The Purist Spring June Issue 2023

THE BOYS OF SUMMER

NEIL PATRICK HARRIS AND DAVID BURTKA’S EPIC LOVE STORY

LIFE LESSONS FROM DEEPAK CHOPRA

HEALING PTSD WITH NEUROPLASTICITY

MORE ENCHANTING TALES FROM EAST ENDERS

Shed uncertainty. Grow with confidence.

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ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

Welcome to your summer dose of Purist ! We cover every pillar of wellness and beyond here. The conversation today seems to be about weight loss and thinness, but we have a long way to go to make the connection between what you eat and how you feel and the quality and quantity of your life. We keep you informed on what’s what because education is empowering and you should have a say in your health. We cover a different diet in every issue of Purist —from carnivore to Paleo—but they are often fads, tools within a toolbox.

So what do the experts favor? I recently spoke to the famed Dr. Will Cole, whose new book, Gut Feelings , we excerpt in this issue. He teaches his patients how to pair a diet with foundational lifestyle tools to fall back on—the core tenets of which improve quality of life and decrease disease. In Cole’s excerpt, he researches the mind-body connection to determine how shame impacts inflammation and what you can do to metabolize stored transgenerational trauma. By tapping into the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual we can regulate the nervous system and improve vagal tone, also utilizing gut tools like soups and stews, GAPS (gut and psychology or physiology syndrome) protocol, and breath work.

It’s one of our missions to provide answers on how to keep a functional momentum long after the injections and

bad habits stop.

From a metabolic standpoint, our ancestors periodically vacillated between different macronutrients, and it’s important to intuitively be flexible. Many nutritionists favor clean carb cycling, where you increase and lower carbs as in a ketogenic diet, which is like a proverbial yoga class for your metabolism. So this summer while you ground to the earth and put your toes in the sand, take your head out of it—have conversations, read Purist and get empowered.

Love is in the (sea) air, and it’s one of the most important pillars of wellness that we celebrate in Purist Our cover subjects, actors and fathers Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka, are great examples of two people guiding us to self-realization and understanding who we should be. We followed them up with other Hamptons people we wanted to salute, like surfers Quincy Davis and Pat Schmidt; Saie founder Laney Crowell; musicians Taylor Barton and G.E. Smith; designing duo Jonathan Adler and Simon Doonan; and social activist Jodie Patterson.

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Table for three: with cover subjects David Burtka and Neil Patrick Harris

TABLE OF CONTENTS

FEATURES

93 I’LL HAVE WHAT HE’S HAVING

Cover stars and entertainment icons Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka on navigating marriage, parenting and the in-between

102 LOVE IS IN THE (SEA) AIR

Musings on love, life and relationships from Quincy Davis and Pat Schmidt, G.E. Smith and Taylor Barton, Jonathan Adler and Simon Doonan, Laney Crowell, and Jodie Patterson

114 LESSONS FROM DEEPAK CHOPRA

The writer and spiritual authority talks morality, cultural insanity and optimism with broadcast journalist Chris Cuomo

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STYLIST: SAM SPECTOR GROOMER: AMY KOMOROWSKI SHOT AT THE RITZ-CARLTON NEW YORK, NOMAD

Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

how to optimize sleep quality.

40 SEXUAL HEALING

A somatic sexologist discusses sexual health and vitality.

42 ASK THE DR. Dr. Frank Lipman dissects blood sugar, and offers tips for balance.

SPACE

45 MODERN MASTER

The honest architecture of Estudio Ramos

46 URBAN OASIS

The Ritz-Carlton New York, NoMad brings a new take on luxury to the NYC neighborhood.

48 LOVE AND SUSTAINABILITY

Unlimited Earth Care celebrates 30 years.

50 PURE PROPERTY

Not-to-be-missed real estate in New York City and the Hamptons

GLOW

54 EDITOR’S PICKS

Purist founder Cristina Cuomo’s seasonal favorites

56 PURE PICKS: GIGI HOWARD

SiO Beauty founder Gigi Howard’s summer essentials

58 ENLIGHTENED DENTISTRY

Dr. Gerry Curatola’s Manhattan practice gets an eco-friendly upgrade.

WEEKEND

62 SHOP WELL

A lineup of new retail openings, and a few familiar Hamptons favorites

66 ON VIEW

Art blooms throughout the East End.

68 ARTFUL CONVERSATION

Bob Colacello holds court at the Peter Marino Art Foundation.

70 GOOD EGG

Photographer and designer Kelly Klein’s modernist creation for a cause

72 PEAK PERFORMANCE

A look back on a monumental career with legendary concert promoter Ron Delsener

74 FREE TO BE

The documentary Chasing Childhood raises questions about parenting, balance and modern life.

76 NATURAL ELEGANCE

Architect Ramona Albert’s jewelry collection draws inspiration from Mother Nature.

78 PURE PICKS: SHOSHANNA

Fashion designer Shoshanna Gruss’ top picks for a playful summer

80 COLOR MY WORLD

Macrae Skye’s sustsainable, artful fashion for children

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128 NUM EROLOGY

A by-the-numbers look at Aussie actor and philanthropist Chris Hemsworth

“Bianca Jagger” from The Southampton Arts Center’s latest exhibition, A Moment In Time: Iconic Images by Harry Benson

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EDITORIAL

Founder + Editor Cristina Cuomo

Executive Editor Ray Rogers

Features Editor Jim Servin

Assistant Editor + Photo Editor Jenna Lebovits

Executive Assistant Sophia Arnao

Senior Wellness + Beauty Editor Amely Greeven

Beauty + Fitness Editor Beth Landman

Wellness Editor Fernanda Niven

Contributing Health Editors Dr. Jeffrey Morrison,The Morrison Center; Tapp Francke Ingolia, STANDwellness

Copy Editor Michèle Filon

Research Editor Jill Malter

Contributing Food Editor Peter Som

Special Project Editors Jenny Landey,TR Pescod

Contributing

Fashion Editor Gretchen Gunlocke Fenton

Contributing Writers Dr. Samantha Boardman, Isaac Boots, Casey Brennan, Donna Bulseco

Candace Bushnell, Alina Cho, Camille Coy, Chris Cuomo, Dr. Gerry Curatola

Donna D’Cruz, Matt Diehl, Dimitri Ehrlich, Melissa Errico, Pamela Fiori, Marisa Fox

Steve Garbarino, Ann Louise Gittleman, Kara Goldin, Kelly Hayes Linda Hayes

Laura Hine, Miss Jaiya, Nancy Kane, Matthew Kenney Dr. Gail King, Carrie Leskowitz

Jody Levy, Dr. Frank Lipman, Dr. Lea Lis, Michael Mailer, Martha McGuinness

Myles Mellor, Kevin Menard, Robyn Moreno, Roxanna Namavar

Anne Marie O’Connor, Dr. David Perlmutter, Annelise Peterson

Kelly Posner Gerstenhaber, Dr. Christina Rahm, Dr. Whitney Roban, Hal Rubenstein

Caroline Russo, Brooke Shields, Biet Simkin, Dr. Stacie J. Stephenson, Dr. Carder Stout

Julia Szabo, Abby Tegnelia, Edwina Von Gal,Tess Weaver, Regina Weinreich

Ali Wentworth, Constance C.R. White, Christy Whitman, Julie Wilcox, Sarah Wragge

DESIGN

Contributing Design Director Ben Margherita

Contributing Art Director Mikio Sakai

Contributing Designer Seton Rossini

Web Managers Tarin Keith, Aubrée Mercure

Contributing Photographers Camilla Akrans, Arnaldo Anaya-Lucca, Frederic Auerbach, Lachlan Bailey

David Bellemere, Justin Bettman, Cass Bird, Brian Bowen Smith, Natalie Chitwood

Bob and Dawn Davis, Gregg Delman, Mikey DeTemple, Sophie Elgort, Marili Forestieri

Diana Frank, Morgan Maassen, Roberto Matteo Marchese, Mary Ellen Matthews

Peter McBride, Miller Mobley, David Molle, Ryan Moore, Nino Muñoz

Patrick O’Keefe, Matt Sayles, Simon Upton, Cathrine White

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CONTRI BUTORS

SAM SPECTOR

who styled Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

WHAT INSPIRES YOUR PERSONAL STYLE?

My style is influenced by the exciting street-style culture that NYC—my home and playground—has to offer. My travel around the world also helps broaden my horizons for my own style.

ARNALDO ANAYA-LUCCA

who photographed cover stars Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

WHO ARE SOME PHOTOGRAPHERS THAT HAVE INFLUENCED YOUR WORK?

I am inspired by Peter Lindbergh’s soulful blackand-whites and Bruce Weber’s playfulness and caught moments.

AMY KOMOROWSKI

who was the groomer for cover stars Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

CAN YOU DESCRIBE THE ROLE OF A GROOMER?

Being a men’s groomer involves styling hair, trimming facial hair, skin prep and light makeup if needed. My job is to make it look effortless and undetectable.

DIANA FRANK

who captured Zuzanna von Salm’s ethereal nature for “Full Moon Fever”

WHERE DO YOU SOURCE CREATIVE INSPIRATION?

It is through my own children that I initially found inspiration. Unedited and uninhibited, children have not yet absorbed the restrictions and judgments imposed by others.

Sam Spector is a celebrity stylist working and living in NYC. His clients include Neil Patrick Harris, Daniel Radcliffe, Andy Samberg, Hasan Minhaj, Brendan Fraser, Alan Cumming, Jesse Tyler Ferguson and others. He and his husband love to travel on adventurous trips that fuel Spector’s inspiration for fashion.

Arnaldo Anaya-Lucca is a Puerto Rican photographer whose first photography assignment was shooting model Tyson Beckford for the launch of Ralph Lauren’s Purple Label. He has contributed to magazines including British Vanity Fair, Vogue Australia, The New York Times Magazine, Spanish Harper’s Bazaar and more.

Amy Komorowski is a New Yorkbased groomer. An expert at her craft, she is trusted by clients including Adam Driver, the Jonas Brothers, Bill Skarsgård and many others. Her work can be found on the covers of countless publications including CR Men, British GQ, Esquire, W, Interview, and Rolling Stone, in addition to featuring in numerous campaigns for brands such as Breitling, Omega, and Oliver Peoples.

Diana Frank is a photographer, artist and philanthropist who splits her time between New York City and Bridgehampton. After a global modeling career, Frank’s passion for creative expression led her to establish a successful namesake studio. Her distinctive style and extensive bodies of work focus on capturing moments of uninhibited reflection.

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M I NDF U L

“Meditation is the marriage of the lessons from my personal healing journey, my incredibly insightful meditation teacher training, my creativity and love of beauty and bringing people together.”

—Zuzanna von Solm

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FULL MOON FEVER

Zuzanna von Salm’s lunar gatherings and meditations bring calm and clarity.

BY NANCY KANE • PHOTOGRAPHY BY DIANA FRANK

By the light of the full moon, a group of women, dressed in flowy dresses, gather in a circle at a private home. There is sage smudging, rituals, candlelight. In the next few hours, they will meditate, move, create, share. They will laugh, cry, connect, heal. Welcome to Ceremonia Meditation’s Women’s Circle/Moon Gathering, a monthly convergence created for connection to oneself, to others, to nature.

At the center of the proceedings is Zuzanna von Salm, a former professional athlete turned successful fashion model, who, at the age of 26, made a commitment to change. So began an introspective wellness journey that continues to this day. She became a certified aromatherapist in 2015, and a meditation guide the following year. After the birth of her first child in 2017, she added certified meditation and HypnoBirthing teacher to her credentials.

Ceremonies and retreats are a natural extension of her life’s work and her mission: to create “containers” for change, growth and healing.

Von Salm began modeling at 15. It was way too early. Her mental health suffered with the pressure, and she struggled with eating disorders, anxiety and panic attacks.

“I started experimenting with various healing modalities,” she says. “Out of many things I tried, regular meditation practice was the thing that helped the most. After a few years of meditating, I quit modeling and became a facilitator at a meditation studio. Ceremonia Meditation is the marriage of the lessons from my personal healing journey, my incredibly insightful meditation teacher training, my creativity and love of beauty and bringing people together.”

Former athlete and model Zuzanna von Salm became a wellness practitioner at age 26.

Von Salm offers individual meditation courses, group guided meditations, curation and facilitation of intentional events—think baby blessings, wedding rituals, corporate gatherings—in addition to the monthly moon gatherings.

HypnoBirthing holds a special place in her heart. “When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I knew very little about pregnancy and childbirth and needed some answers,” she says. “In just five sessions of the HypnoBirthing course, I had the confidence to go for an unmedicated home birth. I remember thinking, ‘Every woman needs to complete this course!’ and soon after that I added HypnoBirthing to my teachings. I wanted to be able to offer an effective meditation method for my pregnant clients and HypnoBirthing is that and so much more.” Von Salm used HypnoBirthing to have a successful, unmedicated, natural, hospital twin birth.

With three children under the age of 6, her days are “intense and chaotic,” but von Salm makes time for wellness. “I often wake up before everyone else to meditate and stretch my body. The day is filled with kids’ activities and responding to their needs. I use the moments in between to catch up on work or for selfcare. Most days I take a break around 5PM to meditate again. It’s a big balancing act of making sure everyone is OK without getting overwhelmed and keeping my nervous system regulated. I am far from being a master of this act—I have no words for the wild, wonderful and challenging adventure of motherhood!”

Holistic health and spirituality are of paramount importance. “We live in a pandemic of stress, suppressed trauma, loneliness and disconnection. On top of that, the systems we live in are set up to keep us weak, scared and separated. To me, the new meaning of success is being healthy and interacting with the world with presence, love and compassion.”

Amid the chaos of the day, von Salm finds joy in the simple things: being fully present with her children and fully engaging in play with them, observing nature,

Happy Holistic Well-Being Tips

Start by asking yourself: what can I be doing better, with more presence and intention and set realistic goals (baby steps!) to get there

Eat clean, whole and real food, ideally local and seasonal

Spend lots of time outside and observing nature

Von Salm offers mindful options for deeper healing, such as meditation courses and spiritual retreats.

connecting talks with friends, exercising, a really good dance session, learning new things, and dressing up (she still loves fashion).

Von Salm’s women’s retreat “Between Chaos and Stillness” takes place in Morocco from September 29 to October 5, with three days in Marrakech and three nights in the Agafay desert. ceremoniameditation.com

If possible, wake up with the sun, greet it and move the body

Take moments of silence and stillness throughout the day

Keep a strong meditation practice Nurture loving relationships (that means checking in on your family and friends a lot)

Be of service and perform regular, unconditional acts of kindness

Have a gratitude practice—even as simple as writing five things to be grateful

for each day

Talk less and listen more

Buy less and create more

Replace screen time with reading

Maintain a breath work practice. A simple way to do this is to find reminders for the practice. For example, I take three deep breaths every time the light turns red, I take three deep breaths every time the phone rings, I take three deep breaths every time I have to type in a password.

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HOUSE OF MEMORY

Practicing gratitude on Memorial Day, and moving into the season with a fresh perspective.

BY DONNA D’CRUZ

It’s that time of year again: a glorious reawakening, a time of sand, sea and sunshine when we take tentative, halting steps into the light from our winter hibernation, much like Mole in The Wind in the Willows emerging from his winter quarters in search of fresh air and new adventures.

It’s a time to reflect, even in the midst of anticipating summer pleasures and laying out plans for the warmer weather, on the larger meaning of this significant holiday. The time around Memorial Day is also an opportunity to dwell in gratitude for those people, past and present, who are the bastions of our country, keeping us safe under the aegis of duty, serving and protection. They’ve been getting a bit of a short shrift lately.

Sometimes, it takes more than blithely saying “Thank you for your service” to those who protect our country. It’s not enough to toss those words off lightly, paying scant attention to what we’re saying, and thinking our patriotic duty is fulfilled. We need to acknowledge the price paid daily in lessened family time for those folks.

As Adlai Stevenson said so pointedly, “Patriotism is not short, frenzied outbursts of emotion, but the tranquil and steady dedication of a lifetime.”

That’s one way perhaps, to welcome a reset as we rewire our minds at this time of the year, which is all about fresh perspectives, after all. This can also be a joyous journey of personal reflection, allowing us to reset our memory banks, casting off or modifying the distress

of painful recollections that hold us in the past. We have the power over our choices and must be active, positive participants with a clear lens on how we view our recollections. Are you a victim, a survivor or a thriver? These questions are a powerful meditation.

It doesn’t necessarily mean ad nauseam inner dialogue and discussions about the past. Rather, it can be a resolve to live fully in the moment, creating the future we wish to have. What does your transformed world look like?

Finding the tools to navigate this path can be challenging, so let’s roll up our spiritual sleeves. Ready, set, reset.

For now, let’s invite the healing sunshine to do its work in warming our physical being and our psyche. Drench in the sun, warmth and suck up that vitamin D. Let us do what we know we need to do in moving our bodies… walk, dance, run, skip, hop. Let us nourish the body with delicious, nutritious foods.

As we gather with others, let’s choose to elevate as individuals and together. Let’s have fun, sun and companionship as we begin to emerge together in the post-COVID era. Let us have an attitude of gratitude for everything in this one time only merry-go-round that is life. Tune in for weekly Dip Into Bliss meditations with Cristina Cuomo and Donna D’Cruz on Instagram, @Donna D’Cruz; donnadcruz.com

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GUIDED BY BIET

Spiritual teacher and bestselling author Biet Simkin answers Purist readers’ questions.

Dear Biet,

After my mother died of cancer last year, I haven’t been able to lift myself out of a deep depression. I feel like I want to get out, be happy like I was when I was younger, but all my instincts are keeping me in giving-up mode. What do you recommend?

Thanks, Giving Up, Brooklyn

Dear Giving Up, You know, the fact that you’re willing to message me and send this question along says so much for possibility! The heartache of losing one’s mother is more than we can bear—I know, I lost mine at age 6. However, when we realize that that pain is the bread of life, we become free. We begin to wear our pain like a pair of eyeglasses. We begin to create from that pain. To truly know pain is to truly know you have loved. Go take that, and go love some more! Go live! That’s the real rebellion!

Love, Biet

Dear Biet, How is your breath work method different from others? Also, can daily breath work create change in a person’s habits?

Thanks, Lauren, NYC

Lauren, The Breath by Biet practice is different because it isn’t work. It’s an elevated breath that takes only three minutes and can be placed inside of any normal day. It doesn’t matter if you’re a high performer or a person who has lost their way and is feeling stuck. The results are huge. From knowing your true life’s purpose to feeling in flow state every day, this tiny breath work will change your life forever!

Love, Biet

Dear Biet, Like you, I lost my small child to SIDS a few years ago. I feel like I don’t know how to get over the grief. What do you recommend? What worked for you?

Gildance, São Paulo

Oh Gildance,

I am so sorry! There is nothing like the loss of a child. What helped me was years of healing. Devoting my life to sobriety and following a spiritual path that opened up my passions and love in life. Eventually it led to me having two healthy beautiful girls, and living! The truth is you will know when and if you are ready to do the same, but most important is that you eat the pain of that loss...really let it in. Remember what a privilege it is to be

pierced on Earth. To truly have and to truly lose. One cannot be whole without the whole picture. Be strong, and ask in prayer that you may find what the gift is in such a loss. Let that gift wrap you up and shoot you forward!

Love, Biet

Dear Biet,

I often hear that breath work is the new meditation. If that’s true, what comes after breath work? Will there ever be a point where we can be done? Or is spirituality just an endless seeking?

Thanks,

Samantha, Melbourne

Samantha,

Every day a person wakes up, they wake up at least 50% s--t head, you know? It’s completely imperative that we practice daily. A human cannot soar on yesterday’s spiritual tasks. Like the universe, we are all expanding! It’s also for this reason that we must find new tools as we grow and go. I don’t seek anymore. I simply practice and allow myself to feel. Any day I can feel is a day I am fully alive. Once you’re done seeking, you are still practicing. Hope this helps!

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PURE POTENTIALITY

Three ways to activate the power within. BY

CHRISTY WHITMAN

Ditch the corporate job to pursue your heartfelt passion? Trade in the lifeless marriage or dead-end relationship to create space for a whole new experience of intimacy?

From time to time, we all fantasize about total life reinventions such as these. Having established a certain way of being in the world, we often want nothing more than to flip that familiar script and experience an entirely different side of life.

But what you may not know is that desires like these are neither whimsical nor unrealistic. And in fact, by leaning into your desire to reinvent yourself, you could usher in an entirely new level of consciousness and way of life. This is what’s possible for those courageous enough to open up to the realm of pure potentiality, the limitless, unbounded possibility available to each one of us in every single moment and in each situation. It’s the domain of pure consciousness that underlies every living thing; the wellspring where all creation is born.

Think of it this way: We all have thousands of possible future selves that we could—through the power of our focus and our receptivity—manifest into full expression. Each new “now” brings us an opportunity to declare what’s most important, and to bring our energy into alignment with those values. Here are three universal principles to help you activate the power of pure potentiality in your life:

Principle No. 1: Everything is energy. Everything we are, everything we now have, and everything we desire to create, is made up of energy. In some areas of our lives, this energy sings with clarity

and perfection. In others, it feels fixed, unmoving and oppressive. But in truth, energy is forever malleable, and its frequency can always be brought to a higher level.

The energetic frequency of our lives is the reason we love or loathe them. And this frequency is entirely under our control.

Principle No. 2: What you focus on, you create. What you consistently focus on, you magnetize into your life. Maybe you’ve noticed that when your focus is on everything you don’t like, you become a magnet for situations that displease you. But when you resonate with the vibration of what you desire, you draw its energy into your life. The only difference between a life that sings with clarity and one that is filled with chaos is the lightness or the density of the vibrational tone you’re offering. That’s it. Principle No. 3: If you can conceive it, you can achieve it. Once you accept that you’re an energetic being living in an energetic universe, you’re ready to activate the full power of pure potentiality. As you hold your expanded reality as part of your consciousness, that reality begins to coalesce around you.

And so, allow yourself to conjure, imagine and energetically connect with the most beautiful, selfexpressed, abundant version of you. Release the versions of yourself that have been before, and fall in love with your potentiality. There is no limit to the amount of happiness you can experience. There is absolutely no limit to how much love, laughter, excitement or satisfaction you can feel. There is truly nothing that is out of your reach. Whatever you can conceive, you can achieve. watchyourwords.com

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Christy Whitman offers actionable tips to help manifest your dream life.

THE FOUR PATHS TO ROOTEDNESS

For a healthy soul, cultivate connection with the body, emotions, nature and community. Robyn Moreno, in her new book, Get Rooted: Reclaim Your Soul, Serenity and Sisterhood Through the Healing Medicine of the Grandmothers, shows the way.

When I first mentioned the four paths to rootedness to my maestra Virginia, she reminded me that her teacher, Elena Avila, wrote of a similar four-part equation in her book, referring to the care for an “intact soul.” According to Avila, the Aztecs (Mexica) believed that for a person to have a healthy soul, they had to maintain their physical body, feel and balance their emotions, and maintain their mind and their spirit—in that order.

From a Curanderismo perspective and from Mexica philosophy, it’s clear that inhabiting our bodies, balancing our emotions, being aware of our thoughts, connecting to community, and communing with Spirit are integral ways to stay rooted. I can also add from my own lived-in-my-body experience that the through line for all these equations and paths is connection.

These simple but powerful ways to help us get rooted have become an integral part of my life, and I hope they will for you too We need all our tools to root down in this slippery slick world, so here I elaborate a little more on each path, or connection point, so you can begin to experience and integrate them into your daily life.

1 CONNECTION TO OUR BODY: Moving it, being in it and listening to it connect us to ourselves. In slippery times, most of us go straight to our head: worrying, obsessing, planning. Instead, we can calm the chaos in our mind and root into the steady knowing of our body. By inhabiting our body, we begin to notice how we hold our breath around certain people, how we exhale around others, how our stomachs tighten when we enter certain places, and how somewhere we have never been before can still feel so much like home.

Moving your body regularly is a good way to get rooted, whether you hike a mountain or find your flow while running. Besides fitness, there are myriad ways to reconnect to ourselves, like unwinding with a massage. Warm baths, sweaty dancing, hot sex and self-pleasure can all do the trick too. The possibilities are endless, and finding what works for you will be part of your path.

2 CONNECTION AND BALANCING OUR EMOTIONS: I tend to hear and listen to my Ser, my right knowing, when I am

emotionally balanced and connected. Meditations and spiritual journaling can help us unearth and clear out buried feelings so that we can stay rooted and true to ourselves. Whenever I am feeling overwhelmed, overanxious, overstressed or just over it, I get the feelings out of my body via a limpia (cleansing ritual), breath work, meditation or writing the feeling down on paper. I call this tool “over and out.” Remember this the next time you are feeling overwhelmed.

3 CONNECTION TO EACH OTHER AS COMMUNITY: Having a place where we can offer support and feel supported is paramount to feeling seen, heard, and loved. Often, as women or BIPOC, we are not used to being carried. We have learned from susto and socialization to shoulder the responsibility and carry the burdens ourselves. That is why it is a powerful practice and reframing to ask for the help we need. In circle, we hold each other and are held.

4 CONNECTION TO MOTHER NATURE AND SPIRIT: Nature helps connect us to what is bigger so that we feel our right place in the greater whole. Hiking through cathedral-like forests that make you quiet with reverence; floating freely in the buoyant ocean, feeling the universe really does have your back; and chatting with the squawking bird in your backyard who reminds you so much of your favorite aunt—these are all sources of connection that lower stress and increase creativity and joy. Two organizations I really like that help BIPOC connect with nature are girltrek.org, a global movement of over 1 million Black women that leverages “the historic legacy of walking and the power of self-care as a pathway to heal and transform lives,” and recla.ma, a spiritual wellness community helping women of color reclaim themselves through hiking and journaling.

The biggest lesson I learned about rootedness is not to just think about it but to integrate it, to practice it, to live it.

Excerpted from Get Rooted: Reclaim Your Soul, Serenity and Sisterhood Through the Healing Medicine of the Grandmothers by Robyn Moreno. Copyright ©2023.

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THE NEXT WAVE

A new wellness center, led by Lisa Zaloga and Stephanie Esposito, ups the frequency for holistic healing in Sag Harbor.

BY CRISTINA CUOMO

CRISTINA CUOMO: Lisa, describe the healing journey that brought you two together, ultimately leading to the creation of Wave Wellness.

LISA ZALOGA: In April 2021, I was introduced to a yoga client’s massage therapist, Stephanie Esposito, who, I had heard from many, was life-changing. Being in the wellness and bodywork industry, we exchanged information, knowing that our clients would appreciate the referrals. Little did I know that I would find myself desperately in need of her treatment.

On my way to teach my first in-person class since the pandemic, I was in an accident, which resulted in several herniations and muscle tears. My body felt broken and in need of pain relief. Coming off a holiday weekend, it was challenging to get an appointment with a doctor, so I reconnected with Stephanie and booked my first in-home treatment. She was instantly warm and compassionate, listening to my full roster of ailments; I felt recovery and hope in her hands. Fast-forward (and a lot of good stuff in between), we got engaged.

It was a challenging two years, and managing pain and inflammation became a full-time job. Just after the accident I was diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis. The label “autoimmune disorder” took my otherwise strong and healthy body by surprise. An anti-inflammatory lifestyle and lymphatic health became top priority. Coming from yoga, holistic and wellness-minded paths, Steph and I took an immediate interest in any and all modalities to help people live pain-free. With endless hours researching innovative wellness technology and trying new treatments, we found that there is a need for a place where clients could come to recover faster, rest more deeply, combat inflammation and experience treatments that are designed for longevity. Fast-forward… Wave Wellness, alleviate and elevate.

CC: Stephanie, as a leading massage practitioner in the Hamptons, what are the therapeutic benefits of massage?

STEPHANIE ESPOSITO: I came to massage therapy after a traumatic injury, which left me emotionally and physically depleted. The experience I had with hands-on healing was exactly what I needed, and inspired me to pursue a career in the wellness industry. Over the years, I have developed a passion for working with clients who suffer

from chronic pain and anxiety. Massage is a dynamic and comprehensive treatment model intertwining both Eastern and Western modalities, a true merging of the body, mind and soul. It allows the body to realign, so all systems can function at their best.

We treat the body often as a gateway to the mind. In my practice, I have come across many teens who, I believe, are in most need. Daily struggles, social pressures, unspoken anxiety…these are some of the issues they face. We have designed a massage treatment to help, called UnPlugged. It is part of our mission to make wellness accessible to all in our community.

We have created core services at Wave to alleviate fatigue, pain, inflammation and trigger points, as well as to elevate energy, endorphins and mobility, boosting mood and waking the nervous system’s proper functioning. Our signature massage is a hybrid of techniques based on the client’s needs in the moment.

CC: How important is the lymphatic system to whole body health?

SE: The lymphatic system controls one’s overall immune, cardiovascular and digestive system. As white blood cells encompass the lymph nodes, they break down bacteria, viruses, and damaged and cancer cells. The lymph fluid distributes waste via the bloodstream, through movement, breath, intestinal activity and muscle action; the body organically eliminates it through the liver and kidneys. At Wave, it is pertinent that we emphasize detoxification from our Alleviating treatments and hydration through our Elevating treatments.

CC: What is PEMF and what does it do for our bodies?

LZ: PEMF stands for pulsed electromagnetic field. Our bodies are composed of cells. Think of these cells as batteries; they can be charged and depleted. Just like our devices, it’s common for them to slowly be drained of energy, leaving us feeling tired and not running efficiently. Several of our hands-on treatments incorporate PEMF. We calibrate the frequency based on the client’s need. Mimicking frequencies found in nature, like the rise and fall of the tide, we can either “dial you down” to calm anxiety and provide a deep rest, or “dial you up” for peak performance without the jitters. Some days we need to alleviate, others elevate. wavewellnesshamptons.com

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REPATTERNING THE TABOO

A day-to-day tool to optimize mental wellness.

In March 2020, the world was turning inside out, and “mental health” was still taboo. “Mental health” was an expression that made people feel discomfort. For many, it was for “the others”—it was still buried, hidden, quiet. But fear, solitude and suffering were all around us, and everyone, without exception, was being touched by it.

So began the mainstreaming of hacks, tricks and tips for brain and body balance. Micro this and macro that, we were all doing all the things—working out to release endorphins, powering down to balance our natural chemicals, meditating, moving, popping plants and pills, doing what we could to teach ourselves so that we could survive and thrive.

March 2020 also happened to coincide with the moment where my business partner, neuroplasticity pioneer Lisa Wimberger, and I had planned to launch our new digital app, NeuroPraxis, designed to support people experiencing symptoms often associated with what I call “biotoxic illness,” a category that includes Lyme and other tick-borne illnesses, mold disease, impact from toxins and metals, and other associated coinfections and viruses. We had designed an app for a small segment of biotoxic humans, but we were launching at a time where everyone on our precious planet was managing the impact of an unknown, invisible predator—a virus. People across the globe started using our simple and effective little app to help them not just cope, but truly thrive. They still do today!

Prior to this auspicious launch date, I was on my wellness journey—and while that may sound like a nice trip to the spa, it was more of a tumultuous Game of Thrones battle,

BY JODY LEVY

with invasive pathogens in my body that felt like each discovery was advancing to the next level of a dragon-slaying game. Those who know, know. As an information junkie, I learned about the science of neurological pain patterns and how trauma can present even after the source is gone. I was experiencing this. I learned about neuroplasticity, our innate ability to shift our limbic brain patterns. I learned about phantom pain. I was introduced to Lisa Wimberger, now my dearest friend and business partner in NeuroPraxis. Lisa is the founder of a neurological reprogramming process called Neurosculpting and the creator of the Neurosculpting Institute.

After having positive life-changing effects after only four 15-minute sessions with Lisa, we knew we had to bring this modality to everyone we possibly could. So, we created a brain repatterning iPhone app called NeuroPraxis, with a library of five- to 15-minute brainbased meditation modules custom designed to target specific body, mind and psychological triggers. It’s for anyone and everyone struggling with PTSD, chronic pain, cognitive imbalance and stress.

In this age where surviving the day-to-day can seem onerous, NeuroPraxis is a tool that anyone can use— anytime, anywhere—to find relief with long-term positive impact. It’s all about the tiny tools that keep us healthy and how we set ourselves up in the day-to-day to thrive. Let’s all keep working to repattern the taboo, so we can live our happiest lives.

A module for “release” can be found on our website to trial before downloading the full app: neuropraxis.com Find NeuroPraxis on the Apple App Store.

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WHAT IS SHAMEFLAMMATION?

In his new book, Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel, Dr. Will Cole examines the connection between chronic health conditions and toxic thoughts and emotions.

Throughout my years of treating patients and helping them get their bodies and minds back to vibrant health, I’ve seen the way that negative thoughts and emotions can subtly and systematically sabotage health, in much the same way as inflammation can. In fact, I see this phenomenon of emotional suffering causing physical suffering so often that I decided to give it its own name: shameflammation.

Shameflammation is present in every single one of us to some degree, and it can make us feel overwhelmed, anxious, hopeless, aimless and totally disconnected from our intuition. It can be both the underlying cause and result of chronic health conditions—it’s often the one thing standing between us and optimal health. Shameflammation can make us feel like we’re constantly swimming upstream and at war with our bodies. Thoughts and emotions are like nutrients for your head, heart and soul; unfortunately, many of us have been feeding ourselves junk food for a long, long time.

Over the years, I’ve learned that shame is perhaps the strongest, most damaging negative emotion of all. Brené Brown, a renowned shame and vulnerability researcher,

says that “shame is lethal” and explains that shame affects all of us and profoundly shapes the way we interact in the world. And then, there’s the other half of the word shameflammation, the part that includes inflammation. Inflammation is actually a lifesaving biological process that was expertly created to help protect you from harm. But this is true only when inflammation is acting the way it was designed to work. And for many of us, this is unfortunately not the case. Instead, many of us deal with chronic inflammation. This chronic inflammation is caused by a whole list of factors such as toxins in our environment, too much sugar in our diet and a sedentary lifestyle. Chronic inflammation can also be triggered by stress, shame and difficult emotional experiences. And when shametriggered inflammation is high over a long period of time, it can contribute to disease.

Stress, shame, inflammation, shameflammation—it’s all inevitable to some degree. But our relationship with ourselves in the present moment contributes to whether the challenges we face flood our body with inflammation or are met with calming balance, allowing our body to thrive. This is why so much of taming shameflammation has

Functional medicine expert Dr. Will Cole hosts the popular Being Well podcast.

to do with self-compassion. Self-compassion and a sense of being your biggest cheerleader should always be the underlying cause of anything you do for your health and wellness. Why? You can’t heal a body you hate.

The bottom line is that shame is ever-present in our lives and ever-relevant when it comes to our relationship with ourselves and our health. When I’m consulting with my patients from my functional medicine telehealth clinic, often the intersection between shame and inflammation— shameflammation—is what stands between them and their healing.

In many instances, the antidote is a process of slowing down, getting still and reconnecting with yourself. When you do this, it begins a beautiful process of shifting and realigning the paradigm: You begin to view health and healing as an investment in the body and the mind and understand the connection between them. That journey to sustainable wellness doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s so worth it. I’ve always aimed to imbue my nutrition and lifestyle plans with grace, ease and self-love.

In my book, I take it a step further with The 21-Day GutFeeling Plan, which is infused with flexibility and simplicity to quiet the noise and get you back in touch with those invaluable gut feelings. The Gut-Feeling Plan is all about reflection and experimentation. As you move through it, I offer you the opportunity to make changes to your diet and lifestyle, but what those changes look like, how drastic they are, and whether you do them for that single day or continue with that practice for the rest of the 21 days (or even beyond!) is up to you. The exercises in the 21-Day Gut-Feeling Plan are meant to inspire playful experimentation and celebration of your body and mind.

Healing Intergenerational Trauma

One subset of complex trauma is called intergenerational trauma, which is also sometimes referred to as transgenerational or multigenerational trauma. This type of trauma is passed down through generations, from those who first experience a trauma to their descendants. In one disturbing example, scientists studied the descendants of those who lived through what is known as the Holodomor, which was a humanmade famine in Ukraine in the 1930s that resulted in the death of millions of people. The results of the study, which collected data from 44 people from 15 different Ukrainian families, showed that the coping mechanisms that the survivors adopted in the 1930s were clearly passed down through two and even three generations.

Metabolizing Stress

Chances are that you or someone you know has a blood sugar problem. The statistics are shocking. Over 120 million Americans have prediabetes or diabetes, and nine of the 10 leading causes of death in the United States are caused or worsened by metabolic dysfunction. These days, stressful events like family losses or trouble at work are well known to be risk factors for triggering the onset of diabetes. In addition, studies have shown that traumatic experiences, family chaos and behavioral problems during childhood are also linked to diabetes. So what explains this connection? It turns out that the main stress hormone, cortisol, causes blood sugar

Many of the participants had difficulty trusting people, anxiety about food scarcity, hoarding tendencies, low self-worth, social hostility, and risky health behaviors.

Some other research being conducted at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai shows that the descendants of survivors of the Holocaust have distinctive stress hormone profiles. The data showed that those with intergenerational trauma have altered levels of circulating stress hormones. More specifically, they have lower levels of cortisol, a hormone that helps the nervous system and inflammation to calm down after a traumatic incident. This may predispose them to anxiety disorders and posttraumatic stress disorder. The good news? If trauma can be inherited, then healing can be, too. Healing yourself is healing your children’s children and generations that you will never see.

levels to go up. If you’ve got a blood sugar issue, I’m sure that your gut-feeling connection is playing an important role in your imbalance, and that healing will require an approach that tackles both the physical causes of blood sugar imbalances—such as gut microbiome imbalances and excess sugar intake—and the emotional ones, such as chronic stress or the effects of trauma.

Excerpted from Gut Feelings. Copyright © 2023 by Will Cole. Published by goop press/Rodale Books, an imprint of Penguin Random House.

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SWEET DREAMS

Tara Youngblood, co-founder of Sleepme and ChiliSleep, talks about how science and technology led her to discover secrets to a good night’s rest.

BY CRISTINA CUOMO

CRISTINA CUOMO: You’ve created a tool kit that can enhance the quality, duration and impact of your sleep through the companies you founded, ChiliSleep and Sleepme. Let’s talk about sleep hacks and address the challenges related to sleep and the sciencesupported tools that we need to know. How does sleep work? What is the science behind it?

TARA YOUNGBLOOD: Sleep is actually really old. It’s crazy that we’ve only recently discovered its health benefits. if you look at the melatonin mechanism that we talk about putting you to sleep, its origins are 700 million years old. Even the most simple organisms like those little amoebas in the ocean all have the same mechanism. There’s actually something called a sleep switch. Clifford Saper out of Harvard discovered it.

CC: What is that on and off switch?

TY: It’s actually a change of temperature. We like to have things constant in our environment today. Our core body temperature is supposed to drop 2 degrees Fahrenheit. That cooling part is what triggers us to release melatonin in the evening. You turn off sleep in the morning, and you get a release of cortisol as you warm back up those 2 degrees, so it’s an on/off switch.

CC: What is the ideal sleeping temperature?

TY: Most people think of temperature in terms of room temperature, but your body temperature is what really matters for sleep. Your mattress, your covers, your ambient temperature, and your metabolism are going to dictate how much cooling you need to drop those 2 degrees.

CC: You have award-winning technologies and apps

that are changing the way the world sleeps.

TY: We just got on Time’s Inventions of the Year list. My husband and I came up with this company. It started because Todd sleeps really hot. I was trying to put pillows on his side to insulate the heat. He’s a set-it-at-onetemperature-andforget-it kind of guy, and that’s great. But I don’t have one temperature. We girls need something more dynamic. The artificial intelligence manages that for me. I tell most people if they are using our system to start with around room temperature, like cool sheets you like to get into—but some people still like to warm up, which means closer to body temperature.

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CC: Sleepme is a pad that goes over your mattress. What’s the material made of?

TY: We have a mesh layer that transfers that temperature really well. We use urethane in the middle, and then we have a waterproof layer, which is really soft. That part goes on your bed, and also any half of the bed.

CC: You also have the Cool Luxe weighted blanket and sheets.

TY: The weighted blanket is the only thing I have to have when I travel. We think we’re all grown-ups, but bundling makes us feel really good. Weighted blankets are amazing, but they can get really hot.

CC: When would you use the option to heat it?

TY: Different people are going to want different temperature profiles, but when I climb into bed, I like to read. So, I want to warm up first under that blanket while I’m reading and relaxing, and then the moment I go to sleep, it cools down. sleep.me

temperature and metabolism influence sleep quality.

SEXUAL HEALING

Uncover and communicate erotic desires for optimum wellness.

BY MISS JAIYA

What is somatic sexology? Soma means “of the body.” Somatic sexology is a practice dedicated to finding the answers about what is pleasurable, or not, where pains of the physical and sometimes emotional nature are stored. It is also about creating a space to find the truths that the body has to share so that the client can optimize for connection and pleasure.

Unlike traditional therapy or psychology, this practice is deeply rooted in discovery through the body rather than the mind. For over two decades, I have been educating my clients about their bodies through this practice and the practice of Sexological Bodywork created by Joseph Kramer. Much of this work is dedicated to restoring health, wellness and sexual vitality to the client and empowering them with a deeper knowledge and practical tools to access pleasure and health.

Sexual health should not be an afterthought. It is an indicator of overall health. For instance, erectile challenges may be an indicator of health issues. Changes in the tissues of the vagina may indicate hormonal shifts that can be addressed before they evolve into more critical issues. And pain in the pelvic floor can be an indicator of many different issues.

Being vital, active and happy in our sexuality helps reduce stress, increase the effectiveness of our immune systems and bathes our bodies in feel-good hormones. This is why I believe it is important to put pleasure first.

In working with so many bodies, I discovered patterns

in people’s pleasure. I discovered that what turns some people on can be another person’s absolute turn-off. Over the years, these discoveries evolved into seeing five predominant erotic personality types. When you know your primary type, you have more avenues to experiencing pleasure exactly the way your body wants it. These are the types:

The Energetic, who loves anticipation, tease and distance. It’s in the wanting where they find their turn-on. Often, Energetics relate to sexuality as a path to spiritual awakening.

The Sensuals, who bring artistry to sex. They love all their senses—taste, touch, sound—being ignited in just the right way.

The Sexuals, who bring play and ease to sex. They love direct genital touch, nudity and, of course, orgasms.

The Kinky types may prefer psychological games of power and submission, or intense physical sensation, or both. We define kinky as “Whatever is taboo for you.”

The Shapeshifter loves it all. They can be highly skilled lovers and have a voracious appetite for erotic play.

Each blueprint has shadow sides, places of inhibition, blocks and brakes around pleasure. If we are out of balance in physical, hormonal, emotional or energetic health, our sex life will suffer. It’s empowering to become your own sex detective, and get the tools to help you have the most fulfilling sex life ever. Find your blueprint type with our Erotic Blueprint quiz at missjaiya.com.

Understanding your erotic personality type can help you experience peak pleasure.

ASK THE DR.

Understanding the main factors impacting your blood sugar and how to manage them.

BY DR. FRANK LIPMAN

This isn’t the first time I’ve written about the dangers of sugar in the diet and high levels of sugar in the bloodstream, and it won’t be the last. We’re in the midst of a national metabolic crisis—more than half of adult Americans are either prediabetic or diabetic, with rising rates of childhood Type 2 diabetes a growing concern.

OK, that’s the bad news. The good news is that advances in medical science have refined our understanding of how diet and lifestyle affect glucose levels (that is, the amount of sugar that circulates in the bloodstream), putting more power in your hands to ensure that sugar isn’t doing a number on your health. It’s never been easier to identify the troublemakers so you can clean up your sugar act before real metabolic trouble begins. So what influences blood sugar? Here are a few of the biggies, and a few thoughts on how to manage them smartly:

FOOD MATTERS—SO DINE DEFENSIVELY.

To keep your glucose levels under control, the art of sugar self-defense is essential. As much as possible, lose the low-fiber, high-carbohydrate foods, especially processed foods and sugary drinks that digest with lightning speed, dumping too much sugar too fast, straight into the bloodstream. Those high glucose levels (and sudden surges) cause nothing but metabolic mayhem, pumping up harmful free radicals, eroding blood vessel health—and, in the process, promoting inflammatory symptoms throughout the body (skin wrinkles, fatigue, headaches, anxiety, weight gain). While cutting carbs—particularly the speedy ones— to the bone is an excellent way to keep glucose levels low, you can enhance the positive effect by making sure to consume whatever carbs you do eat with highfiber non-starchy vegetables and foods that are high in fats and protein. These are all great at slowing down the digestion of carbohydrates.

DON’T JUST SIT THERE—LET YOUR BLOOD FLOW!

Moving the body—we’re talking any kind of physical activity here—is key to keeping your blood sugar under control. My advice: Break up seated work hours every 45 minutes or so (even more if you can!) and try these

ideas on how to work more daily movement into your routine without a ton of extra effort.

DE-STRESS YOUR BLOOD SUGAR.

Though most people probably don’t realize it, another factor that throws off your blood sugar is that old culprit lurking behind so many ills: stress. How to deflate the blood-sugar-boosting stress balloon? Studies have shown that simple deep breathing exercises can have a positive effect on blood sugar. But any practice that chills you out is good for your (parasympathetic) nervous system and your metabolism. I’m a big fan of sitting meditation, yoga and, whenever possible, spending unstructured time outside in nature. For some of my patients, it might be a sauna or a hot bath in the evening that does the trick.

SLEEP AWAY HIGH BLOOD SUGAR.

Good sleep is the essential ingredient that brings your nervous system and your metabolism into happy alignment. Consistently logging poor, restless nights of sleep, or trying to get by on less than seven hours a night, has the effect of driving up cortisol, your primary stress hormone, which in turns promotes insulin resistance and cravings for carb-heavy “comfort foods.” Bottom line: Fix your sleep now to sidestep problems later.

PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT.

Keep in mind that a lot of this variability in the way people’s bodies respond to what they eat has to do with their microbiome: the community of bacteria that lives in the gut. As a general rule, the more goodbacteria-friendly high-fiber food you eat, the more resilient your gut will be, and the better it will be able to handle carbs without sending blood sugar soaring.

FINGER-PRICKING IS SO YESTERDAY—AND DAY TO DAY, NOT ALL THAT HELPFUL.

A new generation of continuous glucose monitors— patches that stick to the skin—measures glucose levels throughout the day and downloads the data to your smartphone or dedicated reader device. Being able to take stock of the sugary enemy, with accurate glucose readings, is the tool you need to outsmart it.

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MODERN MASTER

Estudio Ramos is committed to celebrating the world’s beauty in the Hamptons and beyond through honest architecture.

Juan Ignacio Ramos, whose work is showcased in the new book Honest Modernism, uses architecture to celebrate what really matters: family, nature and a connection to the world. He was born and raised in Buenos Aires, Argentina, in a house designed by his father and a colleague who had trained under Le Corbusier. The buildings designed by Estudio Ramos all shine a spotlight on the natural environment that surrounds them—from an equestrian center with an earth-covered roof in Saudi Arabia to a single-family home in Buenos Aires constructed around an oak tree standing on the grounds. This commitment to finding, and highlighting, the beauty in the world is on display in Estudio Ramos: Honest Modernism, a collection of stunning images

BY ELENI GAGE

from Estudio Ramos’ portfolio.

While some architects seem to construct buildings seeking permanence, for Ramos, architecture is an exercise in transcendence. “I think that architecture is a form of art,” he explains, “and if there’s a universal order, or God—call it whatever you want to—art is a step closer to that. The way I express myself, and the way I can justify my life, is by trying to be a good parent and a good architect.” Ramos, a Hamptons resident who helms the New York office of Estudio Ramos, while his son Ignacio heads up the Buenos Aires branch, and daughter Belen contributes from her home in Chicago, adds, “To be able to do that, and on top of that, to work with my children, is a blessing.” estudioramos.com

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Vacation home in Uruguay designed by Estudio Ramos

URBAN OASIS

The Ritz-Carlton New York, NoMad, one year after its opening, is leading the luxury charge.

BY ABBY TEGNELIA

Its casual-cool, emerging Manhattan neighborhood has inspired The Ritz-Carlton’s new hotel. Built for a younger, more affluent set, The Ritz-Carlton New York, NoMad features a food and beverage program by the great Michelin-starred José Andrés, a Baz Luhrmann-worthy lobby, and a rooftop bar that’s as trendy as they come. And there’s plenty to celebrate—the hotel turns 1 in July.

Walking into the 50-story, 250-guestroom-and-suites hotel, one immediately knows this is a new type of RitzCarlton—there’s no beige in sight. Instead, guests enter a verdant lobby that evokes a botanical garden, a nod to the neighboring Flower District.

“The Ritz customer is getting much younger,” says Dayssi Olarte de Kanavos, president, COO and co-founder—with chairman and CEO husband Paul Kanavos—of Flag Luxury Group, which led The Ritz-Carlton NoMad project. To that end, the space was built with its target audience in mind. Says Kanavos, “While you’re walking to your room, you notice, ‘This is a cool area where I can come back and have a meeting; I can have a cappuccino there, or there’s a great bar over there.’”

The hotel is an integral part of the luxury trend in buzzy NoMad, which is also home to new properties from The Ned and Hotel AKA. To compete, The Ritz-Carlton constructed Nubeluz, the “lightbox in the sky” built 500 feet

above the ground and with 270-degree views. The rooftop lounge features light bites, spirit-free cocktails, beer and wine, and full bottle service.

“When you’re there, you feel like you’re sitting inside of a jewelry box,” Kanavos says. “It’s very glamorous, with velvet and upholstered walls.”

Back downstairs, overnight guests are in for a treat. The all-suite rooms are Ritz-Carlton at its finest, with all the comforts of its more traditional properties along with unparalleled cityscape views taken in via 15-foot windows. The decor is done in neutral colors (think warm caramel) for relaxing.

And of course, with Andrés at the helm of the food and beverage program—both the restaurants and inroom dining—the food is next level. The Mediterranean Zaytinya—a mezze dream—is the go-to for more casual fare. The much-anticipated The Bazaar by José Andrés has a hoped-for summer opening (as of press time) and will offer upscale dinner cuisine.

The 6,800-square-foot spa facilities include steam rooms, aromatherapy saunas, a 24-hour fitness center, holistic treatments and private relaxation lounges. “I came out of my The Method facial, and my skin was so dewy and yummy,” Kanavos says. “I want to wake up like that every day!” 25 W. 28th St., New York; ritzcarlton.com

Nubeluz, an ethereal cocktail bar by Martin Brudnizki Design Studio

LOVE AND SUSTAINABILITY

PURIST: Congratulations on three decades of Unlimited Earth Care. What inspired you to create the business?

Frederico Azevedo: Thank you, I’m so proud to reach this milestone of 30 years of colorful, sustainable garden design, but it has really been 30 years of incredible collaboration and strong relationships with my team and clients. I studied garden and landscape design in England and the U.S., and my intention was to have my own firm and be able to design according to my own sense of color and aesthetics, while implementing the sustainable methods inspired by my mentors in the U.K. and Brazilian design visionaries. When I saw the Hamptons, I knew it was the right place. Everyone talks about that incredible light, but what makes the Hamptons a special place goes below the surface. When I saw farmland, ocean, bay and woods, I knew that it would be challenging to accommodate so many types of soil—but it made me feel excited. In 1993, I founded Unlimited Earth Care. Every project has presented unique challenges to designing a healthy, beautiful, sustainable garden. I remember from my early days that all-white gardens were trendy, and I design in full color, so there was a moment of tension: Would I conform to what people wanted, or follow my own ideas? I went with my instinct, and people responded positively.

PURIST: What were a few milestones over the years?

FA: Some of the most important milestones for Unlimited Earth Care were my book, Bloom: The Luminous Gardens of Frederico Azevedo, which we celebrated the launch

of with Purist. The Garden Concept Store and The Garden Market, which opened last year, also stand out as big moments. The Garden Market is the chance to open up the Unlimited Earth Care aesthetic to more people; we carry plants and flowers that I use in my designs, and that I know do well in the Hamptons. It has been so exciting to see what people do with them. I especially love to see people putting together their own pollinator gardens to attract and support butterflies, bees and hummingbirds.

PURIST: Beyond the high points, what were some of the hurdles or struggles?

FA: Garden design is a social process, and I think people often underestimate how much coordination is an essential part of successful design. I find it pleasurable, but it is always a process. In a way, garden and landscape design is also about having good communication with nature: I have to read the signs that the soil, plants and flowers are giving me, and work with them to find the healthiest solution. Every element in the garden is telling you what it needs; you just have to know how to listen.

PURIST: How have you seen the needs of clients change over the years?

FA: People are working from home more, and having colorful outdoor spaces can really enhance daily life. A garden is more than an outdoor room; it’s a space of living things, of dragonflies, flowers and birds—it’s a whole environment to interact with and watch. unlimitedearthcare.com

Landscape designer Frederico Azevedo celebrates 30 years of Unlimited Earth Care.

Azevedo’s designs focus on color, harmony and sustainability.

PURE PROPERTY

Stellar homes across the East End and NYC.

BY NANCY KANE

Author Henry James’ two favorite words in the English language? Summer afternoon. It’s easy to see why. Whether you are dipping your toes in the Amagansett surf, catching the sunrise from your dock in Bridgehampton, lunching in your converted greenhouse on Shelter Island or entertaining in your Upper East Side garden, these properties make it easy to enjoy many a languorous day.

Quintessentially New York, this stunning renovated fivestory town house, built in 1899, features 5 bedrooms and 5 baths as well as a finished rooftop deck and a southfacing garden. Special touches like an enclosed glass staircase, marble fireplace, an elevator and 10-foot, lightattracting ceilings complement the spectacular chef’s kitchen that overlooks the beautifully landscaped garden. The bedrooms have amenities such as separate steam shower and spa bath in the primary, and the home itself is tech-ready, with multizone central air conditioning, lighting

41 Manhanset Road, Shelter Island

238 East 68th Street, New York City

accents and top-notch security—all making this residence move-in ready. On 68th Street, the listing is with Richard Steinberg of Compass and asks $14,500,000.

Out East, a 5-bedroom beach home has a living room with 20-foot ceilings and wood-burning fireplace as well as a media room, game room and yoga studio.

Designed by CWB Architecture, the Amagansett Lanes home boasts a professional-grade kitchen and custom vanities with Carrara marble in the bathrooms. Gated and secure, the home has a gorgeous saltwater pool surrounded by mature landscaping—and the seamless transition between indoor and outdoor spaces make this a picture-perfect summer beach house. Available for rent: year-round at $300K; August, $100K; and Memorial Day through Labor Day for $245K. The listing is with Compass’s Christopher Stewart and Jessica Vertullo.

A shingled traditional sits waterside in Bridgehampton… and it won’t last long. The home’s double-height-ceiling living room with fireplace opens up through French doors to a large patio overlooking a scenic glacial pond with 151 feet of water frontage. A waterside gunite swimming pool and spa complete the outdoor picture as stairs lead down to your own dock—perfect for a paddleboard or small boat excursion. Inside, the primary suite has 2 bathrooms, a soundproof attached den and a waterside balcony, and the lower level is finished with a movie theater, a walkin, temperature-controlled wine cellar, and a gym with a sauna. With a three-car garage and a two-story pool house with stunning views of the water, this West Pond Drive home checks all the boxes. Asking $14,500,00 and listed with Rylan Jacka of Sotheby’s International Realty.

Set in the picturesque village of Dering Harbor on Shelter Island sits Oriole Farm, once the private arboretum of famed horticulturist Alice Fiske and now on the market with Gary DePersia of Corcoran, asking $5,950,000. The 6-acre estate features a three-level stone and stucco home with such details as beamed ceilings, white oak flooring, an intimate dining alcove and fireplaces all over. Adjacent to a stunning primary suite is a library or office with a fireplace and terrace. The finished lower level offers a media room, gym, playroom, wine room, laundry room, and a full bathroom with a steam shower. A covered porch with fireplace overlooks the verdant lawns, a gunite pool and spa. An enchanting greenhouse, used as a pool cabana and dining atrium, is surrounded by hundred-year-old weeping willow trees. This Old World charmer comes complete with state-of-the-art, energy-efficient geothermal heating and air conditioning.

29 West Pond Drive, Bridgehampton

11 Atlantic Avenue, Amagansett

Sanctuary Camelback Mountain in Paradise Valley, Arizona—the sister property to Gurney’s Resort & Spa in Montauk—is the perfect June getaway for spa treatments, aerial yoga, hiking to The Praying Monk rock, delicious fare, and crisp, fresh air. Here at the hotel’s entrance, the Giant Argentine cactus was considered by the Aztecs to be auspicious—a blooming cactus flower symbolizes good luck.

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EDITOR’S PICKS

Purist founder Cristina Cuomo’s go-tos for a healthy, radiant Memorial Day weekend and beyond.

“Now that my daughters have taught me how to shadow and contour my face, here’s an amazing new face palette with four shades to mimic the glow of summer sun, magically.” Lovegasm palette, $75, charlottetilbury.com

“In this Year of the Rabbit, be reminded that the rabbit is known to symbolize mercy, elegance and beauty.” $1,700, unlimitedearthcare.com

“A nontoxic fragrance that smells like nature because it is, in a bottle.”$260, veroniquegabai.com

“I like a lightweight trainer sneaker that I don’t have to lace up when I am doing Tracy Anderson.” Bodie Logo Tape Mesh slip-on trainer, $145, michaelkors.com

“The botanicals are nutritive— cold-pressed prickly pear cactus and olive fruit oils combine with squalane and vitamin E to moisturize and stimulate healthy cell regeneration.” The Oil, from $68, cultusartem.com

“Sunday Riley, who will be popping up all over the Hamptons this summer, has the most effective vitamin C serum for creating sunny, glowy skin— apply after washing your face.” C.E.O.15% Vitamin C brightening serum, from $43, sundayriley.com

“Get rid of that tire around your gut before the summer the healthy and natural way by creating food habits you can stick to!” Eat to Beat Your Diet: Burn Fat, Heal Your Metabolism and Live Longer, $20, William W. Li, M.D., amazon.com

“Trying to get sunny and bright at The Sanctuary Spa in Paradise Valley, Arizona. Get your summer glow up early too with these products.”

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PURE PICKS

Founder of SiO Beauty Gigi Howard’s skin care, fashion and lifestyle favorites.

“Our Mid-Brow 11’s Lift is our newest launch and is already a bestseller. The patch hugs the bridge of your nose and gives those stubborn 11 lines a smooth, filled-in, stress free look. So essential, especially with all the squinting we do in the summer sun.”

SiO Mid-Brow 11’s Lift, $29, siobeauty.com

“I’m always stressed, and it takes a toll on my neck muscles. I travel everywhere with this neck wrap by Asutra. In the summer I put it in the freezer and it feels so nice and relaxing at the end of a long day.” Asutra Cozy weighted neck wrap, $25, asutra.com

“I am a huge fan of pajamas and my new favorite pair are the MarieChantal silk polka-dot pjs.They are extremely soft and light, perfect for summer.The silk is the highest quality, made in Italy.”

Marie-Chantal silk polka-dot pyjamas, $395, mariechantal.com

“Our Cryodrop is a medicalgrade, stainless steel facial massage tool that instantly cools, refreshes and revitalizes skin. It’s like giving your face an ice bath on a hot summer day.”

SiO Cryodrop, $115, siobeauty.com

“I wear very little makeup, so the Jamie Makeup The Blighlighter in The Nude One is perfect for me. It’s an effortless blush highlighter for lips, cheeks and eyes—all in one! Plus, it’s clean, vegan and cruelty-free.” Jamie Makeup The Blighlighter, $34, jamiemakeup.com

“I have a Maysalebi collection in my closet. It’s my signature shoe and every season I get a new pair.The heel is just right, not too high, and the point and buckle are everything. I love this pretty blue color for summer.”

Manolo Blahnik Maysalebi mule, $895, manoloblahnik.com

“This is a beautiful book about the power and magic of a mother’s love, set on the enchanting Greek island of Corfu. Greece is one of my favorite places on Earth, and I love how this story transported me there.” Where the Wandering Ends: A Novel of Corfu $22, amazon.com

“Summer is my favorite season. As soon as Memorial Day Weekend kicks off, I head out East. These are a few of my summertime essentials.”

Gigi Howard opts for a stylish, natural approach.

ENLIGHTENED DENTISTRY

Dr. Gerry Curatola merges next-level oral care and eco-friendly design with a personalized spa experience at his new Fifth Avenue headquarters.

“It’s the healthiest health care space on the planet,” says Dr. Gerry Curatola of his newly opened, environmentally friendly and ultra-comfortable Rejuvenation Health offices on 860 Fifth Avenue. With 12 windows looking out onto Central Park, seven dental treatment rooms covering 3,600 feet, and a range of innovative healing modalities complementing expert medical treatment, Dr. Curatola has alchemized the once-dreaded dental visit into a transcendent wellness experience.

Following the success of his practices on Park Avenue and in East Hampton, Dr. Curatola, who began his career as a celebrated restorative and cosmetic dentist in 1983 and embraced a biologic approach to dentistry in 1995, expanded the practice of dentistry to incorporate medicine and holistic care, an approach he detailed in his groundbreaking 2017 book, The Mouth-Body Connection. Curatola notes that 90% of toxicity and inflammation in the body has origins in the mouth, and that gum disease is the body’s primary source of chronic low-grade inflammation. “Dentistry and medicine need to merge,” he says. “Rejuvenation Health brings together dentistry, medicine and wellness under one roof.”

Dental utopia at 860 Fifth Avenue begins at the entrance oval, a rotunda with sculptural seating and circadian lighting. Upon arrival, the patient sees a

BY JIM SERVIN

personalized welcome message on a screen. A greeter escorts patients to a concierge room, where fresh juices and a personalized playlist await. An eclectic range of wellness modalities are utilized, from sound healing—via relaxation soundtracks curated by musician Moira Lo Bianco—to color therapy in every room. Acupuncture, massage, Reiki, Flowpresso lymphatic drainage, myofunctional therapy, lymphatic drainage, craniosacral therapy and IV vitamin infusions are all available.

Key to achieving his goal of creating “an environment that looks healthy, feels healthy and is healthy,” Curatola contracted Delos Living to provide the highest levels of air and water filtration, especially necessary in dental offices, which, says Curatola, “are notorious for volatile liquids, heavy metals and the spread of viral particles.”

Happiness promotes healing, and Rejuvenation Health makes sure its clients are optimally positioned for speedy recovery and invigorated living. “For patients that are being treated in the surgical areas, we have sweat suits that are made of material that has shea butter. The patient gets to take them home, like first class on Emirates Airline,” says Curatola, who is planning to expand in Miami and Los Angeles, and is considering Dubai, United Arab Emirates; Milan, Italy; and London. “There are a lot of wows.” rejuv-health.com, rejuvdentist.com

From left: Courtesy of Rejuvenation Health, Courtesy of Revitin.com

The entrance oval at Rejuvenation Health.

Right, Dr. Gerry Curatola’s nontoxic toothpaste brand, Revitin, balances the mouth’s natural biome.

WE E K | E ND

Courtesy of Johnny Was

Paradise is here: swim and surf wear from the Water Tropic collection by Johnny Was

SHOP WELL

New openings and a few familiar favorites to get your retail therapy fix this season.

BY JULIA SZABO

From the magical monkey wallpaper of his design, and candles and other decor, to the sexy soundtrack (his signature resort music mix), Alex Vinash’s exuberantly curated store, his first in the Hamptons, recalls the heyday of Henri Bendel. And it’s not every designer emporium where you’re guaranteed to find the namesake in the house every day—which makes Vinash’s warm presence all season long as refreshing as the bar at the back of the boutique. “When you come here,” says Vinash, whose giant-bowed tops are beloved by Martha Stewart and many more, “I hope you feel like you’re on a real vacation!” 25 Hampton Road, Southampton

There are many who believe the two essentials of East End summer chic are bronzed skin and fine gold jewelry. Gorjana’s Southampton store provides all that glitters, including initials from the Alphabet Collection, in necklaces, bracelets, charms and studs for the ears.

19 Main St., Southampton

Your tanned toes are jewels, and Manolo Blahnik’s internationally glamorous heels are the perfect setting to show them off against metallic leather. Solimaso is a strappy mule with a kitten heel, perfect for aerobic shopping, in rose gold and silver; Solisa is a high-heeled strappy sandal in gold or dark bronze. 52 Main St., East Hampton

Architect Toshihiro Oki has created a heavenly Hamptons summer home for the very urban Derek Lam

10 Crosby The light-filled minimalism of this inviting jewel box is the perfect backdrop for the brand’s eco-conscious denim, a big draw for its intergenerational clientele; see the genius jeans lounging languorously on metal rails in the “specialty denim bar.” 20 Newtown Lane, East Hampton

If fashion history is your thing,

Morphew is for you: With its expert curation of vintage high fashion and inspired remastering of heirloom textiles and laces—like the signature silk “Cocoons,” born of antique piano shawls—this sustainably soigné brand provides a shopping experience like no other. It’s akin to a fantasy night at the museum—the Metropolitan Museum’s Costume Institute, that is. 56 Hampton Rd., Southampton

Clockwise from left: Courtesy of Brochu Walker, Matthew Wetcher, Courtesy of Manolo Blahnik

Morphew’s vintage lace looks are perfect for any special occasion.

Classic Manolo Blahnik Maysalebi Mules

Brochu Walker offers a lineup of lightweight linen styles.

Channel your inner artist with the boho-chic brand Johnny Was, whose wares travel with ease from gallery openings to museum galas. Responding to customer demand for its killer kimonos—no two are alike—the Main Street store offers resplendent specialty silk specimens ($2,600 for long, $1,800 for short). Make some fashion waves in the water, too, with Johnny Was patterned beachwear, including wet suits. 48 Main St., Southampton, 631.353.3975

Priding itself on conscious luxury, Brochu Walker promises, “Sustainability is always on our minds.” Recycled materials, organic fibers and new eco-yarns are the elements of this brand’s sophisticated style. “Opulent Voyage” is the theme of this season’s collection, one gorgeous highlight being the casual-chic Serena Belted Dress, a luxe navy sundress, cinched fisherman-style with natural cotton rope. 11 Main St., Southampton

All the world’s a beach, and Sydney, Australia-born brand Zimmermann makes itself at home on every shore with items for every imaginable seaside occasion, from a weekend getaway to a wedding. This season, the label renowned for its signature ruffled, cuffed blouses, expands its futuristic-Edwardian repertoire with tiered skirts, lace pants and irresistible butterfly-shaped sunglasses with rosecolored lenses. 27 Newtown Lane, East Hampton

Project Hamptons sets up shop in the space adjacent to the Bridgehampton Citarella (2183 Montauk Highway). Watch for 100-plus curated fashion and lifestyle brands, 50-plus shopping experiences, and many exciting shopping fundraisers that will give a percentage of sales to worthy local charities (the inaugural event, for Mother’s Day, benefited the Children’s Museum of the East End).

With its handy, interconnected

model of digital and in-person shopping, Nordstrom Local pops up in Southampton from May 27 until September 7 to offer easy-order pickups and returns, alterations,and gift wrapping. Plus, they’ll accept clothing donations to be directed to Housing Works, and offer a lovely initiative called BEAUTYCYCLE: “Bring in your empties to help us take back 100 tons of beauty packaging to be recycled by 2025.”

Celebrating Jenni Kayne’s new Southampton store, opening on Main Street.

Alex Vinash’s first storefront in the Hamptons is a whimsical wonderland.

Project Hamptons will host a variety of fashion events, fundraisers and more.

Zimmermann in Southampton is stocked with summer essentials.

Clockwise from left: Courtesy of Jenni Kayne, Courtesy of Zimmermann, Courtesy of Alex Vinash, Kristin L. Gray Photography

ON VIEW

Art blooms across the East End this season. BY JULIA SZABO

Arts Center at Duck Creek

Two exhibitions opening June 10: Works by Melissa Misla, a mixedmedia artist who layers collage and found materials to explore her Latinx roots; and a site-specific installation by Sara Mejia Kriendler, who takes inspiration from pre-Columbian art and mythologies, as well as the local landscape of the East End. 127 Squaw Road, Springs, East Hampton

The Church

The culture sanctuary founded by Eric Fischl and April Gornik scores a TKO with Strike Fast, Dance Lightly, its exhibition on the theme and metaphor of boxing in art, co-curated by Fischl and featuring works by Zoë Buckman, Martin Kippenberger, Glenn Ligon and Deborah Roberts, Rashid Johnson, and others. Opening

June 24. 48 Madison St., Sag Harbor, 631.919.5342

Dia: Bridgehampton/The Dan Flavin Art Institute

In addition to the works in permanent installation by light master Flavin, you have a few more days to see a quietly majestic temporary exhibition of sculptures by Leslie Hewitt, closing June 4. 23 Corwith Avenue, off Main Street, Bridgehampton, 631.537.1476

Guild Hall

Opening July 2 is Renee Cox: A Proof of Being, a survey of the Jamaicanborn photographer’s “performative self-portraits” from 1993 to the present. Curated by Monique Long, the show offers intriguing insight into the evolution of this multitalented artist’s practice. 158 Main St., East

Hampton, 631.324.0806

LongHouse Reserve

Look for new additions to the permanent alfresco collection (which includes sculptures by Sol LeWitt, Yoko Ono and Ai Weiwei): two largescale sculptures by Maren Hassinger, made from branches collected on the property with help from visitors; and three by Wyatt Kahn. 133 Hands Creek Road, East Hampton, 631.329.3568

Ma’s House & BIPOC Art Studio, Inc. Jeremy Dennis continues his artistic and curatorial journey at Ma’s House, the dynamic nonprofit art space where he was the founding artist and is now president. Brianna Hernández has curated Kinship Compositions, a show of wall-mounted metal

Clockwise from top left: Martin Kippenberger, “Ohne Titel (Untitled (from the series Hand Painted Pictures),” 1992; Regina José Galindo, “Aparición 1,” 2021; Laith McGregor in his studio in Byron Bay, Australia; Harry Benson, “Bianca Jagger,” 1977; Dan McCleary, “Ranunculus,” 2022

sculptures by sculptor-metalsmith Margaret Jacobs, a member of the Akwesasne Mohawk tribe from upstate New York. Through July 22. 159 Old Point Road, Southampton, 631.566.0486

Madoo Conservancy

Dan McCleary: Still Lifes proves why this modern master’s flowers and fruits are vibrant descendants of those immortalized by Paul Cézanne and Giorgio Morandi. Through June 25. 618 Sagg Main St., Sagaponack, 631.537.8200, by appointment: info@madoo.org

Onna House

At this temple to female art and design, Pearls, Pills & Protests presents the work of four artists—Jerelyn Hanrahan, Kelly Tapìa-Chuning, Lulu Varona and Michele Pred—whose timely feminist work advocates for women’s health and safety. Through June 25. 123 Georgica Road, East Hampton, by appointment: bliss@onnahouse.com

Parrish Art Museum

For Artists Choose Parrish, two overlapping installations, Part 1A and Part IB, ending July 23 and August 6, East End artists have selected works from the Parrish’s permanent collection for display alongside their own work. Among those doing the selecting are Eric Fischl, Mary Heilmann, Robert Gober, Robert Longo, Cindy Sherman and Ma’s House founder Jeremy Dennis, an enrolled member of the Shinnecock Indian Nation.279 Montauk Hwy., Water Mill, 631.283.2118

Peter Marino Art Foundation

From the holdings of the art-loving architect whose collection is as expertly built as his structures: Forty-five paintings, drawings and sculptures by German neoexpressionist Georg Baselitz (through September 30) and 14 paintings and sculptures by Austrian artist Erwin Wurm (through July 8). 11 Jobs Lane, Southampton, petermarinofoundation.org

“The Signing,” 2017; Lisa Perry, founder of Onna House, with Kelly Tapìa-Chuning’s work, “A Dish Best Served Cold”; Ugo Rondinone, “The alphabet of my mothers and fathers A – Z,” 2022; Margaret Jacobs, “Old Growth,” 2019; Melissa Misla, “Maritza’s Birthday,” 2020

Southampton Arts Center

A Moment in Time: Iconic Images by Harry Benson gathers a few of the beautiful people captured on film by this legendary lensman, from Civil Rights leaders to celebrities, many of them Hamptons habitués. Through July 15. 25 Jobs Lane, Southampton, 631.283.0967

Tripoli Gallery

On view through June 5: Pace & Space, new paintings by Australian artist Laith McGregor, who lives and works in Byron Bay. Opening June 10: Some Enchanted Evening, mixedmedia works by Wainscott’s own Lucy Winton. 26 Ardsley Road, Wainscott, 631.377.3715

The Watermill Center

Opening June 24: The Body, videos by Guatemalan artist Regina José Galindo, whose powerful work has won the Leone d’Oro (Golden Lion), the highest prize given to a film at the Venice Biennale. 39 Watermill Towd Road, Watermill, 631.726.4628

Courtesy of Renee Cox, Courtesy of Onna House, Courtesy of Ugo Rondinone and Gladstone Gallery, Courtesy of Margaret Jacobs Courtesy of Praxis Gallery

Clockwise from top left: Renee Cox,

ARTFUL CONVERSATION

“Brunch With Bob” reinvents art patronage in Southampton at the Peter Marino Art Foundation.

BY REGINA WEINREICH

If Gertrude Stein had invited visitors to her Paris salon in the 1920’s, the vibe might have resembled “Brunch With Bob,” a series of conversations with artists at the Peter Marino Art Foundation in Southampton. Having bought the former Rogers Memorial Library in 2018, architect Peter Marino refashioned the historic building, dismayed that it had been rented as a houseware emporium. He wanted to exhibit his first-rate art collection: picture Renaissance bronzes, French porcelain, works by Andy Warhol, Anselm Kiefer, and Francesco Clemente, and photography. Marino recalls a time when Hamptonites asked to buy towels in the space. They can now tour the galleries, hear internationally known artists speak about craft and munch on finger sandwiches in the garden.

“Brunch With Bob” started when Marino hired longtime Interview editor and writer Bob Colacello to participate in his foundation. They met in 1974 when Andy Warhol asked Marino to create individual spaces in The Factory, his first commission. These art talks are part of the opening events for artists who are on exhibition (and who Marino collects).

“Brunch With Bob” is hosted by co-associate directors, Colacello and Isabelle Marino, as well as Marino, the founding director. Anticipating the brunch’s third season, Colacello enthuses about “Peter’s creation,” dubbing the foundation “Palazzo Marino.” Of the series, he says, “We are just having fun with friends.”

In June 2021, when Marino exhibited his collection of Francesco Clemente art in the Meeting Room Gallery, the

painter became the first “brunch,” seated with Marino in his signature head-to-toe leathers accessorized with silver rings he designed, Marino’s daughter, Isabelle, and Colacello for an intimate talk in front of collectors, gallerists and local art lovers. Wedding formality with the informality of a family affair, the conversation became open and amusing. As a child, Isabelle recalled a Clemente at home, hidden behind plants. When she was older, she saw the foliage was covering female genitalia.

In 2022, Brazilian painter/collagist Vik Muniz captivated the crowd with tales of growing up in a São Paulo favela. Known for his unusual art materials, such as chocolate syrup and peanut butter, Muniz makes art from junk. Like Warhol, he does not distinguish commercial from fine art. Complimenting him, a fan said, “When I see garbage, I think of you.” Another brunch featured Factory alumni: Vincent Fremont, Baby Jane Holzer and Crown Princess Marie-Chantal of Greece, who interned for Warhol back in the day.

At a recent Guild Hall Academy of the Arts tribute to Peter Marino, the renowned Israeli multimedia artist Michal Rovner, a longtime friend, praised his innovations: In Hong Kong and Tokyo, at the openings of Chanel stores Marino designed, he projected her art on the buildings’ facades. This year, following exhibitions of Georg Baselitz, and Austrian painter/sculptor Erwin Wurm, Rovner will be the first female artist to have a solo show in the Meeting Room Gallery and brunch (on July 15).

“The reaction to what Peter created has been tremendously positive,” says Colacello. “There’s nothing like it in the Hamptons: real artists talking about real art.” petermarinoartfoundation.org

The exterior of the Peter Marino Art Foundation. Left, Bob Colacello, Peter Marino, Vik Muniz and Isabelle Marino. Below, works on view at the Foundation.

Clockwise from left: Warren Elgort, Jason Schmidt, Courtesy of Peter Marino Art Foundation

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GOOD EGG

Artist

BY JENNY LANDEY

Kelly Klein is many things. She’s a mother, a photographer and a ceramicist. She has recently added “sculptor” to the list of accomplishments, and created a 17-pound solid bronze egg in a limited edition of 50, signed and numbered, selling for $6,000 with all proceeds going toward the prevention of gun violence. Purist sat down with the artist for a chat about the creative process.

JENNY LANDEY: How has your work as a ceramicist led to the creation of the limitededition bronze egg, with proceeds going to the prevention of gun violence?

Kelly Klein’s new organic sculptures deliver a powerful message through elegant simplicity.

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Jack of all trades Kelly Klein, pictured here with her bronze creation

KELLY KLEIN: This is a continuation of the work I’ve been doing with ceramics, the next step with a new medium. I’ve always been curious about bronze sculpture and objects. My ceramics are modern enough in their shapes to lend themselves to being made into bronze. I’m lucky to have met my collaborator, Nancy Pearce, a sculptor who works in bronze. I made the original egg in porcelain, and she then created a mold and cast it in solid bronze.

JL: Where did the idea come from?

KK: It originated from the 1980s when the AIDS epidemic was out of control. I felt my way of helping was to do a series of coffeetable books, with proceeds contributing to AIDS charities. At this time in the U.S., the gun violence epidemic provoked the same feeling in my heart—that it’s out of control. I felt a strong need to make a piece of art to raise awareness and funds for the prevention of gun violence and gun control. I have a school-age child and it’s front of mind for me.

JL: What does the egg shape symbolize?

KK: The egg signifies life. I could have chosen many shapes, but this is the one that resonated with me to shed light on this important and timely topic.

JL: How did you get involved in this project?

KK: I saw an Instagram post by Julianne Moore over Christmas. She had created a bowl cast in bronze, and mentioned her collaboration with Nancy Pearce. I purchased that bowl; it, too, was created to raise funds for gun violence prevention. Months later, I contacted Julianne to see if I could also reach out to Nancy to work with my design.

JL: What do you love about the Hamptons? How has spending time here inspired your art?

KK: I have grown up in the Hamptons. I love the landscape, the light, the ocean, the salt air. I will always be a resident of the Hamptons. I collected shells and beach glass for decades, and feel they have inspired my interest in making shapes.

JL: Who most influenced the creation of the egg?

KK: Brancusi. Once I started making ceramics seven years ago, he was my inspiration for shape, design and

materials. I call my ceramics modern pottery.

JL: You had a very successful career as a fashion photographer. How does working with your hands differ from creating images from behind a lens?

KK: It’s the same thing. Any creative work you do, it’s building a three-dimensional image. I’m so influenced and inspired by so many things I see, whether through travel or books. My eyes are always open.

JL: Modernism plays an important role in your aesthetic. Can you tell us a bit about the house you’re building now in North Haven?

KK: I wanted to build a house in the shape of a modern barn. I think my passion for horses inspired that barn. I saw some Danish barns that were so simple and beautiful. I took that sensibility and am working with the firm 1100 Architect for our version of a modern barn.

JL: Purist is devoted to wellness and all it encompasses. Can you share some of your self-care routine with us?

KK: I keep it very simple. I use Epsom salts. I’m a big fan of baths. For the face, I love La Roche-Posay SPF 50 Anthelios Light Fluid tinted sunscreen. I love Westman Atelier for foundation, blush and highlighter. My night ritual is U Beauty Resurfacing Compound and The Rich Cream by Augustinus Bader. My fragrance is from Coqui Coqui, and the scent is Coco Coco.

JL: When is your favorite time of day to create?

KK: Morning. After I drop my son Lukas at school.

JL: What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received as an artist?

KK: Perseverance. A lot of mistakes are made with pottery. Just keep trying. It’s a learning curve and you need to just stick with it.

JL: Does art help you in other areas of your life?

KK: Working with your hands is very meditative and keeps me calm and concentrated and focused and I think they are all very good for the brain, a distraction from things that I might worry about. These are all healthy things to keep me calm and my mind settled.

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“The egg signifies life,” says Klein.

PEAK PERFORMANCE

A new documentary celebrates the legendary concert promoter and longtime East Hampton resident Ron Delsener.

BY DIMITRI EHRLICH

He produced The Beatles at Forest Hills Tennis Stadium. Simon & Garfunkel’s legendary reunion in Central Park. Jimi Hendrix at Philharmonic Hall. Patti LaBelle at the Metropolitan Opera House. Gregg Allman at Carnegie Hall and David Bowie at Radio City Music Hall. The list of artists Ron Delsener has promoted includes Elton John, Whitney Houston, Pink Floyd, Bruce Springsteen, the Rolling Stones and Billy Joel—and that’s just the tip of the iceberg. In a career that spans six decades, Delsener was the man behind some of the most iconic live rock performances of all time. Now, a new documentary, Ron Delsener Presents, tells the story of this scrappy, skinny kid from Queens who helped transform rock and roll from an impromptu circus into a multimillion-dollar corporate behemoth.

In the documentary as in real life, Delsener comes across as the kind of guy you would love to be friends with: bright, energetic and at 86 years old, as fun and as curious as a child. Early in his career he made and lost fortunes (the nature of the business of promoting live music involves a high level of risk). But Delsener, who sold his business to SFX Entertainment for $20 million in 1996 (he remained with successor companies, including Live

Nation), is more than just a charming and savvy music industry legend. He is the person who, more than anyone else, invented the concert business as we know it today.

Delsener, who divides his time between homes in Manhattan and East Hampton, brought live concerts to the masses who were locked in the city, who couldn’t go to the beach in the Hamptons. In 1966 he got Rheingold beer to sponsor a series of concerts at Wollman Skating Rink in Central Park. Tickets were a dollar. During the era of race riots and burning cities, he gave everybody a chance to see live music for less than the cost of a movie.

Although he’s lauded as a businessman, the list of artists featured in the new documentary who speak warmly about Delsener (Joel, Springsteen, Gene Simmons, Patti Smith and Paul Simon, among others) says a lot about his decency.

Known for being relentlessly attentive to details, for many decades Delsener ran around New York City, seeing two or three bands a night; if he promoted a concert, he attended at least part of it. “I would ask one of the bands, ‘Do you mind if I just go to your sound check?’” he says. “And I’d run out, go to the other show and then come see another one someplace.”

He survived the excesses of the rock era’s most indulgent years, despite being at the center of it. “I never got drunk, really,” he says. “If I had two or three because it was an after-party, which I’d usually give at my apartment on Lexington Avenue and 75th Street. James Taylor, Johnny Mathis. Elton John. I had everyone pile in and go to my house. My daughter was sleeping, she’d come out in her pajamas.”

Ron Delsener Presents premieres at the Tribeca Film Festival on June 11.

Delsener retired from the industry at 86.

Delsener produced The Beatles’ first outdoor concert in Forest Hills Tennis Stadium in Queens.

From left: Delsener with Peter Shapiro, Johnny Depp and Jeff Beck

Clockwise from top left: Paul Forsman, Eric Koch, Courtesy of Radical Media

FREE TO BE

The documentary Chasing Childhood casts a critical eye on modern parenting.

BY CASEY BRENNAN

In a fast-paced world dominated by technology and structured routines, the documentary Chasing Childhood dares to question the traditional notions of childhood. Directed by Margaret Munzer Loeb and Eden Wurmfeld, this thought-provoking film explores the challenges faced by children in today’s society and advocates for a return to a more balanced, imaginative, and unstructured upbringing, challenging the status quo and prompting a reevaluation of childhood and mental health.

The idea for the film first came about during a casual conversation between Loeb and Wurmfeld, who were both raised in New York City and are now parents themselves (Loeb has three children, ages 12, 15 and 17, while Wurmfeld is a parent of two, ages 12 and 15). “We started to talk about raising kids and how different it was to how we grew up ourselves in NYC,” Loeb says. “We wondered ‘Is this new way right, and where is it leading us?’” Wurmfeld recalls being a latchkey kid by the time she was in grade school. “After the conversation, we went and did our own research,” she says. “And I found a pic of myself in first grade with a key around my neck.” Loeb recalls taking public transportation around the city—solo—by fourth grade. “What started as personal curiosity and anecdotal became ‘It’s not just us, and not NYC. Childhood has really changed,’” Wurmfeld adds.

The film presents powerful interviews with experts, parents and children, revealing the detrimental effects of these societal changes on young minds; it advocates for

a paradigm shift, urging parents, educators and policymakers to reassess their approaches to raising children. Subjects in the film include Lenore Skenazy, a Patchogue, New York school superintendent, and a Wilton, Connecticut, activist mom, who all advocate for allowing kids to have more freedoms and spontaneous play as opposed to overscheduling and structured activities.

Skenazy, a journalist, gained notoriety in 2008 after allowing her then-9-year-old son to ride the NYC subway alone; after her revelation, she was called “America’s Worst Mom.”

But instead of cowing to the criticism, Skenazy doubled down, writing the book FreeRange Kids and co-founding Let Grow, an organization that advocates free-range parenting. “All the worry in the world doesn’t prevent death; it prevents life,” quips Skenazy in one particularly memorable moment of the documentary.

Loeb and Wurmfeld took action with their own children, supporting freer schedules and resisting the pressure to have 24/7 programming. Wurmfeld suggests making the changes at an earlier age, when the stakes aren’t as high. “I want to tell people: Kids don’t have to be busy every day after school,” says Wurmfeld. “There is a value of play and being competent in the world and we help people connect to that. It’s a wild ride but I want kids to have fun, play and have free time. You only get one childhood.”

A screening of Chasing Childhood and a panel discussion with the filmmakers will be hosted by Project Most at Regal UA East Hampton on June 3 at 3PM.

Co-directors Margaret Munzer Loeb and Eden Wurmfeld

NATURAL ELEGANCE

Ramona Albert finds inspiration in the great outdoors for her sculptural jewelry and objects.

BY JULIA SZABO

“My work has always been about nature,” Ramona Albert says. “I grew up truly immersed and dependent on nature every day. This connection with the natural world has been with me every day, and all my work, architecture and objects, has been about this connection in a very visceral, intuitive way.”

During the pandemic, with her professional life on pause, she spent more time by the sea with her toddler son near their Sag Harbor home. There, literally out of the blue, tracing biomorphic shapes in the sand, she was inspired to execute a professional pivot, deciding to pursue her long-held passion: jewelry design.

The result? Sculptural and, yes, architectural works of art for one’s person (fashioned of 14k gold) and home (candelabra made of brass and, soon, porcelain), that are at once organic and futuristic, with echoes of the adornments worn in ancient Rome. The very definition of glamour and drama, Albert’s accessories look right at home on red carpets, worn by actresses ranging from Lashana Lynch and Merle Dandridge to Brooke Shields and Kim Kardashian.

Albert’s designs are objects of breathtaking beauty that let the wearer commune with nature’s healing power wherever they happen to be—even sitting in a taxi at rush hour. “For the jewelry, I look deeply at nature—I look at the way small details in the natural world exist, like the twisting of ferns and vines, the structure of bones and reflections of light. Being near the beach every day, having the time to think and reflect, made this collection possible.”

Her designs follow nature’s movements, so Albert also stays flexible, always welcoming custom commissions, “because we all have such different preferences, and it makes each piece a lot more personal,” she explains. “I personally love 14k gold,” Albert adds, “but have made pieces in platinum and rose gold; I personally love aquamarine and moonstone— which represents inner growth and strength—but I’m happy to customize and create to the user’s needs.”

No wonder she finds herself deluged with orders for engagement and wedding rings: Her style springs eternal, not unlike the forces of nature that inspires it. ramonaalbert.shop.

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Ramona Albert wearing her Connect With Nature jewelry collection

BRUNCH LUNCH DINNER

BAR UPSTAIRS DINING ROOM

GOURMET MARKET HOMEMADE ICE CREAM

Pierre’s Restaurant & Market 2468 Main Street, Bridgehampton 631.537.5110

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PURE PICKS

Shoshanna Gruss, founder and creative director of womenswear brand Shoshanna, reveals her chic essentials for the season.

“I never take off my Rachie Schnay ring, it’s timeless.” The Mazel baguette ring, $1,550, rachieshnay.com

“Nothing fits me like a Shoshanna bikini! The fit is our signature, and over the years we continue to make sure we include and celebrate a wide range of body types to feel their best.”

Ecru Texture One-Shoulder Ruffle one piece, $250, shoshanna.com

Gruss’ favorites for an effortless, fun and colorful summer

“We make clothing that is celebratory and inclusive to many women’s bodies, and the aesthetic is most definitely influenced by my life, which includes being lucky enough to spend every summer on the beautiful beaches of the Hamptons.”

“We spend so much time at the beach that towels are possibly the most important accessory in my home. I love these ones because they are beautiful, giant…and different from everyone else’s, so they don’t end up in all my kids’ friend’s homes.” Bathing Culture Cosmic Rainbow body towel, $75, bathingculture.com

“The Kiss raffia bag is a whimsical twist on a timeless classic. So cute!”

Liselle Kiss Harley raffia clutch, $395, bloomingdales.com

“This is a simple everyday piece that also makes a statement, sweet and colorful.”

Tohum Cuore heart necklace, $350, aerin.com

“I am loving these midi-dresses from our spring collection. Great for walking around town or a clambake or cocktail party—you just need to change the shoes.”

Betta dress, $375, shoshanna.com

“I love playing backgammon and I love the look of rattan in the summer; this table is dreamy. I’m hoping to get one of my children hooked this summer.… I need a partner. My money is on my son Colby; he loves games like me.”

Suzie Kondi backgammon table, $3,495, suziekondi.com

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COLOR MY WORLD

Direct from a local microfinance project in South Africa: Macrae Skye, a line of playful, sustainable children’s clothes.

BY JENNA LEBOVITS

In 2019, Macrae Skye founder Kim Slicklein was living in Johannesburg with her family and two small children, unable to find ethically sourced, ageappropriate clothing for her children. All that existed, she recalls, were muted earth tones. “It started as a small project, and the intention was to help women in poor areas of townships in Johannesburg and create a microfinance situation where we would provide them with sewing machines and they would make our clothing,” says Slicklein. “We provided them with full-time employment so they had guaranteed work. It created something that was not yet available, and it solved a problem.” Slicklein joined forces with a group of eight to 10 women, all of whom lived close by and were eager to support her vision of sustainability. One year later, in 2020, Macrae Skye was brought to market in the United States. It now has two brick-and-mortar locations: in Amagansett, New York, and Greenwich, Connecticut.

The brand, which focuses on ethical, artful and earthfriendly styles, produces clothing for all children, everywhere, from 12 months to 12 years old. Slicklein’s mission was to create garments that could grow with children and aid in their creative self-expression, all the while attempting to solve an urgent crisis: the environmental impact of fast fashion.

The fashion industry is one of the most polluting: It’s

estimated that about 85% of textiles thrown away in the U.S. end up in landfills or are burned annually. According to the World Economic Forum, the industry is responsible for 10% of all carbon emissions (more than all maritime shipping and international flights combined) and is the second-largest water consumer in the world.

Macrae Skye is breaking down barriers inside the industry and out with its holistic approach to sustainability. “It’s not only the fabrication, dyes selected and energy consumed, but also the transportation and longevity of the products, both for initial use and reuse,” says Slicklein. “We make sure that they are designed to last multiple generations.” Slicklein shares that the company not only sources exclusively high-quality materials, but it also reuses, repurposes and recirculates the clothing as many times as possible for whoever needs them by donating the gently used items to domestic abuse shelters for women and children. The prints are bold, cheery and playful, inspired by the many places Slicklein and her family have traveled to. Many of the garments also include special features that extend the life of the pieces, such as extra buttons that let the garment elongate with a child as they grow.

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Macrae Skye maintains a conscious, circular approach to fashion.

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V I B R A N T

Having more than one ceremony can take the pressure off.

WHY HAVE JUST ONE WEDDING?

My first wedding was spectacular—and a spectacular disaster. Every detail was planned. We had constructed a beautiful venue outside on our horse farm, and a rain venue just in case, but at the last minute, one of the people in charge of the construction said that they hadn’t put the tent over the top of the rain venue and that was OK because “the forecast said it wasn’t going to rain.”

The day dawned sunny and gorgeous. I was dressed and ready. The guests had arrived. I was all arranged in one of our antique carriages, complete with footmen and nine horses hitched up and ready to make my dramatic entrance. We started down the lane, and just when I was in sight of the guests and my handsome groom, out of nowhere, black clouds rolled in, the sky went dark, and then…the deluge.

It wasn’t just a sprinkle. It was a massive pounding rain and whipping wind. The guests fled to an eave over the house. Of course, the rain venue didn’t have a cover, so that was out. I began to call out for everyone to go inside. Clearly, we would have to call the whole thing off until the rain stopped. But then my dear husband-to-be, eager to get married then and there, grabbed a headset and commanded all those in charge: “Cue the bride! Cue the bride!”

There was nothing I could do. I was escorted out of the carriage, and down the aisle. I was a drowned rat. My beautiful dream wedding dress was soaked. We got married, the rain cleared up, we had a party, and yes, I know that rain on your wedding day is good luck, but needless to say, this was not my idea of the perfect wedding.

My husband knew this. He promised me a do-over. Two years later, when we were having a fancy summer dinner party, with our friend who is an opera singer entertaining, we decided to make the party an impromptu pop-up wedding, and we got married again, in front of all of our friends. It was a summer soiree with a surprise—a quick and romantic vow renewal with no wedding party and no fuss, beyond what was already planned. My husband felt vindicated, and I was happily swept up in the romance.

But this do-over wedding got me thinking. That evening, I said to him: “That was so lovely today. Why stop there? Why don’t we get married every year? Why

don’t we get married whenever we travel to countries that mean a lot to us?” I was kind of kidding, but he loved the idea.

It was actually a few more years before we had the next wedding. It was in the Bahamas, on a deserted island that was a nature preserve. I’d always dreamed of a beach wedding, but we knew such a place couldn’t accommodate the guest list and many family and social obligations we’d had to fulfill for our first wedding. And it’s certainly hard to get good formal pictures at a beach wedding, not to mention dresses always get ruined. But during that trip, I just happened to mention, “Wouldn’t it be fun to have a wedding on the beach one day?”

We came back to our room one night and there was an invitation on our pillows, asking us to attend our own wedding the next day. It said, “Be dressed at 4:30.” They had pulled out a little dress from my closet, and clothes for my husband. All we had to do was get dressed and show up. We had a yacht crew as the wedding party. The captain walked me down the aisle, then switched places to stand up as best man to my husband. It was a windswept romance.

The next wedding was in the South Pacific. We got married according to the local custom, and we didn’t have the slightest idea what our officiant was saying, but we were decked out in traditional wedding garb. The ceremony and especially the celebration afterward were unforgettable. We then had a wedding in Marrakech, Morocco, also according to the traditional culture. Both of us love to travel, so to experience different cultures and blend those cultures with our romantic ideals was so much fun.

Our most recent wedding was in Paris. I had an idea to charter a vessel on the Seine, but my husband was sure I wouldn’t like it. He said it would be windy and cold. He surprised me with a room at the Mandarin Oriental with a big terrace and a spectacular view of the Eiffel Tower in the background. We had an orchestra and an arch, framing the Eiffel Tower twinkling with lights behind us. My husband spent a lot of time with the officiant, prepping him about our history, so he did a beautiful job making the ceremony personal. We weren’t able to bring our twin boys with us on that trip, but their nanny sent us pictures of them in little tuxedos to mark the occasion.

Subsequent ceremonies offer couples the thrill and joy of commitment, without the stress of “the big day.”

BY DR. STACIE STEPHENSON

Subsequent weddings can create space for more romance and fun.

This wedding was particularly special, not just because it was in my favorite city, but because our babies were born and we were now a family in a way we never had been before. That added a whole new layer to our bond. It was the deepest of our vow renewals—so far!

Why limit yourself to only one wedding? Additional weddings are more economical and attainable because they are made to accommodate only two (or just a few) people. It’s really just a romantic celebration, so the pressure is off and the fun is on. The beautiful thing about getting married as many times as you like is that you can truly do what you want, versus having to fulfill all the expectations and obligations of family and society. You could get married in your jeans, or your swimsuit, or whatever you want—even if you weren’t quite brave enough to do that at your first wedding. And you can do it whenever—we have always done these weddings on either our anniversary or Valentine’s Day, but you could do it any time—a birthday, the anniversary of your first kiss, any holiday, or any day at all. You could do it when you travel or in the privacy of your own home. We’ve had a real officiant each time, but that’s not necessary either because you’re already married. There are no rules

other than the ones you make.

Each of our subsequent weddings has been a little more beautiful, a little more meaningful, a little more romantic—another chance for us to hold each other’s hands, look each other in the eye, and say, essentially: I choose you again. I keep choosing you. It isn’t just a vow renewal. It’s a renewal of everything that made us fall in love in the first place.

For those of you wondering how else you might do this in your own life, here are a few more tips. Wherever you feel comfortable is the perfect spot, fancy or not. A friend’s beautiful backyard, a local park or nearby beach, the place where you had your first date, your place of worship, or your favorite family travel spot, made new again with your romantic recommitment, are all possibilities. You can be as exotic or as familiar as you like because this ceremony is just for you. It’s not about where you are. It’s about who you are, together.

Now that we’ve started this tradition, we love to wonder and dream and discuss: Where will we get married next? The possibility is always out there, so it never feels like the romance is over. It always feels like it’s just beginning… again. drstaciestephenson.com

FOOD IS MEDICINE

A nutrient-dense, beauty-supporting and hormone-balancing breakfast from Sakara Life that’s packed with plant protein, B vitamins and omega-3 fatty acids. sakara.com

ENDLESS SUMMER PARFAIT

Ingredients:

2 tablespoons chia seeds

2 tablespoons flaxseeds

2 tablespoons hempseeds

1 ½ cups plant-based milk (suggested: Pink Mylk)

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

⅓ cup Endless Summer Granola

¼ cup organic coconut yogurt

Handful of sliced strawberries and raspberries

1 tablespoon goji berries

Optional: almond butter for topping

Directions:

1. In a bowl, whisk together chia, flaxseeds and hempseeds with milk and vanilla and cover. Place in the fridge and refrigerate for at least 1 hour.

2. In a cup or bowl, place a layer of granola, followed by chia mixture, coconut yogurt and fruit; repeat the process until the cup is full.

Top with goji berries, almond butter, if using, or more fresh fruit.

EAT HERE NOW

Long-awaited openings from top restaurateurs, the reincarnation of favorite spaces, and a female chef with Michelin cred are among the latest offerings out East this season.

BY BETH LANDMAN

Originally planned for last summer, both Sant Ambroeus (66 Newtown Lane, santambroeus.com) and Tutto il Giorno Caffè (55 Main St., tuttoilgiornocaffe.com) finally opened in East Hampton after much anticipation. Like the longtime favorite in Southampton, the new Sant Ambroeus, which co-opted the former Babette’s, will serve Milanese favorites including pasta and veal, as well as offering a raw bar. Of course, the coffee and jawdropping pastry selection have also traveled East. Tutto’s latest outpost is more casual than its siblings in Sag Harbor and Southampton, focusing on salads, soup, panini, salumi and cheese, along with desserts and coffee.

Heath Freeman, the leading investor group in EHP Hospitality Group, is on a roll. In 2021, EHP Hospitality

Group purchased East Hampton Point, which was renamed EHP Resort & Marina, and opened the restaurant Sí Sí (ehpresort.com/sisi) and bakery/café Buongiorno (ehpresort.com/buongiorno) there. In 2022, EHP Hospitality Group took over the former Harbor Bistro next door, which was transitioned into Sunset Harbor (313 Three Mile Harbor Hog Creek Road, East Hampton, ehpresort.com). This year, Sunset Harbor is being updated as a contemporary Japanese restaurant with extensive sushi offerings. EHP Hospitality Group also bought The Inn Spot at 32 Lighthouse Road in Hampton Bays and opened Crash Cantina (theinnspot.com/crashcantina) there. In Southampton, EHP Hospitality Group has a new French bistro, Enchanté (210 NY-27A; enchantebistro.com),

Classic and colorful dishes at the new Sant Ambroeus in East Hampton

located at the former site of Red Bar Brasserie.

In raw-fish news, David Bouhadana is expanding his Hamptons reach with Sushi Suite, an eight-person, 60-minute, 17-course omakase, located within Sydney’s “Taylor” Made Cuisine in Westhampton (32 Mill Road, Westhampton Beach). Bouhadana will also be back at Blu Mar in Southampton for the first time since 2020, with a pop-up in the backroom of the club, of his Sushi by Bou offering 30to 60-minute tastings.

Sushi is hardly the only thing Blu Mar owner Zach Erdem has on his plate. The reality star and owner of 75 Main in Southampton is expanding his reach to the North Fork, where he has purchased the Zey Hotel in Greenport at 439 Main Street, and two restaurants, one also on Main Street, and a café adjacent to the hotel.

Meanwhile, in Sag Harbor, the popular spot Dockside Bar & Grill is no more, and in its place at 26 Bay Street will be Sag Harbor Kitchen, from Melissa O’Donnell, whose New York restaurants SALT, Lil’ Gem, and Thelma on Clinton earned Michelin Bib Gourmands. Reasonably priced, it will have something for everyone, including salad with a lighter version of green goddess dressing

made using yogurt, roast chicken, mussels with arak and even a burger. An exclusive partnership with Kittch offers personalized dining experiences including special events with international chefs, cooking classes and live streams from the kitchen. And in honor of Dockside’s most famous dish, she will keep steamers on the menu.

Also in Sag Harbor, famed chef and restaurateur Laurent Tourondel will convert his LT Burger at 62 Main Street to eLTaco Bar, where his kitchen will whip up a range of tacos and bowls, along with creative and classic margaritas.

Another long-awaited spot, Little Fish—from Arden Gardell, a member of the family that owns 668 The Gig Shack in Montauk—was unveiled at 50 North Sea Drive in Southold (littlefishnofo.com). Offering coastal cuisine in an airy space, chef Ryan Barth-Dwyer has created a fun menu with modern twists on regional classics. Among the highlights are monkfish tikka masala and swordfish Milanese with roasted seaweed butter and local bitter greens. Gig Shack’s famous spicy tuna tartare taquitos will also be available, along with homemade Key lime pie, local wines and beers, and lots of live music.

Little Fish serves up fresh and delicious local coastal cuisine.

Enjoy picturesque views and waterfront dining at Sunset Harbor.

Michelin awardwinning chef Melissa O’Donnell

NUTRITIONAL SUPPORT FOR LYME

Scientific formulator for the Root Brands, Dr. Christina Rahm, in her recently published cookbook, suggests an antiinflammatory diet and seasonal recipes to accelerate recovery.

Lyme disease is usually easier to treat when it’s diagnosed early. There’s no specific Lyme disease diet at this time. Fortunately, many people completely recover from Lyme disease after taking antibiotics. Preliminary research recommends that certain plant oils have antibacterial effects that may support Lyme disease treatment and reduce side effects. Additionally, anti-inflammatory compounds in certain foods may support your immune system to assist you with recovering from Lyme and different infections.

While the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention gives recommendations for Lyme disease treatment according to the antimicrobial perspective, it makes no recommendations as to what is meant for individuals to manage the inflammatory symptoms of the sickness. A specific diet is a perfect place to start. The foods you choose to eat can either help or frustrate recovery from Lyme disease by impacting

your body’s inflammatory weight. Eating an antiinflammatory, supplementrich diet can accelerate recovery and create a foundation for long-term health. We recommend that most patients start a Paleo reset diet. The Paleo reset diet is intended to reduce inflammation and develop assimilation, energy, glucose control and body weight. It is centered on the following foods: nonstarchy vegetables—ideally, 6 to 8 cups of vegetables across the color spectrum (“eat the rainbow”); whole organic products; including pastured and organic meat, poultry and eggs; seafood; starchy tubers such as yams and cassava; organ meats, including beef or chicken liver; bone stock; healthy fats such as extravirgin olive oil, coconut oil, coconut milk, avocado, nuts and seeds. therootbrands.com/purist

CREAMY ASPARAGUS SOUP

Serves 4-6

INGREDIENTS

2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil

1 medium onion, chopped

2 garlic cloves, chopped

1 large carrot, peeled and chopped

1 stalk celery, chopped

8 ounces asparagus, chopped

2 teaspoons chopped fresh dill

½ teaspoon chopped fresh tarragon

1 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley

1 teaspoon salt

3 cups vegetable broth

1 cup coconut milk

INSTRUCTIONS

1. In a 2-quart pot over medium-high heat, add the oil and heat for 1 minute or until hot.

2. Add the onions and saute for 3 minutes or until limp.

3. Add the garlic, carrots, celery and asparagus and saute for 5 minutes.

4. Add the remaining ingredients and stir well to combine.

5. Bring the soup to a boil. Lower the heat to medium and simmer for 30 minutes.

6. Pour the soup into a blender and puree until smooth.

7. Serve immediately and refrigerate leftovers.

Dr. Rahm recommends a Paleo reset diet for most of her Lyme patients.

They Deserve a Tomorrow Without Violence

The Retreat works passionately to deliver that brighter future by breaking the pattern of family violence through innovative education programs, counseling, advocacy and offering safety and a fresh start at Stephanie’s House, its crisis shelter.

Join Us: All Against Abuse Gala Benefit

Saturday, June 3, 2023 | 6 to 8 PM The Church, Sag Harbor

Keynote Speaker Tijuana Fulford, The Butterfly Effect Project

Honorees Hana Sromova & Claude Okin, Sportime

Sponsorship, Tickets, and donations at allagainstabuse.org/events

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JUNE 16

THE ETERNAL MEMORY

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"Doctor Zhivago, Casablanca, Amour. Over the decades, cinema has produced some fictional love stories of enduring beauty and resonance. But for sheer emotional force, even those classics may not rival the true love story told in The Eternal Memory.” — Matthew Carey DEADLINE

Oscar-nominated director Maite Alberdi Grand Jury Prize for Documentary Film, Sundance 2023

Curated by Alec Baldwin and David Nugent

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“I tend to process information with my brain, but David is heart-forward. He’s fiercely loyal and loving.”

—Neil Patrick Harris

“I’ll Have What

David Burtka, left, first met Neil Patrick Harris, right, on a street corner in 2004. They went public with their relationship in 2007.

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He’s Having”

Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka have built the life of their dreams, filled with love, family and a number of new projects, including his-and-his Broadway and off-Broadway plays; a Hulu series, Drag Me to Dinner; and designing a whimsical, enchanted home in the Hamptons.

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CRISTINA CUOMO: Congrats on the new series and all the different things you’re doing. You are both very prolific, with your Wondercade newsletter and website, Broadway and off-Broadway plays, and new Hulu series, Drag Me to Dinner. What can we expect from the new show?

NEIL PATRICK HARRIS: Drag Me to Dinner is a comedy parody version of a cooking party competition show, where the competitors are two teams of drag queens. They’re throwing the best dinner party to impress the judgers—we’re not calling them judges, because they’re drag queens.

DAVID BURTKA: Everybody knows Chopped and Top Chef and RuPaul’s Drag Race It’s sort of a combination of all these fun shows. I am sort of the Tim Gunn of the group who talks them through, helps them with challenges and lets them know what the competition is going to be for that day. Neil is one of the judges.

CC: Are you selecting the drag queens for the series? Do you audition them?

DB: We have a really wide net of friends who are drag queens. We produced the HBO documentary Wig and we brought back Wigstock, an East Village staple for many years. We ended up asking a lot of our friends—we reached out to 40 of the very best of the best comedy queens of the drag community.

NPH: I feel like the world today, especially on television, can steer toward smack-talking and meanness. We wanted Drag Me to Dinner to be fun, to be silly, to be enjoyable. I think the drag audience knows these people really well, and so we were playing to them and respecting them and having a good time.

DB: That’s not to say there’s not smack-talking. With Bianca Del Rio’s mouth, it’s going to be hard to not have some insults flying. All these girls who come on the show and are doing this job together are all friends. They have such a strong sisterhood; they have each other’s back.

CC: Comedy is the great healer and a pillar of wellness, so thank you for bringing more laughs to a world that needs it. Neil, when did you know you were funny?

NPH: I have a brother, Chris, who is three years older. Our parents always talked to us as people and not children and had a good sense of humor. I was in my late 20s during the Harold and Kumar and How I Met Your Mother phase of my life, but fingers crossed I was funny before that.

CC: You’ve been praised for your role in the Broadway play, Peter Pan Goes Wrong. When you’re on stage, what are you loving most—the singing, the dancing, the audience, the comedy?

NPH: When I was younger I saw a lot of live events and circuses, Cirque du Soleil specifically. I remember watching a clown comedian named David Shiner perform a Buster Keaton-esque silent comedy routine in a tent show. I had never laughed harder. Now I have been able for a short period of time to join forces with the comedy troupe called Mischief Comedy, and they have done these Goes Wrong shows. Physical comedy is designed to look sloppy, when in point of fact it’s very rehearsed and thoughtful, almost like a Rube Goldberg puzzle. That’s its own acting feat, and I’m wildly impressed by them.

CC: David, you have been teaching people how to entertain with all of your amazing cooking feats. In your cookbook, Life Is a Party, you make it easy to learn. Of the 106 recipes, what is your favorite thing to cook at home?

DB: I really love the grilled rib-eye with the porcini rub. My family goes crazy for it.

CC: I think Sant Ambroeus in East Hampton has adopted that recipe, by the way. When you’re at home and you’re cooking, do you enlist the kids to help?

DB: Lately I’ve not been cooking much. I’m doing a play as well—I just opened a show off-Broadway called God of Carnage, so my cooking has been shifted. But I try to make dinner at least once a week. I do try to get the kids involved. They’re teenagers now or preteens so it’s like pulling teeth, but when they were younger it was a little easier to say hey, come pick herbs or whip this up for me. When they were younger we would go and do trips around the world where I’d make Israeli food and we’d talk about Israel or Argentinian steaks and we’d do like a chimichurri. We’d get the map out and show them where Argentina is, and play tango music. Our lives have been super-crazy lately, so we haven’t been able to do that in a while, but I look forward to the summer where the play will be wrapped up, and Neil and the kids will be around. I’ll be able to pick vegetables from my garden and cook and enjoy family time.

NPH: It’s been amazing to have as part of our family life the understanding that we have a meal together every night. And it has been a little strange, with both of us working actors now on stage—eight shows a week doesn’t really allow for that, but it’s kind of nice that the kids miss it, and that they grew up with it.

CC: God of Carnage is described as a comedy of manners without the manners. How much of what you do onstage or behind the camera comes home with you?

DB: I know when I was doing The Goat, or Who Is Sylvia? or The Play About the Baby, I would come home and go

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Neil and David are co-executive producers of Drag Me to Dinner, on Hulu.

“It’s been amazing to have as part of our family life the understanding that we have a meal together every night.”

–NEIL PATRICK HARRIS

through a real progression of feeling a sense of loss. I would just start bawling for no apparent reason. But for this show, I have yet to feel that I’m taking anything home, maybe because the character is a high-powered lawyer who’s just living for himself. With Drag Me to Dinner, I didn’t feel like we brought anything home. We were tired. Maybe we were a little more sassy because we were working with drag queens all day.

CC: You two met when you were both on Broadway. What was that moment for both of you, when you realized it was serious?

NPH: I had such a talent crush on him, and so I just started showing up at places where I knew he would be, because my show ended about a half hour before his. I just kept being smitten by him, and then it was probably just wearing him down. It was a lovely fast start. DB: Early on, before we started dating, we started to hang out as friends and we went to the circus. Just seeing his kid-like behavior, this fun persona of just wanting to soak in life and enjoying circus acts and getting cotton candy was really refreshing for me. And then when we had dinner, he ordered the chicken and waffles and I sort of was like, OK, that was it.

CC: I want to talk a little bit about Wondercade. This is a great newsletter, featuring a variety of your interests under one domain. What made you decide you wanted to launch a business like that?

NPH: I’ve been in the business of entertainment for quite some time, and at a certain point it seemed like I had things to recommend and opinions on how to improve experiences. Like David said, I love magic shows and immersive experiences. I love trying to make things better. I love inviting people over and having game night and creating the games ourselves. Wondercade is a traveling carnival of new, fun information, things to try and explore.

CC: So, you both decided to do Broadway and off-

Broadway shows simultaneously. You’re going to take the summer off and spend some time with your kids. Is there something that you haven’t done or played that you would love to play?

NPH: I think I’d like to be in some sort of murder mystery. I read a ton of Agatha Christie and I love Brian Johnson and I think the whodunit style would be great fun. And the one acting style I haven’t yet done is the motioncapture actor like Thanos in a Marvel movie where you’re doing physicality, and then a year and a half later it turns into a fully realized character and performance.

DB: I wouldn’t turn it down, but that’s not my go-to. I feel like I’ve always strived to be an actor who just does good stuff and makes people think and feel.

CC: What is your favorite Broadway musical song, each of you?

NPH: My favorite musical show of all time is Les Misérables, and so I have to say “One Day More.” When I was a kid and I heard that and I realized, Oh my gosh, they’re singing different parts. And then at the end they’re all singing the same parts on top of each other, and it crescendos.

DB: My favorite musical is West Side Story, and I’ve done it three times. In my past life I was a dancer and I did all the original Broadway choreography. Maybe “Something’s Coming.” It’s super-exciting in the beginning of the show.

NPH: That’s a great role for you.

DB: Tony?

NPH: No, Officer Krupke.

CC: You two are very funny. Neil and David, what inspires each of you?

DB: I’m really inspired by just my environment. New York is such an inspiring place to live. There’s so much energy, there’s so much life to see, fashion and music and people. It’s a nonstop stimulant for me. I had a hard time in LA,

Neil Patrick Harris has won five primetime Emmy Awards.

In 2010, the couple welcomed twins Harper Grace and Gideon Scott by surrogate.

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In 2014, Neil and David were wed in Italy.

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STYLIST: SAM SPECTOR

GROOMER: AMY KOMOROWSKI SHOT AT THE RITZ-CARLTON NEW YORK, NOMAD

because I felt so sleepy there; you’re so isolated and alone a lot. Being here in New York, every single day you walk out and you can feel the energy.

CC: Tell me about your dream home in the Hamptons—the design, the decor, what you love about it.

DB: A real estate agent friend of ours, Roxanne Briggs, showed me this property that had been on the market for a while, a crazy house on 16 acres. It was a tiny house, and when we toured it we said, we can’t really live here. There was no closet space, and the kitchen was small.

NPH: It was so weird, in the best ways. There were weird cabinets, stairways that went up and over a fireplace, two little doors that opened on either side of it.

DB: Lots of secret compartments. It was on the market for a bit because no one knew what to do with it. So then we had an architect friend come in, Jeffery Povero, who did our Harlem brownstone, and he started to crack the code on it. We ended up building a massive house, an extension. We made the first house the guesthouse.

NPH: Let’s describe it as a wing, because it’s like the game Clue. The original house is now the guest wing. It’s called Fun House Farm. It’s a carnival sideshow sort of aesthetic.

DB: We’ve got lots of acreage of vegetables and flowers, and we’ve got 20 fruit trees.

NPH: He speaks of the fruits and vegetables. I’ll say there’s over 30 secret doors. There’s a spiral slide going from the kids’ floor on the third floor down to the playroom inside. That was their request when we were asking them what they wanted in the house. They said, What about a slide that would go from our room to a playroom? And we said, Well, we could maybe do that. So, it is not only my dream home, it is my end game.

DB: Yeah, it’ll be generational.

NPH: It is the place we didn’t buy to show off. It’s the place we bought to live the rest of our lives in, have our kids grow up in. It provides us with tons of joy. There’s twoheaded taxidermy animals. There’s haunted mansion memorabilia.

DB: People feel like they’re in a movie set, because a lot of the furniture actually came from A Series of Unfortunate Events. Neil drove from Vancouver to New York with a whole big truck full of amazing props and furniture.

CC: What do you love about each other?

DB: When I first started dating Neil, it was such a relief for me to be with someone who had so much fun at his fingertips. I realized, This is how you should live the rest of your life—laughing through life. We have a really good time, no matter if we’re at a music concert or a train headed to Venice, or wherever.

NPH: I tend to process information with my brain before my heart. That’s just how I was raised, and I’m appreciative of it, but David is heartforward, and he’s just fiercely loyal and loving.

DB: We balance each other out. Granted we are fiery, we’re actors, we’re dramatic, and it’s fun. There’s never a dull moment.

CC: How long have you two been together?

DB: Nineteen years.

CC: What are some of your wellness rituals, from fitness to mindfulness?

DB: I did TM [Transcendental Meditation] for a really long time, but I slipped out of it for a bit. I’ll do TM in a pinch, but I do love a guided meditation. We work out almost every day, whether it’s cardio or with weights. We eat healthy. I have a salad bar ready to go every day—I cut up vegetables and amazing greens from the garden.

NPH: I’m trying to improve my body through exercise, not so that I look better, but so that I have more control, flexibility, strength and stamina. I think as we’re getting older we’re calming down and prioritizing more. Life is short. I think we should do things that we enjoy. Why see a movie when you can see the circus? Why eat a TV dinner when you can go to the farmers market?

Burtka is currently starring off-Broadway in God of Carnage

Surf stars Quincy Davis and Patrick Schmidt at their wedding

LOVE is in the (SEA) AIR

Celebrating couples, children, creativity and other sun-kissed expressions of heart and soul this summer in the Hamptons.

THE SURFERS

Quincy Davis and Patrick Schmidt ride the waves together.

PURIST: How did you two meet?

Quincy Davis: Patrick and I met through surfing.

When was the moment for each of you—however differing—you knew this was love?

Patrick Schmidt: Ours are probably quite different. I probably had a few of those moments before Quincy even knew who I was. The first of which was when we were 12 years old on a beach in New Jersey, during a surf contest. I heard a fellow grom say, “Hey, there’s Quincy Davis.” Quincy Davis? Who’s that? “She’s from New York, she’s so hot and she rips, too.” The rest is history.

QD: We were best friends for a long time before dating, which I think is the most amazing thing ever. Pat always felt like home to me and from day one has made me laugh nonstop. I have never been more sure of anything!

How did he propose?

QD: He proposed down in Puerto Rico at the beach in front of my house with just us, which I loved. Then after, we celebrated with my family up at the house.

Describe your shared love of surfing.

QD: It is really special we met through surfing, Pat will surf any wave I will surf, but it is not vice versa. He loves big barreling waves, which I am scared of sometimes, even though he tries to push me to go out. Surfing together is the best. He is my barrel coach.

What travel gear do you bring on a surf trip?

QD: I have to admit since being together, Pat packs the boards. So surfboards, lots of sunscreen, always a widebrimmed hat, bathing suits and little wet suit top, because I am cold everywhere.

What do you love most about Montauk?

QD: Its raw beauty and community. Of course, the beaches as well and those special hidden gems that still feel like old Montauk.

Where and when was your wedding? And what details of the day that, almost a year later, stand out in your memory?

QD: Our wedding was in a beautiful barn at the end of a dock on East Lake last September. In true Montauk September style, it was a gorgeous, very windy day with lots of swell. Pat and his groomsmen and friends surfed all day up until getting ready. I preferred to not have windburn that day! My veil actually didn’t make it down the dock from the wind! I couldn’t wait to get to the end of that dock to Pat. The ceremony felt so intimate. My cousin Colin officiated the wedding, and I don’t think one person wasn’t smiling or laughing. It really is so special to have all the people you love most in one place! The dance floor was wild, no one stopped dancing, our band was incredible! All of our friends and family came together to help make our wedding day extra-special and we are so grateful. Luckily for us my aunt, Virginia Davis is an amazing wedding coordinator, so she took care of all the details. Close family friend Kim DeSousa made our wedding cake, Janice Hummel our florist created the most stunning flower arrangements, with local dahlias from Pierpont Blossom Farms on the East End, and my friend Steven Berg did my hair and makeup.

You are also passionate about fashion and your Quincy X MTK store, which is 5 years old now. What fun, curated brands can we expect this summer?

QD: We’re really excited to expand our offerings this year. We lean toward quality basics, but wanted to be able to shop our own store for something to wear out to dinners and all the fun events. We sourced European brands that are chic and still maintain the beach vibe. We also had to add in some new T-shirt brands, because they are our favorite. We’ll also bring back our most popular swim brands, so people can always count on us for the best beach selection. Trust me, I have tried lots and lots of swim!

Any special 5-year anniversary events in the works at the store?

QD: We are going to have lots of fun pop-ups! Stay in the loop by following @quincythestore.

As a pro—at surfing, style, love—what is the best advice you can share?

QD: Stay true to yourself.

The couple had a lakeside reception last September in Montauk.

DRESS: VINTAGE EMILIO PUCCI FLOWERS: BY JANICE HUMMEL AND PIERPONT BLOSSOM FARMS LOCATION: “THE SEA BARN,” A PRIVATE RESIDENCE ON EAST LAKE IN MONTAUK

THE AESTHETES

Life is still a party for creative couple Jonathan Adler and Simon Doonan, three decades in.

PURIST: This is a milestone year for you guys: your 15th anniversary. What’s the secret to your success?

Simon Doonan: We keep it light and fluffy.

Jonathan Adler: Chemistry, I suppose.

How have you built a life together?

SD: It was fairly effortless. So I guess it was meant to be.

JA: Neither of us drinks, so there are no bonkers moments like George and Martha from Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf?

Looking back, what was most memorable about your wedding day? Can you set the scene for us?

SD: When we went to City Hall in San Francisco with Jonny’s mom and sister, they got mistaken for a May/December lesbian couple. LOL.

JA: Après ceremony we went to my shop on Fillmore and re-merchandised the store and then went to Barneys for a jewelry party. Romantique, non?

How long were you a couple before you wed, and when did you know it was love?

SD: Fifteen years-ish.

JA: I think Simon means it was 15 years-ish before we wed. I knew it was love when we went on a low-rent ski trip to Vermont and listened to Pat Benatar nonstop and it all felt so so right.

Tell us three favorite things about each other.

SD: Jonathan supports the Philly Eagles. His fave fashion brands are Thom Browne and Comme des Garçons. He is a massive fan of George Michael, RIP.

JA: 1. Even though people prolly think Simon is a kind of a fluffy fashion person, he’s actually a kinda butch intellectual. Ditto moi, if I’m being honest. 2. He climbs up on the roof regularly and cleans out the dead leaves from the rain gutters. 3. I gotta repeat No. 2 again. Roof, gutters—doesn’t get better than that.

How do you find compatibility in creativity?

SD: We agree about most things. If we disagree, we have a pillow fight.

JA: And I always win! Our first summer together we rented a house on Shelter Island with a dock and we used to go to the end of the dock and wrestle and throw each other off the dock. It was quite serious and macho. But we’ve entered our pillow fight era.

Do you ask each other for advice/feedback?

SD: Jonny is a fabulous editor. I ask him to read everything I write. His feedback is vital to my writing.

JA: I always make Simon come to my pottery studio to show him everything I’m cooking up. He never criticizes, always kinda just kvells. I actually wish he was more critical!

Simon, what item have you inspired in Jonathan’s line, and Jonathan, what idea or important feedback have you given Simon?

SD: I always encouraged Jonny to put faces on his designs. People like to be looked at.

JA: I am a total Simon Doonan fanboy. Always was, always will be. Right now I’m rereading his seminal tome Beautiful People for the 15th time. But I try not to give him too many compliments lest he get a swelled head.

You must be compatible moodwise—in the sense of being social together and then having downtime and quiet together. What is that flow like?

SD: I am writing all day solo, so I am more gregarious than Jonny. I push him to go out and partay!

JA: We’re improbably chill and totes compatible of habit and vibe.

How do you make a long relationship work?

SD: Knowing when to keep your trap shut.

JA: We always make each other cups of tea and refill the kettle. Tea is very, very, very important to us.

Tastes and aesthetics are so important to each of you. In what ways do you aesthetically complement each other? What kinds of compromises do you each have to make in the relationship to make it work? Like, are there any forbidden objects, furnishings, colors etc.?

SD: Jonathan takes the lead on issues of decor. This is, after all, his profession. I like to watch and applaud.

JA: If people think about us (which they really should quite often, BTW), they would imagine that there’s lots of bickering about where exactly to place decorative obelisks on the mantel and debates about floral arrangements. But, in reality, not so much.

How do you best enjoy your time together, in the city and out East?

SD: Our favorite thing is to frolic on the beach with our mutt, Foxylady.

JA: Foxylady, Foxylady, Foxylady. She’s a 12-pound, aloof beauty and we spend every waking moment focused on her.

What’s your life like on Shelter Island, what brings you both joy out there?

SD: The bird life on Shelter Island is beyond. We spend hours watching the ospreys diving into the water and catching fish.

JA: Shelter Island is HEAVEN on Earth. Don’t mean to jinx it, but it feels like nothing bad could ever happen. There’s nobody I’m afraid to bump into, there’s no traffic, no parking woes, nothing bad! We wake up, hop on our paddleboards, and just go…

“WE AGREE ABOUT MOST THINGS. IF WE DISAGREE, WE HAVE A PILLOW FIGHT.”

Simon Doonan and Jonathan Adler perfectly complement each other.

THE NATURAL

I’ve struggled with acne and dry, sensitive skin since I was in high school. That was when I first started wearing makeup and playing around with skin care. I’ll never forget when in junior high, I bought a face mask from CVS and it spilled onto my marble countertop overnight. It burned through the marble finish! Looking back, I can’t believe I was putting that stuff on my skin. But at the time, I just went to my dermatologist and got prescribed antibiotics for my acne—and I was on this medicine for over 10 years! Eventually, the antibiotics stopped working and then I went on Accutane (isotretinoin). I took all these powerful drugs to treat symptoms, when what I really needed to do was change what I was putting on my skin and focus on internal health with nutrition.

It wasn’t until my late 20s that I started educating myself on clean beauty and the skin biome. This served as a huge inspiration for me when I was creating Saie. I wanted to make products that not only worked for sensitive skin, but were good for the skin. That’s why we always say, “Good on you, good for you!”

Launching my blog, The Moment, in 2018, was everything, really. My community gave me the inspiration to start. They were the ones who said, if I were to make a makeup brand, here’s what I would want. They told me what the market was missing and gave me the courage to start Saie.

I’m from California, so I appreciate the slower pace of the Hamptons. We moved to the East End in 2020, but we’ve always spent a lot of time here. I love being surrounded by nature, from the beaches and hiking trails to the water. I can spend the whole day outside with my girls, enjoying amazing activities, and then end the night with a great meal and seeing friends. It’s the best of both worlds.

I think about our planet and the climate crisis that we’re in constantly, in every decision we make financially (because we all vote with our dollars), to the politicians we support all the way down to the school board level, to the causes we support with donations. Recently my family and I fought really hard next to the Friends of the Long Pond Greenbelt to keep PSEG from drilling through the reserve. We rallied our friends and family to protest and sign petitions. While we haven’t heard the final verdict yet, I think we made a huge impact protecting our local land and animals.

My mission at Saie is to not only create the most ecofriendly makeup brand, but also push the industry forward. I’m so proud that Saie works with 1% for the Planet, is Climate Neutral Certified, and is Plastic Negative Certified. What would be even more exciting is if the big beauty companies did the same. That would have a huge impact on our environment.

Saie clean beauty founder Laney Crowell’s life is a love letter to nature.

“MY COMMUNITY GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO START. THEY’RE THE ONES WHO SAID, IF I WERE TO MAKE A MAKEUP BRAND, HERE’S WHAT I WOULD WANT.”

Laney Crowell with daughters Rosie, left, and Isabella

THE ACTIVIST MOM

Jodie Patterson, author of Born Ready: The True Story of a Boy Named Penelope and The Bold World: A Memoir of Family and Transformation, on loving our children who don’t fit into a box.

I’m a native New Yorker. I grew up on the Upper West Side of Manhattan in the 1970s in a family of activists. Both my mother and father were entrenched in the Civil Rights Movement; my grandmother was Gloria Blackwell and was called “Mrs. Revolution” because she won court cases to desegregate America. My father opened the first Black brokerage firm in Wall Street to fight economic injustice. My mother founded a private school in Harlem for Black families. My uncle, jazz poet Gil Scott-Heron, wrote the song “The Revolution Will Not Be Televised.”

In other words, I was raised by changemakers. Their work was so prevalent and ultimately shaped my perspective on discrimination to this day. I learned that loving and supporting people for who they are, rather than how society labels them, was important.

Still, as a parent, I discovered that I, in fact, held biases. I have five children and they all are nonconforming: trans; genderqueer; straight; adopted; suffering from addiction; ADHD; introverted; anime lovers—yes, we are an assorted bunch!

Each child is different, but I want to focus on gender identity because it is still confusing for so many people. I learned an important life lesson from one of my kids. By the age of 3, my child was struggling: nail biting and having recurring nightmares. They would say, “A monster is coming to get me, Mama.” We tried everything: more love, a cleaner diet, longer naps—and really nothing was working.

One day, we sat cross-legged on the floor and face to face, and I asked, “Baby, what’s really wrong?” They told me: “Everyone thinks I’m a girl, but I’m not. I am a boy.”

At first, it was confusing, as I had considered all sorts of inequities, but I had never considered that gender, as an idea, could be dissected. But luckily I had an upbringing

that taught me to be emotionally and intellectually flexible in the face of dogmatic ideologies. That skill helped me lean into believing, accepting and ultimately supporting what my child was telling me. That ferocious support is what I give to all my children.

Just as the world needs to understand the trans experience, we also need to understand all the ways in which our children differ from the “norm.” But here’s the tough part: It’s hard to support things we know nothing about. It was important for me to educate myself. I didn’t know enough about the trans experience. So I reached out to people and organizations in the LGBTQAI community, made new and diverse friends, expanded my world, so I would no longer be ignorant. Do I fully know the intricate life of a trans person? Ultimately, no, but here is what I do know and what I tell my kids: “Where you go I will follow, what you know I will learn, who you are, I will support.” It’s a mantra that provides strength and assurance when I feel at sea as a mom.

As our families become more diverse—whether those families are chosen, work, boardroom or born to us—it’s going to be important that leaders of the family (mother, father, head of the class, CEO) be flexible and open. As a leader of your team of people, it’s your responsibility to learn new languages, to meet each family member where they are, not where you think they should be. As a parent, I realize I cannot fix everything, or make life nice, but I can walk with them in life. Side by side. The goal is to find out how diverse your family is, to seek out the diversity. Ask them about themselves, share something unpredictable about yourself, believe them and support them. And know it’s a marathon.

—As told to Donna Bulseco

“HERE IS WHAT I TELL MY KIDS: ‘WHERE YOU GO, I WILL FOLLOW, WHAT YOU KNOW, I WILL LEARN. WHO YOU ARE, I WILL SUPPORT.’”

Jodie Patterson is an advocate for open-minded, compassionate parenting.

THE SONGBIRDS

Taylor Barton and G.E. Smith make beautiful music together.

Taylor Barton: In the late ’80s, G.E. and I met on the set of Saturday Night Live, where he was the bandleader and co-musical director. I was brought in by Patricia Birch, renowned choreographer of Grease, to do a Valentine cameo on the show. That night, G.E. played “Stormy Weather,” while I did a romantic dance. When did I realize we were meant to be together? It took about 10 Dylan shows and G.E. to fly in from all over the world on his day off. G.E. had moved to Amagansett in 1981, when he was working for Daryl Hall and John Oates. Although we lived in NYC part-time, we felt at home in the Hamptons. Artists and writers were among us. The proceeds of the never-ending Dylan tour bought our first house. I totally support G.E.’s every endeavor. I manage his affairs. He just likes to show up onstage. Performing together is a beautiful intimacy between any musicians, but he totally underscores my intent when on stage. I had to work through massive stage fright in the beginning, turning up at places like Siné, following people like Jeff Buckley. G.E. believed in me when I didn’t believe I was the real deal. I’m good at pushing a project to fruition. I’m a closer in the music world. Producer is the title, but I can see the big picture both as a songwriter and a writer. G.E. is the tougher critic. He holds me to the highest standard. Early on in our relationship, G.E. would play a beautiful lick, and I would take off and write a full song. That amassed into

many songs. G.E. helped me own my work. Our Portraits music series is now headed for its eighth year. Bringing A-listers to our theaters out East in the Hamptons was a natural progression of our careers. G.E. is a consummate host. I’m inspired by many working couples. Tom Waits and Kathleen Brennan, Bruce Springsteen and Patti Scialfa, Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. Working with your husband has a myriad of conflicts, but you can choose to be someone who is part of the solution. All of us show women know how to let our men be stars… and we make them.

G.E. Smith: We work face to face. It eliminates the stale, flat digital world. Recently we were working on a Joan Armatrading song, both invested in our own interpretation—we’d ask ourselves in the process, How can we make it shine while paying homage to her? I was lucky to have been at the pinnacle of the rock revolution. Knowing and playing with the pioneers has given me the tools and experience to communicate to audiences. We always strive for integrity, whether on stage, or producing a show for the community. Taylor is one great songwriter and a stellar bridge writer. She just recorded four beautiful new songs. She can hold her own in the songwriting arena. As a producer, if Taylor even thinks of something, in the next 48 hours it’s booked. She’s a gold mine.

“WHEN DID I REALIZE WE WERE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER? IT TOOK ABOUT 10 DYLAN SHOWS AND G.E. TO FLY IN FROM ALL OVER THE WORLD ON HIS DAY OFF.”

“Performing is a beautiful intimacy,” says Taylor Barton, left.

LESSONS FROM DEEPAK CHOPRA

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CHRIS CUOMO: You have written 90-plus books. You’ve got institutes all over the world. You’re one of the best-known peop le in the world, especially on messages about the nature of humanity. With all the success as most would mea sure it, what keeps you wanting to do more?

DEEPAK CHOPRA: It’s kind of a convoluted answer, but I’ll answer it anyway. I grew up in a traditional spiritual family in India, and then I was subject to Western influences, medical school training, everything that happened in my life because after the age of 23, I was American. I maintained a sense of meaning and purpose in my life. I now spend a lot of my time thinking of my life as a dream.

I recall moments of my childhood sitting on my mother’s lap I can smell her skin, I can hear her singing. Well, it’s a dre am. But how about last night? How about this morning? How about five minutes ago? How about by the time you hear my words they don’t exist. The whole thing is a dream. It’s a lucid dream, and we’re all asleep. What keeps me going now is looking forward to the final chapters, to the transition we call death. I mean you’re born, there’s a fer tilized egg and now there is this old man, 76 years, and in a few years this guy will have disappeared. The whole thing is a dream, and I want to wake up and help other people understand that waking up is not a bad idea.

Chopra believes that joy should be the measure of success and well-being.

CC: So, do you really want to be 100?

DC: I don’t know. I’m in very good health right now. My biomarkers are normal; I do two hours of yoga. I meditate. I walk 10,000 steps. I love New York City. Yeah, I don’t mind, as long as I’m in this shape.

CC: You buy into the 10,000-step thing. You believe that’s the right metric?

DC: I think 10,000 steps is easy in New York, so I buy into anything that’s easy. I use the subway. I don’t take taxis or Uber or don’t drive anymore. I walk a lot so yeah, I say why not, 10,000 steps along with the meditation, too.

CC: I don’t know that taking the subway in New York is going to correlate well with your wanting to live to 100. How do you explain that there’s so much cynicism in this

anymore. So, what do you do? You just actually accept the insanity, and you accept the idea that the human species was a very interesting evolutionary experiment that just did not work, and maybe then obviously walk to extinction through this insane behavior. Maybe there’ll be another species that will be more empathetic, compassionate, loving, graceful, aesthetic, and creative and loving. The absolute worst use of our imagination is what we’ve done to this world, and yet we have the creativity to send probes into interstellar space.

CC: That’s a fairly dour assessment from a man who’s known for lifting us all up.

DC: If you think it’s revolting and is a joke, then the only sane response to existence is to laugh.

CC: But it’s so hard for people to laugh, especially in

world, so much hardness? Everything around us right now in America is expressed as a negative. Everything is bad. Everything is tribal. What effect does that have on you? Do you accept it on any level? How do you process what’s happening in America?

DC: I process everything with one conviction now, and that conviction is that homo sapiens, the human species, is insane. Period. We are an insane species. What other species would create nuclear weapons, cyber warfare, mechanized jet, extinction of species, climate change, social injustice, racial injustice and irresponsible health, addictive behavior and suicidal thinking? We’re sleepwalking to extinction, and we have gangsters as our national leaders globally. I don’t think there are any exceptions. Some are more gangster-like and some are more polite, but they’re all gangsters. This is an insane world, and if you don’t agree with that, then you’re declaring your insanity, as well. I struggled against this for a long time, trying to identify at least one person in the world who is sane. And eventually I did—there were people like Nelson Mandela, Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr., and that nice lady from New Zealand who has become the prime minister [Jacinda Ardern], but now even she finds it too insane to be prime minister, etcetera. There’s hardly anybody who is sane

America right now. First of all, you’ve got to be careful what you laugh at. Cancel culture is so robust, even though I still believe that it is well intended. People want things to be more fair, more equal. There is an appetite for sweetness as strength, and compassion versus harshness. But maybe I was wrong, or that’s what I would like to be true, but it’s not even true in me, or in anything that I see around me. It just seems that sweetness is weakness these days, and if you’re not against something, and harshly so, you will lose.

DC: On the other hand, what people call morality is just banning hypocrisy. I think morality is just jealousy with a halo. All these people with causes that they come out with—in their own closet, there are skeletons. To be human is to have light and shadow. What’s the big deal?

If reality is infinite, then there is a place for infinite variables in humanity. The sacred and the profane, the divine and the diabolical are all aspects of infinite manifestations of something very mysterious. We don’t know what it is. We take the universe for granted. We take ourselves for granted. I’m actually perpetually surprised that we exist, that we have awareness of existence. Furthermore, we take it for granted. The whole thing is so bizarre that in the end, you have to surrender to mystery. You have to be less judgmental. You have to be loving and empathetic and

forgiving and not morally righteous, because that’s the domain of cunning hypocrites, as far as I’m concerned.

CC: You say that you don’t shelter yourself from things. You process it as the rest of us do. Just the social media magnification of malice, not to be alliterative about it, but our bad tendencies seem to be exponentially on display there. Does it ever make you think, What am I trying to do here? I can’t help. Look what is winning. Look what people want. Look how they want to be. My work is done here. DC: I have only three criteria when I do something. Am I having fun? If I’m not having fun, if I don’t have joy, then I’ve missed my life. If joy is not the measure of well-being or success, then your life is wasted. So, first question: Am I having fun? Second question: Am I hanging out with people who are fun to be with? Otherwise, I’m not going to have fun myself. And the third question is: Am

What happened? We used imagination to ruin ourselves. And this is the most precious quality of our spirit.

CC: So, you think we’re at the peak of our cultural insanity.

DC: Correct.

CC: Does that mean that you believe things get better?

DC: One road leads to sleepwalking to extinction. The other road could be a critical mass of people who want to be the change they wish to see in the world.

CC: What lessons did you draw from the pandemic?

DC: I wrote three books. I saw that climate change was reversible. As soon as we were confined to our cages, people were breathing better in Bengaluru. Fish were returning to dead lakes. You could see the Himalayas

I alleviating suffering? Even minor suffering. It doesn’t matter. If I can say yes to all three, then life is good.

CC: How often are you wasting your time? And don’t say right now.

DC: Right now, I don’t believe in time. I’ve come to a stage where I realize that we are just a little hiccup in this timeless eternity, which has no beginning and no ending. These are human constructs. We’ve been bamboozled by human constructs, like we have a physical body, there’s a physical world, our version of God is the right version of God. We’re constantly trying to prove that we are right, and you mentioned social media. We’ve sacrificed ourselves for our selfies. We don’t even know who we are. The selfie gets all the importance, all the likes, all the dislikes, and then we get hurt because we don’t know who the self is. We’re confusing ourselves with our selfies. People overlook. India is overlooking what’s happening in Ukraine, because they want to buy the oil. China wants to side with Russia because of personal issues with America. Nobody is looking out for anybody else. Everybody is looking out for themselves, and what we call nationalism has gone to the level of extreme tribalism. We have no clarity whatsoever. The worst use of our imagination is what we’ve done to this world, and yet we have an imagination that is creative. We have people like Einstein and Mozart and Shakespeare.

from 500 miles away. Birds were singing, and nature was celebrating: “You humans go back to your cages. We’re resetting ourselves.” But we didn’t learn the lesson. I’ve been going to places like the World Economic Forum and listening to all the experts. They fly on their private planes to talk about decreasing fossil fuels.

CC: How do you keep from being sad?

DC: It’s part of life. Why do you not want to experience life? You wouldn’t know what happiness is if you didn’t have sadness. You can’t have an up without a down, pleasure without pain, and ultimately you can’t have freedom without knowing all these things that actually hamper freedom.

CC: What would you change, if you could change anything in your life?

DC: Take it easy. Life is so short, it goes by like a dream. Wittgenstein said, “Our life is a dream, we are asleep. But once in a while we wake up enough to know that we are dreaming.” The Buddha said, “This lifetime of ours is as transient as autumn clouds. To watch the birth and death of beings is like looking at the movements of a dance. A lifetime is like a flash of lightning in the sky rushing by like a torrent down a steep mountain.” Whenever I’m serious, I see that flash of light and say, “There goes Deepak Chopra.”

“I now spend a lot of my time thinking of my life as a dream. I recall moments of my childhood sitting on my mother’s lap. I can smell her skin, I can hear her singing. Well, it’s a dream. But how about last night? How about this morning? Five minutes ago? The whole thing is a lucid dream, and we’re all asleep.”

PPHP'S HAMPTONS BENEFIT

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EAST HAMPTON, NEW YORK

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WORKOUT WITHIN

Fitness guru Isaac Boots shares motivational messages.

Alexander Pope reportedly said, “The greatest magnifying glasses in the world are a man’s own eyes when they look upon his own person.” I’ve always loved that quote (along with many other things Mr. Pope wrote) because of its profound simplicity. The fact that it was written in the 18th century and still remains relevant today is extraordinary to me. It’s so easy to scroll through Instagram and cast a judgmental or envious eye on the ultrafiltered lives of strangers, colleagues and acquaintances. It’s even easier to react and lash out at the countless “trolls” online who bully, mock or simply disagree with us. But take a moment and reflect; holding a mirror to our own behavior, oftentimes, we will find that the real work starts within.

My workout, Torch’d, which I offer daily on Instagram for my subscribers, is the physical manifestation of that work. Yes, we joke about “dusty asses” and keeping it “right and tight,” but we confront ourselves with no distractions, challenging our bodies to strengthen, tone and transform from the inside out. A dear friend of mine once said, “All you need is the space of your own body.” And she was damn right. I firmly believe in simplicity of movement, thought and expression. The secret is in having

the discipline and wherewithal to show up every day. Not only for our bodies, but ultimately for our minds.

This clearing of self-destructive thoughts through the physical toil of Torch’d is, in my opinion, the most integral benefit. When we feel better, we treat others better. And how we treat others says everything about us. I recently said in one of my Instagram Live broadcasts that the last thing I wanted to do that day was work out. I was traveling from Palm Beach to New York City to Milan in a span of a few days; I was exhausted. But pushing myself to do it, even just for 15 or 20 minutes, changed my whole mindset for the rest of the day. I was suddenly a better listener, teacher and spouse. My husband, Jeffrey, was very thankful for that.

When we clear out the noise and focus on the betterment of ourselves, we can then go into the world a little kinder, a little more patient, a little more aware. And our butts will look that much better, too.

Isaac Boots’ exclusive retreat at Gurney’s Montauk, from June 19-23, features his signature Torch’d fitness classes, a well-rounded schedule of wellness experiences and fireside chats.

Torch’d by Isaac Boots challenges the body to strengthen, tone and transform.

BOUNCING INTO SUMMER

Topping Rose House welcomes The Ness for its summer fitness program.

BY JULIA SZABO

Topping Rose House plus a trampoline sounds like a formula for serious summer fun. And that’s precisely what The Ness— Manhattan’s transcendent, danced-based, movementfocused trampoline fitness method—offers with the launch of its second studio, at Bridgehampton’s Topping Rose House, where last month it became the first brand to be trusted with the luxury hotel’s total fitness programming.

That’s an impressive vote of confidence, for Topping Rose House only works with “the best of the best,” points out general manager Joe Montag. “Access to premium fitness programming is an important amenity to our guests,” he adds. “We have no doubt that having The Ness on-site full time will enhance the hotel experience, and that of the community at large.”

Community is a core value of both Topping Rose House and The Ness. “This new studio is a natural evolution of our brand as we aim to create more opportunities to bounce in person with our community,” says Colette Dong, cofounder of The Ness. “Bringing The Ness to Topping Rose House allows us to immerse the Hamptons community in our beloved trampoline method. Guests come to Topping Rose House to escape and unwind, and we’re excited to add movement to the wellness experience that the hotel already so perfectly provides.”

Unlike The Ness’ Tribeca flagship, the Bridgehampton studio at Topping Rose House is by invitation only—yet it’s the opposite of exclusionary, allowing guests and trainers to co-create a safe, nurturing fitness space where wellness thrives. “Working out can be a vulnerable and overwhelming experience as you start something new, enter a class space, sweat and manage your relationship with your body in front of strangers,” says Aly Giampolo, co-founder of The Ness. “Being invite-only allows us to cultivate a personal community atmosphere that’s difficult, if not impossible, to achieve in a larger crowd of strangers.” Anticipating the new community bonds they’ll forge with Bridgehamptonites and the East End at large, she adds, “We’re thrilled to meet new faces, build relationships and walk alongside guests of Topping Rose House as they navigate their personal fitness journeys.”

The Ness community grows stronger all the time, in fitness as well as numbers. With the guiding principle that movement is joy, the brand’s unique dance-based approach and low-impact, springless trampoline have drawn a clientele from across 85 countries, 1,640 cities, and all 50 U.S. states. Classes take place Wednesday through Monday.

1 Bridgehampton-Sag Harbor Tpke., Bridgehampton, thenessnyc.com, toppingrosehouse.com

The dance-based workout from The Ness adds movement to the Topping Rose wellness experience.

A WINNING FORMULA

Meredith Shumway blends her knowledge of anatomy, HIIT, Pilates and functional training in her new class, exclusively at Project Hamptons. BY JENNA LEBOVITS

Meredith Shumway lived to dance. “My heart, my soul, everything was in ballet— the training, regimen and process,” recalls the Southampton resident. When an injury put an end to her professional life as a ballerina, she pivoted. Shumway transformed her passion for fitness and form into a now-robust career as a trainer, drawing inspiration from her past and understanding of anatomy and injury, an area of study she learned from top teacher Maggie Black. “She took injured ballerinas,” says Shumway, “and brought them back to life.”

Shumway now devotes her life to helping others find their fitness groove. This summer, she debuts an inclusive 60-minute workout created with athletes in mind, which she teaches at Project Hamptons five days a week.

Deeply embedded in the Hamptons fitness scene for the past 15 years, Shumway supports the wellnessminded person who is seeking a high-intensity workout that does not compromise any sensitive areas of the body, such as the knees, lower back, wrists or elbows.

“I wanted to create something that would target the muscles around the joints where people are experiencing major issues,” says Shumway. “A workout

that is geared toward athletes that also relieves pressure and pain from the joints.” She wholeheartedly believes in a holistic, tailored approach. “For people who have major knee issues, the problem is usually underlying in the larger muscle that surrounds the knee—their thighs are probably not strong enough, or their IT (iliotibial) bands are tight.”

Each session, which Shumway calls her personalized take on a group fitness class, commences with a short yet intentional whole-body warmup, and quickly transitions to a series of weighted and floor exercises that stimulate the entire body. Throughout the dynamic workout, Shumway maintains her injury-aware approach, suggesting modifications for those who need them. The class always ends with a stretch, which the instructor feels is “vital” and what many fitness classes lack nowadays.

The workout is inclusive and leaves room for a mix of genders and abilities. “It’s almost a unisex type of workout,” says Shumway. “I want everyone to feel that they are getting something out of it—that it’s not just a generalized ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’ workout—it’s for anyone who desires an effective, high-intensity workout.”

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The Formula is Hamptons native Meredith Shumway’s dynamic workout.

BEST IN CLASS

Three

new fitness studios to explore this season. BY RAY ROGERS

FIERCE GRACE

It’s going to be a steamy one in the Village of East Hampton this summer, as Fierce Grace makes its Hamptons debut, moving into 68 Park Place. Leading the hot yoga revolution, the brand started out in North London 30 years ago, and went on to open three locations in Manhattan, beginning in 2017. “Fierce Grace is an interconnected system that balances body and mind, the purity of yoga with a fresh, modern approach,” says Kelly Isaac, senior Fierce Grace instructor and co-owner of all four of the New York studios. “Our classes are challenging yet accessible.” The various offerings combine 250 poses for a full functional range of movement, all “based on two decades of research and the observation of a quarter of a million bodies.”

68 Park Place, East Hampton; fiercegrace.com

MONTAUK OM

Left Hand Coffee Shop owner Yannis Papagiannis perks up the local yoga community with the just-launched Montauk OM. Occupying the former space of BYoga, the new studio is all about going with the flow, no matter what pace you like: Slow Flow, Power Flow and Ashtanga Inspired Flow are key classes from beloved East End

teachers like Ashley Mcgee, Christine Hoar, Amy Seminski and wellness director Mariah Betts, who says the idea behind the studio is “to offer an all-inclusive space for everybody to come and connect with the natural world.” A block away from the roaring surf, it is perfectly positioned for a post-vinyasa dunk in the waves to cool off. Go on, soak up some actual rays after all of those sun salutations—you earned it.

83 S. Elmwood Ave., No. 1B, Montauk; montaukom.com

NEW YORK PILATES

With locations throughout Manhattan, East Hampton, Southampton and Montauk, the cult-favorite New York Pilates branches out to Bridgehampton this season, with a 3,000-square-foot space housing 24 reformers right in the heart of town. As one satisfied client put it: “Best reformer classes, tightest Pilates asses.” You couldn’t ask for a better pitch than this for the lean, taut and fashionable set who frequent their classes to, in the words of the brand, “sculpt their sexiest selves.” Devotees will be in good hands here, as studio co-founder and co-owner Heather Andersen will be leading several classes this summer.

2426 Montauk Hwy., Bridgehampton; newyorkpilates.com

Fierce Grace brings a fresh, modern approach to hot yoga.

TWO-FOR-ONE FITNESS

Taylor Pearl combines cardio and toning into one superefficient method.

BY ANNE MARIE O’CONNOR

The great thing about cardio is that it can help you lose weight and reduce your risk of heart disease, high blood pressure and stroke. The great thing about Pilates is that it can strengthen muscles and give your body a long, lean look. The not-so-great thing: You usually have to do two different workouts to achieve both.

That conundrum inspired fitness instructor Taylor Pearl to develop a unique program that combines aerobic exercise with Pilates. Dubbed Sweat & Sculpt, it gives you “the toning and strengthening benefits of mat Pilates with a curated cardio circuit, so you also get the benefits of an elevated heart rate,” says Pearl. She focuses on functional strength and alignment, in addition to Pilates. The program also includes some traditional strength training and functional-fitness moves as well as stretching. Voilà—maximum results in minimum time.

The Hamptons-based Pearl was drawn to a career in fitness after years of doing competitive dance in her youth and cross-country distance running in college. After she graduated, “I was a fitness class junkie—I took one a day!” she says. “I experienced so many styles, I

figured out what I liked and what worked. I had some injuries, and taking a variety of classes helped me learn about my body.” In fact, one of her areas of expertise is the development of personalized programs aimed at addressing muscle imbalances, postural misalignments and limitations in range of motion.

Though she mainly teaches clients one-on-one in their homes, often for one to three times a week, she’s also a big draw for bachelorette parties and other special events. “I enjoy the lighthearted moments while teaching bachelorette parties, but there is a distinct feeling of achievement when I can work one-on-one with a client, helping them progress in their fitness journey,” she says. She shares the uplifting tale of a client diagnosed with scoliosis, whose misalignment led to muscle imbalances; these issues, as well as the associated pain, were remarkably reduced after just a few months of dedicated sessions.

For those looking for a group fitness option, Pearl also teaches at Lululemon, SLT and The Baker House 1650 in East Hampton, Align in Amagansett and Shou Sugi Ban House in Water Mill. taylorpearlfitness.com

Hamptons-based Pearl’s program includes stretching and strength training.

AT A GLANCE

Not-to-be-missed art, wellness and culture events in the Hamptons. BY JENNA LEBOVITS

JUNE 3

All Against Abuse Gala Benefit

The Retreat, which provides a safe have n and services for survivors of domestic abuse, hosts its annual in- person gathering in support of domestic violence awareness, fea turing keynote speaker Tijuana Ful ford, executive director and fou nder of The Butterfly Effect Project, a program that supports youth in nee d on the East End by teaching the tool s needed for creating functional and thriving lives. $750. The Church, 48 Madison St., Sag Harbor; allag ainstabuse.org

Making Waves:

Planned Parenthood Hudson

Peconic’s Hamptons Benefit

Join Planned Pa renthood, America’s most trusted name in reproductive healt h care and sex education, for an en gaging cel ebration and recognition of the lasting impact of dip lomat and women’s reproductive rights advocate Robin Chandler Duke. From $175. The Clubhouse, 174 Dan iels Hole Road, East Ha mpton; weareplannedparenthood.org

JUNE 10

Community Day at The Watermill Center

Immerse yourself in a variety of workshops and artistic offerings in this specially curated event at The Watermill Center, a relaxing and intentional space for art, culture and the humanities to coexist, create and inspire as one. watermillcenter.org

JUNE 16

Hamptons International Film Festival

SummerDocs program features a screening of The Eternal Memory

Oscar-nominated director Maite Alberdi’s newest masterpiece is a slow-burn film that tells the story of two lovers, one of whom is living with Alzheimer’s disease. Chilean actress and academic Paulina Urrutia, who stars in the film, will be in attendance; hamptonsfilmfest.org

JUN E 17

Celebrating Unlimited Earth Care’s 30th Anniversary

Sustainable garden and landscape design firm Unlimited Earth Care celebrates 30 years of vibrant, thriving gardens in the Hamptons with a flower-filled gathering of food, music and dance. The Garden Market, 2249 Scuttle Hole Road, Bridgehampton; unlimitedearthcare.com

44th Annual Shelter Island Run/Walk

Each year at Shelter Island Run’s 5K/10K run and walk, the nonprofit organization raises funds for the community’s local causes and charities. From $35 registration for 5K (kids under 14, $15) and $45 for 10K. The race commences at Shelter Island Union Free School District, 33 N. Ferry Road; events.elitefeats.com

JUN E 22

The Heart of the Hamptons Summer Celebration

The American Hear t Association is hosting its annual summer ce lebration. Enjoy live music, a

sil ent auction and a stunning sunset at Wölffer Estate’s vineyard. $500 (in dividual) to $10,000 (for a lounge). The Wine Stand at Wölffer Estate, 3312 Montauk Hwy., Sagaponack; https://event.gives/hamptonshb

JUNE 24

Garden as Art 2023

Feel closer to nature at this benefit eve nt that includes a talk and a selfguided East Hampton tour of four private gardens. Supporters of the event w ith Patron ticket level and above end the night with a cocktail rec eption. Guild Hall, 158 Main St., East Hampton; guildhall.org

Whimsy: A Garden Soiree

Welcome the start of summer wit h a garden party to benefit Sou thampton Arts Center. Listen to swing jazz, sip cocktails and stroll through a sculpture gard en, all the while supporting a vibrant cultural institution. From $350 Southampton Art s Center, 25 Jo bs Lane, Southampton; southamptonartscenter.org

15th Annual Get Wild! Summer Gala

Support the Evelyn Alexander Wil dlife Rescue Center with a spirited evening of food and drinks, a silent auction and live enter tainment. 100% of proceeds will directly benefit the East End’s only wildlife hospital and reha bilitation center and its mission. $30 0. Sagaponack Scul pture Field, Wilkes Lane, Sagaponack; wildliferescuecenter.org

1 Hot tub remedy

PURE PUZZLE

Test your wellness wisdom with Purist’s inaugural crossword.

BY MYLES MELLOR

15 Indian side dish made from yogurt with raw or cooked vegetables

16 Rinsing the mouth with lemon and honey, say

17 Indonesia’s “Isle of the Gods’’

31 African red-orange exotic wood used in fine carpentry

32 Spice mixture used in Levantine cuisine

DOWN

1 One of the yoga disciplines

2 Light application

3 Stumbling block

4 Medical care group, abbr.

5 Monarchs

6 One of the seven pillars of wellness

7 Natural and containing no chemicals or additives

10 Consume

13 Spring month

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14 Wheat beard

16 Where neurotransmitters may originate from

17 Python relative

18 Place to apply gloss

Find the answers at thepuristonline.com.

19 It’s often described as a vortex of energy in yogic tradition

21 Slavishly copy

22 Shopper’s aid

23 Over eight hours of work in a day, abbr.

25 ____wurst: German sausage

26 Energy

27 Environmentally friendly lighting, abbr.

28 Lao-___, founder of Taoism

30 Nitrogen plus oxygen

Myles Mellor is one of the top crossword writers in the world, published in over 1,000 magazines, newspapers and web outlets, supplying theme crosswords, cryptograms, diagramless crosswords, word searches, sudokus, anagrams and word games. themecrosswords.com Subscribe to Myles’ crosswords at ilovecrosswords.com.

A Resort-Like Estate in Amagansett Available for Sale or Rent

Amagansett. The Promised Land, so named by early settlers, defines a part of Amagansett close to ocean beaches, village shopping and pristine bay fronts. And somewhere in between Alec, Gwyneth and Sir Paul, a dramatic 6 bedroom, 10 bath modern joins the area elite for sale or rent. Perched on a knoll, from which the ocean is often heard and its breezes most definitely felt, this recently completed 7,500 +/- sq ft residence offers masterful construction, consummate detail and impressive symmetry on three levels of living space. The journey begins as a double height gallery-like entry welcomes you into a sun dappled environment over richly stained wood floors. Spread out to one side is the great room under white wainscoted ceilings with fireplace, huge flat screen TV, large wet bar and dining area. Turn right, past the powder room into the expansive eatin kitchen, professionally equipped and bolstered by a fireplace, large screen TV, wine refrigerator butler’s pantry all under another wood clad ceiling. An office and a two-car heated garage compete the first floor. Upstairs, the generous fireplaced primary suite with sumptuous bath, walk in closet, terrace and fireplace reigns over 4 additional ensuite bedrooms, plus laundry room and half bath. The open staircase descends to a finished lower level offering screening room, wine cellar, recreational/game area, a fully outfitted gym with full bath, staff suite and another powder room. The tiered 2.44 acre property includes handsome stone walls and colorful landscaping that frame the heated salt-water pool with spa, outdoor kitchen, pool house and a separate unique yoga/exercise pavilion/ artist studio. A full size, all weather tennis/ basketball court and a pair of outdoor showers completes this resort-like property, Additional amenities include full audio/visual package, a Savant controlled 9 zone HVAC system and radiantly heated floors. With proximity to everything that makes the Hamptons a world class destination this recently repriced offering deserves your attention

NUMEROLOGY

A by-the-numbers look at Australian actor and fitness leader Chris Hemsworth, who stars in the action thriller Extraction 2, streaming on Netflix June 16.

200,000,000

Chris Hemsworth was born on August 11, 1983, in Melbourne, Australia, to Craig, a social services counselor, and Leonie, an English teacher.The family later moved to Phillip Island, a region just off Australia’s southern coast.

Hemsworth starred in Limitless, a wellness-focused docuseries that followed him as he pushed physical and mental comfort zones for six episodes.

Hemsworth and his wife, Spanish actress and model Elsa Pataky, have acted in four movies together. They are parents of India Rose, 11, and 9-year-old twins Sasha and Tristan.

6'3"

He stands 6 feet, 3 inches tall, and was rejected by director J.J. Abrams for the role of James Kirk (Star Trek) for being too tall. He went on to play George Kirk.

1,000,000

Hemsworth and his family pledged $1 million to the bushfire appeal in response to large-scale bushfires in New South Wales in 2019 and 2020.

The actor had to wear a 90-pound silicone suit for Avengers: Endgame “It was exhausting,” he says “I had weights on my hands and ankles just to have my arms and legs swing differently when I shuffled along through the set."

6,000

Centr has supported over 6,000 youths, with 30 million active minutes completed by users of the app with its socially conscious Moves That Matter program.

He is the middle child of three brothers (Liam and Luke), all of whom are actors. Chris and Luke appeared together onscreen in both Thor: Love and Thunder and Thor: Ragnarok.

“Health has always been about working out, food and sleep. When you respect each of those three, you can quickly find balance, and from balance you gain structure and a base on which you can succeed.”

The Thor star recently sold his fitness app, Centr, for a reported $200 million to Jeff Bezos’ younger brother, Mark.

Luxuriate in a range of spaciously elegant rooms and state-of-the-art amenities. From the iconic art deco interiors of Falling Rock and breathtaking elegance of The Chateau, to the elevated comforts of The Grand Lodge and private grandeur of The Homes and The Estates, there’s a unique getaway waiting for you at Nemacolin.

All experiences are exclusive to overnight guests and members.