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Welcome Welcome to the 2013-2014 edition of the North Carolina Pride Resource Guide. As you look through this guide during the year, remember our advertisers and sponsors. Every one of them has made a stand for equal rights for all in North Carolina. Spanning North Carolina, our 29th annual NC Pride Celebration is the oldest and largest Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgendered in our state. This guide is published once a year and distributed throughout the state during the year. All of the ads are mirrored on our four websites 24/7. To support and advertise, contact us at: info@ncpride.org.
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No LEGAL Equal Employment for LGBT Workers BAD NEWS According to a Federal law, lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders (LGBTs) are not protected against workplace discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation in the private sector. The proposed bill of Employment Non-Discrimination Act or ENDA, would put an end to this and provide everyone in the country with equal employment rights, regardless of sexual orientation. This law has been pushed in every single session in Congress since 1994. After 16 long years of fighting, it has been repeatedly denied due to certain hate-groups and evangelical/catholic groups that think making employment equal will lead to a slew of gay marriage in their neighborhood, leading (inevitably) to certain apocalypse. HOW LGBTs ARE AFFECTED ENDA would be a start, but it does not apply to small businesses, religious organizations and the military (more on this later), and does not require that domestic partner benefits be provided to the same-sex partners of employees. GOOD NEWS However, there’s still hope in the following states which currently prohibit sexual orientation discrimination in both public and private sectors, but federally it will be an uphill struggle. They are: California, Colorado, Connecticut, Hawaii, Illinois, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, Oregon, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington, and Wisconsin. The LGBT fight for justice is seeing a dim light at the end of the of the tunnel, as more than half of the U.S. currently battles to see LGBTs as human beings who also have rights. LGBTs continue to put extra effort into bringing this issue to justice. They’ve found that if LGBTs currently reside in states that do not protect them from workplace discrimination, they can still be protected by city and county ordinances, but the biggest step forward would still be ENDA.
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History of Pride On the sunny afternoon of April 12, 1981, a murder occurred at the Little River north of Durham. Two young men destroyed the idyllic and tranquil surroundings by attacking a group of people they thought were gay. While several in the group sustained injuries‌ the thugs proceeded down the creek and attacked another victim who happened to be handicapped without use of his legs. He was insulted, beaten and drowned. When the murderers were brought to trial, there was great fear that the court system would let them off or lightly punish due to the gay aspects of the case. A group of local gay men and lesbians banded together for the first public demonstration for gay civil rights in NC at the Durham Court House during the trial in 1982. Although several gay people who testified at the trial lost their jobs because of discrimination, the main perpetrator was found guilty of murder. In the years that followed, the activists were surprised at the number of people who stood up and were counted. They realized that our small closeted community had crossed over a threshold. In 1986, the second public demonstration for gay and lesbian rights was held on the campus of Duke University. The event that started as a gathering soon turned into a march and every year for the next 14 years, the NC Pride March would travel to a major city of our state to demonstrate and demand equal justice. Each year it got larger as more of our GLBT citizens gathered the courage to walk down unfriendly streets and each year those streets became less threatening. It must be said that in the heart of most North Carolinians is a deep and abiding sense of fair play and justice. As the march went forward, slowly the attitudes of the past began to change. In Durham where the first march had taken place, there were now many openly gay and gay-friendly businesses. However in 2000, our Pride March faced a crisis when the organizers fell into chaos six weeks before the June march. After all the years of struggle and after all the marches in Asheville, Charlotte, Carrboro, Durham, Raleigh, Winston Salem and Greensboro, it looked as though in the very year of the millennium there would be no march in NC. As the disappointment traveled through the local Durham community, a small but dedicated band of 12 people united to save the march. It was held in 90 degree June weather and a faithful crowd of 2000 marched. In the aftermath, that committee reformed and began to revamp the concepts of our march to fit the new century. It was decided that it would be moved to the Fall to take advantage of the weather and it was also decided that the model of moving the parade had become too difficult to manage. The new model would be based on the idea of many county fairs and a single state fair. Our statewide NC Pride parade and festival would stay in the capital and support other smaller Pride events around the state. In a way, it is interesting to note that after 14 years of marching, our march/parade has come home. The real feeling at the event is one of a homecoming, where friends from all across the state see each other once a year. Using this model, our event has become the largest LGBT event in NC and the surrounding five states. 6
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Our Own Little Castro! North Carolina is changing sometimes for the worse… and in special places for the better. Can you believe it? Some would say that there are the green tips of budding gay districts sprouting all around the state despite the loss on Amendment One. Durham’s Ninth Street is certainly in the lead with 8 gay owned businesses and over 50 gay friendly shops and restaurants in five blocks. Now as the construction equipment is moved away, we will soon have the wonderful new gay friendly Crescent Ninth Street luxury apartments. Built in the unique style of old Durham, with most modern amenities — the modern apartments are convenient to all of the businesses along the NC Pride Parade route. With them comes the new Harris Teeter complex and Hilton Garden Inn Hotel to be finished this year. We will soon have our own little Castro district just like San Francisco, where everyone can expand their circle of friends, and all of the nightlife, cafes and shops are just a step away.
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NCPride 5k Run After 10 years of holding a NC Pride 5K “Phantom” race, a group of volunteers have formed a new committee to add a “real” metered and marked 5K around Duke East Campus. This year NC Pride has announced its first real 5K run to be held on Saturday morning September 28th at Duke East Campus. Our sponsors for the run are: The Bar, Altered Image Hair Designers, Ad Spice and Bull City Running Company.
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The NCPride 5K Run will draw serious runners, walkers and supporters of the LGBT community from around the state. Categories for the run will be Open Male, Open Female, and Masters (over 50) for both Male and Female. The run will start at 8:30am, and a VIP convertible will carry the winners in the parade at 1pm. NC Pride Run hopes to promote awareness in the many diverse communities of North Carolina. Please join us each year in this latest opportunity within the festival weekend.
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Singing the Living Tradition Let us be at peace with our bodies and our minds. Let us return to ourselves and become wholly ourselves. Let us be aware of the source of being, common to us all and to all living things. Evoking the presence of the Great Compassion, let us fill our hearts with our own compassion— towards ourselves and towards all living beings. Let us pray that we ourselves cease to be the cause of suffering to each other. With humility, with awareness of the existence of life, and of the suffering that are going on around us, let us practice the establishment of peace in our hearts and on earth.
Thich Nhat Hanh – in Singing The Living Tradition – #505
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The Fall of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) In 1996 I wrote to President Bill Clinton. He was getting ready to sign into law the Defense of Marriage Act. The response I got was less than memorable. DOMA did two things: In section 2 of the law, it acknowledged states’ rights to ignore same sex marriages from other states. In section 3, it allowed the federal government to ignore same sex marriages in states where it was legal in relationship to any federal laws or programs, and for the purposes of the federal government defined marriage as between one man and one woman. On June 26th, 2013, the Supreme Court struck down section 3 of DOMA. The court upheld states’ right to determine who was legally married. The court determined that Section 3 of DOMA violated the Equal Protection clause of the Fifth Amendment. This August, Federal Health and Human Services announced one of the first impacts of the Supreme Court decision. Same sex couples now have the right to reside in the same skilled nursing home facility as their spouse. So what is the take-home message for those of us in North Carolina? Maybe it’s time to get married in a state that will let you. Now you may have federally mandated rights even if North Carolina doesn’t recognize our rights under state law. Most states that allow samesex marriages do not have residency requirements. So no excuses! Washington DC and Maryland are not that far away!
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Text by Dr. Ellen Cohen, Image by neontommy on flickr
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Burning in the Rain Someday compassion would demand I set myself free of my desire to recreate my father, indulge in my mother’s losses, strangle lovers with words, forcing them to confess for me and take the blame. Today was that day: I tossed them, sheet by sheet on the patio and gathered them into a pyre. I wanted to let them go in a blaze, tiny white dwarfs imploding beside the azaleas and ficus bushes, let them crackle, burst like winged seeds, let them smolder into gossamer embers— a thousand gray butterflies in the wind. Today was that day, but it rained, kept raining. Instead of fire, water—drops knocking on doors, wetting windows into mirrors reflecting me in the oaks. The garden walls and stones swelling into ghostlier shades of themselves, the wind chimes giggling in the storm, a coffee cup left overflowing with rain. Instead of burning, my pages turned into water lilies floating over puddles, then tiny white cliffs as the sun set, finally drying all night under the moon into papier-mâché souvenirs. Today the rain would not let their lives burn.
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Richard Blanco is a gay American poet This poem appeared in the December 29, 2011 issue of the magazine The New Republic. Photography by nicholas_t on flickr
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Do you hear the people sing Do you hear the people sing, singing the songs of working men? It is the music of a people who will not be slaves again. When the beating of your heart echoes the beating of the drums, there is a life about to start when tomorrow comes. Will you join in our crusade? Who will be strong and stand with me? Beyond the mass parade, is there a world you long to see? Then join in the fight that will give you the right to be equal and free.
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From the 1985 musical ‘Les Miserables’ written by Alain Boublil, ClaudeMichel Schonberg & Herbert Kretzmer, Image by bensonkua on flickr
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Bayard Rustin Fifty years ago last month our nation and its capitol experienced the largest gathering of humanity ever convened on the Mall: the 250,000 people of all races who comprised the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. Its chief organizer — who planned everything from airline, train, and bus arrivals; to porta-potties and parking; to the schedule of podium speakers — was Bayard Rustin, an openly gay man whose youthful political and sexual excesses forced him to remain in the background of the March. However, when Martin Luther King — who gave the ultimate “I Have A Dream” speech — was introduced as “the moral leader of the nation,” Rustin had contributed significantly to that morality. Raised as a Quaker, Rustin always espoused Gandhian tactics even in his work with the 1956 Montgomery Bus Boycott of which he wrote “I think it’s fair to say that Dr. King’s view of non-violent tactics was almost non-existent when the boycott began. In other words, Dr. King was permitting himself and his children and his home to be protected by guns.” Rustin persuaded King to abandon armed protection in all ways — insisting, for insistence, that security forces at the March carried no ammunition. On Augut 8, 2013, President Barack Obama posthumously awarded Rustin the Presidential Medal of Freedom. The citation stated “Bayard Rustin was an unyielding activist for civil rights, dignity, and equality for all. An adviser to the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., he promoted nonviolent resistance, participated in one of the first Freedom Rides, organized the 1965 March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, and fought tirelessly for marginalized communities at home and abroad. As an openly gay African American, Mr. Rustin stood at the intersection of several of the fights for equal rights.” Our nation is eternally grateful. Text by Dr. Paul Cravath, Artwork by meathead3, deviantart.com
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Why Should I Vote in the Elections? With all this talk of voting you might ask why you should bother to vote at all? Does your vote actually mean anything? Many call voting a “sacred right,” and it is one of the most important parts of our political system, a part that goes back to our earliest days as a nation. When he left the Constitutional Convention in 1787, Ben Franklin is said to have told a local citizen that the founders had given the nation a Republic, if we could keep it. By that, Franklin meant that as Americans it is our duty to keep up on what is going on politically, that we should arrive at an informed, logical position about what political ideas we support, and finally that we should be sure and vote our conscience on Election Day. Many today complain about politicians not listening to the public. Of course, if we do not bother to vote, our voice will not be heard by our elected officials in the first place. Our elected representatives are guided by what we say particularly when we vote. And if we don’t vote we are telling our politicians that we don’t care what they do, and that is a dangerous thing to tell them. If you want change, your first duty is to vote your conscience.
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Advertising Specialties Ad Spice Antiques Caroline Faison Antiques Replacements The Persian Carpet Whitehall at the Villa Athletic and Running Bull City Running Company
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Apartment Living Crescent Ninth Street Crescent Cameron Village
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Art Galleries and Frames Cary Gallery of Artists Old Sarum Gallery
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Attorneys Diane Walton Roebuck Law Auto Dealerships Capital Chrysler, Jeep, Dodge Banking Services PNC Bank Bars and Grills The Borough Pin Hook James Joyce Bookstores Malaprops
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Churches Jewish Yavneh Congregation Pilgrim UCC Church St. Philips Episcopal Church St. Francis of Assisi Unity Center of Peace UUCC Churches of NC
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Coffee Shops/Cafes Caffe Driade Hummingbird Bakery Mad Hatter Bakeshop & Café Malaprops Strawvalley Café Sugarland
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Clothing - Men’s Designer Bloke of Wilmington
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Consignment & Upscale Clothing Fifi’s Fine Apparel
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Convention/Visitors Bureaus Raleigh Chapel Hill / Orange County
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DJ Services/Music Stores OffBeat Music
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Finacial Planning and CPA Anthony Armento, CPA Triangle Financial Advisors
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Hotels/Motels Waterway Lodge King’s Daughters Inn Millennium Hotel Group O’Henry Hotel Proximity Hotel Double Tree by Hilton Durham
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Medical/Health Corporations GlaxoSmithKline
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Real Estate Michael Sullivan Palm Air Realty Tony Hall
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Restaurants Chapel Hill Restaurant Group Alivia’s Blu Seafood and Bar Blue Corn Café Breadmen’s Crooks Corner Dish Elmo’s Diner Empire Eats Green Valley Grill Hummingbird Bakery Indochine James Joyce Lucky 32 Mad Hatter Bakeshop & Café Margaret’s Cantina Metro 8 Steakhouse Nosh Pop’s Print Works Bistro Rue Cler Saladelia Sweet Potatoes Café Toast Watts Grocery
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Theaters - Stage - Performers Durham Performing Arts Center Cirque De Vol
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Wine Bars West End Wine Bar
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DoubleTree by Hilton Durham Sheraton Raleigh Hotel Sheraton Chapel Hill Holiday Inn of North Raleigh The King’s Daughters Inn Millennium Hotel Durham
919-941-6000 919-834-9900 919-968-4900 919-872-3500 919-354-7000 919-383-8575
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Hilton Homewood Suites of Asheville Hampton Inn Biltmore Square Asheville
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Hilton Charlotte City Center
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Hilton New Bern Riverfront
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O.Henry Hotel in Greensboro Holiday Inn Select in Winston Salem Clarion Greensboro Airport Hotel
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Hilton Riverside of Wilmington Waterway Lodge in Wrightsville Beach Palm Air Cottages Towne Place Suites of Wilmington
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