Joy through Brilliance

The Joy Issue MARCH 2017 | Series No. 5, Issue No. 4

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Rebecca Casciano

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The PERPETUAL YOU

We believe in choosing, embracing, unleashing, and celebrating who you've always been – who you already are – who you want to be.

Be YOU...the Perpetual You.

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’m fortunate. I can say with complete honesty that I have never really cared what others thought of me. Having this attitude has helped me resist many dangers that women often give in to, from eating disorders to hanging around for a bad partnership to get even worse.

The challenge for most of my life, though, was that I didn’t think highly of myself. Oh sure, I’ve always loved my freckles and chose at a very young age not to shave my legs or armpits, or dye my hair, or do anything, really, that I felt others expected me to do.

Ironically, these actions came by way of a wall I had built around myself: I didn’t view the opinions of others as necessary because I didn’t view myself as someone worthy of being considered. My stance was reactionary more than revolutionary.

I’m happy that I can make quick, intuitive decisions and act accordingly, but I have learned (am learning) that being my true self is more complicated than acting decisively. Becoming myself means recognizing my worthiness, trusting my wisdom, and sharing my voice. Only then can I glean wisdom from the worthy souls with whom I’ve surrounded myself.

That’s what I want for myself, and that’s what I want for all of you.

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Don't you ever let a soul in the world tell you that you can't be exactly who you are. – LADY GAGA

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IN THIS ISSUE

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F I N D U S @ T H E P E R P E T U A LY O U

Realize Crave the things you need; pursue the things you want. Love jewelry?

Pick up a new piece. Feeling wanderlust? Plan your next trip. Hungry? Eat some French Fries and feel damn good about it. Welcome to the judgementfree zone of Being YOU.

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Dwell Create a home that exudes your true personality. Whether styling, redecorating, or making over an entire room (Hello, walkin closet!), allow your essence to shine clear and bright.

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M O N T H LY M U S I C

For inspiration + encouragement, listen to our "Do Your Thing" playlist on Spotify.

Celebrate Celebrate your inner Goddess and coax your desires to fruition. Give yourself what you need and love yourself in the

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way only you can. Featuring Rebecca Casciano of Sacred Beauty Salon.

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Conserve your brilliance by deciding which voices are worth listening to. Seek uplifting sisterhoods, in which you can share—and listen to—your own truth.

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F I N D U S @ T H E P E R P E T U A LY O U

THE MAKERS

Our makers consistently share their time & talents.

We'd love to introduce you to the lovely ladies who contributed to this month's issue.

Amanda

Kay

Cover Story Photographer

Dwell Feature Photographer

@amandaluisaart amandaluisa.com

@walkerstudiosllc walkerstudiosllc.com

Amanda is a photographer and artist specializing in portrait, wedding, and lifestyle photography.

She grew up in central MA and recently moved to CT. She loves helping people create memories by capturing authentic, natural moments and personalities and celebrating real moments in every day life. This is Amanda's second time doing cover photography for The Perpetual You.

Kay has always loved stories. She has a keen eye for detail and the tone of her photography has a potent vibrancy that highlights the best parts of life: from a father/daughter dance to a quirky cocktail to a divinely decorated fireplace to the engaging smile of a child who is candidly and simply enjoying her day. Kay has been a TPY collaborating photographer since August of 2015.

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Lianne

Micayla

Proofreader

Editor

Book Editor

Connect on Facebook

@hilodaisy

@uggly_mugg zucchiniontheceiling.com

Jacqui

Maya

Lindsay

Contributing Photographer

Collaborating Photographer

Contributing Photographer

@jacquidepasphoto jacquidepas.com

@mojalvo mojalvo.com

@lindsay_stanford lindsaystanford.com

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Jamie

Krystal

Collaborating Artist

Contributing Artist

Mantra Siren

@chenreichert chenreichert.com

.justmakethings.com

@krystalbrandt krystalbrandt.com

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F I N D U S @ T H E P E R P E T U A LY O U

THE TEAM

Lee Lee Creative Director & Managing Editor @leeleeinp

The Lee Lee is the #ladyboss of The Perpetual You. A writer by trade, designer by heart, and mother by choice, she seeks intentional practices and a positive mindset. If you’re near Hamden, CT, she welcomes you to stop by her front porch.

Lee Lee's Current Top 3 Craft: Making Confetti Skincare Product: Violets are Blue face wash Drink: Goddess Tea from Whole Harmony

Kay

Jessie

Staff Photographer

Art Director

@walkerstudiosllc walkerstudiosllc.com

@littlelegendsdesign littlelegends.com

Kay Nass travels New England and beyond chasing sunsets, circling dance floors, capturing tears & laughter, all in the pursuit of preserving stories of love, friendship, and family.

Jessie Leiber is a multi-disciplinary designer striving to make her world more pixel-perfect.

When she's not poring over mockups, she can be found singing (loudly) in her car or compulsively buying striped shirts.

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to align your daily practices with your ever-evolving desires

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I L L U S T R A T I O N by C H E N R E I N H A R T

T H E L A DY

Frida Kahlo Acceptance and originality are essential traits Mexican artist Frida Kahlo possessed. Remembered for her self-portraits and her lust for life, Frida once said “Feet, why do I need them if I have wings to fly?� Her style, bravado, and wit continue to inspire us to be our true selves, as well as our whole selves.

W O R D S by P . K . M C G I L L

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Strong and successful women do not wait for inspiration to strike; they become their own inspiration. – CARA ALWILL LEYBA

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The YOU Inside with Tanessa Holt

We are meant for something more than a mediocre life. If we use the opportunities and information available, we can celebrate our desires and go after our dreams.

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or many years, I sought to find happiness everywhere other than where it truly was, in various geographical locations, running from Coast to Coast for no real reason other than the constant change and chaos made me feel oddly comfortable. I never really allowed myself to settle in before I was packing up for the next great adventure.

Not being settled became my scapegoat, an excuse to avoid doing any real work on my goals and desires. I had so many reasons for not taking any action on my dreams to be active & healthy. I became uncomfortably comfortable in the existence of thinking that “thinking big” wasn’t for me.

I now live in Lake Cowichan BC, where it rains a lot.

Hiding out from the rain this season has given me a lot of time to think, to reflect on how my desire to run away from the rain is my metaphor for my life. By holding the weather responsible for my happiness and

success, I had stopped holding myself accountable for my action. I was letting something as trivial as the weather dictate my life.

There will always be rain, no matter where I am. In fact, most of the places that I desire to travel to most have long rainy seasons. When I am in the tropics on my dream vacation, am I going to be wishing I was somewhere else because the rain is falling? Or am I going to be stoked to be where I am because it is beautiful and a dream come true?

My discontent and lack of satisfaction with my external situation is representative of my inability to be happy internally. In other words, the rain is not what’s actually bothering me; rather it’s fear, insecurity, and ego that stops me from moving forward in life.

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Start Today Learning to dance in the rain — being where you are and to realizing that, rain or shine, life happens and will keep happening – is a continuous process. Some of the ways I continue to learn to love the rain is by stillness, contentment, and choosing to remain in control of my actions, thoughts, and feelings.

1 I had an a-ha moment the other day when thinking about this situation and how many times in life I have tried to outrun the rain (or snow) and have moved literally across the country to run away. The problem followed me wherever I went because it never actually existed anywhere other than inside myself.

We are faced with two choices at every situation of our lives, we can either learn to dance in the metaphorical rain, or we can allow it to keep us inside. For years, I have allowed myself to be kept inside when all the time I was looking out the window wishing I was playing and splashing in the rain of life.

The past few months I have made the conscious decision to put myself in situations where I would normally be wildly uncomfortable, in order to learn how to exist in my truth and authenticity.

I am speaking louder, and more often, and I am taking action to overcome the “rain” in my life that I have been trying to outrun for so very long.

The rain can’t stop me, only I can do that. I am learning now how to appreciate the rain for what it is—just a part of life. Moreso, rain flushes out the previous season and bringing new life and experience to our fingertips, a chance for new growth, to plant new seeds and have them grow.

Tanessa Holt is a writer, foodie, WHOLE Health advocate, mother of two young children and wife who empowers and inspires others to live their authentic life. Connect with her on Instagram @tanessaann.

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Be Still.

When I feel the urge to run away, I take a time out to reflect on what is happening inside that I am projecting on the outside world. Recognizing my emotions for what they truly are helps me move on and taking responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and actions leads to growth.

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Read about the moment real women become their true selves in this month’s Perspectives Spread on page 38.

Choose Contentment.

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Once I realized that I’d been trying to outrun my inner storm, I came to understand that the “weather” I was running from was actually boredom, ego, fear, & comparison to others.

Recognizing this allowed me to logically break it down and see it for what it is, to see me for who I really am, and that is someone that I am now very proud of!

Check out contentment in the form of comfort food in this month’s food spread on page 20.

Take Charge.

What we resist in life will continue to persist. Once I started questioning and challenging my feelings, my perspective shifted. I no longer look around me and wish things are different; I look within and see what emotions I can let go of and which feelings no longer serve my intentions.

This month’s Beauty spread, on page 32, helps women accept and take care of the skin they’re in.

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OBJECTS OF DESIRE

Playing Big

The Folded Clock: A Diary

The Yellow Wallpaper

by Tara Mohr, Pub. 2015

by Heidi Julavits, Pub. 2015

by Charlotte Perkins Gilman, Pub. 1892

This book is what I would deem a “lifelong companion”– the kind that survives several cross-country moves and life stages. More than a simple how-to, this beautiful guide proves the power of new perspectives and encourages every woman to become more of what they most want to see in the world, by simply tapping into what is already inside. This book smashes insecurities, old wounds, and inauthenticity to bits, allowing us to claim the bare bones of a good, grand, brilliant existence.

A diary remains one of the safest places to shed our costumes. For Heidi Julavits, the desire to record her days was innate, and her vulnerable, raw, complex life is revealed through these personal writings.

We get to witness a rocky journey towards a truthful, celebration-worthy existence. The bravery found within is sure to spark our own honest examination; our journey takes on new meaning when we decide to write it down..

This classic work of short fiction depicts one woman’s descent into insanity.

Although this may not sound like it really celebrates “brilliance,” it’s a refreshingly honest story that will fuel your desire to live openly, never closeting your own truth. The main character’s lack of control over her own life reminds us of the importance of allowing our individual brilliance to shine through and makes it crystal clear that the key to a contented existence is to celebrate who we are, exactly as we are.

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Comfort Food with Rachel Haas

In which we dismantle the myth that living healthy and eating comfort food are incompatible philosophies.

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rom the time of our youth, we are taught that food is our enemy. As we grow older, turn from girls into women, we find ourselves too often sinking into the trap of utilitarian food— bland cardboard food only with the purpose of keeping us going, moving us forward through busy blurs. We find ourselves having to choose between an appearance of healthy living and taking the time to eat something worthy and delicious.

Potatoes are nutritious, versatile, and delicious.

It’s short work to peel, slice, and bake until crispy.

Slather them in ketchup, delicately dip them in

gourmet aioli, or sprinkle with salt and Creole seasoning and devour.

Allow yourself to taste your food. Remind yourself that food is good and you—and your tastebuds— are worthy of taste and joy and beauty. And if you find yourself too short on time to chop and make your own crispy potato delights, go ahead and pop through a drive-through. No judgement here. Promise.

Feast on more of Rachel's food experiences at her @rlhaaswriter or R-L-Haas-Writer.

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Pink Lady Whimsical + Sophisticated; Classic, yet Timeless…this drink is suitable for all tastes and lifestyles.

Like many ladies we know and love, the Pink Lady is full of contradictions. Some tout it as a simple drink with only a few ingredients while others point to the complexity or technique behind frothed egg whites as the magic secret.

Long beloved by Hollywood notables, this feminine cocktail is perfect for any woman with sophisticated tastes and classic style. Given that Grenadine—which is what makes the drink pink—was originally added to mask the flavor of cheap gin during the prohibition era, us down home ladies can get with this drink just as easily.

So she’s complicated. Who among us isn’t!

Just like the you and me, this complexity is what makes her the drink of the moment as well as a perpetual classic.

PHOTO by Life Unstill Photography

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P H O T O by @ L I F E U N S T I L L

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Daily Movement with Julia Grimaldi

Movement is part of who we are, it’s in our genes. Our daily movement allows us freedom and joy to be who we are without changing a thing.

Humans have always been in motion, especially women. It’s quite natural and innate. Although our contemporary lifestyles have shifted us away from roaming the land to more sedentary activities, we still move with a natural rhythm each day.

Our bodies benefit both physically and emotionally, from regular movement. We live longer, our heart health improves, stress & anxiety are reduced, we sleep better, and there’s added meaning in our day.

Clearly, movement benefits our mind, body, & spirit.

Before “adding” movement into your life, notice what you already do. Each day, we walk, care for our children, cook, clean, garden, or hold someone’s hand. These are all movements. Show gratitude to your body for these abilities that keep us moving, alive, and well.

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Adornment What better way to reflect the unique styles of women everywhere than to showcase six different statement necklaces, each made by a different small batch maker? Love what you love. Wear what fits your style. Buy what brings you Joy. Click on the title of each necklace to shop.

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Emily Necklace

by Kaliada ( from $68)

Maker: Kaliada Padilla 2 | Herkimer Diamond

Circle Necklace

by Tiffany Anne Studios

(inquire about price) Maker: Tiffany Whipps 3 | Enamel Oval Necklace ($42) & Moon & Mountain Necklace ($70)

by January Jewelry

Maker: Melissa Giglio 4 | Equinox Necklace

by Heart Stone Gallery (from $20)

Maker: Kerry Michaud-Bagley 5 | Eclipse Necklace

by Leocadia K. ($89)

Maker: Cait Sherrick 6 | Custom Necklace

by Seaduced Seaglass (from $48) Maker: Jenn Skiba 7 | Tassel Wood Bead Necklace

by Conflicted Pixie ($29)

Maker: Erica Deputy

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Handmade modern heirlooms for your home

Modern ar t inspired jewelr y for the mildly rebellious flow-goer

casaandcodesign.com

leocadiak.com

Soy Candles | Ar t | Home

Handmade Leather Travel Notebooks

raynehomedecor.com

redpentravelers.com

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Wanderlust with Lindsay Stanford

Traveling, whether it be near or far, safe or risky, has been confidencebuilding. Traveling can be soulful, meaningful, and sometimes scary.

Traveling brings me pure joy, and there’s a brilliance to that.

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very so often, I get a wanderlust feeling. In spring of 2016, I made a visit to Arizona, where my cousin and her husband have a home just outside of Phoenix.

After staying with them for a few days, I headed off on my own adventure to Sedona and The Grand Canyon National Park.

This was my second trip solo, and far more important than my last because it wasn’t for work purposes. For me, it’s a challenge to work at someone else’s speed. Solo travel allows me to grow, fear, and love at my own pace.

I’ve lived in Connecticut 29 years, so traveling pushes me to step outside my box. It’s more than the views that make me happy: it's the culture, the people, the landscape, the food…and the person I become while traveling.

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I’ve dreamed about the places in these photographs; not just daydreams, but actual REM sleep dreams. These places are more beautiful than I can describe to you or even show you in a photo. Nothing has brought me more joy than discovering the beauty of an imperfect world.

Lindsay Stanford is a photographer and fashion blogger located in CT. She specializes in styled sessions, fashion, weddings, portraiture, and landscapes, and loves to travel.

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Celebrate the Skin You’re In with Leigh Schwab

The brilliance of skin care and cosmetics is that there are a multitude of formulas and products out there waiting to find you, whether you have oily skin, wrinkles, dark spots, or acne – or you just want to have more brilliant skin overall.

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ather than buying every single product on the market to tackle every single ‘problem’ you have, start with one aspect of your skin you’d like to address, and choose a few products with good customer reviews that are designed to address the area of concern that most bothers you.

Personally, I suffer from mild rosacea and my life’s mission has been to find a product that reduces the

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red so I don’t have to cover my troubles with more and more make-up. Changing my diet and using clean skin care and beauty products has helped me get my rosacea under control.

Regardless of the type of skin you have, treating it with care and respect is the way to make it glow—and to reflect your inner brilliance.

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Women have been demanding more focused skincare, and conscious companies are listening.

Below are a few recommendations for skin types with common challenging features.

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Dry Skin As we age our skin becomes less supple and more susceptible to fine lines and wrinkles. Laugh lines are great but no need to let those crows feet get any deeper. Hydration and targeted treatments like botanical oils can help keep fine lines at bay.

Leigh recommends: Precious Skin Elixir’s 24 Karat Gold Luxe Restorative Balm

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Rosacea can be a tricky problem to treat because many symptoms that accompany rosacea are triggered by food consumption. Quality clean products, however, can help keep redness and irritation at bay, and become a vital part of your overall healthy routine.

Leigh recommends: Celtic Complexion’s Calming Serum

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Acne Who’s got time for that? We all get an occasional pimple but sometimes we get a few more than we bargained for. Cleansing is such an integral part of keeping acne at bay. To make sure you aren’t stripping your skin of its natural moisture, try using a plant based salicylic acid.

Leigh recommends: Juice Beauty Blemish Clearing Toner Pads

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Leigh Schwab uses her love for skin care to help educate women about the ingredients in their products and the need for proper skin care legislation in our country. Learn more about her passion for a healthy and simple life on Facebook and Instagram @leighschwab.

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March Self-Care Toolkit

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Your Truth with Ashley Dees

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Passionflower Sandalwood Crystal Mica Brigit

Be you! The real, the raw, the powerful, the magical, the greatest you. Why would you waste your time being anyone else? This is the time to let your fire burn and your wild side howl at the moon. Our toolkit this month supports you to live an authentic life you love, thereby sharing your truest self with the world!

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Passionflower*

Sandalwood

Crystal Mica

Brigit

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Calms anxiety and nerves

Clears the mind; fosters truth

Supports and encourages authenticity

Assists in speaking truth

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ike its vines that grow boldly and persistently, Passionflower, invites us to think outside of any self-limiting beliefs. Passionflower helps calm the nervous system, allowing you to better deal with stress, tension, agitation, anxiety, and depression. Use of this herb allows you to be a truer bolder version of yourself.

Sandalwood oil comes from a sacred, strong tree that is honored all over this planet. When used respectfully and mindfully, Sandalwood guides us in our meditations, clearing the mind to reach the heart on a deep level. Associated with the throat chakra, this essential oil fosters true acceptance and allows you to speak your truth.

Mica is your support stone, your stone for confidence, your stone for self-love, and your stone for power. Mica

Consult with an herbalist before using Passionflower if you are taking any pharmaceuticals especially, antidepressants and antianxiety medications.

is your cheerleader—your best friend supporting all that you do. Mica tells you that you are love, you are the divine. Carry Mica with you to help bring forth your most authentic self.

The fiery Celtic triple goddess, Brigit, asks us to “Stand up for what you believe is right.” She will protect anyone who calls upon her. Brigit tells us to speak our truth, put our foot down, and not to worry about what others think. Let her assist you in speaking truth.

When we live to our fullest expression, we honor our own individuality and that of others – our differences turn into our power. Let this month be the start of living your fullest most powerful life. No hiding, no failing to speak up and looking the other way. Stand in your power because the world needs you.

Learn more about Ashley, and how she teaches and gathers goddesses together at Green Harmony Aromatherapy.

Feature photo by @jolyneh

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Celebrate Your Style with Caitie Sherrick

"Personal style is accepting who you are." – Diane von Furstenberg

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urn heads when you walk into the bar on Saturday night. Bend ears when you pitch your idea at the next meeting. Inspire women to have their babies, build their businesses, and look damn good while doing both. Be you.

Personal style is accepting who you are and wholeheartedly being that woman. It’s layering a dress over pants when the weather is unpredictable, wearing jeans for every occasion and buying clothes that actually fit. It’s only wearing neutrals, only wearing bright colors, or only wearing black.

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Being yourself commands presence, attracts the right kind of opportunities, and gives other women permission to be themselves too. The pressure to be someone else is removed when you stop comparing yourself to other women. When you realize there’s no one like you, confidence, acceptance and brilliance naturally follow.

Celebrating your style brings freedom. As you worry less about what you’re wearing, you’ll be able to focus all your attention on showing up in the world as who you truly are.

Celebrate a Monochromatic Look Simple and chic, monochromatic outfits automatically look elevated with their clean, eye-catching silhouettes.

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Relaxed + Ready Vinyasa in style. Wear a black sweatshirt to your next yoga class and don’t take it off until you’re all warmed up. Pair it with some black yoga leggings, a black tank and some black sneakers. Go from yoga to breakfast to errands looking chic and feeling comfortable all day long.

Pictured: black tank, black sweatshirt, black yoga leggings, black sneakers

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Feminine + Free Wear your Sunday best to brunch. Layer a white sweater over a white t-shirt, pair them with some white jeans, and tan flats. Feminine, comfortable and super stylish, this look lets you spend less time fussing with your outfit and more time enjoying your pancakes.

Pictured: white t-shirt, white jeans, off white sweater, tan flats, Leocadia K./TPY Big Mala Necklace

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Simple + Stylish Plan your outfits like you order your coffee. Keep it simple and stylish by pairing a denim button down with some skinny jeans and a pair of tan ankle boots.

Throw on a hat for some extra chic. Relish this cool, casual, and easy look, all while you sip your latte.

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Pictured: denim shirt, hat, blue jeans, ankle boots, Leocadia K. Sloane Necklace

Caitie Sherrick is a jewelry designer + stylist for mildly rebellious flow-goers at Leocadia K. She’s deeply inspired by modern art, has a boho heart + loves the warm, unconditional love of a good cup of chai tea. Join her on Instagram @caitiesherrick for daily inspiration + visit her shop for more every day outfit ideas.

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P E R S P E C T I V E S from T H E PA N E L

When (and why) did you decide to be your true self?

In 2010, I was at my personal version of rock bottom (mentally). I made a 'now or never' type of decision, committing to leave my corporate finance career and pursue my passion for yoga, healing, and happiness. I let go of what my peers thought – of what everyone thought!

– and decided that my happiness mattered more than my bank account and resume.

I grew up knowing that I could be whatever I wanted.

Because of early childhood traumas and connection to spirit, I knew from a very young age who I was meant to be in this world.

Right now, though, I am peeling off a new layer, choosing to be even more of this ’true self,’ by writing a prescriptive memoir and allowing my powerful Goddess side to stand up for herself in a big way.

Sheer exhaustion, a restlessness inside, and a yearning to break free of the cramped space I find myself hiding in. I am not broken. I'm growing. This is a cycle I go through regularly, but I have felt it the most keenly since becoming a mother and especially in the past 2 years since my son was diagnosed with Leukemia.

Ashley

Kelsey

Sarah

Transformational Coach Boston, MA

Educator / Author / Healer New York, NY

Thinker, Writer, Wife, & Mother Calgary, Alberta

@ashelizabeth ashleymaina.com

@kelseyfoxbennett kelseyfoxbennett.com

@sbachelder sarahbachelder.com

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About 6 months postpartum with my second son, I was in a spin class one morning deep in meditation and realized that the only person I needed to impress was myself. A gigantic weight was lifted off my shoulders and I suddenly felt free.

My body was covered in chills; at that very moment, I reached an epic level.

For years, I didn’t tell my story about why I started my company (I had cancer in 2004) because I was afraid I would jinx myself.

In 2015, a group of my women friends helped me see that the reason I started Simply Chickie was to spread a message about organic clothing.

Now, I tell my story.

As a mom at the very young age of 21, I didn't have time to be anyone other than myself. All my energy went into figuring out how to raise my baby girl. I have continued to be my truest self ever since. I find it easier to accept who you are than to hide. I do what feels right, when it feels right!

Natalie

Gwendolyn

Holly

Modern Hippie Mama Boynton Beach, FL

President of Simply Chickie Newport, RI

Zesty Entrepreneur Ithaca, NY

@themodernhippiemama heweloha.com

@simplychickie simplychickieclothing.com

@norabloombotanicals norabloom.com

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Above all, be the heroine of your life..

P H O T O by @ T H E J O Y A R C H I V A L

– NO RA E PHRON

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to align your physical space with your ever-evolving self

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confetti /'k n'fedē / noun​ Tiny flashes of celebratory brilliance.

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Joy at Home INSTINCTUAL, INTENTIONAL DESIGN with Sarah Bennett

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Your home presents the perfect opportunity to start practicing and celebrating your YOUness. It’s your haven, your oasis, your anchor. What better place to explore and play with your creativity and self-expression!?

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have now fully moved into our sweet cottage and I’m starting to move things around and get the feel of the space. It’s always exciting moving into a new home because it inspires and ignites new ideas.

Designing (or re-designing) is an opportunity to represent yourself in new ways!

My first design mission was to find the right couch. I knew I wanted something funky and old, with either a bold floral pattern or a cool-toned couch in velvet or corduroy. Then I came across a vintage navy leather Scandinavian couch for $80 – not really what I had in mind. Still, she stopped me in my tracks; I went for it.

After hauling this couch home, we knew right away it wasn’t going to work. Major frown after going through all that trouble! I had known it was a risk bringing this into my house because it was outside my usual style choices, but I’m glad I listened to the urge to give it a try. A little trial in error is how we work things out, right?

I reposted the Scandinavian couch on Craigslist the day after and sold it—for a profit! One week later, I stumbled on a blue/green and cream vintage floral couch, the price tag of which ($30!) made my heart drop. It had to be mine! After much coordination, my husband and I adventured over an hour away to go pick up the 8.5 ft vintage dreamboat and bring her home.

In this instance, the risk was the length. The measurements of the couch made it seem like it was too long for the space, but something inside of me knew it would work. I am SO glad we did because the

minute we brought Dolly, the new couch, in (yes, I name things) I found myself grinning ear-to-ear.

I’m so happy I listened to my instincts, both in regards to the first couch and when I saw Dolly online. Even though there was risk (and travel) both times, the end result is worth our efforts. Thankfully, I have a supportive husband who understands my core desire to be surrounded with beautiful items.

Next on the design game plan is approaching that wonderfully blank white wall, a canvas that excites me to the core. I’m dreaming of a spacious and airy gallery wall. I don’t want to overdo it, though. I want there to be white space, and a common denominator to pull everything together.

I’m thinking of a weathered old mirror to bring in movement; unique pieces of vintage art; maybe an oval empty frame; and a wicker vase mounted on the wall with a fern or flowers popping out. All of which will go perfectly with the delicious pillows and a throw blanket I’ll layer on my couch, and the pop of warmth my boho rug will add.

When creating a space that celebrates your unique self, start with one big furniture item that inspires you to keep going. Get in touch with what colors, styles, textures, and patterns light you up, and honor your feelings whatever they are! Create a home that has your style all over it, and you’ll enjoy spending time there.

Sarah is a vintage curator, designer, and stylist living in Oregon. Follow Sarah’s intentional design process at @Sariehere.

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Girl Meets Dressing Room I love Anthropologie style but don’t love high-end décor store prices.

Instead, I collect unique treasures buried away at vintage shops, flea markets, and thrift stores. When designing my dressing room in our new house, I took this love of buried treasure, along with some brilliant organizational strategies, and curated a room built just for me.

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e’ve all been there: struggling in the morning to find a decent outfit to wear, digging through drawers looking for a specific item, trying on a dozen variations before settling on something to leave the house in. By the time we’re ready to go, our closet is in disarray and our energy has snowballed into negativity.

My design scheme wasn’t just about organizing accessories and hanging clothes; I wanted a dressing room that was way more than a closet! I took what I love about thrifting and applied it so that my walk-in closet (a spare room in our house) took on the personality and characteristics of a curated vintage shop.

Leaving your home already frazzled can affect your mood throughout the day, no matter if—in the end—you feel good about the way you look. When we moved into our new house last year, I decided to take a good look at my morning routine, with the intention of turning around this process and making my morning routine brilliant and joyful.

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there’s a seat in which I can relax, drink my tea, and peruse what I want to wear. Now I know exactly where to look for what I want.

In fact, I found that, overall, I have a lot more freedom when I can see all my things in front of me. Handbags stacked according to color or size are easy to grab and easy to replace. Jewelry boxes spaced throughout the room allow me to browse selections at my leisure.

Even my shoes—formerly hidden away in drawers—are accessible and eye-catching.

Re-using items is child’s play when it comes to jewelry. It’s not only fun to set up spaces of bracelets and earrings and antique pins, but it’s just as much fun to move stuff around when I feel like it. Devising multiple uses for one item is also a win-win. For example, when searching for a place to hang my camera, I decided draping it over the neck of my dress form added to the reality without taking away from the whimsical nature of the item.

To further make the space feel like a vintage store, I added artwork to the walls, including the aforementioned necklaces, which hang in front of empty frames rescued from garbage bins at local thrift stores. I know my design was a success when girlfriends are calling me to ask if they can “hang out” in my closet—and many a weekend night has been spent here, with a friend, drinking wine and catching up.

Having a personalized space has become about more than just starting my day stress-free. I now come home at the end of a long day and have an oasis to escape to. Surrounded by things that reflect my true energy, I relax and unwind in a space focused solely on my needs and designed entirely for my personality.

By day Crystal Rose Cathcart works in the world of big data and by night is the author of the lifestyle blog Paisley Rosie.

She enjoys writing about traveling, interior design, fashion & her adventures in trying different teas. Crystal lives with her boyfriend and three cats in Hamden, Connecticut. Connect with her @paisleyrosie.

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Dwell on This Even without an entire room to devote as your closet, there are some simple ways to organize your space for maximize enjoyment.

Start with the things that bring you the most frustration, as I did, and implement change in bite-sized pieces. Here are my favorites:

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Have Fun. The subtle elements of nature I added, from floral art, to hints of green moss, to a few fake flowers strategically placed, add some nonfashion personality to my dressing area, and are representative of my overall personality. Chances are your home already has a ton of items you can use for this enhancement; so, get shopping!

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Get Thrifty Jewelry hidden away in boxes limit the enjoyment factor you get out of them. I’m happiest when I can see and access all my getting ready accoutrements.

Vintage or thrift shops are a great place to find statement pieces on which to lay out your jewelry, perfume, and various knick-knacks. Look for ceramic trays, metal bowls, and any dish in a unique shape. For a unique jewelry display, rescue a broken frame from the trash pile at Goodwill!

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Mix It Up Dream closets with rows of matching hangers have led us astray! I recommend adjusting the type of hanger to the item it will hold. Velvet non-slip hangers are great for blouses, but most other things don’t need such a costly investment. Coats should be hung on hangers that can support the weight, while tank tops can easily go on a multi-use hanger.

My go-to hanger for skirts? A children’s hanger!

They’re affordable and fit skirts perfectly.

Does your home bear the marks of intentional design?

We’d love to feature you! Send us an email: hello@theperpetualyou.com

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Vulnerability is in full swing during a remodel, particularly in a kitchen—where function is critical, even during the renovation.

Clarifying your values and opening your heart to a variety of outcomes brings focus when needed and flexibility when necessary.

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e weren’t supposed to remodel our kitchen. When we looked at the house and considered where our money would go, the IKEA special that was our kitchen seemed just fine. The layout of a galley kitchen seemed manageable, and there was plenty of storage. The location of the kitchen—in the very back of our house—also seemed okay, given that we aren’t “entertainers”; the part of food we enjoy is eating it together at the end of a busy day.

Then we moved into the house and started using the kitchen. The things we’d assumed about it were basically true—the location was fine, though we spend a lot more time in the kitchen than I expected or ever have in the past; the layout worked and the size turned out to be just right for a quick cleaning. Also: storage. A ton of it. More than even I, a master collector, could fill up.

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Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else. – JUDY GARLAND

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is stunning. Restrained, yet opulent finishes. Timeless lighting and luxurious countertops. And—instead of IKEA—my designs are everywhere: from the art on the walls to the multi-color palette to the infusion of patterned & vintage & basketry goodness all around. I truly enjoy being in my kitchen.

This from a girl who doesn’t even remember the location of the kitchen, not to mention what it looked or felt like, in her previous apartment. More importantly, I am grateful for my kitchen. Oddly, I’m also grateful for having gone through a kitchen remodel. The process was painful and time-consuming, but also gratifying. I love seeing a plan come together. Despite the challenges along the way, I also loved figuring out what I wanted in my kitchen.

So why did we end up remodeling? Partly, several different things fell into place making a remodel that wouldn’t break the bank possible; mostly, because of the yellow tile. This tile—the tile that covered just about every square inch of our kitchen— belonged in a bathroom in very small quantities in 1985-ish.

Almost the color of a lemon gone bad, except not as vibrant.

Pale yellow must be the worst kind of yellow. Did you know yellow in large quantities can literally have a negative effect on some people’s psyche? For proof, just read The Yellow Wallpaper by Charlotte Perkins Gilman, in which the heroine literally goes mad in close proximity to her yellow wallpaper. Yellow is scary! Basically, I felt uncomfortable in my own kitchen. The money center of our home! Where’s the abundance in that? Wanting to remove the tile became an obsession, and I couldn’t figure out how to do that without remodeling the kitchen around it. Now, several more months later than I originally expected, there is only one little corner of yellow tile—for posterity’s sake!?—and the rest of my kitchen

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One of the things I am grateful to have discovered early on was that a remodel does not mean everything has to change.

(Thank you, husband and friend.) This freed up our budget, time, and energy to focus on the things we did need to

change. Ahem—yellow tile. The actual bones of our kitchen were perfectly okay, so why “fix” them? I consider the need to change everything a cultural phenomenon, a result of HGTV-addiction and DIYmindsets. Often these mindsets do not coincide with a true abundance mindset.

As an eco-conscious consumer, the stainless steel mindset is one I find particularly troubling. At what point did white become not good enough? We’re not talking puke green here people! Last I checked, white goes with everything. I do understand the desire for well-designed, efficient models; I don’t understand why those models need to be reflective.

This trend, which has absolutely nothing to do with the function of kitchen appliances, relies on the circular logic of capitalism. Better is better, so buy better. I’m so thankful that we have never followed this trend and that we didn’t have to consider

“resell value” (this is our last house, thank-youvery-much). The appliances in our kitchen, while not exactly modern, function perfectly. With a little Be Good cleaning solution, they shine too!

The next two mindsets that worry me are layoutrelated. I mentioned that the kitchen is galley style, which is actually having its moment right now in the increasingly space conscious design world. I also mentioned it is located at the back of the house. I did not mention that when in the kitchen, one is completely shut off from anything going on elsewhere. Though staring out the back windows, which don’t open, and wondering why you are not out there swinging with the kids comes close to being a part of something. No one wants

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to feel alone surrounded by dirty dishes, but we just couldn’t afford to buy into the “comprehensive remodel” mindset or the “open concept” mindset.

These are rampant patterns because of our moremore-more culture, not because they are actually right for everyone.

At least these mindsets come from good places.

People who value entertaining or constant family time love the idea of an open concept kitchen, and people who value consistency and doing things right or not doing them at all often start by gutting a room and going from there. I understand that, but those are not our values. In this house, we re-use as much as possible. We also value the integrity of our

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house, which—to us—meant not following a trend that may be out of style in a few years.

Not buying into these mindsets meant spending money where we wanted to, namely the finishes.

I chose the lighting first, meaning the lighting chose me.

Any light will help you see, but I wanted lighting that made a statement, provided ambience. I couldn’t afford a custom light and wasn’t keen on making my own, though Etsy had me believing I could for a couple days, so I looked for a beautiful fixture that didn’t require me handing over a small child in exchange. Enter West Elm; I do love them so. An ample, white globe hanging from an

exposed black cord that connects to a champagne bronze fixture. Am I the only one drooling? This over-abundant lighting choice set the mood for the kitchen, not quite modern-not quite vintage, all the way opulent. Yum. After I’d settled upon a finish, I searched high and low for affordable, matching hardware for the cabinets. A weighty, tarnished brass that would perfectly compliment the dark blue cabinetry I’d just had painted. We have close to thirty drawers, so the $6-$10 price range was a big shock; however, if any expense was worth it, this one was. Do not compromise on something you will handle every day!

Unfortunately, a faucet in a matching finish was also shockingly pricey, but I’d made a choice and had to stick with it; I wouldn’t be happy with anything else in its place. Though they seem indulgent, the glossy backsplash and quartz wall tile were semi-compromises to balance out the solid surface countertops I couldn’t deny us. Though there were changes throughout the process and setbacks I could go on for days about, the result is everything I’d hoped for. This kitchen is dreamy. Outside of the opulent finishes, the parts of my kitchen that mean the most to me are the vintage and/or handcrafted accessories—golden continued on next page

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yellow canisters found for three bucks apiece; a coffee corner cabinet made specifically for my needs and wants; curtains that hold the mystery to my design scheme and were sewn by my gifted niece; a weary ladder turned custom shelf; and the art that, in keeping with the rest of our house, was made by me or my children and has heart & soul & love & gratefulness written all over it. What I am most grateful for isn’t a specific part of my kitchen, or even the kitchen as a whole, but the lessons I learned about myself. (Other people do Yoga or seek therapy—I redecorate.)

Early into this project, I had to accept that I’m a Dreamer, Not a DIY-er. I couldn’t get one damn piece of that yellow tile off the wall and, after seeing the mess of dust demolition left in its wake, I didn’t want to. Thankfully, you can pay someone to demolish things. At first, I was disappointed: All of these years I thought I was one of them— those people who can do things with their hands. But I soon accepted it. I have learned that, for me, wanting to do things myself actually came from a place of scarcity. “I can’t afford to...” doesn’t jive with abundance.

Rather, “I choose to” or “I choose not to.”

When it comes to projects that involve more than a little paint and a glass of wine, my choice is no thank you.

The lesson that took the longest to sink in was that I Can Live with a Wealth of Mess. I really and sincerely do love a clean house; in fact, I think there may be no greater joy than walking around barefoot and not getting dirt or dog hair or tiny Legos stuck between your toes. Still, I have learned that I am capable of dealing with ongoing projects that disrupt my perfectionism. Remodeling takes time—not just because of setbacks and budget concerns, but because you are making a huge change in an important place—your home. You need time

The Value of Your Values There are many opinions on what you “should” spend money on in a kitchen reno and I won’t begin to tell you which way is right for you. I do believe knowing what your values are and using those values to guide you in getting the kitchen you want, though. To help you decide which path is right for you, here are a few of the different approaches to budgeting:

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The Long Game If you’re living in your forever home, you have the luxury of taking your time to get exactly what you want, particularly when it comes to high-priced items like appliances and countertops. You can also choose one big item to splurge on and keep an eye out for sales on other things down the road. We invested in a countertop that we knew would hold up to wear and tear, as well as would last through design changes to come.

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Ready to Resell If you know you’re going to sell in the next 1-3 years, expert advice is to spend where you get the most return for your money; this would include trends in appliances and cabinetry. The good news? You get to enjoy the fancy schmancy storage while you’re waiting on the next homeowners to come through.

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Function First Some gadgets or high-tech appliances might not be worth it, from a resell perspective. Still, if you know you’ll use that prep sink day in and day out, or you need that child-lock for sanity’s sake, then the investment will be more than worth it.

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Bespoke Me Anything custom, from drawer pulls to layout design, is going to cost money; however, if you want to have a kitchen that totally says YOU, these might be areas where you’re willing to pay more. In the end, if the item or accessory brings you joy, then you won’t regret spending money on it.

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to adjust, to trust, and to decide, then re-decide, then re-re-decide. Stuff that is displaced does not negate the progress taking place.

Lastly, I thrive on complete creative control. Actually, I already knew this about myself, but this remodel reminded me of my “take no prisoners” design aesthetic more than once. You remember me: I’m the one who hates Yellow Tile. (I now believe the feeling is mutual.) No matter how many visitors said, You know what? The yellow tile isn’t so bad, I still hated it. The bottom line was not whether yellow tile was fashionable or the amount of demolition/mess we were talking about, or even the fact that we value NOT obliterating whole parts of our house just in the name of design. My sanity was at stake.

This week, I’ve been reading Desha Peacock’s book, Sweet Spot Style, in which she shows women how to add value to their house without breaking the budget.

She asks all of her interviewees the same question: How does your living space reflect your values? If she had asked me that prior to this kitchen remodel, I would have had an answer that relied on either B.S. or

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other people’s concepts. I did not yet know—I couldn’t have known—what was really important to me until I threw myself in the fire of renovation and came out, only a wee bit scarred, on the other side. Today, I could answer with confidence and honesty: the values represented in our home are a tendency toward trend and an affinity for brilliance with space for nuanced persnicketies and vintage accouterments.

The purpose of a renovation is to add value to your home, whether resell percentage points or an uptick in actual use of the space. Mine went beyond even those noble causes. By clarifying my design values, my person, my family, and my home all became wealthier. If that isn’t worth a hundred bags of yellow tile pieces waiting to be thrown out, I don’t know what is.

Lee Lee Thompson is learning to be intentional, whether mothering, writing, designing, or imbibing. A true collector and bargain lover, she’ll shop you under the table at the thrift store of your choice. Follow her journey through pictures or through words. You’re also welcome to come hang out on her front porch.

When Vibrant Isn’t Enough corresponds to Benjamin Moore 2079-30

Complementary corresponds to Benjamin Moore 2063-10

A Luminous Touch corresponds to Benjamin Moore 300

BOLD + BRILLIANT

Used to be, we were told not to put dark colors in a small space. Now we know any size

Depth + Light corresponds to Benjamin Moore 2153-60

room can benefit from a pop of personality. With plenty of natural light, the kitchen is a prime space for bringing in your favorite, bold hues. Elevate and personalize this function-focused room. You’ll be surprised by how much extra time you start spending there.

Here are some ideas for topping off your kitchen with a splash of bold:

A Dash of This

Signature Style corresponds to Benjamin Moore 2143-70

Paint a bold color on an accent wall, or choose a reflective tile surface for your backsplash, and litter the room with shiny accents.

In a kitchen, curtains are an easy way to bring in pattern, texture, and color. If you’re crafty, consider making them yourself!

Dish It Out A fun way to change your color palette, or to mix new colors in and old colors out, is in your dishware. Stock up on vintage dishes in colors you love, or start collecting small batch pottery in your favorite colors.

Color Inspiration For more ideas & inspiration, follow our Color Palette Pinterest Board.

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Shop the Look Product inspiration from our Featured Space.

Accessories are one of the most joyful parts of a kitchen. Strictly there for your enjoyment, you can add whimsy and shine, decorate along a theme, or mix vintage treasures with modern art. When designing with your own aesthetic at the top of the priority list, the only rule is to make sure you love it.

Click on the title of each product to shop a similar look.

1 | Owl Salt & Pepper Shakers

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2 | Hand Painted Wooden Sign

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3 | Arabesque Backsplash Tile

by Home Depot ($9.29/sheet)

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Own your own brilliance. – RACH E L LU N A

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THREE QUESTIONS

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Rebecca Casciano

What's one practice in your daily life that brings you JOY? Yoga and meditation. Even if I just do a few sun salutations and sit for 15 minutes, it sets the tone for a happy day.

What's one aspect of your physical space that aligns with your ideas about being your BRILLIANT self?

I love to collect beautiful objects from nature. I have shells, crystals and stones, in just about every corner of my home. I often place them next to framed photos or handmade treasures from my travels. They represent things that are important and inspirational to me.

For you, what is the relationship of Brilliance to Joy? Brilliance represents light, beauty, inspiration and wisdom: the very things that can make you glow from the inside out because they are at the foundation of joy. When you tap into the brightness of who you truly are, you cannot help but to be happy.

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Radiant Beauty CO N N E C T I N G YO U R I N N E R G O D D ES S + OUTER WOMAN with R E B E C C A C A S C I A N O

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What is Beauty? As modern women, we try to define the concept as often as we try to take part in the culture. We know that beauty is inextricably linked to our health + wellbeing; we know that skincare is both a necessity and luxury. We know how to do everything while secretly wondering if we’re doing everything wrong.

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aybe what we need isn’t more advice or to be further inundated with facts and warnings. Perhaps, in this lifelong journey of becoming our true selves, we simply need a friend.

A guide who is gifted in the art of makeup and also understands, intuitively, the importance our estimation of outer self has when we are getting to know our inner selves.

We need a woman who believes in her heart of hearts that all woman are beautiful. I’ve not only found that woman, but I’m blessed to have spent some time with her over the past month so that I can make a proper introduction. I'm happy for you to meet Makeup

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Artist, Natural Beauty Expert and Founder of Sacred Beauty Salon Series.

Knowing Rebecca for just a few short weeks has revealed more to me about makeup and skincare than years of browsing women’s magazines and the cosmetics aisle at the drugstore. Though writing an article isn’t quite as good as making an introduction, I aim to at least introduce you to a new perspective and hope to leave you with the desire to know more.

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BEAUTY IS SACRED. To Rebecca, beauty is sacred, which is a very beautiful way of saying that it contains components from all facets of our life: movement, nourishment, self-care, spirituality, creativity and outer beauty. This approach rests on a fundamental truth of Rebecca’s – that when a woman feels good, looks even better – itself a slight revision on the typical “look good, feel better” mantra of previous generations.

B E A U T Y I S S K I N D E E P. Like many of us, Rebecca started her authentic living journey from a place of need. After moving to NYC to attend The Fashion Institute of Technology, she struggled with “the worst of skin issues” –cystic acne—for several years before transitioning to a plant-based lifestyle, including eating a vegetarian diet. During this time she also embraced acupuncture, herbs, cleansing, yoga, and meditation as avenues to clean living.

At the same time as she was redefining her standard of living, Rebecca became involved in the makeup industry as a “hands on” way to use her design talents. She quickly earned accolades for a signature style while working with celebrities. One of the areas she was most well-known for making beautiful was the face, which makes sense given Rebecca’s philosophy that “people are inherently beautiful.”

With Rebecca’s talent in makeup application and her new philosophies on clean living, a purpose for her life was taking shape. To further delve into this, she attended the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and became a wellness coach. She also decided, at this time, to shift her makeup kit over to only contain natural beauty products.

This change allowed Rebecca to solidify what her impact on the makeup industry would be. She knew that inner and outer beauty are inherently connected—that what you put on your face and skin is just as important as what you’re putting into your body.

Also, she had proof from her own life that authentic beauty comes from a makeup regiment meant to reveal and complement one’s individual skin, rather than to cover up one’s flaws.

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I experienced Rebecca’s philosophy firsthand when I attended her Sacred Beauty workshop at the W.E.L.L. Summit this past October. As someone who doesn’t wear makeup at all, I wondered what exactly I’d be gaining by going to a beauty workshop, but I wanted to meet Rebecca enough to give it a try.

I quickly discovered that Rebecca’s ideas of beauty align perfectly with my own; namely, that there’s a connection between self-love and external beauty.

Whether Rebecca’s making up a client or leading a workshop, her intent is to help women realize what they love about themselves and to use makeup and skincare that will enhance that natural beauty. In the workshop, we were instructed to share one thing we loved about ourselves, and I was happy to volunteer how much I love my freckles—a core part of myself that I’ve never tried to “cover up.”

In the rest of the workshop, however, we focused on inner beauty. We journaled, shared with partners, and shared aloud the things we loved about ourselves. During this empowerment, I realized that loving my freckles (something that comes natural) is representative of a much larger and core desire to love all the parts of myself, even those you can’t see.

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BEAUTY IS SELF-SERVING. This philosophy of self-love and acceptance is vital to the progress of the beauty industry in our country, and around the world. Because we love ourselves, we deserve better beauty products. Green beauty is an intentional movement to make beauty conscious; it’s also an opportunity for women to confirm the links between nutrition, health, wellness, and skincare.

So many women I have met, including Rebecca, have come to clean beauty as a means of restoration and empowerment. Those of us who haven’t had health scares or long term illnesses are still reacting to an overwhelmingly negative and unattainable cultural

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standard of beauty. We’re taught that makeup is necessary to be beautiful rather than shown how safe skincare products can protect and enhance our beauty.

Rebecca defines green beauty as “products that are safer and healthier for our bodies and planet.”

By choosing to use natural beauty products on her own skin, as well as in her professional makeup kit, I consider her a green beauty warrior. Women need to know that beauty can be clean and still be beautiful.

Understanding the ways makeup and skin care can be good for us is what will lead to shifts in the expectations we have of of our beauty products.

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This possibility is what motivates Rebecca to continue spreading the good news about clean beauty and why she works to ensure women rely on makeup as a tool for “selfexpression” that celebrates their inherent beauty. “Nourishing the connection between how we look and how we feel can bring more happiness, beauty, and brilliance into our daily lives,” says Rebecca.

BEAUTY IS SENSUAL. In Rebecca’s workshop on sacred beauty, I didn’t suddenly decide to wear makeup; nor did having her make me up change my mind (though it was a lot of fun, for sure!). This is because wearing makeup isn’t a routine that I identify with self-love and self-care. Instead, while in Rebecca’s tutelage, I’ve written a mantra that inspires me and I’ve discovered that a ginger latte is yummy.

To me, this is the true radiance of women who want to help other women: they influence by allowing these women to discover their own truths. Rebecca created the Sacred Beauty Salon Series to allow for more of these connections between women to occur. “When we love, honor, and accept ourselves, we are empowered to help others to do the same,” says Rebecca.

The Sacred Beauty Salon Series also allows for Rebecca to further connections in the city that she loves, from working with local clean beauty businesses as locations for her salon, to introducing empowered women to each other. Her in person workshops, then, build on the “healing energy that transpires when women have a safe space to express themselves and connect with one another.”

I was also blessed to experience a longtime connection of Rebecca’s – Lorraine West, who provided the jewelry you see Rebecca

Ready to begin your Sacred Beauty journey but unsure where to start? Below are four tips, adapted from Rebecca’s June 2016 article published at MindBodyGreen.*

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Set A New Intention. ͞Perspective is essential. Even if you don’t consider yourself a “makeup person,” start with an open mind and curiosity to try something new. It may take some time before you see wearing makeup as a way to express, rather than cover, your true self; but if you start with a fresh mindset, you set the stage for a whole new experience.

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Practice Makeup Mantras.

Embrace each feature with love by stating powerful beauty mantras during makeup application. For example, “My eyes are beautiful and help me see with love” or “My skin is radiant, clear and healthy.” Say your affirmation out loud for maximum effectiveness. The more you say it (especially when looking at your reflection in the mirror) the more your mind will accept it as #truth.

Celebrate Your Beauty.

Your face is the only one like it in the world. How amazing is that? Choose your favorite (or least favorite!) feature and adorn it with loving care. If you like your blue eyes, a bit of bronze eyeshadow will make their color pop even more. On the other hand, if you think your lips are “too small”, throw on a red lipstick and appreciate every bit of them!

4 Go Natural.

Commercial cosmetics are full of chemicals you don’t want sitting on your skin all day. Most mainstream makeup is made using petrochemicals, artificial fragrances, and cheap preservatives. The good news? Many safe, sustainable, and effective alternatives exist and choosing them feels decidedly more special and well… sacred!

* Click here to read the entire article on the MindBodyGreen website.

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wearing in these photos. She and Rebecca have been friends since rooming together after college, a connection that’s rare in a city bustling with new opportunities. Lorraine is a beautiful, fun woman and I loved seeing how these two shiny personalities collided and collaborated.

B E A U T Y I S S H I N Y. To say that Rebecca glows is an understatement. Her inner joy radiates and her external beauty permeates a room. From the bright hair to the bright smile, Rebecca is a woman obviously in love with herself – proof that Authenticity is the new foundation for beauty. Flawless skin is out; knowing you’re worth the effort is now the goal.

Rebecca’s authentic affection for the details of beauty are also infectious. She finds inspiration in the colors of a spring palette, or the texture and shape of a shiny photoshoot prop. Makeup she uses and recommends appeals to all of the senses – it looks nice, smells good, and lasts a long time. What goes on under the makeup is just as important as the makeup itself.

Rebecca’s attention to detail and love of all things shiny reveal her belief that makeup can be “a source of self-expression – a feminine art to be learned and embraced.” Radiance can be as fun as it is radical.

This spirit, actually, is why I wanted her to be our March cover story. She truly believes in the joy that can be found in wearing a gorgeous lipstick, just as she believes that lipstick can be a reflection of our self-love.

Sure, beauty is skin deep, but our feelings about said skin is where true brilliance is found. In this way, beauty is a conduit to radical acceptance of one’s self.

Rebeca admits her approach requires the “courage to charter unknown territory” but this is what brings the shiniest treasures. “My biggest success, says Rebecca, “is every time a woman tells me that something I shared—an idea, a post, my makeup artistry—inspired her to do something positive for herself.”

Lee Lee Thompson is the Cofounder and Managing Editor at TPY. She has had the privilege to interview 22 amazing women who inspire others to choose, embrace, unleash, & celebrate the best parts of themselves–their Perpetual selves.

Photos by Amanda Luisa

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Style Notes This month’s photoshoot partners allowed Rebecca to bring her authentic self to the forefront of this cover story. To check out any of the brands, click on the links below!

Bespoke Jewelry by Lorraine West Conscious Fashion by Kaight Natural Makeup by Vapour / Jane Iredale / ILIA / Nu Evolution

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When we feel confident and beautiful from the inside out, we show up in the world in bigger ways. – R E BE CCA CASCIAN O

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The brilliance of the dramatic Purple Thistle belies anyone to call her a weed. This lover of rich soil is the symbol of perseverance and authenticity. Why should this arresting flower claim to be anything other than what she is?

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Inner Validation S T O P L I S T E N I N G , S TA R T B E L I E V I N G with Meghan Kacmarcik

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Ignore the magazines; let go of the false expectations and sneaky criticism. You don’t need to be any better or skinnier or healthier or stronger or more aware.

You’re worthy, in this moment and every moment.

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rom the time I was about nine years old all the way until my late teens, I was an avid consumer of all women’s magazines. It started with Girl’s Life and eventually transformed into Us Weekly, People and Self. I absorbed the “advice” given in each issue and made a mental note of all the ways I should improve my body and myself.

A short list of things I learned: boys like girls with long hair. Women shouldn’t wear horizontal stripes. A two-piece bathing suit with a high waist was best for my body type. All women need to perfect the art of the smoky eye. An apple will wake you up more than a cup of coffee (still waiting for that to make any sense to me at all). I could go on and on.

I devoured this information. I stored it away for a time when I would be become the perfect example of everything a woman should be. The type of women men liked, the type of women that were photographed and always looked the way society deemed as “perfect.” I am certain that I am not the only woman who has ever fallen prey to this “guidance.”

Fortunately, these magazines are being called out more and more both in the body positive movement and in women’s movements in general. We are finally starting to realize that we are here for more than just men’s pleasure and we can actually do *gasp* whatever we want.

Still, there’s a more damaging issue that’s flown under the radar: instead of media outlets telling us to change, they’ve begun explaining how we can be a better version of ourselves. On the surface, this sounds great—We don’t need to change – we just need to be better!—but these expectations and the accompanying advice can be just as toxic because they suppress the tiny voice of authenticity that rings within you at all times.

There are examples everywhere of the world trying to tell you to be just a little bit different, a little bit better. Articles that tell us how to take charge but also not be “bossy.” Blog posts that tell us how to speak up and go against the grain but not too against the grain.

Magazines that tell us how to make simple changes to improve ourselves in small ways.

The impulse to be your best self is not wrong. We can uncover things deep within us that make us more curious, more educated, and more content. To be constantly striving for some state of perfection based on expectations that other people set for you, though, is an unrealistic avenue to lasting change. Also, it’s exhausting at best and soul-crushing at worst.

I lost weight and became the size 2 that every woman, so I was told, strived to be. I got to the place that I

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Be kind to yourself. Believe in yourself.

Learn to diffuse 'no.' And never, ever let anyone dull your sparkle. could “wear whatever I wanted and look great!” or at least that’s what they told me. Inside, I was deeply unhealthy. Trapped in the box my eating disorder kept me in, I never felt beautiful regardless of what I was wearing. I also didn’t feel demure or obedient. I felt trapped.

Here’s the thing that magazines won’t tell you: you do not need to change anything to be enough or to be worthy. You are so unbelievably worthy. Your lack of adherence to arbitrary advice given in women’s magazines and social media will not and cannot change that.

It took years to break out of that box, but I did. To remember who I was and learn who I wanted to be, I replaced media with self-help books, feminist essays, and therapy. I gained weight and I feel more beautiful than I ever imagined I could. I laugh loudly, just like my mother, without apologizing. I wear whatever I want – even if it isn’t “flattering.” I like myself.

Our truest self knows she is worthy without constantly striving for perfection. Our most authentic

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voice knows we can better ourselves without beating ourselves up. Our inner light holds steadfast in the belief that we are enough, even when we don’t always feel it.

Who would you be if you hadn’t been clouded by all the messages from society telling you who you should be and how you should act? That’s a hard question for anyone to reflect upon, but with deep introspection and a willingness to unlearn, it can be explored and— likely—answered.

Meghan is a blogger, body positivity advocate, eating disorder survivor and Registered Dietitian. You can follow along on her adventures on Instagram @sundaesforthesoul or read her blog at sundaesforthesoul.com.

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For Brilliance, Look Within with Katie Rose Lynch

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I have always been intoxicated by the brilliance of others. This craving has led me to a lifelong, persistent search for connection, guidance and wisdom.

A lifelong search for the “perfect” mentor. Imagine my surprise when I discovered this mentor lives within.

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ver since I can remember, I have been on the lookout for “her.” That one woman who was going to provide me with all the tools, wisdom, insight, and guidance to be the greatest version of myself.

Along the way, I have found some fabulous and amazing women: women who have deeply impacted who I am and how I think, who have helped me become the woman I am today. I found these women in my college classrooms, at the nonprofits where I worked, and in graduate school.

Often, I’ve found myself idealizing the lives of these women, choosing only to see their accomplishments, ignoring the hard work it must have taken for them to get there.

Being in awe of how they seemed to handle any situation with a level-headed confidence without considering their moments of selfdoubt or fear allowed me to believe that these women had all the answers.

As great as their influence has been, the mentors so far in my life have been temporary.

They have come into my life at exactly the right time, to guide me and teach me, and then our time together ends. Despite believing that people enter our life when they are supposed to and stay as long as they are needed, I struggled with the impermanence of my

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Be Inspired See this month’s book suggestions, for a review of and link to Tara Morh’s book Playing Big.

mentor relationships. I craved finding the one mentor who would never leave my side, who would always—no matter what—be there when I needed her most.

Then I stumbled upon Tara Mohr’s “Discovering Your Inner Mentor” chapter in her book, Playing Big. I was intrigued, to say the least. Wasn’t this exactly what I was looking for? A mentor who would always be there for me, to access anytime I needed her?

I read on. Tara guided me through the concept that inside each one of us is an inner mentor, who is there to guide us. This inner mentor, Tara told me, is unfailing — a claim I found to be pretty exciting.

Imagine what it would be like to have all the answers?

Next, I was encouraged to discover my inner mentor by completing a 20-minute guided meditation, provided through Tara’s website. In this meditation, you meet and have a conversation with your inner mentor: you, 20-30 years from now.

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I was so ready and inspired to discover my inner mentor!

Confession: I had a ridiculously hard time doing this exercise. This was frustrating and strange. I am someone who LOVES me some meditation. I have been meditating on a consistent basis now for years and I can’t remember a time I felt so much resistance from within.

What I discovered through this process was that it was hard to let go and let myself find my inner mentor because I was afraid to discover her. Being determined to meet my inner mentor, though, I persisted. After four attempts at the guided meditation, I finally met her...my inner mentor.

I was blown away by the presence of my inner mentor.

She is calm, grounded, peaceful, wise, and confident.

I was struck by how at ease she was with herself and how her life had played out. I wanted her to share her secrets with me. How on earth did she become the woman that stood in front of me?

Here is what she wanted me to know: The brilliance I am seeking from others is inside of myself. To own that brilliance, I needed to do the following:

H E A R YO U R VO I C E .

T RU S T YO U R T RU T H My inner mentor lovingly reminded me that it was important to allow myself quiet space to hear my own voice. By doing so, I will always have the answers I am searching for, no matter what the question. When I hear my voice, it’s okay to trust myself and resist the urge to worry what people will think about my truth.

Those who love and respect me will value my truth. I can let go of those who do not.

A L LOW YO U R S E L F TO B E S E E N It was important to my inner mentor that I know that I do not have to hide behind anything: not a perfect career or perfect social media image; not make-up, clothes, or personal possessions. I am most powerful when I allow others to see me exactly as I am, when I am my most bare, vulnerable, and imperfect self.

LEAN INTO FEAR. DO THE WORK. S H O W U P. My inner mentor had a deep understanding of my relationship with fear. She encouraged me to make fear my ally; to notice when fear arises, lean into that fear, and allow it to be the fuel that ignites me and allows me to do the work required to live my ideal life.

When I met her, she was living my ideal life and she got there by showing up everyday and doing the work.

She encouraged me not to be afraid to show up in my business, show up in my relationships, and show up for myself.

R E M I N D M Y S E L F D A I LY : E V E R Y T H I N G I S E X A C T LY A S I T IS SUPPOSED TO BE One of the most important pieces of wisdom my inner mentor had to share was to know, trust, and

hold in my heart that my life will be exactly as it is supposed to be. Seeing her, I knew that her life—my life—had worked out exactly as it was intended. In this beautiful life, she was at peace with all that she had experienced, accomplished, and created.

Now that I have found my inner mentor, she will always be with me. She is within, where I may access her support and wisdom at any time. She has taught me that I do not need to become someone else. I do not need to model myself after someone else's life, someone else's dreams, someone else's’ truth.

I can embrace my authentic self because I hold all the wisdom I need. I know how to reach my goals.

I possess all the answers inside of me. To discover brilliance, I only need to look inside.

Katie Lynch, LICSW is a psychotherapist dedicated to helping women and couples live more mindfully and love more purposefully. You can connect with her at presentheartcounseling.com.

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MARCH MANTRA

I joyously share my brilliance which gives others permission to do the same.

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Krystal Brandt, Authenticity Coach, is a soulful, sensual siren who lovingly and powerfully guides high-achieving women back to their innermost desires by re-introducing them to their own intuitive whispers of wisdom. Connect with her via krystalbrandt.com.

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BE•OLOGY NOTES FROM THE FIELD ON LIVING A U T H E N T I C A L LY

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Our focus in this magazine, from Day 1, has been to acknowledge, encourage, and celebrate women who are being true to themselves. At the time we began, this mission seemed almost too simple: just “Be You” we thought – whoever that is!

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hile I stand behind the sentiment, I know now how challenging such a radical way of life can be. I’ve seen firsthand the frustration of authenticity and experienced the fear of coming into my own. Freedom is a fight, albeit a worthy one.

When these anxieties come, though, I hold on to the memory of those first few glory months of publishing. I reclaim the liberation of how good it felt to announce to the world that, come hell or high water, I was going to be ME. The other thing I have to lean on is a stockpile of anecdotal evidence that there are women living genuinely, and loving it. Since becoming the editor of The Perpetual You, I’ve interviewed 23 women who’ve

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shared openly and honestly about the rewards of living their ideal lives.

This year, I’m aiming to glean and share wisdom, so this month’s theme seemed like the perfect opportunity for me to review what these amazing women taught me about how to become me and stay true to my perpetual self.

D O W H AT F E E L S G O O D Listen to your heart, and follow what it says was Tiff’s advice. What a fitting and beautiful place to start our perpetual journey. Tiff’s heart told her to go to Hawaii and start a coaching practice. Mine told me to share positivity with women everywhere.

What does your heart say to do?

C R E AT E Y O U R O W N R U L E S From a tumultuous circumstance, Natalie decided to become an Airbnb host and live life on her own terms. She balked at a system that said to create balance between home & work, and is a happy woman because of this decision. Natalie doesn’t “have it all”; she has exactly what she needs. What rule do you need to break?

TA K E A B R E A K One of the happiest people I’ve ever met, Darlene lives life in a state of play. Relaxation and fun and even a little mischief aren’t timewasters; they’re critical to a well-rounded intentional life. To combat the inevitable frustrations, stockpile your play arsenal so it’s at the ready when you need a release. How can you add play into your day?

K N O W Y O U R VA L U E S A young mom, journalist, and foodie, Suzanne showed me the importance of supporting the causes you believe in. We don’t all have to write a book about artisanal pickles, but knowing what we love and why is integral to conscious consumerism. I love supporting women who are in business for themselves.

Who do you want to support with your dollars?

F I G H T FO R YO U R L I F E I generally don’t go for the violent metaphors, but inside the beautiful, loving Amy is a warrior goddess so strong I just had to go there. No matter your struggle, life is worth living.

That’s no simple cliché: it’s the truth. Positivity packs quite a punch, and a huge smile helps, too. What battle have you recently won?

SEEK THE SWEET STUFF I met Desha through her book about finding a sweet spot in your home, but her interview revealed the ethos goes much deeper. Desha believes all of life can be good: work, home, parenting, love. All of it. In fact, even the search itself can be quite yummy. How could you make life a little sweeter?

S AY Y E S T O F R E E D O M The most liberating thing I’ve taken away from all that knowing Tessa has taught me is that saying no isn’t a negative act when we’re saying YES to freedom. No matter your journey, there will be those who don’t understand. By being clear on your values and surrounding yourself with those who do understand, you will be ready to politely stand up for yourself when the time comes. What, or who, do you need to say no to?

F I N D Y O U R PA S S I O N Randi & Jolie are yin to each other’s yang. What works about their partnership (i.m.h.o.) is that each plays to her strengths. Together, they are more successful (and fulfilled) than if they were alone. Learning about their practices and philosophies encouraged me to look inside myself and determine where my true joy lay. What turns you on?

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H E L P W H E R E YO U CA N Kristen’s Malaika Foundation came out of a personal experience that reminded her how privileged she was.

What was eye-opening to me about her charity is that Kristen didn’t quit her day job as a sports reporter.

Discovering your purpose—even if it’s not saving the world—can, and will, improve your life and the lives of others. Who could you help without giving up the parts of your life you love?

D O C U M E N T YO U R LOV E I’m guessing Victoria is one of our youngest cover story superstars, yet the lesson I learned from her might be the most important: love should be recorded. Her candid & heartwarming approach to helping document authentic motherhood is important because, when the truth you’re trying to discover is ongoing, then remembering it can be challenging. How do you show love to those near and dear?

R E T H I N K R E L AT I O N S H I P S Irene & Diane showed me there’s so much more to learn about partnerships than what your average

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Business Instructor has to say. Any type of relationship is unique, and being yourself means lending others the same courtesy. Only then can we truly connect with each other. Where in your life do you want deeper connection?

U S E Y O U R TA L E N T S Michelle & Ali founded Soul Camp because they needed adventure. Also, they just really wanted to attend an adult camp! I find this refreshing. You can try to get more of something in your life, but if you have to change who you are in the process, you’ll still want more. Where can you share more of your talents?

RESPOND TO NEEDS With Melissa, I learned that generosity is a form of self-care. She built a life off of helping people give compliments – a simple but effective way to bring goodness into the world. The business also meets Melissa’s needs to be involved in education and advocacy. How can you meet your own needs while also giving to others?

PRIORITIZE LIFE Talking with Cindy, a breast cancer survivor, reminded me of the little control I have over the really big things. Rather than dishearten me, this helped me realize what I can control. Becoming me includes taking care of my body – because it doesn’t do any good to experience life if I’m not healthy enough to enjoy it. What minor changes could you make to feel better overall?

ACCEPT HELP As a non-cook, I was nervous to talk to Nicole, a personal chef, but no judgement came. Nicole doesn’t expect everyone to know how to cook 3 healthy meals a day; she built a business doing it for them! With so many opinions on what to do and how to do it, I’m encouraged to know that sometimes I can call in an expert and hand her the reins. What task could you give up?

D R E A M A U T H E N T I C A L LY Because we didn’t publish a magazine this past December, you may have missed Jen’s story. I can assure you, though, that its lessons are just as life-changing, despite being published in blog form. Jen’s decision to live on a boat with her family for a year works because it isn’t a whim or a rare act of spontaneity. She’s fulfilling a lifelong yearning to experience the world on a boat. What deep longing are you ready to start harvesting?

P ROT E C T YO U R M A G I C Life is seasonal and cyclical, so it makes sense that—rather than fighting against nature—we follow her cue. Holly & Natalie taught me that there are times to be open, and times to burrow deep and hone your craft. In either situation, knowing who to trust is vital and empowering.

What secret do you need to keep for just a little while longer?

LIGHTEN UP The curious dichotomy in Lisa’s approach of letting life be and approaching life with all the gusto inside of her is living proof that optimism is more complex than I give it credit for. There’s nothing defeatist in letting life call the shots, especially if you’re there to answer right back with candor and wit. Which aspect of life do you most enjoy?

LEAD WITH TRUTH Rebeca’s business was born out of the need to take care of herself. Recognizing the relationship between inner love and outer beauty, she made it her life’s work to help other women come to the same realization and learn how to shine. By incorporating the truest part of herself within her brand, she lives authentically every day. What’s the part of your essence on which you can build a life?

I’m not unaware of the irony of a woman’s magazine trying to abstain from selling you something or telling you to change. At times, such a mission seems counterintuitive at best and next-to-impossible at worst. Still, I believe we can

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Wise Women The love for our past cover story superstars lives on and on. If you want to revisit their stories, or just want to get in touch, here are the links to do so: Tiffany Manchester (Aug 2015) Follow the Feel Good / @tiffmanchester Natalie Anderson (Sept 2015) Airbnb in Homestead, FL, @natalie.walkeranderson Darlene Navarre (Oct 2015) Play is the New Way, @darlenenavarre Suzanne Cope (Nov 2015) SuzanneCope.com, @locavoreinthecity Tessa Chittle (Dec 2015) The Chittle Homestead, @tessachittle Amy Oestreicher (Jan 2016) AmyOes.com, @amyoes70 Desha Peacock (Feb 2016) Sweet Spot Style, @deshapeacock Randi Bayne + Yolanda Vasquez (March 2016) Rayne Home Décor, @rayne_home_decor Kristen Kenney (April 2016) Malaika For Life, @kristenkenney Victoria Gloria (May 2016) My Motherhood Story, @mymotherhoodstory Diane Murakhovskaya + Irene Ryabaya (June 2016) Monarq, @socialmonarq Michelle Goldblum + Alison Leipzig (July 2016) Soul Camp, @soul_camp Melissa Camilleri (Sept 2016) Compliment®, @shopcompliment Cindy Ortiz (Oct 2016) Pink Up The Pace, @pinkupthepace Nicole Bunting (Nov 2016) It’s Just Food, @itsjustfoodllc Jen Reilly (Dec 2016) Living the Life of Reilly, @jkreilly Natalie Adele + Holly Wheeler (Jan 2017) Vasu Tribe, @vasutribe Lisa Sugarman (Feb 2017) Life: It Is What It Is, @lisa_sugarman Rebecca Casciano (March 2017) Sacred Beauty Salon, @rebeccacasciano

remain true to this purpose as much as I believe you can choose to be yourself – right now, today.

No more waiting.

No more hiding.

No more fear.

I also believe, more than ever, that for any of us to make it, we all need to make it. Becoming yourself, despite the ideological ring, is not an isolated activity. Know this: you are not alone. In your desire for a genuine life, you join a collective of women who desire the same. Not just the women I’ve written about here—the women around you: in the grocery store, in the next cubicle over, at your dinner table.

Look for those who started earlier than you. Pay attention to what they say and do. Not because you want to be just like them, but because receiving the knowledge of wise women is an integral part of the journey to becoming ourselves.

Lee Lee chose falling in love with herself over inauthenticity three years ago and has since been living as honestly as she can. She started this magazine to encourage women everywhere to make the same choice.

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