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Welcome to our annual FOOD issue. This edition always seems to fly off stands and we’ve served up a cornucopia of content to sate the appetite. This fall has been jam packed with events for St. Louis LGBTers, and as this issue hits the stands, we’ll know the results of the hotly contested presidential contest. It is my hope that our community turned out in record numbers to make their voices heard. On Sept. 22, Vital VOICE was honored to receive the first-ever “Equality in Media Award” at the St. Louis Human Rights Campaign 20th Anniversary Gala. It was an incredible evening with activists and allies and politicians of every stripe.

In penning our speech, I said the following: “We’ve profiled some pretty impressive people over the past 12 years – from presidential candidates and sitting governors and senators to a marquee of celebrities from every facet of the arts. But for me – we’re happiest when we’re covering the oftentimes quiet stories of our remarkable St. Louis lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender tribe.” It has been our honor to tell our community’s story – and we couldn’t do it without you. Thank you, St. Louis! In Pride,

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he 41st annual Miss Gay America (MGA) contest solidified its fifth decade in pageantry, Oct. 10-14 in Columbus, Ohio. The national female impersonation pageant was founded in 1972 and is owned and operated by L&T Entertainment as the oldest system of its kind. Longtime MGA followers were treated to a contest harkening back to the glory days of the 1980s when titans like Naomi Sims, Tasha Kohl and Missouri’s own Vicki Vincent battled for the crown. Miss Gay Missouri 2012 Michelle McCausland – making her first appearance at the national contest since 1988 – earned standing ovations for her “Push the Button” and “Ring Them Bells” solo and long talents, respectively. Celebrating its 40th Anniversary this spring, The Miss Gay Missouri America Pageant is the second oldest preliminary to MGA and was honored at nationals with an award for Excellence by Miss Gay America 2012 Kirby Kolby. The Missouri mainstay will be held April 11-13, 2013 at The Metropolitan Community Church of Greater St. Louis. Some 48 contestants competed in categories of evening gown, long talent, solo talent and male interview over three nights of preliminary competition at The Sheraton Capitol Square Ballroom (The latter two category scores carry over to final night). Afternoons were spent between rehearsals, meetings and exploring a bit of Columbus – a refreshingly contemporary and queer friendly city. Final night competition, also held at The Sheraton, opened with a host of former MGA title holders joining Kolby and the 48 contestants in summoning the audience to “The Hunger Games - May The Scores Be Ever In Your Favor.”

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Chosen to compete on Final Night in the categories of evening gown, on stage question and talent were Miss Gay Virginia Alt., Patti Lovelace; Miss Gay North Carolina, Ariel Nicole Knight Addams; Miss Gay D.C. Alt., Roxy Brooks; Miss Mid America, Sally Sparkles; Miss Gay Atlantic States, Araya Sparxx; Miss Gay Mid West, Kofi; Miss Mid America Alt., Blair Williams; Miss Gay D. C. America, Chantel Reshae; Miss Southern Elegance, Jessica Jade and Miss Mid Atlantic Alt., Deva Station.

charmed with a personalized “Roxie Hart” re-write, Blair Williams owned “Ain’t Misbehavin’”, Chantel Reshae dazzled with “Marry Me”, Jessica Jade proved impeccable with “You’re the One” and Deva Station brought the home town crowd to their feet with “Burlesque.”

The evening proved riveting with a peppering of guest performances by formers and contestants dazzling in modern and well-fitted gowns. But it was long talent—oftentimes performed with lavish props and back up dancers—that brought the audience (including comedian Bruce Vilanch) to its feet.

Heading into final night, most would agree that a four-way-race was underway between Kofi, Jessica, Blair and Sally. But the latter – with her “Sexy Magic” talent complete with sleight of hand and keen choreography bested the field through solid, consistent scoring and bringing her preliminary package unchanged into final night. (Contestants have the option to switch evening gown and add to or re-imagine talent as long as they use the same music).

Patti Lovelace shined with her “Smash” inspired Marilyn, Ariel Nicole Knight Addams served up a memorable “Big Time”, Roxy Brooks commanded the stage with “Whip it to Shame”, Araya Sparxx reprised her meticulous “Mary Poppins”, Kofi

Lovely and loveable, Sally Sparkles (also known as Michael Sharp) lives in Dallas, Texas. The 33-year-old entertainer and dance instructor is a former Miss Gay Texas and has been chasing the MGA dream since 2006. “Winning Miss Gay America this past weekend is like no other experience I’ve had,” explains Sharp. “That night I tried remembering what had happened on stage and the only thing that I recalled was the uproar of applause and cheering that came from behind me from the other competitors.” “That made ever ything complete to know that the people on stage were happy with the outcome and that they were happy for me,” he continued. “The Miss Gay America pageant really and truly is a family. I look for ward to an amazing time this upcoming year and visiting the great state of Missouri again.” Individual awards presented on Oct. 14 included Kofi winning the Dani Deletto Male Interview and Lady Shawn On Stage Question Awards, Jessica Jade taking the Ramona LeGer’ Evening Gown and Leslie Rage Talent Awards and Victoria DuPruis snatching the Naomi Sims Solo Talent Award. State Preliminary of the Year honors went to Miss Gay North Carolina, Regional Preliminary of the Year celebrated Miss Gay Mid Atlantic and the Norma Kristie Lifetime Achievement Award was given to Missouri’s own Joe Bradley (a former Miss Gay Midwest promoter). MGA has always held firm to its tradition that requires its contestants be all male—hence, no hormones or body work below the neck is allowed. MGA 2013 Sally Sparkles will travel the country next year performing and administrating over the system’s franchise of preliminaries. v

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Travelling The World in St. Louis:

International Restaurants By Thiago Martins De Magalhaes Photography by Profiled Restaurants

An easy way to experience different cultures without paying for expensive flights and booking hotels is eating at ethnic restaurants and St. Louis has many varied options to offer. In our city it is possible to get a taste from India, Greece, Japan, Peru, Nepal, Italy, France, Brazil, Ireland... The list is endless. Besides the food, these restaurants also try to give their customers an experience similar to that found in the countries they represent. Their designs, decoration and background music try to immerse visitors in a new culture. Meeting people of different backgrounds and life stories is very common, and they are usually open to conversations and to share their experiences. For those who are scared of exotic ingredients, spices and are unsure of going to an ethnic restaurant, we hope to change your minds by the end of this article. There is so much one can experience by getting out of their comfort zone: finding out a new favorite dish, knowing more about a country one might visit in the future, making a new foreign friend that can guide one in a vacation to their home country or just enjoying a delicious meal. In order to make things easier, here is a list with short reviews of some good international restaurants in the city. Bon Apetit! 16 | November, 2012

Mango Peruvian Cuisine

Mango is a Peruvian restaurant located in downtown St. Louis. It offers a sophisticated atmosphere and authentic Peruvian food, which is characterized by seafood, rice, potato, lamb, pork, fresh spices and herbs, such as “aji,” peruvian hot pepper. Peru is a country formed by immigrants from Japan, Spain, Italy, Africa and natives. This unique background is reflected in its cuisine. Mango was awarded the “Diner’s Choice Award” from OpenTable and chosen as the “St. Louis Best South American Cuisine” by Riverfront Times, Sauce and Alive Magazines. Jorge Calvo is Mango’s appraised chef and owner. After a history of succesful restaurants in Peru, he moved here with his family and opened Mango with the help of his wife. mangoperu.com 1101 Lucas Avenue, St. Louis, MO 63101

House of India Restaurant

Indian cuisine was shaped by Hinduism and Islamism, with lots of vegetarian options, exotic spices and unexpected yet delicious combinations. In history, European powers have always tried to keep control of Indian spices’ commerce. In the 1500s they tried to get to India by navigating around Africa; the Portuguese were the first to accomplish this mission. The Spanish discovered the Americas by trying to reach India. Indian spices had a huge influence in the world, and it still does. House of India takes upon itself the mission to serve all the different varieties of Indian food, and they do it well. They have an open and affordable buffet during lunch and a rich menu during dinner. The Riverfront times has elected them the best Indian restaurant for 14 consecutive years. Trying their food is a must. hoistl.com 8501 Delmar Boulevard, St. Louis, MO 63124

Yemanja Brasil Restaurant

Their website says it all: “a visit is like a trip to Brazil without the airfare.” Their name is a reference to the Afro-Brazilian deity Iemanjá, protector of the seas. When Africans were brought to Brazil their culture also came along; a mixture of Portuguese, African and Native Brazilian cultures gave shape to Brazilian traditions in architecture, music and of course, food. Yemanja does well the job of representing Brazil with colorful decoration and

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delicious dishes. Rice, beans, pork, beef, seafood, are all present in their menu but everyone should try the national dish, Feijoada, a bean stew with smoked pork ribs, sausage, and dried beef, to see what Brazilian food is all about. There they also serve caipirinha, a drink made with sugar cane vodka, sugar and lime, typical from Brazil. yemanjabrasil.com 2900 Missouri Avenue, St. Louis, MO 63118

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Cheeseology

Cheeseology is a restaurant with a whole menu based on Macaroni and Cheese, an American classic. Not very international but still unique, and therefore I could not leave this place out of the list. They were writen about many times by local publications such as the Riverfront Times and Sauce, who were intrigued about the Mac and Cheese concept. Its owner, Bill Courtney, was a medical researcher at Washington University but decided to abandon it all to start the restaurant. His recipes of Mac and Cheese form the menu, each one with a different twist. There is even a Santa-Fe Mac and Cheese, made with corn and black bean salsa, grilled chicken, cheddar and monterrey cheese. cheese-ology.com 6602 Delmar Boulevard, University City, MO 63130

Sub-Zero Vodka Bar

Does sushi and burgers go together? Sub-zero’s answer is yes. They are a bar that serves sushi and burgers, and everyone gets along just fine. Subzero has a vast menu divided between burgers and Sushi and a huge Vodka selection. Non-traditional rolls for more experienced sushi lovers are offered – but if it is your first try, the waiters always have a safe suggestion for you. It is surprising how good raw fish can taste, believe us. We were skeptical at first – but became hooked after the first bite.

If sushi is not your thing, or you are accompanied by someone who does not like it, Sub-zero’s burger was elected the best in town by St. Louis magazine. They use hormone free meat in their burgers, therefore you can be sure of its quality. subzerovodkabar.com 308 North Euclid Avenue, St. Louis, MO 63108

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Aphrodisiac Foods That Extra Push in the Kitchen Written by Matt Jamieson

ood and love have been almost intertwined since the beginning of time. Food can be a much-needed boost to get your partner in the mood for all those other nighttime activities.

I’ve searched far and wide and found some of the best food that act as aphrodisiacs in their own rights, and combined some science with my personal ideas of the best ways to enjoy these sensual foods.

Asparagus

We all know that asparagus can be used to...erm...unclog your digestive track, but surprisingly asparagus is a great vegetable to get yourselves ready for other things as well. Asparagus was served as three course meals in 19th century France for grooms at prenuptial dinners. The vegetable is a great source of potassium, fiber, vitamin B6, vitamins A and C, thiamin and folic acid. The latter is said to boost histamine production necessary for the ability to reach orgasm in both sexes. Best way to enjoy: Sauteed garlic asparagus.

Almonds

No you’re not nuts! Almonds are a great simple way to help get yourselves in the mood, and it’s all to do with the smell. The aroma of almond arouses passion in females. The scientists say that almonds provide high doses of vitamin E, magnesium and even fiber. So just leave a bowl of ‘em out and you’ll be enjoying yourselves in no time! Best way to enjoy: Roasted almonds.

Avocado

Have you ever enjoyed guacamole so much you’re feeling better after eating it with chips? That’s because avocados are some of the healthiest fruits out there and among the most sensual. No joke - the Aztecs called the avocado ahuacuatl, or “testicle tree.” And it’s true...just look at an avocado sometime! The Catholic priests in Spain found this fruit so obscenely sexual that they forbade it. Avocados are rich with anti-oxidants, folic acid, vitamin B6 and potassium. They are also said to boost the immune system. One of the best sources of sensuality and health out there! Best way to enjoy: Fresh guacamole made with avocado, serrano chiles, cilantro and lime served with tortilla chips.

Bananas

Just like avocados, bananas are all look. But beyond that, bananas as we all know are a good source of potassium, magnesium and B vitamins. It also contains chelating minerals and the bromeliad enzyme, said to enhance the male libido. ...Well with a fruit that looks like that wouldn’t you want it to enhance your libido? Best way to enjoy: Naturally of course. Everyone needs a little bit more fruit in their diet.

Basil

It makes meals go from bland to grand - and it can make your libido go from mild to wild. Basil. That simple thing you sprinkle on top of your pastas and casseroles and other dishes is a great ‘love’ spice as well. It has a fantastic aroma that is said to have an aphrodisiac effect; it is also very stimulating. (I mean have you smelled basil? It immediately wakes your senses up!) Best way to enjoy: Pasta with garlic, olive oil and basil.

Chocolate

This should be no surprise for anyone - chocolate is king with anyone. It is one of the most natural aphrodisiacs in the world. It contains a host of compounds PEA (phenylethylamine), the “love chemical,” which releases dopamine in the pleasure centers of the brain and peaks during orgasm. PEA is said to help induce feelings of excitement, attraction and euphoria. Best way to enjoy: You haven’t grabbed that bar of chocolate by now?

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Figs

Figs are kind of the unsung hero of the bedroom. Not many people know what they can do for your love life! An open fig is believed to emulate the female sex organs and figs are steeped in history. They are mentioned in the Bible (Adam and Eve wore fig leaves to cover their private parts), are reported to be Cleopatra’s favorite fruit. The ancient Greeks held them as sacred and associated them with love and fertility. Best way to enjoy: Honeyed fig and mascarpone creme brulee

Garlic

It keeps vampires away, as the story goes, but garlic is a powerful and potent turn-on. It’s strong, which is exactly what it will happen to guys. Garlic is chockfull of allicin, an ingredient that will increase blood flow to all the right places, if you get my drift. Best way to enjoy: Garlic-butter broccoli

Oysters

We’ve known for awhile that oysters are a huge aphrodisiac almost the poster child in a way. We all know of their reputation for increasing sexual desire, probably because of their high zinc content, which helps produce sperm and increases libido. That’s why every date should include oysters if you’re getting busy later on. Best way to enjoy: Oysters on ice with champagne

Honey

The more I looked, the more that honey kept coming up as the top aphrodisiac. It’s because of bees mating and that their pheromones are linked to the honey. Sweet, sticky honey is a great source of boron, a trace mineral that helps use and metabolize estrogen. It may also enhance testosterone levels in the blood. In addition, honey contains B vitamins needed for testosterone. Best way to enjoy: Vanilla ice-cream topped with honey So now that you have the secrets of these foods, whip something up to try and get you and your partner fired up for the fireworks to come!

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Restaurant Toppers: Written by Matt Jamieson Photography by Darin Slyman

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Running a restaurant is hard but gratifying work. There are so many amazing St. Louis restaurants, with so many amazing stories to be told. We’ve profiled two LGBT restaurant owners and one GM to give you a feel of who they are and why they keep the doors open for business.

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ndrew Viragh has practically lived his life in restaurant management. His mom was a restaurant manager, and has more than ten years experience himself.

“I’ve never really left.” Viragh said. That experience helped when asked to become general manager of Mango Peruvian Cuisine as it moved to its current location at 1101 Lucas Ave. “That’s why I got involved was to facilitate that process,” he said. “I had worked with one of their daughters years ago. When they opened the downtown location she came to me. I came into the project very organically, I spent some time down there serving, and it kind of developed.” The support Andrew has received from Mango’s owners, the Calvo family, especially to the LGBT community of St. Louis, is what keeps him going. “Peruvian communities are very tight-knit, extremely conservative religious,” he explained. “When I started, they didn’t recognize the problems we have as a community but got fully onboard.” Mango is thriving - and it’s because Andrew has an amazing staff to work with. “The staff that I’ve been able to compile at Mango are some of the greatest people I have worked with and they all share my passion for this cuisine, a particular level of service, and everything that makes Mango so special,” he said. “Without them, Mango truly would not be receiving all the success it has achieved in the past 2 years.” This fall, Mango will feature a pre-theater menu - Monday through Saturday, three courses for $20. They also have a late night happy hour Monday through Saturday (hours vary) featuring various $5 drinks and $16 pitchers of sangria. The future looks bright for Mango with Andrew at the helm. “Our goal is not to draw one demographic,” he said. “The approach we share is if you have a phenomenal product in a phenomenal environment with phenomenal service, success should follow you. We went into this trying to create long-term substance and a reason for people to come in.” theVitalVOICE.com | 25

ick Julian wanted to go into business with his father. The two had talked about buying into a franchise. Enter the famed Pickleman’s Deli - which Nick knew about from the location in Columbia near Mizzou. “I had a friend who works for the corporate office, and that’s how we got the ball rolling,” Julian said. “We started negotiating in February 2011, signed my contract in March. From March until May 2012 was just looking for a good spot - and it was a little more difficult than I thought it would be, but we finally found our first spot in Kirkwood, which has turned out to be an excellent place to be.” Every day is different at Pickleman’s (located at 130 S. Kirkwood Rd in Kirkwood and 20 N. Central Ave in Clayton) and that’s what Nick likes so much about working there. “I get to talk to so many different people and it’s nice being in a store from Kirkwood to Clayton. It’s such a different variety of people and just fun to be in there and socialize and be working at the same time,” he said. “There are difficult times where it feels like a headache but in the long run it’s a lot of fun - I’m around young employees, most have a great frame of mind and have fun while they work, joke around and it just makes the work day go by so much faster.” Nick brings people into Pickleman’s not by focusing on one particular group but encouraging everyone to come in. “If you come into the locations and see my staff, we’re a very diverse group.” he said. “We have a lot of fun working, it’s a great place to be.” Pickleman’s isn’t just available for dine-in - they also deliver and cater. Nick wants to stress everything is freshly made to order every day. “The meat is bought fresh and stored, the cookies are homemade and baked fresh daily. If people are looking for something for their holiday office party or luncheon, keep us in mind, we’d be happy to work with you.”

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Even in today’s society, Gabe doesn’t let the financial crisis affect the quality.

“You work in a place, you start to get ideas about how you would do things and I just decided to go for it,” Kveton said. “I wanted to do something with cocktails and a small seasonal menu, and this is what happened.”

“We don’t let the economy affect any of our quality ever, which I think is important,” he said. “We always try and put out the best product, no matter if it’s a cocktail or one of our dinners - the best quality we can.”

Gabe began running Water Street Cafe (located at 7268 Manchester Rd. in Maplewood) in April 2011, and it’s strictly a family affair.

Water Street is gearing up for fall with a new seasonal menu and plans for a roasted pumpkin cocktail infused with vodka. He also stresses that the restaurant is available for private functions as the holidays gear up.

“My sister came on board as the head chef and I do everything behind the bar,” he said. Gabe keeps his interest in Water Street by using his creativity in his work. “I like to be creative, so that always keeps me interested,” he said. “There’s always something new coming up and always ways you can better yourself and try something different.”

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Political VOICE Your Health Matters Written by A.J. Bockelman

re you out to your doctor? Is your primary care physician competent to understand LGBT health concerns? Are you even aware of potential health hazards beyond just those of a sexual nature? The above isn’t meant to be invasive or scare inducing, but rather a call to action amongst our community and allies. The Missouri Foundation for Health issued their latest in their Health Equality Series entitled Responding to LGBT Health Disparities. You can find it online by visiting MFFH.org. While initially this issue wouldn’t appear to be political, the impact through social stigmatization and outright discrimination in the healthcare world leads to further challenges for the LGBT community. To be blunt, the lack of basic protections in housing, employment and public accommodations for sexual orientation and gender identity leads to health disparities. Let’s back up a bit. While those of us who are LGBT have known anecdotally that this is true – after all, lack of employment options likely means no health insurance – it has only been recently that federal agencies have finally started systematically collecting health data specific to the LGBT community. This is a very positive step and overcomes many years of a concerted effort by our political foes to avoid medical studies reflecting the LGBT community. This intentional inclusion of our community is now yielding some startling results and will 30 | November, 2012

help inform health policy for years to come. Much of the data confirm our suspicions. The LGBT community experiences broad disparities in access to care, often compounded by multiple overlapping, under-served identities. LGBT individuals are more than twice as likely to put off medical care or surgery and delay filling a prescription. Our community experiences higher rates of smoking and heart disease. Multiple reports now chronicle gay men experiencing asthma at twice the rate of their straight counterparts. Other reports continue to deepen and confirm our knowledge. In 2004, PROMO’s campaign through the Constitution Defense League to oppose Missouri’s eventual anti-marriage amendment identified same sex couples in 99% of the counties of the state. According to the recent Census, 95% of Missouri counties record same-sex couples. Other reports indicate that public health campaigns have a positive impact. Of the gay men responding to the survey, 51% reporting having a recent HIV screen. However, only 12% report getting a screen for certain types of cancer which are particularly life threatening to gay men. We still have work to do. So what does this all add up to? Where do we go from here? To quote Sir Francis Bacon, “Knowledge is power.” Reports and studies denied the existence of our community by exclusion. Armed now with data which reinforcing the

need for better systems to be in place, we have a path forward. Access to care including nondiscrimination policies for facilities and health centers; a patient bill of rights; cultural competency training along with greater expansion of health insurance coverage are key avenues to build a system where LGBT individuals feel comfortable addressing health needs. Through Federal policy in things such as the Affordable Care Act (yes, Obamacare), there are significant changes and requirements being adopted by the Institutes of Medicine and other health agencies. Of course, health care does not exist in a vacuum, and overall health depends on all the factors that impact our lives. In that context, basic protections, particularly expanding the Human Rights Statute to include sexual orientation and gender identity, become even more necessary. If you review the data assembled from various reports, you’ll note that Missouri-specific data is often lacking; that MUST change. The Missouri Foundation for Health report goes on to chronicle the entire platform of change offered by LGBT advocates from PROMO up to HRC and other national groups. It’s time we update these policies: Your life, and your quality of life, depend on it. v

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his city is replete with amazing café’s, food trucks and family owned restaurants. So much so it’s crazy we aren’t ranked one of the nation’s fattest cities! Dining out is one of my favorite things to do – I even (admit proudly) have dined out alone. Dining out alone is invigorating. Some people look at those one-person dinners as sad and upsetting, automatically assuming they are depressed or even worse, stood up! I find it liberating and it’s actually great for self-confidence. Food never tastes so good when you’re not focused on trying to hold a conversation or entertain another person. But one piece of advice: dress to the nines when doing so – that way when people look at you and think, “that’s so sad” at least they will walk away with the knowledge you trumped everyone else in the restaurant that are actually on dates! (When saying ‘dressing to the nines’, I mean, business casual and above.) This season, make an effort not only when dining out, but do it everywhere you go. If not, this fall/ winter you may find yourself under dressed. It’s the season of the gentleman. Designers went formal, with jackets over button ups, ties, suits and loafers – while mixing in inspirations from military and hunting influences and the 1930’s. In short, dine out and be dapper. Model: Angel St. King Location: Restaurants Rue Lafayette, Rooster and Water Street Clothing: Neiman Marcus and Moris Fashions Special Thanks: Cheresse Pentella, Araceli Kopiloff-Zimmer, Gabe Kveton, David Bailey, Brian Smith, Michael Pagel and Angel St. King theVitalVOICE.com | 33

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St. Louis Holds Strong Written by Denny Patterson Photography by Alex Galindo & Colin Murphy

uring the 1970s, LGBT nightlife diversified to great heights. Enterprises expanded and included not only bars – but also bookstores, restaurants and special events. Gay bars were patronized far more than LGBT community centers, pride marches and other non-commercial activity. Indeed, their popularity and visibility was at an all-time-high. Unfortunately, the number of gay bars in major cities has declined, some at alarming rates. Although the exact number of queer haunts in the country is unknown, San Francisco LGBT bars have dwindled from their zenith of 118 to 33 and New York has dropped from 86 to 44. But here in St. Louis, we’ve been holding strong. According to the 1992 “Damron Guide,” Metro St. Louis (including the East Side) had 16 gay every night bars. 20 years later that number has grown by two. “People still have a basic need to interact face to face,” says Steve Brawley, founder of the St. Louis LGBT History Project. “For younger people, it is probably more of a case of curiosity, and part of the overall coming of age process to try out the bar scene, and for older folks, bars often anchored their social interactions.” The past has shown that nightclubs catered to a certain stereotype of gay men: the kind who is obsessed with dance and recreational drugs. Gay men portrayed masculine affectations and dress, mostly catching disco fever while wearing skin tight Levis, plaid shirts, work boots and sported short haircuts and a mustache to tickle your lips. As time moved on, bars started to cater to certain groups within the LGBT community, including leather, ethnic groups and lesbians. Some bars became known as pickup bars, while others were associated with sophistication and elegance. In larger cities, specific nightclubs became known as hustler bars where the service of sex was negotiated. Because of such high visibility, owners and patrons felt no need to remain in secrecy. Establishments were advertised as openly gay, often with a rainbow flag displayed. Politicians in some cities even campaigned in gay bars, acknowledging that LGBTers are no different than the rest of the community. However, the 1980s began a significant decrease in numbers. Part of this can be contributed to the increased politicization of LGBT nightlife and the AIDS epidemic. Lesbian bars have taken a definite hit – many major cities no longer boast the Sapphic-only-bar. The reason for this decline is not clear. It is known that some bars that have excluded men have been charge with sex discrimination, the establishment losing their licenses as a result.

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Throughout the 1990s and early 2000s, important factors to look at are the economic and social factors. The price to go out on the weekend can currently end up costing you an arm and a leg, bar rent has risen and competition from other recreation opportunities, such as circuit parties and LGBT cruises, is fierce. Recent history has shown Internet communities and chat rooms being a major factor in our nightlife’s decline. Dating sites and social media serve the same functions as a typical bar would, such as connecting to people and sharing interests and desires. The need for community and interaction is now coming from the comfort of one’s own home. News feed and comments are becoming the new norm. Nevertheless, the number of Gateway City LGBT bars remains statistically unchanged. This is something to celebrate. “St. Louis’ LGBT bars are very generous and community-minded – hosting a variety of fundraisers that support important LGBT programs and charities raising thousands of dollars each year,” explains Brawley. “I also credit St. Louis’s strong sense of community as another stabilizing force. St. Louis is a city of neighborhoods, and many gayborhoods such as Central West End, The Grove, Lafayette Square and Soulard have anchored LGBT bar life since the 1960s.” To check out more information about LGBT bars located in St. Louis, check out Damron, gayellow pages or gaycities.com

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Spiritual Globe Trotter Written by Colin Murphy – Editor Photography by Colin Murphy Rev. Pressley Sutherland was appointed Interim Pastor at Metropolitan Community Church of Greater St. Louis just four months ago and is quickly earning a place in the heart of the community congregation. The Appalachia native with a musical theatre background comes with a worldly resume having served as MCC Senior, Assistant or Interim Pastor in places like New York, England and South Africa. Vital VOICE recently sat down with Sutherland – who admits he’s still getting his bearings here in the StL – about his work abroad, Sylvia Rivera and more. What is an Interim Pastor – I gather traveling is a job requirement? An Intentional Interim Specialist, or Interim Pastor, in our denomination is a pastor who works with one of our churches in the period between permanent pastors. We do three things to help our faith communities maintain healthy momentum: We stand in the role of Senior Pastor ensuring the ongoing maintenance of worship, programs, and personnel management; We act as change agents - encouraging, training and working collaboratively with leaders to enhance areas that can use fresh approaches; And we facilitate community processes of celebrating (and sometimes grieving) who they have been, naming who they are and projecting who they are becoming. I enjoy this work, and am at a time in my life when I appreciate specialist ministry. I am continuously inspired by travelling, working cross-culturally and being changed by companioning with local faith groups, NGOs and churches which are standing strong for the vision of inclusion and equality, sometimes in quite high-risk contexts.

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What did you take away from working as a minister abroad? I think I am still realizing what I have taken away from working primarily outside of the US for the past decade. I have only been back for a little over three months now, and I have never lived in Missouri before, so in some ways, this feels like a new cultural context for me as well. I guess if there is an overarching takeaway whether in Gugulethu or Soulard, is that people deserve and have the right to expect to have the chance to be fully valued and valuable in their own times. Too often people tell those needing vital, life-giving change that they must wait and wait and wait. While patience is a virtue, I tend to side with Mother Jones on this one: “Pray for the dead, but fight like hell for the living.” MCC Church was founded in St. Louis in 1973 and we can trace the real cementing and organizing of the StL LGBT community to the church’s arrival here. Why do you think that is? In many cities and towns still, MCCs are both a place for spiritual growth and a de facto community center for marginalized and LGBTQIA people. As a church, we have a strong tradition of infrastructure and community provision that also creates what is usually one of the larger volunteer pools in an area. We are able to mobilize fairly quickly and, as part of a global grassroots organization, our local communities are able to engage issues well beyond what we would be able to if we were an isolated group. I think that we have always preached, taught and tried to live out a message of full dignity and empowerment. For example, we have been blessing same-gender couples for over 40 years and ordaining women from our inception. This commitment to the marriage of human rights and spiritual wholeness was born in the pre and post-Stonewall era of struggle and emergence.

or not. Sometimes, MCCs are places where people come for a season, get on their feet again, become empowered and then set off to change the world, and for some, they stay and become a part of an incredible corporate journey that continues to challenge us to grow and become ever more aware, engaged and changed in widening circles. Talk about meeting Sylvia Rivera and your work with the Trans Community. In October 1998, I was arrested along with about 135 others during the Political Funeral for Matthew Shepard in New York City… To everyone’s surprise, more than 5000 people gathered. Rather than working with us to close at least one or two lanes of Fifth Ave., the police began trying to drive a bus through the crowd that was spilling out onto the street. My ex-partner and I along with others went out and stood in front of the bus and were arrested along with most all of the safety marshals and community leaders… During the night in our holding cells, I was kept with a few of my transgender heroes – people like Les Feinberg and Sylvia Rivera, a Stonewall Veteran. The police divided those of us arrested along genderlines but seemed completely confused as to what to do with our people who were not presenting their gender in traditional ways. So Les and Sylvia ended up with the ‘men’ while Sylvia’s transgender partner ended up being separated from her and held somewhere between the ‘men’ and the ‘women.’ We were all worried that Julia and other transgender women and men would be isolated and vulnerable.

Well, we all survived Giuliani’s hospitality, and a few months later I was attending Brooklyn Pride and ran across Sylvia there and invited her to come to our church, MCC New York, to celebrate Stonewall Sunday. We were focusing on our transgender history, and also celebrating transgender people and images for God from Judeo-Christian traditions. Les Feinberg was scheduled to be our guest preacher, but contracted meningitis at the last minute. My boss, the Rev. Pat Bumgardner, asked me to step in and preach. As I retold the story of Stonewall, naming the vets as part of a sacred history of humanity becoming more in line with the vision of equality at the heart of Jesus’ teaching, Sylvia stood up in the congregation and began crying and filling in details to the story. My sermon quickly became a dialogue, and Sylvia and Julia came and took communion together and remained important members of MCCNY until Sylvia died. I worked closely with Sylvia as she and others became the founding generation of GenderPeople, a weekly spirituality group for transgender people that continues to meet and make a difference 15 years later. To this day, the New York church remembers Sylvia’s passion for direct action through its shelters and programs for homeless LGBT youth and its HIV/AIDS Food pantry, both of which are named after her. v

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Welcome to the Play Dates section of Vital VOICE. Each month the VV team will select a number of signature events to keep on your radar. For a complete list of all vital happening in St. Louis log onto thevitalvoice.com/events. To submit your next event, simply email vv@thevitalvoice.com with event name, date, location and a 20-word description.

11.01 Madonna

Scottrade Center www.madonna.com/tour The world’s best selling female recording artist in history is coming to St. Louis with her 2012 World Tour promoting her newest CD, MDNA. This time the controversies surrounding her tour are the violent scene in the beginning of the show when she performs Gang Bang and the mash-up of Express Yourself and Born This Way, when she teases Lady Gaga for “borrowing” chords from her song. It is the first time the queen of the pop comes to St. Louis in all her career, so don’t miss out!

11.02 HRC’s 1st Fridays Cocktails & Conversations

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11.06 Election Day

It is the time to exercise one’s right to vote and practice democracy. The presidential campaign is coming to an end with Barack Obama and Romney as the Democrat and Republican candidates. Remember to save the date to vote and support your favorite candidate, the one that will truly understand the needs of LGBTs and protect our rights.

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11.14 Out in the City

Mango Peruvian Cuisine 1101 Lucas Avenue, St. Louis, MO 63101 Join Bud Light, ALIVE Magazine and Vital VOICE for Out in the City, St. Louis happy hour for LGBT professionals. Out in the City offers the opportunity to mix, mingle and network in an upbeat, after work setting. With a $5 donation to Planned Parenthood at the door, guests will receive two complimentary Bud Light during the event.

11.12 Veterans Day

Let’s honor our military people that put their lives in risk to protect our country and celebrate that it has been more than a year that Don’t Ask, Don’t’ Tell was repealed by president Obama.

11.20 Transgender Day of Remembrance

Created by Gwendolyn Ann Smith in 1988 to protest the murder of Rita Hester in Massachusetts, Transgender Day of Remembrance has become a day in the international calendar to remember all the victims of transphobia, bring attention to the transgender population and take action against prejudice.

11.22 Thanksgiving

This heavily celebrated holiday surpassed its religious origins and became a secular holiday that unites people of different cultures and backgrounds. Take the day to gather family and friends, give thanks for the good that has happened this year and to help those who are in need.

AT CIELO BAR FOUR SEASONS HOTEL, 999 N 2ND ST ST LOUIS, MO 63102

6-9PM

FREE Come join us and strike up a conversation with one of our volunteers about the fight for equality and how you can get involved.

Find HRC St. Louis on Facebook and stlouis.hrc.org for more info.

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HRC Gala On September 22 the Human Rights Campaign celebrated its 20th St. Louis Dinner Gala at the Hyatt. This year, Lynn Cooper, D.Min., a founder and current President of Doorways Interfaith AIDS and Housing Services, was honored with the Equality Award for its outstanding efforts in providing housing for those affected by HIV/AIDS. Also, Vital Voice was the inaugural recipient of the Equality in Media Award for ongoing coverage and advocacy for the St. Louis areaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s LGBT community. The Vital Voice team thanks HRC for recognizing its work and is honored to be able to represent St. Louis LGBT community in web and print. theVitalVOICE.com | 49

Make your reservations now for

THANKSGIVING DAY BRUNCH Thursday, November 22. Call for details.

Come explore our extensive

new wine list!

On Wednesday nights, get half off all bottles of wine with the purchase of two dinner entrees!

3419 Olive Street - Saint Louis, MO - 314.446.1801

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