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December 2012 articles
Contents
About This Issue
By Anita oldham
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Power I am Today’s Woman
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By Lucy M. Pritchett
Survival Skills: Throwing
an Event
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By Marie Bradby
Great Gift Guide 12 By Anita oldham
21 Things
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By Anita Oldham
STYLE
The Anti-Casual Snob
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By megan Seckman
21 Thoughts
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By Kim Kerby
Her 13 Inspirations:
Tori Murden McClure By Holly Gregor
Get Crafty
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By Jessica Smith
WELLNESS
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The Challenges of Caregiving 46 By Cheryl Stuck
Can You Be Courageous and Sensitive? 48 By Bob Mueller
A Celebration Breakfast By Melissa Donald
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CONNECTIONS
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4 Things Not to Miss By Gioia Patton and Tiffany White
Just Ask Joyce
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By Joyce Oglesby
Fix Your Flaws: Small Eyes By Tiffany White
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auren Patricia Hardin is taking the chill out of winter in a warm ensemble that you might want to add to your holiday wish list. A graduate student in Student Affairs at the University of Louisville, she will be spending a cozy and comfy Christmas with her family in Clemson, S. Car. “We have a big southern meal for dinner, make crafts with the kids, play games, and gather around the piano to sing Christmas carols.” — Tiffany White
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I am Today’s woman
~ Gritty and Real
AGE: 37 Hometown: Bloomington NEIGHBORHOOD: Anchorage
Natalie officer ~ Interior Designer and owner of Natalie O. Design Co., www.natalieodesign.com
Household: Husband Reise; daughter Jewel, 5; son Jesse, 3; and Scout, a Beagle/Yellow Lab mix
by Lucy M. Pritchett / Photo: Melissa donald / Makeup: Holly Oyler
Her mission:
My goal is to make design approachable and attainable while inspiring my clients.
Fashion start:
I have a fashion marketing degree. I was an assistant buyer for Marshall Field’s in Indianapolis, worked at the Illinois Institute of Art in Chicago, and created visual design and display for a Midwest department store.
In the beginning:
In 2006, I started a home-staging business in Chicago. When you bring the texture of life into a home, that sells it. Eighty percent of the homes I staged sold in six weeks. This was at the height of the real estate market, and business was nonstop. Then the market dropped about the same time we started our family.
Her first job:
I approached a builder who was putting up a condominium with 14 units. I offered to stage one unit for free and then get a cut of the sales of the others. Future business came from networking after that.
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Moving on:
Staging is very labor-intensive, and I had to have a warehouse for furniture and accessories. You have to infuse the entire space with personality. Clients would come to me after they sold their house and ask me to “come do what you did” to their new house. That evolved into a full design business. Really, my clients pushed me into interior design.
How she works:
I start with what my clients have and what is important to them. I am not a ‘scrap it’ designer. If you don’t have a budget, I am not the woman for you. I work best at being creative within a budget. I begin by strategically placing those meaningful items that have come from the client’s family or travel. I decorate around things that mean something. A rustic coffee table, a family quilt, a piece of art. Things that give the space character. Something that tells the story of your house and sticks in peoples’ memories. One piece that no one can buy.
For the hostess:
The best gift is to share something that you love with another person. Package something old with a new soap, olive oil, or a fresh flower in an antique crystal vase. Share your life patina with someone.
Latest inspiration:
We live in a farmhouse that was built in 1901. It was in the perfect tragic state for us. It had been gutted and was an empty canvas. Last week, I found a watercolor painting that a friend had given me 10 years ago. Its vibrant colors — Kelly green, peacock blue, and black — inspired the foyer in my house.
Design philosophy:
I am a minimalist. Design without function is like hot air. Silk flowers in a pot are not doing anything for you. But a silver letter opener — yes. A dictionary — yes. Stuff is just stuff if it isn’t meaningful or useful.
What she was doing 21 years ago:
Let’s see... I was 16 and doing display windows at a college bookstore. I was playing volleyball and driving a maroon Grand Am with tinted windows.
What she won’t do:
I do not use red. It makes me anxious. I never put things on an angle. It creates chaos in the space, and I find it difficult to navigate.
Resale snob:
I use a lot of refurbished furniture in design for my clients and in my home. I am a resale snob and very discerning about what I choose. I shop at Crazy Daisy, Eyedia, Scout, Eclectic Living, Peddlers Mall, Goss Avenue. I love to shop in the rough room.
Tools of the trade:
A composition book, level, hammer, drill, paint deck, and my truck. I drive a 2001 Land Rover. Like me, it is gritty and real.
For the holidays:
Bring out what inspires you first and follow that theme. In my case, I set out a handcrafted ceramic nativity given to me by an 88-year-old friend and my daughter’s namesake.
Latest purchase:
A retro-looking jumpsuit. I feel as if I am channeling Coco Chanel.
Today’s Woman
Survival Skills: Throwing an Event
Lauren Chitwood
“When I design an event, especially weddings but also corporate events, I really want to know the personality of the client or the company. I want their family and friends to be able to say, ‘Oh, my goodness, this is so them.’ ” Lauren started Lauren Chitwood Events in 2008 after graduating from the University of Kentucky, where she was already putting on events for others while attending school. Her business became so successful — managing up to 30 events a year — that this past August, her company was bought by Camargo Events in Cincinnati. With Camargo, Lauren is now involved with hundreds of events a year, but she doesn’t have to do administrative work anymore. “The more my company grew, the more it took me away from the core of what I loved to do, which is to have a special relationship with my clients and to design,” Lauren says. “I was worried about trucks, employees, and payroll. [The purchase] was serendipitous. I feel like the luckiest girl in the whole wide world.” The key to an extraordinary event, Lauren says, is catching the little details. “Maybe the menu needs to be larger so people don’t have to pull out eyeglasses,” she says. “Maybe the client doesn’t like how he flatware looks with the glasses that we’ve selected.” What makes a beautiful event linger in one’s memory? “It has to be thoughtful, whimsical, and serious; personal, exciting, and inviting,” Lauren says. “It has to pull you in, to be engaging…to stimulate all the senses. “Whether it’s for people with a modest budget or a half-million-dollar event, it’s a special event for a reason. They are celebrating something. It’s important not to lose sight of that.”
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While weddings pay the bills, Lauren does a wide range of events, from big corporate galas to birthday parties, baby showers, and retirement dinners. “I’ve had weddings starting at $400 a head going up to $2,000 a head,” she says. “We are not for everyone, but we are for anyone who wants something special and fabulous.” Here is Lauren’s advice for an extraordinary holiday party:
Rule #1: Always cater.
“Don’t do the cooking yourself. It’s not worth the stress. If you have to make something, do your own dessert. Hire a professional so you can enjoy the party. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Give your caterer a budget. They will work with you.”
Rule #2: Give your vendors a heads-up. “If
you’re giving a Christmas party, call your florist or caterer before Thanksgiving and say, ‘I’m still formulating numbers and what I want it to look like, but please anticipate something from me.’ You don’t want to be calling the week before and be out of luck.”
Rule #3: Delight your guests.
photo: Melissa Donald
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hen it comes to planning weddings and other events, Lauren Chitwood brings the wow factor. “Event designing is based on the experience the guests have — the music they hear, the food they eat; it’s allencompassing,” says Lauren, 27. “It’s more than just the color scheme.
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“Food is a great way to do this, whether it’s a recipe that family and friends have never seen or a recipe from 20 years ago that somebody’s mother cooked and she’s not around anymore. It will bring back a flood of memories.”
Rule #4: Give guests something to take home. “I always give people
something to thank them for taking the time to come and share a meal with me. That could be a spiked hot chocolate mix or a special cocoa and some homemade marshmallows that are all wrapped up beautifully. Never underestimate the power of a fabulous muffin. As your guests are leaving your home, they are smiling all the way to the car.”
Rule #5: Never forget the thank-you.
“Keep some special stationery on the kitchen counter. When people do special things during the holidays — dropping off a cake, giving you a gift, or having you over for dinner — pop a thank-you card in the mail for their kindness. Thanking someone is what the holidays are really all about.”
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Gifts Guide
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Today’s Woman went shopping! We gathered gift ideas from local retailers in a range of prices. May you find the perfect gift for all those on your list. Gifts under $25 Lemon Sugar Scrub $12.50 Home and Leisure
Headbands $3-$10 Work the Metal
Lunch Box $8 Chick•A•D’s
Plant Nanny $4.75 (holds water bottle) ~ $16.50 (with bottle) It will water a plant for you
Bird Salt and Pepper Shaker
St Matthews Feed and Seed
$7 Work the Metal
Blessing Bracelet $25 Count your blessings for each pearl every time you wear it. Boutique Serendipity
Relax Massage Oil (lavender) $5
Necklace
Moss Hill
$25 Apricot Lane
Louisville Ceramic Cup $20 Chick•A•D’s
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(Divine) $3.75 Just Creations
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GIFTS PRICED UNDER $25
$15.99 Apricot Lane
Slap Watch UofL $28 But you can switch the watch face Chick•A•D’s
UK Ring $12 Chick•A•D’s
Children’s Hats
Flowering Amaryllis Bulb
(also have adult ones) $19-21
$15.99 Or planted in a pot for $23
Just Creations
St. Matthews Feed and Seed
Manicure Cream (travel size)
Feather Headband $20
$7.50
My Bel Amour
Moss Hill
Flyswatter Clock $20
Fleur De Lis with Louisville areas $25
Work the Metal
Urban Farmmarket
Zebra Children’s Bag $25 My Bel Amour
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Nightshirts (Emerson Street) $24
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GIFTS PRICED $25-$50 Bee Egg Plate $38 Chick•A•D’s
Phone Bag $28
Lamp
Olivia & Co.
$34 Just Creations
Clutch purse $36 Olivia & Co.
Kentucky Girls T-shirt $34-$42 Long- and short-sleeved
Scarves (made from Indian saris)
Urban Farmmarket
$28-$38 Just Creations
Purse (made from tall grasses in Cambodia)
GurglePot in shape of a fish
$42
$42 Work the Metal
Leggings (brown, black or charcoal gray) by Vfish $36
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Gifts Priced $50 & up Monogrammed Vehicle Floor Mats (Matworks)
Gifts Priced $25-$50
$98 Two Chicks and Co.
Fox Scarf (from Quechua, Argmora)
Asymmetrical (Kerishma) Poncho
$36
$49
Just Creations
Boutique Serendipity
Gifts Priced $50 & up
Belt-Art Stools (by Leslie) $65-$72 Home and Leisure
Rabbit Fur Collar (Echo Design)
Boots (“Maci” by Joyfolie) $78 10% of proceeds to Giving Children Hope
$169 Boutique Serendipity
My Bel Amour
Red poncho $86 Olivia & Co.
Flower Serving Board $55
Hand Painted Signs
Home and Leisure
$85-$95 Urban Farmmarket
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Boot (Stricca) $110 Apricot Lane
Horse Bit Belt (Swash Bucklers) with Copper Egg Bit $130 Boutique Serendipity
Personalized Cask and Crown Tray $195
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Fresh Custom Wreath $50 and over Go in a choose your ribbon or bring other items to be incorporated into your wreath. St. Matthews Feed and Seed
............................................................................ Olivia & Co. 4903 Brownsboro Road, Louisville 502.426.4046 www.oliviaandcompanyboutique.com What Else You Can Find: Lots of sparkle and cute jackets. ............................................................................
Paper Flower Bouquets
St. Matthews Feed and Seed 225 Chenoweth Lane Louisville 502.896.4473
$50-up St Matthews Feed and Seed
...................................................................... Apricot Lane Westport Village, Louisville 502.708.2822 www.apricotlanelouisville.com What Else You Can Find: They carry Toms and also phone cases that can be customized with a personal photo. ............................................................................ Boutique Serendipity Westport Village, Louisville 502.423.0058 What Else You Can Find: Lots of accessories including scarves and gloves ............................................................................ Chick A D’s 11728 Main St., Middletown 502.245.9525 www.chickads.net What Else You Can Find: Gifts for babies as well as any woman on your list. ............................................................................ Home and Leisure 9553 US Hwy 42, Prospect 502.228.1366 What Else You Can Find: Customized items and nice furniture pieces. ...........................................................................
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Sweatshirt with Swarovski Crystals $136 Olivia & Co.
............................................................................ Just Creations 2722 Frankfort Ave., Louisville 502.897.7319 www.justcreations.org What Else You Can Find: Fair trade marketplace featuring things from 45 countries. ............................................................................ Moss Hill 1201 Story Avenue (Butchertown Market), Louisville 502.365.3405 www.mosshill.net What Else You Can Find: A scent perfect for a man called Bourbon Horse ............................................................................ My Bel Amour 11701 Main Street, Middletown 502.653.6119 www.mybelamour.com
What Else You Can Find: Fresh trees and wreaths with 5% going to Kosair Children’s Hospital Foundation (and a customer matches that 5%, so a total of $10%) ............................................................................ Two Chicks and Co. 12121 Shelbyville Road, Louisville 502.254.0400 www.twochicksandcompany.com What Else You Can Find: UK and UofL ornaments and gifts, jewelry and decorative items. ............................................................................ Urban Farmhouse Market 2830 Frankfort Avenue, Louisville 502.384.5434 www.theurbanfarmhousemarket.com What Else You Can Find: Vintage inspired gifts. ............................................................................ Work the Metal 1201 Story Avenue (Butchertown Market), Louisville 502.584.2841 www.workthemetal.com What Else You Can Find: Eclectic gifts as well as draperies, light switches
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What Else You Can Find: All sorts of ruffles and cute clothes for kids up to size 8 ............................................................................
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Today’s Woman is turning 21 this month! Help us celebrate by writing 21 words explaining why you are Today’s Woman! todayswoman@todayspublications.com
Animals and Wine Help save severely injured animals while enjoying a glass of fine wine with a great meal. During December, one of our publisher’s favorite places, Brix Winebar, 12418 Lagrange Road, is helping to raise funds and awareness for the Shamrock Foundation’s Arrow Fund for animals that need urgent help.
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Composer/Musician/ Producer Cheryl Lynne Skinner at Elinez Music relocated to the New York area. In celebration, you can download a free new flute track, Heartbeats.
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www.jango.com/music/ Cheryl+Lynne+Skinner
Take A Sip How about this festive Mint Julep coffee drink? You can find it at one of Vint’s four locations in Louisville — maybe stop in for a shopping pick-me-up!
Go to the WFPK Winter Wednesday concerts once a month through February at the Clifton Center, 2117 Payne Street starting December 19th. Bring canned food for Dare to Care, but the concerts are free and open to the public.
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Louisville CyberKnife is now at the James Graham Brown Cancer Center. Louisville CyberKnife, a joint venture between the James Graham Brown Cancer Center and US Radiosurgery, is a robotic technology to treat cancerous and noncancerous tumors noninvasively. During treatment, patients lie on a table while the CyberKnife’s robotic arm moves around them, delivering targeted radiation directly to the tumor and minimizing damage to surrounding healthy tissue. The CyberKnife is capable of treating tumors from virtually unlimited directions, making it possible to treat difficult-to-reach tumors that may have been considered inoperable in the past. www.louisvilleck.com.
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High-Tech Radiation
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Oxblood
How it was the mention of shoe polish that made me think of your wooden caddy. The bristled brush, so like you, easily rubbed the wrong way. The tins of polish, the deep red my favorite. Oxblood. And you from Detroit with nary an ox in sight. The soft cloths like diapers. The care you took as you polished, buffed, and shined. The sharp smell of the polish scenting the air. All occasions have a smell. How I wanted nothing more than to stop time and watch you make what was once old new again. How I never imagined that those shoes would wear out.
Louisville Chorus, joined by Members of Louisville Philharmonia — The Musicians’ Orchestra, present:
Ellen Birkett Morris, a lifelong Louisvillian and former contributor to Today’s Woman magazine, has just released a poetry book, Surrender. “Ultimately it is a celebration of life, love, and learning to let go,” says Ellen.
— Ellen Birkett Morris
Christmas Wonderland Holiday Pops December 8, 7:30pm St. Mary’s Catholic Church 415 East 8th Street, New Albany Christmas at Immaculate Conception With Brass & Voices December 9, 4pm Immaculate Conception Catholic Church 502 N 5th, LaGrange Christmas at St Brigid With Brass & Voices December 15, 7:30pm St Brigid Catholic Church 1520 Hepburn Avenue, Louisville LouisvilleChorus.org, 502.968.6300 Each concert cost is $18, $15 seniors, $6 students
Taking a Mammogram a Step Further
Women’s Diagnostic Center is one of the first breast diagnostic centers in the United States to offer 3D Digital Breast Tomosynthesis, an FDA-approved technology that detects breast cancer conventional digital mammograms miss. Early data shows a 15 percent increase in cancer detection and a 30 percent reduction in callbacks for additional testing with tomosynthesis. Tomosynthesis gives radiologists the ability to identify and characterize individual breast structures without the confusion of overlapping tissue. Since the breast is often composed of pockets of dense tissue surrounded by fat, a mammogram image may be obscured when x-rayed. The overlapping tissue may result in difficulty viewing tiny spots called microcalcifications as well as other subtle signs of early cancer. While more detailed imagery benefits every woman, it plays a critical role for patients with dense breasts. Approximately 75 percent of women in their forties have dense breasts, putting them at higher risk for developing breast cancer.
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Congratulations to Joanna Haas, executive director of the Kentucky Science Center, who was recognized by the Association of Science-Technology Centers for experienced leadership.
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s you plan your Ahere’s holiday entertaining, an awesome
tip from Lauren Chitwood. “Never under estimate the power of a muffin,” says Lauren who always gives her party guests something to take home with them. “Something with light chocolate in it or cranberries.” Wrap them beautifully, and voilá. “Presentation is the icing on the cake, as your guests are leaving your home and it’s the middle of winter. They are smiling all the way to the car with their special treat for the morning.” ~ Marie Bradby, who interviewed Lauren for Survival Skills (page 10).
Check out Shelbyville’s new place to find an enchanting assortment of repurposed/recycled/reused furniture and home décor items. At Home on 7th and Main (700 Main Street) is owned and operated by Eric Stearns.
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A great book: I just read A Secret Keeper by Kate Morton. Takes the reader on a journey through pre–WWII England through the blitz, to present times. Love and mystery — it surprised me and I love that.
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An Intern’s Job
A special ‘Thank-You’ to our intern Kim Kerby, who dug through the dusty archives for us on 21 Thoughts (page 30). It was not the worst thing we’ve asked of her — we also had her do this:
Know a Beautiful Baby?
My new favorite free app: FlipBoard. It lets you browse through magazines,your Twitter and Facebook accounts, and news in specific categories.
We didn’t exactly explain the whole photo shoot to her before the day of the shoot!
And a few of Kim’s favorite quotes she found but we didn’t use on page 30:
Enter the contest in Today’s Family.
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Paint This Town
“The good thing about my business is you can always eat your mistakes.”
St. Matthews will be painting with the arrival of Pinot’s Palette, a place to paint and sip wine or beer. Congratulations to Mollie Noe, franchisee, who opened this location at 291 N. Hubbards Lane in November. Mollie, who used to work in the real estate industry, says, “Even if you have never picked up a paint brush, Pinot’s Palette offers the perfect place for an evening of fun, friends, family, and art.”
Erika Chavez-Graziano, owner of Cellar Door Chocolates (November 2008)
“I thought the other day, ‘Whose stupid idea was it to start giving patients a number on how long they have to live?’”
www.PinotsPalette.com/Louisville
Heidi Caravan, cancer patient (October 2007)
It’s Been Quite a Year
Our 20th year started off with the Eve*olution Fashion Show in January with a look at the last 20 years. We continue to grow in the way we communicate and are adding a more interactive online site for 2013. Today’s Woman wants to thank the writers and photographers for making 2012 an expansive year for the magazine.
Wendy Anguiano
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Holly Oyler
Gioia Patton
Carmen Brown
Holly Gregor
Lucy M. Pritchett
Yelena Sapin
James Moses
Joyce Olgesby
Bob Mueller
Cheryl Stuck
Megan Seckman
Isidrio Valencia
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Have A Loved One with Dementia?
Learn strategies to reduce conflict, improve interactions
excited that Teepa Snow is Iusam coming to Louisville to teach how to interact with those
suffering from dementia. Teepa Snow, a certified occupational therapist, has a unique medical perspective on how the brain controls our body and our behaviors, giving her the ability to explain how dementia affects a person’s actions. Families and caregivers will learn strategies to reduce conflict, improve interactions, and work together with loved ones.
WHAT: Senior Helpers and the Alzheimer’s Foundation of America are hosting Teepa Snow for a free seminar for families and a low-cost CEU seminar (3 contact hours) for healthcare providers WHERE: The Olmsted WHEN: January 23. Family: 5-8 pm. Professional: 8am-noon HOW: Free, register at www.seniorhelpers.com/louisville
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Are You an Artist of Nature? Bernheim Arboretum and Research Forest is looking for someone for their Artist in Residence 2013 program. Bernheim is most interested in work that further expands the artist’s work and our understanding of the relationship between visual art and the natural world. www.bernheim.org
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Professional Connections Calendar presents BPW- Business and Professional Women- New Albany Every 3rd Monday • 5:30 p.m. Culbertson West 904 E. Main Street New Albany Ann Windell 812.282.9310 BPW- Business & Professional Women- River City Every 2nd Wednesday • Noon Lunch and Program noon-1pm The Bristol-Downtown 614 West Main Street 502.499.4420, www.bpwrc.org bpwreserve@gmail.com EWI- Executive Women International- Kentuckiana Every 3rd Tuesday • 5:30 p.m. Contact for info & reservation Dotty Wettig dw1122@att.com The Heart Link Network Every 1st Wednesday • 6:30 p.m. Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos 1200 Club House Drive Barbara Madore 502.377.8625 www.40222.theheartlinknetwork.com IAAP- International Association of Administrative ProfessionalsLouisville Every 2nd Thursday • 6 p.m. Location Varies – See Website for Details. www.iaap-louisville.org Legal Secretaries of Louisville Every 3rd Tuesday • 11:30 a.m. Bristol Bar & Grille 614 West Main Street Alice Harris 502.595.2310 #339 aharris@louisvilleprosecutor.com www.legalseclou-ky.org
Your go-to spot for professional networking and careerbuilding opportunities around Louisville LWN - Louisville Women’s Network Every 1st & 3rd Thursday • Noon The North End Cafe 2116 Bardstown Road Wendy Manganaro 502-310-0025
wendy@socialabundancemarketing.com
https://www.facebook.com/ LouisvilleWomensNetwork
MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Women’s Political Caucus Every 4th Monday • 5:30 p.m. Olmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes 3701 Frankfort Avenue Sherry Conner 502.776.2051 mayorconner@insightbb.com NAWBO- National Association of Women Business Owners Every 3rd Tuesday info@nawbolouisville.org www.nawbolouisville.org National Association of Women in Construction Every 2nd Monday • 5:30 p.m. Call for meeting location Patty Stewart 812.288.4208 #121 Network Now Every 2nd Friday • 11:30 a.m. Hurstbourne Country Club 9000 Hurstbourne Club Lane Lee Ann Lyle 502.836.1422 lee@lalcomputers.com
Southern Indiana Women’s Networking Group Every 3rd Wednesday • 11:30 a.m. Holiday Inn-Lakeview 505 Marriott Drive * Clarksville Email Lisa Stinnett for RSVP: lisa.stinnett@elwoodstaffing.com
WIN - Women in Networking V Every 2nd Thursday • 11:30 a.m. Buca di Beppo 2051 S. Hurstbourne Parkway Lee Ann Lyle 502-836-1422 info@win5networking.com www.win5networking.com
WIN- Women in Networking Every 2nd Wednesday • 11:15 a.m. Oxmoor Country Club 9000 Limehouse Lane
WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn Commission Every 2nd and 4th Wednesday 11:30 a.m. Mitchell’s Fish Market 4031 Summit Plaza, Louisville Charlene Burke 812.951.3177 www.woamtec.com
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NIA Women’s Roundtable Every 4th Friday • 8:30 a.m. NIA Center 2900 West Broadway – 3rd floor Suzanne Carter 502-775-2548 suzannec@morethanconsultants.org
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Every 1st Fri. Roundtable • 8:30 a.m. Location – TBA Sharron Johnson 502.566.6076 #104 sjohnson@cvcky.org www.cvcky.org/womensbusiness center.html Women’s Council of Realtors Every 3rd Thursday • 11:30 a.m. Wildwood Country Club 5000 Bardstown Rd. Lynda Minzenberger 502.552.8768 lynda@catalystrealty.net ZONTA- Advancing the Status of Women Every 1st Thursday • 6:00 p.m. Logan’s Steakhouse 5005 Shelbyville Road Joyce Seymour 502-553-9241 jespud@bellsouth.net
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Spotlight On Education Career Goals … Spalding’s School of Communication offers a Communication major and a minor with three emphasis areas: Business Communication, Emerging Media, and Communication Studies. In addition to the classroom, communication students walk their education into the real world through internships, debate, and SMIRK internet radio. Whether an adult learner, traditional student or transfer student, Melissa welcomes an opportunity to discuss your career goals. Melissa Chastain, PhD Chair, School of Communication
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The Anti-Casual Snob By Megan Seckman
Stephanie David
Photos by Melissa Donald
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hances are, if you see Stephanie David and her family out around the holidays, they will all be wearing coordinating fabrics with a consistent Christmas palette. They might even be wearing monogrammed items. You will not, however, catch the Davids clashing, sagging, or wearing velcro, light-up character shoes. Oh, no. That is not how they roll. Meet Stephanie David, the anti-casual snob. “People used to run into us at the mall and ask, ‘Oh, are you getting your picture taken?’ No, this is just how we dress,” Stephanie says of her coordinating custom (cough, obsession). “I just think no one dresses appropriately anymore,” she continues. “From teachers to businessmen, everyone has gone too casual. How do you expect children to know where the lines of respect are when they have no examples of how professionals dress?” When I mentioned a family photo shoot for this article, Stephanie’s eyes lit up like her Tiffany necklace. I could see the fabric swatches in her glazed-over eyes: “The whole family? This might be my last chance!” Stephanie is a mother of four, including a set of twins. She explains that her matching practice began out of practicality. If her family all wore red on the same day, it made laundry easier. As for the monogramming — yes, she owns a monogramming machine — no one could tell the twins apart, so she monogrammed their matching smocks in an effort to distinguish them. “I just like everything to flow,” Stephanie says. “I’m a little OCD about that. My favorite time of the year is vacation because I
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can control everyone’s outfits. It takes me a long time to pack each suitcase because I coordinate everyone each day with a theme. “My kids are starting to want their own identity. I understand that. My 13-year-old son has already put his foot down. But on vacation, they are stuck with what I pack.” Stephanie says she feels each stage of her children’s development is limited, so she tries to make the most of each. “Recently, the twins decided they no longer want to match,” she says. “It breaks my heart. I just want to get as much out of each stage as possible. So, when we go out, we dress for an event.” This even includes the pool. “When we go to the pool, I treat it like we are getting dressed for the day,” Stephanie says. “I wear jewelry. I like us to coordinate. Sometimes I’m disappointed that our towels don’t match our suits — again, my OCD. “I don’t judge other families. I just like a certain look for my family. It’s my thing.” No shame, Stephanie. Own it. ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ This is my final snob article. Stephanie and the string of snobs before her all possess one common quality: conviction. These snobs have taught me that being a snob isn’t about elitism or judgment. In fact, every interviewee has been completely warm and down-to-earth. They prove that being a snob is about confidence and certainty in one’s identity. So match on, Stephanie. Monogram like there is no tomorrow. And whatever you do, fellow snobs, never settle! Today’s Woman
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21 Thoughts
from 21 Women Over 21 Years by Kim Kerby
“Giving to others fills a spot in my life. The more I give, and as I see the changes in people, it gives me inner strength.”
To celebrate the beginning of our 21 year, we took a trip through the archives to find some quotes by local women over the years. All this wisdom, right in our own backyard! st
Marlene Gordon ~ January 1995
“Go ahead, experiment. Everyone has talent. Experimenting will bring it out. Just follow the three P’s: Patience, practice and perseverance.” Paula Loya, Woman’s News ~ December 1991
“Once the door opens for you, it’s up to you to succeed and take it to where you want it to go.” Sharon A. Decker ~ March 1994
“I would like to be known as a person who can see the good in others and help them see their own strengths and abilities so that they can reach their potential and enjoy life.” R. Susan Harmon ~ April 1996
“Women our age grew up believing in the fairy tale of simply being taken care of and living happily ever after. For us [Gayle & Kit], being a real woman was so much more rewarding than being Sleeping Beauty.”
“A lot of time (if I have time) when I can’t figure out a story, I take a walk, or I walk down to the river. I’ll have it written when I get back.” Kirby Adams ~ August 1997
“I’m an experiencer, not a book-study-er. The more I know, the more I want to know.” Rebecca Foley ~ May 1998
Founder Kit Hartmann Abel ~ December 1992
“I enjoy being different.” Paula Ciniero ~ January 1999
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“The most interesting parts of life are controversial. Those are the issues that people get emotional about because they feel so deeply about them.” Jane Norris ~ June 2000
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21 Thoughts
“When I hear the word ‘no,’ it just makes me try harder. That little word only has the power you give it.”
from 21 Women Over 21 Years
Willa Brown ~ January 2002
“A treasure isn’t a treasure because of how much it costs. A treasure is a treasure because you love it.”
“Attitude is kind of like underwear. You put it on and every now and then you might get it a little dirty, but that’s just up to you.”
Laura Heiskell ~ October 2003
Dawne Gee ~ July 2001
“I took on a motto for myself. It was something I put on Post-it notes everywhere… at my office and at home. The saying was ‘Be willing to look stupid.’”
Rachel Komisarz, 2004 Olympic swimming gold & silver medalist ~ August 2005
Lisa Angell-Heinz ~ May 2007
TWOM0509Power
“As women, we try to be it all. We try wearing every hat, but sometimes you just can’t do it. So we just juggle it…and sometimes, balls drop!” 7:21 PM
BY LUCY M. PRITCHETT
4/20/09
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I AM TODAY’S W OMAN BECAUSE. . . “I feel most powerful
Gabriela Lyvers Gabriela Lyvers,29, is a structural engineer for the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers.She is married to Jason Lyvers and the couple has two children, Natalie,3,and Samuel,3 months.
Lisa Henderson ~ May 2008
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Liz Curtis Higgs ~ February 1997
“The better the chocolate, the better the creativity.”
“I hated the water. I’m not a water person.”
Christy Spence ~ January 2006
BY LUCY M. PRITCHETT
“I have learned three basic things: enjoy every moment you have because children grow up fast; you have to do what keeps you sane; and don’t freak out.” Gabriela Lyvers, mother of a 3-year-old & 3-month-old, on motherhood ~ May 2009
on the back of a horse. I have a vision of my future I am most comfortable “As cliché as they are, fireflies add a decorative in the equine industry and there and feel that is am working in pursuit of sparkle to the night sky and make summer where I belong. Horses that vision every day. evenings magical.” are my passion. They Lori Thompson Finke are such majestic ~ February 2012 animals.Clondia How could Ray, 23 • Senior in equine studies with a you not be affectedinby concentration equine instruction at Midway College, their spirit.” Midway, Ky. 16
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“Women must give themselves permission to gather together… and laugh the mascara right off this faces!”
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“Feeding a pack of boys is my favorite thing.”
Hometown: Salem, Ind. Clondia•• Ray ~ Aprilhorses 2010 since she was Has owned
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Cartwright, mother of three boys who often bring friends over ~ June 2011
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I feel most powerful on the back of a horse. I am most comfortable there and feel that that is where I belong. Horses are my passion. They are such majestic animals. How could you not be affected by their spirit.
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Her
Inspirations By Holly Gregor / photos by Melissa donald
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ori Murden McClure, president of Spalding University, is a woman on a quest. Just because she was the first woman to successfully row across the Atlantic Ocean and the first in a two-woman team to ski to the South Pole, don’t think she isn’t still finding room to grow. What once propelled her to do such dangerous feats is still driving her. Growing up with her developmentally disabled brother, Lamar, showed Tori her greatest life challenge. In her book, A Pearl In The Storm: How I Found My Heart in the Middle of the Ocean, which details her harrowing journey across the Atlantic, Tori writes about protecting her brother from constant bullying. “Each time my parents learned that I had been fighting, I was rewarded with a sound spanking. ‘Young ladies do not brawl.’ This was always spoken as if becoming a lady were more important than protecting my brother. I didn’t see how becoming a lady was very appealing. Ladies didn’t run. Ladies didn’t jump. Ladies didn’t climb. Ladies didn’t wear trousers in public places. As far as I could tell, ladies were idle spectators. I didn’t like the boys who tormented my brother and me, but I utterly despised the girls who watched and did nothing. I could return a rock, a punch, or a kick, but I was helpless in defending against the apathy of onlookers.” This demon of helplessness is still with Tori. She has put a name to those injustices she can’t fix: her Lamar button. 36 DECEMber 2012
Tori Murden McClure President of Spalding University
With her row across the Atlantic long behind her, Tori is now trying to lead the 2,400 students of Spalding University down an easier road than she came. Her face lights up when she talks about her students: “I love their idealism, their angst, their energy...they’re fabulous!” Today’s Woman
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13 Things That Inspire Tori: 1. People who are on a quest. My quest is to end helplessness through education. 2. People who are willfully idealistic. Our founding fathers were willfully idealistic. You can’t rise to that office unless you have willful idealism. 3. The Ohio River at sunrise. 4. My rowing crew, the Pink Pearl Sisters, who are a little older and much wiser than me. I coach them in rowing, and they coach me in life. 5. Governor’s Scholars, who are much younger and a little wiser than I. 6. The indignation of being told “you can’t” by someone whose opinion I do not respect. 7. Students at Spalding University. I love their willful idealism, their angst. 8. Eccentric people. 9. Shakespearean insults: Age before beauty, pearls before swine. 10. Pearls. They represent friends, but they also represent the dreams shared by friends. 11. A field of snow with no tracks. Go play. 12. My assistant, Jackie Howard, who could moonlight as an air traffic controller. I wouldn’t get half as much done without her. 13. Superheroes with slide rules. This is a reference to Admiral Harriman Nelson, the character on the TV series Voyage to the Bottom of the Sea. He intellectually saved the day each week on the show. He carried a book and a slide rule. I thought that was really cool!
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She describes Spalding as “a scrappy place on the undergraduate level.” “Most of our students come from suffering in some form or another,” Tori says. “They want to alleviate suffering. It’s up to us to look out for each other. It’s messy. It’s hard.” One way Spalding hopes to address suffering is by adopting the Charter for Compassion, which calls for students and faculty to “work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures.” “We don’t all understand ‘You can’t love yourself more than your neighbor,’ but we all understand compassion,” Tori says. “The response to helplessness is compassion.” Tori says her quest now is to beat helplessness through education. “Education is a tool to fight any degradation in the world,” she says. www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow
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By Jessica Smith photos By Melissa donald
Whether you blog daily about crafts or avoid them as much as possible, there’s something about the holidays that makes women want to tap into that hand-made, time-spent, giving-of-yourself feel. Embrace that aspiration with these simple crafts to decorate and give.
Sparkle with
Silk
Lynn Busch of Preston Arts Center gave us the scoop on one of the easiest crafty gifts you can make this holiday season: a hand-dyed silk scarf. Elegant and artistic, you might want to keep this gift for yourself!
Materials:
Dyed Silk Scarf Time: 15 minutes Difficulty: Easy Cost: $12-$20
• Plain silk scarf ($7.29 at Preston Arts Center) • Plastic bag • Acrylic dye paint or thin textile paint (Lynn used Dye-na-flow, $4.39) • Paper towels or old newspapers • Medium bowl of water (optional) • Silk salt or unrefined sea salt with large granules (optional)
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For a more blended look, wet your scarf thoroughly in the bowl of water. For a more marbled style, leave it dry.
Drop the scarf into the plastic bag and add just a splash of one color of paint. If you’re using multiple paint colors, start with the lightest color. Work the paint and scarf around inside the bag with your hands.
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Once your scarf is dry, heat-set it by ironing it at the hottest temperature appropriate for the fabric. Now you can wash your scarf with no worries. Give it as a gift or jazz up a holiday outfit and prepare for compliments.
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Remove the scarf from the bag and reinsert to reposition it for better results. Add a splash of a new color of paint and work it through the scarf with your hands.
Once your scarf is to your liking, lay it out to dry. Optional for wet technique: Use wadded-up paper towels or newspaper to elevate the scarf slightly, then pour silk salt on parts of the scarf. Let sit until dry. The salt granules will pull the water and dye from around them and create a spotted, textured look.
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Burlap Materials:
Holiday Pennant Banner Time: 2-3 hours Difficulty: Easy Cost: $20-$30
• Ready-made canvas banner ($12.99 at Dee’s) • Buttons • Fabric glue (Susan used Fabric Fusion, $8.99) • Scrapbooking paper, photos, old wrapping paper, Christmas cards or other material to decorate letters • Letters ($1 at Dee’s or you can cut out cardboard) • ModPodge adhesive/sealant • Pin • Jingle bells and jump rings (optional)
Susan Hoferkamp of Dee’s showed us some easy ways to decorate with burlap and other natural materials such as canvas and greenery. Adding simple embellishments you can find around the house such as buttons and photos with fabric glue makes these no-sew crafts easy, timely, and personal — as Susan says, “If you can’t glue it, don’t do it!”
Instructions:
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Decide what you want your banner to say. Trace around cardboard letters on scrapbook paper or other decorative material. Cut out and use ModPodge to glue material to letters. Brush ModPodge over top of glued material to seal. Let dry, then glue letters to banner and let dry.
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Memory Board Time: 1 hour Difficulty: Easy Cost: $20-$30
• Natural or ivory-colored canvas board (12-by-12-inch shown), or you can paint a white one with acrylic paint • Colored burlap (available at Dee’s) • Fabric glue • Craft rope or cord (Susan used jute cord) • Mini clothespins ($2 at Dee’s)
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Glue buttons on banner as trim and embellishments to your liking. Try creating shapes and designs such as this simple tree.
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Use a pin to poke a hole in the bottom of each pennant. Feed jump rings through the holes and through the jingle bells. Pinch the jump rings closed. Let dry and enjoy!
• Anchor embellishments such as these wooden snowflakes, buttons, small ornaments, etc. • Memorable items you want to display, such as family photos, greenery from your tree, wrapping paper, bows from a favorite gift, parts of Christmas cards, etc.
If you need to, paint your canvas and let dry. Cut burlap to shape and lay out on canvas. Glue anchor embellishments down over burlap to hold it in place but still allow a loose, textured look.
2 Wrap cord or rope around canvas in a zigzag pattern. Glue cord on the edges or sides of the canvas only to allow some slack in front.
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Use mini clothespins to clip on photos, ribbons, greenery, or other items. Let dry, display, and dreamily reminisce.
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Wool
Be Warm With Woolly Wreath Time: 4-5 hours (depending on your knitting skills) Difficulty: Moderate Cost: about $50
Patty Meyer of Sophie’s Fine Yarn Shoppe has the perfect holiday craft for you knowledgeable knitters out there. Patty says this woolly wreath can be used for other holidays simply by switching out the ribbons and decorations. If you’ve never knit before or your wreath turns out knotty instead of nice, Sophie’s has classes and workshops to get you on the right track.
Materials:
• About 200 yards of bulky weight yarn, fluffy worsted weight yarn, and glitter carry-along yarn • U.S. size 15 knitting needles • 15-inch-diameter, 2-inch-wide styrofoam wreath ($10, available at craft stores) • Darning needle • Decorations or ribbon
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Bring the yarn back between the needles and knit into the back of the same stitch. You’ve now made two stitches on the right needle, and a loop should be hanging in the front.
Bind off the first stitch over the second stitch. This removes the extra stitch and tacks down the loop. Repeat stitching until the end of the row. Repeat purling and stitching until your strip of yarn is long enough to cover the face of the wreath form. Bind off and leave a tail of the burly yarn that’s as long as the strip you’ve knitted.
4 Use this tail to whipstitch the strip to the wreath. The edges of the strip will not touch on the back of the wreath — they just need held on. It’s also okay that the inner circle of the wreath will be more scrunched than the outer edge. Decorate and proudly present your versatile wreath.
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Specializing in Mother’s, Grandmother’s, Children’s, Spirit and Themed jewelry. Established in 1999, A Mother’s Touch has the largest selection of charms, engravables, jewelry repair and personalized gifts for any occasion, including Posh Mommy, and featuring Trollbeads & Chamilia. 12312 B Shelbyville Road 502.253.9477 • www.amotherstouchjewelry.com
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Take a step in a different direction in this glamorous acrylic wedge. Perfect choice for all your holiday occasions. Available as shown or with a silver bow. Visit Goody Two Shoes for fashion forward shoes and boots. Whatever the look, we have a shoe to fit. Located within Olivia & Company Boutique 4903 Brownsboro Road • Louisville, KY 40222 502.426.4046
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The Challenges
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aregiving By Cheryl Stuck
Most of us would agree: life is hectic. You go about your daily routine with your own set of frustrations and joys. Then one day life throws you a curveball, and you realize a loved one needs your help. You become a caregiver, and life becomes way more complicated.
Tips For Caregivers • Do stress-reduction techniques such as deep breathing throughout the day. • Find humor to help you cope. • Be careful of your own physical limitations. Don’t hurt your back by pulling and lifting. • Seek support from other caregivers. You’re not alone. Many people are in the same boat. Learning what worked and didn’t work for them could help you. • Reach out for help and accept help from others when offered. Suggest specific things they can do, such as stop by the grocery store or sit with Mom while you take a long bath. Helpful websites for caregivers: www.care-givers.com www.nfcacares.org
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If the person has Alzheimer’s or dementia, it’s a matter uddenly, you have to deal not only with your own problems of safety. but also those of someone else. Taking care of a loved one “It’s not uncommon for those folks to wander,” Helfers who has suffered an injury or serious illness can take a huge says, “so some assisted living communities have memory care physical and emotional toll on the caregiver. Stress might increase units that not only keep the person safe, but also provide mental due to time management and economic hardships. You might and physical stimulation that helps delay the progression of have to leave your job early, miss work, or even quit work in order the disease.” to take care of a loved one. Costs can vary greatly, so it pays to do your homework. For Sometimes the person you’re caring for can be mean and example, Always Best Care Senior Services currently charges $16 per seem unappreciative. Depression is common in caregivers, but it hour for the basic level of services for a minimum of four hours a day. can go unrecognized because fatigue, loss of energy, irritability, For level two, the cost is $18 per hour for a minimum of four hours, agitation, and difficulty sleeping or concentrating are blamed on which includes bathing and dressing help. the situation. Sleep deprivation can cause problems at the workplace and heighten the risk of illness, Today’s Woman of Wellness panel advisory group talks heart disease, and obesity. Chronic stress can about how caregiving has affected their own lives. result in premature aging and a higher risk of death for the caregiver. So, it’s important Took care of a parent with emphysema/COPD for one year on an that caregivers learn how to take care of as-needed basis. themselves. “It increased my stress due to worrying about her, having to take How do you know when it’s too much for time away from work, and trying to balance everything.” you to handle? Cathi Wiley-Bingaman, director of business development at Park Quality home care is an option. Different Community Federal Credit Union levels of care are available. Robin Helfers is president of Always Best Care Senior Services, a company that helps families find an Took care of a parent and a friend as a part of her job. appropriate senior living facility and provides “As a nurse, I have been involved with many patients and family non-medical home health services. She says members with health problems such as heart disease, cancer, and a person will sometimes desire to move into dementia. It is emotionally draining, physically exhausting, and exquisitely fulfilling.” an assisted living facility or senior housing when he or she is no longer willing or able to Deborah Tuggle, clinical nurse specialist, Critical Care Curriculum maintain a home. “Most assisted living communities Has been taking care of her uncle, who suffers from dementia, provide meals, transportation, and since 2007. activities, so a lot of times, it’s a matter of “I’ve had to do extra scheduling to get to doctors and convenience,” Helfers says. “For other people, procedures, plus deal with additional worry over symptoms it’s when they need a level of care that the and behaviors. He is now in a nursing facility, and I have arranged some private caregivers for additional quality of life. I am blessed person at home can’t provide. Other times, that I have the knowledge and the resources to make educated it may just be that there’s no family in town decisions for my loved ones.” to help the senior, so they may need a more Burke Stephens, administrator of Oaklawn Health and Rehabilitation adaptive place to live.”
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Can You Be Courageous and Sensitive? by Bob Mueller
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Develop the skin of a rhino
detachment, and it’s backed by caring about others but refusing to become their caretakers. You give room for others to take responsibility for solutions rather than trying to impose your own problemsolving habits on them.
Develop the soul of an angel The great prophets and saints in nearly every culture have spoken of angels. Angels are sought for encouragement or advice during difficult times. Many times, our hospice care providers are called angels, as they emphasize laughter and beauty at the end of life and are summoned to shield those they care for from harm. Many of the individuals who make the greatest difference in the world combine the paradoxical qualities of personal humility and unwavering resolve to do what is right. Consider the following thoughts about those who are called angels and are known for goodness and innocence: Angels don’t worry about you; they believe in you. Angels remind us why we’re here and help us sense our hidden potential. Angels don’t try to fix everything or take away life’s lessons. Angels have amazing detachment. They wait patiently nearby, observing the lessons being learned. They aren’t interested in giving us an easy way out. Angels are large in spirit. They are unabashed about letting us see where we need to grow, but they know when to choose being kind over being correct. Angels take the high road. They encourage both planned and spontaneous acts of goodness and generosity. One of the ways you might make this concept practical is by pausing during interactions to think about how you aid others. Do you have the soul of an angel in helping to bring out the best in others? If not, why not? Maybe we’ve been assuming that the soul of an angel is out of our reach. Maybe we’re wrong. Perhaps it is right here, and it has been all along, and we’ve been too busy or distracted to see it. All of us can choose to be more angelic. As you work hard to prove that choice by example in your own life, some of the things that are said of angels may one day be said about you.
Stop trying to fix everyone else or take care of others’ struggles. It’s not your job.
A thin skin or lack of wisdom leads to heightened troubles in life. The thinner the dermis, the less we are able to talk honestly or handle self-doubt or criticism from others. Some things I have found that help me be wise and have a thick skin are the following: Don’t take things personally. Someone’s always going to be mad at you, and that’s okay. No two individuals ever see the world or react to life the same way. If you take things too personally, you’re destined for needless suffering at the hands of those who believe they can feel good only when their words or actions make someone else feel bad. Don’t waste your time trying to please them. Let your life speak. Design your own template for receiving effective feedback. When fielding criticism from others, decide if their feedback is based on genuine concern and support for your well-being and advancement. If it is, consider it with care. What are the threads of truth here? On the other hand, few good things ever happen from letting others take unwarranted potshots at your confidence. Stop trying to fix everyone else or take care of others’ struggles. It’s not your job. There are two typical patterns in relationships: Taking care of others — The premise here is that the way to build good relationships is to make people feel comfortable and avoid disagreements or friction at all cost. All too often, such surface-coating fuels denial of problems and avoidance of difficult and defining moments. Caring about others — This approach encourages accountability and growth. It requires honesty and
Bob Mueller is Senior Director of Mission & Stewardship at Hosparus, the community hospices of Louisville, Southern Indiana, and Central Kentucky. He has three books available: Look Forward Hopefully, The Gentle Art of Caring, and his latest, Create a Better World. Find Bob online at www.bobmueller.org and email him at bobmueller@insightbb.com.
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elebration Today’s Woman checked in with some local chefs to find that extra something for your holiday breakfast or brunch table. Consider a combination of picking up special locally created delights to serve alongside your traditional homemade dishes. Pick Up a Croissant! I’m a huge fan of croissants, so I frequent Ghyslain’s for a fresh, buttery, flaky croissant like no other. Plain: $2.25 Almond: $3.00 Chocolate/Almond: $3.50
Serve it with this… French-Canadian chef Ghyslain Maurais of Ghyslain On Market and Ghyslain at Westport Village shared this recipe for Pâté Creton. It’s traditionally made to spread on a French baguette or toast, but why not indulge with a French croissant?
PÂté Creton (Ghyslain’s Mother’s recipe) This is a traditional French-Canadian dish that is typically spread on toast. Try it on a baguette or a croissant. 2 lb ground pork 1 large yellow onion, finely diced 3 cups milk 1 bay leaf 1 /8 tsp cinnamon 1 /8 tsp all spice 1 /16 tsp cloves 2 tsp salt ¾ tsp pepper 1 /2 cup bread crumbs
Croissants come plain or with almond or chocolate/almond.
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Directions: Mix all ingredients except the breadcrumbs in a pot on the stove top. Bring to a boil and simmer for about 45 minutes, uncovered. Pull bay leaf out and add breadcrumbs. Cook for another 10 minutes. Add salt and pepper to taste. Pour into a container and let cool before placing into the refrigerator to set overnight. Today’s Woman
reakfast photos and story By Melissa Donald
Add a Breakfast Strudel Robin Richardson, chef at The Bakery at Sullivan University, suggested a strudel for a main dish. The Breakfast Strudel is filled with hash browns, onions, peppers, and cheddar cheese wrapped in a puff pastry. This hearty item is something you could make or pick up. Single serving: $3.25
The Bakery’s Strudel Yield: 8 Slices 1 sheet puff pastry 1 tbsp vegetable oil Salt and pepper to taste 2 qts shredded hash browns 2 cups bell peppers 1½ cups onion 1½ cups pepper jack cheese 1½ cups white cheddar cheese 2 tbsp Sriracha hot sauce (optional)
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Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 400°F. Remove puff pastry sheet from freezer to thaw. 2. Slice bell peppers and onions and sauté in vegetable oil. Transfer to lined sheet tray to cool. 3. Season hash browns with salt and pepper. In large pan over medium heat, lightly brown hash browns. Do not overcook as potatoes will receive second bake in finished strudel. 4. On a lightly floured work surface, roll out puff pastry to 16-inch by 18-inch or slightly smaller than a sheet tray. 5. Line the center of puff pastry with hash browns, leaving at least six inches on both sides for braiding. 6. Top hash browns with Sriracha, bell peppers, onions, and grated cheeses. 7. On the diagonal, cut 1-inch strips on both sides of the hash brown filling. 8. Rotate the pastry 180° so that the diagonal cuts are pointing toward you. 9. Starting at the top left corner, overlap dough strips, alternating from left to right. 10. Egg wash and bake at 400°F until golden brown, about 18-20 minutes. 11. Slice on the diagonal and serve warm. 2012
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Make or Pick Up Meat and Potatoes
If you haven’t tried Lynn’s Paradise Cafe’s BLT Fries, here is a special dish. You can make them yourself or place a large order from Lynn’s to share.
Lynn’s BLT Fries 11/2 cups spinach, shaved 1 /2 cup bacon, diced and crisped 1 cup grated Jack Cheese 1 /4 cup diced tomatoes 1 /4 cup red onion, diced and gently sautéed 1 plate Idaho Russet hash brown potatoes Directions: Place potatoes on oven-safe plate. Layer ingredients on top of hash browns with cheese as the last layer and bake until golden brown. Top with horseradish sour cream.
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reakfast Pick Up Lavish Crackers
These Lavish crackers pair perfectly with salads, dips, cheese, and Louisville’s infamous Benedictine spread. Pick up a bag or two at The Bakery ($2.75 a bag).
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their lush, lyrically and musically profound psychedelic albums and singles. The band’s Days of Future Passed album, released in 1967 with a mix of rock and classical sounds, not only stayed on Billboard Music charts for more than two years but also marked a milestone in rock history as one of the first concept albums. It also entered uncharted territory at the time by recording with a symphony orchestra and in stereo. Two of the band’s signature singles, Nights in White Satin and Tuesday — Gioia Patton Afternoon, are from that album.
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Irving Berlin’s White Christmas
Derby Dinner Playhouse
Martinis & Mistletoe
Delicious martinis and appetizers will be served, and you can catch up on some of your holiday shopping. When December 6, 5-8pm Where Kentucky Museum of Art & Craft TICKETS $20; free for members Contact www.kentuckyarts.org.
Olde Tyme Christmas Celebration on Frankfort Avenue It’s the perfect event for the family. The Olde Tyme Christmas Celebration includes the Santa Sprint and Stroll and Dog Walk. You can shop for gifts and listen to live music, and your kids can be photographed with Santa at Margaret’s Consignment. When December 8, 8am-9pm Where Frankfort Avenue Contact 502.896.4706 or visit www.frankfortave.com
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When thru December 31, various performances Where Derby Dinner Playhouse, 525 Marriott Drive, Clarksville, Ind. TICKETS $35-$44 Contact 812.288.8281 or www.derbydinner.com
Take a tour through nine Victorian mansions and homes decorated for the holidays with an old-world theme. Catch a glimpse of history while enjoying the beauty of a bygone era. When December 3-4, Noon-6pm Where Old Louisville Contact 502.635.5244
December 7 @ 8pm. *Must be 21 years of age or older to attend Horseshoe Southern Indiana Casino, 11999 Casino Center Drive SE, Elizabeth, Ind. TICKETS $50, $60, $85 Contact Ticketmaster outlets or call 1.800.745.3000 When
“Back by popular demand!” reads Derby Dinner’s press release about this iconic musical. The sentiment is one I completely understand, as I’ve never walked away feeling anything less than impressed by the high standards of DDP’s productions of White Christmas that I’ve attended over the past few years. The story follows a couple of World War II GI’s turned song-anddance men as they pair up with a sister act to produce a Christmas Eve show in an effort to save a struggling Vermont lodge owned by their former commanding officer. Based on the timeless 1954 film starring Rosemary Clooney and Bing Crosby, this heartwarming musical features 17 Irving Berlin songs including Happy Holidays, Sisters, Blue Skies, Let Yourself Go and the iconic title track. — Gioia Patton
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Louisville Chorus Joined by members of Louisville Philharmonia — The Musicians’ Orchestra
“Under the skilled baton of Daniel Spurlock, they sang the most gorgeous pianissimos and the most chilling fortissimos! Evening of pure magic… emotional, inspirational, and fun…”
Take a virtual trip into the 18th century at Locust Grove. Refreshments and children’s crafts will be offered. When December 7-8 (Friday, 5:30pm to 9pm; Saturday, 4pm to 9pm) Where Locust Grove TICKETS Kids, $3; adults, $6; family unit (2 adults and 3 kids), $18 Contact 502.897.9845
Are you a Christmas tree decorating guru? Adorn the Schnitzelburg community Christmas tree with some of your gently used ornaments and other embellishments. When December 9, 3pm Where Texas and Burnett Streets Contact 502.892.8790
Christmas at St. Brigid — With Brass & Voices
Currently in its 74th season and consisting of a professional chorus of auditioned singers, Louisville Chorus is the longest-thriving and most frequently performing choral arts agency in the Commonwealth and neighboring states. This year marks LC’s 17th annual Christmas program, and music samples for Christmas at St. Brigid include: Joy to the World, Gloria in Excelsis Deo from Christmas Cantata, Irish Carol, A Hymn to the Virgin, Hark the Herald and Gloria! Alleluia! LC’s music director is Daniel Spurlock, who appeared regularly as conductor with The Louisville Orchestra on various local and out-of-town concerts. Maestro Spurlock has also received high acclaim as Chorus Master for the Louisville Orchestra and voice chorus performance of Mahler’s Symphony No. 8.
Locust Grove Candlelight Tours
Schnitzelburg Area Christmas Tree Decorating
The Moody Blues The Moody Blues are known for
— Gioia Patton
December 15 @ 7:30pm Where St. Brigid Catholic Church, 1520 Hepburn Ave. (@ Baxter) TICKETS $18-General Admission, $15-Senior Adult, $6-Student Contact www.theartslouisville.com, www.LouisvilleChorus.org, or 502.968.6300 When
LC’s 15th annual Christmas Wonderland Holiday Pops program (joined by members of Louisville Philharmonia) is December 8, 7:30pm @ St. Mary’s Catholic Church, 415 East 8th St., in New Albany, Ind. And LC’s 7th annual Christmas at Immaculate Conception With Brass & Voices is December 9, 4pm @ Immaculate Conception Catholic Church, 502 North 5th, La Grange, Ky.
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Highview Park will be transformed into a lovely holiday scene with lights and decorations. Take a carriage ride, sing carols, or show off your skills in a tree decorating contest. When December 14, 6-8pm Where Central Government Center and Highview Park (7201 Outer Loop) TICKETS Free Contact 502.762.9608
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“I’m always excited about presenting a world-premier comedy, especially one that I’ve written!” says playwright Juergen Tossmann, who is also Bunbury’s Producing Artistic Director. “And although the title does suggest the play is about Hanukkah and Christmas, it’s much more than that. It’s about relationships surviving through a very difficult set of circumstances and coming together in the spirit of the holidays. Oh, and it’s a comedy with heart!” The story takes place December 21, 2012, the day the Mayan Calendar ends. Is it the end of the world or a new beginning? Klaus Klurman, Holocaust survivor, is visited by several spirits, one being his old friend Hyman Goldstein. And sparks fly when the spirits lead Klaus to believe that he may be the only survivor left on the planet… or is he? — Gioia Patton
When December 13-23, various performances Where The Henry Clay building, 604 South 3rd St. TICKETS $21-General Admission, $18-Seniors (over age 62) $10-Students and Children Contact 502.585.5306 or www.bunburytheatre.org
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“Holidays get me down. My mother passed away at Christmastime; my father died on Mother’s Day; my husband told me he wanted a divorce on Valentine’s Day. So while others are celebrating a festive occasion, I find myself mourning some tragic loss in my life. My children try to make things better, but I can’t seem to shake the empty feeling at holidays. How does one move on from the hurt and the voids caused by the losses of important people?”
Joyce: Only significant loved ones leave indelible memories — good or bad. For that, consider yourself blessed because out of each experience, you have grown. Blessings bring joy for the rich moments you shared with each of your lost loves. Each death you experienced brings with it a different kind of pain. The death of a marriage is a painful reminder of what could have and should have been. And holidays are typically a guaranteed revisiting of memories, both delightful and dreadful. Since changing history is not possible, you must find a means to write new chapters of your timeline that your children will love to recall. Let me offer you some ideas that could help you embrace holidays from a different perspective. Anticipate the event. Think of each occasion as a visit from a long-lost friend. Instead of looking ahead with dread, think of the holidays with expectation. Mark off the days on your calendar and count down till the “big” day. Make a list of things you’ll do on that day. Decide to serve someone at Christmastime, perhaps by serving in a soup kitchen or inviting a friend, single mom with kids, aging couple, or family members over for dinner. Catch up on thank-you cards or phone calls. Find one project you’d like to accomplish around the house, such as painting a room or mending clothes, and spend time that day completing it. Plan a party. Nothing takes away the blues like bringing family and friends together. Whether you make it a simple gathering or an all-out gala, the fellowship you enjoy can restore a matchless luster to your holiday season.
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Just Ask Joyce By Joyce Oglesby
Take pleasure in being with the family you still have. Recognize that if you continue your pattern, your family might no longer enjoy your company and begin to avoid encounters with you throughout the year, not just on holidays. Avoid these misunderstandings and untoward family dynamics by cherishing time with your surviving loved ones. Make it a point to honor your loved ones. There’s great value in holding on to a solid legacy left by someone you loved and respected. Those kinds of relationships help one build strong character traits. Great merit can be found in the tough experiences as well. Decide to be a friend rather than an ex-wife to your husband. Each of us surviving a great adversity has someone to thank for the life lesson it rendered. Choose to celebrate. We decide on holidays, just like any other day, how we will live out our attitude. It’s your choice to move on into a new era of enjoyment and to leave your season of mourning behind. Your parents and loved ones certainly would not want you choosing sadness over happiness. You’re the only one who can effect a change this holiday season. Get your plan mapped out and your head engaged in the thought of choosing to celebrate each and every day, whether it’s a holiday or not. So, go ahead. Allow your children to succeed in their attempts to make your holidays enjoyable. You might rediscover the little kid in you again! Write Joyce Oglesby, Family-Life Fitness Pro, at joyce@justaskjoyce.com. She’s here to help!
“My 11-year-old daughter thinks she’s 16 going on 21. I’m not quite sure what to do with her demanding, belligerent attitude. Her dad lives in another state, and she threatens me all the time that she is going to live with him when she comes of age. How do I communicate with her, set down boundaries, and still keep our relationship?” (Go to www.iamtodayswoman.com to read Joyce’s answer to this question.)
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Fix Your Flaws By Tiffany White • Photos Melissa Donald
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ake your eyes look larger instantly. Stephani Jones, aesthetician at Z Salon & Spa (9407 Shelbyville Road, 502.426.2226) showed Raeshanda Johnson how she could do it in three easy steps:
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applied shadow (Night Iris, $18) to the lower eyelid, followed with another shadow (Brown Velvet Rose, $18) that she applied to the corners and crease of the eye. She extended the shadow above the natural crease to give the eye a larger appearance.
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shaded in Raeshanda’s eyebrows using a brow pencil. “Enhancing your brows helps keep the face in proportion,” she says.
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applied false lashes as the finishing touch, but she says using an eyelash curler is an added benefit whether you do or don’t wear fake lashes.
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