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by Kathy Wolfe It’s National Etiquette Week, and Tidbits is advising you on the right, wrong, and wacky rules about manners and rude behavior. • Etiquette was essential clear back to Biblical times, with proverbs advising a person to “Eat as it becometh a man, and devour not, lest thou be hated.” Ancient leaders advised against licking one’s fingers and belching after a good meal, drinking wine in one gulp, and being free of offensive body odor. • Greed was considered the base of all evil that was to be guarded against while cultivating kindness and generosity. • Medieval knights were held to very strict rules of conduct, including “gallantry and courtesy to women” and respect for and defense of the weak. • As early as 1528, a book of manners was in existence, with advice on gentility, wittiness, and discretion. Those who wished to climb the social ladder were counselled to have impeccable manners. One of the 16th century’s most popular essays instructed people not to eat with mouths open or sneak sideways glances at others, and to engage in self-restraint and bodily control, both described as “civilizing processes.” turn the page for more!

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TIDBITS of Kootenai County, Idaho Issue #20 May 13th ETIQUETTE (continued): • In the 1730s, Britain’s Lord Chesterfield first used the word “etiquette” in a series of 400 letters written to his son on the “art of becoming a man of the world and a gentleman.” These letters instructed the boy on good breeding and social graces as a method of social advancement. • France’s King Louis XIV instituted a very elaborate form of etiquette for all who would visit the Chateau de Versailles. Because the King’s court might receive as many as 10,000 visitors a day, a sophisticated form of order was needed, and all guests were handed instruction cards outlining proper etiquette while in Versailles. Those who wanted to speak to the King were prohibited from knocking on his door, rather people had to gently scratch on his door with their left pinky finger. At the royal dinner table, it was bad manners to talk about the food that was being served, even if it was exceptional. No talking in a loud voice was allowed, nor were diners allowed to make any sounds while eating. Louis introduced napkins to the table; prior to that, guests wiped their hands on the tablecloth. It was incorrect etiquette to talk to someone to whom a person had not been introduced. Introductions could only be made by the host or hostess, and the other person first had to be asked if he or she approved of the introduction. • In Louis’ court, only the King and Queen had the right to sit in chair that had arms. Ladies and gentlemen were not allowed to cross their legs in the presence of royalty. • Victorian times brought an extremely complicated systems of rules, including the proper use of cutlery, the art of writing letters, and regulations for proper interaction between differing social classes.

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• “If you have a flannel-backed vinyl tablecloth that gets a tear, don’t throw it out. You can cut it into rectangles to line a shelf. Use a thin bead of glue at the edges to keep them down, and it makes a nice liner. You can even use squares between pans as a scuff guard.” -- T.A. in Ohio • Washcloths with tags on them can be hung from an “S” hook on a towel bar. You can fit several, and they’ll still dry as long as you hang them from the tag. • Sewing machine tip from C.K. in Texas: “After you oil your machine, use a folded over paper towel to put a few stitches through. It will absorb any excess oil that is on the machine’s surface or needle.” • Use a used fabric softener sheet to collect cat hair from areas where Kitty likes to nap -- the back of the couch, fabric-covered chairs, etc. This also works on curtains that are regularly rubbed up against. Make sure you use a sheet that has already gone through the laundry. • “Idea for an old, unpaired sock: Insert a tennis ball and tie closed, then give to a dog as a toy.” -- R. in Oregon. (Here’s another: Fill with clean, uncooked white rice and knot closed. Heat in the microwave for a hot pack to use on aching muscles.) • Use an old toothbrush to clean out your combs or small brushes. Spray the comb with alcohol and then use the toothbrush to scrub it clean. Send your tips to Now Here’s a Tip, 628 Virginia Drive, Orlando, FL 32803. (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

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June 14 - 16 Car d’Alene Downtown Coeur d’Alene comes to life with classic cars from throughout the Northwest. Friday evening - watch as the classics roll by, shoot flames and sound their horns in the Car d’Alene parade of classics. Get a closer look on Saturday, meet the owners at the Show & Shine and grab a bite to eat from select street food vendors.

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ETIQUETTE (continued): • Many of what the British deemed proper went by the wayside with colonists in the New World, a fact that disturbed the Brits. When English author Charles Dickens visited Washington, D.C., he pronounced it the “headquarters of tobaccotinctured saliva” shooting forth from the mouths of “not always good marksmen.” • We’ve all heard of the “no elbows on the table” rule, but manners experts say it is perfectly acceptable to put your elbows on the table when no utensils are being used but not when people are actually eating. • It’s certainly rude to show up late to a dinner party, and you should know that proper decorum allows the hostess to proceed with dinner if you are later than 20 minutes. • When it’s time to be seated at the table, dinner guests should approach their chair from the left side and should exit on the right as the polite way to avoid a collision. If the need to use the restroom arises during dinner, according to manners gurus, it’s inappropriate to mention it to the group. A simple “excuse me” is the acceptable method to accomplish this. • Once seated at the table, and one of your fellow diners asks you to pass the salt, you should always pass both the salt and pepper. They’re a pair that should be kept together in the event that the person asking wants both of them. It’s also a cardinal rule to always pass to the right. • There’s appropriate protocol for wine glasses, too. White wine glasses are to be held by the stem, while red wine glasses are held by the bowl. And if the group is offering a toast to you, you should not drink to yourself!

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® of Idaho TIDBITS of Kootenai Issue #20 May 13th 2019 TidbitsCounty, Dallas County ETIQUETTE (continued): • All of us probably remember our mothers admonishing us, “Don’t point!” The rule of thumb is you can point at something, but never at someone. If you are pointing out an individual across the room, it is permissible to gesture with an open hand. • It’s an automatic reflex to cover your mouth when you sneeze or cough. But did you know that it’s bad manners to cough into your right hand? Etiquette experts say that the right hand is your “social hand,” used for shaking hands and other social activities. The left hand should be used for coughing, sneezing, scratching, etc. It’s inappropriate to sneeze into your hand then offer to shake hands with a person. • Did you know there is a special set of rules for cigar smokers? “Zino Davidoff’s Guide to Cigar Etiquette” was published in 1967, outlining appropriate behavior, such as only smoking the cigar halfway, and letting it burn out on its own, as well as never relighting a cigar that is more than two-thirds smoked. Mr. Davidoff says it’s impolite to smoke cigars while walking. It’s considered an insult to give another smoker a light from your cigar without first knocking the ash from yours. It’s also in poor taste to chain smoke cigars. • If you’re visiting the country of Japan, it’s perfectly fine to slurp your noodles. It shows the hostess that you are enjoying them! However, be sure to remove your shoes when entering a Japanese home. • Folks in China find it acceptable to burp after a meal. It’s a sign they are pleased with the meal.

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STRANGE BUT TRUE by Samantha Weaver • The most exciting phrase to hear in science, the one that heralds new discoveries, is not ‘Eureka!’ but ‘That’s funny ...’.” -- Isaac Asimov • If you’re planning a summer vacation in Maine this year, you might want to keep in mind that in that state, it’s against the law to tickle a woman under the chin with a feather duster. • You might be surprised to learn that drinking tea increased the life expectancy of the British -- and even more surprised to learn why. It wasn’t any beneficial compound found in the tea itself; rather, it was the act of boiling the water, which had the effect of killing pathogens found in the untreated water that was largely in use in England at that time. Also, once the Brits started drinking tea, they became addicted to the caffeine and therefore drank quite a bit more boiled water than had been their wont, decreasing even further their exposure to the pathogens that caused illness. • You’ve doubtless heard of paranoia, but you’re likely not familiar with metanoia. “A profound transformation in one’s outlook” isn’t terribly common considering today’s deep societal divisions. • Food for thought: What could you do with an extra $1,500? According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, for every person in an American home, almost 300 pounds of food is thrown out each year. For a family of four, this amounts to about $1,500 in waste annually. • Researchers in Greece who recently completed a study on napping found that men who nap at least three times a week were at a 37 percent lower risk for heart-related death. So now you have an excuse to do what you want to do anyway.

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COUCH THEATER -- DVD PREVIEWS By Amy Anderson

PHOTO: Lucy and Emmett from “The Lego Movie 2” Photo Credit: Warner Bros. “The Lego Movie 2: The Second Part” (PG) -Invite the neighborhood kids over for a follow-up to 2014’s goof-fest (and I mean that in the most complimentary way), now with Duplo blocks! The perpetually sunny Emmett Brickowski (Chris Pratt) and his brooding belle Lucy (Elizabeth Banks) now live in a near-apocalyptic future after the arrival of smotheringly cute Duplo big blocks from the Systar System that decimate Bricksburg. But when these space invaders send a general to kidnap Batman (Will Arnette) as a king for Queen Watevra Wa’Nabi (delightfully voiced by Tiffany Haddish), a group including Lucy gets scooped up, and Emmett will have to go after his friends, crossing space and time to save them. It falls short of its predecessor, but only barely. It’s a free-forall of popular references and cameos with, if can you believe it, a message for kids and parents alike. “What Men Want” (R) -- Ali Davis (Taraji P. Henson) is a hardworking, top-tier sports agent who is a sore thumb of a woman in a man’s business. Screened out of a partnership by the boys’ club, she turns to a voodoo-gypsy-fortune teller who gives her the ability to hear the thoughts of men. Once she gets past the cavalcade of sophomoric rude references, Ali harnesses her new power and uses it to her own advantage. This is a gender swap update of the Nancy Myers rom-com starring Mel Gibson, and it’s about as good as that one, which is to say a bit predictable and a tad overbearing but still kinda funny and cute. “Everybody Knows” (R) -- Real-life husband and wife Javier Bardem and Penelope Cruz play former lovers Paco and Laura in director Asghar Farhadi’s “Everybody Knows,” a Spanish-language crime drama. Laura returns to her hometown for her sister’s birthday and to visit with her father. There she is reconnected with a former boyfriend who has built a successful business. At a party, her teenage daughter goes missing, and a ransom is demanded. Longtime secrets are slowly unraveled in the midst of investigating the kidnapping. “The Prodigy” (R) -- Tiny terror Miles (Jackson Robert Scott) has a big brain and violent tendencies. His mother Sarah (Taylor Schilling, of “Orange Is the New Black” fame) struggles with loving her baby boy and recognizing the danger that lies within. There’s a backstory involving a serial killer who dies and is possibly reimbodied in Miles, but this movie doesn’t seem to invest much in the storyline. It’s a series of vignettes showcasing creepy child actions (knife sharpening, threatening pictures drawn, blunt objects being wielded) with a couple of jump scares thrown in. (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

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By Dr. Holly Carling

PLANTING THE SEEDS OF HEALTH – PART I After a long winter and frustrating spring, we are exuberantly working to get our fields and gardens planted. Some will spend time planning just the right colors, textures, heights and maybe even fragrances in their flower gardens. Others are planting vegetables and herbs. Maybe they are trying new varieties, or planting old favorites, or even some of the varieties planted by our ancestors decades or centuries ago that are popular recently. A lot of time and effort goes into the process. Do we put the same effort into our health? Do we have a strategy for growing our seeds of health? It’s highly unusual that you can just throw seeds into the wind and have a productive crop, especially in a small garden. You can attempt it, but rarely will you get the desired results. No, it takes work to get a satisfying yield. Yet, the work can be enjoyable and worth every effort. But it starts with a plan, and that plan starts with preparing the soil. If you really want to do it right, you’ll get a soil sample out to get evaluated, and recommendations made so that you have the perfect growing medium (visit the Kootenai County Extension Office, Master Gardener Clinic to get a test kit). The other option is to just buy compost or a natural fertilizer based on guess work and hope you’re not wasting your precious money.

The condition of the soil – the composition of sand, silt, and clay is the best place to start. You don’t want your plants feet soggy all the time, nor do they like to be dry. Then, to have healthy plants, you need the right combination of nutrients – and not just N-P-K either. All the minerals in the proper proportions are necessary for the plant to be healthy. Next, you want to protect them – from insects, overgrowth of other wanted or unwanted plants, the stress of over or under watering or the stress of too much or too little sun. The miracle of plant life parallels the miracle of human life. We too need to have our “soils” evaluated. Typically, we use lab tests to determine if we are heading for, or in, a health crisis. Our body “soil” can be stressed physiologically, emotionally, physically or chemically if the right conditions don’t exist. This is where you really need a health detective. What’s wrong? Is it a soil problem? Nutrients? Water? Sun? A good health detective is going to look at all the factors, and not just the symptom, such as the bug. Then a good strategy is put into place for growing the seeds of health. Then and only then will you be truly healthy and vital! We will look at several of these factors in Part II of Planting the Seeds of Health.

Dr. Holly Carling is a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, Licensed Acupuncturist, Doctor of Naturopathy, Clinical Nutritionist and Master Herbologist with over three decades of experience. Dr. Carling is currently accepting new patients and offers natural health care services and whole food nutritional supplements in her Coeur d’ Alene clinic. Visit Dr. Carling’s website at www.vitalhealthcda.com to learn more about Dr. Carling, view a list of upcoming health classes and read other informative articles. Dr. Carling can be reached at 208-765-1994 and would be happy to answer any questions regarding this topic.

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HOLLYWOOD By Tony Rizzo

PHOTO: Nicole Kidman Photo credit: Depositphotos HOLLYWOOD -- Mark Wahlberg (47 years old) will play Steve Austin, a role made famous by Lee Majors (at 34) in the 1974-78 series “The Six Million Dollar Man.” However, due to costs today, it’s now called “The Six Billion Dollar Man.” Travis Knight, who hit big with the “Transformers” spinoff “Bumblebee” (which grossed $466 million) is directing. Lee Majors was last seen in “Ash vs Evil Dead” (2016) and on an episode of “Fuller House” (2017). But before that, Wahlberg will star in and produce two films: the Netflix crime drama “Wonderland,” with Winston Duke and Alan Arkin, and “Good Joe Bell,” with Gary Sinise and “Nashville’s” Connie Britto. It’s based on the real-life story of an Oregon father who walks across the United States with his son Jadin (Reid Miller, best known for “Training Day” in 2017). Jennifer Lawrence, out of her self-imposed va cation from films, has chosen an untitled bio-pic being helmed by acclaimed Broadway director

Lila Neugebauer. It starts shooting in New Orleans in mid-June. Freddie Highmore -- who started acting at age 12 in “Finding Neverland” (2004) and “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory” (2005) -- will use his downtime from the ABC series “The Good Doctor” to star in the big-screen bank heist film “Way Down,” with Spanish film star Astrid Berges-Frisbey, who was the mermaid Syrena in “The Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides.” Director Spike Lee, who won the Grand Prix at the Cannes Film Festival and was nominated for a best adapted screenplay at this year’s Oscars for “BlacKkKlansman,” hasn’t chosen his next directing project, but will executive produce “Son of the South,” starring current “MacGyver” Lucas Till, Brian Dennehy and “Pretty Little Liars” Lucy Hale. Now filming in Alabama, it tells the story of the civil-rights movement in 1961. Jake Gyllenhaal, who hit it off with Tom Holland when they acted together in “Spider-Man: Far From Home” (due July 5), has hired Holland in his capacity as producer (with others) for Netflix’s “The Devil All the Time,” co-starring with Sebastian Stan, Bill Skarsgard and Robert Pattinson. Nicole Kidman, filming the second season of HBO’s “Big Little Lies,” is in great demand, thanks to the $1.1 billion-grossing “Aquaman.” She’s completed “The Goldfinch,” with Ansel Elgort (who will be Tony in Steven Spielberg’s reboot of “West Side Story”) and Sarah Paulson (out Sept. 13). Next up is “Fair and Balanced,” about Fox News’ Roger Ailes scandal, with John Lithgow as Ailes, Charlize Theron, Margot Robbie, Allison Janney, Kate McKinnon and Malcolm McDowell (due Dec. 20), followed by director David E. Kelley’s HBO mini-series “The Undoing,” with Hugh Grant and Donald Sutherland. Kidman traded in Tom Cruise for Keith Urban, picked up an Oscar and never stops working ... and that’s no big or little lie! (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

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Q&A with Susan Ashley, MD Monsanto Most people have heard of Monsanto, the company that makes RoundUp - the most commonly sold herbicide on the market. It is heavily advertised as being completely safe, and will kill weeds but not our crops. The main ingredient in this poison that makes it so effective is glyphosate, which has been linked to cancer, namely non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Monsanto has been completely immune to lawsuits, until now. In August of last year, a jury ruled in favor of plaintiff Dewayne Johnson, finding Monsanto responsible for “negligent failure” by not warning consumers about the carcinogenicity of Roundup. The jury ordered Monsanto to pay $289 million in damages, which was reduced to $78 million by the judge. In a bizarre illogical twist, Monsanto appealed, asking for reversal of damages because Mr Johnson is near death!. In other words, since he is not expected to live past December 2019, he shouldn’t get as much. No matter that he is only 46 years old and his life expectancy has been cut by 30 or more years. This is clear proof of the company’s callous disregard of human life.

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In March another lawsuit found Monsanto guilty of negligence and awarded the plaintiff $80 million, again for non-Hodgkins lymphoma. They pointed out that Monsanto had paid for a full page ad in the Wall Street Journal touting the safety of its herbicides. At the same time the EPA has colluded with and protected Monsanto’s interests by manipulating and preventing key investigations into glyphosate’s cancer-causing potential. In other words, taxpayers’ money has been used to shield Monsanto from liability and obstruct concumers’ ability to prove damages. Despite this, Monsanto now faces over 11,000 additional plaintiffs who claim RoundUp caused their non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Research also shows glyphosate has multi-generational effects, with higher rates of birth defects, obesity, and diseases of the kidneys, prostate, testes, ovaries and breasts found for 3 generations after exposure. So what do we do? One, never use RoundUp. If you’ve used it in the past, or are eating produce where it was used (which is highly probable), you can have your levels checked. HRI Labs has developed home test kits for both water and urine. If your levels are elevated you can drive out the glyphosate by taking glycine. Take one tsp (4 gms) of glycine powder twice a day for 3 weeks, then lower to 1/4 tsp ( 1 gm) twice a day for another 3 weeks. This forces the glyphosate out of your system, allowing it to be eliminated through your urine. Then re-test to ensure it has worked.

Dr Ashley is board certified in Family Medicine and in Anti-Aging and Regenerative Medicine. She provides a mix of traditional with alternative medicine and specializes in bio-identical hormones for both men and women.

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1. LITERATURE: Which one of Charles Dickens’ novels features a character named Pip? 2. TELEVISION: Who played the title role in the 1970-80s sitcom “Alice”? 3. ANATOMY: Which part of the brain regulates homeostasis of wake/sleep cycles, hunger and thirst? 4. U.S. STATES: What is the capital of Washington state? 5. MYTHOLOGY: What was the name of the Roman equivalent of the Greek goddess Aphrodite? 6. GEOLOGY: Diamonds are mostly made of which element? 7. HISTORY: In which American city did the Great Molasses Flood occur in 1919? 8. THEATER: Which long-running musical features the character Fanny Brice? 9. ACRONYMS: What does the acronym “ROYGBIV” stand for? 10. FOOD & DRINK: What is ciabatta? Answers 1. “Great Expectations” 2. Linda Lavin 3. Hypothalamus 4. Olympia 5. Venus 6. Carbon 7. Boston 8. “Funny Girl” 9. Color sequence of the rainbow (Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet) 10. Type of Italian bread (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

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REMARKABLE PEOPLE: ETIQUETTE EXPERTS

Over the years, these ladies have stood out as experts in etiquette, and continue to be the standard for proper behavior. • Emily Post was raised in privilege as the daughter of a wealthy architect. Educated by governesses and New York City’s prestigious Miss Graham’s finishing school, Emily was introduced to society at an elegant ball in a Fifth Avenue mansion. She was wed to a prominent banker, whose infidelity created a huge scandal, leading to their divorce when Emily was 33. • Since her ex-husband had lost his fortune in a stock market crash, Emily turned to writing to support herself and two sons. After a few romantic short stories, she had published five novels by age 38. She switched to a sourcebook on etiquette, which almost immediately became a best seller in 1922. In the years to come, ten editions of the book were published, and her book of etiquette has never been out of print. At one time, Emily’s etiquette book was the second most-stolen book from libraries. The first was the Bible. • Emily based her many books on her root belief that manners included “good form in speech, knowledge of proper social graces, and charm.” In Emily’s words, manners are “a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.” Her pet peeves were pretentious people, dirty silverware, and hostesses who served themselves first. • Another etiquette expert, Letitia Baldridge, not only acted as First Lady Jacqueline Kennedy’s Social Secretary, she wrote a regular newspaper column on appropriate behavior and ran her own PR firm. Letitia had met Jackie at Miss Porter’s School, a prep school in Farmington, Connecticut, and the pair went on to attend Vassar College together.

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Therapy Dog Flunks Training Test

DEAR PAW’S CORNER: My friend’s Golden Retriever, “Janey,” was training to be a therapy dog, but flunked an important test and needs more training to qualify. What does she mean? I wasn’t aware that emotional support dogs needed extra training -- they’re not service dogs. -Barron L., Birmingham, Alabama DEAR BARRON: It’s true that no training or certification is needed for an owner to declare their pet a companion or emotional support pet. However, the growing need for therapy dogs who provide temporary emotional support to humans going through a crisis or an emotionally difficult time has led to calls for more standardized training in these roles. The American Kennel Club is perhaps the most prominent organization to approve therapy dog certification organizations under specific criteria. Therapy dogs frequently visit hospitals, nursing homes, classrooms, shelters and even courtrooms to provide comfort to people of all ages. Because of their unique role in working with many different people over the course of a day, these dogs need to be even-tempered and well-socialized, and respond instantly to commands from their handler. Handlers need to pass a background check, because the pair will be working with vulnerable populations. Some certification groups such as the Alliance of Therapy Dogs will test and observe a potential therapy animal. Their instructor/ observer will give the owner advice and guidance during this process. If the dog needs more training or doesn’t have the right temperament, then it won’t be recommended for certification. It sounds like Janey has the right temperament but needs more behavioral training. I hope her owner goes forward with it, because the world could use more of these wonderful dogs.

ETIQUETTE EXPERTS (continued): • Baldridge was responsible for updating Amy Vanderbilt’s Complete Book of Etiquette, as well as penning 20 books of her own on the subject. • Amy Vanderbilt published her book of etiquette in 1952. A distant cousin of the famous railroad magnate Vanderbilt family, Amy had worked in advertising and public relations, while doing five years of research for her book of manners. She also hosted a 1950s television program, “It’s in Good Taste,” and a radio show “The Right Thing to Do.” Her book offered the standard of conduct for everything from how to write thank-you notes, including which stationery to use, to hosting a party to planning a wedding. Her book is still in print after many revisions. • Judith Martin is a modern-day etiquette authority, better known as Miss Manners. The daughter of Polish immigrants, Judith began writing an advice column at age 40, answering etiquette questions and contributing mini-essays on proper behavior. More than 200 newspapers publish her column three times a week. In her column, she always refers to herself in the third person, such as “Miss Manners believes…” She has written 18 books on the subject, including Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, Miss Manners on Painfully Proper Weddings, and Miss Manners: A Citizen’s Guide to Civility. • Miss Manners advises that “if you behave in a way that offends the people you’re trying to deal with, they will stop dealing with you.” She cites “blatant greed” as the most serious etiquette problem in America.

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MINIATURE GOLF May 11 has been designated Miniature Golf Day, time to step onto the green and learn about this amusing pastime. • The world’s oldest miniature golf course is still in existence and operating today in St. Andrews, Scotland. While the game of golf had been played by men at St. Andrews for some 600 years, the social proprieties of the day declared it improper for ladies to take a full swing at a golf ball and to “take the club back past their shoulder.” As a result, a miniature course was established for ladies in 1867, The Ladies’ Putting Club of St. Andrews. Don’t look for windmills and Eiffel Towers on this course. Today’s course is a putting green of 18 holes covering two acres of “humps and bumps, valleys, and pockets.” • America’s first miniature golf course came along in 1916, when steamship baron James Barber designed his own personal course on his Pinehurst, North Carolina estate. Dubbed Thistle Dhu, Barber included fountains and gardens along geometrically designed walkways. The community of Pinehurst has continued his legacy with the construction of an 18-hole putting course of the same name. It’s not your usual novelty-type course, instead using a traditional style of rolling greens, hills, ponds, and trees. • In 1926, two ingenious New Yorkers came up with the idea of building mini golf courses on the roofs of the city’s skyscrapers. Drake Delanoy and John Ledbetter copied the artificial surface idea of Thomas Fairborn, and ended up with a lawsuit for patent infringement. After meeting an agreement with Fairborn, there were 150 rooftop courses by 1930.

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Mental Health Care 24/7

The Department of Veterans Affairs is serious about providing mental health care for veterans, especially in light of the ongoing, unchanging statistics for veteran suicides. A recent press release serves as a reminder that mental health resources and crisis intervention are available 24/7 at any VA health care facility. In 2018, 1.7 million veterans received mental health services at the VA. That includes 84,000 psychiatric stays, 41,700 residential stays and 21 million outpatient visits. For that year, 48 percent of in-person mental health visits were held on the same day as the veteran’s primary care visit. So far in 2019, 51 percent of in-person visits were held on the same day as the primary care visit. What happened, one wonders, to the remaining 49 percent? The 24/7 mental health coverage includes other services: a telehealth or video visit, scheduling an appointment, talking on the phone to a nurse or getting a prescription filled. Is that how the others received same-day services? Still, all it takes, per the VA website, is to walk into any VA medical center, day or night, or into a Vet Center during operating hours and you’ll get help. If you’re in crisis or know a veteran who is, call the Veterans Crisis Line at 800-273-8255 and press 1. Or you can send a text to 838255. Or chat at VeteransCrisisLine.net. If you’re concerned about someone else, check Defense Suicide Prevention Office (www.dspo. mil) for symptoms you should watch for. Scroll down to the Prevention (service members & veterans) and Intervention (warning signs) categories. If you just need advice and want to talk to a veteran who’s been where you are, the Military One Source Be There peer program will hook you up with a peer coach, if you’re freshly out of the service (up to one year). Call them at 800-342-9647. (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

MINIATURE GOLF (continued): • In 1927, Tennessee hotel owner John Garnet Carter patented his version of mini golf that he called “Tom Thumb Golf.” Trying to draw traffic to his hotel, Carter built the course on Lookout Mountain, a course designed by his wife Frieda with a fairyland theme. The course was covered with cottonseed hulls mixed with oil, rolled onto a foundation of sand, a technique that had been patented by American businessman Thomas Fairborn a few years earlier. The Lookout Mountain course was the site of the first documented mini golf competitions. More than 200 golfers from 30 states gathered there in 1930. Carter’s course was so successful that by 1930, he had sold more than 3,000 Tom Thumb franchises through his company, the Fairyland Manufacturing Corporation. About 25% of the mini golf courses in America were Tom Thumb designs, and by the end of the decade, an estimated 4 million people were playing the game. • The idea of quirky novelty props came along during the Great Depression. Because regulation mini golf courses were too pricey for most folks, courses were built using whatever everyday items could be scavenged. Tires, rain gutters, barrels, and pipes were incorporated along the paths, and soon the unusual items became the norm. Over the years, windmills, volcanoes, waterfalls, moving ramps, and other obstacles were added. • Due to limited winter daylight hours in Scandinavia, glow-in-the-dark courses are popular. A 40-foot (12.2-m) volcano is the highlight of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina’s course, where the Master’s Tournament is played every year. Thirty-five peacocks meander the green at the Gilbertsville, Kentucky course.

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“12 Summer Safety Tips for Seniors”

By Matilda Charles

Senior$afe Act Lets Banks Call the Cops

Congress took a big step last year to protect our financial interests. The Senior$afe Act gives immunity to bank employees who call the authorities if they think a senior is being scammed. It’s not quite that simple, but that’s the end result. Too often when seniors are being scammed, they go to the bank to ask about transferring or withdrawing large sums of money and wiring it to others. In scams, that can mean fake grandchildren or fake IRS employees who have scared us. It’s estimated that seniors lose $3 billion per year to financial exploitation. Until now, the bank was unable to step in, even if it knew something was wrong, being told that privacy was more important than mere suspicions. Now certain bank employees, specially trained to identify questionable activities, will have immunity, or freedom from a lawsuit. And it’s not just banks. Other types of financial institutions also will be given this ability to help. Our investment advisers, brokers, insurance agents, credit unions and others also can train and designate certain employees to act. In return, the institution itself also gets immunity for the disclosure of private information to law enforcement. That’s not to say it’s now required that banks and other institutions call the police if they suspect a senior is being financially exploited. Authors of the bill hope that by providing immunity it will encourage financial institutions to step up after they’re trained. A few states already have this protection against financial elder abuse, but now it’s federal, and all states will need to follow the law. If enough financial institutions sign up for the program, it could go a long way toward helping seniors to avoid being victims. (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

The summertime is a time of fun and relaxation for most people. But for seniors, the heat and sun can be dangerous if the proper precautions aren’t taken. Here are some great tips that aging adults, as well as their caregivers, can use to make sure they have a fun, safe summer. Stay Hydrated Seniors are more susceptible to dehydration than younger people because they lose their ability to conserve water as they age… Talk to Your Doctor Check with your medical team to make sure any medications you are on won’t be affected by higher temperatures — especially if you don’t have air conditioning in your home… Keep Your Cool Even small increases in temperature can shorten the life expectancy for seniors who are coping with chronic medical conditions… Stay in Touch High temperatures can be life-threatening, so communication plays an important role in ensuring the safety of aging adults… Meet Your Neighbors Get in touch with those who live in your neighborhood and learn a bit about them and their schedules… Know Who to Call Prepare a list of emergency phone numbers and place them in an easy-to-access area… Wear the Right Stuff Everyone, including seniors, should dress for the weather… Protect Your Eyes Vision loss can be common among seniors, and too much exposure to the sun can irritate eyes and cause further damage… Know the Risks of Hyperthermia During the summer, be particularly cautious about abnormally high body temperatures — a condition known as hyperthermia. Heat stroke is an advanced form of hyperthermia that can be lifethreatening. Make sure to know the warning signs and get medical attention immediately if you or anyone you know is experiencing these symptoms..: Body temperature greater than 104 degrees A change in behavior, such as acting confused, agitated or grouchy Dry, flushed skin Nausea and vomiting Headache Heavy breathing or a rapid pulse

Linda Davis Director of building relationships. 208.457.3403 www.LodgeLiving.net

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COMFORT FOODS MADE FAST AND HEALTHY! By Healthy Exchange

A Mother’s Day Chocolate Dessert

Mothers, grandmothers, aunts and special women in our lives will all be honored on Mother’s Day. We’ll take care of the dessert, and you take care of the rest. 18 (2 1/2-inch) chocolate graham cracker squares 1 (8-ounce) package fat-free cream cheese 2 cups reduced-calorie whipped topping Sugar substitute to equal 1/2 cup sugar 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 2 (4-serving) packages sugar-free chocolate fudge pudding mix 1 1/2 cups nonfat dry milk powder 2 1/2 cups water 1. Arrange 12 of the chocolate graham crackers in a 9-by-13-inch dish. In a large bowl, stir cream cheese with a spoon until soft. Add whipped topping, sugar substitute and vanilla extract. Mix gently to combine. Carefully spread mixture evenly over cracker crust. 2. In a large bowl, combine dry pudding mixes, dry milk powder and water. Mix well using a wire whisk. Pour pudding mixture evenly over cream cheese layer. 3. Crush remaining 6 graham crackers and evenly sprinkle crumbs over top. Cover and refrigerate at least 2 hours. Serves 8. * Each serving equals: 157 calories, 1g fat, 9g protein, 28g carb., 403mg sodium, 0g Fiber; Diabetic Exchanges: 1 1/2 Starch, 1/2 Meat.

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By Mick Harper 1. Which artist first released “Don’t Turn Around”? 2. What the group started out as The Melody Makers? 3. Name the former Humble Pie bandmember who had a debut solo album entitled “Wind of Change.” 4. Who was the first to record “(You Don’t Know) How Glad I Am”? 5. Name the song that contains this lyric: “With music by our side to break the color lines, Let’s work together to improve our way of life, Join voices in protest to social injustice.” Answers 1. Tina Turner, as a b-side single in 1986. “Don’t Turn Around” has been covered by a number of artists, notably Aswad in 1988, Ace of Base in 1994 and Milow in 2017. 2. Ziggy Marley and the Melody Makers, made up of four of Bob Marley’s 10 children. They started with “Children Playing in the Streets” in 1979, with royalties going to a United Nations children’s fund. 3. Peter Frampton, in 1972. 4. Nancy Wilson, in 1964. She netted a Grammy for Best Rhythm & Blues Recording. 5. “Rhythm Nation,” by Janet Jackson in 1989. She combined social themes with danceable melodies on her “Rhythm Nation 1814” album, which included this song. It went to No. 1 in the U.S. on the dance club charts. (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

1. Avengers: Endgame (PG-13) Robert Downey Jr., Chris Evans 2. Captain Marvel (PG-13) Brie Larson, Samuel L. Jackson 3. The Curse of La Llorona (R) Linda Cardellini, Raymond Cruz 4. Breakthrough (PG) Chrissy Metz, Topher Grace 5. Shazam! (PG-13) Zachary Levi, Mark Strong 6. Little (PG-13) Regina Hall, Issa Rae 7. Dumbo (PG) Colin Farrell, Michael Keaton 8. Pet Sematary (R) Jason Clarke, Amy Steimetz 9. Us (R) Lupita Nyong’o, Winston Duke 10. Penguins (G) Documentary (c) 2019 King Features Synd., Inc.

Top 10 Video On Demand 1. Glass (PG-13) James McAvoy 2. The Mule (R) Clint Eastwood 3. Aquaman (PG-13) Jason Momoa 4. A Dog’s Way Home (PG) Ashley Judd 5. Bumblebee (PG-13) Hailee Steinfeld 6. Holmes & Watson (PG-13) Will Ferrell 7. Vice (R) Christian Bale 8. The Green Book (PG-13) Mahershala Ali 9. Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (PG) Shameik Moore 10. On the Basis of Sex (PG-13) Felicity Jones Top 10 DVD, Blu-ray Sales 1. Aquaman (PG-13) Warner Bros. 2. Glass (PG-13) Universal 3. Dragon Ball Super: Broly -- The Movie (PG) Funimation 4. Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse (PG) Sony Pictures 5. Bumblebee (PG-13) Paramount 6. Mary Poppins Returns (PG) Disney 7. A Dog’s Way Home (PG) Sony 8. Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald (PG-13) Warner Bros. 9. The Mule (R) Warner Bros. 10. Ralph Breaks the Internet (PG) Disney

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ARIES (March 21 to April 19) Untangling personal problems might take more time than the impatient Lamb expected. But it’s important to hang in there until all those knotty situations are straightened out. TAURUS (April 20 to May 20) You still need to work out last-minute snags in your dealings with a rival. Hold your ground despite a perceived lack of support. Things should turn around before you know it. GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) Best not to delay preparing for that upcoming family event. The sooner you get things started, the better chance you have of finding potential problems and making needed changes. CANCER (June 21 to July 22) The romantic Moon Child might be reluctant to see the reality behind that “ideal” situation. But by midweek, the practical Crab emerges to help clear away the moonbeams. LEO (July 23 to August 22) Although the Big Cat might be receptive to more “purr-suasion” to get you to agree to a workplace change, make sure you can distinguish the fine line between facts and flattery. VIRGO (August 23 to September 22) Your positive attitude in the workplace helps to get you noticed by the right people. Now go ahead and use some of that new self-confidence to help shore up a personal relationship. LIBRA (September 23 to October 22) Although you might still have to work out some problems with a business partner, things go more smoothly on the home front. An investment opportunity might need more study. SCORPIO (October 23 to November 21) Don’t be reluctant to act on your suspicion. Even if others see nothing wrong, the astute Scorpio could sense an underlying problem that isn’t always obvious on the surface. SAGITTARIUS (November 22 to December 21) A new opportunity presents some obstacles that need to be dealt with as soon as possible. Delaying action in hopes that the problems will go away could be counterproductive. CAPRICORN (December 22 to January 19) A friend or family member’s request might carry some hidden factors that could later create problems. Be sure you know all the facts before you make your decision. AQUARIUS (January 20 to February 18) A setback in implementing a plan could turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Use the downtime to rework your original concepts and see where changes could be made. PISCES (February 19 to March 20) You might not be consciously fishing for compliments, but admit it -- won’t you feel great when your efforts are noticed? So accept the praise gracefully. You earned it.

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