Issue 4
Lessons in Love
Status Contributors Editor Clarissa Cintron Writers Scott Wallace Hayden Scott Kayla Federowski Kylie Kurth Hayley Villagomez Benji Ermshaw Photography Tanya Soria Avery Bokovoy Sponsor Dr. Glen Robinson Advisor Luisa Manu
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Haley Villagomez
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LOCAL EATS YOU MUST TRY
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OPEN CARRY ON CAMPUS?
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MISSION SPOTLIGHT: Danny in So. Korea
13 4 14 ON THE COVER: Alex Loewen & Kyleigh Duke
LESSONS IN LOVE #RELATIONSHIPGOALS
Kayla Federowski
Scott Wallace
Kylie Kurth
SPRING BREAK HOT SPOTS Hayden Scott
STUFF YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT V-DAY Benji Ermshaw
THOUGHTS ON ATTRACTION Tanya Soria
A Note from the Editor
I don’t know about you, but I’m starting to feel the heat of the semester turn up. Aside from these occasional feelings of “I’m ready to sob into a pint of Ben & Jerry’s,” I am always comforted by the thought of how much love and support I have in my life. We all have love in our lives! If you don’t believe me (and you’re ready to dismiss this altogether), allow me to reassure you that everyday, you have the opportunity to go on a date--with Jesus. No, really: “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with Me.” - Revelation 3:20 He calls us up and asks to eat and hang out with us everyday. Sounds alot like an invitation to a date, doesn’t it? Truth is, He wants a relationship with each of us until we really get to know Him. And if it’s one thing that I’ve come to learn in my 23 years of living, the relationship we establish with Jesus is the most important one we will ever have. As you make your Valentine’s Day plans or SAD plans (you’ll find out what “SAD” is on pg. 4), be sure to include the Lord in those plans. - Clarissa Cintron
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1) Fact: Geoffrey Chaucer may have invented Valentine’s Day. There is no record or mention of the romantic celebration of Valentine’s Day until a poem by Chaucer was written in 1375, called “Parliament of Fowls”. The poem describes a day where birds and humans come together to find mates on February 14th.
2) Fact: There are actually several St. Valentines, including a pope who served only 40 days. With so many St. Valentines, you need not wait to celebrate only once a year! You could celebrate St. Valentine’s Day a dozen times a year!
3) Legend has it: St. Valentine was executed on February 14th, 270 AD for helping soldiers get married. He was executed by the Roman emperor Claudius II who thought that soldiers with wives did not fight as well as those without.
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4) Legend has it: The red rose is the favorite flower of the Roman goddess of love, Venus.
5) Fact: King Henry VII officially declared February 14th to be St. Valentine’s Day in the year 1537.
6) Fact: February 15th has turned into “Singles Awareness Day” (SAD) where single people celebrate themselves.
7) Fact: In the 1800’s, chocolate was often prescribed by doctors to help patients feel better after losing a loved one.
8) Legend has it: The origins of St. Valentine’s Day come from the Roman fertility festival called “Lupercalia” where attendees would draw names from a jar to form couples. This holiday was banned by Pope Gelasius during the end of the 5th century.
9) Statistic: According to a study done by IBISWorld, the average person spent about $135.10 on Valentine’s Day gifts in 2014.
10) Cheapies According to a study done by RetailMeNot, 18% of people in relationships are not planning on spending any money on their partner for St. Valentine’s Day (so being cheap isn’t bad--you’re doing better than that 18%)! Are you going to do something special with your significant other, just spend time with a friend, or are you going to wait until February 15th and celebrate being single? Whatever your plans are, now you know just a few interesting things about this holiday.
-Benji Ermshaw
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Mission Spotlight : An Interview with
Danny Perez
Current Location of Service: Seongnam-si Province, South Korea
Danny Perez, a 2015 theology graduate, traveled
halfway around the globe to teach English. There are no limits to the many ways we can serve others and the Lord--and his journey in South Korea is a testament to that.
What were your expectations? Before coming to Korea, I did some investigation; Apart from watching the renowned K-dramas and K-pop music, I asked for tips from several people who have been to Korea. Hearing some of the comments brought a little stress, but I really centered myself on one comment: “If it’s going to be a mission field, you have to make it one.” Some other comments I got were: “Toilet paper is really expensive,” “They won’t have your shoe size,” “There is no concept of a bubble there,” among other comments. Though some of these can be true, I’ve realized that, yes, it’s a different country
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“If it’s going to be a mission field, you have to make it one.” and culture, but culture is created by people. Everyone has their own character, ideas, values, and beliefs. It can be easy to generalize, but the work of missionaries is done on a personalindividual level. By the way, toilet paper isn’t expensive. There hasn’t been a day where I have gone hungry, don’t have a place to sleep or felt abandoned. God has satisfied those things here. As expected though, communicating is a game of charades that I don’t always win.
What surprised you about the country? As time went by, I became accustomed to the area. Took me a good month or two to actually settle down. What had me by surprise was grocery shopping. There is no Walmart, as far as I’m aware of, so I had to figure out where to buy my shampoo, food, toiletries, socks, and all. One day, when I found what I was looking for and needed, I went to the cashier, holding a full basket. Having no concept of Korean currency, I just gave him my card. It wasn’t expensive, but I sure could have gone for cheaper things now that I look back. What was really whacky, as spoiled of a Westerner I am, is that there were no store attendants to place my items in bags. I asked the cashier who couldn’t speak a lick of English. A customer acted out signs, telling me I had to carry everything back home with my own bags which I didn’t have. I went outside, found random small boxes and put as much as I could inside. Went home carrying my toilet paper on my shoulder, bananas hanging from one side, along with 3 tiny boxes under my arm, and a small bag that a man gave me. Whew, I broke a sweat there!
What are some culture clashes that you have experienced?
I’m Hispanic and Texan. Naturally I go for the hug when I see a friend or when I am excited about something awesome. In Korea, there is a big emphasis on touch when you’re with the opposite sex. If it’s in the subway or crowded place then it is fine, there is no avoiding it. But it’s when greeting or hanging out, that is where it becomes sensitive. People often greet each other with a bow or hand What were some interesting traditions or wave. Sometimes you get the handshake, but remember to extend the left hand and with the aspects of the culture? right hand, hold your left forearm. When eating, the youngest person should serve the drinks. The oldest should eat and drink first. After he takes his first bite or drink, then others can begin. Otherwise it’s rude and disrespectful. Never sit on the red subway seats unless you want to get yelled at or get angry stares from people. Those are reserved for elderly and the pregnant ONLY. Asking your age is a common thing. People won’t know how to relate to you otherwise. High school students get about 4 hours of sleep due to intense studying. Kids always go to after-school programs to take extra classes in math, language, like English or Chinese, and music. I sometimes see students arriving home from school at 10 pm. Since there is high pressure put on students to succeed and pass exams due to the lack of jobs in Korea, it being a small country with a high population, whenever failure takes place students can go through deep depression, resulting in a high suicide rate for Korea.
Please keep Danny and Izzy (featured in last month’s issue) in prayer as they continue to serve overseas.
-Kylie Kurth
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Local Eats You Spiral Diner
Spiral Diner is a down-right experience! This spiffy little hipster joint looks like it came straight out of Portlandia. The Spiral Diner is a completely vegan/vegetarian restaurant. Everything from the burgers, wraps and ice cream. They have a juice bar with juice shots and a bakery with yummy brownies. But if the word “vegan” scares you, let me tell you, this is some of the best vegan food out there. I most eagerly suggest The Death Star mocha sundae! AAHHHH… Address: 1314 W. Magnolia Fort Worth, TX 76104
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Vivo 53
Oooh, now Vivo 53 is the classy of the classy. This place is a high class, brick oven pizzeria, and believe me when I say it is legit. I was taken there for my birthday and the Blanca pizza was LITERALLY the best pizza I have ever eaten! Vivo 53 is the perfect choice for a serious date. Address: 525 Taylor St. Fort Worth, TX 76102
McKinley’s
McKinley’s is a charming, little café and bakery. I personally go for the bakery--it’s full of freshly made cookies, pies, cakes, brownies, cheesecakes and seasonal favorites. Specifically, the cream cheese brownies are my target treat...GAAWWWW! They do have regular meal items, but who are we kidding--bring on the dessert! Address: 1616 South University Dr. Fort Worth, TX 76107
Villa Diana
If you haven’t been or heard about Villa Diana, you sir/ma’am sure have been missing out. Villa Diana is an Italian ristorante, and boy can I tell you, they are not stingy on their portions. Their tortellini topped with pink sauce along with your choice of homemade cheesecake is delizioso! Address: 2475 East Renfro St. Burleson, TX 76028
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- Kayla Federowski
Open Carry on Campus?
A new state law took effect in Texas on January 1 that allows people to visibly carry a gun in most public places as long as they have an approved license. That law also applies to college campuses as well, but private universities like us have the option to still ban them. The students and faculty of Southwestern Adventist University took a poll back in November from Senate asking whether or not to allow guns on campus. Abel Mims, S.A. Executive Vice President and head of Senate, said the result from the poll was a resounding “no” from the students. The faculty and administration had their own meetings and concluded with the same results as the students. Abel said the decision could change in the
future, but for now, until the University Board votes later this month, it is still against school policy to carry a gun on campus. Dr. Ken Shaw says he’s happy to see the students, faculty and staff engaged and involved in dealing with tough issues such as this. As stated in the Student Handbook, “The possession and use of firearms, guns (including air soft, BB, paintball, pellet, etc.) and other forms of weapons (knives, bows and arrows, numchucks, etc.) by students on university property is prohibited” (pg. 10). Southwestern Adventist University was recently listed as one of the top three safest college campuses in Texas for 2016 by the rating website Niche! So even though students won’t be able to carry around a gun for extra personal safety and protection, our campus security and the nearby police station do an excellent job in keeping the campus safe from any harm and danger.
- Scott Wallace
Scott Wallace
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LESSONS IN LOVE IN THIS SCARY WORLD OF DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS, THE McHENRYS AND GARDNERS PROVIDE INSIGHT INTO THE RECIPE OF A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
How did you meet?
So, how long have you been married?
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Gardners:
McHenrys:
Over 42 years
12.5 years
M: We met at a music festival at Union College. The first time I saw Peter, he was sitting in front of me at church (a good place to meet a future spouse).
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G: We met through my sister Sally and brother-in-law Tom whom Bob had grown up with in Cortez, Colorado. We met at a Sabbath lunch in their little apartment in College Place, WA. Bob was a new sociology instructor at Walla Walla College (now WW University), and I had come up from Portland, OR, where I was teaching high school English supposedly to “visit” them. My sister had previously met Bob a few months earlier when they had Christmas with Tom’s family in Colorado. They drove home to Portland to spend New Year’s with our family, and the first sentence out of her mouth when they arrived was, “Susan, I know who you’re going to marry.” She and Tom had arranged that Sabbath lunch just to introduce us.
When you met, did you know that you had found “the one?” G: Susan: My sister seemed to know he was the one. I didn’t at first, but I was definitely interested. Bob: “I couldn’t say I knew she was ‘the one’ right then, but I found her very interesting.”
M: We were friends for a number of years before we started dating. We would see each other at music festivals, summer camp, etc. We started dating 3 weeks into my Freshman year of college (Peter was a year ahead of me in school).
If not, when did you know for sure that you had met the person you would be spending the rest of your life with? G: We had a few dates—long distance (we lived 250 miles apart)—and wrote letters and called (no social media in the day!). I loved his letters—so interesting, so much more detailed with important ideas than my previous fiance’s which talked about new wheel covers for his car, etc. Then I spent a summer in additional certification classes at WWU, and we really dated over 8 weeks. I had been deeply hurt from my broken engagement and was very, very cautious with my feelings. Bob wrote me a 3-page letter expressing how he loved me and what led to that, which I still have, but I was still scared. At the end of the summer he flew to Philadelphia for a conference and to see his parents. When I met him at the Portland airport, I knew he was my true love. And he still is!
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M: I knew that I would marry Peter in October of 2001 (the year we were both student missionaries). One year apart (I was in Czech Republic and he was in Ecuador) was more than enough. We got engaged in August 2002, a few weeks after we came back to the States.
Some people think that “age is just a number” when it comes to love. Do you think people can be too young to fall in love? Or rather, are they too young to know what love is? G: Young people can fall in love. We know successful couples who found each other as early as 8th grade. As one of Bob’s friends said years ago, “Puppy love is love to the puppy!”
M: We met when we were quite young (14 and 16!) and we were what some would consider young when we got married (22 and 24) so I think it’s certainly possible to meet your future spouse at a young age. But there needs to be a level of maturity and commitment present before you’re ready to fully promise your life to someone. Your understanding of love will continue to grow as you age.
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How do you define “love”? G: Love is a principle AND a feeling. Love has both attraction and respect for the other being.
M: I think that, overall, love is learning to put someone else before yourself. It is much more than a feeling, because you won’t always feel like putting others first. It is something that can be practiced and learned (just as a side note, this doesn’t mean that you should be a doormat— make sure when you’re choosing a spouse that you are both committed to putting each other first). When both husband and wife are putting each other first, great joy and satisfaction result.
What was the most important attribute you were looking for in a significant other? Why was this trait so important? M:
I wanted to marry a man who was committed to God and was seeking His will to guide all areas of his life. I knew that this type of man would love me in a Christ-like way and that we would be headed in the same direction. I also wanted to marry someone who would support my intellectual and academic goals and who would share the duties of the home with me.
G: Bob: I was looking for tall and blonde because in my home church when I was growing up, a tall woman kept saying it was terrible that a tall guy would date and marry a short girl when there were so many tall girls who couldn’t find tall guys to date! And later it occurred to me that I might need an editor when I was writing my dissertation. Susan: I was looking for someone who was what I call ‘a whole person’—intelligent, educated, knew who he was, spiritual, interesting to talk to—not an immature, egocentric young man.
Last, but not least, what advice would you give to a couple seeking to strengthen their relationship, not only between each other, but with God as well? M: Seek God first. Observe the way that your significant other treats people—his/her parents, your friends, the elderly, children, people that are not his/her friends, people that are weaker than him… If he/ she is only kind or respectful to you and not to others, that’s not a good sign. Spend lots of time together in all types of settings and talk a lot to learn more about what your goals and values are.
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G: It helps a great deal to share the same religious faith, but more important, it is crucial to have a spiritual relationship individually with God. If two marry from different faith backgrounds, it can cause real bumps, but they are not impossible to overcome if there is mutual respect for each other and each other’s faith community, knowing God works with each of us in His own way and in His own time. You have to talk and listen to each other with interest and respect, which is what will last over time with each other and with God.
- Haley Villagomez
HOT SPOTS Instead of crying on the inside about that paper you’re supposed to be doing while at home during Spring Break, why not cry on the inside somewhere else? Here are 5 places in the U.S that aren’t too far from SWAU that you can visit (and forget your school worries)!
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Moody Gardens Love pyramids?
Well I found three of them for you. The Moody Gardens way down in Galveston, Texas feature three main pyramid attractions: the Aquarium Pyramid, which is one of the largest in the region and holds many species of fish and other marine animals; the Rainforest Pyramid, which contains tropical plants, animals, birds, butterflies, reptiles, and a variety of other rainforest animals including free-roaming monkeys and two-toed sloths; and the Discovery Pyramid, which focuses on science-oriented exhibits and activities. It also has a 4D movie theatre.
3. Jacob’s Well
Like swimming? Love danger? Then Jacob’s Well is the place for you! It’s a gorgeous diving spot (that’s been known to swallow people whole) in a pristine location for Texas visitors wanting to cross “Surviving the Abyss” off their bucket list. Even if you aren’t an adrenaline junkie, you’ll enjoy Jacob’s Well. People of all ages come from all over to dive from the rocks above into the surrounding waters spewing from the Well.
5. Ouachita National Forest
I found this place while driving through it due to my awful sense of direction. It’s a beautiful place, but don’t expect cell service for about 3 hours. I recommend an ancient “map” (a device that requires no batteries and comes printed on paper). This national forest is a breathtaking, 1.8 million acres, and if you get in far enough, you will hear nothing and see nothing but beautiful nature. Want to get away from the digital age? This is the place.
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2. Turner Falls
Turner Falls in Oklahoma is a short drive from campus. With cheap costs, you and some friends can visit and not put a dent in the Taco Bell Fund (aka the bank account). This is a fantastic place for camping, hiking, swimming, and beautiful 70 foot cliffs that pour refreshing water into the lake below.
4. Hamilton Pool Preserve
How about a 232 acre nature preserve with a fancy name like Hamilton? Curious about how a pool and a grotto got there in the first place? No? Too bad. The two were formed when the dome of an underground river collapsed due to massive erosion, thousands of years ago. If that doesn’t sound sick, I don’t know what would. The Hamilton Pool has a beautiful 45 ft waterfall that comes down into, you guessed it, the Hamilton Pool. Tons of beautiful nature to hike around in and enjoy.
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calendar & announcements Upcoming S.A. events you don’t wanna miss! Deadline to apply for S.A. Positions February 16
S.A. Elections
February 24, 6:00 pm @ The Student Center February 25, 1:00 pm @ Evans Auditorium
Rollerskating Event
February 27 (time and location TBD)
Mimosa: A Night in Paris
March 27, 6:00 pm @ The Ashton Depot
Outdoor Movie Night Date TBD
Lake Day
April 24 (time and location TBD)
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Have a story to tell or an idea to share? Let us know by directing your suggestions or questions to clarissa@swau.edu