Friday Night Bar Mitzvah Siddur

William Tyler Yormak Bar Mitzvah

The Sabbath, Marc Chagall

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Caleb ben Pesha v’Cheyn September 4th, 2009 The Loading Dock, Stanford, CT

On Children

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let our bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; for even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

—Kahlil Gibran

Order of the Service Candle Lighting.................................................................... 6 Presentation of the Tallit....................................................... 7 Kabbalat Shabbat................................................................. 8 Lecha Dodi........................................................................... 9 Sh’ma............................................................................10-11 Taking out the Torah......................................................12-13 Blessings for Torah.............................................................. 14 Torah Reading.................................................................... 15 Grandparent’s Presentation of Kiddush Cup........................ 16 Priestly Blessing.................................................................. 17 Aleynu / It is Upon Us......................................................... 18 A Prayer for Children........................................................... 20

Marsha and Stanley Yormak Willie’s paternal grandparents

There are stars whose radiance is visible on earth though they have long been extinct. There are people whose brilliance continues to light the world though they are no longer among the living. These lights are particularly bright when the night is dark. They light the way for all of us. —Hannah Senesh 5

Candle Lighting The sole purpose of human existence Is to kindle the light in the darkness.

—C.G. Jung

Ba-ruch A-tah Adonai E-lo-hei-nu me-lech ha-o-lam a-sher ki-d’-sha-nu b’-mitz-vo-tav v’tzi-va-nu l’-had-lik ner shel Shab-bat.

Holy one of Blessing, Your Presence fills creation making us holy with Your commandments and calling us to kindle the lights of Shabbat.

Light is the symbol of warmth and unity.

It binds us together with Jews in all lands who are kindling the Sabbath lights.

Light is the symbol of remembrance.

The flickering light, whose beauty lingers even after the flame is gone, reminds us of those lovely spirits who once were with us.

It is a bond recalling to mind those whose light is now extinguished.

In joy and peace, in sanctity and remembrance we now kindle the Sabbath lights.

Two Candles, Gerhard Richter

We honor with the kindling of the Shabbat candles our dear friends who have enriched our lives with their light and love.

Robin and David Ellman Laurin and Adam Steiger

Amy and Michael Grossman Katie and Michael Solondz 6

Presentation of the Tallit

The tallis is a fabric with fringes. As we wrap ourselves in the spiritual fabric of our lives, may we be in touch with the fringes of our lives, and may we feel how following the directions of your mitzvahs leads to a spiritually enriched life.

Ba-ruch A-tah Adonai E-lo-hei-nu me-lech ha-o-lam a-sher ki-d’-sha-nu b’-mitz-vo-tav v’tzi-va-nu l’-hit-a-tef ba-tzi-tzit.

Holy one of Blessing, Your Presence fills creation making us holy with Your commandments and who teaches us to wrap ourselves in the fringed Tallit.

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Kabbalat Shabbat (Welcoming the Sabbath)

Angels are another name for feelings.

When we love and act with kindness we create angels of love and kindness; when we hate and act with violence we create angels of hate and violence.

It is our job to fill our world with angels of love: messengers of kindness that link people together as one family.

Sha-Iom a-Iei-chem mal-a-chei ha-sha-reit mal-a-ehei El-yon Mi-me-Iech ma-l’-ehei ha-m’-la-ehim ha-Ka-dosh ba-ruch Hu Tzeit-chem l’-sha-lom mal-a-chei ha-sha-lom mal-a-chei EI-yon Mi-me-Iech ma-l’-chei ha-m’-la-chim ha-Ka-dosh ba-ruch Hu

Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers “Grow, grow.”

—The Talmud, 6th century

Psalm 11, Christa Rosier 8

Lecha Dodi (Come, my friend)

L’cha Dodi Likrat Kallah P’nei Shabbat n’Kablah Come my friend to meet the bride, to welcome Shabbat with hearts open wide

Sha-mor v’-za-cbor b’-di-bur e-chad

Hish-mi-a-nu Ell ha-m’-yu-cbad

A-do-nai E-ehad ush’-mo e-chad

L’-sheim ul-tif-e-ret v’-lit’-hi-Iah

“Keep” and “Remember” were fused in one word When the voice divine at Sinai was heard.

The Lord God is One and One is God’s name, In God is our glory, in God is our fame.

Bo-i v’-sha-lom a-te-ret ba-lah

Gam B’-sim-chah uv’-tzo-ho-lah

Toch e-mu-nei am s’-gu-lah

Bo-i cha-lah bo-i cha-lah

We greet thee, O Sabbath, crowned by the Lord, We hail thee rejoicing, in common accord, We are the faithful who bask in thy light, We welcome thy day; we welcome thy night.

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The expansion of human power has hardly begun, and what we are going to do with our power may either save or destroy our planet.

The earth may be of small significance Within the infinite universe But if it is of some significance We hold the key to it.

In our own age we have been forced into the realization that there will be either one world, or no world. —Abraham Joshua Heschel

Sh’ma

(Hear O Israel)

Sh’-ma Yis-ra-eil Adonai E-Io-hei-nu, A-donai e-chad

Ba-ruch sheim k’-vod mal-chu-to l’-o-lam va-ed

V’-a-hav-ta eit A-do-nai E-Io-he-cha b’-ehol l’-vav-cha uv’-ehol naf-sh’-cha uv’-ehol m’-o-de-eha. V’-ha-yu ha-d’-va-rim ha-ei-leh a-sher a-nochi m’-tzav’-eha ha-yom al l’-va-ve-cha. V’-shi-nan-tam l’-va-ne-cha v’-di-bar-ta bam b’-shiv-t’-cha b’-vei-te-cha uv’-Iech-t’-eha va-de-rech uv’-shoch-b’-cha uv’-ku-me-cha. Uk’-shar-tam l’-ot al ya-de-eha v’-ha-yu I’-at-ta-fot bein ei-ne-eha. Uch’-tav-tam al m’-zu-zot bei-te-cha u-vish-a-re-cha.

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Torah Service BAR/BAT MITZVAH Of the many milestones in life, few combine the sense of tradition, achievement. responsibility and joy of a Bar Mitzvah. Becoming a “son of the commandments” signifies the choice of a child, at the age of 13, to accept the responsibility and teachings of a Jewish life.

At tonight’s Shabbat Service, our Bar Mitzvah Willie, after years of study, exercises one of the new privileges and responsibilities of Jewish adulthood: reading from the Torah and leading a religious service.

Torah The custom of public Torah readings had its beginnings with Ezra the Scribe after the return of the Jewish people from Babylonian exile in 444 B.C.E. Ultimately, the Torah was divided Into 54 weekly portions, each called a sidra, that are read in every synagogue in the world according to the Hebrew calendar. Thus, on this day every Bar or Bat Mitzvah In the world touches every Jew around the world reading from the same Torah portion.

The Torah is written as a continuous scroll consisting of the first five books of the Hebrew Bible-Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy — and is hand written on parchment with vegetable ink and a quill pen by trained scribes. The Hebrew calligraphy used to write these scrolls has been the same for more than 2,000 years. The text is chanted according to a prescribed method and pattern that has remained largely unchanged for more than 1,000 years. Since no vowels, punctuation, or musical symbols appear in the scroll, special study and training are required to be able to chant from it.

To be near the Torah is exhilarating, to hold the Torah is a great honor, and to read from it is both humbling and uplifting. No act symbolizes becoming a Bar Mitzvah more than reading from the Torah.

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The Torah Service The Torah is symbolically passed from generation to generation, then carried around the sanctuary to give congregants a chance to touch it with their tallit or prayer book as a mark of respect and love for Its teachings. It is then retumed to the bimah. The Bar Mitzvah introduces the weekly Torah portion and chants it In Hebrew from the Torah. After the reading, the Torah is Iifted — to show that the Torah is an open book and belongs to all the people — and dressed.

At the beginning of the Torah service, the Ark Is opened and the Torah Is removed. When the Torah is removed or retumed to the Ark, the congregation stands in respect. When the Ark Is opened or closed, we say prayers Moses chanted when the Ark was picked up or put down on the march from Egypt Each time the Torah is taken out to be read, Jews reenact God giving the Torah to Moses.

We honor our dear friends Caren and Arthur Fried whose wisdom and love have enriched our families life with the unwrapping and procession of the Torah.

Ki mi-Tzion teytzey Torah U’dvar Ha’Shem mi Y’rushalayim

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Blessings upon reading the Torah

We honor our family members whose love and commitment to our family brings sweetness and joy to our lives. We thank you.

First Aliyah

Grandparents Esther and Robert Heller Jake, Aaron and Brian Uncle Gary Aunt Jill, Uncle Jon, Grace and Elle Aunt Jenny, Uncle Peter, Amanda and Kevin

Second Aliyah

Paula and Jeffrey Yomak

Third Aliyah

William Yormak 14

Deuteronomy

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Grandparent’s Presentation of a Kiddush Cup A cord of three strands is not easily broken. —Ecclesiastes 4:12

Engraved on this Kiddush cup is a tree of life.

The tree of life is a symbol widely used in all cultures and by all religions. In this tree of life are two love birds looking at each other in adoration. The trees traditional meaning of life is now enhanced by an enduring image of love.

Love is the essence of life. May you be surrounded by love throughout your whole life.

Tree of Life, Ethel Green

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Priestly Blessing The real issue in life is not how many blessings you have, but what we do with our blessings. — (Mr.) Fred Rogers

May God bless you and keep you; May God make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; May God lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.

In ordinary life we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more then we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich. —Dietrich Bonhoeffer

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Aleynu

It Is Upon Us Od yavo shalom aleynu (x3) v’al kulam.

Salaam... aleynu v’al kol ha’olam Salaam Shalom.

Thank you all so much for joining us on this very special day in the life of Willie and our family. There are no words to express how truly blessed we feel.

We are filled with a sea of joy, pride and emotion as we watch our fourth son become a Bar Mitzvah today in the presence of our loving and supportive family and community.

OUR CUP RUNNETH OVER....

Thank you Rabbi David Ingber for all the support and inspiration you have given us.

We are deeply grateful.

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A prayer for our children, your children and children of the world.

May you live to see your world fulfilled, May your destiny be for worlds still to come, And may you trust in generations past and yet to be.

May your hearts be filled with intuition And your words be filled with insight.

May songs of praise ever be upon your tongue, And your vision be on a straight path before you.

May your eyes shine with the light of holy words And your face reflect the brightness of the heavens.

May your lips ever speak wisdom And your fulfillment be in righteousness, Even as you ever yearn to hear the words Of the holy ancient one of old.

Willie Yormak’s Bar Mitzvah September 4, 2009

Jake Yormak’s Bar Mitzvah September 16, 2000

Aaron Yormak’s Bar Mitzvah September 14, 2002

Brian Yormak’s Bar Mitzvah April 2, 2005