Be Slow To Anger

Be Slow To Anger by Natonya Medford

When it comes to life, we choose what we want. We can either go left or right but it's our choice. Some choices are limited, some are harder than others, but life presents itself in the form of decisions, which becomes unknown situations rising into challenges. It's best to learn from the things we can't control and understand how to respond through unpredictable moments.

triggers and understanding how to control what makes you angry is a great step towards spiritual growth.

10% of life is what happens to you, 90% is how you choose to respond

No, we can't control the actions of others, but we can control the way we respond. Spiritual maturity forms when you look to change you. Next time you pray, ask God to show you how to respond maturely.

James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.

Look beneath the Surface for Something Better The flesh lives on the surface as an unreliable source seeking a temporary fix. Convincing you to take options with hurtful consequences, whether it's having a one-night stand, cussing out the clerk or arguing back with someone making false

Easy to tell off the cashier who shortchanged you or argue with the rude receptionist lady but what does it do for us? If we allow every negative encounter take hold of our emotions, how do we grow as humans? Learning your

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Don’t results to the temporary happiness of the flesh, always choose the permanent happiness of the spirit?

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Not every situation needs a lecturer. You don’t have to teach the wrongdoers about their mistakes. Stay peaceful because people will realize they’re wrong, especially when you don’t give them something to argue about. Refrain from engaging because then you’ll have two problems, the original issue and the regretful words you respond with in attempt to defending yourself while angry.

Living in the flesh causes you to think irrationally because you only see one perspective, making the big picture oblivious. When we don’t focus on the big picture, we lose the opportunity to grow spiritually. Maturity comes from not only understanding how you feel but acknowledging the other side of the argument, even if you disagree with their perspective. Taking note to the big picture helps you understand how to control your emotions and wisely choose your battles, resulting in you not becoming angry so easily.

I hope you all remember that saying, “Silence is Golden” before serving a dish of the clap back to those who throw false accusations about you. Consider the consequences and never let others get the best of your emotions.

How Do I Defend Myself? The truth always speaks for itself; its volume is louder than liars. You don’t have to prove your innocence. Choose the harder route; think about the big picture first instead of living in the painful moment. May feel like you're not defending yourself and allowing the ignorant person to walk all over you but you’re fighting a much bigger problem. In the long run, you're standing up for yourself by not giving them what they expect.

To wrap up in how to control your anger, always remember the big picture before you react. One way to align yourself with the big picture is by controlling your emotions through listening first and not retaliating back. You maintain your power by staying calm and quiet. Keep in mind the truth speaks for itself and in the end; you’ll be a stronger individual because you chose to control your anger from the beginning.

Just because they’re out of control doesn’t mean you have to be too.

Some people want to upset you on purpose to feel powerful. Others who are out of control or struggling with their own insecurities take it out on you in the smallest ways. Do not give gratification to those who seek to hurt you, choose peace. Respond with silence. It takes at least two people to argue, chose not to engage. Allow attackers to argue with