Today's Charlotte Woman May 2015 by Sharon Simpson

MAY 2015

VOL 19 | NO 1 | COMPLIMENTARY

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From Motherhood To Motivated Inventor

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Editor’s Letter

For The Love Of Mom

Queen’s List

Goings On Around Town

10 Girl Power

Eat, Shop, Drink & Be Powerful

16 Mom’s Best Friend

Dr. Courtney Stephenson Is A Fetal Miracle Worker

20 Perfectly Candid

Former U.S. Attorney Anne Tompkins Is For The People

23 Style

This Season, Get White Hot

31 Living Well: Skincare

Make Beautiful Skin A Priority

38 Dwellings

Create An Outdoor Oasis

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Bringing The Inside Outdoors

50 I Really Think

Five Tips For Mothering Mom

On The Cover Hitting The Motherlode: Inventor Lily Winnail. PHOTO BY ANDREA PERULLO DE LEDESMA.

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For The Love Of Mom

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have always considered myself a daddy’s girl. (I think it’s the tomboy in me.) That said, I am well aware that without my mother, I would be lost. Nearly everything that I value in life today weaves its beginnings back to her. Growing up, she was my counselor, my safety net, my teacher, and my friend. When I hit the glorious teen years, she became my best sparring partner! In many ways, she was a pioneer. As a mother to two young girls in the 1970s and ’80s, she exuded an incredible talent at raising well-rounded children on a budget. She stretched dollars so my sister could have a horse and I could take gymnastics. She taught me to rollerskate, to shag, to read, to bake cakes, and she gave me my first cat. She trained me to work like a dog in the yard, and to have a clean home. As a child, I made colorful hook rugs and delicate cross-stitch patterns, and then played soccer on an all-boys team. My sister and I both played instruments, and we learned the value of exercise at a very young age. We celebrated holidays together, and every year we enjoyed a family trip to the beach, where she made us wear sunscreen before it was en vogue. She turned me on to Steve McQueen, “Butch Cassidy and The Sundance Kid,” Jimmy Buffett,“Gone With The Wind,” and The Tams. Just to name a few. These days, my mother is the one I turn to for gardening advice. Parenting, too. If you need a quick psychoanalysis,

she is always ready and willing. (Even if you are not!) We share musical tastes and a love of literature and an appreciation for nature. And when it comes to my daughter, when Mama can’t do it, Nana is the only one who will do. My mother is part-time counselor, with a dash of psychic. I can be miles away, but she will pick up a vibe that I’m struggling or need encouragement. She rarely goes shopping without me in mind; it’s not uncommon to visit her home and leave with an eclectic collection of purchases — a bag of organic apples, a Tupperware container full of spaghetti, a bottle of B vitamins, and a new shirt for my kid. Even the guinea pig loves my mother. When Mom walks in my door, the guinea pig knows her voice, and goes on high alert, wheeking impatiently until “Great-Grandma” brings her a piece of red pepper or a slice of cucumber. In a word, my mother is a five-star nurturer, and my No. 1 champion. She always encouraged me to write, to play sports, to do anything I wanted (as long as I was careful). Most of all, she taught me to value myself. One of my earliest memories is of wearing a halter-top she bought that declared, “Anything boys can do, girls can do better.” I took this advice to heart; in fact, it became my mantra throughout childhood. It shaped me into an adult who believes in the power of women.

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ne of the Southeast’s largest wine and food events, Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend, is hosting Big Bottles & Blues May 9 to benefit Safe Alliance, among other charities. Since its inception in 1989, Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend has grown into one of the Southeast’s most successful fundraising wine and food events, attracting many of the best chefs and winemakers from around the world to produce a series of events that showcase the finest in culinary culture, taste, wine and cuisine. In 2014, Forbes Travel Guide ranked Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend one of the top five in the United States. “We are honored to partner with Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend,” says Karen Parker, president and CEO of Safe Alliance, which has served the Charlotte region for more than 105 years. “Our programs and services involve working with children that have been impacted by severe trauma.” Over the past 25 years, Charlotte Wine & Food Weekend leaders have distributed more than $4 million to local charities. “Adding Safe Alliance to our charity partners gives us that much more incentive to do what we do each and every day because of the valuable work they do,” says Dockery Clark, executive director of Charlotte Wine & Food.

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Jeff Rivenbark, WTVI PBS Charlotte; and Eugene Robinson, WCNC-TV Charlotte Today. The Power Walk and Stiletto Swagger raise funds to help support the nearly 900 women who turn to Dress for Success each year hoping to secure employment, achieve economic independence and strengthen their families.

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Selma

he Mint Museum recently observed the 50th anniversary of the Civil Rights Movement with an emotional public program entitled “Conversation: Selma in Retrospect — The 50th Anniversary of a Monumental Civil Rights Moment.” During the event, the work of art “Selma” — created by Alabama artist Barbara Pennington in 1965, and recently acquired by the Mint

A Unique Painting Commemorates A Moment In Time

Museum — was highlighted. Charlotte writer Vicki Moreland (pictured above) discovered the breathtaking, 9-foot canvas after the death of her aunt, Pennington, in 2013. Moreland was going through Pennington’s studio when she found the canvas rolled up in a corner. “Selma” depicts the heart-wrenching events that unfolded in the spring of

1965, during a series of civil rights marches in Selma, Ala. Pennington was working as an artist in New York at the time of the marches, and the events unfolding in her home state inspired her to create the canvas, which is unlike the majority of her work. Pennington’s striking narrative serves as a powerful representation of the events nearly 50 years later.

“I was amazed when Vicki Moreland showed me images of ‘Selma,’ ” says Dr. Jonathan Stuhlman, the Mint’s senior curator of American, Modern and Contemporary Art,“and even more so when I had the opportunity to see it in person. Pennington’s painting will serve as a powerful reminder of the struggles and sacrifices of the brave individuals who participated in the Civil Rights Movement.” Here, Moreland talks about the event, and her aunt’s artwork. Q: When you found “Selma,” did you dream it would one day hang in the Mint Museum? A: We immediately knew when we unrolled the canvas that we had something special and that it belonged in a public venue. Honestly, I did have the Mint in mind when I thought about a possible place for “Selma.” However, I never imagined the wonderful response that it has received.

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Q: Do you think she attended the march? A: I don’t know, but there is some speculation in the family that she may have been there. Aunt Barbara was very private, and she never confirmed or denied the idea when questioned. Q: What do you think art contributes to history? A: I think art can freeze a moment in time, and motivate us to learn more about our past or another past that interests us. It can also capture the feelings of a particular time or place without the distractions of sound, allowing us to fully absorb the work and become part of it. I think “Selma” is transformative and healing.

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Q: The canvas is a departure from your aunt’s typical style of painting, correct? A: “Selma” is distinctly different, because it is a strong political statement and figurative, where her other work is

primarily abstract. “Selma” came from a place of sadness. Her abstract works seemed to originate from joy. From abstract landscapes of her garden to southwestern vistas, it’s all about bold, bright colors and life.

Q: Tell me about the recent event commemorating the 50th anniversary of the Civil Rights

Movement. A: Ten seconds after I walked into the auditorium, I knew it was going to be an emotional night. All I had to do was see Aunt Barbara’s work on the program, and I was in tears. Rubie Britt-Height, the director of community relations at the Mint, put together a fabulous program. The events at Selma are emotional, but the participants in the program captured a depth of feeling that was overwhelming. From a letter by a father to his son about his participation in the marches, to the performance of the Friendship Missionary Baptist Church Choir, it was a fitting tribute to the marchers that participated in Selma 50 years ago. Kendra Mekkah Collin’s poem “An Ode to Jimmy Lee,” was especially moving, as it honored Jimmy Lee Jackson, the young man whose death helped spark the Selma marches.

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Hitting The Motherlode Lily Winnail Finds Success With Padalily

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o an outsider, Lily Winnail’s life may sound a bit charmed. The creator of the Padalily® — a baby product that just reached $2 million in sales — is also an inventor, an actress, a wife and a mother, and she has traveled the world. But Winnail wasn’t born into such a glorious life; she made it happen. Winnail grew up one of five children in a small town in eastern Canada, with parents who were devoted to a strict religious order that shielded Lily and her siblings from popular culture such as mainstream music, movies or television. They didn’t have a lot of money, but Lily’s mother was always working to earn extra income, and she passed on her “can do” spirit to Lily. “We lived in a pretty repressed area, but I would collect empty beer bottles and beer cans, return them to the local store for the recycling fee and use that fee to buy candy,”

Winnail says. “Then I would take the candy to school and sell it to kids for a profit. I made pretty good money for a little girl!” Winnail earned her degree at a U.S. college, met her husband, traveled the world as a flight attendant and had three children. In 2007, after giving birth to her third child, son Blake, she was struck by the idea for the Padalily® — a fashionable and functional cushion that wraps around the handle on infant car seats, providing 360-degree comfort. The item can be customized in over 20 fabric choices. She was at the post office with her two older daughters, a package to mail in one arm and the heavy car seat in the crook of her other arm, when the ah ha! moment hit. “As my arm became sore from the car-seat handle digging into me, the idea struck,” she says. “My love for designer fabrics and all things handsewn brought my first prototype into

existence that very same day — scrap fabric and stuffing make very cute Padalilies, too!” She adds, “I went home, did a little research and discovered that nothing like this existed in the marketplace.” A talented seamstress, she sewed 300 prototypes, which she sold out of her son’s stroller at the park. “Sometimes, I just gave them away to women in the grocery store parking lot who looked like they were struggling with the pain of carrying a heavy car seat,” she says. “Complete strangers were so supportive.” One day, she gathered her courage, walked into Mud Pie Monograms & Gifts in Blakeney, and sold her first boutique order. Three years later, Padalily® became profitable. Winnail’s timing couldn’t have been more auspicious. Her husband lost his job just as her business was taking off. “It was a wonderful feeling to be able to support my family with my idea,” she says.

Along the way, she has learned from the ground up how to run a business, how to get a patent and how to keep others from stealing her idea. (Answer: Hire a lawyer!) She is happy to mentor and offer advice to other mom inventors. “I was doing it all on my own, calling individuals to get advice, not realizing I could have called the Small Business Administration, and they could have connected me with a mentor,” she says. Winnail has since made deals to sell Padalilies in 1,500 boutiques across the U.S. and Canada, plus online retailers. “Our bread and butter is from our boutique sales,” she says. “As much as people love to shop online, we see America’s small town stores still thriving, and hope they continue to do so.” These days, she spends most of her time designing new styles, ordering raw materials, keeping up with finances and social media, plus managing account relationships. Ironically, Winnail’s success in business gave her the confidence to answer an open casting call when the Showtime TV series “Homeland” began to film in Charlotte. “I didn’t expect to

hear back, but they felt I’d be perfect for Claire Danes’ body double!” she says. She appeared in several episodes and that experience led to another acting job — as a featured extra in “The Hunger Games.” Winnail’s on-camera experience was a plus when “The Steve Harvey Show” came calling in January. “His producer was given a Padalily® as a baby shower gift about 18 months earlier and she remembered that gift when they were planning a show on mom inventors,” Winnail says. “It was such an honor and so much fun to share my story.” Winnail loves to meet other mom inventors and to inspire women whose fear may be holding them back. “It may sound corny, but I believe that if you have a love for life and love to do well and make people happy, many doors will be opened,” she says. “I’m a believer in writing down goals for your future. I visualize things that I want to happen and often I have found they do!”

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Mother Knows Best Readers Remember The Best Advice Mom Ever Gave

ay is for mothers! When asked for the best advice Mom ever gave, readers responded enthusiastically. Below, Charlotteans offer nuggets of wisdom from the beloved women in their lives.

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Andi Perullo de Ledesma “Sometimes it’s better to be happy than to be right.”

Amy Flowe McKelvey “A hundred years from now, it won’t matter.”

Sandra Escobosa-Guynes “Treat everyone with respect no matter who they are or where they are from. We are all equal.”

Tamara Titus “My mom made me take typing. She said,‘No matter what you choose to do, you will always need to know how to type.’ ”

Jackie Fishman “Never listen to what men say; watch what they do.”

Elaine Helton “Instead of jumping on the bandwagon of talking about people who may be doing everything wrong in life, pray for them.”

Tiana Byers “My mom’s new mantra is to ‘grow bold, not old.’ She is turning 50 this year, and is graduating from the University of Florida with her MBA in two weeks, so she certainly lives this out.” Wendy Shanahan “If you are going to be embarrassed or afraid to tell me about something you have done, then you probably shouldn’t do it!”

Jennifer Garrison “Don’t get married straight out of college. Take time to see the world and develop yourself first.” Katie Rozycki “You buy cheap, you get cheap.” Robin Waddell “Treat your husband like a king and he will treat you like a queen.”

Jill Swain “Lock your car doors.”

Colleen Taylor “Sometimes the best place for the baby is their crib; don’t be afraid to put them there when you need a break.”

Amy Donovan “Whenever I suffered a romantic heartbreak, my mother told Sharon Lachow-Blumberg me to, ‘Get busy!’ As a teen, I rolled my eyes, but as I grew up, “Never leave the house looking as if you don’t care. You never I saw the wisdom in this.” know who you will run into.” Maureen Carlomagno Marce Ramirez Savage “While on your life’s journey, if you step in poo, just wipe it off “Friends and money will come and go, but no one can ever and keep going.” take your education away from you.” Katy Ridnouer “Kindness is a virtue that blessJennifer Brantley es everyone involved.” “The train is coming — you can get on it, or lie on the tracks.” Andrea Long “Consider the source and move on.” Mackenzie Farone-Waite “Put on your big girl panties!” [TCW] Carol Adams “Whatever happens on your date tonight, just keep your legs crossed and your pantyhose on.”

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Dr. Courtney Stephenson Is A Fetal Miracle Worker

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r. Courtney D. Stephenson performs life-saving surgery on babies while they are still safely enclosed in their mother’s womb. Her passion and expertise in dealing with the most fragile of fetuses has given many moms a reason to celebrate Mother’s Day. But the fetal miracle worker didn’t set out to be a healer for Carolinas HealthCare System. For the first 18 years of her life, she thought gymnastics would be her chosen career, and she even selected a college based on the gymnastics program offered.

From Gymnast To Doctor “I started gymnastics at the age of 5 and basically grew up in a gym,” says Dr. Stephenson. “I went to Southern Connecticut State University, where Bela Karolyi coached the men’s team. I thought I was going to be a gymnast. After I won a bronze medal at Nationals on the balance beam, I realized that a gymnast’s life span is short. Once you reach 20, you are pretty much done and ready to coach.” After competing for three years at the college level, she made the life-changing decision — both for herself and for the babies she has since saved — to give up gymnastics and set her sights on medical school.

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“Gymnastics is a very intense sport that requires laser-focus, dedication and the ability to block out pain and fear. I think the lessons and traits I learned during my athletic career allowed me to excel in medical school and made me who I am today.” — Dr. Courtney Stephenson

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wanted to do with the rest of my life.” During her junior year, she transferred to Fairfield University in Connecticut and jumped on the pre-med track. She replaced gym time with library time, and began to apply the same intensity to studying as she did to perfecting her dismount. After obtaining a bachelor’s in science, she earned her medical degree from the New York College of Osteopathic Medicine, followed by four years of obstetrics and gynecology residency in Brooklyn, then a three-year fellowship in maternal-fetal medicine at New York University.

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sds“As a gymnast, I was under frequent medical care for injuries,” she says. “I grew to love the physicians that treated me and kept me healthy for my sport. I decided that’s what I wanted to do. Originally, I thought I would go into orthopedics or sports medicine, but after spending one day in labor and delivery, I changed my mind. I knew that’s what I

She arrived in Charlotte in 2004, and helped form the Levine Children’s Hospital’s Fetal Care Center at Carolinas Medical Center in 2010. There, she treats babies in utero, and was the first in the world to pioneer a procedure to treat a condition called twin reversed arterial perfusion sequence (known as TRAP) — in which she is able to successfully save a single twin when the other twin doesn’t form and has no heart. “Basically, the other fetus never fully

forms but is connected to the healthy baby, who is pumping blood into this mass,” she explains. “That baby will eventually fail. Dr. David Iannitti and I had an idea. He is a specialist in the use of microwaves and I am a specialist in fetal procedures. We figured we could use a microwave antenna to ablate the vessels that feed the mass, and save the healthy baby. Doctors have come from all over the country to learn this procedure.” Through extensive research and analysis, Dr. Stephenson has proven that microwave ablation is safe, effective and superior to other techniques for treating TRAP. On behalf of her accomplishment, Dr. Stephenson was selected to present her abstracts for the International Fetal Medicine and Surgery Society in Jerusalem and Boston in 2013 and 2014. One presentation was given in collaboration with Dr. Iannitti and discussed the technique of the microwave, and the second discussion focused on how she started a unique fetal care center with U.S.-based training. Both presentations were received with overwhelming praise from authorities in

fetal surgery. In addition to the unique procedure she performs for a TRAP sequence pregnancy, she can drain fluid from unborn baby lungs to allow them to develop properly and drain their tiny bladders when blocked. She can correct the balance in blood flow between twins (twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome) using a laser so they both grow at a normal rate. She can even give blood transfusions to an anemic fetus — all in utero. By the time a mother-to-be gets to her office, unfortunately, the baby is in jeopardy. “Patients come here and they are desperate for help,” Dr. Stephenson says. “Many times, the babies are going to die if something isn’t done. We are a provider of hope for many people who have no other options.” She adds, “I promise my patients that I will do everything humanly possible to save their baby. The rest depends on a higher power than mine.” For Dr. Stephenson, a good day at the office is a great day. “I’m comfortable with doing these procedures because we do it all the time,”

she says. “But it never becomes routine, it’s never commonplace. They are all very complicated and unique. I love it because the good days are really, really good. I feel like I’ve made a difference.” She credits her almost two decades of grueling gymnastics training with giving her the ability to focus on these tiny patients, and to perform the intricate procedures necessary to save them. “Gymnastics is a very intense sport that requires laser-focus, dedication and the ability to block out pain and fear,” Dr. Stephenson says. “I think the lessons and traits I learned during my athletic career allowed me to excel in medical school and made me who I am today.” She adds, “When you are on the balance beam, you can only think of those 4 inches, not what’s outside of it. The same goes for fetal surgery.” When Dr. Stephenson is at work, she’s completely focused — and, as the only fetal surgeon in Charlotte to use a laser to treat twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome, she’s at work or on call much of the time. But outside of work, she’s dedicated to family, friends and fun. She spends as much time as she can with her two children, 14-year-old George, a baseball

player, and 12-year-old Julianna, a soccer player. She also enjoys visiting with friends, seeking out the latest fashions, and traveling. “Between gymnastics and med school, I was never able to travel much,” she says. “I’ve started going places over the past few years. I want to see the world, and I have a lot of places left to go!” She also has a daredevil side — not surprising since she grew up perfecting difficult gymnastics moves, and now operates on some of the tiniest of patients in pressure-filled situations. “I’m a little bit of an adrenaline junkie,” Dr. Stephenson says. “I ski pretty hardcore. I’ve flown a plane, and I appreciate fast cars and roller coasters. I guess I like to push the limits.” And she’s not afraid, even at age 44, to break out into the occasional back handspring or aerial, to amuse and remind her children — and herself — that life is what you make it. “I tell my kids all the time that all you can do is control your performance,” she says. “Don’t get caught up with what everyone else is doing. Focus on your own goals, work hard, and do your best. That’s all you’re called to do.” [TCW]

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hope as I left — that I gave it my all.” — Anne Tompkins

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Anne Tompkins cares deeply about the Charlotte community. Here, she addresses the crowd at CMPD’s Fallen Officers Memorial in May 2014.

Former U.S. Attorney Anne Tompkins Looks Forward

Here, in her first interview since leaving public office,Tompkins discusses a few highlights of her career, and her plans for the future. Q: What were your thoughts when you first got word of the potential case against former Mayor Patrick Cannon and the accusations of impropriety in office? A: Whenever there is public corruption, it gives you a sinking feeling, especially when you look at it and you know the impact on the community is going to be harmful. I remember when the investigation reached that point. I remember knowing that we had to be careful; we had to be complete. We had to be thorough and make sure that we were making a good case. We do that in all areas, of course, in the U.S. Attorneys office. But with something like this, in this community — where we are unused to this type of crime — I knew we had to be very careful and make sure we made a really strong case. There was that feeling of sadness, too. I felt like, “This is too bad, because this isn’t who we are.” But you have to do what you have to do, and so we persevered and we made a good case. And the rest is history. Q: Do you believe that the federal prison time Cannon received was appropriate? Does it send a strong message? A: I do think it sends a strong message. Forty-four months is a long time. In my line of work, we know what other similar cases get. There are federal sentencing guidelines. So, it wasn’t a big mystery what Cannon was facing. Obviously, we thought that was an appropriate sentence for the conduct. Q: Do you think Charlotte is

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ess than a month after leaving her high profile post as U.S. Attorney for the Western District of North Carolina, Anne Tompkins is well into her next assignment. Now a partner in the international law firm Cadwalader, Wickersham and Taft, LLP, Tompkins has already logged multiple trips to the firm’s offices in New York and Washington, D.C. Her focus will be on growing the organization’s Charlotte office — specifically, the White Collar Defense and Investigations group. It’s an opportunity she plans to pursue with the same intensity she has exuded throughout her career. Tompkins is coming off a productive stint as a U.S. Attorney under the Obama administration. During that time, she closed many high-profile cases, including securing a multibillion-dollar settlement from Bank of America for mortgage fraud; prosecuting former Mayor Patrick Cannon for accepting bribes; and coordinating a plea deal from General David Petraeus, who is accused of sharing top-secret military documents with his biographer, Dilworth resident Paula Broadwell. At the time of Tompkins’ appointment, she also made history as only the second openly gay U.S. Attorney in the country. Tompkins values passion, perseverance and professionalism, and says these traits are what distinguish a great attorney from a good one. She also credits her progress in part to “great women in our community who are willing to help each other out,” including her mentors Vi Lyles and Pam Syfert. Outside the courtroom,Tompkins is passionate about using her powers for good. She works for human trafficking prevention and anti-bullying, and hopes to continue focusing on these topics in her new role.

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irreparably harmed by what happened? A: No, no. This is a resilient city. I think Charlotte has bounced back already. I really do. I think there was the shock of having it happen. It was devastating. But, this city began to bounce back that day. That’s who we are. Q: You’ve been vocal about being a product of the public school system, and attended Piedmont Middle School and West Charlotte High School. On a visit to one local campus, you explained your role at the time as U.S. Attorney — but you also shared something personal that could help deter bullying. Can you describe that experience? A: I went to Northwest School of the Arts with Tom Perez, who was then head of the Civil Rights Division of the Department of Justice. We went out there to explain who we are in the Department of Justice — what we do, and the role I play as U.S. Attorney. I talked to those kids about being an openly gay person. To me, I think it’s important for young people to see

people who are like them in public positions — positions of leadership, positions of authority. And by the term “like them,” I mean, the ways all humans can be similar in a variety of different roles. Whether that’s me as a woman, whether that’s me as a Charlottean, whether that’s me as an openly gay person, or whether that’s me as a graduate of the public school system … I just think people want to see themselves in inspirational positions. And so, I am comfortable with that. Q: How did students respond? A: It was crazy! They applauded and screamed. It was really like,“Wow! These kids are ready for this!” And so, I just let that be part of who I am to youth. Whether that resonates with them or not, I will let that be up to them. I wanted that to be part of who I am to the community, to kids and to adults, frankly. Q: How do you spend your time away from the office? A: I spend a lot of time with my dad. He lives in Charlotte. We spend time

together every weekend. My wife and I play golf and she’s a great cook, and so we like to eat and hang out with our neighbors. I ride the Booty Loop when I can [the original course for Charlotte’s 24 Hours of Booty, an annual biking event that raises funds for cancer research and survivorship]. I enjoy being a part of this great city. I really do. It’s been a privilege to be in positions that have allowed me to try to make the city the best it can be. Q: Now that you’ve left the U.S. Attorneys office, what do you hope resonates with the community about your service? A: I have always had a part of me that is very public-service oriented, and I still do. It is just part of who I am. I hope the people of Charlotte and the greater Western District of North Carolina feel like I served them well and did justice fairly and professionally. I hope they know that I care deeply about the communities and the district and Charlotte. That was my hope as I left — that I gave it my all. [TCW]

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Above left: Alice & Andrews silk dress, $300, Canvas, A Boutique. Long-sleeve crochet open-back blouse, $40, Five13studio.com. Floral headband, $14; and double-layered pendant necklace, $40; both at Francesca’s. Joie nude heel sandal, $375, Monkee’s Boutique.

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“I also perform many injections that a lot of my clients on the East Coast have never heard of, such as treatment of a gummy-smile, nose tip-lift, Nefertiti-lift and hyperhydrosis (excessive-sweating),” she says. “And I absolutely love Sculptra! I believe it is the best product on the market in terms of re-volumizing the face. It stimulates the client’s own collagen and lasts for a very long time.” Hatfield notes that women should take care of their skin first and foremost from a health perspective, and she notes that melanoma is on the rise. She suggests visiting Cancer.org to get statistical and preventive information. But it’s no secret that a person’s appearance speaks to others, and the skin plays a huge role in that. “Whether we like it or not, we live in a society that is a bit superficial,” she says. “The field of cosmetic surgery and aesthetic procedures would not be booming if there were not some truth to that. But I have to say, making skincare a priority does not mean ‘looking perfect.’ It means looking fresh, healthy and vibrant.”

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throughs with skincare products, including night-time moisturizers with ingredients that work with your circadian rhythm by helping to repair the environmental damage done to your skin during the day,” she says. Sunscreen is the most important element of good skin. Choose a daytime moisturizer that contains an SPF of 15 or above and shield your skin from exposure to the sun as much as possible.“If you feel pale without a tan, get your color from sunless tanning lotions and spray tans,” Helmandollar notes. From there, boost the beauty of your skin with specialized treatments meant to relax and purify your skin.

“I have to say, making skincare a priority does not mean ‘looking perfect.’ It means looking fresh, healthy and vibrant.” — Sandra Hatfield

“Treatment based products these days are magical!” Helmandollar says. “The use of Retinoids in products is becoming quite prevalent, and is so important in gently resurfacing your skin and smoothing away fine lines and wrinkles. Using these basic steps, along with receiving professional treatments like facials, microdermabrasion and peels, are the best nonsurgical methods of keeping your skin youthful, refreshed and glowing.” CharRadAdR2.pdf

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Savvy Salon specializes in skin resurfacing treatments like microdermabrasion and peels. “But our most requested service is still our basic Savvy Renewal Facial,” she says. “This service is a good, basic deep cleansing,which includes steaming, exfoliation, extraction, specialized treatment, massage, toning and moisturizer. Plus, the relaxation benefits you get will melt the tension from your face!”

Toned Skin Is In Of course, an undeniable aspect of beautiful skin is a toned, strong body. Hypoxi has been specially designed as a targeted method of body shaping that systematically reduces undesired fat deposits, especially in typical problem areas such as the stomach, hips, buttocks and thighs. Mandelynn DeLuca is a master trainer at Charlotte’s Hypoxi Studio, and she notes that the Hypoxi-Dermology treatments exercise the skin, leaving it firm and smooth. “We specialize in training the skin,” she says. “The HypoxiDermology treatments include integrated chambers within the suit that apply high and low pressure to the skin. As a result, the skin and connective tissue is gently stretched and compressed in a similar way the muscle is trained. The treatments take only 20 minutes and results can be seen after just a few sessions.” DeLuca believes that people should make an effort to care for their skin. “The skin is the first thing people see … why not make it a priority?” she says. [TCW]

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o you have crooked, spaced, or uneven teeth? Would you like to have more confidence in your smile? Read on for infomation on the amazing differences today’s dentistry can make in your life. Whether you’re seeking cosmetic solutions for your smile, wondering how to correct certain dental problems, or simply looking for a new dentist, we can help. Got a question for me? Great! Please send all questions to DrChris@SmileSatisfaction.com, and include your first name and city/town where you live. Either I or one of my professional dental team members will answer every question we receive within 1-2 business days. We look forward to helping you! • Six Month Smiles is a compleletely different process than traditional braces. Six Month Smiles is a simplified orthodontic system for adults who don’t want to spend up to 2 years in conventional metal braces. Using light forces and low-friction tooth movements, we can move teeth quickly, focusing mainly on the teeth that show when you smile. While most cases take 3-9 months, we can achieve gorgeous results for our patients in an average of about 6 months. • Six Month Smiles™ is not the same as Invisalign™.

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Create “It is a fact that the more senses we use in a situation, the better the memory is kept. Outdoor living spaces are no exception.” — Kelly Cruz

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An Outdoor Retreat Decorating Tips For The Perfect Alfresco Living Space

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“To create an outdoor living space that is memorable, we must first employ basic design elements of scale, balance and symmetry to make the space visually appealing,” Cruz says.

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She suggests adding textures through the use of plants, fabrics and patterns “to appeal to your sense of touch.”

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If the outdoor space doesn’t include a beachfront or a lake/river view, Cruz suggests adding a water feature to delight your sense of hearing. “Of course,” she notes,“the sound of rain falling or wind blowing, plus birds, frogs and crickets, always chime in to our outdoor symphony.”

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Outdoor spaces offer their own fragrances, but Cruz suggests enhancing them by adding a fragrant candle.

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“Finally, our sense of taste can be employed to seal the memory with a little alfresco dining, a personal favorite,” Cruz says.

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fter a long, frosty winter, people are craving the opportunity to spend unlimited amounts of time in the great outdoors. What better place to soak up copious amounts of fresh air, blue sky and fragrant smells than your own backyard? Interior designers have long touted the outdoor portion of your home as an important extension of the house, not to be overlooked in style or comfort. In fact, outdoor living spaces are often the best “family room” imaginable.

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Outside Is In Interior designer Kelly Cruz has a unique take on what makes an outdoor living space memorable. “It is a fact that the more senses we use in a situation, the better the memory is kept,” she says. “Outdoor living spaces are no exception.” Cruz is owner of Kelly Cruz Interiors, an award-winning, full-service interior design firm that has catered

to Charlotteans since 1996. Her company focuses on both commercial and residential projects, including new construction and remodeling jobs. Cruz believes that interior design is not simply about fabrics and paint colors. “Good design starts with the architectural elements of a space (or lack thereof), then creates function and balance,” she says. “Only then can the layers of color, texture, and the right

pieces of furniture be added.” She suggests homeowners create a backyard retreat that taps into all of the five senses (see sidebar). Above all, Cruz says to strive for one particular goal when designing an outdoor oasis. “In a word, comfort,” she says. When asked to pinpoint the best addition a homeowner can incorporate in an outdoor living space, Cruz hesitates to select just one

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option. There are many ways to enhance outdoor living arrangements, from adding a fire-pit or pool, to creating a gorgeous view, to building a cozy seating area. “I would ask the homeowners to evaluate what would bring them the most enjoyment,” she says. “Then I would ask them to consider a budget that would make sense for the price value of their home. That said, a seating area appeals to a greater audience and enhances almost every space and location.”

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y mom, Wheezy, is a slice of awesome with homemade icing on top. She is inspirational, spiritual, educational and totally frustrating all at the same time. I love her, but when I express the issues that accompany living with her, I can expect multiple Facebook friends to tell me to “cherish her.” Can I cherish her and profoundly understand the challenges of caring for her as she ages? My best friend and biggest critic turns 75 this year. After sharing a household with her for the past 11 years, I have plenty of granny nanny wisdom to pass long. This is AARP gold! I’ve got five tips for mothering your mother. 1. Practice avoidance. Some of that psychobabble about family relationships is bull. Total family harmony is as big a fantasy as Cinderella, unicorns and one-size-fits-all pantyhose. Therapists will tell you that you need to work through your issues no matter how big or small. Only you need to make peace with family dysfunction. There are issues you may never be able to discuss with your mother without major drama ensuing.

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2. Remember Mom still thinks she is in charge. Your mother will never understand or appreciate the role change. I constantly remind my mom about unpopular decisions she made while parenting me. Did I want the braces that made this chubby kid the instant subject of ridicule? Heck, no! Looking back, I understand why she didn’t want me to face the world with buckteeth and a gap the size of a Kardashian

booty. Not getting everything you want is a blessing in disguise for a kid. Not giving your parent everything they want can be a blessing for everybody. 3. Ask for her help. I assign jobs to my mom to make her feel more useful. I understand how helpless she must feel at times. From dropping mail off to getting a stubborn stain out of a shirt, I give her tasks that allow her to shine. I get some assistance and she doesn’t feel obsolete. 4. Take timeouts. Even though one of the things your mom probably craves is your time, making time for yourself is essential. Whether it’s hiding in your garage for 20 minutes after you actually get home or pretending to be constipated to hermit in the bathroom, you simply can’t ignore you. Make time for yourself, your girls and your man! The relationships you neglect while caregiving will be the very ones you need to help sustain you when your mother is gone. 5. Admit vulnerability. An African proverb that wasn’t originally uttered by Hillary Clinton says,“It takes a village to raise a child.” The same applies to our golden agers. Reach out to friends and family members. The comfort that comes from hearing them say you are “doing a good job” is priceless (thank you, DeeDee Strickland). There will be friends who recognize you are doing too much and tell you to “get help, girl” (thank you, Sharon Decker). Ask for advice from friends who’ve already experienced the challenge of managing care. They can offer suggestions and

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