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Carly is a quirky, Type A workaholic with a
passion for all things pre p.
Her closet is
filled with collared shirts and ballet flats.
She always has a stash of band aids
and mul-
tiple flavors of lip balm tucked into her handbag. She wouldn’t be caught dead without her pearls on and thinks you should
live
your dreams. follow her on twitter: @collegeprepster
Paris is a charming southern girl. She’s a
b o o k w o r m , l a m e j o k e c o n n o i s s e u r, a n d W h o l e Fo o d s - o h o l i c . S h e h a s a n u n r i v a l e d a r g y l e sock collection and can’t go a day without
I f Vo g u e a n d T h e E c o n o m ist h a d a l ove ch i l d , it would be Paris. She’s eating ice cream.
always there to make you laugh and smile, and believes in
spreading love ever ywhere she goes.
f o l l o w h e r o n t w i t t e r : @ pa r i s r o u z a t i
Melissa is a perpetual hostess, shopaholic and
stationer y lover.
She has a knack for
purchasing too many striped shirts, and
She goes weak in the knees for old Hollywood glamour
wishes peony season was year-round.
(if she could, she’d host a Great Gatsby-style lawn party every day), but still
enjoys the
little luxuries of city living
like taxi rides and coffee dates.
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Editor-in-Chief
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ever since I could read. I first began with the typical children’s magazines that had cute little cartoons, cuddly animals and lots of puzzles to work on. In middle school, I switched to the super glossy teenybopper magazines with the cutest boys on the cover. Once I got my driver’s license, I upgraded to more mature teenage magazines. I needed, after all, to know exactly the best way to text my crush!!! Then I found myself on Georgetown University’s campus and my old favorite magazines weren’t cutting it anymore. And the magazines targeted towards young women are not my cup of tea either; I believe these magazines portray women as ditzy with one thing on their mind: sex. Of course, I thought, not all young women want to read about 387 sex positions. Our options then for magazines are limited to decorating 6,000 square feet houses and cooking the perfect Thanksgiving dinner for twelve. The idea for Sweet Lemon Magazine was then planted in my head. I immediately asked Paris Rouzati to join as a partner, and she found Melissa Noucas whom we asked to join our team as well. Together, we went about finding talented writers with something interesting to share. I am so excited to share the first issue of Sweet Lemon with you. I envision the magazine as a collaborative effort between readers and editors. I want Sweet Lemon to connect driven young women with varying interests and expertise. It is not our mission to tell you how you should dress or how you should behave. Instead, we celebrate uniqueness; whether you enjoy champagne with macarons, or a coke and a hotdog! live your dreams,
Carly A. Heitlinger Carly A. Heitlinger www.thecollegeprepster.com @collegeprepster
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Jenna Allen
Ally Archer
Caroline Ariail
Katherine Audy
event designer Arlington, VA
Gonzaga University
University of Georgia
Messiah College
ZoĂŤ BjĂśrnson
Nikki Blank
Nicole Botsaris
holly deremo
Tulane University
Tufts University
Hofstra University
university of michigan
Janelle Driscoll
mequilla ferrar
Lucy George
Christine Giamattei
Boston Common mag boston, ma
makeup artist atlanta, ga
Western Kentucky University
boston, ma
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Carla Javier
Allegra Levine
tricia mantlo
Simmons College
Princeton University
University of Connecticut
Fashion Institute of Technology
lea matthews
C. Michael McAuley
shannon mcgee
Mallory McLane
Gordon College alum
university of florida alum
The Art Institute of Charlotte
heather mill M Booth
Alyssa Miller
Carolyn Molloy
missouri State University
Fairfield University
Sydney Goldstein
Duquesne University
Christine Mikiewicz, Northeastern University
new york, ny
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Chelsea Orcutt
Amelia Perches
Kristen Podbelski
Lily Pollard
Syracuse University
St. Edward’s University
Virginia Tech
santa monica college
allison prenger
Amy Lynn Prochet
Kayla Queen
Criseida Rico
project coordinator, atlanta, ga
New England Institute of Technology alum
Marshall University alum
The Art Institute of Charlotte
Genna Scheuerell
bridget slowey
Jenna Valdespino
Emory University
Georgia Institute of Technology
California State University Chico
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{sweet} From ATLANTA to PHILADELPHIA, CHAMPAGNE to SODA, CARLY, PARIS & MELISSA spill their must-haves for Fall . . .
Current Location: Georgetown
Tory Burch ROBINSON SATCHEL
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Kate Spade SIDEWALKS OF NEW YORK SCARF
Bobbi Brown TORTOISE SHELL BEAUTY KIT
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BEAN BOOTS by L.L.Bean
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Kiel James Patrick O v erboard K not E arrings
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Current Location: Atlanta
DINO CHARM by AURÉLIE BIDERMANN
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PARISIAN CHIC book
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Alexander Wang BUCKET BAG
Luchesse COWBOY B oot
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St. James Minqiuer STRIPED SHIRT
Current Location: Philadelphia
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BRIGHTLY COLORED trousers from J.Crew
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to visit the BIG APPLE & go APPLE PICKING
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3 ZIPPER GLOVES from J.Crew
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sugar paper SINCERELY STATIONERY
The perfect VINTAGE LEOPARD COAT
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her e’s to looki n g at you kid / / curated by paris & allison
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oli v e r p e opl e s thick rimm e d glass e s , $ 3 1 5 / / L I N D A FA R R O W L U X e s q uar e f ram e glass e s , $ 5 0 0 / / warb y park e r b e gl e y, $ 9 5 / / warb y park e r , $ 9 5 12
done up denim n ot y our a vera ge blues / / curated by paris & allison
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z ara gol d skinni e s , $ 6 0 / / C urr e nt / Elliott S kinni e s , $ 1 9 8 / / moth e r high - ris e f lar e d j e ans $ 2 2 0 13
arm candy
a d orn y our a rms / / curated by paris & allison
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( clockwis e ) A S O S Pack o f T wo S mooth Doubl e C u f f s , $ 3 2 / / lulu f rost S AW T O O T H B R A C E L E T, $ 2 0 5 / / Elsa P e r e tti B on e cu f f, $ 9 2 5 / / A N N M A S H B U R N l e ath e r cu f f, $ 7 0 / / M oti f 5 6 K arin C u f f, $ 3 2 / / B l e e I nara Elastic E v il E y e B rac e l e t, $ 3 2 / / Pam e la L o v e T alon C u f f $ 8 8 0 / / baubl e bar tortois e cu f f, $ 4 8 / / kat e spa d e bow bangl e , $ 1 2 8 15
pas de deux
st ep i n t o t he swee t se t s of t he sea son / / curated by carly
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campfire cozy
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b un d le up for the bonfire // curated by melissa
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( clockwis e ) chunk y tassl e throw, $ 6 9 / / kat e spa d e octo b e r ring , $ 7 8 / / an thropologi e plai d cap e , $ 1 4 8 / / DV b y Dolc e Vita boots , $ 8 9 / / anthropoli e twig monograms , $24 // MARC BY MARC J A C O B S tot e , $ 2 9 0 / / urban out f itt e rs branch bobb y pin , $ 1 2 / / j. cr e w camp socks , $ 1 2 / / b e l loc q t e a , $ 3 6
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au natural
go b a ck t o t he b a s i c s //curated by paris & allison
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H A R LOW R E P T I L E PRINT CLUTCH, $68 // O S C A R DE L A R E N T A ring , $ 1 7 5 / / st e v e ma d d e n boots , $ 2 3 0 / / opi polish in ‘ y ou d on ’ t know J a q u e s , ’ $ 6 / / S anctuar y Fau x Fur V e st, $ 1 3 8 // MARC BY MARC J A C O B S tot e , $ 2 9 0 / / MAISON MARTIN MARG I E L A ring , $ 4 1 0 / / luck y bran d f lats , $ 5 9 / / N i x on watch , $150
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dances with wolves my pl ac e is with you. i go where y ou go . / / c u r a t e d b y p a r i s & a l l i s o n
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( clockwis e ) lagui -
ol e kni f e , $ 9 5 / / joi e d r e ss , $ 3 7 8 / / f ol e y & corinna f ring e bag , $ 2 3 7 / / A utograph e d R alph L aur e n B ook , $ 4 0 0 / / CHRISTIAN LOUBOUT I N f ringl e ankl e boots , $ 1 , 3 0 0 / / I S A BEL MARANT beaded cu f f, $ 2 2 0 / / F O L K S T R I P ED W O O L S C A R F $ 1 4 0 / / W I L L I E N El S O N R ED H E A DED STRANGER, $20 // SID MASHBURN SMALL AFRICAN BEADS, $25
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reasons
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by nicole botsaris
As the weather changes from summer to fall, the leaves begin to change colors and the air becomes crisp and cool. This is the best time of year to shop because all the stores are just coming out with their brand new styles and colors.
Making New Friends + Seeing Old
Every girl needs her friends, and once school starts that means you are finally reunited with your friends for a whole year! This is the time to start creating new memories with your old friends, and creating new memories with your new friends.
Friends
Decorating Your Dorm Room or A p a r t m e n t Sometimes, walking into a new
empty apartment or dorm room can be a shock. Take that as a hint though, and start decorating your new room!
new notebooks and pretty pens
If you think your school supplies need an update listen up: Go with bright and girly! This is an instant mood booster when you’re in class. Don’t forget a planner either!
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Yes, even learning
Whether you’re still in college or a recent college grad, you did not get to where you are today by simply breezing through your high school and college academics. Without learning anything we would not reach our goals!
Gaining New Experiences
There are so many doors that open for you once a new school year starts. Make sure you take advantage of all of them! You never know what you could accomplish or take on until you try out all the possibilities that are presented to you.
Overcoming Obstacles‌
Every time we go past a roadblock we only get stronger. By the end of the year we will have grown so much and be much stronger thanks to what we have faced and defeated.
‌ and succeeding
Make goals, (realistic ones) and go out there and achieve them! The possibilities are endless and no one is stopping you from doing what you want
having new professors
New Beginnings
Email your professor during the first week of classes and schedule a meeting during their office hours to introduce yourself, go over course material and just to get to know them
Every year is a new beginning to a new chapter in your life. Every year brings about new experiences and there is no limit to what you can do.
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{ by alyssa miller // @theycallmesa } “All my life I'd been told what to believe about politics, coloreds, being a girl. But with Constantine's thumb pressed in my hand, I realized I actually had a choice in what I could believe." These are some wise words written in Kathryn Stockett’s amazing novel, The Help. I was a little skeptical about reading this book since it had become such a phenomenon. I know it sounds strange but when something, especially a book, becomes so huge I always get this gut reaction telling me, “Do not let yourself get sucked it!” It happened with Twilight and it happened again with The Help, but I am happy to say that I set aside my doubts about the book and just dug right in. Just like after reading my first Twilight book, I was hooked! This book is one that once you get started, you do not want to put it down, ever. The change of characters every so often in the book really keeps you on your toes and the hysterical one liners, like Skeeter asking her date if he “was dropped on his head as an infant,” makes this book so enjoyable to read. I love all the southern charm and details, such as the girls talking about being Chi Omegas at Ole Miss and watching the Rebels play on television every Saturday. But trust me, this book is not just southern charm and whit. The inspiration behind it and the tell all feel it has of outing the white families of Jackson, Mississippi really make you think and imagine what life would have been like if you had lived in the South in the sixties. Essentially, if you had any doubts about this book and its huge fan base, just like I did, throw in the towel and go grab yourself a copy!
This book by Heather Barbieri is not quite as witty or engrossing as The Help is but I loved it just the same. The main character in this book, Kate, is an American who goes across the pond to the home of her ancestors in Ireland after enduring a bad breakup. Kate is young and foreign and completely out of her element when she finds herself in the small town of Glenmara. The older women in the town take an instant liking to Kate and take her in as one of their own. Much like Skeeter in The Help, Kate is a very relatable and human character that I found myself instantly drawn to. Because of the heartbreak she has just been through, Kate is vulnerable and emotional, yet viciously independent and determined to follow her dreams. Also like Skeeter, Kate is finding herself in the company of people that are basically strangers that are from a different culture and a different age group, yet, they are the ones loving, supporting and encouraging her. Talk about a life changing experience. The lessons and experiences Kate has in “The Lace Makers of Glenmara” are lessons that are sure to stick with you long after you turned the last page. The book paints such a vivid and amazing picture of a place I have never been to (but have always dreamt of going to!) that I found myself feeling like I was sitting at a table with all the lace makers or walking on a cobblestone path and could feel the breeze and salty smell of the ocean in the distance. So, if you find yourself in need of a good book with similar characteristics as The Help, be sure to make yourself a plate of fish and chips and pick up a copy of this Irish tale!
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by Nikki Blank
10 { Hunter Boots } 9 { Classic Blazer } 8 { North Face Fleece } 7 { ID Case/Wallet } 6 { Leggings } 5 { Going Out Clothes } 4 { solid pair of pumps } 3 { cross body Satchel } 2 { Tote bag } 1 { Ballet Flats } for chic rainy days
for professional events + polished casual looks
for crisp fall days, wintery mixes + spring breezes
to stash cash + ids
for a go-to wardrobe staple in any weather
for nights out with new friends
that won’t kill your feet when walking cross-campus
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Also, for the Mal & Cris article, the photo credit needs to go to: Heather Yountz
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Mal and Criss was founded through a culmination of exquisite taste and passion for all things beautiful. Both Mallory McLane and Criseida Rico bring their appreciation of a world unbeknownst to many. Where they believe and see the power of the perfect picture exhibiting the most intricate details of an item or garment. These two socialmedialites come together despite their longitudinal and cultural differences to create a world they call their own. As a result, they offer a unique point of view filtered by their aesthetic preferences. Such as Mal's eclectic, hobo chic style that is intertwined with classic and trendy pieces; Or Criss' lust for the glamorous, sophisticated and exotic lifestyles. Champagne or coke? They'd prefer their Extra Dirty Ketle One Martinis with NY Sharp Cheddar Cheese... photos by Heather Yountz 29
mm: So Criss, what would you say are three words to describe Mal & Criss?
CR: Multi-Faceted, Creative and Ambitious.
mm: Now give me three words to describe yourself, [laughs] and don’t over think it, they want the real deal here… CR: Free-spirited
mm: That’s already two words CR: No Mal, that’s hyphenated!
mm: [Giggles] Okay, whatever CR: Creative and Mexican
mm: You’re hilarious, and I love that you’ve just used your Mexican heritage to introduce yourself, does that mean I should make a point to say I’m Irish? “If you’re lucky enough to be Irish, you’re lucky enough.”
class. We were busy doing research for our project, and if you know anything about forecasting trends, it’s all about the influencers of the zeitgeist. We kept seeing a reoccurring theme, that everything we researched along the way was either influenced or showcased by a prominent blogger. As we filtered through endless blogs, we realized that we had more than enough in common. Our conversations went a little like so:
mm: “Omg, I love that!” CR: “Omg, I love that too!” mm: “Uh, are you realizing that we like the same things?” CR: “Um, yea. I know.”
So after many “Omg you too!” moments, we came to the conclusion that we were almost the same person with the same aspirations. And suddenly the light bulb went on: to start a blog of our own.
CR:
And as exciting and happy as it makes me just thinking about all of our hard worked efforts, where do you see ‘Mal & Criss’ going within the next few years?
CR: Okay my little leprechaun, so what are your three mm: Expansion is always the first word that comes to words?
mm: Sarcastic, Social…and Visionary! CR: I absolutely agree. So how about some storytell-
ing, eh? How did we come up with ‘Mal & Criss’ anyway?
mm: It’s a funny story we, [mainly you, Criss] have always loved to share and so I love that you’re now making me answer this one! It all started in our Fashion Forecasting class. We were assigned the task to create a fashion forecast for the year of 2012, the presentations were weekly and the workload… well, it wasn’t necessarily small. One day our professor saved our presentation as “malcris” and then continued to call us up to present as “Mal and Criss,” short but true - and it was ever since that moment that we became an inseparable duo. It wasn’t until a couple months later that we were brainstorming endless titles for our blog. After getting nowhere with cute, quirky names… which we quickly realized was absolutely not our M.O., we finally decided to keep it simple, and go back to the basics, thus malandcriss.com was born. mm: So let’s tell these peeps, where did the idea to start our blog come from? CR: Again, it was all about that Fashion Forecasting
mind when I think of our future as ‘Mal & Criss.’ However, graduation is almost here, and that means finding that big girl job; Hold up – let me reword that for you, the ultimate dream job – (wherever that may be) but no matter how far away we end up from each other, there is no doubt in my mind that we will continue doing great things as ‘Mal & Criss.’ After all, we’re all about seeking new experiences. So why not share them under one single domain?
CR: I totally and whole-heartedly agree. It’ll be like
part deux of MC! “Mal and Criss: Life after graduation.” Omg…we should write a book!
mm: So, what… now you’re telling me the future you see for Mal and Criss is “Mal and Criss, a novel of North meets South, Blonde meets Brunette and two fashion crazy girls explore the world?” CR: what we stand for as a team, what’s on your mind for this season Miss Rachel Zoe?
mm: Ever since we attended Mercedes Benz Fashion
Week in February of this year, my mind has been on palazzo pants and scarlet red. I can’t seem to get my mind off of the palazzo pants. Though, I haven’t quite found the perfect pair just yet. When it comes to to trends, I like to take my time picking out the perfect pieces that work for me. 30
“Okay my little leprechaun, so what are your three words?“
“sarcastic, social . . and visionary!”
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CR: As soon as you said the words Mercedes Benz Fashion Week and scarlet red, all I could think about was how obsessed I became with Linda Fargo’s outfit at Monique Lhuillier’s show. I remember standing there in awe as she gracefully spoke to the paparazzi of cameramen in her perfect combination of scarlet red pants, a polished boyfriend, black blazer and leopard print booties. Ahhhh-mazing!
shop Mal's Closet
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fuchsia sandals,
Aldo $70
mm: And not to mention the aurora of your highness glowing off of her! We admire women that hold executive positions in the fashion industry. Better yet, any woman that is ambitious, entrepreneurial and powerful. CR: We will be one of them one day. Trust me, I can see it.
mm: I think we’ve learned a lot, even just in this past year we have grown so much with the blog and meeting new influencers of our time. With that in mind, what advice would you give to someone who was trying to start a “brand” of their own?
flared jeans,
MIH $189
CR:
You know me, I’m all about developing new concepts and brands. Afterall, it’s what I focused my senior portfolio on. Creating a brand out of scratch is no easy task. It takes patience, focus, consistency and lots and lots of attention to detail! Once you have established those main points, the brand will slowly develop on it’s own…it can’t just happen over night peeps.
bow tie blouse,
mm:
Tinley Road, $49
You sure? Because I’m pretty sure we whipped out our concept and site in a matter of days [giggles].
CR:
Ah yes, that week where sleep didn’t matter because we were too engrossed in bringing to life something that we believed had potential [giggles]. Pardon me, has more than enough potential. As we almost hit our one year mark, what do you have Michael Kors, $250 to say about all these past months?
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shop Criss’ Closet gold cuff,
mm: I’m more than impressed. It’s easy to sit and dream about what you want to happen and as a visionary myself; it is even easier to imagine what the future may look like in your own life. However, making it come true is a whole other task. I have to say, again, the people whom we’ve met over the past year; in doing what we love is what impresses me the most. Putting our selves out there to work at MBFW, being asked by magazines to contribute and even being asked by our school to give a presentation on our success thus far, says a lot. The other day I was searching for quotes based on the idea of inspiration and one in particular stood out to me, it was something Steve Jobs said, “Innovation dis tinguishes between a leader and a follower.” My whole life I feel as though I took the easy role as a follower and now, with all that we’ve done in just one year, that role has quickly been changing. [I’ll drink an extra dirty martini with blue-cheese stuffed olives to that, my sweets!]
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BCBG $88
black shirt dress MICHAEL Michael Kors $175
CR: Cheers to…wait I lost it.
mm:
You’re always losing it!
CR: Ugh, give me a sec. It’ll come back…
mm:
snakeskin pumps,
[waiting]
CR: Cheers to the most amazing and most chaotic past few months I think we’ve both ever experienced. Now I’ll drink a double to that!
Nine West, $52
“In the midst of all the chaos [between school, work and everything else], there is one thing we share in common, a dedication to the ever-growing world of Mal & Criss. It’s a place where we have been able to gather our skills, personalities and common aesthetic wants and desires. Needless to say, we are proud of what we do and cannot wait to see where this newly found path will take us.” -Criss
cream tote, Michael Kors $348
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fall/winter must-haves b y mal&criss
Each year as Fall approaches, there has always been a certain “list” we refer to that must be checked off. New jacket, fresh off of the rack [or website], boots that make our hearts melt and a few extras to help us make it through yet another cold season. Quite honestly, the list could go on and on, but we’ve decided to give you a few “must have” items to keep you on the road of hotness for this season! - As told by Mal
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As the leaves change with the coming of Fall, we quickly find ourselves reaching for richer tones that embody the warmth of summer we suddenly miss. The fiery orange in this ATHENA PROCOPIOU modal-blend scarf is the perfect add on piece to a black or cognac-brown leather jacket!
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This VINCE leather jacket is gorgeous! Although it’s great to be trendy, you should always have a classic leather jacket in your closet. You can easily wear this precious piece from day to night. We’re all about the details and the subtle quilted leather on this piece is just one of the many reasons we love this gem!
To polish off the list for this season, we suggest the calm aroma of a TOCCA candle to keep at home, we prefer “Leather Martini," along with a cozy throw-blanket from NORDSTROM. Each is sure to help you relax and enjoy chilly nights at home this Fall/Winter. The only thing missing from this list is a girl’s night in, with a bottle of red wine with Pandora radio on Ella Fitzgerald. Cheers to embracing the chilly weather that’s to come!
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Since my first years of college, one of my best friends has always said to me, “All you need for Fall/Winter is a boyfriend and a good pair of boots!” I have to admit, she may have been onto something. A date for all of the holiday parties and a sexy pair of boots leaves very little to complain about as it gets chilly outside. COCLICO makes amazing shoes, and these boots were built for comfort with their enclosed “bouncy platform” and 3.75” wooden heel. Love.
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This Fall, kick off your boots to reveal a bit of flare with a pair of fun striped socks. Who wants to wear black or plain white socks when you can rock a pair of MISSONI’s striped cotton-blend socks? While Summer is all about wearing light and Remember, “It’s better to be airy pieces, we all know Fall and Winter are absolutely ridiculous than quite the opposite. Sweaters are oversized, boots absolutely boring” [Marilyn are over the knee and bags… well, they just can’t Monroe]. be small. After all, everything must be balanced; which is why we chose this BCBG messenger bag - Three words, chic, versatile and gorgeous. We’re not sure if it was all the talk of the strategic alliance between MISSONI and TARGET, or simply their extraordinary eye for color and design that has us moving this designer to the top of our Fall must have list. Either way, this geometric acetate bib necklace is Once you’ve given your precious pout a scrub, we the perfect statement believe in polishing it off with an all time claspiece to add color and sic – the original CHAPSTICK. Rosebud Salve is vibrancy to a cool amazing too, we do agree, but there’s something Fall/Winter day or about the classic CHAPSTICK product that we night. can’t get over, and the best part is it’s cheap, accessible and reliable.
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shop their apartment cushion,
IKEA, $20
trinket box, Anthropologie, $18
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coffee mugs, elephant,
IKEA, $130
Pier 1, $19
Pier 1, $120
vetiver & vanilla soy candle, KOBO, $38
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ach LaRoche is anything but ordinary. From planning the first New Orleans Fashion Week, to jumping into the LA fashion world feet first, Rachael experiments with her style all over the country! Her fashion blog, Ordinarily Urbane, is all about incorporating new and old styles into a fashionista’s life, while keeping things accessible and on trend. Her girly but laid back style is inspired by anything from the Rose Bowl flea market to the cute and branchée (Français for stylish) girl walking down Magazine street in NOLA. It’s no wonder various fashion blogs, alongwith MTV style, have featured Rachael for her fab style and cute pieces!
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ZB: Where did you grow up and where have you lived? Do your surroundings influence your style? RL: I grew up in South Florida and after going to college in the panhandle I moved to Chicago, then New Orleans, and now live in Los Angeles. Where I’ve lived has definitely influenced my style, not only just because of the weather but also because of what was the ‘norm’ around me. I’ve always had a unique perspective on getting dressed but that definitely varied depending on whether I was around other gals in mini skirts versus jeans and tees. I carry a bit of each city with me, too. ZB: What are the top three things that influence your style? RL: Really anything pretty! A striking color combination, a quirky editorial spread or even just a cute girl on the street. I’m inspired by anything and everything that I find aesthetically appealing. ZB: If you could describe your style in three words, how would you describe it? RL: Girly, Modern, Vintage ZB: Where did you go to school? What did you study? RL: I received by BA in Advertising from Florida State University and then went on to get my MS in Integrated Marketing Communications from Northwestern University. I’ve always loved being challenged academically and as a natural problem solver school, or any sort of learning, is right up my alley. ZB: Tell us a little bit about your past and current professions. Have they allowed you to experiment with fashion and your personal
style? RL: I’ve been working in various aspects of the communications field for my entire career, both in the corporate office and small business setting. Currently I’m working as a fashion marketer, a job I feel so passionate about. My personal style is naturally affected by more work environment, which makes it kind of fun to play with what you like to fit different scenarios. ZB: What inspired you to start Ordinarily Urbane and when you did you start it? RL: I started my blog in the fall of 2009 as a way to connect with other women through fashion and push myself to explore and experiment with my personal style. Some bloggers get started and go crazy buying new clothes to stay on trend, but I did the opposite and used blogging as a way to get creative with what I already had. Ordinarily Urbane reflects not just my personal style but also the idea that everyone can have fun with getting dressed regardless of their budget, size or point of view. ZB: Is blogging a hobby for you, or full time? If you do consider it more of a hobby, would you want to make it full time if possible? RL: Yep, blogging is a hobby for me. I’m thrilled at the opportunities I’ve had and the people I’ve met because of my blog, but it’s more of a creative outlet than a career for me at this point. ZB: What’s next for you? RL: My blog will continue to feature my personal style and explore easy ways to wear new trends while I explore my new home of Los Angeles. Professionally I am pursuing 39
a full time opportunity that combines my marketing background with my love for fashion, it’s totally the best of both worlds. ZB: Who are your fashion icons? RL: I say my style is a bit of Debbie Harry mixed with Rachel Bilson, styled by Lauren Conrad. All thee women are style icons of mine for their fun and flirty approach to fashion while still always looking pulled together. ZB: What three pieces are on your wish list right now? RL: Bass [hearts] Rachel Antonoff loafers, the Wanderlust Satchel from Kate Spade’s Westward collection, and everything from Lauren Conrad’s new line Paper Crown. ZB: What are a few of your favorite pieces ever? RL: The red blazer I’m wearing here is one of my most treasured garments – it’s a vintage Dolce & Gabbana blazer that I found at a secondhand shop for $16. I’ve also had a long love affair with this Dooney & Bourke satchel, it’s the perfect carry-all to take me through even the carry-all to take me through even the longest of days. And I’ve recently become reobsessed with the nameplate necklace my mom had custom made for me in the sixth grade. I’m so glad I still have it! ZB:: What are your top five favorite places to shop? RL: I shop all over the place! To be honest I can’t tell you five places that I go regularly. Thrift and vintage stores and flea markets are my favorite places to find awesome, unique garments. Etsy is great for
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discovering independent designers. I also love online shops like Shopbop for designer duds, Bona Drag for fashion forward pieces, ModCloth for adorable girly wear and Mikkat Market for well priced, on-trend goods.
with bold wine lips. Fall is my favorite season to dress for so I just can’t wait!
ZB: What styling tips would you give us for the fall?
RL: Wear what makes you feel good.
RL: Silky wide leg trousers, especially printed ones, will be perfectly paired with tie-neck blouses. Take your colorblocking to a new level with rich jewel tones, like emerald, royal blue and especially burgundy. Little bags are back, buy a cute one you can hold onto. Menswear inspired loafers and oxfords are perfect for day and night. Give your regular fall layers a fresh take with something unexpected like a sleeveless trench or cropped cape. Step up your evening attire with a delicate pair of gloves. And top your outfit off
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RL: Use that lemon juice on the dry spots on your knees, elbows and face for brighter, softer skin in no time. Pair with your favorite outfit and you’ll be glowing inside and out!
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Fall fashion is back, and it’s time to revamp your closets for a new season. Making the trends work from day to night — and on a budget — can sometimes be a challenge, but it can be done . . . with a twist. Here’s how . . . by Janelle Driscoll @JanelleDriscoll
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menswear [work] You don’t have to raid your boyfriend’s closet to perfect this fall look. The key to pulling off menswear at work is to balance proportions. cardigan, gap $50. top, j.crew $69. pants, gap $59. shoes, aldo $50.
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menswear [play] For happy hour or a dinner date, keep it casual with a short sleeved buttondown, slim trousers & menswear-inspired heels. top, gap $69. slim crop trouser, gap $49. skinny belt. shoes, aldo $100.
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animal print [work] When it comes to leopard, one or two pieces per outfit are best. Shoes are definitely the easiest way to incorporate the trend, but I suggest saving the leopard heels for a night on the town. top, j.crew $69. pencil skirt, j.crew $118. necklace, j.crew $39 shoes, steve madden.
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animal print [play] Try a sheer top in a leopard print with understated black accessories and a pair of cigarette pants for a night on the town. top, necessary objects $48. jeans, urban outfitters $58. shoes, jessica simpson $79. bangles, j.crew. clutch.
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color-blocking [work] Less is more when it comes to making this work in a professional environment . . . blouse, j.crew $98. pencil skirt, j.crew $120. necklace, j.crew. neutral shoes.
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color-blocking [play] . . . but outside the office, few rules apply. blouse, intermix $188. jeans, j.brand $176. yellow clutch. shoes, elie tahari.
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A friend recently asked me what would best be paired on the top with leggings. One of my favorite shirts for the season (particularly paired with leggings) is what I have donned the mullet shirt. Mullet shirt: noun. Shirt that is short in the front and longer in the back. I particularly like these types of shirts with leggings because not only does it give the look character, but it also flatters your body more. The length in the front should hit right below your hoo ha or at the thinnest part of your upper thigh. The back can range in all lengths. A general rule I have for back length is that it can be no longer than two inches below your bum. This way you will not loose your shape, while keeping a male admirer guessing as to what is two inches above that hem of yours.
vero moda // $49
One of my favorite mullet shirts is from Madewell (link). I love to pair it with a basic pair of leggings, which is a perfect bottom for your shift into fall. Leggings are light and cropped and can look good on every body type- if chosen properly. If you have a choice, go for pockets please! A pocket is such a beautiful detail that is so overlooked. To me, it gives depth and definition to an otherwise plain shirt. Not to mention that there can be very slight, interesting detail on your pockets. Roll your sleeves up too! It will give you that “I don’t care what I look like but I actually spent 20 minutes getting ready this morning� type of look. Lastly, a mullet shirt should not and cannot be worn with any type of loose fitting, baggy short or pant. Mullet shirts tend to be a boxier cut itself, so opt for a tight skinny jean or leggings!
vero moda // $32
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what to wear by AMELIA PERCHES
The first date is crucial, because it is during this that you give (and gain) first impressions of one another. The first impression, I believe, is not only given through what you say, but also through how you are dressed. For a first date, you want to look pretty and polished, and your clothing choices should reflect this. For instance, this dress is a flirty floral option that shows just enough skin without being too “much.� Paired with a denim jacket, a simple ring and classic heels, this look is perfect for a movie date or dinner. follow AMELIA on twitter
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JACKET American Eagle, $50 DRESS Modcloth, $43, RING Bauble Bar, EARRINGS Bauble Bar, $40 Steve Madden HEELS Piperlime, $50, WRISTLET Coach, $48
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by KAYLA QUEEN
In my experience, guys don’t really like feeling like they can’t touch your face in case it smears. And really, there aren’t many girls that feel that way either. Don’t you want him to wrap his hand around your cheek and kiss you softly in the moonlight while your left foot unknowingly lifts off the ground? Yeah, well, that’s not going to happen if he’s afraid of getting makeup all over himself. So for a date night look, it’s best to go for a natural look with a touch of sexy. Whether it’s your first date or you’ve been with the same guy since high school, this look should fit for any occasion. follow KAYLA on twitter @kaylaqueen
for a perfect line every time. Using a liquid or gel eyeliner, start at the outer corner of your eye and make a little angle toward the outer tip of your brow. Then, create another little line that connects the tip of the first line to your lashline, which creates a tiny little triangle. Fill in the triangle and continue the smooth line all the way across your lashline. This should create the perfect cateye wing that gives this look a good amount of allure.
Using a lightweight foundation or a tinted moisturizer, even out your skin tone. Use concealer to cover any blemishes or dark spots, but remember to keep it light. Apply eyeshadow primer or a bit of concealer to keep the shadows in place. Lightly dust your face with some powder. For your lids, use a light, cream-colored shade all over, then use an eyeshadow just one or two shades darker than your natural skintone for the crease. A highlighter shade for the brow looks nice with a little shimmer in it, but matte is perfect, too. You don’t want a lot of eye shadow, because this look is really all about the eye lashes and lips.
Once the eyeliner is set, curl your eyelashes and add a couple good coats of mascara. Dust some peachy, shimmery blush on your cheeks for a flush of color, and finish the look off with your favorite red lipstick. A longwearing stain is perfect for dates and dinners, because you don’t have to worry so much about maintenance.
Winged eyeliner can be tricky, but use these quick tips
Divide hair into two sections — the underneath and the top layers. First, comb out your locks, then pin the top
layers with a big clip. Starting in the back, grab one to two inch sections of your hair and roll around a 1 1/2 inch barrel curling iron. Remember to curl away from your face. Let the section set for a few seconds and release from the iron in a loose spiral. Repeat until all hair is curled. To finish, run your fingers through each curl to soften it up, spray all over with a light-holding hairspray and shake it out a bit.
Because you’re going pretty natural with the hair and makeup, a sexy, vintage red nail works nicely for date night, and will match your red lips. Your guy might not even notice your nails, but you will feel like a lady with
these perfectly polished fingertips. *Tip from the Expert * Red nail polish will show mistakes, so be sure to be patient so that your manicure looks clean and perfect — and sexy.
Simple curls or waves are great for date nights. They look pretty and put together without looking too done up and crunchy. Boys also like to touch your hair during goodnight kisses, so these work nicely for that factor. Just be sure not to hide behind your bangs or long layers. Show off your face, ladies.
Bobbi Brown Skin Foundation in Warm Sand, M.A.C. Mineralize Skinfinish Natural in Medium, NARS Blush in Orgasm, Bobbi Brown Shimmerbrick in Pink Quartz, Bobbi Brown Eyeshadow in Ivory (for the base and hightlighter), Bare Minerals Eyeshadow in Queen Tiffany (for the crease), Maybelline Eye Studio Lasting Drama Gel Eyeliner in Charcoal, Maybelline Falsies Mascara in Blackest Black, M.A.C. Pro Longwear Lipcolour in Stuck on You. 51
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S TEAL//OP I P olish in Mimosas for Mr. an d Mrs ., $8.25, S PLURG E//Chanel L eVernis Nail Varnish in Django, $25
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After some careful research and consideration, these two are almost a dead match, the only difference being that the Chanel polish has a hint of shimmer while the OPI varnish is pure color with no sparkle. Both are a gorgeous shade of light and luminous pink. Opaque brights pop nicely against tanned skin and can be layered with other shimmer topcoats or even glitter topcoats for a funky twist on a classic.
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For a glamorous take on a classic summer tan, shimmer powder can be your best friend. A sprinkle here and there of some bronzing powder will have you glowing in no time. There are so many varieties out there of bronzing powders; there is no need to spend all your cash, a little less than ten dollars can buy you some of the best products out there! The MAC bronzer as well as the Rimmel bronzer feature honey golden undertones that bring luminous warmth to your cheeks! S plurge/ / M AC min erali ze S kin f in ish bronzing powder in G oldS ton e $ 2 8 . 5 0 , S t eal/ / R imm el Lon don Natural L ight B ron zer $ 4
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S plurge//Estée L auder S ig nature 5- Ton e Shimm er P owde r for Eyes, Cheeks , Fac e $36, S teal// P hysicians Formula S himmer Strips for C heeks, eyes, an d body $7
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Everyone knows that unkempt brows are a beauty faux pas, no matter what the season. Keeping your face framers trimmed and plucked is a must, but something a little more daring has popped up on the runway – darkened and highly defined brows. Almost geometrical in shape and chocolate in color, it’s a very edg y fall look. An everyday-friendly version of this is simply darken your brows a touch, and possibly use a swipe of brow gel (clear mascara works also) to frame your face and brow bones. S plurge/ / B en ef it B row Zings K it $ 3 0 , S t eal/ / M ayb elline B row B rush and C olor $ 4
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Saving the world. What does this concept bring to mind? Maybe a superhero dashing around in a cape, catching all the bad guys, throwing them in jail and finishing in time to always get the girl. Perhaps the celebrity philanthropists traveling to Southeast Asia to adopt children. You may have even heard of a distant friend of a friend spending a year in Africa to save lives by providing mosquito nets for villages.
Cause: Operation Smile | THRU 2011, $ 85
These are respectable, honest to goodness kind acts that really do make a difference in the world (superheroes are nice, too!). However, acts like these are difficult to come by and because of that, there are some lesser-known opportunities for a girl on a budget to help save the world. How, you ask? Through beauty products.
Ten percent of the proceeds from emerginC’s Triple Threat Peel go toward Operation Smile, an organization that provides safe surgery for children born with cleft palates and other facial deformities. These donations will be made through the end of 2011.
There is an endless list of beauty companies that carry products with proceeds that go directly toward various charities and causes. Support a brand and a cause that you are passionate about. You’re buying the products anyway, so why not feel good about doing so? You’ll get good karma to go along with your good skin.
All of emerginC’s products are paraben-free and instead made with natural plantbased preservatives. The Triple Threat Peel uses retinol and vitamin C to provide fresh, vibrant skin tones after usage.
Triple Threat Peel from emerginC
Here are some products that help you, help others and help you help others.
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GOGO Natural Volume A rg a n M a s c a r a f ro m Josie Maran
Green Siren Natural Cheek Stain from Tarte Cosmetics
Cause: City of Hope Get One Give One Campaign | $22
Cause: Sambazon’s Sustainable Acai Project | $30
GOGO equals Get One, Give One. Each mascara sold provides another for a cancer patient or survivor from City of Hope, a cancer care center based in Los Angeles County. The mascara keeps on giving after the first 5,000 are sold – Josie Maran will then donate a dollar from each sale to City of Hope’s women’s cancer research. This mascara kicks cancer while volumizing your lashes. The product promises to provide “full, longwearing, clump-free, water-resistant definition.” It also contains Argan Oil, a rare, natural ingredient generally found in Argan trees in Morocco. A product made of a 50% certified organic formula, this mascara is a win-win. Strengthen your lashes while providing strength to women with cancer.
Tarte Cosmetics has a full line of makeup inspired by True Blood and they now also carry the Green Siren Natural Cheek Stain, which works with the Sustainable Acai Project to ensure fairly traded products and to preserve the Amazon Rainforest. The organization, hosted by Sambazon, directly benefits communities in Brazil and has many conservation projects. Save the rainforest!
soft Hands, Kind Heart Hand Cream from The Body Shop
Cause: Stop Sex Trafficking of Children and Young People | $7 The Body Shop is fighting human trafficking! This serious issue is relevant (yes, even in the United States) and The Body Shop is helping out through ECPAT USA, a global organization with networks at local levels that work to eliminate child exploitation. For seven dollars, consumers get the hand cream and the knowledge that $5 of that purchase goes toward the Stop Sex Trafficking of Children and Young People campaign. This special edition hand cream contains fairly traded Italian olive oil and smells of citrus. Cure your dry hands and leave them feeling soft and moisturized. 55
This award-winning cheek stain is all natural and cruelty-free. Made with various delicious superfruits such as pomegranate and acai, the cheek stain has what Tarte calls the t5 super fruit complex.™ Get your fill of antioxidants and vitamins while working toward preserving the rain forest.
Pu r i f y i n g B o d y Wa s h f r o m M i r a i C l i n i c a l | THRU 2011, $19
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Mirai, which means “future” in Japanese, is a company that works directly with the American Red Cross to provide assistance in the relief to Japan since the earthquake and tsunami hit earlier this year. This devastation hit home for the founder of Mirai and she decided she wanted to help. Ten percent of all Mirai purchases made through the end of 2011 will be donated to the Red Cross the help fund the cause.
This beautiful eye shadow palette is one of many from Chantecaille that benefits animals. Five percent of the proceeds go toward WIDECAST and their goal of saving endangered sea turtles. The Caribbean species need help protecting their eggs and nesting areas from oil spills, accidental capture and highly-populated areas.
Cause: WIDECAST Sea Turtle Conservation Network | $79
This palette includes warm spring shades and one dark green shadow. The sheer powders can also be used for cheek color and feature cute sea turtles on each shade to remind users of the help they’re providing.
The Purifying Body Wash uses persimmon extracts and coconut oils to naturally hydrate skin and eliminate body odor.
Product: Eternal Equity Lip Gloss from PeaceKeeper Cause-metics
Cause: Micro-Credit Enterprises | $10 PeaceKeeper Cause-metics is wellknown for their charitable giving. With lip colors and nail polish, the company gives a percentage of every single sale to fund human rights issues. A dollar of each gloss purchased goes to women around the globe who live on less than a dollar a day. MicroCredit Enterprises works help these women pull themselves out of poverty. The Eternal Equity Gloss can be worn over lipstick or on its own, while the color works best for women with light hair colors.
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Nothing Can Slow Her Down by Katherine Audy
After a not-so-great attempt at volleyball my freshman year of high school, my best friend and I decided to try out for Indoor Track and Field. The week of try outs was difficult, but the hardest thing I faced that week was not on the track, it was in the doctor’s office. It was during this week that my doctor diagnosed me with Type One Insulin Dependent Diabetes. I was shocked and terrified, but I was mostly afraid I would have to quit track. I was so upset that I had to miss one day of try outs and I was afraid if I didn’t go back everyone would think I had gotten cut, again. I talked to my doctor about how important it was for me to be able to run and we immediately began talking about how to keep my blood sugar under control while running and other important things I had to know about running with diabetes. There were some times when I was afraid to run if my blood sugar was too low, and other times where I didn’t want to have to eat before a race. But, the important thing is
I went back to practice a few days after my diagnosis and six years later I am still running. I know I am definitely not the only girl out there facing something like this. Many athletes struggle to succeed within their sports, but some have more to overcome than others. Every person with diabetes could tell you that balancing blood sugars takes some practice, but it is very important to keep them in the target range. Adding exercise to this balancing act makes it a little more difficult. However, it can be done, and many people manage to do so every day. There are many factors that contribute to the affect exercise has on blood glucose levels, including: the time of day you exercise, the type of exercise you are participating in and the level of hydration. This may sound overwhelming and you may be wondering how to manage this, Dr. Sheri Colberg, author of The Diabetic Athlete has the answer. “The best way to deal with the multitude of variables is to learn your own responses to all of them by checking blood sugar levels before, during, and after exercise.” When you have diabetes and you choose to participate in any sort of physical activity you must be aware of your body and be careful because exercise is one of the most common triggers for hypoglycemia. However, this is absolutely no reason to avoid exercise. In fact, “regular physical activity improves blood glucose control by increasing the body’s sensitivity to insulin.” There are a few guidelines that Colberg 57
outlines in her book that I have personally found very helpful. The guidelines were produced by the American Diabetes Association and the American College of Sports Medicine. One guideline states that “diabetic exercisers should learn the glycemic response to different exercise conditions.” I have noticed that when I go out for a leisurely run, walk, or bike ride, my blood sugar tends to drop. Therefore, I make sure to eat some carbs before I go and also bring some with me just in case. But, when I am racing or training hard, my blood sugar tends to be higher due to increased adrenaline levels. Those times I do not worry as much about having carbs before I go. As I mentioned, having readily available carbohydrates when exercising is very important and it is another guideline for exercising with diabetes. One final and more specific guideline is that athletic diabetics should ingest 15 to 30 grams of carbohydrates for every 30 minutes of intense exercise. I have found this guideline to be very helpful and it has proven effective for me. Although it may seem difficult, the benefits that come from exercising far outweigh the additional energy needed to educate yourself and follow these guidelines. Once you make these practices a habit, and learn how your body works, exercising is a fun way to stay healthy and manage your blood glucose levels!
Tweet Katherine: @katie_renee1
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Between work and school, it’s almost impossible to find the time to exercise. Plus who has the mone y for a g ym membership? Exercise is an important way to relieve stress and maintain a healthy lifestyle. Here are some g reat ways to sneak in some workouts during your busy day. No membership required!
Commercial Abs:
We all enjoy sitting down and watching our favorite trashy TV shows at the end of a long day. Make use of this time by squeezing in some exercise during commercial breaks. Do crunches! Crunches and sit-ups are a quick and easy way to keep your core muscles strong. Switch it up every commercial. You can do regular crunches, planks, bicycles or any other type of abdominal work out. By the end of one hour-long television shows, you’ll have done fifteen minutes worth of core exercises.
Run Your Butt Off: Running is not only a great way to stay in shape, it’s also light
on the piggy bank because it is FREE! You can run whenever and wherever is most convenient for you. One way to brighten up your day is to start your workday off with a run to help clear your mind. Bring a pair of sneaks and gym clothes with you to work so you can go for a light jog during your lunch break. Running is also an amazing was to unwind a bit after a long day at work. No matter what time of day you choose, running is a stress reliever and burns tons of calories- so get up and go!
Walk It Out: The simplest way to burn an extra few calories and ton your legs is walking. Instead of taking a cab down a few blocks, take the initiative to make the time to walk. See an escalator? Take the stairs. Adding some more steps into your day will fit into your busy schedule effortlessly.
Lift for Leanness: Go down to your local sports store and buy some cheap hand
weights. Get weights based on whatever amount you are comfortable with. Whenever you find yourself not busy or have a free couple of minutes, do arm curls. You can use your hand weights if you’re on the phone, watching a movie, any free time you have. Doing many repetitions at a low weight will give you lean arms that will look fantastic in a cute sleeveless tank top for the office.
Jam Out: Put on some music! The rhythm will make you want to get up and dance.
You can dance around while cleaning your apartment or vacuuming. Make some time on the weekend to go out dancing with some of the girls! Dancing is free AND fun.
Take the Time to Stretch: When you first wake up in the morning, take the time to
stretch out and have an easy wake up! It will make you feel refreshed and ready for the day ahead of you. Right before you go to bed, loosen up a bit so you can finally relax and get some rest.
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TIPS FOR SU CCES S Stay consistent if you take more than a few days off, you’ll lose motivation quickly.
Keep it real make attainable goals for yourself that you are reasonable.
Group effort sometimes working out in a group setting or with friends will keep you focused and motivated.
Stick to a schedule since you’re so busy and already have a work or school schedule, pencil in times where you can sneak a few minutes in to work out.
Be positive you won’t get anywhere by beating yourself up. Have a positive attitude and you’ll feel and look great.
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Nike Tempo Track Shorts These shorts commonly referred to as “norts” are my favorite!! The color and pattern combinations are endless while they are crazy comfortable too.
apple ipod nano Cute colors aside, the iPod nano is perfectly sized for workouts. Instead of strapping on a giant iPod, the nano can easily fit in the tiny pocket of your running shorts.
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Allegra Levine
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L i ly P o l l a r d
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Fruits, Veggies & Chocolate “I’m on a diet.” We hear people say this all of the time. Our friends, our parents…ourselves. Then, we also hear those people say,“Ugh, I broke my diet.” People “cheat” and they feel guilty about it. What many people don’t know is that by cutting back calories, carbs and sugars, we are really depriving our bodies of necessary nutrients. The LIVESTRONG foundation advises that consuming less than 800 calories a day is extremely dangerous. So, in reality, what we should be saying is, “Everything in moderation.” It is just fine to have the “bad” stuff sometimes, as long as it is not in excessive amounts. Putting restrictions on what we are allowed to eat and labeling what we consider “good” and “bad” food just gives us a rule to break. When we restrict ourselves, we tend to have those moments when we give in
and indulge, knowing we are being “bad.” If I tell myself I can’t have chocolate, it only makes me want it more. It is, of course, better to fill up on fruits, veggies and lean meat than pizza and sweets, but if you are out with friends and they want dessert, don’t feel guilty. Instead, try taking just three bites so you can enjoy yourself without feeling bad about it afterwards. Fad diets like Slim Fast, South Beach and Atkins seem to work in the short term if strictly adhered to. Yet, the second we return to our normal eating habits, we find ourselves gaining back all of the weight we lost, plus a few pounds. This is because it is unrealistic for us to keep up with these diets forever. Once we stop, our bodies will soak up all of the calories and store them as fat, instead of burning them off for energy. The formula for losing weight is simple. You must consume fewer calories than you burn. This means that the classic 60
trick of eating healthy, eating everything in moderation and exercising is the best, healthiest and most long lasting way to lose weight. Achieving your weight goal and making it last will never happen with a quick fix. To truly see results, it requires a change in lifestyle and dedication to making smart choices in regards to portion sizes and working out. And when you are eating everything in moderation, exercising… and still nothing seems to work, this is the point in time when it may be best to keep up the hard work but also accept and love your body. It is one thing to eat right, exercise to stay healthy and shed a few pounds, but if you’re truly putting forth the effort, and your body doesn’t change, it’s probably because it is supposed to be that way. So eat your fruits and veggies, but have some cake too.
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Since I feel like nothing solidifies a friendship like a painfully relatable story, allow me to divulge my tale of cutting carbs out of my life. Yes, I know. Everything wonderful and holy is composed of carbohydrates. Yes, there are starving children in Africa that would kill for the bread I'm replacing with lettuce. Yes, I realize that I weigh a less-than-average 130 lbs that's suitable for my 5'8" frame (realistically 5'7, but if Kate Moss can lie about her height, so can I) and the only thing I hate more than skinny girls complaining about their weight is puppy genocide, so why would I voluntarily give that up? Well I was closely comparable to a crack addict. Not a day went by where I didn't crave something topped in bread or comprised of starch. Oh and did I turn into a royal pain in the ass when I wasn't full of it. Most recently, I've made the move to Los Angeles, California from Ponte Vedra Beach, Florida which has left me in quite a tug and pull situation, since I'm surrounded by critically acclaimed restaurants but I'm also constantly around beautiful people with impossibly great figures. I had myself on a low calorie diet thinking everything I was doing was fine until I downloaded an App on my iPhone called "My Fitness Pal". I found it easy to use since it was essentially a food diary that had the calories and portions of most major restaurants at the touch of my phone. The turning point occurred when
I punched in my daily meals and at the end it gave me a pie chart showing me my nutritional percentage of the day. It read as follows: 10% Protein, 25% Fats and 65% Carbohydrates. Jesus Christ. I went into panic mode immediately. My closest friends were apart of my demise: Chicken fingers, onion rings, cheeseburgers. I needed a plan. I'd heard in the past from friends about the South Beach Diet and scoffed at it, thinking of it as a fad diet that only fools would buy in to. If you don't already know what the diet is, let me tell you at first it sounds completely evil. You're only allowed lean cut meats, most vegetables and low fat dairy products. But I had very few options so I went through with it. My first day I had gone to Carrabba's. This was also my first mistake. I forgot about how my table neighbors would have piles of pasta on their plates, how at the end of the meal they'd offer me dessert and the most painful one being how much I forgot I'd miss the bread they'd place on the table. Everyone that knows me knows my favorite food is bread even of the chain restaurant and fake Italian variety. I didn't have the heart to stab the waitress repeatedly for bringing this to my table. I also didn't know I'd have such a strong reaction to not being able to eat it. As it lay there bundled and swaddled in a napkin, gently placed in a basket like some sort of orphan child, I started to shake. I looked away, scarfed down 61
my caesar salad, took even less time eating my grilled chicken entree, paid and left dissatisfied with my bland no-carb meal. As days went by, everything started to get easier. I was trying new foods at restaurants that I'd normally pass and replace with something deep-fried and paired with mashed potatoes. I started to feel a lot better about myself. I had a completely flat stomach, my cellulite was dwindling, I was full of energy and I had a much better attitude. Could it be that the infamous saying that "nothing tastes as good as skinny feels" be true? I tried preaching to friends that they needed to join me on this carb-free crusade. I didn't tell them it was because I couldn't bare to witness what they were consuming before my eyes, but they laughed in my face regardless and called me crazy. But the few that were with me were preaching the gospel right by my side. Plus I found out you can have bacon, so what's not to love? My diet has followed me from the east coast to the west coast, and I'm hoping you will too! I can't wait for us to be great friends. With many more adventures to come, Lily Pollard follow lily on twitter:
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ver a year has passed since I graduated from college, secured a job in New York City and moved into an apartment before I could catch my breath. Recently, I was looking back through old articles I wrote for my college newspaper (under the byline "Senior Muse") and reread my fears of a looming post-grad life. Two of these fears seem to go hand in hand, of course. Grocery shopping and money. I definitely haven't mastered either art, but I think my young self would be surprised and pleased with me. These days, I look forward to perusing the aisles of my neighborhood store and filling my cart with the ingredients that I will use to prepare a delicious meal (at least that's the goal...). I've come to find that the bigger challenge is making good decisions for my wallet at the grocery store. Because there are other expenses like rent, subway fare and laundry (the basics) and shopping days, hobbies and nights out with friends in the city (the fun stuff), I have tried to become very money-conscious at the grocery store. Thankfully, I've learned some things along the way.
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By Christine M. Giamattei tweet her: @TheseHappyMiles
the empty stomach rule
For me, grocery shopping on an empty stomach is never a smart move. When I arrive at the grocery store with a rumbling stomach, I find I make unhealthy choices (and throw impulse buys like microwavable dinners and boxes of Gushers into the cart and, let’s face it, tear through a bag of M&Ms even before I get to the checkout...). I can’t give my full attention to weighing the cost of particular items and reading the ingredients on the label. Point blank, being hungry deters me from making smart decisions in the grocery store. The remedy? Take time to have a light meal before you tackle the grocery store (like peanut butter on an English muffin with an egg and sliced fruit). If you really have no food in the house, make coffee or tea or drink two glasses of water to fill you up!
lists are indispensable
Plan ahead. Have a good idea of the items you need for the week. Think about what you’ll want to eat and make for breakfast, lunch and dinner and what you’ll want to snack on. Scour blogs for dinner recipes, flip through a cooking magazine, consult family and friends for ideas for meals. I like to write down all of the ingredients I need - and cross out what I already have in my pantry or fridge and do not need to purchase. Then, jot down all of the remaining items you need to pick up at the store. This limits impulse buys too and gives you a clear idea of how much money you can expect to pay at the checkout. Most times, I buy about 90% of the same food each week so it’s easy peasy.
buy in bulk
I like to buy some things that can last me two weeks such as a box of 10 oatmeal packets, a bag of cheese sticks, whole wheat wraps or pitas, a bag of mini bagels or bagel thins, etc. And buy one, get one free? Do it. I’m all about a big BANG for a buck. Of course, on some weeks I end up spending more than I’d like because I happen to be out of EVERYTHING. But that’s rare... and in the end, I still end up saving. 62
save with the week's specials
For example, when it comes to fruits and vegetables, I love 'em all. But they can be pretty expensive, so I don't walk into the grocery store saying I need raspberries or I need tomatoes. Instead, I take advantage of the particular deals the store has that week. Check the flyers and look out for weekly specials.
shop around
It's a fact: some grocery stores are just better than others. Some have more options or a greater selection of healthy brands. Stores like Whole Foods, Trader Joes and Fairway Market do have sales, but I also like to heavily peruse the cheap grocery store on my block. Healthy choices can be made at any grocery store and that's a huge money-saver. Again, read the flyers, find out where you can save that week and go to the store or stores that have the best deals on particular items.
set your weekly limit + swipe once
Something that has really worked for me is my once-a-week grocery shop, which I typically do on the weekends. I aim to spend $40-$60 for an entire week's worth of food. It can be challenge, and on occasion, I go over my limit. However, only going to the store once a week to get what I need cuts down on the number of times I use my credit card on impulse buys and random items I'll just throw in the cart. I make sure to have $10-$20 in cash for the week ahead, if I decide to pick up a fresh piece of fruit, need a Luna bar to power through an afternoon or join my friends after work for frozen yogurt. I know I make wiser decisions for my wallet if I only swipe my credit card once a week for groceries.
cook dinners with friends
Split the ingredients for a homemade meal and cook it together! Crank up the tunes while you prep and cook and settle in with a good move as you eat dinner. It's a great "activity" to do with friends and going in on the costs together every once and awhile can definitely be a money-saver!
go coupon crazy
Growing up, my mom always taught me the benefits of taking advantage of coupons. And today, with so many great coupon websites out there, it's easier than you'd think. Saving through coupons adds up and every little bit that you save counts for something. Free money is cool. I find coupons on blogs, grocery store websites, the newspaper, magazines and product websites. You don't have to feel embarrassed by handing them over at the checkout; feel empowered! If you're on a budget (or would just like to save a little extra cash for a weekend getaway or that jacket you saw at J.Crew...), couponing is the way to go.
leftover love
Although I'd like to cook a rockin' dinner every night, it's just not feasible because of time and wallet constraints to hit up the grocery store that often. Instead, I try to "splurge" on the ingredients for one dinner or meal a week that I'm excited about and make sure there's enough for leftovers for the rest of the week. My roommate has roasted a chicken before towards the beginning of the week, and we had enough leftovers for chicken salad and quesadillas for the rest of the week.
it can be fun!
There once was a time when I loathed grocery shopping. I'd pick up a couple of boxes of macaroni and cheese, grab a muffin on the way to my internship and eat the rest of my meals out. The result? My wallet and waistline (and feel-good sense of self) were in serious distress. After I graduated and moved to New York City, I made cooking, baking and grocery shopping mini hobbies. I read cooking blogs, subscribe to Real Simple and Cooking Light and enjoy testing out easy recipes with affordable ingredients. 63
balance is best
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“The college years are the best time of
your life … make sure you make the most of them.”
Sound familiar? Most likely an adult or older peer has uttered these words to you. They tell you a story or two about their own college experience and after reminiscing, end with this somewhat startling statement. Taking the advice of your elders, you set out to fully experience this unique, fleeing phase of life. The pressures of making your mark on campus and earning the grades are often intense. It is a time when one must develop her identity- choosing a major, exploring the social scene on campus while often juggling a job or internship. In a nutshell, college is monumental and demanding. As a college student, you may feel like you are playing a game of tug of war as you are pulled in different directions- academics, social functions and campus activities all going on, at the same time. Quickly, you have become overcommitted as you strive for the perfect college experience. The busy college student is all too familiar with a “vending machine dinner” of chips and trail mix and replacing sleep with coffee and energy drinks. While the collegiate life may be
hyped up with the expectations of perfect grades, a bubbly social life and maintaining a strong presence in every campus club, there is more to college than your 4.0 GPA and popularity. Realistically, the college student who strives for perfection will only experience burnout and stress. College is about more. College is a time when one further discovers who she is and a time to prepare for the next equally monumental phase, adult life. Stress may seem inevitable and healthy habits unattainable, but living balanced is essential for finding fulfillment in college and life after graduation. According to Meredith Stokke, a licensed professional counselor and blogger, “Balanced living is having enough flexibility to attend to your physical, emotional and social needs.” Determining what your individual needs are requires trial and error as there is no exact formula or one-fits-all method. You may find yourself at three late weeknight parties before you realize that little sleep does not work with 8:00AM biology class. On the contrary, the studious girl who rarely leaves the library will quickly discover that 65
her social needs are unfulfilled. Balance living is, well, easier said than done. Key to balance is developing simple, but vital, habits such as eating healthy, staying active, sleeping properly and managing stress. Stokke agrees that balance begins with addressing how well you take care of yourself. “I think it is essential to practice good self-care, which means getting enough sleep, eating adequately and being active,” says Stokke. While sleeping and eating are both essential, they are relatively simple. Eight hours of sleep and three square meals a day, right? Correct! But this can be quite a challenge for the college student. Not only do college distractions make both difficult, but college is often the first time you earn full control over these areas of your health. In high school, dad’s curfew ensured that you were sleeping the recommended 8 hours and mom’s cooking was the solution to struggling to get out of bed in the mornings: breakfast. Yes, a hearty breakfast whether it be a bowl of oatmeal and fruit or eggs works wonder. comparative literature essay.
Typically, most girls in college reach for a granola bar or skip breakfast altogether whether it be to save time and/or calories. A healthy breakfast can be easy to prepare-fresh fruit and yogurt-and will jumpstart your metabolism along with preventing your stomach from grumbling throughout statistics class. While breakfast may be the most important meal of the day, lunch and dinner should not be ignored. Often girls think that snacking throughout the day is healthier or equivalent to meals. Meals are often more nutritious-especially when you eat a salad with grilled chicken or a turkey sandwich with fresh veggiesand contain less processed ingredients than the typical snack fare of
chips and crackers. Kate Horning, a dietetics student and blogger, believes that eating healthier gives her more energy. “By my sophomore year I really learned the importance of a healthy diet and its effect on the way I felt. By eating better and focusing on lots of vegetables and greens I didn’t have to depend on caffeine for energy,” says Horning. Energy is certainly necessary for the collegiate life as college has many different facets. Regardless of all that is going on, academics are a big part. Good study habits are necessary for academic success. Effective studying is giving yourself adequate time to prepare (no last minute cramming) and taking study breaks. Breaks are often necessary- can anyone go straight from
studying Spanish to preparing for a chemistry quiz? The perfect study break activity: exercise. Those exercise endorphins will ease any feelings of stress and get your creative juices flowing in order to complete that pending comparative literature essay. If exercise feels more like work than fun to you, enlisting a friend is the ideal solution to stay motivated. Yoga is another option to benefit you both physically and mentally. Discover inner peace in your campus gym as you pose in the downward facing dog position. Exercise is certainly not the only downtime option. It is about finding what you enjoy whether it be watching a movie, journaling or cooking.
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Not Just About The Boy Hunt b y Ch ristine Mikie wicz I hav e a proble m. During the second semester of my freshman year of college, I was constantly on the prowl. I had just gotten out of a relationship and finally felt free to test the deep waters of frat, music, artsy, athletic, nerdy and every other type of boy my school had to offer. I did not think it was a problem. I wanted to be determined, self-sufficient and driven. In order to find a guy at a crowded party, I had to put to use all of those traits. But, should women really be using the thrill of finding men to feel good about themselves? Having a fun night out and having fun with guys is an important part of college life, but it is important to keep you and your prowl in check. Here is some advice on how:
1 . Do n’ t
obs e ss ov e r it. I met this guy at the gym, he handed me my lock and key for the locker room every Friday afternoon, he was gorgeous looking. Every Friday night, I would hardcore prowl for him and somehow one night, we happened to find ourselves at the same party. We started talking right away; I thought it would be magical. We had absolutely nothing in common, it was a painful conversation and I could never go back to the gym between 4:30-8:00 on Friday ever again. Obsessing over guys is fun sometimes, but when you build up an unrealistic expectation of a guy, it can completely backfire on you and you will only disappoint yourself (not to mention ruin your gym schedule). Dream all you want about the “perfect guy,” but don’t expect the guy you meet to actually act like that; no one is perfect!
2 . T h e ke g
is not a place to start a serious relationship (usually). If you are at a party drinking and hook-up with a really great guy, I have found that, unfortunately, the next time you meet will be filled with awkward hellos as opposed to romantic clichés. I am a hopeless romantic (and serial prowler as stated before) and I wanted a grand romantic moment in the middle of a party, like something out of a Taylor Swift music video. It never happened. When guys are at parties they are looking to have fun, not looking for their next girlfriend. When I made what I thought was a great connection with a guy at a party, but I never saw him again or had any contact information, it made me feel really bad about myself. I would talk about how great he was and why I wasn’t good enough for him to want to see me again. Luckily, I have broken this habit! It is a bad one to get into, ladies. Remember, most boys are going out at night to have fun and you should be too! If you are looking for your next boyfriend (or even if you aren’t) try hitting up a coffee shop instead of a frat party.
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a girls nighT. My best friend and I tried to stick to a schedule: one night we would stay in, eat popcorn and watch Boy Meets World while the other night we go out. Staying in sometimes is a good thing. Your friends make you feel good about yourself no matter what, even if you are sitting in your sweatpants drinking a whole two litter of diet Dr. Pepper (not recommended, by the way). Some of the best nights I have had at school were on my couch with my girl friends, with no boys around. It is important to remember that you can have a good time without seeking a male companion, they aren’t vital to a good night; your attitude is. So sometimes, it is good to just take a break and relish in your own self-made awesomeness. 67
b y Lu c y Ge org e Per usual, it is Wednesday night; I am sitting in my three-hour microeconomics class. Not to brag, but I am quite a savvy student. As I was taking notes about diminishing marginal utility I was also following Justin Bieber on Twitter (#winning), Facebook creeping on everyone I know (okay, and some I don’t know) and contemplating texting the number one guy on my “currently crushing on” list. 68
am a self-diagnosed selective listener, but after focusing on just the professor I began questioning my own actions. Was I making myself too available to this guy when I should be making myself scarcer? Could the rules of economics apply to not just my next exam, but also my dating life? Subsequently, after many dating mistakes, I can correctly answer both of those questions, yes I was; and yes they can (if you are wondering, I got an A in that econ class and scored a second date with the new guy). I realized I was making myself way too available. It made perfect sense that if I reduced my availability, my demand would go up! The basic principles of economics can be used as a roadmap to navigate the dating world. All girls are guilty of it: posting on a guy of interest’s Facebook wall, sending the last text in a flirty conversation and just making ourselves too available to a guy (myself included). Why do we do that? Why do we make it seem like we have no other options? Maybe Prince Charming would not have liked Cinderella so much if she stayed late to help clean up after the ball. We all want to have that Prince Charming come seek us out after the ball, but nobody seems to be taking Cinderella’s approach. Fairy godmothers are good; demand is better. If economics is not your strong suit, use common sense, in most colleges there are more girls than boys, subsequently boys are in higher demand. What this means is that right out of the starting gate girls are at a disadvantage, our demand is lower because there is more “supply” of us in the market. However, this does not mean that your “price” or “value” on the market needs to go down. Think of it like a ring with a diamond or one with a cubic zirconium. What is the difference? They look the same, they serve the same purpose, yet one costs next to nothing while the other, some would say, is priceless (or, at least, a girl’s best friend). However, one has a much higher value on the market is and much more sought after. Why is the diamond so much more popular? A real diamond is more wanted because it is harder to achieve, and much more rare. Why don’t women want cubic zirconium as their engagement rings? That would mean their fiancé didn’t think they were valued enough to purchase them a real diamond. Why don’t men want “cubic zirconium girls”? They don’t want something too easy and un-sought after. Which one are you going to be?
years back, I had a steady boyfriend for a while, and I got dumped. A few weeks later when he was going out on a date with a new girl he asked if he could come over first. While I usually have a sound mind for executing situations with exes, everyone has their slipups. Now keep in mind, my ex was on his way to my house, not to whisk me away on a romantic date, not to beg for me back, but to kill time before a date. If you’re wondering why this has never happened to you, or why you find this so weird, is because, well, it is. When he arrived, we of course did what is protocol to do in a situation such as this: play board games like five year olds. Then the time came for him to leave and to go pick up the girl for the date, this is where things got a bit dicey because I realized I was just the preview, not the movie, not the main attraction. After he left all I could think is, “Well, I guess I’ll have to clean up Yatzee alone.” This was when I learned to never be second best. Don’t get caught up in trying to force your happily ever after, sometimes it is best to just move on and cut your losses. I should not have been wasting my time being second best, I could have been utilizing my time much better. Economics tells us we have limited resources. The key assumption of economics is that we have unlimited wants and needs, but because of scarcity, or limited resources, we must make choices to best fulfill these wants and needs. Allocating my whole night on being someone’s “preview” was not making good use of time or resources. When you do have a relationship realize that for it to work- a guy has to gain more than he is going to give up. This follows parallel to the economics’ cost vs. benefit analysis: the benefits have to outweigh the costs. Things like forgone guys nights, missed opportunities with new girls, and a serious reduction of his free time. Realize you need to not be so demanding to overcome all of those costs (like not demanding that he spend a bunch of money on you, or spend 100% of his time with you). Relationships end because the costs outweigh the benefits. Harsh Truth: If you are more of a cost than a benefit then your relationship simply cannot last. So the next time you are thinking about texting a guy, you know, just to make sure his phone is still working, or soliciting his Facebook wall, think of your favorite economics class or at least my humiliation playing board games with the ex, and remember less is more.
My dating life is usually a hot mess, and composed of a series of uncomfortable stories that I have had to endure. One of the most memorable was a few
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didn’t take me long to fall in love with Brian. I’m not quite sure what one thing did it, because there are so many things that I love about him. Brian is my best friend and soul mate. We’ve been together for two and a half years, and they’ve been the best years of my entire life. I’m looking forward to when he comes home so we can start an amazing new chapter in our lives. We first met during his roller hockey game at the sports arena I worked in. My first impression of Brian was that he was absolutely adorable and quite entertaining (especially after trying to get called for a penalty just to talk to me!). After spending some time getting to know each other, we found that we have many things in common. We both enjoy hockey, the beach, corny movies and spending time with our family. Soon, our relationship began to get serious. Brian has been with the Massachusetts National Guard since he graduated high school in 2006. As our relationship grew, I quickly learned he was serious about active duty. When his enlistment time was nearing its end, he considered leaving the military. However, after taking some time to think things through, he decided to remain in the guard and to explore his opportunities for advancement. When you love someone, you love everything about them. You support them with decisions they make whether you agree
or disagree. Although it was hard for me to accept that he’d be away from me for a full year, I’m very proud and grateful for what he does for the people he loves and for our country. During the deployment of a loved one, it’s extremely important to have a strong support system in place to depend on. I wouldn’t be able to survive this journey without my amazing parents and best friends. Several years ago I experienced the deployment of my brother and now it is my boyfriend that’s deployed. It is an extremely difficult situation to be in. Keeping busy and being engaged in many activities whether it be work or spending time with family and friends or even pampering myself with a manicure and pedicure helps to lift my spirits and pass the time. I have good days, bad days and days that are inbetween. The nights can be sleepless and lonely, so it’s always helpful to have someone always available to me where I can talk about these difficult times. Since my parents have been through the deployment of my older brother, they are helping me get through this very long year. My friends are awesome too by always being there to listen, cheer me up, and taking me out so I’m not lonely. Knowing that he will be home for two weeks midway through his deployment gives me something to look forward to but it’s going to be much more difficult saying goodbye to him again when he leaves to go back to Afghanistan. 70
It’s great to have Internet and a phone connection to be able to talk to Brian frequently, but it is also extremely hard when I don’t hear from him for a few days. The anxiety and stress that builds up inside is unbearable when you fear the worst has happened. Sometimes I prefer to be alone instead of talking about it, so I find that writing helps me relieve stress and get my emotions under control. That’s why I started my blog. People who read and comment are extremely supportive and have great advice. Care packages are a great way to stay connected with your soldier. It’s also an awesome way of showing that you are always thinking of them plus it makes life overseas a bit easier. Candy, cookies, snacks, magazines, photographs and handwritten letters and cards give your loved one something to look forward to and look back at when times are rough. It’s also nice to receive letters from your soldier. When this deployment is officially done, I plan on putting together a scrapbook together of our photos and letters to someday show what their daddy has done for his family and country. One of the best ways to get us through this separation is talking about our future together. We’ve also have planned a very special Caribbean cruise shortly after his deployment ends.
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e often hear about these “Super Moms” who seem to do it all: bake for the PTA, shuttle kids to and from ballet class and piano lessons and work full time for a large firm. Paris is a “Super Student.” She does it all, and does it all with gusto. Paris balances a full schedule as a senior at Georgia Tech, runs a website, eats ice cream every day, has a million friends AND always has time for a good (or lame) joke. As the inaugural cover girl of Sweet Lemon, let’s pick her brain a little bit and find out how our creative director manages to be so awesome!
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Name: Paris Rouzati S o m e t h i ng yo u d on ’ t k now a b o u t m e i s … I like to tell really lame jokes.
My favorite: movies :
The Godfather Trilogy
books: The Great Gatsby tv :
Sex & The City
song: Without You, Keith Urban shoes :
Tory Burch ballet flats (an essential!)
or a pair of Lucchese cowboy boots underwear: Hanky Panky ice cream :
Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food
twitter: @ParisRouzati
Signature Lemon Cocktail: paris ’ sweet lemontini :
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How would you describe your personal style? Where do you shop the most? Oh boy, the million dollar question. I think I’m either really preppy & girly, or really glamorous (I think that’s because I’m Persian and Persian women LOVE being glamorous). I think a lot of my daytime clothes are purchased at J.Crew, Madewell, and Anthropologie. I love designers like Alice & Olivia, Tory Burch, Rag & Bone, Ralph Lauren, Wildfox…I think Yves Saint Laurent said it best: “Fashions fade, style is eternal.” And I think the best style a woman can have is her confidence! I think you can be in rags but strut around like its couture and everyone will think you’re the most beautiful woman in the room because your face is exuberating confidence.
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error…you’ll be fine. Also, I definitely recommend using your resources. In school for example, I think I’m better “friends” with professors than I am with classmates. As far as social life goes, it’s important to stay healthy and have hobbies, and surround yourself with people who give you positive energ y for what you do.
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Can you explain a little bit about what The Campus Style is and what role you play in the company? From one college student to another, The Campus Style promises to only deliver the best, the crème de la crème, the bees knees, top shelf, & grade A+ in what is nifty and noteworthy around their college town. The Campus Style is here to serve you what’s fresh in terms of fashion, music, philanthropy, entertainment and basically everything that makes these “the best four years of your life.” While submerging themselves in all things that encompass “style,” our interns are also forced to study the content that represents their sub-culture, otherwise known as their college campus. So while developing the skills of a seasoned go-getter, our style students are simultaneously becoming our generation’s cultural-savants. My role is simple…I do everything. I oversee all and anything that goes on. I’m blessed to have 3 amazing partners: Brittanae Casper, Virginia Claussen, and Cintra McGauley. I do a lot of the external affairs with designers, artists, musicians, philanthropic organizations…as well as oversee admissions, editing, social media…I mean anything that needs to be done! I’ve even taught myself basic HTML.
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Look at your list of things to do this weekend: Football game? Shopping for next weeks game day dress? Text whats-his-face from who-knows-where? Check, check and check. Go to the latest theater rendition of Rent or check out that new exhibit of early 20th century photography? MAYBE NOT. As a college student, sometimes you may overlook the cultural offerings around campus. Being a college student is the perfect time to take advantage of your local arts: from museums to performing arts all of it is extremely accessible to students. Being part of an “arts scene” doesn’t necessarily mean going to fancy galas or fundraising brunches. For students it’s all about finding the right events that are not only fun, but also easy on the wallet.
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The first place you should start when looking to get involved in the arts is right outside your dorm room—your school! Whether you go to a big university in a small town or a college in a major city, your school most likely has great cultural resources. The next step, though, is to find all these great events. Junior Women’s Studies major Nicole Blumenkehl says, “I find out about artistic events from word-of-mouth, e-mail or flyers posted around campus.” Chances are your school has a music or theater program that puts on countless of performances a year—and the tickets are probably less than a home football
game! Surf your school’s websites or check out bulletin boards in hallways and department offices for the next amazing performance. Supporting student performances is important to sustain the artistic community on a campus. “To maintain a collegiate atmosphere, it is imperative that students support one another...We should be supportive of one another’s interests; be them artistic, athletic or anything else,” says Blumenkehl. If you’re not into big theatrical performances, there are plenty of opportunities to get on the arts circuit. There are
probably many (many!) seriously amazing a capella groups on your campus. While these groups put on more formal concerts throughout the year, you can always find them crooning around campus. If you yourself are apart of a campus organization, a great way to get you and your friends involved in the arts is to invite them to sing at one of your meetings! Now, the arts scene is much more than just performance—the visual arts are an important part of any artistic community. First and foremost, visit your school’s museum. If you are lucky enough to be on a campus with a museum, not only
is it most likely free, but it’s also a great resource that you should definitely be utilizing. Take a lazy Saturday with your friends a mull around the Ancient Roman galleries checking out an Augustan bust instead of in the Contemporary section picking out the newest Marc Jacobs blouse—it may be a refreshing change of pace (and you won’t have buyers remorse). Other than the on-campus museum, your school might have separate gallery spaces that exhibit student work. It’s a great way to interact with the arts and it is inspiring to see work that your class90
mates have created. Commenting on the importance of art in the lives of college students, visual arts student Rachelle Shea says, “Art is a way to express interests, politics, events and ideas, which is why it is important to constantly incorporate the arts into the lives of college students.” Joining all of these clubs and organization in undoubtedly a great way to immerse yourself in the arts scene. Pick up flyers and sign your name on lists at the back-to-school activity fair to ensure you are informed of all upcoming auditions and meeting. Especially as a freshman, getting involved in arts organizations is a great way to meet interesting, likeminded people. Blumenkehl, who is a dancer, says, “Dance has not only been an outlet for me, but has provided me with a family of sorts. The dance community at Emory is so close-knit and supportive of one another and it has made for a positive [college] experience.” Okay, so you are pre-med and so busy you can’t step out of the stacks for five minutes? Incorporate the arts into your schedule! You most likely have General Education Requirements (GER) you need to graduate, and it is safe to assume an arts course will fulfill at least one of them. Taking a course is a fantastic way to interact with the arts scene intellectually and most courses will require you go out and experience the art outside of the classroom. Jennifer Friedman, a junior Psychology major, took Introduction to Theater to fulfill a GER, but what she got from it was so much more. Speaking of her theater class Jennifer says, “This class was a positive experience because it made me appreciate the arts more than I already did. It opened my eyes to the different types of theatre that occur outside of the Broadway domain, while also making me aware of the immense preparation that occurs for each production. It also opened me up to the performing arts department at my university so I will be more likely to attend performances in the future.” More academic ways to get involved in
the arts include going to speaking events and lectures, which are often sponsored by your on-campus museum or specific departments. Take the opportunity to get a crash-course on something interesting and unique. Obviously performing and visual arts do not cover the “arts” spectrum entirely. Film screenings and creative writing workshops are other ways you can expose yourself to new artistic media. Again, look for upcoming film screenings on your school’s events calendar or stop by the Creative Writing department to see when the next speaker is coming in. It can also be advantageous to explore the arts outside of your school. Interacting with older people who are already well established in the arts community is a great way to get connected and exposed to the scene. For events outside of your college community, the best and most accessible way to find out about arts is online. Arts organizations spend countless hours updating social media, various community calendars and sending information through listservs. A quick Google search is all you need to access all the arts in your town! Now that you’ve found all these great venues and events, how do you decide what to do? Let’s face it, as a college student you might not have the money to splurge on front row seats at The Gershwin, but you would be surprised at how affordable local theater and music is. In Decatur, GA you can go see a production of Driving Miss Daisy for $15—that’s less than a movie and popcorn. Most museums have student membership that pay for themselves in two to three visits. These memberships also come with guest benefits—so take advantage and bring a friend. Other member perks range from discounts at the museum shop, coupons for parking (which is amazing if you live in a big city that requires a car but everywhere charges an arm and a leg for parking) and early sneak-peaks of upcoming
exhibits. Becoming a member at a museum doesn’t require a huge donation or a fancy last name and you get so many benefits there is really no reason not to become a member if you want to be active in the museum. College Night is a great invention that museums have come to embrace. A good way to interact with other students in your city, College Night provides the opportunity to network and just hang out with art enthusiasts. Just like in any other industry, volunteer work and internships are also outlets that college students can use to get exposure to the arts scene. If your school has an overarching arts organization, they would probably love your help advertising campus events and working around the office. Internships at a local museum or playhouse are beneficial in 91
learning the ins and outs of arts administration and to get to know some important people in the arts community. The arts are something every college student should get involved in on some level. Whether it is supporting your friend in the lead role of the student play or exhibiting your own work in a student gallery it is easy to make the arts an integral part of your college life. Going out to the theater or checking out the latest exhibit at your cities museum is just as accessible as going to the movies or to the shopping mall and will expose you to a completely different culture in your community. Take advantage of your school’s art scene, it will enrich your college experience.
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greek life ? by Tricia Mantlo
No doubt, you’ve probably heard of or have even considered joining a sorority. When many people think of the term ‘sorority,” the image of girls behaving wildly is often the image that comes to mind. It is no lie that in certain contexts the idea of being a sorority girl has done nothing to flatter the female image. However, it is not to say that the long established tradition of joining a sisterhood of diverse women is not without its perks and advantages. A sorority is defined as “a society for female students in a university or college, typically for social purposes,” and in most cases chapters at colleges and universities will soon be holding a Rush week or a series of social events like ‘meet the Greeks.’ Events like these allow young women to get to know each chapter on campus better. It is also a time for the other Greek organizations on campus to get to know you as well. As you consider whether joining
Greek life is the right decision for you, it’s a good idea to think about and discuss the pros and cons of sorority life. Here we will look at the top three pros and cons to Greek life and talk through them. As you read, keep in mind that Greek life isn’t for everyone. If you find it isn’t for you, it doesn’t mean your college experience is over. There are plenty of other groups and organizations on your campus that you can take part and get involved in. It won’t make or break you.
The Pros Lasting Friendships The biggest pro and the reason why most young women join a sorority is to meet other young women and create friendships. By creating these friendships, they hope to make lifelong friends they will be able to trust and rely on during their college career. The Greek community itself offers several different opportunities to make friends throughout the campus community. At mixers and other events, whether they are social get togethers or philanthropy events, you will meet other young men and women you may not have had the chance to get know under ordinary circumstances. In current members of the sorority you will find many women just like you looking to create friendships, especially within your new member class. Together, you will complete your exploration of the new mem92
ber process and learn about your sisters, yourself and your sorority. Your shared experience during this process creates strong bonds tied together by similar emotions. By the end of the process, you will most likely view yourself and your fellow pledge sisters in a new way. Daniella*, a sophomore at Rutgers University said, “Being a new member was both scary and exciting. I was really afraid that I wouldn’t be the typical sorority girl, but I found that a lot of the girls in my new member class were just like me. We had similar interests and goals. By the end of the process, my new member class in a lot of ways became my away from home family! I even managed to find a new roommate for sophomore year in one of my new sisters!” Being a new member also means you receive a ‘big’ (big sister) within the sorority who is an already initiated member. While also being a great asset to navigating those first months of Greek life, she can be your greatest ally and friend. The relationship between a big and a little is unrivaled, and the feeling of family the bond established makes up for the lack of family many young women feel while away at school. Your relationship with your big can be one of the greatest gifts you get from Greek life. The key to creating these relationships is being yourself ! Smile big and bright, and most of all be honest – it will get you very far.
The Sorority as a National Organization Often, the idea of the sorority as a national organization isn’t thought about. Joining a sorority isn’t just a four-year commitment, but a lifetime commitment. When you are initiated into a chapter you become connected to a group of women both old and young whom you will share a common bond with for the rest of your life. No matter where or what you are doing in your life, these women – strangers or best friends– will always be there to offer you advice or lend you an ear when you need someone to speak to. Besides creating a great network of potential employers and mentors for your post-grad life, national organizations, or ‘nationals.’ allows you to interact with other chapters in your sorority located throughout the country. It also allows you to continue to be involved with the sorority after you leave college. Most organizations have tons of volunteer positions and executive boards that have vacant spots. Best of all, should you have a daughter who wishes to join Greek life, she will be considered a legacy within your sorority. In most organizations, individuals with legacy status are highly considered to be offered a bid during recruitment. National organizations are huge on family and love to see the mother and daughter strengthen and grow by becoming more than just family, but as shared members in a sisterhood as well.
as president of your chapter or in a quieter position out of the spotlight, there are plenty of opportunities and chances for you get involved in the leadership of your chapter. Not only does a leadership position look great on your resume, it also allows you to expand your network of contacts in your college and local community. From secretarial duties to event planning, social mixers to recruitment parties – getting involved is the way to go and to have your opinions and voice heard. Jenna*, a senior at Hofstra University, reflected on her time on her sorority’s e-board; “The work was hard and required a lot of dedication and commitment. I wouldn’t recommend it to those who aren’t going to take their job seriously. However, if it’s something you truly want to know more about and want to expand your presence within your chapter, I definitely suggest running for an executive position. I learned a lot not only about myself, but also about working with other individuals. When I interviewed at a school I was considering for my Masters, my leadership position within my chapter gave a good basis to explain my ability to interact with others on a personal and professional basis. In communications, that’s so incredibly important!”
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also continue leadership positions after graduation. National organizations allow chapter members to get involved in many different ways. Working with nationals may allow you to discover new interests you never thought you’d life. Be open, be brave and remember – good leaders aren’t. They work hard and dedicate themselves to their positions and reap the rewards of the experience they gain and the networks they create.
The Cons Hazing The biggest concern most young women have about joining a Greek organization is hazing. Hollywood cinema has done a great job negatively depicting the new member process. In movies, the new member process has been depicted a group of older sisters degrading and forcing the new members to do horrible tasks. In most situations and at most campuses across the country this behavior is not only prohibited, but state law makes it illegal as well. You, under any circumstances, should never allow yourself to be put into any situation that makes you uncomfortable. If you are – SPEAK UP! Chances are, you aren’t the only person who feels uncomfortable. Always remember – if you continue to feel uncomfortable you can de-pledge the sorority. The right organization will listen to your concerns and do their best to fix any wrong doings and make you feel welcome. If they don’t, it’s probably not an organization and a group of people you want to be around anyhow.
Lisa*, a junior, admitted that her organization required her to do things she wasn’t comfortable with. “It was really great in the beginning, but as the process continued the pressure to drink and to engage in activities that were degrading increased. I got to the point where I didn’t like the person I was starting to become. I decided to drop out of my new member class, and for a while questioned whether I made the right decision. Ultimately, I made a new group of friends who I could be myself with, and had a better college experience. My case proves that Greek life isn’t always for everyone.” Alcohol Exposure Greek life is often stereotyped as one giant frat party. While that stereotype is grossly over exaggerated, if you plan to rush and join a sorority, you will most likely be exposed to alcohol a lot more than you would be in other organizations and groups. Let’s be honest – underage drinking has become a social norm in our society. Whether you are on a dry or wet campus, you will at some point come into contact with alcohol. There are parties in any Greek community and often these parties use alcohol as a social lubricant. Not everyone likes to drink and that’s okay! Like we discussed in hazing, you should never allow yourself to be pressured into something you don’t want to do, alcohol included. If you don’t want to drink – don’t. The right sorority won’t care as
long as you are having fun. Always remember you can only make choices for yourself. Alcohol poisoning is becoming more and more common on college campuses. While you can express your concerns about others you cannot make their decisions for them. Be a good friend and help out if you’re needed, but never allow yourself to be made uncomfortable by a situation. The key to dealing with alcohol in the Greek system is to be safe, be smart and to know your limits. Only you know when too much is too much. Gossip/Rumors Being surrounded by women for periods of times is sure to create some tension and drama – not everyone gets along with each other, that’s natural. However, a down side to these negative interactions can be gossip and rumors. People talk about each other that is a fact. Whether or not we deny it – we have all been guilty of gossiping at some point. Sometimes mistakes happen. We all do things we regret. There will be people in your chapter who exaggerate things and even make things up – mostly because they want to feel better about themselves. Gossip hurts and so do rumors, and Greek life is filled with it. Sites like Collegeacb, Juicy Campus and Burn Book have helped perpetuate gossip and give it a virtual life on the internet. Alexandra*, a sophomore, admits, The rumors and the gossiping can be tough. I had a really bad interaction 94
with one of the older sisters and had hoped that the situation would stay between us. Unfortunately, she had other intentions and told a lot of people. For a while, my sisters treated me differently because they thought that I had committed some really ridiculous un-sisterly behavior. Luckily, I had my big and she stuck up for me, along with some of the close friends I had made in my new member class. If I didn’t have my friends I don’t think I would have stayed. I really considered disaffiliating, but ultimately decided I really loved what my national organization stood for and realized that the actions of a few shouldn’t define my experience with my chapter.” The best thing you can do is be honest and not spread gossip. When you see it get to be too much for someone –step in and support them. Whether you like the person or not, silence is never the answer. Being a bystander makes the gossip and rumors worse. Be true to who you are and treat others like you want to be treated. It’s an age old motto but in a socially self conscious environment, it’s the only way to tackle harsh gossip and rumors.
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Thank You Notes: The hands-down most important thing you can do when finishing up your internship is a thank you note.
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After all your hard work this summer enjoy a day of R&R…and maybe some ice cream….and a pedicure—because you did it….you survived your summer internship!
your favorite internships: reader poll @jordan_katherin I intern for @EmmaGrahamDesig as a Design Consultant for College of Charleston. Fun, stylish way to get sales/PR experience.
@caitlinlaughs I got an internship at the Frist Center for the Visual Arts in Nashville. I got to help create and implement an exhibition!
@lauraemilyd . . internship in House of Reps with Cgman Patrick Kennedy, sheer determination and i loved the atmosphere of . .Capitol Hill and meeting and working alongside some of my political inspirations, like Nancy Pelosi!
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@ m a l l o r ya n n 1 1 Interned with The Martha Stewart Show. Applied off a entertainment focused job site and loved everything!
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By C. Michael McAuley
riting has always been a part of my life. In kindergarten, I wrote and illustrated my own stories with scented markers (blueberry proved a fine medium). When I was ten, I wrote in my American Girl™ journal, reflecting on esteemed topics such as soccer and Samantha Parkington. At 22, I became the entire marketing department for a multi-million dollar company, responsible for all publications (I blame this for my unhealthy coffee addiction). Although my love affair with writing has spanned most of my 25 years, it has really only just begun. In order to make it in the writing world we must first internally define what success looks like, and then we must follow it; mercilessly.
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Like in any profession, success varies from person to person. I’ve interviewed my version of success. For her, reality has always presented itself on the written page. Well, having written 11 books, author Wendy Murray has spent much of her time in the written world. She has also travelled around the globe as an award-winning, international journalist. Jealous yet? Just wait. This past year, she founded her own independent publishing company, Ecco Qua Press in Boston, MA, where she serves as President and CEO. I’m after her secrets, and she’s
If it’s too premature to make this decision, then trust that any writing experience is good experience; it will lead you to, or away from a specific niche or direction. Murray stresses that if you have the inclination for the story, and the ability to see a story in anyone you meet, then you’re already halfway there.
What’s Your Type? Deciphering what type of writer you hope to become is an important first step; it helps to establish a goal. Murray states that, “if there’s a goal in mind then there are steps to take in order to reach that goal.” The goals of writers vary because the literary infrastructure and configuration within pieces vary. For example, a novelist works on a Sistine Chapel of sorts, while a newspaper reporter sketches quickly like clockwork. Each tantamount in importance and influential to the communities of art and communication, but clearly, both hold very different timelines, paces and purposes.
So, where do you start when you don’t know where you want to end up? Wendy offers advice to the undecided asserting that for, “anyone aspiring to be a writer of any kind, it would be helpful to get into an in97
ternship for a newspaper. You have to start where people will hire you. Local newspapers are very hungry for new stories, new blood and are usually willing to take a chance on an unknown yet enthusiastic writer.” Focus on building your portfolio, and getting your name out. The avenues of possibility are endless, patiently waiting to be explored by bright, curious minds. Discipline: It ‘Hurts So Good’
It’s no secret that a writer needs good disciplines. Just as athletes work out their physical condition, so must writers exercise their intellect and creativity. These disciplines (while at times tedious) form a strong foundation from which messages, ideologies, and well-crafted characters and stories germinate from. Murray suggests keeping a journal present at all times, and has confessed to writing many sentences in the notebook next to her bed, during the pitch-black dark of night when inspiration has struck. Journaling, when exercised appropriately, can help to elevate one’s writing. “In finding details, and stepping inside of a very ordinary experience and really walking around it- in your mind and with your words, well, that’s what really develops a writer,” says Murray. Sometimes, it takes courage to stand
in our surroundings and simply focus. It’s not an easy task to limit the mental noise and chaos, but it’s fruitful. Bring life to the prosaic occurrences that flood every day life and so frequently go unnoticed. Once you’ve stepped inside of your experiences, invite others in. This veteran author places an importance on a writer’s ability to carry her reader into the same moment that the writer is experiencing. She encourages writers to, “be in This veteran author places an importance on a writer’s ability to carry her reader into the same moment that the writer is experiencing. She encourages writers to, “be in touch with what you’re feeling and seeing and experiencing. There are all kinds of elements that comprise a singular moment. There’s the sight, sound, the internal feeling, and the interpretation of that moment.” Have the audacity to invite your reader into an occasion that is typically tepid, but with a downpour of emotion and detail, morphs into an experience that can strike the soul.
out a variety of magazines, PR firms or marketing companies. Even if you’re an aspiring novelist, working for a PR firm is still completely relevant because will help you to learn about deadlines, you’ll meet great contacts and begin a professional network and it will also teach you about branding and positioning within the marketplace. In order to write well, one must be well read. Diversify your literary portfolio. Try reading various works from the Nobel Prize Winners for Literature, like Egyptian laureate Naguib Mahfouz or Irish laureate Seamus Heaney. Murray suggests reading works by Charlotte Brontë, George Eliot and Flannery O’Connor, or some of the earlier works of Barbara Kingsolver. Reading, like journaling, is an important discipline of any quality writer. It works to extend a vocabulary, enhance imagination, and it spurs on the internal knack to write more and to write better. It’s a tool, helping to up the ante, challenging writers to construct works that will withstand the test of time.
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Keep your writing life exciting; play the field. Enter writing contests, write for your school or local newspaper, sign up for a writing workshop or start a writing group. Don’t be afraid to mix it up or to combine interests. If you’re taking a film criticism class, and ask the editor of your school or local paper if you can provide movie reviews. If you’re looking for an internship, check
Wendy took founded of Ecco Qua Press because she noticed a void in the marketplace. Now, more than ever, gifted writers are facing a major blockade in the world of publishing. Most publishing companies are only willing to take risks on “writers” with platforms rather than true innovators of the trade. Too often, contracts are being gifted to pastors with huge congregations, or celebri98
ties with five million followers on Twitter. This whittling out of talent is what prompted Wendy to start her press. She defends the roots of traditional publishing offering that, “The writers, artists, and literary craftsman are not what publishing is all about anymore. But, what I believe, is that good writing will endure. So, that is the challenge, and, that’s the reason I started my press.” If you’re seeking to submit a manuscript, start researching independent presses like Ecco Qua Press. Remember, 12 different publishers rejected J.K. Rowling, and we all know how that turned out. Writers Write, Right?
At the end of the day, “true writers will write, whether they get their name out there or not. Start writing experiences, troubles or reflective essays,” says Murray. Start writing, but keep writing. Run after your words and your thoughts, and place them on a page. If there is a voice inside you that tells you you’re a writer, do not be afraid to commit to the craft. Once you’ve planted diligence, integrity and hard work, there is always a harvest to reap.
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#youarewhatyoutweet For young professionals of the twenty-something variety, nothing could be more consequential than defining oneself. There is no better wake-up call than finding yourself buried neck-deep in an Excel grid of hundreds (okay, 618, if we’re getting personal) of sent resumes and job applications to realize that setting yourself apart from your competition isn’t a philosophical job-hunting strategy or a mean girls plot. It’s the reality of presenting yourself to the outside world in a manner that makes you not only appealing to prospective employers (or schools, or friends…), but defines you. Sure, dressing well and sending polished cover letters is great. But the focus here is on tech – and social media is by far the strongest tool set in your repertoire to brand yourself. That’s right, classy, beautiful Sweet Lemon readers – you are what you tweet. This is not a caveat about untagging distasteful Facebook photos or the dangers of drunk tweeting. You can use social media in a smart and effective way to build a personal brand for yourself. Whether you are applying for jobs or networking
as a savvy college student, using social media wisely is not only recommended, but nearly imperative in today’s job market. Branding isn’t just a “big business” thing anymore – today, you are the product of the content you produce, the people and companies with which you engage and the audience that is listening.
and so you want to both not look like a spammer and be easily identifiable as you IRL (in real life, of course). Twitter is essentially a shorter form of blogging, so as you would in a blog, write about what you know and like. Become an expert in fields that interest you or apply to your professional aspirations.
Surely 140 characters can’t be too overwhelming, and so this conversation starts with Twitter. Twitter, in its most basic essence, is a free social network and microblogging platform that allows users to post updates in the form of text-based posts, up to 140 characters. Naturally, it is the most conducive social network to giving yourself a visible “voice” and identity. If you don’t already have a Twitter handle, that is where to begin. Choose something that is easily identifiable and presentable – your name is likely the best option.
Engage in the Twitter network by following friends, relevant brands, media outlets, blogs, professionals – anyone whose voice you value. You will quickly learn the ins and outs of retweeting, hashtags, shortening links and sharing images. What is more important is to remember that with each tweet, you are defining yourself and part of your social media identity. While Twitter is just one piece of this identity, it’s an effective (and fun!) platform for an all new (online) you.
Before you start actively tweeting, decide how you want to brand yourself. Fill out your profile, write a witty little bio and choose a background. One of your goals in using Twitter should be to gain followers, 99
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W onderl a nd The more I think about it, the more I realize how much Paris was to me what Wonderland was to Alice: new and exciting, sometimes bizarre and scary and super easy to get lost (not to mention, the whole time I was hoping to take a bite from a pastry and shrink to the size of an average European). Lucky for me, the experience was much more fantastic than frightening; no one ordered my head to be cut off and by the end it all felt like a dream. My six week study abroad in Paris marked my first trip to Europe; obviously I was much more invested in the “abroad” part than the actual studying that was involved. Most of my life has been split between Atlanta, GA and Pittsburgh, PA, and while both cities are metropolitan with plenty to offer, for a style, food and culture lover like myself, Paris was truly a dream destination. After I got over the six hour jet lag, I realized what a different world Paris is. Everything is beautiful. Unlike the crusty, abandoned warehouses and seedy strip clubs that line Atlanta streets, Paris’s wide rues are packed with one beautifully ornate building after another. American parking lots are replaced with actual parks, complete with perfectly manicured lawns and pruned shrubs. The aesthetic upgrade is especially noticeable in the everyday fashion show that is Paris street style. New Balance tennies are replaced with Prada loafers, no neck is left unscarved and sweatpants might possibly be a punishable offense. Aside from the clothes porn, the Parisians sporting the threads were all the eyeful a girl could ever want. Never have I declared so many men “my future husband” in one walk to class as I did on a daily basis from le Marais to the Bastille. There was never a shortage of incredible architecture, wardrobe or human eye candy to gawk at, and gawk I did. On occasion, I found myself drooling over something other than Monsieur Parisian Husband. This was usually when I was passing a bakery, and as I’d estimate the number of bakeries to be roughly 5 per block, this was actually more than occasional, it was frequent. Not only did every single meal I ate look as if it had been staged for television, it smelled and tasted better than any American meal I can remember. If you’re picturing a visible stream of aroma wafting from a freshly filled crepe topped with chocolate hazelnut
spread and banana, you’re pretty much spot on. In the same way that everything looks better in Paris, everything tastes better too. The fruit is in season, the cheese is locally produced, the butter is properly salted and bread is freshly baked. Is it problematic that I supplemented my three meals a day with an entire baguette and silky spoonfuls of Nutella? Probably. Was it worth it? Definitely. Aside from the sensory overload I experienced in the sights, smells and tastes of my new favorite city on earth, I also experienced the kind of culture shock that only comes from living in a different world. For as sophisticated as Paris is, life moves so much slower there. Yes, the traffic is horrendous and taxi drivers will not hesitate to run pedestrians down, but regardless of the bustle of cars and the most punctual Metro on earth, Parisians know how to enjoy themselves. Cafés arrange seating so that all al fresco diners face the street. The quintessential Parisian sits alone at a café, smoking a cigarette, sipping wine, nibbling a croissant, watching passersby. Conversations between people are held at a volume so low, I questioned whether or not France bred citizens with super-hearing, and groups of more than four people were few and far between. After much practice, I finally learned how to speak at an acceptable decibel level, and spent more time alone than I had before, all in the name of being Parisian. Cool culture oozes out of the neighborhoods, from the Jewish quarter peppered with falafel stands, to the open air market every Sunday at the Bastille, to the annual Fete de la Musique (if you’ve heard Phoenix, you have this to thank for them), a city-wide music festival that results in bands claiming every inch of street for a public performance. Now that I’m back in the United States I remember why I love it so much: establishments that operate twenty-four hours a day, the dollar, Georgia Tech Wireless just to name a few. Now that I’m not in Paris anymore, though, I would do anything to fall back down that rabbit hole. Paris really is a city like no other; always pulsing, but not in a chaotic way, in a way that makes me want to wear a beret and striped shirt while biking down the Champs Elysees with a baguette and wine in tow, heading to a picnic in the middle of a park in the middle of Wonderland.
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Inspiration by Kristen Podbelski
Every once in a while, you’ll find yourself in a class with a great professor. I mean, a really great professor. A do anything for their students, involved, successful professor whose words of wisdom inside and outside the classroom stick with you well after your final exam. When planning to interview and write about unique, inspirational woman, I instantly thought of one of my professors, Donna Wertalik. Professor Wertalik seems to do it all; she founded her own award winning advertising firm after working for some of the most wellknown companies on our planet, teaches marketing classes that offer real world experience, advises a business fraternity on campus and still leaves generous amounts of time to help her students in any way possible. I have turned to Professor Wertalik for advice about life, job hunting and school in general, and have always found her eager to help and selfless in devoting time in her packed schedule to meet with both current and past students. Her contagious energy for life and learning have made her one of my greatest role models, as both a person and as a career woman. I sat down with her to talk about college, life and advice for young women in order to share her inspiring energy and passion.
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Tell me about your college experience.
I went to Fairleigh Dickinson University, which is a private university in New Jersey and started out actually in Political Science first – thought I wanted to be a lawyer - and changed midway through the freshmen year to Marketing. Then I had an opportunity with the Public Relations Department and worked with them. Since we were about 20 minutes outside New York City we worked with all the different TV stations, worked with the PR department to engage students, showcase student life and the differences when you’re transitioning from high school to college, which was really phenomenal. It was a smaller school, not as big as Virginia Tech. We didn’t have the sports and the energy or the entourage, but it was a phenomenal experience. I was in a sorority, and did a lot of activities within marketing, I worked full time during my college years. I have life-long friends still; just a couple weeks ago we all met up with our daughters. What advice would you offer college aged women?
I would say to be strong. Not to settle, to keep your focus in terms of what you really want to do in life and what’s going to continue to spark that passion. One of the aspects, I think, is to find a really good mentor in your career, to show you things in terms of a company and politics and different aspects. No one can really teach you that in a university setting. I was speaking to a student just last week who graduated and was doing really, really well and because they’re so young and so enthused, you know there was a little bit of jealousy within the company from older people. But, they had a good mentor to guide them in terms of, this is this person, this is that person, and understand the agency more from a personality standpoint versus just the work that they do. So I would say always in life find a good mentor, because the mentors I had really led me to great decisions, provided more experience than I could have ever had and application than I could ever want in a school setting. One thing I really admire about you is that every person you interact with you’re almost determined to get to know them, to build some sort of relations up with them. Have you always been like that, or what kind of made you such a relationship focused individual?
I think the one thing that probably no one can deny is that I am a people person. Yeah, no one can argue with that!
They cannot argue that. I always loved it but I was kind of a late bloomer in life so I came out a little later. I‘ve always had this motherly approach; even in college I was pledge mom and I absolutely adored that role. And when I graduated, I think because so many mentors in my life were so good to me…it was just what I really aspired to be in terms of that type of manager. So in the workforce I’ve always taken people under my wing and showcased and showed them things in terms of formalities, professionalism, I always wanted to show them that. And when I started in the academic sense I felt like it was my true calling. It was such a great opportunity; almost like all these little birds that have to fly out of the nest one day, and how do you make it so their wings are strong enough, that their back is up high. So I kind of look at it there before I let them fly off, try to instill in them as much as possible. Not every student wants it, but I find that I find that it’s just so important because you’ve been raised by your family and they know you in one sense, and you’re kind of exploring your whole identity in college and finding what you potentially want to do, and then you have someone excited about that and sparks it even further. I really enjoy working with the students, and at the end of the day, I love what I do. I’m here for my students. Why did you decide to start teaching?
Ten years ago if someone said I’d be in Blacksburg, Virginia and blah blah blah, I’d say, “Where?” It’s definitely been a process, but at the same point it gave me almost a second chance to look at my career. We moved here from New York after 9/11; we wanted a different way of life, a better lifestyle and quality of life for our daughters. Came here, and I had done a couple lectures at Virginia Tech and I had always done mentoring and speaker series in the industry for younger people. So I came to lecture, did a little bit more, and then they asked if I would be interested in adjunct teaching. I started with advertising and I absolutely loved it, then I became advisor for an organization, got a couple more classes under my belt, and it was a springboard from that perspective. 103
I guess it aligned quite well because it was what I was doing in terms of mentoring and now I was teaching and really able to showcase my experience and what I had done in my life, but also blend with the students and see what they were learning today, and that was my spark, that was my fire and passion. So is your favorite part about teaching just being able to interact with the students and kind of play that mentoring role?
I think that’s one of my biggest enjoyment aspects. I also love to have ideas come to life, and showcase an idea and then show them the execution that a brand did so they can really see it and connect with it. It always goes back to the students. I definitely have an interest in terms of their overall career future aspirations but within the classroom setting as well. I get excited when concepts come together and I can’t hold it back because to me it’s just where it’s at. It’s almost looking at something and saying, Just Do It, Nike, that’s the swoosh and you just hit it and everything aligns after that. You lived in New York City and you’ve had this kind of glamorous dream life; working for big corporations and whatnot, and everyone wants to be that girl in New York City. What is it like being a strong career woman, especially in a competitive setting like New York?
I think looking back on a lot of my reviews, the comment they always said was “Donna hit the ground running.” I chose not to get involved in a lot, if any, politics that existed and just kept my nose to the grind and did the work and worked really hard to learn as much as possible, to be recognized in that sense. That was always my approach in any position, almost to the sense that as soon as you get the job, you have to prove yourself. I wasn’t worried about making friends, I was worried about “okay what do we need to do” and the stress levels. It is a very high stress level, it’s very intense. I think it is definitely a high paced, high energy environment where you need to have a good mentor. I was part of the NYWA, the New York Women’s
Agenda, which was started by Ellie Guggenheim; she was about a hundred when we started. I loved it because it was a huge networking association. We had brunches at the Plaza every year with all these corporate women, and you share your stories, and the music in the background - which was phenomenal - was Helen Reddy’s “I Am Woman Hear Me Roar,” and that was the background setting. But in that type of setting it was still to an extent to fight for our positions as women in terms of where we are and where we need to be, and have a voice. Because that’s something that’s out there that we still fight for today in terms of salary adjustments and where certain people are brought in over others, so it’s something I’ve always been aware of.
“Utilize your connections ... to understand the world you’re going to go in to” So the New York part was just phenomenal in every way. When I’m there I feel alive, I feel inspired; it’s just unlike any other energy in the world. But I also look back and say, “Thank goodness I’m in a different stage of life now.” Because I think honestly the way I’m built it would be hard to really balance the focus as well as I balance it here. I was so focused the first year of my daughter’s life I actually missed most of it. I didn’t come home til 10:00. So that’s a realization of life too, that it can be great and this and that, but also then you’ve got the pain in your heart that this isn’t right and there’s got to be a better way. And that, besides 9/11, was the reason we left, to be with my daughter and not turn around and see her at 20, I wanted to raise her and be with her. What advice would you give women who are about to take a step to go to a big city and start a job or those who just gradu-
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Utilize your connections and your networking to understand the world you’re going to go in to, and know that you know it is tough and that you don’t have to have every single thing when you move there. And if you’re not able to live right in NYC, well there’s suburbs right outside that are a lot cheaper. And there are a lot of other people in your grouping that will be in your situation and you can share those life experiences. I would say anyone can do it. Many students are often thinking about the next step; finding a job or getting into grad school, and during that whole process it’s really easy to feel discouraged and like it’s not going to work out. How do you pick yourself up after you fall so to speak, or how do you suggest young women go about doing that?
There were a lot of different times not everything worked out, there were a lot of failures on the way and there still are today. I still learn and take every opportunity as a learning experience and know that - and I really try to look at this - that if something doesn’t work out, it wasn’t meant to be. My path is another path. Reassess where you are, where you’re positioned at, what you’re doing. Don’t be afraid to get out there and ask opinions and connect. Never shut the door to any opportunity, consider them all because I think everything in life happens for a reason. Alright, you do a lot. You teach, you run your own advertising firm, you advise a business fraternity, you’re always here meeting with students like me. But what do you do to relax, to have Donna time?
I love Donna time. I exercise. I love to cycle; I’m a big cycling person. When I exercise and I think of nothing but the cycling or working out in some form, it just releases endorphins and it makes me think of other ideas and areas and things like that. So I love to do that. I love to read now that I have a kindle, it’s so much easier. And just spending time with my daughters.
“Falling down is part of life. Gettingback up is living.” work ethic, their process. My children, my husband, personally. Professionally, I would say there are some key people out there that I think I always look towards. Some of the great advertisers that have gone from the world, David Ogilvy is always an inspiration. I would say Jackie Onassis, just the way she approached life in terms of strength. I’m inspired not by women who are overly strong but just more, I guess just well-rounded women that can kind of balance the job and make things work. I’m inspired by students because I see the youth and all that opportunity and it gets me excited. I don’t know if it’s one key person, it’s a variety of people. I’m also still inspired by mentors. I have a great mentor here, the department head, who inspires me. Some of my colleagues inspire me, they get excited about things, and I learn new things. So there are so many different touch points of inspiration throughout the day. I try to look at every day the glass half full as much as possible. I look at John Lennon’s quote. His mother told him the key to life was happiness. When he went to school they asked them what he wanted to be when he grew up, and he wrote down happy. The teacher said, “You don’t understand the assignment.” And he said, “You don’t understand the world.” So at the end of the day, you’ve got to be happy, you really do, and that’s what inspires me. Also surrounding yourself with positive energy and positive vibes. There’s a lot of negative ones and people can really pull you down, and just believe in yourself.
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you ng w o men give hope
by carla javier // tweet her: @ cm_javier
last month, eighteen women of all ages, backgrounds, and ethnicities from across the country converged on the Kyoto Grand Hotel in Downtown Los Angeles on a mission to help stop domestic violence. After being divided into three teams-- Give Hope, Give Joy, and Give Dreams, named after Mary Kay’s limited edition lipsticks—they
embarked on a weeklong mission to produce three documentaries about domestic violence as a part of Mary Kay’s newest philanthropic program, Mary Kay Inspiring Stories. School of Visual Arts student Anne Marie Rivera, 20, was drawn to the program by her interest in special effects and filmmaking. As a computer arts major, she is constantly inspired by her New York City surroundings. After hearing about the Mary Kay Inspiring Stories pro106
gram, however, Rivera said she realized it was an opportunity to grow even more as a filmmaker, special effects creator, and as an individual. “I did not initially relate to the subject matter because I did not know domestic violence related to my family,” Rivera said. After doing research for her application, however, Rivera mentioned that she did not realize there was so much to learn about the issue. “
Many women know do not know the signs of domestic violence. Not only is it physical, but emotional too,” Rivera said. In an attempt to reverse this statistic, Mary Kay teamed up with Chicago-based production company Dreaming Tree Films to create Mary Kay Inspiring Stories. Of course, this is not a new issue, but one that is going on across the country. Young women, like Jenny Nigro from Albany, NY, are lending their own passion and motivation to effectively ending domestic violence each and every day. Nigro, 23, was on Team Give Hope with Rivera. Nigro who works with domestic violence victims, said she “was drawn to the Mary Kay Inspiring Stories program because of its sense of women’s empowerment and support.” Nigro, 23, was on Team Give Hope with Rivera. Nigro who works with domestic violence victims, said she “was drawn to the Mary Kay Inspiring Stories program because of its sense of women’s empowerment and support.” Rivera, a filmmaker, and Nigro, an advocate for the end of domestic violence, joined forces and experiences to produce a ten-minute long documentary with the theme of giving hope. “My favorite part of the week, I would have to say, was preparing to go out on our first shoot. The air was just absolutely buzzing with adrenaline and excitement. As a newbie to the whole
filmmaking game, it was so interesting to see how each step of the production process unfolds,” Nigro said. Of course, the week did not come without its challenges. ”The hardest part of the week would have to have been reading each woman’s story and what they had to go through. It was very emotional,” Rivera said. Nigro added that the editing process proved to be a barrier as well. She said “Not having known each other before coming to Los Angeles proved, I think, to be a barrier at this stage, as we didn’t have the same familiarity with one another’s visions as I imagine other film-making teams have.” Even with the added challenge of only knowing each other for one week, Nigro, Rivera, and their fellow members of Team Give Hope joined forces to interview subjects, shoot footage, run sound, meet with Mary Kay team members, and sit in on a recording session with celebrity narrator Joanna Garcia Swisher. Garcia Swisher, of “Reba” and “Privileged” fame, said “Domestic violence is the #1 cause of injury to women ages 15-44. We need to change this, and that’s why I got involved in this project. Women united together for a common interest is a powerful thing. I am proud to use my voice to help support the cause.” And, in participating, Team Give Hope’s young women were able to hone part of their own voices. 107
Nigro was able to master a new medium through which she can inspire, educate, and creative conversation about domestic violence: film. “I cannot say that I learned just one thing -- rather, I learned how to perform all of the roles within the production process as well as how to use all of the tech equipment that was required for production,” Nigro said. Rivera also learned from her experiences, though not about filmmaking as she initially anticipated, but about the issue of domestic violence. “I hope the documentary inspires women and reminds them that they are not alone, and that they should not be embarrassed or afraid. While each situation is different, I hope that our documentary sheds light on how they found hope and got out of their own domestic violence situations,” Rivera said.
Mary Kay will be donating $1
from every purchase of their Mary Kay Beauty that Counts Crème Lipstick in shades Give Joy, Give Dreams, and Give Hope from September 15, 2011- December 15, 2011 to support the Mary Kay Foundation and its efforts to end domestic violence.
Check out
the documentaries during Domestic Violence Awareness month at : www.marykayinspiringstories.com
She’s the First: Students Helping Students
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ake a moment to think about what you’re the first in your family to do. Maybe you’re the first to travel to Europe. Perhaps you’re the first to have your own blog. You may even be the first to go to college. Whatever trail you’ve blazed, you’ve likely had an education that helped get you there. This mentality is the inspiration behind She’s the First (STF), a non-profit organization founded in 2009 by Tammy Tibbetts. STF is devoted to raising awareness and funds for girls’ education in the developing world. The organization was created by a team of young women all under the age of 25, and continues to be fueled by the passion of millennials. According to Tibbetts, the millennial factor is a powerful one. “It gives us an advantage in terms of using social media, because it comes so naturally to us to use it to make connections with donors and companies,” she said. “Someday we might be connecting with some of the girls we sponsor via social media. I think that differentiates us from other organizations. There’s a difference in our style and spirit.”
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That spirit is evident in many of STF’s student supporters. One of the organization’s major projects is a network of chapters on college campuses across the country. Since the organization’s inception, 15 STF*{Campus} chapters have been created, and even more are on the way. Tibbetts explained that the campus chapters offer students an opportunity to hone their skills while making a difference, even while juggling a full course load and other extracurriculars. “Some people might just share our blog posts on Facebook or Twitter to give these girls a voice, and that is a valuable contribution,” she said. “Others who want to practice their event-planning skills might take it a step further and plan a dinner party benefit with their friends.” Leaders of the campus chapters have experienced the value of supporting the cause firsthand. They’ve organized fundraisers such as benefit concerts and bake sales, including an upcoming campaign featuring cupcake sales across the country, and they’ve learned valuable lessons along the way. “It’s taught me to keep my head up and push past obstacles. It’s not easy manning your own club and getting people to listen,” said Chelsea Tirrell, incoming president of the STF chapter at Hofstra University. “Nothing comes easy in life, but She’s the First has shown me that if you work hard enough and stay true to your dreams and beliefs, you can get exactly where you need to be.” “Every ounce of energy you put into a campus chapter is worth it because you know you’re making a difference in the world and in a girl’s life,” said Amy Snider, incoming president of STF*{Syracuse}. “It teaches you how to be an advo-
cate for a cause and sharpens your public speaking and event-planning skills.”
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For Tibbetts and the STF founding team, the involvement from student supporters has been overwhelming. “There’s nothing more successful than students helping students,” she said. “When we started STF, we didn’t realize the impact we would have on students here in the U.S. We’ve seen how they’ve grown. They’re able to take an issue that seems so far away and become a spokesperson for it.”
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Starting your own STF*{Campus} chapter is as simple as gathering a group of friends who are passionate about girls’ education, contacting your school’s student activities board, and organizing awarenessbuilding and fundraising events. “Be prepared. The resources are all right in front of you but you have to be prepared to use them in the right ways,” advised Tirrell. “The entire STF team is willing to help campus branches in any way they can. Reach out to them for guidance or suggestions when you need it. Never be shy.” Taking initiative involves first taking a look at yourself, said Tibbetts. “Ultimately, reflect on what you’re the first to do and when you have a really strong sense of yourself and your achievements and how you got to that place, I think that’s what really puts you in the best position to give back to others,” she said. “So celebrate your achievements and pay it forward.” Taking initiative involves first taking a look at yourself, said Tibbetts. “Ultimately, reflect on what you’re the first to do and when you have a really strong sense of yourself and your achievements and how you got to that place, I think that’s what really puts you in the best position to give back to others,” she said. “So celebrate your achievements and pay it forward.” 1 10
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Are you inspired
by She’s the First and looking for even more organizations that support girls’ education? Here are a few to get you started:
Girl Up
{www.girlup.org} This United Nations Foundation campaign has a unique “High Five” component, in which campaign supporters can donate five dollars (or more) to give girls basic necessities such as clean water, health services, safety, as well as educational resources. The website also offers videos, information and news about developments in girls’ education.
A Girl Story
{agirlstory.org} This series of videos chronicles a young Indian girl’s journey to get an education. New videos are unlocked through donations to Project Nanhi Kali, an education program for girls. The site brings the struggles of uneducated girls to life in a way that even young supporters can understand, and motivates the audience to donate.
The Girl Effect
{www.girleffect.org/question} Known for its powerful videos on the importance of educating girls, the Girl Effect shares sobering statistics about gender inequality in the developing world, and uses bold infographics and interviews to gain support. It promotes the idea that the Girl Effect is “the world’s greatest untapped solution to poverty.”
Founding STF*{Hofstra} members with She's the First's signature tie-dye cupcakes!
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Every young hostess
should invest in a few key pieces that are both versatile and practical. These pieces will elevate the look and feel of any party, no matter what the budget is. Think carefully about décor and make high impact choices, like integrating a bright color into a mostly white color scheme or lighting tiny tea lights in every corner, nook and cranny to enhance a room and make it glow well into the evening. Here’s a list of a few pretty and affordable pieces to add to your collection.
A melamine, lucite, or lacquer tray
(Our favorites: zak! Designs, Jonathan Adler, Dabney Lee)
White or clear are those most versatile. Load the tray up with hors d’oeuvres, a custom mimosa bar with champagne and fresh fruit juices, or even use it as a centerpiece for your party. One of the easiest and most fun ways to dress up a tray is to line it with colorful patterned paper in the hues of your party’s color scheme. The tray is transformed in a snap. Laminate the paper if you want to reuse it later!
Thick White Napkins
(Our Favorites: Williams-Sonoma, Crate and Barrel, Pottery Barn)
Part of the fun of a fancy dinner party is decorating the table. Invest in a nice set of white cloth napkins. You can fold the napkins in so many fun and festive ways and then just throw them in the wash after guests have departed.
Bud Vases
(Our favorite: Ikea, CB2, Etsy)
Purchasing a slew of fine crystal vases is impractical and pricey. Pick up a handful of bud vases in various sizes, shapes and heights. These little vases are inexpensive and offer major impact when grouped together. Using different flowers, herbs and greenery to play around with different looks. You can see the ways we incorporated each piece and gather a few ideas for your next party. We threw a fun and festive champagne and doughnuts breakfast and a casual panini book party 113
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The Recipe: Truffled Mushroom + Mozzarella Panini Truffle Butter 1/2 Crusty Baguette 12 ounces of Wild Mushrooms 1-2 Tablespoons of Olive Oil 3-4 Slices of Fresh Mozzarella Arugula Salt and Pepper 1. SautĂŠe the mushrooms until they are soft and caramelized. 2. Slice the baguette in half, scoop out the insides of the baguette and smear with truffle butter.
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3. Place the mushrooms and mozzarella on the bread and cook in the panini press for 4-5 minutes until the cheese has melted. 4. Take the Panini off the press, open the sandwich, and pile it with arugula. 5. Close and slice into 3-4 pieces.
The Decor Scour garage and sidewalk sales for hardcover books. Be sure to peak under the jacket cover before purchasing. Buy a bunch that have pretty designs on the actual cover (not the jacket). Garage sales are all about bargaining, so have some fun with the seller and get the best deal! Scatter and stack the books on the table, and in unexpected places. Use a book or two to add height to the centerpieces. Use bright green foliage from your backyard in clear simple vases. So fresh!
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The Recipe: Traditional Mimosas Traditional Mimosas: Chilled orange juice Champagne 1.. Mix one part orange juice with one part champagne. 2. Serve in tall flutes and garnish with fresh mint leaves. Variations: Virgin: Use lemon-lime soda in lieu of champagne Sweet Lemon: Mix orange juice and lemonade together first, and then combine with one part champagne
The Decor
champagne + doughnuts brunch
Doughnuts are quick and easy treats for a mid-morning party. And the best part? They can stand on their own for decoration! You can choose a variety of flavors from a doughnut shop, local bakeries or even a grocery store. To keep things festive, make sure the frostings coordinate with the theme. You can opt for festive colors for a holiday party or more traditional (as we did here). Contact the bakery beforehand to see if they can work with you to decorate the doughnuts perfectly.
Take-away Bags:
Don’t let your guests leave empty handed. When you’re at the bakery picking up the frosted doughnuts, pick up unfrosted ones and extra frosting as well. Use a cellophane bag to wrap a plain doughnut for every guest. Tie a small spatula (found at any craft or baking store) with a two-inch grosgrain ribbon onto the bag. Clean out small tin containers typically used for wedding favors. Spoon frosting into half of the tins and pour sprinkles into the other half. Now each guest can frost her own doughnut when late night (or on the drive home) cravings set in! visit jenna’s website: http://www.charmandsalt.com 115
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ways to brighten up a room
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Wall color can set the mood of the room, yet painting the walls is off-limits in many apartments and dorms. Typical plain walls can make a room seem “blah” – but that doesn’t mean it has to be boring! Try these tips to spice up your space without having to even pick up a paintbrush.
- all y arch er | @a ll ya rch er
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Decorative pillows add comfort and style. Toss a unique mix of pillows with different elements like velvet, embroidery, patterns, or feathers on a bed, chair, or sofa.
Stick-on-peel-off silhouettes won’t damage walls and are easily interchangeable. Trading out silhouettes in different colors or styles is the quickest way to change and update a room!
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Add a pop of color. Candles, picture frames or a vase of flowers (real or fake!) are available at any price, size, and shade.
Hang up string lights for a more unique type of bright. Traditional white bulbs are classic, while party or holiday lights can be used for special occasions!
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Take your favorite reading material to new level. A stack of hardcover books without the sleeves make a dresser or table look more sophisticated.
Put your favorite jewelry on display. A pretty jewelry organizer can dress up a countertop while keeping all those adornments separated. Wall hooks and towel racks are great for keeping necklaces untangled and small bowls make rings and small earrings easily accessible. Use ordinary items and get creative with it! 1 17
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bake sweet lemon cookies
ingredients:
sweet lemon cookies
1 package refrigerated sugar cookie dough 4 cups powdered sugar 4 tablespoons lemon juice 1 stick butter, softened at room temperature 10 drops yellow food coloring
directions: 1. Bake sugar cookies according to package directions and let cool. 2. Combine powdered sugar, lemon juice, butter, and food coloring into a bowl. 3. Using an electric mixer or hand whisk, mix ingredients together until smooth. Scrape sides of bowl with spatula to make sure all of the powdered sugar is blended. 4. Spread icing on cookies with a knife or pipe through a pastry bag with a tip. 5. Place cookies on a decorative plate. Do not cover cookies until the icing has set.
- Lea Matthews @lea_cassel
@sweetlemonmag using the hash tags #WhenLifeGivesYouLemons & #BakeSweetLemonCookies
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the di rt: i n d o o r s pa c e s by shannon mcgee: @ShannonAshley
Like it or not, a dorm room and a starter “office” (ahem, cubicle) both resemble a jail cell. The most common way to spruce up either is with colorful accessories and a fake plant. I say, why go fake? In both situations there is a multitude of ways to bring real life greenery into the space, even to a cubicle. Studies have shown that even just one potted plant in an office can contribute to increased creative performance and improve mood. Additionally, potted plants in the recovery rooms of surgical patients lowered blood pressure, pain rating, fatigue and anxiety when compared to patients in recovery rooms lacking in live plants. Not to mention that plants can also improve air quality by reducing pollutants in the indoor environment. Go into any office near you and you are all but guaranteed to find a spider plant and a peace lily. These plants are nearly indestructible and a great first plant for anyone with a black thumb. However, since you are reading this magazine I am going to assume that you are a capable lady. A capable lady of any level of green thumb (even down to the darkest brown) can handle more than a spider plant or peace lily. Peace lilies are nice for the old lady three cubicles down but they are not appropriate for the driven young professional. They scream “dowdy,” “boring,” and “one dimensional.” There is one plant that can easily go dowdy or modern: the office fern. The difference between the two is usually the container used and the fern’s structure. I just planted a new fern for my office in a unique mason jar I bought at my local feed and seed store. My fern is simple; it is a baby, with only two fronds and only standing 7 inches tall. I like to think that he** is the minimalist fashionista of the fern world. Frederick** (my baby fern) is the prettiest fern on the block but it isn’t much of a challenge when compared to the overgrown and half-dead ferns living around here in pastel flowery ceramic pots. Ferns are great office/dorm plants because they like low-light conditions and tolerate over/under watering fairly well. If you plant a fern using a standard potting mix, (available in small bags at home improvement store or mega mart) such as Miracle Grow, you won’t need to worry about fertilizing it for at least 6 months. Ferns like to be watered (lightly) about once a week but if you start to notice a small mold growing on the surface of the soil, water less frequently. If you start to notice dry or crumbly soil, water more frequently. ** Gardening Secret #1: You must name your plants, talk to them, and personify them, seriously. You are less likely to kill something because you forgot about it if you are friends with it.
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freshly squeezed Illume Candle in LEMONGRASS
LEMON PRINT via Etsy
CHEEKY CHOPS polish by Butter London
Kate Spade STATEMENT NECKLACE * as seen on P!
jonathan adler FIREPLACE MATCHES
Russel + Hazel mini binder in LEMON DROP
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kate spade STATIONERY SET
Missoni CAFTAN
Kate Spade BLACKBERRY POUCH LEMON PRINT via Etsy 121
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