SpeakIT News Online Magazine - May '14

SPIRITUAL • PHYSICAL • EDUCATIONAL • MENTAL • FASHION • ENTERTAINMENT Vol 5. | 5/2014

TRUST YOUR VISION WITH JMH

WEALTH BUILDING

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Avery Sunshine Interview + Health Tips with BuffieTheBody Author’s Spotlight

LISA LOCKWOOD

Photo Credit © 2013 Dawgelene Sangster

may Welcome to the fifth volume of SpeakIT News an online magazine! We thank you for the overwhelming support of the first two issues! It is my desire to produce a monthly e-magazine that keeps you up to date with relevant and interesting topics to jump-start your mind, body and business! With experts from across the US, SpeakIT News welcomes new writers. If you have interest in contributing, please visit the contact us page on the website. We look forward to a fabulous month! --

SPIRITUAL The Power of a Positive Stable Mind: Time to Think by Nina Motivates Battle of the Two Wisdoms by: Lawrence Alexander PHYSICAL Interview + Health Tips with BuffieTheBody Get In Shape with Denise – Week 1 EDUCATIONAL Wealth Building 101 by: Jason C. Bell AJ’s Top Ten Business Tips for Start-Up AJ’s Top Ten Tips to Boost Workplace Morale fashion Interview with the Double Stitch Twins Fashion Tip 1 by: David “StylesbyDave” Fashion Tip 2 by: David “StylesbyDave”

Photograph by Nolen James

Entertainment Review of Being Maryjane I GET MY PURPOSE: An Intimate Interview with Avery Sunshine MENTAL Trust Your Vision by: Julie M. Holloway From Editor-in-Chief, AJ Is Procrastination Your Assasination? speak it author’s spotlight Lisa Lockwood, The Reinvention Expert charity corner Speak it news staff our sponsors Featured Advertisements Contributors www.mradamjackson.com www.speakitnews.com

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Spiritual

Battle of the Two Wisdoms by: Lawrence Alexander There are two wisdoms that exist in the world: the wisdom of Satan and the wisdom of God. Wisdom is not defined as a set of wise sayings; it is a set of value systems.

The wisdom of Satan is based upon force, violence, manipulation, intimidation, ambition, jealousy and anger. God’s wisdom is based on meekness, weakness and humility.

This is the daily battle for mankind, and especially the youth of today. Ephesians 6:12 tells us that our fight is not against flesh and blood but against demonic forces. Satan himself is behind the rage and violence in the earth and has us fighting and killing one another. He is the author of confusion and strife.

Our relationships and marriages are being destroyed because of our lack of understanding of this battle of these two wisdoms. We attribute our behavior to “This is how I am” or “I am a certain zodiac sign and we are known to act this way.” This deception is given from

Satan because, if we become born again, old things are passed away, behold all things become new.

The wisdom of Satan caters to the works of the flesh, our old nature (see Galatians 5:16-21 amp). The mass genocide upon this generation is due to a lack of knowledge of this battle.

Satan’s biggest deception has been to cause the world to believe that he doesn’t exist.wisdom-large-32 God’s wisdom says a soft answer turns away wrath; love your enemies; bless those that curse you; and pray for those who despitefully use you. Satan hates God and uses this deception upon man to have mankind destroy each other because man is made in the image of God. The best example of the battle of the two wisdoms can be found at Calvary when Jesus was on the Cross.

Hell and all its fury met heaven in all its weakness, meekness (God controlled strength) and humility. With these weapons, Jesus disarmed the power of the devil. These weapons simply make up God’s Character.

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When a thought comes to our mind that is based upon the wisdom of Satan, we should cast down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God and bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.

Revelation of this battle will bring the murder rate down and heal marriages and relationships, both personal and business, worldwide.

Jesus demonstrated by example that true power is having the ability to destroy but not doing so because He forgave His enemies. Jesus had the power to annihilate His enemies, but He knew that His battle was not against flesh and blood, but against demonic powers. As we have seen on the Cross, Jesus used the weapon of love to disarm the power of the devil (Colossians 2:15 amp).

I John 4:8 tells us that God is Love so the antidote to defeat the devil (hate) is Love (God). By the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross, He earned the right to transfer His spirit into the hearts of all that will believe and receive Him. If we become born again, we now can have God live in us. And that same wisdom that was used on the cross to disarm Satan can be used by us to destroy the wisdom of the devil!!

What value system (wisdom) do you live by?

Apostolic Reformers Ministries International ApostolicArmi@yahoo.com

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Mental

The Power of a Positive Stable Mind: Time to Think by: Nina Motivates

A thought is just as powerful as an act.

After all, is that not where actions come from? Is that not where your ideas, likes and dislikes come from? I am sure the answer is YES. All the above come from a simple thought in your mind. If everything you ultimately do comes from a thought in your mind, then your mind begins a powerful process of who you are. This makes it important to have a positive stable mind!

The thoughts you produce in your mind affect each and every part of you. Your mindset even affects your health. A fearful mind creates anxiety and stress, which also leads to illnesses. Fear of lack begins in the mind. Fear of failure also starts in the mind. If you can get a grip on your mindset, you can begin to become a healthier, happier YOU!

God created thoughts of the mind to be powerful. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love and of a sound mind.�

God knows that thoughts travel through our mind daily. Every second you can have a different thought. God wants those thoughts to be sound. We have to have stability in our thinking. When defining sound mind, I found that it means to have wholeness, calm, discipline and a healthy mind. That means fleeing from negativity, drama, doubt and stress.

A positive mindset leads you to speak positive things, which ultimately create a positive environment and positive actions. This decreases all the negative actions that were mentioned above.

Let me tell you a quick story about myself. A few years ago my mindset was lukewarm. I believed in God; said I loved God; but my mindset had me reacting in ways that were not Christ-like. I was living a lie. My mind was unstable and I was depressed and sick all the time.

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All because I had no power over my mind nor did I have positive thoughts.

It was not until late 2010 that I decided that I needed to renew my mind and find the sound mind God created in me. I left my relationship, apartment, furniture and mindset behind.

I started a new journey. Each day I grow and move closer to being as happy and healthy as I can be. I realize that I control the stability of my mind. I have the power to change my life by first changing my mind. I began to change my mind from negative thinking to positive expectations.

Tune in next time as we look at how having mental stability starts with deciding to want better.

For more of Nina Motivates visit me at www.ninamotivatesu.com.

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Physical

Interview with BuffieTheBod by: Buffie Bodynomics Carruth What motivated you to start Bodynomics?

There are not many African American women in the forefront of fitness, so I wanted to fill that void and show our sisters that you can exercise, be healthy, eat right and still have CURVES! Tell me about your new DVD, Bodynomics.

It’s an intense lower body workout specifically targeting the glutes and thighs. I start with a cardio session to warm-up the body. Then, I start the weight training session followed by a light stretch to cool the body back down. This DVD will help women to sculpt their thighs and plump their booties!

number one priority is how I want more black women to think. Most of us are still not taking our health seriously and it’s sad.

Which one of your Bodynomics workouts is your favorite? Why? Quadruped Hip Extensions. This exercise activates the gluteal muscles more than squats and it’s a lot less pressure on the knees and lower back.

What is the Bodynomics philosophy?

Why sacrifice your curves for health when you can have both?

What message do you want to send to women of color about their bodies and their health?

Stop being so concerned about our hair and focus more on our health. Most of us will never know how important our health is until we lose it.

Buffie's long armsWhat do you ultimately want to achieve as a health/fitness leader?

I want more women to become active.

Being active and making health our

Where do you see your company going in the future?

Offering online classes for women, fitness apparel and producing more fitness DVDs.

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What lessons have you learned from running your own business?

It’s not easy! It seems like I work 24/7. The good thing about this is that I’m working for myself and not anyone else. So, I don’t mind the long hours.

Finally a workout DVD by the CURVEOLOGIST herself, Buffie the Body!!!

Buffie coaches you rep by rep on how to sculpt the thighs and plump the booty!

Build and shape that lower buffybody that ALL WOMEN CRAVE! Included in this video is a heart-pumping cardio session followed by an intense glute, hamstrings and quadriceps weight training session.To cool the body and muscles down, Buffie takes you through a light stretching program. This is a DVD that EVERY WOMAN needs in her stash! *BONUS: Included with this DVD is a “Cuts-N-Curves” meal plan!* Time to GET RIGHT for 2014!! order here: www.bodynomics.com/shop *Mention this article on our Facebook or Instagram account and get a 25% discount!

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Physical

Get in Shape with Denise by: Denise Williams

As we began 2014, what was your New Year’s resolution? Was it to change you? Is it to get in shape? Is it to eat healthier?

Many people say they want to get in shape. They tell themselves, “I will go to the gym every day and get myself in order.” They go to the gym for a few weeks in the beginning of the year and then FALL OFF. They get discouraged after not seeing results within weeks, maybe months. Are you one of those people?

What stopped you from continuing your task that you set out to do in the beginning of the year? Let’s get started this year and never want to stop!

Your body will only go where your mind takes it. Don’t focus on the results; focus on the challenge to get the results. NO PAIN, NO GAIN! Week 1 – Getting started

Getting started can be a drag. We are mentally challenged with day-to-day obstacles, so adding fitness to the equation is something EXTRA in our day.

Mentally, you have to ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? Who am I doing this for?

What do I expect to gain from fitness?”

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The physical will be forthcoming but the RESULTS are the mental challenge.

First, you have to see yourself in a way that no one else sees you. What this means is, if people say, “You are not fat, why are you working out?” Ask yourself, “How do I see myself? Am I photodoing this for me or for them?” Once you’ve made the positive transition in your mind, it’s time to start your fitness engine.

Second, get to the location where you will work out. Not via transportation, but pushing yourself to go there. Don’t get discouraged as soon as you walk through the gym doors. Some people tend to walk into a gym – big or small – and feel out of place. The machines may look scary; working the treadmills may seem complicated; and the place may be crowded. Don’t let these things discourage you. Get in there and WORK OUT. Take your time and get to know the machines. Look at the small pictures and read the writings on the pictures. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Home workouts can also be fun. Set a dedicated time to exercise with minimum distractions. If you have children, sit them close by to watch because nothing makes you work harder than having your number one fans viewing. Listen to music that gets your workout pumping. Be sure to HAVE FUN!!!

Fitness doesn’t have to be boring. Challenge yourself and set goals. Never set limitations. The one thing you need to forget is that it is work. Yes, it will hurt. Yes, you will feel uncomfortable. But the outcome and results will be well worth the pain.

It’s called a workout because it requires effort, and without the effort it’s simply a copout.

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Educational Wealth Building 101 by: Jason C. Bell

Financial prosperity is a common theme at the beginning of the year..

Everyone wants to be more financially prosperous, and there is no shortage of experts to give financial advice. Most of these experts only offer up the same old warmed over financial medium_wealth_building2advice from last year. I’ve found that real wealth is often found in places contrary to popular belief. I would like to share a few of my wealth building observations.

Financial prosperity is created by your direct actions, which is through the work you do, or by investing. It’s always a blessing when you are passionate about the work you do. Passion makes whatever you’re selling, designing, cooking or shining become golden. For

example, I have a friend whose passion for shining shoes made him a millionaire.

Investing doesn’t require the same level of passion. However, adding passion to investing is like adding high yield fertilizer to your crop.

I love gardening in the summer. There is one truth about gardening: regardless of how well the land is tilled and fertilized, weeds will come. There are different varieties of weeds and each has to be dealt with separately.

Wealth building is like gardening. Racism, classism and other “isms” are discriminatory weeds that can adversely affect your harvest. The goal in gardening and in building wealth is to create environments that are conducive to producing the highest yields.

Therefore, I would encourage African Americans to create and support enterprises in their own communities.

With the advent of the Internet,

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community does not necessarily have to be geographically based.

I recently spent time with a very successful entrepreneur who has significant real estate and retail holdings throughout Chicago at one of his South Side project sites.

He was telling me about the amount of theft he has experienced. Specifically, he recalled how his work crew was held up at gun point in broad daylight by two young African Americans just a few days before our meeting. I asked him why he continued to invest on the South Side, which is predominately African American. He told me that he made more money on the South Side than anywhere else in the Chicago metropolitan area.

I was taken aback by this statement. However, his words were like smelling salt as I remembered the stories of Black Wall Street, a community in Oklahoma where African American’s made tremendous economic strides by simply investing in one another. Sadly, the weed of racism destroyed Black Wall Street in 1921.

It is my hope that you realize your financial goals this year. Be tenacious. Surround yourself with a positive support system. You can do it, but don’t forget to enjoy the ride.

Jason C. Bell is an attorney.

His practice focuses on Taxation, Real Estate and Housing. Mr. Bell can be reached at jcblawline@gmail.com.

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Educational

AJ’s Tips on New Business Start-Up by: Adam Jackson #1 – Research the business that you are considering. Everything that looks good, ain’t good. #2 – Make sure that you love what you are doing. In order to be successful at what you do, you must love it.

cost you greatly, example I want sign made with channel letters over my store front, (possible $5k and up) I need a sign ($800 up).

#3 – Make sure that you have enough money to start your business. Most businesses that are new start-up almost never have enough money to sustain, and they end up closing.

#7 – Create a business plan or at least an executive summary. Your car has a car manual correct? Then your business needs a business manual.

#4 – Have a marketing and advertising budget. 80% of most businesses failures in the beginning are due to lack of marketing and advertising.

#8 – Invest lots of sweat equity. We invest just a little, but real business owners know that investing is the only key to abundance; spend lots of time learning and educating yourself on your business.

#5 – Make sure that your business name has some form of relevance to your business. Example: Failed business names, LLO Inc., WHO IS THAT? And what is that? Good business name Michael’s Express Carpet Cleaning. #6 – Do only what’s important and what you need. You will find that your wants in the beginning of your business could

#9 – Make daily goals. Clearly if you have nothing that pushes you, then you could start slacking. #10 – Get to know EVERYBODY. Simply put, your net worth is your network.

Cheers! AJ

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Educational

AJ’s Tips on Boosting Workplace Morale by: Adam Jackson #1 – Pay attention to your customers.

They will give you the best advice for your business. #2 – Develop a respectable relationship with your employees. They will stick around longer. #3 – Make sure that your workers see you working. Do as I say and not as I do is really overrated. #4 – Always find a new method of marketing your business. Just simply think outside of the box as far as your marketing, “new” always excites employees. #5 – Don’t elevate yourself. Give the employees the credit.

#8 – If you don’t have a vision for your business create one. Having a vision puts you and the employees on the same page with the future of your business. #9 – Get your employees input. Your employees run your business; when you are not there they are, and your employees communicate with your customers as well, and probably more than you. #10 – Have health competitions in the workplace. There’s nothing wrong with a little competition, it keeps everyone on their feet. Enjoy! AJ

#6 – Always acknowledge and show gratitude to your employees. Boosting employee’s morale is a plus. #7 – Always act calm under pressure.

Remember employees are watching you, and will react mostly how you react.

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Fashion

Interview with the Double Stitch Twins

Q: Who are ” The Double Stitch Twins” and what does that mean?

A: The Double Stitch Twins are, by the simplest definition, crochet artists. But the entire concept of the Double Stitch Twins, involves the concept of “doing what you love and sharing what you do.”

This means that we share our crochet collection with those that appreciate and want to wear our items. We share our written pattern designs with other crocheters that would like to duplicate our designs and we share our personalities with those that may be inspired by our journey as entrepreneurs.

Q: What make the Double Stitch Twins different from other crochet designers?

A: We believe that our background as dancers, models and hairstylists contributes to the performance element of our designs. Simply put, we view each piece that we create as being ON STAGE with its own audience and message for the viewers. This unique point of view seems to set our designs apart and

many of our followers proclaim that they recognize our designs before they even see the Double Stitch Twins logo!

Q: What are some other “non crochet” interests do the Double Stitch Twins have?

A: We are products of a wonderful family that has always wanted the best for us.

However, they often asked us, “When are you two gonna get a Real JOB?” This leads us to realize that we were born with the entrepreneurial spirit and we greatly value sharing our story with youth, to expose them to the possibility of being your own boss. DS Twins Les Nubians2 We have always been independent contractors as dance/aerobics instructors, hair stylists and commercial print models and we used the skills that we acquired as independent contractors to help us to form our business model for the Double Stitch Twins.

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This way, our company model can encompass any and all of our personal and professional interests.

Q: What do you see for the future of the Double Stitch Twins?

A: In our third crochet pattern book, The Crochet Fashionista’s Workshop, we actually shared a recipe and we plan to incorporate more of our fitness tips and healthy recipes in 2014. Next, we plan to share more of our designs, patterns, personalities and journey via television. So, look for us on the big screen soon! Pretty much, WORLDWIDE DOMINATION!!!!!

Erika and Monika Simmons, the Double Stitch Twins Official Website www.doublestitchtwins.com Check out our crochet pattern books! www.doublestitchtwins.com/books Photo Credit: The image titled “twins laughing” was photographed by Chelcie S. Porter of Chelcie S. Porter Photography (www.chelciesporter.net) and the image titled “DS Twins Les Nubians” was photographed by Eric Joseph (https://www.facebook.com/EricJosephMediaGroup).

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Fashion

Fashion Tip 1: Tonal Dressing by: David “StylesByDave”

The trend for this season for men would be TONAL DRESSING (the ability to wear an ensemble head to toe using one color in an array of hues i.e. blue) When it comes to tonal dressing, blue is without a doubt one of the easiest colors to combine. Most of us have already got a wardrobe full of sky blue, cobalt and navy – so you should be able to create a variety of stylish ensembles using your existing pieces. This is an easy way to wear something already in your closet and bring it to life.

Example below: Connect w/ David “StylesByDave” Instagram @ STYLESBYDAVE Twitter @ STYLESBYDAVE Facebook @ David Stylesbydave Email: Dnorth1108@gmail.com

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Fashion

Fashion Tip 2: How to Wear Plaid by: David “StylesByDave” I’ve always been a fan of plaid but some men are intimidated by it’s complex nature and don’t really know what or how to pair plaid with their existing wardrobe. Well here is a tip I have for men in regards to how to wear plaid correctly. I’m still down with plaid tailoring, but with a little more attitude.

Whether it’s a window pane, exploded plaid or Prince of Wales check, why not experiment with a slightly bolder pattern this season? Remember to chose something with a neutral base (like navy, grey or brown) in order to allow the pattern to become the focal of your outfit. Then pair it with classic versatile pieces like a white dress shirt, black grenadine tie and burgundy dress boots.

Example below:

Connect w/ David “StylesByDave” Instagram @ STYLESBYDAVE Twitter @ STYLESBYDAVE Facebook @ David Stylesbydave Email: Dnorth1108@gmail.com

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Mental

Trust Your Vision by: Julie M. Holloway

Between the age of 8 and 34, I had a dream; however I was holding myself captive of my own calling! One of my dreams as a child was to become an “artist” and for many years, I just wasn’t sure how to get there. In 2011 I merely existed as a cubicle chick sitting in a position as an executive assistant yet again. It was the 8th company that I worked for in a banner45677vd16-year span.

As I sat at work one day in a deliberate and frantic quest for inspiration to get me through, something clicked inside. An alarm went off. It shook me to the core and told me that it was my time. It was time to UNLEASH the entrepreneur within and become the “artist” that I always wanted to be. I quit my job six weeks later and started my graphic arts business full-time.

I have a pretty good running list of “things I wish I knew two years ago” but these four mantras are what truly keep me motivated to this day: Start small, but dream BIG and define

your mission – entrepreneurs are BIG dreamers; they dream wide awake and while asleep. Because our clocks never stop, it’s important to plan and accomplish things in baby steps.

Trust your vision – there will be so many ups and downs during the course of running your business. Be encouraged, be strong and be smart. Do not let anyone or anything get in the way of your vision. Trust it, and live in it every single day giving it your all.

Elevate your company’s brand and remain consistent – one of my colleagues talks about brand love. Do not settle for being just another “small business” be the business with a rock star mentality and that includes providing rock star service 100% of the time to all clients!

Create. Plan. Elevate. Repeat. – as an entrepreneur we are always creating. It’s great to create, but it’s very important to continuously work on your overall plan for your business. A vision without a plan is not a plan at all. Next, it’s so

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important to elevate. When you get into a groove, you often become comfortable.

The only way out of that comfortable plateau is to elevate! Now put this theory on repeat, so that you are constantly growing and expanding your reach.

Embrace Mental Clarity – It’s So Necessary!

Learn to live, learn to let go and learn to operate in your own excellence. There is nothing more important than proving to yourself that you can do it. Forget everyone else; forget the haters and the naysayers forget those who think they are doing it better than you. Make it happen and continue to push when you feel the pull! Keep your mind focused on the positive as there is no room for negativity!

My signature quote that encompasses the experiences that I have encountered in my first two years as a full-time entrepreneur is “Half the battle of being an entrepreneur, is loving the battle of being an entrepreneur.”

Let’s Connect! www.tewyou.com / www.jmhcre8ive.com

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From Editor-In-Chief, AJ Is Procrastination Your Assassination? by: Adam Jackson

Are you are a procrastinator?

If you hesitated before you answered the question, chances are you are a procrastinator.

If you have been losing weight for five years and haven’t lost a pound, chances are you are a procrastinator.

Here are a few more clues that you might be a procrastinator: If you still have Thanksgiving decorations up in your house, chances are you are a procrastinator.

Had Thomas Edison procrastinated in 1879, there is a possibility that we could be sitting in darkness today. What if the light bulb had never been invented; what would the world be like today? This world is perfected by inventions.

Therefore, if Thomas Edison had not invented the light bulb, then John Holmes would not had been able to create the light switch.

If you pay your bills when the red notice comes, chances are you are a procrastinator.

If you always put off work or personal assignments and never complete them when you are supposed to, chances are you are a procrastinator.

If your decision making process turns into a thinking sabbatical, chances are you are a procrastinator.

If you are ALWAYS late for events, chances are you are a procrastinator.

That is not okay!

Did you know that procrastination is the assassination of the motivation that will stop you from reaching your destination?

Suppose you are the Thomas Edison of your time, and you are procrastinating.

There are people waiting for you right now and you don’t even know it. You could be one of the game changers.

Here’s food for thought. If you were to die today, all of those un-done tasks and

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opportunities will die with you. Don’t let procrastination stop you from reaching your destination.

Life is about implementation: the process, the decisions, the planning, the purpose, the reasons and the changes.

To stop your assassination, all you have to do is implement. Start today; RIGHT NOW! Why right now? Because you will continue to procrastinate. The only way that you will ever be able to move forward is to arm yourself with the proper tools for your journey. I will provide this and more in my new work booklet, The Secret Guide to Implementation, which will be released on February 1, 2014. This hands-on guide will cover self-reflection, perspective, spirituality, success building, leadership building, wealth building, and relationship building, all from my book, Speak It! Receive It! Achieve It!

When are you going to start?

RIGHT NOW! Make no more excuses. Excuses are like nails used to build a house of failure. Life is what you make of it so stop allowing life to make you. Take the claws out of the hammer and pull out the nails of excuses. Your current actuality is your reality; what you are experiencing is not the outcome. Do not concentrate on your failures because the ghost of your past has that under control already. Babe Ruth hit 714 home runs, and he missed thousands; however, you never hear about the misses.

What’s funny is that he was actually better at losing than winning.

At this point the only way to lose is to NOT implement. Start today, right away. If you can speak it, you will receive it and you will achieve it.

Come on and say this with me: “Implementation assassinates procrastination.” If you just simply start the things that you talk about, you would be well on your way.

Take care and God bless,

Adam C. Jackson Editor-in-Chief

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Entertainment

Review of BET’s Mary Jane Paul by: Nolen James Mary Jane Paul is the female character on the self-titled BET show, Being Mary Jane. The show presents a glimpse into a successful and very single, black woman’s plight of aberrant family woes and her quest for meaningful love.

Strong overtones of unwed sex and relationship disjunction is paraded across the screen as the reality of getting older and the sting of being successful and single ring louder than her iPhone, which is Mary Jane’s constant nag to be compromised and invited to exchange her body for moments of fleeting bliss or her money for seemingly gentle and less emotional hostility from the family she openly enables with financial support. One can look at the life of Mary Jane Paul and say that she deserves more than invitations for consensual sex, which seem to pour in only after 10pm or the obvious contempt dished out by her family at every interaction. However, experiencing her current life seems to be disconnected from what she wants.

spots she seems to sense in her view and unaware of their fullness or how to illuminate the spotty darkness. How can a successful newswoman who drives a four-door Porsche and lives in an upscale neighborhood have blind spots?

Most people have blind spots, but instead of getting an understanding that would lead to better decisions, most learn to cope with blind spots.

While I cannot claim to be a person without blind spots, I can shed some light on why Mary Jane Paul’s singleness may be just the right prescription for her. Some women who are like Mary Jane Paul find comfort in the chase of big goals and accomplishing them. It is a great thing.

The problem is when that type of woman strips away what seem to be non-essential elements as they travel on the road to success. One of the seemingly non-essential elements of this type of woman is emotional intimacy. I am not talking about sex. Emotional intimacy is not required for most women to climb the ladder of success. In fact, it can be a liability when trying to run with the big Mary Jane Paul seems to want marriage dogs. This is not to say that women and have kids, but there are a few blinds who disconnect their daily functions May 2014 | SpeakItNews.com

from their heart of emotions cannot be successful and married. This is to say that emotional intimacy usually does not make the cut with the other highly demanding personal skills deemed necessary for success.

Mary Jane Paul is single and coping. She has climbed the ladder, but found herself wanting to be satisfied in a deep space within where the arms of titles, money and sex cannot reach. Being single may be good for her because it may cause her to search for answers to the self-nagging questions that bubble up when being successful and still single.

Singleness can be a beautiful thing just as dating or marriage can be. It is a personal choice to live in either state. Let me get to the point.

Women like Mary Jane Paul know how to set goals and reach them with certain efficiency. Mary Jane Paul is currently blind to her exact miss-step away from emotional intimacy as she secretly harbors the effect of being emotionally disconnected. However, Mary Jane Paul has an ace up her sleeve. Remember that goal-setting ability mentioned earlier? Yes. This is the ability to set priorities and do an inventory of current and future state. The steps in-between are filled with emotions among other useful things.

We have all heard that women are emotional. Men are too. Emotions are necessary especially when not being used to manipulate, but to indicate an opportunity to care or make adjustments. At times, Mary Jane Paul stops short of feeling deep, emotional connectedness and medicates herself with activities that perpetuate the cycle of being stumped by this blind spot. Emotional intimacy is hard to achieve when trust is not present. Let’s agree that trust is found at the source of a thing or given based on valued information. It is possible that Mary Jane Paul will discover that walking through the door of trusting herself can emotionally connect her from within. Like many successful and accomplished people, Mary Jane Paul has been invited to rethink and renew her mind to live a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

However, it is up to each individual to use the best version of self to discover and align the functions of their life with the desires of their heart. In other words, Mary Jane needs to be honest with her personal boundaries, trust herself, and deal with correcting the alignment between the emotional desires of her heart and her activities in life. She would benefit herself by syncing her words with the thoughts in her heart and her actions with her desires. One without the other can leave a very intelligent person with blind spots and emotionally fragmented.

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Spiritual

I GET MY PURPOSE: An Intimate Interview with Avery Sunshine by: Dawglene Sangster f you ask fans what they think about Avery Sunshine, most would say that she is an “amazing entertainer” and very “down to earth”. Those comments haven’t come without some knowledge of pain and success that she has experienced. On a recent visit to Chicago, Avery Sunshine sat down with Lifestyle Coaching Strategist, Celebrity Blogger and Speaker, Dawgelene “Dr Dawj” Sangster, to chat about her “calling” to serve others and why she is truly grateful.

The Interview Dawgelene: How does it make you feel to know that you have a positive impact on so many lives?

Avery: (Chuckles) “Wow. The first feeling is unworthy and then gratefulness. I am worthy and I know that God put me here for a reason. I finally get it even though it has taken me a long time to realize just how worthy I am. My aunt told my mom when I was a girl that I

was going to be a preacher and she used to call me “preacher girl”. I ran from that label for a long time; but I am no longer running from my calling that God has on my life. I am a different type of “preacher” and I AM worthy of the calling God has on my life to touch so many other lives in a positive way.

Dawgelene: What are some things you are grateful for?

Avery: I am so grateful for the reminders in my life to confirm, affirm and validate what I am suppose to be doing and my purpose.

I get those from my partner Dana, my children and others that tell me to keep doing what I am doing and making a difference in the lives of others. It’s a shame that we often believe the negative before the positive; the lie before the truth; but I am reminded daily that I am one of God’s angels called for a purpose.

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I use my calling to remind others to keep pressing forward no matter what you are going through. It doesn’t matter what your situation is, God can and will use you if you allow him to because you are here for a reason, and you do have purpose.

Dawgelene: What are your final thoughts on purpose?

Avery: I have been talking to my partner about writing a song. I told him that it isn’t always about what a person says to you when you are around, but I swear its about what people are saying about you when you are not around. In thinking about that purpose, I have to ask, what type of life are you living and what are people saying about it/you when you are NOT around them?

Dawgelene “Dr Dawj” Sangster is a Lifestyle Coaching Strategist, Celebrity Blogger, and Speaker who focuses empowering others to think, live and inspire change from within, and then lead others towards positive change. Catch her at www.drdawj.com or @dawgelene on Twitter.

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Author Spotlight

Lisa Lockwood The Reinvention Expert Entrepreneur-Career Consultant Speaker-Author Lisa Lockwood is a real-life superhero, inspirational speaker, author, National Media Contributor & reinvention expert.

With charisma, drive and eternal optimism, Lisa has dedicated her life to reinvention. She has been enjoying the media success of her published memoir, Undercover Angel: From Beauty Queen to SWAT Team. Her memoir serves as a reminder to readers that they too can get past a life destined for failure by remaining upbeat and optimistic. Lisa’s enigmatic path serves as an inspirational example of how she successfully combined optimism and reinvention to reach unparalleled heights.

Lisa is now dedicating her life to teaching people how they can reinvent themselves with the power of determination and perseverance.

Each time a major shift happens in your life, leaving a job or a relationship, moving or losing a loved one you have to take control of your life or risk never reaching your full potential.

When you ultimately decide to make a change in your lives, you are motivated to do it by either pain or pleasure. When I work with my clients, my goal is to discover how much leverage they’re able to put upon themselves by asking a few questions. When it’s revealed that their motivated by either pain or pleasure, I then begin the process of associating them with their primary motivating trigger or button.

I’ve discovered that motivation through pain covers a larger percentage of the population than pleasure.

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I’ve further discovered that people who are more motivated by pleasure, i.e.; giving themselves a reward for accomplishing their goal, are people who have already had great success in their lives. These people are now simply looking for new ways to enhance their success by giving themselves more cherries on top of their already abundant sundae.

“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”

M. Scott Peck Nobody changes without pain. Comfort or mediocrity creates longevity. What if you knew that something you are doing daily is creating a disaster or success in your future and decided to do something about it?

Would you agree that your obsession determines your habits? Entertain this; achievers do daily what losers do occasionally. Where do you fit into this equation? Now we all have set-backs. Even achievers are occasionally derailed, but the difference between the achievers and the people living in mediocre land is that the achievers get back on track a hell of a lot faster.

Reinventing YOU: The 10 Best Ways to Launch Your Dream Career Autographed Pre-order: http://www.lisalockwood.com/the-book/reinventing-you-pre-order/ Autographed Memoir: http://www.lisalockwood.com/the-book/ Undercover Angel From Beauty Queen to SWAT Team…a true story Millions of people have seen Lisa on ABC, NBC, FOX Business News, CNN, CNBC, HLN & CBC Canada. Her expertise has been featured on Steve Harvey, Donny Deutsch, Nancy Grace & Jane Velez-Mitchell.

Profiled in Forbes.com, More.com, Chicago SunTimes & Tribune.

Interviewed on more than 300 radio shows.

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