Arts & Lifestyles - May 27, 2021

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My Life is Painful.

How Can I Find Happiness?

OUR EXPERT ANSWERS YOUR QUESTIONS Brittain Mahaffey, PhD

Director, Stony Brook Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Program Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Research Scientist DBT-Linehan Board Certified Clinician

with borderline personality disorder, who are working through problems including: • Overwhelming emotions • Impulsive behavior • Self-injury • Suicidal thoughts • Substance use • Eating disorders • Trauma • Challenging relationships filled with conflict or arguments

Many people who feel like life is crushing down on them have tried countless other treatments without relief. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a science-backed therapy that takes a wholistic approach to helping people develop a life that’s less painful and really worth living. It focuses on finding balance and getting unstuck from extremes.

What does dialectical mean?

The “D” in DBT stands for dialectical and involves thinking and acting in ways that embrace life’s challenges and contradictions rather than being overwhelmed by them.

A dialectical approach focuses on developing the ability to identify and look at different viewpoints, challenge your assumptions, and balance between your changing outlook and accepting situations as they are to create new perceptions and perspectives to help you move forward and lead a happier life. The goal is to enable you to learn emotional life skills and make sustainable changes in your daily life.

How do I choose a DBT specialist?

When you’re leading an emotionally painful life, it’s important to be treated by a professional who has the proper training. Otherwise, it can be frustrating and uncomfortable. No one wants to leave a session feeling misunderstood and judged.

My team and I are all intensively trained DBT therapists. This means we’ve all completed a 16-week long, intensive training program followed by a year of monthly consultations with a DBT trainer. We value connecting with each person we treat and developing personalized strategies to help them to reduce their emotional suffering, improve relationships, and find balance in their lives. We also recognize that while you may not have caused the problems in your life, you still have to fix them.

Which DBT program is right for me?

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Who can benefit from DBT?

At Stony Brook, we offer five options.

Each includes meditation and mindfulness exercises and a classroom structure with a lesson plan. We also offer individual therapy and coaching calls to help you practice using coping skills in the real world.

DBT has been demonstrated to be effective in helping people who have been diagnosed

• Level I DBT Skills Groups — similar to taking a class rather than traditional group

therapy. For adults 18 years of age and older who are new to DBT or need a refresher.

• Level I DBT University — an abbreviated version of our Level I skills groups aimed at adults aged 18 to 25.

• Level II DBT Graduate Groups — emphasizes skills for maintaining treatment gains. Open to graduates of our Level I program.

• Multi-Family DBT for Adolescents — designed for tweens and teens ages 11 to 17 and their caregivers.

• Radically Open DBT (RO-DBT) — for people with problems of over-control such as autism spectrum disorder, obsessive compulsive personality disorder, perfectionism and anxiety problems.

Why Stony Brook?

The Stony Brook DBT program was established in 2017 and is designed to improve quality and access to care for people with more severe mental health problems who haven’t found other forms of therapy helpful. Our intensively trained DBT experts offer a wealth of experience from our outpatient child psychiatry, outpatient adult psychiatry and inpatient psychiatry units. And our program is the only full, comprehensive DBT program on Long Island that accepts most insurance plans.

For a consultation with a Stony Brook certified DBT expert, call (631) 632-8657. neuro.stonybrookmedicine.edu/dbt

This article is intended to be general and/or educational in nature.

Always consult your healthcare professional for help, diagnosis, guidance and treatment. Stony Brook University/SUNY is an affirmative action, equal opportunity educator and employer. 21041450H

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Congratulations Class of 2021!

life. Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending. Teach love to those who know hate and let that love embrace you as you continue in the world.

Let the teachings of those you admire become a part of you so that you may call upon them. It is the content and quality of your character that is important, not merely the actions you take. Don’t judge a book by its cover, or stop at the introduction. Read it through; seek the meaning and messages it offers for life. Everyone’s life is sacred, even those who are different from you or whom you do not like.

Don’t be blinded by those who tend to use shame, blame, guilt and religion to shackle people down and divide them; set people free with your respect and nonjudgmental way.

We live in a world that is very deceptive.

Don’t let the corrupt political rhetoric of our time blind your eyes, impair your hearing or shackle your dreaming. As you graduate, the social landscape that you must navigate is treacherous; be prepared to sail stormy waters, but don’t lose heart, draw on the goodness that lives within and the goodness of others to stay the course.

May your moral compass be grounded in respect for all human beings, no matter what their color, their race, their creed or their sexual orientation. May this compass guide you on a path that is committed to working for peace and social justice. As Gandhi once said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

Congratulations graduates of 2021!

Thanks for making the world a little richer, a little brighter, a little more hopeful and a better place to be!

Father Francis Pizzarelli, SMM, LCSW-R, ACSW, DCSW, is the director of Hope House Ministries in Port Jefferson.

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Graduation 2021 — what a year! In the midst of this horrific pandemic, so many of you have had the courage, despite so many obstacles, to stay the course and graduate with distinction from high school, college and graduate

BY FR. FRANCIS school.

PIZZARELLI This year has been plagued by so much sickness, death, and divisiveness. Yet, so many of you have volunteered to help those in need by your commitment to community service.

Graduates, as you continue your journey, do not let the social filters of our time enable bigotry, exclusivity and social injustice. Always speak up and work for human rights; try to realize that being human and sensitive to others is more important than any successful academic record. Showing compassion and understanding rooted in justice is more significant than a science formula. These are difficult lessons to learn because they demand that you risk all that you are now for what you could become tomorrow.

Look around you! We are living in a very challenging world. A new revolution is afoot; your generation is moving away from the indifference and the complacency of yesterday and is moving toward a new idealism of freedom and responsibility. It’s happening around the world, especially in the Middle East and in Africa. It’s not happening among the political elite, but among our young, our students, your peers.

It gives me hope that tomorrow will be better.

May a kind word, a reassuring touch and a warm smile be yours every day of your

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#BankonLIArt #ColorForACause Coloring Book Contest Winners We are proud to present our second Times Beacon Record News Media Artist Coloring Book contest winners. Our intentions for the coloring book and contest was to offer our local art community grand exposure by fostering appreciation for the arts, as well as providing an enriching cultural experience for our audience.

We are grateful to Bank of America as our Coloring Book partner, to all the artists who contributed a beautiful gallery of sketches and to our coloring contest participants who submitted beautifully colored drawings, as well as our voters. Look for the winner’s colored masterpieces in select Bank of America financial centers. To see the rest of the contestant’s entries, visit our TBR Facebook page: facebook. com/tbrbewsmedia and check out the photo galleries.

Congratulations to all our winners!

WINNER

Category 1: Ages 5-12 COLORIST Mia Radi, 5, Suffolk County ‘Nova’ by Marlene Bezich 1. What did you think of the coloring book?

“It Looked Beautiful.”

2. Why did you select this drawing to color?

“I chose to color the doggie because my Nanny and Poppy have a doggie. Her name is Clli.”

3. What are your other hobbies?

“I like to play with Anthony. I love to play with my Mommy. I like to do Art.”

ARTIST Marlene Bezich, Port Jefferson ‘Nova’ 1. What did you like about the winning colorist’s submission?

“First of all for a five year old her color understanding is amazing!!! Color is very important to me in my artwork, I love Mia’s color choices! She has successfully juxtapositioned complimentary colors to create a delight to the eye!!!! Under further examination I feel that wrapping Nova in an orange background gives Nova’s spirit a feeling of love and warmth. Her blue face indications “true blue” loyalty, and her green chest a sign of rebirth! I noticed she stayed well between the lines displaying a very organized personality!!! Her family should be truly proud of her!!!!”

2. What was your inspiration for the drawing?

“Nova is my sister’s dog who they rescued from the Brookhaven Town Shelter. She is the sweetest most loyal companion anyone could want. Her markings are stunning, so as an animal lover I just had to capture her! Hopefully this should be an example of the many wonderful dogs and cats available for adoption! They deserve a chance too!!”

3. What did you think of the coloring book?

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“I loved the coloring book!!! So many different subjects and styles!!! I’m so proud to be among the many talented artists who participated. A Big THANK YOU for including us!!!!!!!”

4. What are your other hobbies?

“I love gardening and cooking!”

COLORIST Junior Rivas, 11, Central Islip ‘KAMAHAMEHA!!!’ by Clara Heller Why did you select this drawing to color?

“Out of all the pictures to choose from, this was my favorite because I like Dragon Ball Z and Goku.”

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ARTIST Clara Heller, Port Jefferson ‘KAMAHAMEHA!!!’

What was your inspiration for the drawing?

“I grew up drawing, and I grew up watching Toonami, especially Dragon Ball Z. I stopped drawing regularly as I got older, but when the pandemic hit and I suddenly had all this free time, I thought I’d give it another try. And what better subject than that of my favorite childhood anime!

I’m just happy other people appreciate Goku as much as I do!”

And there’s more! Six Long Island nonprofits, chosen by the winners & artists, will share $10,000 in community funding from Bank of America.

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WINNER

Category 2: Ages 13-19 COLORIST Rebecca Fear, 19, South Setauket ‘Nature’s Healing Spirit’ by Iris Rosenhagen 1. What did you think of the coloring book?

“ I loved this coloring book because it included some beautiful pieces from different talented artists that brought a lot of positivity to me during this past year.”

2. Why did you select this drawing to color?

“I chose the piece Nature’s Healing Spirit because during this past year it’s important for everyone to find something to heal themselves during these difficult times. Through this coloring page I was able to use many vibrant colors and intricate detail. Coloring is relaxing for me and helped me heal during a stressful time. While coloring this page I had my newly adopted dog on my lap, which was also calming for me.”

3. What are your other hobbies?

“My other hobbies are singing, dancing, coloring, drawing, acting and volunteering.”

ARTIST Iris Rosenhagen, Selden ‘Nature’s Healing Spirit’ 1. What did you like about the winning colorist’s submission?

“I love Rebecca’s use of jewel tones. The colors that she used and her out of the box thinking for how to apply them are very much how I envisioned it had I colored it.”

2. What was your inspiration for the drawing?

“The subject of my drawing was inspired by this past year. Everyone has faced many challenges and fortunately nature has been an incredibly therapeutic outlet for healing.”

3. What did you think of the coloring book?

“Everyone’s art is just so beautiful, and I’m honored to be a part of it. In addition to Mother Nature being one of the best healers, so is art, and it’s wonderful that the community had this opportunity to experience and create art together.”

4. What are your other hobbies?

“Some of my other hobbies include yoga, holistic healing, vegan cooking, eco-activism, birding, and hiking.”

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COLORIST Ella Psaltos, 16, Port Washington ‘Let’s Clean Up!’ by Bina Firestone Why did you select this drawing to color?

“I chose that image because it reminded me of an old cartoon.”

ARTIST Bina Firestone, Port Jefferson Station ‘Let’s Clean Up!’ What was your inspiration for the drawing?

“The drawing was from a watercolor I had recently completed. I had wanted to create a winter scene, but something different than a pristine and peaceful landscape. I started out with the idea of sending a snowplow through a residential neighborhood. Then I remembered how, after a snow, all the neighbors would emerge from their homes, and the street would become a hive of activity, so I added the people to the scene.”

And there’s more! Six Long Island nonprofits, chosen by the winners & artists, will share $10,000 in community funding from Bank of America.

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WINNER

Category 3: Ages 20+ COLORIST Hedi Flickstein, Coram ‘Lily’ by Christopher Reisman 1. What did you think of the coloring book?

“It was very good. I wish more of the drawings had white space to color.”

2. Why did you select this drawing to color?

“It was a very beautiful rendition of the picture. I wanted to add things like eyeshadow, lipstick and nail polish. She needed some beautification.”

3. What are your other hobbies?

“Senior groups, school related groups, Legislative groups, groups that help the handicapped.”

ARTIST Christopher Reisman, Shoreham ‘Lily’ 1. What did you like about the winning colorist’s submission?

“I love the way the artist took Lily to a new look and dressed her up a bit. Fabulous!”

2. What was your inspiration for the drawing?

“My inspiration for the drawing came from a picture in the New York Times Magazine section several years ago. I fell in love with the pose and the mystique of the lady. I added the flowers and Lily was born.”

3. What did you think of the coloring book?

“I think the coloring book gives a wonderful view of fine art by Long Island artists. I think this should be very inspiring to a lot of people. What a great way to add more beauty into the world, which the world really needs.”

4. What are your other hobbies?

“My other hobbies are making music, sewing and gardening and taking care of our wonderful magic sanctuary every day. Actually my sewing is more than a hobby. It is a great creative joyful experience for me to design and make one of a kind wearable art. I love it.”

RUNNER UP COLORIST Evelyn Rose, 78, Smithtown ‘Nature’s Healing Spirit’ by Iris Rosenhagen Why did you select this drawing to color?

“She was very whimsical!”

ARTIST Iris Rosenhagen ‘Nature’s Healing Spiri!’

What was your inspiration for the drawing?

“In addition to being inspired by nature, I was inspired by the future colorists. I love the idea of someone interacting with my art. The opportunity of two creative energies coming together is so motivating to me.”

And there’s more! Six Long Island nonprofits, chosen by the winners & artists, will share $10,000 in community funding from Bank of America.

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KNOWLEDGE SEEKERS

SBU’s Paolo Boffetta hits the ground running with new water project Harnessing the Technology of our Research Giants

BY DANIEL DUNAIEF

Dr. Paolo Boffetta, who joined Stony Brook University as Associate Director for Population Sciences in the Cancer Center in the midst of the pandemic last April, asks the kinds of questions doctors, scientists and non-scientists also raise when they look at illnesses among groups of people.

An epidemiologist who worked for 20 years at the World Health Organization and at Mt. Sinai Hospital in New York City for 10 years, Boffetta joined Stony Brook because he saw an opportunity to replicate the kind of success he and others had at Mt. Sinai, where he helped the institution earn a National Cancer Institute designation.

Cancer centers can apply for NCI designation when they have a wellestablished portfolio of research.

“The idea to try to get the Cancer Center” at Stony Brook “to the NCI level was very appealing,” Boffetta said. Stony Brook was looking to build out its population sciences work.

In addition to the big picture goal of helping Cancer Center Director Yusuf Hannun and other researchers earn that designation, Boffetta has partnered with several scientists at Stony Brook and elsewhere to address questions related to various illnesses.

Boffetta has applied for $12 million in funds over six years from the National Cancer Institute for a new water project.

The research will recruit people who are over 50 years old across several towns, primarily in Suffolk County to explore the link between the potential exposure these residents had to different chemicals in drinking water and types of cancers.

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“The main idea is that people may be exposed to carcinogens through drinking water according to where they have been living,” Boffetta said.

The scientists will follow these residents over time to determine the health impact of their town of residency. “If this is funded, this will be a major project that will involve many institutions,” he added.

The chemicals they will study include nitrates, chlorinated solvents, 1,4-dioxane, and perfluoroalkyl substances.

While he awaits word on potential funding for the water effort, Boffetta and others are looking at another project to explore the link between various environmental factors and bladder cancer. This is not limited to drinking water contamination.

The group plans to analyze tumor samples to see whether they can detect fingerprint mutations.

World Trade Center Studies

Boffetta also plans to continue and expand on work he’s done at Mt. Sinai with responders of the World Trade Center attacks, a group that has received considerable attention from numerous scientists at Stony Brook.

He has been “doing a number of quite detailed analyses on cancer, including survival of workers and responders to developing cancer,” he said. The WTC survivors are enrolled in a medical monitoring treatment program, sponsored by the Centers for Disease Control, which means they “should be getting good cancer care.”

Boffetta has been comparing their survival to the population at large in New York, analyzing how

Dr. Paolo Boffetta the risk of cancer evolved over the almost 20 years since the attacks.

Boffetta has started to look at one particular new project, in which he studies the prevalence of clonal hematopoiesis of indeterminate potential (or CHIP), which is an asymptomatic condition that increases the likelihood of leukemia and cardiovascular disease. He is studying 350 healthy World Trade Center responders and a group of historical controls from the literature.

He plans to use the results of his study to develop strategies to prevent these diseases in WTC responders.

In some of his WTC studies, Boffetta is working with Ben Luft, Director of the Stony Brook WTC Wellness Program at the Renaissance School of Medicine at SBU, who has been involved in providing extensive research and clinical support for WTC responders.

Boffetta is an “internationally renowned cancer epidemiologist” who contributed his “vast experience on the impact of environmental and occupational

exposures [that were] seminal in our understanding of how the disaster of 9/11 would eventually lead to increased numbers of cancer cases among responders,” Luft wrote in an email.

Boffetta’s contribution and understanding will “transcend the events of 9/11 and its impact on the responder community to a general understanding of the increased incidence of cancer on Long Island,” said Luft.

While Boffetta has several academic affiliations with institutions including Harvard University, where he teaches a class for a week each year, and Vanderbilt University, his primary focus involves the work he conducts at Stony Brook and at the University of Bologna.

Boffetta plans to keep his research team considerably smaller than the 80 to 100 people who worked with him at the World Health Organization.

Indeed, he said he mainly focuses on working with collaborators. He plans to hire his first post doctoral researchers soon.

As for teaching, Boffetta has been working with the program

directors of the Masters of Public Health to develop a tract in epidemiology. He plans to start teaching next year.

Boffetta, who spoke with Times Beacon Record News Media through WhatsApp from Italy, said he often works double shifts to remain in contact with his colleagues in the United States and Europe. When he’s in the United States, meetings can start at 6 in the morning to connect with his European counterparts in the middle of their day. When he’s in Italy, his last meetings sometimes end at 11 p.m. or midnight.

Boffetta, however, said he has “a normal life,” which, prior to the pandemic, included trips to the opera and museums. He also enjoys skiing and hiking.

Married to Antonella Greco, who used to teach Italian, Boffetta lives in New York City. He has three daughters, who live in Brooklyn, Italy and Uruguay. He has been vaccinated against COVID-19 and is looking forward to the opportunity to interact with his colleagues in person once restrictions caused by the pandemic ease.

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MEDICAL COMPASS

FOCUS ON FIBER: Fiber has very powerful effects on our overall health

Americans are woefully deficient in fiber, getting between eight and 15 grams per day, when they should be ingesting more than 40 grams daily.

Still, many people worry about getting enough protein, when they really should be

By David concerned about Dunaief, M.D. getting enough fiber. Most of us — except perhaps professional athletes or long-distance runners — get enough protein in our diets. Protein has not prevented or helped treat diseases to the degree that studies illustrate with fiber.

In order to increase our daily intake, several myths need to be dispelled. First, fiber does more than improve bowel movements. Also, fiber doesn’t have to be unpleasant.

The attitude has long been that to get enough fiber, one needs to eat a cardboard box. With certain sugary cereals, you may be better off eating the box, but on the whole, this is not true. Though fiber comes in supplement form, most of your daily intake should be from diet. It is actually relatively painless to get enough fiber; you just have to become aware of which foods are fiber-rich.

All fiber is not equal

Does the type of fiber make a difference?

One of the complexities is that there are a number of different classifications of fiber, from soluble to viscous to fermentable.

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(2). Over a nine-year period, those who ate the most fiber, in the highest quintile group, were 22 percent less likely to die than those in lowest group. Patients who consumed the most fiber also saw a significant decrease in mortality from cardiovascular disease, respiratory diseases and infectious diseases. The authors of the study believe that it may be the anti-inflammatory and antioxidant effects of whole grains that are responsible for the positive results.

Along the same lines of the respiratory findings, we see benefit with prevention of chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) with fiber in a relatively large epidemiologic analysis of the Atherosclerosis Risk in Communities study (3). The specific source of fiber was important. Fruit had the most significant effect on preventing COPD, with a 28 percent reduction in risk. Cereal fiber also had a substantial effect but not as great.

Fiber also has powerful effects on breast cancer treatment. In a study published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, soluble fiber had a significant impact on breast cancer risk reduction in estrogen negative women (4). Most beneficial studies for breast cancer have shown results in estrogen receptor positive women. This is one of the few studies that has illustrated significant results in estrogen receptor negative women.

The list of chronic diseases and disorders that fiber prevents and/or treats also includes cardiovascular disease, Type 2 diabetes, colorectal cancer, diverticulosis and weight gain. This is hardly an exhaustive list. I am trying to impress upon you the importance of increasing fiber in your diet.

Where do we find fiber?

Foods that are high in fiber are part of a plant-rich diet. They are whole grains, fruits, vegetables, beans, legumes, nuts and seeds. Overall, beans, as a group, have the highest amount of fiber. Animal products don’t have fiber. Even more interesting is that fiber is one of the only foods that has no calories, yet helps you feel full. These days, it’s easy to increase your fiber by choosing bean-based pastas. Personally, I prefer those based on lentils. Read the labels, though; you want those that are solely made from lentils without rice added.

If you have a chronic disease, the best fiber sources are most likely diseasedependent. However, if you are trying to prevent chronic diseases in general, I would recommend getting fiber from a wide array of sources. Make sure to eat meals that contain substantial amounts of fiber, which has several advantages, such as avoiding processed foods, reducing the risk of chronic disease, satiety and increased energy levels.

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1. *Carole King: "But you're ____ ____ away" 6. "I Thee ____" 9. Ring practice 13. Hacienda brick 14. *Billy Joel: "I love you just the way you ____" 15. What speakers do 16. Leg of lamb 17. Styling goo 18. Spooky 19. *Rod Stewart: "Oh, Maggie, I couldn't have tried ____ ____" 21. *Stevie Wonder: "Very superstitious, writing's on ____ ____" 23. Type of constrictor 24. Can of worms 25. *"____ Cola, what a beautiful drink" 28. Capital of Peru 30. *Carly Simon: "I had some dreams, they were ____ in my coffee" 35. Bad luck precursor 37. Swing seat, possibly 39. Macaroni shape 40. Capital on the Baltic Sea 41. Figure with vertex and rays 43. Venetian magistrate 44. Not fitting 46. Sealed with a handshake 47. Wise man 48. Annotator and commentator 50. Facts and figures 52. Bambino 53. Chinese monetary unit 55. International Labor Organization 57. *The Knack: "M M M My ____" 61. *Sister Sledge: "We are family, get up everybody ____ ____" 65. Last European colony in China 66. Pastrami's partner 68. Sheik's bevy 69. Movie premiere, e.g.

70. Gunk 71. Ancient assembly area 72. Used to be wild?

73. Attila, e.g.

74. Part of mortise joint * THEME RELATED CLUE

Answers to last week's puzzle: Screen-Free Playtime

Directions: Fill in the blank squares in the grid, making sure that every row, column and 3-by-3 box includes all digits 1 through 9.

Answers to last week's SUDOKU:

CLUES DOWN 1. Long story 2. War god in Norse mythology 3. Same as fogey 4. J. Robert Oppenheimer's project 5. Reorganize or modify 6. $7.25/hour, e.g.

7. Old fashioned 'before' 8. Nile's mouth 9. Boatload 10. What paralegal and parachute have in common 11. Seed covering 12. Angler's spool 15. Punch buggy car 20. Indian cuisine yogurt staple 22. Drunkard's sound?

24. Enter uninvited (2 words) 25. *Bruce Springsteen: "Tramps like us, baby we were born ____ ____" 26. ____ acid 27. "And Seth.... ____ Enos" 29. *Clapton: "Darling, won't you ease my worried ____" 31. Oldsmobile founder 32. Lusitania's destroyer 33. Grown-up pupper, in social media 34. *ABBA: "Dancing queen, young and ____, only 17" 36. Back of the neck 38. Dashing style 42. Spritelike 45. Test (2 words) 49. *Terry Jacks: "We had seasons in the ____" 51. One tritely familiar 54. Frustration, in print 56. Missouri River tributary 57. Old World duck 58. *Creedence Clearwater Revival: "____ you ever seen the rain?"

59. They're hidden up a sleeve?

60. Goes with rave 61. Eon, alt. sp.

62. *Black Sabbath: "I am ____ man" 63. Infamous Roman emperor 64. J. Edgar Hoover's man 67. *Queen: "Scaramouch, Scaramouch, will ___ do the Fandango"

Answers to this week’s puzzle will appear in next week’s newspaper and online on Friday afternoon at www.tbrnewsmedia.com, Arts and Lifestyles

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BOOK REVIEW

Stony Brook author Sarah Beth Durst debuts latest fantasy novel, The Bone Maker The plot twists and turns, building to a revelation midway through the book, shifting the story’s entire course to a gripping confrontation and satisfying denouement.

REVIEWED BY JEFFREY SANZEL

What happens after “The End?” After the villain is vanquished and order is restored? When the heroes go on to the rest of their lives? The gifted, prolific fantasy author Sarah Beth Durst explores this concept in her enthralling new adult novel, The Bone Maker (published by Harper Voyager).

Twenty-five years before, five extraordinary heroes saved Vos from the destructive forces of the evil Eklor, “a man who dealt death the way a card player dealt cards.”

While Eklor was slain and his animated minions destroyed, one of the quintet died in battle. With this, the remaining four went their separate ways.

The book opens a quarter of a century after the war, with a crime of body snatching. Kreya, the leader of the good forces, has been on a mission to resurrect her husband, Jentt, who was the fallen warrior. Kreya has used Eklor’s notebooks to bring him back, justifying the use of her enemy’s research. “Knowledge itself isn’t evil. It’s how you use it.” But the decision haunts her.

In this society, the bone makers and their ilk are permitted to use animal bones for their magic.

Kreya’s dilapidated tower home is populated by a host of benign creatures. But utilizing human bones is forbidden, adding to Kreya’s moral dilemma. Until now, she had been collecting bones from unlit pyres. Now, she wants to revisit the field of battle to acquire what she needs once and for all.

All of this is part of the exceptional world-building for which Durst is known and so adept. She creates a detailed, accessible universe and accompanying mythology that are always true onto themselves. At the center are the people who deal in these enchantments: As far as the guild was concerned, there were only three types of bone workers: bone readers, who used animal bones to reveal the future, understand the present, and glimpse the past; bone wizards, who created talismans out of animal bones that imbued their users with speed, stealth, and other attributes; and

Author Sarah Beth Durst bone makers, like Kreya, who used animal bones to animate the inanimate. Ships, weaving machines, cable cars … all the advances of the past few centuries had been fueled by bone makers.

In addition to the human bones, Kreya must offer part of her own life force to bring Jentt back. The resurrection spell is one of inverse power: Every day Jentt lives again, she will have one day fewer. She has revived him for short periods, but the suspense in the first part of the book builds to his complete restoration.

When she decides that she must visit his death site to acquire the bones from Vos’s fallen soldiers, she recruits Zera, the bone wizard from her team, who now lives in lavish and hedonistic excess. Zera, a master of talisman creation seems shallow and petty, having parlayed her victory into extraordinary wealth and position.

She is engagingly sly, quick with a quip, and outwardly narcissistic.

“I require pie before I desecrate a mass grave.” Gradually, her depths are revealed, but she never loses her wicked charm and turn of phrase.

Kreya and Zera venture to the site, returning with the bones and a suspicion that Eklor either never died or has been brought back.

Kreya fully restores Jentt to life.

Then, along with Zera, gather the two remaining members of their troupe: Marso, the bone reader, whose skill “far exceeded the skills of other bone readers,” and Stran, “a warrior with the experience in using bone talismans to enhance

his already prodigious strength.”

However, Marso, plagued by doubt and perhaps a touch of madness, sleeps naked on the streets of the least savory of Vos’s cities. Stran has entered a life of contented domesticity, living happily with his wife and three children on a farm.

Kreya must reunite this disparate group to bring order once again.

Paramount is that then, and now, Kreya is their leader. As Zera states: “Ahh, but what not everyone knows is this: the legend says that the guild master tasked five, but he did not. He tasked only one. Kreya.

She chose the rest of us. All that befell us is her fault. All the glory, and all the pain.” Kreya carried this responsibility during the first war and will do so again.

The Bone Maker refreshingly lacks preciousness. The characters struggle with darkness, inner demons, and attitude. The core team shares common bonds: fear and love, blended with resentments and guilt. The reluctance to take on this new adventure comes from a place of maturity. But once called, they embrace their fates and understand the need — and risk — of sacrifice for the greater good. But even then, they question their actions.

There is no generic nobility.

Fallible human beings inhabit this world of fantasy. Kreya is a portrait of loneliness, living like a hermit with her creations, who she calls “my little ones,” monomaniacally focused on raising her husband.

Jentt, alive, reflects that “Every time

I wake, all I remember is life.” He has lost all the time in between.

Stran yearns to return to his fulfilling family life. And Marso, the most fragile and tormented, desires nothing more than peace of mind.

Even with exploring ethical issues, there are plenty of thrills with a host of unusual and dangerous monsters, including venom-laced stonefish and crocoraptors who hunt in deadly packs.

There are rousing battles and daring escapes. Eklor’s formally dormant army of the reanimated is poised for invasion. The guildled government struggles with shadows of self-interest that tip towards corruption. The citizens of Vos do not want to accept the possibility of another war: “There aren’t many who will believe the dangers of the past have anything to do with them and their lives … they want to believe it’s over.”

The plot twists and turns, building to a revelation midway through the book, shifting the story’s entire course to a gripping confrontation and satisfying denouement.

Sometimes labeling a book fantasy can be reductive — that it is “good for that genre.” But whether it is confronting issues of sacrifice, delving into a highly original and unique world of magic, or reveling in the banter of old friends facing new quest, The Bone Maker is a rich and complex tapestry — and a great novel on any terms.

Award-winning author Sarah Beth Durst lives in Stony Brook with her husband, her children, and her ill-mannered cat. The Bone Maker is her 22nd novel and is available at Book Revue in Huntington, Barnes & Noble and on Amazon. For more information, visit sarahbethdurst.com.

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YOUR TURN

The Hallmark of enchantment TV

BY BARBARA ANNE KIRSHNER

Green Thumb CSA heads to Huntington Would you like to try eating some delicious, fresh, local, certified organic vegetables, herbs and fruit? How about getting all this, and organically grown flowers too, at the Cinema Arts Centre, 423 Park Ave., Huntington before or after seeing a movie? (The Cinema will be announcing a reopening date soon) Green Thumb Community Support Agriculture (CSA) - Huntington is coming to the Cinema Arts Centre's Sky Room Café starting Thursday, June 3 (and every Thursday till December 10th), between 3:30 p.m. and 7:30 p.m.

And for first-time CSA members, who are members of the Cinema, Green Thumb CSA - Huntington is offering $55 off the initial sign-up cost of joining!

(Plus, if you make an appointment just to visit the CSA at the Cinema, you'll leave with an edible parting gift (a sample from the CSA share for that week). Join by May 30 to be able to begin picking up your organic veggies on June 3rd. There just might be some strawberries!

All the food in the CSA share is from Green Thumb Farm in Water Mill, NY. They are an 11th generation family farm that's been farming on Long Island since the 1640s. Almost half of what they grow is sold to CSA members so CSA helps keep this family doing what they love, and what they're very good at doing.

Join now and tour the farm and come Strawberry picking on June 26 (free and for CSA members only)!

For more information, and to make an appointment to visit Green Thumb CSA - Huntington for some free organic produce, call 631-421-4864, or email gtCSAhuntington@gmail.com.

This past year has been fraught with tragedy. We see it every day; the latest deaths due to the COVID crisis, the nursing home scandal, Cuomo — did he or didn’t he, this political climate pitting friend against friend, family member against family member and so many injustices that our heads are spinning.

We ache for relief from it all. We long for a simpler time in another universe maybe where kids and dogs can run safely down a quaint suburban street, where neighbors are kind to one another, where romance flourishes and we can always depend on happy endings. Does that sound familiar?

We crave it, call it our guilty pleasure, but it has become the Hallmark of enchantment TV . Our go to channel that weaves a spell lifting us out of the horrors of reality-that’s Hallmark.

Turn to the Hallmark channel and you immediately heave a great big sigh of relief.

It is formulaic, but who cares when you are always lulled into tranquility by gorgeous sights and sounds. Starting with the setting, always bucolic, somewhere in middle America. Quaint streets lined with antique shops, a general store, charming cafes, the most delectable bakeries or dreamy candy shops (food, especially desserts play a big role) and maybe even a rescue puppy or two for good measure.

Hallmark pays tribute to the holidays with magical Christmas movies. We can depend on them every night from October through New Year’s; the celebration continues every Thursday night on their Movies & Mystery Channel and every Friday night on their main Hallmark Channel during the year.

Then there’s Christmas in July . Next up Winterfest into Valentine’s Day then spring fling, summer romance, autumn splendor and even Halloween treats. We know the time of year instantly through sets telegraphing meticulous details of reds, silvers and greens for Christmas or hearts and roses for Valentine’s day or tulips and pastels for spring or water scenes for summer or pumpkins and brilliant orange and red leaves for autumn.

The music is well-chosen for each scene.

It’s something familiar that we can hum and maybe even dance to. Music that is reminiscent of happy moments in our lives.

Music that builds a scene to a final crescendo of sight and sound where Prince Charming and Cinderella look into each other’s eyes then he takes her into his arms and they dance off to forever land.

This is the place where the actresses are the main leads. Check final credits. The movies always begin by focusing on the lead actress,

Lacey Chabert and Will Kemp in a scene from Hallmark Channel's A Christmas Waltz.

Photo courtesy of Hallmark Channel

beautiful and capable, walking down that whimsical street or fast at work many times as a writer, occasionally a schoolteacher; we even had a historian who researched finial d’arbre tree toppers for the Plaza Hotel gala. We can always tell the best friend at a glance. She’s pretty and nice, but never upstages the lead.

And the men of Hallmark — the dapper impeccably dressed love interest who is usually a businessman trying to talk our heroine into selling her property is eventually discarded for the rugged yet gorgeous dreamboat who understands and appreciates the country house her aunt left to her.

These actors vary in talent. Some are so good we expect them to leave Hallmark for the greener pastures of prime time TV or feature films, but they are regular players on the network. Some have done upwards of twenty to over thirty Hallmark movies like Candace Cameron Bure and Lacey Chabert. Other notable Hallmark actresses are Danica McKellar (Winnie of the Wonder Years series), Kellie Martin, Nikki DeLoach, Jen Lilley, and one of my favorites for her dynamic performances, Bethany Joy Lenz.

The of note actors are Cameron Mathison (who even does a Home and Family daytime

series), Paul Greene (not used much lately, but wish he would get more work), Andrew Walker, Tyler Hynes, Luke Macfarlane (always turns in a strong performance), Ryan Paevey (the Ken doll), Michael Kemp (that British accent isn’t put on) and Michael Rady.

When the world news becomes too much to handle and you seriously need a break, it’s good to know that relief is just a click away to the Hallmark of enchantment TV where you can escape into romantic fantasy.

P.S.: I must add a sub-note here. For two weeks on Mondays through Thursdays, the Hallmark Channel ran old sitcoms instead of their usual romance movies. I was more than disappointed at this substitution as I am sure all Hallmark movie fans were. Hallmark’s popularity is based on their movies, the cornerstone of the channel. Why they would substitute movies with tired sitcoms remains my question. I did emit a big sigh of relief when I saw my favorite Hallmark movies were back as of last week.

Miller Place resident Barbara Anne Kirshner is a freelance journalist, playwright and author of “Madison Weatherbee —The Different Dachshund.”

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Focus on Health Making sense of migraines How to reach a healthy blood pressure

Alcohol & COVID-19 Food’s important role in overall health A SUPPLEMENT TO TIMES BEACON RECORD NEWS MEDIA • MAY 27, 2021

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increase in national sales of alcohol for the week ending March 21, 2020, compared with the year prior; online sales increased 262% from 2019. In several national surveys, more than half of adult respondents said that they were drinking more frequently — often daily — and many said that they were having more drinks at each sitting, with about a third engaging in potentially dangerous binge drinking.

The jump in alcohol use was largest among women and not surprisingly, people of all ages cited increased stress, anxiety and grief coupled with increased alcohol availability and boredom as contributing factors.

As the world returns to “normal” and day drinking memes on social media begin to fade, some of those who have become accustomed to a 3 p.m. drink or who have increased the number of glasses of wine or beer they consume with dinner will have a hard time going back.

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According to the federal government’s Dietary Guidelines for Americans, moderate alcohol consumption is defined as having up to one drink per day for women and up to two drinks per day for men. This definition refers to the amount consumed on any single day and is not intended as an average over several days. The Dietary Guidelines, however, also say that people who don’t usually drink alcohol shouldn’t take that as a green light to start.

The Dietary Guidelines define a one alcoholic drink equivalent as containing 14 g (0.6 fl oz) of pure alcohol, which includes 12 fluid ounces of regular beer (5% alcohol), 5 fluid ounces of wine (12% alcohol), or 1.5 fluid ounces of 80 proof distilled spirits (40% alcohol).

In comparison to moderate alcohol consumption, high-risk drinking is the consumption of four or more drinks on any day or eight or more drinks per week for women and five or more drinks on any day or 15 or more drinks per week for men. Binge drinking is the consumption within about two hours of four or more drinks for women and five or more drinks for men.

Excessive alcohol consumption, which includes binge drinking, high-risk drinking, and any drinking by pregnant women or those under 21 years of age comes with significant risks.

Excessive drinking increases the risk of many chronic diseases

BY JEFFREY L. REYNOLDS and violence and, over time, can impair short- and longterm cognitive function. Binge drinking is associated with a wide range of health and social problems, including sexually transmitted diseases, unintended pregnancy, accidental injuries, and violent crime.

As scary as all that can be, there’s a ton of help available both in our local communities and online, where trained professionals can help you assess your drinking and if need be, help you come up with strategies to cut-back or quit. At FCA, we operate two state licensed outpatient treatment centers, two recovery centers and recovery coaching (Call 516-7460350 or visit FCALI.org). LICADD runs a 24-hour assessment and referral hotline at 631-979-1700 as does Response at 631-7517500 and Project Hope at 1-844-863-9314.

There are also a number of free or lowcost addiction recovery smartphone apps that give consumers 24/7 access to selfhelp and tracking tools, 12-step programs, motivational tools, and reminders. Sober Grid, SoberTool, Nomo, WEconnect, rTribe, and 24 Hours a Day are just a few of the popular resources. Alcoholics Anonymous and other 12-step programs have meetings online, along with a host of other online sobriety support groups.

Of these, Self-Management and Recovery Training (SMART), Loosid, LifeRing, Club Soda, Women for Sobriety, and Tempest are among the top-rated.

Emerging from COVID and returning to normal is going to look different for everyone. If it’s proving to be challenging for you or someone you love, pick up the phone, fire up your computer and reach out for help today. You are not alone.

Dr. Reynolds is the President/CEO of Family and Children’s Association (FCA), one of Long Island’s oldest and largest nonprofits providing addiction prevention, treatment and recovery services.

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FOCUS ON HEALTH

8 ways to reach a healthy blood pressure

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o take care of your heart, it’s important to know and track your blood pressure.

Millions of Americans have high blood pressure, also called hypertension, but many don’t realize it or aren’t keeping it at a healthy level.

For most adults, healthy blood pressure is 120/80 millimeters of mercury or less.

Blood pressure consistently above 130/80 millimeters of mercury increases your risk for heart disease, kidney disease, eye damage, dementia and stroke. Your doctor might recommend lowering your blood pressure if it’s between 120/80 and 130/80 and you have other risk factors for heart or blood vessel disease.

High blood pressure is often “silent,” meaning it doesn’t usually cause symptoms but can damage your body, especially your heart over time. Having poor heart health also increases the risk of severe illness from COVID-19. While you can’t control everything that increases your risk for high blood pressure – it runs in families, often increases with age and varies by race and ethnicity – there are things you can do.

Consider these tips from experts with the National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute’s (NHLBI) The Heart Truth program:

#1: KNOW YOUR NUMBERS Everyone ages 3 and older should get their blood pressure checked by a health care provider at least once a year. Expert advice: 30 minutes before your test, don’t exercise, drink caffeine or smoke cigarettes. Right before, go to the bathroom. During the test, rest your arm on a table at the level of your heart and put your feet flat on the floor.

Relax and don’t talk. #2: EAT HEALTHY Follow a heart-healthy eating plan, such as NHLBI’s Dietary Approaches to Stop Hypertension (DASH). For example, use herbs for flavor instead of salt and add one fruit or vegetable to every meal. #3: MOVE MORE Get at least 2 1/2 hours of physical activity each week to help lower and control blood pressure. To ensure you’re reducing your sitting throughout the day and getting active, try breaking your activity up. Do 10 minutes of exercise, three times a day or one 30-minute session on five separate days each week. Any amount of physical activity is better than none and all activity counts. #4: HAVE A HEALTHY PREGNANCY High blood pressure during pregnancy can harm the mother and baby. It also increases a woman’s risk of having high blood

pressure later in life. Talk to your health care provider about high blood pressure.

Ask if your blood pressure is normal and track it during and after pregnancy. If you’re planning to become pregnant, start monitoring it now. #5: MANAGE STRESS Stress can increase your blood pressure and make your body store more fat. Reduce stress with meditation, relaxing activities or support from a counselor or online group. #6: STOP SMOKING The chemicals in tobacco smoke can harm your heart and blood vessels. Seek out resources, such as smoke free hotlines and text message programs, that offer free support and information. #7: AIM FOR A HEALTHY WEIGHT If you’re overweight, losing just 3-5% of your weight can improve blood pressure. If you weigh 200 pounds, that’s a loss of 6 to 10 pounds. To lose weight, ask a friend or family member for help or to join a weight

loss program with you. Social support can help keep you motivated. #8: WORK WITH YOUR DOCTOR Get help setting your target blood pressure.

Write down your numbers every time you get your blood pressure checked. Ask if you should monitor your blood pressure from home. Take all prescribed medications as directed and keep up your healthy lifestyle. If seeing a doctor worries you, ask to have your blood pressure taken more than once during a visit to get an accurate reading.

To find more information about high blood pressure as well as resources for tracking your numbers, visit nhlbi.nih.gov/hypertension.

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SO MUCH MORE THAN A HEADACHE

Making sense of

migraines

BY MELISSA ARNOLD

ust about everyone knows the throbbing Jcomes discomfort of a headache, whether it after a long day of work, too little

sleep or an oncoming cold. It’s also likely that you’ve heard someone say they have a migraine when the pain becomes severe.

But the truth is that migraine is more than just a bad headache, and the term has taken on a variety of meanings, not all of them accurate.

According to the American Migraine Foundation, migraine is an incurable brain disease that affects approximately 40 million people in the United States — that’s 1 in 4 households. In the majority of those cases, at least one close relative has migraines as well, but it’s still uncertain what causes the disease.

Migraine can come with a wide range of neurological symptoms that differ from person to person and day to day. These symptoms exist on a spectrum from sporadic to chronic, mild to incapacitating, and some people can even experience trouble speaking, weakness and numbness in ways that mimic a stroke.

“Migraine is more than just pain. While the pain is often moderate to severe, one sided and throbbing, there are other characteristics,” said headache specialist Dr. Noah Rosen, director of the Northwell Headache Center in Great Neck.

“The individual must also have either sensitivity to light and noise or nausea to meet the full definition. This can worsen with movement, and many people also develop associated skin or hair sensitivity.

Many people may also experience changes in mood, energy level and appetite. About 20% of migraine patients may also have aura with their migraines, which is a brief, fully

reversible neurological deficit. Auras can cause visual changes, sensation changes and sometimes weakness.”

For Cat Charrett-Dykes, migraines have been a regular part of her life since she was 13 years old. She would see sparkles and spots and go through bouts of nausea and vomiting, all while feeling like a knife was stabbing through her head. At school, she had trouble reading and finding the right words. “I felt like Dorothy in ‘The Wizard of Oz.’ Some of my siblings also had migraine occasionally, but not to the same degree,” said Charrett-Dykes, who lives in Holtsville.

The attacks were relatively easy to tame until after the birth of her first child. Then, as is common, her migraines became more severe and frequent. She saw countless healthcare providers, who couldn’t agree on a diagnosis: They suggested she had anxiety, allergies, epilepsy. One even asked if her ponytail was too tight.

Unfortunately, getting a proper diagnosis and care can be a problem in the migraine community. The World Health Organization reports that more than half of all people with migraine haven’t seen a doctor for their condition in at least a year. Many more have never been formally diagnosed. While seeing a

neurologist can be useful, not all neurologists are experts in headache disorders.

“Only about 700 people in the country are certified headache specialists, and the field of headache medicine is not yet formally recognized by the federal government, so there are limits on the field’s growth despite how common the condition is,” Rosen explained. “During my time as a resident physician I was seeing severely disabled patients with headache disorders end up in the emergency room, yet I had almost no education in that area, in part because of how underserved the condition is. It is often ignored, stigmatized and mistreated.”

Charrett-Dykes waited decades to find someone who understood her.

“It wasn’t until 2003 that I was finally diagnosed. As soon as the physician’s assistant walked into the room, he took one look at me and turned off the lights,” she recalled. “No one had ever done that before. He said, ‘You have migraines, don’t you? I know that face. My wife has migraines, too.’ It was such a relief.”

Still, a diagnosis is only the beginning of the migraine journey.

Treatment is focused on identifying the person’s unique triggers — perhaps certain foods, scents, strenuous activity, or an irregular schedule — along with the precise combination of medications and other options to help ease their symptoms. There is no magic bullet, and finding treatment that helps can be challenging.

“Trigger identification and avoidance is a great thing to try, but not always possible.

Raising the ‘threshold’ required to set off a migraine can be done with pharmacological or non-pharmacological approaches,” Rosen said. “Of the medications that are available now, some are preventive and some are acute (or abortive). The preventive treatments help avoid getting the headache in the first place. Healthy habits like regulating sleep, diet, hydration and stress can reduce frequency, as can some vitamin supplements, complementary practices like acupuncture, biofeedback, mindfulness and regular cardiovascular exercise.”

The process of trial and error is exhausting for many people with migraine, including Nancy Harris-Bonk of Albany, who’s tried countless doctors and medications since her first migraine attack as a young teen. At one point, she was taking the highest dose of oxycodone allowed under a doctor’s care and still having 25 or more migraine days each month.

“I just wasn’t recovering, so I went online and started looking for answers,” said Bonk, whose episodic migraines turned chronic

after a fall left her with a traumatic brain injury. “I was able to make contact with someone else who had migraine attacks, and it opened a door for me. I learned that I wasn’t alone and that there were treatment options. It made me want to help educate others about migraine disease and how to live with it.”

Downstate, Charrett-Dykes had similar goals. She founded Chronic Migraine Awareness, Inc. (CMA) in 2009, a simple chat group that later grew into a multifaceted nonprofit connecting people with resources, specialists, and one another. CMA’s main Facebook group now has 12,000 members around the world, with several smaller groups for specific demographics and topics.

They also provide care packages for people with migraine, support caregivers, and lead advocacy efforts.

Bonk eventually qualified for Social Security Disability Insurance, freeing her up to focus on her well-being while acting as a resource for others. She still has about 15 migraine days a month, but medication changes and a knowledgeable healthcare team have made life a lot more manageable, she said. She serves on the board of CMA and works with the National Headache Foundation’s Patient Leadership Council; the Coalition for Headache and Migraine Patients (CHAMP); and Migraine.com.

"Learning all you can about migraine disease, knowing what it is and what it isn’t, can make a big difference when it comes to seeking care and advocating for yourself,” Bonk said. “Forming connections with others who have similar experiences is important so we know we're not alone.

This disease can leave us feeling isolated, frustrated and overwhelmed … talking with others who are going through a similar journey is validating and a great comfort. ” While each of these organizations has a unique focus, they all share a desire to increase knowledge and awareness of migraine disease.

“The pain of migraine is not like other pain and should not be treated like that. It needs to be discussed and not just treated,” Rosen said. “The stigma of people with migraine having a low pain tolerance is also nonsense. I have been impressed on a daily basis by the strength, resilience and resourcefulness of these patients.”

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And this situation is not exclusive to the elderly. A report examining the global burden of chronic disease published in The Lancet found poor diet contributed to 11 million deaths worldwide — roughly 22 percent of deaths among adults — and poor quality of life.

Low intake of fruits and whole grains and high intake of sodium are the leading risk factors for illness in many countries.

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he shriek of the pager cut through my half-sleep. Willing myself to sit up on the plastic mattress, I pressed my thumbs along my eyebrows to clear a fleeting dream. It was 2:00 a.m. The emergency room had a new patient for me. She was 71 years old and recently diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, or ALS. She was having trouble breathing. After a near-lifetime of dutiful function, the neurons that moved her muscles had simply started to die. Even those muscles we never think about — her diaphragm or the ribbons that lifted her ribs to expand her lungs — had become unreliable. I switched on the fluorescent, call-room light and found my clogs.

Eleanor had a fever. The pneumonia on her X-ray looked like smudged They had been living close to this chalk across both lower lungs. The ER physician had started BIPAP — Bilevel edge for some time. It had become Positive Airway Pressure — strapping normal for her to strap on a mask a cushioned plastic mask tightly over to breathe. Bill said they wanted to her face, forcing oxygenated air into return home as soon as possible. He her mouth. We call this “non-invasive” could handle everything, he assured ventilation, but it is not comfortable. me, seeming a little irritated by my Her vital signs conjured a grim picture hovering at Eleanor’s bedside. They — heart racing, breathing fast — but had no illusions, he explained, deftly the woman wearing the mask gave a untangling the tangle of wires lying different impression, despite the odd across his wife’s chest. They knew her way the machine was ironing out her disease was progressive, and fatal, but cheeks with each breath. She was calm. they still had things under control.

She was still gardening, he said, Her unstrained eyes were the chalky blue of flax blossoms. She was feeling with an edge of pride. He showed me better, she mouthed. Actually, she was a picture of sunlight, caught in the bowls of tulips. Not that hungry. Could she eat When we intubate life wasn’t messy. It had something? been messy even before Her husband, Bill, at someone, we the day Eleanor admitted her bedside, was calm to him that she could too. He was tall and affect a strange not get her fingers to trim and moved with a transformation. The button her blouse. Bill’s youthful quickness. His patient becomes a retirement money never neatly-tucked shirt made me suddenly aware of my chimera, part woman quite stretched enough.

There were grandchildren own pajama-like hospital and part machine. to scramble after three scrubs. Since Eleanor’s diagnosis, Bill explained, they had days a week. They were sweet kids, but been managing everything at home. Bill didn’t have the patience. Eleanor He was a retired electrician, so he was did, though. She gave me a stretchedcomfortable with all of the medical out smile from behind the mask. She equipment. They even had a BIPAP was hungry, he reminded me. Was there a sandwich somewhere she could have? unit there for nighttime.

I wasn’t reassured. Her heart was working like she was running up stairs, just to lie still. A patient with weak respiratory muscles and pneumonia in both lungs might soon need the more “invasive” kind of breathing support, a mechanical ventilator. A ventilator blows air into a patient’s lungs through a tube we insert directly into her trachea. Bill and Eleanor hoped to avoid a ventilator, but she would accept it if necessary, at least for a time. To use a ventilator, we would need to sedate and paralyze her, which meant that Eleanor’s stomach should stay empty. So, no sandwich for now.

Over the next two hours, I sat at the ICU nurses’ station across from Eleanor’s room, propped awake by a familiar anxiety, the prickly weight of my own hesitation. If Eleanor’s breathing muscles tired out before the antibiotics took hold, she could quickly worsen. Not intubating her early might endanger her, but it is my nature as a doctor to try to avoid aggressive interventions. I tend to see their burdens in the foreground.

When we intubate someone, we affect a strange transformation. The patient becomes a chimera, part woman and part machine. We lose the expression in her face. The ventilator’s

vocabulary of alarms replaces her voice.

Her family’s eyes track the cardiac monitor. They touch her skin without knowing if she can feel it. We lose all of the small, animal ways we read each other. A mechanical ventilator can save a life, but when a patient dies despite using one, I struggle to accept what we have done. I was not impartial here. I wanted to get Eleanor back to her tulips and their brief season, but I really did not want to intubate her.

So I watched, tracking the cursive of Eleanor’s heart rhythm on the monitor.

Eventually, she closed her eyes, her breathing more even, and I returned to my plastic mattress to sleep too.

In the morning, Eleanor smiled brightly when I walked in the room, the only plastic on her face the slender oxygen tubing. Could she finally have breakfast? I was grateful, not sure she grasped the fate she had outrun. Yes to breakfast. Yes, she could. She returned home the following day.

Three months later, Eleanor was back in the hospital with another pneumonia. This one was milder, just some stray sketch lines on her X-ray. At home, she could walk only a few steps now. A truck brought steel oxygen tanks to their house each week. Bill had been half-lifting her, wrapping her arm across his shoulders, to pivot to a portable toilet at her bedside.

He had learned some simple cooking because she could no longer manage that, and was getting pretty good at roast chicken. Despite his efforts, Eleanor had lost weight. The space between the bones of her forearm was a furrow under my fingers. Each day though, she spent time in their garden. There was a shady spot for her wheelchair.

Eleanor did not seem to defy her medical numbers this time. She looked weary as her heart jogged along. Her thin shoulders kept slumping leftward despite the pillows that the nurses had tucked around her. I was at her bedside on her third hospital day when she took a sip of water and started to choke.

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Continued from page B21 She coughed again and again, a flash of the pale blue of her eyes each time, then finally recovered. She began to cry. “I’m sorry. I’m sorry,” she said.

She shouldn’t be like this, she explained. Anger ridged her quiet voice.

She was supposed to make cookies with her smallest granddaughter. The girl was four. What would she remember?

This being lifted to the toilet, this fragility, it did not suit her. She was a mother and a grandmother. She stirred thick dough and weeded and bound her family together. Except that now, she did not. I had focused on her vital signs. I was missing her suffering. I sat and held her papery hand and told her that none of this was her fault.

The next day, Eleanor was stable enough to return home. Busy with other patients, I sped by her room for a quick hug, taking in the sharp ridge of her shoulder against my chest.

Two months later, she returned. At home, she was in bed all the time.

Her neurologist had actually sent two hospice nurses to the house a few weeks before. They set up an array of syringes and tablets in the dining room. Bill sent them away again after only two days. He didn’t like how they did things. Those nurses had brought morphine. They had started to teach Bill to administer it. That had scared them both. “We don’t believe in morphine,” Bill told me. Eleanor, watery-eyed behind her oxygen mask, nodded agreement. She pointed to a spiral-bound notebook and I handed it to her. In shaky letters, all capital, she wrote, “I WANT CONTROL.” It’s not often that patients tell me that they “don’t believe” in a medication, but morphine can spark intense reactions.

I fell silent, trying to resolve what it was they did not believe in. Eleanor’s thin legs barely rippled the hospital blankets. Breathing itself was work.

Both she and Bill knew she was dying.

What did "control" mean for her now?

The pharmacology of morphine is complex. It is an essential medicine at the end of life. It relieves pain, and, because there are opiate receptors in the lungs, also soothes the drowning feeling that comes with end-stage respiratory illness. I remembered Eleanor choking on that thread of

water. If she felt that again, morphine would help. But it is an imprecise drug. It causes sedation as it relieves physical suffering. Was this the loss of control she feared? It can also cause euphoria, restlessness, hallucinations, and, at high doses, death. My training taught me to show it due respect: start with low doses, lower still for someone frail, then assess for effect.

Medical ethics teaches that intention matters. If I give a reasonable dose of morphine with the intention to relieve suffering, and I cause an unwanted outcome — sedation or agitation, or even death — I am still keeping my oath not to harm. This is the “doctrine of double effect,” derived from the teachings of 13th-century Catholic theologian Thomas Aquinas. It offers a clear enough theory, but it never really sets me at ease. If I give a drug and a bad thing happens, my patients and their families experience that bad thing. I have hurt them, and Aquinas does not offer much comfort.

To be clear, morphine relieves suffering almost all of the time. Patients usually welcome that relief, but I’ve also spoken with grieving family members who look back on someone’s death from a long, terrible illness, convinced that morphine was the thing that killed her. These conversations play in my mind when I care for a dying patient in the hospital. I am aware of the family’s eyes on my hands, of how my words might replay in their heads, that they will relive my patient’s last moments again and again. In this sense, the family becomes my patient too.

Eleanor’s words on that notebook page were wildly impossible: she did not have control. They seemed like a request for relief that I was not trained to give, spiritual or existential.

Eleanor and Bill had faced her illness by asserting control in the face of the uncontrollable. They voiced acceptance, but they were defiant.

All along, they had been letting out rope, in stepwise retreat, giving up the gardening, the cooking, the not needing help. With each retreat, they had established another defensive position, and now she was staked out at just remaining awake. Eleanor’s cardiac monitor alarmed in shrill tones as her heartbeat became briefly irregular, then quieted. I dropped the subject of morphine for the moment. I could not

find words to resolve Eleanor’s desire for control with how near she was to death. I didn’t want to push anything on them that they might later look back on as a violation.

A few hours later, Eleanor was struggling. There was sweat on the sides of her nose. I tentatively asked her if she would accept some morphine to help ease her breathing. She nodded. I ordered a small dose, and returned to the room with the nurse while she gave it. I talked with Bill and with Laura, their daughter, consciously modeling a sense of calm routine. The drug helped. Eleanor’s face relaxed. She even gave a hint of a smile.

That evening, Eleanor was mostly peaceful. When she did become uncomfortable, she received more morphine, and was able to rest. The next morning, Bill asked me about bringing her home. She wanted to see her garden. He wanted her there too.

As we talked, Eleanor began to cough, nearly silently. Her shoulders jerked.

She lurched her hand clumsily for Bill’s wrist. Her nurse gave morphine. Ten minutes later, she was still breathing fast, grunting, heavy eyelids startling open with each cough. Bill sat down, then stood again, then sat. He reached to adjust her monitor wire, her oxygen cannula, then stopped, suddenly unsure of where to put his hands.

Laura reached for Eleanor’s shoulder.

I asked her nurse for another dose of morphine. A few minutes passed.

Eleanor’s breathing quieted and she leaned her face into a pillow. Bill let out a long breath, then turned to me.

He began to ask about the logistics of ambulance transportation home.

Suddenly, Laura nudged her father.

Eleanor’s eyes had closed, and her breathing pattern had changed. With each inhalation, she lifted her chin up and forward, like a swimmer reaching for the surface of the water. Bill called her name. She didn’t answer. Suddenly, she was gone from in front of us. Bill looked at me, eyes flashing something that might have been anger. My own heart pounded. I knew the morphine doses had been appropriate. Still, I worried he might hold me accountable if these were her final moments. Willing myself calm, I encouraged them to stand close to her, to hold her hands and touch her hair and talk to her. After a few minutes, I left them alone.

An hour passed. I crept back to her room, but hesitated before parting the polyester curtain. My patients are usually strangers to me, but Eleanor was not. It was an accidental gift of my call schedule that had let me care for her through her three hospitalizations, to watch over her and her family, even in this interrupted way. I was afraid I had failed them anyway. Gathering a breath, I went in. More family members had arrived, seven in all. At the center of this crowd, awake and laughing, was Eleanor.

She had spent fifteen minutes beyond the reach of their voices, and then woke up to find them staring at her. She had jokingly asked for lipstick so she could face the occasion more glamorously.

They were almost giddy with relief.

But relief for what? Relief that she had not died, certainly, but she would soon and they all knew it. They now knew what her death could be like. They had had their dress rehearsal, and, in the extinction of that mystery, it was like they no longer feared it. Suddenly, they had these minutes, and maybe hours or even days, and each one was a gift.

Eleanor was too fragile to send home. Laura and Bill would instead stay with her overnight. She struggled briefly that evening, but by sunrise, she was mostly dozing. A few hours later, her breathing slowed. Again, she reached her chin upward for air.

Again, she was beyond the reach of her family’s voices. I counted to 20 after one breath ended before the next one came. And then, none came. Bill wept.

“My girl,” he said, taking her hand.

Julie Freedman is a hospitalist and palliative care physician at a community hospital in the San Francisco Bay Area.

She received her medical degree from Harvard University and trained in internal medicine at the University of California, San Francisco. She believes that we need narrative almost as we need shelter: We build stories around ourselves in the face of serious illness.

Understanding, and sometimes entering, these stories is an essential part of caring for patients. On the other hand, after this last year, she is thinking it might also be lovely to become a florist.

She is on Twitter @jfreedmanmd. * This article was first published in the Spring 2021 Intima: A Journal of Narrative Medicine (theintima.org) and is reprinted with permission.

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The best ages to spay or neuter pets

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nimal overpopulation is a concern that affects the well-being of pets. The ASPCA says letting animals reproduce unchecked can lead to pet homelessness that results in millions of healthy cats and dogs being euthanized in the United States each year.

In addition to helping to control homelessness, spaying and neutering companion animals may have medical and behavioral benefits. As valuable as spaying and neutering can be, the procedures are not without potential complications. Responsible pet owners must weight the pros and cons of spaying and neutering with a qualified animal professional.

The ASPCA says it is generally considered safe for kittens as young as eight weeks old to be spayed or neutered. Doing so can help avoid the start of urine spraying and eliminate the chances for cats to go into heat and become pregnant.

Did you know that female kittens can enter their first heat as young as four months? Or that most do so by

the time they reach six months old? A domestic cat can live around 12 to 15 years. A cat that has an average of four kittens per litter, three times per year for 15 years can produce a total of 180 kittens over a lifetime. Spaying a cat early on can prevent overpopulation and offer other benefits.

Spaying and neutering has been shown to reduce risk for testicular cancer and some prostate problems.

Sterilization also can protect against uterine infections and breast tumors in many female pets. These procedures may also help prevent animals from roaming to find mates or reduce aggression problems.

Many veterinarians now recommend female and male dogs be spayed or neutered between the ages of six to nine months. Some vets say puppies can be neutered as young as eight weeks old as long as they are healthy. In fact, it has become the norm for rescue puppies to be neutered prior to being placed with adoptive families. Those who would

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Elite showing: Women's lacrosse puts scare in No. 1 Tar Heels in Elite 8 CHAPEL HILL, N.C. — Bidding to make program history, the Stony Brook women's lacrosse team gave top-seeded North Carolina all it could handle in an NCAA quarterfinal on Saturday, May 22.

Unfortunately for the eighth-seeded Seawolves, their celebrated season came to a close with a 14-11 loss to the host Tar Heels.

The Seawolves put a serious scare into the nation's No. 1 team.

Kaeli Huff scored the game-tying goal and Ally Kennedy followed with the tiebreaker during a four-goal run midway through the second half as Stony Brook built a 10-8 lead.

However, Jamie Ortega pulled UNC even at 11, then assisted Tayler Warehime's tiebreaking goal with 4:19 remaining as UNC closed the game with five straight goals.

Stony Brook (16-3), which entered the game on a 14-game winning streak, was bidding for its first-ever Final Four berth.

The defeat ended the storied careers of Kennedy and Taryn Ohlmiller, although the talent behind them figures to continue the program's success — just as Kennedy

Bridget Considine contributed to an early lead for the Seawolves on Saturday in Chapel Hill.

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and Ohlmiller carried the mantle in recent seasons after the graduations of Courtney Murphy and Ohlmiller's sister Kylie.

"Our seniors, I'm forever in debt for what they've done for our program and what

they've brought to Stony Brook lacrosse through their five years," coach Joe Spallina said. "I'm disappointed for me not being able to navigate them and help them get to a Final Four that they deserve."

Stony Brook had jumped to a 3-0 lead less than seven minutes into Saturday's game. UNC held the Seawolves scoreless for the next 21:41 and grabbed a 4-3 lead, but Kennedy got the equalizer late in the first half.

The Tar Heels did grab a 6-4 lead entering halftime, but consecutive goals by Ellie Masera and Bridget Considine to open the second half evened the score.

Stony Brook was making its third Elite 8 appearance in the past four tourneys.

"It's certainly a disappointing loss. We did not come here to play close. We did not come here for respect," Spallina said.

"We came here to win, and we didn't. So it's a major disappointment. This was not a typical No. 1-No. 8 matchup."

And while he quibbled with the NCAA Tournament committee's seed, he also saluted UNC. "They showed the heart of a champion with their backs against the wall, with arguably the best college lacrosse roster of all time," Spallina said. "But I could not be more proud of our players."

Chelsie DePonte, Alyssa Francese earn Scholar All-American recognition The Stony Brook women's soccer team has a pair of United Soccer Coaches Scholar All-Americans for the first time in the program's history.

The national organization on Thursday named Chelsie DePonte and Alyssa Francese third-team Scholar All-Americans while also tabbing them firstteam Scholar All-Region.

Teammates Kimmy Chavkin and Fanny Götesson earned second-team Scholar All-Region honors.

Francese had become the first player in program history to become a United Soccer Coaches Scholar All-American as a junior back in 2019.

To be eligible for Scholar All-Region recognition, student-athletes must produce a 3.40 cumulative GPA or better and have started more than 50 percent of all games and significantly contribute to their team. They also much have reached their junior year.

Francese has produced a 3.85 cumulative GPA, while DePonte has a 3.96 GPA, both in business management.

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From left, Chelsie DePonte and Alyssa Francese at May 20th graduation ceremony. Photo courtesy of Stony Brook Athletics

first and second, respectively, on the Seawolves during the abbreviated spring season. They helped lead Stony Brook to its second straight America East title and trip to the NCAA Tournament.

Cameron Avery, left, and Vann Moffett have excelled on the track and in the classroom. And as both complete their collegiate careers, they have earned more recognition from America East.

Avery and Moffett, both graduate students, have been named to the 2021 America East Outdoor Track and Field All-Academic team. Both are in position to earn NCAA regional invites — Moffett in the 5000 meters and Avery in the 10000 meters.

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Religious D irectory Catholic INFANT JESUS ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH 110 Myrtle Ave., Port Jefferson 631-473-0165 Fax 631-331-8094 www.www.infantjesus.org REVEREND PATRICK M. RIEGGER, PASTOR ASSOCIATES: REV. FRANCIS LASRADO & REV. ROLANDO TICLLASUCA To schedule Baptisms and Weddings, Please call the Rectory Confessions: Saturdays 12:30-1:15pm in the Lower Church Religious Ed.: 631 928-0447 Parish Outreach: 631-331-6145 Weekly Masses: 6:50 and 9am in the Church, 12pm in the Chapel* Weekend Masses: Saturday at 5 pm in the Church, 5:15 pm in the Chapel,* Sunday at 7:30 am, 10:30 am, 12 pm, and 5 pm in the Church and at 8:30 am, 10 am, and 11:30 am (Family Mass) in the Chapel* Spanish Masses: Sunday at 8:45 am and Wednesday at 6 pm in the Church *Held at the Infant Jesus Chapel at St. Charles Hospital

ST. GERARD MAJELLA ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH 300 Terryville Road, Port Jefferson Station 631-473-2900 www.stgmajella.org REV. GREGORY RANNAZZISI, PASTOR Each Saturday 3:45pm, 4:45pm Mass: Saturday 5pm only Sunday 8am, 10am & 12pm Weekday Mass: 9am Confessions: Saturday 3:45pm-4:45pm Office Hours: Monday-Thursday 9am - 4:30pm Thrift Shop: Monday-Thursday 10am - 4pm Baptism and Wedding arrangements can be made by calling the Parish Office

ST. JAMES ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH 429 Rt. 25A, Setauket Phone: 631-941-4141 Fax: 631-751-6607 Parish Office email: parish@stjamessetauket.org www.stjamessetauket.org REV. JAMES-PATRICK MANNION, PASTOR REV. ROBERT SCHECKENBACK, ASSOCIATE PASTOR REV. JOHN FITZGERALD, IN RESIDENCE REV. MIKE S. EZEATU SBU HOSPITAL CHAPLAIN, IN RESIDENCE Mission Statement We, the Catholic community of the Three Village area, formed as the Body of Christ through the waters of Baptism, are a pilgrim community journeying toward the fullness of the Kingdom of God, guided by the Holy Spirit, nourished by

the Eucharist and formed by the Gospel. We strive to respond the Jesus’ invitation: to be faithful and fruitful disciples; to be Good Samaritan to (our) neighbor and enemy; stewards of and for God’s creation and living witnesses of Faith, Hope and Charity...so that in Jesus’ name, we may be a welcoming community, respectful of life in all its diversities.

ST. LOUIS DE MONTFORT ROMAN CATHOLIC CHURCH 75 New York Avenue, Sound Beach Parish office: 631-744-8566; fax 631-744-8611 Parish website: www.stlouisdm.org REV. MSGR. CHRISTOPHER J. HELLER, PASTOR REV. ALPHONSUS IGBOKWE, ASSOCIATE PASTOR REV. MSGR. DONALD HANSON, IN RESIDENCE REV. FRANCIS PIZZARELLI, S.M.M., PARISH ASSISTANT REV. HENRY VAS, PARISH ASSISTANT Office Hours: Mon., Tues., Thurs.: 9 am to 5 pm Wednesday: 9 am to 8 pm; Friday: 9 am to 4 pm; Saturday: 9 am to 1 pm; Closed on Sunday Mission Statement: To proclaim the good news of Jesus Christ’s love through our active involvement as a parish family in works of Charity, Faith, Worship, Justice and Mercy. ALL ARE WELCOME! No matter what your present status is in the Catholic Church. No matter your family situation. No matter your practice of faith.

No matter your personal history, age or background. YOU are invited, respected and loved at St. Louis de Montfort.

Weekday Masses: Monday through Friday 8:30 am in the Chapel Weekend Masses: Saturday Vigil: 5 pm Sunday: 7:30 am; 10:00 am; 12 noon.

Baptisms: Most Sundays at 1:30 pm.

Please contact Parish Office for an appointment.

Reconciliation: Saturday 4-4:45 pm or by appointment.

Anointing of the Sick: by request.

Holy Matrimony: Contact Parish Office at least six months in advance of desired date.

Religious Education: Contact 631-744-9515 Parish Outreach: Contact 631-209-0325 Our Lady of Wisdom Regional School: Contact 631-473-1211.

Catholic Traditional Latin Mass ST. MICHAEL THE ARCHANGEL SOCIETY OF SAINT PIUS X 900 Horseblock Road, Farmingville 631-736-6515 sspxlongisland.com Sunday Masses at 7am and 9am Please consult sspxlongisland.com for updates and current mass times

Congregational

CHRIST EPISCOPAL CHURCH B a r n u m Av e . , P o r t J e f f e r s o n 631-473-0273 email: ccoffice@christchurchportjeff.org www.christchurchportjeff.org Church office hours: Tues. - Fri. 9am - 12pm FATHER ANTHONY DILORENZO: PRIEST IN CHARGE Please join us for our 8:00 and 10:00 Sunday Eucharists and our 10:00 Wednesday Eucharist in our chapel.

Please wear masks.

GOD BLESS YOU. Father Anthony DiLorenzo It is the mission of the people of Christ Church to grow in our relationship with Jesus Christ and to make his love known to all through our lives and ministry. We at Christ Church are a joyful, welcoming community. Wherever you are in your journey of life we want to be part of it .

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MT. SINAI CONGREGATIONAL UNITED CHURCH OF CHRIST 233 North Country Road, Mt. Sinai 631-473-1582 www.msucc.org REV. DR. PHILIP HOBSON “No matter who you are or where you are on life’s journey, you are welcome here.”

Online service continues 10am with Rev. Phil Hobson on our You Tube channel.

The service is accessible anytime thereafter.

The church will hold outdoor services beginning, Sunday, May 16th, at 10am, weather permitting.

Bring a chair and wear a mask. Our Island Heart Food Pantry continues to help those in need at 643 Middle Country Road, Middle Island, NY. Hours are Wednesday and Thursday from 3:004:30pm. Wear a mask and stay in car Grace and Peace REV. PHIL

Greek Orthodox Episcopal ALL SOULS EPISCOPAL CHURCH “Our little historic church on the hill” across from the Stony Brook Duck Pond 61 Main Street, Stony Brook Visit our website www.allsoulsstonybrook.org or call 631-655-7798 allsoulsepiscopalchurch@verizon.net THE REV. PETER LAROM Interdenominational Morning Prayer ServiceTuesday 8:00amHalf Hour Interdenominational Rosary Service-Wednesday 12noonSunday Services: 8am Virtual Service 9:30am Service at the Church-Organ Music 8am Tuesday-Morning Prayer Service at the Church This is a small eclectic Episcopal congregation that has a personal touch. We welcome all regardless of where you are on your spiritual journey. Walk with us.

CAROLINE EPISCOPAL CHURCH OF SETAUKET 1 Dyke Road on the Village Green, Setauket Web site: www.carolinechurch.net email: office@carolinechurch.net 631-941-4245 REV. COOPER CONWAY, INTERIM PRIEST-IN-CHARGE Church School Classes now forming Please call the office to register; Let God walk with you as part of our familyfriendly community

CHURCH OF THE ASSUMPTION 430 Sheep Pasture Rd., Port Jefferson Tel: 631-473-0894 Fax: 631-928-5131 www.kimisis.org goc.assumption@gmail.com REV. ELIAS (LOU) NICHOLAS, PROISTAMENOS Sunday Services: Orthros 8:30 Am - Divine Liturgy 10 Am Services Conducted In Both Greek & English* Books Available To Follow In English* Sunday Catechism School, 10 Am - 11 Am* Greek Language School, Tuesdays 5 Pm - 8 Pm* Bible Study & Adult Catechism Classes Available* Golden Age & Youth Groups Banquet Hall Available For Rental* For Information Please Call Church Office* Adjustments to services will be made according to CDC and NYState DOH COVID-19 guidelines. Please call Church office for updates.

Jewish NORTH SHORE JEWISH CENTER 385 Old Town Rd., Port Jefferson Station 631-928-3737 www.northshorejewishcenter.org RABBI AARON BENSON CANTOR DANIEL KRAMER EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR MARCIE PLATKIN PRINCIPAL HEATHER WELKES YOUTH DIRECTOR JEN SCHWARTZ Services: Friday At 8 Pm; Saturday At 9:15 am Daily Morning And Evening Minyan Call For Times.

Tot Shabbat Family Services Sisterhood Men’s Club Seniors’ Club Youth Group Continuing Ed Adult Bar/Bat Mitzvah Judaica Shop Food Pantry Lecture Series Jewish Film Series NSJC JEWISH LEARNING CENTER RELIGIOUS SCHOOL

PLEASE CALL OR VISIT YOUR PLACE OF WORSHIP’S WEBSITE FOR MORE INFORMATION AND GUIDANCE.

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Religious D irectory Jewish Innovative Curriculum And Programming For Children Ages 5-13 Imagine A Synagogue That Feels Like Home!

Come Connect With Us On Your Jewish Journey.

Member United Synagogue Of Conservative Judaism

TEMPLE ISAIAH (REFORM) 1404 Stony Brook Road, Stony Brook 631-751-8518 www.tisbny.org A Warm And Caring Intergenerational Community Dedicated To Learning, Prayer, Social Action, and Friendship.

Member Union For Reform Judaism RABBI PAUL SIDLOFSKY CANTOR INTERN EMILY HOOLIHAN EDUCATIONAL DIRECTOR RABBI MICHAEL S. CHURGEL, RJE RABBI EMERITUS STEPHEN A. KAROL RABBI EMERITUS ADAM D. FISHER CANTOR EMERITUS MICHAEL F. TRACHTENBERG Sabbath Services: Friday 7:30pm and Saturday 10 am Religious School Monthly Family Service Monthly Tot Shabbat Youth Groups Senior Club Adult Education Sisterhood Brotherhood Book Club-More

Lutheran-ELCA HOPE LUTHERAN CHURCH AND ANCHOR NURSERY SCHOOL 46 Dare Road, Selden 631-732-2511 Emergency Number 516-848-5386 Email: office@hopelutheran.com Website: www.hopeluth.com REV. DR. RICHARD O. HILL, PASTOR ERIC FARET, VICAR On Sundays the services are at 9 and 10:30 a.m.

A link for all these services is on the website: www.hopeluth.com.

Our Food Pantry is open to everyone on Thursdays from 12:30 2:30 p.m. for picking up food.

Also, donations can be made from 11 a.m.-noon or by making arrangements by leaving a message on the church answering service.

Offerings to support our ministry can be made at church services and through our website’s “Share God’s Mission” page.

In any emergency, call the pastor at 516-848-5386.

ST. PAUL’S EVANGELICAL LUTHERAN CHURCH 309 Patchogue Road, Port Jefferson Station 631-473-2236 E-mail: Pastorpauldowning@yahoo.com Pastor’s cell: 3474233623 (voice or text) www.StPaulsLCPJS.org facebook.com/stpaulselca REV. PAUL A. DOWNING PASTOR St. Paul’s is hosting indoor services on Sundays at the 9:30am service. Social distancing and masks required. Call the church to reserve space because seating is limited We will also be hosting a parking lot service at 12:30pm on Sundays. This service is broadcast over 88.3 on the fm dial. Stay in your car and still participate in the service.

We continue to serve the Port Jefferson Community Now in our 102nd year

Lutheran-LCMS MESSIAH LUTHERAN CHURCH MESSIAH PRESCHOOL & DAY CARE 465 Pond Path, East Setauket 631-751-1775 www.messiahny.com PASTOR NILS NIEMEIER ASSOCIATE PASTOR STEVE UNGER We are once again having in-person worship Sunday services: 9:00am & 10:30am.

Space is limited, so please go to our website (www.messiahny.com) to register attendance or call the church office (631-751-1775). See our website for the procedures we will have in place.

The 9:00am service is streamed online; go to our website to find the links to our church YouTube page. We are here for you and if you are in need, please call us. Our Pastors are available and you are welcome to call the church to speak to them.

May God keep you safe and shine His light and love upon you.

NYS Certified Preschool and Day Care

Methodist BETHEL AFRICAN METHODIST EPISCOPAL CHURCH 33 Christian Ave/ PO 2117, E. Setauket 631-941-3581 REV. GREGORY L. LEONARD PASTOR Sunday Worship: 10:30 Am Adult Sunday School 9:30 Am Lectionary Reading And Prayer: Wed. 12 Noon Gospel Choir: Tues. 8 Pm Praise Choir And Youth Choir 3rd And 4th Fri. 6:30 PM

S E TA U K E T

UNITED METHODIST CHURCH 160 Main Street, Corner Of 25A and Main Street East Setauket 631-941-4167 Sunday Worship Service Streamed temporarily online @www.setauketumc.org or visit us on Facebook REV. STEVEN KIM, PASTOR Church School meets online Holy Communion 1st Sunday Of Month Mary Martha Circle (Women’s Ministry) meets every 2nd Tuesday each month at 1 pm No matter who you are or where you are on life’s journey, you’re welcome here!

distancing required. Please bring your own lawn chair, folding chairs available. Basic live streaming of the service. Link available on our website Sunday mornings. website:setauketpresbyterian.org Church School and Childcare available outside Youth group for grades 7-12 via Zoom (open to the community) Bell Choir All ringers welcome Setauket Presbyterian Pre-School, ages 2-5 www.setauketpreschool.org Open Door Exchange (furniture ministry) Opendoorexchange.org 631-751-0176 For all program information visit our website, email the church Setauketpresbyterian@verizon. net Follow us on FB

Presbyterian FIRST PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH OF PORT JEFFERSON 107 South/Main Streets (631) 473-0147 We are an accepting and caring people who invite you to share in the journey of faith with us.

Email: office@pjpres.org Website: www.pjpres.org THE REV. DR. RICHARD GRAUGH Sunday Worship Service-10 am (social distancing & masks required) service is also broadcast on church FB page under “Missions and Activities” Christian Education Activities: Call 631-473-0147 Bible Study: Tuesday 2 pm via Zoom Holy Communion 1st Sunday of the Month Hot meals, groceries & clothing provided on a take out basis by Welcome Friends on Fridays 4-5:30 pm Call the church office or visit our website for current activities and events.

NYS Certified Preschool and Daycare The purpose of First Presbyterian Church of Port Jefferson is, with God’s help, to share the joy & good news of Jesus Christ with the congregation, visitors and the community at large; to provide comfort to those in need and hope to those in despair; and to seek justice for all God’s people.

SETAUKET PRESBYTERIAN CHURCH 5 Caroline Avenue ~ On the Village Green 631- 941-4271 Celebrating and Sharing the love of God since 1660.

THE REV. KATE JONES CALONE, INTERIM PASTOR THE REV. ASHLEY MCFAUL-ERWIN, COMMUNITY OUTREACH PASTOR In- person outdoor worship in the church parking lot Sundays at 9:30 AM. Masks and social

Quaker RELIGIOUS SOCIETY OF FRIENDS 4 Friends Way, St. James 631-928-2768 www.cbquakers.org We gather in silent worship seeking God the Inner Light Spirit. We are guided by the Quaker testimonies of simplicity, peace, integrity, community, equality, and stewardship. Weekly coffee and fellowship, monthly discussions, Religious Education for children.

During this time when we are asked not to gather together physically, we are gathering online for worship. Please see our website (www. consciencebayquakers.org) for information about joining in. All are welcome.

Unitarian Universalist UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST FELLOWSHIP AT STONY BROOK 380 Nicolls Road, East Setauket 631-751-0297 www.uufsb.org office@uufsb.org REV. MARGARET H. ALLEN (MINISTER@UUFSB.ORG) Sunday Service by Zoom: 10:30 a.m. (go to uufsb.org for Zoom links) Adult Faith Development, Choir, Folk Group, classical music, Vespers, Sangha Meditation, Labyrinth Walks, Tai Chi, Chi Gong, Yoga, Essentrics, Grounds & Sounds Café, Le Petit Salon de Musique Our website also offers information about other activities we are currently holding online, such as our Humanist Discussion Group and meditative and wellness arts classes.

PLEASE CALL OR VISIT YOUR PLACE OF WORSHIP’S WEBSITE FOR MORE INFORMATION AND GUIDANCE.

To be listed in the Religious Directory please call 631–751–7663

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Times ... and dates

Ongoing

Art & Mural Walk

The Village of Port Jefferson invites the community to take part in a self-guided outdoor spring art and mural walk through May 31. Participating businesses in the village will display original artwork by local artists in their windows for public viewing. Maps will given out of locations of the artwork and will include a listing of all the artists. The event is supported by the Night Herons. Visit www. portjeff.com for more info.

May 27 to June 3, 2021

American Airpower Museum show See May 29 listing.

Virtual Lunch & Learn

Vanderbilt Museum tours

The Huntington Historical Society continues its virtual Lunch & Learn series with “Current Topics in Local Preservation” at noon. Enjoy your own lunch from the comfort of your home while Huntington Town Historian Robert C. Hughes gives an overview and the latest updates on various preservation topics.

Suggested donation is $10. To register, visit www.huntingtonhistoricalsociety.org.

See May 29 listing.

German car show

In conjunction with its Shifting Gears exhibit, the Reboli Center for Art and History, 64 Main St., Stony Brook will host a German collection car show in its parking lot from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Free. Weather permitting.

The gallery and gift shop will also be open.

Questions? Call 751-7707.

Summer SWAP

Native American Drumming

All Souls Church Rectory, 5 Mill Pond Road, Stony Brook hosts a Native American Drumming Meditation from 7 to 8:45 p.m. Led by elder drummer, Ric Statler, the program seeks to integrate the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual parts of the human self, creating a state of well-being. Please call 655-7798 for more information.

Author Talk

Book Revue in Huntington hosts a virtual Author Talk live on Crowdcast at 7 p.m. Join them for an evening with author Ellen Meister as she discusses her new novel, The Rooftop Party, with author David Henry Sterry. This event is free. To register, visit www.bookrevue.com.

Local Eats: Strawberries

Comsewogue Public Library in Port Jefferson Station presents a virtual program, Local Eats: Strawberries, at 7 p.m. Learn the nutritional benefits of strawberries, buying local, and how to prepare delicious recipes with Cornell Cooperative. Open to all. Free. Visit www.cplib. org/a-online-programming/ for information on * All numbers are in (631) area code unless otherwise noted.

The Suffolk County Vanderbilt Museum , 180 Little Neck Road, Centerport has reopened its gates for spring and invites visitors back 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Saturdays and Sundays.

Features include tours of the mansion, the first floor of the Hall of Fishes marine museum, the Memorial Wing collections galleries and the Habitat and Stoll Wing animal dioramas.

Admission tickets may be purchased online or at the gate, $10, $7 ages 12 and younger. Call 854-5579 or visit www.vanderbiltmuseum.org.

Sunday 30

Thursday 27

The Jazz Loft in Stony Brook, founder Tom Manuel and Suffolk County Legislator Kara Hahn present “Summer Stages With A Purpose” (Summer SWAP), offering visitors a walking experience through the Stony Brook Village area, with four stages presenting music, art, history, educational lectures, activities and other cultural happenings, tonight, June 3, 10, 17, 24 and July 1 from 6 to 8 p.m. The four stages will be set up throughout the Stony Brook Village area including the front lawn of the Jazz Loft; Sand Street Beach, Stony Brook Village Inner Court, and the Brookhaven Town Lot by the kayak launch. Free. For more information, call 751-1895.

Vanderbilt Museum tours

Off-Stage/On-Line presentation WARBIRDS TAKE FLIGHT

The American Airpower Museum in Farmingdale hosts a special on Memorial Day event on May 29 and 30.

Above, a P-40 Flying Tiger. Photo by Ricardo von Puttkammer via American Airpower Museum

how to participate. Free. Questions? Call 9281212 and ask for Adult Services.

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Sunset Yoga Flow

Suffolk County Vanderbilt Museum, 180 Little Neck Road, Centerport hosts a Sunset Yoga Flow event from 7 to 8 p.m. Kick off your weekend with a beautiful view on the Great Lawn overlooking Northport Harbor. All props and mats will be provided upon request.

Check in begins at 6:30 p.m. Tickets are $30 adults, $15 children. To register, visit www. vanderbiltmuseum.org.

Cast of Beatlemania concert

For its grand reopening celebration, the Smithtown Center for the Performing Arts, 2 E. Main St. Smithtown welcomes the Cast of Beatlemania in concert at 8 p.m. Enjoy a night with “John, Paul, George and Ringo” as they sing all the classics. Tickets are $50 per person.

To order, visit www.smithtownpac.org.

Saturday 29 Village Craft Fair

The Smithtown Historical Society, 239 E. Main St., Smithtown hosts a Village Craft Fair from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. with over 100 artists and artisans featuring one of a kind creations and designs. Rain date is May 30. Social distancing and masks required. Free admission. For more information, call 846-1459.

WMHO Master Class

Join the Ward Melville Heritage Organization for a special event, Medicine: Past Present & Future, at the Thompson House, c. 1709, 91 N. Country Road, Setauket from 10 to 11 a.m. Learn about Doctor Thompson’s medical practice and experimentation in vaccine technology to cure smallpox; see the inside of the authentic salt-box farmhouse; and stroll the grounds including an archeological dig, cemetery and medicinal garden. *This is an inperson event. Masks will be required and social distancing will be enforced. Call 751-2244 for more information, pricing and to register.

American Airpower Museum show

Continuing in its tradition of participation in the Jones Beach Air show, the American Airpower Museum will have its “Arsenal of Democracy” warbirds including a B-25 Mitchell Bomber, Douglas C-47 Skytrain troop transporter, Grumman TBM Avenger Torpedo Bomber, Curtiss P-40 Flying Tiger, P-51D Mustang Fighter, AT-6 Texan Warbird and AT28D5 Nomad Vietnam Era Fighter flying in the air show today and May 30. They’ll lift off from Republic Airport to take part in the air show from Hangar 3, 1230 New Highway, Farmingdale. In addition, three visiting F-18s will be on display on the museum’s tarmac from May 27 to 30. The museum is open 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Admission is $15 adults, $10 seniors and veterans, $8 ages 5 to 12. Visit www.americanairpowermuseum.com or call 293-6398 for more info.

Theatre Three in Port Jefferson continues its Off-Stage/On-Line series of short plays at 7 p.m. with LA 8 AM by Mark Harvey Levine and starring Stephen T. Wangner, Linda May, James Taffurelli and Lindsey DeFranco. The series is directed by Theatre Three’s Artistic Director Jeffrey Sanzel with technical production by Tim Haggerty and Eric J. Hughes. Free. Visit www.theatrethree.com to register.

Monday 31

Memorial Day in Port Jeff

The American Legion Wilson Ritch Post 432 will be performing a Memorial Day ceremony honoring and mourning the military personnel who have died in the performance of their military duties while serving in the U.S. Armed Forces at Port Jefferson Memorial Park, West Broadway, Port Jefferson at 10 a.m. and at the post, 1450 Hallock Ave., Port Jefferson Station at 10:30 a.m. For more information, call 473-9774.

Memorial Day in Northport

American Legion Post 694 will hold a march at 10 a.m. stepping off at the corner of Church and Main with a visit to 12 monuments on the way to Northport Village Park for a ceremony to remember the fallen. For more information, call 261-4424.

Memorial Day in Setauket

VFW Post 3054 invites the community to join them for a memorial service at the Setauket Veterans Memorial Park on Main Street next to Se-Port Deli at 11 a.m. as they pay tribute and remember all those service members that made the ultimate sacrifice. For further details, please call 751-5541.

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Write America series

Join Book Revue in Huntington for the seventeenth episode of Write America live on CrowdCast at 7 p.m. The evening will feature New York Times bestselling author and editor Bruce Weber & Novelist, poet, and Founder of Lit Pub Molly Gaudry as they read and discuss their works and about how books and art might bridge the deep divisions in our nation. This event is free to attend. To register, visit www.bookrevue.com. For more info, call 271-1442.

Virtual Movie Trivia Night

Do you know a lot about movies? Well here’s your chance to prove it! Join the Cinema Arts Centre in Huntington for a virtual Movie Trivia Night at 8 p.m. Hosted by Dan French, the winning team will get up to four CAC Gift Cards (1 per team member) and bragging rights. Tickets are $10 per team, $7 members.

Visit www.cinemaartscentre.org to register.

Questions? Email Danlovestrivia@gmail.com.

Tuesday 1 No listings for this day.

Wednesday 2

Cruise Nights at The Shoppes

Cruise Nights are back at The Shoppes at East Wind, 5768 Route 25A, Wading River tonight from 5 to 9 p.m. and every Wednesday through Oct. 27. Car enthusiasts from across Long Island will display their classic and coveted automobiles in The Shoppes parking lot. Free.

Social distancing and masks mandatory. For more information, visit 929-3500 or visit www.

EastWindLongIsland.com.

Bollywood Dance Workout

Comsewogue Public Library in Port Jefferson Station hosts an online Bollywood Dance Workout event at 6 p.m. Get a great cardio workout while learning some Bollywood/ Bhangra dance moves. Open to all. Free. Visit www.cplib.org/a-online-programming/ for information on how to participate. Questions?

Call 928-1212 and ask for Adult Services.

Whaling Museum lecture

Join the Whaling Museum of Cold Spring Harbor for a virtual lecture, Inside the Mind of a Whale, at 7 p.m. Whales rank among the most intelligent species on the planet. Marvel at the depth and complexity that sets whale behavior apart from other species, including sophisticated memory skills, advanced societal structures, and unique dialects. Find out what researchers have uncovered about whales’ thinking and their amazing behaviors in the wild – including tool use! Free, $10 suggested donation. To register, visit www. cshwhalingmuseum.org.

Theater

‘A Midsummer Night’s Dream’

The Carriage House Players kicks off its 31st annual Shakespeare Festival with ‘A Midsummer Night’s Dream’ at the Suffolk County Vanderbilt Museum Courtyard, 180 Little Neck Road, Centerport on June 4 at 8 p.m. and June 6 at 7 p.m. Bring a picnic dinner to enjoy before the show. Tickets are $20 adults, $15 seniors and children. To order, visit www.vanderbiltmuseum.org.

‘The Fantasticks’

Theatre Three, 412 main St., Port Jefferson presents the world’s longest running musical, “The Fantasticks,” on the Mainstage from July 16 to Aug. 15. A boy, a girl, two fathers, and a wall … Here is a timeless tale of love and loss, of growth and acceptance. Featuring a score blending musical theatre and jazz, the show is a heartfelt celebration of moonlight and magic.

Show times are Fridays and Saturdays at 7 p.m. and Sundays at 3 p.m. Tickets are $35 adults, $20 children ages 5 to 12, $28 seniors and students. For more information or to order, call 928-9100 or visit www.theatrethree.com.

Farmers Markets Farmingville

The Farmers Market at Brookhaven Town Hall, 1 Independence Hill, Farmingville will be held every Thursday afternoon through October from noon to 5 p.m. Along with fresh produce, spirits, flowers, baked goods, homemade bath and body products and more will be available for purchase. For more information, call 451-TOWN.

Lake Grove

The Smith Haven Mall in Lake Grove holds a Farmers Market every Saturday and Sunday from 11 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. (weather permitting) in the parking lot along Middle Country Road just east of the Bahama Breeze Restaurant, rain or shine, year round. The market features pickles, hot cider, donuts, ravioli, vegetables and more! Questions? Call Nick at 516-4441280.

Northport

The Northport Farmers Market at Cow Harbor Park at the corner of Main Street and Woodbine Avenue, Northport opens June 5 and runs every Saturdays through Nov. 20 from 8 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. Locally grown fruits and vegetables, artisan cheese, pickles, jams, granola, smoked meats, fish, baked goods, coffee, plants and much more. Held rain or shine. Call 754-3905 or visit www.northportfarmersmarket.org.

Port Jefferson

The Port Jefferson Farmers Market heads outdoors to Harborfront Park, 101 E. Broadway, Port Jefferson every Sunday through Nov. 14 from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Purchase local produce, honey, bread and baked goods, seafood, international specialties, plants and flower bouquets. Live music. Call 473-4724 for more information.

The Rocky Point Farmers & Artisan Market opens June 6 and will be held every Sunday from 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. through Nov. 21 at Old Depot Park at 115 Prince Road, corner of Broadway in Rocky Point. Locally grown produce, fresh fish, candles, handcrafted jewelry, soap, ceramics, hand carved wood items, artisan beer, organic wine, baked goods and more. Visit www. rockypointfarmersmarket.org

Setauket

The Three Village Artisan Farmers Market returns to the grounds of the Three Village Historical Society, 93 North Country Road, Setauket every Friday from 3 to 7 p.m. through Oct. 1. Over 25 vendors, featuring organic produce, seafood, flowers, bread, hummus, honey, meat, eggs, preserves, baked goods, arts and crafts and more! Questions?

Call 901-7151.

Vendors wanted

» Gallery North, 90 North Country Road, Setauket will host a Maker’s Market on June 4, 11, 18 and 25 from 3 to 7 p.m. $75 per market with discounts applied for multiple markets.

Interested artists and makers may email info@ gallerynorth.org or call 751-2676. » Commack United Methodist Church, 486 Townline Road, Commack seeks vendors for its Community Yard Sale on June 12 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. $25 per 10’ by 10’ space (tables are not supplied) with a refundable $25 cleanup fee. Rain date is June 19. For an application and more information, call 499-7311. » Three Village Historical Society, 93 North Country Road, Setauket will hold its annual Antiques & Community Yard Sale fundraiser on June 12 from 9:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Need a place to sell your stuff? Rent a space for $30 and sell your own garage sale items. To register, call 751-3730 or visit www.tvhs.org. » Gallery North 90 North Country Road, Setauket seeks vendors for its 56th annual Outdoor Art Show & Music Festival on Sept.

11 and 12. Interested artists and artisans visit www.gallerynorth.org for an application.

Postmark deadline is June 10. For more info, call 751-2676.

Thursday 3

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Northport-East Northport Public Library hosts a virtual program, John Lennon: Watching the Wheels, at 7 p.m. Taking its name from one of John Lennon’s final hits, this program celebrates the life and times of the poetic Beatle. Using video and music, author Clive Young will trace Lennon’s life from the early days in Liverpool through The Beatles’ success and eventual breakup in 1969, his solo albums, and the time spent campaigning for peace with his wife, artist Yoko Ono. Registration is underway. NENA044. Free and open to all.

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Horoscopes of the week

GEMINI – May 22/Jun 21 Gemini, sometimes it may seem like the smallest issue is suddenly a major mountain that you must scale. Change your approach and you’ll soon realize you can handle anything.

CANCER – Jun 22/Jul 22 Many things may come to you more easily than usual, Cancer. Ride this wave of ease that has fallen into your lap. Enjoy the break that comes with it as well.

LEO – Jul 23/Aug 23 You can get far with minimal effort this week, Leo. Simply set your sights on an end goal, and before you know it you will reach that destination.

VIRGO – Aug 24/Sept 22 Virgo, check your messages frequently this week, as someone needs to get in touch with you. He or she may have some news that can change your course.

LIBRA – Sept 23/Oct 23 Libra, don’t focus too much on emotions this week. Instead, put all of your energy into intellectual musings, which will help you complete a project in the days ahead.

SCORPIO – Oct 24/Nov 22 Scorpio, even with the frenzy of activity around you, try not to be overwhelmed by the situation.

Your first reaction may be to fly off the handle.

Keep it together.

SAGITTARIUS – Nov 23/Dec 21 Consider calling up an old friend or a former romantic partner who has the potential to stir up some passion inside of you, Sagittarius. More excitement is on the horizon.

CAPRICORN – Dec 22/Jan 20 Capricorn, this is one of those weeks when you get sidetracked at seemingly every turn, Capricorn. Don’t be too hard on yourself about the delays.

AQUARIUS – Jan 21/Feb 18 Aquarius, embrace some difficult tasks this week.

These projects will make you appreciate the value of hard work and put simpler tasks in perspective.

PISCES – Feb 19/Mar 20 This is your week to make short work of chores, Pisces. You may be lacking patience, but everything will get done, especially if you ask for help.

ARIES – Mar 21/Apr 20 You feel most comfortable when things are organized, Aries. However, flexibility is handy as well, and sometimes things may not be in order as much as you like. Adapting is key.

TAURUS – Apr 21/May 21 Taurus, once you get into a groove, you will find that many of your tasks are much easier to manage. Keep plugging and you’ll hit your stride soon enough.

MOVIE REVIEW

Citizens of Hitler's Germany give their 'Final Account' in new documentary REVIEWED BY JEFFREY SANZEL

Holocaust survivor and Nazi hunter Simon Wiesenthal spoke of the biological solution whereby victims and perpetrators have died, and there are no longer firsthand witnesses.

Director-producer Luke Holland’s Final Account is an extraordinary documentary that adds an important addition to the history of the Shoah. Holland, who died shortly after post-production, conducted over three hundred interviews. He created a simple but riveting ninety minutes encompassing the stories of guards, soldiers, and citizens of Hitler’s Germany.

All told in their own words.

In Final Account, dozens of men and women in their eighties and nineties share their experiences before and during the war.

They discuss and reflect on their culpability in the post-World War II world. The range of reactions is a broad cross-section, with denial being the strongest component. However, these are not the victims and survivors; they are predominantly ordinary people who wanted to live their lives and have been allowed to do so.

Some recall the songs they sang — including lyrics about sharpening their blades so that they would easily go into the bellies of the Jews. Listening to the ease in which they sing is something not easily forgotten. Several display Nazi party cards that they have preserved along with their medals. Many point to the fact that they were young and just went along with expectations. Others look back on it as an idyllic time of great patriotism, celebrating their country with picnics and swimming with the Hitler Youth.

All told in their own words.

One man recalls taking part in the boycott of Jewish stores when he was only nine years old. Another cites the influence of his teacher being stronger than that of his parents. Many insist that they had no idea what was going on in the camps that were barely a few miles from their homes; others put the lie to this in admitting that they could smell the burning of the bodies. There is pride and nostalgia; there is horror and guilt.

All told in their own words.

“I wasn’t there” is juxtaposed with “I couldn’t say anything, or I would have ended up there.”

Communities embraced the presence of the concentration camps, as they were good for the local economy, bringing soldiers and guards to live in their towns and shop in the stores.

All told in their own words.

An interview subject from Final Account Photo courtesy of Focus Features, LLC

A few take responsibility for their participation. One man acknowledges his cowardice and wishes that he had stood up for the victims. Others accept some culpability; they do this without quite saying, “I was just following orders” — the watch cry of so many of Hitler’s regime of extermination. One woman hid her S.S. fiancé from the allies, but “he wasn’t a Nazi,” she insists.

All told in their own words.

The interviews shift from person to person, frequently returning to a handful who show the startling spectrum of attitudes.

Interspersed are historical film clips, many in color, and seen here for the first time. Some of the most disturbing show hundreds of young people marching, laughing, and reveling in their experiences.

Two segments come near the close of the film. The first is a man confronting a group of German students, trying to make them understand what he did was wrong; he truly believes that his actions ultimately disgraced his country. The teenagers’ responses range from indifferent to hostile, not wanting to hear him embrace his guilt. The scene takes place at the villa in the Berlin suburb of the Wannsee Conference, the notorious meeting where the Nazi elite planned “the final solution” to exterminate all European Jewry.

The final interview is with a man who takes great pride and has no regret. He feels Hitler had the “correct” idea. When asked about murdering the Jews, he answers that no, they should not have been killed. They should have just been sent somewhere else.

All of this … all of this in their own words.

-----------------------------------------------I have been reviewing for TBR News Media for the past three years. For the most part, I have kept my voice quiet in these writings.

However, in this case, I feel there is something worth sharing.

I am the author of From the Fires: Voices of the Holocaust, a play presented by Theatre Three in Port Jefferson. It has been touring for nearly 25 years, with over 1,000 performances in schools, synagogues, churches, and community centers across Long Island. It has been seen as far north as outside of Toronto and as far south as Washington, D.C. The first performance, in October of 1996, was met with complete silence. Then, after several minutes, a man raised his hand. “I was a graduate of Auschwitz and an alumnus of the death march,” he said. “Everything that happened in your play happened. I was there.”

The man’s name was Max Temkin. Both he and his wife were Holocaust survivors. We became friends and remained close over the next twenty-plus years. I had the pleasure of hearing him speak many times, sharing with students his unfathomable experience. What came through was his appreciation for the life he made afterward: his love for his wife and family and his deep gratitude for this country that welcomed him and became his home.

I saw Final Account on Saturday, leaving the movie theater at 5:00 p.m. At 6:30 p.m., Max passed away at the age of 99, with his daughter Marilyn at his side.

I ask you to see Final Account. I urge you to seek out the many films and books that are available. Holocaust survivor Werner Reich, the most engaging, honest, and powerful speaker I have ever heard, continues to share his history and insight; please seek out an opportunity to hear him.

Memory and education are the weapons against ignorance and hate.

Please do this for yourself. For your friends. But most of all, do it for the generations to come.

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good people to do nothing.”

— Edmund Burke (1770)

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COOKING COVE

Dessert bars make a great party finale

BY BARBARA BELTRAMI With Memorial Day just around the corner, we will finally be gathering without guilt or fear with family, friends and neighbors to whoop up together at picnics, barbecues and maybe even pool parties. It will be a time to remember not just those Americans who have fallen on the battlefield but the more than 600,000 who have succumbed to the coronavirus over the past year. Like so many large get togethers, this one will probably be a cooperative effort with each guest bringing some part of the meal.

If the answer you got to “What can I bring?” was “dessert,” then I suggest you think about dessert bars. Easier than cookies and good travelers, they will delight both young and old.

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YIELD: Makes about two dozen bars INGREDIENTS: • Nonstick cooking spray • 2 cups flour • 3/4 cup sugar • Pinch salt • 2 sticks unsalted butter • 12 ounces softened cream cheese • 2 teaspoons vanilla • 2 eggs • One 20-ounce can crushed pineapple, drained

minutes, remove from oven and let cool to room temperature; cut into squares and serve with iced tea, coffee, or lemonade.

• 1 1/3 cups sweetened flaked coconut • 1 cup finely chopped almonds

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Preheat oven to 350 F. Lightly grease a 13x9x2” baking dish. In a medium bowl combine flour, 1/2 cup sugar and salt. With pastry blender or fork, cut in 1 1/2 sticks of the butter until mixture resembles coarse meal. Spread over bottom of prepared pan and press into place with fingers; bake for 12 minutes. In medium bowl combine cream cheese, the remaining 1/4 cup sugar, vanilla and eggs. Spread over baked crust, then spread pineapple evenly on top.

Melt remaining 1/4 cup butter and let cool; In a separate bowl, combine coconut, melted butter and almonds; spread over pineapple — cream cheese mixture. Bake 20 to 25 minutes until coconut and almonds are nicely browned. Let cool 15 minutes, then chill until set. Cut into squares and serve with hot coffee or tea.

Mary Alice’s Golden Squares

YIELD: Makes about two dozen 2” squares INGREDIENTS: • 1/2 cup unsalted butter • 1 cup sugar • 2 eggs, well-beaten • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • 1 1/2 cups sifted cake flour

Lemon Bars Photo from Pexels • 1/2 teaspoon salt • 1 teaspoon baking powder • 1 egg white • 1 cup firmly packed brown sugar • 1/2 cup chopped nuts DIRECTIONS:

Preheat oven to 375 F. Grease a 13x9x2”pan.

With electric mixer on low speed, beat butter until fluffy; gradually add sugar while continuing to beat until mixture is light in color Add eggs and vanilla; beat to combine. Sift together flour, salt and baking powder, then thoroughly blend with wet mixture. Spread evenly in prepared pan. Beat egg white until stiff; add brown sugar and continue to beat until stiff again. Fold in nuts, then spread over batter in pan. Bake 25

YIELD: Makes about 20 squares INGREDIENTS: • Two 8-ounce sticks unsalted butter, softened • 3 1/2 cups sugar • 3 cups flour • Pinch coarse salt • 6 extra-large eggs at room temperature • 3 cups sugar • 2 tablespoons finely grated lemon zest • 1 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice • Confectioners’ sugar, if desired DIRECTIONS:

Preheat oven to 350 F. In large electric mixer bowl cream the butter and 1/2 cup sugar; add two cups of the flour and the salt and mix on low speed just until combined. Turn dough onto a floured board and gather into a ball; flatten and press into a 13 x 9 x 2” baking dish; build up a two-inch edge on sides; refrigerate for 30 to 45 minutes, then bake 15 to 20 minutes until crust turns a light golden; remove, place on wire rack and let cool to room temperature. Whisk together the eggs, remaining sugar and flour, lemon zest and juice, then pour into crust; bake until set, about 30 minutes. Let cool to room temperature, then dust with confectioners’ sugar, if using, and cut into squares. Serve with raspberry sorbet.

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There may be a name change, joint bank accounts and IRA beneficiary change forms.

Most newly married couples fail to check estate planning off their lists because they consider themselves too young to worry about such things.

The uncertainty of the pandemic has caused almost everyone in the world — no matter what age — to consider their own mortality. A recently married couple needs to ensure that their newly entwined life includes each other in a legal sense, as well as in a practical sense, in that they need to know each other’s preferences under worst case scenarios. Most couples do not need more than a basic estate plan, consisting of Advance Directives and a Last Will and Testament.

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Life & Death Decisions

Everyone eighteen years of age or older needs advanced directives: Living Will, Health Care Proxy and Power of Attorney.

A Living Will allows someone to specify if they want to be kept alive by artificial means if they are in a vegetative state with no reasonable expectation of recovery.

A Health Care Proxy allows a person to choose who will make medical decisions in case that person cannot do so. In New York State, only one agent can act under a health care proxy at a time, which avoids confusion and tearful showdowns. A Power of Attorney is a powerful document that allows the principal to name one or more people to handle a wide range of financial matters in case of incapacity.

Dying Without a Will

If a married person dies without a Will in New York State and has no children, the spouse inherits all the assets. This may not necessarily be what the newlywed couple wants — especially regarding heirlooms, ancestral real estate, or a closely-held business.

What about real property that one spouse borrowed money to buy with the oral promise to pay back a parent or sibling? Nobody should ever rely on a spouse’s promise to carry out “informal” instructions after death – this rarely happens and creates family tension.

If married with children, the spouse receives the first $50,000 of assets plus 50% of the remaining assets; the other half goes to any minor or adult children. Since minors cannot receive assets outright, this creates a complicated Surrogates Court scenario.

If the children are adults from a previous marriage – this automatic allotment may not be ideal. Remember, the intestacy statute is a default blunt instrument and leaves no room for nuance.

Finally, there are practical considerations to dying with a Will versus without, that affect loved ones and make a painful process worse. A Will can dispense with the need for a bond, ensures family members that they are provided for, and avoids unnecessary delays in transferring wealth.

An experienced estate planning attorney will be able to provide invaluable guidance on related issues as well, such as whether you need life insurance, business succession planning, and the best way to designate beneficiaries on retirement accounts. A couple should also explore the option of establishing a living trust to avoid probate, which is necessary when someone owns income producing property, a small business, or property out of state. Estate planning may not seem very romantic, but discussing life and death issues is the best way to plan for the long life ahead of you!

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A to Z Scavenger Hunt

Join the Cold Spring Harbor Fish Hatchery, 1660 Route 25A, Cold Spring Harbor on Memorial Day, May 31, for an A to Z Scavenger Hunt between 10 a.m. and 5 p.m.

Hunt around the hatchery and aquarium in search of a different item starting with each letter of the alphabet. Admission is $7 adults, $6 seniors, $5 children. For more information, call 516-692-6768.

Grow and Taste Garden

Benner’s Farm, 56 Gnarled Hollow Road, E. Setauket presents a kids workshop titled Grow and Taste Garden for ages 3 to 12 on May 29 from 10 a.m. to noon and again from 12:30 to 2:30 p.m. It's spring! Let's get our hands dirty and plant some seeds. Children will plant an edible vegetable and flower garden to take home. Pick from the farm's spring garden and taste what your seeds will grow to be! Held rain or shine. Masks are required. $40 per child. To register, visit www.bennersfarm. com or call 689-8172.

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Suffolk County Vanderbilt Museum, 180 Little Neck Road, Centerport offers virtual museum workshops for children in kindergarten through Grade 3 in July and August. Workshops will be held via Zoom and will include a virtual tour of the collections, interactive sessions with a museum educator, creative projects, and a complimentary admission to the Museum for a future visit.

Creative projects will be featured on social media.Workshops include Animal Adventure & Dreamy Collage on July 6 and 8 (Children will need a photo of themselves to include in the collage); Trivia & a Craft: Oceans & Recycled Plastic Art on July 13 and 15; Big

Sample organic vegetables from the garden at Benner's Farm on May 29.

Cats & Mini Animal Diorama on Aug. 3 and 5; and Trivia & a Craft: African Savanna & Warthog Mask on Aug. 10 and 12. Project materials (not including glue) can be picked up the week before the workshop date. $15 per child/members are free. Advance registration is required to participate. Please call 631-8545539 to reserve a space.

Theater

'The Adventures of Peter Rabbit'

Children’s theatre at Theatre Three, 412 Main St., Port Jefferson returns on July 10 with a perennial favorite, The Adventures of Peter Rabbit — an original musical based on the characters created by Beatrix Potter. Peter, Flopsy, Mopsy, Cotton-Tail, Benjamin Bunny, the McGregors and their friends come to life in this Theatre Three tradition. The show runs on Saturdays at 11 a.m. through Aug. 14. All seats are $10. To order, call 928-9100 or visit www.theatrethree.com.

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Tickets are limited to 27 seats per show so guests are asked to kindly reserve tickets online in advance. Online ticket sales end 30 minutes prior to showtime.

Safety protocols – masks and six-foot social distancing – will be observed, including low seating capacity. Seats and restrooms will be cleaned between shows.

Dave Bush, director of the Planetarium, said, “We are very excited to reopen and will offer a wonderful schedule of programming that appeals to a wide range of audiences.

In addition, we are bringing back our ever-

popular, one-hour live lectures about the nighttime sky on Friday and Saturday nights at 8 p.m.”

“Our planetarium technology has never been better. We are ready to amaze and astound our audiences with the breathtaking wonders of the nighttime sky, our solar system, the Milky Way galaxy, and beyond,” he said.

In June 2020, Bush added two new advanced systems that greatly improve the visual experience for visitors – laser-beam projectors to enhanced laser light entertainment shows and laser phosphorus full-dome video projectors that generate sharper imagery. The state-of-the-art equipment adds dimension and excitement, he said.

For a schedule of events, visit www. vanderbiltmuseum.org.

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