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October 2018 Volume 28/ Number 10 • A Monthly Publication by Unite of Southwest Missouri, Inc • www.unitenewsonline.org

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Building Empowering Connections In Our Diverse Community

Tickets On Sale For Springfield NAACP Annual Freedom Fund Award Banquet Springfield, MO—The Springfield NAACP will host their Annual Freedom Fund Award & Scholarship Banquet, Saturday, October 20 at the Diamond Room, 2340 W. Grand.

A Silent Auction & Reception is scheduled at 5:30 pm with Dinner and Program continued on Page 2

Reggae Fest is scheduled for Oct 6 at the Outland Ballroom continued on Page 2

SGF African American Heritage Trail Springfield City Council members moved forward with funding for historic trail markers

Springfield, MO—In June, Springfield Mayor Ken McClure announced plans to create an African American Heritage Trail, meant to recognize and celebrate important African American landmarks in the city.

In August, Springfield City Council moved forward with funding for some of the first historic markers installed along the trail. Council members

unanimously voted to allocate $14,356 to purchase four signs.

The money will be coming from the 1/4-cent capital improvements sales tax, according to Public Works Director Dan Smith.

A new trail will map out important landmarks of African American history in Springfield.

Smith called the trail a “wonderful project” and said a mix of private and public funding will be used to buy the signs.

Up to 20 sites could be recognized along the trail, which follows an existing greenway continued on page 2

Marker unveild in Silver Springs Park

Business Development Workshop Targets Diverse Entrepreneurs in Springfield Minorities In Business partners with local bankers to help entrepreneurs Springfield, MO—Capacity Building, Advocacy and Networking are the three focus areas of Minorities In Busines.

The local minority business association has partnered with local banks and some of their

other corporate members to present a Business Development Workshop, on Saturday, October 20th from 8:00 am - 12:00 pm at the efactory, 405 North Jefferson Ave. The goal of this event is to provide business resources and knowledge to local entrepreneurs in order to empower continued on page 2

To register, go to: www.sgfmib.com

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NAACP Banquet

Heritage Trail

at 6:45. The 2018 Award Receipients are: Drum Major Award - African American Heritage Trail Planning Committee; Myrlie Evers-Williams Business Partner - Kat Stewart of Penmac Staffing.

2018 Scholarship winners will also be recognized at the event. Tickets are still available. Contact 417-873-6386 for more information.

path, city documents indicate.

Those include the Sherman Avenue Corridor, Jones Alley Business District, Historic Church Quadrangle and the former Lincoln High School, which was the city’s black high school before integration.

An artistic mock-up of the first historic marker was unveiled in Silver Springs Park during August’s 2018 Park Day

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Reunion.

Silver Springs Park, which celebrates its 100th anniversary this year, was the only public park open to black families during segregation.

City Councilman Matthew Simpson shared these comments before the vote.

“As we try to be a welcoming community in the future — an even more welcoming community — it’s important to recognize the role diverse groups have played in our community’s past and the role they continue to play,” Simpson said. “I think this is a good step toward doing that.”

The idea for a trail came out of a three-year research project called “The Journey Continues”

by Missouri State University professors Lyle Foster and Tim Knapp.

“The more we understand, the more I think we can work towards what we call equity and justice today,” Foster said in a previous interview with the News-Leader.

Reggae Fest

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Springfield, MO—The 2018 Springfield Missouri Reggae Fest will be held on Saturday, October 6, 2018 and will start at 7:00 pm. / All Ages Tickets are $10 in advance and $15 the day of show. The event will be held at the Outland Ballroom, 326 South Ave. The performance schedule will include: DJ GanJah – 7 p m – 8 pm

Dread Kennedy – 8 pm - 9 pm Sensamotion – 9:15 – 10:15 pm 77 Jefferson – 10:30 – 11:30 pm Josh Heinrichs & SkillinJah – 11:45 pm – 1 am Tickets are available now at https://goo.gl/mns86v

Business Workshop Continued from Page 1

their business success, according to Minorities In Business Executive Director, Samuel Knox.

This event is open to the public. Whether you are in the concept stage or an established business, there will be valuable takeaways.

Learn from 5 different area experts about…

• Creating your business entity and business plan • Monitoring cash flow • Scaling and growing sustainably • Using digital marketing and • A case study in success.

Each topic will be covered in a detailed 30 minute presentation followed by a Question and Answer session. This will be a great event to connect with people to take your business to the next level.

Registration is $25. Every attendee receives access to event resources. Each event registration earns one free raffle ticket.

Raffle winner receives two (2) free Wonders Of Wildlife tickets. Sponsors will be on hand passing out free giveaways.

For more information and to register, go to: www.sgfmib. com

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IN THIS ISSUE 4 Bargin Shopping At The Friends Of The Library Fall Book Sale Oct 17-21

by Kathleen O’Dell, Springfield-Greene County Library District Love bargain shopping?

Love books, music and movies? You’ll find it at the Friends of the Library Fall Book Sale Oct. 17-21 at the E*Plex, Ozark Empire Fairgrounds.

It’s the perfect time to stock up on winter reads or like-new holiday gifts.

Hours are Wednesday, Oct. 17, through Saturday, Oct. 20, from 10 a.m.-8 p.m. (Saturday is Half-Price Day); and Sunday, Oct. 21, 1-5 p.m., (Bag Day). Everything shoved in a sack that day is $1, or $5 from the Better Books side. The Friends accept cash or check only; an ATM is available in the E*Plex.

Friends Night Preview Sale is 5-8 p.m. Tuesday, Oct. 16.

Friends members get in free, or pay $5 at the door and you can turn that into a membership that night. continued on page 12

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Community News See the Need Behind the Behavior

by Gwen Marshall Business News

Henry Childs, II announced as new MBDA Director

by Minority Business Development Agency

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Entertainment News Movie Review: Crazy Rich Asians

by Lyle Foster Health News Caring for Our Elders, Part 1

by Tyra Knox

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CommunityNews See the Need Behind the Behavior

By Gwen Marshall Unite Contributing Writer

a need met. When you observe that a student might be having The picture of the shark and a difficult time, ask yourself, goldfish best describes chil“What’s happening here?” rathdren that have expeer than “What’s wrong rienced trauma. They with this child?” present with adverse The child might: behaviors that look * Get a “deer-in-thelike the shark, but headlights” look if we look below the • Look angry surface, we will see • Breathe more that they are scared rapidly Gwen Marshall goldfish trying to have • Become fidgety and

squirmy • Burst into tears or look like they are about ready to cry When this occurs, it can be difficult to talk to or correct the child. It helps to provide a safe space and help them regulate.

You might have to get down to eye level and say, “You are safe” and then step away for a while.

How do I see the goldfish?

According to Traumatic Experience and the Brain, A Handbook for Understanding and Treating Those Traumatized as Children we need to: • Consider all extreme behavior within the context of survival to understand why the child is repeating the negative response.

• Remember, positive repetition is essential because each positive experience has an impact on the brains growth.

• Understanding that traumatized children focus on the negative and expect the worst; this knowledge will help you deal with each situation.

• Recognize that the most damaging form of trauma is childhood neglect because it threatens the child’s basic

needs; causing the child to spend all their time thinking about survival.

• Research has shown that: A child who has suffered trauma through abuse does not focus on learning but survival. They need extra attention due to the damage they have endured.

• Traumatized children will often score lower on IQ tests than their actual ability. Retest when their environment is helping them heal and watch the scores go up.

• The goal in healing trauma is to help students learn skills to reduce agitation. Repeating the skills they have learned is a beneficial process for healing the traumatized student.

• Incorporate play for traumatized children. The use of play is incredibly therapeutic to the brain and the emotions. Most importantly do not give up hope! The human brain is the greatest wonder of creation and has the capability of healing in remarkable ways.

Zack, et al. “The Trauma Informed Teacher – Silent Front Line.” Ransom for Israel, 31 July 2018, www. ransomforisrael.com/the-traumainformed-teacher-silent-front-line/.

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Upcoming Community Events & Resources

By Francine Pratt Unite Contributing Writer

Need help with: basic needs, medical, supports for seniors, children, youth and families and much more, dial 2-1-1 or go to the 211 website www.211Helps.org - you will find information on a variety of resources and services in the community and surrounding counties.

Prosper Springfield is a collective impact initiative focused on a shared community vision to improve economic mobility in the Springfield community. The Prosper Springfield mission is to build community relationships and align • Change 1000 Skills community resources Academy to create pathways Francine Pratt Free new job-training that help move people to prosperity. This column was program for manufacturing, provided by Prosper Springconstruction, transportafield Director, Francine Pratt. tion/logistics, information For more information about technology and healthcare Prosper Springfield, contact industries. If you have not Francine Pratt at 417-888-2020. worked in a while or you Prosper Springfield - Uniting want to improve your skills Resources. Improving Lives. specific to these industries, Upcoming Community Events & Resources:

• Prosper Springfield Website – “Get Help” and “Get Informed” – www.prosperspringfield.org New website with information on current resources and services available in the Springfield/Greene County area and to provide updates on the Impacting Poverty Commission’s Community Call to Action Report to reduce poverty and increase education beyond high school (postsecondary attainment).

• 2-1-1 United Way

this two-week course is for you. For more information or to register visit: www. changeonethousand.org or call 417-887-4343. New classes start October 24, 2018.

• Northwest Project Offers a free program to help families revitalize their hope so they can set and meet personal goals with a community system of support. Program participants focus on specific key measures for family stability: Affordable Quality Housing, Quality Childcare, Transportation, Job Training and Educational Opportunities, Budgeting, Resolving Legal

Issues, Accountability and Health and Well Being. If you want to stop living paycheck to paycheck, contact the Northwest Project at: www.DrewLewis.org, SGFNWP@gmail.com or 417-7201890.

• One Door Are you without a home, at risk of becoming homeless or do not have a safe stable place to stay, call 417-2257499 or visit the Springfield Affordable Housing Center at 300 E. Central.

• July 1 to October 2 – Help with Past Year Tax Returns The Volunteer Income Tax Assistance Program can help you file past year tax returns, amend tax returns, file for property tax credits and rent rebates. Call Community Partnership of the Ozarks

and ask to speak with someone from the VITA Program, 417-720-2000.

• October 2 – College and Career Fair - 5:00 to 7:00 P.M. Springfield Public Schools will host this event at the University Plaza Hotel and Convention Center. Students from the SPS high schools and students from the surrounding Southwest Missouri and Northwest Arkansas are invited. continued on Page 9

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BusinessNews Henry Childs, II Announced as National Director of the MBDA Washington, DC—On SeptemRoss. “In his new role, I fully ber 5th, U.S. Secretary of Comexpect him to continue to vigmerce Wilbur Ross announced orously pursue opportunities that Henry Childs, II will be the and growth for minorities as new National Director well as the country as of the U.S. Departa whole.” ment of Commerce’s In addition to his Minority Business appointment as the Development Agency National Director of (MBDA). Mr. Childs MBDA, Mr. Childs will be the 17th Naserves as the Policy tional Director of the Advisor to the White Henry Childs, II agency.

House’s Office of Established by an Executive Public Liaison where he leads Order in 1969, MBDA is the the Administration’s outreach only Federal agency solely to the African American comdedicated to the growth and munity. He also works closely global competitiveness of U.S. with the Office of American minority-owned businesses.

Innovation on economic devel“Mr. Childs’ commitment opment issues for urban areas to economic development in and urban revitalization. minority communities is an un“I am honored to be selected rivaled asset to the Department

by Secretary Ross to lead the of Commerce,” said Secretary Minority Business Develop-

ment Agency”, said Mr. Childs.

“I look forward to working with the dedicated team at MBDA as we blaze the agency’s path into the future.”

Prior to his appointment as the National Director of MBDA, Mr. Childs served as the Economic Development Administration (EDA) Senior Advisor and Director of Strategic Initiatives for the U.S. Department of Commerce.

As Senior Advisor and Director of Strategic Initiatives, he provided counsel on economic development and fostered partnerships with other federal agencies as well as national and international organizations.

Mr. Childs also oversees the Department of Commerce’s $1 billion in supplemental Congressional funds for disaster recovery and readiness grants

after the natural disasters of 2017.

About the Minority Business Development Agency (MBDA) MBDA, www.mbda.gov, is the only Federal agency dedicated to the growth and global competitiveness of U.S. minority-owned businesses through the mobilization and advancement of public and private sector programs, policy, and research. Our services better equip minority-owned firms to create jobs, build scale and capacity, increase revenues and expand regionally, nationally and internationally. For nearly 50 years, MBDA has been a dedicated strategic partner to all U.S. minority-owned businesses, committed to providing greater access to capital, contracts, and markets.

MEB Week Celebrated Around the Country Washington, DC—The Minority Business Development Agency (MBDA) is honored to celebrate Minority Enterprise Development (MED) Week, October 14-20, 2018 in collaboration with the National Minority Supplier Development Council (NMSDC) Conference and Business Opportunity Exchange.

Since 1983, every president has issued a Presidential

Proclamation designating a National Minority Enterprise Development Week to recognize the contributions of the minority business community to the U.S. economy. For 35 years, MBDA has led the National MED Week program to convene business leaders, honor outstanding MBEs and advocates, promote business opportunities, and report industry trends.

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By Sativa Boatman-Sloan Unite Contributing Writer

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“Detroit Style” Ballroom Dancing Springfield, MO—Larry and Valerie Gates will be re-launching “Detroit Style” Ballroom Dancing Saturday, November 3rd at Ballroom World in the Plaza Towers Center, 1911 S Glenstone Ave, Springfield, MO. Classes will run from 4:00 pm to 5:30 pm. The class is only $10 for each person.

For more information about classes, please call: (330) 634-4382.

Valerie and Larry Gates The MIB Business Development Workshop is CoSponsored by: Central Bank of the Ozarks, Commerce Bank, Great Southern Bank, MSU DDI, Bass Pro Shops, Evangel University, and the Springfield/Branson Airport

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Arts&EntertainmentNews Movie Review: Crazy Rich Asians from the standpoint of movie goers is sentimental, cut and pretty clever.

No one who reads this Well to be fair the movie is should be surprised at all by based on a book by the same the frenzy in Hollywood and name written by Kevin Kwan wherever else they are making so good for him. And we movies to jump on the diversity shouldn’t be surprised that bandwagon and hate this is the first major to say it as long as it Hollywood production is profitable. And let’s that isn’t a period piece not be mistaken it has to have an all Asian been wildly profitable. cast in 25 years. Is Black Panther and anyone surprised by a host of other films this at all? No, I didn’t have proven if anythink so. thing how profitable it Warner Brothers has Lyle Foster can be. done well for itself One of the next installments in the basic plot of an ecoin this line of attempting to nomics professor who is an capture markets that have not American-born Chinese who been exhausted is the recent goes with her boyfriend also release of Crazy Rich Asians. a professor to meet her family Yes, I have to make a comment in Singapore. I am sure most the title is not my favorite but of you who have seen the perhaps it was a way for the trailer know the basic premise marketers to be sure that any that her boyfriend is well you potential movie goers did not guessed it crazy rich. But the mistake it for another martial hitch is she doesn’t know it. arts film. And trust me it is Now before we get lost in the anything but that kind of film. plot one of the aspects of the It is a sappy love story that film that I particularly enjoy is

By Lyle Foster Unite Contributing Writer

that a lot of the scenes were shot in Singapore and Malaysia which are beautiful. There is some online discussion concerning how realistic the life style portraits of those cities are …..I will leave that to folks who know better.

The film had a budget of $30 million and is now approaching $200 million in box office so that translates into success and perhaps even another installment.

Actress Constance Wu plays the lead female role Rachel Chu and does a great job as he is both likeable and believable and you find yourself rooting for her character. Of course the basic plot is that she goes to Shanghai and finds her boyfriend’s family doesn’t think she is Chinese enough com-

bined with not coming from old line money. This sets up great dialogue, some comical relief and a romantic comedy story line that has you rooting for that good old magical love.

I didn’t find myself crying or laughing too much as other audience members did but I still could appreciate the film for a clever script although too predictable at times.

And it also tapped into the universal need to be accepted despite the reality that each of us has our own nuances and we might not be “black” enough or “hood” enough or whatever it is.

Crazy Rich Asians as a title is a bit problematic because we are now encouraged not to throw the word crazy around but it works well as a movie because

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Restaurant Review: Wheelhouse Restaurant

By Lyle Foster Unite Contributing Writer

One of the things we hope to do with this column is to give you a reason to try some new

places and to support the burgeoning food scene in Springfield, Mo. If you are like me sometimes you can get in a rut and go to the predictable places that you are familiar with and

you know exactly what to order.

But it is fun and it also stretches us to try new cuisines. And as I keep saying in this column the food scene in this Ozark city is popping. Yup! Yup!

I was invited recently by a friend to check out the new Wheelhouse restaurant in the new Vibe hotel just east of Glenstone and Sunshine. Just for

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Movie Review

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because it really has enough for everyone. And the message speaks to all of us that sometimes you have some folks who question your judgement and your motives in your family usually but if you are really in love and know who you are…….well you know the rest!!!!

It also is good to support the common struggle of our brothers and sisters in this community and support them to get more love and mo money from Hollywood!

93 out of 100-Box Office Score!

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reference Vibe is the new hip concept by Best Western Hotels to appeal to the millennial set. Yes, I know empty nesters when are they going to build a new chain for us? Well the Vibe is the first in the country with this concept where the lobby is activated and there are games to play and hip music and a cool restaurant.

The cool restaurant is Wheelhouse which is really neat because it started as a food truck and I must say it always has been one of the more popular ones. It is five years old as of this past summer and I think it is always a testimony to our city when concepts can go from the food truck to the brick and mortar location. Although in

this case they will now have both. I have always heard of Wheelhouse and had friends who really liked the concept but had never gone so I was particularly excited about the chance to check it out. They descrivbe themselves as Mexican-Thai fusion fare and my suggestion is for you to check it out in person.

The vibe at the Vibe is cool….I couldn’t resist that ….lol.

Concrete floors and high ceilings almost dwarf the small hotel check-in counter and the restaurant and bar dominate the center of the lobby with outdoor seating as well. This gives the Wheelhouse opportunity to serve hotel guests and welcome the public as well as the central spot in the nicely appointed lobby. The bar for those who want to partake has some cool drink offerings and bartenders who seem fairly conscientious as they ask several times if you are happy with your choices. You order at the counter and then find a seat and your food comes to you.

The tacos, drunken noodles, salads and soups are the main menu items although they have good specials every day.

The evening that I went the atmosphere was chill and I ordered a tilapia taco and it was really good with the taco full of everything that you could want.

I found it to be more than filling and tasty as well. My buddy ordered another taco creation that was oozing with cheese, guac and you name it. Prices were a touch high for a couple of tacos but honestly I get that

they are not in the food truck anymore and they need to pay the freight.

The atmosphere is nice, staff are friendly and food is good.

There are enough menu offerings including some deserts

and pastries to satisfy most folks and I am happy to support a local restaurant that takes it to the next level Congratulations Wheelhouse and I will be back with company.

3 ¾ forks!!!

Events & Resources

Learn how to establish a budget that works for you and develop habits to reach your financial goals. Participants could be eligible for a $100 savings match with partnering banks. Dinner provided at 5:30 P.M. and the workshop is from 6:00 to 8:00 P.M. Free to attend but need to register – please contact Danielle Jones at 417-888-2020 or www.cpozarks.org/financial-literacy.

Next budget series: Oct 27, Nov 3, 10 & 17.

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• October 20 – Live, Learn, Work, Play Resource Fair & Conference – 8:00 A.M. to 1:30 P.M. This conference is for families supporting children and adults with developmental disabilities. Register at www. abilitiesfirst.net • October 18 - Diversity Talent Hub: Job Fair – 6:30 to 8:00 P.M. Bring several resumes and meet with local employers to apply or learn about job opportunities. Event is at the Fairbanks, 1126 N. Broadway Avenue.

• October 23 – Law Review for Reverends: identifying Resources and Referrals for Your Flock Springfield Metropolitan Bar Association will host this workshop from 6:00 to 8:30 P.M. Need to register online by sending an email to info@ springfieldbar.com October 27, November 3, 10 & 17 – Making Sense of Money/ Basic Budgeting Series

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HealthNews Caring for Our Elders, Part 1

By Tyra Knox Unite Contributing Writer

been faced with some years earlier.

I was asked to share some of The questions all related to my experiences with the Unite having to find a new place of readers about the importance care and security for her aging of quality elder care as parent in a skilled well as taking care of care establishment. yourself as the careThe Alzheimer was giver. setting in more and A few weeks ago I more each passing received a call from day. a dear friend. I could When I was faced hear so much pain in with this dilemma, Tyra Knox her voice. I wasn’t all a nurse friend of mine sure where this convertold me that just because sation was headed but I was my loved one was going to be hoping I could offer a ray of at a new home, that would not sunshine in what seemed to be cut me out of their care. I held a very dark day for my friend. onto those words as if they “How do I do it?”, “Where do were gold nuggets. I wanted I go?”, “Will she forgive me?”; to be a major part of the daily these were all questions I had care.

U.S. House passes $425 million increase for Alzheimer’s Research Funding WASHINGTON, D.C., September 26, 2018 — Following the same action by the U.S. Senate, the U.S. House of Representatives passed a $425 million increase for Alzheimer’s and dementia research funding at the National Institutes of Health (NIH). The increase now moves to the White House where it is expected to be signed into law in the coming days, bringing the total annual

budget for Alzheimer’s and dementia research to $2.3 billion for 2019.

“The action by the U.S. House and the recent action by the Senate reflect broad, bipartisan commitment to decisively address one of our nation’s highest impact public health issues through research,” said Harry Johns, Alzheimer’s Association and Alzheimer’s Impact Movement (AIM) President and CEO.

Nearly eight years ago now I began the research for a skilled care home for my parent who was dealing with Alzheimer.

I checked out the facilities’ websites trying to get information. I talked with others who had already been on this journey. I made cold calls to the skilled care places themselves.

I prayed and cried night after night. I made appointments with the doctors and other professionals in elder care. I even researched state inspections and comparisons of the facilities. Still the next steps ahead were difficult.

It was not an easy thing to talk about. I was filled with questions while some I felt were filled with judgment. I knew in my heart, even past my deepest pain, I had to get

the needed care and security for my parent that I could no longer provide in my home.

For the caregiver this can be a physical and emotional load to carry. I am so very thankful for the support of my family and friends.

For the next couple of issues, I will share parts of my experiences that I feel may be answers to some questions our readers may have.

My journey has not been easy, but if I can help someone through my knowledge and experiences of caring for your aging parent in your home, or choosing a skilled care facility for your loved one, or how to always stay involved in their care, or even dealing with the pain of losing the person you have always been able to depend on, I hope my story will help.

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Releasing Negative Messages from the Past

by Dr Robert Anthony, PhD Cognitive Psychology The best way to love yourself is to release all the negative messages from your past and live in the present moment. So today, I’d like to work with you on changing what I call your self-talk— what you say to yourself in your head.

Too often we accept the early messages from our parents, our teachers, and other authority figures. You were probably told things like “Stop crying like a baby,” “You never clean your room,” and “Why won’t you make your bed?” And you did what people told you to do, in order to be loved.

When you were young, you might have gotten the idea that you were acceptable only if you did certain things. Acceptance and love were conditional. However, it bears remembering that others’ approval was based on their ideas of what was worthwhile and had nothing to do with your self-worth.

These early messages contribute to our self-talk.

The way we talk to ourselves inwardly is really important because it becomes the basis of our spoken words. It sets up the mental atmosphere in which we operate and attracts our experiences to us.

If we belittle ourselves, life is going to mean very little to us. However, if we love and appreciate ourselves, then life can be a wonderful, joyous gift.

If your life is unhappy or you are feeling unfulfilled, it is very easy to blame your parents—or the almighty Them—and say it is all their fault. However, if you do that, you will stay stuck in your conditions, your problems, and your frustrations. Words of blame will not bring you freedom.

Your words have great power. So start listening closely to what you say. If you hear yourself using negative or limiting words, you can change them. If I hear a negative story, I don’t go around repeating it to everyone. I think that it has gone far enough, and I let it pass.

However, if I hear a positive story, I tell everyone!

When you are out with other people, really listen to what they are saying and how they are saying it. See if you can connect what they say with what they are experiencing in their lives.

Many, many people live their lives in shoulds. Should is a word that my ear is very attuned to. It is as if a bell goes off every time I hear it. I have heard people say it as many as a dozen times

in a single paragraph. These same people wonder why their lives are so rigid, or why they can’t leave a situation. They want to have a lot of control over things they cannot control. They are busy either making someone else wrong or making themselves wrong.

You can practice positive self-talk during your mirror work, making only positive statements about yourself and repeating only positive affirmations. If any of the negative self-talk from your childhood comes up, you can turn it around into a positive statement. For example, “You never do anything right!” could become the affirmation I am a capable person, and I can handle anything that comes my way. As you listen to yourself and others, you can become

more aware of what you say and how and why you say it.

This awareness will help you change your self-talk into affirmations that will nurture and heal you in body and mind. What a wonderful way to love yourself!

Let’s affirm: I release all the negative messages from the past. I live in the present moment.

Heart Thought for Today: I Always Have a Choice Most of us have foolish ideas about who we are and many rigid rules about how life should be lived. Let’s remove the word should from our vocabulary forever. Should is a word that makes prisoners of us. Every time we use should, we are making ourselves wrong or someone else wrong. We are, in effect, saying: not continued on Page 12

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Adult, young adult and children’s books and most audiovisuals are priced at $1 or less; Better Books are $2 and up.

All genres are available, along with a special section with many of the 100 book titles featured in the PBS Great American Read; “Character is Destiny” signed by John McCain; and “Encyclopedia of Sponge Ball Magic” signed by Frank Garcia.

••• Has your family picked up a Harry Potter Passport at a library branch? Through November, get it stamped at five branches or Mobile Li-

brary, and turn it in to get an invitation to the Yule Ball in January! Meanwhile, drop by the many Potter programs at the libraries through November! Go to https://thelibrary. org/programs/documents/ potter25.pdf for a complete list of events, or pick up a program at a library branch.

••• The Library honors Missouri’s role in World War I during a series Nov. 7-17 at the Library Center. The highlight: At 11 a.m., Nov. 11, 100 years after the war ended, Springfield Symphony Orchestra members will perform a tribute honoring the war’s history. Enjoy the traveling exhibit “Missouri and the Great War” and a reception

sponsored by the Friends of the Library. Get a copy of the Bookends magazine for a complete schedule.

Kathleen O’Dell is community relations director of the Springfield-Greene County Library District. She can be reached at kathleeno@thelibrary.org.

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good enough.

What can be dropped now from your should list? Replace the word should with the word could. Could lets you know that you have a choice, and choice is freedom. We need to be aware that everything we do in

life is done by choice. There is really nothing we have to do.

We always have a choice.

Dr Robert Anthony spent over 30 years studying mind power development. This includes an academic background with a PhD in cognitive psychology, a master certification in both Neuro-Linguistic Programing and Clinical Hypnosis.

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