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December 2014 | Volume 15 | Issue 12

Table of

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4. advertisers at a glance 7. publisher’s letter 10. ACLU: Marriage in Missouri 13. A monumental Year

2014 Milestones

15. Lez be real ­— Lez Dance 17. Holiday Decor to adore

Enchanting Embellishments

22. annual Give Back Guide 32. New Years eve party Guide 35. New american new year

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publisher’s Letter 2014 has been quite the year. We started out promoting the evolution of LGBT media. Evolve is exactly what we have done. Not only has Vital VOICE expanded statewide, but also our society has evolved with the progressions of marriage equality and non-discrimination policies throughout the region. We could not be more pleased with all of the advancements both with Vital VOICE and with the political equality scope.

This year has also seen a few bumps in the road. What with the recent election and the Ferguson uprising, inequality has definitely reared its ugly head. That alone tells us that our community’s involvement and engagement is even more crucial than ever. The work continues.

Even here at Vital VOICE, we’ve seen the departure of our art director and content manager this year. We are so appreciative of their contribution to LGBT media for our region. However, it’s time to create a new era for this company.

We are so excited for this next chapter.

Our company has successfully expanded and we have a new groove with new people to carry us forward. 2015 will be an exciting and a nonstop growth year for Vital VOICE. We look forward to a year of being social, influential, aspirational and cultural. We continue our long-standing mission of bringing you modern Life + Style LGBT media, and look forward to rolling out additional elements to our company.

We wish to thank all of our readers and welcome more audiences as we move onward. None of this could be achieved with out our amazing clients, advertisers, supporters and friends. This has truly been a wonderful year, and to that we say Cheers 2014!

Cheers

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A Good Season for Marriage in Missouri Jeffrey A. Mittman Executive Director, ACLU of Missouri Illustration by Sam Sanchez

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Fall is typically a great season for weddings in Missouri, but I predict that Fall 2014 will go down in history as being especially spectacular. I’m not talking about wedding dates, but dates of historical importance to gay and lesbian couples. After all, it is the season when marriage equality came to Missouri.

Sept. 25, 2014

Let’s start with Thursday, Sept. 25. That was when oral arguments were heard in Barrier v. Vasterling, Missouri’s landmark case fighting for the recognition of same-sex marriages performed outside of the state of Missouri. The American Civil Liberties Union of Missouri filed this lawsuit days before Valentine’s Day. Seven of the 10 plaintiff couples, many of their friends and family members, and a throng of journalists filled the courtroom in Jackson County in Kansas City.

The bailiff instructed those in the packed courtroom to turn off their cell phones, but recanted a few minutes later and said that the judge would allow tweets and texts. This news added to the excitement in the courtroom, which was already palpable. Tony Rothert, the legal director of the ACLU of Missouri, said it was a career highlight to be one of the attorneys responsible for giving our plaintiffs their day in court.

Although none took the stand, the couples bravely opened their lives to let Missouri know that discrimination against loving, committed couples ends up harming families.

Tony pointed out that Missouri has traditionally recognized the legal marriages of all couples performed in other states, including marriages of first cousins, common law marriages, and marriages of minors. It was simply wrong to treat same-sex families differently by refusing to recognize their legal marriages.

As the hearing wrapped up, Judge J. Dale Youngs said he

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would make a decision as quickly as possible and he did. Just eight days later, he ordered that the marriages of all legally married couples must be recognized by the state of Missouri.

Oct. 3, 2014

Oct. 3 Judge Youngs said that Missouri must recognize not only the marriages of our plaintiff couples, but those of all same-sex Missouri couples who have been legally married outside of the state.

The state court ruling was a personal win for our 10 courageous couples. Even more important, it was a win for the whole state because it struck down a discriminatory law.

Oct. 6, 2014

Judge Youngs’ decision on Friday was made even sweeter on Monday, when Attorney General Chris Koster announced he would not pursue an appeal. He obviously recognized our constitution obligates Missouri to recognize marriages from other states, as our state has historically done and it would be a waste of money to continue the fight. After all, at that point more than half of the states allowed gay men and lesbians to marry.

Oct. 9, 2014

On Oct. 9, Missouri’s Barrier v. Vasterling decision continued to reap benefits. The Missouri Consolidated Health Care Plan, which provides health care benefits to about 96,500 Missouri employees, retirees and family members, had opened coverage to same-sex spouses.

Missouri now recognizes

thousands of couples as legally wed

Also, on Oct. 9, the ACLU of Missouri sent a polite, but firm, letter to the Ozark Fire District to inform them of their obligation to offer spousal benefits to married couples, regardless of their sexual orientation.

Because this ruling is so new, there are sure to be many questions.

Nov. 5, 2014

St. Louis Circuit Judge Rex M. Burlison ruled on behalf of the City of St. Louis in Missouri v. Jennifer Florida, the lawsuit over the City’s issuance of marriage licenses to four couples on June 25, 2014. Recorder of Deeds Jennifer Florida began issuing marriage licenses again to same-sex couples in the City of St. Louis.

Nov. 6, 2014

Because of Judge Burlison’s ruling, the St. Louis County recorder of deeds began issuing marriage licenses.

Nov. 7, 2014

U.S. District Judge Ortrie Smith declared Missouri’s ban on marriage for same-sex couples unconstitutional with his decision in the ACLU of Missouri’s marriage license lawsuit, Lawson v. Jackson County. Later that day, Jackson County Executive Mike Sanders directed the Jackson County Recorder of Deeds to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

What’s next?

It would be nice for engaged gay and lesbian couples, and their wedding planners, to know exactly when all counties in Missouri will issue marriage licenses and allow marriages of same-sex couples. Will it be this week or two years from now? Given the rapid changes we’ve seen since the Supreme Court win in June 2013 in the ACLU’s Edie Windsor case, Missouri could be issuing marriage licenses in the remaining 111 counties by the time this article goes to print.

Regardless, the ACLU and our many LGBT partners will continue to fight the discrimination against LGBT families in Missouri. We’ve taken a giant step down the aisle with marriage equality. However, there are many areas of the state where LGBT people are vulnerable to discrimination, so we need to work on passing the Missouri Nondiscrimination Act. For now, let’s celebrate the wins along the way and raise a toast to the thousands of couples that Missouri recognizes as legally wed and congratulate the many others who are now planning Missouri weddings. Here’s to a bright 2015!

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Welcoming Space

2014

A Monumental Year

Milestones Written by

Denny Patterson

January

A mass wedding of gay and heterosexual couples is performed at the 56th Annual Grammy Awards.

Capote star Philip Seymour Hoffman dies.

February

March

As the year comes to an end, let’s take a moment and reflect on how victorious 2014 has been for the LGBT community – both across the globe and here at home. Marriage equality is now legalized in 33 states, and numerous other states have struck down anti-LGBT ordinances while President Obama continues to push for LGBT rights. We are seeing more and more politicians voicing their support, and even the entertainment industry is taking a step in the right direction.

Every year has the good, the bad and the ugly, but 2014 was undoubtedly a monumental success. Although it might seem we are coming out ahead, there is still a lot more to be done. We will not stop and rest until LGBT equality is fully recognized in all 50 states. Think of what can be achieved in the years to come!

Kentucky’s ban on recognizing same-sex marriages performed in other states is ruled unconstitutional.

The Scottish Parliament approves a same-sex marriage bill.

Ohio’s ban on recognizing samesex marriage performed in other states is ruled unconstitutional.

Actress Jodie Foster marries girlfriend Alexandra Hedison.

Legislation to allow same-sex marriage in England and Wales comes into effect and the first same-sex marriages take place.

After a Supreme Court ruling, India officially recognizes a third gender.

April American football defensive end Michael Sam was picked by the St. Louis Rams during the seventh round of the NFL drafts, making him the first openly gay player drafted by an NFL team.

Arkansas’s same-sex marriage ban is declared unconstitutional.

St. Louis mayor Francis Slay challenges Missouri’s gay marriage ban by issuing marriage licenses to four same-sex couples.

Illinois’s same-sex marriage law went into effect statewide.

may

June President Barack Obama signed an executive order expanding employment protections for federal workers and contractors to include gender identity. This order also bans sexual orientation and gender identity discrimination for companies receiving federal contracts.

July Actor and comedic legend Robin Williams dies. Williams played multiple roles with an LGBT slant such as Mrs. Doubtfire and The Birdcage.

august LGBT icon and advocate Joan Rivers dies.

september Apple Inc. CEO Tim Cook opens up about being gay.

The United States Supreme Court denied appeal requests from five states seeking to prohibit same-sex marriage, making it legal in Indiana, Utah, Oklahoma, Virginia and Wisconsin.

october Missouri’s same-sex marriage ban is declared unconstitutional.

Although it’s currently pending an appeal, St. Louis City, St. Louis County and Jackson County are issuing marriage licenses.

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LEZ DANCE is a monthly dance party born out of a need for a space for women and a need to dance. Lola van Ella and Jeez Loueez attended a lesbian dance party in another area and the wheels started turning. They knew they could produce something extraordinary back in St. Louis. Van Ella posted about LEZ DANCE on Facebook and it caught Kristen Goodman’s eye. Goodman had noticed a similar need and was putting her own lesbian party in motion. She reached out, and Goodman, Loueez and van Ella joined forces. The team that currently produces LEZ DANCE was born.

Each party takes place on the first Friday of the month. Their first event was in May and had over 300 people. It was clear that they hit on something the community would enjoy. Each event since then has been similarly well-attended. The party includes great music, great specialty drinks and great gogo dancers. Each month has a different theme, sometimes in conjunction with the season, but often the theme is whatever sounds like a good time. Past themes include “Dirty Detention,” “The Vegas Strip” and “90s Rage.” The next LEZ DANCE, which takes place on Dec. 5 at 2720 Cherokee St., has a “Neverland” theme.

As more and more people hear about LEZ DANCE, people get more and more into the themes. People pull out all of the stops and go all in on their costumes. Loueez, van Ella and Goodman get together every couple of months to decide the next few themes for LEZ DANCE. They are currently talking

about future ideas such as “Masquerade Ball,” “Pajama Party” or popular TV shows like “Orange is the New Black.”

They want to encourage people to get into it and they are always open to suggestions—whether it is theme ideas or anything else. “We want to keep it fresh and fun,” Goodman says. “It is a dance party first and foremost—we want to keep people dancing. We love hearing feedback from people.

Anyone is welcome to share their ideas on social media or come up to as at a LEZ DANCE.” In the future, the team would love to take LEZ DANCE on the road. Jeez Loueez lives part time in Chicago, so that is a destination option for 2015. Other possible cities include Kansas City, Columbia or Springfield.

While LEZ DANCE is geared towards LGBT women, anyone is welcome and many different people show up. “I am most proud of the diverse crowd,” Goodman explains. “I love being able to look out at the crowd and see all ages, all races, all genders. They’re all partying and having a great time.”

“At LEZ DANCE, you’ll see a whole lot of sweaty, sexy, dancing people,” van Ella says.

Mark your calendars for “Neverland” on Friday, Dec. 5 at 9:00 p.m. While you’re at it, mark every first Friday at 9:00 p.m.

LEZ DANCE has a lot of exciting surprises planned for 2015 and you’re not going to want to miss it. V

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esigners at Enchanting Embellishments in the Central West End are known to be the local design experts and Christmasmiracle workers when it comes to home design.

Around the holidays the store becomes, as designer Michael Shreves likes to say, a “miniMacy’s,” filling up with plenty of holiday décor that can appeal to anyone’s taste. Shreves brings 25 years of experience in design, staging and display production, with a visual goal of transporting you to another world when you experience Christmas through his whimsical opulence. With three home projects he is currently working on, Shreves and the team at Enchanting Embellishments remain focused on keeping the store flowing with simply fabulous holiday finds.

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Handmade ribbons, bows and ornaments aren’t just for Christmas trees anymore- they look just as great on your chandelier! Additions like these add a holiday finishing touch to a classic lighting fixture, and the result is a warm and inviting dining space. Under the chandelier, cake plates, candy trays and candleholders from the Mark Roberts Christmas Collection can be used to add stylish taste to your holiday dining table.

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Sometimes more is definitely more!

Handmade Santa dolls, sparkling tassels, bejeweled ornaments and clean, white lights are a few of the highlights of this stunningly decorated tree. With a simple color-scheme, you have a better ability to add more dramatic pieces that are still cohesive and stand out together.

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When it comes to the place setting, it’s the simple yet significant pieces that really show a great attention to detail. Bejeweled napkin holders and other small table accessories give a classy finishing touch to your table.

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Take a break from shopping and enjoy the décor in MaryAnn’s Tea Room, located in an attached greenhouse in the back of the store.

Oversized wreathes hang over the open room, which is tastefully decorated for the season.

MaryAnn’s is open daily for dining in and, of course, “high tea.”

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Created by designer Mark Roberts, ornaments like this are collector’s items that are all made by hand. From afar, the ornament adds a shiny “pop” to the tree that catches your eye.

Up close, the attention to detail in the ornaments shows a more personal touch.

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This hand-made top hat, which takes three days to make, is an over-the-top finishing touch to your holiday tree. Designer Michael Shreves enjoys making unique pieces like this that have a way of standing out. All of the Christmas tree toppers at Enchanting Embellishments are made by hand, with a variety of styles, from dramatic to subtle and classic, timeless to modern and bold. V

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The LIKEME® Lighthouse is a LGBT Center that provides a safe and welcoming space where LGBT individuals and their families, friends and straight allies can come for education, resources and to build a cohesive LGBT community in the Midwest. We invite you to support The LIKEME® Organization as they rely on the generosity of the public to provide their funding.

For more information on donations, visit www.likemelighthouse.org.

AIDS Walk Kansas City is the primary fundraising event for the AIDS Service Foundation of Greater Kansas City, whose board distributes the money to AIDS service organizations. The AIDS Service Foundation works to raise money and awareness for organizations that provide shelter, medical care and emergency services for the more than 5,700 men, women and children in Kansas City affected by HIV/AIDS. Contributions to the AIDS Service Foundation benefit equally the Kansas City Care Clinic, SAVE Inc., Good Samaritan Project and Hope Care Center, as well as the ASF Community Fund.

You can find out how your donation will make a difference by visiting www.aidswalkkansascity.org.

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SAGE Metro St. Louis (Service & Advocacy for GLBT Elders) is an organization that strives to enhance the quality of life of LGBT older adults through service, advocacy and community awareness. ​​They offer many services that enhance the wellbeing of all older adults in the St. Louis area. By donating to SAGE Metro St. Louis, you assist them in meeting their mission through three core areas of Service, Advocacy and Community Awareness.

To donate to SAGE online, visit www.sagemetrostl.org.

for non-profits

PROMO is Missouri’s statewide organization advocating for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender equality through legislative action, electoral politics, grassroots organizing and community education. A gift to PROMO contributes to their efforts in advancing the rights of LGBT individuals through legislative action and electoral involvement.

Vist promoonline.org to better see how you can donate and get involved.

MTUG brings together the community of trans, gender queer, androgynous, intersex and their allies in the St. Louis metro area through community, visibility, advocacy and education.

Whether you are a part of another group or are wishing to find a sense of community, MTUG strives to support all individuals that fall under the “Umbrella term” of Trans.

Founded in 1985, the EFA is the city’s oldest AIDS Service Organization. EFA provides case management, free testing and screening, and conducts community outreach. There are many ways to give to the EFA, including online donations, tribute giving, naming opportunities, donating your vehicle and even hosting your own fundraiser.

Visit www.stlmetrotrans.com to see how your contribution can make a difference with MTUG.

Visit www.stlefa.org and click on “Get Involved” to get started!

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The Mid-America Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (MidAmerica GLCC) is an organization that advocates, promotes and facilitates the success of the LGBT business community and their allies through the guiding principles of equality, inclusion, economics and education. By joining the Mid-America GLCC your business will receive numerous benefits like networking at B2B Network events, NGLCC LGBT Business Certification Program and business referrals.

The Millennial League is a group of young adults of the Millennial Generation that share a common interest in promoting HIV/AIDS awareness across all ages, cultures, ethnicities and gender. The Millennial League raises funds for the awareness of HIV/AIDS by hosting its annual events.

These events are the Millennial League’s annual fundraising and awareness activity that both celebrates and promotes the group’s mission and purpose.

If you’re interested in getting involved with the organization, visit www.maglcc.org.

Check out their website at www.millennialleaguekc.com to add your donation.

We get it: it’s the holidays. And since your world is becoming consumed with end-of-year deadlines, last minute to-dos, planning holiday events and finding time to shop for everyone on your list, it can easily become the time of year that induces only stress and chaos into your life. It’s the season of constant giving and receiving, but it also can be the time for you to step back from it all for a minute and simply give back to things outside of your own element. The holiday season is a time when many charities receive a significant portion of their yearly contributions, so it’s important for you to know who to give to and how to do it. We’ve put together a list of great charities and organizations that are safe and secure for you to contribute to whenever you can take a break, relieve some stress and add a little philanthropy to your to-do list during this season of sharing.

Team Saint Louis (TSL, Inc.) hosts gay-friendly sports leagues for individuals and TSL teams of varying skill levels and coordinates the area’s delegation to the Gay Games and Cultural Festival.

With the 3rd North America OutGames being held in St. Louis in 2016, TSL can use your support! Another way to donate to TSL is to simply get involved. Are you or someone you know making a New Year’s resolution to get fit or become more active? Team Saint Louis is always looking for new athletes and participants in their events for the upcoming year.

The MCC began their ministry in St. Louis in 1973 as a progressive community of faith-seekers who worship God with authenticity and unconditional love for all. The MCC represents a very diverse and tolerant congregation, providing ministry in crisis counseling and spiritual development. Your contribution aids them in continuing their support in our community.

Visit www.mccgsl.org to donate and help get involved with the church.

Visit www.teamsaintlouis.org to get going today!

DOORWAYS is the only organization in the St. Louis area whose sole mission is to provide affordable, secure housing and related services for people living with HIV/AIDS. A taxdeductible donation of will go a long way toward helping them to provide safe, affordable housing for people living with and affected by HIV/AIDS, as well as help them open the doors to more clients.

Visit www.doorwayshousing.org for donation information.

As the largest national lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights organization, HRC envisions an America where LGBT people are ensured of their basic equal rights, and can be open, honest and safe at home, at work and in the community. Make your contribution today and join a grassroots force of more than 1.5 million members.

Visit www.hrc.org for more information on donating.

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“Can you stop? This is an important interview! It means a lot to me,” Lisa Vanderpump, star of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and its spinoff series Vanderpump Rules, has just requested her hair stylist to pause for a moment while she has this interview.

On this season of Vanderpump Rules we are introduced to Vanderpump’s latest addition to her empire: Pump, an LGBT restaurant and lounge.

“I’m going back to my roots,” she explains.

Among many other establishments, Vanderpump is the creator of a number of London based gay nightclubs, including the Shadow Lounge, The Village and Freedom. Needless to say, she had a very clear vision on what PUMP should be from the start.

“With PUMP I very much wanted a romantic feel, very neutral with taupe colors and the olive trees,

but then I wanted to the kind of beautiful eye candy with the young men in the pink shirts. I love to see the play on the word Vanderpump with the word ‘PUMP’ on the back of the shirt.”

That romantic environment has already drawn the attention of one gay couple, who had their wedding ceremony at PUMP, with Vanderpump herself officiating: “I met this couple and they just seemed perfect,” she explains.

As she goes on, it becomes clear that the seriousness of the ceremony wasn’t lost on the reality star. She is no stranger to being in high pressure situations from her experience with the heated Housewives arguments, Dancing With The Stars performances, and talk show appearances.

“I have to say, this was pressure,” Vanderpump recalls. “It wasn’t just about me screwing up and looking like a complete turkey. It was their wedding day, so I did feel the pressure in terms not wanting them to walk away and say, ‘Well that was completely bloody useless’.”

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in calling out those celebrities who are just in it for the photoopps and publicity.

This nervousness was no doubt magnified by the fact that — as often the situation in Vanderpump’s life — the cameras were rolling.

“On a serious note, because I always joke, let’s not forget 36 million people have died and 35 million people are living with HIV and AIDs,” she explains. “It’s important that every step is a step in step in remembrance — remembering that ten percent of youth in America are LGBT and remembering that 1 in 4 kids get thrown out of their house when confronting their parents about their sexuality.”

“Oh gosh! I don’t remember who was filming me. I could be filming a porn and I wouldn’t even know!” she jokes.

Vanderpump herself is a mother of three children. “To think that one in four kids are thrown out in the street,” she says, pausing.

“Housewives!” an assistant shouts from the behind.

“You can’t change your child. That’s why it’s important to have me as heterosexual spokeswoman in the gay community. I love the gay community.”

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Vanderpump is particularly excited about this season’s return to it’s glory days. Real Housewives of Beverly Hills is currently airing it’s new season on Tuesdays at 9/8 Central on Bravo.

“I think we’ve gone back to the first and second season. It’s got a great energy,” she says.

Last season saw slumped ratings due, which she attributes to the tone of the show.

“I thought last year was so negative,” she recalls. “I wanted to walk away from the show. I think everybody learned a lesson from that. This season, we bring back the bling factor and the funny factor. It’s exciting.”

Before I can follow up she adds, “You’ve seen the teaser. I even end up with a slap.”

Teaser is right. When pressed for further details, she remains tight-lipped..

“That would be me giving you the final pages of the book.

It’s cheating you!” she explains. “You have to go through and watch how that plays out. It definitely changes the dynamic for me and I was not happy about it. It was right at the end of filming, thank goodness,” Speaking of dynamics and positivity our conversations shifts back to equality and the LGBT community.

Vanderpump makes you immediately aware of how genuinely passionate the restaurateur and reality star is about the LGBT community. Although a lot of stars get away with pandering to the gay audience with vague comments on equality, Vanderpump has certainly done her homework and walks the walk. Literally.

Growing up in United Kingdom she attended drama school where she made her first gay friends at a young age.

“I was well aware that a few of my dancer friends at the school were gay. They probably didn’t know it at the time,” she adds with a laugh. “My parents brought me up in an environment to see no color and to have no prejudice. I thank them for that.

That really goes a long way in forming your opinions.”

It’s a value that Vanderpump has passed on to her children.

“I taught them, ‘You judge people. Yes, I encourage you to judge them, but judge them who they are, and on their heart and their actions,” she explains. “Not by their color or sexuality because if you do you will leave out a lot of amazing people in your life. You’ll be the loser.”

She goes on to explain, “I hate the word ‘tolerance,’ I don’t understand why we use that word. I think we should be embracing, not tolerating.

That’s how I was brought up, that’s how I brought my kids up and that’s the world I want to live in.”

“That’s my job as an advocate. That’s my job as a heterosexual woman. The gay community can stand up and scream from the rooftops but they’re preaching to the converted. I’m a heterosexual woman that says, ‘Listen up!

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“Unlike some people,” she reiterates, “who come in and make an appearance and then disappear. I walked — it is a long walk. It does take hours.”

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Did he ever return?

“He didn’t. I tweeted [about it] and the Hotel Bel Air tweeted me back. So I said ‘I wonder if he’s gone off to the Hotel Bel Air?’ and TMZ picked it up. I think maybe he was nervous because he saw us bringing a turkey to the oven.”

Are you a big Christmas decorator?

“I’m crazy! I put out loads of stuff — as much as I can. I’m passionate about it. In fact, I would love to design my own Christmas decorations.”

When is too soon to start decorating?

“I was just having this conversation with my husband. I used to start decorating on December 8th because my son’s birthday was on the 7th. I never wanted him to feel like his birthday faded into Christmas. Now that he’s not home I think I’m going to get going really early.”

How many trees do you put up?

“Three, in all different colors. One is 12 foot in the lounge.”

Favorite gift from your husband, Todd?

“I love jewelry. He’s bought me puppies over the years, but I’ve got seven dogs so I can’t have another puppy.”

Tips for Great Holiday Gifts?

“I like personal things. I’ll get a really beautiful faux throw [personalized] and I put a bottle of Vanderpump vodka in it and I’ll say ‘Snuggle Up, Keep Warm, and Get Drunk this Christmas.’ I like things that make people think you’ve gone through some effort. There are lots of places you can get things personalized and I like that.”

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DJ Androo will provide a soundtrack designed to take you back to the days of disco.

Show up in your most fabulous disco attire where they are giving out cash and other prizes for the best dressed. There will be cover and a complimentary champagne toast at midnight.

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Bistro 303 will be open from 3 p.m.-1:30 a.m. on New Years Eve. Specials include half-priced martinis and Veuve Clicquot champagne specials by the bottle and glass. A three-course pre fixe menu dinner will be served from 5 p.m.-10 p.m.

There will also be a complimentary champagne toast at midnight.

On New Year’s Day, REHAB Brunch at Bistro 303 goes from 11 a.m. until 4 p.m., featuring a Bloody Mary Bar and Bottomless Mimosas. Reservations for both events are highly suggested.

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River City Casino is The Place To Be This New Year’s Eve!

The party at Rehab features a champagne fountain, appetizer buffet, party favors and photo booth. There will be more than $1,000 in cash and prize giveaways, including a “King and Queen of Rehab” contest. DJs Alan Ray and Gdiddy will be spinning all night to bring in the New Year. And, as always, there is never a cover at Rehab.

River City’s property-wide New Year’s Eve party will have a DJ spinning in the Grand Promenade until 1 a.m., and live entertainment in the sultry Judy’s Velvet Lounge, with The Wackness playing until 1 a.m. Plus, food specials at their awardwinning restaurants and one-of-a-kind gaming excitement all night long.

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Lumiere Place is featuring New Year’s Eve dinner specials at three of its restaurants.

The Hyatt is throwing a huge bash this New Year’s Eve, featuring an incredible line-up of live music to ring in 2015, including Dr. Zhivegas, Smash Band and Tess Boyer of The Voice. An open bar, food stations, party favors, Champagne toast and balloon drop at midnight will all help make New Year’s Eve in St. Louis an “Ultimate” night to remember.

Single Tickets include an open bar, food stations, champagne toast at midnight, party favors and a balloon drop in both ballrooms. Tickets are available at www.metrotix.com for $119 each.

The Kitchen Buffet will serve New Year’s Eve dinner from 10:30 p.m.-1 a.m. The buffet will feature king crab legs, carved prime rib, peel-and-eat shrimp, and much more. The buffet is $39.99 per person.

Ozzie’s Sports Bar & Grill will serve their threecourse New Year’s Eve dinner from 10:30 p.m.-1 a.m. for $39.99 per person. The Wok at Lumiere Place features delicious Asian-fusion cuisine and will serve their four-course New Year’s Eve dinner for $44.00 per person. You can also celebrate New Year’s Day at The Kitchen Buffet for their brunch from 10 a.m.-3 p.m. for $24.99 per person.

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Dine, Play & Stay in KC Enjoy multi-course, prix fixe menus at more than 130 of the Midwest’s premier restaurants.

Stroll and shop in our vibrant neighborhoods and districts. And when it’s time to call it a night, recharge in one of KC’s top-notch hotels. Come see what all the buzz is about in Kansas City. Plan your KC dining and shopping getaway at KCRestaurantWeek.com.

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Celebrate the upcoming holidays like the ROYALS you are KC! General Manager Rick Brook and his team at Providence New American Kitchen and The Drum Room Lounge inside the Hilton President Hotel have landed the exclusive rights to offer Dom Perignon, the world’s leading high-end champagne by the glass. Retailed up to $500 per bottle, this new pouring system acquired by The Drum Room gives everyone the chance to drink in style for the reasonable price of $45 per glass.

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Executive Chef Eric Carter will serve a unique threecourse Prime Rib dinner for only $28 on both days. The award-winning bar staff at The Drum Room Lounge will also be serving up hand-crafted cocktails, featuring local liquors and fresh ingredients, beer and wine as well as appetizers. The full dinner menu and full bar will also be available.

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Great for couples, two can enjoy the featured $65 special three-course menu, which includes a Champagne toast. (Dom Perignon upgrade available!)

The full dinner menu and Drum Room cocktails will be available as well.

Providence New American Kitchen and the Drum Room Lounge are the perfect destination to celebrate this season.

Housed in the historic Hilton President Hotel, Providence pays homage to America’s history through its flavors and décor, close to all of the downtown destinations with a warm, inviting atmosphere and free valet.

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With having a strong cameo presence in the series, many influential actors join the cast throughout its 11 episodes. A St. Louis native, Van Barnes, who plays a fun transgender Internet working girl, filled one of those featured roles. She opens up about herself, her role, working with the cast and the creator, as well as what she hopes to see in future popular televisions portrayal of LGBTQ roles.

Barnes’ character in the series landed her debut in episode six. On film she is sought out by curious Jay Duplass, who is researching transgender information on the Internet after discovering his father is a woman. She further explains her role and how it relates to her in her actual life.

“The gender aspect of my character in Transparent is unapologetic, similar to me in real life,” Barnes says. “I was

able to promote that the vagina does not make the woman.”

She also had the wonderful opportunity to work at Paramount Studios both on and off of the screen. She also acted as assistant to the Set Decorator and shares nothing but positive words to express her time there.

“The whole experience was phenomenal - For an Ozark country girl to go play in the big Hollywood world, it was exhilarating and exhausting at the same time,” she explains.

Being on set with creative people who actively represent the LGBTQ community as a whole makes it a welcoming place for any actor. With her time spent, Barnes established friendships with numerous creative people.

“I got to build great relationships with so many people on different levels, and realized that we are all in the process of creating television together as a team, and that’s a gift,” Barnes says.

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show in itself that made this a great experience. As a series, Transparent is dynamic, diverse and raw which also led her to a comfortable time on set.

“Being a part of a series that highlights the LGBTQ community was special, not only in the aspect that I was celebrated for my diversity, but that I was also in a sort of protected bubble where I was not afraid of being discriminated against,” Barnes continues.

Being able to feel comfortable in a creative environment is absolutely necessary. It also helped her to be able to connect to the role she was playing on a personal level and make it relatable.

“My cameo as ‘Houston T Girl’ in Transparent was liberating!”

Barnes explains. “Thankfully, I’ve gotten to a point where I can live authentically, and don’t feel the need to be stealth or undetectable.”

She personally relates to the show as well as other transgender individuals who have had their own struggles with being comfortable both inside and out. Her success in the industry as well as personally has made her more than proud of herself - as she should be.

“Many transgender brothers and sisters have to overcome extreme adversity on many levels in order to live authentically, so I see just succeeding in life as a badge or honor,” she says.

Barnes believes that her favorite aspects of Transparent as a series are shared by many of the viewers who contributed to its success. She explains the family starring in the series and how their downfalls are the shows best qualities.

“All the characters of the Pfefferman family exhibit elements that might challenge acceptance within a typical dysfunctional family,” Barnes says.

Making this series more real and relatable to many families who aren’t the “Leave it to Beaver” types is perfect. It’s not as much about the actions on the show, but more the reactions of its characters.

She quotes the shows creator, Jill Soloway, as once saying, “The show asks the age old question, what if? Will you still love me?”

“We are to challenge the notion that the love of a family should

80% of viewers watch 2+ episodes in the same day be unconditional, this show is not solely about a transgender character – In the large scope of it, it’s about a family becoming transparent to one another,” Barnes explains.

In the eyes of the audience, she finds this aspect of unconditional love and disruption to be what she believes viewers can appreciate.

Creator Soloway has expressed how she has longed to disrupt the social norms of the pretty skinny girls to be the only sexual characters in media. This show has clearly displayed that it’s not our “typical sexy.”

Barnes elaborates on Soloway’s view, saying “Jill is a celebrated feminist, and great with challenging the model figure/ body aesthetic, she’s tends to celebrate a more realistic, down-to-earth sexy.”

This refreshing twist in events leaves the audience constantly craving more and wondering what could ever happen next. “[Soloway] reflects more of a real mirror image of our society as opposed to the perfected generations of movie and television that has been shoved at us,” Barnes continues.

Transparent is surely just the beginning in a trend of LGBTQ characters being displayed on more dynamic less stereotypical terms.

“This show is a rung on the ladder that we as a community are climbing together, there will be other shows after Transparent, which will take it a step further, until finally we will reach the top,” Barnes says.

The top, in Barnes eyes, is seeing transgender individuals being able to act in any role on mainstream popular television.

“When we are able to move on from storylines which focus on pointing out our diversity, at that point all people will be the norm,” she continues. “Where the new trend for roles will not be sexuality and gender focused.”

With the future roles being able to move away from transgender characters portrayed stereotypically, it will be a great step forward. However, the way things are being displayed now aren’t necessarily bad by any means.

“For now, these shows are important, because they help to break down barriers by educating some and liberating others,” Barnes says.

Having a lovely household with the men of her life, living in the Midwest, Barnes tends to watch “outdoor TV” and let the guys of the house guide the remote.

“I have grown to enjoy what we watch as a family,” she says. “I probably am not a good judge on mainstream television since we mainly watch man-TV.” She explains her somewhat “limited” view on the present attempts of producers tackling LGBTQ roles but explains what television is truly missing.

“It seems more and more shows are including LGBTQ characters and I hear of more Trans characters,” she explains. “But we have yet to see authentic transgender people playing lead trans parts.”

Controversy has been known to be brought up on the topic that transgender activists are angered at Hollywood for their played out and stereotypical portrayal of trans roles.

“Hopefully, we will see positive transgender roles, that aren’t stereotypical and so focused on the negative elements

of trans life, because I believe we all want diverse superhero type characters to inspire us,” Barnes says.

What inspires an audience varies, and this show has plenty to offer to touch the lives of any struggle. Barnes opened up about her dreams for her acting career and how she wishes to move away from the traditional storyline.

“My dream role would be to play a mother, with heterosexual children, whom were not effected by my being trans,” she shares. “Even potentially not being stipulated as a trans-character at all, that would be a real accomplishment.”

She left season one with great hopes for the second season. She has not yet been confirmed on any role for season two but still remains positive.

“They are still in the writing phase, and I would be considered as a staff member when the show crews up, which is still a few months away,” she explains. “I hope I will be included, but nothing is stone yet.”

Barnes explains how more shows like Transparent can be seen through getting involved with politics, reaching out to producers and being forward in a tasteful manner.

“People whom are bold enough to contact producers sometimes get jobs,” she concludes. “Especially if you are smart about it, not stalker-like. You never know when your voice will actually be heard.”

According to Amazon, success rates this past season for Transparent showed 80% of viewers watch two or more episodes in the same day, With that said, Transparent season one is currently featured on Amazon Prime and will return with a second season in 2015. V thevitalVOICE.com

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Midnight Annie’s Final Performance: A Last Farewell to Clementines Written by

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Normally the writing’s on the wall long before a bar closes, but everyone in St. Louis was blindsided by the closing of Clementines, which was the city’s oldest gay bar in operation and among the oldest in the nation. It opened as a leather bar in 1978, and then was sold to Gary Reed and his late partner Jim Briscoe in 1985.

While the original owner didn’t allow drag queens, Gary and Jim did, and had their friend Midnight Annie headline the first show. Unbeknownst to her, they billed it as “Midnight Annie’s Final Performance” to make it more of a draw.

Gary recalled Midnight Annie’s exasperation as she kept admonishing, “Would you quit telling people this is my final performance?”

She carried on there for many more years, and after she passed away Gary and Jim entombed her in the wall.

News of the bar’s closure broke on a Wednesday, with the final day to be the following Monday. Embedded there for the final days, I worked to capture the stories of the people who loved the place.

“I worked here for twenty years. It’s part of my life. It’s where I met my husband of sixteen years. I’ve never been showed anything but kindness here. Customers were always kind. It’s like Cheers, when I’m down and out there’s always someone here to lift me up. That’s the one thing that scares me to death: Where am I going to meet my friends? Where will us fading flowers go? I’m just thankful. It’s like losing a friend, but when you look back you have to be thankful.” – Josie, 52 “See the guy with the hot pink goblet? That’s Miss Davey. He’s been coming here every single day for years and they keep that goblet just for him. One day I asked Jan ‘How do I get my own goblet?’ She said ‘Well, you’ve gotta come here every day!’ I’ve asked Miss Davey to talk to you, but he’s too upset and is afraid of what he might say. Give him a little time.” – Johnny LaMar “This is Howard, he was here for the grand opening!” said Dennis, while grabbing Howard Campbell, 79, upon entering the bar.

“Go get a drink and we can talk when you get back,” I said.

“You’re giving him too much time, he might die in the next five minutes! He’s about a hundred and forty!” Dennis joked.

Several exchanged stories about Midnight Annie, including a silver fox named Tyler.

“Oh, I remember Midnight Annie. She was a trust fund baby, and when she’d get an installment, she’d blow it in no time.

Once she sauntered into a Cadillac dealership and bought TWO Cadillacs. One for her and one for her trick! That’s just how she was. God, I still remember her sitting at that bar, drunk as hell, with her lipstick going up her face and her wig on crooked. She had this trademark sound she’d make, and when she’d do it everyone around the bar would mimic it.- like a bird call.”

While the regulars bonded and commiserated Wednesday through Saturday, Sunday was the day the community at large came out to say goodbye. It felt like Mardi Gras as hundreds poured into the street, partially blocking the intersection of Allen & Menard.

When Monday night rolled around, I almost didn’t go. I’d spent all of my time there since Wednesday, and thought it would be too sad. Around 8 p.m., however, I decided I would always regret not going. I walked in, and on the glowing dry erase marquee near the pool table I wrote, “Going down with the ship.”

The bar was crowded but not overly so, with mostly regulars who’d been going there for ages. The spirits were higher than expected, and the camaraderie was simply incredible as old friends hugged, laughed and made toasts. Miss Davey, the daily regular who had his own hot pink goblet and had been too upset to be interviewed, came up and gave me a hug.

“I’m really sad, but I’m going to be okay” he said, smiling.

I was less than a foot from Gary when, in the final hours, he took the microphone, and the quiet, introverted man who’d hardly said anything over years gave a rousing farewell speech. The whole place stopped to listen and applaud. He spoke about how much the times had changed since the bar opened in 1978, and changed for the better. He spoke of the historic old brick building which was erected in the 1860’s. He said all drinks were on the house until the last bottle was dry, and then he then brought up Midnight Annie.

“I always say my only child was a seventy-five-year-old drag queen” he began, and then announced, “And she’s leaving with me. Ladies and Gentleman, next to Jan is Midnight Annie!” and I’ll be damned if he didn’t have Midnight Annie’s dusty urn, complete with the yellowed and water stained label, sitting on the bar with a cocktail! The crowd went mad with uproarious cheers and applause.

On that final evening there were people in attendance who’d come to see Midnight Annie’s final performance back in 1985.

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Playdates STL

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STLPlaydates spotlight Grinchmas

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on south grand The Grinch will be in the South Grand neighborhood with an unusual motive: to raise funds for Shriners Hospitals for Children. The Grinch will be on hand at MoKaBe’s Coffeehouse and Tower Grove Creamery. Those who bring a toy donation for the children at Shriners Hospitals for Children can get a photo taken with the Grinch for only $5.

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Annual Holiday Celebration

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With a catchy bluesy pop/ rock sound, quirky videos and a rebellious spirit, The Black Keys, who are in fact a band of just two guys, have become one of the hottest groups on the planet. The tour supports the duo’s highly anticipated new album, Turn Blue.

This black-tie dinner will feature a special performance by mezzosoprano Daniela Mack, as well as the annual holiday tradition of caroling with OTSL’s Artistsin-Residence during the cocktail hour. Proceeds for the event will benefit Opera Theatre’s nationally recognized professional training programs for emerging artists.

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Christmas at the cathedral at cathedral basilica www.cathedralconcerts.org Celebrate Christmas at the beautiful Cathedral Basilica in the Central West End. Christmas at the Cathedral concerts feature the sounds of Christmas classics performed by Archdiocesan Adult Choir, Children’s Choir, Handbell Choir and Orchestra.

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A christmas story: The musical at the fabulous fox www.fabulousfox.com

All Ralphie Parker wanted for Christmas was one thing: An Official Red Ryder Carbine-Action 200-shot Range Model Air Rifle.

We all know the story, and now A Christmas Story: The Musical incorporates both funny and heartfelt songs by Benj Pasek & Justin Paul while still capturing the holiday classic story with such wicked wit it will be sure to delight both children and grown-ups alike.

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Toys for tots drive

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Pearl Vodka and The Vital Voice invite you to kick off the holiday season with a Toys for Tots drive from 8 p.m. until 11 p.m. at Bistro 303 with music by DJ Chad Slater. U.S. Marines will be on hand to collect the toys. Your gift to Toys for Tots includes two complimentary Pearl Chocolate-Covered Cherry Vodka cocktails.

The mission of the U. S. Marine Corps Reserve Toys for Tots Program is to collect new, unwrapped toys each year and distribute those toys as Christmas gifts to less fortunate children in the community in which the campaign is conducted.

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under the streetlamp

Chris Botti

www.midlandkc.com

Smooth jazz trumpeter Chris Botti puts a new spin on classic standards and other favorites in an intimate melodic celebration. As the 2013 Grammy Award-winner for Best Pop Instrumental Album, Botti finds a form of creative expression that begins in jazz and expands beyond the limits of any single genre.

at midland theatre At one time, all four members of Under the Streetlamp were part of touring companies for Jersey Boys, but later went on to form their own group, which has been touring the country for two years performing hits from the American Radio Songbook.

Together, these four deliver an electrifying evening, highlighting a unique blend of tight harmonies and slick dance moves to your favorite Doo-Wop, Motown, and old time Rock ‘n’ Roll hits.

12/6

The Nutcracker

at the kauffman center for the perfoming arts www.kcballet.org ‘Tis the season to make memories with the perfect seasonal celebration for your family. You’ll enjoy all the spectacular sights and sounds of Clara’s magical adventures, the Mouse King battling the Toy Soldiers, dozens of stunning dancers, dazzling scenery and costumes, wondrous music played by Kansas City Symphony, and even snow falling inside the theatre.

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kinsey sicks presents oy vey in a manger

12/21

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America’s Favorite Dragapella Beautyshop Quartet, The Kinsey Sicks, return to Kansas City for one night only. The engagement will serve as a send-off performance for Irwin Keller, one of the group’s founding members. In Oh Vey In a Manger, we find the main characters trying to sell a manger – yes, that manger – before it is foreclosed upon. thevitalVOICE.com

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Th e r e’ s n o t h i n g l ike m aking u p for lost t im e , a n d w h e n Hollywood execu tive J osh S a b a rra f i n ally lost his vir ginity at 3 1, h e h it the grou nd r u nning.

In his candid, poignant and scandalous new memoir, Sabarra takes readers along for a Hollywood thrill-ride through his journey from shamed to shameless. Traumatized in early childhood by teachers, camp counselors and peers who chastised him for being different, Sabarra suppressed his sexuality, instead focusing on academic and professional success. Seeing early on how the world reviled him for who he was, he went to desperate lengths to ensure his family never knew his secret.

Sabarra holds nothing back when detailing his struggle with self-esteem issues, OCD, an eating disorder and a plastic surgery addiction that left part of his lip numb.

When he came out at 31, he forever put shamerelated secrets in his past. After decades of anxiety fearing his family would reject him, Sabarra now calls his Jewish mother with every sordid detail of his adventurous sex life, which has included hustlers, porn stars, the rich and famous, and a toe-sucking fetishist. He even takes his parents along when shopping for porn.

The gay best friend to Rikki Lake and other female celebrities, Sabarra discovers how empty and disposable such friendships usually are and, now 40 years old, finally finds himself. He opened up to discuss his journey, the reaction he’s received and what’s next.

While reliving the most raw and traumatic parts of your childhood for this book, were there times it got to be too emotionally draining? If so, how did you deal with that?

Much of the writing process was exhausting emotionally, more so than I expected. Revisiting the darker years — including the suicide of a close friend and my time in grade school — was particularly difficult. In the end, though, it was cathartic to put a narrative to my experiences. It helped me to understand myself and my worldview, and now I feel ready to move into “Act 2” of my life with a healthier, more authentic sensibility.

Some names were changed, but Ricki Lake’s was not.

What’s the back-story? And how did she respond to your account of events?

Some of my friendships were very public, so I stayed true and honest about those relationships. I actually look

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favorably on my friendship with Ricki because, had she not come into my life, I don’t know how long it would have taken me to figure out my personal boundaries.

What are some of the notable reactions from others mentioned or alluded to?

The reaction to my book has been very positive. People seem to have appreciated the honesty and candor, even when they found themselves in the pages. It has been really satisfying in that way; everything is out in the open.

Regarding social media, you discussed how glamorous your friends found your photos, when in reality the events were often lonely and uncomfortable. Having been in Hollywood before the rise of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, would you say the events used to be more enjoyable?

I think social media is a fantastic tool that has given many wonderful people a louder voice — and it has certainly served the Hollywood marketing machine well. That said, I believe everyone enjoyed the times when they didn’t have to worry about their picture being snapped by a camera phone and broadcast to people across the world.

Can you see yourself leaving Los Angeles in the next decade, and if so, what cities would be on your short list?

I love Los Angeles, but I could definitely see myself living in New York City and perhaps retire to New England. I love Massachusetts and Maine!

Sexually, you’ve really made up for lost time and have had some mind-blowing rendezvous.

Do you think you could be satisfied settling into a predictable routine with your next man, or do you expect to keep up the pace?

My dream is to find a healthy, monogamous relationship!

Remember, I had a delayed adolescence — so the sexual exploration was to be expected, albeit a little late.

I should have tried it all at 20!

I was amused by your devastating critique of Burlesque. Do you think Alan Cumming would’ve kicked you out of bed for saying such things?

One of the best reasons to stay in bed is to watch campy movies like Burlesque. It certainly won’t be screening at the American Film Institute anytime soon. V thevitalVOICE.com

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This November & December the Southern Comfort team invaded The Grove for SoCo Lime Time stopping by all the hottest LGBT establishments including Just John & Rehab!

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