The Journey May 2009 by Suzy Childers

May 2009

Inspiring Woman

Jill Gerland

Inspiring Young Woman

Girls Group American Association Of University Women

Renya Santana

Relationships A Woman After Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Own Heart

At Home Outdoor Furniture

Your Wallet Consignment

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Contents

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Your Home At Home: Outdoor Furniture 10 Landmarks: The Bailey Home 12 Homestead: Rental House 12 In the Kitchen: Grilling 14 Simple Solutions: Economize and Organize 16 Landscaping: The Perfect Perennial 17 Your community Giving Back: Pineywoods Makeover Reveal 19 Angelina County Chamber of Commerce 21 Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce 23 Calendar 25 Places and Faces 27 Features Inspiring Young Woman: Reyna Santana 33 Inspiring Woman: Jill Gerland 35 Your Life Hall of Fame Hubbies 39 Pretty Babies 40 Parenting: OTC Drug Abuse 41 Wedding Day: Emily and Brian Beene 42 Girls Group: American Association of University Women 44 Relationships: A Woman After Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Own Heart46 Your Body Fitness 101: Return Those Unused Calories 48 Fashion & Beauty 50 Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Health: Laser Hair Removal 52 YoUr Resource The Review 54 Journey Market 55 Business Spotlight Merle Norman 56 Education with Emily Fun Ideas for Summer 57 Wallet Consignment 59 Parting Advice 60

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Welcome First of all—HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all Mothers!

Mothers are placed in someone’s life for a reason we may

There is bond between mothers regardless of what country

never know. I wanted to share a time that really stands out to

you live in, your socioeconomic status, or your age; a mother

me. Last summer, I took the kids swimming by myself for the

is always a mother. We share that bond we all felt carrying our

first time as an official mother of “three”. I was already really

baby in the womb, the heartbreak we feel when our babies cry,

nervous. Brodie was only nine months old, and Bosten (3)

or the feeling we get when we kiss them goodbye. Whether

and Brynn (2) were still really needy in the water. We entered

your baby is 4 months, 14, or 40—they are always your baby.

the pool grounds with me pushing Brodie in a stroller, floats

From the day my first child was born, I have heard,

on both my arms, the swimbag filled to the brim in one arm—

“enjoy it while you can; it goes by so quickly.” A piece of me

and we were set! We were in a baby pool, so it was not as bad

understands that because with every passing year, I think to

as I am making it sound. It is just that feeling of worry that

myself, “where did the time go?” Then there is another piece

something could go wrong and you only have two hands and

of me at the end of a long day of picking up the same baby

three children. You may not remember, but last May and

doll, filling up another sippy cup, washing and wiping hands,

June was filled with unexpected and sudden rains. The days

changing clothes, putting on pj’s, and laying the kids down to

would be beautiful sunshine, then BAM! Rainstorm! Well,

sleep, that realizes—oh, I didn’t even brush my teeth, change

on my adventuresome outing with my three children, guess

clothes, shower, or eat today! That piece of me wonders if will

what? Yes-- BAM! Rainstorm! I thought to myself, “You have

these days ever end? I go back to all the words of wisdom from

got to be kidding me!” I immediately began loading Brodie

those who have already passed this stage, “enjoy it while you

up in the stroller, Brynn and Bosten were crying, and it was

can; it goes by so quickly.” I wouldn’t trade the toys and sippy

chaos! I was initially thankful we had the big beach towels;

cups or missed showers and meals for anything.

but soon realized that once they were wet, they feel 100

I stumbled across the title of a book that really solidified

pounds each. The kids were freezing because they jumped

my thoughts on motherhood. The book was titled, “A Jewel in

out of the pool and their towels are soaking wet, and they

His Crown.” It hit me like a ton of bricks. Yes, someone cares.

were still screaming; all the while I was trying to load up all

God does. He has given us a special treasure that belongs to

the pool toys and bags and get the floats back on my arms. I

Him. We have one of the most important roles that can ever

looked up and all the sweet little moms of one and lifeguards

be given. Yes, you might get a hug and kiss from the kiddos

were covered under the pavilion watching us. Then one mom

(which I might say does make a crazy day much better) and

came out, picked up Brynn, and ran her under the pavilion.

even kind words of appreciation from your husband (which

Then she came back for Bosten. What a lifesaver and an angel.

makes a crazy day GREAT!), but the most important piece of

She knows who she is and to this day I am so grateful. We all

our day is knowing that we are “A Jewel in His Crown.” Our

finally made it to safety and waited until the rain slowed down

reward is neither now nor here.

enough to get loaded up and HEAD HOME!

Even with all my free time from missed showers, I still

The point of this story is that was one day that I will never

have not had a chance to read the book. I am very anxious

forget. Mainly because I am probably the only person in

to read it because the parts I flipped through are wonderful

history soaking wet in the middle of a rainstorm from sweat,

words of encouragement for mothers, women, friends, your

but also because the kindness of the mother and friend who

role as an aunt or family member, a businesswoman, and the

helped me really means a lot. As mothers we relate. We have

list goes on. In her book, author Priscilla Evans Shirer says,

a secret language. Sometimes you do not have to say anything

“In our lives the Lord blesses us by placing different people in

at all to help another mother, to let her know you care, to let

different seasons to give us what we need at those particular

her know she is loved by God.

times. He uses their weaknesses and strengths to remind us of what He expects of us.” Stephanie oliver president & editor

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News

Stephanie Oliver

T H E J O U R N E Y I S G R OWING! Are you talented and want to join The Journey team? We are currently looking for the perfect fit for these positions: Managing Editor, Staff Writers, Account Executives for Lufkin and Nacogdoches, Administrative Assistant, and Photographers. If you are interested in any of these positions, please send your resume to editor@tjmag.com

N ew Loc ations The Journey is now distributed to more locations around East Texas. You can now find us in Pineland, Etoile, and Center. If you would like copies distributed to your office or your city—let us know! Call 936.635.7369

P r e s i d e n t a n d E d i to r

Michelle Briley d i r e c to r o f s a l e s

Kirstie Huddleston graphic designer

Lisa crow

e v e n t p h oto g r a p h e r

woodie hicks

e v e n t p h oto g r a p h e r

allyson langston c o p y e d i to r

P rojec t B ox Once you read this month’s Inspiring Woman feature, you will be moved by Jill Gerland’s story. She has a passion for her ministry and we want to give back what we can. You can drop off purse Kleenex or small hand lotions at any Huntington

Susan childers web designer

ashley Dermakardijian s ta f f w r i t e r

State Bank location. Empty Arms gives all the moms through their ministry a care basket and these are some of the items they include. The Project Box will be at the Nacogdoches branch and the main branch in Lufkin, but if you take your items to any Huntington State Bank location, they will collect your items. This will be a great way to let women know The Journey readers care for them. Thank you again for being so willing to help our fellow neighbors. Questions Send an email to projectbox@tjmag.com.

The Journey is a free monthly publication. All submissions are welcome. We do not assume any responsibility for publications or return of materials, and reserve the right to edit or reject any material contributed. All advertisements and editorials submitted by persons and/or a business assume all responsibility that the submission does not infringe on any third party’s rights and title, including all copyrights and/ or releases. Copyright The Journey 2008. All Rights Reserved.

Contributors Dr. Kim Archer Rivers Carr C a r o l i n e H u r st Anna Lee Samie Montes E m i ly Pa r k s T R e a l S o i l e au C h a r l a Spa r k s C rysta l W i l l i a m s

Distrubution Ja n e t G lov e r lu f k i n l i sa H a n n a h n aco g d o c h e s C h r i s sy l av i o l e t t e l i v i n g sto n Cade mcdonald Crockett m o l i n da s m i t h s a n au g u st i n e Helen Williams Pineland Kari Spurgeon Wo d e n a n d E to i l e

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Director’s Chair Retail Therapy Yes, this really is a coined term! I am so happy to finally be have an actual name for something I knew existed all along. I have been telling my husband for years that shopping is not just my excuse to get out of the house

“Retail therapy is shopping with the primary purpose of improving the buyer’s mood or disposition.” - Wikipedia -

and spend moneyit me

honestly

helps

relieve

stress.

However, he has never quite understood my reasoning as he says shopping has the total opposite effect for him. (Men!) Well ladies, we now have an actual definition to validate

For those of us who enjoy the pleasures of the whole

ourselves. Wikipedia says, “Retail therapy is shopping with

shopping experience, shopping is therapy. Our advertisers

the primary purpose of improving the buyer’s mood or

would love to be a part of your “therapy sessions”. The Journey

disposition.” And what husband wouldn’t love for their wife

is honored to have such a wide variety of advertisers featured

to come home in wonderful mood?

in the magazine. This month we have even added “Journey Market” as an outlet for small, home-based businesses to

Personally, I think it is good to occasionally reward or

advertise. As you read through the issue this month, please

affirm yourself with a purchase. (Honey, don’t roll your

take a minute to notice the businesses who make The

eyes. We can discuss the definition of “occasionally” later.)

Journey possible each month. You may be surprised at all the

Shopping can mean different things to different people at

wonderful resources we have right here in East Texas. Let’s

different times. We go to the store to fill basic needs: food,

take advantage of those resources and relieve some stress at

shelter, and clothing. We also go to feel better about ourselves

the same time.

by doing something concrete: buying the perfect outfit that helps us display a professional image and ace a job interview; selecting that special card so we can connect with family and friends; or purchasing a vacation that will help restore our sanity and overall wellness.

Your personal retail therapist,

Michelle

Michelle Briley Director of Sales

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Wisteria Hideaway bed and breakfast Lufkin, Texas Photo by Lisa Crow

Your Home

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At Home

Outdoor Furniture | Words by Samie Montes

This month I want to focus on helping you find information

example, many outdoor tables and chairs have holes or slits

and advice about furniture for the outdoors. There are many

so that water will not build up and wind can blow through.

types and differences. This article will help you narrow down

This design is usually not incorporated for indoor furniture.

your choices and decide what is best for your way of outdoor

Another important difference is in the use of material.

living.

Outdoor furniture is usually made of material that will resist

Indoor furniture cannot be used outdoors due to the

corrosion and decay from the weather. These materials can

elements of the weather. Therefore, outdoor furniture

be metal, plastic, or some durable woods. Garden furniture,

is especially designed for the outdoors. The two main

also called patio furniture, is a type of furniture specifically

differences between outdoor and indoor furniture is in design

designed for outdoor use. It is typically made of weather

and material. The design of outdoor furniture is typically

resistant materials like cedar, teak, wicker, wrought iron,

simple, with particular attention to weather resistance. For

aluminum, or stainless steel.

1 . W i c k er Natural wicker furniture is made from rattan, a tropical climbing palm, or bamboo, a large tropical grass. By contrast, all weather wickers are woven from resin, a synthetic material that can be formed into narrow, vine-like pieces that look like natural materials.

2. Steel & Alu minu m Steel and aluminum won’t warp or come unglued, and aluminum offers the advantage of being rust-proof. Aluminum is a lightweight and easily molded metal that will not rust. It was first used in the early 1960’s, when it was made from extruded, hollow-core tubing. These pieces are very lightweight and portable and are mainly used for lawn furniture.

3. Ceda r Cedar outdoor furniture has a natural resistance to rotting, cracking, and warping, leaving just the natural beauty of the wood. Cedar is also resistant to fungus, so the only color properties of this outdoor furniture will be the natural weathering of the wood to a silvery gray.

4 . T ea k Teak outdoor furniture is one of the most attractive, weather resistant, and longest lasting type of outdoor furniture available. On top of that, it’s almost maintenance free and made from a renewable resource.

5 . W rought iron Wrought iron furniture is an elegant yet affordable way to liven up your deck and patio area. Wrought iron has been used for centuries in furniture and decorating.

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1. Light-Up Mom’s Life

Whether you are redecorating an entire room or simply trying to give an older room a facelift, do not make the common mistake of overlooking your lamps. Lighting is crucial in the overall ambience you achieve when you are finished. Too many times, we find our clients relying on ceiling light as their primary light source, when the truth is, that is normally the worst light of all. Ceiling light casts harsh shadows and does not highlight the richness of the colors in your fabrics, rugs and accessories. So, never attempt a make-over without analyzing your lighting. Lamps are going to make or break your room. You can spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on redecorating and if you use old or outdated lamps, or worse yet, no lamps at all, you virtually waste your time and money. Too many times, lamps are an afterthought. When you buy a new outfit, don’t you also buy new shoes? C’mon now, let’s be honest! Well, lamps are the same thing, only for your home. Julie does a magnificent job of selecting lamps for our store. I have always marveled at her ability to find these great looks time and time again. Then, I realized that she puts as much importance on the shade as on the lamp itself. A bad shade can kill a beautiful lamp while a great shade can make a bad lamp look pretty good. Amazing! So the point is this, when you are looking for the perfect lamp, be sure it has the perfect shade. The shade will set the mood of the room by its shape, its color and the amount of light it lets escape. This Mother’s Day, when you are looking for something original and meaningful, put a little light in her life with a new lamp (or two) for her room. It is something Mom will enjoy for many years to come. We can help you find the perfect lamp. It’s what we do.

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landmarks The bailey’s house

For most people, there is a special feeling when you think

project that we said we would never do!” Paula exclaimed.

back to your childhood home. When thinking about your

This was a huge family effort and not a simple task. They

home, you often close your eyes and think back to those

started tearing down sheetrock and pulling up carpet in 2003.

carefree days when you were young or special memories

The family completely took the house down to the subflooring

Before

After

shared with your siblings. For Paula Allen Bailey, that is what

and 2x4 studs. Before a contractor could even come in, there

this project was all about.

was a lot of work to be done; most, if not all, was done by Paula

In 1950, Paula’s parents, Frances and Elbert Allen built

and her three extremely dedicated, hardworking children.

their family home. The total cost for the project was $2000.

Everyone around her knew how important this home was to

As the family grew, the home grew. The home started as a two

her and wanted to help. “I know my husband said we could

bedroom, two bath home. The Allens raised four children in

take on this huge project because he knew what it meant

the home: Johnny Wayne, David Keith,

to me and how important it was. John

Jerry Gene, and Paula Ann.

David is a great husband.” It took the

Then in 1978, Mrs. Frances Allen

Baileys five years from beginning to

passed away; it was Paula’s senior year

end to reconstruct a new home. Paula

in high school. Paula said, “I really tried

says, “We had three children and were

to think of ways to update or remodel

supporting two in college. We would save

the home. The whole family kept the

a little and complete another portion of

tradition of Sunday lunch together.” A

the home. Save a little more, and work on

couple years later, Paula married, andm

another piece.”

eventually, her father moved out of the home, as well. The

Most importantly, Paula is now back in her childhood

house became a rent house for eighteen years. “We had some

home. She says that she sits back and thinks, “I am finally

good renters and there were some bad,” said Bailey.

here.” Everything about it brings her back to her childhood

Twenty-nine years after moving out of her family home,

days. It is on the same land, so it all looks very reminiscent of

Paula and John David Bailey have settled back in. They looked

days gone by. “I look out and think, ‘there is where my swing

at trying to remodel the home twenty years ago, but once they

set used to be. That is where my brothers and I would play.’”

saw the electrical wiring, along with many other unthinkable projects ahead, they decided they would build another home. “Now twenty-two years later, here we are working on the

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Homestead

How to Buy Your First Rental House | Words by T Real Soileau It is easy if you have a few thousand dollars to put down.

Another step is to create signs that say, “I buy houses any

When I started in the rental business, I got my first property

shape, form, or fashion”. Put these out if your local authorities

with a package deal. It was two trailers and a duplex. The

allow you to. The next step on how to buy your first rental

duplex only had the top occupied and the bottom was not

property would be to put in a bid. I usually try to get property

livable. I fixed the bottom of the duplex and made it a four

at about 35% below market value. This is possible for people

unit property(two trailers and a duplex). Now it brings in

that absolutely need to get out of their properties. When it

about $800-900 per month. Not bad for starting out!

comes to negotiation, one of the best tricks to say is, “This is

The first step is to do research and keep an open eye for

all I can afford.” It works wonders. Now you want to get the bank to believe in your product(the product is you and your deal). If the house will pay for itself, then the bank will gladly do it. I have a strong relationship with my bank. So when I walk in, they know I bring business and good business. Those are a few steps on how to buy your first rental property!

TLS is an investor, business builder, and infopreneur. He has 20 rental units, 2 businesses, and still in his twenties. For more of his financial freedom techniques visits two of his websites. opportunities. It is also believing that you can do it without any objections, excuses, or letting any obstacle get in your

business-online-start.com investment-in-rental-property.net

way. If you put your mind to it, you can do it. The next step is to find your property. There are a lot of websites that want to help you to do this. It is very affordable (and free most of the time).

Article Source: ezinearticles.com/?expert=T_Real_Soileau

How do you buy your first rental property? After you find about 10 different properties, you want to go look at them. I go and look at them by myself before talking to the dealer or owner. I look under the house for termite damage. I also look in the windows to see what the inside looks like. Another method of finding a good deal is to look for houses that do not have the yard kept up and look like no one lives in them. The next step is to take the leap of faith and make a decision. I always recommend multi-unit buildings because if you have someone that leaves, you still have income coming with several renters.

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In the Kitchen

Tis the season for Grilling | Words by Anna Lee

May is full of outdoor fun and activities…. baseball,

Roasts and steaks - 145°.

softball and soccer games, golf tournaments, Memorial Day

Poultry and hotdogs - 165°.

weekend, and graduations. It’s time to find the grill, clean

Ground meat and pork -160°.

the racks, and start planning those outdoor grilling menus.

Fish - 145° or until the flesh is opaque and separates easily with a fork.

Although grilling can be a fun and relaxing activity, we need

Leftovers - 165°.

to make sure that the food we are preparing will be safe and enjoyable for everyone to eat.

Remember to refrigerate perishable foods quickly. Perishable and prepared foods should be refrigerated or

Warm weather is the prime time to get out and enjoy

frozen within 2 hours or sooner. If the temperature where

cooking in the outdoors, but warm weather also provides

the foods are being prepared/served is 90° or higher, the food

prime temperatures for bacteria to grow, which causes food

items will need to be refrigerated or frozen within 1 hour.

borne illnesses. A few simple guidelines for grilling food safely are provided by the United States Department of

For more information on proper food handling procedures

Agriculture Meat and Poultry Hotline and Texas AgriLife

outdoors and indoors, please contact your County Extension

Extension:

Agent or visit www.foodsafety.gov, fcs.tamu.edu, or www.fsis. usda.gov/Food_Safety_Education

Wash hands and food surfaces often when working with foods, especially meat, poultry, and seafood. The outdoor “chef” and other kitchen helpers should make sure that they wash their hands with warm soapy water before and after handling foods. Also, wash cutting boards, utensils, and

Grilled Salmon with Key Lime Butter Recipe from The Deen Brothers of Food Network

dishes with warm soapy water before and after preparing raw and cooked meat, poultry, and seafood. Remember to wash

5 Tbsp unsalted butter

hands and surfaces between preparing different food items

2 Tbsp key lime juice

(this avoids cross-contamination).

Salt and pepper

Other cross-contamination suggestions – keep raw foods (ex: uncooked meat) separate from ready-to-eat foods (ex:

4 (6-oz.) salmon filets Cooked pasta or rice

lettuce and pickles); always use a clean plate or platter for cooked meat, poultry, and seafood food items.

Prepare grill by lightly oiling grill grate over medium-high heat.

When thawing foods, the safest method is to thaw in the refrigerator. Microwaving is another safe method for

In a small saucepan, melt butter and add lime juice. Salt and

thawing foods, but the food item must be cooked as soon as

pepper the salmon filets modestly on both sides. Place filets

thawing is complete.

onto grill, brush half of lime butter over salmon. Grill salmon

Be sure to cook meat, poultry, and seafood to the proper

for 2 to 3 minutes per side for medium-rare. Drizzle remaining

internal temperatures. Use a clean food thermometer to

lime butter over salmon before serving. Serve with pasta or

measure the internal temperature of the food item. To

rice.

measure temperature, insert thermometer into the center part of the meat or poultry (not touching any bone).

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Grilled Italian Vegetables 1 red bell pepper, sliced 1 green bell pepper, sliced 1 yellow bell pepper, sliced 1 onion, sliced 1/2 cup parmesan cheese Italian dressing Spray grill plate with nonstick cooking spray. Place sliced vegetables on grill plate. Set grill plate on grill and cook over medium-high heat for 8-10 minutes or until slightly tender. Once vegetables are done, transfer them into serving bowl. Sprinkle parmesan cheese over vegetables and mix. Pour Italian dressing over vegetables and stir until all vegetables have a light coating of dressing.

Guacamole Hamburgers 1 1/2 lbs ground lean chuck 1 (2-oz.) piece Monterey Jack cheese, cut into 4 cubes 4 tsp. finely chopped pickled jalapenos Guacamole (see below) 4 hamburger buns Divide chuck into 4 pieces and shape into balls. Take your thumb and make an indention in the middle of each ball. Fill each indention with 1 cube of cheese and 1 tsp of jalapenos. Form the meat around the cheese and pepper to form a burger patty. Season with salt and pepper. Grill patties until done. Remove from grill and place on hamburger buns. Top meat with guacamole. Guacamole recipe: 1 avocado 2 1/2tsp lemon juice 1/3 cup diced tomato 3 Tbsp. minced onion 1/4 tsp. ground cumin 2 Tbsp. chopped fresh cilantro Combine all ingredients.

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Simple Solutions Economize and Organize

Victoria Pericon is a family lifestyle expert who appears on national morning shows as Savvy Mommy. She has some tips to help you S-T-O-P and take a different approach to organizing and economizing your household this year.

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Swap Stories (And Clothes) - If a trip to the mall isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t in the budget, organize a â&#x20AC;&#x153;Frock Swapâ&#x20AC;? with your friends to exchange the clothes that their kids have outgrown for new-to-you outfits for yours.

Toss it (in the recycling bin) â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Instead of throwing away old papers, magazines and mail, reduce the clutter by recycling it. If your area doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t offer a recycling program, but your employer does, bag up your paper items and take them to work to toss them. Organize â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Drawer organizers work wonders for corralling smaller items. If your family runs through batteries, consider buying rechargeable batteries. A good charger will keep them all together, preferebly one which charges a combination of sizes and is actually stylish enough to sit out on a desk or counter.

Purge Unused Toys â&#x20AC;&#x201C; As your kids get older, the number of neglected toys can really pile up. Resale shops are a great option. Or you can donate to a local charity or childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s center.

Article courtesy of Family Features

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Landscaping

The Perfect Perennial | Words by Rivers Carr

Top 10 Reasons the Daylily is the Perfect Perennial

1. 2.

Suitable for all types of Landscapes Available in a wide range of colors, shapes and sizes

3. Can be planted anytime of the year in the south 4. Able to survive with very little care 5. Adapts to different soils and light conditions 6. Blooms from late spring to fall 7. Able to tolerate drought when necessary 8. Very few diseases and pests in most gardens 9. They multiply, multiply, multiply 10. Daylilies will add color to your garden for years to come

Tips Courtesy of Lillie Luâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Garden 580 Landrum Rd. Lufkin, TX

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Giving Back Pineywood makeover reveal

On the night of the reveal, Lynne Thorne still had an element of surprise waiting for all her guests. Lynne was radiant and full of excitement when she was “revealed” on April 25 to a crowded room at Shelly’s Bakery. Lynne says, “I am happy and sad about tonight. Happy because the night has finally arrived and I get to share it with my family. But I am sad because I will not see everyone who has helped me through this process.” Lynne’s mother came from Maryland to share the special night with her. Most of the Dream Team came to welcome Lynne inside the bakery. Lynne is overwhelmed by their generosity, but Dr. Robert Lehman said, “It was our honor to take this journey with you and thank you for allowing us to walk along side you.” After a few remarks from Dr. Robert Lehman, Mrs. Kathy McGough read a proclamation from the mayor declaring it Lynne Thorne day. Also sharing the evening with Lynne were the past two makeover winners: the first winner, Rene White, and last year’s recipient, Terri Thompson Sayler. They looked just as radiant as Lynne. You can see they still have the same joy and smile on their faces as they did on their special night. The first makeover winner, Rene White, is still doing great and is still very excited about her “new self.” She works very hard to maintain what has been given to her. Since her reveal, she has dropped three dress sizes. Rene wants to keep it up the momentum. She plans on joining clogging lessons in the coming weeks. Last year’s makeover recipient, Terri Thompson- Sayler, says, “The hardest part is keeping everything up, mainly working out. Not because I don’t want to, but because it is hard to always work it into my schedule.” Terri looks as beautiful from the night she was revealed. She said that making that time to workout has paid off and it is always worth it in the end. “The best part about post makeover was when I was there when Lynne had her temporary dentures put in. That was really special to share that moment with her because it was a turning point for Lynne.” All three of the ladies are so thrilled to have gone through this experience; and extremely grateful to the professionals who helped them Lynne Before

along the way.

Lynne After

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/ Your Com m u n i ty Attend

our

Free

seminAr

“Rested & Refreshed” with Mary Jones, RRT, RSPGT Memorial Sleep Center

Giving Back “Picture Perfect”

with Thomas Duncan, MD - East Texas Eye Associates

Continued

Images by Becki - Photography The Paper Castle - Scrapbooking

Let’s Go Travel Vacation and Travel

Wednesday, May 27, 2009 Noon – 1:00 p.m. Medical Staff Meeting Room Lunch provided

Seating is Limited RSVP to Melissa Wheeler at 936.631.3099 or melissa.wheeler@memorialhealth.org

Lufkin

Livingston

San Augustine

Memorial Specialty Hospital

Visit us online at memorialhealth.org

If you are interested in the 2009 Pineywoods Makeover, the Dreamteam is accepting applications now through July 31st. For more information, contact Lehmann Eye Center 936-569-8278 or pick up an ap22 / The Journey - May 2009

plication from any member of the Dreamteam.

Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Leadership Lufkin Leadership

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citizens

that

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improving

our

community and are qualified to help a community

reach

its

Class

goals.

members are exposed to

many

volunteer

opportunities throughout the year and are encouraged to “graduate into leadership” instead of graduating from leadership. It is also about growth— growth in leadership and teamwork skills, and growth in both personal and professional self.

Leadership Tomorrow Leadership Tomorrow was developed for high school juniors and is hosted by the Chamber. The program mirrors the Leadership Lufkin program. Students in the program have the opportunity to learn about Angelina County firsthand and to explore opportunities that exist for their futures in this area.

Volunteers joined forces to Keep Angelina County Beautiful. The Don’t Mess with Off

Texas was

April learn

Trash

held 2009.

Angelina

on To

about

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contact

Amanda Anderson at 936-63CLEAN

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Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Upcoming Events

Recent Ribbon Cuttings

May 5-6 Angelina County Science & Tech Fair George H. Henderson, Jr. Exposition Center – (936) 634-6644 This annual event allows 6th-12th graders to compete in science and technology-related competitions. Competitions

The Center For Sight Thursday, March 26th

include Catapult, Eggonaut Rocket, Egg-Car-Go, Eggstraction, Invention, and Life Science.

May 13 Annual Expo Anniversary Party George H. Henderson, Jr. Exposition Center – (936) 637-3976

East Texas Professional Community Credit Union Thursday, March 26th

This Party is an annual event that raises funds necessary for the maintenance and upkeep of the Expo Center. The evening’s activities include a reception, gun raffle, bucket raffle, silent auction, live auction, and steak dinner.

June 6

Affinity Center Wednesday, April 1st.

Neches River Rendezvous Neches River – (936) 634-6305 Held each summer, the Neches River Rendezvous is a scenic 10mile trip down the Neches River. It’s a family-oriented canoe trip complete with shuttle service and a hamburger lunch. Registered participants enjoy a lunch and receive an official Neches River

Lufkin Cash Now Wednesday, April 15th

Rendezvous t-shirt. We invite you to come experience the beauty, challenge, and pleasure of the Neches River!

Walgreens Thursday, April 9th

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NACOGDOCHES County Chamber of Commerce Tastiest festival in Texas

Leadership class ready to graduate

The 20th Annual

The

Texas

Blueberry

2008Leadership

Festival, presented

Nacogdoches

class

Brookshire

members began the

Brothers, is from

program in September

8 a.m. to 4 p.m.,

2008 with a two-day

Saturday,

retreat at Piney Woods

13,

June historic

Conservation in

Nacogdoches.

month since then, they

Admission

have attended full-day

free,

and

Broaddus.

Center

d o w n t o w n

Every

Keep

meeting sessions and

Nacogdoches

explored a different area of Nacogdoches County including

Beautiful

makes

city and county government; public and higher education;

the festival a litter-

public safety; healthcare; and community services for people

free event.

with disabilities. For a state government session, the class

Start your day with hot blueberry pancakes made right

traveled to Austin for a three-day trip and met with Senator

before your eyes. Wander further to enjoy more than 100

Robert Nichols, Representative Wayne Christian, and other

arts, crafts and food booths, and other treats for the eyes

elected officials and state agency representatives.

including the Deja Blue Classic car show, a collection of

After the Community Services for People with Disabilities

historic photos, and Honda Goldwing motorcycles. Climb

session led by Kathy Strong and Nancy Jones Berry,

aboard a shuttle for a free ride to The Blueberry Place to pick

class member Sharon Brewer said, “Every month I think

your own berries fresh from the bush.

Leadership can’t get any better and every month it does!

Tons of fresh, sweet blueberries from Hayter’s Mill Creek

Yesterday was very enlightening, inspiring, and humbling. I

Farm will be available at the festival. Watch pets of all kinds

don’t think I will ever forget it.”

dressed in their finest blues while tapping your toes to live

Before the graduation ceremony on May 14 at Hotel

music on three stages. Compete in blueberry pie eating

Fredonia, the class will unveil their finished class project -

contests, horse shoes and washer tourneys, a 42 tourney and

the renovation of the Nacogdoches County Senior Center

a children’s costume contest. The Bob Murphey Storytelling

recreation and media room.

contest is back, and Brookshire Brothers will judge the best

“The Nacogdoches Senior Center is a terrific resource for

blueberry pies in the nation.

our community, and our class is working to raise awareness

For the younger crowd, a giant inflatable bounce park, the

of the programs and enhance the services provided to area

Too Blue Petting Zoo with pony rides, and the Big Blue Mural

seniors,” said class member Michele Peck. “Class fundraising

will be waiting for the kids.

efforts have netted generous donations from supporters in Nacogdoches and Lufkin, and we’re excited to provide a

For more information visit:

www.texasblueberryfestival.com

new popcorn machine and create an updated entertainment space for the Center.”

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NACOGDOCHES County Chamber of Commerce May Ribbon Cuttings: 3:30 p.m., Thursday, May 7 Edward Jones â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Heather Harris 1105 N. University Dr., Ste. 103 Heather Harris, financial advisor, (936) 564-2327. New business location. Open house: from 3 to 7 p.m.

11:45 a.m., Friday, May 8 Nacogdoches County Senior Services Center Leadership Nacogdoches class project 621 Harris St.

11:30 a.m., Tuesday, May 12 Main Street Salon & Spa 4909 North St., Ste. 208 Julie Daniel, owner, (936) 715-0050. New business location.

10:30 a.m., Friday, May 15 Posados Cafe 1315 North St. Cedia Vaught, general manager, (936) 560-2940.

4:30 p.m., Thursday, May 28 Nirvaana Medispa 3500 North St. Ste. 2 Kavita Vyas, MD, (936) 559-9100. Tour new business during the Open House from 4 to 7 p.m. and enjoy refreshing beverages and hors dâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;oeuvres.

Visit Us on the web The Nacogdoches County Chamber Web site is also a great place to find a community event online calendar (submit your events, too), links to the Shop Nac First and NacBlog sites and more! Visit: www.nacogdoches.org 26 / The Journey - May 2009

May 2009 Calendar of Events 5-6

through the generosity of EAA member volunteers.

This is an annual event for students in grades 6-12 in Angelina

Diboll 936-225-0422 or pilot@consolidated.net

Angelina County Science & Tech Fair County to compete in various science and technology related events. There is no charge to participate or attend this event. May 5th will be the day students check-in their projects. May 6th will be competition day. www.angelinascienceandtech.

Angelina County Airport 830 Airport Road (off Highway 59)

Dr. Bill Shelton’s Totally Awesome Fishing Adventure Registration is $200 per team (one or two man teams). Every fisherman registered will be in a drawing for a bass

com

boat donated by Bass Pro Shops. Official tournament time

3pm). Tournament will take place at Cassels Boykin Park.

Senior Citizens Carnival 11:30-2:30. Huntington First Baptist Church. 702 N. Main

is 6am-3pm (teams must be in weigh-in line no later than Trailering is allowed. Cassels Boykin South from Lufkin on Hwy. 69, East on Texas 147 from Zavalla, go four miles on FM

Street, 936.422.4311.

3123, turn left. More info contact Lindsey Mott: 936-639-

National Day of Prayer

The City of Lufkin along with local churches will be hosting the National Day of Prayer Ceremony in the Lufkin City Hall Atrium beginning at noon on Thursday, May 7, 2009. Lufkin City Hall Atrium Lance Moore. Contact: 936-633-

7613 or LMott@memorialhealth.org

Bed and Breakfast Tour Celebrate Nacogdoches’ Colorful History, 8:30 a.m. - 1:30 p.m. Tours start at the Visitors Center, 200 E. Main. $15

0297 or lmoore@cityoflufkin.com

reservation deadline May 7. 1-888-OLDEST-TOWN

Meets the second Friday of every month at 7pm at Jubilee

Activities will begin at 6:30 p.m. with a reception and

Unison Christian Singles Christian Center, 1801 Durst St. in Nacogdoches. This is not a dating service, this is a place for Christian singles to fellowship with other Christian singles in the area. (No children please, no daycare provided) We can be contacted

26th Annual Expo Party silent auction. The silent auction will continue until 7:30 p.m. when the steak dinner begins. The night’s events will also include door prizes, raffles, and silent, along with live auctions. The Expo Anniversary Party is an annual event,

at UNISONHeb@aol.com

with proceeds going to the maintenance and upkeep of the

8-9

6644 or lmatthews@lufkintexas.org

Sandyland Bluegrass Reunion Nacogdoches, 936-569-1179

Fajita Fly In Aircraft pilots from all over the area fly in to Angelina County Airport to visit with friends and eat fajitas for a $5.00

Exposition Center. Contact Lyndee Matthews. 936-634-

16-17

Trade Days, Dawn to Dusk Loop 224

SFA Spring Graduation

donation. Young Eagle Flights are also hosted at this time. These flights are offered free of charge and are made possible

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Calendar of Events Continued

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Baskins Dept Store

Presented by Lamp-Lite Theatre. 2 p.m.,

Great American Bake Sale

“Be My Baby” Old Tyler Road and Loop 224. 936-564-

Farmer’s Market 8 a.m., 107 Pearl Street. 8th Annual Garden Tour

8300

Pine Knot Music Co-op.

8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Gardens of Louise & Jeff

8:00 p.m., Millard’s Crossing, 6020 N.

Amidon, Mary & Andrew Moore, Cyndi and

Street.

Steve Kullback, Diana and John Kristynik, Kandee & Tim Allen. Tickets are $15.00 per person and available at: Cyndi’s Visual Images, 1018 W. Frank, Savvy the Agency, 317 E. Frank or by calling (936) 637-3233 Proceeds benefit Louis Bronaugh Park (Spirit of America Garden located behind City Hall ) *Many Thanks to our 2009 Garden Tour Sponsors Lufkin Industries & Morrison Supply

Farmer’s Market 8:00 a.m., 107 Pearl Street

Memorial Day

Women’s Power Lunch Memorial Health System of East Texas. Medical

Staff

Meeting

Room.

Lunch

“Be My Baby”

provided. Topic - “Rested and Refreshed”

Presented by Lamp-Lite Theatre. 2 p.m.,

Speakers - Memorial Sleep Lab - Mary

Old Tyler Road and Loop 224. 936-564-

Jones, RRT, RSPGT - Pam McGilvra - travel.

8300

Contact: Melissa Wheeler 936-632-6784, or

Wet-n-Wild Whistle Time The Texas Forestry Museum invites all

melissa.wheeler@memorialhealth.org

June 1-5 ECO CAMP

Kids’ Club members to attend our Wet -N-

Angelina Beautiful/Clean will once again

Wild Whistle Time Party. Everyone will

bring ECO CAMP to the children in our

have an opportunity to get wet and have fun

area. This week is a great way to promote

while we wash the Texas Forestry Museum’s

environmental awareness. ECO CAMP

Train. If you are not a Kids’ Club member,

2009 will be held from 9 a.m. to 12 noon at

you may come and join at the event. Yearly

the First Presbyterian Church on Janeway.

memberships are only $5.00. Contact David

Children ages 4 years old to 4th grade will

Young 936.632.9535 or info@treetexas.com

learn about litter prevention, recycling, and beautification. Contact Amanda Anderson 936 634-6644 aanderson@lufkintexas.org

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places and faces Nacogdoches County Agriculture Appreciation Banquet March 31, 2009

Ashley Gonzales, Joshua Moore, Brittany Logan

Kyle Compton, Anna Lavrent, Dr. Baker Pattillo, Todd Staples, Clay Cooper, Lane Jacobs

Eddie Melasky, Doris Melasky, Todd Staples Steve Melasky, Stan Melasky

John Boyette, Todd Staples, Cheryl Boyette

Lynnelle McElroy, Barry Hughes, Tom Havard, Todd Staples, Brent Hughes, Randy Lowery

Dr. Dale Perritt and Todd Staples

Hotel Fredonia Nacogdoches, Texas

Junior League of Lufkin Spring Market April 24-25, 2009 Bob Sitton and Louie Gohmert

Karen Tucker and Kelly Daniel

Nicki Ashby

Cindy Neal

Studio 319

Evonne Nerren, Rebecca Allen, Mert Pate, Stacy Lucas

Civic Center Lufkin, Texas

Gloria McDonald and Brenda Redder

Brenda Sullivan

Sue Gagliaredi and Amy Jo Roland

LeReigh Mason, Melissa Mason, Cyndi Ricks

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April 22-25, 2009 George H. Henderson Expo Center Lufkin, Texas

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Diva Night April 1, 2009

VFW Hall Livingston, Texas Rogene Pedigo and Friend

Karen Gibbs, Peggy Officer, Jan Selman Teresa Hopson, Diana Balderas

Beverly Miller

Sydney Murphy and Teressa Langston

Karen Gibbs, Peggy Officer, Jan Selman Teresa Hopson, Diana Balderas

Dr. Richard Ruckman and Deborah Ruckman

Ciao Bella Day Spa

Lori Wright, Connie Byron Linda Thompson, Teresa Hopson

Robert and Judy Montgomery

The Center For Sight Staff

Wendy Windham, Terri Thompson-Sayler Debbie Tompkins

Carla Redfield, Shelly Brophy, Lynne Thorne Jinx Premble, Sharon Roberts

Dr. Caster, Terri Thompson-Sayler, Dr. Aaron Polk Rene White, and Kathy McGough

Carla Redfield and Kathy Lehmann

Lynne Thorne and Family

Dream Team with Lynne Thorne

Business after five March 26, 2009

The Center For Sight Lufkin, Tx

PINEYWOODS MAKEOVER Reveal Party April 25, 2009

Shellyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Bakery Nacogdoches, Tx

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Passionate Pursuit April 2, 2009

Hotel Fredonia Nacogdoches, Texas

Crystal Bradsher, Linda Howard Anna Middlebrook

Anna Middlebrook and Melinda Malloy

Anna Middlebrook and Alex Berry

Linda Howard and Melinda Malloy

Lori Pruitt, Alex Berry, Marty Blair Sally Blair, Anna Middlebrook

Lauren Gaudette, Linda Snell Patti Pustka, Luciana Barr

Kelly Parker, Patti Pustka Shelley Locke

About the Photographer: Lisa Crow is a certified Wedding Consultant and the owner of Special Events in Lufkin. Special Events is a comprehensive events consulting company that specializes in distinctive weddings and unique events. With over fifteen years of event management and planning experience, Lisa combines creativity and style with enthusiasm and professionalism. To better assist their clients, Special Events offers a full range of invitations and announcements, including the popular photo invitations, and also, event photography. Lisa and her husband Steve have two adorable daughters, Reagan & Cailyn. For more information, or to view and purchase event pictures, go to www.specialeventstx.com or call 936-676-0467.

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Alive After Five April 16, 2009

Texas State Optical Nacogdoches, Texas Texas State Optical Staff

Robert Crow, Bradley Wilson Kim Luna Snyder, Lisa Hale

Barabara Holl, Mark Holl, Scarlett Sloane

Toni Rhodes and Christine Crain

Charles Thomson, Robby Lynn Matt Kubas, Joanna Temple

Convoy Savvy Band

St Cyprians Bake Off April 14, 2009 Debbie Stevens, Dennis Stevens Melanie Turner, Janet Allen

Christie Deekard, Bobby Budwell Melanie Vardeman, Kim Luna Snyder

Gregg Nichols, Ron Collins Jonathan Polk

4th and 5th Grade Lufkin, Texas

4th Grade

Medora Boone and Max McCarty

Corinn Rudis and Medora Boone

5th Grade

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Reyna Santana

Inspiring Young Woman

There are many young men and women who work and

obstacles, including discouragement from some in her town.

go to school in Lufkin and Nacogdoches, but at the end of

I’m very proud of her. She knows her goals and she’s making

the day make the commute back home. Reyna Santana is

them a reality.”

in that category. She grew up in Center, Texas. Once she graduated from high school, she started her college career at

Reyna sold a total of 8, 819 tickets at $1 each. Because of her phenomenal success, she won first place and close to

Angelina College. Now, she has

$5000 in scholarship money.

transferred to SFA.

Reyna says that this event is

Reyna possesses many

important because it gives

qualities that make her an

young Hispanics who are

Inspiring Young Woman.

smart and have potential the

Persistence is one of her

support they need to continue

strongest traits, as was shown

their education. “I wanted to

during the Communities Cinco

get involved, regardless of if I

De Mayo. According to one

won or not. I knew this was a

of the founding members and

great cause and I was focused

board member Roy Reyes,

on the money I was raising for

“Communities is part of the

scholarship, versus trying to

name because our event is for

win,” says Santana.

all of the communities that

This particular Cinco De

make up East Texas.” Reyna is

Mayo event has been in place

a perfect example; traveling

for thirteen years, with the

back and forth from Center.

queen’s contest for eleven

Reyna got involved with the

years. The purpose of the event

event because a friend of hers

is to raise as much money as

competed the previous year.

possible with a majority of the

Each contestant applies for the

funding going to scholarships.

contest and the rules are set.

A smaller portion goes to other

The finalists are chosen based

non-profits around the county.

on the rules and where they

“None of this would be possible

place in the contest. Marissa Guerrero, board member that oversees the

without the sponsorship of Brookshire Brothers. They have sponsored this event for years and we are so blessed to have

contest, describes Renya as, “a go-getter. When the

their support. With their donation, we are able to buy the

competition started last year she was attending Angelina

raffle tickets and the computers we raffle off. We are grateful

College and drove to Lufkin from Center almost everyday.

that they partner with us for the betterment of our youth,”

Shortly after the competition started, she was involved in a

says Guerrero.

car accident. She was not hurt, but without a vehicle, she

In the last ten years, Communities Cinco De Mayo has

struggled a bit. She also had a part-time job. Needless to say,

given over $178,000 in scholarships; $39,500 in 2008. Reyna

she had a bumpy start. She then formed a team of friends

is looking forward to rolling up her sleeves and being involved

and family and began working....hard. She broke the record

again this year.

in money raised. I was really impressed. She overcame

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Jill Gerland

Inspiring Woman

After the birth of our son, Joseph, Jonny and I knew we

weighed only 3 lbs. 6 oz., but she was a fighter! The nursing

wanted at least one more child. Unfortunately, wanting a child

staff was prepared for her to die quickly after delivery, but

and having a child are two different things. It took four years of

we were all amazed when she started breathing on her own

unexplained infertility before we found out we were expecting

and I heard her cry! We rejoiced in her birth and prayed for

a baby girl. We were thrilled! After all the wait and frustrations

guidance. We learned how to care for Gracie’s special needs

and tears, we were finally having another baby! Tears of joy

with the help of hospital staff and home healthcare. We could

turned into tears of sorrow when, at 28 weeks, it was discovered

not take her home until Jonny and I both could feed her with

that our baby girl had Trisomy 18, a fatal genetic abnormality

an oral tube since Gracie’s sucking reflexes weren’t developed

that affects 1 in 3,000 live births. Gracie had a heart defect,

enough to take a bottle. After 3 days, we went home with our

was missing a kidney, had growth retardation, and a 2-corded

baby girl.

umbilical instead of the typical three. These were all markers

Once at home, Gracie would have good days and bad

for the disorder. It was devastating news and life as we knew it

days. Since she had a terminal disorder, Hospice became

would never be the same.

involved

and

offered

support and expertise. She There

were

many unknowns.

required oxygen and heart

The

medication for congestive

information about T18 was

heart failure. She would go

very grim.

Most babies

into respiratory distress on

die before birth or live only

several occasions and her

a few days. Less than 10%

heart would stop beating.

survive their first year.

It was torture seeing her

There was very little hope

suffer and being so helpless,

of Gracie having any kind

but we still knew that God

of life on this earth. Still,

was in control and that He

we prayed for the Lord

loved her.

to heal her, knowing that

He allowed us to see the

He was in control of the

suffering so that we could

situation. If He healed her,

I believe that

let her go when it was time.

we’d praise Him. If He took her to heaven, we’d praise Him.

We felt the prayers of so many people, and Gracie’s testimony

We were in a place of complete dependence on His grace and

was spreading throughout the community. This little baby had

mercy.

such a purpose of showing us God’s love. This tiny, frail baby girl with her head full of dark, wild hair was on a mission to

The news traveled quickly and so many people were

teach us how to fully depend on God. He answered my prayer

praying for our family and for Gracie. It was amazing to see

of one breath. I was grateful. Now, my prayer was to be present

how much everyone cared for this little life that had everything

when she passed from this earth. I knew the time was coming,

going against her. My prayer during the pregnancy was for just

but I don’t think a parent is ever ready to see their child die. On

one breath. I so much wanted Gracie to be born alive, even for

June 6th, just 6 and a half weeks after her birth, Gracie went to

just one breath. I know God put that in my heart because He

be with the Lord, and I was holding her.

gave us so much more. On April 21, 2004, Gracie Beth Gerland was born. She

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I’ve wondered why God answered some of my prayers, but

not the prayers for healing my daughter completely and I’m

to always do things the hard way, so these resources would

reminded of the scripture in Isaiah 55:8-9, “For my thoughts

be a short cut for others. Mainly it was to let families know

are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways. As the

that they were not alone in their grief. Now, the ministry is

heavens are higher than the earth, so

a part of Denman Avenue Baptist Church

are my ways higher than your ways

and is supported by the membership and

and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

community.

God did heal Gracie, but He chose to do it in heaven and not on earth. He

Why is Empty Arms important to you?

also allowed us an opportunity to

2 Corinthians 1:4 says, “…that we can

witness countless miracles during her

comfort those in any trouble with the

short life. He taught us about His love

comfort that we ourselves receive from

and mercy, His grace and compassion.

God…” I believe that when you are going

For that, I will forever be grateful for

through a valley in your life, God truly

Gracie’s life and the opportunity to be

wants to use that experience to not only

her mom.

draw you closer to Him, but to reach out

Since Gracie’s death, we suffered

and minister to others who have similar

four miscarriages. We gave up the

needs and hurts.

dream of having another child and

What message do you want to get out to

prayed for peace. God answered that

the community?

prayer and then surprised us with

What I would like to express to

a little firecracker named Jolie. She’s a joy and possesses

others is that there is hope after losing a child. I miss Gracie

so many qualities of her big sister. One day, we will share

everyday and am very aware of the hole in my heart, but I cry

Gracie’s story with her.

with hope and faith that I will see her again one day. That

Q&A:

Tell us about yourself? I grew up right here in East Texas and with the exception of a few years after I got married, I’ve been here all my life. I graduated from Central High School and S.F.A. My husband is Jonathan, who is the Director of The History Center in Diboll. We have two beautiful children, Joseph is 11 and Jolie is 2. I am a stay-at-home mom for the most part. I work as an independent insurance agent along with my Dad for Kendrick Insurance. Jonathan and I have been married for 14 years.

hope is through Jesus Christ. How can people get involved? We have a separate account through Denman Avenue for money given which is used solely for Empty Arms. This money is used for the care baskets and shipping costs when we mail baskets. These baskets are free of charge and we will deliver them to any address. We also deliver them to hospitals and funeral homes. Care baskets include bereavement books and resources; pamper items and a New Testament Bible. Website: www.dabconline.org click on “Women’s Ministry”, then “Empty Arms Ministry.”

We met at Denman Avenue Baptist Church, where we are still members. How did the Empty Arms Ministry begin? It really began out of a need to help other women who have lost an infant. The idea came out of prayers to find a way to honor Gracie’s life. The Lord just laid it on my heart to minister to others through a care basket that contained some of the resources I encountered and used during my grief. I seem

The Journey will be collecting purse size Kleenex and hand lotion as our Project Box for the month of May. You can drop these items off at any Huntington State Bank location. These will be used for the care baskets. This will be a great way for our community to touch the hearts of hurting mothers.

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Hall of fame hubbies Joey Rowe I have been married to my husband Joey for 17 years. He is a wonderful husband and father. We have 2 little girls, MacieJo and Makala. My husband works hard every day for me and the girls. Our oldest daughter is disabled, she was born with a partial #2 chromosome deletion. This was not something that any parent expects, but we thank God every day for our Angel. It has not been easy on either of us, but Joey has been my rock. No matter what the situation is, he stands strong for all of us. He is the strongest man I know. I thank god every day for giving us such a wonderful man. He provides for us, he protects us, and he loves us unconditionally. Joey Rowe, husband to Angie and father to Macie-Jo 8, and Makala 4.

Sal Soto Sal is the best husband and father anyone could wish for. He is truly the love of my life and brings laughter and fun to our marriage and into our home. He works so hard to provide for us and still manages to plan fun trips for the family and be spontaneous! We are best friends and I am truly blessed to have him as my partner in life. We were high school sweethearts and reconnected 12 years later. I got lucky in that I “inherited” his two daughters and we now have twin sons together. Sal Soto, husband to Lisa and father to Sara 17, Nicole 14, Ryder and Ace 22 months.

Please submit your Hall of Famer to halloffame@tjmag.com. Be sure to include a photo with 75 words telling us about your husband. Do not forget to list your children or grandchildren’s names if you would like to include them.

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Kailee Annette Johnson December 28, 2007 Parents: Aubrie and Jeff Johnson Lufkin,TX

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Bralye “Cash” Morris March 6, 2009

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Brian and Emily January 3, 2009

Brian and Emily were introduced through an old

Madeline Pond and Kami Counts. Ring bearer was nephew

roommate. Brian would always come over to visit and hang

Drew Tibbetts. Brian’s best men were his two brothers Andy

out with his good friend, Emily’s roommate. Emily says, “One

and Bradley Beene and his groomsmen included Emily’s

night I started small

brother, Alden Pond,

talking with him and

his

the

Cardwell,

rest

history.

friends:

Jason Jeremy

So, for the record, I

Burk,

approached him.” She

(the match maker),

knew she had a crush,

Phillip Lejune, Sam

but Brian would never

Arnold, Levi Hendrix,

come talk to her, so she

Kent

had to make the first

Andrew Moss. Ushers

move.

were

Ryan

Novak

Brown, Neil

and

Hobbs,

Ryan Crowley, and They

officially

Michael Smith.

began dating April 20, 2007. Almost a year later, on April 19, 2008,

The day was a

Photos by: G. Patterson Photography

special day to Brian

they went to Brian’s family’s home. All of his family were

and Emily. They were surrounded by people who love and

getting together for a crawfish boil. Emily had no idea what

adore them.

was going on and Brian asked her to go outside. That day, he got down on his knees and asked her to be a permanent part

Now, they plan for Brian to finish his degree in nursing

of his family and to marry him. “It was perfect! It was the day

at SFA. Emily graduated from SFA in 2007 and is now

before our one year anniversary and I was able to show the

working at Hotel Fredonia. Brian plans on pursuing a degree

ring off to his family a few minutes later,” said Emily.

for a CRNA, while Emily hopes to one day use her Fashion Merchandising degree and own her own boutique.

Nine months later, they made it official. January 3, 2009, they were married. The Beene wedding was a true celebration. Emily is the youngest of eight children and comes from a large family. It was hard having to narrow down their list for the wedding party because of all their family and long list of friends from childhood. Her sister, Meredith Tibbetts, was the matron of honor, best friend from childhood Kati Killebrew was maid of honor, and then bridesmaids were a mix of friends from high school and college: Chelsi Swafford, April Stone, Jennifer McKee, Lindley Domingue, Bethany Lange, Celine Tan, Yully Toro, and Rachel Graham. Flower girls were cousins Kate and Mary Allison Hegi, and nieces

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Girls Group The American Association of University Women had its first meeting in 1881. The Association was created as a catalyst for change for women and girls. The Nacogdoches branch AAUW began in 1931. Since then, ladies involved with AAUW have worked to recognize women who have made an impact in their community, while strengthening the future for young girls. They also have continued a commitment to conduct programs each year to highlight the economic, political, and social status of women and girls. According to Donna Christopher, Nacogdoches AAUW President, “AAUW was founded in 1881, when popular wisdom held that higher education impaired women’s health. Our first research debunked that misconception.” The women involved with AAUW believe in breaking down barriers for women in all fields. There are two main events sponsored by these ladies: The Woman of the Year Awards Banquet, and Expanding your Horizons Math & Science Conference for Middle School Girls. The Association serves as a way to support and celebrate women advancing in their studies, careers, and communities. This year, the AAUW held the 25th Woman of the Year Awards Banquet. The banquet chooses one very special Woman of the Year, along with four honorees in the field of education, art, sports, and business. Each of these women excels in their field , and also serves as a leader and role model for change in the community. Margie Tipton, who will receive the Woman of the Year award, is a former owner of Tipton Ford, has been a teacher and administrator at NISD and SFA, and is a member of numerous committees and boards. As local Chapter Chairman of the American Red Cross, she has been instrumental in directing the good care Nacogdoches has given storm refugees. Julia Ballenger, education honoree, is Associate Professor of Secondary Education & Educational Leadership at SFA. Her doctoral degree is from UT Austin. She has served as teacher, principal, TEA official, E.J. Campbell Distinguished Professor, and has received numerous awards and committee appointments. Juanita Finkenberg, arts honoree, is Coordinator of SFA Employment Wellness Con-nection, Lecturer in the School of Theatre, and artistic

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director of Real Women Dancing. She has choreographed and performed at SFA, Lamp-Lite, Tyer & Co. Dance, and Motor Dance Co., and worked with Junior Forum, Millard’s Crossing, and Friends of the Arts. Debbie Humphreys, sports honoree, is Head Coach of the SFA Volleyball Team. Her career record is 484-217 in 21 seasons, all at SFA, with seven SLC Championships, and an SLC record of 62 consecutive regular season conference victories. The team’s four NCAA tournament

appearances include a first round win in 2006, beating U. of Alabama. Kim Luna Snyder, business honoree, is Senior Vice President of Citizens 1st Bank and Past Chairman of the Chamber of Commerce. Her banking career began in 1985 at Timberland Savings & Loan, and continued at Citizens 1st Bank after its purchase of the S&L in 1991, except for July 2001 to March 2004, when she worked for a Chicago bank. Eloise Adams joined AAUW because of the recognition of wonderful women like this year’s honorees. All the women that are a part of AAUW are college graduates and speak first hand in encouraging junior high girls to set ambitious career goals. “This February, we had a hugely successful 15th annual Expanding Your Horizons Career Conference for middle school aged girls in our area. The conference, which emphasizes careers requiring a background in science and math, involved hands on activities for 600 girls provided by 35 presenters sharing information about their careers,” said Christopher. It is inspiring to know there are women in our community, building up other women and encouraging young women to aspire to great things.

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Relationships

A Woman After God’s Own Heart | Words by Kathryn greene Mother’s Day is celebrated in the month of May. It is a

needs. God designed us to have a heart like His – a heart that

time that we as mothers look forward to being honored by

loved us so much that He gave His Son to be a sacrifice for our

our children. It is also a time that we think about our own

sins so that we could be reconciled to Him. How much love

mothers and the influence they have had on our life. My

do I have? Do I care enough about my neighbor to find out

thoughts on this Mother’s Day are about all mothers – the

their name, carry them a dessert, or even pray for them? Do I

young, the middle age, the older

show my love for my husband by

- all age groups of mothers. As a

sacrificing my desires to meet

young mother, what would be

his needs? Do I love my children

the best thing you could do to

by showing them they are

be what your children need?

important – more important

As a mid-lifer, what would be

than my job or my schedule?

the best thing you could do to

3. I am to love others as I

deal with this season of your

love myself. As a counselor,

life? As a senior adult, what can

one of the main issues that I

you do to be a good mentor, a

find that women have is that

sweet grandmother, and a good

they do not love their self. If

example to the generations that

I don’t love myself, how can I

will follow behind?

love anyone else? My self-image

I thought of David who is one

is to be based on how God sees

of the most prominent figures

me: “I am deeply loved, fully

in the history of the world, as

pleasing, and totally acceptable

well as a very prominent Bible

and accepted by God. There has

character. Even Jesus Christ is

never been another person like

often referred to as the son of David. In the early period of

me nor will there ever be. God has made me an original, one of

his life, David is mentioned as a man after God’s own heart

a kind, a special person.”* When I accept that I am loved, then

(I Samuel 13:14). I thought… would that not be the greatest

I can love others with the love I have experienced.

legacy that I could leave for those who will follow behind? What does it mean to be a “woman after God’s own heart”? I believe that a woman after God’s own heart would love God, love her neighbor, and love herself:

There are some blockages to having a heart like God. If you have experienced doubts, temptations, personal inconsistencies, losses, abuse, unresolved conflict, or any emotional baggage, you will block the ability to experience a

l. To love God with all your heart, with all your soul, and

heart like God. If you are not able to resolve these issues, I

with your entire mind. That means that you are to love God

encourage you to see a counselor that can assist you in facing

with your entire being: with all your passion, in the way you

your past. Once you have faced your past, you can then let go

relate to God through your prayers, and in the way that you

of it and embrace the present as well as the future. If you have

think. God is to be first! When we are in love with Him, all the

a heart full of bitterness, it is impossible to have love coming

other things in our life will have their rightful place.

from that same heart. Once you experience healing of your

2. To love your neighbor means to love others. When you get your mind off of yourself and begin ministering to others, you find that life is much more fulfilling. God did not make you to be self-centered and only thinking of your wants and

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hurts, then you are freed to give and receive love the way God made you.

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Fitness 101

Return Those Unused Calories | Words by Dr. Kim Archer If only we could return our unused calories to the

itself to weight loss or weight gain. Exercise creates a caloric

customer service desk at Wal-Mart or auction them off on

expenditure that promotes a caloric deficit resulting in

eBay! Excessive calories contributing to weight gain and

loss of weight and fat while maintaining lean muscle mass.

health related diseases could disappear with a simple return.

Individuals are sometimes disappointed to find their hours

Unfortunately, when it comes to weight management,

devoted to exercise have resulted in limited changes on

individuals don’t have this option, so relying on a healthy diet

the weight scale. It is important to remember that regular

and regular physical activity becomes the main method of

weight scales can’t tell the difference between fat and lean

calorie exchange.

muscle weight, therefore body composition becomes the best

The universal principle for weight loss from fat is exactly

the

indicator of overall health (Dunford & Doyle, 2008).

same

There are several

for elite athletes as

factors that come in to

it is for grandmas:

play when calculating

increase

energy

the exact number of

(physical

activity

calories used during

exercise);

physical activity such

decrease food intake

as age, weight, fitness

(energy

consumed),

level, environmental

or a combination of

c o n d i t i o n s ,

both.

metabolic rate, body

and/or

Studies have

compared the effects

composition,

of dietary restriction

mode

only, exercise only, and

With a multitude of

dietary restriction and

factors to consider,

exercise combination

most

and activity.

calorie-burn

interventions on body composition changes (fat and lean

figures and exercise equipment figures are “rough estimates”

mass). Research reveals that the long-term effectiveness of

based on metabolic equations. It has been reported that

weight-loss is better accomplished with dietary restriction

exercise equipment may under or over estimate actual calorie

and exercise combination interventions (Stiegler & Cunliffe,

burn by 10 to 30 percent (Heaner, 2009). According to Dr.

2006).

Wilkinson (2003), Medical Director at Cooper Institute for

A sensible weight loss goal is to strive to lose 1 – 2 pounds

Aerobic Research, figuring the precise calorie sum can be

of fat per week. A pound of fat equals approximately 3,500

complicated, but as long as the exercise machine requires a

calories, so by eliminating 500 calories from the diet each

body weight to be entered, results may be off by 10%.

day of the week, an individual can successfully achieve their

The American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM)

weight loss goal. To put 500 calories in to perspective, a

position

person could remove the following food choices daily: 12

Intervention Strategies for Weight Loss and Prevention of

oz can of Mountain Dew (170 kcals), 1oz bag of Lays Potato

Weight Regain for Adults” recommends that adults should

Chips (150 kcals), and one Natural Valley’s Granola Bar (180

participate in a minimum of 150 minutes/week of moderate-

kcals) OR one cup of Ben & Jerry’s American Pie Ice Cream

intensity physical activity to prevent weight gain and reduce

(500 kcals) .

risk factors for chronic diseases (2009). The ACSM also notes

Exercise plays a vital role in body composition, lending

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stand

for

“Appropriate

Physical

Activity

that dietary restrictions in combination with physical activity

will promote increased weight loss compared to dietary restrictions alone. ACSM also recommends the following for adults looking to lose weight, prevent weight gain, or maintain weight loss: Prevent – Weight Gain Participating in 150 – 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can prevent weight gain. Participating in > 150 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can result in reasonable weight loss. Weight Loss Participating in 150 – 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can result in reasonable weight loss. Participating in > 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can result in significant weight loss. Dietary restrictions in combination with physical activity will promote weight loss compared to dietary restrictions alone. Weight Maintenance After Weight Loss Participating in > 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can prevent weight re-gain. Moderate intensity physical activity is defined as physical movement that increases your heart rate while still carrying on a conversation (examples: walking, jogging, riding a bike, spinning, or step aerobics) (Donnelly, Blair, Jakicic, Manore, Rankin, & Smith, 2009). Dedication to obtaining an ideal body weight starts with managing personal calorie exchange activities. Regular exercise and calorie portion control must become necessary activities such as taking a bath or brushing your teeth. If you are tired of looking at those same unused calories, then it is time to return them!

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Scarf Design Words by Chuck Watkins & Katherine Pierson 1.

Side tie high on shoulder with a square scarf

Drape both ends of the scarf over your shoulders then bring both ends forward; make the ends uneven and poof out the neck.

Fold scarf in half, wrap the doubled scarf around your neck, and pull the ends through the loop.

Wrap the scarf around your shoulders, making sure itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s over your shoulders and covering the backs of your arms. Then tie it loosely to the side.

Place scarf around your ribs, then tie in a tight knot in the back.

Wrap scarf around your neck and knot the scarf loosely at your neck, twisting it to the side.

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fashion and beauty What not to wear | Words by charla sparks

We all dream of looking really great in our clothes. However,

(A) Clothes that are too

the dream doesn’t usually last that long. We start to think about

tight can create a bigger

money, our thighs, our busy schedule, and we decide that looking

appearance. Jeans that are

good is for the rich and thin. But there are plenty of women

a size too small will likely

who are on a budget and have a less than perfect body that look

cause a “muffin top” effect.

wonderful everyday. They have just learned a few tricks to make

A tight-fitting shirt only

the most of what they have and how to disguise their flaws. You,

accentuates the problem

too, can learn the same tricks.

area more. Moving up a size in clothes can often be a

Looking good in your clothes involves more than just wearing

good thing for your figure.

what you like, it takes strategy. By using color, fit, pattern, and

Remember, no one sees the

proportions you can draw the eye to or from whatever area you

number on the inside tag

want. If you hate to go up a size and wear you clothes too tight,

except for you!

it can make you look bigger than you are. The same is true for clothing that is too big; it creates a sloppy appearance. Dressing in

(B) Clothes that are too big

one color from head to toe can actually make you appear slimmer.

create a bigger appearance.

If you have a bigger tummy and wear, for example, a white blouse

While bigger clothes are

with black pants, you will call attention to the problem spot. By

often

wearing the same color on the top and bottom, the eye glides

tend to look sloppy and

right over the trouble spot. Remember that darker shades absorb

unflattering

light, thus having a slimming effect. If you have a small bust with a

figure. Also, be leery of

larger rear and hips, you can draw the eye away from your bottom

bright, bold designs. They

by wearing darker pants and a lighter top. Vice-versa, if you have

can

a larger bust and small rear and thighs, you would wear a dark top

overwhelming on all body

and lighter bottom.

types.

comfortable,

for

distracting

they your

and

Even though dark colors can make you look slimmer and lighter, brighter colors can do the opposite, but you can still

include vivid colors in your wardrobe. Just put the lighter or

all the same color creates a

brighter colors near the part of the body that you want to call

slimming appearance. The

attention to.

eyes flow effortlessly down the body without being

Start with these tips. Go shopping; take a look at your body,

drawn to one area. Pairing

determine what you like about it and what you would like to

a colored pair of shoes with

camouflage. Take different colors of tops and bottoms in the

a solid outfit actually draws

dressing room with you. Really pay attention to how your body

the attention down and

looks and how you can change where your eye goes just by using

away from a problem area.

color techniques. You can look great in your clothes.

Black is always a perfect choice for looking slimmer!

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Laser hair removal Words By Caroline Hurst

Imagine

having

smooth, hair free skin, without shaving, waxing, plucking, or bleaching your unwanted hair. Traditional hair re-

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moval methods such as shaving provide only temporary results. Laser Hair Removal is a cosmetic breakthrough and provides a more permanent form of hair removal. Electrolysis is the only other form of permanent hair removal and it treats only one hair follicle at time, which is not practical for large areas. Laser Hair Removal is a fast and effective way of removing hair and is great for covering larger areas. It helps greatly with razor burn, ingrown hairs, stubble and removes the dark shadows which occur if the hair is very dark, after shaving. It can also aid with the healing of skin, if hair prevents this from happening. Hair must contain some brown or black pigment in order for the laser to be effective: blonde, white, grey, or light

red hair will not be targeted by the laser. Treatments are comfortable. Using the gentle power of laser, the follicle is targeted and causes a thermal injury when the hair is in its active growing phase. Not all hairs are in the active phase at the same time, therefore multiple treatments are necessary. Besides hair pigment, skin pigment is another critical and limiting factor when considering treatments. Other considerations before treatment include medications, coarseness and color of hair, and depth of suntan. It is important to discontinue waxing, plucking, and depilatory creams for a period of time before treatment. Four to six treatments at one month intervals are usually necessary. There will be noticeable improvement of texture, density, and color of hair throughout the treatment process. A consultation and test spot is preferable before any treatment. Pricing varies depending on which area is treated.

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Scarf Choose a colorful scarf to add a little flavor to your wardrobe. Scarves are a must have accessory this summer. Choose one to fit your lifestyle and personality. Buckle has various colors and prints to choose from. Buckle is located in Lufkin Mall.

Personalized Notes Julia D. Azar makes a beautiful gift for graduates, teachers, friends, and, of course, for Mother’s Day. You can personalize them with names or buy them for the fun, bright prints. They come in two sizes of cards with envelopes or a notepad.

Scentsy A GREAT gift that is perfect for anyone! If you have a hard person to buy for this May, Scentsy is your gift! Everyone loves for their environment to smell beautiful. Use it for at the office or in your home. Only using a lightbulb to melt the scented wax, simply plug it in, and your Scentsy fragrance will adorn the air. There are many scents of wax to choose from. Scentsy comes in wickless candle Bars, Scentsy Warmers, Room Sprays, and Car Candles. Call Betty Sammons at 936.676.0197

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Business Spotlight merle Norman

Many young girls think they wan to play makeup and hair “when they grow up.” You also hear young ladies say they

the opportunity presented itself for her to purchase the Lufkin Franchise.

would like to own their own shop or boutique. For Amy Jo Roland she has had the opportunity to keep all of her dreams as a little girl alive.

Today, almost sixteen years after her first day working as a beauty advisor, Amy Jo still loves what she is doing. “I have known since I was a little girl that I wanted to do something

Amy Jo Roland was born and raised in Lufkin. At the age

in the beauty industry. I remember in Children’s Church the

of seventeen she started working for the Lufkin Merle Nor-

teacher went around the room asking all the children what

man as a Beauty Advisor and Nail Technician. Amy Jo stayed

they wanted to be when they grow up and I remember being

there for four years. She later transferred to the Henderson

asked that question and I said a Beautician. I am not a Beauti-

store where she eventually became the Studio Manager. Af-

cian but I am in the Beauty Industry. All I can say that I have

ter a year in that position she said, “as a Studio Mangager it

been truly blessed.”

allowed me to see how successful I could become by owning a Merle Norman Cosmetic franchise.” Once Amy Jo gave it

Amy Jo Roland has been the owner of the Lufkin Merle

some thought, she decided to purchase the Henderson fran-

Norman for nine years. Anyone who has had the privilege of

chise in October 1997.

walking in her store knows Amy Jo’s heart. Many of her clients are now some of her closest friends. It has always been a

The next year, she met the love of her life, Toby Roland.

highlight that her sisters and friends, when she was younger

They married in June 1998. She eventually moved back to

would always come to her for hair, makeup, and fashion ad-

Lufkin and would commute back and forth to Henderson.

vice. Now, she is living out her passion. “I enjoy giving some-

Once their son Bayley came into the picture, Amy Jo decided

one a makeover and seeing the result by the expression and

to sell her franchise so she could spend more time with Bay-

confidence that shows. I could not see myself any where be-

ley. She later started working again at the Lufkin Merle Nor-

sides at Merle Norman,” says Roland.

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Education with emily fun Ideas for summer | Words by emily parks

I cannot believe that this school year is already coming to an end! With that comes the task of entertaining the kids. I hope these ideas will help keep your child’s mind sharp while having some fun!

Flashcard fun Use pre-made flashcards or make some with index cards. You can use any math operation (+,-,x,÷)--whatever is appropriate for your child’s level of learning. Line up the cards in rows with the answer side down. Then take turns matching 2 cards with the same answer.

Math

Battle This is a 2-player game. Each player gets his/her own deck

Bake together. Talk about measurements, fractions (part of a whole), and time. Try out this easy, yummy recipe:

of cards. Hold the deck face down in your hand. Both players flip their top card over on the table at the same time. The first player to add the value of the two cards together and shout out the answer wins both of the cards. The player that gets all the cards wins. Try it with multiplication, too.

Chocolate Oatmeal No-Bakes:

Go shopping

½ cup margarine

Either at the grocery store or mall. Talk about money, per-

2 cups sugar ½ cup baking cocoa ½ cup milk Cook in saucepan over medium

heat,

stir-

ring occasionally. The mixture needs to boil about 3 to 5 minutes. Drop about 1 teaspoon

cents, calculating discounts, and balancing a checkbook.

Science Go to the zoo. Actually read the information provided about the animals. Discuss whether the animals are carnivores, herbivores, or omnivores. Talk about why animals have certain color skin/ fur and their habitats.

of mixture into a cup of cold water.

Go on a nature walk

When

Identify various types

it sticks together to form a soft ball, it is ready. Remove

of plants, trees, birds,

from heat and add, stirring until combined:

bugs, etc. Take a piece of paper and a pencil/

½ cup creamy peanut butter

crayon and make rub-

1 teaspoon vanilla

bings of various types

3 cups oatmeal Drop onto buttered wax paper by heaping teaspoons-full. Cool for about 30 minutes.

of tree bark. Plant flowers and plants Talk about what plants need in order to survive. Identify the various parts of a flower. Take care of the plants together and measure the growth.

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Education with emily Continued

Do an experiment

Make a family tree

Complete the scientific method together:

On a map, locate where each person on the tree was born.

•

Question or statement of project

Look in an encyclopedia or on the Internet to discover fun

•

Hypothesis-What do you think is going to happen?

facts about the year each person was born.

•

Materials used

•

Specific steps needed

Make a timeline of your child’s life

•

Observations during the actual experiment

Include pictures and hang the completed timeline in his or

•

What actually happened

her room. Put milestone moments on the timeline: day and

•

Summary of why the experiment had the outcome

year born, first steps, first tooth lost, the day your child asked Jesus into his/her heart. (My 3rd graders created a timeline

Here is an experiment I thought would be fun:

as an assignment and the only criteria was to put the day he/

This activity is probably best done outside in the middle of an

she was born at the beginning, 3rd grade at the end, and 5

abandoned field, or better yet, on a huge lawn.

events in the middle. The one timeline that will always stick out in my mind was one that was obviously made by the stu-

1. 2.

Carefully open a bottle of soda. Position the bottle on

dent with little or no parent help-which is how I preferred

the ground so that it will not tip over.

projects. One of the events had a cross drawn above the time-

Unwrap the whole roll of Mentos. The goal is to drop

line and the date and words “The day Jesus came into my

all of the Mentos into the bottle of soda at the same

heart.” written below it. It really touched me!)

time (which is trickier than it looks). One method for

Language Arts

doing this is to roll a piece of paper into a tube just big enough to hold the loose Mentos. You’ll want to

be able to position the tube directly over the mouth

Write a book

of the bottle so that all of the candies drop into the

This can be an all-summer project. Write about the places

bottle at the same time.

you go or the things you do throughout the summer. Add pic-

Don’t drop them into the bottle just yet! Warn the

tures or illustrations. It doesn’t have to be fancy. This can be

spectators to stand back. Okay, you’re going to drop

done in a spiral notebook.

all of the Mentos into the bottle at the same time and

then get truckin’ (move out of the way... so long... bye-

Go to the library

bye... hasta la vista!)

Most libraries have activities and events throughout the sum-

It’s just like fireworks on the 4th of July. The specta-

mer. Check out your local library’s website for information.

tors erupt, of course, in a chorus of ooohs and ahhhs. Someone yells out, “Do it again” and you do.

Read, read, read! Take this down time to read books that really peak your

Social Studies

child’s interest. Share a book that you enjoyed when you were growing up. Read a book that was made into a movie; then watch the movie and compare the two.

Find historical markers You won’t have to go too far to find some around your town. I am sure you and your child will be amazed at the history that went on around you many years ago!

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Go here to find out why the experiment works and the scientific process behind it: stevespanglerscience.com

Your Wallet

Consignment = Cash | Words by Crystal Williams Many of us are tired of hearing about stimulus this and stimulus that; tax cut this and tax cut that…we want get on with our lives. Our goal is to figure out a way to stay focused and make a little extra cash in these hard times. Most of us moms know that dressing our little girls and guys can be super expensive but super fun all at the same time! If you don’t know someone to pass them down to, what do you do with all those cute outfits? What do you do with all of those toys and shoes that are in perfect condition? What about that toddler bed that your little one outgrew? The answer is right up the street from you! Consignment is the perfect option for any mom that has an abundance of out-grown clothing, toys, and furniture that are still in great shape. Simply put, consignment is a nohassle garage sale just for kid’s items of all sorts! Unlike a garage sale, there is no weather to contend with, no tables and racks to rent, and no time spent sitting and having to bargain with deal-hunting shoppers. You, as the consignor, just sign up with a consignment shop, or find a consignment sale and the rest is fairly simple. You prepare the clothes and drop them off where you want them sold. The shop owner markets and promotes for you and in return, you get 40% of the sale price (on average). There are many consignment shops available in our area, so find one that fits you and get going on making some extra money. All it takes to become a consigner is a little time to prep your clothes before you drop them off. There is also a community wide consignment sale coming to East Texas. The Diboll Civic Center is playing host to the first of two seasonal sales. The Twice as Nice Consignment Spring Sale is May 15th and 16th. It is also a fantastic place to shop for great deals on name brand, gently used outfits and accessories. An option offered at the Twice as Nice Consignment Sale is that you may donate any of your unsold items to the Pregnancy Help Center in Lufkin once the show is over. The staff will even take care of it for you--all you have to do is pick up your cash and leave your clothes for the staff to donate for you. In this economy, we all need to be frugal and thrifty. Consigning, whether at a shop or yearly sale, is a great way to clean out those overstuffed drawers and closets and also make a little extra spending money. To find out more, you can visit online at twiceasnicesale.blogspot.com or call 936-829-4888.

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Parting Advice: I know there are a lot of women like me: mom, wife, friend, PTO officer, Sunday School teacher, a full time job, and the list goes on. There are times I want a day to myself or even a few hours to myself—nothing on the agenda, no plans, just get in the car and relax! Every time I do decide to have a girl’s night or get out for a few hours, I always feel guilty. I feel guilty for leaving my husband with the kids and for not being with the family. Then on top of that, my husband tries to hurry me- asking me, “How long will you be gone?” or “What time will you be back?” So the minute I leave, I feel like the clock is ticking which only adds stress to my time and does not make that time relaxing. My question is should I feel guilty? Is this normal? Guilty Feelings Lufkin, Texas Dear Guilty,

made me wish I could stand on a mountain and shout to moms: “STOP,

Yes, it is probably normal to feel guilty, but certainly not feelings

RELAX, TAKE A BREATH”! IN A FEW HOURS TODAY WILL BE

based on truth. I encourage you to create a “word” picture to use

FOREVER GONE! Today’s society attempts to dictate that every mom

with your husband to help him understand your need to have a break.

be a SUPERMOM! Being a wife and a mom is a full time job …..Add to that

“Word” pictures paint a picture in their minds using stories that help

another full time job, and immediately you are on overload. You should

them identify with your point – thus they are more inclined to receive

not feel guilty. However I would recommend that you prayerfully make

correction and change their behavior. For example, just suppose that

an analysis of (prioritize) your responsibilities. Remember time in the

your husband likes to hunt. You may tell him that you feel like his

Word of God and in prayer are priorities. Then discuss the results with

favorite gun that he uses everyday and he never takes time to clean it,

your husband, commit to spend some time together in prayer each day

because he is so focused on hunting. One day the gun misfires and he

as you seek the solution.

realizes that it has been a long time since it was cleaned. You may say, “I feel like that gun! I am misfiring because I have had no time to get a

Sandra Nichols

manicure, pedicure, new make-up, or just have time to ‘think’. I need a

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break!” He will understand what you are talking about! Dear Guilty Feeling: Kathryn Greene

No one can tell you how you should feel, but we all need time away and

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you’re a better mom, wife, employee and volunteer for that me-time. First, talk to your husband about your needs and let him know that

Dear Guilty Feeling,

you want his support. Make your night out fun for everyone -- create a

I could’ve written the same question! Yes, I feel guilty too for taking

Dad’s night with movies and popcorn or send them out for pizza and ice

time to myself or for doing/buying things for myself, and, yes, I think

cream. And when he asks “What time will you be back?” Just smile and

it is normal. Something about us moms -- we put ourselves last. Should

say “Later, Honey!”

we feel guilty? No. We all need time to ourselves, and I’ve realized that I’m a better mom, wife, employee, domestic engineer, etc. when I have

Suzy Childers

some “me” time. We need to recharge our batteries. My advice is to keep

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having your girl time or your “me” time and if you must, schedule it and tell your husband that you are doing X, will be gone X, and not to call unless it’s an emergency.

Dear Guilty, I wish that I had the answer to this question. I am this person. I guess it is normal for moms to feel this way. I can’t think of anything that I would

Tricia Cain

rather do with any “free

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time” then spend it with my husband and children. We seem to always be in such a rush and going in so many different directions that I feel guilty

Dear Exhausted!

about any me time.

I would say that your guilty feelings are coming from exhaustion. Are they Normal – YES, good – NO! Just reading your job description

Trecia Johnson

caused my head to spin as I visualized this ‘thoroughly modern mom”. It

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