Todays' Woman July 2012 by Today's Transitions

July 2012

Celebrating 20 Years

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July 2012 articles

Contents

About This Issue

By Anita oldham

Power

I am Today’s Woman

By Lucy M. Pritchett

Survival Skills: Dr. Sharmila Kumari

Makhija

By Marie Bradby

NuLu

By Carmen Brown

20 Things

By ANITA OLDHAM

7 Ways to Be More Creative in Your Home 22 By Holly Gregor

Education Supplement

Looking Back with Today’s Woman 26 By Kim Kerby

STYLE

7 Looks for 7 Body Types By Wendy Anguiano

I’m a Snob

By Megan Seckman

7 Women on the Street

By alexas gregory

WELLNESS

Summer Skin Care

By Cheryl Stuck

Light Bite: My Goodness Granola

By Melissa Donald

Courage Needed: 7 Ways to Get More 50 By Bob Mueller

CONNECTIONS John Edward: Student of the Universe 52 By Gioia Patton

7 Things Not to Miss

By Alexas Gregory and Gioia Patton

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Just Ask Joyce

By Joyce Oglesby

Fix Your Flaws: Minimizing Large

Upper Arms

By tiffany White

Today’s Woman

ow is 2012 going for you so far? It is more than halfway over: Are you reaching your goals? Has it been a harder or better year than expected? Whichever way it is going, there is still time to make it better. Want to be make courageous choices? Read Bob Mueller’s advice on page 50. Want to dress to flatter your shape? Read our fashion pages featuring the seven most common body shapes on page 30. Lacking creativity? Take Holly Gregor’s advice on making your environment more creative on page 22. Whatever you decide to do this month — even if it is just taking a few evenings to stare at the stars — we wish you a Lucky Seven.

Welcome to Month #7 — Happy July! K

eeley Copridge looks bright and ready for summer with this fun pose. She is one of seven women we featured in our 7 Shapes = 7 Beauties fashion shoot. Read more about her on page 30, and find out which type of clothing fits best with your figure so that you can start your summer off beautifully!

— Tiffany White

Photo: Melissa Donald Makeup: Lori Karnes,

Blades Salon & Spa

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I am Today’s Woman ~ Feisty and Content

AGE: 37 Neighborhood: Shively/PRP

Deana Lockman ~ Deputy Director/Operations,

Louisville Slugger Museum and Factory

Household: Husband, Matt, daughter, Shelby, 7, and son, Connor, 4

by Lucy M. Pritchett / Photo: Melissa donald /Makeup: Holly Oyler

7 Things About Baseball 1. Favorite major league team:

5. Best baseball movie:

2. Ballparks visited:

6. Would play:

Cleveland Indians

Major league — Progressive Field, Cleveland; AT&T Park, San Francisco; Tiger Stadium, Detroit; Wrigley Field and US Cellular Field, Chicago; Great American Ballpark and Riverfront Stadium, Cincinnati; Minor league — Victory Field, Indianapolis; Slugger Field, Louisville

3. Favorite player:

Asdrubal Cabrera, shortstop for the Indians

4. Best baseball book:

The Sandlot

Either catcher, who is like a coach on the field and is involved with strategy, or shortstop. My favorite players have always been shortstops. That position sees a lot of action.

7. Would like to meet: Shoeless Joe Jackson so I could ask him about the White Sox Scandal of 1919 and Satchel Paige. Paige played with Buck O’Neil and he was a great pitcher. He was exuberant and funny, and I admire him.

Childhood dream:

It changed all the time, but I wanted to be some kind of teacher. In this job, I get to communicate with people about Slugger Museum and Factory and its place in baseball and American history.

Likes to shop:

Edinburgh Outlet Mall, Kohl’s, and Dillard’s.

Likes to eat:

Zaytun Mediterranean Grill on Bardstown Road and Luigi’s Pizzeria on Main for lunch.

Favorite piece of jewelry:

Best decision:

After the birth of our son, Connor, Matt and I made the decision that he would be a stayat-home dad. That has turned out very well.

With $100:

I would treat the staff to lunch.

Last purchase:

A beginner’s yoga DVD.

Likes baseball because:

I love the escape it offers and the chance to focus on something else for a while.

My engagement ring. Matt surprised me with it. We have been married nine years.

I Was Right On Time by Buck O’Neil — He played first base with the Negro League team, the Kansas City Monarchs.

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Survival Skills: Seeking Excellence By Helping Others

Dr. Sharmila Kumari Makhija

hen Dr. Sharmila Kumari Makhija was 9 years old, she talked her parents into letting her fly alone from her hometown in Montgomery, Ala., to visit her grandparents for the summer in New Delhi, India. The daughter of first-generation immigrants — a biologist and a chemist — Sharmila made hospital rounds with her grandfather, a general surgeon, carrying his doctor bag and listening to patient’s hearts through a stethoscope.

Relaxation is an important part of her day. “I have to decompress at the end of the day, otherwise I’m not good the next day. I usually workout or swim. Swimming is quiet, and I just hear the water and nobody is talking. To me, that’s meditation. Once I do that, I’m refreshed again. I could live at the ocean.” Here are her seven rules of wisdom:

Rule #1: Follow the Golden Rule.

I strive to treat my patients, my colleagues, and staff the way I would like to be treated.

Rule #2: Strive for Equality. I strongly

Though her grandparents and parents tried to talk her out of it, saying it would be a hard life for a woman, young Sharmila decided during the summer of 1976 that she would become a physician. A gynecologic oncologist, Sharmila, 45, is the new chair of the Department of Obstetrics, Gynecology, and Women’s Health at the University of Louisville School of Medicine. She is known for her research, clinical trials, and publications in gynecologic cancer in the U.S. and India. In her ancestral home, she has helped institute cancer protocols, clinical trials, and helped provide access to the HPV vaccine. Sharmila also holds a master’s degree in business administration from Emory University in Atlanta, where she was director of the Division of Gynecologic Oncology. She used up her vacation days for two years to take courses. After she received her MBA last year, she was appointed to her new position at the height of talks of the hospital merger that would have connected UofL Hospital, Jewish and St. Mary’s Healthcare, and St. Joseph Health System (the Catholic Health Initiative). The talks raised questions about providing some women’s reproductive procedures at UofL Hospital. “The MBA was really helpful,” she said. “Right off the bat, I was thrown into addressing the hospital merger and the issues surrounding it.” Sharmila wants to provide more integrated care for patients because women often use their OB-GYN as their primary physician. “We’re looking at how we integrate a woman coming in for a regular exam with cardiology care to make sure she is getting screened for all the risk factors for any heart disease, with psychiatric care to screen for depression, and things like that,” Sharmila said. “Instead of the patient going to all these different places, the doctors just come to one place. Sharmila chose gynecologic oncology because of the challenge. “For the most part, OB-GYN is a happy specialty,”

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by Marie Bradby

photo: Melissa Donald

believe in treating everyone equitably. As a chair of a medical department, I hold everyone to the same standards, expecting the highest clinical performance and compassion for our patients.

Rule #3: Adhere to Values. I

measure success by not only the final goal, but more importantly by the process of achieving that goal, giving importance to integrity and honesty — values.

Rule #4: Help Others. I strive to

be a role model. So often women are harder on each other and don’t help each other out. I want to help others get to their career goals, to help support them when we haven’t had that much support in the past.

Rule #5: Seek Excellence.

As a cancer surgeon, I am completely devoted to giving my patients the best clinical care possible. Abraham Lincoln said, “Whatever you are, be a good one.” This is a good philosophy for everyone. My path has been to be the best gynecologic surgeon I can be, caring for my patients, taking opportunities to advance medicine in my sub-specialty. I always question, always seek answers — many answers; never accept the status quo. We see treatment options changing as we learn more.

Rule #6: See Challenges as Opportunity. Nelson Mandela said, “The

greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” As a scientist, I explore the unknown; stumbles and falls serve as guideposts to alter one’s direction. When one of my patients receives a cancer diagnosis, I practice this philosophy: The diagnosis may be viewed as a stumble, maybe even a fall, but I encourage my patients, as we work together on curing or managing the disease, by telling them that they will continue with their lives.

Rule #7: Dream. Happiness comes from

striving daily to be a more competent, compassionate person. Never give up your dreams, your principles, your goals — the threads that weave the chapters of our lives. In the end, one should strive to say, “I am so glad I did what I did, and hopefully, I made a positive change in many lives.” Today’s Woman

Rellek,

NuLu H tsp ts

817 E. Market St.

Are you always shopping around for a one-of-a-kind accessory for your home? Visit Rellek, a fine consignment and retail store located in Nulu, for an exclusive selection of items. Owner Greg Keller has used his merchandising background to create a welcoming layout for shoppers to browse for home items. “I am very selective about the items I choose,” says Keller. That selectiveness helps stock the store with vintage pieces and local art that you would not normally find in bigger stores. Keller supports local artists and showcases their work throughout the store. The vintage items he carries add to the charming décor. When searching Louisville for a place to open his store three years ago, Keller saw the high potential for growth in the area. After talking with other business owners and realizing the area’s affordability, he knew he had found a home for Rellek in the East Market District. Keller says, “It is an exciting time to be in Nulu. I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. My customers are everyone from young couples setting up a new place, to established people looking for specific and unusual pieces.” Keller’s ultimate vision is to expand the store and carry larger furniture pieces, while keeping the mix of fine consignment and retail pieces. With its collectors’ items and stylish furniture such as benches and lamps, Rellek is a store you do not want to miss in Nulu.

Watch Summer’s Big Blast with Today’s Woman on Wave3 on July 4 at 11 a.m. or July 8 at 10:30a.m. for more on NuLu 12

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By Carmen Brown photos by melissa donald

Graceship, 1201 Story Ave, Ste. 213 After two years of hard work and sacrifice, Louisville native Emily Gimmel opened Graceship, a line of chic computer bags made exclusively for women. While working and traveling as a television journalist, Grimmel realized that most workbags were made for men — and they were not visually appealing. She also noted that just because a bag was made in pink, it still did not fit her needs. Thus, Graceship was born. “The concept is a ‘computer purse’ and it’s fashionable, functional, and affordable. It’s designed for a woman, by a woman,” says Grimmel. The purses, each named for a city she has visited, are designed to hold everything from your cell phone and wallet, to files and business cards, as well as have a pocket large enough for a 15” laptop. Eventually, Grimmel wants Graceship to be the leading authority in all women’s tech-related items such as clutches for iPads. Graceship opened in March 2012 and has done well in its online retail store. The line is also currently sold in boutiques around Louisville. In June, the flagship store opened in Work the Metal. Graceship has a charitable component that donates a portion of each sale to benefit One Economy, an international non-profit dedicated to providing access to technology for under-served populations. Being able to work in an environment of like-minded people that embodies a fun and creative culture was important in Grimmel’s decision to open in Nulu. “I’m excited to be in Nulu with other entrepreneurs, and it makes me very proud of Louisville.”

Today’s Woman

The East Market District, affectionately known as NuLu (for New Louisville), is a fast growing area. From boutique shops and art galleries to trendy restaurants, there is something there for everyone. Check out these seven hot spots for a glimpse of what NuLu has to offer.

Taste of Fine Wine & Bourbons,

Garner Narrative Contemporary Fine Art, 642 E. Market St.

Taste of Fine Wines & Bourbons is a place where you can purchase wine and bourbon as a tasting or by glass, bottle, or case. Owner Paul Meyer wanted a shop where people could enjoy wine but not pay the exorbitant price. “Every Tuesday, we post 10 wines on our board in the store and on our website. People can come in, enjoy good wine, and have a great time.” Also, customers can taste bourbons for $5 each — no matter the cost of the bottle. Meyer is a member of the Bourbon Society and his staff is also knowledgeable about the products stocked and sold in the store. They specialize in small-case production wines, which means you will be able to find varieties you may not see in larger stores. You will forget that you are in a store while lounging on the comfy window seats or sitting at high-top tables. The bourbon room features a rack of the bourbons sold in the store and tables built from bourbon barrels. A newly added outdoor patio offers a serene environment to enjoy your wine or bourbon selection. The soft music creates a setting for casual conversation where people can feel comfortable making Taste of Fine Wines & Bourbons a Nulu gem. “Nulu is a safe place to visit,” says Meyer. “We opened last October and I could tell this was an up-and-coming area.” With the restaurants and shopping in the area, Taste of Fine Wines & Bourbons offers a nice, affordable location to take a break from your Nulu trek.

Joyce Reed, a self-taught painter, opened Garner Narrative in 2003 as studio space for local artists. She has seen businesses come and go, but watching Nulu blossom has been exciting. “Parking has definitely changed,” says Reed, “but I think it is good for people to be able to walk the neighborhood. It creates a great sense of community.” Last year, she transformed the space into a gallery open to the public. Reed says, “We specialize in showing narrative art. Your background doesn’t matter; you will find a story in the art. It’s different for different people.” She helps sustain the community by renting three apartments above her gallery. Reed loves being a landlady and having the gallery. The variety of community and art is very meaningful to her, and it shows through the care she puts into arranging the pieces in the gallery. The gallery winds throughout the bottom floor of the building, with art on each wall as well as a moveable display in the center. Reed adjusts the gallery approximately every two months based on the art on exhibit — the moveable wall allows for flexibility to highlight different pieces. It is amazing to see not only local artists work, but the work of Joyce and her daughter Amy are shown as well. The studio’s energy and beautiful arrangements draw art lovers and newbies alike, so take your next art break at Garner Narrative in Nulu.

634 E. Market St.

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Garage Bar, 700 E. Market St. Chef/co-owner Michael Paley describes the Garage Bar, as a “fun bar with great pizza.” The social aspect of the bar is the main focus, and its location in the pizzeria allows customers to enjoy the outdoor views from the front garage doors. The brick oven was made by hand in Naples. The restaurant specializes in artisan bread pizzas with a variety not seen at other pizzerias in Louisville. And, speaking of variety, Garage Bar also offers a selection of raw oysters and a ham bar where an assortment of country hams hang from the ceiling for use by the chefs. Customers can sit at the ham bar and watch the chefs at work. The restaurant’s location in Nulu used to be a classic car shop, a gas station, and a saloon. After searching for a property, Paley was convinced that this location would fit into his vision. “I’ve always wanted to open a restaurant in a garage,” he says. “We didn’t want to change the footprint too much. I think we’ve created a fun environment for our customers.” All types of customers are attracted to the pizzeria from families to the younger crowd. Garage Bar will celebrate its oneyear anniversary in July, and Paley is very excited to share that in Nulu. “I used to eat in this area before we opened. So many restaurants have opened and that’s a testament to how successful Nulu is becoming.” If you are in the mood for oysters, pizza, or a fun, social atmosphere, stop in to Garage Bar on your next Nulu adventure.

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Peace of the Earth, 801 E. Market St.

“We offer everything you need for an eco-friendly bathing experience,” says Peace of the Earth owner Leslie Bowers. Stroll inside this natural bath boutique and take in the lovely scents from the bath products, such as colorful soaps and perfumes, that are made in-house. Bowers uses pure essential oils in the products and 100 percent recycled packaging and soy ink for printing. Here you will also find other eco-friendly bath items such as bamboo towels and non-toxic children’s bath toys. The items are trendy and eco-friendly, which makes it easy for everyone to find something they love. Bowers loves the ecofriendly buildings and businesses and the hip, urban feel of the area, which complements Peace of the Earth perfectly. Locals and tourists alike are frequenting Nulu. Downtown hotels are beginning to recommend the East Market District as a must-see destination, and Bowers, like other Nulu business owners, has seen the positive change in her business. “People like to take a piece of Louisville home with them that’s good for the earth and is something they can use.” She has also noticed a spike in online sales after big events are held in Louisville. Seventy-five percent of the store’s sales are from products made in-house, and she hopes this activity will help the store become a ‘mom-and-pop success story.’ Says Bowers, “Our products are sold in Whole Foods in Louisville, and we hope to be in the 30 regional stores by 2013. Eventually, we’d like to become a national brand.” Enhance your bathing experience, and support this local boutique on your next visit to Nulu!

Rye on Market, 900 E. Market St. Rye on Market opened in January 2012 and has made its mark on Nulu. The owners wanted to create an approachable environment with a relaxed-meets-refined feel where anyone can feel comfortable. “We want people to view Rye as a place where eating is adventurous,” says general manager Erin Macdonald. “We want to stretch people and have them trust that, because we’re passionate about food and service, they will have a good, complete dining experience.” The menu changes daily, based on what items the chefs have available. While not focused on becoming completely sustainable, the staff believes in growing what they can and using local and regional foods to create the best product. They maintain three gardens with herbs, fruits, and vegetables, keep a beehive on the roof of the building, and make their ice cream in-house. Head chef, Tyler Morris, relies on his vast experience to create each menu item and believes in the ‘nose-totail’ method of cooking which means Rye has very little waste. Although only open a short time, Macdonald feels fortunate to be a part of Nulu and that the restaurant is helping bring people to the area. She knows that its continued success is centered on its warm, relaxed environment, food, and service. “We would love for Rye to become a great restaurant for locals. People should know that on any given day or night, they could come in and get a good product and great service.” Visit Rye in Nulu, and let the foodie adventurer in you loose.

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7 THINGS You Should Check Out

Give Your Teen a Kick a Shot / / Is your teen vaccinated against meningitis? Kentucky has one of the lowest meningococcal vaccination rates in the country. Meningitis may be rare, but it can be deadly when it strikes. Teens should be vaccinated against meningitis — and, in fact, should receive a booster dose by age 18 to help protect them during the years they’re at greatest risk.

uild your leadership skills, problem-solving abilities, and connections with 2013 Ignite Louisville. Applications accepted until July 27.

www.leadershiplouisville.org

Hit the Urban Bourbon Trail — right here in Louisville. From establishments that once served Kentucky Whiskey to the likes of Al Capone and F. Scott Fitzgerald to trend-setting restaurants. With the Urban Bourbon Trail Passport you can make it a goal to go to all 20 participating stops and get stamped (via phone app or old-fashioned paper). You can earn the rank of official Bourbon Country Citizen with an Urban Bourbon Trailblazer t-shirt and official Citizen of Bourbon Country certificate.

yro Gallery will be P hosting a juried exhibit with 23 artists portraying

Debra Lott will exhibit new work reflecting the contemporary human condition.

the Human Condition through August 15.

Follow our interactive Today’s Family magazine at www.TodaysFamilyEveryDay.com. We give away prizes every Wednesday, not to mention all the other things you can find on there for your family!

Stop for Tea – 4 Courses! • Watch Demonstrations (a Duel, even) Go Shopping • Dance at A Grand Ball The 5th Annual Jane Austen Festival will take place July 21 & 22 at Historic Locust Grove. The Grand Ball will take place on Saturday evening at Spalding University in downtown Louisville. The ball room is reminiscent of a Georgian Assembly Room. A practice session will be held in the afternoon. Information and reservations: www.jasnalouisville.com 16

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prevention study is looking for men and women age 30 to 65 who have never been diagnosed with cancer, for the American Cancer Society’s Cancer Prevention Study-3 (CPS3). CPS-3 will help researchers better understand the lifestyle, environmental, and genetic factors that cause or prevent cancer. Get involved: cps3kentucky.org, 1-888-604-5888.

GLASS OF BOURBON?

Help Cure Cancer

by ANITA Oldham

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is coming in August (Best Husbands, Bachelors, Great Guys!)

he Frazier History Museum, Louisville Science Center, Muhammad Ali Center and KentuckyShow! at the Kentucky Center offer free admission to all active duty military personnel and their families from Memorial Day through Labor Day 2012 as part of the Blue Star Museum program. www.arts.gov/bluestarmuseums

enjoying Atlanta?” and so on. But then you should quickly dig a bit deeper: “Where did you grow up?”; “How did you get started in your field?”; and “So when you’re not shaking things up at the office, how do you like to spend your time?” “Don’t waste 20 minutes engaging in purely superficial chitchat,” advises author Andrew Sobel. “On the other hand, don’t dive in with inappropriate questions like ‘If you had only a month to live, what would you do?’ Remember: Rapport starts with identifying commonalities and similarities, not shocking the other person!” Andrew Sobel is the author of Power Questions: Build Relationships, Win New Business, and Influence Others (Wiley, February 2012, ISBN: 978-11181196-3-1, $22.95)

When/Where: September

6 at The Marriott Louisville East, 1903 Embassy Square Boulevard

Visit boutiques and get all Christmas shopping done early.

What:

Why: To benefit Prodigal Ministries, an organization that helps people adjust to life outside of prison. They offer housing, success training, and motivation through rigorous programs. How to get involved: Call Mary Ellen Stottmann, Christmas in September, Chair, at 502.386.1473 or email her at christmasinseptember@prodigalky.org for reservations, information or volunteer opportunities for this event.

— Alexas Gregory

“Most of the people in jail are not criminals, just people who have made poor life choices concerning drugs and alcohol. The children in these families are the ones that suffer the most” — Mary Ellen Stottmann 2012

hen you first meet someone at an event, start with some easy, W non-threatening questions. For example: “Where have you come in from?”; “So what’s your connection to our host?”; or “How are you

She is planning the annual Prodigal Ministries Christmas in September event.

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“I thought I would pass on a picture of my daughter ‘reading’ Today’s Woman. She is 2-and-a-half, and loves looking through your magazine.” — Jerrod Felice

You’re introduced to someone you don’t know at a work or social event…

thers are hanging around the O swimming pool but Mary Ellen Stottmann is meeting with Santa Claus.

All Ages Love Today’s Woman!

Dog Search

I have been perusing Petfinder.com for several months now. First of all it is a great stress reducer — looking at all the sweet pets waiting to be adopted from local shelters. Second: I am looking for my next Woman’s Best Friend. I will have to let you know who I get paired with.

This is Makeup artist Holly Oyler’s newest friend: Titan. He looks so well-behaved.

Wicked

is coming back to the Kentucky Center. Do you have your ticket yet?

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7 Steps that Brought this Issue Together 1

The idea of a theme called “7” came out of a meeting we had about a year ago. We don’t question where our themes come from — some special, creative place. 2

Anita Oldham

Wendy Anguiano

One of the article ideas was fashion and we decided to go with 7 Body Shapes after talking it over with our fashion stylist. 3 Lucy M. Pritchett

Tiffany White

Our photo shoot for this fashion shoot in our new in-house studio as well as most other photos in the magazine — a trip to NuLu, a trip to Slugger Museum — was taken by our gung-ho photographer.

Melissa Donald

We had many articles written and submitted ON DEADLINE! from our award-winning staff of writers.

Cheryl Stuck Bob Mueller

Gioia Patton

Marie Bradby

Our designers worked on making the editorial and advertising look beautiful together.

Alexas Gregory

Holly Gregor Joyce Oglesby

Carmen Brown

Kathy Bolger April Allman

Jessica Smith

Our sales team spent time talking to clients about the value of you — the reader — and how much you enjoy reading this magazine.

Susan Allen

Teri Hickerson

Cheryl Suhr

Our publisher put her stamp of approval on the magazine and off it went to the printer. Thanks, Gateway! And it hits the stands, thanks to our distribution manager.

Rose Helm

Many others were also involved in the making of this magazine. We appreciate all who help us along the way each month. Kaitlyn Tew Cathy Zion

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Ways to Be More Creative in Your Home By Holly Gregor

Creativity is my passion and my work. Here is the way I open myself to creativity...which starts in my home: Space. Creativity is energy and it needs room to come in. I get rid of all the unnecessary clutter. Because I need help in this area, I called Connie Roitman of Room Rehab to assist me. It’s a work in progress, one I believe in. If you want something new to happen in your life, clean out your house to make space for it…and I don’t mean for acquiring more things.

Clear mind. I meditate 20 minutes every morning. This brings a calmness to me that lasts throughout the day. I have told the kids, “Do not disturb me, unless your hair is on fire.” No matter how early I get up, my 7-year-old is right next to me, more like leaning against me, playing games on my phone…or building a fort from pillows he has gathered off every chair, sofa, and bench…singing. In addition, Pringles, our Bichon poodle, is sitting in my lap. So, no matter what the scene is for that day, I start my meditation with, “Thank you!”

Make the bed. It’s my way to establish order at the start of the day, and at night, it’s a nice way to end the day by getting into a beautifully made-up bed. This is also a great way to teach my children…by example. So far, it hasn’t worked on either one of them, but I’m an optimist! Being in nature. I read, listen to music on my iPod, and meditate outside. Mother Nature is my favorite artist. Sometimes I just look and listen, so I can soak in all the details of what she has created. When I do this, I feel grateful to experience such beauty. This is also another way for me to slow down and focus on “the bigger picture.”

Sleep. I need to be rested to create. My bedroom is designed for peacefulness. The colors are calming. There is no clutter. Nine months ago I took out the TV. Where there is no TV, there are no children, therefore calm. Since then, I am experiencing a more relaxing space. Read magazines. This is one of my favorite ways to be inspired. I also enjoy finding out what’s new in the world of interior design, my favorite creative passion. I get a lot of inspiration for new projects. For instance, I have planned the patio design for the backyard. Now I just need to save my pennies. Art. I have a painting I painted years ago with my son, Riley, that I look at everyday while I’m working. It inspires hope, creativity, and passion in me. I call it “The Divorce painting.” These seven practices that I follow in my home have given me the support I need for my newest endeavor. I have developed a television show called Capturing Creativity, where I share the creative process of artists. Through one-on-one conversations with the known and unknown, I highlight their creative style and how they have stayed true to their art. For more information, go to hollygregor.com.

Watch Summer’s Big Blast with Today’s Woman on Wave3 on July 4 at 11 a.m. or July 8 at 10:30a.m. for more on how to bring creative spaces into your home

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Set goals that scare you. Then set bigger goals. Many wise individuals have pointed out the importance of living outside your comfort zone. That’s because if you’re not challenging yourself you’re probably not growing—so set goals that you know will stretch your intellect, your persistence, and your ingenuity. And once you’ve achieved them, set more. Think of these goals as being your “life plan.” Staying focused on your goals will help you not to inadvertently waste time and effort. And most of all, remember that what gets planned gets done.

If you must choose between wealth and character, choose character. Our culture seems to value success—in other words, money, power, and status—more and more highly. But this kind of “wealth” all too often comes at the expense of integrity, balance, and healthy relationships. When you choose to preserve and develop your character over your bank account, you’ll be making the far wiser investment in your future—and you’ll attract the sorts of people and opportunities that you really want. Do not burn bridges. you never know when a word spoken in anger, frustration, or even disgust might come back to haunt you. Remember that people change, and realize that treating everyone with respect, in spite of negative circumstances, will give you a reputation for fairness and integrity.

Be the plow horse, not the show horse. Focus on doing diligent, reliable, honest work, not on receiving accolades. If you put in the Take great notes hours and truly earn the in every situation. Whether respect you want, your time you’ve just had dinner with your in the spotlight will last significant other’s parents or left an longer and be more important meeting at work, jot down fulfilling. important points. your memory is never as good as you think it is—and when you record important information (whether it’s your prospective mother-in-law’s favorite flower or the finer points of your boss’s sales strategy), you give yourself a way to meaningfully connect later. Be a great self promoter. you are your own best advocate—period. learn to volunteer when your skills are needed, and always try to add value to any organization or endeavor you’re a part of. Remember, your actions as well If you don’t as your words can show know the answer to a people that they want question, admit you don’t. Find you on their team. the answer and return to the person. This will benefit you both. When you don’t have the answer you need, your immediate inclination might be to fib, hedge, or prevaricate. Resist those impulses and, even though it may mean humbling yourself and swallowing your pride, be honest about what you don’t know. This will win you the respect of others with integrity and will give you the chance to find the correct answer rather than one that might confuse and mislead.

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Be your own boss. Be in charge of steering your own course in life, and don’t allow other people to make important decisions for you. It also means being accountable for your own actions, taking responsibility for tasks that are given to you and not passing the buck.

TAKING THE NEXT STEPS for a Successful Life by AnitA OldhAm

Celebrate success! We’ve become a culture that talks about and dwells on the things we don’t get right rather than the things we do. (For instance, is the exam you failed or the exam you aced likely to occupy your mind longer?) yes, it’s important to keep your eyes on the prize so that small victories don’t cause you to become complacent. But on the other hand, all work and no play will make you a dull graduate. When something positive happens, acknowledge it! Celebrating your own successes (and those of others) serves as a great motivator and reward and is also a wonderful way to relieve stress.

But how will you know whether the first steps you take are leading you in a positive direction? “Success is about getting the fundamentals right,” points out Ben Newman, coauthor along with Dr. Justin B. Short of the new book Pocket Truths for Success: 365 Daily Principles to Become the Most Successful Person You Know ($12.95). Their book includes the truths above. 2012 July 23 2012 July 21

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By Kim Kerby

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Congratulations on 20 Years

Do You Remember… …When Today’s Woman was a newspaper tabloid-size format and was printed in newsprint? It started out that way and remained that way until March 2000 when we started printing an all-glossy, all-color format. …HER Night Out? It was an event Today’s Woman designed to honor the everyday woman who does so much, but does it quietly. We had categories such as Broad Shoulder (for a great woman friend) and Evolving Eve (for a woman who had made great progress). We hosted the event for 8 years and held it at Kentucky Center’s Whitney Hall. We stopped having this event, but we continue to honor the women who are quiet heroes all over the city. It is our privilege to write about these women. TWOM0706Styleq5

…When we didn’t have Facebook? I know that you also didn’t have Facebook, but since we now have it, it is a great way to connect to our readers. Our entertainment writer, Gioia Patton, often takes photos of our readers on their way to arts and entertainment events. Have you ever had your photo taken by us? We also have a Twitter account (@TodaysWomanNow). Those are only three things that have changed over the course of 20 years of Today’s Woman. We could go on and on. But since this is the “Seven” issue, I am going to list four more things that you may or may not remember, but that we loved.

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JO ANNE MONTILUS’S BRIGHTLY-COLORED clothes, which she wears with an ethnic flair, only enhance the happiness that she radiates. She has bright, straight teeth and a knock-out smile. Her home in Prospect is tidy and uncluttered — so much so that you might not guess that Jo Anne’s husband, Pascal, and four children (under the age of 10), also live there.

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Mary Beth Dennis has always had long lashes, but we wanted to see how fabulous they could look with a few coats of mascara. Michelle “Mischa” Abernathy, aesthetician at Z Salon & Spa (9407 Shelbyville Road, 502.426.2226), accentuated the beauty of Mary Beth’s lashes in a few easy steps while keeping her look natural. “Apply the mascara to the top of your lashes with a smooth, long stroke then apply it to the underside of your lashes. Stop applying when all the lashes are fully covered otherwise, you will have clumps.” Run a disposable mascara wand through the eyelashes to separate them and remove clumps, says Abernathy.

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Bella Kasabova, aesthetician at Z Salon & Spa, added more definition to Autumn Richey’s eyes using fake lashes. You can let the professionals apply the lashes or you can do it yourself, but if you choose to do it, Kasabova says you should buy the single eyelashes because they look more natural. Also you have the flexibility of creating a more dramatic or simple style. When removing the fake lashes, she says, use a safe moisturizing product like Aveda Beautifying Composition to break up the glue.

…13 Things I Cannot Live Without: This spurred on all kinds of discussions about what 13 things we couldn’t live without, by our long-time writer, Holly Gregor.

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You can make your eyelashes the centerpiece of your face. Whether you were blessed with naturally long, thick lashes — or not — we give you a few tips on ways of making your fake lashes look real and your real lashes look even better. These three women let the experts at Z Salon & Spa work a little lash magic.

…The Bookclub: We covered local bookclubs, the books they read, and how they got together.

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Sabrina Lohman has been using Latisse for a year and says that when she wears sunglasses, her eyelashes hit the lens. “I think it is absolutely worth it,” she says. Sean Maguire, M.D. of Physician’s Center for Beauty (4600 Shelbyville Road, 502.897.7546) says the active ingredient is Bimatoprost, which is a “prostaglandin analog that increases the proportion of time that a hair follicle is in its growth phase so that there is more hair growth and lashes are longer, thicker, and darker.” Results are seen in six to eight weeks and Maguire says it can be useful for post-chemotherapy patients who’ve lost their eyelashes. A tube of Latisse is $125.

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Seven women – seven shapes. Discovering and dressing to your body shape is a critical element to looking fabulous. Whether apple shaped, pear shaped, curvy, boyish, petite, busty, or you have a little extra in the middle, there are specific clothing items that will flatter your shape. Apple-Shaped Apple-shaped bodies typically carry extra weight in their midsection without a defined waistline and are larger on top than on the bottom.

TIPS: • Choose clothes that skim, not cling. • Dress in monochromatic colors. • Choose pieces the will draw the eye up to your face or down to your beautiful legs. • Do not wear a jacket or top that ends at the waistline (the largest part of your body); it draws the eye to that spot. • Jackets should be semi-fitted to give the illusion of a smaller waistline. • Choose hemlines that hit above the knee. • Choose tapered skirts. • Stay away from anything straight cut or boxy.

Jayme Thomas is wearing: Charter Club top, $59; Charter Club jacket, $69; Anne Klein tank, $89; Brasil bracelet, $32; Rachel Roy earrings, $48. All items available at Macy’s, inside Oxmoor Center, 7900 Shelbyville Rd., 502.423.3000. Jessica Simpson shoes, $60, available at Off Broadway Shoe Warehouse, 4600 Shelbyville Road, Suite 201, 502.897.5232.

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Pear-Shaped Pear-shaped bodies are larger below the waist than above the waist.

TIPS for dressing: • Objective is to balance hips with your shoulders. • Tailored jackets nipped at the waistline. • Place pattern, embellishment, shine, light/bright colors, and skin at the top to draw the eye up. • Bottoms should remain simple, darker and solid. • Choose pants with a slight flare. • Stay away from tops that are highly cinched at the waist or that stop at the waist or mid-hip. • Choose flat front trousers. Hair by: Tonya’s Beauty Salon, 502.594.4452, tonya41@yahoo.com

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Keeley Copridge is wearing: Miss Me jeans, $89; Ya top, $89; Cross necklace, $15; Shell necklace, $39; Bracelet, $10; Earrings, $15; Sbicca Tristan shoes, $75. All items available at Apricot Lane, 1301 Herr Lane, 502.708.2823.

Hourglass. Equally proportioned on top and on the bottom with a defined waistline. Typically the waistline is 10 inches or more smaller than the hips.

TIPS: • Choose pieces nipped at the waist and narrow at the knee. • Choose jackets with a top button right under your bust. • Wrap-styled dresses and blouses are your friend. • Stay away from anything too tight, oversized, straightcut, or tops and jackets that end at the fullest part of your hips. • Choose slim-cut pants. • Choose skirts or dresses with slits to show your legs.

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Tammy McCollum is wearing: BCBG dress, $128; Style & Co. necklace, $26; Bar III bracelet, $38; Style & Co. earrings, $24. All items available at Macy’s, inside Oxmoor Center, 7900 Shelbyville Rd, 502.423.3000. BCBGeneration Cashew shoes, $70, available at Off Broadway Shoe Warehouse, 4600 Shelbyville Road, Suite 201, 502.897.5232.

A boyish shape is more straight than curvy. No defined waistline, slim, athletic.

TIPS: • Create the illusion of curves by drawing attention to the waistline. • Choose jackets that are fitted and end at mid-hip length. • Use belts to accentuate the waistline. • Choose tops with flourish to create the illusion of larger breasts. • Choose pants with a slight flare or tapered jeans. • Wrap dresses and tops accentuate the waist. Samantha Ford is wearing: Marine Blue dress, $46; Cupid shoes, $43; bracelet, $20; earrings, $12. All items available at Blush Boutique, 3745 Lexington Road, Louisville, KY 40207, 502.897.7207.

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TIPS: • Choose monochromatic outfits. • Choose high-waisted tops & dresses; shorter style jackets. • Vertical lines elongate. • Choose pants/jeans that end at the floor. • Use minimal accessories in proportion with your body. • Stay away from mid-calf lengths! • Stear clear of anything fussy or little girlish (ruffles, bows, or other sweet details). Amelia Gandara is wearing: Mystic dress, $59; Fashion Bella pendant necklace, $30; Bracelet, $15; Earrings, $20; Diva Lounge Lorane shoes, $45. All items available at Apricot Lane, 1301 Herr Lane, 502.708.2823.

Busty Busty is otherwise described as a large chest. Busty girls are typically larger on the top than in the hip area.

TIPS: • Choose dark toned tops and lighter bottoms. • Choose simple tops without embellishment • Choose tops & dresses with open necks. • Stay away from double breasted styles, wide belts, stiff bulky fabrics and baggy tops. • Jackets should be fitted or semi-fitted with a deep V-neck & closure right below the bust.

Extra in the Middle

Wendy Gordon is wearing: David Kahn pants, $163; Paperwhite top, $114; Towne & Reese earrings, $39; Zenzii yellow cuff, $20; White bracelet, $25. All items available at Boutique Serendipity, 1301 Herr Ln #189, 502.423.0058. Ann Marino Jillian shoes, $40, available at Off Broadway Shoe Warehouse, 4600 Shelbyville Road, Suite 201, 502.897.5232.

These body shapes carry extra weight in the middle/tummy area, typically out in front.

TIPS: • Refocus attention from your middle to your legs & face. • Choose long tops, cardigans, jackets & shirts that don’t tuck in. • Nothing clingy. • Choose monochromatic outfits. • Choose jackets and tops nipped at the waist. • Choose sheath dresses that skim the body. • Stay away from belts, tops with waistbands & cropped tops. • Choose flat front, straight leg pants. Camille Robinson is wearing: Alison Trixy dress, $338; Coquettish Designs necklace, $278; Rebecca Hook cuff, $420. All items available at Clodhoppers, 3727 Lexington Road, 502.891.0079. Kate Preston Trella shoes, $60, available at Off Broadway Shoe Warehouse, 4600 Shelbyville Road, Suite 201, 502.897.5232.

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The Urban Snob By Megan Seckman

Liz Cox — Retired Assistant Principal Photos by Melissa Donald

iz Cox was begged to out her inner snob. She replied, “Well, I think you are going to have to come up here and see for yourself just how much of a snob I am.” And she was right. Her snobbery was something I had to see, words could not do it justice. We arranged to meet for lunch at Cox’s riverfront condo. I knew I was about to enter a different world. My economy car wouldn’t fit in the designated parking spot. Obtuse and uncultured, I backed in and out trying to fit in the tiny space. Once inside, the concierge greeted me, but I fumbled over how to open the door and request access, like a creature from outer space. Cox’s condo was a new frontier: ultra modern, posh, devoid of trinkets or poster-prints, linear and stylish — everything here had a purpose. A Roy Lichtenstein adorned the bedroom wall; a white leather, hand-made Italian sofa faced wall-towall windows overlooking the waterfront; and, a Cubist mirrored cabinet reflected the shabbiness of my shoes. Living in her chic condo, and way cooler than I will ever be, Cox is the urban snob. “Unless I have to go to Whole Foods or Sephora, and that is like torture, driving out there, I do everything, and support everything urban. I can’t think of any other reason to leave the city. I visit New York and living here is about as close as I can get to that.” Her design palette may be described as stark and cold, but her personality is warm and inviting. Her dry sense of humor can put an enraged tyrant at ease. There is a sense of power about her, but at the same time humility. “I inherited my taste from my mother. She graduated from the University of Chicago and always lived an urban, civic-minded life in Louisville.” Third-generation urban snob, Cox’s only son now works in NYC and has also inherited the urban gene, “He hired a designer, and she was shocked — she couldn’t believe a boy from Louisville, Ky. had such good taste. He told her he got it from his mom,” Cox said, tossing her long hair behind her shoulder. Speaking of taste, she points to the Peter Max above us, dropping the name like I should know it. “My son is also buying a Peter Max, but of course he’s getting a better one than me. Whenever I want a piece of art, I go back to work — I had to work a month for that painting.” And the blinds — Cox didn’t want the eastern sun to ruin her Jonathan Adler chairs so she had to, “Well, watch this…” Cox says as she grabs a remote from a wooden Mondrian box. At the push of a button, voilà, eight synchronized blinds descend from hidden receptacles. “I could have gone to Lowe’s and bought some $50 blinds, but if I live in a place like this, the design needs to match.” Immersed in the modern mecca of Cox’s condo, I kept searching for a statement that truly captured her snobbery, but true to her advice, you just had to see it. There is a feel, an overwhelming sense of class that most of us just simply don’t have. As Cox succinctly put it, “It’s all about the taste you have or the taste you don’t have.” Sitting in that beautiful space, snob to snob, I was humbled at where I belong on that divide.

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What are they doing? Here’s who we met while walking through the neighborhood. By Alexas Gregory / Photos by Melissa Donald

Michele Hop, 23, from Grinstead Drive, Crescent Hill area (Spotted in A Reader’s Corner Bookstore in Clifton District)

What’s something exciting going on in your life right now?

“A lot of exciting things, actually! I recently got engaged, graduated from IUS, studying for my LSATs, and just moved over here from across the bridge all within two months. It’s been pretty crazy. So now I’m trying to pick out a book and relax for the first time in two months.”

Jessica Wallace, 22, from Louisville (Spotted at Vint in Clifton area)

Where are you coming from?

“I just came from home. I met with my mentor. I’m in a group called Post-bac Pre-med (at the University of Louisville). It’s such a cool program to be a part of. Everyone has a story for wanting to come back and study medicine. All of us have degrees in non-science majors. I have a business degree in insurance. I was working fulltime, but it wasn’t fulfilling. My dad was a firefighter helping people every day. A lot of our family values were based on his career. I never expected to be here and experience people like I have. I’m now looking for a career, not just making it a hobby, in helping people.”

Beverly “Mrs. B.” Smith, 68, from Breckenridge Area (Spotted walking down Frankfort Ave.)

What’s something exciting going on in your life?

“I turned in my papers to retire today! I worked 20 years with Jefferson County schools. First with English as a second language at Iroquois High School, and then with mentally and physically handicap kids with severe behavior problems at Western, and then I went back to Iroquois. I’m not from Louisville, but it’s been extremely kind to me. I’m originally from West Palm Beach, Fla. I just started dating a 71-year-old; we met at Western High School where he was teaching too. Life’s great! I’m ready to start an adventure now!” July

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Lauren Kron, 27, from

PRP area (Spotted outside of Carmichael’s on Frankfort Ave.)

Anything exciting happening in your life right now?

“I’m expecting my second child soon! I don’t find out what I’m having for a couple weeks. My first son, Dayln, is 15 months.”

Ann Pollio, 66, from the Highlands, (Spotted with Susan Kwasny — Ann is her mother)

Do you have any exciting plans coming up?

“I’m going to Ireland in August and California in July to visit my daughter.”

Susan Kwasny, 35, from the Highlands

(Spotted at Cherokee Park swing set with her kids)

Is there anything exciting happening in your life right now?

“I’m power lifting, learning to play the drums, and planning a volunteer trip to Costa Rica (in the fall) with an organization called International Volunteers. We’re going to be building. I try to do something new every year to get me out of my comfort zone.”

Elaina Shumake, 24, lives by UofL

(Spotted sitting with boyfriend at Qdoba on Bardstown Rd.)

What brought you here?

“I live in New York. I’m home visiting. I’m in school at FIT, the Fashion Institute of Technology. I’m studying international trade and marketing. I’m in the middle of job hunting, but I do work in marketing and product development of fashion. I love being in New York, (but) if I could’ve done it in Louisville I would’ve stayed here.”

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Summer Skin Care By Cheryl Stuck

very summer I gaze wistfully at the beautiful bronze skins of my suntanned friends. I have dark hair, but blue eyes and fair skin. When I was younger, my skin was beautiful (only recognized in hindsight). But after years of baking in the sun, striving unsuccessfully for that healthy glow, my face is now adorned with those dreaded brown spots that no amount of makeup will cover. Now, I know that the sun causes many of the skin conditions we all hate. It turns out that tanning beds are just as harmful. Dermatologist, Tamella Cassis, says that tanning beds are, “Horrible, horrible, horrible! The sharpest increase in melanoma incidence and death rates are in young women ages 18 to 39, and it is because people still go to the stupid tanning bed. Can you tell I get fired up about this subject?” Dr. Cassis says tanning beds can also age you by causing wrinkles and bringing out brown spots. I can attest to that. My very first What is your biggest skincare problem? 9% ACNE experience in a tanning bed resulted in a large 9%) acne (nickel size) brown spot on my cheek that never 9% ROSACEA went away. I’ve tried having it removed by a 9%) rosacea laser treatment, expensive creams, and a liquid WRINKLES nitrogen treatment. It’s still there. 38%) wrinkles You also have to be careful about being in DARK SPOTS the sun when you’re taking medication. Cassis 19% 33%) dark spots SAGGY SKIN says you can get a phototoxic drug reaction that will make any underlying skin condition 23% OILY OR DRY SKIN 19%) saggy skin worse. The drug may be activated by sunlight, ultraviolet A and/or B light, and can cause a burning and stinging sensation and redness. 23%) oily or dry skin Common phototoxic drugs are certain antibiotics and antihistimines. Another potential to harm your skin is called Phytophotodermatitis, which is caused by sun exposure after handling fruits, vegetables, or using plant-derived medicines and cosmetics. It can result in blistering, hyperpigmentation (dark spots), or a burned appearance. Cassis says, “It won’t harm you, but takes a long time for the areas to fade, so it’s annoying to deal with.”

What is your biggest skincare problem?

38% 33%

What have you done about your skincare problems? 38%

I HAVE SEEN A DERMATOLOGIST 9%

I BUY OVER-THE-COUNTER SOLUTIONS 4%

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Advisory group members are: Margie Beeler • Susan Boddy • Christie Bollinger, RN • Sherrice Bond • Kim Broecker • Jennifer Brown • Linda Burry • Kimberly Carpenter, DC • Tamella Buss Cassis, MD • Holly Clark • Stacy Cohen, RN • Diane Collins, RN • Pat Cooke • Funmilayo Dixon • Laurie Duesing • Kelly Davis Fleenor • Tanya Franklin, MD • Julie Garrison, MBA • Carol Graham, MD • Dawn Hayden • Pam Hayden, RN • Mary Haynes • Gretchen Houchin • Mary Jennings • Alexis Karageorge, MD • Dee Jay Kelly • Tomiko Coates Kiefer • Diane Kissel • Kristi Jedlicki Levenhagen • Melissa Little • Sean Maguire, MD • Geri Manning • Lisa Mattingly • David McArthur • Anne McReynolds • Tara Morris • Maria Munoz • Tina Nuttall, MBA, FACHE • Denise Orwick, RPh • Betsy Paulley • Mae Pike • Leesa Richardson, MD • Ticonna Roberts • Cheryl Scanlon • Rhonda Sigler • Burke Stephens • Rebecca Terry, MD • Myrdin Thompson • Deborah Tuggle • Lannette VanderToll • Jessica Walker • Marine Walls • Janie Biagi Watts • Cenia L. Wedekind • Anthony Westmoreland, RPh • Cathi Wiley • Kathy Wilkinson • Debbie Williams • Allison Young, LMT

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The sharpest increase in melanoma incidence and death rates are in young women ages 18 to 39, and it is because people still go to the stupid tanning bed. Can you tell I get fired up about this subject? — Tamella Cassis, M.D.

Our Today’s Woman of Wellness tells us what works and what doesn’t work on their skincare problems. Problem: Dark spots What works: Of course I am going to say seeing a board certified dermatologist. We are the skin care experts. What didn’t work: Over-the-counter fade creams. I have lots of sun damage from my younger years of being foolish. When I was in medical school, I wasted a lot of money on over-the-counter products. I finally got smart when I started my dermatology residency and spoke with an expert. Tamella Cassis, M.D., Cassis Dermatology and Aesthetics Center

Problem: Rosacea What works: I see my dermatologist every six weeks for a chemical peel, which has evened out my skin tone, as well as removed sun spots. The appearance of wrinkles has diminished. I also had laser treatment for red spots (Angiomas). Every six months I spend $100 for a chemical peel. I also spend $70 a month to have my facial hair waxed and my eyebrows shaped. All of those things have improved the appearance of my skin. Laurie Duesing,Part-time Latin instructor, Louisville Classical Academy, and UofL

Problem: Saggy skin What works: I buy various creams and over-the-counter solutions, but what works is Juvaderm botox. Diane Collins, Hosparus

Protect yourself Using sunscreen is a no-brainer. Cassis wants people to wear at least an SPF of 15, but prefers SPF 30-50, “because we know that people never apply it like it is done in our clinical studies — meaning people do not apply it well enough — so I want to push the number.” But she also clarifies that it’s the combination of active ingredients in SPF sunscreen that makes it worth the money. The best active ingredients to look for in a sunscreen are:

4 Zinc Oxide 4 Titanium Oxide 4 Helioplex 4 Avobenzone (Parsol 4

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Cassis says, “Sunscreen doesn’t guarantee that a person will not get skin cancer, but we do know that it will significantly reduce someone’s risk factors.”

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Problem: Wrinkles What works: I have seen a dermatologist. I buy over-the-counter solutions. What has worked best is exercise and nutrition for healthy skin. What didn’t work: I’ve tried Botox, but it doesn’t last. Linda Burry, Stay-at-home mom to a 3-year-old , and owner of Acorn Property Management, LLC

Problem: Wrinkles What works: I have seen a dermatologist. I use Biore Cleaning Scrub, daily moisturizer, sunscreen, and relaxing more. What didn’t work: Certain lotions are too strong. Cheryl Scanlon, Wellness Manager for University Hospital

Problem: Dry skin What works: Using a daily facial moisturizer with 50 SPF and staying out of the sun are my best defenses. What didn’t work: Expensive treatments do not work any better than less expensive ones. Kristi Jedlicki, Program manager at the St. John Center for Homeless Men

Problem: Dry skin What works: I have found that a healthy diet and increasing my intake of quality water helps my skin stay hydrated. I also add water to my moisturizing lotion. I make my own facial using avocados when I need a little extra help with the dryness. What didn’t work: I’ve learned that I don’t need to spend a lot of money on my skin care. I’ve tried the really expensive facial creams and cleansers. They did not work well enough for me to justify the cost. Rhonda Sigler, Marketing Manager at State Farm Insurance

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Light Bite

My Goodness Granola Story, Food Styling, and Photography By Melissa Donald

Seven Base INGREDIENTS

5 cups of uncooked Old-Fashion Rolled Oats 2 tsp of cinnamon 1 cup of your favorite nuts — chopped (I use a combination of walnuts and almonds.) 1 cup of your favorite seeds ( I like to use a combination of unsalted pumpkin seeds, and or raw, unsalted, hulled sunflower seeds, and flaxseeds.) 1 cup of your favorite dried fruit (I like to use dried cranberries and or blueberries. The fruit is added after the oat mix has baked and cooled.) ¾ cup of canola oil ½ cup of honey Preheat oven to 325 degrees.

n early 2007, I ventured from the booming city life of Denver, to the remote hills of Mendocino County in northern California. There, I lived and worked as a cook on an organic farm that catered to overnight guests through the duration of three seasons. Virtually everything we made to eat on the farm was created from scratch. Such items as salad dressings, breads, veggie burgers, desserts, soups, and even the mayonnaise was home made. One of my favorite items to make, and this was a hit among staff members as well as our guests, was granola. My Goodness Granola! It’s good for you, it’s a great snack on its own, and it’s the perfect topping for yogurt, oatmeal, ice cream, cobbler, pudding, and so on. You can add as many ingredients as you like or keep it basic and simple. Best of all, it is easy to make, and you probably already have these ingredients in your cupboard and pantry. Here, in celebration of our seventh month of the year, I am using just seven ingredients to make this cluster of goodness.

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In a large bowl, combine the oats, cinnamon, nuts, and seeds, and set aside. In a saucepan, heat the canola oil and honey over medium low heat stirring constantly until the honey and oil are well blended. This should take about five minutes. Once the oil and honey have blended, remove from heat and quickly pour the oil/ honey mixture over the oat combination. Do this quickly before the mixture starts to separate. Stir the oil and oat mixture together until everything is well coated. Spread the granola out onto two large cookie sheets and bake on separate racks in the middle and upper-middle portion of the oven. Bake for a total of 40 minutes. After the first 15 minutes, pull both cookie sheets out and stir the granola so the ingredients brown evenly. Place the sheets back in the oven on the opposite racks for another 15 minutes. Remove both sheets from oven and stir once again. Place cookie sheets back in the oven once again on the opposite racks for the remaining 10 minutes. Carefully watch to be sure oats do not burn. Oats, nuts, and seeds should be a golden brown color when done. Oven temperature levels may vary so during the remaining 10 minutes make sure your ingredients do not burn. You may need to remove from the oven sooner. Cool granola on the cookie sheets placed on wire racks. Once cooled, add the dried fruit and mix well. Store in either a zip lock bag with the air removed, or an airtight storage container. Store in a cool, dry space. Other tasty additions: shredded coconut, wheat germ, sesame seeds, ground nutmeg, ground ginger, dried cherries, and chopped candied ginger (add any dried fruit after baking). When adding more items to the seven base ingredients, you will need to add a little more oil and honey to the mixture. An addition for the oil mixture: add 1/3 cup of your favorite jam to the oil/honey mixture. You will need to add about ¼ cup more oil when adding the jam. Heat and stir all three ingredients together until blended. Pour over your oat mixture and bake. The jam adds a nice flavor to the mix — I like to use blueberry jam. Today’s Woman

Courage Needed:

7 Ways to Get More by Bob Mueller

ears ago, a wise grade school basketball coach gave us a wristband that was inscribed with three words: Goals, Attitude, and Courage. Looking at the word ‘courage’ each game had a powerful effect upon me. It didn’t increase the number of points I scored. It didn’t make me get more rebounds. The bracelet reminded me then, and still reminds me today, to be authentic in times of difficulty, to tell the truth even when it hurts, to be confident in my choices, and to remember that courage is within me, waiting to be called upon. It may sound simplistic, but if I find myself in an uncomfortable situation, I just look at the word ‘courage’ and it gives me strength I didn’t feel a moment before. I know that there are three consistent themes that can serve as roadblocks to my courage: fear, denial, and selfsabotage. FEAR expresses itself in many ways, from sweaty palms to full-blown anxiety attacks. We have also seen fear used as a crutch. We can point to our bosses, friends, spouses, or kids as the reason we are not living the life we dreamed of. “He intimidates me.” “She is threatened by me.” “They demand too much of me.” These thoughts and feelings can manifest as fears that are used as an emotional shield to hide behind. DENIAL can help us avoid feelings of abandonment, loss, and loss of intimacy. Like an old bathrobe melding perfectly to our bodies, denial comforts us. It is important not be deceived by its comfort, however, because denial keeps us from leading an authentic life. Denial is the antithesis of courage. SELF-SABATOGE is a dirty little trick that can mask our insecurities. Self-sabotage can be as simple as downplaying compliments. It can be as complex as not showing up for a job interview because “they weren’t going to hire me anyway.” More often than not, self-sabotage is a way to subconsciously derail ourselves on the path to where we want to go, or what we want to do. Do you downplay your talents? Do you belittle yourself? Are you a perfectionist who never seems to live up to your very high standards? All of these are subtle forms of self-sabotage.

ays to Be More W Courageous

• Am I clear about what I want to accomplish? • Am I clear about who I am? • Can I stop downplaying who I am? • Do I have the courage to be authentic even when it’s tough? • Do I have the courage to commit to the truth and do the right thing, not the expeditious thing? • Am I positive and optimistic even in the face of failure?

Courage is doing what’s right for you. Many men and women show incredible courage by leaving bad marriages and abusive relationships. Others feel the more courageous act is to stay and try to make them better. Only you can decide what’s best for you. The point is to make a conscious choice about your plan of action rather than bowing to pressure or pretending that everything is just fine. We owe it to ourselves and all those we care about to willingly and eagerly take center stage. That’s why I love the quote by Nelson Mandela: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?’ Actually who are you not to be? There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

• Can you call up the courage to do something rather than nothing?

Bob Mueller is Assistant Vice President of Mission & Stewardship at Hosparus, the community hospices of Louisville, Southern Indiana, and Central Kentucky. He has three books available: Look Forward Hopefully, The Gentle Art of Caring, and his latest, Create a Better World. Find Bob online at www.bobmueller.org and email him at bobmueller@insightbb.com.

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Arts Insider Must-See By Gioia Patton JOHN EDWARD

A Student of the Universe B

y the time I’d gotten to the last few chapters of John Edward’s latest book Infinite Quest: Develop Your Psychic Intuition to Take Charge of Your Life (STERLING ETHOS) in preparation for this interview, I realized that although I’d yet to meet the internationally acclaimed psychic medium, I already liked him. Here’s why: 1: After almost 30 years in his field, Edward remains as disciplined and passionate as ever about his metaphysical abilities — i.e., by continuing to take higher educational studies in his field. In the book he writes, “If you were to interview me in 25 years I would still say the same thing as I am saying now: ‘I am still a student of the work.’” 2: He has a strict code of moral ethics when it comes to messages received during readings for his clients. As he explained: “The words you deliver must NEVER be used to TELL clients what to do. Instead, it is your responsibility to inspire them to use their free will and manifest their own realities.” 3: On page after page in Infinite Quest, Edward stresses the pros and cons of one’s own Ego (which he refers to as ‘Inner Monster’) before providing the actual tools for keeping (or returning) that ‘Inner Monster’ to its proper place. 4: Edward is brutally honest when it comes to revealing past incidents with his own ‘Inner Monster.’ When I mention these impressions of him at the top of the phone interview from his Long Island, N.Y., home, he said with a chuckle, “Thank you for stating that at the start of the interview, because a lot of people who read this book didn’t come away with that, but instead felt that I was rather challenging to them, and that I also sounded a bit angry in my delivery.” I then asked Edward to elaborate on one of my favorite quotes in his book, which is: There’s a big difference between being psychic and being spiritual. Make a conscious choice to be both. “What I really, really mean boldly and bluntly,” he replies enthusiastically, “is that just because someone has a special ability doesn’t make them spiritual…doesn’t mean that they’re going to make positive and spiritual choices. Sometimes they might be coming from that ‘Inner Monster’ place of ‘Look what I can do! I’m amazing, and therefore you should follow me.’ “In over 28 years I have seen some amazingly talented individuals make some really amazingly foolish choices, where they think that they can’t be wrong... They’d stopped remembering that they’re a student of this field. I have a friend who has passed, who used to say about her psychic ability, ‘My job is to be the mailman. I’m to deliver the mail…not create it.’” As to how Edward is not bombarded with ‘messages’ 24/7, he explains, “Well, I think it’s by choice…metaphysics 101 is that there’s a time and place for everything. So a true person who does this work knows that they have to have the ‘on’ and ‘off’ switch work, meaning that they have to meditate to turn on and meditate to kind of shut off. But when you’re a practitioner, your

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If people could only recognize that their words and their thoughts really do manifest their future, -that what they put out there – specifically in this world of social networking - is very significant, so that their status update should always be positive. — Psychic medium John Edward

off switch is not off but more on standby,” he adds. “And when you launch into a reading, it’s not because you have to, it’s because you choose to.” I then asked why Edward repeatedly utilized the following comment in his book: My goal is to always leave people energetically better off than when I found them. “There’s a quote by Maya Angelou which I use at my events,” he quickly responds, “where she says ‘people will forget what you said…forget what you did, but they won’t forget how you made them feel.’ Although I then always turn to my audience and say ‘I’m going to have to disagree with that while I’m reading to you, as I absolutely don’t want you to forget what I say, nor forget what I’m doing. And I hope that it does make you feel better.’ “The reason I use Angelou’s comment as my emphasis is because I want people to leave my readings thinking. Because if I can get them to leave thinking, then I can get them to leave questioning. And if they can leave questioning, then they’re going to seek answers. And if they’re going to seek answers, then they might discover new things. And that process of exploration is going to leave them better than I found them,” he explains. “I tell people that I am not a healer…I can’t heal your grief, but I am a teacher. I do take on that role, and I do feel that that’s my job. So that’s my goal…to leave people better than I found them.” Tuesday, July 10 @ 7 pm (2-hour seminar) WHERE: Ramada Plaza Louisville, 9700 Bluegrass Parkway Tickets: $150 Contact: 1.800.233.3123, www.JohnEdward.net or www.Telecharge.com WIN tickets to this event! Go to www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine for more details. WHEN:

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Old Louisville Hidden Treasure Garden Tour

THINGS

Not To Miss

THIS Month By alexas gregory and gioia patton

Take a walk through 10 private gardens in the Old Louisville Historic Preservation District. The tour will travel through some of the nation’s largest Victorian residential neighborhoods. Throughout the tour there will be a silent auction and vendors with garden-oriented products.

Schnitzelburg Potluck

Everyone is invited to bring their best dish to share with their neighbors. It’s a way to get to know others and become involved with the community. July 8 @ 12 p.m.-2 p.m. St. Elizabeth’s Cafeteria TICKETS  Free CONTACT  Schnizelburg Area Community Council WHEN 

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WHEN  July 7-8 WHERE  In front of the Conrad-Caldwell House Museum, 1402 Saint James Court at Magnolia Ave TICKETS  $12/advance; $15 day of tour CONTACT  502.635.5244, www.oldlouisvillegardentour.com

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Independence Day at Locust Grove Come and celebrate Independence Day at Locust Grove. Bring your friends and family to talk with noted artist John James Audubon and his wife, Lucy. They’re offering sketching in period style on the house’s front porch. It’s a chance to go back in time. WHEN  July 4 WHERE  Locust Grove, 561 Blankenbaker Lane TICKETS  Free CONTACT  502.897.9845, www.locustgrove.org

July Fourth Forest Fun – JMF

Spend a day outside enjoying the sun and various outdoor activities. There will be an Alpine Tower for climbing, archery, turtle races, sack races, or animals up-close for petting. July 5-6 from 11 a.m. until 5 p.m. both days WHERE  Jefferson Memorial Forest TICKETS  $10/person; $25/family of up to four CONTACT  forest@louisvilleky.gov WHEN 

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Homearama is Here! Take a tour through several beautiful homes that will be on display at Homearama in July. You’ll get some great ideas on redecorating your place, learn about the current design trends — or you could buy a new home.

July 14-29 WHERE  Rock Springs & Shakes Run TICKETS $10 newhomes@hbal.com. Win tickets to this event! Go to www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine for details on how to win. WHEN 

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One of those rare music artists with an instantly recognizable voice, Diana Krall has been making critically-acclaimed music for more than a decade, having exploded in 1999 as When I Look In Your Eyes won a GRAMMY for ‘Best Jazz Vocal’ and became the first jazz disc to be nominated for ‘Album of the Year’ in 25 years. In 2002, The Look of Love became a #1 bestselling record in the U.S., and to date the multi-platinum singer/musician has achieved an unprecedented nine #1 Billboard jazz chart debuts. I can distinctly remember how I felt on the drive home after hearing Krall live in concert the last time she performed in Louisville…namely, (being) in a state of pure bliss. July 15 @ 7pm WHERE  Kentucky Center’s Whitney Hall $45-$90 CONTACT  the box office (walk up or drive-thru) or call 502.584.7777 or www.kentuckycenter.org. For Group rates, contact 502.562.0152 — Gioia Patton WHEN 

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Derby Dinner Playhouse

America’s comic-strip sweetheart takes center stage in one of the world’s best-loved musicals. This rags-toriches classic comes alive with rambunctious orphans, comic villains, and of course, the lovable dog, Sandy. Of special note: One of my longtime favorite regional performers, singer/actress Colette Delaney (i.e., DDP, Music Theatre Louisville, CenterStage), is cast in the role of Grace Farrell, the secretary to Oliver ‘Daddy’ Warbucks. July 3-August 12 for various performances WHERE  Derby Dinner Playhouse TICKETS  $34 to $40, Group rates available CONTACT  812.288.8281 or visit www.derbydinner.com WHEN 

— Gioia Patton

Historic Jeffersonville Walking Tour

Take a walk through memory lane as Clark County Historian Jeanne Burke tells those on her tours the fascinating past of Jeffersonville. She’ll tell stories about the rich history, architectural and historical information of the buildings. July 27 @ 6 p.m. WHERE  Downtown Jeffersonville, Ind. TICKETS  Free CONTACT  Jeffersonville Main Street at 812.283.0301 WHEN 

Family magazine is accepting entries for an essay contest for YourToday’s Daughter Might be a Today’s Girl! the Today’s Girl award, which will be given to three girls in different

Today’sage Family magazine accepting entries forThe an essay contest for the groups (ages is7-8. 9-10, and 11-12). personal essays should be Today’sless Girlthan award which willand be given toanswer three girls different age groups 300 words should theinquestion, (ages 7-8, 9-10, and 11-12). The personal essays should be less than 300 “WHiCH AmERiCAN GiRl dO yOu HAvE THE mOST words and should answer the question, iN COmmON WiTH ANd WHy?” “Which GirlbeDo You Have Most Common WithEssays and Why?” TheAmerican essays should written by the the girl and be In in the girl’s voice. will be judged on content, originality, and the girl’s level of community involvement. For more details, go to www.todaysfamilymag.com. DEADLINE: August 31, 2012. Tax Reform: What do you think?

Who’s the Funniest of Them All? It might be you. Let people know how funny you can be at the No Balls of Meat 3 Female Comedy Contest for a chance to win a cash prize—or if you’re not an aspiring comedian, you can attend for a good laugh. July 7, 14, 21 @ 8pm The Bardstown in Louisville. Applications for contestants will be accepted until July 6. Tickets  $7 Contact  jmpatrick44@msn.com or 502.876.3500. Where 

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Barry Manilow I admit to letting out a pretty big ‘yippee!’ when I saw a set list from some of the singer/songwriter/musician’s earlier 2012 tour dates, as chart-topper after chart-topper were on it; i.e. Mandy, Can’t Smile Without you, It’s A Miracle, Could It be Magic, Trying to Get that Feeling, (At the Copa) Copacabana, and I Write the Song. Manilow is ranked as the top Adult Contemporary chart artist of all time, according to R&R and Billboard Magazines. And Rolling Stone crowned him a giant among entertainers…the showman of our generations. WHEN  July 27 @ 8pm WHERE  The Louisville Palace TICKETS  $49$199.99 CONTACT  the box office/ Ticketmaster outlets/ www.livenation.com/ www.LouisvillePalace.com or call 800.745.3000

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each winner will receive 2 tickets the American Girl Wine, Walk, & to Shop Show This is an eventFashion for people ages 21 toTea. 81. Local wineriesWinners along with local shops participate in will also be featured this event that takes place is Jeffersonville, Ind. inwine Today’s Familythere magazine. Along with and shopping, will be

Kentucky’s Tax Reform Commission will be having open meetings for the public31, in 2012 each DEADLINE: AUGUST congressional district this summer. The one for this district will be held on July 10, 6-8 pm. Be live music and hors d’oeuvres. involved in the political process by attending www.todaysfamilymag.com 4 4 4 todaysfamilyeveryday.com 4 4 4www.facebook.co and sharing your opinions. 32 June/July 2012 WHEN  July 13 @ 6 p.m. until 9 p.m.  WHERE Downtown Jeffersonville, Ind.  Where Highland Middle School TICKETS  $15 at JeffMainStreet.org or $20 on Auditorium, 1700 Norris Place the day of the event; $20 at the registration Contact  Katie.dailinger@ky.gov tent at Spring and Chestnut street.

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Have You Heard about This Book?

New York Times reporter and author Patricia Cohen will be talking about her new book In Our Prime, a biography which examines how the idea of middle age has evolved in our lives. WHEN  July 18 @ 7p.m. WHERE  Main Library TICKETS  Free CONTACT  502.574.1644.

Rent

CenterStage

Set in the East Village of New York City, this rock musical tells the story of a group of impoverished young artists and musicians struggling to survive and create, under the shadow of HIV/AIDS. Many of the characters and plot are drawn directly from Giacomo Puccini’s opera, La Bohème, which premiered exactly 100 years before Rent made its Broadway debut in April of 1996, ultimately winning the Tony Award for ‘Best Musical’ and the Pulitzer Prize for Drama. The musical, which ran on Broadway for 12 years, has become a pop cultural phenomenon, and the 2005 film version features most of the original cast members. Mature themes and strong language.

WHEN  July 12-29 for various performances WHERE  The Jewish Community of Louisville, 3600 Dutchmans Lane TICKETS  $18 in advance, $20 at the door. *Group rates available on request (15 or more) CONTACT  502.459.0660 — Gioia Patton

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“I’m a romantic; my husband is not. In our 10 years of marriage, I have finally learned to live without the romance part, but I can’t survive this marriage without hearing from him words that let me know he loves me. When I tell him I just want him to learn my love language, he manages to muster an “I love you,” typically after we have sex. He’s never been an outgoing person, but I’m his wife; he should be able to say anything to me. He does lots of little things for me, but will not tell me what I need to hear. I know this may seem selfish, but our relationship would be much better if he would woo me with his words. The way he behaves causes me to doubt his love for me and keeps me upset most of the time. How can I get him to understand what I need, and, better yet, to start saying it to me?

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Joyce: It’s been my experience that there are typically three categories of men: 1) Men who talk; 2) Men who listen; and 3) Men who think women have nothing valuable to say and, therefore, neither talk nor listen. Those women who have men who both talk and listen are truly blessed, as such men are rare specimens! Let’s evaluate your situation: “Is he any different in marriage than he was when you were dating?” My guess would be probably not. In talking with countless couples who arrive at the stark realization they thought they were marrying someone else, it is apparent the perception of who they were dating was somewhat skewed by their aspirations of the change they had in mind once they crossed the threshold. Take stock of your 10 years of marriage. You are likely experiencing some staleness and could use a little spice for a different flavor. Encourage walks. Add some fireworks to the bedroom. Join him in a hobby of his, such as golf, tennis, or even (gulp) fishing. Let him know you plan to get the kids in bed 30 minutes early one night a week so the two of you can sit and have time to chat. Look for the romance in the little moments rather than a “biggie” event; small by his measuring stick probably equals a much bigger score. Once you assess the state of your union, it’s time to eliminate the sources of the frustration of the problem. It’s natural for a person to attempt to fix the “irritant” rather than adjust himself/herself. Letting go of your disappointment in your husband’s lack of stirring the romance pot will greatly reduce your level of expectation.

Just Ask Joyce By Joyce Oglesby

Once the bar has been lowered, you’re apt to develop a stronger appreciation for the little ways he expresses his love. Your husband’s lack of open expression may not be that he doesn’t want to be the romantic you desire; it may simply be that he doesn’t know how. Changing the perception of your needs and how they should be met will begin to elevate your marriage. Marriages have survived and crumbled on a lot less than the lack of romance. Your commitment to one another now involves a pledge to meeting one another’s needs. My husband and I have operated on a strong philosophy in our marriage: You are more important than I am. It keeps our eyes focused on one another and off our “self,” and it has provided security for the legacy we began for our children. Your husband may not be speaking the words you want to hear, but what he is communicating spells L-O-V-E. Learn to adapt to your environment and to embrace love in any language. Let go of your frustration and become the teacher. Tell him “the words” you like to hear and how it would make you feel. If you haven’t said them out loud, numerous times, he might not understand their significance, your need to hear them, or how to read your mind. There is still time for him to rise to the challenge of becoming a romantic. Oh, and don’t lose sight of one crucial factor: If he’s committed, that strikes a romantic chord a lot of women would give anything for. Change your family life … NOW! Write Joyce Oglesby, Family-Life Fitness Pro, at joyce@justaskjoyce.com. I’m here to help!

My husband’s father recently passed away and left a sizable estate. He and my husband had not spoken for more than 10 years. At some point, my husband was taken out of the will. I feel we should fight for his rightful share of the inheritance, but my husband is adamant he wants no part of what was left to the family. It would mean education for our children, and I could be a stay-athome mom (something we have both wanted for our family). It has caused friction between the two of us, but I just can’t let it go. How can I convince my husband to pursue this, if not for him, for our children? (Go to www.iamtodayswoman.com to read Joyce’s answer to this question.)

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2012

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2012

July

Fix Your Flaws By Tiffany White • Photos: Melissa Donald • makeup by holly oyler

Minimizing Large Upper Arms Wearing long-sleeved, dowdy blouses and jackets in the summer isn’t the solution to hiding your upper arms. Instead, choose clothing that will play up your best assets while deflecting attention away from your arms.

aren Brohm, manager at Talbots (194 N. Hurstbourne Parkway 502.423.9445), found the perfect summer outfit for Suzanne Richey without compromising stylishness. The dress she chose for Suzanne is flattering to most sizes and body shapes but the shrug is a key accessory in downplaying the size of her arms. “A shrug keeps the outfit nice and updated and hides the arms. Some women don’t like to wear sleeveless dresses and a shrug is a great addition.”

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before Tracy Varga of Tracy Varga Image Consulting (www.tracyvarga.com, 502.418.3023) gives some tips on clothing to wear and avoid when you have large upper arms.

Do: • S leeves that hit a relatively thin part of your arm (usually around the elbow or ¾ length) • Sleeves that are loose • Slimming undergarments • Matte dark colors that disguise bulges • Wear a light-weight layering piece such as a jacket, cardigan or shawl • Bring attention to the area you do like, such as your face, eyes, or hair

Don’t: • S leeves that hit the widest part of your arm- usually between the shoulders and elbow (i.e. cap sleeves) • Tight-fitting sleeves of any length • Strapless and spaghetti straps • Tight-fitting cap sleeves and elastic sleeves

Suzanne is wearing: shrug, $60; dress, $179; necklace, $59; bracelet. $34; shoes, $149. All items available at Talbots.

July

2012

Today’s Woman