WOMEN OF EXCELLENCE
DEALING WITH HOLIDAY GRIEF Dr.Courtney P. Hendrix
D
eath is inevitable; it’s something that none of us will be able to bypass. The question is always posed, “are you ready to die?” A better question would probably be, “are you prepared for those close to you to leave; even when it’s unexpected…” Grief is heavy, but it’s also a part of the healing process… they say, “it gets better with time…” I say, “they are lying…” Time is irrelevant if you’re not being INTENTIONAL about your HEALING Process! We have all lost someone who was near and dear to us. As the Holiday Season approaches, embrace your grief in a way that brings you joy. The reality is, you may not always be happy BUT you can always have joy. Do things in remembrance of your loved one like cooking their favorite dish, make an ornament in their memory, volunteer or do something charitable, or visit a sentimental place. Keep their memories alive by talking about them often! Avoid secluding yourself and pushing people away. Surround
W.O.E
yourself with those who care about you and don’t be afraid to ask for support from friends or family. Take the opportunity to lean into your faith during trying times of grief. Know that it’s okay to NOT be okay, however, it is NOT okay to stay that way. Take the opportunity to seek professional help. You must be INTENTIONAL about your HEALING! Journaling is a great way to express your emotions, take the time to pour out your heart and process as well as acknowledge what you are feeling. Begin to ask yourself questions about what you are experiencing emotionally. This may be a good time to ask God to increase your faith and as you do this come up with a strategic action plan towards your healing. Make a commitment to yourself to be fully present and vested in your healing. As you deal with your grief during the holiday season take note of your prayer request by recording what you are believing God to do for you in this area and as you see the hand of God move on your behalf
14
