will dispel that notion.” said Mordy Herzog of Royal Wine Corp.

So the next time when you raise your glass “L’chaim to life”, say it like you mean it. But remember, the benefits of drinking wine come by consuming moderate amounts—that is one glass for women and two for men. And a glass is defined as 5 ounces of wine. So, drink up, but remember to practice moderation and always consult your physician for questions or guidance about specific medical conditions.

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CHAI WOK 1688 NE 164 Street North Miami Beach, FL 33162 305-705-2110 Supervision: Kosher Miami

HARBOUR GRILL 9415 Harding Avenue Surfside, FL 33154 305-861-0787 Supervision: Kosher Miami

ASIA Sushi, Wok, Grill 7600 W Camino Real Boca Raton, FL 33433 561-544-8100 Supervision: ORB

CHINA BISTRO 3565 NE 207th Street Aventura, FL 33180 305-936-0755 Supervision: Kosher Miami

HOLLYWOOD DELI 6100 Hollywood Blvd. Hollywood, FL 33024 (954) 608-5790 Supervision: ORB

ASI’S 4020 Royal Palm Ave Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-604-0555 Supervision: Kosher-Miami

CINE CITTA MIAMI 9544 Harding Avenue Surfside, FL 33154 305-407-8319 Supervision: OK

JCC CAFE American 9801 Donna Klein Blvd at Cultural Arts Center Boca Raton, FL 33428 561-852-3200 x 4103 | Supervision: ORB

ASI’S GRILL AND SUSHI BAR 4020 Royal Palm Avenue Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-604-0555 Supervision: Kosher Miami

DAIRY BITES 660 W Hallandale Beach Boulevard Hallandale, FL 33009 954-457-2700 Supervision: Kosher-Miami

AT HAGI 5800 Stirling Road Hollywood, FL 33021 954-981-7710 Supervision: ORB

DECO SUBS 3919 Alton Road Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-672-7285 Supervision: Kosher-Miami

AVENTURA PITA 18129 Biscayne Blvd. Aventura, FL 33160 305-933-4040

ELIES CAFE 145 East Flagler Miami, FL 33131 786-594-0196 Supervision: Kosher-Miami

AVIGDOR’S MOZART CAFE 4433 Stirling Road, Hollywood, FL 33021 954-584-5171 Supervision: ORB B & H PIZZA 233 95th Street Surfside, FL 33154 786-245-5557 Supervision: Kosher Miami BAGEL TIME 3915 Alton Road Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-538-0300 Supervision: Circle K BOCA PITA EXPRESS Middle Eastern Israeli cuisine & grill 7185 N. Beracasa Way Boca Raton, FL 33433 561-750-0088 Supervision: ORB BON AMI CAFE 5650 Stirling Road Hollywood, FL 33021 (954) 962-2070 Supervision: ORB CAFE EMUNAH 3558 North Ocean Dr. Fort Lauderdale, FL 33308 954-561-6411 Supervision: ORB CAFE VERT 9490 Harding Ave. Surfside, FL 33154 305-867-3151 Supervision: OK

ELSIE’S CAFE Located in the North Miami Beach JCC 18900 NE 25th Avenue North Miami Beach, FL 33180 305-778-5946 Supervision: Kosher Miami EUROPEAN CORNER CAFE 7300 Camino Real Boca Raton, FL 33433 561-395-1109 Supervision: ORB FRESH CAFE 2214 NE 123 Street North Miami, FL 33181 305-891-8848 Supervision: Kosher Miami GIGI’S CAFE 3585 NE 207th Street Aventura, FL 33180 305-466-4648 Supervision: Kosher Miami GRILL TIME 16145 Biscayne Blvd. North Miami Beach, FL 33160 786-274-8935 | 305-491-3325 Supervision: ORB GRILL TIME RESTAURANT Fusion Steak House 8177 Glades Road Boca Raton, FL 33434 (561) 482-3699 | Fax: (561) 487-4044 Supervision: ORB

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L’CHAIM MEE CHINA ORIENTAL RESTAURANT 3940 North 46 Avenue Hollywood, FL 33021 954-986-1770 Supervision: ORB

PISTACHIO GOURMET GRILL 740 41 Street Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-538-1616 Supervision: Kosher Miami

SHALOM HAIFA RESTAURANT 18533 W. Dixie Hwy Aventura, FL 33180 305-945-2884 Supervision: ORB

LEVY’S KOSHER OF HOLLYWOOD 3357 Sheridan Street Hollywood, FL 33021 954-983-2825 Supervision: ORB

PITA GRILL CAFE 658 W. Hallandale Beach Blvd. Hallandale, FL 33009 954-455-2118 Supervision: ORB

SHEM TOV’S PIZZA 514 41st Street Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-538-2123 Supervision: Kosher Miami

LUL GRILL CAFE 18288 Collins Avenue Sunny Isles Beach, FL 33160 305-933-0199 Rabbinic Supervision: OK

PITA LOCA 601 Collins Avenue Miami Beach, FL 33139 305-673-3388 Supervision: Kosher Miami

SUBWAY 18900 NE 25th Ave North Miami Beach, FL 33180 305-663-9883 Supervision: Kosher-Miami

MAOZ VEGETARIAN Town Center Mall 6000 Glades Road #1175 Boca Raton, FL 33431 561-393-6269 | Fax: 561-393-6532 Rabbinical Supervision: National Orthodox Rabbinical Organization MILKY CAFÉ 4579 N Pine Island Road Sunrise Fl 33351 954-533-5325 Supervision - ORB NEWTIME Moroccan and Spanish cuisine 2120 N.E. 123rd Street North Miami Beach, FL 33181 305-891-6336 Supervision: Kosher Miami ORCHIDS GARDEN 9045 La Fontana Boulevard Boca Raton, FL 33434 561-482-3831 Supervision: ORB

PITA PLUS 2145 Stirling Road Hollywood, FL 33312 954-241-2011 PITA PLUS 1883w3 Biscayne Boulevard Aventura, FL 33180 305-935-0761 PITA PLUS 3801 N. University Dr. Sunrise, FL 33351 954-741-5844 PRIME SUSHI 726 Arthur Godfrey Road Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-534-0551 Supervision: Kosher-Miami Cholov Yisroel PRIME SUSHI 18250 Collins Avenue Sunny Isles Beach, FL 33160 786-284-8430 Supervision: Kosher-Miami RARE STEAKHOUSE 468 W 41st Street Miami Beach, FL 33140 305-532-7273 Supervision: Kosher-Miami RITZ RESTAURANT 1678 NE Miami Gardens Dr. North Miami Beach, FL 33179 305-354-9303 Supervision: Kosher-Miami SAGI’S MEDITERRANEAN GRILL 22767 US Highway 441 Boca Raton, FL 33428 561-477-0633 Supervision: ORB SARA’S 3944 N 46th Street Hollywood, FL 33021 954-986-1770 Supervision: ORB

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LIFESTYLE

OBESITY IN CHILDHOOD

Why Not to Take a “Weight and See” Approach BY: SAMUEL FREEDMAN, M.D., FAAP - Pediatric Endocrinologist

Q My child is overweight—what are the likely gland

Q What other conditions can cause obesity or weight

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A The only glands likely to be abnormal are the salivary glands! They are probably overworked! By far, the most common reason for obesity is called exogenous obesity or overeating.

A Certain syndromes which are extremely rare and have very specific signs and symptoms necessitating a specialist to diagnose. Other extremely rare causes are tumors of the pancreas, pituitary or the adrenal gland.

Q My child seems to be gaining weight disproportional to what (s)he eats. What could cause this?

A Some unusual and uncommon hormonal problems could cause obesity or weight gain. These include an excess of insulin or cortisone, or underactive thyroid gland.

Q What are the symptoms of hypothyroidism?

A One of the only initial signs may be poor growth.

There is usually a family history of hypothyroidism or goiter. At times, the thyroid gland is enlarged. Other symptoms include dry skin, coarse hair/scalp, hair loss, constipation, lethargy, feeling cold a lot, forgetfulness, mood swings or depression.

Make a List!

Purim is over, and “simcha season” is back in full swing. Excitement is in the air and you have lots to do to ensure that your special occasion is the best that it can be. Each of us approaches a big event in a different way. “A take charge person” (a/k/a Type A personality) will be eager to get started. In fact, this person might have planned the event two or three years before it actually takes place! A second type of planner deals with big events as they arrive. Not thinking about anything beforehand, she begins to plan her special event a few months before a bar mitzvah or when she knows an engagement is official. The third personality resists the idea that there is much to do to. She lacks the resources to plan and to get her engine moving.

Q How do I know if my child is gaining weight inappropriately for his/her diet?

A Pushing yourself away from the table! Seriously— overeating is much more likely to cause glandular problems rather than be the result of them.

Q I heard some children do well on the Atkin’s or South Beach diet—what do you think?

A The American Academy of Pediatrics does not support fad diets as treatment for obesity in children. Although some popular diets may be helpful for some children, each program should be individualized.

I personally have found the Weight Watchers diet to be the best one to use in adolescents, but better would be a well balanced diet honed to the individual child.

Diet programs and recommendations may change based on sex, age, height and weight of the child.

A Overweight is not healthy. It can cause gland problems, ie, Type II or adult diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, early heart disease and even early puberty.

Practicing in Pembroke Pines and Boca Raton, Dr. Freedman is a board certified Pediatric and Adolescent Endocinologist in practice in South Florida since 1994. A graduate of the University of South Florida College of Medicine in Tampa, Dr. Freedman did residency and fellowship training at Long Island Jewish Medical Center in New York City. He holds Board certification by the American Board of Pediatrics in both General Pediatrics and Pediatric Endocrinology. He is considered by his peers an expert in the field of growth, puberty and thyroid disorders in children.

Dr. Freedman is an Assistant Clinical Professor of Pediatrics at Nova Southeastern Colllege of Osteopathic Medicine and has been published in Time Magazine, The Sun Sentinel, South Florida Parenting Magazine and a number of medical journals.

Q What’s the best exercise for losing weight?

Dr. Freedman welcomes questions. He can be reached at Editor@sfjewishhome.com

A A certified dietician consultation and food-intake record can help ascertain appropriate caloric intake.

Q Who cares if my children are heavy as long as they are healthy?

Preparing for Your Big Day Procrastination might be masking the fact that this person is not able to coordinate the many tasks needed to be done in order to host a successful event. While outwardly calm, inside she cringes, wondering how she is ever going to complete the details and begins to feel overwhelmed.

The first step in planning an affair is to buy a composition notebook. Label it with the name of the event and start writing. Although you can use your computer, a notebook is easier to take with you when you go to vendors. Begin by creating a list of things to do. If you really don’t have a sense of what has to be done, go to the library and take out event planning books. You can find similar lists on the internet. Use key words such as, wedding plans, wedding planner¸ or words related to your occasion and search for the information you need. Once you know what goes on the list, place all of your information into categories: general tasks, things to do for the bar mitzvah, chosson, kallah, etc. Categorizing helps create a time management system.

Create priority levels to further enhance your

plan. First, set the date and choose the hall.

Knowing this information will guide your time schedule. Once the date and place are scheduled, you can shop for vendors with the best prices. If your work schedule does not permit you to do the things on your list consider hiring an event planner to assist you. The investment is worth the pleasure you will feel knowing that your ideas and plans will be properly executed. Remember, a simcha is a happy event and your ultimate goal is to enjoy yourself. With the right outlook, the day you begin planning is the day your simcha truly begins. With happiness in your heart, the entire planning experience can be filled with true joy and result in the proper hoda’ah (thanks) to Hashem for being blessed with the opportunity to participate in this milestone event.

Debbie Ginsberg and Frady Moskowitz, LMSW are partners in Uncluttered Domain Inc. They are professional organizers and senior relocation specialists, with a special focus on senior relocation management. They welcome comments and questions and can be reached at Info@UnclutteredDomain.com. Their website address is www.UnclutteredDomain.com.

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Purim has just passed and as you may recall (hopefully you were still following) the last chapter of Megillas Esther begins with the king levying a tax on the people. This time of year was tax season even back then. We also give a half shekel for the annual

By Gerald L. census. This goes all the way back Mayerhoff, CPA, PFS to when we built the Tabernacle.

Our sages tell us that we should begin preparing for Passover at least 30 days prior to its start. In actuality that translates to beginning preparations for Passover as soon as Purim is over. So with Purim ending, Passover on the way and tax season peaking I thought it would be appropriate to discuss freedom from paper filing with e-file.

For those who are afraid of the security issues by filing electronically do you really think that an envelope in the US Mail is any more secure? And you don’t have to wait on line at the post office to send it certified mail, return receipt requested, which is the IRS’s recommended mailing method. Not that the IRS is recommending mailing at all.

E-file for Individual Income Tax Returns (Form 1040) has been available since 1990. This year the IRS expects to surpass one billion returns e-filed since inception of the program. They are also requiring tax preparers who prepare a substantial number of returns to

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e-file and they must include a new form explaining why if they don’t. At a seminar I attended a few years ago, when the percentage of e-filers had just exceeded 50%, a representative from the IRS stated the following; when you file your return you want the service to process it the same as the majority of returns so you are just another return and not have it processed in a non-standard method where who knows what someone might find while looking at it to process it. In other words it is best to go with the flow.

E-file improves the accuracy of your return because paper returns need to have all of your information manually re-entered. An input error can lead to an IRS notice, which everyone wants to avoid. There are also certain items that are pre-verified when e-filing such as social security numbers, so some errors are detected before the return is even submitted.

Do you want a faster refund? With e-file and direct deposit you should receive your refund in approximately 10 days. Worried that the IRS will have your bank account information? My experience has been that the IRS will find the information on their own if and when they need to. If you owe money you can e-file now and have the payment debited from your bank account a few days before it is due, or mail a check before the due date.

If you need to file a state tax return that can be e-filed at the same time. In Florida we don’t have an individual income tax so for most of you reading this it won’t matter.

The IRS promotes that they will accept an e-filed return usually within a few days of it being electronically submitted. Most of the returns I have submitted this year have been accepted within a day, sometimes within a few hours. The acceptance is confirmation that you have filed.

Arrangements have been made by the IRS with various commercial software companies to offer tax programs available to e-file for free if your simple return has income below a threshold amount, which was $58,000 for 2010. They also have available to all filers online fillable forms, which are similar to paper forms, just filled in on line. You can also purchase commercial tax software. I have obtained numerous clients who have used commercial software in the past because they have been unsure of the completeness of their returns or have taken advantage of all the proper deductions they are entitled to. I recommend taking advantage of the experience and expertise of a professional Certified Public Accountant, such as myself, to prepare your tax return.

This article is intended to discuss current tax issues and should not be relied upon as personal tax advice.

You should consult your qualified tax advisor to discuss your personal tax situation.

Gerald L. Mayerhoff, CPA, PFS practices tax and accounting in Hollywood, FL focusing on taxation of individuals, trusts, estates and closely held businesses. He is a Certified Public Accountant in the states of Florida and New York, holds the Personal Financial Specialist (PFS) designation from the AICPA and a Master’s of Science in Taxation from Pace University. He can be reached at glmcpa@bellsouth.net or (954) 829-8611.

Co-Dependency: When Love Goes Awry

e know they are doing drugs together,” Mrs. Weiss sighed. “We just don’t know whether to tell his parents. Mr. and Mrs. Schwartz* are our neighbors and friends.”

Watching a child start spiraling downward in destructive behavior is one of the worst things a parent can endure. The pain of seeing the boy or girl who once clutched a mother’s skirt and ran into a father’s arms now involved in a degenerate lifestyle is unimaginable. “Where did we go wrong?” is on the minds of mothers and fathers who are wracked with guilt, shame, and even embarrassment.

Is it any wonder that some parents cling so tightly to the only possible relationship that their child will allow that those parents lose their own bearings, becoming fused with the child? In order to survive emotionally, they inadvertently become passive participants in the relationship?

Co-dependency occurs when naturally healthy relationships are subverted, and one person behaves in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that totally dismisses him/her own needs. The co-dependent person may be excessively compliant, or be controlled by the other person in the relationship.

The hallmark of co-dependency is that one’s emotions are based on the other person, not on himself. A co-dependent parent (or sibling) may feel, “I’m having a good day because Chaim or Sarah is having a good day.” In the back of their minds, these parents may wonder whether they have any rights in this relationship, or whether the “love” is at the mercy of Chaim or Sarah and their addictive behavior.

Co-dependent parents may lose their sense of perspective as parents, and act as a child’s friend in a misguided attempt to retain the relationship. They seek to

connect, but their means is misguided at best, destructive at worst.

Bookshelves of psychological studies and common sense dictate that children do best when parents act as parents. Teens need limits, and they look to their parents to set it for them. Parents need to be parents, not friends.

But for co-dependent parents, setting limits – and risking the wrath of children who are in the midst of rebellion – is emotionally and psychologically threatening.

Breaking the cycle of co-dependency is extremely difficult. At Madraigos, we believe in a multi-faceted approach. Our support group for parents helps to guide those who are caught in the co-dependent cycle. The goal of the group is to provide the peer and professional support that enables parents to face their fears and break the cycle of dependency.

As part of the set of social skills we all learn, children quickly figure out that they can manipulate their parents.

Most of this is innocuous: a winsome smile that persuades us to give in to a later bedtime for a ten-year-old, for example. Teens who are involved with addictions and other deviant lifestyles develop very sophisticated techniques for manipulating their parents. Madraigos’ support group enables parents caught in the cycle of co-dependency to see the behavior for what it is, and to break free. As they become healthier, they can once again become parents in the best sense of the word.

The support group, facilitated by a trained specialist, reinforces what we as Jews already know and accept: that there are things in our lives that are beyond our control, and that we need to focus on the aspects of our lives that we can control. In simplistic terms, the group helps parents to understand and accept that changing their children’s behavior may be beyond their ability; they can only

by: Rabbi Dov Silver Madraigos

change their own. The sessions offer a time and space where parents can concentrate on themselves and their own behavior, rather than on their children.

Parent support groups are part of the holistic approach to helping teens caught in the world of addiction. Our programs for affected teens, their parents, and siblings provide a multi-level foundation based on Torah values and teachings, offering a pathway to health for children and parents.

The Vilna Gaon explains, “Rabos machashavos b’lev ish v’atzas H-Shem he sakum.” Many designs are in a man’s heart, but the counsel of H-Shem, only it will prevail (Mishlei 19:21). Since the evil inclination resides within each of us, we cannot depend on our hearts alone. We need to accept H-Shem’s dominion in our lives, to seek counsel by learning Torah, performing mitzvos, and seeking the counsel of our rabbis.

The Vilna Gaon counsels us to accept that everything is in the hands of H-Shem. The Malbim adds that while man acts with free will, ultimately, success is dependent upon H-Shem’s will. We all want to see our children grow to become G-d fearing Jews with outstanding character traits. The Malbim teaches us that action is not enough; we must also pray.

May H-Shem grant us that success with all our children.

Rabbi Dov Silver is the Founder and Executive Vice President of Madraigos. Madraigos is a 501c3 not-for-profit organization that provides a wide array of innovative programs and services for hundreds of teens and young adults who engage in at-risk behaviors. Madraigos has offices in New York and Chicago, and is a resource for communities across the country. For more information, visit www.madraigos.org

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local United Way office realized that the organization had never received a donation from one of the most prestigious yet “tightwalleted” community members. The person in charge of contributions called him to persuade him to contribute.

“Our research shows that out of a yearly income of at least $400,000 you give not a penny to charity. Wouldn’t you like to give back to the community in some way?”

The man mulled this over for a moment and

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replied, “First, did your research also show that my mother is very old and has medical bills that are several times her annual income?”

Embarrassed, the United Way rep mumbled, “Um ... no.”

The man interrupts, “Or that my brother, a disabled veteran and relies on my support?”

The stricken United Way rep began to stammer out an apology, but was interrupted again.

“Or that my sister who has 5 kids just lost her job,” the man’s voice rising in indignation, “leaving her unable to put food on her table?!”

The humiliated United Way rep, completely beaten, said simply, “I had no idea...”

On a roll, the man cuts him off once again, “So if I don’t give any money to them, why should I give any to you?”

(Submitted by: Shira Lowe)

Joseph walked Chuck, a potential new employee, through his company. He briefly went over the safety precautions of a few machines, their uses, and regular day-to-day activity. Joseph was very impressed with Chuck’s qualifications and knowledge on the workings of his business. Chuck was applying for a position in shipping. Joseph took him by the wall with a single dollar hung up.

He proudly explained that it was the first dollar he ever made almost 20 years ago, when the business first started. Finally Joseph brought the man outside and showed him his parking spot. Chuck then says, “FBI - You are under arrest.”

What happened?

April EVERYTHING DOWN 1. Ship sinks after hitting an iceberg.

3. Third mission to the moon.

4. “one if by land, two if by sea,” was this man’s refrain.

6. “April _______ bring May flowers.”

7. Place President Lincoln was shot. (2 words) 10. This British Prime Minister made an honorary U.S. citizen.

12. 3rd U.S. president, born on April 13, 1743.

14. “National ____________month.”

17. This computer company is launched and shares a name with a fruit

ACROSS 2. “One, two, three strikes you’re out.”

5. The player who broke Babe Ruth’s homerun record.

8. Confederate general ends the Civil War by officially surrendering on April 9, 1865.

9. Place that George Washington takes oath of office as first president of the U.S. 11. This state enters the Union on April 28, 1788.

13. Don’t forget to pay it on the 15th (unless you want a personal visit from The Tax Man).

15. #42 joins the Brooklyn Dodgers in 1947 and breaks the color barrier.

16. Born in April, his classics include Hamlet and The Merchant of Venice.

18. Fooled ya’.

1. What is NCAA an acronym for? a. National College Adventure Association b. National Collegiate Athletic Association c. National College Athletes Association d. Never Could Answer Anything (correctly)

Submitted by: Dovid Saxon

Using the grid below, how many words can you find? Each word must contain the central V and no letter can be used twice, however, the letters do not have to be connected. Proper nouns are not allowed, however, plurals are. There is at least one nine letter word.

2. Some teams who don’t make the NCAA Tournament are invited to this tournament, mercilessly known as the “Loser Tournament”. What is the real name of that tournament? a. The Rider Cup b. National Invitational Tournament c. The Big Dance d. Westink Tournament

4. Which one of the following “ Fab Five” never played in the NBA? a. Jalen Rose b. Chris Webber c. Ray Jackson d. Juwan Howard

Genius: 28 words. Excellent: 20 words.

Good: 16 words. Average: 12 words.

Answer: above, adverb, ave, aver, brave, braved, braver, bravo, bravoed, deva, dove, drove, drover, ova, over, OVERBOARD, OVERBROAD, overdo, rave, raved, raver, rev, rove, roved, rover, var, verb, voe.

3. Which team won the 2010 NCAA Tournament? a. Butler b. Kentucky c. Duke d. Michigan State

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How many words do you see?

5. How many teams are in the NCAA Tournament? a. 54 b. 64 c. 68 d. 72 6. Which college won the most NCAA Championships? a. UCLA b. Kentucky c. Duke d. Michigan State

ANSWERS 1. B - You probably guessed D, but that’s just sooooo you.

2. B 3. C 4. C - The Fab Five, consisting of Jimmy King, Jalen Rose, Chris Webber, Ray Jackson, Juwan Howard went to the NCAA championship game as University of Michigan freshmen in 1992 and again as sophomores in 1993. However they lost the championship game in both years. All of them except for Ray Jackson played in the NBA. 5. C - This year the first round of the tournament had 68 teams. When the Tournament started in 1939 only 8 teams were invited.

6. A - At 11 national titles, UCLA holds the record for the most NCAA Men's Division I Basketball Championships; John Wooden coached UCLA to 10 of its 11 titles.

The University of Kentucky is second, with 7 national titles.

Scoreboard 5-6 correct: You are a March Madness Genius.

3-4 correct: You would make it to the NIT Tournament.

1-3 correct: You would make it to the Westink Tournament (maybe).

TO SUBMIT A RIDDLE, JOKE OR TRIVIA PLEASE EMAIL EDITOR @SFJEWISHHOME.COM

Answer to Riddle: Joseph was a counterfeiter, and Chuck was an undercover police officer. Joseph’s business was to create counterfeit bills. Chuck finally had the evidence to arrest Joseph when he showed him “the first dollar he ever MADE”.

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Parenting 1.KNOW THE GRADE LEVEL EXPECTATIONS. - It is virtually impossible to have a grasp on your child’s progress if you are not very clear about what your child should be able to do! Academic expectations include the body of knowledge to be mastered and a set of specific skills and their application. Non-academic expectations include the age-appropriate organization, independence and behavioral performance desired at a given grade level. There is a range of acceptable performance, so it is critical to know the difference between a weakness and an area of concern or failure. As parents, with our nachas-seeking-rose-colored glasses, we may fail to notice problems when a child is clearly successful in some of these areas, despite real deficits in other areas. So how do you learn the expectations and if your child is meeting them all? Parent Orientation night is a starting point, a copy of the school’s curriculum, if available, is great, and a periodic call to the teacher is a must.

2. CHECK YOUR CHILD’S HOMEWORK. - All too often parents sign homework without knowing that it was done correctly, or even done at all. Ask your children to show you the work before you sign off on it. You can scan it quickly if this is an area in which your child excels, but read it carefully if it is not. Noting the errors or weaknesses in your child’s homework is one of the best ways to keep a finger on the pulse of his or her progress. If you need to, sit with your child to correct or upgrade the work; you will learn a lot about his or her academic level as you pay attention to how easily it goes.

3. READ THROUGH TESTS. - It is equally important to read through a test before you sign it. You may be surprised by an impressive or articulate answer and come to recognize a strength or insight you did not even know your child possessed! You may also be able to identify where your child is going wrong – and this is especially so if you studied with or tested your child the night before.

4. TEST YOUR CHILD. - Some children study and do their work independently. This is certainly the ideal and if it’s working, don’t touch it! Many children, on the other hand, do need guidance in studying for tests. Testing your child by asking the review questions or making up your own will both help your child enter the test more prepared and give you the insight you need to know how well your child is doing. A rule of thumb to keep in mind: tests assess what the teacher has taught, reviewed and practiced. If you find yourself

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7. SPEAK OPENLY WITH YOUR CHILD. - Ask your child about school.

Children are often shockingly intuitive about what they can and cannot do and why. So often we are so busy analyzing the children that we forget to include them. Imagine a doctor diagnosing without talking to the patient!

8. KEEP IN TOUCH WITH THE TEACHER. - Part of a teacher’s job is to work in partnership with parents. You are not a nudge if you call with questions or FOR KEEPING ON TOP OF YOUR concerns about your child’s performance (unless you are blaming her!). In fact, CHILD’S PROGRESS AT SCHOOL teachers appreciate and prefer that you do call. Good teachers want your child to succeed, want your insight and want your partnership. If you are noticing a pattern in your child’s performance or have questions, call the teacher.

re-teaching the material, you have identified a problem.

5. READ ASSIGNMENTS FOR YOURSELF. - When children come home with projects, especially the more complex ones, they often hyperfocus on the parts they enjoy (like the dioramas, posters, etc.) and neglect the more picayune details (like reading the book!). Some children have trouble comprehending or just organizing multi-step assignments. Ask your child for the instruction sheet and read the assignment yourself to stay aware of how they are really doing.

6. LOOK OVER YOUR CHILD’S SHOULDER. - In an unobtrusive way, keep an eye on how your child studies and does homework.

Take note of how fast, how organized, how neat, and how confidently he or she works.

How committed is your child to doing the homework - especially in problem areas? You will glean real insights into your child’s progress that can be used in identifying a problem and in finding a solution.

9. REQUEST TEAM MEETINGS. - If your child is struggling in any way, ask for a meeting with everyone involved in your child’s education. Getting the Hebrew and English teacher together, along with the resource room teacher, guidance counselor or whoever else is involved, is the only way to get a full picture of your child’s progress. And more important – it is the only way that they can get the full picture, which is absolutely critical to their ability to be truly effective in helping your child.

10. SET GOALS AND MONITOR IF THEY WERE MET. - Whether it is at a team meeting, in a conversation with a teacher, or just between you and your child, the next step after being aware of your child’s performance is setting realistic and concrete goals for your child to move a notch ahead. When the goals are met, celebrate! Then set the next one. If they are not met, it’s OK. You now have the information you need to know what help your child needs to maximize his or her potential.

Mrs. Estee Hebel, MsED, is the General Studies Principal of Shalom Torah Academy, a preschool through eighth grade day school, in Morganville, NJ. Mrs. Hebel has over 15 years of experience in education and educational leadership. She is also a dynamic teacher trainer who has taught a graduate course in educational research. She presents innovative hands-on training workshops on a wide assortment of teaching methods, classroom management, motivational techniques and strategies for encouraging self-directed and higher-level learning. To learn more about her workshops or to schedule one, you can contact her at 732-536-0911x12 or esteehebel@yahoo.com.

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