FEBRUARY 2020
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The D ress It’s all about
Wedding checklist How to feature bright colors in your wedding Easy but awesome photo booth ideas
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How to dress your bridesmaids......................................... 4
Factors to consider before including Fido in your wedding.......14
4 fresh ideas for decorating wedding tables........................... 6
Food and drink stations for your wedding...........................15
Get the most out of bridal shows & wedding events................ 7
Tips for choosing the perfect wedding accessories ................16
Wedding checklist......................................................... 8
“Knot” your average necktie advice...................................18
Merging finances after tying the knot.................................. 9
Easy but awesome photo booth ideas.................................19
How to feature bright colors in your wedding......................10
Plan to treat guests in extra-special ways............................20
Wedding insurance can ease nerves...................................11
More couples are embracing edgy, adventurous weddings........22
It’s all about the dress....................................................12
10 things you can rent for your wedding.............................23
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How to dress your
BRIDESMAIDS W
hether you have three bridesmaids or 13, you’ll need to decide what you want them to wear. Here are some options.
Same color, same dress For a classic and cohesive look, ask your bridesmaids to wear matching dresses that correspond to your wedding decor. This option is best when the girls in the group have similar body shapes and skin tones.
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and let your bridesmaids pick the hue they wear. If you prefer a more subtle approach, ask them to wear different shades of the same color.
Same color, different dress This is a great way to show off your bridesmaids’ personalities while still maintaining a cohesive look.You can even opt for convertible dresses. These can be worn as many as 20 different ways, so your girls will have no problem finding a look that suits them. Ultimately, you don’t have to follow any rules when choosing your bridesmaids’ dresses. The most important thing is that the women who matter most to you will be there with you on your big day. ª FEBRUARY 2020 | UPSTATE BRIDE MAGAZINE | 5
4 fresh ideas
for decorating wedding tables
The centerpieces at your wedding are sure to be the decor that your guests notice the most. Here are four fresh ideas for centerpieces that will make a statement. 1. Potted plants. A welcome change from cut flowers, potted plants can be taken home by guests and enjoyed for years to come. Anything goes, from cute succulents and cactuses to tall orchids and even herbs or flowers that can be transplanted outdoors. 2. Terrariums or lanterns. A geometric glass vase or container will complement almost any type of wedding esthetic. Fill it with moss and cut flowers for a romantic look or sand and seashells for a beachy vibe. Or, substitute the vase with an old lantern if you want to create a more rustic look. 3. Candles. A wedding is the perfect time to indulge in a romantic, candlelit dinner. Tall tapers in a variety of different candleholders are ideal. Or, use candles of varying heights to add visual interest. 4. Suspensions. If the ceiling and venue allow for it, consider hanging your centerpieces from above. Flower arrangements, candles and other items can be hung to add ambiance to the table and will dramatically impact the look of the room as a whole. No matter what type of centerpiece you choose, make sure it’s not so tall or wide that it gets in the way of conversation around the table. ª 6 | UPSTATE BRIDE MAGAZINE | FEBRUARY 2020
Get the most out of
bridal shows & wedding events
R
ecently engaged couples may be excited to get a jump on wedding planning. Bridal shows can be a great way for couples to meet and familiarize themselves with local wedding professionals, all the while introducing themselves to the terminology of wedding planning. Though they’re a great source of information, contacts and samples, bridal shows also can be a bit overwhelming. Learning how to maximize time spent at shows can help couples plan their weddings as efficiently as possible. • Start small. If the idea of large crowds is unappealing, attend the more intimate, boutique shows that are often held at local reception halls and restaurants instead of the larger installations at convention centers and hotels. • Scout out vendors. Check the bridal show’s website for lists of exhibitors and see if your desired vendors are on the list. But even if they’re not, keep an open mind and use the show as a chance to compare offerings. If an event map is available, marking off must-visit booths can help save time. • Pre-register. Pre-registering for bridal events saves time at check-in, and doing so may make you eligible for discounted tickets. • Come prepared. Chances are each vendor is going to ask couples for information so that they can follow up with a phone call or email with more detailed offerings and estimates. Couples attending the show can expediate the process by coming equipped with labels that feature their names, contact information and wedding date. They can then stick the labels on sign-in sheets or use them like business cards. • Dress comfortably. Bridal expos involve a lot of walking and roaming around. Wear comfortable clothing and shoes. Consider a backpack or hands-free bag so you are not weighed down when collecting the swag and other handouts throughout the day. • Ask questions. When face-to-face with vendors, rely on their expertise but don’t hesitate to ask questions concerning themes, colors, recommendations for honeymoon locations, invitation paper suggestions, and much more. • Stay for the fashion show. Many shows will offer a runway experience to present the latest gown and tuxedo offerings. This can be an entertaining way for couples to formulate their wedding styles. Wedding shows introduce couples to vendors and set them on the path to making decisions regarding the planning of their weddings. ª
Bridal shows can provide inspiration to couples planning their weddings.
Wedding checklist The question was popped and the proposal joyfully accepted. Now it’s time to plan the wedding. Here’s a month-by-month checklist to make sure you don’t forget a thing. 12 months before
4 months before
(civil or religious, big or small) m Choose a date m Determine the number of guests m Establish a budget m Pick venues for the ceremony and reception (it’s best to reserve early)
3 months before
m Decide on the type of wedding you’d like
11 months before
m Make your guest list m Choose a caterer (meet with a few first) m Select your wedding party m Hire a wedding planner
m Reserve wedding day transportation for the wedding party m Select alcohol and other drinks for the reception m Taste and choose your wedding cake m Buy wedding bands m Shop for and order the groomsmen’s attire
m Purchase wedding favors for your guests m If you’d like your loved ones to say or read something
during the ceremony, let them know
m Write down your vows m Decide on activities for the reception
(photo booth, dancing, games, etc.)
10 months before
2 months before
9 months before
1 month before
m Start shopping for a wedding dress m Decide on a theme for your wedding m Choose an officiant if you haven’t already done so
m Book a photographer m Reserve a block of hotel rooms for your out-of-town guests m Purchase a wedding gown m Shop for the groom’s attire and purchase it
8 months before
m Meet with your officiant to plan your ceremony m Book your entertainment (DJ, band, MC, etc.) m Shop for and purchase your bridesmaids’ dresses m Design and order the wedding invitations and
save-the-date cards
7 months before
m Create a gift registry m Hire a florist m Plan your honeymoon
6 months before
m Send out the save-the-date cards m Book your hair and makeup appointments for the day of
(also schedule trial runs for both)
m Book a hotel room for the wedding night if necessary
5 months before
m Create a schedule for the big day m Decide on dates for bachelor and bachelorette parties m Shop for and purchase shoes, jewelry and accessories
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m Send out your wedding invitations m Do trial runs for both hair and makeup m Give your music selections to the DJ or MC
m Finalize the schedule for the big day m Choose a seating plan for the reception m Break in your shoes
1 week before
m Visit the desired beauty professionals
(hair colorist, esthetician, etc.)
m Practice reading your vows m Write out checks to pay your vendors
1 day before
m Get your nails done m Give the checks to someone you trust to pay the vendors
Day of
m Enjoy!
Merging finances after tying the knot Happy couples experience various changes after tying the knot. One of those changes concerns couples’ finances. According to an analysis of data from the National Survey of Families and Households, arguments about money are a frequent concern with married couples. Furthermore, there is a higher correlation between the risk of divorce and the prevalence of financial disagreements. While fights about money do not necessarily cause divorce, they can create rifts in relationships. Even couples who have plenty of money may have disagreements about their finances. Arguments may stem from couples not understanding how their partner views money or the disparities in spending habits among partners. Couples who make early efforts to get on the same page concerning finances may have smoother waters ahead than those who delay such discussions. • Establish goals together. Couples should define their financial goals together. Is it a goal to save for early retirement? Is a house in the immediate future? Is frequent travel a desire? Are we planning to contribute much to future children’s educations? These
questions and more need to be addressed early on. By creating a financial plan together, couples can more clearly map out their financial futures. • Combining accounts may be easier. Some couples want to maintain their full financial independence. But combining
accounts can help couples avoid arguments about secrecy and concerns about partner spending. Combining accounts also affords couples a clearer picture of their spending and saving habits. • Assess debts as a team. One person may be bringing more debt to the marriage than another. It’s important for all cards to be on the table and to work together to eradicate debt. If a person will be coming to the marriage with poor credit, it may be worth it to keep things separate until a spouse works on remedying his or her finances, according to Credit.com. • Decide how to split expenses. One partner may make more money than the other, and one may spend more time handling household needs or future childcare responsibilities. Couples need to agree whether one person pays for certain bills exclusively, whether they spend from one salary and save the other, or combine finances completely and spend equally, offers NerdWallet. Engaged couples who develop a post-wedding financial plan may find their transition to being married much easier than those who delay such discussions. ª
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How to feature
bright colors in your wedding A
n increasing number of brides and grooms are incorporating bright colors into their wedding outfits and decor. Here’s how to do the same.
Choose the right color While red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet look great on a rainbow, it may be overwhelming to use them all at your wedding. Instead, choose only one or two of your favorite colors. Or, choose colors based on the meaning behind them and the feelings they evoke. For example, green is the color of renewal and balance, while blue calls to mind feelings of serenity and peace.
Use color judiciously Incorporating colors into your wedding doesn’t mean everything should be bright and bold. Instead, favor neutrals and use your chosen hue as an accent here and there. The bride’s bouquet, bridesmaids’ dresses, centerpieces and the groom and groomsmen’s ties are perfect places to inject a vibrant shade. For a look that’s rich and voluptuous, be sure to use different shades and textures of your chosen color. ª
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Wedding insurance can ease nerves
ouples spend thousands of dollars on their wedding ceremony and celebrations. The cost of a wedding varies depending on geographic location, but according to the business and financial resource Business Insider and The Knot 2017 Real Weddings Study, the average wedding in the United States costs $31,391. Insurance policies can help couples protect their wedding investment. Special event insurance provides coverage for various scenarios, including extreme weather, damaged gifts, lost jewelry, vendor cancellations or no-shows, venues closing before the wedding, and canceled weddings, according to Travelers Insurance. Insurance also may cover other unforseen scenarios, such as unexpected expenses from injuries during the wedding or spoiled food. Policies will pay directly for any damage or injuries that occur, or reimburse the couple if the wedding is postponed or canceled. If weddings occur at home, some people’s home insurance or um-
Wedding insurance policies put protections in place that can reimburse couples should weather or other issues interfere with their wedding day bliss.
brella policies may cover certain wedding liabilities. Most wedding venues carry their own liability insurance, so couples may not have to overlap there. However, for those who desire extra protection for vendor mishaps, it is wise to speak with an insurance professional about special wedding coverage. Prices for wedding insurance policies can start at around $100 to $200 for minimum coverage and reach $1,000 for more expensive ceremonies, according to the financial advisement website NerdWallet. Speak with an insurance agent and read policies carefully before purchasing one. Non-covered issues typically include theft or loss of an engagement ring; rainy days that do not classify as extreme weather; switching vendors after a deposit is made; and risky entertainment, such as fireworks or live animals. Protecting wedding expenditures with insurance policies can provide couples with added peace of mind on their big days. ÂŞ
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The D re Wedding dress fitting guide
It’s all about
Because fashion preferences were once ornate and dependent on precise fits, ready-to-wear clothing really did not become widely available until the early 20th century. Such attire is now available in just about any retail store. Because ready-to-wear clothing is so readily available, the average person may be unfamiliar with custom-made or tailored items. In fact, a couples’ wedding may be the only instance in their lives when they require the services of a seamstress or tailor. Fittings are a part of wedding planning, and here’s how bridesto-be can navigate the process of finding and being fitted for a dress. • Try on sample gowns. The first step is to make your rounds to various gown shops and try on the samples they have available. Most sample sizes will not be the size you wear every day, so expect them to be ill-fitting. Do not be discouraged. Once a gown is chosen, the dress shop will take your measurements and order the gown according to the manufacturer’s sizing guide. Again, this can be shocking, since the size will likely be larger than what you wear in street clothes. Some shops will also order a little larger to allow for adequate tailoring. • Schedule the first fitting. The first fitting should be anywhere from eight to 12 weeks before the wedding date, according to experts at WeddingWire, an online wedding information provider. This is the time it takes to complete most standard alterations. Complex customizations can take even longer. Brides should also budget a minimum of $500 for alterations, which may or may not be included in the price of the dress. • Bring shoes and undergarments. Remember to bring
Keep your gown wedding
white
Many brides walk down the aisle in white gowns, which have long been considered the most traditional choice. Wearing white can be a frightening prospect to some brides, who fear that white clearly shows every blemish or stain.
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Protecting a white dress so it looks pristine on one’s wedding day takes a little effort, but such efforts are well worth it.
Before the wedding When trying on the gown, be sure that your hands are clean and you are not wearing any makeup. You may want to wear a thin pair of gloves so any oils from your hands are not transferred to the gown. If anyone helps you in and out of the gown, ensure their hands also are clean. Try on the gown sparingly before the wedding, ideally only for fittings. When you are not trying it on, store it in a protective
ress
along the exact shoes and undergarments you will wear with your gown. A change in shoes or bra/ corset can result in the alterations fitting poorly the next time. Bring these items along to all subsequent fittings. • Speak up. Martha Stewart Weddings suggests speaking up at fittings if anything is uncomfortable or needs tweaking. Seamstresses are masters at their crafts, but only if they understand the desires of the bride. • Check the details. The second fitting is designed to check that all issues from the first fitting have been addressed, the gown is comfortable and you can move freely. At the last fitting, ask the maid of honor to come along so that she understands how to bustle or help you handle complicated straps or closures. Open communication with a seamstress and bridal shop can ensure brides-to-be get a dress that fits like a glove.
garment bag until it needs to be steamed just prior to the wedding. Some seamstresses or tailors will hold onto the gown until the final alterations are done and then steam out any wrinkles prior to delivery.
Wedding day On the day of the wedding, resist the urge to handle the gown early in the day. The gown should be the last thing you put on during wedding day preparations. Wait until just before departing for the service to get fully dressed in your gown. Again, make sure your hands and the hands of any helpers are clean. Ask for help so
A wedding dress you can dance in They may look striking, but many wedding gown styles restrict your movements, making it hard to dance. Here are some things to consider if you’re shopping for a wedding dress you can move freely in. Light fabric. A flowy dress made of a lightweight fabric is sure to be comfortable enough to dance in. Separates. Choose an elegant halter top or corset and select two different bottoms. Wear a long tulle skirt to imitate the look of a ball gown for the ceremony and swap it out for a shorter style for the reception. Tea length. There’s no rule that says a wedding gown must be long. Choose one that ends just below your knees for a vintage style you can move in. Reception dress. Choose a second dress that’s easier to dance in for the reception. This is a great option for brides who don’t want to have to choose between two looks. If you must wear a ballgown or a mermaid-style dress, choose one that can be modified throughout the day. Bustling a long train or removing a layer of tulle may be all you need to dance the night away.
that the gown can be placed gingerly over your head, avoiding any makeup in the process. Some brides may find it helpful to leave lipstick application for the very last step in getting ready. Should an accident occur, bright lipstick on the white gown can be especially difficult to conceal. Pack an emergency stain-fighting kit to bring along to the ceremony and reception. This way, should a minor stain occur, it can be treated right away. Use sparingly because you will not know just how the cleaning product will react with the gown’s fabric, and overuse may make the stain
worse. If possible, test the product on a small swatch of gown fabric prior to use.
After the wedding Use caution when removing the gown and then promptly repackage it into its garment bag. After the wedding, take the gown to a professional dry cleaner to have it cleaned and preserved. Then the gown can be used by future generations or simply saved as a keepsake. White gowns are traditional wedding fixtures. Brides-to-be can keep their gowns looking beautiful throughout and after the wedding. ª
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Factors to consider before including Fido in your wedding Pets are full-fledged members of many families and even, apparently, families-to-be. In its 2016 American Wedding Study, Brides magazine found that 8 percent of wedding ceremonies included pets. While the couples of yesteryear might have left Fido at home, many of today’s couples want their four-legged friends to be there on their big day. Though no studies to date have examined which animals are most likely to make an appearance at couples’ nuptials, it’s fair to assume that dogs, which tend to get out of the house more than most other types of pets, are the most common furry bridesmaids, groomsmen or ring bearers. Before including dogs in their wedding plans, couples may want to consider a few factors to ensure asking Fido to be there come the big day is what’s best for couples, their guests and, of course, their beloved pooches.
Eligibility Some venues do not allow pets that are not documented assistance animals on the premises. Confirm a venue’s pet policy before purchasing any wedding day attire for your dog. Couples who are intent on including their pets in their wedding ceremonies should only consider pet-friendly facilities, which may be hard to find. Couples who plan to take a limousine to and from their wedding also should confirm that the cars allow pets before booking.
Personality No two dogs are the same. Some dogs might love people and attention, while others might prefer one-on-one time with their owners. Dogs that are sociable and unaggressive may make perfect additions to wedding ceremonies, while animals that exhibit anxiety around strangers or seem uncomfortable in noisy settings should be kept out of the ceremony.
Health Dog owners also must consider their pets’ health when deciding whether or not to include them in the wedding ceremony. Couples who bonded over a love of their dog may really hope to include their furry friend in the festivities, but should not do so at the expense of the animal’s health. Outdoor wedding ceremonies under sunny skies may produce potentially unhealthy conditions for certain breeds or older dogs. Dogs that have difficulty getting around may need a red wagon (and attendant) to make the rounds at the wedding.
Assistance Couples will be busy on their wedding days, so they may need to arrange for a caretaker to look after their dog during and after the ceremony. Asking a guest or guests to play this role may be asking too much, as guests will no doubt want to celebrate without having to take care of a dog. A professional pet sitter might work, but that can be costly, as couples must pay for the sitter and will likely need to pay for the sitter to have a seat and a meal during the reception. Dogs can make great additions to weddings, but couples must consider a host of factors before deciding to have Fido join them as they tie the knot. ª
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Some food bars can even do double duty as your wedding favors if you provide cute boxes or jars alongside your pickles, cookies, candy or anything else that’s easy to transport.
Food and drink stations for your wedding reception
A
re you looking for a way to make your wedding a little different? Any of these fun food or drink stations are sure to get your guests talking.
Snacks Instead of passed hors d’oeuvres, create a fun snack bar. Pickles, charcuterie or even popcorn with various toppings are all great ideas for a laid back crowd. For a more luxurious touch, try an oyster bar or sushi station.
Dessert Forgo the traditional wedding cake and offer your guests their choice of dessert. From donuts and pies to cupcakes and your favorite childhood cereals, anything goes. For summer weddings, cool down with ice cream, gourmet ice pops or sundaes.
Late night eats After several hours of dancing and drinking, your guests will be ready for a late night snack. Think French fries with different dipping sauces, grilled cheese sandwiches or even a make-yourown-taco bar.
Drinks While many weddings have a cocktail bar, you can also offer fresh juice, your favorite craft sodas or beers from nearby microbreweries. Or, a coffee bar complete with flavored syrups is a great way to encourage the party to keep going all night. Remember to tailor the food or drink station to your wedding and location. This will personalize the experience and make it more memorable. ª
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Tips for choosing the
perfect wedding:
ewelry hoes When it comes to accessories that complement your wedding dress, your shoes are arguably the most important.You want your footwear to both reflect your personal style and be comfortable enough to wear as you dance the night away. Here’s a few tips to picking the perfect wedding shoes. • Choose your dress first so you can match the styles • Make sure they fit: shop for shoes in the late afternoon • Don’t experiment with high heels: opt for flat or wedge styles • Make a statement: add a pop of color to your wedding attire • Bring them to your dress fitting • Break them in before the big day
airstyle
Clothing styles, time of day and weather all can dictate a wedding hairstyle, but ultimately one of the most important factors in a wedding hairstyle is finding a stylist who understands you and can exercise your vision. A patient, understanding stylist who is open to viewing different photographs and drawing inspiration from various places, as well as running through a few trial styles, can help brides (and grooms) look their best. In fact, trials are a must to ensure that a chosen style will work with your hair texture. If you plan to get your hair colored, professionals recommend doing so about three weeks in advance of the big day so it looks natural and any potential snafus can be remedied beforehand.Your stylist may suggest a light trim prior to the wedding so that the ends are fresh and healthy. And since you’re putting your faith in a qualified stylist, trust their expertise and vision. Keep an open mind to their suggestions.You may fall in love with one of the options you hadn’t considered. 16 | UPSTATE BRIDE MAGAZINE | FEBRUARY 2020
Are you wondering what kind of jewelry to wear on your wedding day? Here are three tips to help you match your accessories to your wedding attire. Be yourself. If you never wear jewelry in your day-to-day life, you shouldn’t be dripping in jewels on your wedding day. However, if you love the way you look in big chunky earrings or long necklaces, go for it. Match the metal to the dress. Pure white dresses look best with silver jewelry, while ivory or champagne fabrics pair well with gold. If you’ve chosen to wear a blush-hued gown, opt for rose gold. Consider the neckline. Highnecked or halter dresses look best with statement earrings and a simple bracelet. A V-neck is practically begging for a beautiful necklace to fill the space. And a sweetheart or strapless gown goes with anything, from a choker to a pendant or even just the right earrings. On your wedding day, less is more. Your radiant face, your beautiful gown and your new wedding ring won’t need much embellishing.
ingerie
akeup All eyes are on the bride on her wedding day, and all cameras are too. Here are some makeup tips to ensure you look your best. Be yourself. Your wedding isn’t the right time to try out a new look. Instead, strive for a slightly enhanced version of the makeup you normally wear. For some, this may be dark eyeliner and a bold lip and for others, it may be a natural but radiant look. Do a test run. Try out your wedding day makeup in advance. If you’re doing it yourself, run through applying it a few times. If you’re hiring a makeup artist, schedule an appointment a few weeks before the big day. Doing a test run will ensure you’re happy with the results. Use the right products. Even if you’re not usually the emotional type, plan for tears on your wedding day. Opt for waterproof mascara, high quality liquid foundation and lipstick that won’t smudge. Don’t forget to pack a kit that includes concealer, blotting papers and your lipstick for touch ups throughout the day.
Most people won’t see it, but wearing the right lingerie is imperative to looking your best on your wedding day. Here are some tips to help you find the perfect undergarments. Consider the gown. Make sure the undergarments you wear are discreet enough that they won’t be seen. Similarly, if the dress is made of a sheer or silky material, you may want to choose a slip or body suit to be sure everything is smooth and invisible. Think about color. White lingerie may be traditional but could be noticeable under a white dress. Instead, wear lingerie that matches your skin tone. Make sure it fits perfectly. There’s nothing worse than undergarments that don’t fit well. Finding the exact right size will ensure that you’re comfortable throughout the day. Change for the evening. If your gown calls for something more demure, why not change into a spicier getup for your wedding night? A lacy baby-doll or a risqué black teddy are sure to drive your new spouse wild. No matter what style of lingerie you decide to wear on your wedding day, be sure to bring it with you to your dress fitting. This will allow you to make certain it works well with your gown.
Above all else: be yourself Make it
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“Knot” your average
necktie advice
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eckties have long been a component of men’s formalwear. Most historians agree that the necktie originated in the 17th century and can be traced back to the Thirty Years’ War in Central Europe. At that time, King Louis XIII employed Croatian mercenaries who wore a piece of cloth around their necks as part of their uniforms. King Louis liked the look of these functional but fashionable pieces of fabric, and he made the ties, or cravats, mandatory attire at royal gatherings. Ties evolved through the centuries and eventually became part of the requisite dress code of formalwear. Ties also may be a component of school uniforms, and they are often worn at weddings and other special events. As ties change, so, too, do their appearance. Widths and lengths go in and out of fashion, as do patterns and fabrics. But one thing that remains pretty constant are the knots. Depending on who you ask, there are upwards of 18 different ways to tie a necktie knot. According to Real Men Style, a gentleman’s fashion advice site, each knot style can send a different message or complement a different shirt collar and neck. Learning to recognize which knots are best can help any man portray the desired effect. The following are some of the more popular styles of necktie knots.
Four-in-hand Named after an old gentleman’s club, the four-in-hand knot is among the most popular knots. It is extremely easy to tie and can be
Learning to recognize which knots are best can help any man portray the desired effect. worn at most informal events, says Prestige Ballrooms. These knots are often best with skinny ties. The knot also requires less of the tie’s length, making it a great choice for tall gentlemen.
The Full Windsor Even though this is a common knot, it is not so easy to tie. It is a large knot that gets its name from the Duke of Windsor. It is considered to be the most formal type of tie knots and is best for special occasions or business meetings. The knot is firm and is less likely to slip out, says the clothing company Beau Brummel.
The Half Windsor This knot is straight and neat and best used with medium to lightweight fabrics. Its formality falls between the four-in-hand knot and the full windsor.
The Pratt The Pratt knot is a mix between the four-in-hand and half windsor. It’s medium in size, elegant and can be worn at weddings, on dates and for special occasions. This knot lengthens the tie, making it convenient for tall men. Other honorable mentions include the Nicky knot, the Kelvin knot and the St. Andrew knot. Interested men can research the meanings and styles of all necktie knots to find the ones that work best for them. ª
Easy but awesome photo booth ideas
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re you planning to set up a photo booth at your wedding? If you do, your guests will love hamming it up in front of the camera, and you’ll wind up with a slew of fun, candid mementos. Here are some backdrop ideas for a photo booth you’ll love. Sequins. For an old Hollywood feel, choose white, silver or gold. Or put a modern spin on it and choose reversible sequins that your guests can play with to change the look. Flowers. A wall of flowers is the perfect romantic backdrop.
Match the blooms to your wedding colors or opt for white or red roses. Alternatively, create an ombre effect from light to dark using a variety of flowers in an array of hues. Balloons. The trick to nailing a balloon backdrop is to use balloons in various sizes and shapes. Choose pastel tones for a soft look or go for bright colors for a more whimsical touch. Wood. A wall of wood planks decorated with ivy and twinkle lights will make your guests feel like they’re hanging out on your back porch. This backdrop is well-suited to a rustic or country themed wedding. Don’t forget to include props to take photos with. Frames, hats and mustaches on sticks are classic, as are comic bookstyle word bubbles with fun messages on them. ª FEBRUARY 2020 | UPSTATE BRIDE MAGAZINE | 19
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eddings may focus on the couples getting hitched, but weddings also are special thanks to the many family and friends couples involve in the festivities. Some of the more successful weddings are ones in which couples honor their guests and let them know how much they’re appreciated. By incorporating these ideas into their wedding ceremonies and receptions, couples can let their guests know how much they’re loved. • Arrange seats at the ceremony (if practical) in a circular pattern around you so that everyone can have a great view when you exchange vows. • Create a bathroom convenience basket for both the men’s and women’s bathrooms. Stock items that might come in handy, like mouthwash,
Going that extra mile can mean the world to your family and friends toothpaste, first aid items, spare pantyhose, hair spray, sanitary products, moisturizer, gum, and whatever other niceties you can think of. • Provide prearranged to-go boxes so that guests can take home tasty tidbits from the meal or dessert table. • Offer transportation between the ceremony and reception. • Customize “do not disturb” door tags for overnight guests so they can ensure they get enough shut-eye after partying into the wee hours of the morning. • Make sure the photographer takes photos of everyone at every table and then share those photos on a wedding website or via social media. Create a hashtag unique to your wedding so that guests can easily find the photos. • Provide inexpensive slippers or flip-flops so that avid dancers can rest their toes in between songs. • If valet parking service is not included, ask for an add-on so that guests get door-to-door treatment. • Always be considerate of special needs by seating guests in places where they’re most likely to be comfortable. Keep elderly guests away from speakers and near exits to facilitate trips
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to the bathroom. • Be mindful of all food allergies or requirements and have accommodations set up in advance. • Honor those people who could not be at the wedding in a special way, including deceased family and friends. • Include information about how guests can request songs at the reception. Pass on the information to the band or DJ. • Encourage guests to get up and dance by making it fun. Put song lyrics from different songs on each table. When that song is played, that table has to join you on the dance floor. • Remember to thank everyone for coming and follow up those in-person sentiments with handwritten, personalized thank-you notes after the wedding. ª
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The vibrant colors of spring make this season often associated with rebirth an ideal time for amateur and professional photographers to ply their trades. Various colors, including pink, blue, yellow, purple, and, of course, green are on display each spring, providing wonderful backdrops for nature photographers. Wedding photographers also may enjoy shooting happy couples in spring, when the colors of nature can provide a perfect and colorful complement to men and women during their engagement or wedding photoshoots. In fact, spring flowers have inspired artists from various mediums. Among the more notable painters to paint springtime flowers and landscapes were Georgia O’Keefe, Impressionist pioneer Claude Monet and Vincent Van Gogh.
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rides and grooms once felt compelled to conform to the trappings of traditional weddings. From uber-romantic vows to pastel colors to the penultimate white tiered cake, various wedding components were long considered must-haves. But modern couples are increasingly expressing their individuality, and even embracing more edgy and adventurous elements, when planning their weddings. According to The Knot, a leading bridal resource and information site, today’s weddings are not what they were just a few years ago. Bold colors, exotic cakes and nontraditional foliage, are just some of the elements modern couples are embracing to set their weddings apart.
looking to more adventurous locales to impart their unique spin on their weddings. Sharing vows atop a mountain crest at the end of a favorite hiking trail or on a roller coaster at a theme park that harkens back to a first date are some adventurous places to tie the knot.
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Brides can put new spins on their gowns by adding color and texture. Sequins, bold embroidery, shorter hemlines, and whatever adventurous fashion
Vineyards and catering halls can be great places to tie the knot, but couples who like to push the envelope are
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Outside-the-box menus Couples may want to break with tradition by offering a wide selection of foods at their receptions. These foods can include items that fit with their specific ethnic cuisines, gourmet comfort foods (think cocktail franks wellington), or foods that fit with their dietary choices, such as organic or vegan options. Work with a caterer to provide a variety of tasty choices.
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style you want to impart can be considered. If white isn’t your thing, that’s okay, too.Yellow and slate gray look great together. Gentlemen can choose to wear a black suit or any combination of color and style they want to make a dramatic impression.
Full of flavor Cakes don’t have to be white with white buttercream. In fact, couples can make things even more tasty by incorporating favorite flavor combinations into their cakes. For example, a chocolate and caramel filling reminiscent of a candy bar might be something to consider. Modern couples are embracing bold, unique and edgy components when planning their weddings. Putting an individualized spin on the ceremony and reception can make couples even more excited to tie the knot. ª
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things you can rent for your wedding If you’re planning a wedding, there’s no need to buy everything you’ll need for the event. Here are 10 things to consider renting instead. 1. Tables and chairs. Even if your venue offers them, you may prefer to choose different ones that better suit your theme. 2. Table linens and napkins. These come in a number of colors and styles and can be selected to complement your wedding esthetic. 3. Lighting. Add lights to create the precise ambiance you’re looking for. 4. Centerpieces. You’ll need to purchase the flowers, but many florists offer vases as rental items. 5. Tents. If you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, it’s important to have a plan in place in case it rains. 6. Lounge furniture. An area with comfortable chairs and couches is a great place to rest between dances. 7. Dancefloor. A space to cut the rug is a must at most weddings. If your venue doesn’t have one, rent it. 8. China, flatware and stemware. Your caterer or venue may have some that you can use, but you may wish to upgrade to nicer looking pieces. 9. Photo backdrop. Whether you’re planning a photobooth or not, a beautiful backdrop is sure to be a hit with selfie-loving guests. 10. Entertainment. If you want to make sure your guests have fun, rent some large scale games or even a bouncy castle to keep them talking.
To simplify your life, find a company that offers full rental services and can include everything you need in one package. ª
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