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Helping a loved one with Alzheimer’s through the holidays
BY PAUL MAZZEO, MD Contributor
While festive, the holidays also can be stressful, with chaotic schedules, last-minute shopping and preparations for time with family and friends.
But for many people with Alzheimer’s or other types of dementia, the holidays can be a particularly confusing and disruptive time in terms of changes in routines, and people who may be perceived as strangers visiting.
For both the person with dementia and their caregivers, the joy of family visits/ gatherings is often intermingled with feelings of loss over declining abilities.
Several strategies may help navigate this time.
Planning for the holidays is key. Involve the person with dementia in the preparations. Opening holiday cards together may help trigger long-term memories. Hanging ornaments on the tree and stirring the Christmas cookie batter can provide a sense of purpose and satisfaction.
Try to avoid overstimulation with elaborate holiday displays of blinking lights and large decorations that can lead to disorientation. Lighted candles and decorations that may be mistaken for edible treats should be avoided. Alcohol should be restricted.
You may wish to limit the size of gath-
erings or number of visitors if your loved one is easily confused and agitated. Communicating with your guests about your loved one’s condition will limit the dis-
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The New York native joins the hospital from his role as an interventional cardiologist and Director of both Cardiac Catheterization and Cardiac Critical Care at Nassau University Medical Center in East Meadow, N.Y. Having performed over 1,000 coronary procedures, his focus is interventional cardiology – but his diverse experience will bring specialized, high-quality care in the areas of heart failure, hypertension, pacemaker and defibrillator management, coronary disease,pulmonary embolism, cardiogenic shock, valve disease and arrhythmia management.
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tress that may be caused by “do you remember me?” questions.
A phone call with the visitor in advance might provide a happy anticipation to the arrival and may facilitate recognition. Schedule visits at the best time of day for the individual and limit the duration of gatherings to what you feel your loved one can tolerate. Realize that dementia sufferers can fatigue easily, which often manifests as more confusion.
Maintaining a routine is important; this provides an anchor in the here and now. Visits should be held in the person’s most familiar surroundings. For a person residing in an assisted living or skilled nursing facility, however, the increased activity of other residents’ friends and relatives visiting can lead to disorientation. Use your best judgment whether your loved one feels more safe and secure with structured activities in the facility or at an outing with friends and family. Gifts for someone with dementia should account for their impairments. For instance, an electric coffee maker or teapot that turns off automatically, calendars or medication
holders are items that many people with dementia can use to help them adapt to their illness. Less practical but more emotionally gratifying gifts can be family photo albums, familiar music, recordings of church sermons and gift certificates for a hairstyle or manicure. Avoid items that are breakable or irreplaceable.
It may be overwhelming for a caregiver during the holidays to maintain traditions while also providing care to their loved one. Don’t forget to reserve time for yourself and communicate realistic expectations to those around you throughout the season. Set limits and boundaries for holiday events and stick to them.
And remember: Despite the challenges of dementia, the holidays still can be a rewarding time for you and your family.
Paul Mazzeo, M.D., is a board-certified neurologist with Coastal Neurology and sees patients in Okatie and Beaufort. He is medical director of the Beaufort Memorial Memory Center.
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House Republicans outline six pillars for progress ahead of 2025-26 session
BY REP. WESTON NEWTON Contributor
In mid-November following the election, my Republican colleagues and I met to outline our legislative priorities for the upcoming 2025-26 session. While the House is not currently in session, we are busy preparing a robust agenda to address the needs of our state and our communities. These priorities were developed with input from members of the House but, more importantly, from our constituents through your feedback and shared concerns.
The House Republicans believe that these Six Pillars for Progress are key to South Carolina’s success, strengthening our communities and enhancing the quality of life for all: (1) We are committed to deliver historic tax cuts, including reducing the income tax rate for a simpler, fairer and flatter tax system and lowering the personal property tax burden on small business and entrepreneurs. (2) We intend to promote business-friendly policies, including sunsetting costly and burdensome regulations which stifle economic growth, addressing rising insurance costs and the limited choices of insurance carriers for restaurants, bars and VFW posts and removing barriers to support small business development and growth. (3) We are focused on fueling South Carolina’s booming economy, investing in infrastructure to ease urban congestion and promote rural development, increasing affordable, reliable electric generation capacity while promoting our natural resources, providing a workforce retention tax credit for businesses
offering childcare programs and reforming the unemployment system to encourage able-bodied adults back into the workforce. (4) We are resolved to expand educational opportunities, restoring school choice and education savings accounts to empower families, promoting workforce development and dual enrollment opportunities, increasing teacher pay, enhancing school board transparency, strengthening parental rights and investing in school safety to protect children and create safe learning environments. (5) Continuing our prioritization of public safety, we plan on strengthening penalties for fentanyl-related crimes, organized retail theft and juvenile crime, protecting children from “deepfake” digital manipulation of images, cracking down on illegal immigration and mandating local cooperation with immigration enforcement, supporting law enforcement needs and reforming the county magistrate selection process. (6) Lastly, we will work to strengthen families and communities by defending parental rights and supporting pro-life and Second Amendment policies, protecting private property rights and reducing bureaucratic inefficiencies in public health and ensuring robust storm response and recovery efforts for fully restored communities. We know the best ideas often come
from the people we serve. If there are issues or ideas you believe we’ve missed, please contact me. Your feedback is essential as we continue to shape our legislative agenda. Together, we can ensure South Carolina remains a great place to live, work and raise a family.
Last week, the House met to organize the body in advance of the January session. Representatives Shannon Erickson, Jeff Bradley and I were each re-elected as the chairs of Education and Public Works, AI and Regulations and Judiciary Committees, respectively, and Representative Bill Herbkersman was elected as chair of the Labor, Commerce and Industry Committee. The strength of our delegation is unmatched in the legislature. As the session gets underway, if you wish to track a bill, live stream session or committee or subcommittee meetings, visit the State Legislature website: https:// www.scstatehouse.gov/index.php and for updates from the Governor, visit: https:// governor.sc.gov.
It is an honor and privilege to serve the citizens of House District 120. Rose joins me in wishing all a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays filled with love, laughter, family and friends.
Weston Newton is the representative for District 120 in the State House of Representatives. WestonNewton@schouse.gov
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Vibration anesthesia: a non-invasive approach to pain reduction during neurotoxin injections
BY MATHEW T. EPPS Contributor
Vibration anesthesia has emerged as an effective, non-invasive method to alleviate discomfort during dermatologic procedures, particularly when administering neurotoxins like botulinum toxin type A for cosmetic enhancement. This technique leverages the “Gate Theory of Pain,” where the brain’s processing of pain signals is disrupted by simultaneous application of another sensory input, in this case, vibration.
The process involves using a small, portable vibrating device, often held by an assistant, which is placed close to the injec-
tion site, typically about 1 to 2 cm away. The vibration stimulates A-B nerve fibers, which in turn activate inhibitory interneurons in the spinal cord, reducing the transmission of pain signals from A-B and C fibers to the brain. This neurological effect, combined with a possible placebo effect, significantly reduces the pain experienced by patients.
A meta-analysis conducted in 2024 revealed that vibration anesthesia significantly lowered pain scores during various invasive procedures, including botulinum toxin injections. The study found that patients reported significantly lower pain when the injection was accompanied by vibration, with pain scores averaging with vibration compared to without. Another study focusing on botulinum toxin injections for masseter reduction confirmed the effectiveness of vibration anesthesia, noting no adverse effects.
In clinical settings, practitioners often use a vibrating massager with a small footprint to ensure precise placement and hygiene. For treatments like palmar or plantar hyperhidrosis, where multiple injections are needed, two vibration devices may be used simultaneously to cover larger areas effectively.
Over 90% of patients in various studies reported a significant reduction in pain during procedures when vibration anes-
thesia was employed, indicating a high level of patient satisfaction and acceptance. This method not only reduces pain but also makes the procedure more tolerable for those averse to needles or injections, enhancing the overall patient experience.
Vibration anesthesia represents a significant advancement in pain management for cosmetic procedures, providing a simple, cost-effective, and side-effect-free method to improve patient comfort during neurotoxin injections. Its adoption in clinical practice reflects a move towards patient-centered care, where pain alleviation is as crucial as the aesthetic outcome.
Mathew T. Epps, MD, MS, DABS is a plastic surgeon, triple-fellowship trained in facial, eyelid, and breast surgery. matheweppsmd.com or info@dreppsmd. com.
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Avoiding legal problems is the name of the game
BY MARK WINN Contributor
The tools available to an estate planning attorney are Wills, Trusts, Powers of Attorney, Advance Directives, Contracts, and Deeds. Things we address are present and future beneficial interests, covering contingencies, managing tax uncertainty. All of these tools mentioned are designed to make it so legal problems, costs, family conflicts, and headaches are minimized, if not avoided altogether. In the game of golf, the winner has the lowest score. In other words, they got through the course in the most efficient manner with the least number of strokes. As is the case with golf, in the arena of estate planning, we are trying to avoid problems. In other words, the winner is the one who encounters the least legal problems (taxes, probate, loss of assets to in laws in a divorce).
Fortunately, it is not too difficult to be successful in this arena. Over the past twenty years of providing planning services for local clientele, I have learned that the people who follow advice are the ones who are successful. Those that try and configure their own solution based on something they read on the internet or what a friend of theirs told them are the ones that are likely to experience unintended consequences.
Frank) on the house and the accounts, and that child will “do the right thing” and make sure his siblings get their share. Well, counting on a child to “do the right thing” is an accident waiting to happen.
If Frank is sued while Mom is alive, can Mom’s house and assets that she owns with Frank be in jeopardy? Yes.
If Mom passes, and then Frank gets divorced, can his wife get half? Yes. If Mom passes and Frank’s siblings plead with Frank for their share, are they legally entitled to it? No.
There is a better way. Mom hires a lawyer and creates a trust. She makes it so she and Frank are co-trustees, and that Frank can act alone, as Trustee, while Mom is alive. Mom wants Frank to handle the bills, so she makes him a co-trustee with the full authority to act. Mom’s trust directs Frank to distribute the property to he and his siblings in equal shares and she leaves it to them “in trust” so they can use the money but can’t lose it if they get sued. She can also direct Frank to report to his siblings annually, and that he gets no pay.
Now, under this better way…. Frank and his siblings will get along. Conflict among the siblings is less likely If Frank is sued while Mom is alive, can Mom’s house and assets that she owns with Frank be in jeopardy? No. If Mom passes, and then Frank gets divorced, can his wife get half? No.
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For instance, by way of example, let’s say Mom survives Dad and basically inherits everything from Dad free of trust. Okay, so that transfer may not have been too involved because the assets may have all been owned jointly with survivorship rights or designated to go to the survivor. So, Mom may think that she should just put one child (let’s call him
If Mom passes and Frank’s siblings plead with Frank for their share, are they legally entitled to it? Yes.
The moral of the story?
Do not count on your child to “do the right thing”, and planning ahead can make a big difference.
Mark F. Winn, Master of Laws (LL.M.) in Estate Planning, a local asset protection, estate planning and elder law attorney.
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Healthy habits through the holidays: staying balanced in a season of indulgence
BY JENNIFER C. WOLFE Contributor
The holiday season is a time of joy, celebration and connection. From lavish feasts to late-night parties, the festive period can be a whirlwind of activity and indulgence. While it’s important to savor the spirit of the season, maintaining healthy habits ensures you don’t wake up in January feeling sluggish and out of sync. Here’s how to embrace the holidays
mindfully, striking a balance between enjoyment and well-being.
1. Prioritize Sleep, Even During Busy Weeks
Late nights are inevitable during the holiday season, whether you’re wrapping gifts, attending parties or traveling to see loved ones. However, sleep deprivation can lead to fatigue, weakened immunity and difficulty managing stress. Aim to
maintain a consistent sleep schedule as much as possible. Consider short power naps or meditative rest to recharge during the day. A relaxing bedtime routine, such as reading or sipping herbal tea, can also help signal to your body that it’s time to wind down.
2. Stay Active with Creative Workouts
The gym might not always fit into your holiday plans, but staying active doesn’t
have to mean sticking to your usual routine, particularly in our coastal climate. Get creative with exercise: take a brisk walk after a family meal, play an active game with kids, or try a holiday-themed fitness challenge at home. Physical activity not only helps manage weight and boosts mood but also combats the stress
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that can accompany holiday demands. Even 20 minutes of movement a day can make a big difference.
3. Schedule a Spa Day for Relaxation and Recovery
The holiday season can leave you physically and mentally drained, making selfcare essential. Treat yourself to a spa day to rejuvenate your body and mind. A massage can relieve muscle tension from holiday shopping marathons, while a facial or body treatment can combat winter skin dryness. Even a brief visit to enjoy a sauna, salt room or guided meditation session can work wonders for your stress levels. Spa days not only provide physical relief but also allow you to carve out uninterrupted “me time” during a busy season.
4. Mind Your Plate at Gatherings
Holiday feasts are filled with temptations, from buttery cookies to rich gravies. While it’s okay to indulge, moderation is key. Start with smaller portions and focus on savoring the flavors rather than mindlessly eating. Balance your plate with a mix of lean proteins, vegetables and healthy fats. When desserts beckon, choose the ones you truly love rather than sampling everything. If you’re hosting, consider offering lighter options like roasted vegetables, fruit platters or whole-grain sides alongside traditional dishes.
5. Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate
Amid the festive toasts and endless cups of eggnog, it’s easy to overlook water intake. Dehydration can lead to fatigue, headaches and even increased hunger. Start your day with a glass of water and keep sipping throughout the day. If plain water feels too bland, infuse it with slices of citrus, cucumber or mint for a festive twist.
6. Set Boundaries for Stress Management
aries. It’s okay to say no to events or tasks that overwhelm you. Prioritize activities that bring genuine joy and connection, and don’t hesitate to delegate responsibilities. Practices like mindfulness meditation, journaling, or even a short walk in nature can help keep stress at bay.
7. Limit Screen Time for Quality Connections
While it’s tempting to scroll through holiday deals or post every festive moment on social media, excessive screen time can detract from genuine connection and increase mental fatigue. Set aside your devices during family meals or gatherings. Instead, engage in activities that foster connection, like storytelling, board games or decorating together. Being present not only enriches your relationships but also grounds you in the true spirit of the holidays.
9. Maintain Gratitude and Reflection Amid the hustle and bustle, it’s easy to lose sight of what makes the holidays meaningful. Incorporate a gratitude practice into your routine to stay grounded. Whether it’s sharing what you’re thankful for around the dinner table or jotting down a few reflections each morning, gratitude fosters a positive mindset and reduces stress.
The holiday season is about celebrating life’s abundance, not sacrificing your health for indulgence or vice versa. By prioritizing balance, self-care, and mindfulness—including a well-deserved spa day—you can enjoy all the season has to offer while staying energized and grounded. Embrace the joy, cherish the connections, and give yourself the gift of wellness this holiday season.
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Sharks defend Lowco wrestling crown
May River’s Marcus Foulk blasts Hilton Head’s Bryce Stephenson with a double-leg takedown in the 120-pound championship match at the Lowcountry Wrestling Championships on Saturday, Dec. 7, at Hilton Head Island High School. Foulk won a hard-fought decision for his second Lowco title.
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BY JUSTIN JARRETT Contributor
The rising depth and level of competition among the Lowcountry’s growing number of wrestling programs was on display at the second annual Lowcountry Wrestling Championships at Hilton Head Island High School, but the May River Sharks showed they’re still the biggest fish in the pond.
Coach Ashley Powell’s team rolled out a lineup filled with new names, but the Sharks still racked up 222 points to comfortably retain the team crown with May River wrestlers reaching the finals in nine of the 14 weight classes and six claiming individual titles.
The Bluffton Bobcats finished second with 125.5 points, with Beaufort High (118), Hilton Head High (117), Bridges
Prep (115.5) and Battery Creek (97) tightly packed behind them, indicative of the sport’s growing popularity in the area and strong parity in Region 6-4A, where the Bobcats, Eagles and Seahawks will be duking it out and trying to take down the Sharks.
Among those claiming gold were five repeat Lowco champs — May River’s Ryan Seman (106), Marcus Foulk (120), Liam Engblom (126) and Joshua Echeverria (190), as well as Bridges Prep’s Jeremiah Chavez, the two-time heavyweight champion. Battery Creek’s Nate Najar (150) and Bridges Prep’s Ali Jenkins (175) claimed titles after runner-up finishes a year ago.
May River’s Joshua Echeverria works to secure a pin and defeat Bluffton’s Landon Heath for the 190-pound title at the Lowcountry Wrestling Championships on Saturday, Dec. 7, at Hilton Head Island High School. Echeverria was one of five back-toback Lowco champions.
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The other champs were Bluffton’s Eli Garcia (113) and Gabe Fulton (165); May River’s Thomas Brough (144) and Blake Butler (157); Hilton Head’s Cole Sowers (132) and Ethan Fleming (138); and Beaufort’s Colton Freeman (215). Garcia and Sowers are both freshmen.
The quality of competition was on display in the championship finals, which showcased several high-profile matchups. At 120 pounds, Foulk earned a hardfought decision over Hilton Head’s Bryce Stephenson, a third-place finisher at last year’s Class 4A state tournament. Fulton’s major decision over May River’s Leandro Larranaga was another highlight in the 165-pound bracket — arguably the toughest weight class in the tournament with returning state-placer Antonio McKnight of Beaufort defeating Bridges Prep’s Kevin Summers, a defending Lowco champ, in the consolation finals.
Chavez’s well-earned decision against Beaufort’s Jaden Priester was one of the weekend’s best battles with last year’s third-place finisher in Class 2A/1A taking his second straight 285-pound title.
Bluffton Middle School (185.5) edged Hilton Head Middle (175.8) and Bridges Prep (164) in the middle school division,
with Hilton Head and Bridges each claiming four individual titles.
2024 LOWCOUNTRY WRESTLING INVITATIONAL TEAM SCORES
May River 222, Bluffton 125.5, Beaufort 118, Hilton Head 117, Bridges Prep 115.5, Battery Creek 97, Whale Branch 50, Hardeeville 3 LOWCO CHAMPIONS
106: Ryan Seman, MR
113: Eli Garcia, BLUF
120: Marcus Foulk, MR
126: Liam Engblom, MR
132: Cole Sowers, HH
138: Ethan Fleming, HH
144: Thomas Brough, MR
150: Nate Najar, BCHS
157: Blake Butler, MR
165: Gabe Fulton, BLUF
175: Ali Jenkins, BP
190: Joshua Echeverria, MR
215: Colton Freeman, BFT
285: Jeremiah Chavez, BP
Justin Jarrett is the sports editor of The Island News and is the founder of Lowco Sports. He has a passion for sports and community journalism and a questionable sense of humor.
A NIGHT FILLED WITH LIGHT
Eve UNDER THE STARS
DECEMBER 24TH 6:30PM
Free refreshments starting at 6:00pm
Family-Friendly Candlelight Service
Bluffton Oyster Factory Park 63 Wharf St., Bluffton SC 29910
A service for the community by The New Bluffton Worship & First Zion Missionary Baptist Church
Christmas is truly a season of light. Not just light shows or tree decorations, but to worship God for the light of hope that came when Jesus was born. The service includes messages, carols, and lighting of candles to Silent Night under a Christmas sky on the May River at Oyster Factory Park in Old Town Bluffton.
The New Bluffton Worship is an independent church family with a non-trditional style of worship. Regular Schedule in-person or live streamed: 9:00 & 10:30AM at 39 Persimmon St. #203, Blufft5on 29910 www.theNewBlufftonWorship.com
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Traveling with neuropathy: essential tips for a comfortable journey
BY DR. KENNETH HORUP Contributor
It’s that time of year again. The weather is getting colder, the Christmas lights are wrapped around the trees, and we are all gearing up to see our friends and family. Unfortunately, for many patients I see, and people you know, traveling is no longer as easy as it used to be. When suffering with peripheral neuropathy, along with other balance and foot conditions, unique challenges arise from travel. Maybe the pain in your feet is too much to even bother traveling. Consider requesting wheelchair assistance at the airport. It’s free and simple to obtain without a doctor’s note. I know walking long airport distances is difficult, and standing in the TSA lines can be exhausting. No matter the situation, my hope for each of you is to spend time with your friends and family, near and far, so this article will focus on some essential tips to help you travel more confidently and comfortably.
Let’s start with preparation. If you have neuropathy or any significant condition, please discuss your travel plans with your healthcare provider. They can provide recommendations for your journey and help ensure that it is safe for you to travel. It may also be a good idea to request a travel letter explaining your condition and prescribed medications/ equipment, just in case of emergency. When packing, make sure to take said letter, medications, snacks/water and comfort items that may make your trip easier. As a chiropractor, a good exam-
ple of a comfort item is a travel neck pillow for improved posture if you doze off on the commute.
Additional items may increase comfort for patients with peripheral neuropathy. For example, heat packs are small and can help warm cold extremities, a common symptom. If you are traveling via airplane, compression socks may be recommended to reduce swelling when in the air. Also, keep your feet moving during the flight. You may experience an increase in tingling or pain in the feet when sitting for long durations. If that is the case, I encourage you to straighten out your legs, circle your ankles and wiggle your toes every 15 minutes to help the circulation in your feet while being stationary. If you’re going on a road trip, that advice can also apply, however, even better than small movements, I encourage you to plan rest stops once an hour. Get out of the car, stretch your legs, and walk for about five minutes before getting back in the car to continue your journey. If you suffer from tight/cramping muscles, you could bring a portable massager to assist in relieving that pain. Finally, if you are heading into colder climates, thick socks, gloves, thermal pants and other apparel can assist in keeping your extremities warm on vacation.
Traveling with peripheral neuropathy may require extra planning, but it doesn’t have to be daunting. By consulting your doctor, packing thoughtfully and incorporating these strategies, you can minimize discomfort and focus on the joy of seeing your loved ones. I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, and safe travels!
Dr. Kenneth Horup, DC is a Chiropractic Physician at Discover Specific Chiropractic, Board Certified in Neuropathy.
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Trust your gut: building self-belief and confidence through experience
BY WENDY KUSHEL Contributor
Self-belief, confidence and self-knowledge go hand in hand. But let’s be honest— it’s not always easy to possess all three at once. In today’s world, knowing who you truly are and trusting yourself can feel like a battle. Yet, deep down, we all have that voice, that gut feeling, guiding us toward what’s right. The key is learning to listen to it.
People will always tell you how they think things should be done. Their way. Their path. Their plan. But at the end of the day, you know your truth. It’s in your gut, whispering, “This is the way.” Listening to it means picking your
battles wisely because energy is finite. You can’t fight every fight, but you can focus on what matters most to you. Take starting a business, for example. When you’re just getting started, the details can feel overwhelming—labels on products, for instance. They need to look sharp, line up correctly and convey your vision. Here’s a detail many don’t realize: font size. If someone can’t read it from three feet away on a store shelf, it won’t grab their attention. But here’s the thing—these are the kinds of lessons you learn as you go.
And that’s the beauty of growth. With each problem you solve, each hurdle you clear, and each success you achieve, your confidence builds. Bit by bit, you realize you can trust yourself. You’re capable of making the right decisions and standing your ground when something doesn’t sit right with you.
Barbra Streisand is a perfect example of this. Read her book, and you’ll see how deeply she believes in herself. She’s not afraid to fight for what she knows is right. That kind of conviction comes from experience and a refusal to settle for less than what aligns with her vision.
In life, it’s essential to pick your battles. You can’t speak up every time something doesn’t suit you—no one wants to be “that person.” But there are moments when
staying silent isn’t an option. If someone’s speeding through a neighborhood, you speak up. Why? Because it’s the right thing to do.
The more you accomplish in life— whether in business, relationships or personal growth—the stronger your self-belief will become. Confidence is built through experience, and with every step forward, you prove to yourself that you’re capable. Trust your gut. Believe in who you are.
Wendy Kushel is the owner of Wendala’s LowCountry Sugar Scrub, LLC based in Bluffton, SC. Drawn to the Beauty & Personal Care Industry Wendy founded her company in 2020. Her background includes stand-up comedy, film, TV and a lot of sales and marketing. For more information about Wendala’s® LowCountry Sugar Scrub visit www.lowcountrysugarscrub. com or call/text 843-949-8933.
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Want to feel better and live longer? Give more!
BY ROB PEARSON Contributor
BMC Public Health, a peer-reviewed, open-access scientific journal, published a study that followed adults over 50 years old for five years and found that those who volunteered at least once a week had a 44% lower risk of dying during the five-year study period than those who did not volunteer.
An article in the Journal of Happiness Studies found that volunteering is linked to increased happiness.
The Journal of Positive Psychology published research that found people who spent money on others experienced great happiness and satisfaction. Other studies have shown that a benefit of charitable giving is its ability to reduce stress, depression and anxiety. Donors experience a sense of purpose and fulfillment leading to a positive impact on one’s mental health. Giving to others helps people shift their attention away from their own concerns and stressors.
Often when individuals donate to charitable causes, they support organizations or initiatives that align with their personal values and beliefs. This helps create a shared sense of purpose and commitment among donors, volunteers and those benefiting from the charitable work.
A great way to meet like-minded individuals and foster new relationships is through volunteering or participating in a fund-raising event. It provides one with the opportunity to join others with shared interests. Examples include volunteering at a local food bank, nonprofit health clinic or leading an English as a Second Language program.
Research has shown that social connections and a sense of community can have a positive impact on mental health and well-being. Additionally, these types of individuals are more likely to engage in healthy behaviors, such as exercising regularly and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
So, now that you know that donating money and volunteering your time can help you live longer and feel better about yourself and the world you live in, you may have just found another reason or two to give more this holiday season and throughout the year. There are hundreds of Lowcountry nonprofit organizations who need your support to continue working towards meeting their missions. Your donation of money and/ or time may be just what they need to help them meet their goals. Happy Giving!
Rob Pearson, M.S. is Executive Director of Mental Health America of the Lowcountry, providing daily adult group mental health counseling programs in Bluffton and Beaufort for clients with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety, PTSD and more. Contact: robp@mhalowcountry.org , 843-415-9110
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Arts & Entertainment Calendar
DECEMBER 21
Golf Cart Christmas Parade – Join us for Lot 9 Brewing Co’s 4th Annual Golf Cart Christmas Parade—the jolliest event of the season! Saturday at 5:30PM. Bring your holiday spirit and deck out your golf carts in the most festive way possible because we’re lighting up the street with cheer, laughter, and maybe a friendly competition for the most spectacularly decorated cart! What to expect: Holiday music and vibes, Seasonal brews to keep you merry & bright. Prizes for the BEST decorated carts Family-friendly fun for all ages. This is THE holiday event that brings our amazing community together. Don’t have a golf cart? No worries—come out and enjoy the parade, grab your favorite brew, and soak in the festive atmosphere!
DECEMBER 20 AND 21
Arborwood Lights with Santa – Friday and Saturday from 6PM to 9PM at 9 Ar bormeade Cir, Bluffton. Santa is coming to Arborwood Lights! Bring your family and
(weather permitting)
We will also have our “angel tree” posted if you are interested in choosing a gift to purchase for the families we adopted this holiday season. Just choose an ornament, have fun shopping, and then return the gift (unwrapped) by December 16th. If shopping is not your thing, we will also be accepting gift cards and cash donations for our families. We look forward to seeing you soon!
DECEMBER 22
The Lowcountry Christmas Experience –Sunday from 6PM to 8PM at 801 Buckwalter Pkwy, Bluffton. Hosted by Lowcountry Community Church. Bring the whole family to experience a night of wonder and joy with the area’s largest walking trail of lights, refreshments, Christmas music, a live nativity scene, a petting zoo, and photos with Santa - all for free!
The Hilton Head Island Jingle Jingle Bridge Run - an Island holiday tradition since 1992, will take place on Sunday, De-
cember 22nd, beginning at 8 a.m. This year’s event features both 5K and 10K races, starting and finishing at Crossing’s Park, and will take participants across the scenic Broad Creek on the Cross Island Expressway. All participants will receive a colorful Long Sleeve Jingle Jingle Bridge Run T-shirt. Following the races, there will be an awards ceremony complete with refreshments, music, and door prizes. Awards will be given to the top three overall male and female finishers, the top male and female masters, as well as the top three runners in each age group. To celebrate the season, we encourage all participants to wear holiday costumes, including elf and Santa outfits! A percentage of proceeds from the event will benefit local charities. For more information or to register visit bearfootsports.com or call Bear Foot Sports at 843/757-8520.
DECEMBER 24
Christmas Eve Under the Stars - a family-oriented outdoor worship service at 6:30p.m. under the night sky in Old Town Bluffton at Oyster Factory Park on the May River at 63 Wharf St. The service is a coop-
erative effort by The New Bluffton Worship and First Zion Missionary Baptist Church to bring the community together at Christmas. Carols and music provided by Bluffton Worship’s band and special musicians from First Zion. Worship includes the traditional lighting of Christmas candles to the singing of Silent Night. Free-will offerings gratefully accepted for local missions. While seating is available at the park site, you may also bring a chair. Free refreshments provided under the pavilion. More information: www.thenewblufftonworship.com
DECEMBER 28
Jess Zimmerman Band – Saturday from 8PM to 11PM at UnCorked. One of the best new bands in the country, The Jess Zimmerman Band hits the UnCorked stage on 12/28 for 1 night only!! Jess will perform her original music and some Christmas songs!! The band just won 2 more Josie Awards at the Grand Ole Opry this past October!! They were nominated for 6 awards! This band is Rock Country all the way!! Do not miss this show!! THERE IS A $15 MUSIC FEE FOR THIS EVENT!!
The wild is better up close
BY GLENDA HARRIS Contributor
Looking for a natural and free-roaming type of “zoo” experience? Consider heading west into middle Georgia for a different kind of getaway. This conservation park will enthrall the entire family, offering an up-close look at a wide variety of animals.
The animals here include exotics rarely seen by most of us. Expect to see zebras, giraffes, rhinos, several species of antelopes including Bongos and Addax, emu, the American Bison, the common ostrich and more.
This new destination in Madison, Georgia opened in June of 2024 and is just under a 4-hour drive from Bluffton. They offer overnight lodging and tours of the expansive 530-acre savanna which makes it possible and easy to optimize your visit and see everything.
PARK TOURS: To see and enjoy the wide variety of wildlife and have an opportunity to see them up close, consider arranging a private VIP tour. There are several tours of different durations, and the expert tour guides can answer any and all of your questions. Include the entire family for the valuable learning experiences to be had, all while having fun. Visit www.georgiasafari. com for details, pricing and photos.
OVERNIGHT ACCOMMODA-
TIONS: Three different accommodations are offered if you want to extend your visit and explore this unique Conservation Park.
You can stay in a Safari Tent (think comfortable and cozy “glamping”). These two-bedroom tents accommodate up to four guests in a modern setting with amazing views.
Book a stay in the Giraffe Suite for up-close and expansive views of giraffes and rhinos in their barn. The spacious, one-bedroom suite (sleeps 4) is attached to the 10,000 square-foot barn. It also includes a kitchenette and a VIP tour of the park (a “get the most for your money” option).
The Honeymoon Hideaway (sleeps 2) features luxurious furnishings and bedding with a kitchenette and two private decks to enjoy views of an African savanna in the middle of Georgia.
GENERAL INFORMATION:
No pets are allowed on the property due to animal safety protocols.
Wheelchair accessible touring is available.
This is a smoke-free facility
The tours operate rain or shine.
THE MISSION AND VISION OF THE PARK
From the Georgia Safari Conservation Park website, “Our Mission is to inspire in others a greater understanding, appreciation, and connection to the natural world.”
Our Vision is “… to create a conservation legacy that will have a positive impact on the lives of people and animals.”
The Conservation Park’s address for your GPS: 1761 Monticello Hwy Madison, GA 30650
Phone: (706) 342 4296
Enjoy and stay safe out there!
A former Bluffton resident, Glenda finds stories everywhere and writes about nature, travel, healthy living and books.
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Native island heritage gets the star treatment at this celebration of all things Gullah. Enjoy Lowcountry cuisine, gospel music performed by Voices of El Shaddai, storytelling, De Aarts ob We People, hands-on crafts, and more! Get ready for an unforgettable culinary experience that’s as rich in history as it is in taste!
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Do Look Up!
BY ROSEMARY STAPLES Contributor
January 5 is National Bird Day, celebrated annually to promote appreciation for our high-flying friends. With our focus now on the New Year, what better bird to spotlight than our national symbol, the Bald Eagle? The story of its decline and comeback is one of the most successful conservation tales of all time.
Historical records estimate the U.S. had 100,000 nesting eagle pairs in the 1800s. By 1963, hunting, habitat loss and pesticides had reduced their numbers to a record-low 417 pairs. Then, Rachel Carson’s book, “Silent Spring,” highlighted the dangers of the chemical DDT and kickstarted the environmental movement. Ten years later, the U.S. banned DDT, passed the Endangered Species Act, and eagle numbers soundly rebounded. By 2020, the Fish and Wildlife Service reported 71,400 breeding pairs in the lower 48 states. At this rate, a return to the 100,000 nesting pairs is definitely doable.
Closer to home, the Nature Conservancy reported 475 active eagles’ nests
in South Carolina, up from only thirty in the 1970s. Almost 200 of those nests are in the ACE Basin between Charleston and Beaufort, tucked along rivers and impoundments. Nests on Hilton Head, Daufuskie Island and Bluffton may number in the double digits, although that’s only a guesstimate. Their cone-shaped nests, or “eyries,” are tucked in the tallest pines near open water.
Sometimes nests are in neighborhood trees, hiding in plain sight while humans wander below, oblivious to the avian world above.
The first active Bald Eagle nest in Bluffton was discovered in 1998 on the May River by residents Shelly and Branden Waring. Being avid birders, they notified the SCDNR and watched the entire seven-month breeding season from their kayak. The eagles grew accustomed to the Warings’ presence, who kept a respectful distance, but they saw it all — nesting, courting, mating, incubating, hatching, hunting, feeding, and
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finally, the eaglet’s first flight. As the juvenile grew in strength, they saw less and less of the clan and were gone by the end of spring.
By January, most eagle eggs have been laid or have already hatched, while adults hunt for fish, mammals, even carrion, to feed their brood, so do look up. You might spot an eagle steal an osprey’s catch or scoop a mink out of the May River. Most mornings, an eagle is posted on a Skull Creek tower as you leave Hilton Head. A rare possibility is to witness a pair entwined in a daring mating ritual known as the “death spiral,” where eagles soar upwards, lock their talons together, then spiral down to the earth and release their claws seconds before crashing to the ground!
Bald Eagles mate for life and return to the same nest each year. Both birds supply the materials necessary for the upgrade, in a sort of “foreplay” that stimulates hormones and bonding while the two redo their eyrie. Observers note
that when the female is satisfied with the job, she lifts her tail to signal copulation and the male hops on top, over in five seconds.
Once a clutch is laid, usually 1-3 eggs, the female takes charge of most of the incubation, while the male hunts double-duty for the next 35 days. They alter roles occasionally as even the most dedicated parent needs a break from routine. After the chicks’ hatch, they will require 10-12 additional weeks of care, protection and feeding before strong enough to fledge. Sometimes, they need a little parental push, as pictured here.
Eagles mate any time of year as Kay Grinnell, president of Hilton Head Audubon, can attest. “We were having a cocktail party on my back deck, late in the spring, when a pair of eagles swooped onto a branch, copulated for us, then flew off.” It was well past mating season, so perhaps the two were empty-nesters.
Rosemary Staples is a member of Hilton Head Audubon, long time Lowcountry resident, writer, speaker, storyteller and Master Naturalist.
The Heritage Library has had the privilege to be a part of our community for more than 27 years and our success is a direct result of the support provided by our donors, members and volunteers. We offer our heartfelt thanks for your past support and humbly ask for your continued support. As we close out this year, we ask that you once again support the work that we do and give generously.
Thank you and best wishes for a holiday season filled with joy.
your family roots this summer on Hilton Head Island.
Parris Island Museum marks 50th anniversary as Marine Corps celebrates 250 years in 2025
BY EDWINA HOYLE Contributor
In 2025, the United States Marine Corps will celebrate its 250th Anniversary and the 50th anniversary of the Parris Island Museum. Lowcountry residents and visitors are encouraged to visit the Marine Corps Depot at Parris Island to learn about its history and legacy.
The Parris Island Museum is housed in the War Memorial Building which was built in 1951 and is now listed on the National Register of Historic Places. According to Shellie West Hodges, executive director of the Parris Island Heritage Foundation, the Parris Island Museum is one of three command museums in the U.S. and serves recruits East of the Mississippi. The other is in San Diego for recruits West of the Mississippi, and the third is the National Marine Corps Museum in
Quantico, Va.
“Parris Island is special because of the history of the Marine Corps and the history of the Lowcountry,” Hodges said. A visit to the 10,000 square foot museum is free of charge and every artifact tells a story beginning from the history of Santa Elena in the 1500s to the present day.
Hodges said the museum even houses a Paleo Indian canoe from the 1500s.
The museum displays range from Spanish and French settlements during the 16th century to the development of Parris Island as a training depot for U.S. Marines. There are exhibits about the American Revolution, the Civil War and Reconstruction era, the Spanish American War, World Wars I and II, Korea, Vietnam, Iraq and even Afghanistan. There is also a Recruit Training Gallery where you can see the training, discipline and transformation of young recruits into Marines in a
movie. You will also learn about the Crucible – an intense 54-hour long test of their survival skills.
Hodges explained that once the recruits
successfully return from the Crucible, they are met by officers who call out the names of historic battles along with the words, “You’re now a Marine.” Hodges said this return march is very motivational, especially as the recruits receive their Marine Corps emblem, the ‘Eagle, Globe and Anchor,’ the Marine Corps symbol. The museum commemorates generations of Marines who have served our nation. Of note, in 1949, Parris Island welcomed the first female recruits following the passage of The Women’s Armed Services Integration Act of 1948. Parris Island remains the only recruit depot to train enlisted female Marines. All female recruits joined the 4th Recruit Training Battalion and were segregated from male recruits until March 2023 when the battalion was deactivated, marking successful
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Every salesman’s dream customer
BY DANIE CONNOLLY Contributor
My husband says that I am every salesman’s dream customer…he imagines me clutching $100 bills in my fist, leaping over babies and car seats, knocking over little old ladies grasping for their latte coffee and cutting in front of senior golfers looking for autographed golf balls. Have no fear…Super Shopper is here! The irony is that this isn’t a Black Friday kinda thing. This is the most wonderful time of the year when art galleries gather their talented artists and have sales on their arts and crafts and small items for the holidays. The Society of Bluffton Artists (SOBA) has decorated their gallery and dedicated their showrooms to unique holiday gifts you can’t
get from Amazon. These are one-of-a-kind holiday ornaments, Christmas cards, and fabulous hostess gifts for last-minute parties. The days of waltzing in with a bottle of wine haven’t gone by yet but you can at least put a charming ornament around the neck of the bottle and make it extra special.
I did a little reconnaissance shopping today to see what’s hot and what’s not. SOBA has decked their walls with great artwork and cool ornaments to embellish any of your already bought gifts. There are hundreds of one-of-a-kind ornaments, cards, and sculptures. If you’re a Santa Claus lover, wait till you see these good old boys and some collectible fun dolls that are top-notch waiting for you. The oyster trees come in all sizes and are so fabulous that I can’t believe they are
priced so low. If you want to make your martini lovers smile, then be sure to grab the martini shaker and glass sets! 100 years ago, when Big Beautiful Bob (BBB) and I were married, he was in charge of the Christmas presents. Nikita Kristen hats for the men, black pocketbooks for the woman. Period. I was mortified. It wasn’t until years later that it finally sank in that everyone confessed, they loved their presents. In fact, it was the best present they’d ever gotten. That was the same year I bought BBB his first gifts as a married couple.
My sister and I grew up in a family that bought 100 $1 gifts and Bob’s family grew up with one $100 gift…there was definitely a difference in our holiday shopping. I had taken a holiday job at the local department store and lo and behold - they were having a sale - two shirts for three bucks. Are you kidding me? I cornered the market! I could scarcely sleep Christmas Eve, anticipating the sheer joy when he saw all the decorated presents for him. It wasn’t until he started opening them up that I realized why they were such a big deal. Each shirt had two left sleeves! Suffice to say the 60’s were pretty fashion ugly but two left sleeves? He loves to mention that year was our quantity, not quality year. I never made that mistake again! Merry Everything Everybody! Shop local!!!
A Lowcountry celebration of the Feast of the Seven Fishes
BY LESLIE ROHLAND Contributor
As Christmas approaches, many families in the Lowcountry look forward to festive gatherings, good food and cherished traditions. One beloved custom, the Feast of the Seven Fishes, brings the spirit of the season to the table with a seafood feast steeped in Italian-American heritage. This year, why not embrace the coastal charm of the Lowcountry and make it your own?
What is the Feast of the Seven Fishes?
The Feast of the Seven Fishes, or La Vigilia, is a Christmas Eve tradition observed by Italian-American families. Rooted in Catholic practices, it honors the Vigil (Vigilia) of Christ’s birth with a meal that abstains from meat and focuses on seafood.
The number seven has symbolic meanings in Christianity, representing the seven sacraments or the seven days of creation. Families often adapt the feast to include as few as three or as many as 13
dishes. Whether simple or elaborate, the Feast of the Seven Fishes is a joyful way to gather loved ones and celebrate the season.
How the Feast Began
The feast as we know it developed in the early 20th century among Italian immigrants in the United States, who combined Catholic traditions with a celebration of abundance in their new homeland. While seafood meals are common in Italy, the formal concept of serving seven dishes is unique to Italian-American culture.
Here in the Lowcountry, the abundance of fresh, local seafood offers an opportunity to put a regional twist on this timeless tradition.
How to Celebrate the Feast of the Seven Fishes in the Lowcountry
You don’t have to be Italian to enjoy this tradition—just a lover of good food and family togetherness! Here are some ideas for a Lowcountry-inspired feast: Plan Your Menu with Local Flair
The Lowcountry is known for its sea-
food, so let local ingredients inspire your menu. Classic Italian dishes can be reimagined with a coastal twist:
• Fried Oysters: Perfectly crispy and served with a tangy remoulade.
• She-Crab Soup: A creamy addition to honor local flavors.
• Shrimp and Grits: A Lowcountry staple to start the meal.
• Crab Cakes: Loaded with fresh lump crabmeat.
• Lowcountry Boil: A crowd-pleaser with shrimp, sausage, and corn (hold the sausage if observing tradition).
• Baked Flounder: Delicately seasoned and perfect for pairing with vegetables.
• Steamed Clams or Mussels: Enhanced with white wine, garlic and fresh herbs.
Gather Family and Friends
The Feast of the Seven Fishes is about connection, so invite loved ones to join in the preparations. Make it a potluck with each guest bringing a seafood dish to share.
Create a Coastal Christmas Ambiance
Bring the Lowcountry’s natural beauty to your table by decorating with oyster shells, candles and greenery and setting the table with coastal-inspired linens. End on a Sweet Note
Balance the savory meal with traditional Italian desserts like cannoli or panettone. Or mix in local favorites like pecan pie or pralines for a Southern touch.
A Tradition Worth Adopting
The Feast of the Seven Fishes is more than a meal—it’s a celebration of family, faith and the season’s abundance. By incorporating the flavors and traditions of the Lowcountry, you can make this Italian-American custom uniquely your own.
This Christmas Eve, gather around the table, savor the bounty of our coastal waters, and enjoy a tradition that bridges cultures and generations. Buon Natale and Merry Christmas, y’all!
Leslie Rohland is the owner of Bluffton Pasta Shoppe, your source for all things Italian! Carrying the finest Foods, Wines and Gifts from Italy.
Ask the Expert: I’m worried
in me during the holidays.
BY LISA HOSTETLER BROWN Contributor
Expert Answer: The holidays are a time for love, laughter and making memories with your family. They also provide a chance to reflect on the future and how you can take control of your health, finances and legacy. If you’ve noticed that certain tasks feel a little more challenging lately, or if you simply want to ensure your wishes are honored, now is the perfect time to start planning.
Recognizing the Changes in Yourself
As we age, it’s natural for things to
change—whether it’s how quickly we move around, how well we remember details or even how much energy we have. These are not signs of failure, but rather reminders that planning ahead is important. Taking a proactive approach can help ensure your future needs are met without placing unnecessary burdens on your loved ones.
Talking to Your Family
The holidays are the perfect time to sit down with your family and share your thoughts about the future. Let them know what’s important to you—whether it’s staying in your home, maintaining control over your finances or ensuring your health preferences are followed. These conversations don’t have to be stressful; in fact, they can be empowering when everyone knows you’re taking the lead.
The Role of an Elder Law Attorney
One of the best steps you can take is to meet with an elder law attorney. These professionals concentrate in helping aging adults create a comprehensive plan for the years ahead. They can ensure you have all the right legal documents in place, like a will, a trust, healthcare directives and powers of attorney, so your wishes are clear and respected.
An elder law attorney can also guide you in developing a care plan that evolves with your needs, whether you’re perfectly independent now or anticipate requiring more support later. They’ll help you protect your hard-earned assets, avoid probate, and plan for the possibility of Medicaid or other assistance, ensuring you can age with dignity and peace of mind.
Giving Yourself and Your Family Peace of Mind
Taking control of your future now is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and your loved ones. It alleviates worry and ensures that your legacy reflects who you are and what you value most.
This holiday season, take a moment to reflect on your future and make a plan. By working with your family and an elder law attorney, you can safeguard your independence, protect your assets, and ensure your wishes are honored every step of the way.
For educational purposes only. This is not legal advice. Lisa Hostetler Brown is a Certified Elder Law Attorney certified by the National Elder Law Foundation. 2 Hampton Hall, Bluffton, SC 29910 | 843757-5294 | LawyerLisa.com/Bluffton
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To convert, or not to convert to Roth IRA –tax is the question
BY NICK MARTIN Contributor
When planning for retirement, it has long been known that taxation is one of many associated mazes.
Just like the labyrinth of legend, tax law is constantly changing with time and often seems purpose-built to instill confusion. With uncertainty on the horizon and potential rate increases looming, the question on many recent and future retirees’ minds is whether to pay taxes now or pay them later.
The concept of a Roth IRA is nothing new. You pay taxes on income at the time of earning to avoid taxation upon withdrawal. For many, this is a decision that was made early on in their careers and has slowly become more impactful as savings continue to grow.
For those who made the decision to put their retirement savings into a Roth IRA from the start, there isn’t too much to consider. Their taxes are paid, and the account balance they see upon withdrawal is what they get, plain and simple. But what about those who elected not to use a Roth IRA for some or all of their retirement savings? Should they consider conversion?
Should you convert to a Roth IRA?
If you chose not to pay income tax as you earn and are waiting until retirement, you might not have considered changing your mind. For many, this makes sense. Targeting a percentage of your pre-retirement income to live on throughout retirement is a very common strategy, after all. If your retirement income is less than your income while earning, you can pay a lower tax rate. However, that relies on the tax rate of your retirement income remaining lower than the rate you would pay as
you’re earning. And as any shrewd investor knows, nobody can predict the future.
That’s not to say that there are no factors that are well within your control that are useful in making this decision. In fact, most Roth IRA conversions are the result of changes to one’s personal financial situation, not a reaction to a potential change in the overall financial landscape.
Some of the reasons you might choose to convert to a Roth IRA are:
• You expect your tax bracket to stay the same or go up in retirement – Paying taxes up front when you expect they will be the same or higher when you withdraw can both save money in the long term and provide a clearer picture of your balances upon retirement.
• You want to avoid being required to take minimum distributions (RMD) – A Roth IRA conversion will eliminate the RMDs associated with a Traditional IRA.
• You want to transfer unused taxfree funds to the beneficiaries of your estate – A Roth IRA conversion can be a great estate planning tool if you intend to leave portions of your retirement savings to your beneficiaries since the funds will not be taxed upon distribution.
• You want to make your retirement savings more diverse – Having a tax-diverse retirement plan can help to add flexibility to your expense management and allow for more predictable income and cash flow.
• You have the means to pay conversion tax without dipping into the savings themselves – Having the ability to pay taxes now on your retirement savings without needing to rely on the savings themselves for that expense can add security and help reduce uncertainty regarding how much tax you may pay later.
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Similarly, there are also reasons to avoid a Roth IRA conversion. It might not be your best option if:
• You need to access the converted funds within five years – When converting to a Roth IRA, there is a five-year waiting period before you can begin to distribute funds without owing an additional 10% tax penalty.
• You would be significantly burdened by the conversion taxes – Just because you’ll need to pay taxes on your retirement income eventually doesn’t mean that now is the best time for you to do it, especially if doing so means depleting other assets that would otherwise serve as a source of income or appreciation.
• You are not completely sure about the decision – One of the most important things to consider when contemplating a Roth IRA conversion is that it cannot be undone, so it is crucial to work with your trusted financial advisor and weigh the pros and cons for your own personal situation.
What we know about the unknown Recently, there has been a spike in interest among retirees regarding Roth IRA conversion resulting from rumors, reports, promises and other speculation about the future of taxation on retirement wealth. The reality of the situation is that only you and your financial advisor can determine the right path for your retirement. Make sure that if you do decide on a Roth IRA conversion, it’s for the right reasons. Changes in the system are only one factor in your financial situation, your retirement and your choices.
Next steps
• Get together with your financial advisor and discuss whether a Roth IRA conversion is right for you.
• Do some research and gain insight into the future of taxation so you can best decide for yourself if you need to make changes to your retirement plan.
• Don’t make any hasty decisions that will affect your retirement, and remember that any changes to taxation will take
time, which you can use to make a solid and stable plan.
• Consider the implications a Roth IRA conversion could have on your estate, especially if you intend to leave a significant portion of your retirement savings behind to your beneficiaries.
Nick Martin is a financial planner and
the founder of Bluffton Financial Planning. Bluffton Financial Planning is not a registered broker/dealer, and is independent of Raymond James Financial Services. Investment advisory services offered through Raymond James Financial Services Advisors, Inc.
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BY ABBY BIRD AKA ALPHADOG Contributor
As 2024 draws to a close, we have a lot to upon which to reflect, such as what’s important to us going forward, what impacted our lives over the past year, choices we made or are going to make, our community involvement, family, friends and a whole lot more.
This year, more than perhaps any other year, I have been involved in dog rescue. I think about the small impact I can make by fostering and even a bigger impact by promoting awareness of the dire needs of area shelters and rescues. Sometimes, it is not just about what we can each give through financial donations, but also other forms of support, such as donating items we may have that rescues need. Or can we give of ourselves by volunteering with the group in a variety of ways. Or supporting these groups by fostering and taking dogs in on a temporary basis to get them out of at-risk situations until they can get into a better, safer place. This does
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not require money, but it does require heart and giving of oneself. I am reflecting on why people by the thousands still do not spay and neuter, don’t use heartworm meds or still feel that animals are disposable.
I am thinking about GARD, a rescue gone bad. They took in animals in need and were supposed to care for them and then put them up for adoption, but instead, kept them in poor conditions, did not Vet or spay and neuter them and, the true horror, let them continue to breed.
It’s truly unthinkable in the rescue world!
I am grateful to One Love Animal Rescue who managed to get most of them off the property into safe fosters until they could be adopted.
I am thinking about Renegade Paws, Raskel’s Rescue, Lovable Paws, PAL and other wonderful local groups that take in animals from high kill shelters to give them a chance at finding a furever home. I am thinking about Grateful Golden Retrievers of the Lowcountry that has taken in senior dogs that families have given up
to rescue when parents pass away or have to go into assisted living. And others who take in what they have to or need to give them a chance, Beaufort County Animal Services, Hilton Head Humane and JARM. These animals can’t do without any of them, and to some degree, they all need our support in various ways.
I am thinking about downsizing things that I own, and by doing so, selling things and giving the proceeds to area rescues who always seem to call us in need.
I am reflecting on the dogs, clients, family and friends in my life who I have lost this year and miss, and those that are still here who I cherish even more.
I promise to make more time this coming year for all of them. And I promise to help as much as I can to continue to help save more lives of animals in need. I promise to tell people I care about them. Have a Happy New Year all and don’t take anything for granted.
Abby Bird is the owner of Alphadog Training Academy. AlphadogTrainingAcademy@gmail.com
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When a picture is worth a thousand words
BY COLLINS DOUGHTIE Contributor
Whenever that day comes when I go on to that next inevitable plane of existence, my family is going to have a hard time finding pictures of me should they want to display any at my going away party. Even now when I look through scrap books that I made for my kids, there are very few pictures of dear old dad because I was always the one behind the lens. It’s like I never existed at all. Why am I writing about my own mortality? Actually, I’m not. Being on a deadline for this column isn’t always easy especially when I have been in Florida at my sister’s for nearly ten days. Sure, I could ramble on about my trip and show you all the pictures I took while I was there but that would be awfully boring. “Here I am standing in front of her pool,” and “here’s a picture of me and my wife at an art fair at Cocoa Beach”— you get the picture.
So, with only a few lazy days to come up with this column after my return, I decided to grab my camera and see what I could come up with. What always amazes me about this part of the country is that you don’t have to go far to see extraordinary sights. Maybe that’s true about just about any region of the country but being somewhat biased toward the slowcountry, I’ll bet I could walk a four-square block area around my house and have enough quality pictures to fill a book. With time running short before my editor started panicking, I decided to do just that. I will say that I strayed a bit further than those four blocks but finding images worthy for print was easier than I could have ever imaged. I hope you will agree with the images I chose. Oh yeah, Happy Holidays!
Collins Doughtie is a 60-year resident of the Lowcountry, is a sportsman, graphic artist, and lover of nature. Collinsdoughtie@icloud.com
BY RABBI KEN KANTER Contributor
It’s beginning to look a lot like….
Every once in a while, we have a huge kerfuffle about whether we should greet our friends, or even more, strangers we meet with “Merry Christmas” or the more inclusive “Happy Holidays.” As the rabbi of Bluffton’s Temple Oseh Shalom, you may think this is a surprising topic for this December article, but especially this year, it is not!
Our Jewish community every winter season celebrates Chanukah, just as our friends in the Christian community celebrate Christmas. I can’t tell you how often I hear “oh, Chanukah is the Jewish Christmas.” But that is clearly not the case!
In the Christian religious calendar, Christmas is one of the two most important religious holidays, as it celebrates the birth of Jesus. And Easter, of course, is the other of
those most sacred holy days, commemorating the resurrection of Jesus. They are the most important days in the Christian religious calendar. Even for those Christians who rarely go to their church to worship with their fellow congregants, these are the days when they most likely would attend.
For Jews, Chanukah is a recognition of an ancient historical event, the victory of the small group of brave Jewish heroes, the Maccabees, who amazingly defeated the mighty Assyrian Greeks in a victory when the Assyrians attempted to force the ancient Hebrews to give up their monotheistic religion and worship the numerous pagan gods of the Greeks instead of the one God of the Hebrews. Even more, Chanukah is not a day, it is a season—eight days long. On each of those eight nights, Jews light candles in a special candelabra, a menorah, with eight candles and the “shamash” candle, with which the other eight are illuminated. Why eight days? Because of a miraculous story. It is said that after the Maccabees were able to return to the Temple of Jerusalem, which the Assyrians had conquered and defaced, the Hebrews
had attempted to rekindle the “Eternal light” using the sacred oil they found there. After purifying the temple, all they found was one small cruse of oil, enough, they thought, to burn for one night. Remarkably, or even miraculously, the eternal flame burned for eight days, giving them enough time to prepare most sacred oil to keep the Eternal light truly “eternal.” Hence the Chanukah menorah with its eight candles.
Christmas and Chanukah are very different in terms of their religious significance. For Christians, as I said, Christmas is of supreme significance. For Jews, Chanukah is a lesser, albeit fun holiday. Christians worship Christmas in magnificent, liturgically inspiring communal worship. For Jews, Chanukah is celebrated at home, lighting the eight branched menorah, repeating two blessings, (except on the first night when there is an additional prayer) and a couple of songs.
Christmas and Chanukah have much in common. Both are celebrated on the 25th day of the month—except for Christians, that month is December, and for our Jewish calendar, the month is Kislev. Both contain the il-
lumination of lights, whether it is candles or electric lights on Christmas trees or the Advent candles, or for Chanukah, the nightly kindling of candles on the Menorah. Both contain the giving of gifts (and both have become much too commercial in that regard), and both are based on miracles of faith. But why is this season so unusual? Because it is one of the rare times when the day of Christmas and the first night of Chanukah are concurrent! This year, December 25 and Kislev 25 occur at the same time. And as to my opening point, the holy time of Christmas and the commemoration of Chanukah are both celebrated at the same time when 13 other religions around the world celebrate festivals and worship times in their faith traditions.
It can truly be said “Happy Holidays” to so many people of so many beliefs, all at the same time!
A very happy and meaningful holy time for you.
Rabbi Ken Kanter currently serves the local Jewish congregation at the Temple Oseh Shalom in Bluffton.
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Peace of heart, mind and soul
H.G. Wells insisted, “That no passion in the world is equal to the passion to alter someone else’s draft.” At the risk of succumbing to that passion, I’d like to suggest that the translation of Paul’s Letter to the Church at Philippi, dignified and scholarly, and literally correct, could benefit from a second draft.
For getting Paul’s point across with both power and poetry, the best, if not the most linguistically literal translation of this text must be, “Anxious in nothing, prayerful in everything, thankful in anything…then, the peace.” Only when we have achieved a state of faith that allows those three attitudes to guide our lives does the “Peace of God” settle quietly over our heart, mind and soul.
This is the Faith Section of the Bluffton Sun, and as people of faith, we must experience the peace if we believe, as I do, that we are all called to be disciples and share the Good News. We are in the season of Advent, a period of preparation in the Christian church calendar that leads up to the coming of Christ into the world at his birth. We are days away from Christmas, a time we don’t want speeding by, or do we? I’m sure I’m not alone in being particularly concerned about the days passing so quickly. Certainly, I’m not the only one who hasn’t scraped the rotted Halloween pumpkin completely off of the steps, who still has a bit of cranberry sauce and collard greens lurking in a container in the back of the fridge and hasn’t a clue what gifts to send my five grandchildren who live five mailing days away.
Christmas is a wonderful time of year for developing the art of anxiety. Yet even though some of us are “organizationally impaired,” Paul’s words should shake us out of our Christmas Crazies, shatter our
fears and shape up our spirits so that we might live according to Paul’s principals, anxious in nothing, prayerful in everything and thankful in anything.
Frances Willard, the great temperance leader, once remarked with her usual forthrightness that “Anxiety is Atheistical!” To be constantly anxious suggests that somehow, we don’t quite trust. Be anxious in nothing and then seek God in prayer. Sometimes our requests seem childish and simple. Let it snow down south for Christmas. Other times, our requests are deeply serious; heal her, help him, hear me. God wants to hear our prayers and be present in our lives, so be prayerful in everything and never be afraid to ask, and then be thankful in anything. On the 39th day, do you think Noah went out on the deck of the ark and thanked God for the fresh rain falling on his face?
Being thankful in anything doesn’t mean putting on a happy face, but believing that the guiding, guarding hand of God is always present. Then and only then will
come the peace. In John 14, Jesus comforts His disciples, “Don’t let your hearts be troubled; believe in God, believe in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if it were not so, would I have told you I’m going to prepare a place for you? And if I go, I’ll come back and take you with me that you may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going.” Remember Thomas’ response? Lord, we don’t know where you’re going, so how can we know the way? You got to love those disciples! My personal path has always been in Jesus’ reply to Thomas, “I am the Way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
This Advent season, let the peace of God which surpasses all understanding fill you with joy! Say it with me; Anxious in nothing, prayerful in everything and thankful in anything. Then, the peace.
Rev. Dr. Nannette Pierson, Itinerant Elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church and Pastoral Associate at Campbell Chapel A.M.E. in Bluffton.
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How well do you focus on the golf course?
BY DR. JEAN HARRIS Contributor
An 18-hole round of golf takes about 4 to 4 ½ hours, and yet if you shoot a 90, you are probably over the ball about 45 minutes during the round. Therefore, you need to know what to do during the down time between shots. It takes knowing how to focus just prior to hitting your shot, your pre-shot routine and during your swing. You need to learn how to deal with distractions.
Last month, I was playing golf with friends, and we came to a difficult par 4 hole. As we were getting ready to tee off, we saw a large alligator on the fairway. Our focus changed from hitting the ball to staying away from the distraction. However, most of your distractions are things you can learn how to avoid and how you respond to them.
TYPES OF DISTRACTION:
What you see:
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• Players moving while you are hitting
• Shadows cast by a player in your group
• Someone standing behind you in your peripheral vision
• Bad course conditions
• Grounds maintenance staff mowing the fairway
• People who don’t rake bunkers or don’t sand divots in the fairway
What you hear:
• Players talking when you are hitting
• Highway noise, cars honking, ambulances
• Negative people in your group complaining
What you feel:
• Being paired with people you don’t know
• First tee jitters with people watching
• Playing through a slow group
• Playing with slow players
• Being rushed by the group behind you I’m sure you could name a few more. Once you asses the things that bother you on a golf course, you need to come up with a game plan on how to reframe your mindset and realize that you can only control yourself and not others. Redirect your attention and focus on the shot you are getting ready to hit. If you do get distracted, you need to back off a shot until you are mentally ready. It is important to have a pre-shot routine that you start again.
Many good players have a “trigger” to help them get into their pre-shot routine, like tearing the Velcro on their glove or tapping their clubhead behind the ball while they are looking down the fairway. Come up with your own “trigger” to help you get back into focus.
Dr. Jean Harris is an LPGA Master Professional at Pinecrest Golf Club. Jean.golfdoctor.harris@gmail.com
Spillin’ the Tea... Tales from the Lowcountry
This story is from a collection of interviews from long time locals who have generously shared their lowcountry memories with me to be saved for historical purposes and future generations
The Foot Point Flock
BY PAUL TOLLEFSON Contributor
Bluffton has always been an outdoorsman’s dream. From the endless creeks of the May and Colleton Rivers to the thousands upon thousands of acres of woods, fishing and hunting have always been a way of history and life in the area.
Laura Floyd knows this area all too well. Having been raised in the Lowcountry, she got her first boat when she was eight years old and has always grown up on the water and in the woods. Whether she was crabbing, shrimping, fishing, coon hunting or chasing bucks, Laura is an outdoor fanatic.
In the late 70s and into the 80s, Foot Point Plantation (now the Colleton River) was looking for a caretaker. Harry Cram had moved to his new place at Potato Island and sold Foot Point. Cram had known Laura for some time and knew that she would be perfect to watch over the land, and he recommended her to the new owners.
Although it took some time to settle into her new spot, Laura and her husband John quickly fell in love and made it their home. They had wonderful get togethers on the weekends with their friends of Bluffton and Hilton Head and loved being able to explore the vast amounts of woods and the waters of the Colleton River.
Laura had at Foot Point what she could only refer to as an “animal sanctuary.”
She had chickens, horses, roosters, goats, turkeys, ducks, dogs, and well as her rehabilitated fawn, Beau. She and John also bred and raised Bluetick Coonhounds. It was a perfect spot for all of the animals to roam free without worrying too much about them running off. There were ample places for the animals to call home, as Cram was also a lover of animals and had many stables and outbuildings. Laura mentioned that many times, the animals would just roam freely around the house. One story that she remembers all too well is during the 80s, there was about a 40-acre site of land that had been cleared by a prior owner that was to house an industrial site. Well, this cleared piece of land held thousands of once buried Indi-
an artifacts. Laura remembers fondly being able to walk around and always finding arrowheads as well as old pottery. Laura and her friends would accumulate buckets full of this stuff.
One day, Laura was on her horse, Etowah, and she planned on having a nice ride down to the cleared site while getting some spring sun and hunting for some artifacts. As she was getting ready to leave, Beau the fawn, who Laura raised, was going to tag along as well. The other animals saw all this happening, and in Noah’s Ark fashion, they all started forming a line behind Laura on her horse and the deer!
There was Seadog the beagle, Mr. Duck, Joel the turkey, May the milk goat, Real Estate the rooster and her other goat, Heidi. They all formed a line and meandered their way down to the Colleton River like one big family!
After some time in the sun on the bluffs of the Colleton, Laura heard the familiar sound of an outboard motor coming closer and closer. She threw a shirt on to
cover her bathing suit and saw a fishing boat with three men racing full speed toward the bluff. They slowed as they drew closer and when they were within shouting range, she heard them yell.
“Ma’am, please don’t be startled! But we tell a lot of fishing stories, some true and some not so true. But there is no way ANYONE is going to believe us when we tell them about you and your flock of animals hanging out right here on the Bluff!”
Paul Tollefson is the Director of Tennis at the Hampton Hall Club in Bluffton. He found his love for the Lowcountry in early 2002 after graduating high school and unsure of what career path he was destined towards. After moving from Hilton Head to Bluffton he became enthralled with the history of the town and the people and cultures that called it home for many generations. He has found a passion in writing and enjoys being able to share the stories and pictures of long-time locals. He is the co-creator of the Facebook page “Bluffton Then and Now”.
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BY RYAN CHOWANSKY Contributor
Take
Dads are full of good jokes and great quotes. Life is full of paradoxes. Recently, my father dropped a great quote and paradox. One that I never really thought about until he said it.
“Take your time, it will go faster.” At first, it sounds like a contradiction, but think about it. How often do we sabotage progress by rushing?
This applies to everything, business, fitness, relationships, you name it. When you’re in a hurry, you make mistakes. In the remodeling and construction world, if you rush, you mess up a cut, you break a cabinet door, you forget a key detail. That costs us money to go backward. I just
packed for a business trip to Greenville, where I am actually currently writing this article. I rushed my packing and forgot the sneakers. I did not double check.
Guess who worked out in the hotel gym in his work boots this morning?
The result is often spending twice the time or money fixing problems that could’ve been avoided by slowing down, being just a little more thorough and thinking it through. In the gym, rushing your reps doesn’t get you stronger, it gets you injured. True progress comes from focused, controlled movements. In relationships, rushing trust or intimacy backfires. Connection takes time, and there’s no shortcut to depth.
Taking your time allows you to operate with clarity, and clarity leads to better decisions. Better decisions turn into faster progress. Focus on the process instead of the outcome. Most people fail because they’re obsessed with results, chasing
quick wins while ignoring the fundamentals. The irony is, when you focus on the process, the results often come faster. If you choose to do something because you love the process, the more you enjoy what you’re doing before you get the results.
Slowing down builds momentum instead of chaos. Momentum isn’t about speed, it’s about control. It’s about process and progress that compounds over time. Slowing down also prevents burnout. Going full throttle might feel productive, but it’s not sustainable. Unless you’re Rick Ross, you should not be hustling every day. Take your time, create space to recharge, and when you’re recharged, you show up sharper and more focused. You’re more powerful in the moments you need to be and more present.
Most urgency is self-imposed. Challenge deadlines, and ask yourself if taking extra time to do something right would make a difference. Just communi-
cate it to those that are affected by it. More often than not, it won’t change much. Prioritize the tasks that truly matter and let go of the rest. Understand that patience isn’t passive. It’s the discipline to wait until the timing is right, knowing when to strike, when to apply the right pressure, knowing you’ll be better prepared when the moment comes.
“Take your time, it will go faster” isn’t just a clever phrase, it’s a strategy for success. Rushing often feels productive but rarely is. Slowing down forces you to focus on what truly matters, which leads to better, faster results in the long run. The next time you feel tempted to rush, remember that speed kills but clarity wins. I am actively practicing being better at this as part of being Built with Integrity every day, and I hope this can help you in some way as well.
Ryan Chowansky is the owner of Bluffton Builders, LLC, www.bluffton.builders.
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Hair care tips: achieving volume, shine and style that lasts
BY JOY ROSS Contributor
Lately, I have been hearing from newcomers to our area. Welcome to all, and thank you for reading. I’m going to reiterate some tips for the new readers and as reinforcement to my loyal readers and clients. Sometimes, you need to have some repetition to remind you. I know I do.
Anyway, the upside-down triangle shape of the haircut is what needs to be achieved in order to bring attention to the eye and cheekbones. Just about any length is ok at any age as long as this shape is maintained. The right side up triangle is a don’t. It draws the eye to the chin and jowls, which is not really flattering on anyone over 12.
The major complaint I hear daily is that you spend time drying and styling your hair to have it go flat in 15 minutes. The problem seems to be that everyone is styling too soon and stopping too soon. When your hair feels dry, it isn’t. There is moisture that hides between the hair. Don’t begin styling from the beginning. Put mousse,
the only styling product that is critical for any lift, on the roots where you want volume. Then, blow, blow, blow the hair. No brush. Just blow the hair in the opposite direction of the way it wants to go. When the hair feels dry is when you use your brush to style the hair. This will get all of the hidden moisture out and keep your style in place. Hair will not hold any style if there is any moisture.
A salon shampoo and conditioner are the most important things to keep your hair healthy and your color lasting longer. Inexpensive shampoo and conditioner are filled with wax and oils that take up room in the bottle but only build up on the hair. They may have a few good ingredients but will strip the hair of its nutrients and color. They may be less expensive, but they willingly cost the integrity of the hair. Less of good is better than lots of something not so good.
Lastly for my tips in this article, I have no problem with tools like a flat iron or curling iron. They need to be used properly, but they are useful to achieve lots of the styles that are popular today.
If you have regular trims, don’t color your own hair, and use good products you will continue to have shine and dimension. There is no positive in having long hair if it’s split and dull. Give up a restaurant lunch or two and have a professional cut and color. It will last longer, and you’ll look and feel much better.
Joy Ross is the owner of Style It Salon. styleitsalon.com, 843-338-1530.
BY TRACY WINSLOW Contributor
Joyful and triumphant
Two in the front were having a contest as to who could “baa” the loudest. Mary and “Jophus” were arguing about holding the baby Jesus. Angels were trying to fly with wings that looked as if they had contracted the bird flu. One wiseman pushed another to the ground because he was supposed to carry the “Frankenstein.”
To this day, it remains the best reenactment of the birth of Christ I have ever witnessed.
And apparently every person who had ever laid eyes upon the group of 19 students from Walnut Creek Presbyterian Transitional Kindergarten was also in attendance on that memorable day.
“My third cousin’s neighbor’s friend from Boston wants to sit in that microscopic chair next to you. I’m sure you can understand. He traveled through the night to get here in time for the birth.”
I knew we were way over the OSHA regulations for maximum occupancy for the per-
station. A baby was crying more than the Divine Infant who had just been born in the cubby area, for the love of all that was holy. Finally, the noisy menagerie mooed their goodbyes and the winter celebration officially kicked off.
formance. My two-year-old and I were squished into a petri dish of cooties and ugly Christmas sweaters. The kid next to me wiped his nose on my coat sleeve, as one of the shepherds broke character to steal a cookie off the snack table. A loudly snoring grandfather was leaning against the phonics
The scene that unfolded is best described as “it was like a group of carnies were given an all-access pass to Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory.” A flurry of missing teeth and mismatched clothing swarmed the banquet table. Any manners were abandoned in the fight for a cup of the pudding with Oreos and gummy worms. A burgeoning hair-stylist, who had clearly practiced on the left side of her hair, was dipping a sparkly nail into the frosting of every cupcake on the tray. Dads were trying to block kids from escaping, as a child without pants crawled through my legs to get to a bowl of Chex Mix tossed with M&M’s and E. coli. It was a
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sugar-infused bacchanalia, and I had a front row view of it all.
I lost sight of my toddler in the prison riot happening in the area with baby dolls and kitchen appliance toys. I wasn’t worried about her though - she had likely started it. I had yet to see my starlet, but I knew she was somewhere in the maelstrom; I heard her singing Kesha songs that may have placed me on the watchlist of the Department of Child Protective Services. There was no opportunity to talk to the parents I knew from the after-school checkout line, because the entire scene was like watching a mob hit involving Molotov cocktails and a side of Legos.
Then, someone knocked over the crock pot full of Swedish meatballs and the boondoggle came to a halt. Moms parted the crowd like the Red Sea to clean up the disaster. Someone who clearly watched too much Oprah handed out fudge as a distraction. “You get one, and you get one,” as if the addicts needed another excuse to overindulge. The teachers carpe’d the momentum, em-
bracing their inner Marie Kondos. Apparently, nothing our children had done in the semester gave them any pleasure, as they began to rid the room of any shred of their existence. Every scribble laid to paper for the entire fall semester was handed back one…by…each…painstaking…one. When students had so many items in their hands they were about to topple into the lost and found, they were given paper bags with which to sherpa the offending items out.
That was their “you don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here.” Time to say goodbye to the Little Town of Walnut Creek until January.
I grabbed one hand of each of my girls, and we fell in line with the masses toward the parking lot. It was like running with the bulls through the narrow corridors of the school. Very slow and ancient bulls running in concrete boots through miles of molasses. Head down, I weaponized my shoulders like a battering ram to ensure I didn’t get separated from my two littles. Kesha belted out a few songs for her encore, serenading the legions of lemmings above the cacophony of people looking for their kids, their parents, their car keys and their last nerve,
which I seem to have lost as well. I was pretty sure we were going to toast in the New Year next to the attendance office at the rate we were going.
Kesha had moved on to cover songs, her personal library exhausted, when we finally burst through the exit. The sun blinded us as we dodged the cars of the people whose gluten-free brownies were now churning in little stomachs. I loaded my toddler into her car seat and handed her the bag she had been carrying. Next, I buckled my diva and her to-go bag of learning into a booster seat. We were ready to kiss kindergarten goodbye for now. It was then I heard my toddler giggling.
“I a baby.”
“Yes, I know you have lots of babies.”
“No, Mommy. I a BABY.”
I looked over my shoulder to see why she was laughing. And there he was, in all his glory: Baby Jesus. Lord, forgive us. My daughter had kidnapped Baby Jesus. Smuggled him right out of the school with the glue and macaroni artwork.
Sighing, I looked at the only door leading back into the classroom. People, drunk on sugar and Christmas cheer, were still stag-
gering out. In my rearview mirror, I watched Baby Jesus being rocked by my juvenile delinquent.
And that was the year that Baby Jesus had a sleepover for his birthday.
Disclaimer*
*No Baby Jesuses were harmed in the making of this story. In fact, Baby Jesus went to the “gwocery” store, got a ride on the shih-tsu, helped open “pwesents” and had more clothing changes than Taylor Swift. “Best. Birthday. Ever.” according to his 5-star Yelp Review. He made it back to the TK in one piece when classes resumed. The TK teachers and I had a good laugh about it. And one toddler was back on the naughty list for being “so, so angwy” we had to return her favorite baby.
Tracy Winslow is the owner of the Low Country’s BEST yarn store - Low Country Shrimp and Knits. Tracy is not known to aid and abet criminals, nor does she approve of stealing in any fashion. She just goes for the laugh with the antics and anecdotes she writes for her humor column, Chaos on Fire. She hopes you take this, and all of her stories, with a lighthearted viewpoint. And wishes you the Happiest of Felony-Free Holidays.
BY KEVIN FITZPATRICK Contributor
I opened my American Express account back in 1986, and it remains, for many reasons, my preferred spending method, but that is not what this is about. Amex is anything but a small business, however, in 2010, they created something called “Small Business Saturday,” and now, in 2024 it has reached the point where I get repeated email, text and push notification reminders that it is coming up, including one this morning. While out on a beautiful fall morning walking Abbey the dog I was thankful that the local heat dome has been raised until
Small business: there is nothing “small” about it
sometime in May. Then it hit me that this is the golden weather that was one of the motivating factors in relocating to the Lowcountry, and I started to consider exactly what qualifies as a small business. After that, I started to wonder how many of them Sue and I actually patronize, not just on one Saturday a year, but often, and why we choose them when we have a choice.
Naturally, my first thoughts were local food and drink establishments since we seek them out when we travel. When we do, I always ask the question of the locals “where would you take your wife/husband/partner for the best experience that may or may not be off the beaten path?” Every time I have asked that question, whether it was in New York, San Francisco, Chicago, Los Angeles, Hawaii, Tuscany, Charleston, Savannah, etc., the answer always is among the highlights of the trip.
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Sometimes, it led us to a spectacular restaurant like Mama’s Fish House in Maui, where each dish contains a list of the ingredients and who were the local purveyors they sourced them from. Sometimes, it was as simple as being pointed to the Alchemist Brewery in Stowe, Vt., where just sitting and sipping a cold Heady Topper IPA in the Green Mountains was everything.
We are lucky in our extended area to have many such places we can easily recommend, so many in fact, that I might have to do some follow up pieces just so I don’t leave out any of our favorites, but for this one, I thought I would stay “hyper local” and point out four that really fit the definition of both local and small. Slider Bar, WineTime, Crudo and The Bluffton Room, all within the literal “stone’s throw” of each other in Old Town Bluffton. I’ll tell you why they fit the bill and
why they are among our four favorites. What Kevin Cleary has created in WineTime is a very comfortable place to sit and relax and sip some excellent wines. He has a very knowledgeable, gracious and frankly funny staff, who can make great recommendations if asked, and he has a regular, ever-shifting list of wines by the glass where you can have a regular pour or a “short pour” along with an outstanding selection of wines by the bottle that you can have there for a modest corking fee (waived on Monday) or take home. There are some great small plates to accompany your sips (one of the best cheese and charcuterie boards we’ve had adaptable to any size group), and other choices as well. He also has a two bottle per month wine club that brings with it many other benefits. Take it from someone who
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Kevin Fitzpatrick
belongs to multiple wine clubs, this is one of my favorites. We frequently stop in on the way to dinner just as a starter, though it is also its own destination.
Pete Palladino took a small space a little further into the Promenade and opened Slider Bar. It is primarily what the name says, a place to go and enjoy small burgers and hand cut fries, but don’t be fooled thinking your “sliders” are the one bite White Castle type or those you see on cooking shows where they use the dinner size Hawaiian rolls. In the new normal that has become “supersized,” these are reasonably sized burgers that are filled with outstanding ingredients and flavors that I’m still trying to replicate at home. In addition to the classic beef burgers, he also has a slider with Pastrami that is prepared and cured in house for 10 days and then smoked for 16 hours (courtesy of his next-door neighbor, Bluffton BBQ, another “small” business). He also has various chicken options and, amazingly for a “small” business, does not overlook those
who lean toward vegetarian and vegan giving them options as well.
If you continue a bit further, you will find Brian Behnke’s Crudo. Sue and I both love well prepared seafood, so when Brian opened Crudo, we were very excited to give it a try. From our first visit, we
were hooked. What he has done is create a location where the preparation and presentation of various crudo and ceviche’s are spot on and craveable. What he has also done is offer a menu that is varied enough for everyone, including those in a dining party who may not lean toward
seafood. Do not be fooled by the name, there are more seafood options than just Crudo (technically an ingredient-driven dish that typically includes raw fish or seafood dressed with olive oil, salt, acidic juices, and vinegar). There are small plates that can be shared, think “tapas” style, as well as entree options that are available to both pescatarians and downhome meat and potato folks. They also have great crafted cocktails and a wonderful wine selection and are one of the few local places that will serve great raw oysters with mignonette as the main condiment.
Just as some of our traveling experiences have led us to fabulous restaurants, I will wind down this piece with The Bluffton Room. Jeff Congdon, Tonja and Cory Hughes have created an atmosphere that welcomes you like a warm hug, whether it is your first time visiting or you are a regular. The moment you walk in and are greeted, you understand you are in a special place. The setting is classically intimate but comfortable and not at all stuffy.
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The service is so on point that it’s almost impossible to actually describe. Even after many visits, I still wonder if they have some “wizard” sitting in the back looking at many cameras. Water glasses are never empty. Napkins are never left unfolded if you get up. You are never asked “are you finished,” they just know. Wine glasses are always topped off at exactly the right time. If you are having cocktails, you are asked at exactly the proper moment if you’d like another, yet it is never intrusive. That brings me to the star of the show, the food. The menu, while not overwhelming, allows options for everyone from starters (they also serve their raw oyster selection with mignonette) to entrees and desserts. Jeff manages to balance flavor and spice like very few chefs can do across the board, whether it’s seafood, beef, chicken,
game, etc., and the accompaniments are always complementary and seasonally perfect. The Bananas Foster, prepared tableside, is a finale not to be missed.
What unites all four of these places is how they have managed to take the idea of “small” and make it available, comfortable and desirable while never giving off the idea that they are exclusionary or stuffy. Each one of them has a very comfortable bar to sit at as well as other seating options, and weather permitting, three of the four have outside options for those so inclined.
When we have guests, these are among my first options when we are asked about good experiences small, locally owned and operated and outstanding, quite the trifecta.
Kevin Fitzpatrick is a retired teacher who, along with his wife Sue (also a retired teacher) is enjoying exploring life in the lowcountry and all it has to offer.
Hilton Head Community Market wraps up 2024 season Saturday
BY CHANNING HEISS Contributor
The Hilton Head Community Market will host its final market day of the 2024 season on Saturday, December 28th, from 9:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at Shelter Cove Community Park, 39 Shelter Cove Lane on the island. They will re-open on Saturday, February 1st.
The community market, sponsored by the Island Rec Center, is open every Saturday during its 11-month schedule.
Every month of the year except January, the market donates half of the proceeds from vendor registration fees to a local nonprofit. The featured nonprofit for December is the Sandalwood Community Food Pantry based on Hilton Head. The schedule of featured nonprofits for 2025 has been set, but organizers encourage interested nonprofit leaders to
apply for the following year. The vendor fee is $25 per Saturday or $20 if the vendor commits to a full month. The market prioritizes food vendors, but others may apply. Applications to be considered for one of the featured nonprofit spots are due each year at the beginning of December.
Started in 2022 by four local businesswomen who wanted to foster a sense of community and support buying locally from small businesses, the market now regularly has over 30 vendors. According to their estimates, the market has raised over $15,000 for local nonprofits since its founding.
For more information on the Hilton Head Community Market and details on the application process, visit their website.
Channing Heiss is a freelance writer and a member of the Beaufort County disAbilities Coalition.
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