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From the moment we begin listening to your vision, to the ‘thank you’ of the last guest, Butler’s Pantry is committed to planning and executing an unforgettable wedding in a distinctive setting. Our sales directors, managers, culinary team & event staff sincerely enjoy working together to ensure you can be a guest on your Big Day! IT’S YOU R VI S ION...IT’S OU R PAS S ION!

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Yigit Pura

EASTSIDE STORY

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KIT AND JOHN GIRL WEDS GIRL

ASHLEY AND SARAH STAG NIGHT SURVIVAL GUIDE BRIDES GONE STYLED

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ROBERT VERDI SCENE

ST. LOUIS AND KANSAS CITY PLAYDATES

ST. LOUIS AND KANSAS CITY LAST CALL

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THE TOP CHEF: JUST DESSERTS WINNER SHARES HIS SECRETS ON SWEETENING YOUR SPECIAL DAY. thevitalVOICE.com

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PUBLISHER LETTER

JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN, SHOULD YOU? Welcome to our annual LGBT Wedding Issue. It is with pride and excitement that finally we can all legally get married now. Three years ago when we first published our LGBT Wedding Issue, legal marriage was only a hope and a dream. Today, we are seeing a flood of committed couples jumping the broom to be able to live their own truth. From an economic perspective, we as a community are seeing many new companies reach out to us to share and support in our special day.

Let’s face it, his confections are to die for and he’s not too hard on the eyes.

In this year’s Wedding Guide we have tried to present a variety of local and regional companies that are ready to stand up with you and provide you with the best quality of service. Each year we try to expand and grow the Wedding Guide so that you will be in the know of who will be there for you as you begin your new lives together.

We also want to remind all of our community that just because you now can get married, should you? Marriage does not guarantee you will be together forever, it’s only a legal document. It takes love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship and faith in your relationship to make it last. V

We were excited to chat with Yigit Pura from Top Chef: Just Desserts to garner you some fresh new ideas on selecting the perfect wedding cake or dessert to spice up your event.

This month we also are excited to introduce two new writers to the Vital VOICE roster: Kaleigh Jurgensmeyer, who interviewed Robert Verdi on how to get that runway look to strut down the isle. Also, Tyler Bierman gives us some fresh ideas on today’s modern Bachelor/ Bachelorette parties.

Darin Slyman CEO/Partner

Jimmy Lesch Publisher/Partner

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Need Health Insurance? We’ve got you covered! Planned Parenthood offers free one-on-one assistance with a qualified expert who will answer your health insurance questions and guide you through the process. Get enrolled in health insurance between November 1st and January 31st. Financial assistance is avaliable for those who qualify. For almost 100 years, Planned Parenthood has been providing confidential, expert women’s health care. That’s not changing. Whether you have insurance or not, you can still come to us for the care you need, when you need it. Visit www.CoveredNoMatterWhat.com or call 314-531-7526 for more information or to make an appointment. 8

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WEDDINGS • CEREMONIES • REHEARSAL DINNERS CES & JUDY’S CATERING at LE CHATEAU | 10405 CLAYTON ROAD | ST LOUIS, MO 63131 WWW.CESANDJUDYS.COM | 314-991-6700 thevitalVOICE.com

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Cherokee Nights Nov 12 & Dec 10 South St. Louis has been renovating itself over the past decade and the Cherokee Street neighborhood never fails to show our fair city a great time. Cherokee Nights, held on the second Thursday of each month, gives us the opportunity to explore the nooks and crannies of this eclectic neighborhood, with most of the local establishments being open for special extended hours. Features on Cherokee Nights include local art, live music, food, buskers and other unique forms of entertainment. Grab a coffee or a craft beer and wander in and out of antique and urban shops.

More information at historicstcharles.com

St. Louis Union Station Nov 21

Open Mid Nov & Dec

More information at steinbergskatingrink.com and hiddenvalleyski.com

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Winter Athletics If it’s the crisp winter air you’re seeking, there are two places available for the young at heart: Steinberg Skating Rink and Hidden Valley Ski Resort. Steinberg is the largest outdoor ice skating rink in the Midwest and offers public skating all day, everyday-including all holidays. Hidden Valley offers a host of snow-ridden activities from skiing to tubing, for the novice to experienced. Hidden Valley makes their own snow, so you can go there most all winter long regardless of the city’s actual snowfall. Plus, it’s a lot closer than Colorado.

More information at thirddegreeglassfactory.com/thirdfridays

More information at christmasinstlouis.org

Opens Saturday, Nov 21

More information at missouribotanicalgarden.org

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Third Fridays Nov 20

Join Mayor Slay in kicking off the holiday season at this historical festival. The event boasts a music festival, a variety of mascots and the Salvation Army Tree of Lights lighting ceremony across the street from Union Station in Aloe Plaza. Mayor Slay will light the tree along with the massive fireworks display at dusk. Enjoy food trucks around the plaza and an appearance from Santa who arrives by train.

Garden Glow Calling all Botanical Garden lovers! This third annual event features more than a million twinkling lights surrounding visitors with unique installations blending some of the Garden’s most famous locations. Enjoy traditional holiday music and festivities, great food and drinks and interactive photo opportunities for that unique holiday card you’ve been dreaming of sending out. This is the Botanical Garden Winter Wonderland!

More information at cherokeestreetnews.org/cherokee-nights

Listen to live music and enjoy great food from local caterers and food trucks while you discover local artists and make your own glass art. Every third Friday from 6-10 p.m. enjoy free glassblowing and bead making demonstrations, take a class and check out exhibits. You can even shop for unique glass art created by the Third Degree Glass artists themselves. Whether looking for a unique date night or solo excursion, this is the perfect way to switch things up.

St. Charles Christmas Traditions Nov 27 - Dec 24 Step back to a time when life was simpler and Christmas wasn’t so commercialized. St. Charles Christmas Traditions invites you to experience the yuletide cheer by soaking in the sights, sounds and smells of the old-time holiday season. The streets are turned back in time with storybook characters coming to life and roaming the streets to guide you through a place where Christmas past and present come together. Shops and restaurants line the streets for all of your cravings and gift ideas. If you love Christmas, this is the place to experience it.

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Leaves are changing and wardrobes are in full scarf and hoodie mode; like it or not, winter iscoming. The next eight weeks are some of the last available before the season of snow and hibernation begins. These are our suggestions to get out and get in the holiday mood while still enjoying what’s left of the great outdoors! Bring on good friends and toasty bonfires.

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‘TIS THE SEASON FOR ST. LOUIS HOLIDAY FUN!

Budweiser Brewery Tour: Holiday Lights Thurs-Sun, 6-9 p.m

Ameren Missouri sponsors this annual parade that features colorful floats, bands, storybook characters, carriages, equestrian units and Santa Claus as it winds through downtown St. Louis to kick off the holiday season. Parade begins at 8:45 a.m. and is fun for the whole family.

For the 30th year in a row, our iconic brewery transforms the historic property into a land of lights and holiday spirit. The towering redbrick buildings are covered in thousands of lights and can be enjoyed through a self-guided walking tour starting at the tour center. For guests 21 and older, beer sampling is always available at no charge. For added enchantment, try out the S’mores Station, cozy fire pits for roasting s’mores (s’mores kits $2.50 each) or rent a larger fire pit for a more private experience with seating for eight people and wait staff service (Three hours, $75).

More information at christmasinstlouis.org

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NEW BEGINNINGS START AT HILTON. Experience and Excellence....let our sales team assist with making your special day extraordinary and seamless. Our newly renovated boutique Hilton hotel is centrally located in downtown. The Hilton St. Louis Downtown at the Arch can assist you with your wedding guest room block needs, rehearsal dinners, after parties and wedding brunches. Please call our sales oﬃce for rates and availability. Call our sales oﬃce at 314-436-0002 or visit stlouisdowntown.hilton.com

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WEDDING GUIDE

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WEDDING GUIDE Butler’s Pantry butlerspantry.com | 1414 Park Ave. St. Louis, MO 63104 | (314) 664-7680 For 50 years, Butler’s Pantry has been committed to excellence in cuisine, service and overall event experience. They take pride in treating each client like they are their only, and in listening to the client’s vision in hopes of not only meeting, but exceeding expectations. At the end of the day, it is their goal to ensure you are a guest at EVERY one of your events. After all, it’s your table…it’s their passion.

The beauty of their business is that they are constantly creating custom, inspired menus for their clients. Thus, the signature dishes at Butler’s Pantry are really whatever may be meaningful and “signature” to each of their clients. The culinary team is incredibly talented, and they produce everything from simple and elegant dinner buffets, to extravagant six course meals, to imaginative and interactive food stations, to delectable desserts, and just about anything in between.

THE MENU

The Butler’s Pantry Touch

Every single event is treated as if it’s their only. You will create relationships with their Sales Managers & Directors and their Culinary Crew works hand in hand with Sales to ensure menus are thoughtfully laid out and executed exceptionally. Their Operations Team makes sure that each event is set up and packed for success. Their Event Staff, led by a seasoned Service Captain, is then on site to ensure expectations aren’t only met, but exceed. And their Design Studio is available to brainstorm and plan for every and any unique touch you can think of.

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While they offer packages at various price points at each of their venues, they really love creating custom, inspired menus/ packages for their clients. They love adapting to a client’s wants and needs, and can provide as much or as little as each client desires. The heart of their business is food, beverage and unparalleled service. They also rely on the Butler’s Pantry Design Studio to bring design inspiration to the table, be it plating technique, linen selection, table scape direction, florals or otherwise.

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WEDDING GUIDE Center For Reproductive Medicine and Robotic Surgery gofertility.com | 522 N New Ballas Rd #206 St. Louis, MO 63141 | (314) 473-1285 The Center goes by the motto, “Where everyone has a chance to start a family,” around their offices. Dr. Jacob is a certified Robotic Surgeon who is able to correct underlying medical conditions that allow couples to continue on the path of having a family. Dr. Jacob has created a custom protocol to give each patient the best chance of becoming a parent.

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CRMRS works with insurance companies to utilize any insurance benefits available for the diagnostic testing and fertility treatments. They offer everything including Follicle Tracking, IUI (Artificial Inseminations) Cycles, IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) Cycles, as well as donor and surrogacy programs.

THE CRMRS TOUCH Their small center is like a family. If someone walks in the door and they are not recognized, it is because it is their initial consultation. By the second time a patient comes in, everyone from the doctor to the medical staff to the office manager is able to greet them by name at first glance. The staff is happy to spend the time answering questions, explain potential insurance benefits and provide on overview of what to expect. They are proud of being able to share in the moment with the patient, whether it’s holding their hand or even crying with them. The ultimate personal touch is that they are known to make baby blankets at home, which really shows how personally connected they are to their patients.

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THUNDER FROM DOWN UNDER

Chiseled bodies, seductive dance routines, cheeky humor and boy-next-door charm that you won’t be able to resist! This isn’t the type of show you just sit and watch—Thunder is a fully interactive experience. Don’t miss your chance to get up close and personal with these Aussie hunks!

Wednesday, November 25 • 6:30 PM & 9:30 PM Tickets $20 – $45 • Show open to men and women!

888.578.7289 | rivercity.com

For tickets, visit RiverCity.com, Ticketmaster.com or call 800.745.3000.

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WEDDING GUIDE Ces & Judy’S Catering cesandjudys.com | 10405 Clayton Road St. Louis MO 63131 | (314) 991-6700 Ces & Judy’s Catering has been creating dazzling and delicious events and cuisine for almost 40 years. Their newly renovated ballroom, Le Chateau, is the perfect place for hosting ceremonies, wedding receptions and even rehearsal dinners. Their ceremonies are held in the Round Room, which has a fireplace and balcony that helps set the ambiance for a romantic ceremony and/or cocktail reception. The main ballroom has a spacious area for guests, surrounded by scenic windows and a beautiful mantle to use as a backdrop to your sweetheart table.

Ces & Judy’s always matches the menu to each individual client. Whether it be traditional French, Indian or good oldfashioned comfort food, they take great pride in tailoring the menu to suit your particular needs. Their catering managers take the time to meet with each couple and really get to know them during their scheduled complimentary tasting. Head Chef Mary Noble creates unique and delicious menus that meet the budget and taste buds of each client. There are also a variety of vegetarian dinner plates as well. Wedding Package: While Ces & Judy’s can provide many types of custom menus and packages, their standard wedding packages are fully-inclusive, which is a little different from other catering companies. Each package includes: Served or Buffet dinner, fourhour bar package, permanent dance floor, private use of their newly renovated ballrooms, full-service by uniformed service staff, complimentary cake cutting, tables and chairs, and your choice of black or ivory linens.

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The staff always goes above and beyond in customer service. In addition, having a dedicated manager that is with the couple from the very first interaction through the wedding day streamlines the planning process, leading to less stress. Each couple has a complimentary tasting, which includes a customized menu with your wedding colors. Whether it is utilizing local ingredients, dazzling guests with a flashy flambé station, or mimicking Grandma’s favorites, they love to think out of the box to create what is important to the couple and their families to make the perfect event. Booking: Book anywhere from three months to three years in advance. For peak seasons or

Saturdays, they recommend the earlier, the better.

Remember what this day is about, the two of you! Working with great vendors that will take your ideas, personalities and favorite memories can transport your guests to a one-of-a-kind event that truly reflects who you are, and the reason everyone has gathered together. With every wedding, there are opportunities to let the story and personalities of the couple shine through, and the team at Ces & Judy’s loves being there to help choreograph such an important day in their lives.

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WEDDING GUIDE MARTA PAPA consideringdivorce.com | 7101 Delmar Blvd. University City, MO 63130 | (314) 862-0202 Now that we have won the long-fought battle to be able to “officially” marry, Vital VOICE asked St. Louis Family Law Attorney, Marta J. Papa, how does this change anything other than our commitment to each other? Marta is an expert on the subject, and she explains how, yes, it does significantly change some of your rights and responsibilities toward each other. Probably the most important changes involve rights around property and health care issues. Check out the list below for all of Marta’s tips.

PROPERTY TIPS

• You can transfer property (including money) to your spouse without any gift or estate tax. • You have the right to inherit from your spouse, should something happen to them. This eliminates the nightmare of your partner’s family swooping in and claiming rights to your partner’s assets. • You each begin “joint ownership” of everything you purchase or acquire after the marriage. For instance, you each own 50% of all the money you earn after you marry, or anything you buy. • Likewise, you each begin joint ownership of everything you save after marrying. So you each begin a 50 percent ownership of each others’ retirement, 401(k), IRA, etc. It is all considered “marital property.” • You also begin joint ownership of your home and any other real estate you purchase after the marriage.

HEALTH TIPS

• You can cover your spouse as a dependent on your health insurance policy. • You have the right to visit and get information about your spouse, if he or she is in the hospital. You are now considered a family member. • You have the right to make medical decisions concerning your partner, which supersedes his or her biological family’s decision. • You also have the option to make final arrangements for your partner.

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MARTA’S TIPS “I’ll end with mentioning your right to file joint tax returns, both in the State and Federal system,” Marta says. “The inability to file joint Federal tax returns has been a big inconvenience for many married same-sex couples, so we are glad that issue has been resolved.” Marta’s law firm is hosting a “LBGT Happy Hour” on Monday, November 16, 2015 at Sub Zero Vodka Bar from 6:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. to share more information about your rights as a married couple and answer all your questions. Space is limited so reserve your spot today

by calling 314-862-0202. The cost is $25 per person.

WEDDING GUIDE Lumen Event Space/The Caramel Room lumenstl.com | 2201 Locust St. | St. Louis, MO 63103 | (314) 615-2480 23 City Blocks Catering’s Executive Chef Nicholas Miller crafts from the freshest local ingredients, presenting plates with artistic flair. The Caramel Room and Lumen Private Event Space’s team assures that you and your guests are impressed at every bite. Catering has never tasted so pretty. Lumen’s modern style, premium service and contemporary flair just stepped up the game! New silver chiavari chairs, stainless steel bar with chandeliers, updated hardwood floors are just the beginning. No worries though, guests still awe over floor-to-ceiling windows and a state-of-the–art LED lighting system.

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Lumen is a full service catering venue. They provide bar, linens, culinary and much more! Both locations have a house sound system for cocktail hour and more! Both venues also offer a range of menu options from gourmet to cozy-comfort options. Amazing culinary is what they are most known for, and each menu can be customized to each wedding. Recommended booking a year or more out for Saturday dates.

The Caramel Room

The Caramel Room at Bissinger’s blends equal amounts of chic and sweet at St. Louis’ newest wedding venue. Beaming natural light, hardwood floors, an outdoor terrace featuring river and skyline views and chocolateinfused culinary adventures, all encompassed within a working chocolate factory, give a feeling of an intimacy and magic to a wedding of any size.

Focus on your style and your personalities. Every aspect of a couple can be incorporated into the menu, bar, design and layout of the wedding. Lean on your event manager— they’re a wealth of knowledge from what works and doesn’t to recommendations on amazing vendors. After all, they’re here to help— they love what they do and love sharing their years of experience.

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WEDDING GUIDE Orlando’s Conference Center orlandogardens.com South County | 4300 Hoffmeister Ave. St. Louis, MO 63125 | (314) 638-6660 Maryland Heights | 2050 Dorsett Village Plaza Maryland Heights, MO 63043 | (314) 453-9000 Orlando’s is a 48-year-old family owned business that consists of Orlando’s Event and Conference Centers, Orlando’s Catering and The Lodge at Grant’s Trail Bed and Breakfast, which can accommodate smaller events from 25-75 guests. They can accommodate in their facilities events ranging from 50 to 800 guests. Their off premise catering (Catering by Orlando’s) can help you find a venue and they take care of the food, bar and rentals.

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Details are a huge part of every event, and Orlando’s takes care of them all including setting up items you may wish to bring as favors or decorations. They are very flexible in the items they allow to be brought in as well. All weddings are unique in that everyone wants something different, and they should! In your initial consultation, Orlando’s will strive to make sure they cover everything that you desire and

Orlando’s can provide buffet style, seated dinners, station cooking and hors d’oeuvres style menus. All of the packages in their own facilities include room rental and open bar for four hours. They can also assist you in contacting multiple entertainment vendors including bands and DJs. Their menus range from very traditional to gourmet. For booking, Orlando’s recommends 8-18 months for prime months such as May, June, September and October.

HAVE FUN! This is a party you are throwing and it should be a fun, happy and stress free occasion. And that’s exactly what Orlando’s delivers. Before choosing a reception venue or caterer, please look into their reviews on the bridal websites like mywedding. com, theknot.com, pwg.com and many others. Yelp is also a good source for reviews. Ask around for referrals from people you know have used venues and caterers as well!

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WEDDING GUIDE Perfect Wedding Guide perfectweddingguide.com Your ultimate St. Louis Wedding Guide provides vendors with more avenues to reach brides through print, Internet, leads, bridal shows and networking. Follow them on Facebook to learn what are the hottest wedding trends, the best vendors in the St. Louis and Metro East area, the things you need to know when planning your wedding and the most awesome giveaways! Looking for something specific? They would love to help! Let them cater to you and help you plan the wedding of your dreams.

Services Perfect Wedding Guide is the nation’s #1 local resource for brides. They connect brides to businesses every day. They understand how exciting, yet challenging, planning a wedding can be, but their fun, useful, and FREE products, tips and trends help make wedding planning less of a chore and more of a treat!

Perfect wedding guide’s tips

No matter how far in the future your wedding is, whether two months or two years, the place to start is with your budget. Most of the stress that couples encounter regarding their wedding has to do with overspending. A short round of budget planning will help you avoid that stress. Remember, it is important to figure out not only what you want to spend overall on your wedding, but also how you want that money spent.

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Bridal Shows are a great way to meet lots of wedding professionals in every category all at one time. Look for a list of vendors prior to the show so you can decide whom you absolutely want to meet, and make sure to give them your information and request a follow-up meeting. Also, don’t forget a camera! Photos are a great way to trigger your memory about things that interested you, and you will capture some great memories from planning your wedding.

WEDDING GUIDE Sub Zero Vodka bar subzerovodkabar.com | 308 N Euclid Ave. St. Louis, MO 63108 | (314) 367-1200 Sub Zero Vodka Bar boasts the largest selection of vodka in the country, located in the heart of the Central West End. They offer a large sushi menu, with fresh fish delivered daily. For those who arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t sushi fans, Sub Zero also has an award-winning modern american burger menu. Their private event rooms can seat up to 40 guests, and provide a unique, VIP lounge experience for you and your guests.

THE SUBZERO TOUCH They offer customized menu and bar options for each couple, based on your taste and preferences. Couples will work with their in-house event coordinator to create the perfect celebration! Catering options are available as well. For a special touch, they can also create a signature cocktail created just for your wedding day as a great way to toast to your new life together!

Book SUB ZERO They always encourage booking early to get your preferred date. Sub Zero accepts private room reservations up to 48 hours in advance, subject to availability.

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s ’ t e e r c u a s c e h t n e i S Who gets the last bite? Oops, too late. That’s what happens when this level of culinary wizardry is right in your own backyard. From Palermo to Puerto Rico, the globe is well represented, as is our homegrown comfort food, from flash-fried spinach to fried green tomatoes. Find out why The Advocate called us “…the LGBT beacon of the Midwest.” Check out our impressive packages at explorestlouis.com/LGBT

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it Williamson and John Halbach may not play lovers on the LGBT web series, Eastsiders, but they are more than inseparable off screen. In fact, they are engaged to be married. When Williamson and Halbach first met on March 11, 2007, it was truly love at first sight; a magical day they will never forget. “I was bartending at a theatre district hang out in New York, and Kit was in a show on Broadway with my friend Christy Pusz,” Halbach says. “They had a party at the bar where I was working, and Kit and I made some enchanted evening eye contact with each other from across the crowded room. Christy picked up on this and she came up to both of us individually and said, ‘You know, Kit’s single and not crazy,’ and ‘John’s single and not crazy,’ and just walked away and left it at that. We ended up chatting and he ended up staying the whole night while I counted out my drawer and closed down the bar. We’ve been together ever since.” News of the couple’s engagement was announced this past April, and they are shooting for the wedding date to be February of next year in Palm Springs. Vital VOICE caught up with the duo to chat about their engagement and wedding plans, in addition to the success and working together on Eastsiders, which can be streamed through Logo TV’s website. In short, the show is a dark comedy about a gay couple living in Silver Lake (LA) trying to stay together through infidelity, substance abuse and double standards. The show is currently in its second season So Kit, what was your inspiration for the show? KW: I was really inspired by the neighborhood and the lives of a lot of my friends and wanted to see broad, messed up characters that just so happen to be gay; potentially their own stories. How has the second season been going so far? JH: This season has been a long time coming. We’ve been working on it for about a year and a half now and we’ve had so many people helping us along the way. From our crew to our cast, it’s been really gratifying to finally get it out there and have people see it and to see them responding and supporting it. Is this the first show you two have worked on together? KW: Actually, no. We had produced a short film together that never saw the light of day and never will [laughs]. John has always been really supportive of all the projects that I’ve tried to get off the ground and failed to. This is definitely the first one we’ve seen through to a successful release like this.

What direction do you hope to see the show headed in? KW: Gosh, I don’t know. We’re just taking it one step at a time and trying to get through the release of season two. We come out on other digital platforms and DVD in November, so we’ll reassess to see if it won’t destroy our relationship to do another season. JH: There was such growth between season one and two, I can’t help but think that if we got to make another season, there would be more leaps and bounds made. The quality and places would get to take the show would be really exciting. It would be awesome to make more. Let’s move on to your engagement – Who proposed to whom and how did it happen? KW: John proposed to me. It was my first day moving back to New York. He had come a few months earlier to start a job out here and I came and met him and it was snowing outside and he met me at the door with champagne. I came upstairs and the whole apartment was filled with candles and a light up sign that said, “Will you marry me?” I said yes and screamed a bunch. When was the moment you realized you loved each other? JH: I think for me it was the first time he really spent time with my family. We’ve been dating for a couple of months and I was doing the show Summer Stock in Long Island, and my parents and sister came out to see it and he was there that weekend. That was really the first time he was with my family and I think that was the weekend I really fell in love. KW: Yea, for me it was the same. It was kind of like in the aftershock of meeting the family and spending the weekend together. We were laying in bed at night and talking about the weekend, and I honestly can’t remember being that kind of happy and scared before. You always wanted the way you feel reciprocated. We both kind of mumbled some version of “I love you, I sort of love you, too,” and that was kind of that. What is your dream wedding? KW: Gosh, you know it’s funny, I never grew up picturing a wedding. I always grew up picturing a person and no matter what our wedding is, it will be my dream wedding because I’ve fallen in love with my dream guy. What is one thing that every same sex wedding should have?

JH: We also acted in a production of A Midsummer’s Night Dream together the first year we met. I played Francis Flute and he was the Wall [laughs].

JH: Two people who love each other is always good. I also think every wedding should have a good photographer. If there aren’t photos, it didn’t happen.

Kit, you cast John as a straight character. Why didn’t you cast him as your boyfriend?

And what is one thing that every same sex wedding should never have?

KW: I thought that people would assume the story was autobiographical if we played each other’s boyfriend. I also think that the character, Ian, is perfect for John and I wrote it with him in mind. I’m sure he could play Thom because he’s a wonderful actor, but I always wanted to see him play the nice guy who has his hands full with his girlfriend.

KW: I would say, there’s this pressure or obligation to be anything other than a commitment ceremony between two people. You know, it’s for the people getting married, an opportunity for them to come together to share their love with their friends and family. I don’t think it needs to be anything other than that. Whatever it means to the couple is what it should be.

John, is it hard to play straight?

JH: Yea, I agree. I feel like so often times with weddings, you hear stories of parents and friends and bridesmaids and groomsmen taking thing over. It should be all about something great for your friends and family, but something the couple thinks is great too.

JH: [Laughs] There is a certain amount of weird pressure I feel, flashing back to middle school having fears that people would know that I was gay. There’s some small voice in my head that says that. Aside from that, it’s great playing straight.

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True or false? It all comes down to the wedding cake. The flowers may fade, the DJ may bomb, who knows, that crazy ex-boyfriend may publicly object to the entire thing. But as long as the food is good, the event is worth your while, right? Many would answer true, and pastry chef Yigit Pura would likely be one of them. In case you were confused, ‘Yigit’ rhymes with ‘sweet,’ and he’s a master at creating such things. After winning Top Chef: Just Desserts in 2010, Pura opened up his own patisserie in San Francisco, Tout Sweet. It features some on his most beloved treats that he shares with the world, each one special and unique in its own right. And with the success of his book, Sweet Alchemy, you’re able to bring those sought-after recipes into your own home. Whether you are looking for something tasty to add to your special day, or need tips to create the wedding cake that is utterly you, Yigit has an answer and recommendation for it all. When it comes to sweet treats, Yigit is ‘Pura’ genius.

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hat big things do you have planned for the upcoming holiday season? I try to live week-to-week. As a business owner, you have to be organic because opportunities constantly come, things always grow, and so we take it one day at a time. Holidays are usually very, very busy for us. People are always celebrating, and thankfully, fall and winter are times when people really embrace eating sweets (I embrace it year-round personally). So basically from November 1 to the end of the year, my staff knows it’s time to buckle down and work hard.

Being the winner of Top Chef: Just Desserts clearly affect your career in a positive way? Would you ever do a reality show again? No. It was definitely and amazing experience, and I never even applied to be on the show. Ironically, I’ve never owned a television in my adult life, and I still don’t. I did [Top Chef] because not only was it a good opportunity, but it was a huge challenge for me professionally. It was a personal and mental challenge too. It’s one of those things that, I did it, it was fun, it was challenging; I came out on top – literally – and it’s checked off the bucket list.

What does your dream wedding look like? Fifteen of my closest people, fifteen of his closest people, in some nice, deserted beach in Maui, with my dog, Maui, and something that’s really simple, delicious and just elegant. Something that’s not fluffy or over-the-top. Just something that really celebrates two people; I think that’s what it should really be about. When it comes to weddings, do you see any current trends with Wedding cakes?

You’re known as quirky, fun and crazy. How does this translate in the kitchen and in your desserts?

People are definitely into the ombre cakes, where there is this succession of color throughout the What are your thoughts of other baking shows? cake. I think it’s beautiful, but I always encourage people to not follow trends. If you’ve been around I do watch some cooking shows, but there for 20 plus years then you probably have your are parts of [them] that kind of disappoint own taste, so really do what makes you happy. and aggravate me sometimes. I do think that television is a huge part of peoples lives now, and I do enjoy doing television and have done it since What is your personal favorite type of cake? [Top Chef]. But as far as reality shows, while it’s fun to make a show that gets people involved and Gosh, that’s a really hard one to pick. Seasonally, thinking, I think sometimes, because of the need when it comes to summer I just crave fruitcakes, of networks, people sacrifice some professional cakes with peaches or strawberries. And in fall quality for drama, and that is something I have a time, I definitely lean toward heavier kinds like problem with. caramels and chocolates, because fruit is not so abundant. And during wintertime I go for With your book, Sweet Alchemy, were you super cozy things that are very rich and creamy worried about giving away some of your choice and fatty. But I think that’s also how your body secrets? responds to the season, so that’s how my taste palette goes. Not at all. One of my first chefs used to tell me (because I used to ask her the same question) How do you stay in shape by being surrounded and she said that the original recipe is like the by so many sweets? original sin: there are people who can date back to it, but no one really knows and at this point, I’ll put it to you this way: a friend of mine works no one really cares. So to me, did I invent the for Jawbone, and last fall season she gave me one French macaroon? No. Do I like to think that I of their fitness bands. I was reporting it with my do an excellent job at it? I’d like to think so. And staff and over the month of December, which is when it comes to my kids, when they work with obviously our busiest month, it said something me, whether for a year or two or three years, I tell that I walked on average somewhere between 13 them that whatever they make with me is theirs and 16 miles in the kitchen, just being at work. It to take. That’s a part of this “culinary heritage” definitely keeps me on my toes. I think – you have to teach the next generation how to be great chefs, not just through recipes You know they say to never trust a skinny chef. but also through technique and good, hard work How do you respond? ethic. I don’t think recipes should be hoarded, they should be shared. Well, Kate Moss also said “nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” She doesn’t know jack shit, and You were clearly a catch on Millionaire people shouldn’t assume anything. Matchmaker. How has your dating life been since then? What’s your favorite junk food?

I’ll tell you when I hire a new staff, whether it’s someone that I am mentoring, a sous chef or at any level, what I tell everyone is we have a lot of fun in my kitchen. For creative people, it is important to work in an environment that is comfortable and inviting, otherwise you get stifled. So in my place, it was important to create a place where people can flourish. I always tell my staff that, when someone comes in, it doesn’t matter if you’re cooking for one person or a thousand people, our commitment to making each bite [perfect] is still the same, and that’s important.

On pause – let’s put it that way. I’m kind of in a place right now where [my business] is really what I want to focus on. Now, if the perfect man of my dreams came along, certainly I would be open to it. I think being on this planet 35 cycles around the sun, I’m definitely more in tune with myself and who I am and what I want, so certainly if that came along I would be open to it. I think, just like everyone else, I’m not the type of person who goes out looking for love or looking for that perfect person. Thankfully, I’m blessed with a lot of awesome people in my life, and with people that keep me on my toes.

When and how did you know that you wanted to bake and create desserts? Since I was about four years old. My mom was a great baker and was always in the kitchen making candies and desserts and cakes and things, and I was constantly following her like a little rug rat, begging to lick the bottom of the bowl. But my mom was very traditionally Turkish, so she thought that boys shouldn’t be bakers; she thought it was a woman’s profession. But, being a gay man, when someone tells you that you can’t do something, you go and do it twice a well, right? Tell us about Tout Sweet Patisserie. What makes that place home for you? Besides the fact that I spend about 16 hours a day here? This is something that I’ve always wanted to do since I started doing pastry at age 19. You definitely get molded by the people who mentor you. Having worked at placed like Daniel and The Four Seasons in New York, both very high-caliber kitchens, and also being a California guy at heart, I really wanted to marry French technique and high-caliber food, and really make it fun. I think that we forget sometimes that eating is supposed to be fun. The fact that people go out to eat is because they want to have fun. To me, as a chef, my job is to create really innovative and delicious food that people can relate to.

Oh god, I love junk food. And you know, every great chef that I know has their own specific group of junk food that they binge out on. It’s kind of like therapy, actually. After creating really elaborate foods you just want your brain to shut off. One of my favorite junk food combos is a big bag of almond M&Ms and a really good beer. That could be my dinner for like two days out of the week; it’s just lovely.V

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The destination, the dress, the dynamic duo Ashley Kendrick and Sarah Bolinger were married this past summer on June 6 at the Crescent Hotel in Eureka Springs, Arkansas. The couple wanted a destination wedding that still wasn’t too far for their 350 guests to travel to. The Ozark hills have a very mountain like feel to them, which was very important to the pair. It was a spiritual place, and an atmosphere to fall in love with. At the time, the Supreme Court ruling hadn’t happened yet (The couple finally went the courthouse in Kansas City back in September to file the documents and make it official). “We’ve been together for four years, and it already felt like we had been married,” Sarah says. “It’s something that is afforded to many Americans without having to fight for it, so given the fact that we did have to fight for it and for us makes it much more special.” Neither of them wanted to know what the other was wearing, yet each of them complimented one another by wearing their dream attire: Ashley wore a Tom Ford suit that she bought in Las Vegas, and Sarah was in a Sarah Seven gown, a Californian designer. The dress code wasn’t black tie per se, but being at such a fabulous venue as the Crescent, then went for the theme of classic, simple elegance. Ashley and Sarah are both spiritual individuals, so they wanted to incorporate all of the elements of fire, water, air and earth, represented by a unity tree in lieu of lighting candles. Also, stones were placed on the chairs of the guests as they were seated, and there was a one-minute meditation at the beginning of the ceremony for guests to put positive intentions for the couple and their marriage out into the universe. The two of them now keep the stones in their house.

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As far as wedding details, Sarah is over-the-top by nature (Ashley is the complete opposite). One thing that stands out the most is the flowers, which was a very whimsical theme that carried itself through the ceremony. Sarah’s dad and herself built the arbor for which they stood under to say their vows, using wood from a cedar tree that they cut down from their home. Every element in the wedding was there for a purpose- fully intentional. That includes the receptions, which was nothing short of a nonstop dance party. For starters, Sarah ripped her dress from simply dancing her butt off . The two hired a rock and roll band that just “brought it.” At various points during the reception, the two were singing with the band, and at one point Sarah sang a song to Ashley – she learned to play a song on the guitar just for the reception. “The food and cake stuff was kind of cheesy,” Ashley says, “so we got through that really quickly because we wanted the music to be the center of the reception.” No regrets or changes from these two on their special day. And when it comes to tips for future couples, Sarah leaves these words of wisdom: “Once you get to that day, let go of all expectation and just have fun. How you are supposed to be, who you are supposed to be. Let go, and enjoy it. We totally did, and we had a blast.” V

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obert Verdi is a man who wears many hats – and they might be the most stylish hats you’ve ever seen. He seamlessly transitions from fashion guru, interior designer and entertainer to television personality, coloring the world with his great taste, charm and wit.

“For your own wedding: go with your gut: bring your biggest fantasy to life that day. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s a big honor to yourself so don’t steer off to be on someone elses’ path.”

“I’m in an industry where people want you to do one thing,” Verdi says. “You have to be the home guy or the fashion guy. I’m the guy that has great taste and can pull it all together.” But it wasn’t until 1998 when his multi-faceted career truly came to fruition. In a fortunate stroke of serendipity, New York Times writer Marianne Rohrlich took interest in Verdi after attending Sarah Bernhard’s one-woman comedy show off Broadway, where she quipped and joked about the glamour and irony of her own life – which included her personal decorator and friend, Verdi. What was supposed to be a critique article about Bernhard’s show turned into a profile story about Verdi, the guy who obsessed over pillows, the guy who designed Sandra’s apartment, the guy who was about to be elevated into the mainstream, public eye. “My career was ignited,” Verdi says. “What if Sandra hadn’t talked about me in her show? What if that New York Times reporter hadn’t been there? It was almost fate.” Though Verdi credits Bernard, still one of his close friends, to kicking off his career, Verdi had already made a name for himself with his array of talents. Growing up with immigrant parents, Verdi explains that his mother and father had the opportunity to come to America not to better themselves— but to better their children’s lives. And, knowingly or not, his parents surrounded him with creativity. “They were always doing something – my dad was French and a chef, always cooking or making something, and my mom was always gardening, knitting, or making clothes for my sister,” Verdi remembers. “You know, that’s really how I got started in fashion. Helping my mom sew my sister’s clothes.” My guess is that his parents probably didn’t imagine their son rocketing to his own fame in fashion and television; although, it was clear that he would succeed in the artistic world. Since he was young, Verdi always had an inclination for beauty. In high school, he made his own jewelry and sold them on the streets of New York, eventually even starting his own line. He also attended the Fashion Institute of Technology for four years. So, whether you call it fate, destiny, luck or coincidence, one thing is certain: Verdi knows style. He’s worked with A-listers like Hugh Jackman, Eva Longoria and Bobby Flay; appeared on The View, The Today Show, and Live with Regis & Kelly; he’s and even hosted Fashion Police. In his new show Brides Gone Styled on TLC, Verdi masterfully mediates the wedding dress hunt for women who, well, need a little extra help.

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Instead of a manager and assistant and publicist with a big mouth, you have a bride, sister, mother and mother-in-law that all want different things,” Verdi says. “I’m skilled at working with and navigating difficult people in superstars’ lives. I can certainly handle a woman who’s about to cross the altar.” The show starts through a nomination process. A friend, daughter, colleague or even a fiancé reaches out to the show because he or she feels that the future bride is about to make the biggest mistake of her life. The walk down the aisle could be the walk of shame if they don’t get help. And that’s where Verdi and his co-host Gretta Monahan come along. After reviewing the often extreme “vision” of the nominated bride, the duo curates better dress choices that reflect the woman’s dream and style, while also flattering her figure. After a full style makeover, the soon-to-be Mrs. makes her final dress choice, surprising the audience and hosts with her happily ever after gown – the final touch that brings her fantasy to life. As many brides know, the wedding process is not always easy. Verdi sees first-hand the push and pull many woman feel when picking out a dress and planning their special day. “We see this tug-of war with the people involved,” Verdi explains. “There’s always a sort of pressure and tension that we feel from them. We are—Greta and I—are coaches and referees. We have to defend our grounds and motivate, but at the same time we’re blocking and calling fallible shots when we see them. It’s the same role as a therapist. For your own wedding: go with your gut: bring your biggest fantasy to life that day. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s a big honor to yourself so don’t steer off to be on someone else’s’ path.”

TIPS FROM THE EXPERT:

The nuptial nightmares the show sees could scare even the most polished, seasoned stylists away. But not Verdi. He transforms the train wreck into something magical.

GUYS: Bring an extra shirt. You’re gonna sweat. So why not change midway through? Swap out your button-up before the reception to get a fresh moment.

LADIES: Don’t force your bridesmaids to dress the same. We all have different bodies, so pick out a couple styles you like and let your friends pick the dress from there. And try to make it something they can wear again, please.

As Verdi explains, everyone has a dream or fantasy they’d love to live out. But, news flash: we can’t all be Beyoncé. “I’m a stylist and I’m there for a celeb’s huge red carpet event – a dress for the Oscars, Golden Globes, the Grammys, but the reality is that we don’t have millions of people nominated for best lead actress in a sitcom,” Verdi says. “But millions of people do get married. And that’s a red carpet moment.” Unfortunately, not everyone has a professional stylist like Verdi to go shopping with them for one of the biggest days of their life. So how can you make your own red-carpet moment come to life? Firstly, don’t forget to laugh. Weddings are supposed to be fun.

“You get tangled up financially, emotionally and sexually – you just have to laugh at the insanity of the whole process” Verdi explains. Secondly, know what’s important to you and budget around that. Skimping on flowers might be horrifying to some, but for others, it’s the food that’s most important. Thirdly, choose the style of the event and then let that dictate the style of your attire. You don’t, for example, wear a black ball gown to the beach. The venue needs to match the dress and vice versa. Leave the costumes at home. Most importantly, however, is bringing your full fantasy to life that is 100 percent, perfectly, authentically you. “Whatever that thing is that makes you you, do that,” Verdi says. “Because maybe you’re uncomfortable in heels, or you’re a trouser person, or don’t want to wear a full-length dress. There are no rules. It’s whatever works for the individual and their unique style. Marriage is a rite of passage. Celebrate that.” V text KALEIGH JURGENSMEYER art FIDEL BERISHA

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Homecoming in Kansas City represents what it means to have a great time for a great cause. Now in its fourth year, this event brings together all the elements of a fabulous party while showcasing the important mission of one of Kansas City’s keystone organizations. For 29 years, SAVE, Inc. has been providing home, hope and dignity for those living with HIV/ AIDS, mental illness and substance abuse.

The Folly Theater - follytheater.org - 11/13 LikeMe Lighthouses annual fundraiser is the main source of revenue for the year for the Kansas City Community Center, which helps keep their open to continue their work in the community. This year features Michael Ian Black, Carson Kressely, Fortune Feimster, Dana Goldberg and Co-Host Melinda Ryder. VIP tickets are available which feature a pre-show reception with the artists.

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11/9

Urinetown – The Musical

CHAT Series: Geena Davis

Musical Theater Heritage at Crown Center - mthkc.com

Kauffman Center kauffmancenter.org

11/13 Girl 2 Girl Uptown Arts Bakansascity lesbianevents.com

11/21 Thunder From Down Under Harrah’s Casino ticketmaster.com

11/26 KCP&L Plaza Lighting Ceremony Country Club Plaza countryclubplaza.com

11/17 A CHARLIE BROWN CHRISTMAS The Coterie Theatre thecoterie.org

11/21 Diana Krall Arvest Bank Theatre at the Midland - midlandkc.com

11/27 Mayor’s Christmas Tree

Lighting Ceremony Crown Center crowncenter.com

SHUNNED @ KCIFF Glenwood Arts Center kansascityfilm.com - 11/7 SHUNNED is a documentary about the trauma and struggles faced by a group of Trans women in the Philippines as they compete in a pageant and find strength in their convictions and one another. Showing at the Kansas City International Film Festival this year, the film has already received numerous awards, such as “Award of Excellence” in the Canada International Film Festival and “Best Documentary” in the Long Island International Film Expo (NY).

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November 2015

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The Tesla 2 oz Pearl Vodka Three Muddled Fresh Strawberries

Dave Welsh Working Dave’s favorite night to work at The Monocle is Thursday, where Ron Bryant and Amy Armstrong make it a joy to work behind the bar. “Their fun, yet sometimes poignant and heartfelt performances start at 9 p.m. and go until midnight,” he says. “Also the crowd is engulfed in the energy and you can just feel the magic behind the bar.”

Three Fresh Basil Leaves Muddled .75 oz Freshly Squeezed Lemon Juice

.75 oz Buzz Button infused House made simple syrup. The Tesla is one of the more popular craft cocktails at The Monocle. While it is a delicious drink by itself, the bar staff loves to experience everyone’s reaction to the “Buzz Button” that comes along side of the drink. It’s what makes the cocktail not only fun to make, but fun to watch.

Meeting new people, and making new friends and relationships are the best parts of Dave’s job. “It is hard to even say ‘friends,’” he says, “as everyone that comes into the Monocle feels more like family.” Furthermore, the entire team tirelessly worked endless early mornings and late nights to put every detail into place before they opened, and in building something special that they are exceptionally proud of, they look out for each other in the way family members do.

The monocle As the newest spectacle in The Grove, The Monocle is very elegant, yet still feels like home. They pride themselves on a “Cheers” like atmosphere, and get to know their customers personally. “We like to know their name and how their day has been,” Dave says. “The crowds cover every demographic and age, 21 and up of course, but you see a little bit of every age.” This is a place to come with a date, friends, family or anyone you want to really spend quality time with. You can actually carry on a conversation, watch an amazing show or sing along at one of our wonderful themed nights. It’s heavy on concept and rich in experience, all the while sparing no expense on a wellexecuted cocktail, with a commitment to above par entertainment and lavish interiors. It is a place with substance, swagger and that little something special. thevitalVOICE.com

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