Squirting

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Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from folks with vulvas during sex,”

When someone squirts, “it’s usually from G-spot stimulation, or clitoral and G-spot dual stimulation.”

Squirting is NOT the same as "female ejaculation." Most people think the two terms are interchangeable, but the researchers think they’re actually two different responses. While squirting is the bigger gush of liquid that shoots out from the urethra, female ejaculation is a much smaller concentration of liquid that occurs in the vagina. Female ejaculate is more viscous and stringier than urine (or regular lubrication) — almost the consistency of saliva Female ejaculation, which comes from the female prostate (yep, that's a thing), can happen with orgasm or just tons of stimulation, but since it’s such a tiny amount and some gets pushed back into the vagina, you may not notice it. Although some women experience both at the same time. Important: Squirting doesn't necessarily always happen at the same time as orgasm, and not everyone finds it pleasurable. And as far as researchers can tell, there's no anatomical predisposition that determines if you can or can't squirt,

Are some positions better than others?

If you’re looking to explore squirting during partnered sex, any sex act or position that stimulates your G-spot and clit at the same time can work. EG: Doggystyle and Missionary.

8 steps how to make yourself squirt during sex!

Apparently, for some women, it does come (ha!) naturally. But for others, it may be possible to learn. Meaning, yes, you could make yourself squirt during sex.

1. Get your bed ready ...just in case.

If you do succeed in squirting, things may get a tad...messy. So, Dr. Castellanos recommends taking precautions if you're worried about over-saturating your sheets.Taylor Sparks, erotic educator and founder of OrganicLoven.com suggests the Liberator Fascinator Throw (shown here), which is made to soak up liquids and softer than most towels.

2. Try to relax, and give yourself plenty of time to get turned on.

Have patience with yourself and your body. “It can take some time to get a feel for it,” says Antonia Hall, psychologist and author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life.You'll also want to reduce as many other stressful thoughts as possible. "Remember that for most women sex starts in the brain," says Sparks. "Start the mental seduction earlier in the day." That means everything from dirty talk to cleaning the bedroom so there's nothing there that stresses you out.

3. Start by focusing on the clit.

“Focus first on stimulating your clitoris, as it'll help bring blood into the area and get your G-spot area ready for play,” says Hall.

4. Then, place a lot of pressure on the G-spot. When you're turned on, insert your middle and ring finger a couple of inches inside the vagina and rub your G-spot, which feels like a small ridged area along the front of your vaginal wall, Hall says. And realize you're going to need to do it for an extended period of time. "What [you’re] pushing on is actually erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra," Dr. Castellanos explains. "As you’re stroking that, what you’re doing is you’re changing the angle of the urethra to the bladder and it’s much easier for that fluid to be expelled." To improve your odds of squirting, relax the pelvic floor muscles as you stimulate the G-spot.

5. Get some help from a toy. G spot stimulation is key here. "The G-spot is about two inches in and one inch up, inside of the vagina," Sparks says. "So, you are seeking a toy with some length and a slight upwards curve." She likes the Le Wand Bow:"This stainless steel wand is perfectly curved with ridges and a round bulb on one end and smooth and a more pointed bulb on the other end," she says. "Add in temperature play—let it sit in warm or cold water for a few minutes —for a great combination of having a full vagina from the weight of the bow, with the added stimulation on the G-spot, and the use of the tongue on the clitoris."

6. Don't stress about peeing. A lot of women feel like they’re going to pee when they’re close to reaching an O. But that gotta-go feeling is often sparked by that fluid coming from the Skene's glands behind the G-spot (aka squirting), explains Hall.And even if pee does come out, don't stress, says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of Finishing School. "Sex is messy and there’s a lot of fluids involved already, so even if it was urine, who cares?" (But if it'll make you feel better, you can use the restroom before you get started.)

7. Control your pelvic floor muscles Sparks says it helps to have control of your pelvic muscles. “As the sensation/pressure starts to build, it will feel like you have to pee— that’s the time to use your pelvic floor muscles,” she says. “Don't tighten them, but push out...as if you are pushing out the pee. It takes practice, but it’s doable.”

8. Don't be too hard on yourself if it doesn't pan out. Above all, Dr. Castellanos says, "be compassionate with yourself if you don’t make yourself squirt."If you don't succeed the first time —or even after multiple attempts—it just means your body’s natural impulse is to keep anything from coming out of the urethra while you get busy. Just relax, enjoy the feelings, and if it happens, it happens.

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