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NEW LISTING Deeded water access with Dock! Charming New England farmhouse is framed by ancient stone walls and accented with granite posts...The 1 acre+/- property offers rolling lawns, perennial gardens and boasts access to Westport River waterfront with shared jetty and dock. The spacious home offers an array of living options and includes a fireplace living room, sunroom with wood stove, first floor bedroom, eat-in country kitchen...there is an attached two bay garage, garden shed and a wonderful detached 1 bedroom cottage for guests or rental income. This handsome home is superbly located on Southern Drift Road and is convenient to all that Westport has to offer. Contact Sarah Korolnek 774.644.9156.

WESTPORT | $1,795,000

The iconic Paquachuck Inn on Historic Westport Point is steeped in history. Built in 1827 by Issac Cory as a ship’s chandlery and general store, today, it is a gracious bed and breakfast offering nine spacious guest rooms, a commercial grade kitchen and welcoming fireplaced sitting room with period details throughout. The heart of the home is a spectacular great room with soaring ceilings, stone fireplace and French doors spilling onto a waterside terrace. Perennial gardens border a rolling lawn that leads to a 10-slip dock on the Westport Harbor. While currently a boutique bed and breakfast, there are endless possibilities for transforming this into a sensational waterfront home with a private dock. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200.

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TIVERTON | $ $1,595,000 1,595,000

NEW LISTING Handsome, shingled Colonial on Westport Point with rolling lawn to harbor frontage. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200.

This fabulous 1750s Colonial home in South Tiverton with museum-like restoration on over 3.5 acres is surrounded by 600 plus more acres of conservation land. Located near Four Corners and beaches, move in for summer to begin many fine moments. Contact Roberta Burke 508.498.3285.

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This gorgeous, waterfront, contemporary style home is situated on over 5 acres of land and offers private water access to a sandy beach and panoramic views of beautiful Buzzards Bay! With 3,000 s.f. of living space, features include 4 bedrooms with a spacious master suite and spa-like bathroom, walk-in closet and private balcony, three full bathrooms, open concept living space, mud room, pantry and home office nook with water views! Imagine endless summer days filled with the sights and sounds of the ocean or launching your canoe, kayak or paddle board from your very own private sandy beach! Contact Sarah Korolnek 774-644-9156.

ROUND HILL MANSION | $775,000

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NEW LISTING Two bedroom penthouse condominium with loft and rooftop deck. Community amenities include sandy beach, golf, tennis, heated pool and clubhouse. Contact Maggie Tomkiewicz of Team MCM 508.995.2444

DARTMOUTH | $500,000

Architecturally significant, four-bedroom, 5600 sq/ft home, set on 14 acres within 177-acre preserve; first floor master, professional grade kitchen, two outdoor living spaces. Contact Maggie Tomkiewicz ( 508) 995-2444

MATTAPOISETT | $1,395,000

SOLD Antique Farmhouse (4 rooms) set on 15+ acres with potential for 4 ANR lots. Contact Maggie Tomkiewicz of Team MCM 508.995.2444.

SOUTH DARTMOUTH | $699,000

UNDER AGREEMENT Shingled coastal contemporary offers dramatic one-level living, Gunite pool, meandering path to boardwalk and deeded water access. Contact Kevin Quinn 774.319.3401

DARTMOUTH | $695,000

UNDER AGREEMENT Walk to Padanaram! Built in 2005, this Colonial has four bedrooms, 2.5 baths, hardwood floors, an open concept, central air conditioning and a finished basement...Stroll to the Village and all it has to offer. Contact Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926

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WELCOME We have weathered the storm— it is time to celebrate

IMPRESSIONS (commentary) Our beacon is within sight

HOME Own a piece of Tiverton, Rhode Island History

WALLET Late to the party? Now is the time to invest in real estate

NOISE Facetime; Are you going to be ready for summer?

CULTURE Breaking up is hard to do

STYLE A powerful collection reserved for those with inner strength

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Welcome

Pulling Together

uch has changed over the last month; the weather is warmer, with growing enthusiasm for exploration because millions of people have been vaccinated. Everywhere you look, there is a sense of gratitude indicating we are finally getting back on track so we may live our lives to the fullest. The weight we collectively carried is beyond comparison; it is like no other feat of survival experienced in a century, yet all indications point to the country preparing to thrive and drive the economy to the heavens; for this, we are appreciative. We are thankful for our continued success; unlike many media companies, succumbing to the difficulties forced upon them by the pandemic, we delivered to our readers a healthy distraction—even optimism—during the darkest hours of the past year. Not that we did not suffer the slings and arrows that came from forced isolation and unexpected pressures internally, we persevered and kept our commitment to stay engaged in your lives, sometimes at the expense of personal satisfaction and comfort. Coping was not easy, but it was a lesson about who we are as a people and a nation. Our strength was tested; weakness exposed. We learned about dedication and self-preservation; it has been one of life’s lessons we do not wish to repeat any time soon—but acknowledge there is intrinsic value to the adversity that was forced upon us during 2020-2021. Over the last 16 years (this month, we celebrate our companies founding), we have always received accolades, 10 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

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letters of appreciation, and digital requests for our magazines. However, since our last issue, we noticed a startling oddity. April was an outlier; new readership grew exponentially; day after day we received many more letters of appreciation than usual, along with an increased demand for our publications at our 1200 dropoff locations. We took in the highest number of new subscriptions, visitors to our websites, and access to our online publications. This rise in readership has catapulted our magazines to a new height of circulation. Your kindness cannot be adequately put into words, nor your expressed loyalty. Please know we appreciate your support and that our work is of passion and commitment to our audience. Rather than a folly, repeating what has been previously accomplished, our focus is to create monthly lifestyle journals with fresh, exciting, and insightful messages and experiences for everyone to enjoy. Our readers fuel our efforts, and it is the SouthCoast Publishing Group and New England News & Media who should be thanking you for your continued support for what we love to do. Let us get on with another month of unparalleled entertainment—welcome to our May issue. H

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Impressions

nly a few ‘old salts’ are left to recall sea stories of ‘Relief Ships’ (also known as Light Ships) that once marked the rocky and treacherous New England coast. For those lucky enough to speak to one of these seasoned mariners, you know them to be very willing to share a good story or two, with their recall of facts spot on! While their general recollections about living ashore may have faded, when pressed to tell of their experiences with these impressive bright red vessels, accentuated with giant white letters painted across the port and starboard sides of their hulls, these sailors can accurately relive fond memories from their seafaring days; evident, by a twinkle in their eyes as they recite intimate details of their journeys. Originally anchored off the northeast seaboard in 1854, these magnificent ships and brave crews served as a

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RELIEF SHIP PHOTO: LUCKI SCHOTZ | MAP: NORMAN B. LEVENTHAL

Relief, Resolve, Respect.

beacon of safety for transatlantic voyagers, marking ocean hazards as marine traffic approached the infamous Nantucket Shoals. Their storied history ended in 1985 when the Coast Guard decommissioned its last navigation ship, the Nantucket 1, and sought modern alternatives as replacements to the floating lighthouses. Relics of the past, few of the Relief Ships are operational. Still, their sightings continue to be shrouded in romanticism and maritime mystique. Tucked into stillwater harbors, they boast a proud past by their regal appearance. Many have been re-tooled and their rescue equipment refurbished; they continue to draw the love and attention of modern-day seafarers and landlubbers alike. A common thread that connects the memories of old-time sailors, is the feeling of “relief” as they came upon the hulking steel vessels, after steaming for hours through pea-soup fog or riding out violent seas—wondering if they would ever see home again.

These seamen longed for a sign of a safe arrival after a long and dangerous trip; and, it was the Light Ships that set them at ease. We recognize the resolve of the Light Ship’s crews. Their service was a lonely existence; with little recreation and less news from the outside world for long periods, it was a monotonous existence. Accompanying this solitude was the vibrating noise of a running generator— to keep the lights on—and the constant torment of listening to the sea slapping the bow; it must have been torturous. These men faced unimaginable weather, horrific seas, and loneliness. Daily, crews faced the peril of nature’s force and the danger of being rammed by a misguided tanker or cargo ship. Yet, they were determined to do their jobs, regardless of the hazards, because of their commitment to service. We respect them, for they were extraordinary people.

Men and women who have spent time on the water have a unique connection; they will often reference their respect for the sea; it is the motto of sailors but holds true for anyone who has challenged nature. We share this story as the pandemic battle slowly winds down because many will be forced to reflect on experiences and emotions that have dominated life for over a year. Their existence will continue to be haunted, and in the most extreme cases, fear and anxiety will become a battle of wits. There have been severe social issues born from this fight, and it will be up to all of us to correct the course and take care of the wounded. As we go forward, it is a relief progress continues to be made. We have come to realize that our resolve has played a significant role in beating back the disease. Now that our ‘Relief Ship’ is in sight, it is comforting to know we have made it back home and into a safe harbor once again. H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 13

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Living History BY STEVEN CHAN

PHOTOGRAPHY BY LUCKI SCHOTZ

SOUTH TIVERTON ESTATE BECOMES AVAILABLE FOR A DISCERNING FAMILY

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n 1620, the Pilgrims, a name later associated with travelers to the New World, made their way across the Atlantic Ocean for religious freedom and a chance to rule themselves. With them were merchant families seeking commercial opportunities in an unexplored land. Attempting to reach the mouth of the Hudson River, they quickly realized they had drifted hundreds of miles off-course, landing at a place now called Cape Cod, only to sail across the bay to modern-day Plymouth. On December 4, nearly one month after arriving at the unintended destination, Peregrine White became the first English child born to settlers; he was delivered aboard the Mayflower while at anchor off the coast. His birth and his life are significant, as evidence of his first cradle and his will, protected by the Pilgrim Museum’s hallowed halls in Plymouth to this day. White lived for 83 years—8 months, making Marshfield, Massachusetts, his final resting place in 1704. Records show that descendants of White came to Tiverton, Rhode Island, 80 plus years later, cleared a parcel of land, and built what is now a historic home on a hill overlooking Nonquit Pond, a short distance from the equally special 4-Corners district. It was 1790 when construction began, the same year newly elected President George Washington delivered the first State of the Union Address and Benjamin Franklin died.

It was 1790 when construction began, the same year newly elected President George Washington delivered the first State of the Union Address and Benjamin Franklin died. Since that time, nine generations of Whites lived in this historic home; eight were born on the property.

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Since that time, nine generations of Whites lived in this historic home; eight were born on the property. Over time, surnames changed due to marriage, with the last two generations living there under the name Hart. In 1976, Michelle and Ed Fisher purchased the property and began working on their vision for the homestead. Over the years, the couple reclaimed the briar-ridden fields and manicured the lawn. They planted vegetable and flower gardens and rebuilt the 5 foot ancient stone walls. A host of trees were added, including Hollies, Cherry, and Sycamores. In 1984, the two story post and beam gambrel workshop was erected; 10 years later, a two story, three bay, Dutch 18 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

Colonial garage was added to the property, offering a long list of options for a new family. The Fisher’s work did not end there; comprehensive restoration and renovations continued in the main house, including the addition of 12/12 windows, beaded clapboards, and a cedar-shingled roof. Other interior updates were infused into the historic home, such as crown moldings, raised panel wainscoting, and period fireplace surroundings. The alluring Colonial sits upon 3.5 pastoral acres and is surrounded by more than 500-acres of protected conservation land. Peace, tranquility, and wildlife abound, an ideal

The alluring Colonial sits upon 3.5 pastoral acres and is surrounded by more than 500-acres of protected conservation land. Peace, tranquility, and wildlife abound, making it an ideal location for raising children.

location for raising children. Meticulously maintained, the upscale farm offers an impressive and sophisticated lifestyle for buyers who seek independence and privacy. In proximity to fine dining, dramatic lookouts, marine access, and land that has been preserved for hundreds of years, no location is more desirable than South Tiverton—considered part—or at least—on the fringe of the highly valued area known as the SouthCoast. The antique home’s unmatched character and charm

exemplify its centuries of importance, while today, it offers an impressive and sophisticated lifestyle for buyers who seek independence and privacy. Tapping into the home’s origins, a new family will be pleasantly surprised—even awe-struck, by the near-perfect condition of the matched stained and aesthetically appealing grey painted wide plank floors. Accented by freshly painted trimming, original fireplace hearths, and other period details, living here would be quite satisfying. Entertaining family and guests will create memorable experiences. Open and airy, the country kitchen flows to a large dining room with a butlers kitchen, spacious formal and informal living rooms, along with dual access to the second level comprised of three bedrooms and a bonus room by way of two stairwells. The floor plan offers an authentic and calming sense of family throughout. Remarkably, the home is facing south, allowing fabulous light to illuminate the interior while adding warmth and comfort wherever you find yourself. 4398 Main Road in Tiverton could be described as one of the most structurally sound antique homes available on the market today. Its condition results from a family who took care and maintenance seriously and is now willing to pass on their life’s work. H The home and outbuildings are offered for $1,595,000 by Roberta Burke, an associate of prominent real estate agency Milbury and Company of Westport and South Dartmouth, Massachusetts. For more information and details, contact the listing agent at Roberta@milburyre.com, or call 508-498-3285. Visit milburyre.com. NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 19

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WORDS OF WISDOM AND THE HOUSING MARKET BY STEVEN CHAN | PHOTOGRAPHY LUCKI SCHOTZ

e’ve all heard these precious words, “The best time to invest was yesterday; the next best time is today!” And, as important as the thought should be to those looking to secure a viable future, investing is often brushed off for a long list of reasons. I am often reminded of how important it is to take the first step in achieving any worthwhile goal. As a young child, my father brought me into the woods with a shovel and explained that the small pine saplings we were to dig would someday become giants. He explained that while it would take time, eventually, they would provide nesting for wildlife, protect our home from wind and weather, and enhance our home’s curb appeal. Not focused on the future, I found my excitement and attention captured by the moment; here we were, spending time together, doing something out of the ordinary. We carefully spaded around each of the half-dozen puny trees (note—we had permission for their removal), placed them and the clinging soil into paper grocery bags, and loaded them into the station wagon for the journey home. 22 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

Upon arrival, we carefully spaced the location where the young trees would be planted; I dug frantically, then gently placed them in the holes of their new home, adding quarts of water around each base. The day brought great joy, but once the chore was accomplished, it took years of passing for me to see them again. It was decades later, gazing out the window at my parent’s home, I began to recall events that shaped my life; effortlessly, memories of the day we brought those small trees home filled my mind with surprise, my heart with emotion. I realized each pine had grown to more than 50 feet into the sky, held firmly by trunks 40 inches in circumference; it seemed like yesterday I towered over them. My experience aligns well with the topic of investing, whether it is in your family, the market, or real estate; a lesson I learned is, the sooner you make a move—rather than excuses, the quicker your actions will take root and grow without notice or care. The SouthCoast of Massachusetts, from Wareham to Westport, with its overreach into Rhode Island’s tranquil towns of Adamsville, Little Compton, and Tiverton, has slowly come to the radar of investors and home buyers—not just from around the country, but the world.

An area that was as insignificant as a small pine tree in a vast forest of old growth has become one of the most searched, visited, and desirable locations to call home. These communities sat quietly for years, and while they were upscale by nature, they didn’t draw the fanfare or cause a flurry of activity like Cape Cod, the North Shore, or the Hamptons; life was slow, roads were narrow, with curbing and crosswalks almost non-existent. It came as no surprise when I learned

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that Massachusetts Lt. Governor Karyn Polito purchased a second home for $1.8 million in South Dartmouth before any news source reported the sale. The purchase confirmed what I knew for some time, the ‘well,’ funding the hottest real estate market over the last 10 or so years hasn’t dried up; rather, it is gushing with buyers and their open checkbooks, causing lower than average inventory, leading to significantly higher prices across all tiers of housing. Word has been circulating about the

opportunity and potential for property investments along the coast of Massachusetts and Rhode Island. There is a mad dash to recruit and train agents and brokers who are knowledgeable and motivated to introduce a new crop of buyers to the region’s beautiful towns and villages. Buyers, on the other hand, can be trepidatious and overly cautious during a purchase. Some feel they need to time the market—even though those days are over— while others attempt to make less than sufficient offers on a home of their liking.

Today, a full-price, cash offer without contingencies is the rule. Luxury homes often sell before they are publicly offered because choice real estate companies have lists of active buyers ready to pounce. With this information, the smart money is taking action and not delaying on their next purchase; the adage to follow is if you like the area and wish to either relocate or enjoy a new home seasonally, now is the time to act. An investment today has plenty of room to grow tomorrow.H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 23

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When Love Ends BY NATALIE SIMMONS

tress has been the welcome mat for many. From the moment you open your eyes to tumbling into bed at the end of the day—feeling exhausted, no better word describes what you and your partner have experienced than—brutal. What started as love and lasted for years, may have diluted into a lukewarm affection. While caring about the well being of your mate, the constant interaction—without distraction, can create the perfect storm for a break-up. Experts claim this is because, generally, people are not equipped with coping skills necessary to navigate the difficult conditions COVID-19 delivered. Most couples have faced challenges resulting from the pandemic, from the pressure to maintain income and a lifestyle while businesses closed, to falling into behavioral habits that enhance scrutiny because of the proximity you share. According to a recent Kaiser Family Foundation study, half of the adults polled in the US claimed they had experienced negative mental health issues due to COVID-19 distress. Some might interject that people are always getting divorced or breaking up, to this, we can only assume the rate of discourse and ultimate separation has been accelerated because few, if any modes of intervention or treatment were available, and Americans were not prepared for the crisis befalling them. More to the story of isolation, research shows the primary reason partners split is due to a lack of love, intimacy, or both. In a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 2,371 divorced people were asked what the primary reason they called it quits. Investigators found that 47 percent of respondents claimed that it was because one or both partners fell out of love. When the same people were asked for a second reason, 44 percent voiced complaints about how they and their partners communicated. A third reason couples divorced was primarily focused on the lack of sympathy, respect, or trust. Finally, researchers discovered that the fourth reason the participants separated was because spouses grew apart, which could be attributed to different value systems or the direction they saw their lives going. Interestingly, the study noted that today’s fractures in relationships are based on emotions and personality, while previous generations usually parted because of a spouse’s behavior, including substance abuse, violence, or philandering.

Relationship professionals voice concerns about how our culture has changed; the days of couples staying together for 30, 40, 50, or 60 years or more, is antiquated and may never be revisited. Today, people are caught up in personal satisfaction— regardless of the cost. When romance dissipates, participants tend to view their relationship as disposable, and any effort to repair them a waste of time and energy. CAN THE TREND BE REVERSED?

In an interview with Health magazine, Dr. Rachel Needle, PsyD, co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes in Florida, says there are red flags all around before the damage is done, but need to be noticed. Needle claims that “If you’re not happy, are being reactive, or short with your partner, or notice significant From the moment changes in the relationship, pay you open your eyes attention…[these] warning signs include to tumbling into being less affectionate, less kind to each other, spending less time together, bed at the end of stonewalling…or assuming the worst the day—feeling about your partner.” exhausted, no better Needle explains that preventing word describes what yourself from spiraling down the you and your partner rabbit hole means you need to talk— communicate each day. She says, have experienced “[Relationships are about]…continuing than—brutal. to get to know each other, sharing feelings or experiences, or just being present.” Needle adds, “…discuss how you’re feeling in the relationship, what you might need from your partner, and share things you appreciate about them. The goal is for both partners to feel listened to and valued.” Of course, it takes two adults willing to be honest and open about their feelings. If one partner can discuss their issues while the other suppresses hurt or difficult emotions, then regardless of the help a couple seeks, little will be accomplished. Cultural differences, principles, and our fast-paced society focusing on the ‘me’ rather than the ‘us,’ have changed traditional marriage and long-term relationships forever. And, while everyone faces personal difficulties, rather than meeting them head-on as a team, too often, couples retreat never to find resolution, so at the very least, they might preserve a friendship. H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 33

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YAMAMOTO: Stand Out, While Laying Back BY MARGOT ROBERTS

ohji Yamamoto, born in 1943, is claimed to be one of the most influential clothing and accessory designers of the 20th and 21st centuries. The Japanese fashion designer based in Tokyo and Paris is widely known for his avant-garde tailoring featuring traditional design aesthetics, which eliminate boundaries of gender markers, attributed to deconstruction, linked to post-war Parisian culture. Yamamoto’s use of black is legendary, as is his interest in designing loose but

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dramatic collections that often shock uninformed journalists and naive consumers. Such cross-gender role-playing in the designer’s lines is historic. Still, it was not until Yamamoto put this form of uniform sexuality on the runway, did audiences begin to understand his motivation and conceptualizing of power, strength, and appeal. An analysis—if necessary—indicates the use of contextual elements specific to war, resolution, and nobility. Yamamoto blends meaningful theory into everything he creates. Through the passive use of simplicity, illusion, and rustic origins, he captures the inner souls of those who wear his

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clothing, allowing them to share their inner power and intellect. A far cry from traditional, contemporary fashion, absent is the glitter, stilettos, and skin often found in other designers’ collections. Yamamoto isn’t for everyone; it is for this reason his drama plays so well when worn in view of an unexpected and filtered public. H Shown: Y’s Brand: Everyday wear for comfort and lightness; silhouettes are subtle but express an individual’s identity. More information at theshopyohjiyamamoto.com/shop/c/c30/

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eople love dining out, and if you were to ask most, they would tell you, visiting their favorite restaurant is what they miss most due to restrictions during the pandemic. The public has retreated from this pleasure pastime primarily due to health concerns; also because of the awkwardness of entering a room where guests must wear masks, tables are separated by plexiglass, or patrons are delegated to a sidewalk, the street, or a parking lot under a tent. But, this shall pass, and champagne flutes will clink once again. We are witnessing the slow deceleration of stringent restrictions on restaurants. Though it will be a while before they operate unimpeded, everyone is waiting for a day when going out to eat will regain its appeal and excitement. We dug into our archives and searched for our favorite and most memorable experiences over the years. Our list makes up the very best kitchens and dining rooms, not only important to their community but our reader’s interests far and wide. Once society mobilizes, people will again travel for both business and pleasure. With this normalization, commerce will follow, leaving them to search for the finest meals and impeccable service. Luxury dining wears many hats and is not always surrounded by glitter and gold. This eclectic list is from the best cafes, bistros, and professionally rated restaurants, some with 4+ star dining rooms, which we have enjoyed and returned to on many occasions. We anticipate you will have an equally pleasurable experience. Not all restaurants are open; some remain closed while others operate with reduced hours or capacity. It is worth calling ahead or checking in on them from time to time to get an idea of their hours of operation and method for acquiring a reservation. Bon Appétit. H 40 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

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WASHINGTON DC RASIKA WEST END (Open with restrictions)

They have won our vote, and that of many others, for the best modern Indian cuisine ever experienced! A 2019 James Beard Nominee, its service, authenticity, and delicious menu will have you captivated and returning over and over again. Acknowledged as ‘The Place Ambassadors Eat’, by the Washington Post, and a history of serving at least one President and First Lady, you will be enamored and always looking for an excuse to return. 1190 New Hampshire Avenue NW | rasikarestaurant.com

NEW YORK CITY THE MODERN (Temporarily closed)

It is difficult to put into words the luxurious, yet comfortable genre the Modern provides. With an impressive wine list and one of the finest prix fixe contemporary American menus in NYC, the only way it can be overshadowed is by the outstanding service they are known to provide guests. Located within the footprint of the Museum of Modern Art, views of the courtyard, its legendary long bar, and its upscale lounge make waiting for news of its reopening unbearable. 9 W 53rd Street | themodernnyc.com

SHUN LEE WEST (Open with restrictions)

In April, they announced the reopening of their wellappointed dining room, with its dim lights and tuxedodressed staff. (At least they were upon our last visit). The ‘high-gourmet’ Chinese fare sets Shun Lee West apart from even its sister location, Shun Lee Palace. A more relaxed and subdued environment, the ‘West’ elevates familiar dishes to a new level. The downside of their success is that fans tend to reject eating this form of cuisine anywhere else. 43 W 65th Street | shunleerestaurants.com

TIVERTON, RI THE RED DORY (Open)

Not aware of the transfer of ownership a couple of years ago, we were pleasantly surprised to hear that renowned chef Aaron DeRego took over the restaurant’s ownership that sits along the Sakonnet River. And while its curb appeal is not eye-catching, what comes from DeRego’s kitchen is described as “outstanding” by our spies around the area. One look at his menu will have you calling for a reservation—we cannot wait to visit. 1848 Main Road | reddoryrestaurant.com

21 CLUB (Closed but with optimism)

Mixed messages continue to flow from ownership. At the end of 2020, it was announced that the iconic restaurant that catered to New York elites, as well as the ordinary and curious— for over 90 years—was going to close forever. Recently, a statement was issued to the New York Post regarding discussions about reopening in the future. As we go to print, a Google search indicates they are temporarily closed. Hopefully, this fabled one-of-kind restaurant will open soon and return the 35 jockeys that lined the façade for so many years.

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BOSTON, MA THE NAUTILUS-PIER 4 (Best to check)

We were notified that one of Nantucket’s most popular restaurants, The Nautilus, has opened a second location at Boston’s Seaport District as of April 1. Indeed, not an easy task. Their timing could not be better; start with a soft opening, then build to handle the summer season crowds. The upscale seafood restaurant is taking reservations from what we gather, but their website is not functional; best to call ahead. 300 Pier 4 Boulevard | thenautilus.com

PROVIDENCE, RI PANE E VINO (Open)

A mainstay, a fixture, and a landmark on Federal Hill, it is our choice with every visit to Rhode Island. With a moderately priced menu and reasonably priced wine list, do not be surprised that you have ordered more than you could possibly eat. But not to worry, the next day is when real home-cooked Italian food tastes best! Even with dozens of choices on The Hill, Pane e Vino continues to stands out, making it difficult to score a reservation at premium hours—call well ahead.

WESTPORT, MA THE BACK EDDY (Open)

Since opening 21 years ago, the Back Eddy has served thousands of locals, tourists, and seasonal residents worldwide. Known for its just-off-the-boat seafood and locally sourced meats and produce, it has become the go-to restaurant for all occasions. Located directly on the Westport River, minutes from Horseneck Beach, it is surrounded by the most pristine country found along the coast. The dining room and bar are relaxed and unpretentious, befitting a summer lifestyle. It is not quiet but more of a celebratory existence. 1 Bridge Road/GPS 4 Cherry & Webb Lane | thebackeddy.com

BUZZARDS BAY, MA MEZZA LUNA (Open)

We are huge fans of this beautifully appointed authentic family-owned Italian restaurant at the gates of Cape Cod. EJ and his staff have continued traditions established by his family decades ago, and maintain unmatched quality and service, bringing new customers every day and old friends back routinely. Best described as hearty comfort food, the leading draw to the location is an incredible prime rib that comes with an interesting story. Their menu is quite extensive, but every item listed comes from the kitchen with the same amount of love. You must visit Mezza Luna; you will be glad you did. 253 Main Street | mezzalunarestaurant.com

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Art Affairs

A HOT INVESTMENT or THE EMPEROR’S NEW CLOTHES? T H E R O L E O F D I G I TA L A R T I N T H E 2 1 S T C E N T U RY

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On May 13, 2021, the same auction house will attempt to duplicate previous success when they bring a single lot of CryptoPunks created by Matt Hall

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nine NFT images known as “rare alien punk” to the block— no pun intended. In the hope of raising millions of dollars, Christie’s is presenting a series of digital creations on the Ethereum blockchain at their much anticipated 21st Century Evening Sale in New York City. The works have been consigned to auction by the creative minds at Larva Labs, who anticipate—or at least hope— to see the lots sell in the $7-$9 million range. The CryptoPunks, are the brainchild of Matt Hall and John Watkinson and are simple computerized pixelated images of—well, it must be said; cartoon characters. Reports indicate the entire collection of portraits consist of 10,000 unique images. The artist developers were, at first, giving them away, albeit they stashed 1000 for themselves. Some critics give credence to this form of CryptoArt, referencing it to the London punk scene of the past, and by introducing it through blockchain, it breaks barriers and splashes on the scene similar to the screaming bands of the period. According to Christie’s, these images are significant to the art world and collectors. But here is where it gets shaky— the public can get copies of the 10,000 works while remaining under ownership of the blockchain; like all other NFT’s, they are registered. Given this fact, Christie’s retorts with the explanation, “The system Hall and Watkinson came up PHOTOS BY: CHRISTIE’S.COM

t was only months ago when Christie’s Auction House ventured into the realm of alt-reality— or better yet, speculation on the future of art. An example of this new path involves the work of digital artist Mike Winkelmann, known professionally as “Beeple.” As the story is told, Beeple began posting his images online around May of 2007; he continued to do this day after day until he produced a digital picture comprised of images created each day over 13+ years. He called it ‘everyday,’ and all of his work was packaged nicely and delivered to Christie’s who would offer it as a single sale item entitled, EVERYDAYS: THE FIRST 5000 DAYS. In March of this year, the digital work—a collage of small pieces—sold for an unfathomable $69,346,250. Adding to the obscurity of this non-fungible token (NFT) art is the acceptance of cryptocurrency for payment. In essence, Christie’s has attempted to confirm the modern-day work legitimate while making history by bringing to market the opportunity to own a blockchain—for better or worst.

Detail from “Everydays: The First 5000 Days,” artwork by Mike Winkelmann

with…[can be] compared with owning art that is permanently on loan to Some critics give a public museum.” Not everyone sees the arrow hit credence to this this target; in an interview with form of crypto-art, TechCrunch, Sotheby’s CEO, referencing it to the Charles Stewart, asked, “Are they London punk scene collectibles…what are they exactly?” of the past, and by From all appearances, it seems introducing it through that the estimate for a few 8-bit, blockchain, it breaks 24 x 24-pixel images is outrageous, yet the market, from other barriers and splashes sales, seems to support the notion on the scene similar these works of art are here to stay. to the screaming Nonfungible.com reports nearly bands of the period. 400 sales of CryptoPunks recently and has produced more than $20 million in sales. As a marketing incentive, Christie’s is putting out the news that the lot coming up is ‘rare’ because they are the most important of all the characters. It seems there are more than 6000 male gender and just under 4000 female gender punks; but, only nine aliens. (Not very woke). It would appear that what most people are asking is, “How do you sell lines of code to someone with much too much money, give them the right to say they own it, while allowing

everyone access to it?” Could it be ego trumps common sense or philanthropic lunacy?

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CryptoPunks were created in 2017 and were generated by a software program developed by Matt Hall and John Watkinson. Each Punk has a personality with distinct generated features, which include glasses, caps, hoodies, and hair— you get the picture. Punks sport mohawks and other personal attributes like wearing lipstick, having misshaped teeth, and wearing glasses, making them distinguishable from each other. This digital art form was designed to remove ownership but is a perfect example of free-market supply and demand— we think. Go to Larva Labs website and download all 10,000 CryptoPunks; they are yours to view for free. Or, attend the Christie’s Auction and gamble millions of dollars so you can claim “actual” ownership to the blockchain. There has been great popularity and sales of the Punks; could this be a bubble waiting to burst? The Christie’s auction is being promoted as a new and revolutionary event; they have ventured to claim, “Welcome to the future.” H NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 43

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News Regional Real Estate Brokerage Firm Ranks as One of the Nation’s Top Producers

erkshire Hathaway HomeServices/Robert Paul Properties, headquartered in Osterville, Massachusetts, with offices from Boston to Cape Cod and the SouthCoast, recently announced it has climbed into position as one of the top 1,000 real estate firms in the US, in sales volume. In a press release issued by RISMedia, the tracking company’s 33rd Annual Power-Broker reports that Robert Paul Properties had sales volume of $1,002,449,430 in 2020. RISMedia President & CEO John Featherston acknowledged Robert Paul Properties on their ranking in this year’s Power Broker Report with a “Congratulations” for their success. “Who would have thought that one of

the most tumultuous times in our nation’s history would usher in one of the hottest real estate markets on record. The 2021 Power Brokers proved that this industry can accomplish the impossible even amid the most challenging of times. I have no doubt that Power Brokers, and the hardworking real estate professionals who drive their firms, will continue to adapt and innovate, as well as continuously surprise us with their level of ingenuity and creativity, and their persistence to succeed.”

The Top 1,000 2021 Power Brokers in the report collectively earned nearly $1.7 trillion in sales volume and more than 4.2 million transactions in 2020 and encompassed more than 575,000 agents over 9,100 offices. H

Luxury Real Estate Company Continues Expansion

ilbury and Company, a premier luxury property brokerage firm serving all of Massachusetts since 1980, recently opened a third office in Westport and leaped into Rhode Island’s luxury homes market. As a natural progression, these new additions to the Milbury footprint result from their experience and successful sales of top-tier properties along the coastline of the two states. New buyers from California to New York and beyond are drawn to Milbury’s listings because they not only sell exquisite homes, they are recognized as a leading brand of the SouthCoast lifestyle, which is in high demand. 46 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

Supporting these ambitious efforts, Milbury and Company has announced the addition of another Licensed Sales Associate for Rhode Island, Annie Atherton. A life-long resident of New England, her professionalism and knowledge of high-value properties allow her the ability to introduce buyers to a developing real estate market with excellent upside potential. Other company brokers and associates serving the Rhode Island sales effort include; Will Milbury, Owner/Broker, Collette Lester, Maggie Tomkiewicz, Patty Peelen, Kevin Quinn, Roberta Burke, and Sarah Korolnek. Milbury’s expansion indicates the

Annie Atherton future and a wakeup call that the summer season will welcome many more affluent buyers to the area. H

BayCoast Bank Pledges $250,000 to Global Learning Public School’s Capital Campaign

he Global Learning Charter Public School (GLCPS), a tuition-free public charter school serving 500 students in grades 5-12, has received a significant financial pledge from BayCoast Bank. This first ‘brick’ to jump-start their $8 million capital campaign to fund the renovation of a historic building located at 106 Bullard Street in New Bedford is the cornerstone of creating “One School, One Campus.” Once completed, the project will allow GLCPS to reallocate classroom space and offer students an educational experience that remains rich in technology and on the leading edge of education innovation. The expanded classroom space will feature science labs, dedicated art and music space, foreign language classrooms,

multi-use classrooms, and teacher and community collaboration space. The renovation will also include necessary upgrades to bring the building up to code. Before the 20192020 school year, GLCPS was split between two campuses, approximately two miles apart, creating a travel interruption during the school day for high school students that split their time between both campuses. With the new lease in place, GLCPS will embark on a campaign to renovate and upgrade the facility.

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7 PROVEN BEHAVIORS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE BY ROB SAINT LAURENT, M.ED

enowned American psychologist Abraham Maslow had a keen understanding of what drives people. To explain human motivation, Maslow conceptualized a “hierarchy of needs.” The behavioral model consists of five levels, most often arranged as a pyramid: at its base is bodily needs (food, clothes, shelter, rest); the next level is safety (job security, for instance); then, the need for love and a sense of belonging (intimate relationships); esteem (personal accomplishment and respect of others); and self-actualization (reaching one’s full potential and experiencing self-fulfillment, as through creative pursuits). A person must meet each underlying level of need in the pyramid before being able to move up to the next tier.1 Humans are hardwired to want to ascend Maslow’s pyramid and achieve the vision they have of themselves. But, is the ability to succeed inbred, or is it something we develop? Research suggests it is a mix of both. THE ROAD TO SELF-ACTUALIZATION

It was once thought that success was born of talent, timing, and good fortune, but we learn that certain behaviors are predictive of better results if practiced. Here are seven common attributes of successful people that are backed by science.1-3 1 — GOAL SETTING

Research shows success is about 50 percent intellect and personality; so there is significant room for us to steer our destiny deliberately. Science shows that having goals improves a person’s performance.4 Entrepreneur Marc Effron suggests that individuals and businesses focus on no more than three goals, choosing goals with the greatest impact; promising yourself that you will deliver results; and challenging yourself with goals that force you to “reach;” as research shows this prompts people to go the extra mile.

2 — A GROWTH VERSUS FIXED MINDSET

The term “growth mindset” was coined by Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck. She explains that people with such a mindset believe they can improve their talents with hard work, strategizing, and feedback from others, whereas people with a fixed mindset believe their talents are inborn and unchangeable. People with a growth mindset “worry less about looking smart” and invest more time improving their skills. A pure growth mindset does not exist and needs to be developed.5 Findings by K. Anders Ericsson, a recently deceased behavioral psychologist who taught at Florida State University, bear this out. In examining factors underlying highly successful people, Ericsson found they are driven by a fervent pursuit of self-improvement and never rest on their laurels. To these individuals, skills need to be constantly strengthened like a muscle. 3 — FLEXIBILITY

A key trait of people with a growth mindset is how they perceive failure. Instead of viewing failure as self-judgment, they look at it as feedback on modifying their approach. They are flexible to changing circumstances and their thinking. They recognize fixed thought patterns may be holding them back. Rather than believe they can’t do something, they can think pragmatically about a situation and determine whether they have the needed skills. 4 — A CAN-DO ATTITUDE

Research shows that successful people are generally more optimistic, which allows them to see challenges as growth opportunities. When you are happy, experts say, it is easier to be optimistic, leading to better confidence and problem-solving. One simple, science-backed way of boosting mood and feeling happier is to practice gratitude. Though it does not prove causality, one notable study by the University of Pennsylvania’s Dr. Martin E.P. Seligman, showed a significant boost in happiness ratings in 411 participants who wrote a letter of gratitude for someone’s kind actions versus a control group. And these feelings lasted for a month.6 NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 51

5 — THE ABILITY TO FOCUS

Successful people can get into a zone by focusing on one task at a time—research suggests our brains cannot focus on two things simultaneously. Experts recommend that people block out all distractions and focus on a single task for at least 20 minutes each day. 6 — PERSEVERANCE

Entrepreneur Marc Effron suggests that individuals and businesses focus on no more than three goals, choosing goals with the greatest impact; promising yourself that you will deliver results; and challenging yourself with goals that force you to “reach;” as research shows this prompts people to go the extra mile.

Another common trait among successful people is bouncing back from repeated failure and staying the course. The link between dogged tenacity and success traces back to 1892 and Sir Francis Galton’s work, a British scientist who observed: “zeal with capacity for hard labor” in successful people. Researchers today not only agree with this observation but give more weight to determination than intellect on the scale of success. Psychologists note that relentlessness can be acquired over time with practice. Coping with failure’s negative emotions is a learned skill, which can begin with acknowledging that failure is a natural part of any major pursuit in life. One tip is to minimize potential setbacks by outsourcing any difficult task outside of your expertise. Another is to allow yourself to grieve over any failure and then move out of that place, assess what went wrong, and determine how those lessons can be applied to future attempts. 7 — SELF-CONTROL

Successful people have the ability to delay gratification. Stanford psychologist Walter Mischel’s famous 1972 marshmallow experiment, demonstrated its importance from a young age. When young children were presented with the option of having one marshmallow now or waiting to get two, later on, those who acquiesced to temptation became less successful in life than their stronger peers. Notably, a newer marshmallow study showed just a small association between poor self-control and academic success in children. This link disappeared after controlling the child’s family and environment.7 Still, other research shows a strong correlation between delayed gratification and success, where settling for less in the short term can sabotage more significant gains in the long term. Like perseverance, self-control is also a trait that can be developed through practice. Other helpful behaviors include moving beyond one’s comfort zone and testing new avenues; listening to one’s inner voice instead of outside voices; always being honest, even if it means speaking unpopular viewpoints; taking responsibility for life’s outcomes, and recognizing and giving up personal defenses. QUALITIES OF SELF-ACTUALIZED PEOPLE

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self-fulfillment and growth. While many people are held in high regard for their material success, self-actualized people are doing all they are capable of, feel fulfilled and joyous, and view the world with wonder. Self-actualization is not a terminal state of arrival but a continual state of becoming. It is also not a state of perfection but simply reaching one’s potential—character flaws and all. All people are capable of reaching self-actualization, yet Maslow estimated only 2 percent of us actually achieve it.1 Based on his analysis of 18 prominent, selfactualized individuals, including Abraham Lincoln and Albert Einstein, Maslow identified a list of common traits: the ability to accept themselves and others as they are; being problem-versus selfcentered; spontaneity; a unique sense of humor; high creativity; the ability to view life objectively and tolerate uncertainty; enjoying deep relationships with several people; having peak experiences; a strong desire for privacy; being resistant to cultural norms; having a concern for humanity; being appreciative of life on a basic level, and having Democratic viewpoints with strong moral/ethical values.1 HELPING OTHERS TO SUCCEED

Success should involve reciprocity. Since we all share the same desire for personal fulfillment and relationships are central to success, experts say our desire to grow should be as great as our desire to help others grow, including strangers and expecting nothing in return. Giving unconditionally helps to fuel our passion and gives us a greater sense of purpose that can ultimately make us happier and more confident toward our success. This hypothesis is backed by science. A study in The Journal of Positive Psychology involving more than 400 people, were asked to rate how meaningful their lives were in relation to the frequency of altruistic pursuits, like volunteering Those who helped others the most felt the most meaning and purpose in their lives.8 As the song goes, “You get what you give.”H 1. McLeod, S. (2020, December 29). Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Simply Psychology. simply psychology.org/maslow.html#gsc.tab=0 2. Hoffeld Group. (n.d.). 3 Scientifically Proven Behaviors that Lead to Success. hoffeldgroup.com/3-scientifically-proven-behaviors-that-lead-to-success/ 3. Inc. (2018, July 10). What Science Tells Us about Success. inc.com/thehartford/what-science tells-us-about-success.html 4. Locke, E.A. & Latham, G.P. (2002). Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation: A 35-year odyssey. American Psychologist, 57(9), 705-17. psycnet.apa.org/ doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0003-066X.57.9.705 5. Dweck, C. (2016, January 13). What Having a “Growth Mindset” Actually means. Harvard Business Review. hbr.org/2016/01/what-having-a-growth-mindset-actually-means 6. Seligman, M.E., Steen, T.A., Park, N., & Peterson, C. (2005). Positive psychology progress: empirical validation of interventions. American Psychologist, 60(5), 410. 7. Watts, T.W., Duncan, G.J., & Quan, H. (2018). Revisiting the Marshmallow Test: A Conceptual Replication Investigating Links Between Early Delay of Gratification and Later Outcomes. Psychological Science, 29(7). journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797618761661 8. Van Tongeren, D., Green, J.D., Davis, D.E., Hook, J.N., & Hulsey, T.L. (2016). Prosociality enhances meaning in life. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 11(3). doi.org/10.1080/17439760.201 5.1048814

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rab legs for a birthday. Scallops for an anniversary. Salmon for when family is in town. Many people enjoy eating seafood at restaurants as it is a favorite choice for celebratory meals. However, when it comes to cooking seafood at home, it can be intimidating. Seafood—fish, and shellfish—is surprisingly simple to cook with a few tips and tricks. “Seafood is easy, delicious, and widely available, making it a great option for home cooks,” says Linda Cornish, president of Seafood Nutrition Partnership. “Whether it is shellfish or a fillet of your favorite fish variety, seafood makes any day special. Plus, you can feel good about enjoying immuneboosting food rich in vitamins A, B, and D, as well as omega3 fatty acids and minerals such as calcium, selenium, iron, zinc, and more.” To help kick up your confidence in the kitchen when cooking seafood, Seafood Nutrition Partnership and its partners from the Eat Seafood America! campaign, offer simple kitchen tips: The 10 minute rule: Measure the fish at its thickest point. 54 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

Cook it on medium-high (about 375˚ F) for 10 minutes per inch, turning halfway through the cooking time. That means a thin fish like sole or pollock, cooks in about four to five minutes, while a thicker salmon or tuna steak might be 15 minutes. Test for the flake: The best way to tell if fish is done is by testing it with a fork—insert it at an angle at the thickest point and twist gently. The fish will flake easily when it’s done, and will lose its translucent or raw appearance. Create foil packets: Foil makes cooking seafood and cleanup simple. Choose your seafood, such as shrimp or a piece of fish, and vegetables such as bell pepper, green beans, cherry tomatoes, or zucchini. Use a large piece of foil and layer fish on top of the veggies, season to taste, add a couple of lemon slices, and add a drizzle of oil before cooking in the oven, on the grill, or even campfire. Steam on the stovetop: Steaming is a popular way to cook shellfish due to its simplicity. Fill a deep pot with one to two inches of water, add wire rack and bring to a boil. Add seafood and cover to cook. Seafood like lobster, crab legs, and shrimp will turn pink or red when done, so look

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DIRECTIONS 1. Preheat oven to 400˚ F. 2. On a large sheet pan, place acorn squash, red onions, potatoes, and cauliflower. Salt and pepper to taste. Drizzle with olive oil. Stir to coat well and place in a single layer around the edges of the pan. 3. Add salmon to the sheet pan and spread with about half the pesto. for the bright color and then enjoy. Fill your freezer with seafood: Shop when it is on sale; it holds up well and gives you options when meal planning. Also, try adding a plateau de fruits de mer to favorite recipes or toss it into salads or pasta for an easy meal that is sustainable and planet-friendly. Cook once, eat twice: Try doubling recipes to get ahead on cooking and have a dinner or lunch ready for later in the week. Recipes that freeze well, such as chowder or gumbo, are great to double. Also, consider cooking an extra piece of fish to use on a salad or in a sandwich the next day. Explore grab-and-go options: Try pre-prepped seafood from your local grocery store; just bring home and heat. Instructions are typically on the package, but ask the pros at the seafood counter if you have questions. Try new recipes: You can enjoy restaurant-quality seafood dishes at home in a few simple steps. Be inspired with this recipe that can be updated with whatever fish fillets or veggies you have on hand. For a quick one-pan meal, choose vegetables and slice them to cook at about the same time as your fish. H

4. Roast at 400˚ F for 15-20 minutes depending on thickness, or until salmon is fork tender and fully cooked through. 5. Top with the remaining pesto and serve. For additional seafood recipes, visit seafoodnutrition.org.

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THE POWER OF DELAYED GR ATIFICATION BY ANDREW AARON, LICSW

elayed gratification is when a person decides to accept a reward or indulge in satisfaction at a future date or time. Successful people and partners have learned that it takes many personal attributes to achieve their goals; among the most important is the delay of gratification. This specific behavior or feeling, results from locating internal strength that allows them to delay a positive experience while producing 56 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

results—or in the simplest of terms— remaining restrained from acting, even though there may be a desire. Delaying gratification differs from stopping an action; often, it includes being patient while discomfort is endured and a desire remains unfulfilled. For many, this isn’t an easy task. The opposite of delayed gratification is impatience; this includes making impulsive choices or taking immediate action in personal relationships and business connections without longterm consideration. Impulsiveness to react can often destroy the fragility of these associations leading to unintended negative consequences. Conversely,

positive and healthy relationships are based on reliability, trust, and the ability to wait for a desired outcome. When these traits are missing from our interactions with others, uncomfortable distance between partners usually results. Generally speaking, people, more specifically partners, are not very patient; it is especially true when they feel pain or distress. If not armed with the strength to control emotions and impulses (that undermine the success of long-term goals), high-quality love and an enjoyable life will not be achieved. Strong emotions accompanied by a desire to push or pull away from promises and agreements, often replace both logic

and heartfelt emotions. Personal success is built on pride and admiration; these are accumulated benefits over a long duration of consistent efforts. The kindness, consideration, and openness, demonstrated over years and decades, builds a love relationship. Stability, trust, safety, and admiration, are made possible only if the partners possess the strength to delay gratification; otherwise, an intimate partner could be harmed by insensitivity and lack of consideration. To love another often means allowing the partner to be gratified first and choosing to delay personal satisfaction. Success in life comes from achieving long-

term goals made from small milestones that are attained during the process. Unfortunately, our impulses’ strength and the power of our fear can derail the intention of a long-term goal; failure to develop routines that harness the energy of habits inhibits the consistency needed for achieving these goals. A partner who loves inconsistently, with alternating patterns of closeness and avoidance, is hurtful; it takes consistent love built from putting aside doubt and fear to strengthen the love relationship. Love is not created by selfishness, or the accommodation of small innocuous desires felt each day. Instead, closeness develops by delaying

the gratification of these small wishes. The strength of patience and delayed gratification comes from tolerating the discomfort of living with unfulfilled desires. It is the accumulation of small success over time, fulfilling the notion that the longer you wait, the sweeter the result. All of what you dream is within your grasp if you possess the strength to wait. It is the way to love a partner; to satisfy their wishes without delaying their gratification; and is the ultimate goal. H Andrew Aaron, LICSW, is a sex and relationship therapist who practices in the New Bedford Seaport. NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 57

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Examining the Benefits of Self-Diagnosis on the Internet BY JAMES HOLDEN

or years, physicians and other healthcare professionals discouraged self-diagnosis; they claimed such action could prevent proper diagnosis, cause serious complications, even delay life-saving treatment. Yet, at one time or another, nearly everyone has flipped open their laptop or pulled out their phone to search the web to identify symptoms specific to their physical or psychological health. These same lay-medical investigators have also been known to Google keywords that would direct them to websites that have helped them better understand what ails their child, parent, or close friend. So, what are we to make of this juxtaposition? With every major medical center in the US and abroad amping up their online information portals with details of disease processes and lists of treatment options, Americans have become savvy about their healthcare—more than 58 | MAY 2021 | NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA

all prior generations together. During the last year, patients have not had easy access to hospitals or urgent care facilities; they were delegated to online medical appointments, which cause concern for those unfamiliar with the software and its utilization. In the beginning, there was some confusion. Still, as telemedicine access improved and patients became familiar with the process, many found comfort and convenience using their computers to manage their health. One would suspect that the more information a person has about their bodies and minds, the easier it would be to share it with their doctors and help with treatment protocols. Times have changed, and progress is being made, according to Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. In a research study (March 2021) titled, “A visit to ‘Dr. Google’ Makes Patients Better at Diagnosis,” a team of investigators found, “Patients made modest improvements in diagnosis accuracy and experienced no change in anxiety

Researchers concluded that while medical advice contraindicates patients searching the internet for a diagnosis, when they discovered what caused them discomfort, it made for more informed discussions about their condition with their doctors upon examination.

after conducting an internet search for symptoms.” Researchers concluded that while medical advice contraindicates patients searching the internet for a diagnosis, when they discovered what caused them discomfort, it made for more informed discussions about their condition with their doctors upon examination. As far as the thesis of patients suffering from induced anxiety (described as ‘cyberchondria’) resulting from online searches—this too was debunked. According to a press release, researchers from Brigham and Women’s Hospital, and Harvard Medical School’s Department of Health Care Policy, explored the impact internet searches have on patients’ abilities to reach a correct diagnosis. The research suggested the internet may not be so harmful after all. Participants across the board demonstrated modest improvements in reaching an accurate diagnosis after looking up symptoms on the internet. Participants additionally showed no difference in reported anxiety nor in triage abilities.

According to David Levine, MD, MPH, of the Division of General Internal Medicine & Primary Care at Brigham, internet research seems to have some benefits. “I have patients all the time, where the only reason they come into my office is because they Googled something and the internet said they have cancer. I wondered, is this all patients? How much cyberchondria is the internet creating?” The study included 5,000 participants; each was asked to read a short vignette describing a series of symptoms and imagine someone close to them experiencing these tell-tale signs. The subjects were then instructed to research the case symptoms on the internet, and upon their findings, offer a diagnosis. The test cases ranged from mild to severe but described illnesses that commonly affect people every day, such as viruses, heart attacks, and strokes. In addition to diagnosing the disease, participants were requested to select a triage level, ranging from “let the health issue get better on its own,” to “call 911.” Additionally, subjects were asked to record their anxiety levels during the experiment. In a follow-up, Levine and co-author Ateev Mehrota, MD, MPH, from Harvard Medical School, found people were slightly better at diagnosing their cases correctly after an internet search. Participants demonstrated no difference in their abilities to triage and reported no change in anxiety after using the internet. “Our work suggests that it is likely OK to tell our patients to Google it,” said Levine. “This starts to form evidence that there’s not a lot of harm in that, and in fact, there may be some good.” The study went on to add a disclaimer, “Authors note a limitation to this study; participants were asked to pretend as if a loved one was having the symptoms described by the case vignette. It isn’t completely clear that people would behave the same way upon experiencing symptoms themselves. Additionally, the authors note that this study is not representative of all people that use the internet for healthrelated searches.” Levine intends to expand the scope of the study through the use of artificial intelligence (AI). “This next study takes a generalized AI algorithm, trained on all of the open-source text of the internet such as Reddit and Twitter, and then uses that to respond when prompted,” said Levine. “Can AI supplement how people use the internet? Can it supplement how doctors use the internet? That’s what we’re interested in investigating.” Of course, there is no replacement for sound medical advice or emergency care, and personal health should not be adjudicated by hunting and pecking for answers. If you feel ill, you should always call your doctor or 911 for assistance. H Topic and research results are provided by Mass General Brigham, Boston, Massachusetts. NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 59

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America’s oldest organization dedicated to the sport and ownership of dogs. The Annual Dog Show—a confirmation of competition for purebred dogs and the Masters Agility Championship and Masters Obedience Championship— where dogs from all backgrounds are eligible to compete— make Westminster Week, with 3,000 dogs from the US and around the world, a unique in-person experience. The club offers the public an opportunity to engage with more than 200 breeds of dogs in New York City, and shares the chance for everyone to enhance, celebrate, and promote responsible dog ownership. H Event information will be continuously updated for the remainder of the year and is available at westminsterkennelclub.com.

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he Westminster Kennel Club has announced the return of their world-famous dog show and Master’s Agility Championship in January of 2022. Events will be held in New York City on January 22 and 24-26, 2022, with this year’s trials scheduled for June 11-13, 2021, at historic Lyndhurst; a National Trust for Historic Preservation property in Tarrytown, New York. A favored evening—hosted live—and extensively broadcast to both dog owners and those who love viewing their beloved breed; the Group and Best in Show competitions will return to Madison Square Garden on Tuesday, January 25, and Wednesday, January 26, 2022. Westminster Kennel Club was established in 1877 and is

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reen Animals Topiary Garden is an historic property, and jewel of the Preservation Society of Newport County, featuring more than 80 boxwood, privet, and yew plants, shaped like animals and other decorative forms. Green Animals is the oldest and most northern topiary garden in the US; in addition to the topiaries, which were begun in the early 20th century by an immigrant gardener from the Azores, the 7-acre property includes flower and vegetable gardens. In 2019, it was recognized by the American Daffodil Society as one of 28 official Daffodil Display Gardens in the country and one of only three in New England. The property features 16,000 daffodil bulbs in 42 varieties and other flower species that bloom at different times of the year. In a statement about the opening, Trudy Coxe, CEO and Executive Director of the Preservation Society said, “We believe Green Animals will be a popular place to visit, as it was last summer and fall because people are still looking for

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he Newport International Polo Series has announced the beginning of their 30th season, with a first match scheduled for June 5, 2021, featuring the USA vs. Switzerland. The polo grounds are located at Glen Farm, adjacent to Rt. 138 in Portsmith; minutes from Rhode Island’s famous beaches, surfers, tony boutiques and restaurants that line Thames Street, and the exclusive Bellevue Avenue, ‘cottages’ managed under the watchful eyes of the Newport County Preservation Society. During the Gilded Age, Newport was the playground for tycoons and a few notable robber barons, who, with their offspring, built magnificent homes. The grandeur of these American castles is proclaimed to have been inspired by competition with their European counterparts—there was never

outdoor activities during the pandemic…once again it will be part of our ‘Stroll the Gardens and Grounds’ ticket, which we introduced last year to allow people to enjoy the landscapes at all of our properties that are open.” H “Stroll the Gardens and Grounds” is an outdoors-only ticket that allows guests and members to picnic on the properties, with tickets available at NewportMansions.org.

an opportunity to complete left open. Over time, tennis, sailing, and polo became highly desirable activities for the idle rich; it allowed them conspicuous rank, an opportunity to socialize, and to remain relevant within their tightly held circles during “the season.” Today, polo is a favorite pastime for those who enjoy sitting back and watching players and their steeds gallop across an open field with the focus on driving a small ball into an opponent’s goal. It is also enjoyed for its social interests and activities; many enthusiasts will dress their best and drink champagne, while nibbling on summer snacks under the brim of wide hats, and behind dark sunglasses on a lazy Saturday afternoon. Regardless of the motivation, polo attracts people from all walks of life and provides a couple hours of relaxation during the summer months. H Visit nptpolo.com for more information. NEW ENGLAND NEWS + MEDIA | MAY 2021 | 65

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