Trinity-Pawling Spring 2023 Magazine

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Today’s Trinity-Pawling offers an individualized educational experience to 275 boys in grades 7-12 and postgraduates. The School delivers entrepreneurial and ambitious programs that provide boys with opportunities for teamwork and camaraderie, independent exploration, and the discovery of their gifts and talents. With over 100 academic courses, 16 Advanced Placement courses, 13 athletic teams competing in the New England Founders League (one of the oldest and most competitive athletic leagues in the country), and a multitude of extracurricular activities, the boys are able to reimagine and own their education. In addition to building a foundation of character and self-awareness in its students, the School teaches them to be creative, compassionate, and collaborative. Driven by both personal integrity and public purpose, the boys are prepared to contribute positively as leaders and citizens in their local, national, and global communities.

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Thank you, alumni and friends, for your continued referrals and support of Trinity-Pawling.

THE PEALE FOUNDATION

NURTURING POSITIVITY, HOPE, AND SERVICE THROUGH PHILANTHROPY SERVICE TO COUNTRY, LOYAL TO SCHOOL SALLY MCELWREATH CALLO AND JOE CALLO ’48

MENTORING THROUGH BASEBALL, TECHNOLOGY, AND LIFE LESSONS

KEDEEM OCTAVE ’12

CITIZENSHIP CITIZENSHIP

MESSAGE FROM THE HEAD OF SCHOOL

Conscientious Discipline

My first paying job was that of a garbage collector. No, this job was not a weekly chore at home, although I did have such responsibilities. Rather, I was a paid garbage collector one summer when I was nine years old. That summer, my father was given a sabbatical on Iona, a small island in Scotland with a rich religious history. While my father and mother were enrolled in a program at the local abbey, my six-year-old brother and I were left to entertain ourselves while trapped on this small island.

To facilitate our entertainment and to promote American goodwill to the locals, my father created a work-study program for my brother and me. For each piece of garbage we collected on the island, he would reward us with a halfpence. While not fully aware of the relative value of the British currency as it related to the price of a candy bar or ice cream, I did realize that an island beautification campaign could be a windfall. Each day, then, we hunted for garbage and each afternoon we counted our trove that was measured toward our weekly payout.

By collecting garbage, I was rewarded with candy, ice cream, and memorable days spent exploring the island. This job, though, also reaped other benefits that became apparent years later. First, I still collect garbage — I am always picking up pieces of litter in my surroundings. Secondly, and more importantly, the garbage collecting job provided me with an opportunity to exercise conscientious discipline on a daily basis. This practice led to other paid work experiences, such as delivering newspapers, cutting lawns, shoveling snow, and working in a supermarket. Before the age of 18, I had many experiences that demonstrated

to me the rewards and values associated with conscientious discipline, which has carried over to my current academic responsibilities on a daily basis.

To be engaged responsibly in any community, one must learn how to practice conscientious discipline. Communities are dependent upon its citizens and their commitment to civility and responsibility, and to nurturing the structures of the communities.

Students at Trinity-Pawling know the importance of conscientious discipline. It is deeply ingrained into the foundation of the School and its commitment to excellence, character, community, and curiosity. Conscientious discipline is the driving force behind the School’s Effort Challenge, a staple of the Trinity-Pawling learning experience since the early 1970s. Students at Trinity-Pawling quickly learn that they are citizens of this community and, as such, have a role in maintaining its efficacy.

The School’s newly established Institutes for Active Learning provide its students with the opportunity to practice conscientious discipline in learning environments that are dynamic and experiential. They also provide students with an exposure on how to apply this practice toward areas of citizenship, leadership, environmental stewardship, and entrepreneurship. And, every so often, the students have the opportunity to pick up some garbage in service to the larger community!

In his book, How Children Succeed, Paul Tough touts the importance of conscientious discipline and its importance in helping young people learn the measures of success. Individuals with high qualities of conscientiousness, writes Tough, achieve higher levels of success in high school and college, are physically healthier, and are high achievers in the workplace. According to research, these traits can be nurtured and grown, resulting in more positive outcomes.

Think of the various opportunities to nurture conscientious discipline in young people. Certainly, an important argument for homework is to help build a work ethic in students. An emphasis on having a conscientious academic work ethic not only reaps rewards in terms of learning and academic achievement, it prepares students for the expectations of autonomous work in college and the workforce. Household chores, jobs, community service, the arts, and athletics are all areas where young people can practice conscientious discipline on a regular basis. Of course, there is always a great deal of litter they can learn to pick up, too!

Onward!

Trinity-Pawling Magazine is published by the Office of Communications for alumni, parents, and friends of the School.

Head of School

William W. Taylor

Director of Advancement

Elly Erickson

Director of Communications

Judy Redder

Senior Writer Maria Buteux Reade

Class Notes Editor MJ Davenport

Photo Credits

Bizzy Amor

Tom Javery

Tom Kates

Nicolle McDougal

Connie Rafferty

Aubrie Rose

Justice Williams

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The Institute For Citizenship 24

PROMOTING GLOBAL THINKING AND LOCAL ACTION

DEPARTMENTS

2 THE SCROLL

5 A VIEW FROM THE QUAD

Kedeem Octave ’12 … Tyler Mabon Benham ’90 Larry Bloch ’71

Newsworthy

The Big Picture ALL SAINTS' CHAPEL

In the Classroom with Mike Webber P’17, ’18

Faculty Minute with Gabe Avis

32 BY THE NUMBERS

34 PRIDE ATHLETICS

Sports Update

Pride Spotlight

Dave Rock ’87

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The Peale Foundation

NURTURING POSITIVITY, HOPE, AND SERVICE THROUGH PHILANTHROPY

Terry Smith ’60 – A LIFETIME OF COMMUNICATION AND LEADERSHIP

Paul ’63, P’92 and Kenper ’64 Miller – A FAMILY LEGACY OF PHILANTHROPY

Garrett Backus ’23 and Tyler Fogu ’23 – PROJECTS WITH A PURPOSE

ON THE COVER:

2022

38 CONNECTIONS

Richard Henderson ’71 on his 42 years as a class agent Billy Cartier ’89 and Flip Suarez ’03 — the power of mentorship Sally and Joe Callo ’48 on gratitude and giving back

Upcoming Events

Class Notes

From The Archives: A Legacy of Community Engagement

54 END NOTE

Dr. Marilyn Lashlee P’25

Distinguished Alumni Award recipients (L to R) David Coughlin ’56 and Alton “Terry” Ray ’55, P’01. The Distinguished Alumni Award was developed to recognize an alumnus’/alumna’s outstanding lifetime service to Trinity-Pawling School. Recipients of the award are members of the alumni community who have an established record of service to the School, and have demonstrated significant achievement in his or her profession. This is the highest award presented by the Trinity-Pawling Alumni Association.

Photo by Tom Javery

the scroll

“Great show of respect and sportsmanship in honor of two young men who lost their battle with cancer. The game was dedicated to them and in support of cancer research. @TrinityPawling

Where in the world is Trinity-Pawling today?

Students and faculty on the South Africa trip started their day under Table Mountain, followed by a visit to Robben Island to see Nelson Mandela's cell and garden. Their tour guide in the group photo was also a political prisoner, held in the same block as Mandela. #trinitypawlingtravels

FACEBOOK : INSTAGRAM : TWITTER

HEAD OF SCHOOL BILL TAYLOR IS TWEETING — FOLLOW @ TPSHOS!

TOP POSTS ON INSTAGRAM

FOUNDERS LEAGUE CHAMPIONS! Let’s hear it for the varsity basketball team for winning the Founders League Championship title over the weekend with a 84-44 victory over Kent, qualifying for the NE Class A Tournament this week!

“Congratulations boys” — 6bonecrusher4

“Keep working hard pride” — karen_rodriguezn1

“Outstanding...a huge CONGRATS!” — kebfoto

“Miles would be Proud of the Pride! Congratulations!” — bill7leck

“Congratulations, players AND coaches!!! Job well done! #rollpride” — petecola

ON CAMPUS

Hal Herrick ’72 stopped by last week for a Trinity-Pawling visit — complete with a campus tour and a chance to find his name on the wall of athletic awards in the Smith Field House! Come back soon, Hal ... it was great to see you and catch up! #TPshoutout

“Well, Hello Hal” — gjsanik

“Hello Hal!!” — hhlehren

In honor of #BlackHistoryMonth, Emeka Nwogugu ’24 shared an all-school presentation this week celebrating 10 important Black trailblazers in history — shining a spotlight on their accomplishments & contributions. Thank you for your great work, Emeka! #EthosOfEffort

This group had a blast at the @uconn basketball game over the weekend! A special thank you to Ms. Moore for coordinating the trip. #adayinthelifetp

THE Scroll

WE POSTED ON FACEBOOK

Winter Dorm Olympics 2023 ... what a night! Geared up with a motley mix of football, baseball, lacrosse, and hockey helmets, students took to the ice in Tirrell Rink last week for an exciting broomball tournament, obstacle course, and other competitions. Congratulations to the residents of Cluett 3 for their overtime victory against Barstow in the broomball tournament!

Thank you again to Prefect of Zeal Casey Sodolski ’23 and Mr. Gillman ’05 for planning the second Dorm Olympics event this year, and to all faculty and staff who helped to make it a success. We’re already looking forward to the Spring Dorm Olympics on campus next term!

#TPcommunity #adayinthelifetp #rollpride

ALUMNI SPOTLIGHT: It was a mini reunion for these 3 prefects from the Class of 2018 today! Will DePalma ’18 reconnected with classmates and current faculty members Kyle Miller ’18 and Marc Welch ’18 during his visit to campus. Great to see you back together, gentlemen! #TPbrotherhood

TOP TWEETS

Today, on International Women’s Day, the #TPcommunity celebrates the remarkable women of Trinity-Pawling School — past, present, and future! To our extraordinary alumnae, faculty, staff, trustees, and friends who continue to shape the School, we thank you for your countless contributions in making Trinity-Pawling such a special place.

#InternationalWomensDay2023

Photo: Day Student Girls, 1982 Trinitannus Yearbook (Trinity-Pawling was co-ed from 1973-1985)

#FromTheArchives

6 varsity wrestlers competed in the New England tournament at Phillips Andover. Congratulations to John Berlandi ’27, Axel Caramico ’26, Joe Tumolo ’25, & Christian Tacogue ’23 for earning All New England status! Well done, boys!

ALUMNI SPOTLIGHT: Gunho (Ken) Jung ’13 & his mom returned to campus this week for a Trinity-Pawling visit! It is always great to catch up & reconnect with alumni & their families. Thank you for stopping by, Ken! See you soon! #TPshoutout

From Tirrell Rink to Coratti Field, our student section is always there to cheer on the Pride — supporting their brothers through every athletic season! Are you ready to join the #TPbrotherhood? Get started at trinitypawling.org/apply today!

#ChooseTPS #rollpride

A VIEW FROM THE QUAD

Terry Smith ’60

A LIFETIME OF COMMUNICATION AND LEADERSHIP

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Seize the moment! This was Terry Smith’s response after reading the past few issues of Trinity-Pawling Magazine. Curious and inspired by the Trinity-Pawling of today, Smith decided to hop on a plane and go see his alma mater for himself, “I’m 83, I can’t keep waiting for these opportunities,” he said. During his visit over Homecoming and Reunion Weekend in October 2022, Smith discovered that no matter how much time goes by, the Trinity-Pawling community will always welcome back one of their “brothers.” After more than 60 years, it certainly was a joy to have Smith back on campus connecting with alumni, faculty, and students. Smith was deeply impressed with the School’s evolution over the past decade, from the beautifully maintained campus to the engaging new academic programming.

If variety is the spice of life, Terry Smith has enjoyed a zesty one. He has held a variety of positions over the course of his lifetime: serving as an officer in the Marines during Vietnam, working for the Governors Association on Capitol Hill, raising funds for the National Geographic Society, championing national standards for science and geography education, and chairing the Santa Fe Conservation Trust. And that list barely scratches the surface. He attributes his wide-ranging success to his years at Trinity-Pawling. “The School provided the foundation in communication and leadership that enabled me to have this diverse career. Trinity-Pawling, much like the Marine Corps, identifies and cultivates potential leaders.”

Yet of all his jobs, Smith feels he is now engaged in the most meaningful work of his lifetime: working with his state government on legislation to dramatically improve outreach and services for veterans.

As young officers in Vietnam, Smith and his colleagues regularly faced situations that required them to make decisions with no morally acceptable outcome. “Being in those circumstances breaks your spirit and changes your worldview,” he acknowledges. After leaving the military, Smith moved onto other careers, yet carried a haunting internal rage. It took him nearly 60 years to realize he was suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. “PTSD should not be considered a disease. It’s a set of behaviors that evolve in order for soldiers to survive in combat. However, those self-preservation behaviors including hyper-vigilance, toughness, and emotional unavailability — don’t play out well in daily civilian life. In my

opinion, moral injury lies at the heart of PTSD.”

Smith walked into the Santa Fe Veterans Center (located on the aptly named Brothers Road) at age 77 and regained his life. “Vets cure vets. I asked for help, and they drew me into their embrace. In the military, you fight for the guys on either side of you. The same holds true for healing and recovery. The only way to regain emotional health is to work through your issues with others who have had similar experiences and can provide genuine empathic support. It’s all about communicating and connecting with peers.”

Now he is committed to giving back to other veterans. Veterans seeking services encounter layers of bureaucracy, interminable waits on the phone, and a staggering array of paperwork. Some are lucky enough to be assisted by a Veterans Service Officer, or VSO, who takes the veteran by the hand and guides him or her to navigate the system and wade through red tape. However, there is a severe shortage of VSOs in Smith’s home state of New Mexico, fewer than 20 VSOs are responsible for veterans spread across 33 counties. “My goal is to increase the number of VSOs and improve the pay to reflect the invaluable service they provide.”

“I’ve had some fancy titles in my life,” Smith concludes. “But nothing means more to me personally than this work I’m doing now with the Department of Veterans Services. It taps into a lifetime of legislative and communications skills, and I plan on spending the rest of my days on this meaningful work.”

Paul ’63, P’92 and Kenper ’64 Miller

A FAMILY LEGACY OF PHILANTHROPY

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Families often start a private foundation to establish a philanthropic legacy that complements their values and traditions. The Paul Miller Family Foundation was created decades ago by Paul and Louise Miller, parents of Paul ’63 and Kenper ’64, with the intention of supporting a variety of Rochester, New Yorkbased charitable organizations and nonprofits. The three Miller siblings — Paul, Kenper, and Jeanne — continued to oversee the foundation after their mother, Louise, passed away in 2000. Their father, Paul, had suffered a debilitating stroke in the early 1980s and passed away in 1991.

“This foundation is a tribute to my parents,” Paul

explains. “They were dedicated to serving whatever community they lived in over the course of my father’s storied career as a journalist and newspaper executive.” One of the most influential journalists of the 20th century, Paul spent more than 60 years in the industry, including as president and chairman of the Associated Press and the Gannett Company.

Paul now manages the family foundation with his wife, Andy, and their three sons: Trent ’92, Bryce, and Hayes. “We’re continuing to build up the foundation to keep it strong and viable in perpetuity. As a foundation, we are required to give away at least five percent of the total corpus each year. With that in mind, Andy and I

Kenper and Paul (L to R) at the Trinity-Pawling re ception in Delray Beach, Florida on March 21, 2023

consult with our sons and seek their input on worthwhile causes to support.”

Counting three Millers as Trinity-Pawling alumni — Paul, Kenper, and Trent — the School remains one of the family foundation’s top priorities. “I attribute much of the success I’ve had in business to the lessons I learned at Trinity-Pawling, the Effort System in particular,” Paul says. “I feel indebted to the School in many ways, and I’ve decided to do as much as I can to provide support through our foundation.” Paul notes that he is specifically interested in maintaining the beauty and integrity of All Saints’ Chapel and wants to sustain this cornerstone of the community. “Having a chaplain and regular services distinguishes Trinity-Pawling. Keeping faith present in thought, word, and deed is important to me.”

Paul and Andy split their time between East Hanover, New Jersey and Delray Beach, Florida. And yes, Paul is still actively involved with his Paul Miller Racing team and his eponymous car dealerships located throughout northern New Jersey. “It’s been a wonderful ride, no pun intended,” he quipped.

As for Kenper Miller, he recently opted to manage his philanthropic efforts through a donor-advised fund rather than a family foundation. With more than 55 years in the investment business, and still going strong in Rochester, New York, Kenper and his wife, Lisa, feel that this system helps them manage and distribute contributions to selected nonprofit organizations most efficiently. “A

donor-advised fund has no set-up fees, no restrictions, and no mandatory withdrawal per year. The fund is easy to manage, and donations to credible nonprofits are efficiently distributed. Paul’s family foundation is his vehicle, and this method works well for us.”

Philanthropy is an investment of time, treasure, and talent. “My wife, Lisa, created a nonprofit in 2007 called Full Circle Home that collaborates with deployed military personnel and orchestrates Christmas presents and handwritten letters from the service members to their families back home. Watching her incredibly dedicated efforts to this project over the last 16 years has shown me the meaningful impact of philanthropy.”

In addition to supporting Full Circle Home, Kenper keeps Trinity-Pawling at the top of his own list. “I reconnected with my classmates at our 50th reunion in 2014, and our bonds have only strengthened with each subsequent year. These friendships are treasures that remind me how meaningful my four years at the School were. I’m impressed with how Trinity-Pawling continues to evolve while still maintaining the same values that marked my experience 55 years ago. It’s gratifying to be able to do my part and support the School. My classmates and I are already looking forward to our 60th reunion next year!”

Learn more about Donor-Advised Funds (DAF) on our website at trinitypawling.org/giving/planned-gifts

Paul, Andy, Lisa, and Kenper (L to R) at the Trinity-Pawling reception in Delray Beach, Florida on March 21, 2023, which was graciously hosted by Paul and Andy

Kedeem Octave ’12

MENTORING KIDS THROUGH BASEBALL, TECHNOLOGY, AND LIFE LESSONS

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Not many twenty-somethings start nonprofit foundations. Even fewer become major league baseball coaches. But then again, Kedeem Octave, now 29, is not your average young man.

Octave spent a postgraduate year at Trinity-Pawling. Equally talented in soccer and baseball, he chose to pursue collegiate baseball, his true passion, and dreamed of a professional career. However, two shoulder surgeries and a broken leg knocked him out of contention as a major league player. “Those injuries caused me to pivot from my dream of playing pro ball,” Octave recounts. “But I didn’t give up hope. I wouldn’t be where I am today if those events hadn’t happened. Baseball has reaffirmed all the major life lessons: time management, how to deal with failure, and the importance of being relentless in pursuing my goals.”

After graduating in 2017 from Wilmington University where he had earned an academic scholarship, Octave turned his sights on becoming a major league coach. “Baseball

was changing, and I saw data analytics as an exciting new tool. I found opportunities that put me ahead of the curve and developed ways to translate data into transformative coaching for the players.” That data included information tracked by hightech monitors on elements such as swing mechanics, bat speed, launch angle of the ball, biometrics, and efficiency of body movements.

First steps in his path?

Serving as a director of baseball operations at West Point and then volunteering as a coach at Virginia Tech, an early adopter of technology and statistical analysis. The immersive experience he gained there caught the attention of the Minnesota Twins, who hired Octave for video and data analysis. Next came a job in player development for the New York Mets, before the St. Louis Cardinals hired him as an on-field hitting coach.

Kedeem and his brother Stephen ’14, a scout for the Chicago White Sox, pursued another dream they shared: creating a foundation to give kids the opportunity to succeed in baseball, regardless of financial background. Established in 2019, the KS Octave Foundation runs training events and camps that incorporate the same technology that professional teams use.

Proceeds from these events

help fund more opportunities for young players who cannot otherwise afford it. “We’ve hosted more than 60 camps so far, primarily in our main facility located in the Hudson Valley, where Stephen and I grew up. We work with 25 to 30 kids in each session and divide them into smaller groups of five. Each group is paired with a separate piece of technology and a coach.”

“We’ve made a sizable investment in this approach, and that allows us to provide a unique experience for our young athletes’ skill development. We also provide access to a number of pro ball players who stop by or join through FaceTime to share honest stories and offer words of encouragement with the kids. They jump at the chance

to have an impact on these young players.” The foundation also provides scholarships for exemplary college-bound athletes.

“Baseball has been good to Stephen and me, and this foundation means a great deal to us,” Octave concludes. “This is a creative, innovative, and entrepreneurial venture that bears our family name. We try to be the mentors we wish we had as young adults. The foundation represents our commitment to setting goals and taking risks. We teach the kids that if you fail, get up again and figure out how to move forward. And as my parents taught us, if you’re truly passionate, you’ll keep going.”

Kedeem (left) and brother Stephen (right) at a youth camp

Tyler Mabon Benham ’90

HIS SPIRIT LIVES ON

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

According to David Benham ’64, his son Tyler ’90 grew up with a fishing rod in one hand and a shotgun in the other. “He learned to fish for trout as a young boy at our family’s place on Lake George, and he grew up shooting duck and pheasant at our club on Long Island. He became an avid outdoorsman and world-class fisherman.” Tyler’s love of the outdoors and passion for athletics marked his four years at Trinity-Pawling, where he threw himself into football and lacrosse. His jerseys bore the number 56, a nod to his hero Lawrence Taylor, the New York Giants linebacker.

Sadly, Tyler died in August 2019. Diagnosed just months before with epilepsy, Tyler sustained a traumatic head injury

when he collapsed at his home in Lake Worth, Florida.

Classmates describe him as ‘fiercely loyal’ and a ‘guys’ guy.’ “Ty would do anything for his T-P brothers,” Tommy Seitz ’90 noted. “He was an integral member of our class, particularly among the freshmen originals.” Biggs Powell ’90, one of those originals, came to Trinity-Pawling from Memphis and lived next door to Tyler. “Tyler was great about inviting me to spend weekends at his house in Locust Valley. It meant so much to enjoy time with the Benham family, especially home-cooked Sunday morning breakfasts.” Biggs recalled Tyler’s “tough guy persona, but he was vulnerable just like the rest of us. He was just a

Tyler Mabon Benham ’90

caring and loyal friend.”

David and Penny Benham wanted to find a suitable way to honor their son’s spirit and deep love of TrinityPawling and his brothers there. In search of inspiration, the Benhams visited campus and wandered the grounds. “When we walked over the hill behind Starr and saw the pond, Penny and I knew what we wanted to do,” David said. “The pond had not been a gathering place when I was a student in the 1960s, but we felt an immediate connection to a place that Tyler loved. And since he was such an outdoorsman, we knew he would love the idea of naming the area The Benham Family Pond Terrace and Fire Pit where people could relax.”

David and Penny worked closely with Elly Erickson, Director of Advancement, and Dan Tompkins, Director of Facilities, transforming the Benhams’ vision into solid reality. “Elly was a key element in assisting us to formulate these ideas and transferring them to Dan, who did a superb job laying out the pond project,” David emphasized. Over the summer of 2022, a handsome stone firepit was created near the southwestern shore of the pond, surrounded by a terrace ringed with seating hewn from a locally-sourced quarry. “You can feel Ty’s presence here on the pond and among these stones,” David reflected.

David shared stories of Tyler’s adult life. After graduating from New England College in 1994, Tyler and some of his buddies drove out to Jackson Hole, Wyoming where he earned his certification as a trout fishing guide. He spent the next decade traveling between Wyoming and Florida to fish, and his passion became his career. In the early 2000s,

“While this day was an important moment for us as a family, the overwhelming presence of Tyler’s friends and classmates is something we were deeply touched by. It was a true testament to the relationships that Tyler built during his time at Trinity-Pawling — a place that he cherished as one of the best experiences of his life.”

– The Benham family, from a letter written to the Class of 1990, a fter The Benham Family Pond Terrace and Fire Pit dedication

Ty moved to Palm Beach and opened Ty Flies, Ltd., a retail fishing store that carried angler clothing and high-quality equipment. The store quickly became a destination for serious anglers. Some years later, he moved to Lake Worth to be closer to the Florida Keys for convenient fishing.

“Tyler was a big, strong man so he had majestic presence on the water,” David explained. “He continually strove to improve his form which was pretty impeccable. It was mesmerizing to watch him cast a line and land the fly with unparalleled accuracy. He amassed a deep knowledge of the sport and craft, and his apartment was filled with books on fly fishing and thousands of flies.”

The Benham Family Pond Terrace and Fire Pit was dedicated on Saturday, October 1, during Homecoming and Reunion Weekend. Moments before the pondside ceremony commenced, a crowd of Tyler’s classmates descended the hill towards the pond. All wore blue Trinity-Pawling t-shirts with ‘Benham 56’ on the back. “It was deeply moving to see that herd of Tyler’s friends come over the hill in those shirts,” David recalled. “The outpouring of support from those guys reflected their collective love for Ty.” Tommy Seitz and Peter ‘Butch’ Salaverry ’90 orchestrated the shirts and brought extras to share with other alumni and friends gathered at the dedication.

“Tyler had deep roots here at T-P,” David offered. “You can feel his presence among the massive stones. It’s an open, free, and welcoming space, much like Ty’s spirit. Penny and I are blessed to be able to come back to Trinity-Pawling in a different manner. This terrace and fire pit area cements our family’s eternal connection to the School.”

Larry Bloch ’71 FINDING CURES THROUGH COMMUNITY AND COLLABORATION

BY EMMA QUIGLEY

For Larry Bloch, living a purposeful life is all about maintaining balance.

“The way I see it, there are four main quadrants of a person’s life that need to be kept in relative balance in order to live well: personal focus, including health and fitness; family relationships; business and professional endeavors; and commitments to community,” Bloch began. “Trinity-Pawling helped me develop this perspective.”

Bloch graduated as the valedictorian of Trinity-Pawling’s Class of 1971. He was an avid skier and golfer at the School, and even started an on-campus thrift store called “Swap.” Following graduation, Bloch studied political science and economics at the University of Rochester and later earned his MBA in finance from the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He started his professional career on Wall Street and over time, became a Managing Director at Smith Barney in New York City. In 1993, Bloch co-led the acquisition of TransWestern Publishing — a leading independent yellow page publishing company — and

relocated with his family to San Diego, California.

“When the company was successfully resold in 2005, I fully retired as chairman of TransWestern and shifted my career priorities to personal investing, as well as to my community and philanthropic commitments.” By that time, Bloch was in his seventh year of service as a trustee at his alma mater, the University of Rochester. During his 23-year tenure, Bloch served as an influential and innovative leader, most notably as Chair of the Advancement Committee for 17 years. A proud recipient of the Hutchinson Medal for distinguished public service, Bloch and his unwavering commitment to advancement strategy significantly strengthened the university’s fundraising results over his years on the board.

Then in 2018, life for Bloch and his family took an unexpected and unsettling turn. “Our daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer at only 32 years old. After nearly a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, surgery, and radiation, fortunately she was

pronounced cancer-free. After hearing those words, I wanted to pay it forward.”

Living in San Diego, Bloch immediately recognized the many world-class cancer research centers and institutes around him and he got to work. Armed with his extensive business knowledge and fundraising expertise, Bloch continues to serve as a founding board member and Chair of the Development Committee of Curebound, which was launched by the merging of two existing cancer research support programs, Padres Pedal the Cause and the Immunotherapy Foundation. Now united as a single powerhouse organization, Curebound works to fund collaborative early-stage cancer research, advance clinical trials, and make a cancer-free world a reality.

“Our work at Curebound is based fully on collaboration — believing that great scientists working together can accelerate discovery and that philanthropic funding is required to drive early collaboration,” Bloch explained. “We aim to build a communitywide campaign and partnership between philanthropists and

scientists at multiple independent research centers committed to a common goal: finding a cure.”

Both Bloch and his wife, Cindy, continue to support Curebound financially and volunteer their time to make the organization’s inspiring mission a success. “We are unbelievably grateful for our daughter’s recovery and proud of Curebound’s ongoing work. I believe that together, we will be able to find new cures for cancer in this lifetime.”

As he reflected on his TrinityPawling years and ensuing success, it all comes back to balance for Bloch. He concluded, “I received a well-balanced education at Trinity-Pawling, developed enduring life skills and habits, and experienced a meaningful sense of community. Ultimately, Trinity-Pawling helped to found my values for living well and for that, I’m very thankful.”

To learn more about Curebound and its mission, please visit www.curebound.org.

TRINITY-PAWLING HELPED TO FOUND MY VALUES FOR LIVING WELL AND FOR THAT, I’M VERY THANKFUL.”

Garrett Backus ’23 and Tyler Fogu ’23

PROJECTS WITH A PURPOSE

BY EMMA QUIGLEY

Trinity-Pawling is more than a school we’re a family. Garrett Backus and Tyler Fogu had this mindset as they each developed their Senior Independent Project (SIP) this year: a charity football game and hockey game, respectively, in memory of their Trinity-Pawling brothers. Being a part of something bigger than themselves, they said, was their driving force.

Tackle Cancer Football Game: No One Fights Alone

Garrett Backus ’23

On October 15, 2022, the Trinity-Pawling Pride hosted the Kent School Lions in a special “Tackle Cancer” football game under the lights on Coratti Field. Varsity football captain Backus organized the event as part of his SIP with a goal to raise money for pediatric brain cancer research. His inspiration? His classmate and close friend, Matt Dooley ’23.

The night was a moving display of respect, compassion, and sportsmanship as the teams and fans honored the lives of Matt Dooley and Owen Trivell — both beloved members of the two school communities who lost their valiant battles with cancer

last year. “Today is not a day to hang our heads,” Backus shared that evening, addressing the energetic crowd sporting “No One Fights Alone” t-shirts. “It’s a day to celebrate the positive and everlasting impact of Matt and Owen. Today, we will play football with the same passion, effort, and determination that they lived their lives.”

All proceeds from the event’s t-shirt and concession stand sales, which totaled just over $5,000, were donated in memory of Matt and Owen to the Pediatric Brain Cancer Research Foundation.

“As a friend of Matt, I was honored to spread awareness and raise money for pediatric brain cancer,” Backus shared with a smile. “My hope is that this game becomes an annual tradition for Trinity-Pawling and Kent to continue to honor Matt and Owen’s legacies.”

Halt ALS Hockey Game: F16ht for Tschupp Tyler Fogu ’23

It was February 2022 when varsity hockey captain Fogu coordinated the first Halt ALS hockey event in Tirrell Rink. Donning special red jerseys with ‘Tschupp’ on the back, the Trinity-Pawling Pride celebrated an exciting victory over the Hotchkiss Bearcats that night and honored alumnus and former professional hockey player Chris Tschupp ’90 for his brave fight against ALS. A genuinely moved Tschupp was in attendance, smiling ear to ear and surrounded by family — his actual family and his Trinity-Pawling family.

One year later on January 13, 2023, Fogu did it all again for his SIP, with a renewed passion for the fight against ALS. “Last year’s game was so special for alumni, the School, my team, and especially for Chris. This year’s event meant even more as we remembered Chris, who sadly passed away in October,” Fogu shared. Complete with a ceremonial puck drop by Tschupp’s partner Sofia Grace, a lively crowd in a sea of white “Halt ALS” t-shirts, and an electrifying win over Lawrenceville, the energy in Tirrell Rink was at an all-time high that night. “Together, we raised money and awareness for this life-altering disease but most importantly, we celebrated Chris’ amazing life and impact.”

The event raised over $2,300 for the Halt ALS organization, which will be put to great use as they continue Tschupp’s remarkable legacy and advance their mission to halt ALS for good.

Both Backus and Fogu look back on their Senior Independent Project experiences with the utmost gratitude — to those who helped make the events possible but especially to Matt Dooley and Chris Tschupp, whose friendship and inspiring courage left an indelible mark on all who knew them.

“I intend to live my life like Chris did,” Fogu concluded. “Every day I spend out on the ice, he will be on my mind.”

“I was told after the football game that Matt would have loved it,” Backus added. “And that meant everything to me.”

MEET THE STUDENTS BEHIND THE PROJECTS

Garrett Backus ’23

Hometown: Ithaca, NY

How many years have you been at Trinity-Pawling? 4 years

Roles at Trinity-Pawling: Prefect, 2x Varsity Football Captain, 3x Varsity Track Captain

What is your favorite place on campus? David N. Coratti Field

Interests/Hobbies: Football, video games, and music

College Plans? I will be attending and running track at Bucknell University.

Your best advice for rising seniors? Call your mom and/or dad once a day.

If you could have a theme song, what would it be? New York, New York by Frank Sinatra

Tyler Fogu ’23

Hometown: Bayonne, NJ

How many years have you been at Trinity-Pawling? 4 years

Roles at Trinity-Pawling: Prefect, Varsity Hockey Captain

What is your favorite place on campus? Tirrell Rink

Interests/Hobbies: Hockey

College Plans? I will be playing Junior hockey next year.

Your best advice for rising seniors? Listen to chapel talks, then give one.

If you could have a theme song, what would it be?

Doin’ This by Luke Combs

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COMMUNITY

MEET TOM AND TOM

Join us in welcoming the newest members of the Trinity-Pawling community!

TOM CURLEY, DEAN OF TEACHING AND LEARNING

Hometown: I think of myself as a product of Western Massachusetts — Gill, to be precise. I have spent more years living in the Pioneer Valley than anywhere else, so it’s my home region.

Experience: I moved into a faculty apartment in a dorm at Northfield Mount Hermon School when I was 10, and I’ve basically been at independent schools ever since! I have taught history, environmental studies, and computer programming; coached soccer, snowboarding, and ultimate frisbee; and led extracurriculars from choral music to survival skills to juggling. I’ve also been a tech director, a dean, and a head of school, so I have seen much of the inner workings of private schools over the years.

Hidden Talent: If I tell you, it won’t be hidden any more, will it?

I am willing to admit that I can juggle four balls, solve a Rubik’s Cube, and play guitar — just not at the same time!

Proudest Achievement: I am proudest of the fact that my three sons, my wife, our two dogs, and I can all spend a week together in a small cabin and walk away wishing we could stay there longer with each other.

TOM DENSFORD, ASSOCIATE DIRECTOR OF ALUMNI AND PARENT RELATIONS

Hometown: I was born and raised just north of Memphis, Tennessee in a town called Millington. Millington is most known for being the hometown of Justin Timberlake.

Experience: I have spent the last 17 years in one independent school as a dean of students, head varsity baseball coach, athletic director, and associate director of advancement.

Hidden Talent: Golf and cooking — my favorite things to do on the weekend.

Proudest Achievement: My proudest achievement is having a career that allows me to make a difference in the lives of young people.

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CHAPEL TALK

“As I wandered around the football game over alumni weekend it wasn’t very hard to recognize how much these guys loved coming back, and spending time with each other. Not only did they love conversing with each other, but they loved talking to us. A few guys from the Class of ’82 sparked a conversation with me. We talked a little bit about where I was from, how I found the School, and my overall happiness being here. They asked me what my favorite part about T-P was? As the Prefect of Zeal, I quickly told them, ‘Seeing the guys supporting each other’s teams!’ ‘So, seeing everyone together as a community,’ one of them added. ‘That’s what makes this place so special,’ he continued. His buddy quickly added, ‘Traditions, that’s all I remember being together as one. I don’t remember the bad days of getting in trouble or failing a test.’ Their third friend followed, saying, ‘If I could rewind and be in your shoes, I would do it in a heartbeat.’

Continuing old traditions like the Dorm Olympics, family-style lunches, Candlelight Service, dressing in our Blue and Grays, respecting the quad, and of course, softball in the spring — also, creating new traditions of our own as we go through this school year — these are what you’re going to remember whenever you step foot outside of Trinity-Pawling. Stories you can tell your kids. It reminds us that it’s a gift to be here, and that to give anything other than our best effort would be to sacrifice that gift. So, treasure your time here. Just as the alums said, ‘I would do anything to be in your shoes again!’ Take that with you today and use it as inspiration.”

Casey Sodolski ’23, from his November 2022 Chapel Talk in All Saints’ Chapel

HOMECOMING AND REUNION HONORS WILLIAM W. DUNBAR AWARD

The William W. Dunbar Award is given to the class with the highest percentage of the class in attendance at Homecoming and Reunion Weekend. The honor was given to the Class of 1971. Congratulations!

Head of School Bill Taylor during his address to the Taska family, the Class of 1971, the Pawling Fire Department, faculty and staff, and numerous alumni and friends who attended the memorial dedication honoring firefighter Nicholas Taska, who tragically died while protecting his community in the 1969 Cluett fire.

ACADEMICS

FED UP WITH HUNGER

JOHNSON GETS A NEW ROOF

As part of the Trinity-Pawling beautification campaign, this winter, the Facilities Department directed the construction of a 12-pitch roof with dormers on Johnson Hall dormitory. The new roof ties together the architectural aesthetics with the other historical buildings on campus. The roof is a simple design, set on trusses, and finished with DaVinci slate, in continuity with the Smith Field House. The construction of the new Johnson Hall roof was made possible by a very generous Trinity-Pawling alum, for whom we are very grateful.

SENIOR INDEPENDENT PROJECTS FOCUS ON COMMUNITY

For his Senior Independent Project (SIP), Rain Xia ’23 worked tirelessly on making an 80:1 scale reproduction of Johnson Hall, complete with its new roof, but with a twist — he reimagined this iconic building as a student center.

Welding was the focus of Michael Whitman’s ’23 SIP. Michael imagined a future welding program for TrinityPawling. He researched the necessary equipment that would be needed for the program and also constructed a welding table using an oxyacetylene cutting torch, a mig welder, metal chop saw, and angle grinders. In the Spring Term, Whitman learned to weld aluminum and repaired some practice lacrosse goals on campus. He finalized his SIP by welding a custom meat smoker from a 55-gallon drum that he donated to the School.

For his SIP, Kyle West ’23 constructed lawn games for the Trinity-Pawling community. He created a Koob set using a bandsaw and a lathe in the wood shop, and also built a corn hole set, complete with the School crest on the front.

In this Winter Project, students learned about global and local food security and why it exists. Led by faculty members Ashley Frost and Elizabeth Moore, the boys explored the temporary and long-term solutions that have been implemented to diminish the impact of food insecurity in our world.

In the classroom, the group played simulation and role-playing games like PlaySpent and Free Rice, which helped them take the perspective of someone who is food insecure. They also watched documentaries, such as Dive! and A Seat at the Table, which illustrated the challenges of food insecurity. Outside of the classroom, the boys volunteered at local food pantries, including the Patterson Community Church and Second Chance Foods, where they assisted with preparing food, packaging, and storing donations. The project concluded with students planning for and preparing meals using a tight budget. It was an eye-opening project and learning experience.

“ Mr. Taska was a true hero. We hope this tree will be a place for the Taska family and friends, the Class of 1971, and all alumni, to come and reflect, to be together, and to remember Nicholas Taska and the sacrifice he and his family made, on that cold February day, in service to the Trinity-Pawling community.

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ACADEMICS

The Big Picture

ALL SAINTS’ CHAPEL

All Saints’ Chapel is the central meeting place for the Trinity-Pawling community, with worship and service being key components of our transformational, studentcentered learning environment. As a community, we begin with the values that are deeply grounded in the Episcopal tradition, and we welcome and affirm all of the faith traditions in our community. The recognition of each individual as a unique child of God, strong focus on community, and embrace of the distinctive gifts and talents of each member of the School community flow from our identity as an Episcopal School. We uphold the principles of honesty and integrity, and our traditions reflect the community’s seriousness of purpose and high ideals. The School community reflects this belief and teachers are committed to helping each boy discover their gifts and talents. Students and faculty gather together to attend Chapel two mornings per week, which consists of a hymn, a reading, a Chapel Talk by students or faculty, and announcements — this communal tradition is a foundational strength of Trinity-Pawling.

In the Classroom with Mike Webber

GOOD VIBES

BY THE REVEREND DANIEL LENNOX

Mike Webber P’17, ’18 has just arrived for our interview and already the energy in the room has changed. It’s obvious, Webber thrums an energy that is steady, intense, and charming. Wherever he goes, this positive and bright energy follows. You can count on it. Trinity-Pawling has come to rely on it over the last twenty years of Webber’s incredible presence on campus.

“Keep it rolling — keep it positive. That’s my objective. I step out of the front door every day, and it’s game time. Really, every day I’m like a kid going to his first interview. I’ve got to be on my game because I have a responsibility to show up.”

For two decades, Webber has been showing up for TrinityPawling. From teaching, to coaching, to leading the senior class, to spearheading the new Institute for Entrepreneurship — Webber’s energy on campus has been transformative. “I think I’ve always been an energy guy,” Webber reflects. “Ever since the surgery at least, I’ve been intentional

and very conscious about the energy I bring to a room.”

Some twenty years ago, Webber awoke one morning to a splitting headache — a headache that would change the course of his life. Husband, father to two boys at the time, as well as being a young professional in an environmental startup group, Webber checked himself into the hospital thinking that the headache was simply the result of the busy demands on his time. Instead, doctors found a (benign) brain tumor. Surgery quickly followed. Then recovery. And then a reevaluating of the priorities in life. “It changed me. It taught me that I have a responsibility to care, to be patient, and to be enthusiastic. I’m mindful of that choice each day.”

True to his word, Webber does show up in powerful and positive ways. After the brain tumor, he left the corporate world and became a teacher and coach. “I remember coming home to Sue,” says Webber, vividly remembering a conversation

he had with his wife. “I need to be doing something else. In fact, I interviewed at Trinity-Pawling. I walked down the main stairs of Cluett and said to myself — this is it! I didn’t even know chemistry at the time — don’t write that down,” Webber chuckled. “But I knew I wanted to affect change in the lives of young people, and I knew TrinityPawling was the place to do it.”

Now, decades after that lifechanging headache, Webber is in a place of peace. “I feel like I’m where I want to be,” he says. “I’ve grown, and I’ve explored where I’ve been and where I want to go, but I do still want to grow, and I want my work to be the best it can be. I also want to serve the greater good of the community.”

The latter, Webber has done in manifold ways. He has affected the lives of thousands of students with his positive goodness. From jumpstarting college baseball careers to bringing into sharp focus the importance of kindness and care, to teaching the importance of caring

for the natural world, to breaking down barriers to ensure the inclusion of the LGBTQ+ community at TrinityPawling — Webber is a force for good. He’s the man you want in the room. He’s the guy you build a team around. He brings positive vibes, and not just in an ephemeral intangible way, but in a deeply obvious and lifegiving way. He changes the energy in the room, oftentimes without even saying a word.

In 2022, Webber was awarded the Coughlin Family Teaching Chair for Math and Science. His other primary tasks include leading the Entrepreneurship branch of the Institutes for Active Learning, teaching environmental science, coaching the football and baseball

teams, and developing spaces for growth and transformation on campus. “Kindness,” Webber asserts, “is part of that positive energy — part of my role. Growing in patience, empathy, and in the ability to listen.”

As we completed our interview, Mike Webber walked out of the room. The energy changed and I started to gather my things, but when I turned to go, positivity was present once more. Webber was back. He wanted to add one more thought.

“I know we’re not perfect, but we’re doing a better job. It’s an intentional process — working through those imperfections, but hey, we’re here. Let’s be here together and get some good work done.”

Good vibes, good man.

“Kindness,” Webber asserts, “is part of that positive energy — part of my role. Growing in patience, empathy, and in the ability to listen.”

Over the Winter Term, I had the privilege and joy of spending time with faculty extraordinaire, Gabe Avis. Gabe leads the Wintersession, teaches, coaches, shepherds a dorm, and inspires us all on a daily basis. You can’t find a more thoughtful, gracious, and easy conversationalist. In fact, Gabe and I have taken to occasionally running together, and the reflection below highlights snippets of those miles together.

On the Run with Gabe Avis

BY THE REVEREND DANIEL LENNOX

Daniel Lennox: Not the best weather for running, eh.

Gabe Avis: Not at all. We need some snow. The skiers are getting restless.

DL: So is my snowboarding son. So, how’s the fitness?

GA: Good. I just signed up for this crazy trail race. 3,000 feet of elevation. Running, not biking. The key, I think, is going to be getting in the longer runs and staying injury free. My New Year’s resolution is to do a more thorough stretching before and after runs — and, say, five minutes of band work, core work, and balance exercises.

DL: Easier than it sounds, eh. Core workouts? I’d rather run for 90 minutes than do a 90-second plank. But I’m glad you have a race to build toward. What else is on the horizon? I know you’re always cooking up an adventure.

GA: I’m really fortunate to be chaperoning the South Africa trip in March. I also have a big summer schedule of bike racing planned. But before then, I’m really excited about my classes. The boys are doing some incredible painting and printmaking, and — inspired by them — I’m getting back into my own artmaking process, which I had set aside for a little bit. After Wintersession, I’m feeling inspired — almost like I’ve been on my own artist residency, and now it’s time to create.

DL: Residency? What do you mean?

GA: Wintersession (the period of school between Thanksgiving and Christmas affords students at Trinity-Pawling a concentrated two weeks where they can hone in on various projects, questions, and challenges. Steered by the teachers and students, Wintersession is ultimately overseen by Avis) is invigorating, not just for students, but for faculty too. We constantly want our students to be wellrounded, and our education session needs to reflect those expectations. Wintersession reflects a wellrounded curriculum that seeks to unlock the distinct gifts and talents of our students. The exposure to different groups, exposure to independence, exposure to different ways of thinking, exposure to an expanse of ideas — exposure is the critical component. Creating an environment of space coupled

with opportunity is essential for growth. That’s what we are giving the students during Wintersession, the time and space to discover themselves, which is like an artist residency. You go and spend time thinking, exploring, and then creating. I feel like after Wintersession, I’m more inspired than ever.

DL: What are some examples of Winter Projects, GCCs (Global Collaborative Challenges), and SIPs (Senior Independent Projects) that really opened your mind?

GA: Obviously, Tyler Fogu’s ’23 Senior Independent Project was incredible. It showcased the depth of this community, and it honored Chris Tschupp ’90. It brought us all together, and I know it meant so much to Chris during his battle with ALS. Moreover, Rain Xia’s ’23 model of Johnson dorm transformed into a bustling student center was amazing. It’s a terrific model that showcases the potential of our students. I mean, he might have just cast the vision for life going forward at Trinity-Pawling. Incredible stuff!

DL: Indeed, those projects were inspiring. What else struck you as powerful about this Wintersession?

GA: We’re in our third year of the current model of Wintersession — so, this senior class is really the first to run through the whole scope of projects: the Winter Project, the Global Collaborative Challenge, and

the Senior Independent Project. Seeing the fruits of our labor come to fruition is gratifying. Obviously, in the day-to-day, the different activities and the achievement of individuals was really powerful, but, moreover, it was really interesting to see how teachers and students were utilizing the campus spaces. The Dann Building was buzzing, and the Allen Reading and Writing Lab was converted into a building factory. It was great to see the campus alive in so many ways.

DL: That’s great, Gabe. Congrats on the successes of this Wintersession. It must feel really good.

GA: I’m grateful. This was a big step taking on this role. And, while I’m a quiet and gentle soul, I enjoyed the experience of leading a program and really helping develop this model of Wintersession from the ground up. Trinity-Pawling is the right place for my own gifts and talents. That’s incredibly satisfying.

DL: You’re a gift to the community, Gabe! Hey, what do you say, want to go an extra mile or two?

GA: Aww Father, I knew you were going to ask that — this is my second workout of the day. Okay. Let’s do it!

Postscript: On January 16, 2023, I ran into Gabe and he lamented his New Year’s Resolution. Good luck with those planks, Gabe, and everything that comes your way in 2023!

“I’M GRATEFUL. THIS WAS A BIG STEP TAKING ON THIS ROLE. AND, WHILE I’M A QUIET AND GENTLE SOUL, I ENJOYED THE EXPERIENCE OF LEADING A PROGRAM AND REALLY HELPING DEVELOP THIS MODEL OF WINTERSESSION FROM THE GROUND UP.”

THE INSTITUTE FOR CITIZENSHIP

Promoting Global Thinking and Local Action

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Poverty. Gun violence. Women’s rights. Gentri cation. Homelessness. Freedom of speech. Access to clean water. Racial justice. These critical issues impact nearly every community on some level, and as global citizens, we students and adults need to educate ourselves and develop informed viewpoints. However, many of these topics fall between the cracks in a standard curriculum. Fortunately, Trinity-Pawling’s Institute for Citizenship embraces these real-life situations and has developed ways to engage students

in meaningful discussions and activities that help them become informed citizens.

Established in 2021, the Institutes for Active Learning have become an essential element to the Trinity-Pawling experience. The Institutes are geared to stretch the mind and to foster selfawareness through exploration of concepts beyond the textbook. This magazine featured the Institute for Environmental Stewardship in the Spring 2022 issue and the Institute for Leadership in Fall 2022.

Now we spotlight the Institute for Citizenship, overseen by science teacher and athletic trainer Jay Kellogg P’10, ’15, ’23.

Kellogg shared his definition of citizenship in a September 2022 chapel talk. “Citizenship is the quality of an individual’s response to membership in a community. As citizens of Trinity-Pawling, how do each of us make the School a place where we feel welcome, safe, and proud to live?” He encouraged community members to consider citizenship on three levels: local, national, and global. “Decisions made on one part of the planet often impact communities on the other side of the globe. If we neglect to make ourselves aware of problems happening locally, nationally, and globally, we become part of the dilemma. Acknowledging these issues is the first step in becoming engaged global citizens.”

In their September program, the Institute for Citizenship focused on global human rights issues including immigration, diplomacy, environmental resources, tolerance, and poverty. Small groups of students rotated through a series of hands-on activities that ranged from games, collaborative challenges, and computer simulations. The events were designed to help students recognize and challenge stereotypes, inequality, and bias; the underlying themes that emerged centered on the need to protect the rights of all people, regardless of perceived differences.

“Our goal is to expose students to these everyday issues that involve human needs and civil rights,” Kellogg explained. “We have an obligation to educate the boys so they become enlightened citizens ready to care for people, land, and resources.”

The January program challenged students to reflect on controversial national concerns. The faculty and seniors of the Citizenship and Leadership Institutes joined forces and met as a large group of 60 in early December. Together, they generated 30 current issues and whittled that list down to 15 topics that included freedom of speech versus hate speech, gun violence, human trafficking, women’s rights, access to clean water, transgender athletes, gentrification, and Title IX.

“Gentrification? Most 16-year-olds have no idea what that term means, or the far-reaching impact it can

“ We have an obligation to educate the boys so they become enlightened citizens ready to care for people, land, and resources. ”

– JAY KELLOGG, SCIENCE TEACHER, ATHLETIC TRAINER, INSTITUTE FOR CITIZENSHIP LEADER

have on a community,” Kellogg said. “So we introduced the concept and created a safe space for them to explore the issues. They will have to develop opinions on these issues and, hopefully through this Institute, we can equip students with the tools to examine controversial topics in a balanced, respectful way. Parents appreciate that their sons are being exposed to challenging issues, thinking critically, and working together.”

Two faculty and three senior leaders signed up to oversee each of the chosen topics, research the facts and controversies, and develop a 50-minute lesson to share with small groups in mid-January. “The seniors had to become experts on their topic and drive the discussion groups,” Kellogg explained.

Underclassmen were broken into small randomized groups and assigned to discussion groups. Upon conclusion of the sessions, the student body converged in Gardiner Theater for debriefing. A representative from each group stood up and had three minutes to provide an overview of the topic they had discussed and offer major takeaways. In this way, the full student body was able to gain a snapshot of all 15 topics that had been explored that morning.

“I honestly had no idea if this public part of the program was going to work or not,” Kellogg shared. “But the students were awesome. Everyone listened respectfully, clapped for each other, and were really supportive. Standing up and speaking in front of the entire school can be nerve-wracking, but the boys did a great job.”

Subsequent feedback from students was equally positive. “The boys appreciated having the opportunity to discuss topics that fall outside the normal curriculum,” Kellogg said. “They were able to engage in tough, potentially emotional conversations that need to happen. The seniors did a fantastic job conveying the material in a balanced way, with no opinions or political angles. I just wish every student had the chance to participate in all the sessions. I honestly believe we could build a curriculum around each of these issues. There’s no end to the teaching and learning opportunities.”

In late April, the Citizenship Institute orchestrated multiple beautification and spring clean-up projects across campus and at several locations in the village of Pawling. These manual tasks fostered tremendous

pride as each group witnessed the transformative results of their efforts. Raking, mulching, clearing trails, collecting roadside trash, planting saplings and flowers, helping elderly Pawling residents with lawn tasks: perfect examples of local citizenship in action.

Head Prefect Cristobal Tola ’23 says he loves how the Institutes nudge people out of their comfort zones. “Because everything is done in small groups, there’s nowhere to hide or be disengaged. These collaborative activities and discussions provide a chance to learn about ourselves. Underclassmen can bring their unique insights and tap into their own skills to collaborate and problem solve.”

Tola is pleased that the Institutes have become more senior-led. “Teachers start the engine running, but the seniors drive from there. Seniors learn to step up as mentors and take charge in a respectful way.” Furthermore, “the Saturday programs expose us to important concepts across all four Institutes. We’re learning things that matter.”

Shun Shiraishi ’23, also a prefect, agrees that students seem invested in making Saturdays worthwhile. “The primary objective is to challenge the community and provide opportunities for growth and learning beyond the classroom. We’re digging into topics that can be uncomfortable to discuss, but that’s what makes them so important. Most boys are surprised at how much they have learned through the Saturday programming. Seniors are taking ownership of the events, and juniors know that responsibility will

fall on their own shoulders the following year.”

Kellogg admits he was skeptical when Head of School Bill Taylor introduced the concept of the Institutes for Active Learning three years ago. “I was reluctant because I didn’t see how we would find the time to develop this massive program and get students to buy in. But last year was a solid start, and this year has been even better. I’m impressed with how much these programs have evolved from one year to the next.”

That improvement grew from direct faculty input. In-service meetings in early June 2022 allowed the faculty to debrief on the Institutes’ inaugural year and brainstorm ways to improve. Those conversations resulted in more time to plan and execute Saturday events, with smaller group sessions and increased, mentorship-focused involvement of seniors.

“Many of us have been invigorated by the Institutes and can clearly see their potential,” Kellogg summarizes. “We’re proud of the events we’re collaboratively creating, and it’s rewarding to see the boys throw themselves into the process. I only wish we had time to do more activities because there’s no end to the meaningful learning opportunities these Institutes can provide.”

The Peale Foundation

Nurturing Positivity, Hope, and Service Through Philanthropy

By Maria Buteux Reade

Pawling, New York is the home of positive thinking, and that’s not because the community boasts a preponderance of optimists. Rather, that phrase nods to one of the town’s most renowned residents, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, who penned The Power of Positive Thinking: A Practical Guide to Mastering the Problems of Everyday Living in 1952. That guide quickly became an international bestseller with more than five million copies in print, ultimately translated into 40 languages.

“My parents, Norman Vincent Peale and Ruth Stafford Peale, enjoyed a wonderful partnership that resulted in more than five decades of spreading the message of hope and faith to people around the world,” Elizabeth Peale Allen (Liz) says. Liz is Trinity-Pawling’s longest-serving member of the Board of Trustees and served as president from 2003 to 2019. Her father, Dr. Peale, served as pastor of New York City’s Marble Collegiate Church from 1932 until his retirement in 1984. His weekly sermons, masterfully delivered from the pulpit without notes, remain popular today and can be downloaded via an app. Call it portable inspiration for a busy world.

The Peales bought a home on Quaker Hill Road in Pawling in 1944 and spent the next 50 years dividing time between Manhattan and Dutchess County. “We would take the train up from New York on Friday afternoons, spend Saturday in Pawling, then drive back into the city that evening so Dad could preach at Marble Collegiate on

Sunday morning,” Liz recalls with a smile.

Norman and Ruth co-founded the spiritual newsletter Guideposts in 1945, on the second floor above what is now McKinney & Doyle Restaurant in the village of Pawling. “Guideposts began as a single piece of folded paper, essentially a letter that featured first-person stories meant to bring hope, inspiration, and faith into people’s homes and businesses,” Liz explains. “The premise was that if this person could overcome or persevere through his or her challenges, so could the reader.” Guideposts evolved into a powerful publishing house that continues to produce materials including a popular magazine and an annual book of inspirational stories. All Guideposts publications are available on digital platforms.

“Dad was an enormously creative person and a gifted speaker. But Mom was the organizer and behind-thescenes driving force,” Liz adds. “Mom came up with new avenues to reach people and paved the way for Dad

Katie Allen Berlandi P’27 and Liz Peale Allen

to communicate his message of hope and faith through his sermons, motivational speaking, and his books. (Dr. Peale authored more than 45 books over the course of his career.) They were a true team.”

Katheryn Allen Berlandi P’27 (Katie), Liz’s daughter, agrees. “My grandmother was a woman ahead of her time, born in 1906. If she were alive, she would be CEO of something. It’s just amazing what she accomplished in her life. Both Norman and Ruth were innovators and would have embraced social media and digital platforms as a way to meet people wherever they are on their spiritual journeys and as they seek positivity in life.”

The extended Peale family has a rich history of unwavering commitment to service, community, and Trinity-Pawling. Liz Allen has been a trustee of the School since 1978. She also serves as Board Chair of the Blanton-Peale Institute and Counseling Center. Her husband, John M. Allen, was on the Trinity-Pawling Development Committee alongside Peyton Pinkerton ’49. Katie Allen Berlandi is Trinity-Pawling’s Dean of Counseling and sits on the board of Guideposts. “I embraced the field of mental health thanks to the influence of my grandparents,” she says. “There is no

greater way to honor their legacy than to serve others in need.” Katie’s son – Norman and Ruth’s great-grandson – John Stafford Berlandi ’27 completes his eighth-grade year at Trinity-Pawling at the end of May.

Norman and Ruth established the Peale Foundation in 1991, two years before Norman died in 1993. The foundation seeks to empower positive work around the world by providing financial support to organizations whose work aligns with the values, beliefs, and ideals of the founders. “Everything that Norman and Ruth created was all about growth, in personal faith and in service to others,” Katie clarifies. “This family foundation continues my grandparents’ work by helping other organizations with similar visions do their own.”

The foundation sustains itself through proceeds from Dr. Peale’s prodigious written and spoken body of work. The inspirational messages are as relevant today as when he penned, preached, or delivered them on radio or television decades ago. His words encourage people to develop a positive mindset that helps them overcome obstacles and maintain a healthy outlook. In keeping with the times and to extend their reach, as Norman and Ruth would have done, many of the materials are available on digital platforms.

Three directors Foundation, of multi-generations immediate younger generation can join the foundation

Back Row: John Milton Allen, Paul Everett, Margaret Peale Everett, Norman Vi ncent Peale, Ruth Stafford Peale, Lydia Peale, John Stafford Peale

Front Row: Elizabeth Peale Allen, Jennifer Ruth Everett, Rebecca Allen Eh rhardt, Christopher Peale Everett (Chris), Sarah Lacy Peale (Lacy), Katheryn Allen Berlandi (Katie), Charles Clifford Peale (Cliff), Laura Peale Poplack, and Andrew Peale Allen (Andy)

Rebecca, Norman, and

when they turn 21, and all family members are welcome to attend the annual meeting held in June. The three directors are responsible for overseeing the distribution of funds, a required minimum 5% of the total corpus. The major annual fiscal outlay goes directly to four core recipients: Guideposts, the Blanton-Peale Institute and Counseling Center, the Pittsburgh Experiment, and Marble Collegiate Church. Each director has additional discretionary funds to gift to organizations that uphold the Peale Foundation’s mission and criteria. Liz, who serves as one of the three directors, continues to designate Trinity-Pawling as a beneficiary of her discretionary funds. Members 21-years and older also receive an allotted sum of money to donate to worthwhile causes. In this way, extended family members are cultivated in philanthropy, learning to steward annual financial gifts that sustain organizations doing meaningful work.

The Blanton-Peale Institute and Counseling Center, one of the Peale Foundation’s core beneficiaries, was created in 1937 in the depths of the Great Depression. This groundbreaking organization is hailed as the first to merge psychiatry and religion in the service of helping people to heal. The Institute offers psychological training to members of the clergy and other professions. The Counseling Center provides counseling services primarily to assist the diverse population of New York City, particularly the under-served.

Liz has served on Blanton-Peale’s board for more than 20 years, currently as chair. She recounts the history: “Dad didn’t feel he had the technique or knowledge to counsel people affected by the Depression, so he connected with Dr. Smiley Blanton, a psychiatrist from Tennessee, and they became fast friends. Dr. Blanton asked my father, ‘Do you believe in prayer?’ To which my father said ‘Of course I do.’ ‘Well,’ Dr. Blanton continued, ‘I’ve been praying for years that I would find a clergy person whom I could collaborate with to merge

the spiritual with psychology.’ Thus, they formed the Blanton-Peale Institute, and it is still going strong today.”

The Pittsburgh Experiment focuses on marketplace ministry in western Pennsylvania by providing spiritual resources woven into the daily life of people in the workplace. The “PX” encourages small groups to gather for the purpose of sharing one’s faith with the intention of enriching one’s spiritual life. “Essentially, the Pittsburgh Experiment offers a safe and welcome opportunity for people in the workplace to wrestle through personal challenges with the support of others,” Liz explains. “The Reverend Dr. Paul Everett, my sister Maggie’s husband and father of my nephew Chris Everett ’88, served as executive director from 1969 until 1995.” Maggie Peale Everett has remained selflessly dedicated to supporting the Pittsburgh Experiment.

By supporting core institutions including TrinityPawling, and through cultivating a tradition of philanthropy among members of the younger generations, the Peale Foundation is keeping the positive spirit of Norman Vincent Peale and Ruth Stafford Peale alive in thought, word, and deed. Now that’s a message and philosophy to spread.

Back Row: Andy, Jennifer, Rebecca, Cliff, Lacy, Katie, Laura, Chris Front Row: Norman and Ruth

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The Joy Of Giving

SPOTLIGHT ON SENIOR INDEPENDENT PROJECTS

Students in the Class of 2023 have demonstrated spectacular leadership and citizenship this year by fundraising for brain cancer research, ALS research, and many other important causes. Their dedication to serving the common good and making a positive impact in the world is a testament to the values of leadership and citizenship that Trinity-Pawling instills. By focusing their Senior Independent Projects on giving back, these seniors are setting an example for their peers and future generations to follow. It's heartening to see a culture of philanthropy being fostered, as giving back to causes can truly make a difference in the lives of those in need. We applaud these students for their hard work and selflessness, and wish them all the best in their future endeavors.

Walter Goliwas distributed 90 t-shirts to raise awareness of the Hunt of a Lifetime Charity, which provides outdoor adventures for disabled children.

Ethan Fehrenbaker organized the Winter Carnival and raised $1,540 for the Sunrise Day Camp, benefiting children with cancer and their siblings.

Tyler Fogu organized a charity hockey game and raised $2,300 for the Halt ALS organization.

Kristian Komorowski raised $975 for Men’s Mental Health awareness.

Garrett Backus organized a charity football game and raised $5,000 for the Pediatric Brain Cancer Research Foundation.

Alex Anderson collected a year’s worth of school supplies for 20 children in Exuma, Bahamas.

Zack Hios organized a toy drive and collected 50 toys for children in need.

Troy Repaci organized the T-P Lifts contest and raised $650 for brain cancer research.

Ben Calabrese organized a youth lacrosse clinic and raised $3,500 running his clinic for Bronx Lacrosse and kids in need.

Christian Tacogue collected 644 supplies for the Pawling Resource Center.

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2022-2023 SPORTS RECAP

BY KYLE MILLER ’18

SOCCER

The soccer team improved on their record from last year, and although there were ups and downs throughout the season, the team had many great highlights — including pre-season training in Costa Rica at the end of the summer, and an exciting win at home against Canterbury at the end of the season. The team is graduating key seniors Joseph Impellizeri ’23, Hayden Collins ’23, Andrew Belcher ’23, and Shun Shiraishi ’23 and will look to rising senior goalie and captain Maddox Rivera ’24, as well as his cocaptains Gabe Auringer ’24 and Sal Zani ’24, to lead the team to success next season.

MOUNTAIN BIKING

The mountain biking team built on their success from last season and nearly came away with the Founders League title, coming up just short to Hotchkiss. The Pride had a collection of strong riders this year, led by senior Alex Kozin ’23. He finished first in Class A at South Kent on their new trails to start the year. Up-and-coming rider Henry Beimler ’24 came in second at South Kent and will continue his strong riding for the Pride next year. Other senior riders who showed success this year were Hayden Desmond ’23, Rain Xia ’23, and Bryce Tolman ’23.

HOCKEY

Though the hockey team struggled at the beginning of the year, they finished the season with some key wins: one against Kent School, on the road during their senior night, in a 3-2 victory and another against Taft. The team is graduating a heavy load of seniors, including captains Tyler Fogu ’23, Cristobal Tola ’23, Tobias Iantorno ’23, Lucas Buchanan ’23, and Raphael Denis ’23, who will be missed. Up-and-coming juniors Ethan Fehrenbaker ’24, Tanner Duncan ’24, JP Macrigiane ’24, and Ethan Abram-Hale ’24 look to step into leadership roles next season and help the Pride improve as a team.

BASKETBALL

CROSS COUNTRY FOOTBALL

The cross country team had some young runners this year that were able to contribute to the varsity squad. Eighth graders Oliver Denaro ’27 and Jack Fries ’27 ran as the third and fifth runners for the Pride at more than one race and did well. Their effort was commendable this season. Tyler Olson ’25 also had a strong running season this year, coming in the top 10 in a race against Kent and Berkshire.

The Pride had a tough 2022 season, winning only one game, though it was a home game against Kent. The Pride is graduating a core group of seniors in Jalen Greene ’23, Garrett Backus ’23, and Kyle West ’23, but they do have a strong group of returners, as well as some new recruits, hoping to come in and make a positive impact.

The Pride varsity basketball team had an extremely successful season and won the Founders League Championship. They were led by consistent solid play by guards Iverson Plaza ’23 and Vincent Chaudhri ’25. Some key wins for the season included their road win against Taft, 2-point home win against Loomis, and the 76-73 away win against Canterbury. Although many key players are graduating this May (Iverson Plaza ’23, Justin Umunakwe ’23, and Christian Joe ’23), the Pride will see the return of skilled underclassmen Vincent Chaudhri ’25, Ryan Bellamy ’25, and more. Once again, congratulations to the team on winning the Founders League title! Roll Pride!

“WHILE I HAVE HAD TEAMS THAT PRODUCED STRONG RESULTS, THE IMPROVEMENT THESE BOYS MADE OVER THE COURSE OF THE SEASON WAS AS SIGNIFICANT AS ANY I HAVE OBSERVED.”

—HEAD WRESTLING COACH BILL DUNHAM

The wrestling team was young this year, yet the boys stepped up and truly learned how to be their best. They followed senior captain Christian Tacogue ’23, who not only made the New England tournament, but qualified and competed in the Nationals, and posted an undefeated dual meet record. Other noteworthy wrestlers who competed at the Western New England tournament were Joe Tumolo ’25 who placed 2nd, while John Berlandi ’27 and Axel Caramico ’26 each placed 3rd. Maxx Miller ’25, Angus Deely ’24, Bradford Remsburg ’26, Kweku Arthur-Mensah ’25 placed 5th and Asa Caramico ’25 and Grady Collins ’27 placed 6th. The team will certainly miss seniors Christian Tacogue ’23 and Max Camaj ’23.

Roll Pride!

The varsity lacrosse season started down in Florida where the boys took off their heavy winter coats and replaced them with lacrosse pinnies to play in the warm sun. They had a collection of practices and played a couple of games against some tough competition, including IMG, New Hampton, and Pingry, to get them ready for the season. The team was led by seniors Tucker Kellogg ’23, Casey Sodolski ’23, Brayden Lahey ’23, and Landon Whitney ’23. In net, the Pride had three strong goaltenders which helped throughout the season. The team looks to build momentum each year and this was certainly a strong year for the team.

TENNIS

SQUASH

The squash highlights of the season were, as always, the tournaments. The first one was the New England tournament where the team played at Suffield in Division E. The players won matches against Wheeler and lost two very close matches to Suffield and Concord. During the final weekend of the season, the team traveled to Philadelphia for High School Nationals where they played in Division 7 at Springside-Chestnut Hill School and had a great time going 2-2. The team beat Dupont Manual 7-0 and Briarcliff 5-2. All matches were tough, well played affairs. The seniors: Shun Shiraishi ’23 (captain), Travis Dang ’23, Jack Ryan ’23, and Alex Colavecchio ’23 are appreciated for their efforts and leadership. The returning players will work to lead the team to even greater heights next year.

TRACK AND FIELD

The track and field team is continually improving its strength and speed for the runners and throwers. Coach McDougal began work in the Winter Term, setting up a speed school for all student-athletes, but primarily for track athletes. Once a week, Coach McDougal ran the boys through a series of drills, and worked at quick footwork, balance, and reaction times. This helped the runners this spring as they took what they learned and applied it to the track. Each team member has his own set of goals to work towards as the season progresses. Coaches are runner-oriented, rather than result-oriented, and the boys are appreciative of that as they continue to progress as well-rounded athletes.

Members of the golf team all brought their individual gifts and talents to the course this year. Seniors Matt Yamin ’23 and Jon Twaddell ’23 contributed to the team in their own ways, and it will be tough to replace both their skills and character. Up-andcoming players Ethan Fehrenbaker ’24, Josh Huang ’24, and Andrew Hill ’24 played well in multiple tournaments, yet they have big shoes to fill next year. The team is fortunate to play some beautiful courses in the area including Watertown Country Club, Bulls Bridge Country Club, the Hotchkiss School’s home course, and the course at Yale University.

Tennis is a game deeply rooted in the fundamentals. Coach Najman works with the boys on each aspect of the game in order to help them gain confidence in their skills and sportsmanship. Throughout the year, the boys work on footwork, service, net play, forehand and backhand shots, strengthening both their individual and team skills as they step on the court for each match.

GOLF BASEBALL

The Pride baseball season began down south in March, where the team spent a week in Florida. There, they were able to practice in the morning and play games at night, competing against teams from both up north and down south. This exposure helped the boys to see all kinds of pitching and styles of play. Back up north, the team built upon their spring training to compete in a tough Founders League arena — continuing to develop skills and nail down the fundamentals. The boys worked to stay mentally sharp and overall had a successful season.

Dave Rock ’87

BY KYLE MILLER ’18

In downtown Fairfield, Connecticut, on Post Road sits a small ice cream shop. Though not the typical hard or soft ice cream, Dave’s Gourmet Paletas has been serving up gourmet Mexican and Central American-style since 2021. Dave Rock’s shop serves freshly made popsicles in a multitude of different dipping flavors and toppings. They have something for everyone there,

and Rock is the genius mind behind it all. He started the business in 2021 and is constantly looking to expand and engage with more customers. He is currently looking into the option of selling his paletas in the frozen section of supermarkets.

It has not always been sweet for Rock though — and his journey with Paletas only began recently.

Rock has always had a sense of entrepreneurship, even while still in school. Rock graduated from TrinityPawling in 1987 and was aiming to play lacrosse at the next level. He was recruited by Jacksonville University, a small college in northern Florida that was starting up a collegiate lacrosse program. Rock liked the idea of being at the forefront of a new program and so off he went. However, the school had dropped its promise to start the program — Rock, as well as about 40 other lacrosse players, arrived on campus in the fall of 1987 without a team, coach, or program. Rock, however, would soon change that.

At the time, the broken promise for a lacrosse program by the JU athletic department moved into the hands of their admissions team. Once that happened, the admissions team began to take money from their own budget in order to help. When Rock went to the head of the department to voice his frustrations, he was asked to take on the roles of playercoach and head the program — in essence, Rock became the playercoach for the first-ever Jacksonville University club lacrosse team.

He started the lacrosse program, practically by himself, with the help of the money from the admissions budget. It wasn’t long before Rock realized the difficulties of starting

from scratch. He had to design and order jerseys, order nets and balls, and other equipment. He had to have the lines on the field painted to lacrosse measurements, and find referees who were able to officiate a lacrosse game. There were not many lacrosse programs there at the time, if any, so Rock was contacting soccer and football referees in the area to see if they would be interested in learning the rules for lacrosse in order to referee the JU club games.

Even finding teams to play against at that time proved to be difficult. Again, due to the lack of other collegiate programs in the local area, Rock had to call around to find other club teams that would be interested in organizing scrimmages. Eventually, he found other club teams and travel programs that the JU lacrosse team could compete against.

Little did Rock know in that first year how much of an impact it would have on his life later on. When the picture of the team was taken for the yearbook in 1988, the publishers were looking for a quote from Rock about lacrosse. Rock is quoted as saying, “lacrosse is one of the fastest growing sports in America today and hopefully JU’s JAX LAX can become the lacrosse capital of the South,” and it certainly has become one. Both the women’s and men’s programs are ranked in the top 25, and the men’s team has had impressive upsets against powerhouse programs like Duke and Virginia. Rock is proud to support

the team, not just by beginning the program, but also through his philanthropic support.

The latest addition to the Jacksonville lacrosse program is the new Jacksonville University Lacrosse Center, named after Dave Rock, the founder and gracious donor. The $1.8 million state-ofthe-art facility is 8,600 square feet and features 10 offices for coaches, assistants, and staff; a conference room; theater-style film room; men’s and women’s locker rooms; and two large outdoor patios.

Right when you walk in the front doors, you are hit with the sign that says, “Lacrosse Capital of the South,” which is from Rock’s quote in the 1988 yearbook, the inaugural year of the program. Upon seeing it for the first time, Rock can remember thinking, “‘that’s really cool I thought of that back in the day for the yearbook hoping that someday it would be the lacrosse capital of the South, and here it is some 30 years later, and it is.’ Two teams in the top 25 competing with the Dukes and the Marylands of the college world proves they have established themselves.”

Rock and his family are no strangers to the generous support of educational institutions. His late father, Alvah O. Rock ’59, P’87 (Al), Trustee 2000-2017, was, and his mother Susan continues to be a generous supporter of Trinity-Pawling. The Rock family’s generosity is responsible for the Rock Squash Courts in 1999, the Rock Lobby of the Gardiner Theater

in 2004, and they helped endow the Archibald A. Smith III Chair for Mathematics and Science. These significant gifts continue to impact many areas of school life. Now, Al and Susan’s son is continuing in the family tradition of giving back to the schools that helped to shape their lives.

There is no doubt that Rock’s entrepreneurial spirit began when he was putting together the lacrosse team at Jacksonville University, which continues now in his current endeavor in Fairfield, Connecticut.

Rock is still in constant contact with the JU lacrosse teams, and goes to a couple of games each year both men’s and women’s. Now, between being a husband, father, and Paletas restaurant owner, he still finds time to be a proud Jacksonville University lacrosse fan.

Back at Rock’s shop in Fairfield, the most popular flavors are Strawberries and Cream and Cookies and Cream. “It all depends on what you want to do with it. There are 21 different flavors and then you get to pick what you want to dip it in and top it with — there's really endless possibilities and people love it — and I love it.” Rock did not plan on being a Paletas restaurant owner when he was beginning the lacrosse program at Jacksonville University in 1988, and certainly could not have predicted where he is today.

Dave’s Gourmet Paletas can be found at 1492 Post Road, in Fairfield, Connecticut.

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Homecoming and Reunion Weekend

SAVE THE DATE! // SEPTEMBER 22-23, 2023

REUNION 2023 EVENT HIGHLIGHTS

Friday, September 22, 2023

• All-Alumni Welcome Reception

• The Trinity-Pawling Experience Student Panel Presentation

• Student-Led Campus Tours

• Honor Guard Reception – for the Classes of 1948-1973

Saturday, September 23, 2023

• 50th Reunion Dinner

• Distinguished Alumni Awards

• Athletic Hall of Fame Ceremony

• Inaugural Arts Hall of Fame Ceremony

• Alumni Memorial Service in All Saints’ Chapel

• Homecoming Football Game

• All-Alumni Farewell Reception

REGISTER BY AUGUST 31, 2023 FOR EARLY BIRD PRICING!

For more information or to register: VISIT: www.trinitypawling.org/reunion

EMAIL: alumni@trinitypawling.org

CALL: 845-855-4886

Is your son interested in joining Trinity-Pawling? Admissions interviews and tours are available by appointment. Email admissions@trinitypawling.org

“Looking forward to seeing everyone at our 50th in September. For those of you who didn't attend the 40th or 45th, we had a great time led by Chris LaMorte. See you there!”

CHRIS ROUX ’73

CELEBRATING CLASS YEARS ENDING IN 3S AND 8S!

While all alumni are invited back for Reunion Weekend each year, these classes are celebrating milestone reunions:

REUNION CLASSES IN 2023

Join the celebration! Mark your calendars now for a weekend that connects Trinity-Pawling — past and present. Come back to campus, reminisce with old friends, and see what’s new at your alma mater! 2018 –

1973 – 50th

1968 – 55th reunion

1963 – 60th reunion

1958 - 65th reunion

1953 - 70th reunion

1948 - 75th reunion

If you would like to volunteer to serve as a Reunion Chair or on a committee, please email alumni@trinitypawling.org

In it for the Long Run: Reflections of a Class Agent

RICHARD HENDERSON ’71

BY EMMA QUIGLEY

It was 1970 when Richard Henderson’s lifelong love for running first sparked. He was a senior at Trinity-Pawling who, after being the last player cut from varsity soccer, tried out for the varsity cross country team. It didn’t take long for his natural talent to surface. “I started running that fall at T-P,” Henderson began, smiling. “And I never stopped.”

A former prefect, Henderson graduated fifth in his class in 1971 and went on to graduate from Bowdoin College with a degree in classics. At Bowdoin, he ran cross country and indoor/outdoor track for four years, captained the 1974 cross country team, and competed in the first three of his 15 Boston Marathons. Since then, he has run nearly 650 races at the local, state, and national levels, including 39 marathons with a personal best time of 2 hours 39 minutes. Yet even with such an impressive track record,

but passion is most important. I truly love what I do, and that’s the secret. This journey has been a gift and I’m very grateful that I got my start as a runner at T-P.”

Now in his early seventies, Henderson has taken a hard-earned step back from competitive long-distance racing, but he has one run still underway: his over 4 0-year run as a dedicated Class Agent at Trinity-Pawling.

The primary responsibility of a Class Agent is to foster alumni relationships and strengthen financial support for the School. For Henderson, it’s also about preserving and celebrating TrinityPawling’s history — the people, the places, and the experiences — while enhancing and solidifying its future.

“The role of the Class Agents has evolved so much over the years, but our collective focus has stayed the same: future of Trinity-Pawling,” shared. “Cultivating rallying financial support building excitement for other events…so many role are important. It’s an back to Trinity-Pawling in When it comes to T-P, I’m in it long run,” he quipped.

September 2022, Henderson 15 other members of the Class of 1971 returned to campus to celebrate their long-awaited 50th reunion, which was delayed due to pandemic. On Friday evening of Reunion Weekend, Henderson’s classmates surprised him with an

award for his extraordinary work as a Class Agent. The engraved inscription on the crystal trophy reads: “Awarded to Richard Everett Henderson ’71, for your loyal dedication and unwavering commitment to the Class of 1971 and Trinity-Pawling School for the past 50 years.”

“I was speechless and genuinely moved. To be recognized by my classmates in that way meant so much to me. It reminded me why I do what I do as a Class Agent to foster those deep connections in the Trinity-Pawling family. That’s what we are, a family. It was a moment I will never forget.”

For Henderson, serving as a Class Agent for the last 40 years has been much like running a marathon. It takes preparation to plan, strategize, and communicate with classmates; perseverance to stay focused when challenges inevitably arise; and most of all: “Passion. Passion for the brotherhood we’ve built and for the continued success of the School that shaped us.”

Now, as he laces up for the 42nd year in his Class Agent run, we extend our heartfelt gratitude to Richard for his exceptional service and ongoing commitment — and for always going the extra mile for Trinity-Pawling.

Interested in joining the team of Class Agents at Trinity-Pawling? Reach out to alumni@trinitypawling.org to get started.

The world needs great men!

As we share in this magazine, examples abound of how you, our alumni, improve your communities:

• Rallying your classmates in a shared love for the School;

• Serving your country and using your gifts and talents to improve humankind;

• Supporting your communities as dedicated philanthropists;

• Mentoring future generations in the sports they love;

• Leaving life-changing legacies.

These are just some of the ways Trinity-Pawling alumni are essential citizens in our global community.

The world needs Trinity-Pawling men!

Your gift to Trinity-Pawling makes our transformational experience possible, allowing young men to discover how to use their distinctive gifts and talents to better their families, communities, and the world. Contribute today at www.trinitypawling.org/give or via the envelope in the back of this magazine.

THANK YOU!

Billy Cartier ’89 and Felipe ‘Flip’ Suarez ’03 ADVENTURES WITH BILLY

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

When Flip Suarez thinks back to his friendship with Billy Cartier, he remembers adventures. Rollerblading, bowling, visiting museums and zoos, exploring Central Park, going to movies and concerts. “Billy opened my eyes to worlds I knew existed but had never experienced,” Suarez says.

Suarez and Cartier connected in 1997 when Suarez was in eighth grade. Considered a high-risk student with a challenging background, Suarez was guided to a Big Brothers/Big Sisters program. Cartier was three years out of Boston University and working at Prudential Securities in Manhattan. The president of the company encouraged his young brokers to participate in Big Brothers/Big Sisters, and the ever-social C artier leapt at the opportunity. “Billy had a heart of gold and would do anything to help someone out,” Suarez adds.

The two paired up, and a genuine, mutual friendship evolved that lasted through Suarez’s senior year. Cartier had taken Suarez to visit colleges during the fall of 2001, and on one trip, he stopped by Trinity-Pawling to show Suarez his alma mater.

Tragically, Cartier died in a ski accident three months later in Alta, Utah on December 16, 2001. To honor Cartier’s memory and in true Trinity-Pawling fashion, then-Headmaster Arch Smith paved the way for Flip Suarez to attend as a postgraduate. Friends of the extended Cartier family were invited to send gifts to Big Brothers/Big Sisters and Trinity-Pawling. The ou tpouring of support led Cartier’s mother, Pooh Lockwood, to establish the William B. Cartier ’89 Memorial Scholarship. Working in tandem with the Office of Advancement, Lockwood has remained actively involved

in philanthropic efforts that sustain the scholarship, one of the School’s largest, with the highest number of contributions over the past 21 years, enabling nine subsequent students to attend Trinity-Pawling.

“This scholarship allows our family and friends to give back and provide opportunities for other young men from less-privileged backgrounds to attend TrinityPawling,” Lockwood explains. “Billy was full of life and a people-person. He loved working with kids and with his peers in AA, which he joined in 1996. He wanted to give back to his broad community, and he developed a terrific following of people whom he befriended. He was all about mentoring others.”

Suarez concurs. “Billy met me at my level and empathized with my personal struggles. He supported me entirely and never judged me. He helped me straighten out certain parts of my life. He taught me I could control my actions, and he gave me the tools I needed to get myself up and out of bad situations. In his own way, Billy taught me to keep my commitments and to develop self-discipline. Those traits were further cemented by my postgraduate year at Trinity-Pawling.”

Suarez lives in Saratoga Springs, New York, where he works as a software quality assurance analyst with Underwriters Laboratory. He and his wife, Rachel, a physician’s assistant, have two sons: Owen, 6, and Lucas, 3.

“Billy changed my life, and I’m grateful for the five years I had with him. He was curious, open-minded, and caring. He invested in me. His mom is like a second mother to me to this day. I wouldn’t be where I am today if Billy hadn’t been my mentor.”

Billy Cartier ’89

Billy and Flip Flip Suarez ’03 with his family

Sally McElwreath Callo and Joe Callo ’48

SERVICE TO COUNTRY, LOYALTY TO SCHOOL

BY MARIA BUTEUX READE

Joe Callo and Sally McElwreath Callo come from families with a history of military service. Joe’s father served in the Marine Corps in World War I, Sally’s uncles and brothers in the Army and Marines. “Serving in the military in some way, not necessarily as a career, was what you did back then,” Joe explained. Sally added, “My family saw it as a way of paying back for all the opportunities America had offered my family,” noting that her grandparents came to the United States from China in the 1930s. Both Joe and Sally served in the U.S. Navy, though each took a different path there.

Joe spent a postgraduate year at Trinity-Pawling, a member of the first class that graduated upon the School’s re-opening in 1947 after World War II. He loved his year in Pawling and particularly enjoyed participating in football, basketball, and track and field. In fact, he found TrinityPawling through his high school track coach who wisely suggested that a postgraduate year would help Joe gain admission to Yale. It did.

At Yale, Joe joined the Naval Reserve Officers Training Corps (NROTC) and was commissioned as an ensign on the day he graduated in 1952. Joe spent two years at sea as an officer on the USS Sarasota. “At 22, I was often fully responsible for the ship and her people. I had to rely on my leadership and communication skills which were tested daily. It was a maturing experience to be sure.”

He remained active as a reservist for the following 33 years, as a public affairs specialist. He retired in 1987 as a Rear Admiral. “I was sent all over the world to take care of particular situations. As a reservist, you go where the Navy

needs you.” Simultaneously, Joe worked at and eventually ran his own advertising agency. Over the years, he also became a renowned naval historian with five books to his credit; a college professor; and an award-winning television producer and screenwriter. “Life is about what you do with your knowledge, and it should be dedicated to improving humankind.”

Sally enjoyed a highly successful career as a corporate communications strategist for major energy and utility companies and two airlines. Her responsibilities included serving as spokesperson in critical events such as a hijacking and issues concerning aircraft safety. Her expertise in crisis communications garnered the attention of the U.S. Navy who sought her out and offered a direct commission in the Naval Reserve in 1973. Sally spent 27 years as a public affairs officer and communications specialist, retiring as Captain in 2000.

There’s no end to Joe and Sally’s contributions to all things maritime. They remain deeply involved in various naval and maritime organizations in the United States and the United Kingdom. Sally serves as a trustee of the National Maritime Historical Society (NMHS), and she and Joe founded the American Friends of the National Museum of the Royal Navy. Sally directed the USS New York Commissioning Committee in 2009, overseeing fundraising and orchestrating ceremonial aspects for the ship constructed with steel from the fallen World Trade Center. She also co-founded the US Naval Personnel Education Assistance Program.

In October 2022, longtime friend of the Callos, Trinity-Pawling Board

President Erik K. Olstein ’86, P’11, P’14, P’17 presented the NMHS 2022 David A. O’Neil Sheet Anchor Award to Joe and Sally in recognition of their important work as NMHS global ambassadors and on behalf of the naval and maritime heritage communities. “They are t he epitome of excellence, grace, and humility… and the personification of selfless service,” Olstein stated with admiration.

Joe and Sally express sincere gratitude for the academic institutions that shaped them and laid the groundwork for their success. Sally earned her bachelor's and master’s degrees in communications from Pace University. Joe describes his postgraduate year at Trinity-Pawling as transformative. “So many factors came together that led me to Trinity-Pawling and thus to Yale and the Navy. If any one piece were removed, my life would have followed a very different path.”

To reflect this gratitude, Joe worked with the Office of Advancement to establish a planned gift. “It was a natural choice,” Joe said. “I was taught that you pay back for what you received. Trinity-Pawling opened my eyes to a whole new world and gave me structure and challenges, including top-rate academics and playing sports at a highly competitive level.”

Sally concurs. “Trinity-Pawling looks at and educates the whole person. Joe hopes his gift will allow future students to take advantage of all that the School offers. This is our way of giving back and thanking the School.”

For more information on Joe Callo ’48’s award-winning articles and books, visit www.josephcallo.com

upcoming events

JOIN THE CELEBRATIONS!

LET'S CONNECT WITH OLD FRIENDS AND NEW, AS WE CELEBRATE TRINITY-PAWLING SCHOOL!

We want to see you, so mark your calendars today for these dates:

Homecoming and Reunion Weekend

September 22-23, 2023

Trinity-Pawling Campus

Parents’ Weekend

October 20-21, 2023

Trinity-Pawling Campus

Admissions Open House

October 28, 2023

Trinity-Pawling Campus

Boston Holiday Reception

December 4, 2023 | 6:00-8:00 PM

Harvard Club of Boston

374 Commonwealth Avenue, Boston, MA

Hosted by Peggy and Phil Haughey ’53

Candlelight Service for Parents and Community

December 10, 2023 | 5:00 PM

Service held in All Saints’ Chapel followed by Reception

at Gamage House

Hosted by Head of School Bill Taylor and Jennifer Taylor

New York City Holiday Reception

December 11, 2023 | 6:00-8:00 PM

Union Club of New York City

101 East 69th Street, New York, NY

Hosted by Jean Doyen de Montaillou and Michael Kovner ’58

Palm Beach Reception and Golf Outing

March 19, 2024

Hosted by Dick Bauer ’70

New York City Spring Reception

April 11, 2024

Hosted by Polly and Mike Brandmeyer P’25

For more event details and registration, please visit: trinitypawling.org/events

To receive details about forthcoming events by mail or email, please submit your updated contact information at: trinitypawling.org/update

Questions? Reach out to Jenna Jonke at jjonke@trinitypawling.org or 845-855-4886.

All events are subject to change.

class notes

Gil Lamb

I am writing this class note to show I am still alive. I am now a caregiver for my wife, Linda, which is a challenge. I think we were a class of about 42 and only about 8 still going; not good odds in the survivorship for us turning 88 soon.

We had the joy of attending our granddaughter’s wedding in July, and our grandson got his wings and 1st Officer rank to start flying people for SkyWest Airlines. Our third and last granddaughter is 13 and, of course, above average: plays the piano, bakes cookies, cakes, and bread from memory, no recipes! Our three girls are still married to the same men they took their vows with. We are blessed. I also give some of my RMD as a charitable gift to T-P. How about the rest of my classmates? Have a good 2023 to all!

coaching chair had been established in my name to be awarded to the boys varsity soccer coach. The second photo is of me and 1956 classmate, John Salaverry, in front of the tree he donated. It was taken on the Saturday morning of the September Reunion Weekend just before the Chapel Memorial Service, during which I was awarded the Distinguished Alumni Award — for which I am both humbled and very grateful.

Stuart Dempsey

Paula and I are enjoying a very happy life together in Lakewood, Florida. I am due to retire from Lincoln Financial Advisors this March and then we will be visiting family in France and elsewhere. Favorite pastime is kayaking with the alligators. Would love to catch up with classmates and trade tales about our time at T-P.

Michael Anthony Kovner

Robert H. Yunich

New York City is back to almost normal. Lately, we have been to two New York Philharmonic concerts, The Piano Lesson and Top Dog/Under Dog on Broadway and Where the Mountains Meet the Sea off-Broadway. We’ll see more concerts and shows in the next few months. We spent a weekend in October in Boston to visit with my son and his wife, who live in Stoughton, MA. Thoroughly enjoyed the T-P reception in December in NYC. Hope to see more classmates in future years.

I continue spending more time doing volunteer work: I am a member of the Executive Committee of the New York State Council of Trout Unlimited. Trout Unlimited is the premier national coldwater fisheries conservation nonprofit with over 300,000 members, each belonging to one of nearly 400 chapters. There are 36 state councils that govern the chapters within each state. In New York, there are over 26 chapters with 9,000 members. I was recently promoted to Vice President for Advancement. I am charged with reinvigorating a dormant fundraising program, crafting donor solicitation and retention strategies, and helping to grow the organization.

Hosted the Trinity-Pawling Christmas reception at the Union Club in New York City. Wishing a Happy New Year to my fellow board members, alumni, and T-P colleagues and community!!

Roy Schubert

A plaque for a new soccer scoreboard on the boys soccer field at Hotchkiss was dedicated in my name in late October. About 50-60 former captains and players, co-coaches, colleagues, and other friends attended. Following the dedication and soccer game, there was a reception at which a number of very nice tributes were made and it was announced that an endowed

This autumn we welcomed our first greatgrandchild, Oakley. I never expected this to happen in my life. Joy!

I was re-elected in July for another threeyear term as a Trustee of The New York Youth Symphony (NYYS). In the middle of the pandemic, the NYYS Orchestra, consisting of 87 musicians, the music director serving as the conductor and a soloist, recorded an album. Easy sounding, right? No! Due to COVID protocols, everyone was never in the same room, forcing the team to band together. The album included six rarely-heard pieces that celebrated the compositional voices of black women. The album was finally released in April 2022, debuting at #2 and reaching #1 in the Orchestral PerformanceClassical category. If this wasn’t enough, the album became one of five nominees for a Grammy Award. The website is nyys.org.

I’m now in my ninth year as a financial coach with the Community Service Society of New York. I have been helping people in one-on-one meetings resolve problems with adverse credit reports, stifling amounts of credit card debt, default judgments arising from delinquent debt obligations, and the quagmire around crippling payments of

Dave Coughlin

outstanding student loans. During this time, I have helped more than 350 people. We escape on weekends to our second home in New York’s Delaware County hamlet of Andes. Joanne and I plan to spend our wedding anniversary in London in midMay 2023 (45 Years) and celebrate my 80th birthday at Tanglewood in August. I also have scheduled two fly-fishing trips in a drift boat on the upper Delaware River that flows on the New York and Pennsylvania borders. Life continues to be very good. I wish that 2023 will be a wonderful and prosperous year for everyone.

William Danner

Rode a horse for the 2,360th consecutive day on 12-31-22 (and counting).

Robert Edie

Robert Edie is happily retired in Malibu, California!

David Lott

Bruce Foulke

After producing/recording over 60 albums for many independent record companies I have released a recording called Frozen Smoke where I recorded with some of my favorite musicians pre-COVID. I finally finished it up and put it up on the web: bruce.foulke.hearnow.com

I’m retired and living on the coast of Connecticut with my architect wife and I fully expect to make tens of dollars from the downloads of this recording, which will help to keep me here! A special shout-out to Steve Hannock and Jerry Ade who (as it appears in the 1968 yearbook) were behind me all the way in making music at T-P!

Tom Gilmour

I founded that provides music opportunities for underserved youth. In addition, I serve on the Board of the Monmouth Ocean Develop Council and grade grants for the NJ Department of Tourism. Patti and I are permanent residents of Asbury Park and are enjoying living on the Jersey Shore. The city is full of great music venues and wonderful restaurants. My three children are all grown, all employed, have their own homes, own insurance, and finally their own cell plans. We are blessed with six wonderful grandchildren and another little girl coming in March. I love being “GPa.” Each day is a new day, make the most of it!

Alexander “Hendy” Webb

I became the Bishop of my Diocese on Sunday, January 1. Previously I had been the assistant to my previous bishop. More authority, more responsibility!

Bruce Birns

Greetings from Asbury Park! Update way overdue: Three years since the T-P 50th reunion!

I returned to my tennis roots this year and spent a week with my significant other at the French Open in Paris. It had been 39 years since my last stint at the tournament when I was the Executive Editor for World Tennis Magazine. The year was 1983 and Frenchman Yannick Noah won the men’s title with his father looking on. It was the last major crown to be won by a wood racket. Chris Evert won her fifth French Championship on the women’s side. We also attended the US Open in September for half a Grand Slam. In other news, I have two grandchildren, Hadley (6) and Millie (1), and my real estate firm where I am the Principal Broker/Owner, Vineyard Open House Real Estate, celebrates its 10th year next year from its location on Martha’s Vineyard. Read the article I wrote for the Vineyard Gazette about the French Open here: https://vineyardgazette.com/ news/2022/06/30/return-roland-garros

My life continues with some new curveballs. The recent pandemic forced me to choose between unemployment and retirement. My 20-year career in economic redevelopment came to an abrupt end. I was working for the City of Trenton, New Jersey’s capital city, whose economy disappeared when 20,000 state employees stopped coming to the city every day. Most businesses closed their doors. Prior to that, I had a great 15-year run in reviving the music city of Asbury Park, NJ. I chose to retire. Two months after that, I was diagnosed with a rare type of Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. After 8 months of mixed treatments of chemo, I was cancer clean! I have great doctors and today’s medicines are a major improvement over chemo treatments from nine years ago. I am not cured, but if it shows up again, we know how to get rid of it. My body is still recovering, but all is well. I am forever grateful for all the people who were supporting and praying for me. Moving forward, I am trying to figure out what retirement is all about. I am doing pro bono development work for the Asbury Park Music Foundation, a nonprofit

Mike Tandy, Bruce Birns, and Alan Anderson, core members of the Class of ’70 are getting a “slight” head start on their 55th class reunion, poolside in Delray Beach. Lifelong friends, thrilled to relive the iconic events of our senior year: Neil Armstrong’s moon walk, Woodstock, Mets and Jets winning the World Series and Super Bowl, and of course Kent State. Bonded by T-P and history forever.

Alex Hilton

The FGGA “Fighting Gentlemen’s Golf Association” will hold its inaugural annual golf tournament in Scottsdale, AZ on 3/30/23, 3/31/23 and 4/1/23. Entry for 2023 play is sold out. Contact Alex Hilton ’71 for details of the 2023 event and to be added to the contact list for our next event. Email: bklawokc@gmail.com Phone: 405-625-1525

Chris LaMorte

Mike Waller

I have been named Interim Head of School at Holy Trinity Episcopal School where I have been teaching and serving as Assistant Head of School for the past 5 years. The appointment is for the 2023-2024 school year while the Board of Trustees does a search for a permanent Head of School.

Brian Desrosier

Hey Fellow 73ers,

So psyched for the 50th. Spoke to Dave Hoos, had coffee with Don Hunt (Hunt is the perfect last name for him. I have been trying to track him down for 5 decades.)

They both said they would be coming. Had lunch with the Lovisas in their new Pocono home. Sent reservation for the Lake Chalet. Hope to see every one of you September 22, 23, 24. Until then…all the best!!!!

- LaMorte

Ken Lovisa

Susan and I sold our home of 30-something years in Salt Lake City in June. We purchased a travel trailer and lived in it for about 4 months. We had a wonderful memorable trip traversing the country on our way to the Pocono Mountains of Pennsylvania. Once here, we looked at 30 or more houses before selecting one and moved in right before Thanksgiving. We are in a very nice community called Pocono Mountain Lake Estates in Bushkill, PA. It is very close to the Delaware Water Gap National Recreation Area and about three miles from Bushkill Falls. We love our new home here complete with a stream in the yard, a forest preserve on our property border, and abundant wildlife. Our new address is 1159 Pocono Mountain Lake Drive, Bushkill, PA 18324.

Chris Roux

I retired in April 2021 and moved to Pawleys Island, SC. Also, have a place near the Ahrensfelds in Harwichport, MA. Looking forward to seeing everyone at our 50th in September. For those of you who didn’t attend the 40th or 45th, we have had a great time led by Chris LaMorte. See you there!

May was a big month! My son Brian ’09 and his wife Kelly delivered grandbaby Madison. Then, my company Lighthouse Technology Partners was acquired by a very large private equity outfit. I’m now a Medicare card-carrying retiree! In September, my daughter Nicole will be married to Collin O’Meara. I’m counting my blessings and looking forward to the upcoming Homecoming.

Cal

Stempel

David C. Genter

Our oldest son and former T-P student (grades 8 and 9) Alex began his freshman year at High Point University where he is studying business. Alex graduated from The Tatnall School in Wilmington, Delaware in 2022 after working through the summer of 2020, during the pandemic, to move up to grade 11 (from 9th). Alex excelled in soccer and walked on to their varsity team as first goalie and was elected Second AllConference in his DIAA division.

James Hansen

I’m now living in Florida, still writing residential and commercial mortgage deals down here and in New York.

After 103 years in business, I decided to close my manufacturing business and start a new chapter in my life. Photo is David Hobbs, TJ Cready, David Genter, Geep Oliver, and Wally Danforth celebrating the holidays in Pittsburgh.

Gary

Fung

We buried our old friend and classmate Scott Seckel ’84 last weekend in Sag Harbor more specifically, Elizabeth A. Morton National Wildlife Refuge. Scott loved the outdoors and this was his hometown. Bob Morrissey ’84, Sacha Gredrinsky ’84, Chris Salz ’84, and I attended. We celebrated his life afterwards. We plan to meet again and bury the rest of his ashes in November, somewhere in the Arizona desert outside of Phoenix, his adopted home. Photo is Gary Fung, ’84, Bob Morrissey ’84, Sacha Gredrinsky ’84, and Chris Salz ’84.

Kirk Vartan

In May 2022, we lost a friend, Scott Seckel. We all loved Scott’s larger-than-life attitude towards life. He made every reunion, booked rafting trips, and took life head on — no apologies. His love of writing can be found in his articles and books, a profession he continually credited T-P in preparing him for. Last month, a small group of us attended a celebration of life at his house in Phoenix. Bob Morrissey, Kirk Vartan, Micah Chase, Sean Gallagher, Carrie Rollings Meynet, and JC Meynet are pictured here. We love you Scott, and you will continue to inspire us even though you are gone. And ’84 continues to respect and cherish the bonds we formed at T-P — see you in ’24.

Michael Quartararo

Was able to spend some time with Chris Gaylord ’84, Rynard Gundrum ’84, Jeff Steele ’85, and Michael “Findog” Findlay ’85 in Vermont. It was great to catch up with these guys (thanks to Gaylord). Go Big Blue!

Jim Elia

Moved to South Carolina from New Jersey anybody down in the Aiken, SC area, look me up!

Erik Olstein ’86

Bill Glover

Board President Erik Olstein ’86, P’11,’14,’17 and David Grum ’78 recently reconnected while attending a panel discussion on Italian Impressionist Guiseppe De Nittis at The Phillips Collection in Washington, D.C.

Marc Rice

The eldest daughter is in her second year at the University of Chicago. The youngest daughter is a sophomore at the Kent School.

Update to “Class Notes” Fall 2022: David “Jerry” Wechsler ’97 and Samantha were married in New York City on July 30, 2022 at Bryant Park.

JC Green

2022 has been an amazing year. As I mentioned in a previous update, I started a new job in January with Intercity Lines, doing enclosed automobile transportation. I have had the ability to see parts of the country I’ve never seen before while doing a job I love. It’s been an awesome experience so far and I really feel like I’ve found the job I’ll retire from.

In July, my wife Alex informed me she was pregnant with our third child and in October we found out it would be another girl — she is due to arrive in early March 2023. Our son Ryan and daughter Adeline are both extremely excited about their new sibling and can’t wait to meet her.

The last few years have surely been a whirlwind for the Green family with job promotions, getting married in December of 2020, getting a dog, and most recently welcoming our beautiful little girl Brinley into the world. It’s always great to see what everyone is up to from T-P and we would love to get back to visit sometime soon.

This year, I also got to reconnect with my Great Uncle Alexander “Van” Van Rensselaer (Class of ’52). While he’s always been part of my life, especially during my years at Trinity-Pawling, it was nice to see him and my Great Aunt Sallie on multiple occasions throughout the past year. The whole family is looking forward to our next chapter in 2023. Hope you all had a great holiday season and hope your 2023 is filled with happiness, good health, and lots of laughter.

Myself and classmates Cam Church and Clay Sapp got together for dinner at my home in Dallas before the Christmas holiday.

Geoff Fitzgerald

Bryan Tolley

Adam Gardner

Adam was on the coaching staff for Team Canada U21, coaching 18 players and representing 5 different nations at the World Championships in Limerick, Ireland. The team took home the silver medal!

Photo of Adam with former player Aiden Fearn of Haudenosaunee. Canada 11 Haudenosaunee 2 Jamaica 2

Hong Kong 1 Nederlands 1

class notes

Scot Lawson

In July, my wife Ava and I welcomed our first child Asher William McCartney. We’re excited for our second calendar year as a family of three.

Mickey Carroll

2012

2022 |

This past year, I have moved to Charleston, SC and have gotten engaged to my fiancé Nicole. I am still in software sales full time, while simultaneously running my nonprofit in South Africa, called Soldiers for Wildlife, which is focused on wildlife conservation and community outreach.

Sean’s son Declan Jax Michie was born on 8/20/2021!

2015

Chris Drysdale

The first week of November, I was able to qualify for PGA Tour Latino America by coming in 5th place out of 110 players. One month later, I traveled to Argentina for two weeks and Chile for one week to play in the first three events of the season, making 2 out of 3 cuts to earn full status for the entire 11-event season in 2023. I will spend the majority of 2023 traveling around South America. Coming out of T-P, I had no college offers to play golf but knew I wanted to play at the highest level. This is proof that no matter where you start or come from, you can achieve anything if you’re willing to put in the work.

Mid-January in NYC, Colleen Dealy had the pleasure of hosting four Trinity-Pawling Class of ’22 graduates for lunch at her apartment. Over their meal, the group exchanged thoughts on the nation’s current state and how Trinity-Pawling had prepared them for college. Each grad said he was well prepared for his first year of university but missed the collegiality of an all-boys school.

Kyle Tyll

Former faculty member Bill Casson was working at a Luke Bryan concert in Ft. Myers in November 2022 and was standing next to a guy he thought he recognized. Turns out it was Kyle Tyll ’05! Bill and Kyle both live in Florida now.

Daniel McCartney

Rob MacGregor

Photo of Pete MacGregor ’03, Peter MacGregor P’03, P’07, P’09, Rob MacGregor ’09, and Gordon MacGregor ’07

Robert Sean Michie

My fiancé and I welcomed our new baby boy Troy Lawson into the world on December 13, 2022.

Colleen Dealy, Former Staff Member and Starr Hall Dorm Parent

Photo of Tony Gao ’22 (Bowdoin), Tjende Djibo ’22 (Marist), Colleen Dealy, Heiner Badilla Sanchez ’22 (Clark), and Francisco Bendezu ’22 (Princeton).

in memoriam

We extend our heartfelt sympathy to the families of these Trinity-Pawling and Pawling School alumni.

Rev. Fred. C. Cartier ’59, P’94

October 21, 2022

Red Hook, NY

Mr. Robert E. Preston ’59

November 27, 2022

Richmond, VA

Mr. Daniel F. Wettlin III ’64

December 5, 2022

Bartlesville, OK

Mr. Thomas B. Slocum, Jr. ’66

October 31, 2022

Hobe Sound, FL

Mr. Stephen R. Salata, Jr. ’68

October 26, 2022

Waterville, NY

Mr. Timothy F. Henningsen ’79

November 11, 2022

Wexford, PA

Mr. Scott Taliaferro ’83

July 18, 2022

Baltimore, MD

Mr. James J. Cuddy ’84

September 13, 2022

Mount Kisco, NY

Mr. Bradford F. Russell ’90

September 15, 2022

Endicott, NY

Mr. Christopher E. Tschupp ’90

October 26, 2022

Red Bank, NJ

Mr. Eric M. Baker ’01

November 1, 2022

Long Branch, NJ

We also offer our warmest condolences to the families of these former faculty, parents, and friends of Trinity-Pawling School.

Mrs. Fayne M. Daniels GP’02

January 5, 2023

Pawling, NY

Mrs. Eliza Fletcher

September 6, 2022

Memphis, TN

Mr. Leslie Heerdt P’02

July 23, 2021

Big Rock, IL

Mrs. Barbara D. Hickey P’81

August 12, 2022

Boise, ID

Mr. Charles S. Hoffman P’86

February 3, 2022

St. Simons Island, GA

Mrs. Cynthia D. McEvoy P’13

November 10, 2022

St. Augustine, FL

Mr. James A. Muncey GP’09, GP’11

October 15, 2021

Wingdale, NY

Mr. L. Anthony Pace P’22

February 8, 2022

New York, NY

Mr. Leonard S. Platt, Jr. P’83

January 2, 2023

Hobe Sound, FL

Ms. Karen Presser

December 10, 2022

Pawling, NY

Mr. H. Stephen Rickert GP’16, GP’19

January 3, 2023

Evergreen, CO

Mr. John A. Rolls P’93

August 25, 2022

Armonk, NY

Mrs. Willou Smith P’87

May 9, 2022

St. Simons Island, GA

Mr. Bernard Tyll GP’05

January 10, 2023

Naples, FL

This list includes the individuals whose deaths were reported to the Office of Advancement prior to January 20, 2023.

from THE archives

A Legacy of Community Engagement

BY MEGAN BURLINGTON

Phil and Holly Smith, Headmaster and first lady of Trinity-Pawling from 1970 to 1990, were intentional in their e orts to establish ties between the School and the town of Pawling. Their outreach began with allowing the Pawling Youth Hockey program to have ice time in Tirrell Hockey Rink. This then expanded to their o ering Trinity-Pawling’s fields to youth soccer and the track to all citizens. The Smiths also supported the Pawling Concert Series, never missing a performance and hosting receptions for concertgoers at Gamage House.

Holly received the Dunbar Award for Service in 1990 at Phil’s final commencement as Headmaster, while her successor Gay Smith received it upon thenHeadmaster Arch Smith’s retirement in 2015. While this award is given in recognition of an individual’s contributions to the Trinity-Pawling community, all of the Smiths’ service extends to the greater Pawling community. Phil served as Vice President and then President of the Pawling Rotary Club, hosting many rotary events on campus. In February 1976, he and Holly hosted George Washington’s Birthday Ball with a reception at Gamage House followed by dinner and dancing in the dining hall when Pawling celebrated the Bicentennial.

Arch served on the boards of several local organizations during his years in Pawling, including the Holiday Hills YMCA, the Pawling Youth Soccer Club, and the Pawling Savings Bank. Gay was a member of the Pawling Garden Club and began inviting neighbors to an annual Christmas party on campus, who enjoyed and looked forward to ringing in the holiday season alongside the School’s faculty and sta .

The wife of our current Head of School, Jennifer Taylor, continues this tradition of service with her involvement with the Pawling Rotary, the Pawling Community Foundation, and the Pawling Resource Center. She also contributed her time and talents to the Pawling Library’s Centennial Gala in 2022. Head of School Bill Taylor and Jennifer include local community members in their holiday gatherings at Gamage House as Gay and Arch did before them.

Phil’s philosophy was that “we are a large, taxexempt property inside the town limits. We have a moral imperative to give back. It’s part of being a good citizen. And though we don’t mention it much, it does serve as a good example of citizenship to students.”

Left to right:

Former Headmaster Arch Smith, Gay Smith, former Board President Richard Colhoun P’70, ’72, Holly Smith, and former Headmaster Phil Smith

end note

Dr. Marilyn Lashlee P’25, DNP, CPNP-PC, RN — A Wellness Warrior

BY EMMA QUIGLEY

Backed by a 20-year career as a pediatric oncology nurse, primary caregiver, and college professor, Dr. Marilyn Lashlee first joined the Trinity-Pawling community in the spring of 2020, in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic. What started out as a per diem job in the health center, helping out wherever she was needed, quickly blossomed into an exciting new chapter in Lashlee’s career as a healthcare provider. Now, as the Director of the Health and Wellness Center on campus, Lashlee leads her small but mighty team with poise and professional calm as they care for the Trinity-Pawling community.

What drew you to join a boarding school community, and specifically, Trinity-Pawling?

I can still remember driving by the School when my husband, Michael, and I first moved to the Pawling area all those years ago. I said, ‘if we have a son, I want him to go there one day.’ And here we are! Trinity-Pawling is such a positive place — Jack’s ’25 experience as a student has been fantastic, and I knew working here would be the same. Truly, this is one of my favorite jobs of my career.

Tell us about the growth of the Health and Wellness Center over the years.

Since I joined in 2020, we’ve expanded quite a bit, adding a few more staff members and medical assistants. Our team is phenomenal and its growth has allowed us to expand our services and provide more specialized healthcare right on campus. We’ve also forged a partnership with Mount Saint Mary’s pediatric nursing program, and in the fall, we helped to organize Trinity-Pawling’s first-ever Health and Wellness Fair. We’re always looking for new opportunities to connect with the boys and help them prioritize their own wellness.

What aspect of your job do you enjoy the most?

Interacting with the boys. Adolescence is an incredible time in life that offers many opportunities for positive development. Students need an investment from the adults around them to support and guide them, and teach them important life skills. I’m honored to be a part of that process here.

Tell us about the Future Health Professionals Club on campus.

The healthcare field is much broader than many people realize. Tami Harrah and I started the club to open students’ eyes to all of the possibilities — which is important as they gear up for their college and career decisions. We have 11 members this year, and the boys have worked to set up a CPR certification course for students on campus and a Q&A panel of healthcare professionals. It’s great to see their enthusiasm about health and wellness and share it with the rest of the community.

What makes you proud to be both a healthcare provider and parent at Trinity-Pawling?

The School’s focus on how boys learn best — it makes such a difference! And, the connectedness of the community. Knowing that my son is part of a lifelong brotherhood. That’s a wonderful feeling.