Keeping It Simple by Kimberly R. Jasper

Keeping It Simple By Kimberly R. Jasper

Nowadays, we see so many carefully crafted, doctored and air-brushed apple-bottom shapes, and that it makes the real backsides seem less impressive. The goal for many young women may be to look like Nicki Minaj, forgetting that some of her most admirable traits have been purchased. No tea, no shade; just truth. She was much more beautiful in her natural state. I can’t help but wonder how she would have looked if she had just loved herself enough to be happy with the original.

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That is what I find lacking in a society where even your selfies are photoshopped. Don’t like your nose? There’s an app for that. Want fuller or thinner lips? There’s an app to fix that as well. Gone are the days when women were forced to embrace their imperfections. If your nose is too wide, and photoshopping just won’t do, you can have a slimmer one reconstructed with a surgical knife.

If you’re not happy with your bottom, you can just inject or implant a new one. For every physical trait that you don’t like about yourself, there’s a quick fix for it. And now more than ever, everyone from celebrities to working-class people is opting for the quick fix. It makes it harder for those who are struggling to embrace their imperfections without surgery, and it is so important to remind yourself that there is beauty in those imperfections.

Unfortunately, some younger girls do not see beauty in their perfections and attempt to attain a look that cannot happen without surgical augmentation. In turn, they’re not satisfied with their natural attributes, and because many older women feel the same, these cycles of self-dissatisfaction continue. So how do you truly embrace your beauty when you don’t look like the girls in the magazines? Honestly, it comes with time. It’s hard to tell a young girl they’re beautiful when they are just getting to know themselves and feel they don’t meet society’s standard of beauty. As we get older, we have to find beauty in the things that make us different. Those freckles, that unruly hair, those wide eyes, thick lips, the list goes on and on.

Now, this isn’t to say that if you decide to “go under the knife” that you’re automatically displaying self-hate. It is to say that before you choose a drastic body or image change, think hard about why you are doing it. First and foremost, you have to be happy with your appearance and who you are as a person. And trust me, self-confidence is a trait that money cannot buy, and a full head of weave won’t cover up. It all starts from within. Simply put, God doesn’t make mistakes. What He creates is fearfully and wonderfully made.

In short, God’s most wonderful work is you. The goal I have as a mother of a precocious 10-year-old who is already asking me if she is “fat” is to instill self-love within her from a young age. I will tell her that her worth is “far above rubies” and help her to exemplify it by being that same example for her. Telling her that she’s priceless is one thing but being a priceless example of self-love for her is another.

About the Author:

Kimberley Jasper is pursuing her bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from the University of Houston. She is currently an accomplished self-published author of three novels, with the release of her fourth being greatly anticipated.

From horror fiction with a mystical twist to erotic thrillers, she is able to do it all with well-seasoned finesse. Kimberley gives every genre of her writing the same drive and devotion.

Formerly a public-speaker, she is still a mentor to women of all ages with a series entitled “A Woman’s Work”. She is a returning freelance writer for Sistah’s Place, Maya’s Blog Showcase, and formerly Urban Image Magazine.

Website: https://mkt.com/krjasperwritesIG: @krjasperwrites