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23-year-old Joey Wright’s fight for Ward 5

VIEWS A CASE FOR ASSUMPTION CHURCH G.F. Watts painted hope as a blindfolded young lady clutching at a one-string lyre.

There are few paintings so metaphorically rich as this. Sitting atop a world portrayed as desolate, hope leans forward quite evidently struggling to hear the faint sounds emanating from her ruined instrument. Even here, woeful as it otherwise may seem, there is painted a barely perceptible flicker of white light in the distance above her — a small reminder that there is always cause for optimism. Tragically, she cannot see it.

Watts, like John Ruskin and other aesthetes of the Victorian age, knew the importance of beauty and the positive effect it was capable of having on our lives.

Beauty inspires hope, fuels our dreams and pushes us to be better than we are.

I remember my introduction to Oxford. It was the summer of 2007, and I had just completed the first year of my undergraduate degree in Philosophy and Psychology at the University of Windsor.

Though I travelled to Oxford to receive an education in philosophy of mind, I came home with the beginnings of an education in beauty.

Undoubtedly, that summer in “that sweet city with her dreaming spires” had a transformative effect on my life. I remember returning to the University of Windsor in September and feeling more inspired than I had ever felt before.

While my memory of Oxford faded away with the summer, I kept dreaming — fantasizing that the spires were still with me.

In the years that I was at the university, I’d park my car in the parking lot underneath the Ambassador Bridge and amble past Assumption Church towards lectures in Dillon Hall (that other impres-

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sive building). Walking past, I continued to pretend.

To me, the spires adorning the top of Assumption Church served as a constant reminder of the golden spires Matthew Arnold so expressively wrote about as characterizing the skyline of the city of Oxford. With great effort, I pushed myself harder, and aspired to reach their dreamlike heights.

It was over those years that I became conscious of how beautiful buildings, and their rich history, can positively affect us and fundamentally transform our lives.

In our city, there are few buildings that would make other communities in Ontario envious. Assumption Church is an exception to that rule. Though the consequences of a possible shutdown remain unclear, any outcome that does not involve its restoration and preservation should be deemed unacceptable by our community.

Despite my secular leanings, Assumption Church has nonetheless been a constant source of optimism for me. It was (and is) akin to that white light in Watts’ picture. I hope that our community sees the building as worthy of saving — if not for our heritage, or (in this case) for the sake of preserving religious tradition, then for the the sake of beauty and the greatness that it is capable of inspiring within us all.

— JOSHUA CHAUVIN Joshua Chauvin is a final year PhD student in Experimental Psychology at the University of Oxford, and cares deeply about art and culture. With fellow young entrepreneurs, he has established a social enterprise called TalkAbout Guides, an organization that sets out to engage people with art and heritage. He graduated from the University of Windsor in 2011 with a degree in Philosophy and Psychology, and is the university’s first Rhodes Scholar.

Publisher/Editor: Natasha Marar (natasha@urbanitenews.com) Managing Editor: Jon Liedtke (jon@urbanitenews.com) Art Director: Stephen Hargreaves Contributors: Jamie Greer, Dan Savage, Jay Verspeelt, Nicholas V. Nedin, Loren Mastracci

JUDGE COUNCIL CANDIDATES, NOW YOU’LL BE STUCK WITH THEM FOR FOUR YEARS

promise you the sky because in reality, they’ll most likely fall short.

It’s the time to judge Windsor municipal election council candidates.

Following the election, no amount of judging affects the makeup or composition of council, short of a judgement rendering criminal charges.

Unfortunately, they also serve as an echo-chamber in which residents often hear platitudes and promises regurgitated, platform to platform.

Currently there is no legislation to recall councillors from office, and since Queen’s Park hasn’t moved forward yet on Premier Kathleen Wynne’s intention to allow ranked ballot voting for municipalities, electors are stuck with who we get until 2018.

The old adage rings true: “Promises are like babies: easy to keep, hard to deliver.”

Election’s are wonderful opportunities for candidates to get involved in the community, meet potential constituents, engage one-on-one and talk about the issues that affect residents the most.

Take the time to research your ward candidates and those seeking the mayoralty, lest learn about them once they’ve attained power.

Agree? Disagree? Want to talk about The West Wing? Tweet me — JON LIEDTKE @mr_liedtke

As candidates are on the campaign trail, knocking on doors, kissing babies and doing other candidate type things (see the election episodes of The West Wing, seasons four and seven, for a totally real portrayal of what candidates are going through), the electorate is often provided a staged, scripted and entirely uncandid candidate.

It goes that candidates campaign one way and govern an entirely different, which makes judging a candidate difficult if presented with one who is willing to say or do anything to get elected.

When talking to a candidate, ask them about their platform, plan, and ways they hope to achieve their goals. While your interests and wants are of the most pressing concern, don’t be swayed by candidates who’ll

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Is Mr. Wright Ward 5’s Mr. Right?

Youngest municipal candidate has big plans to improve Windsor

Ward 5 candidate Joey Wright, 23, is Windsor’s youngest person running in October’s municipal election » Photo Jon Liedtke JON LIEDTKE A week after Joey Wright celebrates his birthday, he hopes to also be celebrating his election to public office.

The soon to be 24-year-old is the youngest candidate in Windsor’s municipal election, but the fact that he’s nearly half the age of his competition doesn’t diminish his prospects nor ideas.

Wright, a Ward 5 candidate, is focused on improving transportation across the city, whether it be by bicycle, e-bike, automobile or public transportation.

“I take the bus. I can’t go to Leamington, Essex ... [residents] need the ability to get around ... and the only way we can do that sufficiently and adequately is if we improve

our transportation system”, he said.

Wright’s approach to fixing transit is two pronged: he wants to improve transportation in the city itself, but also wants to focus on creating a regional transportation network with other communities in Essex county. “We want people to come into the city from the county, [but] we also want people to go and explore the areas and the events that we have to offer.” “[Make] sure people can get from Point A to Point B, whether it be biking, or taking a bus, or driving a car.”

Wright graduated from Walkerville Collegiate Institute having took on the Greater Essex County School Board by starting the

first Gay Straight Alliance. Since leaving Walkerville roughly seven years ago, today every public school in the county has a GSA. “I feel proud. It was nice that other students were motivated to continue what I started,” said Wright. “I’m really happy to see that the school board has jumped right in with it as well, they sponsor events and they help run GSA conferences every year.”

Following high school, Wright sought to immerse himself with local community groups, volunteering and serving on the board of directors for both Windsor Pride and the AIDS Committee of Windsor. “I just wanted to … be out there, get involved … and make a difference, help make a change and get out there and start talking to people.”

When asked why not run for school board trustee considering his past experience, he said “trustee races are often overshadowed by council and the mayoral race” and that he “wanted to take a different path. I’ve already done the school board thing … I wanted to get more involved with the nitty gritty and the people that live in Ward Five and the city and get involved in the municipal politics scene.”

Wright faces four opponents: Randy Diestelmann, Sam Drakich, John Middleton and incumbent Ed Sleiman.

Wright believes his age is an asset and is

not shy to advertise it. “They’re double my age, which is a stark reality when you get a picture with my four opponents and then me,” he said. “... I’m young, I’m new … I have more of an open concept and willingness to hear new ideas.”

Wright is using social media to communicate with constituents and residents broadly as he sees dialogue between council and the community “sorely lacking.”

He believes taxes should be kept as low as possible to encourage investment and new business opportunities but explained “if we’re going to raise taxes, just tell [constituents] … people want better services and more improvements … that needs to be paid for, we have to find a way to pay for it.”

Wright wants to see Windsor “act as a hub, attracting people here” and showcasing the region. “If Windsor can market itself as a hub and get people here … Windsor doesn’t have to be the [sole] destination, it can be where you stop and find other destinations.”

Unafraid to mince words, Wright made it clear collaboration is the only way to get Windsor on the map more broadly. “We need to start working together, we need to pull our heads out our asses and be like, ‘Listen, we all need to figure out a way to get Windsor [and] Essex County as a whole to be known everywhere else.”

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City administration are recommending council approve a proposed project, which would include retail stores, a roundabout and protected land for species at risk for Coco Paving developing on their property located by the old Windsor Raceway bordering Windsor and Lasalle. Is this project a positive development for the area, and should it be approved by council?

Don Merrifield Coco Developments have had this project in development for the past seven years and has recently received approval from the Ministry of Natural Resources to deal with the endangered plants and animals located on this property. Given that the Ministry is satisfied that the environmental issues have been sorted out and a buffer zone around the project will be put in place by the developer to account for this issue, who am I to say that it’s unacceptable. That’s why we have the ministry to deal with these sorts of issues. I think the broader (real) issue people have with this project is one of increased traffic, and the location in what until now has been a relatively quiet residential area with what for this area would be considered lots of natural land. There is also a small number of people I believe are just opposed to big-box retailers, and would fight against any new big-box developments regardless of the location.

The reality is Windsor needs jobs, and Windsor will benefit from the increased tax revenue. The developer will be required to do many infrastructure upgrades in the area as part of their permit approval. Whether

Rino Bortolin

Rose City Politics:

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development near Ojibway Park? we like it or not, this is private property and the developer has gone through an extensive, expensive, time consuming process to get to this stage. If people living in the area want this property to remain “natural” then there are two options: get a group together to buy this property and let it remain undeveloped, or the city would have to step up and purchase this property to prevent the development. Neither of these options look feasible, so the property should get approval and be developed. They have tenants in place willing to spend their money to bring their businesses here, so with our unemployment rate recently back on the rise to block this development would be a perfect example of not being able to see the forest through the trees.

Paul Synnott Yes. Not only should city council approve this plan, but they have already done so twice in the past. The developer has worked with the province to present an enhanced plan that exceeds what was previously approved. They are donating 10 acres of land abutting Ojibway Park to act as a buffer between the development and the park.

Considering the total development is 47 acres, this is not an insignificant gesture.

The will pay for transplanting plant species and returning the area to its natural state.

The appeal process, through the Ontario Municipal Board, has worked as the concessions from the developer most likely would not have occurred without the efforts of a dedicated bunch of community activists.

Despite the changes, people continue to demand no development happen at all. That is simply not reasonable.

Husband, father (of three), chef/co-owner Rino’s Kitchen & Ale House. Rino Bortolin is a passionate advocate for all things local especially local food. Bortolin’s community activism focuses on local municipal issues, having run for city council in 2010. He’s contributed on many local campaigns at all three levels of government.

Kieran McKenzie

People may not want more big-box development or oppose this development in any form, but at the end of the day I don’t see anyone else stepping forward and offering to purchase the land from the developer.

The city certainly isn’t going to and the provincial and federal government have shown no indication they are ready to wade in with their cheque book. Why is it that people always want to save the environment using other people’s money? The developer owns this land and has the right to develop it within provincial laws, city bylaws and plans. This process began in 2007; it’s long past time to allow the developer to move forward with their plans. The city still maintains control through the site plan control process to provide further mitigation regarding environmental factors. It’s time to move on.

Kieran McKenzie This project must be at least temporarily shelved if not altogether scrapped.

The zoning process has been flawed and frankly. I am concerned that this project could have significant and lasting detrimental impacts to both the environment and to our economy.

The Ojibway Prairie Complex is a unique and crucial natural heritage area that will effectively surround this development. The ANSI (aka Area of Natural and Scientific Interest) is home to over 160 species-at-risk, it’s a birding hot spot, home to over 300 species of butterflies and moths, 85 different types of trees and tall shrubs and other rare vegetation, insects

Political activist/organizer with a passion for social justice issues. A lifelong Windsor-Essex resident, Kieran McKenzie holds an honours BA in political science from the University of Windsor and has been campaigning in both elections and on issues since he could walk.

and mammals and reptiles. As a unit it is unquestionably a pre-eminent distinguishing element of our region from a purely environmental perspective and it is an under-leveraged tool that can allow us to expand our eco-tourism sector.

Jeopardizing this gem to simply add surplus big-box retail capacity doesn’t make sense environmentally nor does it make sense economically over the long term.

In my opinion, the zoning process has been flawed with the MNR opineing that the resulting increased traffic volume is “out of scope.” Wait, what? An additional 16,000 vehicles per day is not material to an environmental assessment??

I disagree — particularly in the context of this specific project which I believe should consider the impact of the development on the Ojibway prairie complex as a whole. The ANSI is a collection of 4 parcels of land that are separated by roadways alone — together they form one habitat. Bringing a significant amount of surplus traffic right through the heart of the complex will undoubtedly have an impact and it clearly must be considered.

Until those impacts are well understood we should not proceed.

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Paul Synnott

Paul Synnott is a committed small ‘c’ conservative with libertarian influences, community activist and co-host of Rose City Politics. He has worked on many federal, provincial and municipal campaign in various aspects including campaign management. No dogs, cats or kids, his passion is politics and the City of Windsor.

Vintage flea brings old out

Pillette Village vintage fest is taking the quality of the past to the street

JAY VERSPEELT

» Photo Jay Verspeelt

What’s old is new in Pillette Village, and the kitsch is the catch.

Mimi’s Creations and Penny Jane’s Vintage & More.

believes that vintage goods were better constructed than those made these days.

the saying ‘they just don’t make them like they used to.’”

Vintage in the Village is a new festival happening in Windsor’s east end. It’s being hosted by Pillette Village BIA, and organized by Tango and Magpie proprietor Sally Tailor.

Entertainment will include Elvis impersonator Norm Ackland Jr., barbershop quartet The County Connection, and the Windsor Light Opera will have actors dressed up as characters from classic films such as Mary Poppins and Grease.

“The solid wood furniture that was produced by so many Canadian furniture companies … [are] just beautiful pieces,” said Tailor. “If you don’t like the natural wood look a lot of people are painting them, [but] that’s a trendy thing to do.”

The connection to the past is what draws him.

Money raised at the event will go toward the Windsor Cancer Society. Tailor says over the last two years her store has raised over $5,000 for the group. Tailor’s husband is a survivor of throat cancer.

Vintage enthusiast Justyn Brando has bad experiences buying modern goods.

“It’s historical, it has character. There’s an age factor to it, there’s a story behind it. A lot of the stuff I’ve purchased is made in Michigan so you’ve got something that’s made in your own backyard. That means more to me than having something that was made overseas,” said Brando.

“When I was 18 I made the mistake of furnishing my room with Ikea furniture,” said Brando. “It didn’t take long for the items to fall apart within two years. After that it really opened my eyes to the truth behind

For Brando it isn’t just about durability of products. Vintage pieces can be cheaper than their contemporary counterparts, and conveniently discovered through online classifieds and local consignment shops.

Tailor, who’s owned various stores in the Pillette area for 40 years, has set up spaces from Francois Street to Raymo Road full of vendors and other vintage store owners eager to show off their unique antiques.

The Sept. 13 event, which starts at 10 a.m., will feature booths from around 30 businesses including The Vintage Witch,

Tailor is excited to bring the Vintage in the Village to her neighbourhood because

FOOD& DRINK

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Bryan Datoc (masked) and Steven Fabischek, owners of the soon to open Craft Heads Brewing Company in downtown Windsor

» Photo Jay Verspeelt

Business is brewing downtown Craft Heads Brewing Company joins the region’s growing microbrew trend JON LIEDTKE Steven Fabischek and Bryan Datoc completed their engineering degrees together, worked at Chrysler together and have homebrewed together for a number of years. The duo is now setting up shop in the former Lefty’s Underground — or for those who remember, Aardvarks — at Pelissier Street and University Avenue to open downtown Windsor’s first craft brewery in decades.

Craftheads Brewing Company still has a ways to go before their doors open — acquiring a liquor licence, completing renovations and setting up the brewery and taproom — but the two are eager to bring over 20 taps of unique craft brews to downtown drinkers.

“It’s one of those things where we sat next to each other and asked what we were going to do after work, so we tried brewing beer,” said Datoc. “We went to Jake’s [Windsor]

Brew and started brewing there and found it was cool and got more into it.”

Fabischek and Datoc joked that brewing was crossed of their bucket lists fairly early.

They’ve brewed by extract and all grain, and that they quickly realized brewing was their calling.

“Steve proposed the idea of starting a brewery … we started working out the numbers and it grew on me, the idea of making beer for a living,” said Datoc. “Having a brewery, something you can call your own is much better than working for somebody else, you get to make the decisions.”

Seeking to capitalize on the lack of breweries downtown — the closest being Brew, located east of Caesars Windsor and slated to receive their license “shortly” — Fabischek and Datoc don’t view other craft breweries as competition.

“It’s nothing like we’re competing against them. I think the more craft breweries in Windsor the better; get more people drinking craft beer and get them away from those commercial lagers,” said Datoc.

“We’re all kind of a family of craft brewers and we’re trying to get more people into craft beers and away from commercial beers,” said Fabischek. “We’re all local people trying to support local … we’re not some big conglomerate that makes massive amounts of beer with no taste, we’re trying to raise awareness for beer in the city.”

“It’s a huge following,” said Fabischek referring to craft beer across the globe. “ I think it’ll be good for this city … I think we can get people to come to this city for that same reason, to try to experience the craft breweries.”

patrons to sample beer and a retail shop for customers to take beer home.

While the duo has the ability to have 34 taps, they intend to produce 20 beers in house and feature rotating beers from other Ontario and Quebec breweries. They also will allow customers to order their own beer and set the style and flavour, as well as feature a sponsored keg of which part of the profits will be donated to a local charity or arts group.

Pints will be priced at three levels depending on the ingredients and alcohol content.

Flights of beer will also be available to purchase to sample the different flavours.

Pending licensing and renovations, Craft Heads Brewing is set to open in roughly three months.

The brewery will feature a taproom for

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What’s the deal with carbonation? with Paul Brady,

head brewer, Walkerville Brewery What is carbonation?

Carbonation refers to anytime that CO2, carbon dioxide, is dissolved into a liquid.

Why do we carbonate beer?

For a few reasons: the main is the effervescence, the body it gives the beverage, like how carbonated water has more fizz … Carbonation is a natural byproduct of the fermentation process. It came in into the industry naturally and we found ways to perfect it, to get it to where we want it to be, to help enhance flavour profiles. When you’re making beer, the yeast eats the sugar in the wort and the two major byproducts are alcohol and CO2. It’s pleasant and we try to regulate the CO2 levels.

Is it possible to create a beer that doesn’t have CO2 or low CO2 levels?

All day long, you just dont let it carb. You allow all the natural CO2 to escape. It would be considered flat beer.

Are any beers brewed that way intentionally?

No. I’m not familiar with any. Some ancient beers are like that.

Is it considered sacrilegious?

You can do what you want, but if nobody wants to buy it ... (laughs).

What are some benefits of regulating CO2?

One, the effervescence. But it’s also there to help dance the flavour profiles across the palate.

A lower CO2 level makes it softer on the palate and slide silkily. A high carbonation beer will be crisp and will sometimes bite you a bit.

Can CO2 affect how beer looks or tastes?

CO2 is an acidic molecule and ph is a big factor in colour, but it doesn’t have that much acidity that it could affect the colour.

It does help with the aroma because if your beer is bubbling and creating a nice foamy head, it is releasing aromatics and it will make it taste better because you can smell more of it.

How can you carbonate your beer?

There are a few different ways, one way big breweries often do and many breweries do, is ferment their beer completely out. They will then filter it and transfer it to a bright tank, at which point they have what we call a carbonation stone. It’s a small stone, usually made out of ceramic or metal, with microscopic pinholes throughout it, and you shoot CO2 through this stone and the stone is in the beer, and it creates all these microscopic bubbles.

If you have the beer under pressure, it will force the beer into solution. We call that force carbonating.

Another way to do it is the old german style, krausening. You ferment your beer completely out, and you take beer that’s just hitting its high krausen, the high point of fermentation, and you add the newest batch of fermenting beer and it goes into the beer that you’re almost done with. As it’s eating its sugar and creating alcohol and CO2, you close the tank, and it allows it to build pressure and then force that natural CO2 into solution.

What do you do at Walkerville Brewery?

A hybrid. We try to capture our CO2 before the tank is done fermenting and we do a natural fermentation process. We don’t do krausening, but we do try to capture natural carbonation. I feel it’s a much more softer, palatable and pleasurable experience.

Beyond ramen

TIPS FOR A RAMEN FIRST TIMER

Getting back to the real Japanese bowl

NICHOLAS V. NEDIN Comfort food comes in every form imaginable, but what can beat delicious broth and fresh noodles?

When the uninitiated think of ramen, they picture that plastic package of petrified noodles with a powered broth base. They think salty chemical water with noodles that may stay hard or may turn to mush depending on how well you can boil water.

The reality is that authentic Ramen can be some of the most complex and delicious things you can put in your mouth.

Ramen’s true origin is debatable. The Japanese tend to lay claim to the dish but it also has roots in Shanghai cuisine. Like many great dishes we see great regional variation.

Even within Japan you can see about a half

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A bowl of traditional ramen at Windsor’s IP Ramen » Photo Nicholas V. Nedin dozen different styles of Ramen. From the recognizable Tokyo style Ramen to the more hearty comforting Sapporo style Ramen from Japan’s north island of Hokkaido.

The dish in generally composed of three elements: a rich broth that is either based in seafood, chicken, pork or a combination of the three, wheat or buckwheat noodles that are hand pulled and toppings that include pork belly, sliced pork, soft boiled eggs, dried bonito flakes, bean sprouts and endless other possibilities.

Ramen rose to prominence in Japan in the early 80’s as a utilitarian “everyman’s dish” but was elevated to new levels by the inclusion of different ingredients, more modern techniques and a more global pantry.

By late 90s and early 2000s Ramen restaurants had spread to Europe and North America, but it wasn’t until David Chang opened his famous Momofoku Noodle Bar in Greenwich Village, New York City that Ramen entered the American zeitgeist.

Momofoku, which translates to “Lucky Peach” in Japanese also takes its name from Momofuku Ando, the founder of Nissin Foods and inventor of the instant noodle.

Finally, Windsor has been graced with its own Ramen restaurant. IP Ramen at 1015 University Avenue West recently opened to bring Ramen to the local food scene.

With a small menu of tried and tested Ramen dishes, IP Ramen has made this local foodie more than happy.

There is a strategy to eating Ramen.

Because of the use of fresh noodles it’s a good idea to attack those first because as the noodles sit in the broth they continue to cook. If you want until the end the noodles will not be at their optimal texture.

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Slurping isn’t just totally cool it’s good manners.

Go with a significant other or someone you don’t mind sharing with, trying the different broths and toppings really gives you an idea how distinct Ramen can be.

first read:

The Freedom in American Songs

by Kathleen Winter

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KATHLEEN WINTER THE FREEDOM IN AMERICAN SONGS BIBLIOASIS

A collection of short stories, Kathleen Winter’s The Freedom in American Songs, takes readers on a new, intimate journey through the lives of her quirky characters. Some well-defined, others not as much, but her characters are notable for their humanity.

The stories are densely packed with effective fictional anecdotes in the form of improbable dialogues or interesting encounters. They recount the bizarre yet cunning stories of several average individuals, who live their everyday life under Winter’s unabridged lenses.

The book begins with The Marianne Stories, which are a set of three stories surrounding the main character, who leads a fairly tranquil existence in a small town by the sea.

The novel transmits a sense of coziness and solitude, while Marianne wanders around, trying, it seems, to find a purpose in her life.

Her character and the events surrounding her are almost uneventful, emanating a sense of dissatisfaction for some loose ends.

A reader might expect to have the tone of the book set by these stories, since they take up the first part of the book. The soft, unevent-

ful tone of the novel swiftly changes with Xavier Boland in The Freedom in American Songs, from which the books earns its title.

In The Freedom in American Songs, the casual encounter with the cross-dresser Xavier Boland sparks a flashback through the protagonist’s childhood. Winters offers an insight into his experiences, providing the readers with a key to his being. The novel also portrays beautifully the conflicting experiences and the dual life some people conduct.

Madame Poirier’s Dog was initially written for The Walrus following guidelines set by Alexi Zentner. The narrator lives in a nursing home and the highlight of her stay are her son’s visits. One day, they talk about Madame Poirier’s dog, who despite wearing a chastity belt became twice impregnated when the narrator’s dog got the better of her. The dog, who died while getting spayed, is used by Winter as an emblem against people who “treat their dogs like children.”

Although the collection is dotted with implausibility in the form of unrealistic dialogues or events, it still makes up for an interesting read.

Published by Biblioasis, The Freedom in American Songs is released Oct. 6.

ARTS Phog Phest back for round 6

Windsor bands dominate the latest indie showcase headlined by Born Ruffians TOM LUCIER

» Photo Jay Verspeelt

JAY VERSPEELT Once a year the tentacles of Phog Lounge like some great sea beast stretch across a bustling downtown block invading the spaces of neighbours for a day of musical revelry.

Phog Phest enters its sixth year this Saturday, Sept. 13 from 12 p.m. to 2 a.m. Now bigger than ever, the event will feature 41 up-and-coming local and regional bands across three venues.

“Every outdoor music event I’ve been to … the sound: garbage. I’m never impressed with outdoor sound because there’s no acoustics to open air. When you put it on in The Capitol Theatre, every room is

designed to sound great,” said Phog Phest organizer Tom Lucier.

The Capitol Theatre will play home to the festival’s main stage. Toronto indie group Born Ruffians will headline on Pentastar Theatre Stage.

Other big names playing this year are Windsor artists Orphan Choir, Better Weather, Shared Arms, Sarah Smith, The Blue Stones and Eric Welton.

Make time to check out Better Weather, a technical and melodic band, think postrock circa 2006; Tara Watts, fresh off releasing a new record her music is soulful

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WINDSOR ESSEX

12:45–1:20 p.m. – Black Barn (Windsor) 1:50–2:20 p.m. – TUG (Windsor) 2:50–3:30 p.m. – I Hear Things (Windsor/Toronto) 4:30–5:30 p.m. – Eric Welton (Windsor) 6:30–7:30 p.m. – Spice Boys (Windsor) 8:30–9:30 p.m. – Tire Swing Co. (Windsor) 10:30– 11:30 p.m. – Orphan Choir (Windsor) 12:45–2 a.m. – DJ DOUBLE A (Halifax)

and haunting; Raz Banade, a Newfoundland native transplanted in Windsor, his music is fun with a gaudy stage show that’s almost Kiss-esque; Little Fox, aka singersongwriter Naomi Zuliani, is sure to be the next Tara Watts; and the non-headliner not to miss is Orphan Choir, Windsor’s own version of Hot Water Music.

Phog Phest is also encouraging attendees to make their way to the event via a bike scavenger hunt. Teams of two to four will search around the city for clues and the winner will head back to Phog and say a secret phrase to win a new 2015 Detroit Bikes A-Type. How it’s split is up to the team.

Although Lucier likes having the festival outdoors — as has been the case in previous years — and says audiences prefer it, he finds it stressful due to possible inclement weather and City of Windsor red tape.

“It doesn’t cost anything to close the street; it’s in the hundreds of dollars with the barricades,” said Lucier. “It’s the headache of noise bylaw exemption forms having to be delivered to everyone in 400 yards of the event. It’s noisy city councillors trying to blackball your event before it even happens, even though there’s never been a complaint ever.”

Dianne Clinton has attended or volun-

PHOG LOUNGE STAGE (157 University Ave. W)

ARTCITE STAGE (109 University Ave. W)

KELLY THEATRE STAGE

PENTASTAR THEATRE STAGE

3–3:40 p.m. – East Grand Band (Windsor) 4–4:40 p.m. – SieraSlave (Windsor) 5–5:40 p.m. – Warren and the Wayward Jennys (Windsor) 6–6:40 p.m. – High Rise (Windsor) 7–7:40 p.m. – Grumpy Monkeys (Windsor) 8–8:40 p.m. – George Manury (Windsor) 9–9:40 p.m. – BREAkkR (Windsor) 10–10:40 p.m. – Good Things (Windsor) 11–11:40 p.m. – Queen’s Rug (Windsor) 12–12:40 a.m. – Matt Lalonde ft. Dusty D’Annunzio (Windsor) 1–2 a.m. – Shared Arms (Windsor)

4–4:40 p.m. – Little Fox (Windsor) 5–5:40 p.m. – Raz Banade (Windsor) 6–6:40 p.m. – Zarasutra (Windsor) 7–7:40 p.m. – Kess Carpenter (Windsor) 8–8:40 p.m. – Sansforme (Windsor) 9–9:40 p.m. – Chris Crossroads (Windsor) 10–10:40 p.m. – A Welcome Breeze (Windsor) 11–11:40 p.m. – Tether (Windsor)

12:45–1:20 p.m. – Analoghandshake (Windsor) 1:50–2:20 p.m. – Dave Russell and the Precious Stones (Windsor) 2:50–3:30 p.m. – The Dead Samaritans (Windsor/Toronto) 4:30–5:30 p.m. – Takers & Leavers (Windsor) 6:30–7:30 p.m. – The Spooky But Nice (Windsor) 8:30– 9:30 p.m. – Tara Watts (Windsor) 10:30–11:30 p.m. – The Blue Stones (Windsor)

1:20–1:50 p.m. – While Whales Sleep (Windsor) 2:20–2:50 p.m. – Brother (Windsor) 3:30–4:30 pm – Sarah Smith (London) 5:30–6:30p.m. – Diane Motel (Windsor) 7:30–8:30 p.m. – Better Weather (Windsor) 9:30–10:30 p.m. – The Unquiet Dead (Windsor) 11:30 p.m.–12:45 a.m. – Born Ruffians (Toronto)

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6 PICKS FOR #PHOGPHEST6 ORPHAN CHOIR

A band that formed in Windsor in 2006, but doesn’t play often. This supergroup sounds similar to Hot Water Music.

BETTER WEATHER

A fairly new band that were supposed to play Phop Phest last year but dropped out last minute. Catch their melodic, technical sounds this year.

UNQUIET DEAD BORN RUFFIANS

teered at every Phog Phest. “It’s different [having the festival inside], I’d prefer some of it outside just for the tradition of it. But I think it’ll still be good,” said Clinton.

Hosting the festival indoors means more stages. There will be five this year, including three at The Capitol, as well as Phog Lounge and Artcite, which will house contemporary and experimental music.

Windsor musician Chris Elkjar (Learning, The Armed and Gentleman Gun Club) will debut his new band, While Whales Sleep, on the main stage early in the day.

“I’m excited. The sound should be pretty

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massive in that room and it’ll be a good first show for us I think,” said Elkjar.

Elkjar has attended three of the past Phog Phests, including playing a set there with Learning. He’s performed at other festivals such as FAM, Berzerker (Ferndale, Mich.) and Keep It A Threat (Detroit), but feels Phog Phest is the most accessible for everyone.

“I just think it’s at more ‘respectable’ venues — the earlier incarnations being outdoors during the afternoon definitely made it more family friendly — but also the band choices. There aren’t too many hardcore, thrash punk bands,” said Elkjar.

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Clinton echoed that sentiment.

“Phog Phest gets people out to enjoy what Phog has to offer. For people that don’t come out on a day-to-day basis … I like to see how it grows their clientele each year.”

Clinton also likes that kids are there because she believes it gets them involved in arts and community early on.

“We don’t make a big return on this event,” said Lucier. “I would say we do it because it’s a big party for all the people we appreciate. It’s a chance to mingle tons of different genres and have people hang out that wouldn’t usually be at the same show.”

Windsor’s own roots-rock band, now with a condensed lineup, will be playing the mainstage at The Capitol Theatre

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A Windsor native who is currently studying in England. She’s back in Windsor to have her visa renewed and will be shredding guitar on the Artcite stage.

THE SPOOKY BUT NICE

Another band that doesn’t play often, so catch them while you can. These cool dads lay on the jazz-influenced, psychedelic sounds.

THE BLUE STONES

Likely one of the most successful bands in the city with the smallest amount of members will be returning to Phog Phest this year with their blusey, garage rock sound.

#PHOGPHEST6 Q&A: Mitch Derosier, bassist Born Ruffians How do you think playing festival shows compare to regular shows?

There’s upsides and downsides to it, mostly upsides. You get a chance to see a lot of different bands when you might only have one or two openers on tour. The vibe is a little looser and more fun than your standard club show. It all depends on what type of festival it is. I really love playing festivals for those reasons.

What’s the biggest audience you’ve played to in the past?

Oh boy, it probably would have been a festival somewhere. Our own biggest show would have been a few thousand or maybe 1,500 at the Danforth in Toronto.

We’ve played at Osheaga and Virgin Fest and a bunch of different festivals with big crowds. We haven’t done a stadium tour with a big band or anything like that yet.

Festivals are where we’re able to play to the most people.

What do you like to do when you’re on tour to unwind?

A lot of it is trying to piece the basics of your life back together like you would normally have at home, like trying to find WiFi or laundry. We really only have enough time to get to the venue and sound check and play. If we have a day off,

especially if we’re touring somewhere we’ve never been before, we want to try to find something to go do. We were on tour in Texas one time with a day off and went to a gun range.

Do you find you end up wearing a lot of your own merch on tour just to have something clean to wear?

I’ve done it before, I haven’t done it on tour in a while but I have worn our shirts before in lieu of a clean shirt.

What have your best and worst experiences supporting your latest album, Birthmarks?

Last year we did most of our touring for this record. The big American tour we did was when our last drummer, Steve (Hamelin), was leaving the band to go back to school. That was a pretty good send off for a guy that started the band with us.

We were, and still are, best friends. It was a totally amicable thing. That was pretty awesome being able to go on the last tour knowing he wasn’t going to be playing with us anymore. That was the best and worst moment together. It was like a bittersweet thing. We were totally supportive of him.

You’ve been touring in support of Birthmarks for little over a year now, do you have any new material that

you’ll be playing at Phog Phest?

I don’t think we’ll have anything new for the show yet, but we are working on new stuff right now and getting ready to record a bunch of demos of songs that aren’t finished yet. New stuff is in the works for sure.

What would you say your influences are right now?

It’s constantly changing. For this record we are always trying to find what the sound will be and how we record it, what we record it with. I think thats almost something we want to go through and figure out. We’re going to spend a long time writing and recording and spending time listening to what it is we want to make this record out to be. So it will take a lot to figure out what we want our inspiration to be.

Right now we’re really feeling the idea of more live sounding, less over produced ... a little more live off the floor.

Maybe I’m off base here, but when listening to Birthmarks I feel like there’s a Talking Heads influence coming through.

Talking Heads is a huge influence on Luke (Lalonde) especially and me too. Luke loves David Burne, he’d be the first to say the same.

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THE TEA PARTY THE OCEAN AT THE END (ANTHEM)

It’s been 10 years since the Tea Party’s last album, 2004’s Seven Circles, and in that time a lot has happened. They disbanded in 2005 — guitarist/vocalist Jeff Martin launched a solo career after a move to Ireland, bassist Stuart Chatwood became a composer (he did the Prince of Persia video game franchise) and Jeff Burrows formed the alt. rock supergroup Crash Karma with members of Our Lady Peace and I Mother Earth. In 2011, the Tea Party reunited for a string of shows and soon the reunification was made permanent.

The Ocean At The End marks somewhat of a return to the more experimental worldly sounds that first caught the world’s attention with 1993’s Splendor Solis. There is still some of the more commercial melody that later Tea Party albums gravitated towards, but they’re layered in orchestral arrangements and eastern soundscapes, in creating a mature record that a younger Tea Party perhaps wouldn’t have attempted to do.

In fact, it almost feels like it could be a soundtrack to a Gilbert & Sullivan play, heavy on theatrical delivery, with pirate gang vocals on some tracks. It’s clear the album was written as a proper album, with a flow and rhythm that many new artists lack — normally artists today write a single or two and lump filler around it. “Black Sea,” “Black Roses,” “The Cass Corridor,” “Water’s on Fire” and “Submission” (which almost feels like a more laid back response to their prior hit “Temptation”) are stand out tracks.

In The Ocean At The End, the Tea Party have reached the proper maturation level. They’re still curious enough to experiment with the sounds and songs they create, but old enough not to worry about needing to write another “big single.”

— JAMIE GREER

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DEVILZ BY DEFINITION RAPE OF A CZAR EP S/R

If you’re a frequenter to the local heavy metal scene, you’re familiar with the name Devilz By Definition. They’re one of the hardest working bands in the heavy scene today. In fact, some lament that perhaps they play too often for their own good. But as Rape of a Czar proves, that has paid off in a solid EP that shows that the constant playing — both locally and across Ontario — has resulted in a machine that drips with Windsor metal, from its very heart to the blood through its veins.

The EP opens with new vocalist (and former drummer) Mailbox leading us through the “The Path of the Righteousness” before swelling into the lead track “The Fall of a King.” Powerful and aggressive, Mailbox majestically takes over the lead vocals in such a powerfully succinct way you almost wonder why he was the drummer (James Ditty has taken over behind the kit).

The dirge of “The Fall of the King” erupts into “The Subterranean Sequence,” which features the twin guitar mayhem of Mat Dobbin and Bruce “Pops” Munro. These two have such a layered chemistry, akin to legendary metal duos like Hanneman & King (Slayer), Tipton & Downing (Judas Priest) or Murray & Smith (Iron Maiden). Often times they’re weaving through each other, dancing around the riffs, before Dobbin’s frantic lead work takes over in the final track, “The Vivication of Souls.”

Rape of a Czar is a solid EP from a band that has paid more than its dues in Windsor’s heavy metal scene. Hopefully, this revamped line-up and new EP help propel them to the next level.

— JAMIE GREER

THE ARTSY CHICKS

the Windsor Scene w/Jamie Greer

CRISSI COCHRANE

SOLIDS

New songwriter series kicks off

Montreal bands Solids and Artsy Chicks drop in while every Windsor band play Phog Phest Despite being named The Artsy Chicks, Montreal’s experimental instrumental band features not one female. But their music is evocative and beautiful, and fans of What Seas What Shores and Bulletproof Tiger will dig their sounds. They hit Windsor on Friday, Sept. 12 at Phog Lounge (157 University Ave. W.).

It’s been a great year for festivals showcasing local talent, with the most recent being Shores of Erie Wine Festival earlier this month. I paired local talent like Crissi Cochrane, The Walkervilles, Ron Leary and Walter Senko with national acts like Walk Off The Earth and Bed of Stars. We’re in for an annual tradition this weekend, with Phog Phest 6 arriving on Saturday, Sept. 13 at the historic Capitol Theatre (121 University Ave. W.) in downtown Windsor. What began in 2009 as a CBCendorsed congratulatory event for Phog capturing CBC Radio 3’s “Best Live Venue in Canada” moniker, turned into an annual showcase that featured the cream of local independent original music scene, peppered with Phog favourite out-of-town acts and a couple national headliners. Past national acts like Holy Fuck, Rural Alberta Advantage, Arkells, The Mark Inside,

Grand Analog, SUUNS, The Besnard Lakes, Elliott Brood, and New Country Rehab, with this year’s edition headlined

by Toronto’s electro darlings Born Ruffians and London’s folk-rock queen Sarah Smith (formerly of The Joys). The rest of the bill features a smattering of some of Windsor’s musical pantheon, from veterans like Orphan Choir, Eric Welton, the unquiet dead, The Blue Stones and Shared Arms, to newcomers like Better Weather, The Spooky But Nice, Diane Motel and While Whales Sleep. Tickets are still available for $20 in advance at Phog Lounge, City Cyclery or Dr. Disc, or $25 at the door.

Back in the 90s, Hamilton’s industrial metal gods Varga had monstrous underground success (and minor MTV success with the single “Greed”), touring the country relentlessly. They’ve been quiet for quite sometime, but they’re back on the road and hitting Windsor on Saturday, Sept. 13 at The Dominion House (3140 Sandwich St.).

Joining them are local juggernaut Gypsy Chief Goliath and heavy rockers Them County Bastardz.

The Women of Music Series has been a local initiative of the past year or so, travel-

ling to various venues around the city and presenting showcases of local female musicians, or musical acts prominently lead by women. The latest installment happens Saturday, Sept. 13 at Mr. Biggs (405 Notre Dame St.) in Belle River, and features Mandala M, Echo Steps, Lele Danger, Courtney Meloche and Joani Page.

The Windsor Beer Exchange (493 University Ave. W.) hosts a night of balls to the wall rock and roll on Thursday, Sept. 18 when Windsor’s blues rock sensations The Blue Stones pair up with Toronto’s high octane punk rawkers Teenage Kicks for what is sure to be one loud and sweaty night.

The founders of the Fork & Cork Festival continue their local music showcases with a new Singer Songwriter series, which kicks off Thursday, Sept. 18 and features four very distinctive local voices: the sultry smoothness of Crissi Cochrane and the gravely whisky of Tara Watts, pairs with the emotive rock of Years of Ernest’s Andrew MacLeod and the genuine passion of Dave Russell.

Alt./grunge rockers Awake to a Dream are becoming scene veterans, having played

nearly every local stage over the past four years. They’re at Villains Beastro (256 Pelissier St.) on Friday, Sept. 19, with Time Is A Hymn opening the show.

Local rock and roll veterans The Dead Samaritans return to Villains Beastro on Saturday, Sept. 20, for another night of classic rock covers mixed with brilliantly schemed rock and roll originals.

Montreal’s emotionally aggressive postrock duo Solids are currently on a world tour to support their latest album, Blame Confusion. Just back from gigs in Britain, Scandinavia, Germany and France, they hit Windsor on Sunday, Sept. 21 with a show at The Windsor Beer Exchange. They’re joined by local hardcore heroes Worry and new shoegaze local, Spice Boys.

Local author Alexander Zelenyj launches his latest book, the 512-page volume of short fiction entitled Songs for the Lost, with a launch party at Phog Lounge on Sunday, Sept. 21. As well as his book being available, musical accompaniment will come from sets by local acts The Spooky But Nice, Lucifer’s Voyage, Benny Dreadful and The Deathray Bradburys.

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» Quick and Dirty Q:

I am a man who tends to ejaculate prematurely. Not all the time—but at least 50 percent of the time, I’m good for two to three minutes and then I REALLY have to be careful. I’ve learned to manage it and work around it (like, stop if I’m too close and eat her out to give me some time to relax, etc.), but it’s still a pain in the ass. I have a theory about this: I am not circumcised. I know that circumcised cocks are more desensitized, as they tend to rub on everything all the time. Could my problem be related to the fact that for the first 20 years of my life, the head of my cock had never been in direct contact with anything? And if not, are there tricks that exist to help me with this problem?

Unexposed Nub Could Upset Timing

A:

You’re already doing everything premature ejaculators are urged to do, UNCUT: You’re paying close attention to your arousal levels, you’re being careful not to rush past the point of no return (or past the point of “orgasmic inevitability”), you’re taking fuck breaks as needed and eating a little pussy (not recommended for gay premature ejaculators). Those are the “tricks that exist” to help guys like you, and it sounds like you’ve mastered them. And while the heads of circumcised cocks tend to be less sensitive, UNCUT, studies of men circumcised in adulthood have found no link between circumcision and premature ejaculation. Uncut guys are no more likely to have problems with premature ejaculation, and cut guys are no less likely.

Q:

I’m a straight, vanilla 29-year-old woman, happily married to a kinky bi guy for six years, together for 13. He is free to sleep with other men, and I consider myself GGG—turning him on turns me on. You can do the math: I married my high-school sweetheart. (It wasn’t planned that way—we’re not religious—we just happened to get super lucky on the first try.) My husband has a cuckold fetish, and we role-play all the time. I would really love to make this fantasy a reality! My question is: How/where the fuck do I find someone? I don’t want to pick up some random, since I want to be as safe as possible, and I haven’t dated since I was 16. I feel completely lost. I just want to cuckold my husband! Why can’t there be an app for that?

Non-Experienced Wife Begs You

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You’re in luck: There is an app for married people who want to cheat on their partners—with or without their partners’ permission—and I’m pretty sure you’re already familiar with this particular app, NEWBY, as it’s been around for a while. It’s called “The Internet.” This app can direct you to websites for cheaters (Ashley Madison), websites for kinksters (FetLife), and regular dating websites where married people in open relationships are free to advertise for new partners (OkCupid).

nothing but a towel, and we had great sex. We haven’t had sex since that first date. I have loved this man from that moment in the club. He is beautiful: Asian with a bit of Spanish, perfectly proportioned, athletic, smart, ambitious, creative, playful—my little brown prince. He has the most beautiful ass I have ever seen. He is from a culture that is very private and puts on a happy face—always. It’s hard for me to get inside and crack that stubborn nut. I would love nothing more than to make love to him. Some things are impossible to put into words, and lovemaking expresses so much.

Nine Outta Ten

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A gay dude who fucks you once and refuses to fuck ever again isn’t that into fucking, isn’t that into you, or isn’t turned on by men he actually knows. Some gay men are aroused only by anonymous sex—you know, the kind of sex you two had on your first “date.”

Some gay men overcome that sexual handicap, others don’t. If your “little brown prince” (erm) hasn’t managed to overcome it 10 years into this relationship, NOT, I doubt he ever will.

Q:

I have a couple of relatively close friends who prefer to use gender-neutral pronouns, which they define to be “they/them/their.”

Now, I wouldn’t have a problem with this, and I know people will I am 62 years old, fit, often use “they/them/their” in handsome, and intelli- regular speech when they are ungent. I’m also as horny sure of gender or want to include as a 17-year-old. My committed all genders, but it really makes boyfriend/partner/husband-to-be speaking English awkward; “they/ of 10 years is 41. I met him at a them/their” are all PLURAL, while men’s club when he was wearing “he/him/she/her” are SINGULAR.

Q:

So for instance: “My friend Chris is going to the mall. I hope they has a good time.” The sentence is confusing. I’m okay with the idea of people being gender-neutral, but I also think following the rules of grammar is important, since language is probably the most important way of communicating.

Got Good Grammar

ness. But for the record: It is not unreasonable to ask your partner to save the porn for “alone time,” PORN, and there’s no excuse for cruelty and inconsideration— about porn or anything else.

But some couples do manage to incorporate porn into their “together time,” as the next letter demonstrates…

A:

Q:

“They” can be used as a singular pronoun— Shakespeare did it— but if it makes you crazy, GGG, there’s a simple solution to your dilemma: “My friend Chris, who prefers gender-neutral pronouns, is going to the mall. I sure hope Chris has a good time.”

Q:

I agree with your advice to SNAP, the poor guy whose wife shames him for watching porn, but there’s just one little thing.

I’m a porn-positive woman in my 30s. But when I was still married, my husband once got out of bed while having sex with me to watch porn. He felt himself flagging, so he switched on his computer and watched porn until he got it up again. This was not one of the countless reasons I dumped the motherfucker, but I have to say that it amounted to taking a bullhorn and yelling: “You’re not sexy enough! I’d rather be sleeping with one of these porn actresses!”

Is it unreasonable to ask that my partner wait with the porn until he’s done with me?

Pissed-Off Romance Ninja

A:

Your husband’s problem—your exhusband’s problem— wasn’t porn. It was insensitivity.

And cluelessness. And selfish-

It’s not always the wife who dislikes porn.

I’m a straight married guy and I don’t like porn. I’m rare, I know, but I exist. My wife started watching it about 10 years and two kids into our marriage in order to rev up her libido. But porn isn’t a source of conflict for us. She watches porn alone or she very sweetly asks me to go down on her while she watches porn on her tablet. Either I get myself off with my hand while getting my wife off with my tongue (usually what happens), or she gets so horny that she wants to be fucked (less frequent, always nice). We have good regular sex, too.

Routine And Regular Erotica

A:

Thanks for sharing, RARE.

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FIND AND SUBMIT EVENTS AT Mike Rita URBANITENEWS.COM/EVENTS Rockhead Comedy Quarry | 9 p.m. | $12

Chet Faker Magic Stick Lounge (Detroit) | 8 p.m. | $15 ADV/$18 ATG

COMING UP

TUESDAY, SEPT. 16

WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 10 The Afghan Whigs w/ Joseph Arthur St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 7 p.m. | $30 3rd Annual Homecoming Party The Bull N’ Barrel | 9:00 p.m.

THURSDAY, SEPT. 11 Colton Young Dominion House Spectacular Night Of Trivia Villains Beastro | 7 p.m.

Retro Arcade Night Phog Lounge | 6 p.m.

Modern Baseball w/ I am the Avalanche, Beach Slang & Sidelined The Shelter (Detroit) | 7 p.m. | $15 FRIDAY, SEPT. 12

Guitar Army CD Launch Party Dominion House Tavern | 9:30 pm SATURDAY, SEPT. 13 Downtown Windsor Farmers’ Market Charles Clark Square | 8 a.m.-1 p.m.

Bob Mould Magic Stick Lounge | 7 p.m. | $20 War on Drugs w/ Califone St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 7 p.m. | $20

Ché-Shizu w/ Maher Shalal Hash The Art of Community WorkBaz & à qui avec Gabriel shop MOCAD (Detroit) | 8 p.m. | $8Sandwich Teen Action Group | 9 $12 a.m.-5 p.m. | $60 TOAST Open Mic Poetry Vintage in the Village Phog Lounge | 9 p.m.

Pillette Village BIA | 10 a.m.-5 p.m.

WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 17 Phog Phest 6 w/ Born Ruffians Phog Lounge/The Capitol Theatre/Artcite | 12 p.m.-2 a.m. | $20 ADV/$25 ATG

Hour Detroit’s Best Dressed Celebration The Fillmore (Detroit) | 6 p.m. | $40-$80

Detroit Speaks – What Is a Detroit Artist?

MOCAD (Detroit) | 1 p.m.

Annual General Meeting Windsor Light Music Theatre | 6:15 p.m.

MercyMe & Third Day DTE Energy Music Theatre (Clarkson, Mich.) | 6 p.m. | $15$44

Savoy w/ Bright Lights St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 7:30 p.m. | $16

The Art of Community Workshop Sandwich Teen Action Group | 9 Heffron Drive a.m.-3 p.m. | $60 St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 6 2014 FALL OPENING: People’s p.m. | $22 Biennial, Detroit Affinities + Kelsey Laliberty Music by Ava Luna & Celestial Taloola Cafe | 8-9 p.m.

Shore MOCAD (Detroit) | 6 p.m. | $7 VARGA w/ Gypsy Chief Goliath Maze ft. Frankie Beverly & Patti & Them County Bastardz Dominion House Tavern | 8 LaBelle p.m.-2 a.m. | $10 DTE Energy Music Theatre (Clarkston, Mich.) | 7 p.m. | Othello $29.75-$85.75 Kordazone Theatre | 8-10 p.m. | Friday After Work Party w/ Sara $10-$15 & Ryan Fontaine Mike Rita Rino’s Kitchen & Ale House | 7 Rockhead Comedy Quarry | 9 p.m. p.m. | $12 Die Antwoord The Fillmore (Detroit) | 8 p.m. | SUNDAY, SEPT. 14 $29.50-$39.50 The Art of Community Workshop Guitar Army CD Release Party Sandwich Teen Action Group | 9 Dominion House Tavern a.m.-5 p.m. | $60 In Our Infinite Space Sunday Street Market Phog Lounge Detroit Eastern Market | 10 a.m.-4 p.m.

South River Slim Villains Beastro Savour the Wine Tour Ciociaro Club | 11 a.m.-9 p.m. | Othello Kordazone Theatre | 8-10 p.m. | $70 $10-$15 Othello Kordazone Theatre | 2 p.m. | PUP Magic Stick Lounge (Detroit) | 8 $10-$15 p.m. | $8 ADV/$10 ATG Zac Brown Band DTE Energy Music Theatre Mike Hargreaves (Clarkson, Mich.) | 7 p.m. | Taloola Cafe | 8-9 p.m. $32.50-$98 Lionize w/ American Sharks, The Buzzcocks w/ Destroy This Place Picturebooks & Warehorses The Shelter (Detroit) | 8:30 p.m. & The ILL Itches St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 7 | $10 p.m. | $20

Daisy Dukes and Cowboy Boots The Bull N’ Barrel | 9 p.m.

THURSDAY, SEPT. 18

Villains Beastro | 8 p.m.

Karen Morand & Bosco Taloola Cafe | 8 p.m.-9p.m.

WEEKLY MONDAYS Open Mic Surgery w/ James O-L Phog Lounge | doors 9 p.m.

Othello Kordazone Theatre | 8-10 p.m. | TUESDAYS $10-$15 Thunder From Down Under Caesars Windsor | 9 p.m. | $16.30-$35.25 SATURDAY, SEPT. 20 Dead Samaritans Villains Beastro Downtown Windsor Farmers’ Market Charles Clark Square | 8 a.m.-1 p.m.

Lakewood Open Disc Golf Event Lakewood Park | 9 a.m. | $20 Detroit Bus Tour D:hive (Detroit) | 10:30 a.m.-1 p.m. | $10 Ford City Arts & Heritage Fest 2014 Ford City BIA | 11 a.m.-5 p.m.

The Gaslight Anthem w/ Against Me! & TWOPOINTEIGHT The Fillmore (Detroit) | 7 p.m. | $25-$35

The Motor City Masquerade City Cyclery Pop-up Sale St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 7 CAW Student Centre (University p.m. | $15 of Windsor) | 10 a.m.-6 p.m.

Howling Diablos w/ Royal 3rd 3rsday Monthly Mixer Blackbirds, Awesome Jarvis & Dominion House Tavern | 5:30 the Whale p.m.-7:30 p.m.

Magic Stick Lounge (Detroit) | 8 p.m. | $5 Zoso – A Tribute to Led Zeppelin Pushmepullyou St. Andrew’s Hall (Detroit) | 7 Taloola Cafe | 8 p.m.-9 p.m. p.m. | $18 The Joint w/ Grumpy Monkeys Rock & Roll Barber Phog Lounge | 9 p.m. | $5 Villains Beastro | 7 p.m. | $20 Othello Nick Waterhouse w/ PEP Kordazone Theatre | 8-10 p.m. | Magic Stick Lounge (Detroit) | 8 $10-$15 p.m. | $17 ADV/$20 ATG Awake to a dream w/ Time is a Fork and Cork Singer-Songwrit- Hymn er Showcase Villains Beastro | 9 p.m.

Dominion House Tavern SUNDAY, SEPT. 21 Othello Kordazone Theatre | 8-10 p.m.

Sunday Street Market | PWYC Detroit Eastern Market | 10 a.m.-4 p.m.

MUSIC: Awesome Tapes from Africa + Bambuti featuring Efe Paws to Remember Museum of Contemporary Art Windsor/Essex County Humane Detroit (Detroit) | 9 p.m. | $5 Society Happy Tails Dog Park | 3 p.m.-4p.m.

FRIDAY, SEPT. 19 Rascal Flatts w/ Sheryl Crow DJ Double A and Gloriana Phog Lounge | 10 p.m.

DTE Energy Music Theatre (Clarkston, Mich.) | 7:30 p.m. | Friday After Work Party w/ $29.75-$125 Andrew MacLeod Rino’s Kitchen & Ale House | 7 Songs For The Lost: Alexander p.m.

Zelenyj Book Launch Phog Lounge | 9 p.m.

Nerd Nite VI Phog Lounge | 8 p.m.

The Dead Samaritans

Open Stage Night w/ Andrew Macleod and Leigh Wallace Dominion House | 5 p.m.

V.O.M.I.T. (Vocal Open Mic Instrumental Talent) Villains Beastro Free One-on-One Entrepreneurial Coaching WEtech Alliance | 12-1 p.m.

Open Mic w/ Jamie Reaume The Manchester Pub Open Mic w/ Pat Robitaille The Willistead | 8:30 p.m.

1-on-1 Entrepreneurial Coaching WEtech Alliance | 12 p.m.-1 p.m.

WEDNESDAYS Wacky Wexican Wednesdays w/ Dee Russ Dominion House | 5 p.m.

P.U.K.E. (People Using Karaoke Equipment) Villains Beastro The Groove Trio FM Lounge | 8 p.m.

Vice Aerial Phog Lounge | 10 p.m.

Dave Russell Dominion House Tavern THURSDAYS Celtic Night w/ Mark Crampsie Dominion House | 5 p.m.

Funk Junkies The Manchester Pub | 10 p.m.

Open Mic w/ Anderson FM Lounge | 10 p.m.

FRIDAYS Crystal Head Fridays Level 3 Vodka Emporium | 10 p.m.

Loveless Fridays w/ Daniel Victor The Loop | 10 p.m.

After Work Party

Rino’s Kitchen & Ale House | 7 p.m.

ONGOING David Thauberger: Road Trips & Other Diversions Art Gallery of Windsor | until Sept. 21 WE WON’T COMPETE Art Gallery of Windsor | until Sept. 21 Sunday Street Market Detroit Eastern Market (Detroit) | 10 a.m.-4 p.m. | until Sept. 28 Abstraction and Landscape: Contemporary Woodcut Detroit Artists Market | until Oct. 18