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14 Best Block Is… Don’t Be There!

4 Introduction 6 On the Cover

By John G. Warren

8 Beautiful Baby Contest

18 Vroom? By Lorie Gant Leitner

20 I Want to Scream By Carrie Vittitoe

22 Parent Perspectives: Safety 26 Do Your Kids Know What a Healthy Diet Looks Like? By Yelena Sapin

28 Family Challenge #2: Show Them Your Sparkle By Tricia Williams

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But do you have to wrap your baby in bubble wrap to keep him safe? (Don't do that â&#x20AC;&#x201C; you know you can't allow your child to play with plastics.) We all have different tolerance levels for risk taking, but most parents seem to lower their tolerance when they realize all the things that can go wrong. Anyone who has seen a toddler standing on a chair knows the feeling of worry over safety. And, if you have a teenager learning to drive, it is a whole other level of fear. Read this issue for some tips on how others are keeping their families safe, join the discussion on www.TodaysFamilyEveryDay.com to share your thoughts and concerns.

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on the cover On the Straight and Narrow Bridget and Matt Thomerson are experts at laying down the law at home to protect their kids without stifling their fun. The Thomerson’s, who are both police officers, say that their job has given them a different perspective on parenting based on the situations they’ve encountered on the job. Their son (Collin, age 9) is pictured with them. Read more about how they keep their kids safe on page 38. Photo: Melissa Donald

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n one of my favorite scenes of all the Karate Kid movies, Kensuke Myagi said, “Daniel San, best block is don’t be there!” This can mean ducking or slipping a punch. It can mean staying out of a knife-wielding assailant’s range. Or most importantly, it can mean removing yourself geographically from a dangerous situation. Walking alone down a dark street in areas known for crime doesn’t honor Mr. Myagi’s rule. In a true self-defense situation, the main goal is to put as much distance between you and your attacker(s) as possible. At our Forest Park Dojo, we have countless visitors wanting to learn how to beat up somebody so they can protect their families. You can see their passion as they pound the heavy bags and focus mitts; they gleam with the satisfaction that they’re taking a positive action in a dangerous world. However, in a road-rage shouting match on the side of the road, things can easily escalate into a violent encounter with life-changing results. Learning to punch, kick, or slam somebody is only the tip of the iceberg when dealing with true self-protection. Once I accidentally bumped shoulders at the mall with an enraged individual who was having a spat with his girlfriend. He turned to me expecting a challenge. Should I show him my boxing skills? Wouldn’t all these people be impressed if I threw him in the fountain? I can’t just walk away in front of all these people, can I? Won’t they think I’m a coward? Without hesitation I turned to him and said, “I’m sorry, I wasn’t paying attention.” This flowed out of me like the thousands of deadly fighting techniques we practice regularly. Now there’s a good chance both of us are going to sleep in our own beds tonight, not deal with police officers, hospitals, and possibly the morgue. Of course this requires bruising the ego in the same fashion as bruising your sparring partner at the dojo. If I take an honest inventory of all the fights I’ve either witnessed or been involved in, almost every one of them could have been avoided. It always comes down to someone thinking they need to save face or impress somebody they don’t know or may never see again. “Best block is don’t be there” has helped me in life numerous times. A couple years ago I became a Volunteer In Police Service (VIPS) for the Louisville Metro Police Department, helping them organize and update crime prevention programs such as the Neighborhood Watch. The training I received awakened me on many levels when dealing with self-protection. Many people don’t know how to react when confronted with an aggressive individual. continued on page 16

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Hug your bike frame if someone is trying to stuff you in a car. Also, if you must defend yourself, always look for the way out. continued from page 14

Thanks to my training, both from LMPD and the martial arts, here are some tips in dealing with adult violence:

• Hug your bike frame if someone is trying to stuff you in a car. Not only will it make an abduction nearly impossible, any bystander will notice quickly this is not just a child having a meltdown.

• Learn to ignore negative things said about you or anyone else that is close to you. They’ve probably never met your Mama: this is just an attempt to provoke you. Learn to walk (or run) away. Trying to prove your point with someone who is enraged is useless.

• Don’t let headphones, hand-held games, or any other device distract you from being aware of your surroundings. Just as with adults, many dangerous situations can be prevented by knowing what to look for.

• Learn how to deal with the adrenaline bursts which always accompany violent situations. When an adrenaline dump occurs, your fine motor skills become harder to use and can slow you down, both mentally and physically. • Always be aware of your surroundings. If you do need to make a swift exit, know how to get out and find help. This is especially true with the new wave of Flash Mob violence that is sweeping the country. When people hear a fight or riot ensuing, they often run toward it to see what’s going on. When violence erupts you should run AWAY from it. • If you are attacked and you must defend yourself, always look for the way out. Real fights don’t resemble the back and forth sparring like a boxing match or an MMA Fight. If you gain the upper hand, or see an opportunity to flee, you are morally and legally obligated to do it. Remember, the goal in a self-defense situation is always to put as much distance between you and your attacker as possible, not impress a crowd with all kind of fancy martial arts or wrestling moves. When grown people fight, they don’t go to the principal’s office, they go to court. With young children it can be a different situation, because they don’t use the same logic as adults. They can be trusting of strangers and persuaded to do things that can put them in danger.

Here are some safety tips that I think every kid should know: • Know your full name, phone number, and address. Also know where the safe people are that live in your neighborhood, and make sure they know who you are. • Try to never be alone when not in a familiar, safe area. There is always strength in numbers. Even in the wild, predators always try to single out the small and weak. 16

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• Never accept money or gifts when your parents are not with you. Cute animals and candy can be tricks for strangers to get near you. If someone knows you by name, and you don’t know them, make sure they’re not just looking at your backpack or jersey. Just like fire drills and other role-playing education, I always try to make my children understand what to do in any kind of self-defense or dangerous situation. Sam Conver, 6th Degree Black Belt and operator of The Christian Martial Arts Academy of Louisville, says, “The physical benefits of the martial arts are a great way for kids to vent the never-ending energies that are built up, not to mention the stretching, balance, and coordination exercises routinely performed. Seeing a child digest small pieces of a complicated martial arts system, and then one day put it all together, is a joy in itself.” I will always cherish my bi-weekly trips to the dojo with my girls. I make sure my girls understand what the self-defense techniques mean and why they are practicing them. This is especially true of the greatest technique in all of martial arts – The Nike Technique: ALWAYS RUN AWAY WHEN YOU CAN! Learning to fall properly can be a huge benefit. My neighbors watched with amazement when my ladder lost its footing, sending me in a freefall to my deck. I was able to perform an acrobatic landing and roll up to my feet. This was a direct result of drills we do weekly. Our martial arts training has been invaluable in learning how to recognize and avoid violence. However, I believe the greatest thing we’ve learned is the mental strength needed to survive an assault if it should ever occur. You must want to survive. You must never give up no matter what. You must refuse to be a victim. You must completely understand, “best block is don’t be there!” John G. Warren lives in Louisville with his wife Cheri and daughters Mary (10), Anna (8), and Emily (4). He is a frequent contributor to Today’s Family magazine.

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Should You Allow This?

Vroom? By Lorie Gant Leitner

am an adrenaline junkie. Bungee jumping is at the top of my Bucket List. Roller coasters thrill me. Secretly, I wish I owned a motorcycle. I drove ATVs when I was young. I don’t remember asking my parents for permission. I operated them without a helmet, training, or supervision. Even today I remember how hard my heart pounded because I was scared as much as I was excited. I’m an adrenaline junkie, remember? Since becoming a Mom, however, I am more hesitant about such risky behavior. It stems from the realization I am committed to the care of another human being, which requires me to remain in one piece. Unfortunately for Noah, my 6 year old, my anxiety to keep him safe creates conflict between us when the answer to his “Can I Mom?” is my firm “No.” At least twice a year, my family attends an event where an all-terrain vehicle (ATV) is present. Prior to this year, it had been 18

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easier to deny Noah his request to ride an ATV, using his age or size as an excuse. Now, however, kids his age (and smaller) are riding as passengers. I find myself self-conscious about my decision; not only am I not the “Cool Mom,” but Noah can’t be the “Cool Kid.” In my eyes, an ATV is a vehicle as serious as a car. In Noah’s eyes, it is a step up from a battery-powered Jeep or Barbie Convertible. Why are other parents okay with their children riding an ATV, but I am strongly against it? For some families, an ATV is a normal thing, and riding one as a kid is a rite of passage. I know these people; they are my family and friends. We are not so different in most of our thinking, and they love their children as much as I love mine. However, when I refuse to let Noah be a part of their group and ride an ATV, they are judging my decision as much as I am judging theirs. I researched ATV features and safety. I wanted to be sure I based my decision on logic rather than just emotion. The Internet offered a variety of sites. Some were educational, while others advocated ATV child safety. I learned safety tips. I learned how to evaluate if a child is ready

to be an operator. I cried over the personal stories shared by parents who had tragically lost their children to an ATV accident. During my week of research, I visited Kosair’s Festival of Trees and Lights. Coincidentally, the hospital featured a message about ATV injuries. I learned the average ATV is 400 pounds, and accidents involving these vehicles are the most common and serious ones seen at Kosair Children’s Hospital. Helmet use alone could have prevented 88 percent of serious injuries. In my experiences, I have never seen a child or an adult wear a helmet. When I mentioned the Kosair display to my brother, he stated “You let Noah ride a bike. That’s dangerous too. Why is it easier to say yes to him riding a bike than an ATV?” While not as massive as an ATV, a bicycle presents its own set of dangers. The difference for me is the training and supervision required to ride an ATV. I have the experience of riding a bicycle to share with Noah; he is required to wear a helmet, and he is always in my sight so I can warn him about traffic. Other dangers seem more logical: look both ways before crossing a street; cigarettes are unhealthy; and say no to drugs. But how best to educate my son about the dangers of all-terrain vehicles? Our laws dictate other guidelines — minimum age for driving or drinking alcohol — but the decision to allow your child to use an ATV is a “fuzzy” area. Parents decide based on their own comfort level and the maturity level of the child. And how do I approach this topic when dropping off Noah for a play date? It is not the same as relaying the danger of a peanut allergy. Although the results may be as fatal, I still am issuing a statement that may be different from their opinion. Will they be offended? Even more important, when Noah is a few years older (and with friends) will he heed my warning not to ride? Or will he hop on the ATV – untrained — setting himself up for an accident? After deliberation, I decided my son will not ride an ATV until he is much older. Perhaps I will relax when he enters high school, and I am confident in his physical and mental ability to handle an ATV. For now, the dangers far outweigh all other considerations. Lorie Gant Leitner lives in Louisville with her husband Jeremy and their sons Noah (6) and Lucas (1). This is her first article for Today’s Family.

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I WANT TO

SCREAM!

When Your Child Makes You Angry

By Carrie Vittitoe

have eaten a tremendous amount of crow since becoming a mother. So much, in fact, that I think I should carry a bottle of steak sauce in my diaper bag to make it go down easier. There were many things I thought were absurd as a childless person, but as a mother I have done them all in an effort to save face or get my grocery shopping done without enduring a Six Mile Island-size toddler meltdown.

is what I like to refer to as the Throttling Threes. Find me a 3-year-old and close behind him or her will be a parent with hands aching to wring that child’s neck. Dealing with a 3-year-old brings out the id, the beast, in all of us because what person enjoys a near constant barrage of sassiness, screaming, and physical assault? When Norah was 3, she and I had some battles that I thought were epic until my son Graeme turned 3. Long ago, my husband and I turned the lock around on the kids’ bedroom doors in order to have a place to put them when they refused to stop screaming at us or hitting us. There was a time when I would have considered this a cardinal sin of parenting: to lock a child in his or her room for any amount of time. But as a mother being repeatedly hit by a child and becoming increasingly angry at such abuse, I realized that putting Norah and Graeme in a locked room was a way to protect them from what I might do if they didn’t stop hitting me. I cannot count the number of times (and sometimes number of times in a day) when it has taken every ounce of my strength and grinding pits into my teeth to not clobber my children when they have been hell-bent on picking a fight with me. I would be lying if I said the idea of punching them in the face didn’t provide me some release of my pent-up anger. Parenting books instruct us to remain calm in the face of a child’s tantrum, but these books fail to mention that there is a natural human instinct of “Fight or Flight” upon being attacked, regardless of who is attacking. If a colleague or neighbor behaved towards me as my children sometimes do, I most certainly wouldn’t just take it. If, despite my requests for them to cease, they continued to harass me, we would almost certainly come to blows. But when dealing with our children, we are supposed to take the high road. I’m not proud of the rage I sometimes feel toward my children, but I have to believe that other parents fight this same internal struggle. On my “bottom-of-the-barrel-mom” days I read the newspaper accounts of moms who leave their children on the freeway or injure them and think, “Well, at least I didn’t do that.” Even though I understand all too well how easy it would be to cross that line.

You are officially a seasoned parent when you eagerly open the giant plastic teddy bear container of animal crackers in the middle of Target in order to make it to the checkout with your sanity still intact. While most parents can chuckle at this, one of the hardest truths to swallow is one that no one ever wants to admit: how easily a child can anger a parent and how close a parent can sometimes come to hurting a child. While I may monitor my children’s television-viewing habits and hold their hands in parking lots, sometimes the biggest potential danger they face comes in the form of their own mother. This is one of the things you don’t expect when you are handed the soggy mess of baby in the delivery room and feel your heart grow three times its normal size. In your wildest dreams, you cannot imagine ever doing anything to harm your child. I remember the first time I felt rage towards my daughter Norah. She was a newborn, learning how to latch on to my breast to nurse. It was the wee hours of the morning and as I was trying to get a good latch, she was flailing her newborn hands at my very sore nipples which she did at every feed. Frustration, physical pain, sleep deprivation, and the shrill screams of a newborn made me want to pick her up and chuck her across the room. I didn’t, but that was a very scary welcome to motherhood. Different stages of childhood provide different challenges Carrie Vittitoe lives in Louisville with her husband Dean to a parent. While everyone discusses the Terrible Twos, Langford and their children Norah (8), Graeme (4), and Miles no one ever seems to acknowledge the real doozy which (2). She is a frequent contributor to Today’s Family. www.todaysfamilymag.com 4 4 4 www.facebook.com /todaysfamily 4 4 4 @todaysfamilynow 20 February/March 2012

What Parents Should Know About Anger Toward Children • It is completely normal for parents to feel anger toward their children. • It is also normal for a child to push parents’ buttons and test boundaries; it is how they learn. • It is because parents love a child that they become frustrated and angry when the child misbehaves or acts recklessly. • Parents need to be aware of their triggers, especially those with mood issues (anxiety/ depression/bipolar) whose triggers may be shorter. Parents should have a plan for what they will do when their buttons are pushed. • A common misconception is that parents need to address consequences during an argument or tantrum. After the incident, a parent should process it with the child, discussing what happened and what the consequences will be. • Parents need to forgive themselves and be willing to apologize to their children when they have acted out in anger. Children who see their parents admit mistakes are better able to accept their own emotions and effectively manage them. • Parents can seek out support groups or books to help them find techniques to help them manage their emotions and their dealings with their children, such as Common Sense Parenting by Ray Burke, Ron Herron, and Bridget Barnes; Discipline Without Shouting or Spanking by Jerry Wyckoff and Barbara Unell; How to Behave So Your Children Will Too by Sal Severe and The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. Contributed by Brooklawn President/CEO Mary-Kate Poling and therapist Caitlin Cousins Mudd. today’s FAMILY

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Safety

Mom, There’s This Party Friday... Some teenager parties include alcohol or illegal drugs provided by adults or peers. It happens. What can parents do to help their kids make good choices and keep them safe? Here are some ideas:

The New Standards Sometimes I wonder how I survived my youth relatively unscathed, with nothing other than a couple of barely-detectable scars from scratches and a few chicken pox marks. When I was a child, I sat in my father’s lap and pretended to steer when he was driving. I rode in the bed of the pickup truck with my dog through the countryside on the way to my grandparents’ house. I played outside all day long in the neighborhood. I listened to music probably way too loud. Now as a parent of a 5-year-old and 3-year-old, I am in awe of the myriad of regulations and safety products available. Some great improvements in standards have occurred. Requirements for car seats and booster seats have surely saved countless lives. Covering unused electrical outlets with plastic plugs can’t be a bad thing.

• Get to know the parents of your children’s friends well enough that you have their phone numbers and feel comfortable calling them. Party invitations often include only the host kid’s cell phone number, so insist on getting a parent’s phone number. Then call the parent and ask two important questions: 1) Will alcohol be served? and 2) Will you be chaperoning the party? • Talk with your kid about your expectations and how to handle peer pressure. Give him a good reason to refuse an alcoholic drink, cigarette, or marijuana. Make it so he can say with complete honesty that his parents will be awake when he gets home, and they will give him a big hug as he walks in the door. If they smell of alcohol or smoke, there will be consequences. • If someone is taking your kid to the party, have the driver come into your home. If you are dropping your kid off at the party, go inside and talk with the parents. • If something goes wrong at a gathering, your teenager may need a way out without embarrassing herself. So set up a phase that she can say when calling or texting that lets you know that she needs to be picked up right away. The phrase could be, “Why do I have to come home right now?” Be willing to pick up your teenager and her friends anywhere, anytime, with no questions asked. Ultimately, you can’t protect your teenagers from everything. But with guidance, they can learn to make good decisions in tough social situations. — Bob and Mary Beth Uberti continued on page 24

But how did generations of children survive without all the products now available? If you bought a sample of the offerings at Babies R Us, your house would literally be on lock down: toilet locks; cabinet locks; stove knob locks. And not only would your house be germ-free, but everywhere you go, you could keep your child in a Bubble Boy environment with shopping cart covers and the like. Some of these devices and a little precaution are not so bad. But I think sometimes we try to “childproof” our homes and every place we go as a substitute for attentive parenting and a little bit of letting them learn some lessons on their own. In my house, we wash our hands but we employ the 5-second rule. We let them learn that if little monkeys jump on the bed, they fall off and bump their heads. But we wear bike helmets. It’s all about balance. — Angela Stallings Hagan, Ph.D.

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The New Stranger Danger

with kids if they ever get lost in a store. And we talk about situations we’ve encountered with ‘odd’ people.

When I was young, I was taught that I should never talk to strangers. But my parents would routinely say hello to people in the grocery store, on elevators, and at the mall. Aren’t they strangers?

Most important, I’ve taught them it is ok to say no to an adult. Not to be rude, disobedient, or bratty, but the permission to say ‘no’ if they feel funny about something an adult is asking them to do. It is better to be a little embarrassed by yelling or making a scene than to take a chance on getting hurt if they are in danger. Children should be taught to trust their feelings; if they feel weird or funny about someone, they should follow that instinct. If someone does try to take them out of a store, they should yell, “I don’t know this person” instead of “help.”

To a child, a ‘stranger’ can mean anything from a scary-looking man lurking in the shadows to the new postman ringing the doorbell. So how do we tell our children about ‘stranger danger’ in an age-appropriate way? I’ve given my children specific examples of how to protect themselves from an early age using examples they understand. I remind them frequently never to get in a car with someone they don’t know. Never allow someone to touch them where their bathing suits cover. That a grown-up looking for a lost puppy at the park should always ask an adult for help and not ask a kid. To approach the front counter or a mom

I may not be able to protect my children from every possible circumstance, but at least I can be certain that I have prepared them as best I can. — Stacie L. Martin

So Many Rules “In our day, we rode 12 kids in the backseat with one sleeping up on the back window ledge.” True, but in your day, a lot more children were killed because they were improperly restrained in motor vehicles. If an injury prevention measure isn’t cost prohibitive and saves just one life, it is a good idea. Injuries are preventable. Consumers today are faced with a myriad of warnings telling them how to buckle their children into carseats and how to keep them safe when they run across unforeseen hazards: guns in the home, poisons under the counter, medication left out by grandma. For me, two very personal experiences reinforced the idea that rules exist for a reason. Unfortunately, that reason is a tragedy that someone else lived through. Maryland was our home before 2007, and in the early 2000’s I became a mom. Working in Injury Prevention opened my eyes to things I should do as a parent of small children. I remember researching furniture tipping over on children. Sometimes the furniture was used as a ladder; sometimes an appliance had been placed on an unstable surface. The outcome of these injuries was often death. Furniture is unforgiving on the body of a small child. I was vigilant and made my husband secure everything taller than four feet to a wall, and we never placed a TV on a small side table. A friend of mine who was a member of the same MOMS Inc group I was in was not as lucky. Right before we moved, her son pulled a 27” television over on himself, causing massive crush injuries and significant head trauma. He survived the incident but his rehabilitation is ongoing. And the doubts and regrets — will he be everything he could have been had this not happened? — still linger. Every parent has wondered whether to wake a sleeping child in a car seat or just leave him be for a while. Leaving any child and not having them properly restrained can have devastating effects. I was out with a friend who told me the story of an acquaintance’s child hanging himself on the buckle of his car seat. I listened with sadness but didn’t have a clear picture of how such a thing could happen. Not more than a few months later I was driving home with my kids and my youngest was having an epic tantrum. We were only about a mile from home so I clasped his chest buckle but decided to forego latching the lap buckle between his legs. The screaming continued as we drove and then it got quiet. Relief was my primary emotion at that moment until my middle child Liam said matter-of-factly, “Mom, I don’t think Sean can breathe.” I whipped around to see that Sean, in his anger, had slid his bottom off the car seat and was hung up on the chest buckle, right at his throat. He couldn’t breathe, speak, or make any noise to alert me to the difficulty he was having. That is one of those parenting “what if” scenarios you replay in your mind. Luckily for me I got a second chance with my son. Rules can seem stifling but when it has to do with the safety of your child, go by the book. — Barb Hartman

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Do Your Kids Know What a Healthy Diet Looks Like? By Yelena Sapin

op Tarts for breakfast, chicken nuggets for lunch, pizza for dinner — what’s wrong with this picture? Plenty, according to health professionals. A diet too heavy in processed foods and empty calories and too light in fresh produce and nutrients can set our children up for a myriad of future health problems. Feeding kids well isn’t just about weight management; it’s about making sure they get what they need for proper growth and development. Learning about food and following these guidelines can help. 26

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Know What a Healthy Diet Looks Like The government’s new MyPlate is a visual representation of a balanced diet that provides essential vitamins, minerals, fiber, carbohydrates, proteins, and fats: half the plate is filled with fruits and vegetables and half with proteins and grains, accompanied by a source of dairy. Children’s dietary needs are generally the same as those of adults, the only differences being in the amounts of calories, fats, and nutrients required as they grow. Detailed information can be found on continued on page 28

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Today’s Family Wellness Advisory Group Sounds Off:

Q: Do children’s nutritional needs change as they grow? How?

CAROTHERS

I think the basics do not change, but children need a higher caloric intake during periods of high exercise/sports or during growth spurts. – Becky Carothers, Pediatrician, UofL Pediatrics Children & Youth Clinic

MUELLER

The quantities of food intake begin to change, typically based on physical activity. Additional factors include attention retention capacity: If children are challenged in the classroom, diet can contribute to positive change. – Abigail Mueller, CEO and Adolescent Woman Life Coach, Abigail Academy Advisory group members are: Klaus Boel, MD, FAAP; Rhonda Breischaft; Erin Brown; Becky Carothers, MD; Amanda Castle, RN; Carrie Crigger, DO; Dr. Bradley Goldberg; Ann Greenwell, DMD, MSD; Korie Acord, DMD; Stacie L. Martin; Lisa Mascio-Thompson; Veda Pendleton McClain, Ph.D.; Lorie Minnich, RN; Abigail Mueller; Dr. Mark Perelmuter; Ursula Robertson-Moore; Yelena Sapin; Jeb Teichman, MD, FAAP; Jeanine Triplett today’s FAMILY

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Today’s Family Wellness Advisory Group Sounds Off:

Q: What are some ways that parents can make sure their kids’ nutritional needs are being met?

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Be aware of what your kids are eating. Get print-outs of your children’s lunch choices from the school cafeteria. Consult with the pediatrician; make sure to schedule yearly check-ups. If necessary, use tricks such as pureed veggies in spaghetti sauces and muffins. Play games and/or present food in a fun way to make children want it. Most important ... model it yourself! – Stacie L. Martin, mom

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the internet, and your pediatrician can advise what’s right for your child and whether vitamin supplements are needed. It’s best to choose whole grains at least half of the time (look for the word “whole” as the first ingredient on food labels), to incorporate a variety of different fruits and vegetables, to eat lean sources of protein (lean meats, seafood, beans), to switch to low-fat or non-fat dairy (full-fat for children under two), to reduce sodium intake, and to drink water instead of sugary drinks. But as long as they’re just a “sprinkling” on top of an otherwise healthy diet, there’s still room at the table for sweets and saturated fats, says Nancy Kuppersmith, Registered Dietitian and Instructor at the University of Louisville.

Use Your Kitchen The best way to feed our kids is to prepare simple healthy meals at home. You can cook, eat, and clean up — teaching children valuable skills along the way — in the time it takes to go to a typical sit-down restaurant, says Kuppersmith. Making the effort to learn about, plan, shop for, and cook the food, and being thoughtful about what you bring into the house, shows kids that healthy eating is important. Eating well doesn’t mean giving up enjoyment however. Using healthier fats and oils increases nutritional benefits while keeping foods tasty; experimenting with herbs and spices is a fun way to jazz up meals. You don’t have to be perfect to be doing things right, says Erin Brown, a registered dietitian with the YMCA of Greater Louisville. Even small adjustments can go a long way when feeding kids in a hurry. Foods that come in boxes, bags, and cans usually aren’t the healthiest option, but as long as you have some fresh, frozen, or canned produce on hand to improvise with, you can supplement pre-packaged meals by adding some chopped vegetables or serving a side of fruit, Brown says. There’s no food on this planet that can keep us full for more than four hours while we’re awake, points out Kuppersmith, so in addition to serving regular, balanced meals and packing healthy school lunches, parents need to plan and make available nutritious snacks. Just like a meal, snacks have to include some protein to hold kids over. When shuttling kids between school and activities, having on hand car-friendly snacks — a sandwich, peanut butter crackers, or an apple with a piece of string cheese — give kids the fuel they need to make it until dinner and take away the need for last-minute trips to a fast food drive-thru.

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Include a rainbow of colors on your plate at each meal (and I don’t mean Skittles or M&M’s!). To ensure your kids are getting the most from the foods they eat, look for fruits/veggies with deep and varying colors for the biggest nutritional boost. – Rhonda Breischaft, mom 28

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Transitioning into a healthier diet can be easier if you stay flexible and keep in mind your children’s preferences. There’s no harm in letting kids sprinkle on some sugar or mix a bit of their favorite cereal into one that’s better for them, or in going half-and-half with whole milk and skim for a while, or in gradually diluting sugary juices with water until their taste buds adjust. Experiment with different varieties of their staples by trying a lower-fat cheese or a leaner, lower-sodium deli meat, but also taste it yourself to make sure your kids will still want to eat it. Most kids need to be exposed to a new food over and over before accepting it, but sometimes parents give up and take it out of rotation too soon. “Keep introducing it,” encourages Brown, “but only buy the food if other people in the household will eat it so it doesn’t go to waste.” Kids can be more willing to try something new when they’re hungry, or when it’s offered in a kid-friendly way, so try serving veggies for a snack with a favorite dip or covered with cheese, use a cookie cutter to shape sandwiches, or drizzle chocolate syrup over fruit kabobs. Make mealtime enjoyable and keep a relaxed, low-key attitude to prevent negative eating behaviors and power struggles. And most importantly, practice what you preach. Making healthy eating a way of life for the whole family is the best way to instill good habits in your kids. www.todaysfamilymag.com 4 4 4 www.facebook.com /todaysfamily 4 4 4 @todaysfamilynow

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Family Challenge #2:

Show Them Your

By TRICIA WILLIAMS

everal years ago I heard Oprah interview author Toni Morrison. I had my very own “ah ha” moment, as Oprah likes to say, when Morrison talked about the feeling you give a person when they walk in the room. Are you folding laundry and don’t look up? Do you even smile? Do you say anything? Morrison said that this feeling, or lack thereof, is how the person feels loved, or not.

From my daily log

• I feel like a better person when I stop and take the time to say “hi.” • I feel like I’m making much more of a connection and I feel more grounded. • Oops, forgot to acknowledge, just realized, now feel like a loser. • It’s a quick moment of calm. • I feel like time stops for a second and I soak in their presence. • I feel like a better mom and wife — just for looking them square in the face. • Just like they say a smile is contagious, this might be too. The response of my subjects is great: a smile, eye contact in return and am even getting hugs.

Letting the Family in on the Secret

I mulled this over in my head again and again realizing I am I have to admit, when I confessed my scheme no one so guilty of this. When my children walk in the room I am often immediately recognized it. At first they said they didn’t notice, engrossed in something or it’s just so normal that they are in the but as they took time to think about it they did recall somehouse that I don’t rev up and send them a glowing look or a positive thing different. My 8-year-old said, “It started my day off on a grin. Do I act like I even care that they are there? Hum. Maybe in good note and has an effect on the rest of my day.” their eyes it doesn’t seem that way. I asked them to give it a try for a week to see what they The more I thought about it, the more I could see the importance would experience. of it. I thought about the difference in how I feel when I enter a None of them noticed radical differences, but they all felt room and someone genuinely acknowledges me as opposed to more present and connected to the people they were with. not. If a neighbor or even a stranger comes to the door, we put on In conclusion, when I asked my family how it felt to be our happy face, conjure a blast of energy, and open the door with regularly acknowledged, a stream of powerful words a nice greeting. Yet for my own children and even for my husband, followed: Important. Welcome. Warm. Recognized. Engaged. there is sporadic “sparkle,” as I have coined this concept, at best. Nice. Safe. This theory is so true at the office as well. Does the guy look It’s that easy. Try it. Take a second to look up and you will up from his computer when you enter the office or just wave see what you’ve been missing. you in? Not that your co-workers need to feel “love” as Morrison When I think about what I would most like to change in my suggested but it’s interesting to consider how making more of an day-to-day routine or for my family, things like eating better, effort when people enter a room can change their perception of exercising more, and spending less time on a screen come to you as well as maybe your perception of them. It seems that outmind. But what I’d really like to put at the top of that list durside of the comfort zone of your house, more often than not, you ing this Valentine’s season is to show my family — my true try harder; you sparkle more. At home, when you dial everything loves — more sparkle and to help them see the power in the way back, the vibe you give off to those around you falls short. It “ah ha” moment that Oprah gave to me. was something I had not even considered. I decided to challenge myself. For a week, I would work really Tricia Williams lives in Goshen with her husband John and sons Harrison (14) and David (9). She is a frequent contributor to Today’s hard to acknowledge my family as they entered a room. Not that Family. Read more about ways you can introduce sparkle at www. I’d make a fuss and be unrealistic, but simply that I’d acknowltodaysfamilyeveryday.com. edge them and make eye-contact. Would they notice? www.todaysfamilymag.com 4 4 4 www.facebook.com /todaysfamily 4 4 4 @todaysfamilynow 30 February/March 2012

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Pa r t y Pl ace s Eight Ways to Make a Birthday Special by Kara Ferraro

rowing up with three siblings, one of which has his birthday only two days after mine, my parents tried their best to make our birthdays special. Each year on our birthday we would arrive home from school and there would be balloons, gifts and handmade cards around the “Birthday Chair.” As soon as we finished dinner and gobbled up our cake, the birthday child was directed to sit in the birthday chair and would proceed to open up their gifts. It was a magical moment for which I waited all year. Here are 8 ways you can start your own birthday traditions to create some magical moments that your children will remember for years to com. 1. The night before your child’s birthday, decorate the house or their room with balloons, confetti, flowers or a homemade banner. 2. Wake up your child by singing the Happy Birthday song.

3. Take a picture each year of your child at the exact time they were born or as soon as they wake up. 4. Let your child pick out all of the meals that day. If they want spaghetti for breakfast or pancakes for dinner— go for it—it’s their day! 5. Give gifts that reflect the same number as your child’s birthday. For example, if your child is 5, how about 5 markers, 5 coloring books, 5 lollipops, 5 pairs of socks, etc. 6. Make something for your child each year. A special pillow, frame, jewelry box or toy chest. She may not appreciate it now, but in years to come those handmade mementos are going to be the gifts she cherishes. 7. Create a time capsule. Each year on your child’s birthday put a photo of your child, a newspaper, perhaps a drawing your child made and a note of all that is going on in your life. File away for the next year or for years to come. 8. The Birthday Chair. Go on ahead, it’s been a tradition in my family for years, and to this day I still get to sit in the birthday chair complete with balloons and handmade cards— and now, so do my lucky kids!

PARTY PLACES DIRECTORY BUSINESS/ADDRESS

PHONE NUMBER/WEBSITE

EVENT OR ACTIVITY FEATURES

A Mother’s Touch Jewelry & Gifts 12312 Shelbyville Rd. Louisville, KY 40243

502.253.9477

A Mother’s Touch offers a party room for both boys and girls ages 5 & up. Enjoy a theme or beading party. You can also use our room for classes, meetings, Wedding or Baby showers, or a fun Girls Night Out. Prices start at $10 per person or a room fee. Reservations and deposit required. We can help make your event fun and memorable. Call 502.253.9477 with any questions and availability.

Kart Kountry

502.543.9588

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Joe B. Hall Ave. Shepherdsville, KY 40165

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YMCA Several Kentuckiana locations

502.587.9622

Facebook.com/Kart Kountry

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Kart Kountry is fun for the whole family, featuring the largest go-kart track in the world at over 1.5 miles. Decide which of several party packages works best for you, then relax and have fun. Activities include go-karts, bumper boats, miniature golf, jumpshot, our huge Arcade with a mix of new and classic games, and our renovated Redemption Prize Center. Come celebrate with us!

The Y has several great ways to celebrate birthdays with fun-filled activities! Options vary at Y locations and include pool, Calypso Cove, Hawaiian luau, Wii play, rock climbing, party art, pirate, Disney princess, Twilight, Justin Bieber, Toy Story and more! Come and celebrate with the Y; have your party with us and it will be a blast!

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CALENDAR of events

Elephants are part of the act at the Kosair Shrine Circus.

Kosair Shrine Circus This show is a treat for children of all ages. Ringleader Audrey Michelle leads the audience through acts involving elephants, tigers, flipping fliers, clowns, and many more. You may also donate tickets by calling 502.367.5144. Donated tickets are distributed to many local charities. WHEN~ February 9-10 @ 10:30 am and 7 pm; February 11-12 @ 10 am, 2 pm, and 7 pm WHERE~ Broadbent Arena COST~ $18, $22, $25 CONTACT~ Kentucky State Fairgrounds, Broadbent Arena box office or through Ticketmaster 1.800.745.3000 and online at www.ticketmaster.com. Arrrgh! Find out how to become a pirate at the newest Derby Dinner Playhouse production.

Learn about Seasons at ECO Kids Discovery Days: Winter at the Children’s Play Garden Your kids will learn about the characteristics of the each season through fun, interactive activities. WHEN~ February 18, 1-4 p.m. WHERE~ Children’s Play Garden at Bernheim Forest COST~ Free, $5 per car weekend environmental impact fee non-members CONTACT~ 502.955.8512.

How I Became a Pirate AARRRRGH! Who wants to be a pirate? Young Jeremy Jacobs is recruited by Captain Braid Beard for a swashbuckling pirate adventure in this musical adaptation of the bestselling book. WHEN~ February 25, March 3, 10, 17, 24 @ 9 am with show at 10 am

or 12 pm with show at 1:15 pm

Bernheim Forest

WHERE~ Derby Dinner Playhouse COST~ Breakfast- $16; Lunch- $21 CONTACT~ 812.288.8281 for or order online at http://www.derbydinner.com.

Fix Up Your Place Get some tips on how to do it at the Home, Garden & Remodeling Show featuring over 400 vendors. WHEN~ March 2-4, 10 am-9 pm on Fri. and Sat.; 10 am-5 pm on Sun. WHERE~ Kentucky Expo Center South Wing B & C COST~ Adults $10; Seniors $ 9; Children 15 & under free CONTACT~ www.louisvillehomeshow.com or 502.429.6000

Disney Live! Presents Three Classic Fairytales Join Mickey, Minnie, Donald, Goofy, and many other Disney characters when they tag along with Cinderella, Belle, and Snow White as they live their adventures.

Grandparents/Relatives Resource Group Meets to discuss and share experiences. WHEN~ February 22, March 28 from 12 pm WHERE~ Main Louisville Public Library CONTACT~ jkalb@jfcslouisville.org or 452.6341 ext. 335

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WHEN~ March 3 @ 12 pm and 3 pm WHERE~ Freedom Hall COST~ $19, $28, $53, $37 CONTACT~ Kentucky Exposition Center, the Kentucky International

Convention Center or the KFC Yum! Center Ticket Offices; all Ticketmaster outlets, 1.800.745.3000, or www.ticketmaster.com.

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St. Patrick’s Parade Come out and experience this fun and festive community event that celebrates the spirit of St. Patrick. After the parade there will be an After Party in front of O’Shea’s with live music. WHEN~ March 10 @ 3 pm WHERE~ Bardstown Road/Baxter Avenue COST~ Free CONTACT~ For more information visit:

www.LouisvilleIrish.com or www.facebook.com/ Louisville.St.Patricks.Parade

Support Blue Apple on Broadway The annual fundraiser will include cocktails, appetizers, and performances from some of Louisville’s major business leaders and The Sesame Street gang makes their way to the Brown Theatre March 30-April 1. celebrities who’ll sing Blue Apple original songs. John Yarmuth and Mandy Connell are a The Miracle Worker few of the people that will be a part of the event. The true story of how visually-impaired Annie Sullivan teaches Helen Keller, WHEN~ March 10 @ 7 pm who is blind and deaf to communicate, is reenacted in a stage play featuring WHERE~ Brown Theatre blind actors. They will be reading the script in braille. COST~ $ 50 through Feb. 14, $100 thereafter WHEN~ March 24, 11 am - 12:30 pm CONTACT~ 502.587.7990 WHERE~ American Printing House for the Blind COST~ Free CONTACT~ 502.899.2213 by March 22 Run for Kids 5K, 1 mile walk, All About Kids Fun Run All About Kids is sponsoring this event that promotes healthy families and teaches kids to live a healthy lifestyle. All proceeds from the race will benefit the All About Kids Foundation, which provides support and funding to charitable organizations that benefit children and families in the Louisville area. WHEN~ March 24 The Run for the Kids 5K and 1 Mile Walk will start

at 8:30 am and The All About Kids Fun Run will start at 9:30 am WHERE~ All About Kids Sports Center, 2531 Blankenbaker Parkway, Louisville CONTACT~ For more information on these races visit: www.runforkids5k.com

Hwang’s 14th Annual Martial Arts Spring Charity Expo benefiting Kosair Children’s Hospital Demonstrations from all 800 active students of Hwang’s Martial Arts with high-flying techniques, children from ages 3 to adults up to age 67 will be performing as well. There will also be board breaking and high action stunts. All proceeds benefit Kosair Children’s Hospital. WHEN~ March 24 @ 3-5:30 pm WHERE~ Kentucky International Convention Center COST~ $5 in advance for adults, $3 in advance for children. CONTACT~ 502.412.7755 or visit www.hmalouisville.com

Sesame Street Live: 1-2-3 Imagine! with Elmo & Friends Your kids will learn about power of imagination as they sing and dance with Elmo, Abby, Cadabby, Big Bird and the whole Sesame Street gang. WHEN~ March 30 @ 7 pm; March 31, @ 10:30 am, 2 pm, and 5:30 pm; April 1 @ 1 pm and 4:30 pm WHERE~ Brown Theatre COST~ Starting at $15.75 CONTACT~ 502.584.7777 or www.kentuckycenter.org

Derby Festival Basketball Classic Some of the top prep basketball players in the nation will be on hand for the Classic, which in past years has featured some of the finest high school players before they move on to stardom at the collegiate and professional levels. WHEN~ April 6 @ 7pm WHERE~ Freedom Hall COST~ $15-$20 CONTACT~ www.kdf.org

Who is your Hero? To celebrate the Kentucky Derby Festival, Today’s Family magazine is having a contest. The winners will get a chance to ride in the Republic Bank Derby Festival Pegasus Parade on May 3. WHO CAN ENTER: Ages 6-10 HOW TO ENTER: Write something about a person who is a hero to you, someone you look up to and admire. It should be someone you know versus a fictional character or a celebrity or a sports star. It should be less than 100 words. today’s FAMILY

HOW THEY WILL BE JUDGED: The entries will be judged on how well the entrant describes the person they admire and why they admire them and whether the entry sounds like it is in the child’s own voice. AGE GROUPS: 5 winners will be chosen, one in each of the following age categories: 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 WINNERS WILL RECEIVE: • Photo in Today’s Family April/May issue. • Ride in the Republic Bank Derby Festival Pegasus Parade on a Float on Thursday, May 3.

Your Child Could Win a ride in the Pegasus Parade! ! Deadline: March 9. (Postmarked by that date or delivered or emailed by that date.) HOW TO SEND ENTRY: You can enter through our website form at www.todaysfamilymag.com or send the entries to Today’s Family magazine, 9750 Ormsby Station Road, Suite 307, Louisville, KY 40223. Include the child’s name, child’s age, parent’s name, contact phone number, email address. Winners will be contacted by March 23. February/March 2012

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Louisville Science Center

Harvey Browne Preschool

Floyd Memorial Hospital Women’s Center

Whether it’s learning to engineer with LEGOs, investigating the genetic origins of superpowers, or unearthing mummy myths and secrets, your little scientist will never be bored when you register for School’s Out Science Camp. Half day camps available for grades Pre-K – K, full day camps available for grades K – 8. Visit LouisvilleScience.org/events or call for program descriptions, dates, and to register. Spring Break & Summer Camps: Mar. 26-30, Apr. 9-13, & June 4 – Aug. 10 Cost: Grades Pre-K – K: $90/wk. Member, $105/wk. Non-Member; Grades K – 6: $175/wk. Member, $200/wk. Non-Member; Grades 6-8 (Summer only): $275/wk. Member, $300/wk. Non-Member

Our preschool is nationally accredited (NAEYC) and serves children 2 1/2 through kindergarten in a loving, developmentally appropriate environment. Visit our school and see how each child is valued and empowered to reach their potential.

Floyd Memorial’s luxuriously renovated Women’s Center offers spacious labor and delivery suites, state-of-the-art surgical suites for emergency and scheduled c-sections, an expanded nursery and remodeled post-partum rooms. Moms and babies come first at Floyd Memorial, which is why we promote mother/baby skin-to-skin kangaroo care and quiet time on our unit. We also offer a wide array of natural childbirth options, including birthing tubs, birthing balls, remote fetal monitoring, acceptance of birthing plans, and doula-assisted births. Childbirth Classes: We offer classes covering pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and c-sections as well as classes for new siblings, infant health and CPR. Breastfeeding Support: We are one of only two hospitals in the region to be recognized as a “breastfeeding-friendly hospital” by the International Board of Lactation Consultants. Our certified lactation consultants offer a 24-hour breastfeeding support hotline, as well as unlimited follow-up care and advice.

CAMPS

727 West Main St., Louisville, KY 40202 502.561.6100, Ext. 6111 • 800.591.2203 LouisvilleScience.org facebook.com/louisvillesciencecenter

Childcare

Sullivan University Take the guesswork out of your nanny search. Hire your next nanny through Sullivan University’s nationally acknowledged Professional Nanny Program, an institution with more than 20 years experience training and placing qualified childcare professionals. Our graduates hold Certified Professional Nanny credentials from the American Council of Nanny Schools and are trained in CPR, First Aid and Water Safety. Available for in-home day or live-in services. Visit sullivan.edu and click “Hire a Nanny,” or call 502-413-8607. Sullivan University 3101 Bardstown Road • Louisville, KY 40205 502.413.8607 www.sullivan.edu

Children’s Parties

Bubble Truck Bubble Truck and Bubble Bus offering unique bubble parties. Create memories that will last a life time. We bring the party to you. Our parties are very interactive. Your guests will be making bubbles over 30 feet long. 502.442.5917 after 5pm www.bubbletruck.com

Clothing

Little Treasures Kid’s Sale Area’s most anticipated kid’s consignment event held every March and August. Parents can earn money on the things their kids have outgrown and save up to 90% on new and delicately used brand name items. For more information about the sale, visit www.littletsale.com

311 Browns Lane, Louisville, KY 40207 • 502.895.2577 • www.harveybrownepreschool.org

St. James Catholic School Come soar above with St. James Elementary and Monsignor Horrigan Pre-School/Pre-K Programs! We encourage and support the development of every child by enhancing a positive self-image through education. 1818 Edenside Avenue • 502.454.0330, Ext 11 www.stjamesbluejays.com

Maternity/Baby

Babyology Breastfeeding Resource Center & Boutique We rent and sell a full line of breast pumps, maternity/nursing bras 32B to 50L, nursing covers, baby carriers, and a lot of unique mommy/baby gift items. We also offer lactation consults by IBCLCs, latch checks, and more. Plus, we offer FREE weight checks and Gift Registry on-line. Classes — Free Mom’s support group, Lamaze, Breastfeeding, Cloth Diapering, Introducing Solids, and many other classes. Complete listing of classes on our website: www.babyology.com. Baby Showers — For facility rental and planning info, contact Vicki Sanders at vicki@babyology.com or 502.721.7727. Hours M-F 9a-7p & Sat. 9a-6p. 3934 Dutchmans Ln., Louisville, KY 40207 502.721.7727 • www.babyology.com

Clark Memorial Hospital Family Birth Place The Family Birth Place offers expectant parents a personalized birth experience. With spacious labor and delivery suites, in-room waiting areas, and garden tubs, the Family Birth Place has the ambience of a luxury hotel. Providing quality care to mom and baby is of utmost importance, that’s why the Family Birth Place promotes Kangaroo Care, the practice of a mother holding her baby skin-to-skin, and Quiet Time. Clark Memorial is also the only hospital in the area to have two Certified Nurse Midwives on staff and an on-site Breastfeeding Center staffed by a Certified Lactation Consultant. Childbirth Classes – Prepared Childbirth, Lamaze, Breastfeeding, Brothers and Sisters To Be, Infant CPR and Safety, and Doula Night. A complete class schedule is on our website. Breastfeeding Center – Breastfeeding supplies including bras, pads, and pumps for purchase. Breast pump rental, free weight checks for baby, and individual consultations. Hours: 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Monday – Saturday. Phone: 812.283.2901 Clark Memorial Hospital Family Birth Place 1220 Missouri Ave., Jeffersonville, IN 47130 812.283.6631 • www.clarkmemorial.org

Floyd Memorial Hospital Women’s Center 1850 State St., New Albany, IN 47150 1.800.4.SOURCE, www.floydmemorial.com/baby facebook.com/fmhhs

Obstetrics/gynocology

Women First of Louisville, PLLC Women taking care of women. At Women First of Louisville, professional women in all stages of life, career and motherhood take care of other women who are balancing the same issues. So we’ve built our medical practice by focusing on women first, in everything we do. We offer comprehensive care for women with many innovative technologies and even surgeries available right in the office. Our services include digital mammography, osteoporosis screening, OB/GYN ultrasounds, genetic and preconception counseling, high risk obstetrics, lactation counseling, urinary incontinence testing /surgery, sterilization, minimally-invasive GYN surgeries, menopause counseling and hormonal therapy management. We make it easy, too, with our on-line patient portal so you can pre-register and schedule appointments, pay your bill on-line, and renew prescriptions — all though our website www.wfoflou.com. We know you take care of a lot. At Women First, we take care of you. Find out more about us on-line or call and set up a new patient appointment. Baptist East Medical Pavilion • 3900 Kresge Way, Suite 30 (40207) • 502.891.8700 • www.wfoflou.com

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SUMMER CAMPS

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Camp Allengheny

Hwang’s Martial Arts

Mad Science of Kentucky

Founded in 1922, Camp Alleghany offers three-week summer programs for girls 8-16 in West Virginia’s Alleghany Mountains. Emphasis on character development aims to help campers experience new activities, express themselves and broaden their abilities away from the distractions of technology. Campers wake up each morning with reveille and go to sleep every night with taps. Each camper takes four daily activities, choosing from 11 traditional offerings including archery, drama, canoeing, arts and crafts and other classes. Campers will have the opportunity to master skills, accomplish real goals and succeed in passing set progress levels. During two unstructured periods daily, campers swim, play tennis, write letters and relax. Each session’s fun Blue/Gray Event features friendly competitions in swimming, archery, rifle, canoe, tennis and more. The staff prepares balanced meals, three times a day that include fresh fruit and salad. (And cookies and milk before bedtime!) The camp store is open after dinner for limited sweet snacks and a small soft drink, should a girl wish to partake. Campers live under an honor system, and counselors supervise all activities.

Hwang’s Martial Arts All Day Summer Camp is considered the finest and most popular Martial Arts camp in the area. Our camp helps kids develop essential life skills such as confidence and selfdiscipline in a fun & positive environment. Campers learn Taekwondo from the best instructors, trained personally by Olympian and director, Grandmaster Jung Oh Hwang. Each week offers exciting field trips, movie star technique training, and everlasting friendships. Join us at Hwang’s Martial Arts for an unforgettable summer. Signups for camp is flexible. Try one-week of all day summer camp or sign up for the entire summer. Drop off times are between 7:30 A.M.-9:00 A.M. Pick up times are between 5:00 P.M.-6:00 P.M. at any of our four convenient locations. For more info visit us at www.alldaycamp.com.

Are you ready for the most unforgettable summer ever? Mad science is fun, unique, interactive, and affordable. Make indoor lightning. Launch rockets. Explore lasers. Experience the giant vortex generator. Build cool take-homes! Our Mad Scientists are the experts at captivating the children’s attention and awing them with spectacular experiments and demonstrations. We can bring the fun to your camp location or you can come to one of our locations throughout Kentuckiana.

E-mail: CampGhany@aol.com • 540.898.4782 www.campalleghany.com

2931 S. Hurstbourne Parkway• 502.499.7787 2813 N. Hurstbourne and Westport Road • 502.412.7755 7321 Preston Highway • 502.966.5222 4226 Shelbyville Road • 502.893.6000 www.alldaycamp.com facebook.com/hmalouisville

Visit us at www.madscience.org/kentucky or call 502.995.8899 today! Various locations throughout Kentuckiana 502.995.8899 www.madscience.org/kentucky facebook.com/Mad Science of Kentucky

Camp Palawopec

Jefferson Memorial Forest

YMCA

A good old-fashioned fun camp in the hills of Brown County, Indiana. Activities include swimming, mountain biking, canoeing, soccer, basketball, climbing, campfires every night, Indian lore, crafts, horseback riding, archery, etc. Great summer fun in a relaxed outdoor setting. One staff for every three campers.

By combining scientific study and experiments, with traditional summer camp fun, your child will have an educational adventure they will remember for a lifetime. Log on to our website to check out our camp schedule and topics. Two brand new camps will be introduced this summer. This year we are offering a shuttle service from Joe Creason Park across from the Louisville Zoo to the Forest. Each session lasts one week and has a different topic. Our camps run from June 4th to June 29, and July 9 to August 3. Our camps are for ages 6 to 12. Two age specific camp weeks are offered for ages 4 to 5 and ages 13 to 15. Sign up early as space is limited. Each camp teams two highly trained staff with each group of 10 campers for safety and personal attention. To register, go to our website or call the Jefferson Memorial Forest Welcome Center and ask for a registration packet to be mailed to you.

A world of discovery awaits children at YMCA day camps so give your child the chance to play, to learn and to grow as a person at the Y this summer! No one creates a camp experience like the Y where activities include swimming, arts and crafts, sports, field trips, literacy initiatives and more! Campers have fun while making new friends, building self-confidence and becoming more self-reliant! Choose from over 40 locations in Jefferson, Bullitt, and Oldham counties. Visit us at ymcalouisville.org for more details and to register, or call 502.587.9622. At the Y, we make sure that all children have the opportunity to learn, grow and thrive; ask us about our affordable program rates for everyone!

11311 Mitchell Hill Road, Fairdale, KY 40118 Email: forest@louisvilleky.gov • 502.368.5404, Ext 0 www.memorialforest.com

Several Kentuckiana locations 502.587.9622 www.ymcalouisville.org

exploreCollegiate Summer

Jewish Community of Louisville

YMCA - Camp Piomingo

exploreCollegiate offers a menu of half-day and full-day activities for ages 3 through 84 year olds that combines academic, athletic and aesthetic pursuits. Dig for fossils at the Falls of the Ohio! Strengthen your lacrosse skills with the aid of head coaches from Denison University and Centre College. Create your own video games or build your own computer! These are just a few of the nearly 100 different camps to choose from at Collegiate this summer.

Experience the magic of JCC Summer Camp with something for every child. JCC Summer Camp offers traditional camp for kids 20 months through 6th grade with arts ’n’ crafts, sports, free swim, swim lessons and more! Children 2 years old receive private swim lessons twice a week, children 3 and 4 years old receive group swim lessons three times a week and children in Kindergarten through 3rd grade receive group swim lessons daily. Specialty camps are also offered which include: Football, Soccer, Theatre, Dance, Horseback Riding, Lego, Sailing and more. All specialty camps swim once a day. Also, Middle School students have their own camps which include: Community Service, and Counselor in Training program. Beautiful campus with two outdoor pools, baseball and soccer fields, basketball and tennis courts, as well as indoor gymnasiums, auditorium and more! Call for brochure and information.

Camp Piomingo’s coed camp for kids ages 6-16 is the summer experience that builds self-esteem, promotes friendship, develops interpersonal and leadership skills, and instills in your child an appreciation of nature … all in a safe, fun and nurturing environment. Living in a rustic setting, campers share unique adventures and have many opportunities to grow on the inside … by being outside. We offer a variety of overnight camps from June 10 - August 3. Our programs help kids develop the skills and relationships they need to be healthy, confident and connected to others. Check out some of the fun like high ropes, zip line, horseback riding, and our new aquatic facility at ymcacamppiomingo.org.and register online to reserve your bunk today! You can also find us on facebook at facebook. com/camppiomingo or speak with us directly at 1-800-411-5822.

AGES: Ages: 8 – 15 years COST: $595 for one week, $1095 for two weeks, $1595 for three weeks, etc. DATES: Boys: Two 1-week sessions: June 17 – June 30 Co-ed: Five 1-week sessions: July 1 – Aug 4 Girls: One 1-week session: Aug 5 – Aug 11 Nashville, Brown County, Indiana 812.988.2689 www.camppalawopec.com

Visit loucol.com or email chelle_wabrek@loucol.com for program descriptions, dates and to register. Camp opens May 28 and closes August 10. Prices range from $165 to $500 weekly. Early drop-off and late pick-up available. 2427 Glenmary Avenue, Louisville, KY 40204 502.479.0340 www.loucol.com

3600 Dutchmans Lane, Louisville, KY 40205 502.459.0660 • www.jclouisvillecamp.org

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By Carrie Vittitoe • PHOTOS BY MELISSA DONALD

Bridget and Matt Thomerson, Louisville Metro police officers

Madison (16) and Collin (9)

My Family

Madison was in serious danger and could be hurt or killed, they would violate her privacy, but they would not do so just to keep tabs on what she is doing.

Meeting dates at the door with pistols:

In the Thomerson household, homework comes before anything else and a regular bedtime is important, as is being respectful. Another rule is that they try to never go to bed or work angry.

Madison has never been picked up for a date from the Thomerson’s home, but neither Bridget nor Matt would want to embarrass her or intimidate her date by coming to the door dressed in full uniform.

Safety concerns for their kids:

Scariest parenting moment:

Household rules:

With Madison being older, the big concerns are about her being out driving with friends and possibly getting into an auto accident. They also worry about her staying out late and what may happen at parties she attends. Their biggest fear and worst nightmare regarding Collin is that someone could kidnap him.

Technology and social media: Madison has a mobile phone and a Facebook account, but on weekends when she is with her dad and stepmom, the phone is turned off at midnight. Collin is allowed to use the computer for school and with adult supervision. He does not have a Facebook account.

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When Collin was three, Bridget stepped off an elevator thinking he was right behind her, but the next thing she knew elevator doors were closing with Collin still inside. Bridget began running the stairwells yelling his name as she went from floor to floor. After many agonizing minutes, she saw a nurse walking him down a hallway. Bridget says, “I fell to my knees, cried and hugged him.” Collin’s reply was, “You left me on the elevator.”

Influences on parenting: Having been raised by her grandmother in Portland who did things “the old way,” Bridget was not naive and had a lot of street smarts which she thinks impacts how she parents. Being a police officer, Bridget says, “I don’t think I worry more than other parents, but I think I worry differently because I don’t just know bad things happen, I have seen the bad things that happen. I picture it in a different way from other parents.”

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Kristen and Andre Willis,

approved. Ashley does not have a Facebook account but she is allowed to visit sites such as Disney and Nickelodeon.

Andre’a (16), Brendan (11), Ashley (7)

Privacy violation:

HR director and stay-at-home dad Household rules:

The Willis children are expected to clean up after themselves and help around the house when asked. The most important rule is to be respectful of other family members and avoid saying “shut up” or calling each other names like “idiot.”

Safety concerns for their kids: Andre’a is pretty and popular, so while Kristen and Andre worry about boys potentially trying to take advantage of her, they also worry about other girls starting things with Andre’a out of jealousy. With Brendan, their concern is bullying since he is small and has experienced a few bullying incidents. Though he stood up for himself and the situations were resolved, it is not something they want him to have to deal with on a recurring basis. The biggest issue they worry about with Ashley is her being taken or hurt.

Technology and social media: All of the children have computer access. Andre’a has considerable online freedom, although she understands there are certain things she cannot do, such as download music or watch pornography. Brendan has a Facebook account and can access certain game sites that Kristen and Andre have today’s FAMILY

According to Kristen she violates her children’s privacy all the time. While she won’t read diaries, she does look around in their rooms and access their Facebook accounts. She says, “The rule is I have the password and can look anytime or no computer.” Part of keeping tabs on their children is being Facebook friends with their children’s friends. According to Kristen, “by being friends on Facebook with Andre’a’s friends, I can see better what goes on. It is easy for your child to fool you but harder for all of her friends to fool you. That takes too much thought and work for a group of teenagers.”

101 Ways to Mortify Your Kids: Kristen says, “We are not parents that spare our children from embarrassment when it comes to their friends. School and safety come first, and I won’t back down to save embarrassment.” When Andre’a wasn’t doing well in school, Kristen logged onto her daughter’s Facebook account to tell Andre’a’s friends she wouldn’t be around for awhile. It earned Kristen the nickname, “Gangster,” but she says her daughter would have been much more embarrassed had she been held back at school.

Learning From Experiences: Kristen acknowledges that she was pretty wild when she was a teen so she is willing to tolerate “smarty mouth and a C-” because her kids don’t do drugs or alcohol. She picks her battles. February/March 2012

A Place For Everyone

You have probably heard some buzz about it, but maybe you didn’t realize that Sproutlings Pediatric Day Care and Preschool is fulfilling a previously unmet need in the community. The day care offers speech therapy, physical therapy, occupational therapy and nursing services. So, whether your child has medical needs or is a typical child who has some small needs of their own, they can serve both types here. To learn more about Sproutlings, go to www. SproutlingsDayCare.com or 502.753.8222.

Hero Essay Contest

Kids ages 6-10 can enter our Kentucky Derby Festival Hero Essay contest to win a chance to ride a float in the Pegasus Parade on May 3. See page 35 for more information.

3 You can manage your kid’s earphone volume level with Kidz Gear Apple Wired Headphones. It has a safe volume for children, with maximum volume levels limited to between 80dB and 90dB levels. $29.95

Tom Clements, author of How to Write a Killer SAT Essay... in 25 Minutes or Less! says one of the biggest mistakes a parent of a high school student can make is having their teen sign up for the SATs too early. “I advise parents to have their daughters and sons take the SAT test at the end — not the beginning — of junior year. Because there is so much riding on this test, it's mandatory for students to take the SAT twice, once in March of their junior year and again a few months later in May. “I position the March test as a "pre-season" game, where students can learn to deal with time constraints, distractions, proctor problems, and the fear factor, which weighs heavily on most teens the first time they take the test. (By the way, the PSATs don’t have an essay, so there is no test-writing practice until their first SAT.)”

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Hope Blackmon, host of Single Mother's Let's Talk, is the single mother of two children (20 and 14 years old). She wants to offer a place where all local single mothers can discuss challenges of raising their children. Tune in Saturdays at 9am on 1350AM or 104.7FM.

Louisville Mom and Parenting Pro, Lisa Bogart Carvajal, is the creator of the Take-Out-Time-Out Mat. She now offers We featured Lisa a Portable Parenting and her family on our October/ App that rewards November 2008 children for good cover. behavior and helps parents keep track of the bad behavior. www.portableparenting.com.

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