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You Are Worthy
Colours of Hypnosis
By Samantha Timbers
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We are working with the coral colour in this edition. There are so many things I went through this month as I worked with the coral colour. In this article I am going to focus on the feeling of being unworthy— how this is developed, how it manifests in our lives, how we can work through it, and how to resolve and remove this belief.
As I began working on this article and working with coral, I attracted people to me that wanted to discuss their feelings of being unworthy. I had someone connect with me that I had not had any contact with in over fifteen years and did not think I ever would again. She contacted me to seek guidance regarding her feelings of being unworthy from early in her childhood that have continued to affect her adult life. She had heard that I resolved my own feelings of unworthiness from my childhood through my experience with hypnosis. We had some shared childhood experiences and, up until now, I had no idea her feelings of being unworthy were so strong. When we work through our own limiting beliefs and negative emotions, as Amy Bell stated, we are a beacon of light for others.
Hypnosis is an extremely powerful tool that can assist you to move forward and create a solid foundation and instill new beliefs that can redesign your life to be fulfilled and worthy.
So, let’s dive in and find out what is this feeling of being unworthy/having low self-worth; why it is an issue; how it is expressed in our lives; how and why we internalize the feeling of being unworthy; and how to increase our self-worth and the feeling of being worthy.
Definition of Feeling Unworthy
According to Collins Dictionary, the definition of feeling unworthy is “if a person or thing is unworthy of something good, they do not deserve it.”
What does it feel like to feel unworthy?
• Being overly critical of ourselves
• Trying to be perfect and proving our worth to others
• Lacking boundaries, always saying yes to please others
• Not liking who we are, thinking if we looked different, were more articulate, or better at all things we would be better people and more worthy
• Thinking we don’t deserve good things
• Believing that if people need us, we are worthier
• Sometimes feeling taken advantage of
• Giving to someone else what we will not accept for ourselves
• Difficulty in accepting compliments or kindness from others
• Worrying about what other people think and constantly second-guessing ourselves
• Difficulty in making decisions because we are afraid to make the “wrong” choice
• Often thinking that other people’s opinion of us is how we should define ourselves
• Being jealous of others, feeling less than others, insecure about our skills and abilities
• Always feeling like you need to do more
If the above resonates with you and you can identify with more than three of these, you are suffering from the feeling of being unworthy. I will explain how to begin to heal this feeling at the end of this article.
How and why do we believe we are unworthy?
Repetition is how we program our subconscious mind, both negative and positive. To learn more about how our subconscious mind works, please visit Simplewellness.ca and connect with me for a free session.
So, when you were younger, maybe you were told you couldn’t have that bike, dress, toy, person, or something else you felt you needed—you may have decided at that time that you were unworthy of things that you want. Then maybe someone says something to you about your abilities when you are in kindergarten, or someone comments that they don’t like your hair, or they don’t like you in first grade and so on.
You may have been with someone who had decided they are not worthy and therefore may have imparted this on you, and they may have told you that you are not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, pretty enough, and whatever else not enough of. I could go on forever here. Now let’s say that person was in your life everyday expressing these things in a variety of ways. This is now programmed in your subconscious mind and now the negative talk about being unworthy begins. As this negative self-talk continues, this feeling of unworthiness manifests in our lives.
According to Scientific American, it’s natural for humans to care what other people think of us. So it is natural to care about what our parents, siblings, friends, and teachers think about us and tell us about ourselves.
You may have started to believe you are unworthy at a very early age and then continued that conversation internally as you moved through your life.
Our beliefs dictate our internal conversation and manifest in our external lives and behaviors.
You have heard the expression “You are what you eat.” Feed your body fattening food—become unhealthy. Feed your body fruits and vegetables and healthy food— become healthy. The same rings true for “We are what we think we are.” Feed your mind negativity and you will become negative. Feed your mind positive things internally and externally and you will become positive.
So it looks like we give other people the right to get into our mind and dictate how we will feel.
Maybe, just maybe, all of those people are not the experts on YOU. Did you think about that? Who are they to have an opinion about you? Or who are we to care about what others think? As Deepak Chopra says, “It is none of your business what other people think of you.” Are they the experts on what you want in your life or your skills and abilities? No, they are not. So who is? YOU, you are you, and you are the expert on your awesome skills and abilities. Yet we have been programmed to not toot our own horn, be modest, don’t be conceited. Okay, we don’t all need to walk around every minute of the day saying aloud, “I AM AWESOME. LOOK AT ME.” Blah, blah. Yet we do need to say it to ourselves and demonstrate this through our actions. When we feel worthy we treat others better, we give more, we are more compassionate and understanding with others, and, best of all, we manifest awesome things in our lives. What you focus on expands!
How can we develop a feeling of worthiness?
You were born worthy! So, something along the way got in the way of your knowledge about this fact. This belief of being unworthy has been programmed in your subconscious mind and is now manifesting in your life. You are looking through the lens of being unworthy, and therefore may not be able to see some wonderful opportunities that are available to you. You are not what happened to you or what people said to you. You are what you choose to be.
What if you woke up feeling worthy of everything you want and desire? What would life look like? How would it feel? You made a decision or decided to believe at some point in your life to feel unworthy; or allow outside influences to dictate how you should feel about yourself. You have the power to overcome this. You don’t need to be the product of your environment—you have control over your beliefs.
If you would like to remove other limiting beliefs quickly and effectively, along with removing negative emotions with a very powerful and effective technique, Quantum Hypnosis, visit me at simple-wellness.ca and book a complimentary call. Hypnosis is an extremely powerful tool that can assist you to move forward and create a solid foundation and instill new beliefs to redesign your life to be fulfilled and worthy.
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How to begin to remove the belief that you are unworthy
We need to rewire and make new neural pathways in the brain in order to reprogram a sense of worthiness.
Step 1
Awareness—become consciously aware that you have this belief of being unworthy.
Step 2
Look to your past to find where this came from. When did it start? Where does it show up? What could life be without it? Look at it from another perspective. Why did you “try that on”? Take back your power! Your beliefs are a choice and can be changed! We don’t need our childhood beliefs anymore.
Close your eyes. It might be helpful to use the Coral Dragon essence to help you move through this exercise.
For more information: https://www.moirabush.com/colour-mirrors-essences/32-coral-dragon-detail
Step 3
Journal—carve out some time to really dive into this by writing it down.
• Make sure you include in your journal your superpower. Everyone has one—it might be humor, seeing the other side of things, reading, sports, spelling, caring for others, or logic. It could be anything—what you’re good at and what makes you, you! Visit https://jalvinicreations.kartra.com/page/powerofjournaling to find out how to journal.
Step 4
Find something you love about yourself, anything to start. Tell yourself how much you love that thing about yourself each and every day. As you get comfortable with that, add things that you love about yourself.
Step 5
The next time someone compliments you, don’t discount it. (“Oh, this shirt is so old.”) Just say, “Thank you!” Take the compliment, whatever it might be.
Step 6
• Continue reprogramming your subconscious mind working through Steps 1 - 5. In addition, look at the list in the above section “What does it feel like to feel unworthy?” and consciously change those. For example, overly critical of ourselves—begin to consciously be less critical of yourself and continue down the list.
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