Thinking Aloud Magazine: Apr-Jun 2020

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CONTENTS

Cover Photo: a collection of inspiring stories

Dr. Folasade Hunsu Department of English, Obafemi Awolowo University, Nigeria

Mr. Patrick Edebor Editorial/publishing consultant. Owner, Patrick Edebor and Associates.

Mr. Akin Adejuwon Curator, Institute of Cultural Studies, Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife.

Mr. Rotimi Lawuyi FCA Owner, RAMA Editors.

Dr. Mrs Olayinka Opadiya Senior Pastor, Every Nation Church Sydney Australia.

Mrs. Abimbola Komolafe Founder/Executive Director, Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Rear Admiral (Rtd) Oladeinde Joseph , Chairman, Board of Trustees Pharm. Samson Igbokwe Mrs Roseline Igbokwe Mrs Ronke Osikoya Ms Ketumi Alasa Pastor (Dr) Joshua Opadiya Dr (Mrs) Yinka Opadiya Mrs Abimbola Komolafe Rear Admiral (Rtd) K O Komolafe

Editor Bimbo Komolafe

Publication & Design Benjamin Eze

Project Manager Tomi Olatunde

Project Team Edison Egere

@2020. Thinking Aloud Magazine, a publication of Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Othniel Komolafe Grace Adoja Celestina Osiki

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EDITORIAL

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Dear Readers,

Welcome to the Q2-2020 edition of the Thinking Aloud Magazine published by the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation (RDSF).

One of Mahatma Gandhi’s quotes says “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others”. This is the background to our main features for this edition. We feature an organisation doing impressive charitable work behind the scenes. We share the story of The Elmeela Heritage Support Foundation run by Barrister Jamila Isah Eneika which supports the vulnerable and downtrodden in the society, by providing free legal support for cases of Gender Based Violence (GBV)/ Domestic Violence against women and children. We also feature an interview with Grace Ahudiya Amuzie, a young lady who is the founder of the Isrina Schools in Ajegunle, a school bringing education to residents in that poor surburb in Lagos Nigeria. Both stories are examples of selfless people, serving others and working to lift others up. These are enlightening interviews that will challenge all readers while giving hope that the world can be better when we are kind to one another.

The “RDSF Success Story” shares the testimony of Kelvin Chinonso Nnah, a past beneficiary of RDSF, whose story is an encouragement and inspiration for the sponsors and Trustees of RDSF to keep the vision alive. In his own words, ‘education has the power to transform people and the potential to take them to places they never imagined they could get to…Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation has invested in my life and for this I am eternally grateful’.

The ‘Generation Next’ column features Oreoluwa Macaulay’s article ‘Let’s talk about Mental health’ which is an important subject for this season given the onslaught of Covid-19 on the world. In the same light, our parenting column shares a parent’s experience during the unprecedented lockdown of Covid-19.

Other interesting articles include the Finance Coach Column, which discusses ‘Financial Independence for Today’s woman’ while the Fitness columnist Tumi Akhienedor, a certified Personal Trainer educates readers on ‘Three Key Principles for Fat Loss’.

Have a delightful reading experience and remember to share the magazine with your loved ones.

Send your comments on any of the featured articles to ThinkingAloudPublication@gmail.com.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Bimbo Komolafe Editor connect with us on social media | thinkingaloudmagazine

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Who would have thought the Corona Pandemic would offer a lot of positives and opportunities despite the fear, dread and confusion it created in the minds of many, especially Nigerians? For some prepared and innovative minds, it was just another case of opportunity meeting preparedness. Well, as the Bible says, all things work out for the good of those who love God. I went to the office as normal on March 17, 2020 and while working at home, I received an email, around midnight, from my son’s school. Parents were asked not to bring their children to school in the morning. Later in the morning, I got a similar email from my daughter’s school. I had to leave both of them at home, as I could not take them to work, as I normally would have then when they were out of school. A few days later, the government announced a general lockdown and I was asked to work from home (WFH) by my office. The reality of the situation soon fully set in, we were all stuck at home.

Listening to the news and gathering information from social media, panic set in. Everybody had his or her own idea on how to curb or cure the COVID-19 virus. I was tossed to and fro and carried about with ‘every wind of doctrine’. From gargling with hot salt water to sniffing boiling, steaming water and ingesting loads of turmeric, ginger and garlic. I remember my son conferring on me a PhD from the University of ‘Whatsapp’. I later restricted myself to believing only information from the World Health Organisation (WHO). I prayed and believed in God, but I still had anxiety and/or panic attacks not because I did not have faith but because I am human.

With my first child far away in North America and my husband also away due to the nature of his job, I often wondered when the pandemic will end and how soon I could have my husband and all my children under one roof. My two children who are with me, like many other children old enough to understand the news, also developed mild anxiety or panic attacks that resulted in them having occasional nightmares. I had to assure and reassure the children that this situation too ‘will pass’ and all will be well because God is in control. I also tried to prepare their minds for whatever the future might hold. For example, I told them a student who loses a year due to this pandemic is better than a dead one. When the panic attacks got too real, I spoke to a dear sister and friend who reminded me that the Almighty God rules over the affairs of men and He will protect and preserve His children. This was very comforting and I immediately felt better.

spent more time with my children and got to know them better. Studying the Bible together now became the rule and no more the ‘exception’. I discovered that my teenagers were no more babies; their discussions with me are intelligent ones showing me how much they have evolved. Reluctantly, I have come to accept that my children know much more than I can ever know in certain areas of science, technology and even current affairs. They have earned my respect and I now treat them as responsible young adults. This however has not taken away my right to correct them as and when due. I also heard for the first time in my life how my 13year old once had an obsession for eating polythene bags. To say I was shocked will be putting it mildly. I thank God for His timely intervention.

With the social distancing requirement, non-resident domestic staff is discouraged from working and mine was no exception. With school not in session, I engage my children with house chores making them not only more useful to themselves, but also training them to be more responsible.

With online learning now inevitable, I sometimes watch my children taking online classes. I observed that teachers do really have a lot to put up with as I see students behave inappropriately while having the classes.

One wonders what the teachers go through when the students are physically present in class. I now appreciate teachers more than ever before.

As a parent who sometimes has to resort to buying food from eateries when I am held up in traffic and get home too late or too tired to cook, the lockdown has taught me that we can actually survive without junk food. I have had to order online foodstuff and provisions I need and this is a habit that will remain with me for a long time, as the advantages of this online shopping appear to far outweigh the disadvantages.

All in all, during this trying period, I have grown to love and trust God more as I have had more time to fellowship with him. I have learnt that no matter how busy one is, we just have to create time for the things that are important to us. I have bonded more with my kids and with the inception of online classes and zoom meetings, I have learnt that we can actually achieve much more than we can imagine even without leaving our houses. God did not promise us a storm free journey through life, but that He will be with us through it all and that is exactly what He is doing.

Mrs. Funke Famobiwo writes from Lagos, Nigeria. Together with her husband, they coparent their 3 children between the ages of 13 and 18 years.

Their success in parenting these three kids is rooted in the fact that they use the parenting style appropriate for each child’s character.

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‘An equal world is an enabled world – #EachforEqual

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the world celebrates women today, I add my voice to the campaign for everyone to be treated equally irrespective of gender. This year’s theme is #EachforEqual emphasizing that ‘An equal world is an enabled world’’. This theme chosen by the organisers of the International Women’s Day (IWD) celebration is one that is very apt for the times we are in. #EachforEqual means so many things and women are encouraged to contribute to the theme in different ways to ensure that women are treated equally as men in the workplace, home front and everywhere they find themselves. To me, we move towards ‘an equal world’ when women take intentional steps to achieve financial independence while also growing their wealth.

In this article, I will share some actions required by women towards achieving financial freedom and excellence. It is important that women cultivate these habits to help them become financially independent. This is because a financially independent woman is bolder, more confident and more courageous. With this she can confidently express herself at work and in the home.

When we say financial independence, the focus is not on how much money the woman currently has, rather the focus is on her ability to make good decisions concerning money available to her which will ultimately help grow her wealth. As women get increasingly empowered in the workplace, they are getting to control more money and should be well positioned to manage, preserve and grow their wealth. The basic formula to attain financial independence is universal and should be followed by everyone, men and women alike.

The aim of this article is to ride on the theme for this year’s IWD and call the attention of women to take deliberate actions to ensure their financial independence.

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1. Work with a budget If you want to be successful at effectively managing your finances, you need to work with a ‘budget’. A budget is an estimate of income and expenditure for a specified budget period (e.g. for a month, quarter or year).

Everyone needs a budget; if you are struggling financially, it is a tool that can help you become more organized and ultimately become financially fit. If you are wealthy, it is a necessary tool to ensure you retain and grow your wealth.

Budgeting ensures you plan for all expected funds thereby making the most of your financial resources.

When you budget, all your expected funds will already have an assignment and not remain idle. There is a popular saying that ‘the devil finds work for the idle person’. That devil is also eager to find work for your idle funds.

Preparing your budget also helps you understand your money pattern and thus have better control over your financial circumstances. People who work with budgets find it easier to exercise financial discipline as their decisions are guided by their budgets. Their budget helps them avoid impulsive decisions and prevents them from getting into unplanned debts. Without a budget, you cannot measure performance. With your budget, you can track your spending/saving habit, check compliance and identify areas where you have deviated from your plan.

When you don’t have a budget, you won’t maximize opportunities to save and will likely struggle to deal with surprise expenses. Budgeting also helps relationships thrive better as couples have less friction when family budgets are prepared and applied. Creating a Budget is the best gift all hard working people can give themselves.

It is however important that you WRITE out the budget.

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2. Save and ensure you have funds for emergencies No matter what you earn, put something away as savings.

Start now, no matter how small the amount is. One trick is to pay yourself first by automatically deducting the savings from your pay into a savings account. Everyone is encouraged to save because no one can predict the future. Putting money away as savings is essential if you want to become financially secure. Your savings will provide a safety net in case of emergency. Your savings also become available for investments and come in handy when you want to take advantage of investment opportunities. Once you have a financial plan and work with a budget, you will find it easier to save. People who struggle to save are in the category of those who spend without a plan or budget.

Your financial freedom is incomplete if you have financial discipline while your partner is reckless. Your financial success is assured where you both have the same financial priorities and goals regarding spending and saving.

5. Understand investments. Diversify your investments.

You must invest right if your goal of having financial independence is to be achieved. Ask the right questions when offered an investment opportunity. Make sure you understand all aspects of every investment opportunity.

When unsure, engage a financial advisor. If you need help with taking the right decisions with managing your investment portfolio, be ready to spend some money for expert advice.

Even though such payment may initially deplete your finances, in the long run, you will be better off.

Diversification is very key in creating and growing your wealth. This means spreading your money around and investing in different types of investments. By doing this, you reduce your risks and exposure. This is a good way to protect your money, as it is unlikely that all your investments will perform badly at the same time. There are different classes of investments to choose from but four main areas to consider include shares, property, bonds and cash.

3. Improve your financial literacy If you are to position yourself for good financial decisions, then it is important to get a good education on activities in the financial market. We all cannot be gurus and experts, but we can have basic knowledge that will steer us in the right direction. Subscribe to useful newsletters and set time aside to periodically review these. Watch Government decisions and have your ears close to the financial market. It is very simple to achieve once you take the decision to enlarge your knowledge of financial issues.

4. Have the money talk with your spouse Communication is key when a woman is in a relationship.

It is very important to ‘actually TALK’ and discuss your money matters. This discussion will dispel assumptions on both sides and help you be on the same page with your spouse. Expect that there will be some disagreements when discussing the money plan and during the actual budgeting process. However, any disagreement will pale out in comparison to the future benefits of the plan and budget you build up. Ask your partner direct questions on his sources of income and volunteer yours too.

Is your portfolio properly diversified? Are there assets that can be pooled to earn better yield? Financial excellence requires that you do not put all your eggs in one basket. Spread your investments wisely to spread your risks and take advantage of various sources of income. Be conscious of the fact that you can have variety of options even within an investment option. E.g. Stocks, what mix of shares should you invest in as a player in the capital market? If investing in Property, be sure to consider different locations and different building projects.

6. Look ahead and plan for retirement Retirement will happen for everyone at some point.

Whether you are an employee, or you run your own business, your physical form will restrict you from working so hard in your later years. It doesn’t matter how much you love your work or business! In order to have a comfortable and financially secure retirement, you need to build the financial base that will fund this. It is essential to take financial decisions consciously aware that retirement will eventually happen. Some people have had a lifetime of work with nothing to show for it, irrespective of what they earned.

This is often because of poor financial literacy and bad money decisions taken. When you retire, savings from your active years should fund your living expenses. It is therefore important that from the date you start working, you set some funds aside for your retirement years. Your financial decisions and choices during the years when you earn high income should tend towards saving maximally. | 7 |

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This is so that your savings become investments, which can generate income to finance your lifestyle when you have retired or left a high-paying job. Every woman out there should ask the right questions and be aware of the retirement schemes offered by their employers. Women who run their own businesses are encouraged to investigate available retirement savings scheme and carefully select an option that will help them achieve their retirement goals.

7. Insurance is key Insurance provides financial protection to the insured against unexpected losses from events such as accidents, fire or sudden death. One money mistake every woman should avoid is being careless with insurance. You must shop around for the best ‘insurance offers’ and timely insure your asset for the right value. You should thereafter monitor your insurance premiums to ensure renewals are promptly effected. It is not enough to take out an insurance, you must ensure premiums are promptly paid to avoid periods of exposure.

This is because you lose money when you don’t pay your premiums on time. As a woman, you are also encouraged to protect your family from financial hardship if the unexpected happens. This is important where there are people (immediate or extended family members) who depend on you financially. You may want to consider a life insurance or education policy for your children.

When you take out a life insurance, it means the people who matter most in your life will be protected in the event of any eventuality. In the same vein, an education policy will guaranty the education of the beneficiary.

8. More than anything else, stay healthy Health is the greatest wealth any woman can give herself.

Women must ensure they have a good work-life balance and deliberately take time out to rest. Create time to keep fit and undertake regular medical examinations in order to be knowledgeable about your health status. You lose more when you must take time off work to nurse ill health.

Illnesses are expensive especially if you run your own business. It is better to limit business shut-down period or absences by proactively working to stay healthy. 3 key pieces of advice to meet this target- eat healthy, be physically active and attend to signs of illnesses early.

Many have almost lost their lives by procrastinating to seek medical attention.

Your capability to make money or grow on the job depends on your being healthy and alive!!! If you have been placed on regular medications to manage an ongoing ailment (e.g. diabetes, high blood pressure), ensure you always have enough medication and do not stop these without a doctor’s approval.

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planning. Gone are the days when your wealth was measured by the number of children you have. These days, even the wealthy are very careful about the number of children they have. Reasonable spacing is important for the financial and physical wellbeing of the parents, especially the mother.

CONCLUSION The actions listed above are critical for the woman who desires financial independence. As you feel more financially secure, you become more confident. With this freedom and confidence you can improve other areas of your life, such as the quality of your relationships, and your ability to achieve your full potential in life.

The International Women's Day 2020 campaign theme of #EachforEqual also says ‘an equal world is an enabled

world. Individually, we are all responsible for our own thoughts and actions - all day, every day’. The financial independence of women is a key requirement for us all to be #EachforEqual. A financially empowered woman is better positioned to challenge stereotypes and fight bias.

We must all take necessary action now.

Bimbo Komolafe FCA, FCIB writes from Lagos and is a Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria and a Fellow of the Chartered Institute of Bankers.

For more tips from the Finance Coach, follow her on: Instagram: @financecoachtoday Twitter: @financecoachbk Email: financecoachtoday@gmail.com Website: www.financecoachbk.com Facebook: Finance Coach Money and Wealth | 8 |

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ental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act each day. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices.

Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood so let us talk about it.

The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) has a mantra, 'No health without mental health.’ However, due to the stigma that often surrounds mental health, millions of people worldwide do not receive the help they need and often overlook this extremely prevalent health issue.

Our overall mental health is as important as our physical health. While we try to keep our bodies fit and healthy, it is also necessary to keep our minds fit and strong too. However, most of us have no idea how to keep our mental health in tiptop shape, and how to understand those who are experiencing mental health concerns.

Almost half of the young generation across the globe are experiencing mental health problems. Most of them are experiencing different forms of depression and anxiety caused by peer pressure, family concerns, and poor self-esteem. Also, those who are experiencing these resort to a lot of dangerous activities that could lead to serious complications. It is however sad to know that others dismiss this concern as plain ‘drama’ or just move on with their lives without paying proper attention to the dangers of mental illness.

Many organizations, companies, and industries in society are now uniting themselves towards mental health awareness. Fashion companies are making custom T-shirts with encouraging words or phrases.

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corners for their employees who could possibly experience mental health problems. Non-government organizations are reaching out to families who may have a troubled setup that may have been affecting the mental health of their children.

All of these are positive attributes that could help spread mental health awareness and end the stigma that anxiety, depression, and other mental health concerns are just mere drama or nothing of consequences. It is important to keep our minds, as well as everyone else’s mental wellness, an important aspect of our health in order to maintain a healthy and balanced life.

Like physical illnesses, mental illnesses can be treated and cured too so let us end the stigma and let’s talk about it. Awareness and enlightenment will always be a better tool than silence and ignorance.

Why is emotional health important?

Mental health is integral to living a healthy, balanced life. According to the National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI), one in five Americans experience mental health issues which translates to more than 40 million adults a year. Having a good mental health helps you lead a relatively happy and healthy life. It helps you demonstrate resilience and the ability to cope in the face of life’s adversities.

Emotional and mental health is important because it’s a vital part of your life and impacts your thoughts, behaviours and emotions. Being healthy emotionally can promote productivity and effectiveness in activities like work, school or caregiving.

It plays an important part in the health of your relationships, and allows you to adapt to changes in your life properly. We should pay greater attention to all areas of our health – oral, physical, mental and spiritual in equal proportions to achieve a balanced overall health. | 9 |

How can you improve your emotional health day-today?

There are steps you can take to improve your mental health every day. Small things like exercising, eating balanced and healthy meals, opening up to other people in your life, doing a good/kind act, helping someone out, laughing, dancing, keeping a positive attitude, taking a break when you need to, socializing, remembering something you are grateful for and getting a good night’s sleep, can be helpful in boosting your emotional health.

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Learn more about mental health — there are many resources you can turn to for learning more about emotional health. Some examples include Psychology Today and National Institute of Mental Health, Talk to a professional — if you feel like your emotional health is starting to deteriorate, it may be time to reach out for extra support. It is not a taboo to see a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist or any other professional who can help. Just as you would easily ask a dentist for help if faced with an oral health issue, you should also find asking a mental health professional for help straightforward.

In conclusion, just as physical fitness helps our bodies to stay strong, mental fitness helps us to achieve and sustain a state of good mental health. When we are mentally healthy, we enjoy our life and environment, and the people in it. We can be creative, learn, try new things, and take risks. We are better able to cope with difficult times in our personal and professional lives.

We feel the sadness and anger that can come with the death of a loved one, a job loss or relationship problems and other difficult events, but in time, we are able to get on with and enjoy our lives once again.

Nurturing our mental health can also help us combat or prevent the mental health problems that are sometimes associated with a chronic physical illness.

In some cases, it can prevent the onset or relapse of a physical or mental illness. Managing stress well, for instance, can have a positive impact on heart disease. I hope you are encouraged to take better care of your mental health.

When is a good time to reach out for help?

Issues related to mental health can impact different people in different ways. Your mental health can be influenced by a variety of factors, including life events or even your genetics. If you start to see changes in your overall happiness and relationships, there are always ways to get the support you need. Here are some ways you can get help: •

Connect with other individuals, friends and family — reaching out and opening up to other people in your life can help provide emotional support. This requires transparency, honesty and vulnerability with people you feel safe with and loved by. Your singular act of opening up might provide you with perspective and a strong community to help you on the journey to wellness.

Oreoluwa C. Macaulay is a graduate of the University of Birmingham. She is a legal professional, writer, performance artist and storyteller. She is also a content and creative freelance developer, contributor and editor. With writing experience spanning ten years, Oreoluwa covers through her body of work, various aspects of life such as religion, friendship, loss, identity, love, rape and family to name a few.

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is expected, there has been grumblings in every language under the sun. A lot of it.

Folks are fed up.

We miss gatherings, being out and about, maybe even the madness of rush hour, sandwiched in trains and buses. We miss the busyness of life, the hustle and flow, the loudness of activities. We crave movement beyond the walls of our homes, dressing up, with some place to be. I miss brunching, and boy do I miss hugs.

We feel imprisoned. Stifled. Hard pressed. But even in this valley, there is much to be thankful for.

For one, can we be thankful for the roof over our heads, and the quarantine snacks we are munching on?

Can we be thankful for health, considering the many lives that have been lost? Shall we take a moment to gloat about the good that is being done in the world; the (extra) ordinary people that have chosen to wear makeshift capes, and be a help in their communities.

Those on the frontline of this battle, coming face to face with the debilitating effects of this invisible enemy. Can we also talk about how gloriously the church – the body of Christ – is shining, being an army of one, uniting in prayer, and giving from the abundance of hearts set on Him; moving billboards of compassion, and empathy, but also of faith. Loving on all, walking as Jesus walked.

I am thankful that I serve a God who is both honest and kind. He warned us that there will be trials and tribulations in the world, uncharted territories by way of challenges that will stretch us beyond what we thought possible. But He doesn’t just leave us there, hanging with no hope. His final word is the full stop, be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world . It is not a matter of if God upholds His promises; it’s a matter of if we believe.

During service this past Sunday my pastor, Jeremy Foster said this, check the news, but watch the word…

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a tiny place for those voices, knowledge is good. But they should never be the pulse. With this in mind, I am quick to humble myself before God daily, seeking his face first, and gosh do I just love that millions around the world have taken on this same posture. So maybe isolation, albeit under duress for some, isn’t such a bad thing because therein lies the opportunity for quietness.

It’s so crazy isn’t it? I don’t think anyone ever thought in their lifetime that they would see the world buckle to its knees. But here we are. A rattling reminder that all this is in fact temporary. The Bible says, only His word has no expiration date |Mat. 24:35|.

This virus has busted many bubbles, but the truth is stranger things will happen…

Are you armoured?

Here is a song that’s been on repeat — Confident by Steffany Gretzinger. xoxo

Michelle Ohonsi is a Christian blogger. A hobby birthed in the desert storm of life that quickly became more. She is in daily pursuit of God, with pitstops for anything food-related. Yes, she takes pride in being the uncontested champion of the foodie club. But that aside, she invites you to journey alongside her in nurturing intimacy with the Heavenly Father. Follow her blog, WateredSeed on Wordpress and Instagram.

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1. Thank you for accepting to share your story with our readers. Could you please tell us about yourself, your background, education and family?

My name is Jamila Isah Eneika, legal practitioner based in Abuja. I am an indigene of Adavi Local Government, in Kogi State, Nigeria. Jamila Isah is the sixth child of a polygamous family of twelve children.

I am currently a PhD student in Leadership and strategic studies with the Nigeria Defence Academy, Kaduna. I hold a Master of Law (LLM) degree from the Ahmadu Bello University Zaria and a first Degree in Law (LLB) from the Usman Dan Fodio University Sokoto. I also attended the Lagos state university (LASU) where I obtained a certificate degree in Marketing Management.

I am a visiting lecturer with the Nigeria Defence Academy, lecturing the Masters’ Students in Labour and Company Law. I am a single mother of one.

2. When and why did you start the foundation?

Elmeela Heritage support foundation (ELMHSF) was founded in the year 2000 as a non-profit, nonpartisan and nonreligious organization.

The foundation is focused on issues around women and children, providing psycho-social care, girl child education, support the needy and vulnerable in all ramifications, and providing pro bono support for cases of Gender Based Violence (GBV)/ Domestic Violence against women and children.

In 2015, the Foundation gained her legal status and was registered with the Corporate Affairs Commission (CAC). Elmeela Heritage Support foundation, is also registered with various humanitarian organizations at National and international levels.

ELMHSF is a member of the Civil Society Action Coalition on Education For ALL. Elmeela Heritage Support Foundation was born out of the passion I have for supporting the marginalized, the vulnerable and the downtrodden in the society. The foundation exists to provide succour and support for persons and individuals who are facing one form of discrimination, intimidation, or injustice.

3. What major milestones has the foundation achieved since inception?

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the girl child, the right to education and health talks (through the Women Across Community (WACHAC) project).

For over ten years, the foundation has been using the international day of African Child and other international and national observances to reach out to the public through symposia, visitations and media (Social and Traditional media).

Back to School Project: As a foundation, the back to school project has supported twenty families and over fifty children directly. The project provided parents with conditional grants to support the education of their children. We also provide scholarships to children and ensure we monitor their school attendance.

Women and Children Across Communities (WACHAC): This project was initiated in 2016 and since then has reached out to over fifteen communities in Abuja, Kaduna, Niger, Kogi and Nasarawa states. The major milestone of this project is the series of community sensitizations on health and education of women, youths, and especially the girl child.

Pro bono Services: Given my background as a lawyer, the foundation in collaboration with my law firm provides pro bono services for victims of GBV (Gender Based Violence), especially for the marginalized. Presently, we are involved in the

“The Foundation has given a lot of humanitarian support to victims of child molestation, rape and defilement from Abuja, Kaduna, Niger, Nasarawa, Benue and Kogi states.”

recent case of late Elizabeth Ochanya from Benue state. She was a 13 year old girl who was a victim of serial rape. She was sodomized to death by a 60year-old stepfather and his 27-year-old son (a Final year student at the Federal University of Agriculture in Benue state).

The Foundation has given a lot of humanitarian support to victims of child molestation, rape and defilement from Abuja, Kaduna, Niger, Nasarawa, Benue and Kogi states. These are all pro bono cases, which are in the courts.

We are supporting divorced women fighting for custody, guardianship and maintenance of their children. We offer support ranging from payment of school fees, provision of food, clothing etc. | 14 |

4. How were you able to get individuals who share your passion and the vision you have for the foundation on board?

Getting individuals to support this passion was not an easy task; we understand that most people do not put their money into ventures without expected monetary returns. As a team, we have worked and rallied round friends and close associates who share the same passion and visions with us.

The bulk of our support comes from very close friends and relatives, providing financial and moral support. In most cases, I look out for persons who share same values and ideas with me, and then I introduce the foundation. Honestly, getting support from people has not been easy, but we thank God

for the support we get from some individuals who share my passion. They encouraged me to go ahead and register the foundation and have supported me till date. They have been very supportive.

5. What values guide the running of the foundation?

The foundation is guided by the following values

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Service to humanity Equity and Justice Integrity

These values have guided me through this journey.

Everything we do at Elmeela is guided by these values. Wherever you see us, this is what we stand for and preach always.

6. What kind of impact do you want the foundation to have in the years to come?

We hope to have in our own way reduced the incidence of child molestation/defilement as well as getting ‘out of school’ children back to school.

7.Elmeela Heritage Support Foundation focuses more on children and children’s rights, what is the motivation/driving force behind this?

Growing up as a child from a polygamous home was not very rosy. There was very little support in terms of education especially after my primary school. I practically struggled through school as a young girl. The support was not really coming as I wanted, more of educational attention was on the boys and they were encouraged more. Having grown

up, within my environment especially, I see intelligent children, beautiful, handsome and sharp, with very little or no support to achieve their dreams. The wake of the Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs) further increased our motivation.

Looking at the goals 1, 3,4, 5, 10 and 16, we are motivated by these goals and the need to contribute to the global initiative.

Apart from the foundation focusing on women/ children’s rights, we are motivated by passion and the injustice in our land against children. This injustice is the height of evil I have ever seen in my life. This drives me to give a helping hand to the innocent souls, and my experience as a practicing lawyer gives me the drive to keep prosecuting any child defiler before the courts. | 15 |

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8. Can you share one or two stories of individuals whose lives have been changed because of your Foundation?

There are many individuals whose lives have been touched. Some examples include: 1. We assisted a divorced mother whose ex-husband refused to pay the fees and cater for the well being of his children. With the help of Elmeela we got judgement in favour of the children and the man was made to pay the fees and provide resources to feed the children.

2. Another case of a man who raped his daughter to death. He was charged to court and sentenced to prison. Additionally, his wife got our assistance to start up a business.

passion and drive, we continue to keep the ball rolling till God provides more sponsors.

11. When you are not fighting for the rights of children and women, what other activities are you involved in?

I attend to my family, which is a priority for me. As a Practicing Lawyer, I work in the court. I also take part-time classes as a lecturer in NDA Post Graduate school.

12. How do you balance your personal life with the foundation and other activities?

Hmmmmm, though my passion for serving humanity and the foundation is close to my heart, I pay close attention to my health and my relationship with my siblings. I try as much as possible to draw the limits and boundaries around giving balanced attention to the foundation and my health.

13. In what ways can the government support the foundation’s cause?

Very simple, and this government can do this without much stress. Policy implementation, enforce the relevant laws, provide the enabling environment for redress.

Under the SDG partnership, collaboration is key and Elmeela is already in partnership with relevant agencies like Human Rights Commission, Women’s Affairs, Police Gender Department, NCWS SDC F.C.T Abuja, Budgets and Planning, etc. As we partner with one another, it makes things easier and we can achieve more success all the way. If the government can support our efforts financially, we will be able to reach out to more children and women, making the country a better place for all.

3. There is another case of a man who turned his daughter to his wife/girlfriend. Defiling her by sexually abusing her.

9. Tell us about a particular project you consider a significant accomplishment of the Foundation?

WACHAC (Women and Children Across Community). So far, the project has been our most celebrated accomplishment in the past two years within our capacity and resources.

10. Can you highlight a major challenge Elmeela has faced or is still facing?

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14. How can individuals support the Foundation?

Individuals have been one of the supporting channels through which the foundation has carried out different activities and projects. Interested individuals can support the foundation through donations or group dues, either monthly or yearly.

See our website for more information.

15. What do you see the Foundation achieving in the future?

Reaching every community with the message of Social Justice. A world-class foundation that will touch lives like other foundations, providing the needed support for families, communities and nationals.

I hope to see people appreciating the foundation as one that saves lives. I also hope to see the foundation being recognized globally.

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1. Can you tell us a bit about your background – family, childhood, education etc?

My name is Amuzie Ahudiya Grace, a final year student of Crawford University Igbesa, Ogun state, Nigeria. I am studying Economics. My education throughout secondary school and university was funded by a kind sponsor. I was born and bred in Ajegunle, Lagos, Nigeria. I am the second child of two girls born by Mr. Israel and Mrs. Angelina Amuzie. I am an educator, aspiring chef (Grace’s Kitchen) and a lover of entrepreneurship and innovations. Growing up in Ajegunle was a challenge, I am glad my experiences turned from worse to good.

2. What was the inspiration behind setting up Isrina Schools in Ajegunle?

During my school breaks, I usually gather children on the street to teach them instead of allowing them play all day. I was fifteen at that time. This continued for a while and parents’ remarkable comments about the changes in their children gave birth to Isrina Schools. I grew up in a hostile environment where education is a luxury that most parents cannot afford.

To cater for the educational needs of these children, I worked alongside my sister to ensure that every child is given the opportunity to access basic quality education. I have an affection for children and having been given the opportunity to attend school, there is no better way to help my community and also to repay the kind gesture of my sponsor.

3. When did you officially start Isrina? How many students did you start with?

Isrina schools started in 2016 with four children and now we have over 100 pupils in attendance from daycare to primary.

4. What was your initial plan to fund the school and how has that changed over time?

We relied on funds from family members, friends and other individuals. The initial school fees collected from parents was Three thousand Naira and went to a fixed fee of Five Thousand Naira in 2019. My sister founded an initiative -

“Isrina schools started in 2016 with four children and now we have over 100 pupils in attendance from daycare to primary.

“b2schproject” to support the school through provision of school supplies and payment of school fees in 2018. From 2018 to date, private individuals and several organizations have supported the school through provision of writing materials, payment of schools fees, school makeover and so on. We adopted the ‘Recycles Pay project of African Cleanup Initiative’ to enable parents pay for their children school fees using recyclables. These individuals and organizations have been actively involved in the daily operation of the school.

5. The school has grown over the years with over 109 students. This is an amazing achievement and the impact you have on these children’s lives is unquantifiable in our opinion. What do you think your greatest achievement has been so far?

I am overwhelmed by the progress of the children every day. We had our first set of graduates in 2019. These children are happy to have been in school to learn and have a better life for themselves.

The school is waxing strong day by day, four years and counting and we hope to reach out to more children within the community to attain basic quality education.

6. Can you highlight some of the challenges you have faced and how you have been able to deal with them or how you are still dealing with them.

Before we moved to the ‘annex’, the school space was not convenient for the children. This made us limit the number of children we admitted each academic session. Necessary facilities such as laptops, a bigger space, more teachers etc. to improve learning outcomes are a challenge. We now have more children than the facility can cater for.

Through a ‘Teach for Nigeria Fellow’, our Teachers’ training is done three times in a term to improve learning outcomes. With sponsorships and collaboration we have been able to scale through to this point.

7. Please tell us about the recycling scheme that helps pay for the fees of some of your students. Can you also tell us about your sister Rose who initiated the scheme?

The recycling scheme is a project (RecyclesPay) of African Cleanup Initiative to let parents pay their child’s fees using plastics. Rose was contacted by the founder – Mr. Alex to introduce the project to the school in June 2019. A meeting was held with the parents few days later and they were elated about the project.

The first pickup was in June 2019 and subsequent visits have been mind-blowing. Over 40 parents have benefitted from this project and still counting.

Parents no longer have to worry about their children’s fees or funds for their educational needs.

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8. What role does your sister Rose play in the day-to -day running of the school?

She is actually doing a lot for the school and I appreciate her effort. First, she teaches in the school and introduced game based learning into the classroom for improved learning outcomes. She encourages maximum performance and dedication to work through teacher training within and outside the school.

She’s also the school’s photographer (laughs) and manages the Instagram page of the school. She promotes the school on all social media platforms fostering collaboration for educational opportunities 9. How did your family react initially to you wanting to set up a school and how has their support been over the years?

My family loved the fact that I was teaching kids from the very beginning and they never tried to discourage me. ISRINA was coined from my parents name ISRAEL AND ANGELINA to thank them for their support over the years.

My dad is a RecyclesPay Ambassador – he goes out to the streets every day to pick plastics to support more children in the school.

Since the adoption of the RecyclesPay, he has supported more than 10 children in the school using the plastics. My Mum does the day to day operations of the school even while we were in the university. I cannot thank them enough for their support over the years.

10. What is the bigger picture for the school? How do you see the school years down the line and how much impact do you want it to have?

A conducive learning environment for these children with up-to-date learning facilities as well as improved learning outcomes. Also, to extend beyond the basic education and provide support to students in secondary school. We believe in the next five years to come, basic quality education will be given to more than 5,000 children in Ajegunle.

With collaboration from parents and other key stakeholders, basic quality education is attainable for the Nigerian child.

11. Can you talk to us about some of the pupils who have either graduated and moved on to higher education or are still in Isrina and are performing exceptionally well? A particular student who stands out to you.

Our pioneer pupils are still with us,. Some are in junior secondary school within the community, such as Ekereke Miracle, Ejemeli Ebube, and Nduka Daniel - all doing exceptionally well in school and it gives me joy to see these kids call my name each time they see me around. Miracle Ekereke was sponsored by a kind woman from primary four and graduated top of her class in 2019. Nduka Daniel was sponsored for his Common Entrance examination fees as his parents could not afford it.

Nduka Mercy is a primary four pupil and exceptionally brilliant. She deserves support and encouragement to go further after her primary education. Her drive to teach children within her area is amazing.

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in her spare time at home and I am so proud of her –a younger version of me. I can go on talking about her for an hour and won’t get bored. Oluchukwu Okoro is also a fine artist and has represented the school in a spelling completion where we came second. He is in Basic five. Mr. Goodluck Ekere took a special interest in him and supported his primary education and had a fundraising for his common entrance fees.

12. Have you had any sponsors or partnerships that have been vital on this Journey?

We have had sponsors and partnerships which are vital in every step we take. To mention a few: Mrs. Angela Emuwa, Green Olive Foundation, Anthos House, b2schproject, African Cleanup Initiative, Neo Foundation and Late Mrs. Yetunde Oghomienor.

14. What areas do you think the government should work on to make education accessible to all?

First of all, priority should be given to the education sector. Government must ensure the provision of educational opportunities to every child irrespective of socio-economic background.

There should be sufficient investment in the training of teachers. They are the foundation upon which every child stands. They should treat them with importance and respect.

Every school must be funded to meet up with the demands of the children as these resources are not evenly distributed.

The government should invest more in low-cost schools as they cater to the educational needs of millions of school children across the nation.

15. Given the uncertain times due to the COVID-19 pandemic, what are your plans for the school moving forward? How do you intend to keep your students safe and learning regardless of social distancing? Do you have any contingency plans in place?

The School doors are shut does not mean our children will stop learning. With precautionary measures in place, we started home lessons with the children.

13. What do you think the school needs and how can individuals/organizations support?

Currently, the school is on a rented facility and it limits some activities we intend to do such as inter house sports, use of some learning materials and so on. We seek a larger school building to accommodate more children within the community.

Technological learning tools for digital intelligence and connect our kids to the digital world. Recently, we found a land space in Ajegunle and total cost including renovations is 20million naira. Corporate bodies, NGOs, and donations from individuals can make it possible so we can support more children in attaining basic quality education and beyond.

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Three hours each day with the children and selected teachers. We hope this pandemic will soon be over so we can continue lessons. We also engaged some of the children in art works such as using bottle covers to make SDGs two to four.

We are working on a project to provide digital literacy skills and laptops to the children so lessons can continue from the comfort of their homes. If schools are to resume in September, we have outlined measures to keep the children safe while they learn.

To support and find out more information about Isrina School in Ajegunle, kindly contact Instagram page - @Isrinaschools Email - Isrinaschools@gmail.com Phone #- 07035518821 | 20 |

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RDSF PROGRESS & UPDATES

The

Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation’s mission is to engage in charity activities which enhance the social and economic wellbeing of the less privileged through education support, mentoring and skills acquisition.

Update on the 2020 Scholarship Application This year, we received a total of 101 applications from students across the country and these requests were reviewed on a case-by-case basis and overall, the quality of candidates was high. All applications were screened by the Foundation using the specified eligibility criteria (please see the website).

Aside from the successful applicants who will be joining our existing beneficiaries, we have supported a total of forty-two (42) students this year.

RDSF Soft Skills Webinar Research has revealed that lack of skills, either soft or hard, has contributed to national unemployment and underemployment which has directly or indirectly led to increased poverty, conflicts, emotional stress, etc. Over the years, measures in curbing this problem have led to different youth empowerment policies.

In 2016, the British Council concluded a three-year research on graduate employability in Sub-Sahara Africa with Nigeria as one of four case studies.

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one of the three pathways to improve the quality of graduate employability in Nigeria.

As an NGO, we have over the years sponsored and mentored indigent students and have realized that many tertiary students lack basic ICT and softs kills relevant for entrepreneurial and workplace success. It is for this reason that we have in the past organized and sponsored ICT and soft skills training sessions targeted at career development.

These programmes usually hold on campuses with the last two held at the University of Benin and Federal University of Technology Owerri.

Going by the successes and positive impact recorded at past soft skills programmes, the Foundation planned to organize similar Skill up sessions this year. Owing to the need for social distancing as a result of the COVID 19 pandemic, the Foundation decided to switch its regional skills acquisition programs to webinars.

On the 15th of May, the Foundation held it first webinar targeted at young adults and its existing beneficiaries. The training was titled personal innovation- creating a sense of urgency. The speaker Mr. Abraham Oni is the Principal Consultant of Hebroux Consulting Consortium, UK. He is a functional and management consultant with over 20years experience in translating strategy and complex ideas into measurable outcomes. A strong leader with well-developed communication skills at all levels. Past beneficiaries were instrumental in planning the event as some of them offered their skills in designing flyers and advertising the program on social media. | 22 |

Value of the Webinar to Participants The speaker used a topnotch practical approach in teaching his audience and the Q&A session was very interactive and impactful. Participants learnt how to: • • • • • •

Build personal framework Deal with status quo syndrome Creatively find ways of solving new problems or more efficient way of solving old problems.

Articulate vision and keep momentum Create and choose attitudes for change Build a sustainable system

Based on the feedback received from participants and related comments on our social media handles, we are encouraged to organize future webinar sessions and improve on the delivery to ensure participants benefit maximally.

Kindly note that our webinars can be watched online on our Facebook page or on our YouTube channel at Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation. We would like to encourage you to subscribe to our YouTube channel to get notified when related content is uploaded.

Visit our website www.rehobothdreamsolidfoundation.org for more information on upcoming webinars/trainings

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mr abraham ayodele oni

RDSF Statement of Appreciation

The

Trustees of RDSF appreciate Mr Abraham Oni, who has been a volunteer and partner to RDSF giving his time and skills. He created and edited RDSF video clips presented during the previous annual lectures and has contributed towards the earlier design stages for the TA magazine. Recently he offered his skills by speaking pro-bono at the 1st ever RDSF webinar. His presentation was titled ‘Personal Innovationcreating a sense of urgency’.

Brief Bio A versatile Functional and Management Consultant. He has over 20 years’ experience across multiple domains. A Strategist, Product Owner, Digitalpreneur and Keynote Speaker.

Abraham Oni has significant experience in Transformational Change Management, Business Architecture, Strategy Formulation & Implementation, Innovation Management, Value Chain & Capacity Modelling, Process Reengineering, Workshop Facilitation & Training, Design Thinking, Business Intelligence, AI & Analytics, Service Improvement, Service & Product Design, System Optimisation & Integration, Organisational Design & Modelling.

His experience spans across the Financial services, Public Sector, Oil & Gas, Real Estate, Logistics & Health Sector with a background in Information Technology, Product Design, Accounting, Finance and Media Production.

He is currently working on a new book Innovating Chaos: Key to self-improvement and organisation shift.

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We appreciate every support over the years and your continued support and commitment that has made it possible for us to continue to provide succor to the less privileged in our society. We pray that God will bless you and grant you success in all your endeavors.

Donations: You can make your donations online at: https://www.rehobothdreamsolidfoundation.org/donations

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the rehoboth dream solid foundation board of trustees Rear Admiral Oladeinde (‘Deinde) Olusoga Joseph was born at Ara-Moko, Ekiti State into the humble family of late Mr. Joseph Owolabi and late Mrs. Ajibabi Owolabi on the 9th of May 1948.

He enlisted into the Nigerian Navy in July 1967 and later graduated from the Nigerian Defence Academy Kaduna and was commissioned as a Sub -Lieutenant in July 1971 in India. He received professional training as a naval officer in India, United Kingdom and the United States of America. Rear Admiral Joseph is a graduate of the Nigeria Command and Staff College Jaji and the prestigious National Institute for Policy and Strategic Studies Kuru.

As a professional naval officer, he went through all the ranks in the Navy until he was promoted to the full Rear Admiral rank in 1998. While in the Navy, he had 4 sea commands, which included that of NNS Aradu (the Navy’s flag ship), 2 Training bases and 2 Operational bases. He had 2 tours at Jaji Staff College as Chief Instructor and Director of the Naval Faculty. He was also the Military Governor of Ogun State between 1990 and 1992. His last job was Chief of Navy Personnel at Naval Headquarters until he retired in June 1999.

Married to Mrs. Katherine Lolade Joseph since April 1975, Rear Admiral ‘Deinde Joseph is blessed with 3 children; Toyin (now Mrs. Borisade), and the boys Seyi and Jide, all University graduates. His hobbies are photography, reading and he is a handicap 9 golfer. A practicing Christian of Methodist Church of the Trinity, Tinubu since 1967, he has a passion to help the less privileged in the society.

Rear Admiral Joseph is a recipient of the National Honour of the Commander of the Order Of the Niger (CON), and brings his experience and goodwill to the Foundation as the Chairman, Board of Trustees of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Ms. Ketumi Alasa was born on 12th February 1956 and hails from the Etsako West Local Government Area of Edo State. She had her tertiary education (HND Computer Science) from the Sheffield City Polytechnic, England. Her work life commenced with her NYSC, during which she served with The Shell Petroleum Development Company of Nigeria Ltd. in Lagos between 1979 and 1980.

Thereafter, she worked for Royal Exchange Assurance as a Computer Programmer from 1980 to 1981. She was also employed by Delta Steel Company Aladja as a Computer Programmer/ Analyst developing and maintaining computer applications from 1981-1984.

In 1984, she was employed by The Shell Petroleum Development Company of Nigeria Ltd as a Computer Programmer Analyst in the Information Technology department. She worked with Shell until 2008 when she retired after a successful and rewarding career.

Since retirement, with her strong entrepreneurial skills, she has been running a business of furniture, household and home decorative items. She has 5 kids, 4 of whom have successfully completed their university education. In her leisure time, she enjoys gospel music and playing golf, for which she has won numerous awards.

She is a devoted Christian with a deep passion for missionaries and their families. She loves to extend help and support to the less privileged. Ms. Ketumi Alasa is a Trustee of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

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Deacon Samson Madu Igbokwe is a 1983 B.Pharm Graduate of Pharmacy from the former University of Ife (Unife), now known as Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU). In addition, he gained a Masters in Business Administration Degree (MBA) from the University of Lagos (Unilag) in 2000. He also acquired a Certificate of Proficiency in Information Systems Management (CPISM).

Shortly after his Youth Service Corp at Military Hospital Lagos, he set up his own pharmacy business at S.W. Ikoyi, Lagos in 1985 which he has been running as Chairman/Managing Director till date. This is a company that supplies and distributes pharmaceuticals to its community and hospitals in Lagos State.

A devout and practicing Christian, he gave his life to Christ on March 31, 1991 in The Redeemed Evangelical Mission (TREM), Akoka. Since then, he has served in various capacities in TREM as House Fellowship Centre Leader, Zonal Leader, Assistant Area Co -coordinator and Financial Secretary/ Treasurer of Caleb Group of the Christian Men Fellowship.

He is currently serving as the Chairman Hospital Visitation Ministry in TREM. He is a member of Pharmaceutical Society of Nigeria (PSN) and a Treasurer at Ikoyi Pharmacy Community Zone. He has passion for contributing to his community, and often assists in reaching out to orphans, the fatherless and widows in the community.

Periodically, he visits in a group and prays for the sick in hospitals in Lagos, ministering to their spiritual, physical and material needs. He is happily married to his amiable wife Mrs. Roseline Igbokwe and they have 5 children. Deacon Samson Igbokwe is a Trustee of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Deaconess Roseline Igbokwe was born on November 2, 1965 in Ikoyi, Lagos, and is married to Pharmacist Samson M. Igbokwe.

She is an alumna of Sikkim Manipal University (SMU), Gangtok, India and the University of Lagos (UNILAG); Bsc. in Applied Information Technology, Business Administration and Masters in Business Administration(MBA) from the same institution.

She holds a Certificate of Proficiency in Information Systems Management (CPISM), Advanced Diploma in Systems Engineering (ADSE), Certificate in Strategies for Managing and Collecting Data (LBS) and Certificate in Core Sales Skills (LCT). She worked with Texaco Nigeria Plc as well as Chevron Oil Nigeria Plc as Food Mart Supervisor, Senior Retail Business Consultant, South, and then MRS Oil Nigeria Plc as District Sales Manager, Southwest Nigeria, Credit Control Manager for Nigeria, Aviation Commercial, Retail Sales Manager for Southeast/Southwest Nigeria and Head, Sales & Marketing. Nigeria.

A hard worker with enthusiasm for excellence, in 2006 she won the ‘African Pakistan Global Downstream 2006 Cultural Award, of Customer Facing and Market Focused ’ in Chevron, having executed superior and consistent execution and sales implementation of all programs, processes and systems.

She had focused the department’s organization around achieving the best business financial targets through an agreed set of Profit & Loss control measures in all MRS Oil Nigeria Plc service stations in Nigeria.

She is an ordained minister with The Redeemed Evangelical Mission (TREM): and at various times has held the following positions: Assistant Secretary, Young Women Fellowship; Assistant Secretary, Christian Women Fellowship and Chairman Disciplinary Committee of the Evangel Voices Choir and Team Lead with the Christian Women Fellowship. Deaconess Roseline Igbokwe is also a Trustee of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

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Pastor (Dr.) Joshua Gbadebo Opadiya is the Senior Pastor of Every Nation Church Sydney, Australia, a worldwide family of churches and ministries.

He is currently serving as the Hub Leader of the Oceania (Australia, New Zealand, Papa New Guinea and Fiji) overseeing the ‘Every Nation churches and ministries in the Oceania region.

Pastor (Dr.) Opadiya previously lectured in the Lagos State University, Nigeria for 6 years, before moving with his family to Innsbruck in Austria where he lived for almost 6 years. Thereafter, the family moved to Sydney Australia in 1999 where together with his wife, Dr. Mrs. Opadiya started the ‘Every Nation Church.

He received his bachelor’s and master’s degrees from the reputable University of Ibadan in Nigeria and holds a doctorate degree in Ecotoxicology from the Technical University, Innsbruck, Austria. Pastor (Dr.) Opadiya has a burden to raise godly leaders and see the nations return to Jesus Christ. He has travelled and ministered in several nations worldwide.

Pastor (Dr.) Opadiya's passion is to connect with young adults and adults alike who are leaders, peacemakers and bridge builders in their colleges, universities and in their communities. His life has been dedicated to this cause, reaching out, equipping, counseling and mentoring. He is also the dean of Every Nation Leadership Institute, a part-time program that is purposefully designed to provide discipleship training and biblical teaching for people from all walks of life. Pastor (Dr.) Opadiya and his wife have been married for 31 years. They are blessed with children. He is a Trustee of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Dr. (Mrs.) Yinka Opadiya is a senior pastor with Every Nation Churches and Ministries. Alongside her husband Pastor (Dr) Joshua Opadiya, she oversees the multi-congregational Church organization in Sydney, Australia – a church with members from diverse cultures, age groups and professions.

She is a teacher and motivational speaker with a passion for teaching about God's love and His purpose for humanity. She is also passionate about women and youth ministry; and is committed to mentoring women and young girls.

Her heart-cry is to see ‘the Church’ respond to the Great Commission of ‘making disciples’ and transforming nations. A graduate of the prestigious Universities of Ife and Ibadan in Nigeria, she also holds a Doctorate degree in French (Women Literature) from the University of Innsbruck in Austria. She had worked as a French Lecturer in the Lagos State University and in various schools in Sydney Australia. Dr. (Mrs.) Yinka Opadiya been married for 31 years. They are blessed with children. She is a Trustee of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Mrs. Ronke Osikoya holds a law degree (LLB) from the University of Lagos and an MBA (1988) from the same University.

She is a Certified Trainer for the Commonwealth Association on Corporate Governance and has facilitated on the Directors course on Corporate Governance.

She is a Management Consultant that co-runs a management consulting firm, Pedion Partnership Limited.

Her values are strongly shaped by her Christian faith and she believes very passionately in supporting the under-privileged, particularly children, which accounts for her involvement with the Foundation.

Mrs. Osikoya is a Trustee of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation and lives with her husband and 2 sons in Lagos, Nigeria.

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Mrs. Abimbola Komolafe is a devout Christian who was ordained as a Deaconess of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) in the year 2000 and as an Assistant Pastor in August 2013. She served as a Coordinator in the Teens ministry of the Resurrection Parish of the RCCG in Lagos where her passion for supporting the education of the less privileged was birthed .

She is a Chartered Accountant and Chartered Banker and is a Fellow of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria (ICAN) and a Fellow of the Chartered Institute of Bankers of Nigeria.

Mrs. Bimbo Komolafe has taken various management, Leadership and professional courses, within and outside Nigeria and is an Alumna of the Lagos Business School. She worked for 9 years in a reputable Merchant Bank in Nigeria and thereafter worked for 20 years with one of the leading Oil and Gas companies in Nigeria. She currently works as a Principal Consultant for Threshold of Trust Nigeria Limited.

Married to Rear Admiral Kehinde Komolafe (Rtd) who is also an Ordained Pastor of the RCCG Nigeria, they are blessed with 3 children. Together with her husband, they are committed to providing financial support to as many less privileged students as they can accommodate. Mrs Bimbo Komolafe is the founder and Executive Secretary of the Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation.

Rear Admiral Kehinde Komolafe (Rtd), is a highly revered and distinguished military officer who served meritoriously with impeccable records in the Nigerian Navy. He graduated from the Nigerian Defence Academy in 1980 and was commissioned as a Naval Officer a year after. Due to his quest for knowledge and passion for competence, he proceeded to study at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka where he graduated in 1985 with a B.Sc. Degree in Accountancy. He attended several courses nationally and overseas and witnessed consistent career growth during his active years in the military.

Rear Admiral Komolafe is a change agent with a commitment to providing transformational leadership and ensuring realignment of processes, operations, resource and people on various integrated fronts for optimum value creation. He held various sensitive positions in the Navy before his voluntarily retirement from the Service after 35 years of meritorious service. He presently sits on the Board of many prestigious organizations. Beyond his Military career, Rear Admiral Kehinde Komolafe (Rtd.) is a lover of God and a Pastor. He is married to Mrs. Abimbola Komolafe and they are blessed with 3 children.

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My

Name is Nnah Kelvin Chinonso I will point in time I feel like doing it my own way or start my story by saying this: following the way of the un-righteous.

Many great men have tales of humble beginnings to tell, a fact that buttresses the saying that ‘nothing good comes easy’. It is even a common saying here that ‘He who craves to be tall would not mind to have tiny legs’. So, it is believed that greatness and success come carrying a huge baggage of sorry tales.

In spite of all of these I was determined to tell a different story.

I grew up in a family of two children and I am the first child in the family. Growing up was a huge struggle as my parents struggled to pay my school fees all through my time from primary up and until secondary school. I remember vividly how my Father was robbed in broad day light on his way to pay my school fees after I had been sent home from school severally. The thought of what my parents went through to raise the fees was one that haunted me as it was a loan, to pay back with a certain amount of interest. All of these struggles continued up until I finished my secondary school education.

Seeing the neighbourhood I grew up in, I was determined to stand out. Also, my mother constantly reminded me about the love of Jesus who makes all things beautiful in His time. She also brought me up in the way of the Lord.

I remember growing up, my favourite verse of the bible ‘Seek ye first the kingdom of God and every other thing shall be added unto you’. This has always been a mantra and always kept me in check at every THINKING ALOUD | APR - JUN 2020

I agree with the saying that we are a product of how we perceive ourselves, and also the decisions we make goes a long way in shaping our lives for the better. I remember the very day I received my admission letter into the university it was a bittersweet feeling I looked into their eyes and I could tell it all. As it was glaring the questions my parents both asked themselves would they be able to sustain their first and only son through the university.

We had Acceptance fees to pay and a whole load of fees as well. I was stuck in between losing my admission and leaving it all to chance and hoping a miracle happens. Just when all hope looked like it was lost, God used my aunty to raise money to pay for my Acceptance fees. In all, my family members all contributed in their various ways to complete my entire fees.

At this point, my mother got in contact with a friend who introduced her to Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation. I wrote to RDSF about my career goals and how financially incapacitated my family was in achieving my career goals. They believed in my dream and they sponsored me. I am beginning to see the fruit of this kind gesture and investment of a lifetime. I became a beneficiary when I was in 200 level. At the time, access to materials for learning was difficult. Things could have been even worse when my dad lost his job during my 100 level. If not Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation, I would have been a drop out from school as my mum had to cater | 30 |

for the entire family from her meager salary as a Cleaner. There were times she had to get into debt and solicit for help from well-meaning colleagues and family friends.

The Steadfastness of Hope – Persevering Lamentations 3:22 says; the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning. God’s promises have always been sure to strengthen us with all power so that we can attain steadfastness. During this period we really needed to persevere and keep our eyes on the goal.

I encountered different challenges that could have limited my chances of ever becoming a graduate, I kept overcoming, one challenge at a time. RDSF has seen me through my academic pursuits as I was able to pay my fees with ease and when due. I also had materials at my disposal, thanks to RSDF. It occurred to me that education has the power to transform people and the potential to take them to places they never imagined they could get to.

It has the power to reshape one’s life and bring beauty out of ashes. I said to myself what if I had dropped out of school what would have become of

me if I never had the support of RDSF. Rehoboth Dream Solid Foundation has invested in my life and education and, for this I am eternally grateful.

I agree with the saying that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Just when life is about to take a twist, God always shows himself strong for his own.

If there is anything that works whenever we are facing difficulties or adversity, it is not to give up and start thinking of retreating .It is to continue fighting and to climb on the shoulders of adversity.

Influence – Someone is watching We can never tell the possibilities of a little seed of joy and happiness we sow in the life of others. My mum has always been a huge influence in my life bringing me up in the way of the Lord, and always making me realise that my life is like an open book before everyone.

I am the author; how I choose to write it determines what kind of energy I want people to see. Finally, I can't but appreciate God for RSDF as they have proven to be more than family. I owe everything to this family of mine (RSDF). May God bless and continue to keep RSDF.

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the storyline of Abigail is about a mismatched couple: -

A husband who followed the desires of the sinful nature...drunkenness, wild parties etc. (Gal 5:19-21 NLT)

to sway a dignified personality like David. She therefore prepared a feast fit for a king and through wisdom, hospitality and kindness, she tamed the fury of David. It should be noted that at this time, David had to take solace as a refugee in the wilderness at a time when circumstance denied him the opportunity to observe the Jewish mourning rites for Samuel who anointed and ordained him as the next king of Israel.

and A virtuous wife who was full of the fruit of the Spirit, (Gal. 5:22-23): • • • • • • •

Peace Patience Kindness Goodness Faithfulness Gentleness Self-control

Abigail is a perfect example of a wife who exercised emotional intelligence, displayed relational skills, and had a commendable humble disposition despite being married to a crude and rich husband. This is implicit in the fact that her husband's servant found her approachable and relatable; an often rare virtue these days with many playing "oga madam."

Sometimes we have a part to play in the overall outlook of divine providence by yielding ourselves unto good works. This is particularly notable in Abigail's plea bargain with David.

Nabal was already an adversary in David's books but Abigail took the place of priest and advocate, following a logical advice of Christ (Matthew 5:25 NLT “When you are on the way to court with your adversary, settle your differences quickly. Otherwise, your accuser may hand you over to the judge, who will hand you over to an officer, and you will be thrown into prison.) She did not play “spirituality” when a simple plea would resolve the matter.

Her words and utterances were graced and seasoned with salt (Prov. 15.1 "A soft answer turneth away wrath, "She opened her mouth with wisdom" Prov.31:26) so much so that David had to sheath his sword.

Abigail was not oblivious of the fact that David would be the next king of Israel - this was common knowledge, so her approach and submission to David was in recognition of his prophesied position as future king rather than his current refugee status as a runaway servant.

Unlike Lot's wife who didn't hasten her steps despite being forewarned of destruction to Sodom and Gomorrah, the bible records that Abigail wasted no time when she received hint of impending doom and danger towards her household.

The very same reason why she referred to herself as a subject or handmaiden when she met David. Abigail knew it would take more than just verbal appeasement

This virtue of nipping issues in the bud before they become uncontrolled shows Abigail was not idle when it came to handling critical family matters.

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David himself attests to this in verse 34 (For indeed, as the Lord God of Israel lives, who has kept me back from hurting you, unless you had hurried and come to meet me, surely by morning light no males would have been left to Nabal!” I Samuel 25:34 NKJV) Because Abigail understood that the merriment and drunkenness of her husband's heart, may lead to further regrettable actions, she exercised self restraint (self control) by not being reactive towards his behaviour but waited patiently for an auspicious time to engage her husband in a meaningful conversation.

Wise women know the power of words and possess great engagement skills.

Key Points to Note: 1. Any woman who can live with a man like Nabal and not lose her godly essence is worth emulating.

2. One may surmise that Abigail married Nabal because of his riches and Nabal married Abigail because of her beauty but the journey of their matrimony reveals that tolerance delivered and preserved Abigail whilst foolishness ousted and shortened Nabal's life.

3. Abigail knew the excesses and weak points of her spouse but was willing to manage the ripple effects of his unacceptable behaviour.

4. On the other hand, the millennia matrimonial compatibility excuses pale in comparison to Abigail's story.

5. We don't know for sure how often Abigail had to stand in the gap for her husband and if his constant folly regularly brought her marriage shame. If despite her exemplary and godly character, her husband was not positively influenced, it shows that adequate attention should be paid to “red flags” noticed when choosing a future partner.

“Wise women know the power of words and possess great engagement skills”.

In summary.

Abigail's actions multiple results.

simultaneously

accomplished

1. Her entire household was saved from destruction, 2. David was delivered from further blood shed because his revenge towards Nabal would have been borne out of pure anger, and 3. She transitioned from widowhood to married within the shortest time ever imagined, as a result of her good character.

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Her overall life’s goal is to constantly remain in God’s Will for her life as well as assist her children in accomplishing their God given mandates.

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people tend to assume weight loss and fat loss are synonymous, news flash – they are not, as a matter of fact, they

are very different!

Let me explain, people have relied on the scale for decades as the primary gauge of success when it comes to making improvements in one’s physique. When you check the scale and see that you are down 20lbs/10kg, that could mean a loss of muscle, fat or water. Your manual scale will not tell you which one is it, all it does is measures one’s total body mass.

Assuming you have lost a combination of both muscle and fat, it is still very possible to end up with a higher body fat percentage than when you initially started your weight loss journey. If you however aim specifically to lose 20lbs of fat, then you could end up with the same amount of muscle mass so that now your body fat percentage is lower and as a result you will have more muscle definition and look more lean/toned.

The perception of what is a healthy weight needs to be recalibrated for most people. The reality is that you can be perfectly healthy, strong and lean without weighing what you ‘think’ you need to weigh.

This is because it is possible to drop body fat and gain lean muscle mass at the same time. Muscle tissue is denser than fat, therefore taking up less space in the body and allowing one to look leaner even if there is no net change on the scale.

So if your goal is FAT LOSS, please keep reading as I will be sharing the 3 key principles you need to achieve this goal: THINKING ALOUD | APR - JUN 2020

1. You must Eat in a Caloric Deficit To do this you need to determine your Total Daily Energy Expenditure (TDEE). This accounts for the total amount of calories needed to maintain your current body mass/weight including those required to sustain your current activity levels. This number will be different for everyone and is based on you age, height, weight, sex and how active or sedentary you are. It is basically the baseline used to determine the amount of calories for your health goal, whether it is fat loss, maintenance or muscle gain. There are a lot of online calculators that can help you calculate this number, just Google ‘Calculate my TDEE’.

Once you have this number you want to reduce it by about 300 to 500 calories (TDEE – 500 CAL), so for example if my TDEE is 2,000 calories daily, and my goal is fat loss, I will aim to eat around 1,500 to 1,700 calories. If you are not eating in this state of deficit but only relying on your exercise and ‘eating healthy’, you are wasting your time and energy. This is why a lot of people don’t see progress despite all the hard work they are putting in, it’s simple you are eating too much!

Remember that in order to lose 1lb of body fat per week you need to burn 3,500 calories in 7 days, meaning 500 calories daily for fat loss. To determine the amount of calories in your food, apps like MyFitnesspal are very helpful; they even track your favourite Nigerian meals.

2. Consistent Resistance/Weight Training This is absolutely key because this is what is going to help you lose body fat and not total weight. It’s the main thing that will prevent you from ending up with a higher body fat percentage at a lower weight. | 34 |

The reason why resistance training is important is because it helps you build muscle, and because muscle is high maintenance it requires a lot of resources (quality food) to carry it around. Running 5 miles or doing non-stop cardio will NOT help you build muscle; this is not to say you should not jog from time to time, cardio is very good for your heart.

body fat percentage. You can get protein both from animal and plant based sources. Some examples are chicken, beef, fish, egg, milk, Greek yoghurt, beans, quinoa, chickpeas, lentils etc.

So how much protein do you really need for muscle growth? If you are new to exercise or exercise three to four times a week then 1.2 – 1.7g of protein per 1kg of body weight is ideal.

For example, if I weight 70kg then I will aim to eat around 84g – 119g of protein (1.2g - 1.7g x 70kg) daily. Again to determine how many grams of protein is in a piece of chicken drumstick or whatever you chose to eat, simply Google it or use a calorie-tracking app like MyFitnesspal.

The more muscle you have the more energy you are going to burn by simply going about your everyday business and tripling the burn during exercise. When you don’t have any muscle, your body doesn’t need as much energy to function and you can’t afford to eat a lot hence you constantly have to diet. Having muscle mass will allow you to eat more as you have serious ‘machinery’ to supply energy to. It’s a win win!

When it comes to weights, get creative, all you need is to carry something heavy enough to elicit tension while performing your squats or bicep curls. If you are at home grab a small sack of rice or a carton of water and if you have access to dumbbells or gym equipment, even better. Once the weight you have been working with feels too light increase it, this is how the body changes and becomes stronger.

In summary the three principles required for you to drop body fat are to eat in a caloric deficit, incorporate resistance training into your exercise routine and make sure you eat enough protein. The advice I have given here is all science and research based, it may seem a bit daunting to do all this calorie tracking but it is necessary until you are able to understand what works for your body and eat intuitively. If it were easy everyone will do it.

If you have any questions, please follow me on my Instagram page @fitt2me I will be happy to assist you.

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Remember that the muscle you have is not forever if you don’t feed it and you don’t use it, you will lose it.

Without exercising hard enough your body will naturally get rid of the ‘nuisance’ aka muscle that is making its life difficult. Your body changes so it can adapt to the physical demands you put on it aka = exercise.

3. Eat adequate protein Protein is the number one macro nutrient required to build and maintain muscle, if you are not eating enough of it you are likely to end up losing or not gaining it which could lead you to having a higher | 35 |

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etting older - Getting older doesn't necessarily mean you'll have a slew of medical conditions or poor quality of life.

Getting older involves changes - Getting older involves change, both negative and positive, but you can enjoy aging if you understand what’s going on with your body and take steps to maintain your health.

Many different things happen to your body as you age.

Your skin, bones, and even brain may start to behave differently. Don't let the changes that come with old age catch you by surprise.

Common changes to expect: Your bones: Bones can become thinner and more brittle in old age, especially in women, sometimes resulting in the fragile bone condition called osteoporosis. Thinning bones and decreasing bone mass can put you at risk for falls that can easily result in broken bones. Be sure to talk with your physician about what you can do to prevent osteoporosis and falls.

Your heart: While a healthy diet and regular exercise can keep your heart healthy, it may become slightly enlarged, your heart rate may lower, and the walls of the heart may thicken.

Your brain and nervous system: Getting older can cause changes in your reflexes and even your senses.

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and tangles, abnormalities that could eventually lead to dementia.

Your digestive system: As you age, your digestive tract becomes more firm and rigid, and doesn't contract as often. This change can lead to problems such as constipation, stomach pain, and feelings of nausea; a better diet can help.

Your senses: You may notice that your vision and hearing aren't quite as sharp as they once were. You may start to lose your sense of taste — flavours may not seem as distinct to you. Your senses of smell and touch may also weaken. Your body is taking longer to react and needs more to stimulate it.

Your teeth: The tough enamel that protects your teeth from decay can start to wear away over the years, leaving you susceptible to cavities. Gum disease is also a concern for older adults. Good dental hygiene can protect your teeth and gums. Dry mouth, which is a common side effect of many medications that seniors take, may also be a problem.

Your skin: With old age, your skin loses its elasticity and may start to sag and wrinkle. However, the more you protected your skin from sun damage and smoking when you were younger, the better your skin will look as you get older. Start protecting your skin now to prevent further damage, as well as skin cancer.

Your sex life: After menopause, when menstruation stops, many women experience physical changes like a loss of vaginal lubrication.

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Natural part of aging Many bodily changes are a natural part of aging, but they don’t have to slow you down. What’s more, there's a lot you can do to protect your body and keep it as healthy as possible.

Finally, taking care of your physical self is vital, but it’s important that you tend to your emotional health as well. Reap the rewards of your long life, and enjoy each and every day. Now is the time to savour good health and happiness.

Keys to aging well: While maintaining your physical health is important to healthy aging, it’s also key to value the experience and maturity you gain with advancing years.

Practicing healthy habits throughout your life is ideal, but it's never too late reap the benefits of taking good care of yourself, even as you get older.

Here are some healthy aging tips that are good advice at any stage of life: •

Stay physically active with regular exercise.

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Stay socially active with friends and family and within your community.

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Eat a healthy, well-balanced diet — dump the junk food in favour of fibre-rich, low-fat, and lowcholesterol eating.

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Don't neglect yourself: Regular check-ups with your doctor, dentist, and optometrist are even more important now.

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Take all medications as directed by your doctor.

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Limit alcohol consumption and cut out smoking.

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Get the sleep that your body needs.

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Background C. M. Okonkwo was born into a family of six. She is the fifth child and youngest girl. She moved to France after high school where she obtained three degrees, the most recent, an advance Master’s degree in International Human Resources Management and Development. She is married.

Written works Inclusive of short books and novellas, she has written 46 books and has published only 25. She does not plan on publishing everything she writes as some of them are just for contests, nothing more. Whether they win or lose doesn’t really change much for her. Her stories have won six contests so far, and her novella was a top five finalist in the Quramo Writers’ Prize in 2018.

She has no favourite book or novella she has written, as her writing goal is to be as diversified as possible. She is still exploring many genres and enjoys everything she writes.

The Beginning of Writing She started writing from primary school, from when she could use a pencil. Her mother bought her a lot of toys and stuffed animals, as the youngest girl, so she would group them into families and create lives and stories for them. In order not to forget the stories, she began writing them. That was when she started writing about anything and everything, thereafter she wrote her first book about princesses. Later on, she wrote a Nigerian version of Matilda, because she loved the movie.

Inspiration Her writing is strongly inspired by the things she sees, the things she hears, her dreams and her ever creative and ‘crazy’ imagination. She usually writes about things that she knows, and can spend a whole day or two researching the novel topic online before she starts any actual writing. Sometimes she carries out the research simultaneously, that is, if something new comes up while she is in the middle of a book. Apart from online research or reading books, she also speaks with people she knows, who are experts in the field she is researching about. For example, she speaks to her sisters and their husbands a lot to pick their brains on specific topics linked to their professions, like medicine and law. Her few friends also don’t escape the research process.

Challenges so far As writing is her passion and not her profession or business, she does not think she has faced any challenges. She however highlights challenges writers could face, some of which include- finishing their book without basic amenities like a personal computer, constant power, money, or even a publisher afterwards.

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choose to do everything themselves, which is not really advisable, especially self editing .

Current projects She is working on a couple of books at the moment.

Her 2020 writing goal and personal challenge is to complete her five-book Desperate Women Series about a group of women in Eastern Nigeria who would do anything to marry husbands living abroad.

She had written 3 so far “Dim Noo Abroad,” “Yankee Based Wives” and “My Celeb Husband.” “Married To Oyibo and “Husband Is Husband” are left, and she hopes to finish them before the end of the year. She has had some distractions along the line, has written three other books and created an email course.

most of them are free online (quite a number of books are free online). They need to be well informed about the benefits of reading and where they can get free books.

Her books are available online and in print on Amazon and Barnes&Noble; and e-book formats on Smashwords, Amazon, Barnes&Noble, Kobo, Scribd, iBooks, Okadabooks, Bambooks, etc. You can also get them in bookshops in Lagos for now but eventually all over Nigeria soon. For more information, you can visit her website www.cmokonkwo.com.

“You can be anywhere you want in the world. Create different people and teach different things. All you have to do is write.”

Advice

LIKE NEVER BEFORE By C. M. OKONKWO

Do not put yourself in a box in the first place, so you would not have to think outside the box. Imagination is limitless, so never limit yourself.

Synopsis

For children, schools need to look for creative ways to get children to read, either by setting up reading clubs or book review clubs. This should be reading for fun and not just for academics alone, because children will participate more if it is a fun exercise. For the youths, if they can cultivate a reading habit by dedicating at least 30 minutes a day to read a book online, they would be able to read at least 12 books in a year. Some might complain about the funds to buy books, but

Chiny, Nigerian, car sales executive, single; David, British, actor, in an on and off relationship, meet in the beautiful city of Nice, in France. Their relationship is born on a Mediterranean Sea boat tour and blossoms into a summer affair. Months later, Chiny contacts David with news that promises to bring them together but threatens to change their lives forever.

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sax, E-sax, Meshach Aminu, Joelisconii, for building me up musically. I admire Gerald Albright because he's a smooth jazz saxophonist with an amazing tone.

5. Have you played in front of large crowds? What is the biggest event you have performed in? Were you anxious and how did you deal with performance anxiety?

It happened a few years back, I was opportuned to play on the same stage with great ministers like Tope Alabi, Ibitayo Jeje, Boisolorun and a few others at the Bahm Army Royal Praise Concert. It was such an overwhelming atmosphere with a large crowd, I wasn't anxious as my confidence was stirred up playing together with the team as we worked as one. Also in 2018, I had the privilege to minister alongside one of our mothers in the Nigerian Gospel music scene, Lady Evangelist Dr Bola Are. It was a great experience.

1. Can we know you? Please tell us about yourself.

(Age, family background, what you're studying e.t.c) My name is Oyewobi Israel; I'm a native of Edun-abon, Ife North West, Osun state, Nigeria. I am 20 years old, an undergraduate of Ekiti State University, studying Biochemistry. I am from a clergy family; my Father is a Prophet in Christ Apostolic Church World Wide (C.A.C W/W) likewise my mother. I am the second of four children.

2. How did you get involved with playing the saxophone?

My Dad ministers in different churches and loves music. He ensures none of his children are idle and makes sure we are working in God’s vineyard. We had a trumpet in my church then so I decided to learn how to play it. When I started playing the trumpet, I listened to many top Gospel musicians in Nigeria.

During my search I came across a saxophonist named "Mike Aremu"; I love listening to his music.

One day I read an interview Mike Aremu had with the Punch newspaper, in that interview he said he was formerly a trumpeter before switching to the saxophone. Ever since that day, my love for the saxophone grew rapidly and I started learning how to play with the saxophone my dad bought. My passion is to glorify God with the talent he has given me and my love for music motivates and keeps me going.

3. How do you combine your studies with your passion for playing the saxophone?

After lectures, I make sure I spend three hours everyday practicing on my saxophone, later at night, I read my books and do my assignments 4. Who has influenced you as a player?

The popular Mike Aremu has been an influence on my music career. I like the way he sounds and the way he plays; he is my mentor. And I cannot but appreciate my music instructors too, Mr Tope Adewole, Emmy THINKING ALOUD | APR - JUN 2020

6. What challenges do you face in performing for audiences?

One challenge is having a good response from the audience, as audience reaction to performance can be very different. This teaches me to be flexible and versatile so as to meet the expectations of my audience. However, I leave the situation into the hands of the Holy Spirit for the utmost control.

7. Do you sometimes make mistakes during performance? How do you handle such mistakes?

Yes I do, since no one is above mistakes. When it happens, I just play along with it like it was part of my script because as at that moment, the mistake is only known to me and a few members of my team. I also make sure such mistakes don’t come up next time.

8. Do you collaborate with other entertainers? Can you share some of such experiences with our readers?

Yes I have, though not on a very large platform. It was once, a guitarist friend was on stage with me and we had to collaborate doing a song together and it was so much fun and a good time.

9. What are your goals for the future? Where do you want to be in 3 to 5 years time?

By the Grace of God and by the help of the Holy Spirit, I am looking forward to experiencing greater encounters in Christendom and also to release my debut album in a few years time.

10. What advice would you give to young ones aspiring to play the saxophone?

Be calm, humble and be diligent; Proverbs 22:29 says, "Seest thou a man diligent in his business? He shall stand before Kings; he shall not stand before mere men".

11. When not playing the saxophone, how do you relax?

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Bi

odiversity (biological diversity) encompasses the number, variety of living organisms and how these change from one location to another and over time. In a web comprising plants, animals, insects, fishes, algae, among many other living things including micro-organisms, water bodies and air, every creature is intricately interconnected and important to keep the planet in balance and plays a role in the services provided by ecosystems.

Value of biodiversity Biodiversity contributes directly or indirectly to many aspects of human well-being. Diatoms are a type of microscopic algae found in the ocean, waterways and soils. Through photosynthesis, diatoms produce roughly between 20 and 40% of the oxygen we breathe. Natural habitats provide diverse plant species, which flower at different times of the year, so food is consistently available to pollinators. Eightyseven of the leading 115 global food crops depend on animal pollination. Coral reefs are natural buffers against storms and floods. Drugs derived from coral reefs are used for treating diseases such as cancer, arthritis, human bacterial and viral infections. Forest is home to more than 80% of all terrestrial species of animals, plants and insects; serve as a source of livelihood to about a quarter of the world’s population; offers sources of medicine; and soak up carbon dioxide.

Diversity of plants and the distribution of landscape patches, influences climate at local, regional, and global levels. The ecosystem's ability to control pests is strongly dependent on biodiversity. Biodiversity underpins economic prosperity.

Construction, agriculture, food and beverages are the largest industries that are most dependent on Nature.

Nature is on the verge of a breakdown Across the globe, major causes of biodiversity loss are land use change and habitat loss. Globally, 7 million hectares of forest are destroyed every year¬. Expanses of land are being converted to farmland with crops that only flower at certain times of year. Thereby, causing sporadic availability of food and lack of places to nest and ultimately the death of many pollinators.

Coral reefs are home to 25% of marine life and are a major source of food to more than half a billion people.

In the last 30 years, 50% of corals have died, and it is projected that 90% will die by 2050.

Coral reefs are being damaged by harmful fishing practices, pollution, marine debris, ocean warming and acidification. Up to 1 million animal and plant species are currently threatened with extinction. Loss of species living in limited geographical regions can disrupt ecosystem services for a long time. When we destroy animal habitats or trade illegally in wildlife, our exposure to pathogens increases and zoonotic diseases can spill over to humans. Global warming now poses extinction threat to about 30% of plant and animal species.

Take transformational actions #ForNature We can promote functioning ecosystems and the services they provide, and safeguard them for future generations through the following actions: •

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Green up daily choices e.g. avoid single use plastics, limit your consumption, generate less waste, plant trees etc.

Get informed and involved in solving local and global environmental issues, support nature-based solutions Support biodiversity conservation and preservation of resident species Work towards eliminating dangerous pollutants and toxic chemicals that are weakening the planet’s life system Support policies to carry out development projects in a way that provide positive synergies with ecosystem services of food production, climate regulation and recreational value #ProtectOurHome: Join the call on world leaders to protect 30% of our blue planet by 2030. Sign the petition @ https://worldoceansday.org/takeaction/petition/

Recognition of human diversity: Black Lives Matter Just as protecting biodiversity is vital for well-being, recognition of human diversity is crucial to make our society better. No one must negotiate for his/her humanity in today’s world. Join in actions to promote equality.

Let’s do our bits to sustain biodiversity and promote equality for a healthy society!

Dr Adetoun Mustapha is a multi-talented leader who can shape agendas from complex inputs and sustain alignment with multi stakeholders. She has over 26 years work experience in the energy industry spanning Health, Safety and Environment, Technical Planning, Petroleum Economics, Continuous Improvement, Transformation, Strategy and Leadership. In her career, she has demonstrated effectiveness at leading change agendas and delivery though others with track record of exceptional performance and personal integrity.

She is also a global player in environmental epidemiology research with strong expertise in global health, research ethics and sustainable development. She is a recipient of numerous professional awards including the University of Lagos Scholarship, British Chevening Scholarship, Commonwealth Scholarship and the International Society for Environmental Epidemiology (ISEE) Rebecca James Baker Prize. She is the Chair of ISEE Africa Chapter and Vice President of Chevening Alumni Association of Nigeria.

She is a graduate of University of Lagos, Cardiff University and Imperial College London.

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