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I’m not perfect, but I do know a thing or two about the world, about people, about life. I’ve made mistakes along the way, quite a few of them to be exact. But it was in making those mistakes I learned some of the greatest lessons there are to learn. In my recent world, I have been called arrogant. I took that to heart in one of the deepest most hurtful ways possible. It was only when I took a big step back that I realized that what some perceived as arrogance was really just my confidence in who I am, what I do and what I have learned. I’m good at what I do. I’ve made sure of that through a lot of hard work, a little blood and a cargo ship’s worth of tears. I’m good at my job, one of the best you will find in this business today. And I am good at my job because I know when to listen to others and when to listen to myself. I know what to let soak in and what to let roll off my back. I know that what worked last year might not work today and what worked today might not work next year. I don’t allow myself the luxury of being complacent and know I need to constantly evolve with the world around me. If I don’t, it will leave me gasping in the dust. I’m good at love. I have taken the time to sit back and listen when I need to and speak up when I should. I let me heart have forgiveness for the little things and for the big ones when it’s warranted. I know that it’s always best to try to see both sides of every issue and even when I don’t agree, to respect enough to be willing to compromise on the issue, without compromising myself. I recognize that being loved doesn’t always mean having to come first and that sometimes, there are other things that genuinely should be a priority. I am patient. I don’t expect to have everything I want to happen immediately. I understand that growth and change take time and am willing to wait if I see the genuine desire and effort being put forth. I’m good at being a parent. I know when to say no and when to say the choice is not mine to make. I make myself available for advice, for a sounding board or just someone to hangout with. I know when to place boundaries and when to raise the bar, but I understand that sometimes lines get crossed and obstacles aren’t overcome. I can both recognize manipulation and use it with skill when it’s necessary. And no matter what, I know how to instill the difference between what is right and what is wrong, what you fight and what you accept and that as long as you believe in yourself, anything you set out to do can be accomplished. There is this fine line between confidence and arrogance, it seems. Sometimes it’s because people just don’t really know you and sometimes it’s their own lack of confidence in themselves that sees yours as something negative or scary. Those who take the time to know me, realize that I never make a decision or take a stand without first seeing it from all sides, working it through with both logic and heart. And when I do that, I am able to be confident in that decision or stand I have taken. But like I said, I’m not perfect. I may be damn good at doing my job, but that doesn’t always mean I do it when I should. There are times when I make the conscious choice to not do something how and when others think I should and times when I don’t do it when I think I should. I still fall prey to the idea that the only thing that matters is that I get it done on time, not when I actually start working on it. I may be good at love, but that doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes do or say something I wish I hadn’t. And it doesn’t mean I always do a good job of making sure I am loved the same way I love. I may be a good parent, but it doesn’t always mean my kid thinks so. And it doesn’t mean that I have all the answers. I still don’t really know why the sky is blue or if the chicken or the egg came first or why a tornado will take out one house and leave another completely unscathed. And there are days that I don’t know why God makes the choices he makes, and can only have faith that there is a good reason for it all. So no, I’m not perfect. But I do know a thing or two. And if being confident in knowing what I know, about the world, about people, about my life and most importantly about myself makes me arrogant, then please, make sure you spell it with a capital “A.” See you next month. Tina Sordellini Managing Executive Editor
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october 2012 / VOLUME 14 / ISSUE 9
IN THIS ISSUE
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20 features 16 AG
Her renditions of The Beatles songs.
18 HEALTH
ARROW, Inc. LGBT Women’s Health Resources Directory is now available online.
20 NELLY FURTADO
Exclusive interview: “I kind of wave my own little flag.”
24 REP. DEBBIE WASSERMAN
Election Day, Breast Cancer & LGBT Community
35 HALLOWEEN IDEAS
departments 06 10 14 15
DIRECTOR’S CHAIR MULTIMEDIA IN THE NEWS WHAT TO DO, WHERE TO GO
Calendar of Events
18 DID YOU FACEBOOK ABOUT... 22 SHE GIRL 28 JUST 4 FUN Breast Cancer Awareness / Electronics
34 ON THE SHELVES 34 ARCHIVES
Women’s White Party, November 2008
38 SCOPES
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31 SOY MUJER
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MULTIMEDIA
with tina sordellini
Multi-platinum selling Grammy Award-winning R&B/pop singer/songwriter and actress Brandy will release her highly anticipated album Two Eleven on October 16 in both standard and deluxe editions. The album’s first official single “Put it Down” featuring Chris Brown is Top 10 at urban radio and already receiving much critical praise. Two Eleven album collaborators include Timbaland, Harmony and hit making songwriters Sean Garrett, Rico Love, Frank Ocean and Chris Brown.
Kathy Griffin has been breaking records with her series of comedy specials. Now you can experience Griffin’s knockout performances together, uncensored and complete with unaired bonus footage, with the 2-Disc set The Kathy Griffin Collection: Red, White & Raw. Available October 30th, The set includes the comedy specials “Pants Off” and “Tired Hooker” as well as five shows never before available on DVD: “Gurrl Down,” “50 & Not Pregnant,” Whores on Crutches,” “Kathy Griffin Does the Bible Belt” and “Balls of Steel.
Check out The Guest House on DVD, starring Ruth Reynolds and Madeline Merritt. Blue-eyed blond bad girl Rachel is mature for her eighteen years. An aspiring songwriter, she’s given up on her music after the recent death of her mother and her neglectful father isn’t around very much. The arrival of Dad’s new employee Amy, staying in their swanky Los Angeles guest house for the weekend, brings Rachel the inspiration she needs. Hot, hot and oh yeah, hot!
Diana Krall’s extraordinary new album, Glad Rag Doll is an exhilarating and adventurous exploration of new sounds, new instrumentation and new musicians. It stars a singer and piano player, filled with mischief, humor and a renewed sense of tenderness and intimacy. The record reveals itself at that remarkable vanishing point in time where all music; swinging, rocking and taboo, collide with songs of longing, solace and regret. All are made new again in a vaudeville of Krall’s own imagining.
Chely Wright: Wish Me Away is the story of Chely Wright, the first Nashville music star to come out as gay. Over three years, the filmmakers were given extraordinary access to Chely’s struggle and her unfolding plan to come out publicly. Using interviews with Chely, her family, her pastor, and key players in the music world, alongside Chely’s intimate private video diaries, the film goes deep into her back story as an established star and then forward as she steps into the national spotlight to reveal her secret. On DVD Oct. 16.
Juggling families, careers, and jam-packed social calendars, the Real Housewives of Atlanta live their triumphs and frustrations out loud. This new season follows fabulous NeNe Leakes in her new Hollywood career and introduces us to two new cast members. These driven and ambitious women prove that they’re not just “housewives,” but entrepreneurs, doting mothers, and feisty southern women. Season 5 of RHOA premieres Sunday, Nov. 4 at 9pm on Bravo.
not to be missed: In The LIFE will air its final episode in December of this year. Take a visit to itlmedia.org and check out all of this year’s episodes including “Married But Not Equal” and “Words Do Matter.” Check local listings for the final episode of this amazing LGBT series.
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she magazine presented the 15th annual beach blanket babe & butch during womenfest 2012 at our new home, bourbon st. pub in key west, fl. see you next year! photos by tina sordellini / more photos at www.shemag.com
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in the news FLORIDA’s Broward County Becomes First Major School Board to Support LGBT History Month
1st Study of Openly Gay Military Service Finds “Non-Event” at One-Year Mark
The School Board of Broward County, Florida unanimously passed a resolution at the end of September declaring its support of LGBT History Month, October 2012. In doing do, the school district becomes the first in the nation to issue an official resolution supporting LGBT History Month. The Broward County School District is the sixth largest school district in the nation. The resolution states: Lesbian Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) Americans have made, and continue to make, great and lasting contributions that continue to strengthen the fabric of American society…Encompassing a number of historically important days, this October is set to remind both the LGBT and wider communities of important roles LGBT people have taken in creating the social, legal and political worlds we live in today. The School Board of Broward County, Florida appreciates and recognizes the importance of LGBT History Month as an effective means of educating and calling to action the citizens of Broward County to work together to promote equal protection of all Broward County students and staff, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.
The first academic study of the effects of repealing “don’t ask, don’t tell” (DADT) has found that the new policy of open service has had no overall negative impact on military readiness, unit cohesion, recruitment, retention or morale. Co-authors of the study, “One Year Out: An Assessment of DADT Repeal’s Impact on Military Readiness,” whose publication coincided with the anniversary of DADT repeal on Sept 20th, include professors at the U.S. Military Academy, U.S. Naval Academy, U.S. Air Force Academy, and U.S. Marine Corps War College. Among the study’s findings are: — The repeal of DADT has had no overall negative impact on military readiness or its component dimensions. —Even in those units that included openly LGB service members, and that consequently should have been the most likely to experience a drop in cohesion as a result of repeal, cohesion did not decline after the new policy of open service was put into place. In fact, greater openness and honesty resulting from repeal seem to have promoted increased understanding, respect and acceptance. —Recruitment was unaffected by the repeal of DADT. In an era when enlistment standards are tightening, service-wide recruitment has remained robust. —Retention was unaffected by the repeal of DADT. There was no mass exodus of military members as a result of repeal, and there were only two verifiable resignations linked to the policy change, both military chaplains. Service members were as likely to say that they plan to re-enlist after DADT repeal as was the case pre-repeal. —DADT repeal has not been responsible for any new wave of violence or physical abuse among service members. The policy change appears to have enabled some LGB service members to resolve disputes around harassment and bias in ways that were not possible prior to repeal. To read full study, visit palmcenter.org.
“The Broward School Board is to be commended. They have broken the cocoon of invisibility, affirmed the important role of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Americans and taken a pioneering step in embracing diversity, inclusion and respect,” stated Malcolm Lazin, Executive Director, Equality Forum, and founder of LGBT History Month. In 2010, the federal government recognized LGBT History Month when Secretary Arne Duncan led a U.S. Department of Education ceremony. In 2011, Congresswoman Nancy Pelosi issued a proclamation for LGBT History Month. Each day in October, an Icon is featured with a video, biography, bibliography, downloadable images and other educational resources. To view this year’s list of 31 icons visit www.LGBTHistoryMonth.com.
OCTOBER IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH • Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family. • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women – more than car crashes, muggings and rapes combined. •Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually. Domestic Violence Awareness Month evolved from the first Day of Unity observed in October, 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The intent was to connect battered women’s advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. The Day of Unity soon became a special week when a range of activities were conducted at the local, state, and national levels. If you, or anyone you know, is a victim of domestic violence, speak out and look for help. You can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.7233 or www.thehotline.org. SHE - 14 - 10/12
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The female side of lgbt history month “The 217 Icons, including the 31 Icons for 2012, demonstrate the impressive and diverse international impact of the LGBT community,” stated Malcolm Lazin, founder of LGBT History Month and Executive Director of Equality Forum. Each day in October, an Icon is featured with a video, biography, bibliography, downloadable images and other educational resources. Icons are nominated by organizations and the public and are selected by the LGBT History Month Co-chairs and approved by the
Equality Forum Board of Directors. LGBT History Month enhances self-esteem, provides role models and makes a civil rights statement of the LGBT community’s impressive national and international contributions. Icons are selected for their accomplishments in their field of endeavor, their status as a national hero or their significant contributions to LGBT equality. Here are some of the women we celebrate this year. To see full list of icons, visit www.lgbthistorymonth.com
ROBERTA ACHTENBERG/Government— Despite Senator Jesse Helms’s vocal refusal to vote for “that damned lesbian,” Achtenberg became the first out presidential appointee confirmed by the Senate. “The ability to be in public life has been enormously positive to our movement.” GLORIA ANZALDUA/Author (1942-2004)— Anzaldua helped build a multicultural feminist movement and called for people of different races to move forward together. “Nothing happens in the ‘real’ world unless it first happens in the images in our heads.” MARLENE DIETRICH/Actor (1901-1992)—Her breakout role was as sultry cabaret singer Lola Lola in the German film “The Blue Angel.” “Glamour is what I sell, it’s my stock in trade.” KATE CLINTON/Comedian—Clinton has appeared in television series and films, and was one of four lesbian comedians featured in the documentary “Laughing Matters.” “Coming out as a lesbian onstage is still a very political act; if it weren’t, more women would do it.” KATHARINE LEE BATES/Songwriter (1859-1929)—She is best known for writing “America the Beautiful.” “That the hymn has gained a hold is clearly due to the fact that Americans are at heart idealists.” MARY BONAUTO/Lawyer—Mary Bonauto was lead counsel in legalizing same-sex marriage in Massachusetts and in overturning key provisions of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). “It’s not about me, it’s about the people in the lawsuits, the plaintiffs and their stories.” CHRISTINE JORGENSEN/Transgender Pioneer (1926-1989)— Jorgensen became one of the first to combine hormone therapy with gender reassignment surgery. “Nature made a mistake, which I have had corrected.” IRSHAD MANJI/Muslim Reformist—In 2004, Oprah Winfrey awarded Manji the first Chutzpah Award for her “audacity, nerve, boldness and conviction.” “My journey is about speaking out against injustice, no matter who is offended.”
TO DO WHERE TO GO WHAT
dine out lauderdale Oct. 1 - Nov 8 • Various restaurants sunny.org/restaurants Fort Lauderdale Gay & Lesbian Film Festival Oct. 4 - 7 • Various locations • flglff.com Tampa Int’l Gay & Lesbian Film Festival Oct. 5 - 13 • tiglff.com Celebrate Orgullo Oct. 6 • Noon - 6PM 11th - 12th St. on Ocean Dr • Miami Beach celebrateorgullo.com COME OUT WITH PRIDE Oct. 6 • Noon - 6PM Lake Eola in downtown Orlando comeoutwithpride.com MIAMI RECOGNITION DINNER Oct. 6 • 6:30PM Fontainebleau Miami Beach Hotel thetaskforce.org/miami LAST DAY TO REGISTER TO VOTE Oct. 9 / Check your area or rockthevote.org Florida’s General Election Early Voting Period: October 27 - November 3 ft. lauderdale int’l film festival Oct. 19 - Nov. 11 Cinema Paradiso/ 503 S.E. 6th Street fliff.com fantasy fest Oct. 19 - 28 / Various locations in Key West, FL. Check out schedule at fantasyfest.com SUSAN G. KOMEN miami/fort lauderdale 5k RACE FOR THE CURE Oct. 20 • 7:30AM Bayfront Park, Downtown Miami Register at komenmiaftl.org halloween pub crawl Oct. 26 • 7PM Gaspar’s Grotto 1805 E. 7th Ave., Tampa, FL 33605 guavaween, the many shades of ybor Oct. 27 - 28 • 7PM 7th Avenue, Centro Ybor in Tampa, FL wicked wilton on the drive Oct. 31 / Wilton Manors, FL more info at rainbowbusinesscoalition.com
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BY maria espinal
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Know in the music scene as simply as AG (Adrianne Gonzalez) and originally from Miami (class of ’95, Miami Sunset High School) of Cuban-Dominican decent, 35, she is not the new kid on the block in the music scene. AG has 8 albums under her belt and her music has been featured on Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice and Ghost Whisperer among others. Currently living in Los Angeles with her girlfriend, AG is also a painter and has been doing it for a very long time. This October 9th, AG will be releasing an EP covering 6 songs from The Beatles coinciding with John Lennon’s birthday and The Beatles 50th anniversary. AG’s rendition of these songs are very unique, she made them her own but managed to keep the essence. As an out lesbian who is passionate about the rights of the gay and transgender communities, she is once again laying everything on the line with gender-bending versions of songs such as first single “I Wanna Be Your Man.” We recently spoke to AG as she tours on her music, her art, her coming and more. You are originally from Miami. Was making the move to LA a must for you as a performer and how do you keep your Miami connection alive?
Well, unfortunately, when I was growing up, there was no market for the kind of music I loved. As it was I had to go searching for it. So when it came to deciding where to go to school to get exposed to more music like that (Indigo Girls, Melissa Etheridge, BB King, Jonatha Brooke, etc), I knew I had to get out of Miami. I’ve definitely kept my Miami connection alive though. Garcia, a very well known rapper in Miami just so happens to be my cousin! So we’ve written some songs together, and they’ve had some success in the Miami music scene. I thought...”it must have been hard choosing only 6 Beatles songs” to include in your EP releasing in just a few days. Then I read that part in your bio as to why that happened (publishing company). Would you please explain to our readers why that is and was it frustrating for you to know those were the only 6 songs you had the rights to do?
These were the first 6 Beatles songs ever written! I love that. I love that story. They signed a crappy publishing deal in ‘62, whereby the publishing company would own these songs in perpetuity. So now, these are the only songs that aren’t owned by a huge conglomerate and I think that’s the coolest thing ever. I love your rendition of “She Loves You,” I can listen to it over and over, it is very peaceful. I also love “I Saw Her Standing There.” Which one is your favorite song?
My favorite is “I Wanna Be Your Man.” It’s sexy, emotional and dark. I’m super proud I was able to turn a Beatles’ song into that! SHE - 16 - 10/12
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What is important to me is that I don’t have to hide any part of myself. Being gay is only a portion of who I am, but it is still important.”
Of course, I had to listen to your songs and the originals at the same time. I think it’s great that you are also introducing a new generation of young fans to The Beatles. Was that the idea too?
Absolutely! The Beatles are timeless. And whatever I can do to preserve that timelessness, sign me up. How involved were you in the production as a whole?
Very much so. But Jim Roach really took these songs to 100%. And I trusted him, handed him the baton so to speak, and it was an incredible experience. Even though this is not your first album, it might be your first introduction to a lot of people. Was being an openly gay artist always the plan for you?
Well, it’s not like that was at the forefront of my mind. What is important to me is that I don’t have to hide any part of myself. Being gay is only a portion of who I am, but it is still important. And though I don’t want that to inform the way people listen to my music, I feel strongly enough that being gay isn’t a big deal, that I have no problem talking about it. Since we are celebrating National Coming Out Day, two days after your
EP comes out… fill in the blank for us: My coming out was...
A struggle. But then again, anything that’s worth anything is always a struggle at some point. I’m grateful that I was forced to look deeper inside myself, because I know myself so well, and what I’m capable of. And that is a gift. This month is also National Bullying Prevention Month. As an openly gay artist, what would you say to those kids being bullied because of their sexual orientation and to the bullies themselves?
Be who you are. And don’t be jealous of others if it’s harder for you to be who you are. Just figure it out. And (to the bullies)…stop being an *sshole. There must be a lot of “kings” loving you for your video, “I Wanna Be Your Man.” How did the concept come about?
Most of my video concepts come from literally thin air. I love one shot videos, and I wanted to undergo some kind of transformation, and figure out how to do it in 2:09 minutes. It was really difficult, and involved a lot of takes, but we nailed it. Thank God. I understand you are also a painter and visual artist. Wich one came first and was one an extension of the other?
Music definitely came first. But then when I started painting more seriously, I realized that I was able to take a lot of the sensibilities I’d learned in songwriting and apply them to painting. That was a great day. It was cake for me after that. You are currently touring. Where would it take you and is South Florida one of your stops?
Right now, I’m on an east coast tour! Unfortunately, the farthest south we’ll be going is Atlanta. But I will definitely be playing in Miami at some point, and you’ll be the first to know (laughs). musicbyag.com & agonzalezart.com SHE - 17 - 10/12
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ARROW Inc. Provides South Florida’s 1st LBT Women’s Health Resources’ Directory [arrowlbt.org] ARROW Inc. (Area Resource and Referral Organization for Women) is Florida’s only nonprofit organization exclusively focused on advocacy for access to quality health care for lesbian, bisexual and transgender females. The organization is proud to announce its online directory of health-related information and referral resources for LBT women. The Health Resources’ Directory primary purpose is to empower women through access to information, resources and referrals that can enhance their health and wellbeing. There are close to 200 providers within the directory. A search can be done by selecting any number of search terms such as specialty, city, county, etc. Health Screening—Two of the most important actions a woman can take for her health promotion are to engage in regular screening for breast and gynecological cancers. Research has shown that lesbian women have greater risk factors for those cancers. One of the primary reasons, is not getting regular PAP tests or clinical breast exams and mammograms, when age-appropriate. This section describes what is involved in those two types of screening and indicates, by age, when the screenings should be done. There is also a video that demonstrates how to do breast self-examination Breast Health—Sites within SouthFlorida that provide breast health education and screening can be accessed within this section. It is projected that 1 out of every 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime. Statistically that means that approximately 7500 LBT women in South Florida will receive that diagnosis. This section provides information onscreening, treatment programs, financialassistance, support groups as well as genetic testing. In addition this section lists regional and national programs that address breast cancer for patients, survivors as well as family and friends. Health Resources—General Health Resources. Information is provided on sites within the SE Florida region that offer low cost or no cost primary care and prevention screenings. Referral resources are included covering Miami-Dade, Broward and Marathon counties. Lesbian Health Research Resources.National websites and resources that address LBT women’s health care are found within this section. LGBT Health Resources—Descriptions of organizationsthroughout the country that address the health care interests and needs of LBT women are provided. Traveling to the various websites of other LBT health organizations can provide useful and interesting information. Education—On-site Training. ARROW has offered a cultural competence training program entitled Removing the Barriers (RTB) to over 200 regional health care providers, from multiple disciplines, within the SE Florida region. RTB was developed by the Mautner Project of Washington DC, through funding from the Center for Disease Control. An outcome of participating within this training is acquiring knowledge related to the particular health care risks LBT women face as well as skills in ways to reduce barriers to quality care. An on-site RTB training can be tailor-made to an organization’s needs and time constraints. This training can be offered to an organization at no-cost.
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She Mag & She Magazine: Which issues are you most concerned about in your choice for the next President? Ronni O— I’m concerned someone/anyone might vote for Romney! Kim E—The economy (jobs, out of control spending, bloated Defense Industry AND Social Programs). Bea F—I’m scared for all the GLBT that have “liked” Romney’s page and will vote for him! Angela T—Marriage equality. We want our son to have equality too, these laws not only hurt his mommies, they hurt him too. Debbie E—I am voting for Obama because I am pro choice. I believe ObamaCare will provide health benefits to hundres of thousands. I do not believe Medicare should be on a voucher system for senior citizens. I support gay rights however I think that’s not a national priority over getting people back to work, food on the table, or bringing our military home safe and fast. I do not hate Romney, as some do, I just believe he is not on the side of most, but a few. Mike I—A vote for Romney is a vote for outsourcing jobs, among other things. He will do nothing for the economy expect put it in worse shape than it is now. Our government cannot be run like a business. I wish people would realize that. Kari T—You do realize that the reason Obama has not completed most of his goals are not because he has “lied” or has not tried, it’s because Congress has shut him down every time. Why? So that the “Average American” would just look at the number and say “he didn’t do what he said!” To change America we need to change the inner government! Kim E—No budget in 3 years, 2 of which the Democrats held everything. I don’t care about gay marriage so long as gays can’t find jobs. The President cannot continue to blame anyone anymore. She Mag & She Magazine: Ann Romney has declined several opportunities to discuss her position on same-sex marriage and abortion, calling them “hot button issues” that are not important to voters. Angela T—She is not important to anyone. Tawanna P—Ok Ann. Keep thinking that while I’m busy voting based on these “hot button issues” and casting a vote for Obama 2012! Jennifer M—Wow, she is such a fool. Equal rights for LGBTs is a national issue in this country. For her to out right ignore it is wrong on so many levels :( Facebook.com/SheMagazineFL
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Did you ever stop and think: “Hey, Nelly Furtado! Where ya been?” Well, I just spoke to her. She’s been hard at work for three years on her new album The Spirit Indestructible, which came out this past Sept 18th. With a hot new look and a fresh new sound, it’s exactly what you’ve been missing. Your newest release The Spirit Indestructible has a unique sound. How important is it to keep things fresh in an ever changing music scene?
For me, it’s really important. It’s been an overall thread in my collection of music. I’ve always been pretty eclectic, and I think this new
how that came about?
Yeah, it was a tribute to my small town, Victoria [near Vancouver, Canada]. I grew up there, and as teenagers, everyone would be hanging out and listening to music in a parking lot. The cops would come and break it up, and we’d move onto another parking lot and continue the party, you know? It was great fun, and with this song, I kind of went there in my brain. I think once you’ve matured a bit, you’re able to write more true, reflective nostalgic songs. When you’re young and you’re exploring yourself, you think it’s reflective, but it ends up dark. But this song is so light. Also, I was working with Rodney Jerkin, who was part of
cause the song is so simple and frank, and I’m not used to that. I’m a little more subversive and I blur the lines a bit, but on this record, I said what I felt. It was fun for me. Probably because I had just finished my Spanish album and I had to be very analytical because I was writing in another language, it was weird to be sitting in a studio picking apart songs to be sure they made sense. I think when I came back and did this English album, I was just like, “Okay, let’s really make this as distinct as possible.” You’ve always had such a strong LGBT following. How does that make you feel?
You know, I’m really, really proud of it. From
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CD reflects that. It ranges from pop to rock to reggae. I’m always competing with myself and keeping it fresh and irreverent. I like my music to have energy that moves your cells around. I’m always driving for that. You recently stated that you almost decided to retire from your music career and get into something more creative. if you had done it, what might that change have been?
When I started Nel-Star Records, I worked with new talent and developed bands, and then I did a Spanish album. I like being on stage, but I like all the different components of music, such as the writing and the producing. Music always pulls me back in the studio and makes me want to sing. My fans are always going to get 100% of me in whatever I do. I love the “Parking Lot” track and the story behind it. It’s a bit of a tribute to younger days. Can you tell us a bit of
the music that I grew up with. He produced a lot of Brandi and some of the music I loved when I was growing up and dreaming of being a part of the music scene. So, there were a lot “goosebump” moments in the studio when we were working on “Parking Lot.” He really got where I was coming from. With tracks like “Waiting For The Night” and “High Life”, this newest project really feels like it’s giving us an honest glimpse into your early years. Is it difficult to open yourself up like that?
I feel like song writing is my sixth sense, like another language I speak to myself that’s completely necessary. Sometimes I don’t understand what I’m feeling about something until I write about it, and “High Life” is a good example. I didn’t even realize it was about my life until about four weeks after I cut the record. It just occurred to me in the studio that it’s about me. It was emotional and funny be-
the very beginning of my career, where I could see the couples holding hands in the front rows of the little clubs, holding hands and really feeling the music, especially when I sing songs about empowerment and individuality, it became clear to me that I have this great part of my audience that I’m grateful for. I’m just grateful, always and I think it makes perfect sense, because I’m such an individual, I don’t follow trends. I don’t stick to one sound. I think my LGBT audience respects that and likes that about me. You know? I kind of wave my own little flag (laughs). I’m happy that it’s not just one sector, or one album. I’ve found new LGBT fans in all of my different work and I think that’s cool. They totally keep up with whatever I’m doing and I love that. You’ve worked with so many great producers and performers in the music industry, is there anyone you’re dying to work with in the future?
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You know, there are a lot of people. I’m really excited about K-Pop, and I love Korean rap. I’ve wanted to feature a Korean rapper on my stuff for ages. But it’s hard, the language barrier. Also, there is an Indian composer I want to work with, and I also love Ary Katana Barosso of Brazil. My list goes on and on. I just did a track with Andrea Bocelli. It comes out on Valentine’s Day on his new album. Who were some of your influences when you were starting out?
I’m glad you asked that because I don’t always get to mention it, but I’m still such a fan of Ani DiFranco. She had such a voice at such a young age, and it was so rare! The fact that she went out on her own and had her own label was so inspiring. Her music is so empowering, so honest and so poignant. I think it really left a mark on me. I liked Jeff Buckley, I love that his music was influenced by sounds from all over the world. I loved Prince when I was growing up. His music made a big impression on me. Oh and Mary J. Blige. I had her posters on my wall! (laughs) There are so many people on this list, really. You’ve described this new album as a “raw and honest, friendly punch in the face”—which is a perfect description! Obviously, this was a musical journey for you. Can you tell me what it felt like after you finished?
Oh, thank you! I never know if people will understand something like that. It was like a major celebration! I felt like I had just climbed a mountain! I mean, for the first three years, I kind of shooed everyone away, and I was recording tons of tracks with a million different people. I was all over the place, even though I knew what I wanted. Then I met with Rodney Jerkin and he really helped me. He took on the executive producer role, helped me choose tracks, and put it together. Towards the end, it was like we knew we were getting closer to finishing. It was like a real journey, so when it was over, I was so happy and I think it’s important to celebrate things before they come out. I mean, it’s one thing once it’s out and people hear it, but the real celebration is in the studio. That’s why I brought in a videographer and made little movies all along, and we’ve got all these fun videos on my website that give the story of how this was made. I’m going to keep putting them up there for people to see all of it. I like letting people in on that part of the creative process.
Keep up with Nelly Furtado: music news, tour info, videos, picture gallery & her own blog at furtadonelly.blogspot.com
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SHE GIRL
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relationship status: Domestic Partner My occupation: Rental Sales Agent by day and Promotions/Host for Icandee events Dream girl: Witty, Intelligent, Funny, Sexy Dream job: Owner of my own club/restaurant my PET: None now, hopefully a puppy soon My mother thinks I: am a little too wild Turn-ons: Eyes, long hair, confidence, nice smiles Turn-offs: Cigarettes and overly high egos Sensitive Body Part: Lower back Best quality: My personality. I can get along with anyone. have a weakness for: Food I like to wear: Anything that’s comfy. Usually jeans/shorts and a tank top, unless I have to dress up. If you could have one super power, what would it be and why?: To fly anywhere, and of course, to avoid Miami traffic. Your house is on fire, besides a loved one, what is the inanimate object you’d grab?: My phone If you could change your name, what would you pick?: I wouldn’t change it. I think my name is pretty bad a**. The last book I read was: The Outsiders If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Mila Kunis My greatest accomplishment: My brand new car
Orchid, Miami
The cartoon character I am most like: Buttercup from the Powerpuff Girls. I’ve actually been told that a few times. The weirdest thing I ever ate was: Octopus. I’m kind of picky with my food. Although I am open to try new things, I have my boundaries. My favorite quote: “There is a way to everything you want.” I just won a million dollars. The first thing I am going to buy is: A boat My favorite TV show: True Blood The last movie I went to see was: The Vow Celebrity’s butt I would most like to squeeze: Sarah
Shahi The strangest place I’ve ever been naked: In a play-
ground, at night, of course. What breakfast cereal best describes you?: Fruit Loops French Fries, French Vanilla, French Toast or French Manicure?: French Fries My most memorable date: Dinner at a cozy tapas & tintos restaurant with live music followed by a little dancing and being asked out in the cutest most creative way I have ever seen. If I could have one wish granted, I would wish: No more hardship on my family and friends and myself. My coming out was: Interesting and long surprisingly not as rough as I thought it was going to be. If you were to become an activist in the LGBT community, which organization would you choose: HRC
because I believe we all deserve our equal rights. i think the lgbt community needs: More active activities,
not just clubs and bars.
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BY tina sordellini / PHOTO by jr davis
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“I want to know that in 2012 I did all I could to build a better future...I want to know that I fought to protect the change we made by re-electing President Obama.”
Fighting For Us: Debbie Wasserman Schultz Debbie Wasserman Schultz, U.S. Representative for Florida’s 20th Congressional District and Chair of the Democratic National Committee, is no stranger to hard-fought battles. In addition to being pro-choice, pro-gun control and pro-gay rights—all big battles in the political arena—she also battled and conquered breast cancer. I recently had the opportunity to speak with Debbie about the role we can play in this year’s election, and more. Here’s what she had to say. As we get close to Election Day, what effect do you believe women can have on this election?
Women make up 56% of the electorate. So the women’s vote will help decide who wins the White House and it will also determine other federal, state and local election outcomes. In 2008, 65.7% of eligible women voters went to the polls. I expect that percentage to increase in 2012 because many women view this year’s election very personally. They believe that they must vote to preserve our hard-won rights—and they are right.
Women must work harder than ever before. Now is the time to start making those phone calls. Knock on those doors. Get your friends and neighbors involved. Serve as surrogates in your own community and let us know what you’re hearing so we can improve our efforts. And go to www.women.barackobama.com and let us know “you’re in.” We can and we must put Florida, a critical battleground state, in President Obama’s column once again. There’s simply too much at stake for women and for all Americans. From now until November 6th, it’s our job to make sure women voters know how far we’ve come, and how re-electing President Obama is the only way to keep moving our nation forward. Together, we’re going to win this campaign, but we need the dedication, energy and passion of all the readers of She to get there. What are the key issues women should be looking for when deciding how to vote in this upcoming election?
Women consistently make up over half the electorate and with this majority voice we can and do influence the direction of critical poli-
cies important to us—such as health care, education, childcare, choice, personal safety and economic security, and a healthy environment. As a woman and breast cancer survivor, I am personally pleased that two years ago, the President signed the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act, health care legislation that will grant health security to all Americans and strengthen our social safety net for future generations. This law has already given many American women, and their families, more control over their health care by reducing costs, increasing choice, and instituting common sense rules that will keep insurance companies accountable and honest. And the Affordable Care Act takes giant steps forward in improving health care for women: The law includes a women’s health amendment, which eliminates co-pays and costsharing for all women’s preventative health services, including mammograms and contraceptives; it ends the egregious practice of insurance companies’ defining being a woman as a pre-existing condition. No longer can women be charged more for their health insurance,
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or denied coverage altogether, because they’ve had a C-section or even been the victim of domestic violence. In America, no one should have to go through it without health insurance. No family should go broke just because a mom gets sick. So when President Obama passed health care reform, it was personal. Equal pay for equal work—Throughout the past four years, we have seen a true commitment from our President to ensure sweeping progress for women in this country. That’s why the first piece of legislation President Obama signed into law was the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which goes to the heart of the equal pay issue, giving women the power to challenge discrimination where they work. And the President nominated not one but two women to the Supreme Court—Justices Sonia Sotomayor and Elena Kagan. As a mother of two young daughters, I am proud of our President for giving them such great role models. President Obama believes in the power of women’s voices. When women speak up, and when they have a seat at the table, all Americans benefit. Looking forward four years from now, what would be your ideal scenario for the people of America?
While it’s hard to look that far into the future, four years from now I want to know that in 2012 I did all I could to build a better future for my children and all of our children. I want to know that I fought to protect the change we made by re-electing President Obama. And I hope to continue making progress—investing in skills for America’s workers, and education that gives our kids that chance to compete for the jobs of the future. Ideally, I want to make sure that four years from now, we are keeping the promise of America alive for all Americans.
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“I found my lump while doing a self-exam in the shower and it was only six weeks after a clean mammogram....I was diagnosed with Stage I Breast Cancer... I knew that I had to introduce legislation to help other young women facing this terrible disease.” prophylactic double mastectomy, hysterectomy and oopharecetomy. While undergoing these seven surgeries, I told very few people of my illness. I didn’t want cancer to define me, and I didn’t want to miss opportunities because of what people thought I could or couldn’t handle. I wanted to decide for myself what I was capable of doing.
In 2008 you were diagnosed with breast cancer. Can you tell us what led up to this diagnosis and how you proceeded from there?
For the benefit of women who might experience the same thing, what do you think were the most important factors in terms of quick diagnosis and full recovery for you?
I found my lump while doing a self-exam in the shower and it was only six weeks after a clean mammogram. My findings were confirmed by a clinical exam and I was diagnosed with Stage I Breast Cancer. Because I am an Ashkenazi Jewish woman and, like African-American women, that group has higher rates of breast cancer, my doctors recommended that I get tested to see if I had a gene mutation that would make it likely that my cancer, even once treated, could come back. The test showed that I did have a BRCA gene mutation. As a result I underwent a
There is nothing more important than knowledge. The old adage still rings true: knowledge is power! Knowing your body and knowing how to stand up for yourselves when you know something is wrong can make all the difference. Too many doctors tell young women experiencing symptoms of cancer to wait six months and come back, and by then it may be too late. If something feels wrong, listen to your gut and speak up. It can save your life. We can never, ever say it enough: every woman—especially every young woman—has to take charge of her
health and do what’s right for her. After I was diagnosed with breast cancer and experienced the importance of early detection first hand, I knew that I had to introduce legislation to help other young women facing this terrible disease. There have been so many advances in screening and treatment of cancer— but all of that is moot if women are not learning about their bodies, taking steps to reduce risk factors, and getting regular and appropriate screenings. And that is why, as soon as I was cancer-free, I introduced the Breast Health Education and Awareness Requires Learning Young Act, or the EARLY Act. It focuses on a central tenet: that we must empower young women to understand their bodies and speak up for their health. The EARLY Act creates an education and outreach campaign that will highlight the breast cancer risks facing young women 45 and under, and empower them with the tools they need to fight this deadly disease. It is designed to help educate and sensitize health care providers about the specific threats and warning signs of breast cancer in younger women that lead to early detection, diagnosis, and survival. The legislation is also providing assistance to organizations that support young women diagnosed with breast cancer and further help them overcome the unique challenges that they face as young women. You have been an avid supporter of the LGBT community for quite some time. Why has our community been so important to you?
Marriage equality and equal opportunity are some of the most important issues of our time. No American should be denied rights or privileges because of who they love. I am incredibly proud of my diverse constituency in South Florida, and our vibrant lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community is a huge part of that. Four states will have marriage equality on the ballot this year, (Maine, Maryland, Minnesota and Washington). What do you think stands in the way of this happening in Florida and what can voters do to help change that?
In 2008, I was disappointed by the amendment to Florida’s constitution to define marriage as a union only between one man and one woman. It’s an affront to everyone any time discrimination is written into the law books. The tide of change has arrived, and I encourage everyone to continue speaking out and working with Florida’s leaders in the gay community to decide when the time is right to take up this fight.
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lisa pittman & pandora events presented at the hard rock hotel, envy, one of the night parties of shedonism 2012, the official women’s events of las vegas pride. photos by angie ortaliza / more photos at www.shemag.com
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just 4 fun I am so in love with this new bluetooth/headphone! Phiaton Corporation, a premium manufacturer of high-performance personal audio products, recently released its PS 210 BTNC earphones. By combining active-noise-cancellation and Bluetooth 3.0, these earphones are the ultimate solution for users who are on-the-go. Compared to my Lady Gaga headphones, Phiaton’s sound quality is excelent and so is the sound when answering a call. What I love the most about it, because of the bluetooth technology, is the fact that I don’t have to plug it into my cell phone and I don’t have to deal with the short cords, so it allows me to clip on and walk away from it. I also love the comfortable round earbuds and their adjustable foam eartips. Visit them online for where-to-get locations. You might have to adjust to the control button for volume and tracking since I found it to be a bit sensitive. Overall, it is a great device! phiaton.com / $159.00
Another great piece of electronics is the adorable iPod docks from Speakal. Just in time for thinking pink & halloween, here is the iBoo & iHog Portable, with speakers in its eyes and a subwoofer in its butt. The sound is amazing and it also works as a charger for your iPhone/iPod. It has a built-in battery for up to 8 hours, remote, humanized touch volume controls, 5 speakers and and input jack to connect to TV, Gaming Console or other music sources such as iPod Shuffle. speakal.com / $89.99 - $149.99
Ghoulish cocktails anyone? Add a gnash of Transylvanian teeth to your next Bloody Mary with the fangtastic Frightful Freeze Ice Tray or chill your favorite drinks–cold to the bone with the Skull and Crossbones Ice Cube Tray. Make sure you check out the cool shakers in various designs, too. homewetbar.com $6.49 - $29.95
I always check out the Hard Rock store during Breast Cancer Awareness Month. This year’s Pinktober promotion items include the women’s VNeck Tshirt, scarf, bracelet and their famous pins with an original pink design. 75% of the retail price will be donated to breast cancer research. You can get yours online or at Hard Rock stores. rockshop.hardrock.com $12.00 - $26.00
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noticias EE.UU. aplazaría deportación de gays con parejas estadounidenses El Departamento de Seguridad Interna tiene previsto emitir un memorándum sobre sus políticas, en el que señalaría que los inmigrantes sin autorización para residir en el país pero con parejas estadounidenses del mismo sexo estarán en condiciones de que se suspenda su deportación, siempre y cuando no sean prioritarios. La medida fue planteada por activistas de los derechos de los gays y por sus aliados en el Congreso, antes de que la secretaria de Seguridad Interna, Janet Napolitano, anunciara sus planes sobre la política, en una carta a 84 legisladores demócratas. “Será la primera vez que las parejas lesbianas y gays han sido reconocidas dentro de una política de apoyo en materia de inmigración”, dijo Steve Ralls, vocero de Immigration Equality. Esa organización defiende los derechos de los gays, lesbianas, bisexuales y transgénero que se encuentran en el país como inmigrantes. Los legisladores demócratas a quienes fue dirigida la carta de Napolitano presionaron a la agencia para que informara a las oficinas de campo del servicio federal de Inmigración y Control de Aduanas (ICE, por sus siglas en inglés) que las parejas gay binacionales que han tenido relaciones largas tienen vínculos familiares que deben tomarse en cuenta como argumentos para posponer la deportación. “He dado instrucciones al ICE para distribuir parámetros por escrito a las oficinas de campo, acerca de que la interpretación de la frase ‘relaciones familiares’ incluye a las parejas del mismo sexo con una larga relación”, escribió Napolitano, y añadió que esta decisión podría aún considerarse caso por caso. Las instrucciones no significan que los extranjeros casados con estadounidenses del mismo sexo estarán en condiciones de obtener su residencia legal o la ciudadanía, como ocurre con los inmigrantes casados con cónyuges del sexo opuesto.
> Obama dice respetar a quienes aceptan to no el matrimonio gay “‘las instituciones religiosas tienen sus propios sacramentos y pueden decidir’ si llevan a cabo matrimonios de parejas homosexuales o deciden continuar discriminando a dichas parejas sin consecuencia alguna”. El Presidente demócrata, Barack Obama, ha defendido que “respeta” tanto a los colectivos que están a favor del reconocimiento del matrimonio igualitario como a los que están en contra de que se permitan dichas uniones. El Presidente ha preferido no entrar demasiado en la polémica sobre el matrimonio igualitario para evitar que ello le ocasione un problema electoral de cara a las elecciones presidenciales que tendrán lugar el próximo mes de noviembre en el país. Jay Carney, secretario de Prensa de la Casa Blanca, ha sido el responsable de defender que Obama no debe posicionarse sobre los colectivos que están a favor o en contra del matrimonio igualitario, alegando que el dirigente demócrata “respeta los diferentes puntos de vista”. El secretario de prensa norteamericano, tras ser preguntado en torno a las diferentes opiniones sobre el matrimonio entre personas del mismo sexo existentes entre la comunidad religiosa, ha recordado que Obama solo ha mostrado su apoyo “al matrimonio civil”. El secretario de prensa de la Casa Blanca, para evitar más críticas por parte de colectivos religiosos, ha manifestado que “las instituciones religiosas tienen sus propios sacramentos y pueden decidir” si llevan a cabo matrimonios de parejas homosexuales o deciden continuar discriminando a dichas parejas sin consecuencia alguna.
> Multitudinaria Marcha de la Diversidad en Chile Entre 8.000 y 20.000 personas participaron el sábado 29 de Septiembre en la XIV edición de la Marcha por la Diversidad Sexual, que se celebró en el centro de la capital chilena y culminó con un acto cultural. La actividad es organizada por diversas agrupaciones que congregan a las minorías sexuales en este país, cuyos dirigentes difirieron de la cifra de asistentes calculada por las autoridades policiales y la elevaron hasta unas 20.000 personas, la más masiva de todas las realizadas hasta ahora. Una imprevista lluvia acompañada de granizo que se abatió sobre la capital chilena durante parte de la tarde no empañó el entusiasmo de los asistentes, que de forma festiva y pacífica rechazaron la discriminación y abogaron por la igualdad de derechos, incluido el del matrimonio. Una ley recientemente aprobada, que surgió tras el asesinato de un joven gay a manos de neonazis, a comienzos de este año, impuso hasta penas de prisión a la discriminación contra las mujeres, los pobres, extranjeros y homosexuales,entre otros grupos. Las minorías sexuales, sin embargo, consideran que aún falta la aprobación del matrimonio entre personas del mismo sexo para que la sociedad chilena sea realmente igualitaria en derechos. “Necesitamos tener los mismos derechos que toda la comunidad heterosexual, porque somos todos iguales frente a la ley, eso es lo que nos preocupa”, dijo durante la marcha de hoy, a los periodistas, Marcelino Jara, activista de la organización Acción Gay. “Queremos estar vigentes, queremos mostrarnos, queremos decir lo que pensamos, queremos ser considerados y respetados como debe ser”, agregó. (EFE)
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yo soy mujer
por veronica espinal
No es que crea, sino que estoy segura que estoy hasta la coronilla de los anuncios políticos por radio y televisión. Sin embargo no puedo negar que a un par de días de darse el primer debate presidencial es extremadamente ansiosa. Sinceramente, la política nunca ha sido de mucho interés para mí...hasta este año. Claramente te darás cuenta que soy Demócrata, ¡y a mucha honra! Una de las cosas que más me fascina es ver lo importante que somos los Latinos como comunidad en este país, no solamente como inmigrantes, sino como una comunidad de poder, de poder económico y a nivel electoral. Precisamente mientras me disponía a escribir esta columna, recibí en email del Pew Hispanic Center, una organización de investigación no partidista que busca mejorar la comprensión de la población hispana en Estados Unidos. El informe hacia una retrospectiva del crecimiento de nuestra comunidad a través de los años. En las elecciones del 2008, habían 19.5 millones elegibles para votar, pero sólo un 9.7% ejerció este derecho. Actualmente existen 23.7 millones de Latinos mayores de 18 años que son elegibles para votar, y se espera que un mejor número de personas salgan a votar. Los Latinos estamos en el tercer lugar en la lista de etnias que acuden a votar, después de la comunidad anglo y afroamericana. Los Latinos somos el grupo minoritario más grande del país. Según el censo del 2011, existen 51.0 millones de Latinos en Estados Unidos; somos el 16.7% de la población. Por esos números es que somos importantes como comunidad y debemos exigir respeto y que nos tome en cuenta, no solamente al momento de una elección presidencial, sino en cada momento que se cree una ley o en cada sesión del Congreso o en cada sesión del Senado. La única forma que tenemos para que nos den el lugar que merecemos, es depositando nuestro voto, sin importar cuál sea tu
partido político. Antes de tomar tu decisión, tomate el tiempo de compara ambos candidatos y su postura antes los temas de tu interés. Según la más recientes encuesta de Pew, un 70% de latinos registrados dice votar por Obama y un 26% los hará por Mitt Romney. Sinceramente veo difícil la situación de Romney en cuanto a obtener el voto Latino se refiere ya que sus contradicciones son constantes y o deja las respuestas en el aire cuando a inmigración se refiere. Por otro lado, en los 5 estados más importantes en una elección como son Florida, Nevada, New Mexico y Colorado existe un número significativos de votantes Latinos, ya que somos el 15% o más de la población de cada uno de estos estados. En Florida, la población Latina es de 4,253,000 millones; somos el 23% de la población. El condado Miami-Dade es el tercer condado en el país con la mayor población Hispana, 1,623,859. ¡Vaya si somos importantes! Me resulta fascinante ver la devoción de ciertas personalidades Hispana que han hecho campaña para levantar consciencia de los importante que es para nosotros como comunidad salir a votas en masa si es que queremos reconocimiento y lo que buscan muchos, legalización. La actriz Rosario Dawson de descendencia Cubano-Puertorriqueña, junto a América Ferrera—de descendencia Hondureña—y el actor Wilmer Valderrama, de descendencia Venezolana-Colombiana, se han encargado de hacer campaña bajo votolatino.org. Igualmente vemos a Cristina Saralegui haciendo campaña para Obama y a la actriz Eva Longoria, de descendencia Mexicana, quien es co-presidente de la campaña para reelección de Obama. Nada, que como Latinas, mujeres y gays, somos una población de peso en estas elecciones. Estamos en la recta final. ¡Vota el próximo martes 6 de Noviembre!
EN LA RECTA FINAL
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Landing by Emma Donoghue Jude, a twenty-something Canadian with a fear of airplanes, meets forty-year-old Irish flight attendant Sile aboard a transatlantic flight. Jude and Sile, undaunted by thousands of miles, begin a relationship through emails, faxes, and phone calls, but they also have to contend with doubting friends, fears of infidelity, and questions of travel. Inspired by Emma Donoghue’s relationship (like one of her main characters, Donoghue emigrated from Ireland to Canada to be with her partner), Landing is a modern and funny look at the life changes two very different people must make in order to be together.
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On Being Different by Merle Miller Rereleased in September of this year, On Being Different originally came out (no pun intended) in 1971. Written two years after the 1969 Stonewall Riots, On Being Different was originally an essay featured in New York Times Magazine in response to a homophobic article in Harper’s Bazzar. The new edition features a foreword by Dan Savage. Miller’s book – part memoir, part essay on being gay in America – is still relevant, despite the fact that the classic celebrated its 41st birthday this year.
Transition by Chaz Bono The paperback release of Chaz Bono’s groundbreaking memoir features a new epilogue and a new subtitle (the hardback’s subtitle was The Story of How I Became a Man; the new paperback subtitle is Becoming Who I Was Always Meant to Be), but readers can expect the same poignant and well-told story from Chaz Bono, transgender activist. The new material includes a behind-the-scenes look at Bono’s experiences on Dancing With the Stars, as well as details about Bono’s split from his longtime partner.
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scopes AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19
leo July 23 - aug 22
All the constraints on your creativity that you’ve encountered in the past couple of years have magically disappeared leaving you to pursue your dreams at last. You’ll still need a solid plan before you can accomplish your goals. Share your vision with people who can help and perhaps even invest. You’ll be free to travel for pleasure, doing what you want to do, not what you have to do.
You’re out and about re-connecting with old friends and making new ones, visiting family and enjoying time with yourself. You don’t need a passport to explore your own neck of the woods; find new shops and restaurants, as well as intellectual venues. Allow yourself a make-over and a new outlook. Free yourself of the burdens you’ve been carrying so that you can better balance home and career.
pisces feb 20 - mar 20 You need to be more rational, practical and frugal as you separate reality from fantasy. The past has taught you some hard lessons about trust and you’ll soon have opportunities to put those lessons to the test. Trust but verify. Allow time to show you what you need to know about anybody and/or anything. Conserve and enjoy what you have. Don’t risk too much in your quest for security.
virgo aug 23 - sept 23
aries mar 21 - apr 20
libra sept 24 - oct 23
Your focus and energy are usually on yourself; however the planets are urging you to turn the ‘I’ into “we.” Cooperation and compromise are your allies in your internal war with your usual selfishness and attitude of “my way or else.” Above all, be sure to safeguard your finances. Don’t get involved in any get-rich-now opportunities. Don’t trust blindly and verify before you act.
The planets are empowering you to make positive changes in your life to improve your health, diet and finances. You don’t have to completely re-invent yourself to become the new, improved you. Create your new persona in your mind’s eye and the world will see you as you wish to be. Don’t allow old, negative patterns to undermine your progress. Be open to new people, places and ideas.
taurus apr 21 - may 21
scorpio oct 24 - nov 22
Hopefully you’ve spent the last few cycles making positive changes in your life and have new and improved health and diet habits, especially in how you handle stress. Remember it only takes a spark to start a blaze. Identify the who and/or what that no longer serve you and rethink it. Enjoy the hedonistic side of your personality, but leave your credit cards at home.
You’ve been given lots of hard lessons the past few years and now you get to take the Universe’s test and show off what you’ve learned. Your education will continue in the form of self-analysis. Determine what else you need to address before you move forward. Correct past mistakes and don’t repeat them. Wait for the right opportunity. Be realistic; don’t chase unlikely fantasies.
gemini may 22 - june 21
sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21
Your energies have been scattered, your thoughts unfocused. You often feel like you’re chasing your own tail. Decide on what you want, then figure out what you need in order to achieve it. Stop allowing your evil twin, and others, to undermine your focus and resolve. You are at your creative and charming best so make the most of it. Enjoy romantic-comedyadventures, but don’t overdo it.
You’re energized to socialize, network and generally have fun. You’ve got physical energy to burn so now is a good time to get projects done. Use your mental energy to create new financial opportunities. Make marketing and action plans to successfully achieve your career goals. You’ve had your dreams and fantasies for a long time, now it is time to manifest them.
cancer June 22 - july 22
capricorn dec 22 - jan 20
You’ve been going through a lot of unsettling energy that has undermined your sense of peace and security, financially and personally. The good news is the Universe is empowering you to move forward, out of the negative and into the positive. Go with the flow to a much better space and place. Remember when dealing with loved ones - keep your iron fist in a velvet glove.
It should come as no surprise that your focus continues to be on career and finances even though your personal life keeps interfering with your plan. Your past struggles have gotten you into peak shape to handle any challenges to your security and quality of life. Network yourself, your skills and services to as many new people as you can. It’s important to increase your sphere of influence.
Your financial zone has been blocked for the past two years and that’s about to change for the better. However, you still need to steer your ship into calm waters. Prepare yourself to go with the flow, not the plan. Practice restraint with your credit cards; buy what you have to, not just whatever you want to. Make a realistic budget and stick to it.
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